Tell me about who you are and what your spectrum might look like ^_^ ALSO, the description is full of lots of fun links. Like the links to the 2nd channel vid on Zedsexual Vs Allosexual, a link to my book that has all these awesome illustrations and info, a link to echo's channel, a link to Annie's channel, a link to Zach's music, AND MORE! ALL THE LINKS!
I’m J, and I am doubting if I am non-Binary or a boy, so i think it might be a bit of a triangle with purple at the top and blue and green at the bottoms, because i think green stands for non-binaryness and purple for my femininity ^^ and I am Pansexual, but sometimes I feel very asexual, so that’d be in there too :D
I'm a girl. But a 'tomboy.' I'm asexual / biromantic and my friends are mostly a mix of bisexual and heterosexual. My spectrum would be a triangle with a tiny bit of blue at the top (because of the tomboy-ness), then a box with blue, purple and pink (for biromantic), then a box with purple, grey, white and black (for asexuality) and finally a box with pink (for my gender). I'm more attracted to females and non-binaries rather than females and men though.
Ash Hardell Hi! Im pan and gender identity doesn't really mean anything to me, Im born in the F box but you knowww... My spectrum could be a circle. Maybeeee ❤️💛💚💙💜
I'm a cis female, definitely a tomboy. I always wished I was a boy but unfortunately I'm not. I don't really pick a label for my sexuality, I just like people that are cool, and if there's feelings then maybe I pursue it, maybe not.
Thank you for putting Disability on a spectrum! I blow people’s minds when they see me in my wheelchair and then again walking. Apparently people who use wheelchairs are supposed to be in them all the time. Nope
I suppose I should clarify that some people who use wheelchairs have no mobility without them and rely solely on them, but those people in no way represent the whole community.
i LOVE the spectrum map thing Echo drew :) im definitely going to print it out! it is SO lovely that you folks are putting this kind of content, education and representation out there! :)
Omg thank you for replying! And yes i'll gladly do that! :)) btw where can people send their lgbt music so it can maybe be featured on your channel? :)
Honestly, ash's content is gold. It helps me as a lgbtqiapd+ member (lol) to learn more about my community and even help others learn about themselves through the identities *you* taught me! I love you ash!
As a member of the LBGTQ+ community who hasn't had a huge exposure to the wider gender/sexuality spectrum, I watch your videos and have a huge amount of respect for the content you make and think it is extremely educational! Keep smashing it and doing you!
@@TaikiFouLung when you're diagnosed with autism or Asperger syndrome, the first thing they tell you is that it exist in a spectrum and they show you where you are.
Can you talk about the dangers of binding and how to avoid it. Like tissue atrophy and nerve damage. Since you’ve already gone through binding I thought you’d know more than me
I started crying when watching this and I couldn't figure out why. But I think it's because I've never felt enough to be part of the lgbt+ community and it's so validating. also it gives me such a good way of explaining to my boyfriend exactly what my sexuality is at this moment
I’m so glad you mentioned spectrums in relationship to disability, because even among the same disability, things can look very different. For example, I have Spina Bifida. So does Andrea Lausell (I may be spelling it wrong), who is a TH-camr, check out her channel. Our disability presents itself differently in both of us.She walks and has many symptoms and disabilities you can’t see. I have Spina Bifida and am a paraplegic wheelchair user, I also have symptoms you can’t see. But we both have Spina Bifida.
I have mild/moderate myalgic encephalomyelitis and often the attention is on the severe type and I always feel so alone it that, but the community embraces me and validates my disability.
Ok, all the spectrums were super cool to see!!! I love Echo's spectrum and it is a really cool way to plot out asexuality as it relates to zed/allosexuality and various orientations! Way cool! It was also awesome how many things BESIDES gender and sexuality you two thought could go on a spectrum, I really enjoyed that. Hope everyone has a wonderful day after this wonderful video! (also: every drawing in this video was gorgeous)
The fact that you two mentioned Demisexuality so casually made me so happy? As a Demi Person myself, people usually decide to ignore my sexuality and the fact that you talked about it made me really happy, but I do feel romance, I like dates and just making people feel good, but I don't feel sexual attraction to many people, and it's usually with Guys (I'm a guy as well) I used to just go with "Queer/Gay" but they never really felt nice, but Demisexuality (once I learned about it) it fit me so well, and now it just makes me way happier. Kay thanks for reading this!!!
Hey Ash could you possibly do a video about being aromantic (even if you aren't and it's kinda the opposite of what you are) cause you just don't really hear that much about it and when people are like "ohhh what's that?" it gets kinda repetitive, anyway thanks bye
Ash, I love how creative, informative, and well edited you videos are! Thank you for all of the work you do, your videos have really helped me in exploring my own queer identity. I love the collab with Echo too :)
I love your content! Trying to become a better ally in the community is hard when there are a lot of opinions out there, but yours are always very easy to understand and inclusive!
It is so annoying for me when the people around me put me down with their "normal" attitudes. I loved your slam poetry about becoming pretty to be socially acceptable and it just related to my heart so much. I've always liked it when my friends said I'm like a "little brother" or "just like a guy" or treat me like a dude. Since the past two years I've been contemplating whether I'm gay or not (I'm bisexual and panromantic lol) I have a new gender dysphoria where I don't feel like a girl but I don't hate being one. (Demigirl and transmasculine) but I also feel I might be non-binary and I just am not ready to come out. (Cuz my country is kind of not catching on with "all types of sexualities and gender" yet so........ it's ILLEGAL for now.) Yay....
I always appreciate how much effort you put into your content and the education of others. And as an aspec myself, I always feel validated when aspecs are included in the convo. Gender sexuality and expression are all important topics that young and older people need to discuss and make an honest effort to understand. Keep up the great work! Thank you!
