Here is the thing, sometimes you enter into a relationship with a wifey energy, and that man brings momy energy out of you. So before you try to change your energies, make sure to choose the right man.
I know what you’re saying, but it’s the same logic as if a man would say I am loyal to her at the beginning because she gave me the reason to yet during the relationship she just changed so that’s why I cheat. For this reason I’m convinced this is not the right statement what you wrote. in my opinion, the mummy energy shows itself when your in your anxious state, and this is the most crucial part to show your wifey energy to your man, even if you don’t feel like it because applying it to the previous example of mine you also would like to have your man to stay loyal to you, even though things are not going well during the relationship so you don’t expect him to cheat on you-you understand?
I want to be in my feminine energy. For a woman to do this the man has to be vulnerable and real with her. Straight up truth no facades to what a woman wants to know. Then she can be totally vulnerable and accepting.❤
I'm really struggling to be in my feminine because of narc relationships, being single, knowing I have to fend for myself/be independent. I think with the right mind I will be.
@bettyboothe2523 Hi Betty, it's hard because you have to be so discerning. Try to get them to open up to you privately so you can understand him better. Try to be empathetic and understanding so you can foster a healthy connection first. God bless you.
With my ex I was in my mommy energy and it was so exhausting and annoying. He wasn’t in his masculine energy however so I tried to fill the void. After years of (happy) singleness I met a man who’s fully in his divine masculinity and it’s been so relaxing and inspiring. It’s like I’m floating and don’t have to try or work for anything. Super comfortable and I didn’t think that I’d experience this in my life.
Such a good explanation! I'm so guilty of mommy energy. Mainly because that's the model my mother gave me. Learning about feminine energy over a year ago completely shifted my relationship. My man went from distant and unhappy. He now can't get enough of me. He completely shifted into his masculinity. It's insane the difference. Wifey energy for the win!!
I'm learning about this. I thought I was being helpful, it's the way I've always been. I dated a guy this past year that was like dating myself. I realized a lot and tried to help him see how suffocating his actions were. Its hard to change who we are. I don't know how to balance. Doing things for others has always been my joy. Maybe the person doesn't want what we think is an offer of love. I feel crippled. Who am I? Who do I become now?
I’ve given up! I’m sick to death of playing these endless mind games - constantly thinking before I do what comes normally to me. If a man can’t fathom my worth by who I present to him, he can sod off and go make some other bint’s life a misery: I’m fine.
Yasss!!! Just be you, love you, and if a man doesn't, clearly he isn't meant to be. So tired of these videos telling people what and how they need to be for the opposite gender.
If I may, I would describe wifey energy with one image - resting your head on his big, strong shoulder and tuning in to the beat of his warm heart as you melt into his care and protection.
@@fundaulufer Why? Why would you assume that and why would I imply that? And who cares if it literally does not include 'all' men, why would that be important? 99% of all men are literally stronger than 99% of all women. The intersection between those groups is not only unimportant, but frankly uninteresting and already far, far, far more over-represented in our discourse than it should be by all sense of reason and proportion. Only a idiot focuses entirely on the things that don't work, while ignoring that which does. And if you quibble about my guestimated percentages (of something that is common knowledge and yet unmeasurable) while ignoring the valid broader point, you are also an idiot. Most of what is spoken and written in the English language IS NOT LITERAL. If you are autistic and don't know that, I have one word for you - LEARN! So please take whatever emotional issues you have with men, somewhere else. They are not welcome here.
This definitely doesn't work in a toxic narcissistic relationship. Men like this can not and will not operate in a healthy masculine energy and therefore it puts his wife having to take on more responsibility and basically become his "other mother" bc he can't and or refuses to step up and handle his ish.
@@lauraswoboda6265 well yeah....most ppl wouldn't think twice about dating one let alone marrying one "if" they knew that's what the person was right out the gate. If you've never been in a relationship with one then you'll never know just how easy it is to get sucked in by these parasites until experience teaches you what you're dealing with. That's when you do your research and you figure out who and what this person really is, and then do the necessary work to get out. Which is exactly what I did. Thank you.
You don't know they're a narcissist at first.. well now I will know but I didn't with my ex husband till it was years in. I agree with this video amd see exactly how I was acting like this when I couldn't trust him. I prefer the man to lead and be masculine.
@@gvintage I agree with you as this is also my story as well. It wasn't until I was 15 years into my almost 20 year marriage when I started noticing just how deceptive he really was and is esp since he moved in with his AP literally the day after leaving me. Talk about planning and playing his cards just right. Never again.
I have one that's 19 years younger than me, and truly in his masculine energy. I've never felt how relaxed and easy it is to be taken care of and loved and cherished. It's like a dream
You will naturally show mommy energy due to your more experience in life and also because females mature earlier than males.You will have to let him do things even if you know what to do.
While he is getting accustomed to leading he is going to make mistakes don’t make him feel bad. He’ll get better and you’ll feel good knowing he’s got this.
This is one of the best videos ever on feminine energy as it gives so many examples of what not to say and what to say. I’ve certainly been guilty of nagging, taking over and mummy energy. No more!! I’m going to work on being in my feminine, appreciation and hopefully inspiration.
