What flaw do you accept about your significant other that would be a deal breaker for many?

[@safiiyaa]

*watches curiously in single*

[@peiithos]

*waitching curiously in aromantic asexual*

[@crutonsnstrapons]

Same

[@safiiyaa]

@bryan diaz varela Who's that?

[@kaif-tube1692]

@bryan diaz varela What a coincidence, I'm going on date with her sister Jill.

[@_1V4N]

*joins you in single*

[@chefedegaru]

My husband is a diagnosed sociopath. He is the most thoughtful man I've ever been with though. He's like the anti-Jake Paul.

[@coltrane6199]

Just because he’s a sociopath doesn’t mean he likes to do harm or has ill intent a lot of people have no idea

[@chefedegaru]

@@coltrane6199 everyone hears sociopath and panics because of Shane Dawson's documentary. People with sociopathic tendencies just have difficulty empathizing or understanding their own feelings which can cause a disconnect when they interact with others.

[@coleschemistrychannel4172]

I don’t know if I’m allowed to ask this, but do you think he cares about you as a person? Or do you just feel like if he treats you well, it doesn’t matter if he’s doing it for a self-interested motive? Also, how did he get diagnosed? Thanks

[@sanna9062]

Sociopathy isn't a diagnosis

[@abbybreneman5593]

My current BF is a sociopath too! A little difficult sometimes.

[@lunarsystem9662]

My girlfriend will go into manic states where she truly believes the world is punishing her or that nothing is real and we are all just here so the world can torture her. She refuses to seek help because it's back fired on her in the past, I'm slowly working on it with her. I love her and hope that someday she will be willing to try different medications. I myself have my own mental health problems and was raised in a household with a mom and a younger brother with bipolar disorder so I know how to handle mania. We're working on it.

[@LiLiKOiOiOi]

you're really a great person. i wish the best for you. things will be okay soon.

[@F0URL34FCL0V3R]

I wish you guys the absolute best.

[@Pbness]

As someone who has bipolar, had a dad who had bipolar, and knows a bunch of people who have been affected by bipolar, I can only say this; if she doesn't get therapy and get the correct meds it will only get worse.
I've lost a bunch of people in my life because they didn't get the help they needed, it doesn't matter how much you lover her if she doesn't get the help she needs. People with bipolar are naturally resistant to treatment as it's either the mania or depression that causes the person to not want to get it but they need it. They will never get better without it.

[@lmao.3661]

king

[@Sevren_]

Lunar System just leave her. Y’all are gonna separate anyway

[@onlyzombiequeen416]

My husband has Asperger’s. He’s the sweetest man you will ever meet, he tends to over think about something for weeks or months and can over share when he’s nervous. He had a lot of relationship problems in the past because of it. I love him regardless.

[@jakk9560]

Your a good lady

[@FWUFFYCAKES]

@@jakk9560 I also have aspergers and it makes my relationship difficult due to not normally expressing emotions physically or mentally

[@jakk9560]

@@FWUFFYCAKES I feel you i have aspires and atisum it very hard to express myself explice since it feel like my dad get mad at me for feeling anything negative or taking to long to respond

[@FWUFFYCAKES]

@@jakk9560 I understand to,my bf hes start pressuring me, and I can be in a good mood, and he,think I'm mad at him foe something and starts saying what's wrong? Or do u have a problem with me? Which I don't he starts these arguments for no reason cause of my aspergers, trys to force a reaction or,just to make me stressed

[@jakk9560]

@@FWUFFYCAKES you have it worst my friend my dad just lack pacintes and both me and him have a hard time commmintinting in general

[@bendingbananas6540]

this is unrelated but tbh I really like it when the reddit posts featured here are more up to date. Idk why but whenever I watch a reddit vid, most of the comments were posted like 4-7 years ago and stuff

[@tutorialsensei122]

ARhannah Maybe because the theme of the videos that have comments older then 5 years are not very popular and not many people have stories for those themes,they are still quite fun to watch,right?

[@jesseberg3271]

If you subscribe to the reddit reader channels, you'll get notified when the new videos come out. They're more likely to be current that way.

[@spoonspoon8842]

Same, I like the up to date ones

[@bendingbananas6540]

@@tutorialsensei122 i just don't really trust them :\ idk why but i always get the feeling that whatever advice they had to give then doesn't work as well in today's time...i mean, a lot can change in just a couple of years

[@aileighkarson]

I agree and I love hearing things about current events happening right now, it makes it feel so much more real I relatable or something. Like when they mentioned quarantine in one of them

[@evolutiontail5697]

I honestly hate telling people to shut up. I love when people share their enthusiasm with me. However i don't want you to ramble about the same thing constantly. If you're gonna talk alot it better be something not previously discussed recently.
For example my friends would talk alot about their life story. That's cool.
My uncle who constantly talked about his ex wives, anti trump rhetoric or anti gay marriage annoyed me to no end.
Don't be redundant is what im saying.

[@TwitchyMoth]

I am autistic and get excited about my special interest. I ramble a whole bunch. I have the Problem that due to being at social stuff I actually don't know when people want me to stop.
So Here are is what my friends say: "That is interesting. But I don't really have the mind for it right now."
Which I do now with strangers too. Its considerably less rude then being like: "stop talking about this"
:)

[@TK-ij2xi]

@@TwitchyMoth This was super helpful. My mother-in-law is autistic and it can be difficult because she gets tunnel vision (wanted to explain in detail to my 10 yr old child what porn was) & I don't know how to get her to stop.

[@TK-ij2xi]

I think in moments like that it's imperative we communicate, or at the very least, excuse ourself from the room.

[@nicole6808]

TK W that’s really concerning. i know you’d want your child to have a relationship with their grandmother, but if your MIL can’t rationalize that a conversation like that is not appropriate to have with a ten year old then you as the parent and guardian of your child should seriously rethink the contact your child has with her. if it were me, i would not let my child have unsupervised time with a person who discussed extremely inappropriate subjects that i have previously forbade them conversing about, blood related or not. a ten year old doesn’t need to be taught about porn from their grandmother, that’s corruption of innocence and very sad.... i hope if your comment wasn’t a joke you or your spouse supervise the time your kid spends with your MIL to monitor the conversation.

[@olive9514]

One thing I hate is when someone says shut up when someone's being nice to them or when it's not necessary at all

[@irusuferal3834]

She sucks at just talking and showing affection. But I've seen she has tried, so I understand.

[@user-hx9cc1qh3h]

I'm in the same situation with my boyfriend (I don't show affection too often, and he's more willing to talk about his feelings than I am) And, I'm pretty sure your girlfriend appreciates that you understand her situation because, believe me, it sucks when you can't tell your partner (even if you want to) how much you love them. So, having someone who doesn't care about that is amazing.

[@irusuferal3834]

@@user-hx9cc1qh3h it was definitely hard at first, as I am a huge over thinker. I would express it so much and to almost never truly feel it back, it hurt. I would express that hurt alot, and I feel bad for it now since I didn't see how she was truly trying. But as I got to understand the relationship and her, I started to understand she shows it in other ways than just expressing it. Ty for sharing this, it definitely just solidifies my trust and love in my relationship :)

[@Beefingtoniii]

Maybe try finding her love language. Some people show affection in different ways, some people like to give gifts, touching, speaking, taking in little facts and quirks, stuff like that. I don’t know if you’ve heard the story about the couple who the woman felt as the same as you. Then she told her husband about this thing she did as a child, where three taps means I love you. And then her husband started doing that constantly. On the table, on her shoulder, in his sleep. Different love languages.

