0:54 Birth control 2:14 Change channel name? 2:27 Will the baby have dual citizenship? 2:41 Why Nashville? 3:02 Mindset life change in Pregnancy? 5:04 Fav books, novel recommendations 7:02 How are you not scared of giving birth? 8:23 Getting married young thoughts 9:19 what thing did your mom do that you want to do with baby girl? 10:00 Baby girls name a family name or did you hear it somewhere 10:14 what is something you want to say to post-pregnancy Jess? 11:08 Birht vlog and epidural? 12:06 Tampons or pads? 12:49 How are YOU doing? 14:04 how did Gabe adjust to changes in your body? 14:46 Do you and Gabe ever fight? CLICK THE BLUE NUMBERS TO BE TAKEN TO THAT TIME! Hope this helped :))
oh Jess I’m so sorry that people have projected onto you with their birthing experiences 🥺 I went in with a similar mindset to you, trusting God & the process of labour. I had a completely unmedicated labour and birthed our beautiful little girl. I did have a second degree tear but other than that baby was healthy and I recovered well. Keep an open mind and remember that you are so much stronger than you think! A huge affirmation for me during labour was “while I am weak He is strong” just trusting God every step of the way 🤍 I highly recommend you check out the BirthTime documentary, it is LIFE CHANGING! 🙏
I was definitely told “just get the epidural” and “don’t try to be tough, you don’t have to impress anyone” when I mentioned that I’d like to try for an unmedicated birth (as if that’s what I was trying to do?). It’s very discouraging, but I want you to know that if you want to try it, go for it! I had an unmedicated birth my second pregnancy and it was an incredible experience. My first pregnancy was medicated and it was wonderful as well. You are amazing in whatever you choose, and try to tune out those who are discouraging to you. I used Bridget Taylor’s videos to prepare for my unmedicated birth and I was so prepared and loved it!
I've always wanted the epidural (i'm 9 months pregnant), and I've always heard the opposite! "Just try to go natural at first", "you're going to have back pain after", "you'll miss out on the experience" etc. I think no matter what we moms decide to do, the people who disagree will always be vocal about it
@@moodsofkiwi9285 that’s so true. It’s unfortunate that people can never seem to just be supportive. I’m so sorry that’s happened to you, it can definitely feel discouraging, especially from people you care about. I hope your birth goes wonderfully and that you are able to get the epidural ❤️
Hi Jess! My mom gave birth to my sister in the hospital after being induced and to me in a "birthing center", in water and she always said she had liked the more natural birth a lot more because she felt more respected and everything was like soft, loving and the pain was not worse. Hope all goes well for you❤️
@@martham6 no of course everyone should be respected! but my mom had explained that the doctors in the hospital were less gentle, even agressive in their movements whereas in the birthing center they were a lot nicer and more "respectful" of her (I’m French so maybe respect doesn’t have the same connotation in English)
I’ve done 3 unmedicated births and I went into it with the mindset I wanted to be able to get up and move. But I was also open to get an epidural if I felt overwhelmed with the pain. I never got to the point where I felt like I couldn’t handle it. I think having an idea of what you want, but also trusting your doctor/midwife to do what is safest for you and your baby is the best mindset going into birth! You got this!!
so in awe of your strength & amazing capacity to endure so many changes in such a short amount of time. im incredibly excited to be on this journey virtually with you 😊💕
The part where you mentioned your love for Gabe has grown so much since your wedding day - just you wait until you see him holding your little baby for the first time. I didn’t think I could possibly love my husband any more, but seeing him become a dad truly made my love for him grow so much and continue to grow. I’m so excited for you to experience all the joy and wonder of motherhood, it is the best thing that ever happened to me ❤️
I think about this all the time and it makes me emotional hahaha 😭 it’s one of the top things I’m looking forward to, I can’t wait to see him with her 🥲
I'm so excited for your & Gabes baby's safe arrival. Its such a precious and magical time. Such a privilege for us to be included in this special milestone. ❤ you're doing amazing, Jess. Sending you good vibes 😊
I was in a similar journey while I was pregnant and chose to go the natural birth route. I was so scared I wouldn’t be able to do it. A lot of people are negative about it so I didn’t talk to anyone about my plans really. But my birth was the best experience of my life. It was 4.5 hours long and I felt so powerful and exhilarated.. you really can do what you set your mind to. Christian hypnobirthing and positive birth stories were super powerful in preparing 💛
Honestly birth is just beautiful. I watched my sister give birth when I was 18 (I was 6 weeks pregnant without knowing bay the time) and I loved the experience and to share that with her. Sometime that blew everyone’s minds, I would watch birth blogs, midwife shows etc and I feel like it mentally prepared me, taught me a lot of phrases and terminology, showed me tips on pain relief. I wasn’t scared to give birth at all ❤️🥰 I went unmedicated for both births. Second birth I was induced which was more intense but I was really set on not having an epidural, not that I’m against them but for me I already had back problems, I also really wanted to feel the whole experience. My biggest tip is focus on your breathing and hot showers (or the tub if you go water birth) is amazing!! Helps a lot. It’s hard to commit to a name honestly, with both of my kids I had two names but also leaned more towards one then the other. With my daughter we had Natalie Rose (one I leaned more towards) and Kaylee Rose. Just looking at her I knew she wasn’t a Natalie. Even though I love that name even now 7 years later. With my son we did want Charlie but our niece was named that, then by the end it was out of Arlo (my partner loved this) and Maddox (my favourite because it’s welsh and my family is welsh). It took us a few hours but we knew 🥰
Out of experience I’m 21 years old and gave birth naturally without an epidural. It’s so beautiful knowing that we can have that strength and bring a little baby to the world. I support everyone’s opinion but always listen to your body. I’m sure you’ll know what to do when the right time comes and all that matter is that you have a safe delivery Jess. I love you and can’t wait to meet your baby 😍❤️
Just epidural input: I'm so scared of needles and IVs, so I did a natural water birth and I'm glad I did. Yes it was painful but I always felt like "I can do this" the pain never felt out of control or beyond me. In the middle of my 5 hour labor my body even slowed down contractions to allow me to nap twice to get more strength. I loved that my body knew exactly what I needed, and I think having an epidural would have masked some of my body's capabilities! You'll do great and your body will amaze you no matter which way you go though! ☺️
im a midwife and calm birth educator and what you said at the end made me so happy .To have conversations with your partner about what life and your relationship is going to be like once baby is here before the baby is here. Managing boundaries with visitors, expectations of each other in baby care and household duties etc, managing self care for each other, signs of postnatal depression and what to do. All SO important!! you're doing great Jess, you will be great parents.
My biggest advice is have no expectations. I had my “dream birth” I wanted so bad to have my boys naturally but ended with a c section and I just wish I would have went in with the mindset of no expectations but praying for a safe and healthy baby.. things like that. You are so inspirational 💗
I love what you said. “Even though she is your world try to still have a world of your own” that’s beautiful! As a first time mom I wish I would have heard that sooner! Also when it comes to your birthing experience, although hard to ignore some people opinions/comments try to not let it get the best of you. I was super similar in what I wanted for my labor and delivery and I let everyone scare me. At the end of the day it was beautiful and perfect and now I have my son because of it. You are STRONG, god created our bodies for this and you are capable of anything you set your mind too
Watching your weekly videos is like talking to a best friend that lives on the other side of the world that you only talk atleast once a week to catch up. I’m not much of a social media fan but I wait for your videos because it feels so real and comforting. Thank you for being you Jess!💜
Watching you Jess is always very calming and relaxing, your aura, voice, everything. Wishing you all the very best in this season you and Gabe are stepping into, May the Lord oversee your birth and parenthood...Love you three so much!
I think you’ll seriously surprise yourself during birth! It’s inevitable and you’re so so capable. I absolutely loved giving birth to my two boys. People look at me weird when i say that but the pain is temporary, and the HUGE feeling of accomplishment and the joy of doing what you have to do to meet your baby face to face is absolutely amazing. You’ll do great, Jess. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I just gave birth to my first baby 8 weeks ago and did it all natural and you can totally do it! It’s much more mental than physical in my opinion. Affirmations, knowing your body was made to do this, each contraction is just one minute closer to meeting the love of your life, and your body won’t put you in more pain than you can handle. Being able to birth my baby girl natural and unmedicated was such a huge accomplishment for me and made me feel so powerful and proud. No matter how you give birth, women are incredible but for me personally, I felt so proud of myself. You’ve got this! 💕
I had two unmedicated natural births, I knew it was what I wanted to do and when I told people that was my plan they were kind of negative! I just surrendered my thoughts and pain to God. Listened and focused on worship while I was progressing with contractions. You are absolutely right, God created our bodies to do this! You’ve got this Jess. During contractions, have Gabe push on pressure points and focus on that pressure and not the pain. Remember that contractions are waves, just have to get through the wave and take a breather than brave the wave again.
