Let me tell you something.. I met your son while running errands in Sprouts. I was talking to the cashier about different podcasts and the way your son interjected and put me and sis on to you. I could tell that he was so proud! Job well done momma! So happy I have you to listen to now! Thank you 🙏🏾
OMG I thought I had adult ADHD I was so indecisive and insecure and thought I couldn’t trust my own decisions. That was the insecurity instilled in me by my mother. I am relearning to trust myself and my own decisions again. Thank you 😊
As a recently diagnosed ADHD woman I had this same conversation with my counselor today (our first meeting) because she asked me “it seems you operate in extremes have you always been this way?” In my 34 years have I NEVER thought about this?!
23:22 - YES!!! I struggled financially for so long. Currently, my finances are better than ever. I have an excellent credit score for the first time in my adult life and I'm 53 y/o. It took for me to move over 800 miles away to really start trusting myself and I'm so grateful I did because I'm a different person than I was when I left 5 years ago. The PEACE that I have is indescribable. It has taken a lot of work AND it has been worth it.
Coming from a therapist, THIS IS SO ACCURATE!!!!!! Whether it’s being indecisive because it’s a learned behavior, or the mother not allowing autonomy when it comes to decision-making. Also, making certain choices based off of the mother’s approval, and sometimes the mother doesn’t even make the best choices. it is definitely a cycle that has to be broken by creating trust within yourself. This was a great episode!
I’m a 32 white women with a mother that comes from an Irish background but your messages resonate with me and my mother-wound so much! always find myself listening to these and feelings so heard and understand! I hope it’s okay I’m here!
There is a book Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. It is complex. My mother was a great beauty but she wanted to control her world and everyone in it. Yes this site is great.
I'm a 37 year old white woman. I know I can not understand the black woman's perspective, and I respect that. I have to say this podcast is still really helping me with my mother issues.
From birth, I was rejected by my mother and throughout out growing up, some how rejected and abuse sexually and physically, I will say it is by God’s grace I’m standing and going through life thinking all is well when it is not! Those mom wounds are being manifested and greatly affecting my relationships with my girls! My husband and I are 2 broken children in our adulthood sadly.
I just ran across this podcast yesterday!!! To be honest, I think it was the Lords doing!!! The information is so insightful!!!! Thank you for being so transparent!!!
Omg. You are truly amazing. Self love has taught me this. It took sooo long to understand what it meant to reparent myself because i knew how to look functional, but i didn't trust myself.. pheww the shame I'd feel if i didn't even do a small thing right... Thank you for voicing this side of our struggle....one step at a time. I trust myself and trust the time given to me, coz my procrastination was also a result of me not trusting myself....🙏🏾
1:30 Oh my! That is exactly how I felt before I started on my healing journey. As a matter of fact, my mother and former bff told me and my new husband (48 y/o me and my 54 y/o husband) at the time that they didn't think it was a good idea for us to move to FL from the DMV, without knowing any details. 🤦🏽♀ They had all kinds of negative sh*t to say. That was when I committed to doing what my heart was leading me to do instead of listening to them. We packed up and moved without telling them when, because they would've tried to stop me. Mannnnn, it was the BEST DECISION I EVER MADE! That's when I learned to trust myself and God. Ok, let me finish listening....
21:54 this. 35 years old and only last week I fully acknowledged my perspective of people is so low that everyone needs saving because I felt like I needed saving no matter how well I was doing
I've been binge watching/listening your channel from the moment I came across one of your video's by accident... When I listen to you I feel heard, not alone anymore and you hit the nail on the head every time! You say what I have been feeling but not been able to voice out loud myself
1.5 yrs ago I just told myself I keep my word to myself and started to do things cause I said I would it. It has been a game changer. This is a great podcast. I was thinking about my frustration of being highly parentified as a child and now being infantilized as an adult. I am glad we are talking about it
It’s not just black mothers, it is actually also very prevalent in Asian mothers as well, mainly the immigrants. This is bc they were all in survival mode trying to adjust in America and forcing their kids to be achievement based bc good grades meant a good job which meant survival. So if some of the kids were not able to excel in school they were pretty much considered a useless failure. The daughters were forced to look very conservative and not allowed to freely express themselves. I can relate to all these mother wounds you talk about as an East Asian woman. I love your content I know your channel will grow immensely!