[@emilio556]

Paeunia I am in the EXACT same position. Its so hard because I like her so much and I want to hug her all the time and tell her how much I value her but I’m in fear of seeming clingy and on top of it she never really shows any feelings back :(

[@irusuferal3834]

@@emilio556 talk to her about it!!! It can definitely be hard to learn to trust first, but once u truly see how she shows it, and trust that those are genuine, the foundation for happiness is there. Also, give it time, try. I actually broke up with my girlfriend at first because of it, the self doubt was just so overwhelming I just didn't believe we were working out. But when I expressed that, me and her decided to take it more slow and get used to our love language first before making it truly official, so the stress of a real relationship didn't push expectations onto things. So just find what works, time and communication is key

[@quakd1788]

The EMT one really made me mad. Sometimes, the difference between life and death can be seconds. The fact that their partner is DELIBERATELY slowing the EMT down, doubled by the fact that she was asked to stop and she LAUGHED IN HIS FACE. Absolutely disgraceful.

[@madssul1865]

Time stamp?

[@KittyKayBrittany]

There is a full story about it somewhere. It had me fuming... her excuse was she liked everything clean and tidy. Wtf, why do they gotta be tied aaand knotted though?! Set them up where he left them and at MOST tuck the laces inside the boots. Easy fix. But no, only thing that worked for her was to tie and knot them.... oh the anger. *rant over*

[@hermioneweasley2002]

Hello Stranger 22:19

[@oceanbytez847]

i agree. A good pair of boots really can help in a situation. That is, if you get them on in time.
I hope she knows she is indirectly responsible for the harm and death of others.

[@ametsunami4070]

I think short boys (Shorter than me) are waaay cuter than if the same boy were taller than me.

[@twoghostsinacornfeild]

Same! You just want to snuggle up on the couch!😊

[@jake6493]

well your probably like 9 so short people probably don’t give a shit about what you say

[@hhhhhhbhh8246]

Jake 64 You sound like a pissy 40 y/o

[@SKYBANfrancine]

Somebody gets it!

[@camiborneman6545]

Same bro

[@KitsunoIRL]

There's a few traits my girlfriend has that would be deal breakers for others. As I'm sure I have some that would be as well. We're inseparable

[@gerardgrenier8573]

Thank you Bradon

[@oceanbytez847]

In a puzzle, the two oddest pieces often fit together.
I hope you find this relation pleasing.

[@dergluckliche4973]

Jesus. Nothing. I married my husband _because_ of his quirks.

[@razi_man]

It's cool that ypu see nothing wrong with your husband, but many people can't really as easily brush off their partner's negative aspect, that's not to say that other people don't love their parner, just that people try to see their positive aspects a lot harder than some others.

[@BrainRotFever]

The question was, to word it differently, "What do you love about your partner that other people wouldn't?"

[@ratbath1837]

That profile picture slaps. I love that movie so much

[@babyjamesbond2387]

Yo that movie awesome

[@solus8685]

Exactly, like, I love "flaws"

[@anamsj1218]

He’s still not comfortable telling me he loves me. To him, saying I love you is the emotional equivalent of asking someone to marry him. I think of love differently, so I say it all the time. He rarely says it back, but when he does, I know he genuinely means it, and I know the day will come where he can. We’ve been together for 3 years:)

[@rg5226]

this is exactly why my first relationship didn’t work, because I didn’t tell her I loved her. We were dating for 3 days.

[@morguemorgan]

This is definitely me with my boyfriend! It's hard for me to say it because when I was little, everyone taught me love is an illusion and that I can't say it unless I'm completly settled or committed. So intimacy and saying "I love you" is hard for me. My boyfriend gets frustrated but he understands and reassures me that the day will come when it's not difficult anymore.

[@rhondasommer3648]

My boyfriend is terrible about remembering to say it, but always says it back when I say it. This made me feel like it was potentially insincere, so I started to do three taps while saying "I love you" now, he unconsciously taps me three times any time any where. (Cuddling, at a party, at the mall, truly just anywhere anytime). Maybe you can try that too!

[@someantisocialkidwithayout8828]

If they don’t want kids.
*Perfect ideal husband*

[@astro3878]

*exactly*

[@kayleighbyrne5191]

That's a must-have "flaw"

[@alegnaroviya8856]

Although I don't bevile that women should be expected to have kids what so ever, its pretty understandable that if your significant other doesn't want kids but you do is a deal breaker.

[@natalijatheghost]

Exactly

[@tomboyjessie1352]

That's actually not a deal breaker at all in my family, I have a Aunt and Uncle from my Mom's side who don't have kids themselves and they're still awesome folks, besides, they got pet dogs to fill the void.

[@purelysmetalnightcore]

With all of that said, I hope everyone watching remembers to look out for themselves, too. If your partner or someone you love has serious issues, set a boundary for when you would throw in the towel. Not all people want help or are willing to do everything it takes to get better, and it's not worth destroying yourself physically or mentally. I couldn't bear to watch my schizophrenic ex's episodes when he refused medication and therapy. I was watching him self destruct and he wouldn't let me help, so I left (have no idea what he's up to now or if he's even still alive but I hope for the best) because it brought me to a terrible place and I realized I had become his therapist without being emotionally or educationally equipped. I also know a girl that hoped to change her boyfriend's ways because he had a history of doing and selling drugs. He stabbed her and killed her parents when she refused him sex. Not saying ALL drug addicts are like that or that there's no redemption for people that have been clean for awhile, but please, please be careful. It's okay to walk away.

[@rg5226]

You dropped this 👉🏿👑

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

Nightcore Nerd yes there must be boundaries too.

[@rafeek.9623]

very true,that's how my previous relationship ended. She had traumas,which made me very understanding of her condition, but she would lash out on me in any given chance.. it was mentally exhausting and I couldn't take it anymore.

[@lee2791]

Agreed! While you should totally be understanding and patient, you also have to know when it’s going too far and harming you.

[@vaibanez17]

My wife's severe anxiety and panic attacks where she completely shuts down. Most wouldnt want to deal with that, but I love her. I help her get through it. I make her feel calm. She needs me and I am always therevfor her.

[@persephone9307]

Aww that’s very sweet. Wish the best for you and your wife, especially since I can relate to this.

[@senecastarr9099]

My bf is very sensitive, he cries, he shows emotion very openly and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I know a lot of women think men are supposed to be strong and never cry etc. but that’s not true, men can be just as emotional as women and I like that he will let me see him vulnerable (no one else besides me knows how emotional he is)

[@ellies521]

I love it when a guy shows their feelings. If they’re not comfortable showing their feelings to me, I feel like they don’t like me. No one is always happy and I’d like to be someone that they can trust to show their vulnerability.

[@Harkz0r]

Fairly often, men are reluctant to open up because even though women can encourage them to be more openly emotional, when it actually happens the women either never take them seriously, or start to lose attraction or respect for them, etc. It can feel like a rejection of that vulnerability even if it's not conscious or deliberate.
I like to think of myself as reasonable, but I would also describe myself as sensitive by nature. So hearing things like this makes me smile a little. I think: the eyes of society are always watching, so to be able to be with someone around whom you can let down your guard and just be genuine, well... it counts for a lot. I wish you a happy future together, kind stranger.

[@swee_zaide]

That is so great! Personally, I think the same way. I mean, I want to be with a human being with existent emotions.

[@Pingvinicecream]

When we were at McDonald's my (now) girlfriend dropped a single french fry on the floor. She then picked it up and ate it. To this day I am disgusted to my soul by this but I figured it's better to have her like that than as a hysterical hygiene freak.