I had a water birth at home. It was so amazing. I was too afraid of the unknown and I definitely made it out to be worse than it is. Yes, it’s intense but the most empowering experience. I felt most comfortable at home and my birth team was so respectful and encouraging. You got this mama!!
I had the same mindset for the "epidural vs no epidural" decision, and I had some people look at me sideways like if I didn't DETERMINE that I wasn't doing the epidural I would probably just give in, but I really just didn't want to confine myself to a decision when I had no idea what it feels like to me. I took birth classes and tried to prepare as much as possible, and I did end up doing it all naturally with no pain meds. Deep breathing, movement, and being in the bath were my go-to's for coping. The contractions hurt, but to me it was totally doable, and I don't consider myself to have a super high pain tolerance. The pushing, however, was really rough for me, and lasted over 2 hours. But at that point I knew I was almost done, and knowing I was about to see my baby's face any minute gave me the strength I needed til the end. You're gonna do a great job!! And if you get in there and you decide you want the epidural, just party like its 2022 and get it! ❤ A mother's ability and stength aren't defined by the details of her birthing experience. Wishing you all the best!
Hi Jess! In light of this incredibly beautiful Q+A, I wanna share my birth story if that might help you through this very nerve wracking process. And disclaimer, I’m a women of faith and my birth story has a lot of comments about how faith and God got me through it. I gave birth to my son 4.5 years ago when I was 20. I have birth at home, naturally. My intention was to have a home water birth but as I labored very quickly ( praise God) , the tub became more a soothing point and I decided pushing on the floor on a mattress was the most comfortable position for me personally. So going into pregnancy, I knew I wanted to do a natural birth, and I knew I wanted to avoid medication. I wanted to experience child birth the way God intended for it to be and something I walked through with more faith than anything else. And to be honest, I had so many doubts. Contractions are painful, labor is painful, the entire child birth process is painful. I’m not going to sugar coat that experience at all. With that being said, Gods design was in full awareness for me. My mind went to a space I don’t think exists outside of child birth , but a space that I knew full well was designed for us women to enter into while undergoing that kind of pain. It’s more than mind over matter ( although we can simplify it to that) , it felt more primitive than that. That I had no other choice but to manage the pain with intention, Grace, and understanding. I was experiencing the pain in full force but internalizing it in such a way that allowed for me to breathe my way into it. My mom and husband were amazing touch people , but labor is entirely alone. Leaning on them for things you need is so important and helpful , and I pray that your birth is as beautiful and intentional as you wish for it to be. I know full well you are created and designed to overcome the pain, however you may perceive it. And for me, the only thing I went to mentally was “I’m going to see my baby soon” and that was a beautiful thought to continuously be reminded of naturally. And honestly it’s the only thing , at the end of the day, that created the beauty in the entire birthing process. Passing the placenta was easy after baby was skin to skin. And those few moments after your child comes and meets you and gabe is going to dissolve the labor experience into a piece of cake. Heavenly Father, I lift up Jess to you today. I pray for her strength and her courage to overcome child birth in a way that you have intended for her and her child. I pray that you touch her body, mind, and soul as she births her daughter. I pray for a quick, simple, beautiful labor for her, and I ask that you allow for her to lean onto you during that time. I pray for the health of her baby, and that if it is your will, the outcome of this process for both Jess and her daughter is entirely healthy. Lastly, I pray for Gabe. As he enters fatherhood with his wife , as they enter parenthood together, grant him the strength and courage to continue to uplift his wife and raise his daughter with the kind of tenderness and grace you have intended for a father. I pray for them to be strengthened entirely to you and your love walking through parenthood together. In Jesus name , amen! Love you Jess! Love you Gabe! Love you baby G. Good luck beautiful, you got this
I am so happy for you guys. As for birth every person is different. People scared me and nurses pushed the medication but I did what I wanted to do and I am glad I did. I had my son natural, no epidural, no medication. The Dr broke my water at 9am and he was born at 9:29am. I had been in the hosp since 8pm the prev night due to high BP that just crept on me. Felt every contraction and every push. God was all in it. Our bodies are made for it.😊 I say do what Jess' heart wants and I promise you won't regret it. ❤🎉 Congrats again!!
Jess, CONGRATULATIONS! I'm a birth doula in NC and first off I'm so glad you are taking Bridget's course, she is an incredible birth educator. If you are wanting a water birth go for it! But do so in an educated way, so you aren't just "going with the flow". The thing everyone doesn't tell us about birth, is that our body produces natural hormone painkillers (endorphins) during labor. Those are the same endorphins that allow people to run marathons. So just as you said, our bodies are built for this. Keep reading those positive birth stories to help shift that mindset. In the doula world we talk about "KICO" and "Floppy Face/Floppy Fanny" as a reminder when laboring to keep your "knees in, calves out" which helps naturally open the pelvis, relax the face, relax the fanny. Allow yourself to fully rest between surges, ride the waves of each 60 sec surge (20sec build, 20sec peak, 20sec coming down). If you haven't already hired a doula I would definitely recommend it just to have the extra support for yourself and Gabe. Sending lots of love and support for a positive birth experience.
Giving birth is truly the best experience! I loved every single moment and i cant wait to do it again! It does hurt obviously but the empowerment of birth and then holding the love of your life after. Its incredible
I had a drug free water birth (first time mum) last year.. can’t recommend highly enough! I can’t imagine giving birth anywhere but in the water, it’s just so weightless and takes the edge off! My biggest advice is really use the breaks in-between contractions, they are there for a reason, don’t think about the contraction before or the one coming just embrace and enjoy the relief in that moment, centre yourself & take some deep breaths to re-oxygenate your body and baby. And remember you can do anything for a minute! You got this girl, you will honestly amaze yourself with what you are capable of!! Focus on all those positive stories and forget the rest xx
One thing I admire about you and Gabe is, how you all take the time to count the cost. You all count the cost on marriage, on moving, etc. You all always stay aware of the risk and the cost thereof. Love it.
"growing up with us" that one hit me, I really did grow up with you guys. I started watching this channel at 16 (now I'm 20) and seeing how much you've grown as persons but also as a couple, all that stuff has been beautiful thank you for letting us be part of your journey
I had a 43 hour natural, unmedicated labor with my son, and yes, of course it was hard and painful, but it was soooo worth it! I can look back now and be so proud of myself for getting through that. So if unmedicated is your preference, just stick with that, you can get through it! ❤️
I just had my daughter 6 weeks ago at a birth center (no interventions or medications) in a tub and it was incredible! Everyone thought I was crazy but I HIGHLY recommend trying the water birth. Some things I didn’t realize, 1. How nonexistent time would become during active labor 2. You can have contractions in your thighs (mine felt like intense period cramps) 3. Your contractions can feel the same the whole time (my water broke first so they were fairly intense the whole time but never got more intense during transition) 4. Your babies appearance will change drastically in the first hours (take lots of pictures) Things that helped me 1. Hot shower on my stomach & thighs during active labor 2. Husband doing counter-presser on my hips 3. Calming meditation music (I’d listen to this before birth to help visualize what it would be like) 4. The tub during pushing phase Good luck mama and you’re incredible regardless of how you bring your girl into the world!❤️
Hey Jess! The good girls guide to murder has 2 other books to go along with it! The second is “Good girl bad blood” and the third is “As good as dead”! Can’t wait for Baby Girl Conte! ❤️
I've had 3 babies all unmedicated and my youngest was a water birth. That was by far my most comfortable birth, it wasn't pain free but was a lot more comfortable than my other two ☺️
I had my 3 babies at home, unmedicated. Like you said, to each their own. Some don't want to imagine birth without an epidural or c-section, and I don't want to imagine it with either. None are wrong, just go with what you want to do. If it needs to change during labor, go with it, otherwise, just enjoy the experience- the end result is the best!
So excited for you guys! we had our little girl 6 months ago and it has been just SO fun, you guys are going to LOVE it! I totally understand the negativity towards going unmedicated -- everybody I talked to made it sound impossible! Thankfully my mom and husband were encouraging, and watching TH-cam videos of people's unmedicated birth stories was encouraging, too. During labor I just kept telling myself I could do it because I truly believed it! I loved the unmedicated experience and was so amazed by my body when all was said and done. You CAN do it if that's what you really want. that being said, I tried to keep an open mind about an epidural and will consider it in the future if I feel it's necessary. 😊
so excited for you both you and gabe! i've been here since your dating days and now you're having a baby girl 🥹💛 can't wait to "meet" here and remember that she's already loved by her aunties and uncles around the world 🥰🫶🏻
Hey Jess! I had an unmedicated water birth for my first baby 3 weeks ago and it was the most incredible and empowering experience! I’m still on a high about it, I hope you get to have this amazing experience as well. Trust your body 💓
i hope you read this. one of my friends got a baby girl. she prayed so much for that day because she wanted to give birth naturally. it’s an amazing testimony today because she said looking back now, she can’t even remember the pain because the moment was so amazing that’s what she remembered. they had 1% chance of becoming pregnant btw, both her and the husband had issues. God is amazing! I’m really praying for this last bit of your journey!