It´s just what they have gotten used to. There are very few women out there with wifey energy. Most women are working hard and managing everything themselves which makes it difficult for them to switch that off and turn to wifey energy around the man they like and letting him manage things. A few years back I tested it out with a guy I met on a dating app. He had only had relationships with woman that helped him out with a lot of stuff, mommy style. I was a lot older than him, so maybe he thought he would get that same mommy vibe from me. But from the first date onwards I stuck to my "wifey vibe". OMG! It worked like magic! For the first time in his life he met a woman that respected him, trusted his lead, asked for his help, for his opinion on my decisions, etc. He was amazing! Did everything for me and was so invested in our relationship and my wellbeing! 😍 Unfortunately, I went back to my needy, demanding and more mommy tendencies and that´s what killed the relationship after 2 years. 🤷♀
If you notice movies and shows these days always portray the woman with mommy energy and the man or husband basically as a man child. I think that has a big affect on woman thinking that's how it should be
Only works if you’ve addressed unhealed childhood attachment patterns as individuals. I was recently with a self described alpha male who was brittle and paranoid and could not be emotionally vulnerable at all. My wifey presence, my submission, was only met with increasing cruelty. And when I exhibited a healthy sense of self-respect, he completely shut down. So these videos may need a disclaimer: For those who have already done a lot of their inner work and are capable of discerning safety (for women ~ act on the red flags), and for men, capable of emotional intimacy. Or it’s irrelevant advice.
This is your absolute best video, hands down. I saved it so I can rewatch and commit these concepts to memory. It was so helpful to have included the slides with the info, too! Thank you so much and God bless you!
A woman needs a man in his masculine energie before she can be in the wifey energie. Mostly a woman got in the mother energie because the man is childly asking to take care for everything because he is lazy not in love and manipulatieve.
Also if he is a cheater no woman will be in her wifey enrgy. My niece had relationships with men who were cheaters. She was miserable and was in her mommy energy too. But them she met a man who is much older than her with mature kids and he was the one who could let her be in her a wifey energy.
I disagree. The MAN is the one responsible for this. If he can’t put on his big man pants and lead and the woman has to put on the man’s pants to lead and mother him, it’s not her fault but his
You also have to be a good leader and then all of this comes naturally. I'm more than happy to let go and be more in my feminine if I feel like the guy I'm with has things handled and is doing things better than I would or same. It's much easier for sure and yes I agree trusting that another person can handle things and you focus on your energy and things is HUGE. that's a secure attachment style. idk if your demographic is women, so you're aiming this advice at women but it definitely takes two to tango
Ok but we can’t control which energy we give. It’s also a reaction to how the guy behaves, for example if he isn’t consistent this might trigger mommy energy. It’s not always women fault for everything
No, you're not correct - the reason is that you are an adult and you can choose your response and behaviour and that is what sends out mommy/wifey energy. I know there is a subconscious element to this which other people can pick up on in spite of what you do, and this is probably what you mean, but you really do have a choice in how you respond to things. You can respond to his behaviour by thinking "I need to control him" OR "I need to understand him", those are both options and you can choose to adopt either of these attitudes. There is a gap between something happening and you choosing your response. Sometimes that gap is small (e.g. instinctual or impulsive reactions) and sometimes it is longer (e.g. when you carefully consider your response). That gap is when you choose how to respond. So you can literally choose to respond with wifey energy or mommy energy, it really is up to you. I'm not saying it's easy, because it usually isn't. It requires courage and discipline, a little bit of humility. But you can definitely choose how you respond. The idea that you can't is just an excuse
I have seen men in my research who complain about giving and only giving and never receiving. In REAL marriage, being a wife alone at times becomes too cumbersome for some men to carry alone the burden of only giving and not receiving. I think, it depends on a man how he takes the love of his wife, just like a woman cant ask her husband to stop acting like his father, which they do most of the time, than being a husband. After a point in time, both the husband and wifey energy depletes, amd the mommy-daddy energy sets in. This actually helps them stay together for longer, ask your grandpa-grandma. You'll see.
Things like that....They should learn how to be loyal and more like an adult. He should not be drifted away by every move😡 im sick of videos like this@@fruitascension5089
Things like sending reminders I don’t think is a big deal. I know a lot of guys who appreciate reminders from their wives or gfs. They get so busy and they forget and I don’t think gentle reminders mean you’re necessarily stepping into mommy energy. Overall point taken, though. Thank you.
Bless your heart for this video. I am a 33 year old woman in a loving relationship. I never knew what I did wrong. I was in the mommy energy. I almost gagged the way you said the things and I really felt ashamed of that behaviour. Thank you for telling both sides so I can fix the problem that I have been carrying with me. Thank you❤❤❤
Wow ... There's so many examples of Mommy Energy in the real world ... But hardly any Wifey Energy to learn from and mirror. This is very helpful. Thanks !
I have been in both roles with different partners. I always want to be in the feminine energy (wifey) but there are men who shows up in the way that brings the masculine energy out (mommy). That’s when I know that the relationship isn’t working for me.
The first time I had a man ask me how My day was going I couldn’t believe it. I’ve had to be in masculinity energy handling everything for so long. It put me immediately in my feminine energy and affected all my activities, my yoga, everything. I feel so safe for the first time in a long time.
Thank you and I thank your wife I've been married for 3 years now and didn't know the difference. I appreciate the lesson ☺️ this really helps me as a women as a wife
Hi, I would appreciate if you could create a similar video from a male perspective? Something along the lines of "How to be a man in a relationship, not a child," focusing on how a man can inspire "wifey energy" instead of "mommy energy" from his partner. Because I was the one who never wanted to be a mommy but his being a child left me with no choice.