[@apollo4294]

Pond i hope she doesnt. She sounds nice if Tuutti likes her

[@dutchvanderlinde248]

Sounds like me if I were fem tbh. Been that way since my childhood and both my mom and bio dad were the same.

[@GamerGamerGamer77777]

if that was some place else it would be fine with me but mcdonalds

[@dutchvanderlinde248]

@@GamerGamerGamer77777 ok that's my exception now that I think about it. Eating off McDonald's floor is just asking to contract AIDS and Diabetes off the floor at the same exact time.

[@ann2908]

💀💀💀

[@Jaimelikegem]

I like heavy/fat/big guys. I know lots of girls see that as a dealbreaker but I find that super attractive. I just like feeling all small next to them, especially when cuddling😊. I also find hairy guys attractive, which apparently is a dealbreaker for lots of women too

[@ratedRblazin420]

What's up girl:)

[@smapa1185]

Honestly you do you boo, I'm sure lots of guys would be really happy hearing that lol.

[@TheRockyCrowe]

Hmmmm for me personally being fat isn’t necessarily a turn off _depending_ on the situation. Like if he’s not crazy obese, is working on it and not just shoving Mountain Dew and McD’s in his mouth 24/7, and we click personality-wise then alright.
HAIR on the other hand? F-ING AUTOMATIC YES. GIBS ME THE HAIRRRRRR. Nothing sexier than a groomed beard and hair on the arms and chest. IDK why many women are turned off by it. Maybe for some women like us it’s like some ancient primal desire still lingering around in our brains. 😂

[@keithroach2105]

Actually I’m the one with the flaws that my SO deals with that would be a deal breaker for most people, I’m a guy on the autism spectrum, have ADHD, and have on and off depression, so my emotions are all over the place and have sensory overloads very frequently. Luckily my SO has introduced me to something that helps me to calm down a lot and give me the time and space to feel like a little kid again since my family has put a lot of pressure on me to grow up fast as the oldest and never really had that childhood most people do, to the point where now I naturally act like a parent to young kids even if they aren’t my little brother or immediate cousins, I never really had any chance to be a kid so my SO let’s me be a kid again even though I’m 6 months from 20 years old

[@lishabrit4696]

Other than the adhd bit I'm literally the female counterpart you have just explained. Life is intresting isn't it

[@airysquared]

I'm on the spectrum with ADHD and depression, too (plus anxiety). I'm an only child, so I can't imagine the kind of pressure that was placed on you. I'm glad you have a relationship where you can make up for all that lost time.

[@swee_zaide]

That is so wholesome and sweet!!

[@risksandhope1849]

I think I have some personal qualities that make me 'undesirable' in a romantic/ intimate relationship and my fiance has handled it really well. Long story short I have some trauma based anxieties that I used to find unmanageable. This meant that intimacy was impossible, if you tried to hold my hand my defense was to go emotionally numb. He has been so understanding of it all that I've made more progress than I had in the previous years of therapy and treatment. Anyone who stands by their S.O through difficulty has my respect and gratitude 💜

[@flowergirl_music]

This is very wholesome lol

[@forest_fire959]

·Antisocial Walnut· you are wholesome. :)

[@luminousdoodles]

Aghhh all of you are very wholesome-

[@undead-cartilage8530]

Fellow beings I wish you a very good day even in the midst of the chaos that is 2020 ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

[@quinkydinkers3102]

Needed this video and comment section today

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

This thread is cute and I'm living for it 😃

[@Tswizzle266]

His epilepsy. It's been a cause of break ups in his other relationships and while it is hard, I can mitigate my feelings over it.

[@AndoraAmore]

My father had epilepsy. He was the best father I could have ever had and I wouldn't have traded him for the world.

[@btljxs84930]

If you don't mind my asking, why has epilepsy been a deal-breaker for his past SO's? A family member of mine has it, and it's honestly not a big deal. We just learned to roll with the seizures and limitations it put on diet & such.

[@patch2932]

Simona Härter
I wouldn’t know, I don’t live with any family member who have epilepsy. But I imagine it’s extremely stressful to watch your SO have a seizure they can’t control. Especially when epilepsy is something that doesn’t just stop, it’s a chronic thing, so there isn’t much you can do to really be like, “Oh you’ll never have a seizure again.” That’s just how I see it.
(It could also be very stressful, emotionally and physically). Some people (like me) have a hard time just taking care of other people when they have medical issues. It isn’t that I don’t care, but I don’t want the responsibility.

[@Tswizzle266]

@@btljxs84930 That's okay, I don't mind you asking! I don't know the exact reason as to why they left but i agree that it was probably due to not being able to handle his condition.
For me, it's physically hard as he is twice my size and I can't support his weight if he does go down while standing. I'm very empathic as well so seeing him seizing isn't easy to cope with.
I understand that it's "not a big deal" for your family member and that's great that they can have it under control and it not impede their life too much. That's not the same for everyone unfortunately and it is a serious commitment as is any medical condition that needs assistance.
Hope this clears it up a little bit. :)
Edit: spelling

[@Tswizzle266]

@@AndoraAmore that's really sweet to hear!

[@mquillpen]

What... what DID the mayonnaise say to the refrigerator tho??

[@niconemecky4898]

Close the door, I’m dressing in here

[@Aut7]

@@niconemecky4898 GOOD ONE

[@kat-fr7nr]

@@niconemecky4898 👏👏👏

[@moonlineslover]

@@niconemecky4898 wow😂

[@qkndc]

@@niconemecky4898 I would hit the like button, but u have 69 likes.

[@tiffanythaalchemist2863]

he’s schizophrenic also diagnosed with psychotic depression but im in love with him & if i have to become a psychologist to understand him, I’ll dedicate my life to it.

[@NataRaptor13]

tiff I’m schizophrenic and my husband has helped me cope with it so much. My favorite thing is when he asks me questions about it. I love that he really tries to understand. Unfortunately medication has never helped elevate my symptoms so I generally rely on trying to keep my stress low and bear through the hard episodes. He has helped so much by trying to limit outside stressors when I start to seem overwhelmed, and he’ll draw me baths and clean the house (environment is a big thing for me), and when an episode happens he holds me a assures me that I’m safe and helps me through it. It’s nice to not feel so alone, even if the other person isn’t experiencing the same thing. Not sure where i was going with this but Thank you for loving and doing everything to understand your SO 🖤 (edit: spelling)

[@Slimmeyy]

I've come to the realisation that I'm not that weird after all, because this post contained like every problem that any significant other will have to deal with if I ever get one.

[@alannysanchez3570]

My fiancé was raised in a household we’re men were always right and his dad beat his mom all the time, I was raised in a household where I was taught that men shouldn’t have any type of power over me. He tends to loose his temper a lot and he punches things and brakes things but I know that he could never hurt me, even when he’s in the middle of a rage I just have to hold his hands and tell him that it’s okay and that I love him. He has never ever put a finger on me when he is in one of his rages. He is taking therapy sessions because he knows my biggest dream in life is to become a mom and he doesn’t want his kids to see him the same way he saw his dad.

[@ziizinn]

Bro you’re so sweet. I wish I had woman like you. Lucky guy!

[@cidersidexo]

the intense secrecy thing at 1:40 is exactly the type of thing im prone to do-- its not like im trying to keep secrets, its just like- i wont mention things if you dont ask, yknow?

[@mslightbulb]

To be honest I just easily forget about things and remember about them like a month later. I also usually prefer to listen about others personal stuff rather than to tell, I just find my personal life boring, even if it isn’t and would rather talk about my art.