I can’t believe you’re already 8 months! My sister just gave birth to her beautiful baby girl on Sunday and I had the privilege of being a birthing partner. It was honestly one of the most emotional experiences of my life. While it was awful seeing her in pain I was also filled with so much love and admiration. It’s a feeling I can’t truly explain but the human body really is designed to birth and it was so fascinating to watch my baby Niece come into the world. I’m so excited for you and your family to experience this and I’ve got so much confidence in you. You’ve totally got this! ❤️
Best tip I can give for childbirth; go into thinking that it will be the absolute worst pain in the world that you will ever experience and your actual experience will be very different, it worked for me! 🥰 I’ve now had two births without an epidural and it’s the best most empowering thing to go through
Jess dear, I have been following you and Gabriel for a few years now, and I have never come to writing a comment up until now. I feel I must tell you that choosing over and over again to hear/look/see the positive in whatever it is you are looking at.. is truly hart worming and filling me with hope that there is a good place in life to live it. This is extremely important to feel having to go through numerous life challenging experiences (Emotionally is ‘main base camp’ here, if you will) which leave you with serious baggage of diss-believe in the human of man kind that is GOOD. That is SAFE TO BE AROUND that is HAPPY ENOUGH TO LIVE AROUND in this world…. And you my dear.. are a clear beautiful example for that. I find you pure, connected to the positive by choice, and so respectable of your inner self and you private life with Gabriel and family to be. The modesty in your soul is well preserved and that is an example for today’s generation - that I find SO IMPORTANT!!! It is beautiful, it protects the innocence in life which is so fragile in these day.. Thank you Jess sweet hart. You are beautiful inside and out. Gabriel and your entire family is lucky to have you.. keep on being the wonderful you.. and the intention will send of the waves for someone out there to choose better for himself with compassion to his actions, hart and life story. I send all my best to you & family, have a happy healthy full handed birth, and may the grace in life fill your home with glory and joy of Harts , that is all that is. Ashirah.
I highly recommend a disc or cup option! I hate tampons and pads as well because they are uncomfortable and feel “dirty”. Discs typically can last for 12 hours and even at night and it’s so much more comfy and less wasteful!
If you’re struggling with a one sided friendship read this: I was in school and my bsf was in my class and our school was pretty small, anyways..she was never there for me and really jealous of everything i do so i wanted to let her go and what someone told me is “Is it worse to sit alone or to sit with this person who’s no good for you” because sitting alone is really annoying and sad but it’s wayyy better than sitting with someone who always pulls you down and eventually you’ll find better friends
Hey Jess, hope you are doing well. I love to check up on people even though it might be one-sided. I miss meeting people and after the pandemic, I have become socially inactive. Sometimes things get overwhelming. Take care of yourself mentally and physically. We are always there for you and I love you.
@@k0al0 Thank you so much. I always believe in spreading joy and happiness and being there for people even if I once had grudge against them I can't stay mad for long. Hope you have a great week ahead too:)
I had an unmedicated water birth for my first baby 6 months ago. I encourage you to try and do it, if that’s what you see yourself wanting. Don’t let others opinions and stories discourage you. I had so many people who had several children tell me how bad it is and all of that. But I always tried to keep a positive mind set and only focus on “whatsoever things are true”. I always tried to replace any negative thought with a positive truth about my body and birth. I absolutely had no thoughts of an epidural during my birth, and never had a thought of wanting to quit. Of course it was hard but I knew it wouldn’t last forever and at the end I would meet my baby. I loved it and absolutely want medication free births for all my children. I hope that may encourage you. And I hope you have a healthy rest of your pregnancy and a birth you can think back fondly of.
My best friend has had 4 babies all natural births. She’s always said to me she felt like she had more control over her body having her kids. Good luck darling can’t wait to hear her name. ❤️🇦🇺
I’ve done natural cycles since I took my IUD out 13 months ago and it’s been life changing. Highly recommend if you’re sick of the side effects from more popular birth control forms. (This is not a medical opinion, just my personal experience)
I realize this video was posted 10 days ago, but I’m just getting a chance to check it out. As a mama of 2, I want to encourage and back your decision to just see how the pain is during childbirth! Good for you for not putting any decisions in concrete. There is NO reason why you have to choose now. I’m so glad you are giving yourself the space to choose when you have more knowledge. 🙏🏼🎉
The menstrual cup is life changing, me and my daughter both use them. I had natural births with no pain relief and they were brilliant. Had a spinal injection for a c section that didn't work, ended up being put to sleep. If you can do it natural go for it but if you need pain relief go for that. It's totally your choice. Also tried gas and Air for non birth reasons recently and it was really good. I was to scared to try it during birth but I think it would of been helpful xx
Do whatever works best for you and baby during labor. Sometimes not getting the epidural and letting your body go through the pain can make your body not relax and not progress so at that point it would probably be suggested but everyone is different and every pregnancy is different. The only thing I always say after having our daughter is keep an open mind throughout the process because some people have a set birthing plan and you truthfully can’t control anything other than maybe your pain. As long as you and baby are safe at the end of the day that’s all that matters. You’ve got this💗
Regarding the tampon/pad question... I've never liked tampons and I HATE pads! When I first heard about a menstrual cup I thought it would be very similar to a tampon ( the feeling of it etc.) but let me tell you it's nothing like having a tampon. A menstrual cup is the best thing I did for myself. My periods are way shorter, they are definitely not as painful as before, I don't have to think about buying pads, it's eco friendly because you reduce the amount of waste. I just love it and I recommend it to everyone!!!
Don't listen to anyone else as to how you should go about giving birth. Everyone's experience is so different, everyone's body is different and no 2 experiences will be the same regardless. Follow your instincts and you will be fine. I tried getting in the water and hated it and ended up doing most of my labour on my feet "on the land". In the end, I needed to have baby turned and forceps which was never part of the plan but I still consider my whole experience to be a really positive and calm one and I'm not at all fearful of giving birth again in October. I found gas and air really helpful as it really focuses your breathing. You got this girl. Sending love and prayers xx
I'm still in awe that we are pregnant at the same time and our baby girls will be born in the same year ❤ I talk about you guys at home like you're our personal friends 😅 not to mention you are now going to be living just an hour and a half away from us!! 🎉 I hope one day to meet you three ❤
I started Natural Cycles about 2.5 weeks ago because my fiancé and I get married at the end of the month and I didn’t want to get on the pill and so far I’m really liking it!
I would definitely give the natural birth podcast a listen. Going unmedicated is amazing and the biggest tip is that it's a mind game. Believe in yourself !!
I had my son without an epidural. It’s really hard but you get through it and then feel super empowered. Whatever it is your birth brings you will do it because you are stronger than you think. And do NOT listen to negative comments or stories, those don’t help at all.
I’ve had 3 bubs. The two I had with epidurals slowed labour down soooooo much. And one took so long that bub turned her head, got stuck and then we needed an emergency csect. (There were other complications too.) The one I laboured standing up and in the shower was so much quicker and more active. And Brissy midwives are the best. They don’t make you lie on your back to give birth. They help you to let gravity work! Don’t be scared of getting an epidural because everyone tells you to do it. If you want to do it without drugs, the midwives will support you. You can do this!
I was on natural cycles ! I was on it for a year and got pregnant. I still loved the app. I wouldn’t recommend going on it if you are REALLY not ready for a baby. We would go back on it again after baby is born , but be vigilant 😊
I did a birth center for our baby and it was the best experience! I even had complications and even though it was so hard, it was 100% worth the effort and struggle. Built to Birth is a great course. Breastfeeding is harder than anyone talks about -- get lots of support and you can do it and it is SO worth it! Ps - the cup is amazing but everything down there is pretty loose for a while post birth so I wouldn't recommend trying the cup until ~6+ months postpartum -- until youve healed :) Otherwise you won't get the true idea of what is like (I used a cup for about 3 years before baby and now use it again)
You’ve got this! I have had 3 births. The first two were unmedicated and the 3rd I opted for a little bit of pain management (not epidural). I’m so glad I didn’t do an epidural because as soon as baby was born and healthy I was up on my feet and in the shower. There was no grogginess or anything like that. When it came to my 3rd I felt I didn’t want to do it completely medication free and decided to try the gas, and fentanyl. It didn’t take the pain away but it let me take each contracting at a time and cope better! Whatever you decide will be great and God is with you.