I read the empowered wife by Laura Doyle and has been listening to her podcast by the same name. She mentions all of these things, as well as actionable steps to help with the things you talk about. It's incredible how much it has helped my relationship. Keep up the good work!
A man should accept his woman and understand that everyone is different. He should be man enough to not be drifted away by every action that she does. A woman should not be scared he is going to leave by every move. He should be greatful and communicate as a grown man so they can sort things out and so she knows what he wants/expects. Teach man to be loyal and real for gods sake and to be greatful instead of telling women to adapt all the time😡
Love this very much. I had an overbearing mother so I wondered where I stood on this very subject. Now I know. Perfect timing. I need to remember these lists also!
Both my father and brother are attached to the Mommy energy from their forever wives. Perhaps this is fit for a man with a higher purpose. 🎉I'm simply evaluating from Two family members 😅THEY ARE ATTACHED.
i did. he said i rejected him. he blocked me. I never argued with him He said there is no one like you. that was july 4 2022 and ive been miseralble since
He will chase you for it, in my experience. You won't have to guess or wonder because he'll hardly be able to get by without trying to see you or reach out to check on you. 😊 You magnetize what you want when you're "it" for a man
A man should always offer that commitment,down key show him you're not going to entertain someone that doesn't have a timeline for an exclusive long term relationship,if that's what you want.If you have been seeing each other for 3/6 months,then definitely find time to have that conversation.
I love this!! Best advice and guidance I’ve seen on this!! Are there gonna be more like this type of video to help on the mommy and wifey energy? This is perfect timing because this is great for my new formal relationship. Thank you!!
What about when the man is sick (a bad flu, for example), how do I ask how he’s feeling in a wifey way? How do I express my love and care in a wifey way when he’s down with an illness?
Tell him,"oh,my I hope this doesn't keep you down,I know how you were planning on xyz,or you were looking forward to do xyz ..if there is any thing/way I can help/assist to make you feel better,let me know.I'm here for you. Not,are you sure your taking your meds, getting sleep..you should do this,try that....😊😊
I am currently working on myself and this was hard to watch nonetheless great because I did the mommy energy way too much and I had to reflect on situations where I did say and behave like that creating problems for the relationship. But I got through it I‘ll try to be uncomfortable more and fix my attachement and relationship problems. 🎉
I think the mommy energy judt happens when the guy is not interested if he is interested then natually women give wifey energy because they dont have to chase lol
Often times women portray mommy energy because it is necessary, sadly. These men are not capable or trustworthy. They cant hold a job, cant be responsible. Very stressing
Thank you for this! My last guy asked me to be in mommy energy a lot of the time and I thought that’s what he needed to move forward in our relationship which he did not. I now know if I see it early on I will move on because that is not where I want to be. I want to be the receiver I was designed to be.
I am guilty of mommy energy but then i realize the man isnt a "man" but a grown boy. Once i met a man, i naturally submitted and let him lead. It feels good taking care of him too without me feeling like a mother.
All of this I'd true, although when a women I'd a feminine nurturer at all times with everyone. It isn't viewed as mommy behavior because he'd know that is who she is at all times not looking for a man at all. This info is good to incorporate at the same time when on the dating scene.
Having got married later on in life aged 39, I had plenty of time to take note of other peoples relationships of what I saw worked and what didn't. Two things most women do is nag and nag, - never works ever! and often at times a complete lack of appreciation for whatever their man does for them. Those attitudes will" dry up" any relationship quicker than anything else. Nobdy is going to keep doing stuff for you if you fail to notice, act like a spoilt baby and you don't appreciate it. Just not going to happen long term. Keep on that trend and it doesn't matter how pretty you are, how wonderful you think you are, how intelligent you think you are, he eventually won't care.
Caution: wider ranges in age often creates unhealthily skewed power dynamics. And consider that men normally die much younger than women. So, worst case scenario: ending up broke and lonely.
I like the video and format 💯 when younger I was both mommy with some, wifey with others including friends other family members and work colleagues ~ today in my silver years I’m mommy’d out ~ all I desire is to be in my divine feminine energy/role. As in another’s comment ‘wifey’ connotates, how do I put this, say inequality unless he’s referred to as the ‘husband’. If he’s in his masculine then I in my feminine! If he’s in his husband then I in my wife role/label.
I now understand why every man wants instantly to commit to me marry me because im in my fully feminine energy I attract only providers men I know i deserve to be treated as queen i just know i lean back n recieve I dont chase i dont pursue i respect i appricate them i thank them n listen
I had quite a conundrum. He was grossly enmeshed with his REAL Mommy. He insisted on calling her daily, no matter how it affected our plans. I'd end up nagging him, "Oh come on, we're already late to the movie. Call her later!" I realized I could never break up this sick enmeshment, and broke up with him. Of course, he blamed me. Could NOT imagine how bad it would be to have her as an MIL, especially if we moved to the same city. Which is what he wanted. I don't think I did anything wrong, and realize most men are not like this. The good thing is, I would never want him back. He skeeves me out.