This is why I love Echo! I’m so glad that you both made some videos together! You have no idea how excited and I happy I was seeing you both just get along and have fun and learn and educate and all that good stuff. You know? Lol I don’t know how to speak my mind properly. Rip. But yeah. Just. This was awesome
I was so happy to see you in echo's video. It surprised me too but it was really cool and and awesome. I've been watching echo for a while and you too so it made me really happy to see two TH-camrs I love colab. :)
Hey Ash, I just wanted to say that your channel is helping me through some really horrible dysphoria at the moment. I've watched you for ages, but only recently have I really started to address my feelings around my gender. I've got a lot of figuring out to do, but it's really comforting to see such an endearing person on my screen making me feel less alone. I'm also grey ace & queer so to hear you talk about these things like we're not aliens (unlike most people in my daily life) is honestly something I didn't realise how much I needed. Thank you for being such an inspiring voice in our community
I remember watching your gender identity video two years ago and finally understanding who I was. I found you from echo, and I’m so happy to watch your videos again! 😍
Ahh this is wonderful!! I am always used to think about sexuality with labels and these type of videos make me remember that it is totally okay and valid to be "in between" !! Thank you so much
I’ve watched several of your videos but THIIIIISSSS video!!!! I feel like this video helped me understand myself a little more... and wow.. Just wow..... Downloading your book pronto.
Echo and ash omg brain exploding i am so happy literally you both are my favorite youtubers. I love you both when i watch you both of you videos my whole day is better so thank you both for existing and being who you are. I honestly love you both your amazing human beings just I can’t get enough. Ugh now I’m rambling. Okay your both amazing keep doing what your doing.
Ash, your video's have thought me so much in such a great way and really helped me understand so much about gender/sexuality and made me so much more open minded. Thank you so much! You're an amazing person!
3:10 literally made me cry. So many times have I been told that I don't count or that I'm not gay "enough" and it's something that's sunk down into my identity a little. It felt nice to hear you say that
EDIT (28/7/19): This video is what cracked my egg. Below is me literally cracking. I'm now a glorious proud trans woman and I booked to see a doctor within a week of seeing this. I've been on HRT for just over 2 months and every aspect of my life is now all woman. I love you Ash, you're doing the world a great service. I'm sooooo happy being trans.
@@noenoenoen Yeah, I don't think it's for everyone. I'm back to where I was which is fine, I've been looking through a lot of Ash's other videos because I've been finding them quite interesting but I'm leaving this whole spectrum stuff alone. I just don't want it floating around in my head, I can't quite remember all terms in this video, but I was like ok well if I meet partner A trait C D E will configure one way but partner B trait C D E will configure another way and some of those are polar opposite things. That's not just me pretending to be something I'm not for someone, its something about me reflected in all my interactions with people (to a much lesser degree and momentary). I think I came to a level of understanding non-binary people I'm comfortable with. Unless somehow my next partner happens to be non-binary which is doubtful as I don't think they're too common in my age bracket and I'm just not interested in dating down a full generation gap, then I think I have come to enough of an understanding to avoid making any of whom I may encounter uncomfortable. Looks like now I also follow Ash... because... reasons. They made a fan out of me that's for sure.
Hearing you say Spectrum so many times makes me want to listen to Spectrum by Florence and the Machine which is a song celebrating sexual and gender diversity with lots of amazing colors and subversions of masculine and feminine dance/dress. The song/music video are awesome and Florence and the Machine is my all time favorite music group.
Maybe this is my engineering brain speaking, but I truly don’t understand how you can quantify the amount of sexual attraction someone experiences into an ace spectrum. How many instances of sexual attraction per time period designates someone as gray-asexual? Or demi-sexual? If this amount is different for everyone then why attempt making labels and boxes with no concrete definitions? Other spectrums in the lgbt community I understand, for instance if you estimated you were attracted to your own gender in 60% of cases and another/other gender(s) in 40% of cases, that makes enough sense to be a tool people can choose to use. What I don’t understand is how you can quantify how much sexual attraction you experience and how often. I also don’t understand the term demi-sexual because nearly everyone I know wants to form an emotional connection with someone before they want to have sex with them. That experience seems pretty normal to me and conversely, people (women especially) seem to be shamed for having one night stands or hooking up on the first date. This is me genuinely asking for other people’s thoughts because I honestly don’t get it.
About the demi-sexual part: wanting to have sex with someone isn't necessarily the same as sexual attraction. Sexual people often get sexually attracted to people they don't yet know (but want to get to know) and possibly are romantically attracted to as well. Demi-sexual people don't get sexually attracted, until they form an emotional connection. Sexual attraction is directed at a specific person. I understand the confusion, but behaviour (not having sex until you get to know someone) doesn't have an influence on whether or not you're sexually attracted to that person. That's the best explanation I can give, but if you really want it to be clear, you can also look some stuff up on AVEN's website.
Great response, Michelle! To add to the gray-sexual dimension, I'll throw it to the other extreme. There are people who experience sexual attraction multiple times daily and to different degrees. Imagine the person who gets all energized and /needs/ to have sex with that person RIGHT NOW multiple times daily. Note, it's directed at a specific person, not just libido and desire to have sex with anyone. I'll put that at the zed sexual extreme. Now, what is the opposite of that? Not feeling sexual attraction ever. In between that, though, there are people who experience mild sexual attraction (e.g. "it'd be nice to have sex with that person") a lot, intense sexual attraction sometimes, and mild attraction sometimes. Some gray-sexual people may only have a handful of moments where they felt sexual attraction in their life. Does that help?
Not everyone wants to form an emotional connection to someone. That's why it's easier for them to have casual sex. I only sometimes want an emotional connection. I don't think you can get a specific percentage because the spectrum is so fluid, so varied, that it's hard to get concrete figures.
The part about asexuality was really helpful for me because I've always known about asexual being a term to use but I've never considered that there might be a word for the opposite of that.. my whole life is starting to make more sense and now I've just come out to a friend as zed because of this.. thanks you guys, I love how you cover everything and give definitions for everything. Love you bunches :)
I had not really been introduced to the LGBT+ community until I was in ninth grade maybe. As i've gotten older, grown as a person, and learned I'm becoming more accepting of myself and others including questioning my sexuality and learning how to accept others for theirs. Same thing with gender as I'm learning I'm becoming more respectful and accepting. I hope I continue on this path of being a respectful and accepting person. I'm new to your channel but I'm excited to watch more of your videos to learn a bit more.
