I watched and listened to your entire video, Michael. I am sending you "good thoughts", if you know what I mean. It's good to vent, you're not alone with family problems. Thank you for sharing. It actually made me feel OK, cuz I've been crying all weekend with what I'm dealing with. Stay safe, my friend.
Hey Mike, if you’re willing and have the $1,000 to build a shed, take that $1k, put a couple hundred with it and rent a storage unit for a year. Move all her property into the storage unit and present her the key. The house is empty, her things are removed from the property and you can proceed with what you want to do. Now she has a year to decide what she’s going to do with her things.
I’m sorry that you are having to deal with this stuff. I’m glad I’m an only child because more than likely I wouldn’t have gotten along with a sibling.
So I watched to the end. Seems in fact you could: 1. Legally sell the house without ever talking to your sister. 2. Fix, rent or sell the house, without ever needing to tell your sister. 3. Ship her stuff to her and end everything. 4. Be forever happy❤
I have a sister I haven’t talked to in over seven years. She refuses my phone calls but I text her. My texting ceased beginning this Christmas. I’ve had enough. She tells my brother he’s the greatest and won’t give me the time of day. I love her but I’m done.
Mike, I'm sorry you're going through this. I had a similar situation with my brother. Family dynamics can be complicated. It will get better for you. Hang in there and take care of yourself.
Family, man, my mother's sister disinvited me from holidays when mother passed. Now I got my father accusing me of financial elder abuse, so can't visit. Thanks for making me breathe. Thank GOD I'm an only child, lol.
I listened all the way through and I really feel your pain. It's good to get it off your chest. Take a deep breath and yes the work in LA will be a lot to come as they rebuild❤
I don’t like commenting on stuff but take my advice seriously sell the house .my cousins sister is a carbon copy of your sister the stress from dealing with his mother’s estate unfortunately he had a heart attack over it and died. Family drama is no joke on your health. Hope this helps.(SELL IT) give her some money and move on. Good luck
Next time a flow chart would be helpful (joke). I have a friend who lived with and cared for his elderly mother for 20+ years, through dementia etc. until her death. His sister (in a different state) constantly reminded him that 1/2 the assets should be hers too. After a few years he sold the house, with a beautiful garden, wood shop etc. and moved into a modest apt. Splitting the proceeds with his sister. Your sisters perception is her reality. You'll never change that. You mentioned you weren't that crazy about the climate in AZ. and with the fires you mentioned there will be plenty of work ( for many years) my advice ( from an 80 yr. old) would be to sell the house and get out from under the insurance, taxes, and your sister. Life will be must less stressful for you, believe me.
My heart goes out to you, Mike….. My mother was a narcissist and it was a rough childhood so I understand, but I would think twice about getting rid of a house that has no mortgage. Just saying you have a good evening calm down before you have a heart attack. be good. Be nice. Good night.❤
Family Drama is always tough ! You have helped your sister quite a bit, don't let her poor choices in life force you to give up a good opportunity in AZ., you seemed really excited about the move last week and things looked like a good fit for you with the connections you made. Hope you can resolve the issue, stay positive 👍
Family dynamics are real. It's a reality of life. He said, she said, and the truth lies somewhere in between. It's almost 20 years since I've been in a relationship, and there's a reason for it. I get it.
Have a brother I haven’t talked to in 25 years. As time went on it become obvious to me it was the best choice. Also have a sister but only at 8 years now. Not everyone can get along. The silence is great for me.
I had to cut my sister out of my life because she was a drama queen and the stress of dealing with her was killing me. It broke my heart to cut her out of my life but she was making my life miserable. I’m a female but I hate drama. Good luck with your sister. Don’t let her stress you out too much. Stress kills!
Whatever you do, don’t build a shed. All you’re doing is prolonging the problem. She’s not going to move the stuff out of herself so you need to give her an ultimatum. Tell her if the stuff is not gone within a certain period it’s gonna be disposed of. Then you have the house free and clear of her stuff. The only other option is to sell the house give her whatever share you think appropriate and then do something else with the money that she has nothing to do with. Either way you have to sever the relationship that she has with that house or it’s going to be years of agony. Don’t build a shed for her!
Very sad to hear that story, best wishes,Be Very careful when you go out and about in Lost Angeles, my gut says dangerous in places that weren't before,(I live up in the High Desert).Via Con Dios!