It’s like you have lived my entire life. When you spoke about making mistakes my whole body fired up. I haven’t done anything for fear of mistakes and i want to do so much
Leaving to get my own home for the first time in a few months. My mother talked me out of a lot of things when I was ready to leave at 18. Said it would be too hard and walked away or shut down the conversation when I would present something exciting I could do for myself. I see it and accept it after many years of shadow work. But I feel the wavering still, especially as I’m preparing to take it all into my hands. This mother wound stuff is the sustainable armor I’ve been needing. Thank you for enlightening us out here who can use the strength and wisdom.
You're welcom doll. It's ok to be scared when doing something new. And its ok to make mistakes and even fail. It doesnt mean youre not prepared. It's just a part of life. Find support in your goals. Do your research...and then JUMP!! You're gonna be just fine. xoxo
I thank you for showing up for yourself. You are giving voice to feelings I've had and am having now and didn't know how to process. You're showing me how to truly care for myself from the inside out. I Thank you from the deepest recess of my heart. My inner child is crying with relief is the only way I can think to explain how I feel. When the student is ready the teacher will appear. Thank you thank you thank you. May you be blessed many times over.🙏🕉️🙌💞🖖
21:46 👏🏽👏🏽 YES. When I moved away and started doing the work, I definitely started looking at folks differently. As time went on, they really started showing their true colors. That's when I went even deeper in my healing journey.
The way I hopped off the couch & ran to the yoga class I was planning on skipping when you talked about integrity. I’ve sent this to several of my female cousins because we constantly struggle with these things. The shame around making a mistake!!! This is an amazing podcast
Whheeewww…. I just wanted to share my experience I’ve recently had. While I have been listening to your podcast you have helped me sooooooo much. I reached out to my mom and told her I forgive her. She went left with it I responded, (because she runs from real conversations so she won’t pick up the phone. 😂 Anyway her response was “you’re not going to ruin my day” I’m like you know what, “ breath” I went ahead and said, how I felt and what she’s done etc. I told her I did that for myself not you. I told her everything I’ve wanted and I did that and I’m moving forward. This was absolutely for me. Thank you thank you thank you. Jenn 🙏🏾💜 I really found my space and people. I’m not alone.
Its strange bcs in the past I was a decision making queen. It wasn’t until more recent years I had felt stuck in my decision making abilities. But this makes so much sense to me and I am taking quick action to get back to my strong feeling of a sense of self as I continue my healing process and growth. 🎉🎉🎉
Ooh Ms Jennifer. This is the one I’m going to need. I am struggling, and i mean struggling with taking my 1st solo trip. My mother made it a point to let me know i would never have been able to handle 2 children, let alone the one i had. That one stuck, and stung deep.
Really needed this ❤ fighting internalized battles are the worst. Especially now that i have a 2 year old daughter. Here i am at 30 years old next year, and i am just now hearing the truth. Thank you. Its a bitter sweet moment 😢❤
You just spoke to me like the Aunt I have always desired. Thank you for trusting yourself which in turn has allowed you to share this space with us. Thank you.
I just got over imposter's syndrome and I know my mindset must change. This came up as suggested and I'm SO GLAD I tuned in. A woman is speaking the things about my life I couldn't put into words. My mom did a number on me... but at some point I have to put the adult in me in charge and mother the child instead of functioning from the child's place. New Sub.
Omg I been listening. I’m doing it. I forgive myself when I slip up and get right back to it. Congratulate myself for keeping my word. I’ve just been able to see how beautiful I am each day through routine. Small, simple and life changing.