Jess you will do amazing do not be scared to give birth unmedicated I did with my first and the thing that helped me get through was knowing this pain was 1. Temporary 2. I can handle any pain for 30 secs to 1 min 3. One contraction closer to our baby 4. I was literally made to do this and millions of women have done it before me and I can do it too! You will be an amazing mother and regardless of how you give birth be so very proud of yourself, it is your birth do it the way you want and are comfortable!!! Praying for a safe, healthy and swift delivery of baby girl!❤️❤️💞💞
I have had 2 natural, unmediated births & they’ve both been absolutely INCREDIBLE! Be encouraged, you CAN do it if you SET your mind & heart to it. 🤍 Praying for a smooth labor & delivery regardless!
Had my first baby at 25, my husband was 27 at the time, same as you. Fast forward 2 years and we now have 2 boys. I love seeing you getting ready to be a mother, you'll both do a great job! Sending love and prayers from Europe 😊
I watched one video that said to definitely do more research on postpartum than you think you need to. Some refer it to the “4th trimester” because those 3 months of feeling kinda awkward in your body after birth, and all the changes is definitely something worth preparing for to set yourself up beneficially for that period of time.
I started to use the menstrual cup a few months ago and it’s a game changer!! I use it the first half of my flow and then just wear a panty liner! It takes a bit to get used to but it’s so nice! 😁
Couldn't help feeling emotional thinking about what beautiful parents you guys are gonna be, and I love that we get to watch part of your journey and hear your experiences🤍
My baby girl is 6 months and one thing I’d give advice is take the epidural! It doesn’t make you any more of a hero for feeling the pain, and it doesn’t stop you from enjoying your baby when they’re born! I stopped pressing the button to release the epidural an hour before I gave birth and managed to birth her with no intervention! Also… do some meal prep before shes born! You’ll appreciate the nutritious meals in a sea of tea and biscuits! It’s the best gift in the world, and the pain I went through I no longer remember! You’ve got this! So excited for you to enter motherhood because it’s truly everything and more xxxx
I don’t think I could do natural cycles since my cycle is so irregular and BC helps my PCOS acne sooo much, but I’m really glad Jess found a solution that worked so well for her!
@Shayna Nelson I completely cut out dairy and gluten for a year and it had no impact on my acne. I did an elimination diet too to identify any food sensitivities and I don't have any. The only time I haven't had horrible, painful cystic acne is when I take birth control. I've tried literally everything to get rid of my acne and birth control is the only thing that's worked, so I'm going to stick with it for now.
I gave birth 5 months ago to my beautiful baby girl and it was natural birth. I still remember the pain of contractions, something unreal but worth. Now I'm watching your video with my girl and wishing you strength ☀️❤️
Natural cycles is SO great! I’ve been using it for over 2 years now and it’s amazing! When I got married I didn’t want to get on birth control bc I hadn’t ever been on it before, plus we wanted to start trying about 2 years in so I didn’t see the point of getting on it then getting right back off. I highly recommend natural cycles!!
my mum has had 5 kids, none of them with an epidural. they gave her gas and air for my eldest sibling and it made her vomit loads so since then she's had the rest of us without any medication. she delivered one of my sisters in water and she really liked that she said it was quite calming. i think it honestly depends on how you're feeling in the moment because after all it's you who has to give birth!!! (obviously its up to you, i just think it's interesting and can be helpful reading and hearing from others) x
Hey Jess!!! I was with my sister when she gave birth and just like watching the experience and seeing that was so cool. She did have complications but she’s all good now!! Her first baby is 2! It’s so crazy. Now onto book recommendations…I’m an English major haha so I love reading and writing. One book I’m reading right now is The Silent Patient. It’s super good right now and it’s a murder mystery/love novel. I wish you all the best with birth and your time in Australia. You deserve the ABSOLUTE best. ❤️❤️
Aussie student midwife here! Don’t be discouraged jess. People will push their opinions on to you but at the end of the day we’re taught that birth is normal and a physiological process! The power is in your hands and birth is sacred xx full autonomy is the goal for you I promise
I know it’s a personal choice but I really hope you guys do a birth vlog cuz I’m so ready to cry my eyes out🥹💜 of course it’s your choice and whatever you choose we respect it💜
If you haven't read it already but Sally Rooney, honestly any of her novels, but especially normal people. It's a very different writing style than I have read prior but definitely worth it.
I am 23 years old and I gave birth to my son on valentinesday. I had an unmedicated natural birth and let me tell you, the birthing process is soo evident of God's love and grace! You can do it Jess!
I gave birth a year ago and went into with the mindset that I wanted to try to go unmedicated but if it got too much I wasn't against getting an epidural. I ended up going completely unmedicated by using breathing and focusing on the moment and was an amazing feeling knowing my body could go through that.
just had a baby in February, unmedicated and let me tell you it was the most amazing experience in my life. Did it hurt? Yes wasn’t the best feeling in life but I just swayed and moaned and mentally buckled down. I relaxed my body each time I had a contractions and in my mind pictured baby moving down… I had back labor which sucked, so I had a stick on heating pad and I would just press into my back during the contractions! But I went from a 4 to pushing him out in an hour and half was sooo intense! But birth is a mental game and I practiced during pregnancy just relaxing every part of my body and mentally preparing myself. But remember there is a difference between pain and suffering if you are suffering do the epidural but if it’s just pain then you got this! And literally the moment they put the baby on your chest the pain is absolutely forgotten. And you also might gets the shakes after birth so be aware of that! And they do press on your tummy to make sure the uterus is going down but for me it didn’t hurt that bad it was just tender, and will get cramps which is your uterus going back down and worse while breastfeeding so I highly recommend having a heating pad, you might not feel it as bad but it does get worse with each kid. My favorite thing whole preparing for birth since I was having a VBAC was watching on TH-cam people giving birth without epidural! It both made me sooo excited and also prepared so highly recommend it. Check out the comb method, you can squeeze a comb in your hand and that helps make your brain not focus on the contraction pain. Also really loved the book called “the birth partner” by Penny Simkim so much amazing information! Because being informed is the best thing you can do for your birth! My husband even read it so that we both had it in our brain!
I have given birth to both my girls all natural no pain meds; they were both big babies too. I’ll tell you think no one supported my choice with my first born to not have pain meds. They all said just get the ‘drugs’ I wanted to experience all that is birth in its natural way. I was blessed that I was able to do that with no complications. I will tell you it’s hard but it’s hard in a beautiful way and your body was LITERALLY designed for it. Your hormones make natural things to help you cope. Prepare your mind for the most pain you’ve ever felt physically and go into knowing that you’re strong enough for it and go as long as possible without the meds.. you might surprise yourself and make it all the way. I wasn’t dead set on all natural the first time I just wanted so badly to have that experience. So my birth plan was to labor all natural until I couldn’t take it and I made it all the way both times. I recommend laboring in the water and getting out to push because your body makes a very thick lub to help the baby slip out (I didn’t tear either time) If you get into water this can make that lub less slippery and cause tearing. Hope this helps ♥️♥️💕
i had an unmedicated birth and it was intense, but I'm so glad i did it! I've always been terrified of birth and looking back, I'm so proud of myself for doing it. you got this!
I gave birth in April to a baby girl and I had an unmedicated water birth and a very positive birth experience🤍 Everyone around me told me I won’t be able to do it and that motivated me to just do it😂 just listen to your body and be open to everything because giving birth is so personal and unique🥰
I did an unmeficated birth with my 1st and then again in a water birth for my 2nd..the water birth was an amazing experience. Order yourself some Clary Sage essential oil... Fake candles, low lighting. I'm not against epidurals but I was always worried being the 1 in 10 (UK statistics) that had an complication caused my them. Good luck, you're body is made for it! X
yes! read a good girls guide to murder and felt the same way abt the ending. you have to read the second book and the ending will make sense it’s SO GOOD!
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Thank you! 😁
@@meepfriend1425 no problem!
You’re amazing
when did they reveal the gender?
Can’t believe we’re getting a Jess vlog & a Jess & Gabe vlog at the same time! 🤍 Can’t wait for baby girl Conte & you guys’ new chapter to start! 🥹
Hahahah though the same! I got so excited when I realized
@@valnucifora9992 Me too!!
I KNOW!! Love it
oh Jess I’m so sorry that people have projected onto you with their birthing experiences 🥺 I went in with a similar mindset to you, trusting God & the process of labour. I had a completely unmedicated labour and birthed our beautiful little girl. I did have a second degree tear but other than that baby was healthy and I recovered well. Keep an open mind and remember that you are so much stronger than you think! A huge affirmation for me during labour was “while I am weak He is strong” just trusting God every step of the way 🤍
I highly recommend you check out the BirthTime documentary, it is LIFE CHANGING! 🙏
While I am weak He is strong 😭💛 I love that so much
I was definitely told “just get the epidural” and “don’t try to be tough, you don’t have to impress anyone” when I mentioned that I’d like to try for an unmedicated birth (as if that’s what I was trying to do?). It’s very discouraging, but I want you to know that if you want to try it, go for it! I had an unmedicated birth my second pregnancy and it was an incredible experience. My first pregnancy was medicated and it was wonderful as well. You are amazing in whatever you choose, and try to tune out those who are discouraging to you. I used Bridget Taylor’s videos to prepare for my unmedicated birth and I was so prepared and loved it!