I👏🏻 LOVE👏🏻 THIS👏🏻 VIDEO👏🏻 WOW There’s literally nothing more I would add or change-Thank you so much for perfectly putting my thoughts into a perfect package!!
one day, Ash, I will find the words to describe how in awe I am of your inner strength, the shear power you have to endure the things that would crumple other people (myself included) is something that should be recognized. Sometime I cry when I watch your vids 50% pain, but, also 50% joy, and if that is the worst thing that happens to me in a day, that is a very good day!
I'm demisexual and went through a questioning journey for the past year or so, and this video was so helpful in teaching me how I could plot myself on a spectrum! Thank you so much! I have autism, which is also something that can be plotted on a spectrum. I love how a spectrum doesn't have to be linear, Echo's spectrum looks awesome.
things like this one really lift up my mood bc my sexuality is so complicated it can`t be put into simple words. i like to see mine as a variation of lines! (the time thing is also kinda helpful) so in my head i have this system of scales from 0 to 6 (like the kinsey scale lol) 1)sexual attraction (how my body reacts) - 5,5-6 2)sexual-emotional attraction - 2-2,5 3)aesthetic attraction (who catches my eye in terms of appearence and the way they present themselves) - 3 4)romantic attraction - 1 5)romantic-platonic attraction - 3
"If you are on a spectrum you are part of the community". Hmm. Isn't everyone on various spectrums, but words are more limiting than spectrums, and words are what eventually define whether you are in the community? For example, I am that diagram in the bisexual info sheet that is mostly into the other genders and just slightly into my own gender. But I identify as straight or "mostly straight", because it communicates better what I want from people. If I said I was bi, it would give a false idea that my attraction to the same gender people was significant enough to be mentioned and that I were open to having a same gender partner. (Which I am not at this point) I would like to hear a discussion on whether "allies" are a part of the lgbt+ community or not. And if not, at which point of a spectrum does one become a part of the community? If allies are included, then are all lgbt+ people part of the community, or is it possible that they wouldn't be, for example, if they don't support the community's ideology? Because if a straight cis person can become an ally and a part of the community by supporting the ideology, then would that apply to others as well? What is the function of defining lgbt+ people as a community? Where is the community located? What does it serve? Is it a means for the sexual and gender minorities to share their experiences and feel included in a sort of society within society? Or is it looking to expand into a larger movement and include everyone at some point? How long will the lgbtqapdi...+ chain go on? Is it looking to always exclude certain kind of straight people, and in that case, what kind and why? Is the community an insiders' club or an open one? Does one have to choose one of listed identities and change their perception of their identity before joining? Or can they make up their own word or use no labels and still join? I am asking all these questions because I am very interested in discussing gender and sexuality related topics, but it seems like I am not a part of the community because I fit within straight and cis umbrellas and my take on things therefore don't matter. I should listen to what people inside the community have to say. However I've become to question this dynamic because listening to people inside the comminity, I've got the impression that my experiences are very similar to theirs and only the vocabulary and perception seem different. I've also heard the principle that everyone should use the vocabulary that feels most comfortable to them. This would include me being technically bisexual, but identifying as straight. And someone identifying as bisexual, but technically being the same as me? So who has a say? Different definitions of gender come into play too, when we talk about what words mean. For example for a radical feminist that thinks gender is (only) a social construct, there would not be feelings of femininity or masculinity or an internal gender. Same goes for someone who thinks gender is only about body parts. Then there are the traditional gender roles, but they don't really tell what a gender feels like either. So if I've never experienced life in someone else's body, how could I know which part of me is because of my gender and which not? I would have to conclude that genders don't have definitions - that scientifically and socially a gender only has different likelyhoods to coexist with various traits and feelings. But in the end, it is impossible for a human to define their gender exactly. I think I am a tomboy, I have masculine, neutral and feminine days when it comes to what I'm comfortable with dressing and acting like, but inside I am always quite sensitive and caring and would see someone taking care of me as really attractive. Outwards my masculinity ans self-reliance are usually dominant though. I don't know how my perception of myself is in relation to that of Ash's or other nonbinary people. Ash has described having more masculine, neutral or feminine days, but also being very uncomfortable presenting feminine pretty much always. Me on the other hand, I like presenting feminine sometimes (but somewhat rarely). Perhaps presentation isn't a reliable indicator of gender. (Though certain type of presentation is more likely to be popular within a gender) Gender dysphoria might be something to look out for to indicate gender, but my body is very shapeless and neutral, so if a nonbinary person was in my body, would they have dysphoria? I wonder if I were nonbinary, would I notice? How subjective are thede things, and does it matter?
I think it's a unifying and beautiful thing to say that everyone is a little bit of everything, to stress that we are all the same, in stead of othering people and calling them different. But there comes a point when using a different word is useful in some situations.
I am a straight gal and ur vids are so important and inspiring to me. I love to be educated on the lgtb+ and find it very important for everyone to understand and be sensitive to them.thank you!! Lysm!!
As someone whose always had problems with a black and white or even a grey world view I love this. I have always argued that the world is made up of dimension and color and texture and have recently also started stressing perspective and language. What something means to one person or how they might communicate it may not be the the same. Rather than rejecting it we should be working out if we are talking about the same thing and why our views are different. Understanding and communication are invaluable and Spectrums and allowing for nuance is so important to both. Thank you for making this video. The quality was impressive, the energy welcoming, and it was just a lovely thing to watch.
Gynephilia and androphilia aren't really orientations at all. They're clinical descriptions for chemical attraction. They have no relation to perspective of femininity or masculinity, as much as feminized and masculinized. They're one's attraction outside of identity. It's counter-intuitive, because gynesexual and androsexual sound like they would be more literal terms, but they refer more to socialized concepts and also have connotations to attraction by genitalia, or coping mechanisms. So those terms have been ruined for the most part, unless people start using the those terms strictly to denote being triggered by certain genitals.