I want to thank you truly!! I’ve always told my younger sister and even my mom that she experienced trauma as a little girl, until she faces her truth and be forthtelling how can she be healed? She’s not at all willing to tell nor say a word about her traumas. She’s a little girl stuck in an adult body. It is deep, deep, deep!
@jenniferarnise, I already felt super seen in some of your podcast but hearing your background!! I grew up Pentecostal holiness and now i understand another level of why i am drawn to your podcast!! Thank you so much for sharing that!! 🫂💚
Hey Jennifer, first thank you for having a relatable and honest topic "mother wounds." I just randomly find your videos two weeks ago and honestly I'm glad I find your TH-cam channel. I have mother wounds that didn't hit me til I enter in my 30's in my healing journey 💕 and your subjects & trues are very much helpful for me.
My mother always wants to know what I'm doing but nothing ever goes right for me, when I do tell her. She gives me no privacy! I've actually heard my mother call me: weak. I can't rely on my extended family because theyre in her clutch. I have no support in no capacity.
This is so true I feel like before I do anything I always find myself running by others first to seek their yes. My mom is deceased so asking her is not happening. But this is so true making decisions is hard for me
Jennifer this podcast is absolutely wonderful, I am so grateful I found your videos! You are really opening the door for so many of us to heal and give ourselves the life we deserve❤️Keep sharing your knowledge and perspective!
Do what you you say you're going to do!!! Jennifer I appreciate that you always give us valuable practical nuggets to put into daily practice. I found the questions in the last episode so valuable. Thank you for the gems in this episode. Thank you! ❤
Wow I always struggle with making decisions and I always say I’m not smart enough and then I put it on my husband or close friends like please make the decision for me! God tell me what to do bc I don’t make good choices! You’re such a blessing
You get a lot of info and lessons in your readings and they aren’t drawn out even tho I would watch however long 😊thanks for helping to usher me into this healing ❤
Wow. This was meant for me to see. It just popped up on my feed and spoke to my soul. Thank you for this. I'm overwhelmed with emotions but got a lot of clarity. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you ❤
Girl I was screaming at my TV screen. I felt so seen while watching this. Thank you. The part about watching your mother make horrible decisions about her own life yet not being snow to say anything! Girl!!
😮 Are You Me!?! We lived the same life! The same script of mistrust and the denomination?! My mother literally told me over and over and over again, "Do it right the first time!" 🤯 like how ma'am, I'm new to all of what you're teaching me! 😒 this and a few other statements have caused me to avoid and freeze a whole lot in life 😢 I appreciate you posting this video and sharing how to process this reality and to release it!
Oh my God! Where have you been?! I'm so grateful to have stumbled on this channel! It feels like you're speaking directly to my situation. I can't wait to watch/listen to the other episodes! You're doing amazing work with this! Thank you! 🩷
thank you for this. my mother is notorious for not doing what she says she’s going to and i feel like i have to relearn how to keep my word to myself. it my parents have always told me they would do something and never did it.
I don't know you or never met you, but I thank God for you. Thank you so much for helping me understand my own feelings and thoughts. I have a ways to go but I believe I've finally started to take care of ME. Again, thank you and stay blessed.
I'm so grateful for you, Jennifer! 💞💞 You are living in purpose with this podcast, Sis! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! You're helping MANY of us, I promise you.
Thank you for starting your podcast. Every word coming from your mouth is how I think and feel. My mom just died. Now I have to learn how to trust myself because I allowed her to do all the thinking for me to avoid conflict.
I just fount your page like a month ago and i absolutely love everything you’ve said has resonated so much ! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us !!
I swear my mother has to be black on the inside because the things you are saying resonate so deeply with me. I am still a child to my mother. She knows best and others are wrong. If I would just listen to her, my life would go well. I'm so sick of it. She and my father watch my children when I work or have an appointment. They help pay for my child's preschool and it's held over my head. My kids have grown attached to them. It feels difficult to navigate.
