Riding The Depression Rollercoaster | Clean With Me | Mom of 2 Under 3
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- Welcome back everyone! In this video I show you my reality when it comes to dealing with depression and how it can derail a productive day in a flash. Being a parent is hard and it has its ups and downs but I am so grateful to you for being here with me on the hard days.
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It will get better once you start decluttering😊
@@jeanettenowicki2402 so far I’ve done two car loads of donations :)
I have found that the first step in getting things done is taking that first step. Find your domino chore. That’s the chore you do that gets you fired up to do more. I think if you can find the desire to actually declutter, you honestly will feel better. When your surroundings are decluttered so is your mind
@@sandymyers1182 you’re right! I think my domino chore is laundry. It just gets me going!
Domino chore! I love that! Mine is dishes. ❤ I don't like doing them, but I get anxious over a messy kitchen and having it cleans is calming.
@@bonnieknighton7296 exactly. When I get the kitchen cleaned, I feel like things are going in the right direction. Now, I must admit that I am retired so I have time to get my chores done when I feel like it….lol
@@RosieFlaten I just found those to be the chunkier ones.
@@bonnieknighton7296 for me too. Dear, I get anxious seeing the dishes but as soon as I finish I have the energy to clean the whole kitchen, it's wonderful and calms me down. I can watch TH-cam while I wash, I just put the cell phone in the window😅
Oh a tip to get funky smells out of the wash is to add a cup of white vinegar! You cant smell vinegar at all once the wash finishes.
I think sometimes, when a person is in constant depression, you have to evaluate everything going on around you. I don’t want to hurt your feelings in anyway. But from the outside looking in, for such a young mother, you have to much on your plate. I don’t pretend to know your whole situation, and I know you love your family. I guess what I am trying to say in the nicest way possible is- why are your mom and siblings living together with you and your husband? Maybe if y’all lived separately, it would be easier for you to keep your home cleaner, less laundry, less dishes and you wouldn’t be so depressed. I’m just stating this, because I’ve been in the same situation. It’s not easy to admit that this situation could be part of the depression. Not bashing you or your family. Just something to think about.
@@notcountingsheep3361 no need for a snarky reply. I wasn’t being rude to her. I’ve been there. Same situation with 3 kids. I got a J O B and established my own household and what do ya know, cleaner home, less laundry, not searching for lost things and the depression got better! That is why I made the comment. Your dismissed.
@@notcountingsheep3361 please bite your tongue. I’m AMERICAN. I’m over 50. Mind your business. Troll. Get off my arse and finish counting the sheep 🐑
Honey, you're doing great! You have already recognized that you need to change and that is the most important thing. You already have the path, transform your new hobby of recording into your job and you will earn cleaning and organizing your own home. You need a more spacious place, set that as a goal and work on your videos, arranging one thing at a time❤️
I really give you a lot of credit for knowing your limits and being wise enough to say This is it. I'm done. Here's the point I need to stop. That's a tough thing for me to do. So, I'll try to follow your example next time I'm overwhelmed, which should be shortly! ❤
@@bonnieknighton7296 heheh your comment made me giggle. 🤭 I try to be realistic with myself because if I don’t it just gets worse and I get cranky
Hang in there, Rosie. You're doing a lot for such a young woman. I, for one, can relate to what you're going through. I had four kids and no help, and now I watch my two grandkids a couple days a week, who are about the same ages as your two littles, and some of those same overwhelming feelings I had felt as a young parent are returning. But I can attest that it gets easier with time. I'm so happy your channel is doing well. And it's all because of you! An algorithm might have brought us here, but you're keeping us watching.
@@shopgirl_ny152 I am so lucky to have people like you who constantly support me and leave comments. It absolutely helps me to not feel so alone. 🤍
Make a list of your washing days, there are a lot of them and you need a whole day to do it. If you try everything at once you won't be able to handle it! One thing that helps me with the dishes is not being held hostage.At the dishwasher, I wash everything in the sink because the machine takes a long time and while it washes I get more dirty. So washing in the sink whenever it gets dirty is promising.
Hi Rosie , first of all you are Beautiful inside and outside. I see how you love your kids , ❤ just take it one day at a time . Remember prayer and talk to God. God bless you and your beautiful family 🙏🏻❤️😘😍🥰
You are doing all the right things. Hopefully everything will fall in place. Your past has everything to do with how you are today. I speak from experience. I grew up in a home that had 8 people living in a tiny 2 bedroom house. My mom was awesome but she definitely could not keep the house neat and clean. But we felt loved and cared for. That is the important thing. That is what you are doing.