Thanks for the chat Mike, I have four crazy older brothers and after a visit with them I leave thinking I'm crazy you've made me realize it's not me thanks
Hey Michael its all good brother you are not the only person dealing with family shit like this trust me, we all have this crap but your mindset of NO DRAMA is same as mine and your all good Watched beginning to end because I have been similar crap with Two uncles and a sister I dont talk to anymore because of their personal insanity I dont want to be part of Keep being you brother you got this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your followers are following because they are common sense real like you Hope your sister can adjust and see your trying to be fair Following from Sacramento
I am sorry, your kindness is not appreciated. Many times, people with issues, have, " transference", issues put on others. Sometimes, there are just no answers, distance may be the sad, but only answer....
Hi Michael, sorry you have drama. Family can be difficult. That's why I live far away from them. I do have one sister I do get along with (You met her in Tecopa). I'm just glad you were not affected by the fires. Stay safe. I started watching this video this morning and put it on pause. I returned home to finish watching. I hope your family situation gets fixed, it sounds like it's broken. I'll stay tuned.
The storage facility in my area loans a box truck for free in order to move items into storage. Best to separate finances in families in my opinion. Once these relationships hit social media, it is difficult to repair disagreements.
Man, it's nice listening to people who are having the same issues I've had in life. Fortunately I still have my dad, but I'm estranged from my mother who is exactly as you described yours. Thankfully my sister and I get along great but I have the same issues with my younger brother. Cut from the same cloth but is so different from my sister and I. He's 9 years younger, maybe that's it? Idk. I hope things work out for you. Sounds like you got some major decisions to make in regards to the house, etc.
Wow Mike, sorry you're going through this. I hope and pray that your sis will come to realize what an asset you are in her life. Its so obvious that you want the best for her and will do whatever it takes to make that happen for her. Like the shed!!!! ( very honorable) Just continue being the amazing and caring brother that you are, eventually she will see it for herself.She's blessed to have you in her corner. Hang in there, good guy!!!
You should borrow my motto. Always be nice until its time not to be nice. I always lead with kindness but if its take advantage of...then I'm not going to be nice.
Hi, Mike. Sorry to hear of the family dynamics but you learned a very valuable lesson for pretty cheap -- you can't work with your sister, you are just too different to meet anywhere in the middle. So whatever you choose to do, will have to be on you. Doesn't matter if you think she's right or wrong, or if she think you're right or wrong -- you cannot work together. Put that on a poster and stick it next to your bed so you see it every night before you go to sleep, and first thing in the morning: "I cannot work with my sister." I'm not kidding in the least. When my dad passed away, I was executor of his will, and all my interactions with my own sister went through a lawyer. Every single one. You cannot work with your sister. This doesn't mean that either one of you is right or wrong about anything! It's just that you can't work with your sister. I wish you the best of luck out there, but if you think you can work with your sister, you're in for a world of hurt.
I knew there were problems with her. After my parents passed in 2021 my sister lied and took everything that had any sentimental value . So my two boys got nothing. She took things out of the house in the night illegally. She lied when I told her caught her and then said my parents had given her everything she took. I am still dealing with this year and this was a rough holidays for me because my parents passed right around the holidays. It sucks but is comforting to know I am not alone in what happened.
Seems like there was a reason why your mother gave you the house rather than your sister with children, she obviously knew the score, stay focused and keep on keeping on,
Mike: Build the shed. Put your sister's "stuff" in the shed Change the locks on the house. Send your sister a key to the shed with a notice that she can have access to the shed for 60 days after which the property will be considered abandoned. You must take charge of the situation - from the information you have provided, you are the legal owner of the property and she will become a trespasser once the 60 days after notice had passed. It is a nice home and you should be able to live there, create a great life and take time to decide if it is your forever home and renew your friendships and create new friendships. I have always found that there are those family members who feel entitled and they shit on everyone to get what they want or try to....
Remember Mike you can pick your friends but not your family. No matter how good things can seem they can turn to a basket of crap overnight. Good luck and find some serenity.😊
Hope you feel better talking thru this Mike. Until you make a decision about the house, “all of this” will continue to agitate you. I hope you will know what to do and have peace in your decision. Others’ choices & their consequences to their choices affect us only as far as we allow them. Life’s too short for family hassles/drama.
North Carolina people sure could use you in the area where they got flooded out... there is a lot of people that lost everything and living in tents now.
Throw the stuff on the front lawn and move in! Sometimes you have to move some family members aside. Trust me I know if you know my story. It’s hard but life is hard.
Life is grand - Ying and Yang - at our age you should know I been through the same type of situation. I have a solution/idea if you have any interest to hear it. Sending positive vibes brother. 😊 (on a side note: might be easier and less stress to just get a storage unit closer to her apartment and dump all her stuff there and hand her the lock key.)
I agree with you, in a lot of familles there's constant drama. I'm estranged from my family of origin for that reason. Whenever I question myséf about that choice I remind myself what I got away from.