What does it mean when you grew up having your mother tell you that she never wants you to ever have to depend on her? I’ve been told this since I was in my single digits as a child.
Hi @jenniferarnise I’d love to take your course but can’t afford until the course begins. When is your next class im totally ready in this transition. I have two daughters and I don’t want to inadvertently continue this generational struggle. Because I know for a fact it started well before I was born as my eldest grandmother I had met (3gen) living simultaneously) had given up custody of my great grandmother her first born . Unknown why and no blame for she had to make decisions that were best for her in her time. With my maternal grandmother(1st born daughter eldest)and my mother (1st born daughter) and myself (1st born & eldest of my siblings)But this set a cycle of unhealed energy and emotions . Unknowing the true definition of how to love a little girl and possibly over glorifying the men in our family. Well understanding that you are a busy woman I pray u can respond !! Thanks in advance!!
Nah, I think I can only can trust myself because of examples of ppl taking advantage of me and betraying me. All my siblings spoke shit about me to each other and I found out. My brother outted me as gay, my sisters tell ppl my business, my mother talks about all her children behind our backs to each other, my granny runs her mouth. Friends wasn’t there for me when things got bad but I am everyone’s Go to person ( I am not exaggerating, anytime I get a call I know it’s help they need). So with all this who can I trust but myself? Dang! I grew up in a toxic family cycle that made me toxic and I attracted toxic ppl. That’s why I’ve been single for 5 years. I wanna heal but my damaged brain and heart wants to stay the same because it’s use to the chemicals that’s familiar. I never had a fighting chance.
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Same here 🙏🏾❤️
Let me tell you something.. I met your son while running errands in Sprouts. I was talking to the cashier about different podcasts and the way your son interjected and put me and sis on to you. I could tell that he was so proud! Job well done momma! So happy I have you to listen to now! Thank you 🙏🏾
OMG I thought I had adult ADHD I was so indecisive and insecure and thought I couldn’t trust my own decisions. That was the insecurity instilled in me by my mother. I am relearning to trust myself and my own decisions again. Thank you 😊
Me too sis, me too!!!
Yassss! You taught this behavior so you can relearn to trust yourself!
As a recently diagnosed ADHD woman I had this same conversation with my counselor today (our first meeting) because she asked me “it seems you operate in extremes have you always been this way?” In my 34 years have I NEVER thought about this?!
Me too sis
Me too ❤
23:22 - YES!!! I struggled financially for so long. Currently, my finances are better than ever. I have an excellent credit score for the first time in my adult life and I'm 53 y/o. It took for me to move over 800 miles away to really start trusting myself and I'm so grateful I did because I'm a different person than I was when I left 5 years ago. The PEACE that I have is indescribable. It has taken a lot of work AND it has been worth it.
Coming from a therapist, THIS IS SO ACCURATE!!!!!! Whether it’s being indecisive because it’s a learned behavior, or the mother not allowing autonomy when it comes to decision-making. Also, making certain choices based off of the mother’s approval, and sometimes the mother doesn’t even make the best choices. it is definitely a cycle that has to be broken by creating trust within yourself. This was a great episode!
Thank you so much! That means so much coming from a therapist.
I feel like every episode speaks to me and my healing process. I did not realize how deep my mother wound was.
I feel the same way
I totally understand this. This is exactly how I felt
I’m a 32 white women with a mother that comes from an Irish background but your messages resonate with me and my mother-wound so much! always find myself listening to these and feelings so heard and understand! I hope it’s okay I’m here!
There is a book Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. It is complex. My mother was a great beauty but she wanted to control her world and everyone in it. Yes this site is great.
💜
I'm a 37 year old white woman. I know I can not understand the black woman's perspective, and I respect that. I have to say this podcast is still really helping me with my mother issues.
You are welcome here love! So many of us women had abusive mom's in any race and feminism ignores when women destroy. Its time for us to heal!