[@trishapellis]

@CASEY WEATHERFORD Or like I just wasn't aware that this would interest you. However, I can't really imagine a starting relationship where the question "tell me about your family" isn't asked at all, ever. The first answer to that question is "I have x brothers and/or y sisters"... and "my mom/dad died" or "I have 2 moms/dads" or "my dad is actually my stepdad" or something, in case that's true, because everyone will just automatically assume you have one mother and one father.

[@jefferygoldmann2643]

Me too

[@evolutiontail5697]

I tend to go with old addage not everything is for everyone. For example i told my sister i purchased a firearm. Then she tells mom and then mom told my aunt. Before you know it my uncle was asking my cousin about me purchasing a firearm.
That's why im secretive. People gossip about damn near nothing half the time.

[@alegria1813]

Same

[@TKonishi33]

Ask reddit: What flaw do you accept about your significant other that would be a deal breaker for many?
Redditors: wE LiKe tO bE ToGethEr MOst Of thE TiMe

[@gravity3781]

Yeah, I don't like that many askreddit replies don't match the question.

[@amandaacruz]

honestly I get it, I just could not be in a relationship where my SO requires to be always together - I really really need my alone time...

[@Md-uz6pp]

@Amanda Cruz Same I get easily embarrassed. Even for small minimal things around my friends and would rather hide and deal with it quietly than have someone try to comfort me. I really would not want to be around someone all the time

[@sakuraogami6885]

Because a lot of people actually see that as a problem. Somehow. Lol

[@p0lyxena]

They said "all of our time", though. I can absolutely love being in someone's company, but 24/7 with them is just too much. A lot of people need to be alone and have their personal space sometimes.

[@honeydew4800]

My gf has had a lot of trauma so she is very sensitive
She can have breakdowns where she screams, cries, scratches, throws, etc
She cries multiple times a day, many times each hour, but I will still always be here for her, She is an amazing person and I love her
(we are both 14 right now by the way)

[@smapa1185]

Yo, as someone who dated that young and is only 19 now, just be friends. Dating is not worth it at 14. It's just not.
I'm so sorry for your partner, but it sounds like they need intense therapy. You should try to learn about mental and trauma disorders and find something. It will help.

[@minervasayre5570]

So, I sat my boyfriend and I down when it looked like we might be heading towards a romantic relationship and talked about some things the other should know about each other before we got together so that we could either start the relationship knowing those things upfront or not start it at all.
I told him about the rough breakup I had from my three-year relationship that ended a year before we got together and still effects most of the relationships in my life to this day. I also told him that I'm pagan, I'm infertile and possibly sterile (as I've know for most of my life), and I'm polyamorous. He grew up in a Christian family (though I never knew my boyfriend identifying as a Christian himself), is generally monogamous but open to an open relationship, and though he wants to be a dad badly is okay with adopting. He took everything in stride and I'm incredibly happy to have him in my life.
He told me he has an ex-wife and doesn't drink. I know some people might be hesitant if their partner had an ex-spouse, but I'm not easily made jealous (though I don't see what I'd have to be jealous of, just know others might be for a reason I'm unaware of) and would be fine if she came back into his life as long as she wasn't a negative/unhealthy part of it. I drink but don't go crazy with alcohol and my boyfriend said it would be weird for me to avoid drinking because he was around. I still mostly just have a drink or two if we're around friends and alcohol is around, but that's my choice and that mismatch has never been of any issue.

[@finch4309]

well i mean that way you always have a designated driver

[@ryderthesinful]

This is so sweet. When I tell people I'm polyamorous, they think I'm a cheater or sinful (I mean, they aren't necessarily wrong, but they don't have to be such dicks about it).
When I told a girl I wasn't Christian, she yelled at me that I would burn in hell, among other things. We were pretty young but if I'm honest, it's made me a bit wary of devoted Christians. I don't dare bring up some of my beliefs because of this.
The reason (at least, I think) people get so jealous when a new partner has an ex lover is because they might be self conscious. They might think they could be inadequate to the person with an ex spouse. Or maybe they are possessive and don't like thinking their "things" (no, I'm not calling people things, it's just the most simple way to view possessive behavior for me) being in the care of others.

[@snickerdoodle8776]

Its so nice to see other polyamorous people. I'm one as well. You guys seem like nice and decent people!
(Not just because of thay but your other descriptions kf your personality as well.)
Keep up the great work in the journy we call life, Everyone.

[@lambsauc324]

@@ryderthesinful that girl was wrong to say that, I don't agree with the whole polyamorous thing, we're supposed to use decernment, but we're also supposed to be loving and kind, these people tend to forget they sinned before coming to the light, trying to cast judgement when they have logs in there own eyes, they tend to gloss over the don't condemn others or else you condemn yourself in the process part.
Anyways hope you have a nice day and your life is filled with goodness.

[@Ceo_OfRarepairs]

The first real girlfriend I had was polyamorous, (which in turn made me realize I was too lol) and I was a bit skeptical at first, but ultimately I accepted her.
Once we broke up, I had a few poly relationships, and, they weren't really open, more of just a relationship between three people instead of two.
Now I'm currently in a relationship with someone, and while I wouldn't necessarily mind if we're to get with us as well, I feel like she's really all I need.

[@divinrth5187]

16:21 is basically me. i have aspergers and there are so many sounds and smells that make me nauseous. the sound of a nail file makes me physically recoil, the smell of hair spray makes me nauseous and feel like my throats closing up. when getting a haircut, i have to do everything i can to keep myself from recoiling due to the sound of the razor. one of the worst is dragging your finger across paper. makes me want to throw up, run away, and bash my head against the wall. sometimes i accidentally think of a finger being dragged across paper, and i get the feeling again. the most annoying part is that it's not merely auditory anymore. if i even imagine or see things like these happening, i automatically associate the actions with the sound and get the feeling of physically recoiling. it's terrible, but it makes me feel better knowing there's so many who have it way worse than me. feels a bit bad saying that though, honestly.

[@kageoashj2912]

I thought I was the only one who wanted to run and slam my head into a wall

[@scrim1784]

To relate to the auditory parts, I have misophonia, which is like this exactly but it's slightly less intense. I also have a couple sensory triggers too (as an example, I cringe when touching cardboard). I'm not diagnosed with ASD and I never thought I had it. But sometimes, my misophonia will make me question myself about it. Certain noises like chewing, loud music/talking, lawn mowers/equipment, and other similar noises that are loud and repetitive make me feel really annoyed and frustrated, to the point where I want to scream. I have to leave the room to calm down, as it also makes me feel anxious on top of the anger. And to make it worse, my family doesn't understand, so they don't do anything about their noises. It's not fun.

[@testerwulf3357]

10:41 This is true. I’m not that confident about my appearance, especially my naked one. So sex at first was really awkward and weird with my boyfriend, but he always tells me how much he loves me and how sexy and attractive I am to him. It’s helped me gain confidence with my body in front of him.
As well with the next reply, I often beat myself up so he’s always being so sweet and makes me feel loved and wanted, not just for sex. He’s always wanting to cuddle which I feel that.
I have a lot of issues that probably make me a deal breaker thus I’m glad he’s chosen me and chooses to stay with me, he’s so patient with me..

[@MrDevil-jb1fl]

Attack that confidence with love

[@LKTori]

Fr ! And i hope you really come to love yourself bc im sure you're beautiful. My boyfriend does the same, its really sweet and i really love it. Even when i jokingly say im ugly or something he gets upset almost and repeatedly tells me im not aha so cute

[@ann2908]

God im jelly i hope i can find someone like that I'm bisexual and my experiences with girls have been way better than with guys,girls are more accepting of how you look(in my case)but everyone is beautiful❤

[@DanceCanada187]

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and we’ve never had sex and I doubt we ever will. I’m asexual and have no desire to ever do that, plus I can’t take my clothes off in front of someone without crying. I’m sure he would love to have sex if I was willing to, but he always says he doesn’t care. Our relationship is about traveling the world together and being best friends really. We love spending time together and care a lot about eachother and that’s the part that matters.