What you describe as a mommy energy is not mommy energy when it comes to an adult man woman relationship. It is just wife energy that is not developed and used in a toxic way. It doesnt have to do anything with mothering. Sadly 😢 Btw what you describe as mommy energy, moms shouldnt do either to their children.
Actually,we need to 'Mommy our kids'.Children need that supervision, assertiveness until they can do those things on their own.Ask all mothers,when my son gets back from school,i'll make him something to eat,ask about his day,makes sure he gets his homework done.Along the lines of that.He can go play,watch cartoons,do things he enjoys,but I'll still make sure he showers,check on his room etc the lists is endless.You don't have to do that with a grown man.like the examples the man in the video makes,Your husband is going outside and your telling him,you should get a jacket,its cold outside.A grown man and a boy are two very different people.Many women mother their men with the very best intentions,some men love it but the point of this video is to let women know 'most healthy men will not like that and may end up resenting you when you've been so good to them.
What about those of us that are with partners who are either physically or mentally unwell? Where out of love, loyalty, commitment and compassion your role is to step up and take on the caretaker mommy role.
Hi ❤Yesterday I was walking my boss's dogs and I was checking on one of them who is a golden retriever and a man passed by with his dog. The Golden barked and the man, instead of moving away He moving more close to us the dog and I screamed. I'm practicing more about my femininity but I don't know what to do with this man because I meet him when I walk to the dogs. I don't want to smile to him. Many thanks for advice.
@natcheztracefan ... ... Q. How to handle cooking without seeming too Mommy-ish energy wise? I would say ask him what he wants for dinner before you cook/prepare it for him. Pick 2 or 3 things you'd be willing to make and have the ingredients for ... and ask him to choose between them. I think that is a subtle way to shift from Mommy to Wifey when making dinner.
Being open and vulnerable with my wants and needs in a highly conscious very gentle manner is absolutely NOT working. I embody wifey energy ss my natural nature. Hes being s Brute. Ugggh.
I prefer the label of feminine energy or mate energy, to "wifey" energy. "Mommy" energy is obviously emasculating, so that's clearly to be avoided. While I had 8 wonderful years with my late husband and discovered how good being a loving man's wife could feel, the word "wife" for me is still too freighted with its history of servitude and second-class citizenship. I do appreciate the comparison between "wifing" and mothering, though. I'll just stick with "feminine energy" (supportive while respecting his purposes, and enjoying her own) as a label for a happy man's mate.
As a woman and I love being a wife. It is privileged position and the difference made underlines exactly how to not slide and play his mother, which women have done in hundred years... leading to all the accusations that men lack appreciation
Marriage is about serving each other. It's not the same as being a "kitchen slave" or whatever. It's about putting your spouse's needs above your own. It goes both ways.
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Here is the thing, sometimes you enter into a relationship with a wifey energy, and that man brings momy energy out of you.
So before you try to change your energies, make sure to choose the right man.
So true!
I know what you’re saying, but it’s the same logic as if a man would say I am loyal to her at the beginning because she gave me the reason to yet during the relationship she just changed so that’s why I cheat. For this reason I’m convinced this is not the right statement what you wrote. in my opinion, the mummy energy shows itself when your in your anxious state, and this is the most crucial part to show your wifey energy to your man, even if you don’t feel like it because applying it to the previous example of mine you also would like to have your man to stay loyal to you, even though things are not going well during the relationship so you don’t expect him to cheat on you-you understand?
why do others have to change and not you?
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I want to be in my feminine energy. For a woman to do this the man has to be vulnerable and real with her. Straight up truth no facades to what a woman wants to know. Then she can be totally vulnerable and accepting.❤
I'm really struggling to be in my feminine because of narc relationships, being single, knowing I have to fend for myself/be independent. I think with the right mind I will be.
@bettyboothe2523 Hi Betty, it's hard because you have to be so discerning. Try to get them to open up to you privately so you can understand him better. Try to be empathetic and understanding so you can foster a healthy connection first. God bless you.
@@Stoicgal777 yeah he did at first. Guess it wasn't genuine or maybe Just an isolated vulnerable moment
@bettyboothe2523 When you establish an emotional connection first and don't give in easily, you'll know if he is more serious or not.
Narcissist person won't be genuine ever! Get rid of him asap it will only get worst @@bettyboothe2523
I just realised I'm in mommy energy most of the time, no wonder all of my relationships have failed. This is a real eye opener 🙏🏼
Don’t blame yourself. The man is the leader. The ones you were with obviously weren’t in his masculine energy, thus you wanted to fill that void.
Yeah but this is so confusing because Ive heard so many contradicting “tips” on these things that a girl doesn’t even know how to be herself anymore.
Same here, me too! Learned a lot of new things about myself today and how to handle things moving forward and rest in my feminine energy
I'm realizing that too
With my ex I was in my mommy energy and it was so exhausting and annoying. He wasn’t in his masculine energy however so I tried to fill the void.
After years of (happy) singleness I met a man who’s fully in his divine masculinity and it’s been so relaxing and inspiring. It’s like I’m floating and don’t have to try or work for anything. Super comfortable and I didn’t think that I’d experience this in my life.
Such a good explanation! I'm so guilty of mommy energy. Mainly because that's the model my mother gave me. Learning about feminine energy over a year ago completely shifted my relationship. My man went from distant and unhappy. He now can't get enough of me. He completely shifted into his masculinity. It's insane the difference. Wifey energy for the win!!
