My wife simply doesn't desire me - she doesn't want me, she just wants me around. Once we had the house, dogs and kids - I was no longer desirable. I see this problem everywhere. Taken for granted, just treated like a roommate and for lack of a better term an "emotional tampon" - used when needed, put away when not. Reduced affection over time - less and less until you are just there to provide and support.
I was the same, it was her way of slowly destroying me. When I started enjoying my life and ignoring her contempt, she was so outraged she moved out. I should have chucked her out 25 years ago.
@@ChaChaRah it's true for all women, assertiveness it the one thing women find attractive on men. Asking women for their opinion ends all female attraction and respect.
For Christmas, I got your books for my wife and me. We have started the In Pursuit books and they have impacted our marriage so much. Thank you for your story and resources!
I'm not married or religious, but appreciate this post. I appreciate the optimism and teamwork in a space where so many videos are "us vs them" in relationships.
Pray for my wife. She was amazing until she said i do. Literally! As soon as we were pronounced man and wife she just walked away. She has been mentally and emotionally abusive ever since. She expects me to do everything she wants but i cant hardly get her to fix me a glass of water. It feels like she has just become a roommate.
That was deliberate deception, and you need to put your foot down that it's unacceptable. And you need to be willing to back it up with consequences. Do not resign yourself to a life of misery with this woman. Demand counseling and demand that she take accountability for her behaviors.. If she refuses, then you really need to consider walking away permanently. Life is too short to be miserable.
And congrats on your pregnancy, and your beautiful family . I really appreciate these talks, and how you carefully, and biblically help couples to stay strong, love each other and appreciate each other. I hope you continue making many more of these episodes!! May God bless you both!!
Excellent video! I had expressed to my wife on more than one occasion that I desired for her to look at me and be proud that I am her husband! I don’t believe she ever felt that way, and ended up she ended the marriage.
In accordance with this word and genesis 2:18, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind to hell being a helpmate of a godly spouse that emasculates one's husband while binding myself to be grateful and show my appreciation for my godly spouse, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
I really enjoy your talks, and encouraging words, and how to find ways to help us a married couple. Which in turn helps us be the partner we need to be, and makes our marriages more christ- like and bring so much more happiness and joy towards each other and even toward our children.
I might add one that is sort of a hybrid between the pride and trust: no not disrespect/be dismissive of his opinions or positions in public, especially on subjects in which he has a keen interest/experience. It's fine to have debates and disagreements in private, but the moment she feels like she can trample on his persona in front of others, there's a big problem. Although this goes both ways, I've noticed it's extra abrasive towards men. A man has been pressured and worked his entire life to succeed and provide, and the way he has overcome that challenge is a huge chunk of his identity. He has gained knowledge and experience he wishes to impart after that journey. Openly attacking that, is openly attacking him.
The part where Eve was made from the rib of Adam was figurative language. She was also made from the dust, or in other words, the elements of the earth as Adam was.
Mine I always have to watch every word I say to her. She takes every word with criticism or being attacked. So I just shut down because when I do express how I feel I get torn down and flipped that it’s my fault. Sad thing I took my ring off in 2022 and then after 1 week I decided that I didn’t want to leave her. Now in July 2024 she files for divorce stating she feels anxiety and trauma. Yet she says that the majority of that is from past relationship, glad I was the one to take the brunt of her psychological issues. Oh by the way, she tells me I need to move out of the house so she can work on herself while with divorce papers.
I'm sorry that you've been having to go through all of that. It sounds really hard. I'll be praying for you. I hope that you can find someone to help support you through all of this.
I thank you for the video and the information to help all people with their problems. That is a gift from the Creator. I’m sad to hear that if your not a Christian you don’t know what that love means. There are many belief systems/ creation stories on this planet. Creator is the giver of life to everything on the planet and the universe. No one or thing is without God. We just name it in different ways. I know this is off topic. Please forgive the intrusion. I just feel that the Creator is bigger and knows more about love and the wholeness of things. Peace to you both and all Christians
What's the opposite though? If a man doesn't respect you, doesn't want to provide for you,etc. I had to finally file for divorce. Chronic lies and immaturity. Financial abuse, 10 years of online affairs. There is NO life insurance for me! I had no other choice but to leave.
My witch always tears me down. I made 3 million dollars daytrading in 6 months and when I told my wife she was mad cause I didn’t give my retirement to her finance guy. I made over 1600% and he was guaranteeing me 4%😂😂😂😂😂😂 and she was mad. So basically I offered her 3 million a mansion and a Mercedes and she said no and I’ve done all this in a 34 year marriage which 17 of these were sexless. Her problem is she’s a holy roller. The holier than thou type. I’m leaving as when you man wants to end his life due to no relationship, it’s time to go. Oh well anyone want to date a multimillionaire 😂😂😂
My "Christian " wife was like that, it's the Jezebel spirit, very common in disobedient Christian women, but it's not Biblical: 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 (KJV) The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
@@inchristalone25 she’s a clinically diagnosed covert narcissist. That explains it’s all as my success is her failure as her insecurities make her feel a successful man will move on and I am
@@ricvanwinkle1665 I recommend gold bars that can’t be stolen in divorce. All digital money can be stolen basically. Good luck to you man. Find a younger one, make it clear you desire a submissive loving wife, and have her sign a prenup.