Never appologize for your content , Mike. We all have families, and we all go thru this stuff. I've been there ! Was refreshing to hear someone else's family drama !! You keep true to you. You ARE a very kind asshole ! 😊 Can't wait to hear that story....😂.
IMO... the more money you give to a whiner, the more whining you will get. However... family issues are tough. I'm an only child so, had it relatively easy. I would just say, A goal worth making, is a goal worth keeping. Stay the course and make it happen. In the meantime.... Turn up the music! 😉 it relieves anxiety by approx. 60%. Make it a good week!
Hi Mich. No way I'm going to unsubscribe. I sat through all of this. It's very interesting. Seems to me you're experiencing the typical 'dogs breakfast' issues that many families go through when a family member dies and there's a Last Will and Testament situation. I assume you have the Title Deeds to the House ? So------------------------- Of course as an outsider I know nothing is ever straight forward. 'Cut and dry' as they say. Anyway, lets hope things work out for the best. Looking forward to more interesting videos from you.
A lot of us have had family drama, I haven't spoken to either of my brothers in over 20 years, and now can't to one of them as he just passed! Anyway, this is about you, and I did watch the entire vlog. You need to get this off your chest for your own wellbeing, and your sisters! Hopefully she will see this, will have a better outlook, and will change her ways to make life better for the both of you, and your relationship! Cheers Mike!👍✌🗽
My parents died. Their house is in great location on an acre. I bought my sister out of the house. But had to get 3 appraisals she didn't trust the gut I hired out of the phone book. Had her own guy come he was less than my guy. I ended up paying her 30,000more than I should've.
Unfortunately, most of us have these family trauma bonds that seem to unravel once the parent's pass and leave the children/siblings with many different prospectives of unhealed wounds that turn into a battle ground. You're trying to man up and be like your Dad as the caretaker role model for everybody but you! There is no easy solution, 'cause you are trying to set boundaries with your sister, when she may have never had them from her parents. She knows you as a person to do the right thing, but she isn't grasping your choices as she wants and needs control over the situation, however, legally she can't in this situation and she's mad. Some of this could be too, that you made right with your mom and she regrets not having that opportunity.....her grief and trauma may be unresolved??? Mother's and daughter's are like oil and water!!! One last bit of perspective is that you have been an enabler, doing what you feel is right and helpful has only helped bail your family out of bad choices. Those of us that care too much, tend to do that and we never feel appreciated and seen as the heart of the family knowing that our kindness is not as valued as we value those whom we are helping. Peace and less stress~
Stoicism…. We all have the power to control our own emotions.. Silence is a very powerful tool.. especially with family… Marcus Aurelius teachings are a must. 🙏🏼💪🏼👈🏼
Sounds like it may be time for a "pros & cons" list for each living space! It appears you are leaning towards staying in L.A. Some life issues never change or go away, it sounds like your sibling has some "issues" that are not allowing her to move on. Try to do what is the right thing for you, live "Your life" the way is best for you and not another human being. I trust you will make the right decision that enriches "Your life" Mike. It's up to you. Wishing you well.....take care. 😉
Mike, I love your content. I especially love the Sunday chats. However, it doesn't seem like sharing the family's problems on the internet is going help matters. I understand you need to vent and wish you and your family the best
This story is common with a family... I mean I have heard people tell stories similar to yours... you are a great storyteller. When you are dealing with family and materialism it is bad.
Family dynamics like this are tough!!! Should you continue with the move definitely set boundaries! Especially to protect your peace and sanity. Ma, was triangulating with everyone for her benefit. It’s good to vent and let it out…dealing with crazy dynamics is never easy. Stop the madness~set boundaries and then you will be a shit for setting them but in time the dust will settle. Don’t apologize for having feelings & being you~human! Small knife collector here. Haha. You’re okay Mike. Dont feel/ be guilt shamed. Drink some water. 🚿 💧🥃
Your sister reminds me so much of my ex I got PTSD watching this lol. Family drama is terrible. I hope it all blows over soon for you. If you decide you don't like AZ I have almost 4 acres in North East TN with plenty of room for you. We'll go down there and build a compound lol.
C Y A When dealin wit mental Cases…..uncle wants u to have It, he respected u, and knew u Are responsible, Honorable man, Very high complement, act in his memory….