[@DawnStarLightning]

I'm on the ace spectrum and it too took me a lot of time to feel comfortable with my boyfriend. One thing I always like to keep in mind is when I get on a negative emotional spiral, I just think of him saying: "be nice to my girlfriend" and think how would he talk to me? How would he want others to talk to me? It helps me break the spiral.

[@yorukage5926]

I need thinking time too. Though it's because I'm an idiot lol

[@ok-mt7iz]

no you’re not :0

[@couchgamingnews9379]

No your just ignorant

[@Cardboard_Cut]

Same, i'm a mayor dumbass, i take a minute or two to tie my shoelaces

[@lambsauc324]

@@Cardboard_Cut omg it's the mayor of dumbass, best day ever

[@Phoenix_Down444]

@@couchgamingnews9379 Stupidity and ignorance are the same thing.

[@ssolarsystem]

0:01 his fingers give me anxiety

[@ok-mt7iz]

*evil finger noises*
that sounded worse than i thought it would

[@ssolarsystem]

Laggy Bunny well, I am but...
I always come back

[@Phoenix_Down444]

Wait those are fingers!? Looool I thought he was sitting on a fancy chair I'm dumb xD

[@sillygreen3914]

Intro scared me.

[@halfpuffprince5233]

3:42 that’s not your man that chidi for the good place

[@lee2791]

STOMACH ACHE, STOMACH ACHE, STOMACH ACHE

[@unoriginalnamehere2646]

Hearing about the couples who spend a lot of time together made me feel less awkward about my relationship with me bf. I feel the same way as those posters but I felt weird because I’m normally an introvert to anyone but me bf.

[@blossomnessstudios4446]

For my girlfriend I tolerate how absolutely amazing she is and how she won't let me not accept compliments, basically she's way too sweet.

[@Sevren_]

Blossomness Studios Complimenting someone all the time is annoying af. Talk some shit about her

[@zom_zooz]

hi dont take the other reply's advice seriously just makin sure ya dont

[@hannahbanana78]

@@Sevren_ ahahaha Idk why I'm laughing gosh this made my dad

[@14104]

@@Sevren_ Bro look what you've done, you made someone's dad. Smh

[@tylerbrooks5370]

0:03 a little boy will be in my bed tonight
*FBI has joined the chat*

[@razi_man]

I'm unable to feel empathy most of the time, I can feel sympathy but I can't cry at an emotional scene.
People mistook this as a psychopathic aspect and avoid me because of it, I do have violent tendencies sometimes and is okay with blood, but I won't hurt unless someone hurts me first, physically mind you.

[@somerandomdude1249]

You are like me i dont know why but i cant feel empathy most of the times, and can only feel it when its an animal dying because if its a person i probably wont feel anything, but u could only start feeling a bit of empathy after around 3 years of therapy.

[@txicrses4410]

I like blood too. Tastes nice.

[@IAmGodHimself777]

@@txicrses4410 shut

[@bingusiswatching6335]

0:02 I love how he says "This" as if that isn't a human being.

[@watergamer6446]

"the fact they're a murderer"
-another murderer

[@timothyaster4337]

Will Graham has entered the chat.

[@lucythompson295]

Timothy Aster omg love it 😂

[@tommys.mcfadden7492]

I'm not in a relationship but I know that a few things about myself that are deal breakers are that I work better in clutter, it is impossible to tell what I will do when I am annoyed, and I HATE, emphasis on hate, people touching my things without my permission or I see where you put it.

[@victoriakinny9210]

My husband likes to trade cars. Not nice cars, but bottom of the barrel cars. Someone gave us a car, it honestly was great, ran great, looked great but it was about a week and my husband had (without my knowledge) traded it for a truck that we couldn't use. The truck disappeared after 3 days and the car after that about 2 weeks later. It got to a point though that he traded a car that needed minor engine repairs for a truck that had major issues and the engine blew with my husband in it. My husband is fine but as soon as he came home we had a huge fight because he refused to listen to me when i said to trade the car. I've tried everything to get him to stop but i hope almost dying will work. We don't have a car now and i am currently saving up to get a nice one. If he touches my car, I'm filing for divorce and he knows it

[@sakuraogami6885]

Yeah that’s a problem.

[@UndeadAng3l]

Every morning as soon as he gets up, my boyfriend hacks his lungs up and spits loogies so loud that you can hear it in any room of the house. It's also what he sounds like when clearing his lungs at any point of the day, but it's guaranteed that it will happen every morning. Yeah, it took some getting used to, but he can't really help it and he has so many amazing qualities that it seems insignificant.

[@allisond.46]

Lung disease?

[@sadginger4924]

What causes it? I have a lot of flem in my throat often and I’d really appreciate it if could get rid of it

[@jod125]

I have rhinitus and I do something similar. I'm glad it's not a deal breaker for all

[@UndeadAng3l]

@s cass You don't understand. It's inhumanly loud...

[@UndeadAng3l]

@@allisond.46 No, we just both smoke a lot of 🌳

[@Sophassofa]

The one with autism was pure

[@watchanimeandstramkpop8195]

My sister lies, all the time, and it pisses me off like I shouldn't have to tell her to tell the truth and she doesn't lie to me but our mom, about little things, she doesn't care that she is lying to our mom and thinks it is a joke, like I lie yeah we all do but I don't just do it 25/8 and it just upsets me

[@ollybeans2284]

I just had a stroke trying to read that

[@ryderthesinful]

What is 25/8??

[@ryderthesinful]

Also she might be a compulsive liar; you should have her get a psychological exam. If she is, it can be quite annoying for even the person lying. If not, then ask her what makes her want to lie.

[@watchanimeandstramkpop8195]

@@ryderthesinful instead of 24/7 your adding one to 24 and 7 to kind of exaggerated to show or prove your point so saying 25/8 means more that 24/7 I guess I can't explain it better than that

[@ryderthesinful]

@@watchanimeandstramkpop8195 I'm pretty sure 24/7 is quite an exaggeration in itself, but I get what you mean.

[@jameswatson9338]

Aww...if you wife screams when she's stressed, she's probably suffering from a mental health condition. She probably needs your support in those situations. Leaving the house over it is a rather depressing response. I have mental health problems too, and my husband helps me through my difficult situations better than anyone else (including my therapist}. I can't imagine what it would be like for him to leave me when I'm having a panic attack or when my PTSD has been triggered. I'm so thankful to have someone who can deal with and comfort me like that.

[@sakuraogami6885]

So just put up with being screamed at? She needs time to calm down, so he’s giving her that time.
I have panic attacks when screamed at. So should I just suffer through that for no reason, when staying *wouldn’t* solve anything?

[@jameswatson9338]

@@sakuraogami6885 If you're having panic attacks as a response, sure, it wouldn't solve anything. But unless I missed something, OP didn't indicate that his reaction was extreme or unbearable, just unpleasant. I endure unpleasant emotions for my husband's sake and he does the same for me. We deal with grief and sorrow and anger together because that's the whole point of a relationship: support and friendship in both good AND bad times. And both of us feel needed and validated by supporting each other in bad times, so it's an overall positive experience. Personally, if left alone while upset, I just get MORE upset the longer I'm left alone with my thoughts. It can escalate to some pretty scary places. By contrast, my husband can make me laugh while I'm crying and can usually help talk me through the problem within five or ten minutes. I'm so lucky to have that support, because the only other thing that can calm me down is a large amount of vodka, and I don't enjoy living as an alcoholic. So, I don't know whether OP's wife is more like you or me in regard to how she handles her emotions, but I do know that if you can stomach it, it's very valuable to be able to support another human being during emotional times, and it's all the more amazing if they can do the same for you.