What advice would you give to a couple where he has sexual addictions and what advice would you give the wife to build her husband up while not enabling him? So many are trying to find that line. What advice can i give them?
She should be cared for by professionals who know about betrayal trauma (like APSATs). And the best thing a wife can do for a man mired in this is to say that she will not allow it in her life. That respects him, as a person capable of change.
Is this a serious question? Give him constant sex and make it exciting for him. Get in shape so he will desire you. Pleasing men isn’t that complicated. It’s also good that he has a healthy high testosterone.
My advice to the younger men, never marry. Women change, their demands only increase, they always mention trips her friends are taking that we can not. And the courts will screw you over in divorce for alimony and/or child support, even if she cheats.
Don't listen to this! Terrible advice. Choose the right partner, not just for her looks or how she made you feel, but someone who is truly trustworthy.
My wife simply doesn't desire me - she doesn't want me, she just wants me around. Once we had the house, dogs and kids - I was no longer desirable. I see this problem everywhere. Taken for granted, just treated like a roommate and for lack of a better term an "emotional tampon" - used when needed, put away when not. Reduced affection over time - less and less until you are just there to provide and support.
Holy crap man, that's my situation exactly!!
Marriage is the great time waster for men.
Ditto...relate to all points...
If she doesn't want to change or get help for marriage..I'd separate. God doesn't want you to live this, way for the rest of your life.
I was the same, it was her way of slowly destroying me. When I started enjoying my life and ignoring her contempt, she was so outraged she moved out. I should have chucked her out 25 years ago.
A woman's words can only hurt you if you care what they think. Oddly enough, the less you care, the more they'll be attracted to you.
That’s only true for an immature woman.
@@ChaChaRahbut you repeat yourself.
That's not true at all... Her words spoken to others can damage you and your opportunities, it can lose you favor and get you treated poorly.
Yep. People go to court all the time for slander. @@dennisrobinson8008
@@ChaChaRah it's true for all women, assertiveness it the one thing women find attractive on men. Asking women for their opinion ends all female attraction and respect.
For Christmas, I got your books for my wife and me. We have started the In Pursuit books and they have impacted our marriage so much. Thank you for your story and resources!
Thank you so much for sharing. We are blessed to know our books have helped you!
I'm not married or religious, but appreciate this post. I appreciate the optimism and teamwork in a space where so many videos are "us vs them" in relationships.
Pray for my wife. She was amazing until she said i do. Literally! As soon as we were pronounced man and wife she just walked away. She has been mentally and emotionally abusive ever since. She expects me to do everything she wants but i cant hardly get her to fix me a glass of water. It feels like she has just become a roommate.
Sounds like you need to look into videos about living with a narcissist!
@lifeorliberty3086- if you have no kids this easy. Leave. Your situation will otherwise just get worse.
Same exact thing happened to me…
That was deliberate deception, and you need to put your foot down that it's unacceptable. And you need to be willing to back it up with consequences. Do not resign yourself to a life of misery with this woman. Demand counseling and demand that she take accountability for her behaviors.. If she refuses, then you really need to consider walking away permanently. Life is too short to be miserable.
It's probably learned behavior. Like a generational curse. If she refuses to get help, I'd separate. If nothing changes, nothing changes.
Pointing out things your Husband no control over is evil. Men want to be appreciated. No man wants to feel inadequate.
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Congrats on the pregnancy, prayers that God watches over your family as you welcome another. Great show BTW, lot of truth.
Thank you so much!
And congrats on your pregnancy, and your beautiful family . I really appreciate these talks, and how you carefully, and biblically help couples to stay strong, love each other and appreciate each other. I hope you continue making many more of these episodes!! May God bless you both!!
Thank you so much!
I’m happy to have found your channel! ❤
Excellent video! I had expressed to my wife on more than one occasion that I desired for her to look at me and be proud that I am her husband! I don’t believe she ever felt that way, and ended up she ended the marriage.
I enjoy your talks. It’s especially hard for me because we are trying to work through infidelity. Everything I once thought of him is gone.
Have you ever considered that you might be the reason he was unfaithful to you?
In accordance with this word and genesis 2:18, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind to hell being a helpmate of a godly spouse that emasculates one's husband while binding myself to be grateful and show my appreciation for my godly spouse, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
A unique presentation regarding relationship between men and women indeed! Thank you both. Taddeo from Durham, NC.
I really enjoy your talks, and encouraging words, and how to find ways to help us a married couple. Which in turn helps us be the partner we need to be, and makes our marriages more christ- like and bring so much more happiness and joy towards each other and even toward our children.
Complicit! That’s a word I will be using, tomorrow. Thanks!