Michael, I can so relate to all of your sister & yours situation! Gotta stay away from my volatile brother! Healthwise, don’t wanna do it. Distance is safest for me. He hates that I don’t wanna do dinner family holidays at his house!! Nope. Insanity… what’s the definition;right!! If u want any relationship with her, keep ur distance & less chatter. Good luck
@@MsVitaMaria Same thang for me, Had enough, told em Years ago, Tgiving and Christ- mas is at my house, hope ta see ya, No more drama, now, 30 years later, They are all gone…..🤔✌🏻✌🏻
I watched and listened to your entire video, Michael. I am sending you "good thoughts", if you know what I mean. It's good to vent, you're not alone with family problems. Thank you for sharing. It actually made me feel OK, cuz I've been crying all weekend with what I'm dealing with. Stay safe, my friend.
Hey Mike, if you’re willing and have the $1,000 to build a shed, take that $1k, put a couple hundred with it and rent a storage unit for a year. Move all her property into the storage unit and present her the key. The house is empty, her things are removed from the property and you can proceed with what you want to do. Now she has a year to decide what she’s going to do with her things.
Interesting option - I'll mull that over, thanks!
Yes that will get her off the property...
@@AstroVanTribejust don't get sucked into paying forever
Was going to suggest the same thing. Enough is enough. Good luck amigo 👊🏻
I’m sorry that you are having to deal with this stuff. I’m glad I’m an only child because more than likely I wouldn’t have gotten along with a sibling.
So I watched to the end.
Seems in fact you could:
1. Legally sell the house without ever talking to your sister.
2. Fix, rent or sell the house, without ever needing to tell your sister.
3. Ship her stuff to her and end everything.
4. Be forever happy❤
I have a sister I haven’t talked to in over seven years. She refuses my phone calls but I text her. My texting ceased beginning this Christmas. I’ve had enough. She tells my brother he’s the greatest and won’t give me the time of day. I love her but I’m done.
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Smart 💯😎👌👍
~ Been there, I can relate. Hang in there.
This was an excellent bit of content, Mike!!! Hope the talk kinda pushed the stress out of you and you can get some rest Brother!!! Peace to you!!!
🔥❓ Mike, How far are the fires from where you are?
We're good, now
Hugs, Man. You are a real guy with real family drama. More relatable than you'd believe. Hopefully this video helped all involved.
Mike, I'm sorry you're going through this. I had a similar situation with my brother. Family dynamics can be complicated. It will get better for you. Hang in there and take care of yourself.
Yes watch your health
Hey Mike just breathe. It is something we all forget to do when we get stressed!
My late wife was a screamer, cusser. I spent a lot of time in my garage, had to earn a living.
Me as well brother , hope life is better now because it is for me now that she is gone
Was she doing all that in the bedroom 😁
Love your stories and your honesty, sometimes getting your problems out is the best medicine, wishing you good luck in your family situation.
Mike do what makes you happy and have piece in your heart.
I love it brother. Carry on sir. Never ever become unequally yoked! I'm just blessed at 42 years of marriage. Dude, time to go to Death Valley.
I'm OK with listening, Michael, I just did the exact same thing today with a neighbor, it's's quite amazing.
Family, man, my mother's sister disinvited me from holidays when mother passed. Now I got my father accusing me of financial elder abuse, so can't visit. Thanks for making me breathe. Thank GOD I'm an only child, lol.
I listened all the way through and I really feel your pain. It's good to get it off your chest. Take a deep breath and yes the work in LA will be a lot to come as they rebuild❤
You can pick and choose friends but unfortunately we're stuck with family...
Where's the house? Sierra Vista? Nice town, have lived here since 1973. Worth fighting for. Word !
You remember those shirts from the early 1980s? Hey, "WE LOVE YOU!"
Forgot all about my problems for an entire hour 😃
Thanks, but seriously, sorry for all you're dealing with ❤
I don’t like commenting on stuff but take my advice seriously sell the house .my cousins sister is a carbon copy of your sister the stress from dealing with his mother’s estate unfortunately he had a heart attack over it and died. Family drama is no joke on your health. Hope this helps.(SELL IT) give her some money and move on. Good luck
Next time a flow chart would be helpful (joke). I have a friend who lived with and cared for his elderly mother for 20+ years, through dementia etc. until her death. His sister (in a different state) constantly reminded him that 1/2 the assets should be hers too. After a few years he sold the house, with a beautiful garden, wood shop etc. and moved into a modest apt. Splitting the proceeds with his sister.
Your sisters perception is her reality. You'll never change that. You mentioned you weren't that crazy about the climate in AZ. and with the fires you mentioned there will be plenty of work ( for many years) my advice ( from an 80 yr. old) would be to sell the house and get out from under the insurance, taxes, and your sister. Life will be must less stressful for you, believe me.
Are you honoring the gift you were given by giving into the desire of others? You were chosen for a reason. God bless.