[@jameswatson9338]

@@sakuraogami6885 Also, I don't think she was screaming AT him, I believe she was just screaming in general to release her emotions. Maybe not the best method, but everyone has their coping mechanisms.

[@ss.surprise]

You do you but it's not a depressing response to look after himself too. He probably can't tolerate raised voices. It likely helps her to know that he will take care of himself so she can focusing on calming herself down and not everyone wants to be touched or comforted or soothed by someone else when stressed, some people want to be alone to calm down alone.

[@VerdigrisTrees]

The "this will be in your bed tonight" thing is really weird, not to mention that you used a picture of a kid this time. Not cash money of you.

[@sporadicchicken9188]

Ramibuulve ok? Your point being?

[@Daniel-wy2kx]

Pedos

[@milkyjuice646]

Someone finally said it

[@brycerichardson3687]

@@sporadicchicken9188 well normally it's okay but the imagery of a child has some implications and it's stops being humorous and starts being just creepy at that point.

[@ok-mt7iz]

one of them was a picture of a donkey
i obviously didn’t like or subscribe ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@Bubbsmaster]

When we starting dating she made a few..... possibly sexist statements. However knowing the history between her father and brother explains a lot. Being around myself and my brothers have changed her views on men

[@IAmGodHimself777]

What did her father and brother do?

[@Bubbsmaster]

@@IAmGodHimself777 physically and emotionally abusive. She has repeatedly expressed surprise that neither myself nor my brothers/father have ever or would ever hit our wives. Think that shows what she went through

[@aaronodonoghue1791]

These aren't flaws, but there are some things I don't mind that some people very much do:
I've no preference whatsoever when it comes to height in a girl, I don't care if she's 2 foot tall or 10 foot tall or anywhere in between.
I'm completely neutral on having kids, I've no preference for or against. If I have some, great, if not, that's fine too. And that issue would very often be a dealbreaker if people mismatch on it
I've no preference if your hair is brown, blonde, black, orange, purple or whatever (except grey and white but only because I'm young, and don't want an old woman as a gf. If I was old enough to have it myself, I'd be ok with grey or white hair on a woman). Ditto for eye colour, green, blue, brown, grey, hazel and everything else are all fine. And when it come to skintones, as Michael Jackson said, it don't matter if you're black or white (and as he didn't say, or brown, beige, tan, green, purple, or anything else).
In fact, I'm not that picky on physical appearance, as long as you don't look like Shrek, you don't look unhealthy, you don't have short/no hair, and no glaringly obvious blemishes (e.g. a giant mole the size of my thumbnail on your face, an extremely crooked nose, a cyst as big as a golf ball, a bright red birthmark that takes up a quarter of your face)), you should be fine (unless you have a bad personality, or another non-appearance issue)

[@spookpen6030]

How dare you shrek is beautiful
Also you're totally right

[@maynardsasshole3047]

Oop-
That reminds me somewhat- i always think on this and alot of people have similar interests to you.
What sucks big time tho is my nose was broke and crooked from escaping from house fire-
I can't really afford to get it fixed- i also have a scar on my cheek but
IT IS WHAT I T I SSSSS

[@babyjamesbond2387]

Shrek is super hot 😡🤬

[@somethingwithbungalows]

For some reason I’m attracted to accents lmao
If you have a good voice.. ye

[@aaronodonoghue1791]

@Heather Riddell Todoroki is a guy so no

[@valentinapetraeterovicbubl2756]

I'm not liking this for the sole purpose of getting a super strong kid guru to teach me his ways and the ways of the elders

[@xtinkerbellax3]

The woman whose husband isn't as attracted to her, she's ok with it and thinks everything else outweighs it but I wonder how he feels.

[@Gregorio621]

As someone who isn't as attracted to his wife as I used to be I can tell you how I feel. Personally, I love spending time with her and having all kinds of conversations. She is an amazing human being, so for me, her character and personality outweigh the physical aspect. Again, just my experience, but some spouses stop being attracted to their SO but they realize that they are still happy with them

[@mercy5004]

Honestly, I think its somewhat normal to experience a reduction in attraction to one's partner.
In every long-term relations Ive in been (mostly 4+ years) there came a point where I just didn't feel the same as I used to when looking at them. Not that I wasn't interested, but that I didn't get the same butterflies or be as turned-on all the time. However I still loved them, and wanted to be with them despite the reduction in attraction.
However once the personality took a dive, or some other thing happened that I couldn't take...that's when I couldn't stay in the relationship anymore and it was over.
Like now, with my current boyfriend, I love him and don't want to be with anyone else but him. But now it takes more to get that same sense of attraction, even though I still think hes the handsomest man I've ever seen. My body just doesn't respond the same anymore.
Of course I'm female, and it may be different for men when they undergo this.
But I've heard similar things from those who have been married their entire lives. That they just lose some of that passion with time, and things just become...comfortable. Sex drives take a hit, and its in how you deal with it, (or if the relationship was based on more than sex) that determines whether you can survive it.
But then again, the fact that he *told her* about it is questionable. That feels like he was trying to spark something to happen, rather than making a simple observation.

[@oburimacha4306]

No one:
Me: I guess everyone in the comments have husbands.

[@cassieh5506]

Lmao I say I have a husband. But really he's my fiance and we have a kid together. He WILL be my husband, so that's why I refer to him as such lol

[@dontask6263]

@@cassieh5506 that's actually kinda cute

[@xxweirdofromspacexx1119]

3:43 to 3:47 “a long time to decide on anything”
This sounds like me, my family gets reaaally frustrated and angry at me for taking too long with decisions, or just saying I don’t care.
It’s gotten me in trouble too many times to count.
Also. 6:07 “rambles about everything possible” that’s me as well. I ramble alot.

[@macrose5727]

My boyfriend has a huge difficulty with abrupt changes. He’s learning that I like to change things up often (layouts, shows, etc). We’ve learned that it’s better to communicate about a week or two before something minor changes. And a few months for bigger ones. I can’t get tattoos or piercings that I’ve been planning cuz he gets anxious about the big change. (Well not that I can’t. But I chose not to until he’s ready mentally to take it on).
A few days ago I dyed part of my hair which is a big change for him! But he took it really well and it hasn’t fazed him which is nice. I’ll wait forever for him to be comfortable with my changes. And I’m getting used to not needing to change stuff a lot.
It’s just about communication

[@liamfidller4319]

I’m like some of these people so these peoples thoughts about them are a real confidence boost.

[@LiLiKOiOiOi]

0:53 i relate to this. I just dont think to tell people about things. my baba is always complaining i never tell her things but truth is it doesnt cross my mind to tell anyone lol.

[@alexas.7634]

My girl has huge anger issues. Rage outbursts often and non founded constant suspicions but she is very intense, charismatic and spontaneous she wows me everyday

[@ASwallie65]

I hardly ever comment on these askreddit videos at all, much less with an answer to the question, but a rule for myself that I set forth a long time ago is that I would continue being with my SO if she was cheating on me so long as she was the one to come forward about it and ask forgiveness, and I have reason to believe she would never do it again. I feel like for many people that's too difficult of a situation to continue.