I might add one that is sort of a hybrid between the pride and trust: no not disrespect/be dismissive of his opinions or positions in public, especially on subjects in which he has a keen interest/experience. It's fine to have debates and disagreements in private, but the moment she feels like she can trample on his persona in front of others, there's a big problem. Although this goes both ways, I've noticed it's extra abrasive towards men. A man has been pressured and worked his entire life to succeed and provide, and the way he has overcome that challenge is a huge chunk of his identity. He has gained knowledge and experience he wishes to impart after that journey. Openly attacking that, is openly attacking him.
Love never fails you...thankyou for your ministry.
Absolutely! Thx for watching!
Masculinity is not toxic at all, what a joke
A woman's mouth is sharper that any sword!!!
Not a christian but there's a lot of truth in the words that you speak
The part where Eve was made from the rib of Adam was figurative language. She was also made from the dust, or in other words, the elements of the earth as Adam was.
What????
On what textual basis do we know the rib business is figurative? I think I remember that the word translated "rib" is debated.
Mine I always have to watch every word I say to her. She takes every word with criticism or being attacked. So I just shut down because when I do express how I feel I get torn down and flipped that it’s my fault. Sad thing I took my ring off in 2022 and then after 1 week I decided that I didn’t want to leave her. Now in July 2024 she files for divorce stating she feels anxiety and trauma. Yet she says that the majority of that is from past relationship, glad I was the one to take the brunt of her psychological issues. Oh by the way, she tells me I need to move out of the house so she can work on herself while with divorce papers.
I'm sorry that you've been having to go through all of that. It sounds really hard. I'll be praying for you. I hope that you can find someone to help support you through all of this.
I thank you for the video and the information to help all people with their problems. That is a gift from the Creator. I’m sad to hear that if your not a Christian you don’t know what that love means. There are many belief systems/ creation stories on this planet. Creator is the giver of life to everything on the planet and the universe. No one or thing is without God. We just name it in different ways. I know this is off topic. Please forgive the intrusion. I just feel that the Creator is bigger and knows more about love and the wholeness of things. Peace to you both and all Christians
love your podcast
All of these apply to wives as much as husbands. Why are we only concerned about the husband's feelings?
They say in the video they are making one for wives too. But for now just let the men have a space to talk. For once.
What's the opposite though? If a man doesn't respect you, doesn't want to provide for you,etc. I had to finally file for divorce. Chronic lies and immaturity. Financial abuse, 10 years of online affairs. There is NO life insurance for me! I had no other choice but to leave.
My witch always tears me down. I made 3 million dollars daytrading in 6 months and when I told my wife she was mad cause I didn’t give my retirement to her finance guy. I made over 1600% and he was guaranteeing me 4%😂😂😂😂😂😂 and she was mad. So basically I offered her 3 million a mansion and a Mercedes and she said no and I’ve done all this in a 34 year marriage which 17 of these were sexless. Her problem is she’s a holy roller. The holier than thou type. I’m leaving as when you man wants to end his life due to no relationship, it’s time to go. Oh well anyone want to date a multimillionaire 😂😂😂
My "Christian " wife was like that, it's the Jezebel spirit, very common in disobedient Christian women, but it's not Biblical: 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 (KJV) The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
I wouldn't want to date multimillionaire. Sounds like there's more to the story. Always more to the story.
@@inchristalone25 she’s a clinically diagnosed covert narcissist. That explains it’s all as my success is her failure as her insecurities make her feel a successful man will move on and I am
@@ricvanwinkle1665 I recommend gold bars that can’t be stolen in divorce. All digital money can be stolen basically. Good luck to you man. Find a younger one, make it clear you desire a submissive loving wife, and have her sign a prenup.
Great episode with great advice
What advice would you give to a couple where he has sexual addictions and what advice would you give the wife to build her husband up while not enabling him? So many are trying to find that line. What advice can i give them?
She should be cared for by professionals who know about betrayal trauma (like APSATs). And the best thing a wife can do for a man mired in this is to say that she will not allow it in her life. That respects him, as a person capable of change.
Is this a serious question? Give him constant sex and make it exciting for him. Get in shape so he will desire you. Pleasing men isn’t that complicated. It’s also good that he has a healthy high testosterone.
Can you just get on with the topic
The man has to cooperate in al this.
They have no power men give them what they have
Well, you two are in credibly young. If suddenly job loss, illness, children become teens. Then your "get through this" becomes reality.
My advice to the younger men, never marry. Women change, their demands only increase, they always mention trips her friends are taking that we can not. And the courts will screw you over in divorce for alimony and/or child support, even if she cheats.
Don't listen to this! Terrible advice. Choose the right partner, not just for her looks or how she made you feel, but someone who is truly trustworthy.
All you females should join the Army and protect the country
bro your wife seems to be rub off, awkward by saying all of that .
A point that I have noticed is some women once they reach middle age they take on a macho quality. Is that what is meant by toxic feminism?