I've always wanted the epidural (i'm 9 months pregnant), and I've always heard the opposite! "Just try to go natural at first", "you're going to have back pain after", "you'll miss out on the experience" etc. I think no matter what we moms decide to do, the people who disagree will always be vocal about it
@@moodsofkiwi9285 that’s so true. It’s unfortunate that people can never seem to just be supportive. I’m so sorry that’s happened to you, it can definitely feel discouraging, especially from people you care about. I hope your birth goes wonderfully and that you are able to get the epidural ❤️
I did relaxation birth with my second child and it was amazingly more positive!
Hi Jess! My mom gave birth to my sister in the hospital after being induced and to me in a "birthing center", in water and she always said she had liked the more natural birth a lot more because she felt more respected and everything was like soft, loving and the pain was not worse. Hope all goes well for you❤️
I don’t think someone should be more or less respected because of the type of birth they choose. but glad you had a positive experience :) 🤍
@@martham6 no of course everyone should be respected! but my mom had explained that the doctors in the hospital were less gentle, even agressive in their movements whereas in the birthing center they were a lot nicer and more "respectful" of her (I’m French so maybe respect doesn’t have the same connotation in English)
I’ve done 3 unmedicated births and I went into it with the mindset I wanted to be able to get up and move. But I was also open to get an epidural if I felt overwhelmed with the pain. I never got to the point where I felt like I couldn’t handle it. I think having an idea of what you want, but also trusting your doctor/midwife to do what is safest for you and your baby is the best mindset going into birth! You got this!!
so in awe of your strength & amazing capacity to endure so many changes in such a short amount of time. im incredibly excited to be on this journey virtually with you 😊💕
The part where you mentioned your love for Gabe has grown so much since your wedding day - just you wait until you see him holding your little baby for the first time. I didn’t think I could possibly love my husband any more, but seeing him become a dad truly made my love for him grow so much and continue to grow. I’m so excited for you to experience all the joy and wonder of motherhood, it is the best thing that ever happened to me ❤️
I think about this all the time and it makes me emotional hahaha 😭 it’s one of the top things I’m looking forward to, I can’t wait to see him with her 🥲
I'm so excited for your & Gabes baby's safe arrival. Its such a precious and magical time. Such a privilege for us to be included in this special milestone. ❤ you're doing amazing, Jess. Sending you good vibes 😊
I was in a similar journey while I was pregnant and chose to go the natural birth route. I was so scared I wouldn’t be able to do it. A lot of people are negative about it so I didn’t talk to anyone about my plans really. But my birth was the best experience of my life. It was 4.5 hours long and I felt so powerful and exhilarated.. you really can do what you set your mind to. Christian hypnobirthing and positive birth stories were super powerful in preparing 💛
Honestly birth is just beautiful. I watched my sister give birth when I was 18 (I was 6 weeks pregnant without knowing bay the time) and I loved the experience and to share that with her. Sometime that blew everyone’s minds, I would watch birth blogs, midwife shows etc and I feel like it mentally prepared me, taught me a lot of phrases and terminology, showed me tips on pain relief. I wasn’t scared to give birth at all ❤️🥰
I went unmedicated for both births. Second birth I was induced which was more intense but I was really set on not having an epidural, not that I’m against them but for me I already had back problems, I also really wanted to feel the whole experience. My biggest tip is focus on your breathing and hot showers (or the tub if you go water birth) is amazing!! Helps a lot.
It’s hard to commit to a name honestly, with both of my kids I had two names but also leaned more towards one then the other. With my daughter we had Natalie Rose (one I leaned more towards) and Kaylee Rose. Just looking at her I knew she wasn’t a Natalie. Even though I love that name even now 7 years later. With my son we did want Charlie but our niece was named that, then by the end it was out of Arlo (my partner loved this) and Maddox (my favourite because it’s welsh and my family is welsh). It took us a few hours but we knew 🥰
Out of experience I’m 21 years old and gave birth naturally without an epidural. It’s so beautiful knowing that we can have that strength and bring a little baby to the world. I support everyone’s opinion but always listen to your body. I’m sure you’ll know what to do when the right time comes and all that matter is that you have a safe delivery Jess. I love you and can’t wait to meet your baby 😍❤️
It's not a problem bud. However, it depend on the sex you done.
Just epidural input: I'm so scared of needles and IVs, so I did a natural water birth and I'm glad I did. Yes it was painful but I always felt like "I can do this" the pain never felt out of control or beyond me. In the middle of my 5 hour labor my body even slowed down contractions to allow me to nap twice to get more strength. I loved that my body knew exactly what I needed, and I think having an epidural would have masked some of my body's capabilities! You'll do great and your body will amaze you no matter which way you go though! ☺️
This makes me so happy. Our minds and bodies are amazing. Congrats mama!
im a midwife and calm birth educator and what you said at the end made me so happy .To have conversations with your partner about what life and your relationship is going to be like once baby is here before the baby is here. Managing boundaries with visitors, expectations of each other in baby care and household duties etc, managing self care for each other, signs of postnatal depression and what to do. All SO important!! you're doing great Jess, you will be great parents.
My biggest advice is have no expectations. I had my “dream birth” I wanted so bad to have my boys naturally but ended with a c section and I just wish I would have went in with the mindset of no expectations but praying for a safe and healthy baby.. things like that. You are so inspirational 💗
Love that!! No expectations 💛🙏🏼
I love what you said. “Even though she is your world try to still have a world of your own” that’s beautiful! As a first time mom I wish I would have heard that sooner!
Also when it comes to your birthing experience, although hard to ignore some people opinions/comments try to not let it get the best of you. I was super similar in what I wanted for my labor and delivery and I let everyone scare me. At the end of the day it was beautiful and perfect and now I have my son because of it. You are STRONG, god created our bodies for this and you are capable of anything you set your mind too
Watching your weekly videos is like talking to a best friend that lives on the other side of the world that you only talk atleast once a week to catch up. I’m not much of a social media fan but I wait for your videos because it feels so real and comforting. Thank you for being you Jess!💜
I'm so excited for you guys!! my baby girl just turned 1 and it has been the best year of my life. God is good 🤍🤍 love you guys!
Watching you Jess is always very calming and relaxing, your aura, voice, everything. Wishing you all the very best in this season you and Gabe are stepping into, May the Lord oversee your birth and parenthood...Love you three so much!
I think you’ll seriously surprise yourself during birth! It’s inevitable and you’re so so capable. I absolutely loved giving birth to my two boys. People look at me weird when i say that but the pain is temporary, and the HUGE feeling of accomplishment and the joy of doing what you have to do to meet your baby face to face is absolutely amazing. You’ll do great, Jess. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I just gave birth to my first baby 8 weeks ago and did it all natural and you can totally do it! It’s much more mental than physical in my opinion. Affirmations, knowing your body was made to do this, each contraction is just one minute closer to meeting the love of your life, and your body won’t put you in more pain than you can handle. Being able to birth my baby girl natural and unmedicated was such a huge accomplishment for me and made me feel so powerful and proud. No matter how you give birth, women are incredible but for me personally, I felt so proud of myself. You’ve got this! 💕
I had two unmedicated natural births, I knew it was what I wanted to do and when I told people that was my plan they were kind of negative! I just surrendered my thoughts and pain to God. Listened and focused on worship while I was progressing with contractions. You are absolutely right, God created our bodies to do this! You’ve got this Jess.
During contractions, have Gabe push on pressure points and focus on that pressure and not the pain. Remember that contractions are waves, just have to get through the wave and take a breather than brave the wave again.
I had a water birth at home. It was so amazing. I was too afraid of the unknown and I definitely made it out to be worse than it is. Yes, it’s intense but the most empowering experience. I felt most comfortable at home and my birth team was so respectful and encouraging. You got this mama!!
The water is absolutely amazing btw. I got in when I started pushing and absolutely no pain. I was wondering why I didn’t get in sooner 😂
jess ur GLOWING. so honored to be included in this phase of ur life :)) praying for you and bb girl 🫶🏼
love you jess, can’t wait for the baby to arrive, she’ll be so loved ❤️
I had the same mindset for the "epidural vs no epidural" decision, and I had some people look at me sideways like if I didn't DETERMINE that I wasn't doing the epidural I would probably just give in, but I really just didn't want to confine myself to a decision when I had no idea what it feels like to me. I took birth classes and tried to prepare as much as possible, and I did end up doing it all naturally with no pain meds. Deep breathing, movement, and being in the bath were my go-to's for coping. The contractions hurt, but to me it was totally doable, and I don't consider myself to have a super high pain tolerance. The pushing, however, was really rough for me, and lasted over 2 hours. But at that point I knew I was almost done, and knowing I was about to see my baby's face any minute gave me the strength I needed til the end.