Awesome to hear Cindy and keep us posted! :)
I'm learning about this. I thought I was being helpful, it's the way I've always been. I dated a guy this past year that was like dating myself. I realized a lot and tried to help him see how suffocating his actions were. Its hard to change who we are. I don't know how to balance. Doing things for others has always been my joy. Maybe the person doesn't want what we think is an offer of love. I feel crippled. Who am I? Who do I become now?
I’ve given up! I’m sick to death of playing these endless mind games - constantly thinking before I do what comes normally to me. If a man can’t fathom my worth by who I present to him, he can sod off and go make some other bint’s life a misery: I’m fine.
Yasss!!! Just be you, love you, and if a man doesn't, clearly he isn't meant to be. So tired of these videos telling people what and how they need to be for the opposite gender.
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I am with you. I agree with you. Blessings sister.
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If I may, I would describe wifey energy with one image - resting your head on his big, strong shoulder and tuning in to the beat of his warm heart as you melt into his care and protection.
Assuming all men are capable of providing care and protection? I disagree
@@fundaulufer Why? Why would you assume that and why would I imply that? And who cares if it literally does not include 'all' men, why would that be important? 99% of all men are literally stronger than 99% of all women. The intersection between those groups is not only unimportant, but frankly uninteresting and already far, far, far more over-represented in our discourse than it should be by all sense of reason and proportion. Only a idiot focuses entirely on the things that don't work, while ignoring that which does. And if you quibble about my guestimated percentages (of something that is common knowledge and yet unmeasurable) while ignoring the valid broader point, you are also an idiot. Most of what is spoken and written in the English language IS NOT LITERAL. If you are autistic and don't know that, I have one word for you - LEARN! So please take whatever emotional issues you have with men, somewhere else. They are not welcome here.
@@fundaulufershe is talking about men not boys
This definitely doesn't work in a toxic narcissistic relationship. Men like this can not and will not operate in a healthy masculine energy and therefore it puts his wife having to take on more responsibility and basically become his "other mother" bc he can't and or refuses to step up and handle his ish.
Well that's why you don't date a narcissist.
@@lauraswoboda6265 well yeah....most ppl wouldn't think twice about dating one let alone marrying one "if" they knew that's what the person was right out the gate. If you've never been in a relationship with one then you'll never know just how easy it is to get sucked in by these parasites until experience teaches you what you're dealing with. That's when you do your research and you figure out who and what this person really is, and then do the necessary work to get out. Which is exactly what I did. Thank you.
You don't know they're a narcissist at first.. well now I will know but I didn't with my ex husband till it was years in. I agree with this video amd see exactly how I was acting like this when I couldn't trust him. I prefer the man to lead and be masculine.
@@gvintage I agree with you as this is also my story as well. It wasn't until I was 15 years into my almost 20 year marriage when I started noticing just how deceptive he really was and is esp since he moved in with his AP literally the day after leaving me. Talk about planning and playing his cards just right. Never again.
My guy proposed and he is 12 yrs younger!(I:m 63)
I have one that's 19 years younger than me, and truly in his masculine energy. I've never felt how relaxed and easy it is to be taken care of and loved and cherished. It's like a dream
You will naturally show mommy energy due to your more experience in life and also because females mature earlier than males.You will have to let him do things even if you know what to do.
Always marry a man atleast one year elder to you.
While he is getting accustomed to leading he is going to make mistakes don’t make him feel bad. He’ll get better and you’ll feel good knowing he’s got this.
This is one of the best videos ever on feminine energy as it gives so many examples of what not to say and what to say. I’ve certainly been guilty of nagging, taking over and mummy energy. No more!! I’m going to work on being in my feminine, appreciation and hopefully inspiration.
Awesome, so glad you liked it Linda! :)
This made me realize how many men out there are actually searching for the mommy energy from their women.
It´s just what they have gotten used to. There are very few women out there with wifey energy. Most women are working hard and managing everything themselves which makes it difficult for them to switch that off and turn to wifey energy around the man they like and letting him manage things. A few years back I tested it out with a guy I met on a dating app. He had only had relationships with woman that helped him out with a lot of stuff, mommy style. I was a lot older than him, so maybe he thought he would get that same mommy vibe from me. But from the first date onwards I stuck to my "wifey vibe". OMG! It worked like magic! For the first time in his life he met a woman that respected him, trusted his lead, asked for his help, for his opinion on my decisions, etc. He was amazing! Did everything for me and was so invested in our relationship and my wellbeing! 😍 Unfortunately, I went back to my needy, demanding and more mommy tendencies and that´s what killed the relationship after 2 years. 🤷♀
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If you notice movies and shows these days always portray the woman with mommy energy and the man or husband basically as a man child. I think that has a big affect on woman thinking that's how it should be
I love the expression "wifey energy" it is so on point!
Only works if you’ve addressed unhealed childhood attachment patterns as individuals. I was recently with a self described alpha male who was brittle and paranoid and could not be emotionally vulnerable at all. My wifey presence, my submission, was only met with increasing cruelty. And when I exhibited a healthy sense of self-respect, he completely shut down. So these videos may need a disclaimer: For those who have already done a lot of their inner work and are capable of discerning safety (for women ~ act on the red flags), and for men, capable of emotional intimacy. Or it’s irrelevant advice.