[@NN-ir9bj]

I'm the same way. I've always said that I could forgive it pretty easily, with certain exceptions. As long as my husband kept me safe (from diseases, for example), and he didn't let me be the last to find out (don't humiliate me), and it wasn't an act carried out specifically TO hurt me, I would be ok with it. However, in the 22 years we've been together, it's never even come up. He's happy and home with me every night, and has never even tested me!

[@olive9514]

The fact that he has never met me. I know it's a deal breaker to most people but it's alright, I love him but I hope he doesn't turn arou

[@superhuffpuff]

mmm, my girlfriend is really really introverted. she rarely calls me but i love her. sometimes she doesn't feel like talking and that makes me sad because I miss her so much so maybe I cry a little but I still love her! I understand that sometimes people need a lil alone time, unlike me, hehe.
she gets overwhelmed when i ask her too many questions, just like i do! so I've learnt to ask them one by one, or in a list, so it's more organized because personally, I have adhd and that works for me and she hasn't said anything about this so I think it helps a bit.
she's amazing! of course I have much more problems than she does, considering I have adhd along with rejection sensitive dysphoria, but she says I love you so much that I'm starting to be convinced that she actually does love me! not that I didn't know she loved me in the first place, just that I don't need an often reminder that she loves me. I still need to be told that she loves me, but less regularly now! I also have some sort of trust issues, but they're getting better as well! she seems like she genuinely loves me. I get frustrated a lot and end up making her sad and i feel guilty and apologize. she forgives me everytime, I love her so much. isabella, if you're reading this, I love you!

[@xHannibal]

what is rejection sensitive dysphoria?

[@thedemonthatchasedyouupyou1747]

@@xHannibal use google

[@chaogardener3215]

My partner has several mental disorders, including psychosis and chronic depression. They tend to break down a lot and are very high maintenance, possibly too much for most people. I can handle it though... I love them so much.

[@thekingofsoup2587]

My partner knows I have a did. I was recently diagnosed, and I'm in therapy for it. We've been together for 2 years. He's loyal and puts up with all my episodes. I'm absolutely infatuated with him, and so thankful for his kindness in putting up with me.

[@hayman5376]

Me at the end of the episode: It's over isn't it?

[@comiccat4650]

Not my partner but Me! I'm really slow (mentaly) sometimes but my amazing girl is super pacient with me. The other day we were riding on our bikes when we came up on a sharp bend (it doesn't really look all that sharp but it gets really narrow and it was in her hometown) that led into a forest and she said "Go slowly". So I did... for the whole wooded area... Later she asked me why I was so extreamly slow the whole time, apparently she mend to ho slow around the bend...

[@Bruhette]

My boyfriend has only had one job and it lasted for less than 4 months. Harvey destroyed the store and he hasn't gotten a job since. He has had chances but delayed and missed the opportunities. It was frustrating at first and we did break up a few times because of it, but i always found myself back with him. But now I'm really happy with him, despite him not getting a job.
He's been wanting one, he's just been depressed and his mom steals his car. He recently moved out and i've already see an improvement in him. He gives me more attention, eats more, smiles more, and he's currently trying to get a job as a busboys (a job he was absolutely refusing to do less than 6months ago)
He's bettering himself and he's trying hard💖

[@scottdixon2505]

That second one about being uber secretive isn't just a flaw, it's a major red flag. You're with someone for seven years before even knowing they have a brother? No one is unintentionally that secretive. He's obviously hiding a lot.

[@chrislaycock6169]

That he’s an a*hole. BTW, we’ve been together nearly 22 years. Plus, I suffer with dyslexia’s and discalculus (think dyslexia but with numbers) . My poor son. No good genes in his history (lol). My son is high functioning autistic. It’s hard sometimes, especially as he’s 18.5 yo, and not currently in college because of the virus. He’s driving me mad lol. OMG, I need the routine.

[@timothyaster4337]

Mom, is that you? Seriously, your family sounds exactly like mine.

[@somethingwithbungalows]

Hot Dog lol

[@sparksfly6149]

Sounds like you’re having fun

[@indiashante1560]

OMG I literally just said my husband is an as*shole too. Lol

[@spinmaster6995]

Chris Laycock what is the routine?

[@alexandra-yz5cy]

I feel like when asked “what type of pasta do you want?” The only correct answer is bow-tie pasta I mean it’s the rarest breed of pasta

[@Lukelins1]

I have anxiety, ocd, add, alcoholism, mood disorder, and depression. She is my rock and I am in treatment. I don’t have friends with social anxiety but she opens me up and I feel great.

[@a_humble_animator]

not completely accepting compliments. it drives me crazy when people don’t accept compliments, but i just sort of accepted the fact they don’t fully accept compliments and am actively working on it.

[@markerlee2231]

If they like hentai, furry stuff etc... basically a lot of things that are considered “cringe”...
Like dude my boyfriend accepts everything I do and like so why would I break up with him because his taste in porn is a bit “weird”? Like wtf

[@apollocarlos6576]

My partner to me; I'm trans (non-binary), and his best friend is transphobic. Yay.

[@udiclays]

NurturingTalents are you implying that Jordyn is mentally ill?

[@udiclays]

Jordyn Carlos I am proud of you.

[@shadownite6586]

I have a bf with a criminal record that most would consider a deal breaker but I love him purely because he became a better person because of it. He learned his lesson and made his life better. I'm so proud of him for all the work he puts into his life. We can't find housing very well because of it but we love each other and accept that is a part of life.
I'm also mentally ill (depression, agoraphobia, ptsd) and he takes care of me and will come to me if he can to help me. (We don't live together) I have a thing where I can't be touched or anything like that and he listens to me and accepts my boundaries and asks before touching me if he senses I'm in a bad mood.

[@katherinewilliams4504]

A friend of mine back in HC was a pretty serious guy. Didn’t smile much and if you didn’t know him well he seemed really snarky and uppity. In reality he just kinda struggled with people and interactions mixed with the worst case of RBF. The time you really got to see him shine was when he was talking about baseball. He turned into a completely different person, super bright eyes and wild gestures and sound effects. He loves it so much and he’s SUPER good. Like pro good. It’s what he was good at and what he loved. Normally I don’t like grumpy, more self centered people, but once I understood him it was a amazing friendship and I could listen to him talk for hours about baseball even though I don’t understand a word of it. I miss him a lot.

[@jacobdavis2097]

Just some advice from someone who deals with depression that can litterily break me. Take it slow, any pain inside won't heal now, it always takes time. Breath, accept it an every day, FORCE yourself to smile, force yourself to do stuff anything, walking, running, etc etc you're sad because you are STUCK you don't need a doctor for this, you need help but nothing is WRONG with you!!!...an one day you'll notice it isn't forced anymore it's real.

[@Pond721]

Running walking or driving while listening to music and going into autopilot is the best thing for me. Either that or try and make myself cry, usually at a film, then think about real shit and have a crying fit over that. I struggle to make myself cry though, since I've learned not to...

[@jacobdavis2097]

@@Pond721 it's all about your symbiosis. If you force it a while what starts as fake becomes the new you, it's called changing by choice like your lifestyle

[@cursedwithsetience4017]

I’m glad that works for you. It doesn’t work for me. But thanks for putting out some positivity.

[@jacobdavis2097]

@@cursedwithsetience4017 agreed but the question is what's the root cause of your depression?

[@cursedwithsetience4017]

Jacob davis genetics. Mental illness runs generations back.

[@teakos7908]

Me, thinking about all the flaws i have and those who i have but don't even recognise: yep, my future as the weird cat lady next door is saved.

[@TheGamerGirls22]

my boyfriends a jazz loving, fedora wearing, trench coat owning, anime girl crush having band geek with strong opinions and I love him a whole lot.