You're gonna do a great job!! And if you get in there and you decide you want the epidural, just party like its 2022 and get it! ❤ A mother's ability and stength aren't defined by the details of her birthing experience. Wishing you all the best!
Hi Jess! In light of this incredibly beautiful Q+A, I wanna share my birth story if that might help you through this very nerve wracking process. And disclaimer, I’m a women of faith and my birth story has a lot of comments about how faith and God got me through it.
I gave birth to my son 4.5 years ago when I was 20. I have birth at home, naturally. My intention was to have a home water birth but as I labored very quickly ( praise God) , the tub became more a soothing point and I decided pushing on the floor on a mattress was the most comfortable position for me personally.
So going into pregnancy, I knew I wanted to do a natural birth, and I knew I wanted to avoid medication. I wanted to experience child birth the way God intended for it to be and something I walked through with more faith than anything else.
And to be honest, I had so many doubts. Contractions are painful, labor is painful, the entire child birth process is painful. I’m not going to sugar coat that experience at all. With that being said, Gods design was in full awareness for me. My mind went to a space I don’t think exists outside of child birth , but a space that I knew full well was designed for us women to enter into while undergoing that kind of pain. It’s more than mind over matter ( although we can simplify it to that) , it felt more primitive than that. That I had no other choice but to manage the pain with intention, Grace, and understanding. I was experiencing the pain in full force but internalizing it in such a way that allowed for
me to breathe my way into it. My mom and husband were amazing touch people , but labor is entirely alone. Leaning on them for things you need is so important and helpful , and I pray that your birth is as beautiful and intentional as you wish for it to be.
I know full well you are created and designed to overcome the pain, however you may perceive it. And for me, the only thing I went to mentally was “I’m going to see my baby soon” and that was a beautiful thought to continuously be reminded of naturally.
And honestly it’s the only thing , at the end of the day, that created the beauty in the entire birthing process.
Passing the placenta was easy after baby was skin to skin. And those few moments after your child comes and meets you and gabe is going to dissolve the labor experience into a piece of cake.
Heavenly Father, I lift up Jess to you today. I pray for her strength and her courage to overcome child birth in a way that you have intended for her and her child. I pray that you touch her body, mind, and soul as she births her daughter. I pray for a quick, simple, beautiful labor for her, and I ask that you allow for her to lean onto you during that time. I pray for the health of her baby, and that if it is your will, the outcome of this process for both Jess and her daughter is entirely healthy. Lastly, I pray for Gabe. As he enters fatherhood with his wife , as they enter parenthood together, grant him the strength and courage to continue to uplift his wife and raise his daughter with the kind of tenderness and grace you have intended for a father. I pray for them to be strengthened entirely to you and your love walking through parenthood together. In Jesus name , amen!
Love you Jess! Love you Gabe! Love you baby G. Good luck beautiful, you got this
Wow, thank you so so much 😭😭💛💛
I am so happy for you guys. As for birth every person is different. People scared me and nurses pushed the medication but I did what I wanted to do and I am glad I did. I had my son natural, no epidural, no medication. The Dr broke my water at 9am and he was born at 9:29am. I had been in the hosp since 8pm the prev night due to high BP that just crept on me. Felt every contraction and every push. God was all in it. Our bodies are made for it.😊 I say do what Jess' heart wants and I promise you won't regret it. ❤🎉 Congrats again!!
my favourite kind of videos - i’m ready for the catch up session with jess! always feels like chilling with a bestie 💛
Jess, CONGRATULATIONS! I'm a birth doula in NC and first off I'm so glad you are taking Bridget's course, she is an incredible birth educator. If you are wanting a water birth go for it! But do so in an educated way, so you aren't just "going with the flow". The thing everyone doesn't tell us about birth, is that our body produces natural hormone painkillers (endorphins) during labor. Those are the same endorphins that allow people to run marathons. So just as you said, our bodies are built for this. Keep reading those positive birth stories to help shift that mindset. In the doula world we talk about "KICO" and "Floppy Face/Floppy Fanny" as a reminder when laboring to keep your "knees in, calves out" which helps naturally open the pelvis, relax the face, relax the fanny. Allow yourself to fully rest between surges, ride the waves of each 60 sec surge (20sec build, 20sec peak, 20sec coming down). If you haven't already hired a doula I would definitely recommend it just to have the extra support for yourself and Gabe. Sending lots of love and support for a positive birth experience.
Giving birth is truly the best experience! I loved every single moment and i cant wait to do it again! It does hurt obviously but the empowerment of birth and then holding the love of your life after. Its incredible
I had a drug free water birth (first time mum) last year.. can’t recommend highly enough! I can’t imagine giving birth anywhere but in the water, it’s just so weightless and takes the edge off! My biggest advice is really use the breaks in-between contractions, they are there for a reason, don’t think about the contraction before or the one coming just embrace and enjoy the relief in that moment, centre yourself & take some deep breaths to re-oxygenate your body and baby. And remember you can do anything for a minute! You got this girl, you will honestly amaze yourself with what you are capable of!! Focus on all those positive stories and forget the rest xx
One thing I admire about you and Gabe is, how you all take the time to count the cost. You all count the cost on marriage, on moving, etc. You all always stay aware of the risk and the cost thereof. Love it.
"growing up with us" that one hit me, I really did grow up with you guys.
I started watching this channel at 16 (now I'm 20) and seeing how much you've grown as persons but also as a couple, all that stuff has been beautiful
thank you for letting us be part of your journey
I had a 43 hour natural, unmedicated labor with my son, and yes, of course it was hard and painful, but it was soooo worth it! I can look back now and be so proud of myself for getting through that. So if unmedicated is your preference, just stick with that, you can get through it! ❤️
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A Jess video and a Jess & Gabe video in the same minute, happy Saturday 😇
Jess you’re glowing omg, love you!!
I just had my daughter 6 weeks ago at a birth center (no interventions or medications) in a tub and it was incredible! Everyone thought I was crazy but I HIGHLY recommend trying the water birth. Some things I didn’t realize,
1. How nonexistent time would become during active labor
2. You can have contractions in your thighs (mine felt like intense period cramps)
3. Your contractions can feel the same the whole time (my water broke first so they were fairly intense the whole time but never got more intense during transition)
4. Your babies appearance will change drastically in the first hours (take lots of pictures)
Things that helped me
1. Hot shower on my stomach & thighs during active labor
2. Husband doing counter-presser on my hips
3. Calming meditation music (I’d listen to this before birth to help visualize what it would be like)
4. The tub during pushing phase
Good luck mama and you’re incredible regardless of how you bring your girl into the world!❤️
Hey Jess! The good girls guide to murder has 2 other books to go along with it! The second is “Good girl bad blood” and the third is “As good as dead”! Can’t wait for Baby Girl Conte! ❤️
I've had 3 babies all unmedicated and my youngest was a water birth. That was by far my most comfortable birth, it wasn't pain free but was a lot more comfortable than my other two ☺️
I had my 3 babies at home, unmedicated. Like you said, to each their own. Some don't want to imagine birth without an epidural or c-section, and I don't want to imagine it with either. None are wrong, just go with what you want to do. If it needs to change during labor, go with it, otherwise, just enjoy the experience- the end result is the best!
watching Jess heals my depression..and I’ve been suffering wether to stay in the world or not for years. 🖤
Sending you so much love!! you are so beautiful and worthy 🙏🏼❤️❤️
So excited for you guys! we had our little girl 6 months ago and it has been just SO fun, you guys are going to LOVE it! I totally understand the negativity towards going unmedicated -- everybody I talked to made it sound impossible! Thankfully my mom and husband were encouraging, and watching TH-cam videos of people's unmedicated birth stories was encouraging, too. During labor I just kept telling myself I could do it because I truly believed it! I loved the unmedicated experience and was so amazed by my body when all was said and done. You CAN do it if that's what you really want. that being said, I tried to keep an open mind about an epidural and will consider it in the future if I feel it's necessary. 😊
so excited for you both you and gabe! i've been here since your dating days and now you're having a baby girl 🥹💛 can't wait to "meet" here and remember that she's already loved by her aunties and uncles around the world 🥰🫶🏻
and siblings because i was their child first 😂
@@angel-fk6rn you're gonna be a big sis! 😆
@@mayeveryday omg i’m so used to being a little sis that i don’t know how to handle it! 🤣 but i guess i will have to learn to adjust HAHAHAHA
Hey Jess! I had an unmedicated water birth for my first baby 3 weeks ago and it was the most incredible and empowering experience! I’m still on a high about it, I hope you get to have this amazing experience as well. Trust your body 💓
i hope you read this. one of my friends got a baby girl. she prayed so much for that day because she wanted to give birth naturally. it’s an amazing testimony today because she said looking back now, she can’t even remember the pain because the moment was so amazing that’s what she remembered. they had 1% chance of becoming pregnant btw, both her and the husband had issues. God is amazing! I’m really praying for this last bit of your journey!