This is your absolute best video, hands down. I saved it so I can rewatch and commit these concepts to memory. It was so helpful to have included the slides with the info, too! Thank you so much and God bless you!
A woman needs a man in his masculine energie before she can be in the wifey energie.
Mostly a woman got in the mother energie because the man is childly asking to take care for everything because he is lazy not in love and manipulatieve.
I agree, Be a leader. A TRUE leader. And following becomes a breeze...
Also if he is a cheater no woman will be in her wifey enrgy. My niece had relationships with men who were cheaters. She was miserable and was in her mommy energy too. But them she met a man who is much older than her with mature kids and he was the one who could let her be in her a wifey energy.
I disagree. The MAN is the one responsible for this. If he can’t put on his big man pants and lead and the woman has to put on the man’s pants to lead and mother him, it’s not her fault but his
You also have to be a good leader and then all of this comes naturally. I'm more than happy to let go and be more in my feminine if I feel like the guy I'm with has things handled and is doing things better than I would or same. It's much easier for sure and yes I agree trusting that another person can handle things and you focus on your energy and things is HUGE. that's a secure attachment style. idk if your demographic is women, so you're aiming this advice at women but it definitely takes two to tango
It’s worth noting that no woman should be chasing after a toxic man. If he plays mind games with you…move on.
This video was INCREDIBLE! Thankful to know I’m heavy in my Wifey Energy😌💋
Ok but we can’t control which energy we give. It’s also a reaction to how the guy behaves, for example if he isn’t consistent this might trigger mommy energy. It’s not always women fault for everything
you’re absolutely correct.
No, you're not correct - the reason is that you are an adult and you can choose your response and behaviour and that is what sends out mommy/wifey energy.
I know there is a subconscious element to this which other people can pick up on in spite of what you do, and this is probably what you mean, but you really do have a choice in how you respond to things.
You can respond to his behaviour by thinking "I need to control him" OR "I need to understand him", those are both options and you can choose to adopt either of these attitudes.
There is a gap between something happening and you choosing your response. Sometimes that gap is small (e.g. instinctual or impulsive reactions) and sometimes it is longer (e.g. when you carefully consider your response).
That gap is when you choose how to respond.
So you can literally choose to respond with wifey energy or mommy energy, it really is up to you. I'm not saying it's easy, because it usually isn't. It requires courage and discipline, a little bit of humility. But you can definitely choose how you respond. The idea that you can't is just an excuse
@@thecurrentmoment some things people can sense
@@kc17131 I agree, but it's possible to control what energy we give off, whereas you said we can't.
If he is triggering ur mommy energy mostly than wifey, there should be settled a line
I have seen men in my research who complain about giving and only giving and never receiving. In REAL marriage, being a wife alone at times becomes too cumbersome for some men to carry alone the burden of only giving and not receiving. I think, it depends on a man how he takes the love of his wife, just like a woman cant ask her husband to stop acting like his father, which they do most of the time, than being a husband. After a point in time, both the husband and wifey energy depletes, amd the mommy-daddy energy sets in. This actually helps them stay together for longer, ask your grandpa-grandma. You'll see.
But for that man should be matured enough to fix all things in a right way and not screw up things with his decision
Haha. My ex never would read directions that came with the ikea furniture and he often screwed up the assembly 🤦🏼♀️🤯😭
Things like that....They should learn how to be loyal and more like an adult. He should not be drifted away by every move😡 im sick of videos like this@@fruitascension5089
You nailed it! One can tell you’re very dedicated and conscientous!
Thanks and glad you liked it!
Things like sending reminders I don’t think is a big deal. I know a lot of guys who appreciate reminders from their wives or gfs. They get so busy and they forget and I don’t think gentle reminders mean you’re necessarily stepping into mommy energy.
Overall point taken, though. Thank you.
this video format suits me a lot
Great to hear!
Yes! Presentation style! Simple but suits me too.
Bless your heart for this video. I am a 33 year old woman in a loving relationship. I never knew what I did wrong. I was in the mommy energy. I almost gagged the way you said the things and I really felt ashamed of that behaviour. Thank you for telling both sides so I can fix the problem that I have been carrying with me. Thank you❤❤❤
Wow ... There's so many examples of Mommy Energy in the real world ... But hardly any Wifey Energy to learn from and mirror.
This is very helpful. Thanks !
I have been in both roles with different partners. I always want to be in the feminine energy (wifey) but there are men who shows up in the way that brings the masculine energy out (mommy). That’s when I know that the relationship isn’t working for me.
Insanely uncanny timing. Love you guys thank you for such a well organized and thoughtfully put together presentation of what we all need to know!
Glad you enjoyed it!
The first time I had a man ask me how My day was going I couldn’t believe it. I’ve had to be in masculinity energy handling everything for so long. It put me immediately in my feminine energy and affected all my activities, my yoga, everything. I feel so safe for the first time in a long time.
You have to be able to trust him to do this. Most men are not trustwirthee.
And this guy is brainwashing people to do as he would like, he doesn't sound masculine, he doesn't look masculine.🙄
💯 facts my husband once said to me im too grown for him, i understand now.
This was very insightful.
Merci, just in Time before my date with a much younger man!
Much💖 From South of France
Thank you and I thank your wife I've been married for 3 years now and didn't know the difference. I appreciate the lesson ☺️ this really helps me as a women as a wife
Hi,
I would appreciate if you could create a similar video from a male perspective? Something along the lines of "How to be a man in a relationship, not a child," focusing on how a man can inspire "wifey energy" instead of "mommy energy" from his partner.