@@kristen1324
From birth, I was rejected by my mother and throughout out growing up, some how rejected and abuse sexually and physically, I will say it is by God’s grace I’m standing and going through life thinking all is well when it is not! Those mom wounds are being manifested and greatly affecting my relationships with my girls! My husband and I are 2 broken children in our adulthood sadly.
I'm glad you made this video, it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, $89k biweekly and a good daughter full of love
Please how ?
Am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God😞
It's Maria Angelina Alexander doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.
$356K monthly is something you should feel differently about....
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!
I just ran across this podcast yesterday!!! To be honest, I think it was the Lords doing!!! The information is so insightful!!!! Thank you for being so transparent!!!
youre so welcome and I'm glad you're here!
Omg. You are truly amazing. Self love has taught me this. It took sooo long to understand what it meant to reparent myself because i knew how to look functional, but i didn't trust myself.. pheww the shame I'd feel if i didn't even do a small thing right... Thank you for voicing this side of our struggle....one step at a time. I trust myself and trust the time given to me, coz my procrastination was also a result of me not trusting myself....🙏🏾
thank you for this beautiful message
1:30 Oh my! That is exactly how I felt before I started on my healing journey. As a matter of fact, my mother and former bff told me and my new husband (48 y/o me and my 54 y/o husband) at the time that they didn't think it was a good idea for us to move to FL from the DMV, without knowing any details. 🤦🏽♀ They had all kinds of negative sh*t to say. That was when I committed to doing what my heart was leading me to do instead of listening to them. We packed up and moved without telling them when, because they would've tried to stop me. Mannnnn, it was the BEST DECISION I EVER MADE! That's when I learned to trust myself and God. Ok, let me finish listening....
Thank you for another great video Jennifer❤.
Out here doing God's work. 💗🥂
Ain't she??!!!😃
Thanks Boo!💌
21:54 this. 35 years old and only last week I fully acknowledged my perspective of people is so low that everyone needs saving because I felt like I needed saving no matter how well I was doing
I've been binge watching/listening your channel from the moment I came across one of your video's by accident... When I listen to you I feel heard, not alone anymore and you hit the nail on the head every time! You say what I have been feeling but not been able to voice out loud myself
Im so glad you found me here! When we finally feel heard and seen, the healing can really kick in!
1.5 yrs ago I just told myself I keep my word to myself and started to do things cause I said I would it. It has been a game changer.
This is a great podcast. I was thinking about my frustration of being highly parentified as a child and now being infantilized as an adult.
I am glad we are talking about it
I hear ya!
It’s not just black mothers, it is actually also very prevalent in Asian mothers as well, mainly the immigrants. This is bc they were all in survival mode trying to adjust in America and forcing their kids to be achievement based bc good grades meant a good job which meant survival. So if some of the kids were not able to excel in school they were pretty much considered a useless failure. The daughters were forced to look very conservative and not allowed to freely express themselves. I can relate to all these mother wounds you talk about as an East Asian woman. I love your content I know your channel will grow immensely!
It’s like you have lived my entire life. When you spoke about making mistakes my whole body fired up. I haven’t done anything for fear of mistakes and i want to do so much
Leaving to get my own home for the first time in a few months. My mother talked me out of a lot of things when I was ready to leave at 18. Said it would be too hard and walked away or shut down the conversation when I would present something exciting I could do for myself.
I see it and accept it after many years of shadow work. But I feel the wavering still, especially as I’m preparing to take it all into my hands.
This mother wound stuff is the sustainable armor I’ve been needing. Thank you for enlightening us out here who can use the strength and wisdom.
You're welcom doll. It's ok to be scared when doing something new. And its ok to make mistakes and even fail. It doesnt mean youre not prepared. It's just a part of life. Find support in your goals. Do your research...and then JUMP!! You're gonna be just fine. xoxo
I thank you for showing up for yourself. You are giving voice to feelings I've had and am having now and didn't know how to process. You're showing me how to truly care for myself from the inside out. I Thank you from the deepest recess of my heart. My inner child is crying with relief is the only way I can think to explain how I feel. When the student is ready the teacher will appear. Thank you thank you thank you. May you be blessed many times over.🙏🕉️🙌💞🖖
awwwe! we are in this together!!!!