You ever see something ur feed and just think what did I do to deserve such great creations? Seriously, I love both echo, ash and thoughtful, educational discussions :)
aaaaaa Echo's spectrum is my everything! for now I only identify as ace because I have absolutely no idea of what else I could be (like yeah, I know the possibilities but not if they fit me) and so it'd be great to just animate it as the time passes!
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO!!!! you probably won’t ever see this but thanks to their spectrum, i learned a new word today; “gynephilia”. I’ve been gynesexual for so long but i defined it as pansexual because i had no idea there was an actual terms for it! I knew i was kinda pan but mostly leaned towards females and people with feminine energy and I only felt more than romantic attraction towards feminine people/ femininity. I now identify as a panromantic gynesexual female!!! Thank you so much. Love u loads!!!!
I paused at 2:52 with my mind blown. Why had I never before considered that the spectrum of romantic attraction or of sexuality was not just ace to "typical"?? The idea that the spectrum continues over to "experiencing lots" is so affirming to me! I didn't really expect to be surprised by anything in this video but already I have an important new conceptual framework!
I was smiling this entire video:)) I’ve been on your channel before but was unsure about subscribing because I was not informed on LGBTQ+ and didn’t know where I stood. BUT, now that I’ve learned more I know that I want to learn as much as I can! I want to be informed enough that I understand all the terms so I can get to know everyone on the spectrum:) I know your channel will help me with that! Thank you Echo for re-introducing me! I subscribed:)))❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 Oh yeah, I’m a straight girl btw:) (I think cis is the right term? I was born a girl and have always identified as one)
You are such a wonderful person, and great videographer. I didn't think that I could be Ace until I saw one of your videos.. And I'm still not sure? I'm sick (disabled) and that has changed a lot of how I feel about my sexuality. I unintentionally don't investigate further because of my illness being new and trying to figure out who I am within this illness. I still love your videos,and wish that more people would be as understanding.
Tell me about who you are and what your spectrum might look like ^_^ ALSO, the description is full of lots of fun links. Like the links to the 2nd channel vid on Zedsexual Vs Allosexual, a link to my book that has all these awesome illustrations and info, a link to echo's channel, a link to Annie's channel, a link to Zach's music, AND MORE! ALL THE LINKS!
I love you!! 😍😍😍😍 you open my eyes to lots of things i never even knew
I’m J, and I am doubting if I am non-Binary or a boy, so i think it might be a bit of a triangle with purple at the top and blue and green at the bottoms, because i think green stands for non-binaryness and purple for my femininity ^^ and I am Pansexual, but sometimes I feel very asexual, so that’d be in there too :D
I'm a girl. But a 'tomboy.'
I'm asexual / biromantic and my friends are mostly a mix of bisexual and heterosexual.
My spectrum would be a triangle with a tiny bit of blue at the top (because of the tomboy-ness), then a box with blue, purple and pink (for biromantic), then a box with purple, grey, white and black (for asexuality) and finally a box with pink (for my gender). I'm more attracted to females and non-binaries rather than females and men though.
Ash Hardell Hi! Im pan and gender identity doesn't really mean anything to me, Im born in the F box but you knowww... My spectrum could be a circle. Maybeeee ❤️💛💚💙💜
I'm a cis female, definitely a tomboy. I always wished I was a boy but unfortunately I'm not. I don't really pick a label for my sexuality, I just like people that are cool, and if there's feelings then maybe I pursue it, maybe not.
THANK U FOR INCLUDING MY MUSIC IN THIS VIDEO ASH!!!!!!!! u are a star 💕
Hi zach! You're pretty good at music😄
Hey, which song was it that Ash used? I like it!
THAT'S NICE OF U TO SAY!! thank u so much
the song's called JAWS and you can check it out on spotify/apple music/whatever site you use!!! thanks for enjoying it btw aw
Your voice is amazing, dude. I love 🌌💜
Thank you for putting Disability on a spectrum! I blow people’s minds when they see me in my wheelchair and then again walking. Apparently people who use wheelchairs are supposed to be in them all the time. Nope
I suppose I should clarify that some people who use wheelchairs have no mobility without them and rely solely on them, but those people in no way represent the whole community.
Huh can you explain that more ? I’m kinda slow , sorry .
marie wikiwaka did you know 90% of people in wheelchairs can walk? I’m being serious
Jerriah Rose What can I explain for you? I don’t speak for my whole community, but I never miss an opportunity to educate.
C0sm0cogs I did know it was the majority, but I was too lazy to look up the actual statistic. Higher than I would’ve guessed.
It’s funny how you find two different TH-camrs separate and they are your favorite and then they magically do a collab
How is this???!
Emo MSP same
the animation and editing in these videos is always so fantastic and on point :)
the fatimagic THANKS THAT SHIT TAKES SO LONG!
Ash Hardell But it always looks very perty :) also how do you find the lgbt bands¿
I see “ace”, I click :)
Same kovu, same (btw ily xD)
Kovu!
Same, I just can't figure myself out!
That's how it works
Hi!
i LOVE the spectrum map thing Echo drew :) im definitely going to print it out!
it is SO lovely that you folks are putting this kind of content, education and representation out there! :)
NEAT, if you use the link to the art in the description and plot yourself on it, TWEET IT TO ME (if you want), I wanna see ^_^
Omg thank you for replying!
And yes i'll gladly do that! :))
btw where can people send their lgbt music so it can maybe be featured on your channel? :)
ashhardellbusuness@gmail.com :)
thank you :)))
The title literally sums up my identity. Thank you Ash for another great video!
Life in 3D same!! It was so exciting to see the title. Such a wonderful video!!
Yeah I know right right!
*Hears someone say Asexual*
Me: "I was called?"
Safron my brother? my sister? my sibling?
Hello? I have been summoned?
Same
I want a t-shirt now that says "talk to me about spectrums" because this!!! is so interesting!!!!
cue someone coming up to you talking about the electromagnetic spectrum
@@gferraro2916 that would be the beauty of the shirt - attracts both lgbtq+ folks and physicists.
When it's a half day at school because of a storm and right when you get on the bus you get to have a lovely video.