Because I was the one who never wanted to be a mommy but his being a child left me with no choice.
I read the empowered wife by Laura Doyle and has been listening to her podcast by the same name. She mentions all of these things, as well as actionable steps to help with the things you talk about. It's incredible how much it has helped my relationship. Keep up the good work!
Welcome!
One of the best breakdowns by male relationship coaches ❤
A man should accept his woman and understand that everyone is different. He should be man enough to not be drifted away by every action that she does. A woman should not be scared he is going to leave by every move. He should be greatful and communicate as a grown man so they can sort things out and so she knows what he wants/expects. Teach man to be loyal and real for gods sake and to be greatful instead of telling women to adapt all the time😡
Love this very much. I had an overbearing mother so I wondered where I stood on this very subject. Now I know. Perfect timing. I need to remember these lists also!
I love how well broken down and explained this is! I immediately pressed the subscribe button
This is pure GOLD❤✨THANK YOU
Both my father and brother are attached to the Mommy energy from their forever wives. Perhaps this is fit for a man with a higher purpose. 🎉I'm simply evaluating from Two family members 😅THEY ARE ATTACHED.
i did. he said i rejected him. he blocked me. I never argued with him He said there is no one like you. that was july 4 2022 and ive been miseralble since
This is magic thank you ❤
As a woman, how do we ask for commitment while maintaining this energy?
He will chase you for it, in my experience. You won't have to guess or wonder because he'll hardly be able to get by without trying to see you or reach out to check on you. 😊 You magnetize what you want when you're "it" for a man
A man should always offer that commitment,down key show him you're not going to entertain someone that doesn't have a timeline for an exclusive long term relationship,if that's what you want.If you have been seeing each other for 3/6 months,then definitely find time to have that conversation.
I love this!! Best advice and guidance I’ve seen on this!! Are there gonna be more like this type of video to help on the mommy and wifey energy? This is perfect timing because this is great for my new formal relationship. Thank you!!
Likely will be and glad you like it!
Iam so glad i bumped into this ,thank you so much
Welcome!
Loved this! Thank you
What about when the man is sick (a bad flu, for example), how do I ask how he’s feeling in a wifey way? How do I express my love and care in a wifey way when he’s down with an illness?
Tell him that you'd like to help him but not sure what he would like you to do.
@@MagnetizeYourMan Tell him to man up......he hasn't got man flu, he has a cold.🤔🤭🤣
@@irenemorley75 😂😂😂😂😂
Tell him,"oh,my I hope this doesn't keep you down,I know how you were planning on xyz,or you were looking forward to do xyz ..if there is any thing/way I can help/assist to make you feel better,let me know.I'm here for you.
Not,are you sure your taking your meds, getting sleep..you should do this,try that....😊😊
Hey great advices❤ It really resonates with me. Will definitely work on being in my feminine energy
Amazing advice ❤
I am currently working on myself and this was hard to watch nonetheless great because I did the mommy energy way too much and I had to reflect on situations where I did say and behave like that creating problems for the relationship. But I got through it I‘ll try to be uncomfortable more and fix my attachement and relationship problems. 🎉
Great video. Thanks for the examples
Welcome! :)
Thank you for this. Appreciate the help.
Glad it was helpful!
I think the mommy energy judt happens when the guy is not interested if he is interested then natually women give wifey energy because they dont have to chase lol
Thanks this was very helpful for me
This was so helpful ❤
This video is brilliant and SO helpful. Thank you! ♀️
Often times women portray mommy energy because it is necessary, sadly. These men are not capable or trustworthy. They cant hold a job, cant be responsible. Very stressing
I disagree each man pull the energy they need from the woman and some men are looking for a mommy....those you just stay away from!
Thank you for this! My last guy asked me to be in mommy energy a lot of the time and I thought that’s what he needed to move forward in our relationship which he did not. I now know if I see it early on I will move on because that is not where I want to be. I want to be the receiver I was designed to be.
Some men need a mommy. I never want that again lol
I am guilty of mommy energy but then i realize the man isnt a "man" but a grown boy. Once i met a man, i naturally submitted and let him lead. It feels good taking care of him too without me feeling like a mother.
I love love love your examples❤
Interesting, but one ought to be careful not to go into "daughter" energy and become like a child instead of a wife?
Yes, this is an interesting difference
Yes interesting difference
I'd say just stay focused on "Wifey" energy in your feminine receptivity and openness
Great insight.
All of this I'd true, although when a women I'd a feminine nurturer at all times with everyone. It isn't viewed as mommy behavior because he'd know that is who she is at all times not looking for a man at all. This info is good to incorporate at the same time when on the dating scene.
Having got married later on in life aged 39, I had plenty of time to take note of other peoples relationships of what I saw worked and what didn't. Two things most women do is nag and nag, - never works ever! and often at times a complete lack of appreciation for whatever their man does for them. Those attitudes will" dry up" any relationship quicker than anything else. Nobdy is going to keep doing stuff for you if you fail to notice, act like a spoilt baby and you don't appreciate it. Just not going to happen long term. Keep on that trend and it doesn't matter how pretty you are, how wonderful you think you are, how intelligent you think you are, he eventually won't care.