21:46 👏🏽👏🏽 YES. When I moved away and started doing the work, I definitely started looking at folks differently. As time went on, they really started showing their true colors. That's when I went even deeper in my healing journey.
The way I hopped off the couch & ran to the yoga class I was planning on skipping when you talked about integrity. I’ve sent this to several of my female cousins because we constantly struggle with these things. The shame around making a mistake!!! This is an amazing podcast
Timely!!! Key: 🔑 Do what you say you are going to do!
This podcast changed my life. So grateful to have found you.
Whheeewww…. I just wanted to share my experience I’ve recently had. While I have been listening to your podcast you have helped me sooooooo much. I reached out to my mom and told her I forgive her. She went left with it I responded, (because she runs from real conversations so she won’t pick up the phone. 😂 Anyway her response was “you’re not going to ruin my day” I’m like you know what, “ breath” I went ahead and said, how I felt and what she’s done etc. I told her I did that for myself not you. I told her everything I’ve wanted and I did that and I’m moving forward. This was absolutely for me. Thank you thank you thank you. Jenn 🙏🏾💜 I really found my space and people. I’m not alone.
Its strange bcs in the past I was a decision making queen. It wasn’t until more recent years I had felt stuck in my decision making abilities. But this makes so much sense to me and I am taking quick action to get back to my strong feeling of a sense of self as I continue my healing process and growth. 🎉🎉🎉
Every episode- Has me in a chock hold! I love your channel and podcast!
Chokehold in a good way!! I'm glad you're here!
@@Jenniferarnisedefinitely a good way🤭
Ooh Ms Jennifer. This is the one I’m going to need. I am struggling, and i mean struggling with taking my 1st solo trip. My mother made it a point to let me know i would never have been able to handle 2 children, let alone the one i had. That one stuck, and stung deep.
Really needed this ❤ fighting internalized battles are the worst. Especially now that i have a 2 year old daughter. Here i am at 30 years old next year, and i am just now hearing the truth. Thank you. Its a bitter sweet moment 😢❤
You just spoke to me like the Aunt I have always desired. Thank you for trusting yourself which in turn has allowed you to share this space with us. Thank you.
I just got over imposter's syndrome and I know my mindset must change. This came up as suggested and I'm SO GLAD I tuned in. A woman is speaking the things about my life I couldn't put into words. My mom did a number on me... but at some point I have to put the adult in me in charge and mother the child instead of functioning from the child's place. New Sub.
Omg I been listening. I’m doing it. I forgive myself when I slip up and get right back to it. Congratulate myself for keeping my word. I’ve just been able to see how beautiful I am each day through routine. Small, simple and life changing.
I want to thank you truly!! I’ve always told my younger sister and even my mom that she experienced trauma as a little girl, until she faces her truth and be forthtelling how can she be healed? She’s not at all willing to tell nor say a word about her traumas. She’s a little girl stuck in an adult body. It is deep, deep, deep!
Absolutely Amazing content! This information is invaluable and accurate.
Thank you so much!
Awww Thank you Jennifer, you really speak to me and I'm so glad I've found this podcast!
I love you too
@jenniferarnise, I already felt super seen in some of your podcast but hearing your background!! I grew up Pentecostal holiness and now i understand another level of why i am drawn to your podcast!! Thank you so much for sharing that!! 🫂💚
I just found you last week, maybe two weeks ago. I feel so seen! Thank you 😢😢😢😢
You deserve to feel seen. Welcome to the community
Hey Jennifer, first thank you for having a relatable and honest topic "mother wounds." I just randomly find your videos two weeks ago and honestly I'm glad I find your TH-cam channel. I have mother wounds that didn't hit me til I enter in my 30's in my healing
journey 💕 and your subjects & trues are very much helpful for me.