I can’t believe you’re already 8 months! My sister just gave birth to her beautiful baby girl on Sunday and I had the privilege of being a birthing partner. It was honestly one of the most emotional experiences of my life. While it was awful seeing her in pain I was also filled with so much love and admiration. It’s a feeling I can’t truly explain but the human body really is designed to birth and it was so fascinating to watch my baby Niece come into the world. I’m so excited for you and your family to experience this and I’ve got so much confidence in you. You’ve totally got this! ❤️
Wow I love that so much 🥲🥲💛
Best tip I can give for childbirth; go into thinking that it will be the absolute worst pain in the world that you will ever experience and your actual experience will be very different, it worked for me! 🥰
I’ve now had two births without an epidural and it’s the best most empowering thing to go through
It has been so beautiful watching you grow 🥺
Jess dear, I have been following you and Gabriel for a few years now, and I have never come to writing a comment up until now.
I feel I must tell you that choosing over and over again to hear/look/see the positive in whatever it is you are looking at.. is truly hart worming and filling me with hope that there is a good place in life to live it. This is extremely important to feel having to go through numerous life challenging experiences (Emotionally is ‘main base camp’ here, if you will) which leave you with serious baggage of diss-believe in the human of man kind that is GOOD. That is SAFE TO BE AROUND that is HAPPY ENOUGH TO LIVE AROUND in this world…. And you my dear.. are a clear beautiful example for that.
I find you pure, connected to the positive by choice, and so respectable of your inner self and you private life with Gabriel and family to be. The modesty in your soul is well preserved and that is an example for today’s generation - that I find SO IMPORTANT!!! It is beautiful, it protects the innocence in life which is so fragile in these day..
Thank you Jess sweet hart. You are beautiful inside and out. Gabriel and your entire family is lucky to have you.. keep on being the wonderful you.. and the intention will send of the waves for someone out there to choose better for himself with compassion to his actions, hart and life story.
I send all my best to you & family, have a happy healthy full handed birth, and may the grace in life fill your home with glory and joy of Harts , that is all that is.
Ashirah.
I highly recommend a disc or cup option! I hate tampons and pads as well because they are uncomfortable and feel “dirty”. Discs typically can last for 12 hours and even at night and it’s so much more comfy and less wasteful!
If you’re struggling with a one sided friendship read this:
I was in school and my bsf was in my class and our school was pretty small, anyways..she was never there for me and really jealous of everything i do so i wanted to let her go and what someone told me is “Is it worse to sit alone or to sit with this person who’s no good for you” because sitting alone is really annoying and sad but it’s wayyy better than sitting with someone who always pulls you down and eventually you’ll find better friends
Hey Jess, hope you are doing well. I love to check up on people even though it might be one-sided. I miss meeting people and after the pandemic, I have become socially inactive. Sometimes things get overwhelming. Take care of yourself mentally and physically. We are always there for you and I love you.
@@k0al0 Thank you so much. I always believe in spreading joy and happiness and being there for people even if I once had grudge against them I can't stay mad for long. Hope you have a great week ahead too:)
I had an unmedicated water birth for my first baby 6 months ago. I encourage you to try and do it, if that’s what you see yourself wanting. Don’t let others opinions and stories discourage you. I had so many people who had several children tell me how bad it is and all of that. But I always tried to keep a positive mind set and only focus on “whatsoever things are true”. I always tried to replace any negative thought with a positive truth about my body and birth.
I absolutely had no thoughts of an epidural during my birth, and never had a thought of wanting to quit. Of course it was hard but I knew it wouldn’t last forever and at the end I would meet my baby.
I loved it and absolutely want medication free births for all my children.
I hope that may encourage you. And I hope you have a healthy rest of your pregnancy and a birth you can think back fondly of.
My best friend has had 4 babies all natural births. She’s always said to me she felt like she had more control over her body having her kids.
Good luck darling can’t wait to hear her name. ❤️🇦🇺
I’ve done natural cycles since I took my IUD out 13 months ago and it’s been life changing. Highly recommend if you’re sick of the side effects from more popular birth control forms. (This is not a medical opinion, just my personal experience)
I realize this video was posted 10 days ago, but I’m just getting a chance to check it out. As a mama of 2, I want to encourage and back your decision to just see how the pain is during childbirth! Good for you for not putting any decisions in concrete. There is NO reason why you have to choose now. I’m so glad you are giving yourself the space to choose when you have more knowledge. 🙏🏼🎉
The menstrual cup is life changing, me and my daughter both use them.
I had natural births with no pain relief and they were brilliant.
Had a spinal injection for a c section that didn't work, ended up being put to sleep.
If you can do it natural go for it but if you need pain relief go for that.
It's totally your choice.
Also tried gas and Air for non birth reasons recently and it was really good. I was to scared to try it during birth but I think it would of been helpful xx
Do whatever works best for you and baby during labor. Sometimes not getting the epidural and letting your body go through the pain can make your body not relax and not progress so at that point it would probably be suggested but everyone is different and every pregnancy is different. The only thing I always say after having our daughter is keep an open mind throughout the process because some people have a set birthing plan and you truthfully can’t control anything other than maybe your pain. As long as you and baby are safe at the end of the day that’s all that matters. You’ve got this💗
Regarding the tampon/pad question... I've never liked tampons and I HATE pads! When I first heard about a menstrual cup I thought it would be very similar to a tampon ( the feeling of it etc.) but let me tell you it's nothing like having a tampon. A menstrual cup is the best thing I did for myself. My periods are way shorter, they are definitely not as painful as before, I don't have to think about buying pads, it's eco friendly because you reduce the amount of waste. I just love it and I recommend it to everyone!!!
I just had my first baby 11 days ago unmedicated and even though it was very hard I highly recommend trying to go all natural. You got this Jess! ☺️
Don't listen to anyone else as to how you should go about giving birth. Everyone's experience is so different, everyone's body is different and no 2 experiences will be the same regardless. Follow your instincts and you will be fine. I tried getting in the water and hated it and ended up doing most of my labour on my feet "on the land". In the end, I needed to have baby turned and forceps which was never part of the plan but I still consider my whole experience to be a really positive and calm one and I'm not at all fearful of giving birth again in October. I found gas and air really helpful as it really focuses your breathing. You got this girl. Sending love and prayers xx
I'm still in awe that we are pregnant at the same time and our baby girls will be born in the same year ❤ I talk about you guys at home like you're our personal friends 😅 not to mention you are now going to be living just an hour and a half away from us!! 🎉 I hope one day to meet you three ❤
I started Natural Cycles about 2.5 weeks ago because my fiancé and I get married at the end of the month and I didn’t want to get on the pill and so far I’m really liking it!
I would definitely give the natural birth podcast a listen. Going unmedicated is amazing and the biggest tip is that it's a mind game. Believe in yourself !!
I had my son without an epidural. It’s really hard but you get through it and then feel super empowered. Whatever it is your birth brings you will do it because you are stronger than you think. And do NOT listen to negative comments or stories, those don’t help at all.
I’ve had 3 bubs. The two I had with epidurals slowed labour down soooooo much. And one took so long that bub turned her head, got stuck and then we needed an emergency csect. (There were other complications too.) The one I laboured standing up and in the shower was so much quicker and more active. And Brissy midwives are the best. They don’t make you lie on your back to give birth. They help you to let gravity work!
Don’t be scared of getting an epidural because everyone tells you to do it. If you want to do it without drugs, the midwives will support you. You can do this!
Appreciate this!! 💛
I was on natural cycles ! I was on it for a year and got pregnant. I still loved the app. I wouldn’t recommend going on it if you are REALLY not ready for a baby.
We would go back on it again after baby is born , but be vigilant 😊
Out of curiosity, Did you do it perfectly and follow all of the red days? Or did you get pregnant regardless of following all the rules?
I did a birth center for our baby and it was the best experience! I even had complications and even though it was so hard, it was 100% worth the effort and struggle. Built to Birth is a great course. Breastfeeding is harder than anyone talks about -- get lots of support and you can do it and it is SO worth it!
Ps - the cup is amazing but everything down there is pretty loose for a while post birth so I wouldn't recommend trying the cup until ~6+ months postpartum -- until youve healed :) Otherwise you won't get the true idea of what is like (I used a cup for about 3 years before baby and now use it again)
You’ve got this! I have had 3 births. The first two were unmedicated and the 3rd I opted for a little bit of pain management (not epidural). I’m so glad I didn’t do an epidural because as soon as baby was born and healthy I was up on my feet and in the shower. There was no grogginess or anything like that. When it came to my 3rd I felt I didn’t want to do it completely medication free and decided to try the gas, and fentanyl. It didn’t take the pain away but it let me take each contracting at a time and cope better! Whatever you decide will be great and God is with you.