Not Mississippi, but it is the hurricane.
Ayo meh mayo
MORE ACE REPRESENTATION IM SHOOKETH I LOVE YOU
Honestly, ash's content is gold. It helps me as a lgbtqiapd+ member (lol) to learn more about my community and even help others learn about themselves through the identities *you* taught me!
I love you ash!
Could you break down lgbtqiapd down for me? Is it lesbian, gay, bi, trans, queer, ???, ace, pan, demi? I'm a little confused...
Nell David exactly aha
Nell David the i is intersexual
That makes sense... Thanks! :)
Intersex👏 isn't👏inherently👏lgbt👏
Ash's genuine curiosity, wonder, and awe in this vid gave me life. 10/10
v wholesome
cancer, pain, awful indeing infinity war was better -46/10
As a member of the LBGTQ+ community who hasn't had a huge exposure to the wider gender/sexuality spectrum, I watch your videos and have a huge amount of respect for the content you make and think it is extremely educational! Keep smashing it and doing you!
Woah woah, this is the worst place to get information
Its better to not be exposed to this shit by Ash (Ass). Shes pretty dumb tbh
"Educational" pfft
"I just realized disabilities can be on a spectrum"
*autistics shake heads*
Yeah!
why?
@@TaikiFouLung when you're diagnosed with autism or Asperger syndrome, the first thing they tell you is that it exist in a spectrum and they show you where you are.
And adhders lol
There are 3 types of ADHD. Hyperactive, inattentive and combined. Hardly a spectrum. They kicked out sluggish cognitive tempo from the list too.
Can you talk about the dangers of binding and how to avoid it. Like tissue atrophy and nerve damage.
Since you’ve already gone through binding I thought you’d know more than me
I think "What's the Safe Word" talks about this.
Lol it took me so long to notice Grace in the background 🙈🙈🙈
I noticed them when I read your comment.
I got so spooked when I noticed them that I looked in the comments to see if anybody else experienced the same :-D
Aubre Sida I noticed Grace almost Immediately
She came in at 2:45 she wasnt there at the very beging
i looked at the comments to see if anyone else saw them
ash, i love your book!!! i cant wait till the second one comes out in paper back!!!!
Reporting in from Echo's channel. Stay awesome!
AA!!! My two favs collabing!!!! Ily echo and ash!!
I started crying when watching this and I couldn't figure out why. But I think it's because I've never felt enough to be part of the lgbt+ community and it's so validating. also it gives me such a good way of explaining to my boyfriend exactly what my sexuality is at this moment
Same. I actually felt broken before I watched these two videos.
yeah i cried to it will really help explain what autism is these days to my fellow peers
*lgbt
there’s no plus, there’s only
lesbian
gay
bisexual
trans
stop trying to squeeze your way into the community. it isn’t a fandom :)
@@siobhanhobbs4388 there is is no official acronym, everyone is welcome so get your dumbass negativity outta here
I DID NOT KNOW I NEEDED THIS BUT WHEN I SAW THE NOTIFICATION I SCREAMED
YES YES YES YES YES YES YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS
so did eye, for the humen race to end
I’m so glad you mentioned spectrums in relationship to disability, because even among the same disability, things can look very different. For example, I have Spina Bifida. So does Andrea Lausell (I may be spelling it wrong), who is a TH-camr, check out her channel. Our disability presents itself differently in both of us.She walks and has many symptoms and disabilities you can’t see. I have Spina Bifida and am a paraplegic wheelchair user, I also have symptoms you can’t see. But we both have Spina Bifida.
I have mild/moderate myalgic encephalomyelitis and often the attention is on the severe type and I always feel so alone it that, but the community embraces me and validates my disability.
Ok, all the spectrums were super cool to see!!! I love Echo's spectrum and it is a really cool way to plot out asexuality as it relates to zed/allosexuality and various orientations! Way cool! It was also awesome how many things BESIDES gender and sexuality you two thought could go on a spectrum, I really enjoyed that. Hope everyone has a wonderful day after this wonderful video! (also: every drawing in this video was gorgeous)
The fact that you two mentioned Demisexuality so casually made me so happy? As a Demi Person myself, people usually decide to ignore my sexuality and the fact that you talked about it made me really happy, but I do feel romance, I like dates and just making people feel good, but I don't feel sexual attraction to many people, and it's usually with Guys (I'm a guy as well) I used to just go with "Queer/Gay" but they never really felt nice, but Demisexuality (once I learned about it) it fit me so well, and now it just makes me way happier.
Kay thanks for reading this!!!
Hey Ash could you possibly do a video about being aromantic (even if you aren't and it's kinda the opposite of what you are) cause you just don't really hear that much about it and when people are like "ohhh what's that?" it gets kinda repetitive, anyway thanks bye
Ashley Actually I think Ash is demiromantic! They’ve mentioned it before, maybe on Aaron and chase’s podcast? Or maybe on their channel?
Oh shit, My apologies Ash! I simply didn't know
I love Ashs videos. I feel so comfortable and recognized watching those. This TH-cam channel is my special place :)
Yes I needed this today
Thank you
Ash, I love how creative, informative, and well edited you videos are! Thank you for all of the work you do, your videos have really helped me in exploring my own queer identity. I love the collab with Echo too :)
I love your content! Trying to become a better ally in the community is hard when there are a lot of opinions out there, but yours are always very easy to understand and inclusive!
Ash you inspire me and I think your amazing! Keep doing what you do and don't let anyone bring you down because you are GREAT ♡
It is so annoying for me when the people around me put me down with their "normal" attitudes. I loved your slam poetry about becoming pretty to be socially acceptable and it just related to my heart so much. I've always liked it when my friends said I'm like a "little brother" or "just like a guy" or treat me like a dude. Since the past two years I've been contemplating whether I'm gay or not (I'm bisexual and panromantic lol) I have a new gender dysphoria where I don't feel like a girl but I don't hate being one. (Demigirl and transmasculine) but I also feel I might be non-binary and I just am not ready to come out. (Cuz my country is kind of not catching on with "all types of sexualities and gender" yet so........ it's ILLEGAL for now.)