Thank you so much for your videos!
My mother always wants to know what I'm doing but nothing ever goes right for me, when I do tell her. She gives me no privacy! I've actually heard my mother call me: weak. I can't rely on my extended family because theyre in her clutch.
I have no support in no capacity.
@sunshinesunflowerz1647 me too... I support you. May you have great success in all your endeavors.
Good Morning / Afternoon or Evening wherever you are. THANK YOU! You also have my support also in your endeavors. @@JW-sz5yx
You have to rely on yourself and be your own backbone. Once you start you will meet others...outside of your family to be there for you
@@JenniferarniseWheww 😢 needed that
That sounds very evil eyeish.
This is so true I feel like before I do anything I always find myself running by others first to seek their yes. My mom is deceased so asking her is not happening. But this is so true making decisions is hard for me
I love your style like please keep it real with us and I hope this channel blows up because the content is top tier and very much needed !
Jennifer this podcast is absolutely wonderful, I am so grateful I found your videos! You are really opening the door for so many of us to heal and give ourselves the life we deserve❤️Keep sharing your knowledge and perspective!
This stuff is so real! I am negatively affecting my girls! I so need a change!
Do what you you say you're going to do!!! Jennifer I appreciate that you always give us valuable practical nuggets to put into daily practice. I found the questions in the last episode so valuable. Thank you for the gems in this episode. Thank you! ❤
Wow I always struggle with making decisions and I always say I’m not smart enough and then I put it on my husband or close friends like please make the decision for me! God tell me what to do bc I don’t make good choices! You’re such a blessing
You get a lot of info and lessons in your readings and they aren’t drawn out even tho I would watch however long 😊thanks for helping to usher me into this healing ❤
I don’t know if this was the video I originally saw, but this topic is something that I didn’t know I needed healing on. Thank you so much.
Wow. This was meant for me to see. It just popped up on my feed and spoke to my soul. Thank you for this. I'm overwhelmed with emotions but got a lot of clarity. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you ❤
Your videos have really helped me. More than any of the talk therapists I’ve seen. Thank you🙏🏾
Girl I was screaming at my TV screen. I felt so seen while watching this. Thank you. The part about watching your mother make horrible decisions about her own life yet not being snow to say anything! Girl!!
Wow! I loving talking about this and hearing this💙
19:40. #WHENyouStartToTakeCareOfYourself
#YourselfWillStartToTakeCareOfYOU❤❤❤❤❤
😮 Are You Me!?! We lived the same life! The same script of mistrust and the denomination?! My mother literally told me over and over and over again, "Do it right the first time!" 🤯 like how ma'am, I'm new to all of what you're teaching me! 😒 this and a few other statements have caused me to avoid and freeze a whole lot in life 😢 I appreciate you posting this video and sharing how to process this reality and to release it!
Oh my God! Where have you been?! I'm so grateful to have stumbled on this channel! It feels like you're speaking directly to my situation. I can't wait to watch/listen to the other episodes! You're doing amazing work with this! Thank you! 🩷
This was so relatable. I remember when I finally started trusting myself.
It was like a new beginning for me. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you 🙏🏽 💗
Yes yes yessssss. Every minute of this is clearing the self abandonment. I'm def gonna be rewatching
thank you for this. my mother is notorious for not doing what she says she’s going to and i feel like i have to relearn how to keep my word to myself. it my parents have always told me they would do something and never did it.
I found this channel and content at the perfect time in my life 💛🦋
My goodness!!! You're telling me I am not alone in this 7:35 ??? I deeply appreciate you for this episode
I don't know you or never met you, but I thank God for you. Thank you so much for helping me understand my own feelings and thoughts. I have a ways to go but I believe I've finally started to take care of ME. Again, thank you and stay blessed.