[@catcherx8643]

Your profile picture deadass gives me life. Kanato is God. 😔👊

[@madelinegarber7860]

I overthink everything. Not to an extreme, but enough that it annoys people. God bless my boyfriend and friends for putting up with it.

[@deadaccount2212]

Being trans. I know people are getting more accepting now, but some people still won't date others because they're trans. And that's fine- it's not transphobic. Just be respectful about it if it's a deal breaker for you. :)

[@somerandomdude1249]

Mine is that i love guns. I love how they work, their history, etc... That would definetly be a deal breaker for a lot of people. But atleast i can apreciate when someone likes something as much as i like guns.

[@mckennafeist]

My boyfriend used to vape, in my opinion, quite often. We've been together now for 4 years, and he didn't stop until early this year when he started to work out and began the process of applying to the sheriffs department. He realized how much damage he did to his lungs, and that they wouldn't hire him if he vapes. I used to get into big arguments with him over it, and I regret doing that now. It was never my right to change him. I have a strong bias against smoking, and if I didn't like it, I should have broken up with him a long time ago. I also had unfair judgements about people who smoked or vaped. He is such an incredible man that I didn't want that to be the thing that broke us up. I'm glad I didn't because he has been my best friend ever since we met, and he is one of the few people who genuinely understands me. My man is so kind, loyal and generous to others. He's taught me to be less judgemental and be more respectful that some people just have a vice. If managed correctly, its perfectly fine. Its when it gets out of hand that it's a problem.

[@TK-ij2xi]

In the beginning my husband was a true chauvinist, but I was damaged and loud. Now, he's an energy healer & I've healed a lot of my traumas. I'm glad we found the will to get past.our own egos & evolve.

[@peanutbutter3965]

My boyfriend is the kindest most thoughtful person I have ever met and I love him so much but he hears voices and it kinda scares me, I worry about him a little ://

[@celestinahuang3483]

Peanut Butter those symptoms can suggest schizophrenia and I recommend u try to always be there to support him, maybe suggest him professional help like a therapist to help make things easier for him?

[@nandacande9340]

It's also good to be open and communicate with him and keep tabs/updated on what the voices are saying to keep them from harming themselves or others. I dated someone that heard voices say nonesense first then weeks later heard the voices say to kill themselves.

[@lilliburrows1456]

My boyfriend gets really sensitive and upset if i try to tell him that something he does upsets me and it makes me sad and i can’t tell him this because he will probably accidentally do it more

[@connorchavez5584]

Hi, please be careful because while that can be a simple character flaw, it can also be a sign of abuse. You should be able to talk to him about anything. Hoping things get better for you two ❤️

[@mnljh711986]

My husband doesn't like to discuss problems, he just says everything will work itself out, never addresses anything, 31 years later he's still the same way, I love him to death though, couldn't live without him.

[@JackieOwl94]

My husband can’t smell most things (unless it’s something like a cigarette in his face or roadkill nearby), and it took a LONG time for him to understand that showering is really important. So I taught him how to shower in a way that makes it enjoyable for him. He now showers daily.

[@wildrabit4996]

I feel like the "like this vid or this will be in your bed tonight" is a bit uhm....wierd for this vid. Like when its is a scary or wierd meme ok lol sure,when its a litle boy uh....i liked the vid,i dont want any boy in my bed,yikes

[@ok-mt7iz]

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[@dausthrowaway4349]

theyre gonna getcha

[@v3ryr4re55]

wild rabit likes having little boys in their bed. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@roshi_rk]

y-you liked it?

[@mercy8971]

roshi rk they meant they liked the video lol

[@maashido8185]

She sometimes talk over me but it’s adorable and iebtishfksnskfnskfjks 🥺 And the way she rants about danganropa I-

[@emmaclements548]

Any kind of bigotry, sexism racism homophobia and transphobia is a deal breaker. Drugs and smoking are one as well

[@emmaclements548]

@Josiah Sepulveda it's a red flag because you can't tell if the person actually means what they say

[@blessinghall4199]

My boyfriend has really bad ADHD and is all over the place 24/7 and he also zoned out constantly and forgets what he says right after he says it. He is a mess sometimes but I love him for it. I try to adjust how I do things for him and sometimes I’ll join in on his rambunctious fun. I think he’s really funny and I think it makes his personality extra unique.
It get tiring sometimes to keep up with him but I want him to be happy and we all make sacrifices for the people we love. (I have a heart condition, that’s why it’s hard to keep up). He also is bad at communication when it comes to his feelings towards things so I’ve had to learn through his body language how he feels. I love him with all my heart and we put up with each other. I’ll always love him, he’s my little bundle of fun

[@agudgorl]

My boyfriend sometimes expects me to do things back even if he knows I can't. Though, he has gotten a lot better at it.
Edit: no i'm not using him for personal gain he's my babey and i love him to death >w

[@sawyerbass4661]

Mayo' turn me into cool whip?
That's the answer to the dad joke.

[@archellothewolf2083]

Not me but my parents. My mother snores like a chainsaw. A literal chainsaw. Once when I was a kid I was playing Call of Duty before school. 6am with TV at full volume with guns and grenades going off on screen, and I could still hear her up stairs and through two closed doors. Luckily my dad is an engineer in the National Guard and was in construction before that. Was deployed near active artillery early in their marriage. He's used to hearing massively loud machines for 8 hours straight without it affecting him much. Doesn't even have hearing problems. Dude is a proper trooper through and through.

[@alyailithyia]

Whenever I am upset or cry for "no reason", he never consoles me. He actually raises his voice and tries to set me straight because he wants to get to the bottom of the problem and hates seeing me cry. He prods me and tries to figure out what is wrong without comforting me. For most people this would be a deal breaker, but i tolerate it because most of the time I end up calming down faster when I talk through my problems rationally. Sometimes, obviously, receiving comfort is better for me, but I choose to be with someone who is less emotional and doesn't believe in crying things out.

[@Josephine_de_Beauharnais1763]

13:33 minutes in the video. Holy crap I just realized this is me. I remember multiple times in school where I was crying about something and trying to hold back my tears because my mother made it seem like my situation was so easy and if I was crying I was super weak so when someone saw me rubbing my eyes I just said that I didn't get much sleep and it was just because I was watching an anime (not the actual truth where I was watching my favorite TH-camr who'd dealt with depression themself and they were talking about it) I have a tendency to try to put on my "fake voice" and I'm very good at cleaning my face so I don't look like I was crying 10 seconds ago. I also lie about being bad at lying and make myself seem terrible at it so no one suspects it. Luckily I've been challenging my energy with 'lying' to 'acting' and have been doing theater.

[@toxicayuna2222]

I’m a lesbian but I love love LOVE Short girls that are athletic. But I would love one that’s kinda crazy so she can wear me out and we can be stupid together

[@pepaisponk]

omg be my gf

[@terryenby2304]

I am autistic, my husband is not. We work together to make things work. For 17 years we have been happy (mostly! Lol) together. Very grateful for what we have 🥰

[@lilyrose6296]

My girlfriend has bipolar after she has a Manic episode she will cling to me for hours crying about how she thinks she’s a disappointment it brakes my heart seeing her like that. Most people thing she’s to clingy and needy but I love it. I hate her being sad but I love that she feels safe with me to share her emotions.
I love her so much
Stay safe yall 💕

[@lassy0215]

My significant other dose this thing and I’ve accepted it’s never going to be fixed
*EXIST*

[@lassy0215]

TwT

[@timothyaster4337]

I mean, that can be changed.

[@lassy0215]

Yea when someone finds my ugly ass attractive