Yay....
I always appreciate how much effort you put into your content and the education of others. And as an aspec myself, I always feel validated when aspecs are included in the convo. Gender sexuality and expression are all important topics that young and older people need to discuss and make an honest effort to understand. Keep up the great work! Thank you!
Two of my favs together!! :D
This is why I love Echo! I’m so glad that you both made some videos together! You have no idea how excited and I happy I was seeing you both just get along and have fun and learn and educate and all that good stuff. You know? Lol I don’t know how to speak my mind properly. Rip. But yeah. Just. This was awesome
I'm so happy Echo has a friend like you she can talk about this stuff in videos with. She looks very happy :3
I was so happy to see you in echo's video. It surprised me too but it was really cool and and awesome. I've been watching echo for a while and you too so it made me really happy to see two TH-camrs I love colab. :)
Your vibes & voice are always so bubbly and happy:)
I concur!
Ash you are so cool. I love how you freely talk about topics, you've helped me so much. Thank you so much, keep being you because you are awesome.
I LOVE YOU AND ECHO AND THE MUSIC AND EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS VIDEO
so happy abt this video. i am slowly learning where I fit/don't fit. Love you!
Hey Ash, I just wanted to say that your channel is helping me through some really horrible dysphoria at the moment. I've watched you for ages, but only recently have I really started to address my feelings around my gender. I've got a lot of figuring out to do, but it's really comforting to see such an endearing person on my screen making me feel less alone. I'm also grey ace & queer so to hear you talk about these things like we're not aliens (unlike most people in my daily life) is honestly something I didn't realise how much I needed. Thank you for being such an inspiring voice in our community
I remember watching your gender identity video two years ago and finally understanding who I was. I found you from echo, and I’m so happy to watch your videos again! 😍
Ahh this is wonderful!! I am always used to think about sexuality with labels and these type of videos make me remember that it is totally okay and valid to be "in between" !! Thank you so much
I’ve watched several of your videos but THIIIIISSSS video!!!! I feel like this video helped me understand myself a little more... and wow.. Just wow..... Downloading your book pronto.
Echo and ash omg brain exploding i am so happy literally you both are my favorite youtubers. I love you both when i watch you both of you videos my whole day is better so thank you both for existing and being who you are. I honestly love you both your amazing human beings just I can’t get enough. Ugh now I’m rambling. Okay your both amazing keep doing what your doing.
This was so lovely?! The intro is amazing and the energy you two radiate is so positive ❤
Ash, your video's have thought me so much in such a great way and really helped me understand so much about gender/sexuality and made me so much more open minded. Thank you so much! You're an amazing person!
You look so happy in this video Ash 😊❤ Its wonderful to see how much more you glow since your top surgery... I'm really happy for you 😄❤☀
3:10 literally made me cry. So many times have I been told that I don't count or that I'm not gay "enough" and it's something that's sunk down into my identity a little. It felt nice to hear you say that
dang i love the animation you're adding in the videos
I find it sooo interesting to learn about things like this! You are the sweetest human and your videos always brighten up my day! 💕
Your so lucky to be around so many other people that are a part of the community and are so excepting as well!
MY GIRL ECHO OMG
This video was very helpful and informed me about stuff I didn’t even know untill now.
EDIT (28/7/19): This video is what cracked my egg. Below is me literally cracking. I'm now a glorious proud trans woman and I booked to see a doctor within a week of seeing this. I've been on HRT for just over 2 months and every aspect of my life is now all woman. I love you Ash, you're doing the world a great service. I'm sooooo happy being trans.
I'm bi and I honestly feel the same way.
@@noenoenoen Yeah, I don't think it's for everyone. I'm back to where I was which is fine, I've been looking through a lot of Ash's other videos because I've been finding them quite interesting but I'm leaving this whole spectrum stuff alone. I just don't want it floating around in my head, I can't quite remember all terms in this video, but I was like ok well if I meet partner A trait C D E will configure one way but partner B trait C D E will configure another way and some of those are polar opposite things. That's not just me pretending to be something I'm not for someone, its something about me reflected in all my interactions with people (to a much lesser degree and momentary).
I think I came to a level of understanding non-binary people I'm comfortable with. Unless somehow my next partner happens to be non-binary which is doubtful as I don't think they're too common in my age bracket and I'm just not interested in dating down a full generation gap, then I think I have come to enough of an understanding to avoid making any of whom I may encounter uncomfortable. Looks like now I also follow Ash... because... reasons. They made a fan out of me that's for sure.
Hearing you say Spectrum so many times makes me want to listen to Spectrum by Florence and the Machine which is a song celebrating sexual and gender diversity with lots of amazing colors and subversions of masculine and feminine dance/dress. The song/music video are awesome and Florence and the Machine is my all time favorite music group.
I love this video so much!! I've been waiting all day to watch it and you guys did not disappoint! The ace content makes me so happy. 😊
LOVE IT LOVE IT!! I've definitely noticed my attraction changing from dudes to ladies more often recently and that's been cool to watch!
I love the spectrum map! I also love the music today, it is so chill
Maybe this is my engineering brain speaking, but I truly don’t understand how you can quantify the amount of sexual attraction someone experiences into an ace spectrum. How many instances of sexual attraction per time period designates someone as gray-asexual? Or demi-sexual? If this amount is different for everyone then why attempt making labels and boxes with no concrete definitions? Other spectrums in the lgbt community I understand, for instance if you estimated you were attracted to your own gender in 60% of cases and another/other gender(s) in 40% of cases, that makes enough sense to be a tool people can choose to use. What I don’t understand is how you can quantify how much sexual attraction you experience and how often.
I also don’t understand the term demi-sexual because nearly everyone I know wants to form an emotional connection with someone before they want to have sex with them. That experience seems pretty normal to me and conversely, people (women especially) seem to be shamed for having one night stands or hooking up on the first date.
This is me genuinely asking for other people’s thoughts because I honestly don’t get it.