I love your podcast ❤. You have been a blessing in my life. Thank you ❤
Thank you God for using Jennifer to deliver this self-loving message to me❣
Thank you for vocalising and speaking about this, this was so insightful
Woo I can’t breathe listening to this had to pause it halfway keep up the good work ❤
I'm so grateful for you, Jennifer! 💞💞 You are living in purpose with this podcast, Sis! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! You're helping MANY of us, I promise you.
I'm so happy I found your channel. Thank you for expounding on this topic.
Im so glad you're here!
Thank you for starting your podcast. Every word coming from your mouth is how I think and feel. My mom just died. Now I have to learn how to trust myself because I allowed her to do all the thinking for me to avoid conflict.
sending sincere sympathy. I did my mother's care, I understand.
LOVE
Thank you for this and all you do.
I just fount your page like a month ago and i absolutely love everything you’ve said has resonated so much ! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us !!
Thank you for this message. I will rewatch and take notes
This was sooooo good! Every word spoke directly to me!!! Thank you ❤
This is sooo deeeeeeeppppp
So good Jennifer, I love you too!!!... ❤😊
You’re doing GODs work. ❤
Girl your my therapist 😂😂😂😂 thank you ❤
I like listening to you talk
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Such an amazing episode! THANK you!
amazing podcast and very useful message for me.
do what you say you gonna do (golden nugget)
thank you
SO GOOD! 🙌🏾
You did it again!!! Thanks so much ❤❤❤
Thank you❣️✨
I swear my mother has to be black on the inside because the things you are saying resonate so deeply with me. I am still a child to my mother. She knows best and others are wrong. If I would just listen to her, my life would go well. I'm so sick of it. She and my father watch my children when I work or have an appointment. They help pay for my child's preschool and it's held over my head. My kids have grown attached to them. It feels difficult to navigate.
Girllllllllllll Jennifer Arnise! The way you sat here on my row in this here session I just about threw this here phone!
Thank you!
Phenomenal message! Thanks so much sister.
What does it mean when you grew up having your mother tell you that she never wants you to ever have to depend on her? I’ve been told this since I was in my single digits as a child.
I literally would call and ask my mom what should I make for my family for dinner bc I never felt I made good choices
Again, this is me to the T
How do we join your patreon? Ladies let’s like, share and subscribe. Jennifer deserves a million subscribers in my humble opinion! ❤️
The patreon's not active right now and I dont know how to take down the link LOL. Thanks Boo! scream it from the roof top!
@@Jenniferarnise Do you have an email address? How do I coordinate an interview with you?
Hi @jenniferarnise I’d love to take your course but can’t afford until the course begins. When is your next class im totally ready in this transition. I have two daughters and I don’t want to inadvertently continue this generational struggle. Because I know for a fact it started well before I was born as my eldest grandmother I had met (3gen) living simultaneously) had given up custody of my great grandmother her first born . Unknown why and no blame for she had to make decisions that were best for her in her time. With my maternal grandmother(1st born daughter eldest)and my mother (1st born daughter) and myself (1st born & eldest of my siblings)But this set a cycle of unhealed energy and emotions . Unknowing the true definition of how to love a little girl and possibly over glorifying the men in our family. Well understanding that you are a busy woman I pray u can respond !! Thanks in advance!!
Nah, I think I can only can trust myself because of examples of ppl taking advantage of me and betraying me. All my siblings spoke shit about me to each other and I found out. My brother outted me as gay, my sisters tell ppl my business, my mother talks about all her children behind our backs to each other, my granny runs her mouth. Friends wasn’t there for me when things got bad but I am everyone’s Go to person ( I am not exaggerating, anytime I get a call I know it’s help they need). So with all this who can I trust but myself? Dang! I grew up in a toxic family cycle that made me toxic and I attracted toxic ppl. That’s why I’ve been single for 5 years. I wanna heal but my damaged brain and heart wants to stay the same because it’s use to the chemicals that’s familiar. I never had a fighting chance.
Wow
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“I thought I just didn’t make good decisions”