Thank you. If my kids grow up and that’s how they remember me and their childhood, then I’ll be happy. 🩷
I grew up in a very messy house too. I'm 46 yes old now and I finally figured out how to clean. It's hard when you never had a role model in how to clean and not burn out and get overwhelmed... Took me over 20 yrs to figure that out
My sister has the same washer and dryer and her dryer door does the same thing. We thought maybe it was the way she had in closet and she put velcro to each side of wall n door to try to keep open but so annoying
@@gabriellecusson1400 ugh it is so annoying!! We tried to put up the magnet and that worked for a while but not anymore lol I’ve learned to dodge it 😂
When it comes to the laundry part maybe if you could fold the towels and bedding shortly after drying. That way it takes away a lot of space. For me I did this for a short time and it was helpful. Just a thought. 😊
I think you're beautiful not ugly. I'm glad therapy is helping you. I also hate matching socks, in my house we just have a laundry basket filled with clean unmatched socks that I really need to tackle but it's that one job I keep procrastinating. Yay for you being monetised, well done! Thanks for sharing your past with us ❤ x
Hi Rosie, I'm not sure if your believe in God, but will you try reading the Bible? The book of Psalms is amazing, and has helped me many times in the past. Try Jesus, he won't let you down. ❤ God bless you.
I'm so sorry you're having some down days. It's so hard to do anything when all you want to do is get in bed and pull the comforter over your head. Your children are so young that it's hard to have a day off. I congratulate you on persevering to get your tasks done. I grew up in a messy house. We had a very small 3 bedroom 1 bath house with 7 people. My mother was very clean, but the house looked like a tornado went through it. I'm still working on a system that works for me. I'm not very disciplined, so it's difficult for me to implement any sort of system. Laundry is a never-ending journey. I don't mind laundry so much. I just hate that it's always there. I so wish you had a laundry room, so you wouldn't have to see it all the time. Are you still taking classes this summer? Hope your schedule slows down a bit so you can catch up. You're doing a great job balancing everything! Take care, Linda 🦋
Start decluttering first day 1 item, second day 2 items, third day 3 items etc etc. You can't clean properly because you have so much stuff, instead of getting rid you buy furniture boxes etc to put the clutter in. 💐
Wow you are doing so great! It s hard to be a mom to 2 little children and you still got done so much! Love your channel❤
Hugs from transyilvania!
I hope you start feeling better. I am super familiar with all those feelings. I think you’re doing a great job at handling your feelings while taking care of your family ❤
I can relate to you I suffer from depression, anxiety, and OCD I'm always trying to find a way to feel happy and productive but often times feel overwhelmed and tired but watching you helps me out so much and I don't feel alone
@@Tiffany9204 I’m with you. Thank you for being here. We are absolutely not alone, there just isn’t as many people who talk about it. :/
I can relate Tiffany.
❤much love ❤️ wish I had you as a friend when I had the same issues I'm not perfect but iv learned to first love thyself...and pick and choose your battles for each day. ❤
@@amberzapata8316 I honestly don’t have any friends to lean on either. Just immediate family that’s helps me and I’m the only one who has kids besides my mom. That is a big reason why I chose to share here because I needed someone to talk to, so thank you. 🩵
Just a suggestion if you're able to of course. Maybe once a month at a time where there isn't much that needs to be paid look around for a reasonable house cleaner just once a month to help you ❤. You've got this Rosie ❤. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your journey. You're doing your best and that's what matters!! Take it day by day.
@@notcountingsheep3361here's the thing while I understand she's already said she has a problem with hoarding things she is trying to work on it and break that cycle to her best ability. I used to clean homes and had two of my clients who were similar to this young lady and not once did I walk away or think the worst of them. If she were to get someone to help her out once a month I feel like it would help her situation a little more especially because she is willing to change her ways. Doesn't mean it would completely go away but it would at least help her mentally and if she's open to the person and they have an open mind then I'm sure they'd be willing to help her out. Let's have some compassion for one another.
You are amazing you are loved it doesn't matter if chores don't all get done just do what you can mamma you got this you are strong you are special you are beautiful. God bless you and your babies ❤
You got this Girl ❤❤❤
Keep up the great work👍👍👍👍🌼💐🌷🌺🌻🌹🌸🦋 thank you for sharing🤗🤗🤗🤗 love and hugs💜🤗💗🤗 have a Blessed day💜💜💜💜
So glad I found you ❤ I relate to you so much. Thank you!
Awe that’s amazing. I’m glad you’re here 🩷
I'm really enjoying your narration. You really are dealing with alot, it is like you have several full time jobs, including childcare, managing a household, taking classes, coping with mental health issues, etc. I am so glad you are participating in therapy. You have many strengths and good insight, and you know when you need help. Please DO NOT feel like you have to answer or respond to all the comments. I personally do not expect any response, because you already have too many things to take care of. Some content creators put pressure on themselves to respond to comments and they burn out because they cannot keep up with it. It is enough energy and time that you spend filming, editing, and narrating. You do not have to respond! With love from a loyal subscriber and grandma.💗
Hey sweet friend! You have a precious family. I can relate so much to things you’re going through! My kids are now in their late 20s. But when they were little I quickly came to the end of myself and realized I needed help.
I started having a quiet time of prayer/Bible reading every morning. In this time I would talk to God and I felt His presence. He began to heal me and give me direction on a daily basis.
There is a fantastic Bible teacher named Joyce Meyer. Her videos are on TH-cam and are free. She had a very abusive childhood but has been delivered/healed from her past. She’s super funny and relatable. I listen to her often and always come away encouraged.
