I hear you brother! My gf told me that she dated a famous rapper for "weeks" while he was touring here in Australia. Essentially she was a groupie. This happened 18 years ago. But I did some snooping and found a heap of letters and gifts and a hand drawn card he sent her when he returned to the USA. In the letter he wrote "I miss our sex, a lot!". Now I don't care about all her cells dying when I have the mental image of her being fucked by this rapper, who has now passed away, but was extremely significant in the hip hop Business. Make me want to throw up, all because I compare myself so poorly to him, nothing to do with her at all.
Your point at the end about how the person you love isn't the same person because of all the cells changing is something I have really tried to tell myself a lot. Those people who were with her in the past have never been with the person that I'm with now because she is literally not the same person physically, mentally or emotionally, and I am the one responsible for a lot of those changes in her that have occurred for the better.
Realizing these thoughts had a name and that I wasn’t alone and that this isn’t just a me problem really helped me. Cause it made me realize that this is something that I’m dealing with, not something I was born with, and therefore I can work to get rid of it.
The last part is something I came up with on my own and then to hear someone else say my words is amazing! I keep telling myself, that was the old girl back then and I have the new one. Still so much work to do im in such a new relationship It started out amazing! the first 3 weeks were pure bliss of love and emotion! After RJ tore into her past I dont feel that anymore and it hurts because she is such an amazing person. I still have feelings for her and like her so much I know this is just RJ taking control but I really dont want to loose her because she is an incredible person. Thank you for your videos
Thank you for such a beautiful content. It helped me realize how to overcome the "RJ" that's been bothering me for 15 yrs. I realized how many relationships of mine have suffered and should've been in full blossom by now if it wasn't because of this mental condition. Pls continue with your advices and insights, it's a great start for people like me..
Eva you don't understand the relief of 5:25. I'd just written down my list of "ands" which led to what you said about other men. I felt so stupid until you said out loud exactly what I'd just discovered. All of a sudden I didn't feel as alone There's a battle ahead but I'm feeling so much more positive after watching your videos. Thank you for the amazing content
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but I suffered this for so long and what helped me was a combination of self help videos, therapy, meditation and Zoloft (medicine).
My husband is my angel and I am his, because of what we’ve experienced in the past, because of our past trauma and issues that have shaped us into exactly what each other needed and desired, and because of our willingness to grow and transform into higher beings together, and as one. 🤍
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It still just hurts SO much despite knowing these valid points. It’s literally like being trapped in hell
I hear you brother! My gf told me that she dated a famous rapper for "weeks" while he was touring here in Australia. Essentially she was a groupie. This happened 18 years ago. But I did some snooping and found a heap of letters and gifts and a hand drawn card he sent her when he returned to the USA. In the letter he wrote "I miss our sex, a lot!". Now I don't care about all her cells dying when I have the mental image of her being fucked by this rapper, who has now passed away, but was extremely significant in the hip hop Business. Make me want to throw up, all because I compare myself so poorly to him, nothing to do with her at all.
@@Hectorheroichow are you now? So sorry to this
Your point at the end about how the person you love isn't the same person because of all the cells changing is something I have really tried to tell myself a lot. Those people who were with her in the past have never been with the person that I'm with now because she is literally not the same person physically, mentally or emotionally, and I am the one responsible for a lot of those changes in her that have occurred for the better.
But neurons mostly stay the same during whole life
Love that
Realizing these thoughts had a name and that I wasn’t alone and that this isn’t just a me problem really helped me. Cause it made me realize that this is something that I’m dealing with, not something I was born with, and therefore I can work to get rid of it.
The last part is something I came up with on my own and then to hear someone else say my words is amazing! I keep telling myself, that was the old girl back then and I have the new one. Still so much work to do im in such a new relationship It started out amazing! the first 3 weeks were pure bliss of love and emotion! After RJ tore into her past I dont feel that anymore and it hurts because she is such an amazing person. I still have feelings for her and like her so much I know this is just RJ taking control but I really dont want to loose her because she is an incredible person. Thank you for your videos
Great reply. All our symptoms and feelings appear to be exactly the same.
Finally someone talks about this in useful way .. thank you 💔💔♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for your comment! I’m glad you found it useful:)
Thank you for such a beautiful content. It helped me realize how to overcome the "RJ" that's been bothering me for 15 yrs. I realized how many relationships of mine have suffered and should've been in full blossom by now if it wasn't because of this mental condition. Pls continue with your advices and insights, it's a great start for people like me..
Thank you so much for your comment. I really appreciate it 😊
Eva you don't understand the relief of 5:25. I'd just written down my list of "ands" which led to what you said about other men. I felt so stupid until you said out loud exactly what I'd just discovered. All of a sudden I didn't feel as alone
There's a battle ahead but I'm feeling so much more positive after watching your videos. Thank you for the amazing content
Thank you so much for your comment! I'm glad you find the video helpful!!
Thank you Eva. This is very well explained. Beautiful! 🥰
That video is so relaxing for me
..❤️. specially the last part..🙏
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but I suffered this for so long and what helped me was a combination of self help videos, therapy, meditation and Zoloft (medicine).
This is so helpful 😢❤
Thank you for your comment! So happy it helped:)
Couping mechanism don't work especially with BPD. Medicine is needed.
You are great eva
Thank you for this video it's helped a lot.
Ur a saviour
Thank you. X
I love you so much for this❤❤
Very good
Hi, my gf is having these thoughts, can i share this video to her.. Will she be fine
Your gf har same past as your ?
@@shivamrai5749 no
You're amazing
My husband is my angel and I am his, because of what we’ve experienced in the past, because of our past trauma and issues that have shaped us into exactly what each other needed and desired, and because of our willingness to grow and transform into higher beings together, and as one. 🤍