Jess you will do amazing do not be scared to give birth unmedicated I did with my first and the thing that helped me get through was knowing this pain was 1. Temporary 2. I can handle any pain for 30 secs to 1 min 3. One contraction closer to our baby 4. I was literally made to do this and millions of women have done it before me and I can do it too! You will be an amazing mother and regardless of how you give birth be so very proud of yourself, it is your birth do it the way you want and are comfortable!!! Praying for a safe, healthy and swift delivery of baby girl!❤️❤️💞💞
I have had 2 natural, unmediated births & they’ve both been absolutely INCREDIBLE! Be encouraged, you CAN do it if you SET your mind & heart to it. 🤍 Praying for a smooth labor & delivery regardless!
Thank you so much 💛
Had my first baby at 25, my husband was 27 at the time, same as you. Fast forward 2 years and we now have 2 boys. I love seeing you getting ready to be a mother, you'll both do a great job! Sending love and prayers from Europe 😊
I like the question asking current Jess say to leave a message to Post Pregnancy Jess. Really thoughtful
I watched one video that said to definitely do more research on postpartum than you think you need to. Some refer it to the “4th trimester” because those 3 months of feeling kinda awkward in your body after birth, and all the changes is definitely something worth preparing for to set yourself up beneficially for that period of time.
The talking about what will happen when you’re both tired is awesome!!! It’s an amazing experience.
I started to use the menstrual cup a few months ago and it’s a game changer!! I use it the first half of my flow and then just wear a panty liner! It takes a bit to get used to but it’s so nice! 😁
Couldn't help feeling emotional thinking about what beautiful parents you guys are gonna be, and I love that we get to watch part of your journey and hear your experiences🤍
My baby girl is 6 months and one thing I’d give advice is take the epidural! It doesn’t make you any more of a hero for feeling the pain, and it doesn’t stop you from enjoying your baby when they’re born! I stopped pressing the button to release the epidural an hour before I gave birth and managed to birth her with no intervention! Also… do some meal prep before shes born! You’ll appreciate the nutritious meals in a sea of tea and biscuits! It’s the best gift in the world, and the pain I went through I no longer remember! You’ve got this! So excited for you to enter motherhood because it’s truly everything and more xxxx
I don’t think I could do natural cycles since my cycle is so irregular and BC helps my PCOS acne sooo much, but I’m really glad Jess found a solution that worked so well for her!
@Shayna Nelson I completely cut out dairy and gluten for a year and it had no impact on my acne. I did an elimination diet too to identify any food sensitivities and I don't have any. The only time I haven't had horrible, painful cystic acne is when I take birth control. I've tried literally everything to get rid of my acne and birth control is the only thing that's worked, so I'm going to stick with it for now.
I gave birth 5 months ago to my beautiful baby girl and it was natural birth. I still remember the pain of contractions, something unreal but worth. Now I'm watching your video with my girl and wishing you strength ☀️❤️
Natural cycles is SO great! I’ve been using it for over 2 years now and it’s amazing! When I got married I didn’t want to get on birth control bc I hadn’t ever been on it before, plus we wanted to start trying about 2 years in so I didn’t see the point of getting on it then getting right back off. I highly recommend natural cycles!!
Love that it worked so well for you 🥰
my mum has had 5 kids, none of them with an epidural. they gave her gas and air for my eldest sibling and it made her vomit loads so since then she's had the rest of us without any medication. she delivered one of my sisters in water and she really liked that she said it was quite calming. i think it honestly depends on how you're feeling in the moment because after all it's you who has to give birth!!! (obviously its up to you, i just think it's interesting and can be helpful reading and hearing from others) x
Hey Jess!!! I was with my sister when she gave birth and just like watching the experience and seeing that was so cool. She did have complications but she’s all good now!! Her first baby is 2! It’s so crazy. Now onto book recommendations…I’m an English major haha so I love reading and writing. One book I’m reading right now is The Silent Patient. It’s super good right now and it’s a murder mystery/love novel. I wish you all the best with birth and your time in Australia. You deserve the ABSOLUTE best. ❤️❤️
Ooooh thank you for the book rec 🤩🤩
Aussie student midwife here! Don’t be discouraged jess. People will push their opinions on to you but at the end of the day we’re taught that birth is normal and a physiological process! The power is in your hands and birth is sacred xx full autonomy is the goal for you I promise
Also highly recommend Australian birth stories podcast!!
You are going to make the best mum!! 🥰❤️ xx
TWO videos at the same time? Woohoo!
These kind of videos are so helpful ❤️✨
I know it’s a personal choice but I really hope you guys do a birth vlog cuz I’m so ready to cry my eyes out🥹💜 of course it’s your choice and whatever you choose we respect it💜
If you haven't read it already but Sally Rooney, honestly any of her novels, but especially normal people. It's a very different writing style than I have read prior but definitely worth it.
I am 23 years old and I gave birth to my son on valentinesday. I had an unmedicated natural birth and let me tell you, the birthing process is soo evident of God's love and grace! You can do it Jess!
I gave birth a year ago and went into with the mindset that I wanted to try to go unmedicated but if it got too much I wasn't against getting an epidural. I ended up going completely unmedicated by using breathing and focusing on the moment and was an amazing feeling knowing my body could go through that.
that’s so amazing 🥲 thank you for sharing!
just had a baby in February, unmedicated and let me tell you it was the most amazing experience in my life. Did it hurt? Yes wasn’t the best feeling in life but I just swayed and moaned and mentally buckled down. I relaxed my body each time I had a contractions and in my mind pictured baby moving down… I had back labor which sucked, so I had a stick on heating pad and I would just press into my back during the contractions! But I went from a 4 to pushing him out in an hour and half was sooo intense! But birth is a mental game and I practiced during pregnancy just relaxing every part of my body and mentally preparing myself. But remember there is a difference between pain and suffering if you are suffering do the epidural but if it’s just pain then you got this! And literally the moment they put the baby on your chest the pain is absolutely forgotten. And you also might gets the shakes after birth so be aware of that! And they do press on your tummy to make sure the uterus is going down but for me it didn’t hurt that bad it was just tender, and will get cramps which is your uterus going back down and worse while breastfeeding so I highly recommend having a heating pad, you might not feel it as bad but it does get worse with each kid.
My favorite thing whole preparing for birth since I was having a VBAC was watching on TH-cam people giving birth without epidural! It both made me sooo excited and also prepared so highly recommend it. Check out the comb method, you can squeeze a comb in your hand and that helps make your brain not focus on the contraction pain. Also really loved the book called “the birth partner” by Penny Simkim so much amazing information! Because being informed is the best thing you can do for your birth! My husband even read it so that we both had it in our brain!
I have given birth to both my girls all natural no pain meds; they were both big babies too. I’ll tell you think no one supported my choice with my first born to not have pain meds. They all said just get the ‘drugs’ I wanted to experience all that is birth in its natural way. I was blessed that I was able to do that with no complications. I will tell you it’s hard but it’s hard in a beautiful way and your body was LITERALLY designed for it. Your hormones make natural things to help you cope. Prepare your mind for the most pain you’ve ever felt physically and go into knowing that you’re strong enough for it and go as long as possible without the meds.. you might surprise yourself and make it all the way. I wasn’t dead set on all natural the first time I just wanted so badly to have that experience. So my birth plan was to labor all natural until I couldn’t take it and I made it all the way both times. I recommend laboring in the water and getting out to push because your body makes a very thick lub to help the baby slip out (I didn’t tear either time)
If you get into water this can make that lub less slippery and cause tearing.
Hope this helps ♥️♥️💕
I wish nothing else but only good thing happens to you during your delivery. Love you Jess!!💛
i had an unmedicated birth and it was intense, but I'm so glad i did it! I've always been terrified of birth and looking back, I'm so proud of myself for doing it. you got this!
I gave birth in April to a baby girl and I had an unmedicated water birth and a very positive birth experience🤍 Everyone around me told me I won’t be able to do it and that motivated me to just do it😂 just listen to your body and be open to everything because giving birth is so personal and unique🥰
I did an unmeficated birth with my 1st and then again in a water birth for my 2nd..the water birth was an amazing experience. Order yourself some Clary Sage essential oil... Fake candles, low lighting. I'm not against epidurals but I was always worried being the 1 in 10 (UK statistics) that had an complication caused my them. Good luck, you're body is made for it! X
The risk of the Umbilical cord wrapped around the babies neck and killing it is so high when taking Pitocin
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yes! read a good girls guide to murder and felt the same way abt the ending. you have to read the second book and the ending will make sense it’s SO GOOD!
im so happy to know that you’re doing well!! wishing you a great and healthy rest of pregnancy ❤️❤️❤️