Great reminder! Thank you!
Welcome!
Caution: wider ranges in age often creates unhealthily skewed power dynamics. And consider that men normally die much younger than women. So, worst case scenario: ending up broke and lonely.
Great video.
I like the video and format 💯 when younger I was both mommy with some, wifey with others including friends other family members and work colleagues ~ today in my silver years I’m mommy’d out ~ all I desire is to be in my divine feminine energy/role. As in another’s comment ‘wifey’ connotates, how do I put this, say inequality unless he’s referred to as the ‘husband’. If he’s in his masculine then I in my feminine! If he’s in his husband then I in my wife role/label.
I now understand why every man wants instantly to commit to me marry me because im in my fully feminine energy
I attract only providers men
I know i deserve to be treated as queen i just know i lean back n recieve
I dont chase i dont pursue i respect i appricate them i thank them n listen
Excellent video !!!
So glad you liked it!
Thanks for this video
I love this video
We adjust energy to his behavior.
I am definitely wifey energy !! No doubt about it!!! 😊
Wow best video
I had quite a conundrum. He was grossly enmeshed with his REAL Mommy. He insisted on calling her daily, no matter how it affected our plans. I'd end up nagging him, "Oh come on, we're already late to the movie. Call her later!" I realized I could never break up this sick enmeshment, and broke up with him. Of course, he blamed me. Could NOT imagine how bad it would be to have her as an MIL, especially if we moved to the same city. Which is what he wanted. I don't think I did anything wrong, and realize most men are not like this. The good thing is, I would never want him back. He skeeves me out.
What you describe as a mommy energy is not mommy energy when it comes to an adult man woman relationship. It is just wife energy that is not developed and used in a toxic way. It doesnt have to do anything with mothering. Sadly 😢
Btw what you describe as mommy energy, moms shouldnt do either to their children.
good point
This needs a million likes. This shit is toxic and controlling and it destroys men and women alike
Actually,we need to 'Mommy our kids'.Children need that supervision, assertiveness until they can do those things on their own.Ask all mothers,when my son gets back from school,i'll make him something to eat,ask about his day,makes sure he gets his homework done.Along the lines of that.He can go play,watch cartoons,do things he enjoys,but I'll still make sure he showers,check on his room etc the lists is endless.You don't have to do that with a grown man.like the examples the man in the video makes,Your husband is going outside and your telling him,you should get a jacket,its cold outside.A grown man and a boy are two very different people.Many women mother their men with the very best intentions,some men love it but the point of this video is to let women know 'most healthy men will not like that and may end up resenting you when you've been so good to them.
What about those of us that are with partners who are either physically or mentally unwell?
Where out of love, loyalty, commitment and compassion your role is to step up and take on the caretaker mommy role.
Is it ok if we plan some of the dates? I worry about not contributing at all especially if my partner asks me to plan something on occasion…
Hi ❤Yesterday I was walking my boss's dogs and I was checking on one of them who is a golden retriever and a man passed by with his dog. The Golden barked and the man, instead of moving away He moving more close to us the dog and I screamed. I'm practicing more about my femininity but I don't know what to do with this man because I meet him when I walk to the dogs. I don't want to smile to him. Many thanks for advice.
EXCELLENT Brody!! Thank you
Welcome!
Very good
I like my Peace 🕊 -
Thank you! Now I know what my problem is. ❤
You are so welcome!
Sorry if this is an overly basic question, but, how does a wife handle cooking without seeming too mommyish?
I wondered that too!
@natcheztracefan ...
... Q. How to handle cooking without seeming too Mommy-ish energy wise?
I would say ask him what he wants for dinner before you cook/prepare it for him.
Pick 2 or 3 things you'd be willing to make and have the ingredients for ... and ask him to choose between them.
I think that is a subtle way to shift from Mommy to Wifey when making dinner.
@@jcjohnsong8570
Good advice. Thank you.
If he cooks .. cook together.. Share ideas ❤
@@jcjohnsong8570 He gets what I give him and eats it, I wouldn't pussy foot around any man.
Wow it is basically stepping back relaxing and doing nothing and letting the man do all the work.
From my experience he/they didn’t care about wifey energy. If a guy/girl likes you they will like you regardless of “wifey/husband” energy
Being open and vulnerable with my wants and needs in a highly conscious very gentle manner is absolutely NOT working. I embody wifey energy ss my natural nature. Hes being s Brute. Ugggh.
awesome!!
thank you💝💝💝
I have wifey energy, !!!!
I prefer the label of feminine energy or mate energy, to "wifey" energy. "Mommy" energy is obviously emasculating, so that's clearly to be avoided. While I had 8 wonderful years with my late husband and discovered how good being a loving man's wife could feel, the word "wife" for me is still too freighted with its history of servitude and second-class citizenship. I do appreciate the comparison between "wifing" and mothering, though. I'll just stick with "feminine energy" (supportive while respecting his purposes, and enjoying her own) as a label for a happy man's mate.
Oh yes, I can see your point! This is helpful too.
What a non sense!
As a woman and I love being a wife. It is privileged position and the difference made underlines exactly how to not slide and play his mother, which women have done in hundred years... leading to all the accusations that men lack appreciation
Marriage is about serving each other. It's not the same as being a "kitchen slave" or whatever. It's about putting your spouse's needs above your own. It goes both ways.