Just remember that God loves you so much! He sees all your going through and cares about every detail of your life!! I’ll leave you with two promises from Him❤ John 3:16 and Romans 10:9. God bless!!!
Hi Rosie! My name is Rose too!
So happy to find your channel.... Hugs hugs hugs to you!
You remind me of me 15 years ago
It will get better you got this thanks for sharing and being real❤❤❤
Being a mom is hard. I struggled with postpartum anxiety after my 3rd and it was hard being productive. The thing that always helped me is that when you are feeling good try to get as much done as you can. It will get better and things will get easier especially as your children grow. Hang in there.
@@CrystalCleannnn thank you! I try to go go go on the days that I feel good, it just sucks when the good feelings go away. I appreciate the reminder that it gets better with time 💕
Pat yourself on your back. I would put all your electronics away. Reward yourself when you complete a task. Try to plan a set bedtime and wakeup time. Also, start going to church on a regular basis. I remember as a young mom and going to church, everything just got better and everything seemed to be orderly. I also had my mom to babysit, while I went home to catch up on the endless laundry and ironing. Please see your physician about your depression, we, women have sooooooo much stress. Hugs from a mom. My 2 daughters are grown, love and enjoy life. You deserve the best this world has to offer. 😊
Keep up the great work. You’re an inspiration to us!
@@aliciarodriguez8046 thank you 🩷🩷
I have two young boys. 4 & almost 3. I’m always exhausted & feel mom guilt every minute. I feel better when I clean but also worse bc I’m not paying attn to them while doing it. Or great when I fully absorb in time w them but horrible for neglecting chores. Horrible guilt any time I’m not busy
I have depression and anxiety some days are good some are bad I have just tested positive for covid and it don't help at the moment I'm just not feeling myself at moment and it is not how I wanted to get xx
@@sarahluther2642 oh no! I’m so sorry, I have had it a few times. It’s not fun. I hope you feel better soon 🩵
Thank you for including the clip of you having to take deep breaths to calm yourself down at the end of the video. That shows a lot of strength on your part and is also very relatable. I am happy to have found your channel and that you show real, everyday life.
it really is a struggle having any mental illness,but having 2 ittle ones is good in a way has you know you have to get up out the bed and look after them feed them ,so we not just sitting all day crying by ourselfs, and you such a loving mom always laughing with them and cuddlyling them , and your little girl always trying to help,,you doing so good doing the house and cooking on top of that ,and doing a youtube channel to try help the family rosie girl you awesome , when i had my twins and got a fuzzy head i really had no help even the tablets they gave me made me worse i was either just wanting to sleep (which with 2 premiture babies i couldnt do ) or so sick and suicidel ,i didnt take hem , and wasnt really a youtube thing back then ,so i used to do ebay just fora hobby i still do for same reason , but you really are wonderful doing all you do and when gets to much just sit and cuddle the baby , i agree about those wash baskets though they get shape has glass when get broke , throw it out better to put clothes on floor then risk one of the kids falling on it , anyway well done rosie , for all they wash load folding :)
I have a 14 month old and a 4 month old. Definitely not easy and it’s a challenge everyday. Something else too is that I started declutterring clothe and things that either don’t fit my kids and clothes that no longer fit me. We have enough clothes for a whole week. And yes I wash every Sunday. Socks are a pain but we all have at least 10 to 12 pairs. Shoes the same my sons got 2 pairs and I have 3 pairs my husband has too pair. We live in a 1 bedroom apartment. So the space is limited. One by one start tackling them. We don’t have a regular washer and dryer. We have a portable washer and I
Hang the clothes where there is a pole
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You’re doing great. I’m the same way with mess and clutter and it really plays on my anxiety.
Are you going to set up a P.O. Box for yourself?
SO proud of you for making money already!
@@carolynoquinn4573 New laundry baskets are calling my name! 😊
It will be so satisfying to see you improve your home. What seems so simple for some is so hard for others. I have an issue with food the way you do with house keeping so I get it. One day at a time sweet Jesus!
Hey Rosie
I just love your videos and your voice
Great job Rosie
Doing great keep it up!!!!!!
I also deleted all of my social media, i feel so much better,i only have youtube left❤
You. Are a beautiful lady and yr doing very well xx❤
Hi Rosie
I watch you clean and do laundry
I think if you folded and put all the clothes away that we be a very big accomplishment
and you would feel better also cleaning up the kitchen and putting that away you
would feel so proud of yourself that it is a form of therapy. Lots of luck to you
we are all here for you. !!!!!!!!
Does your little guy nap on you usually?
You got this mama!! You are doing great!!
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Hang in there! Remember to repeat to yourself, I AM ENOUGH! I AM WORTHY!! I AM BEAUTIFUL! And I AM THE BEST MOM I CAN BE! This helps me a lot. I know we all suffer in different ways. I deal with depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder and OCD, how I accomplish things I need to get done is by setting a timer for 30 minutes, I get whatever I can done in that 30 minutes. Then I take a 15 minute break from everything. I do a lot of journaling and that also helps. Rosie, please don’t be so hard on yourself because you are great and you are beautiful… ❤