About the demi-sexual part: wanting to have sex with someone isn't necessarily the same as sexual attraction. Sexual people often get sexually attracted to people they don't yet know (but want to get to know) and possibly are romantically attracted to as well. Demi-sexual people don't get sexually attracted, until they form an emotional connection. Sexual attraction is directed at a specific person. I understand the confusion, but behaviour (not having sex until you get to know someone) doesn't have an influence on whether or not you're sexually attracted to that person. That's the best explanation I can give, but if you really want it to be clear, you can also look some stuff up on AVEN's website.
Great response, Michelle!
To add to the gray-sexual dimension, I'll throw it to the other extreme. There are people who experience sexual attraction multiple times daily and to different degrees. Imagine the person who gets all energized and /needs/ to have sex with that person RIGHT NOW multiple times daily. Note, it's directed at a specific person, not just libido and desire to have sex with anyone. I'll put that at the zed sexual extreme. Now, what is the opposite of that? Not feeling sexual attraction ever. In between that, though, there are people who experience mild sexual attraction (e.g. "it'd be nice to have sex with that person") a lot, intense sexual attraction sometimes, and mild attraction sometimes. Some gray-sexual people may only have a handful of moments where they felt sexual attraction in their life.
Does that help?
They are necessary so people can find out there are others like them and not feel like something is wrong with them.
Yes. Zed sexual extreme, that's me.
Not everyone wants to form an emotional connection to someone. That's why it's easier for them to have casual sex. I only sometimes want an emotional connection.
I don't think you can get a specific percentage because the spectrum is so fluid, so varied, that it's hard to get concrete figures.
Thanks for educating us. :)
The part about asexuality was really helpful for me because I've always known about asexual being a term to use but I've never considered that there might be a word for the opposite of that.. my whole life is starting to make more sense and now I've just come out to a friend as zed because of this.. thanks you guys, I love how you cover everything and give definitions for everything. Love you bunches :)
GFHYDYRT Two of my FAVOURITE TH-camrs!!! Love you guys💜
I really wish I could get your book!
I had not really been introduced to the LGBT+ community until I was in ninth grade maybe. As i've gotten older, grown as a person, and learned I'm becoming more accepting of myself and others including questioning my sexuality and learning how to accept others for theirs. Same thing with gender as I'm learning I'm becoming more respectful and accepting. I hope I continue on this path of being a respectful and accepting person. I'm new to your channel but I'm excited to watch more of your videos to learn a bit more.
I👏🏻 LOVE👏🏻 THIS👏🏻 VIDEO👏🏻 WOW There’s literally nothing more I would add or change-Thank you so much for perfectly putting my thoughts into a perfect package!!
Wow! This was such an interesting take on spectrums! Keep it up Echo and Ash!
LOVE LOVE LOVE this. It gave me sooo many puzzle pieces that I was missing. Thank you for this. ❤️💕💘💙💜
Ash! You're an inspiration. You encourage me to come to terms with my true self. Thank you 💝
I learned so much from this video! it really helped me understand some things i hadn't understood in the past! loved this :)
Possibly a new favorite video, hearing that so many aspects of my life can exist on a spectrum helps me to feel more validated
one day, Ash, I will find the words to describe how in awe I am of your inner strength, the shear power you have to endure the things that would crumple other people (myself included) is something that should be recognized.
Sometime I cry when I watch your vids 50% pain, but, also 50% joy, and if that is the worst thing that happens to me in a day, that is a very good day!
I love the different music every week! 💜💜
I'm demisexual and went through a questioning journey for the past year or so, and this video was so helpful in teaching me how I could plot myself on a spectrum! Thank you so much! I have autism, which is also something that can be plotted on a spectrum. I love how a spectrum doesn't have to be linear, Echo's spectrum looks awesome.
things like this one really lift up my mood bc my sexuality is so complicated it can`t be put into simple words.
i like to see mine as a variation of lines! (the time thing is also kinda helpful)
so in my head i have this system of scales from 0 to 6 (like the kinsey scale lol)
1)sexual attraction (how my body reacts) - 5,5-6
2)sexual-emotional attraction - 2-2,5
3)aesthetic attraction (who catches my eye in terms of appearence and the way they present themselves) - 3
4)romantic attraction - 1
5)romantic-platonic attraction - 3
Ahhh I love Echo!! I can already tell that this is going to be an amazing collab 🙌
"If you are on a spectrum you are part of the community".
Hmm. Isn't everyone on various spectrums, but words are more limiting than spectrums, and words are what eventually define whether you are in the community? For example, I am that diagram in the bisexual info sheet that is mostly into the other genders and just slightly into my own gender. But I identify as straight or "mostly straight", because it communicates better what I want from people. If I said I was bi, it would give a false idea that my attraction to the same gender people was significant enough to be mentioned and that I were open to having a same gender partner. (Which I am not at this point)
I would like to hear a discussion on whether "allies" are a part of the lgbt+ community or not. And if not, at which point of a spectrum does one become a part of the community? If allies are included, then are all lgbt+ people part of the community, or is it possible that they wouldn't be, for example, if they don't support the community's ideology? Because if a straight cis person can become an ally and a part of the community by supporting the ideology, then would that apply to others as well?
What is the function of defining lgbt+ people as a community? Where is the community located? What does it serve? Is it a means for the sexual and gender minorities to share their experiences and feel included in a sort of society within society? Or is it looking to expand into a larger movement and include everyone at some point? How long will the lgbtqapdi...+ chain go on? Is it looking to always exclude certain kind of straight people, and in that case, what kind and why?
Is the community an insiders' club or an open one? Does one have to choose one of listed identities and change their perception of their identity before joining? Or can they make up their own word or use no labels and still join?
I am asking all these questions because I am very interested in discussing gender and sexuality related topics, but it seems like I am not a part of the community because I fit within straight and cis umbrellas and my take on things therefore don't matter. I should listen to what people inside the community have to say. However I've become to question this dynamic because listening to people inside the comminity, I've got the impression that my experiences are very similar to theirs and only the vocabulary and perception seem different. I've also heard the principle that everyone should use the vocabulary that feels most comfortable to them. This would include me being technically bisexual, but identifying as straight. And someone identifying as bisexual, but technically being the same as me? So who has a say?
Different definitions of gender come into play too, when we talk about what words mean. For example for a radical feminist that thinks gender is (only) a social construct, there would not be feelings of femininity or masculinity or an internal gender. Same goes for someone who thinks gender is only about body parts. Then there are the traditional gender roles, but they don't really tell what a gender feels like either. So if I've never experienced life in someone else's body, how could I know which part of me is because of my gender and which not?
I would have to conclude that genders don't have definitions - that scientifically and socially a gender only has different likelyhoods to coexist with various traits and feelings. But in the end, it is impossible for a human to define their gender exactly.
I think I am a tomboy, I have masculine, neutral and feminine days when it comes to what I'm comfortable with dressing and acting like, but inside I am always quite sensitive and caring and would see someone taking care of me as really attractive. Outwards my masculinity ans self-reliance are usually dominant though.
I don't know how my perception of myself is in relation to that of Ash's or other nonbinary people. Ash has described having more masculine, neutral or feminine days, but also being very uncomfortable presenting feminine pretty much always. Me on the other hand, I like presenting feminine sometimes (but somewhat rarely). Perhaps presentation isn't a reliable indicator of gender. (Though certain type of presentation is more likely to be popular within a gender) Gender dysphoria might be something to look out for to indicate gender, but my body is very shapeless and neutral, so if a nonbinary person was in my body, would they have dysphoria? I wonder if I were nonbinary, would I notice? How subjective are thede things, and does it matter?
I think it's a unifying and beautiful thing to say that everyone is a little bit of everything, to stress that we are all the same, in stead of othering people and calling them different.
But there comes a point when using a different word is useful in some situations.
I am a straight gal and ur vids are so important and inspiring to me. I love to be educated on the lgtb+ and find it very important for everyone to understand and be sensitive to them.thank you!! Lysm!!
As someone whose always had problems with a black and white or even a grey world view I love this. I have always argued that the world is made up of dimension and color and texture and have recently also started stressing perspective and language. What something means to one person or how they might communicate it may not be the the same. Rather than rejecting it we should be working out if we are talking about the same thing and why our views are different. Understanding and communication are invaluable and Spectrums and allowing for nuance is so important to both. Thank you for making this video. The quality was impressive, the energy welcoming, and it was just a lovely thing to watch.
This video was super helpful and validating. Thank you for putting it out into the universe!
Gynephilia and androphilia aren't really orientations at all. They're clinical descriptions for chemical attraction. They have no relation to perspective of femininity or masculinity, as much as feminized and masculinized. They're one's attraction outside of identity. It's counter-intuitive, because gynesexual and androsexual sound like they would be more literal terms, but they refer more to socialized concepts and also have connotations to attraction by genitalia, or coping mechanisms. So those terms have been ruined for the most part, unless people start using the those terms strictly to denote being triggered by certain genitals.
You ever see something ur feed and just think what did I do to deserve such great creations?
Seriously, I love both echo, ash and thoughtful, educational discussions :)
I love grace editing in the background of the whole video
OMG TWO OF MY FAVORITE TH-camR'S IN THE SAME VIDEO!??? THIS IS A DREAM COME TRUE!!!!
aaaaaa Echo's spectrum is my everything! for now I only identify as ace because I have absolutely no idea of what else I could be (like yeah, I know the possibilities but not if they fit me) and so it'd be great to just animate it as the time passes!
I really enjoyed this video ! You always make such wonderfully worded & informative videos Ash 🖤 loved having Echo in the vid to
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO!!!! you probably won’t ever see this but thanks to their spectrum, i learned a new word today; “gynephilia”. I’ve been gynesexual for so long but i defined it as pansexual because i had no idea there was an actual terms for it! I knew i was kinda pan but mostly leaned towards females and people with feminine energy and I only felt more than romantic attraction towards feminine people/ femininity. I now identify as a panromantic gynesexual female!!! Thank you so much. Love u loads!!!!
I LOVE YOU AND ECHO SO MUCH AGHHHH
Love the video! You always provide such great information!
I am starting to think this approach to gender has philosophical value as well. Love both of your videos!!!
Ah! This video makes me so happy and comfortable 😭🖤
you should do a video on what people may call there non binary partner
laura butler I've used "lover" and wasn't called out for it but it sounds kinda naughty... 😂
"Date mate"
I’ve heard “enbyfriend” as it sounds like nb (non-binary)
“theybae”
I paused at 2:52 with my mind blown. Why had I never before considered that the spectrum of romantic attraction or of sexuality was not just ace to "typical"?? The idea that the spectrum continues over to "experiencing lots" is so affirming to me! I didn't really expect to be surprised by anything in this video but already I have an important new conceptual framework!
I was smiling this entire video:))
I’ve been on your channel before but was unsure about subscribing because I was not informed on LGBTQ+ and didn’t know where I stood. BUT, now that I’ve learned more I know that I want to learn as much as I can! I want to be informed enough that I understand all the terms so I can get to know everyone on the spectrum:) I know your channel will help me with that!
Thank you Echo for re-introducing me! I subscribed:)))❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Oh yeah, I’m a straight girl btw:)
(I think cis is the right term? I was born a girl and have always identified as one)
The narrator sounds the gray dog from kipper the dog and it’s so relaxing?? I could take a nap to that somehow
I can't wait to check out Echo's spectrum and work mine out!!
Thanks for drawing and putting in the links the spectrum! As an ace pansexual guy myself I find it to be the most accurate way to describe myself
You are such a wonderful person, and great videographer. I didn't think that I could be Ace until I saw one of your videos.. And I'm still not sure? I'm sick (disabled) and that has changed a lot of how I feel about my sexuality. I unintentionally don't investigate further because of my illness being new and trying to figure out who I am within this illness. I still love your videos,and wish that more people would be as understanding.
ash seems like such a genuine and nice person and i need a friend like that
3:52 is that Grace in the top left corner?
lol yes