My heart goes out to you, Mike….. My mother was a narcissist and it was a rough childhood so I understand, but I would think twice about getting rid of a house that has no mortgage. Just saying you have a good evening calm down before you have a heart attack. be good. Be nice. Good night.❤
Like a clear vehicle, but better !😊
▪️Mike, I’m confident more of us can relate than you can imagine. I would love to have a brother like you. ~ Cheering you on from Texas. 🙋♀️
Family Drama is always tough ! You have helped your sister quite a bit, don't let her poor choices in life force you to give up a good opportunity in AZ., you seemed really excited about the move last week and things looked like a good fit for you with the connections you made. Hope you can resolve the issue, stay positive 👍
Oh I know this situation well.😅
We love Saturday night chat!
Family dynamics are real. It's a reality of life. He said, she said, and the truth lies somewhere in between. It's almost 20 years since I've been in a relationship, and there's a reason for it. I get it.
@@ashleyanderson2859
Excellent post, 😊
Oh my, family - you can't live with and without it😅
Have a brother I haven’t talked to in 25 years. As time went on it become obvious to me it was the best choice. Also have a sister but only at 8 years now. Not everyone can get along. The silence is great for me.
I had to cut my sister out of my life because she was a drama queen and the stress of dealing with her was killing me.
It broke my heart to cut her out of my life but she was making my life miserable.
I’m a female but I hate drama.
Good luck with your sister. Don’t let her stress you out too much. Stress kills!
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Hope it all works out well 🙏
You are not alone in the family BS. Ive been in hell for the past 3 years and the stress has nearly sent me to a padded cell. Hang in there friend
Whatever you do, don’t build a shed. All you’re doing is prolonging the problem. She’s not going to move the stuff out of herself so you need to give her an ultimatum. Tell her if the stuff is not gone within a certain period it’s gonna be disposed of. Then you have the house free and clear of her stuff. The only other option is to sell the house give her whatever share you think appropriate and then do something else with the money that she has nothing to do with. Either way you have to sever the relationship that she has with that house or it’s going to be years of agony. Don’t build a shed for her!
Your story telling is AWESOME!
Hope it all works out for you good luck!!
I just couldn't stop watching
Very sad to hear that story, best wishes,Be Very careful when you go out and about in Lost Angeles, my gut says dangerous in places that weren't before,(I live up in the High Desert).Via Con Dios!
Thanks for the chat Mike, I have four crazy older brothers and after a visit with them I leave thinking I'm crazy you've made me realize it's not me thanks
Hey Michael its all good brother you are not the only person dealing with family shit like this trust me, we all have this crap but your mindset of NO DRAMA is same as mine and your all good
Watched beginning to end because I have been similar crap with Two uncles and a sister I dont talk to anymore because of their personal insanity I dont want to be part of
Keep being you brother you got this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your followers are following because they are common sense real like you
Hope your sister can adjust and see your trying to be fair
Following from Sacramento
GR8 post 💯👍😎👌✌🏻
I feel you Mike, all family’s have some sort of drama
The Dude, I can relate. I have two sisters and family property in the S.V. area. My Dad passed away and we argue over property taxes.
The most unfriended people on Facebook are family members.
Bro loved the video I've always got a ear to listen. If ya ever need one I'm on the other side of the screen OUTLAAAAAAAW ...
Hang in there…. Keep the house!
Thanks for sharing.
I am sorry, your kindness is not appreciated. Many times, people with issues, have, " transference", issues put on others. Sometimes, there are just no answers, distance may be the sad, but only answer....
Hi Michael, sorry you have drama. Family can be difficult. That's why I live far away from them. I do have one sister I do get along with (You met her in Tecopa). I'm just glad you were not affected by the fires. Stay safe. I started watching this video this morning and put it on pause. I returned home to finish watching. I hope your family situation gets fixed, it sounds like it's broken. I'll stay tuned.
Sorry, I don't remember * wom*n from Pulp Fiction........
What part of AZ?
Near Fort Hachuca
Why not just rent a storage unit, pay like 6 months, move her stuff in there, give her the key, and tell her she is on her own after that 6 months.
Mike I can completely relate to what you're going through with your sister. I'm dealing with the same thing now the sister and my mother...✌
Second time I have heard you mention Kentucky No Appalachia here though
The storage facility in my area loans a box truck for free in order to move items into storage. Best to separate finances in families in my opinion. Once these relationships hit social media, it is difficult to repair disagreements.
She's practically a mechanic😂😂
The T shirt is GR8 !😊
Man, it's nice listening to people who are having the same issues I've had in life. Fortunately I still have my dad, but I'm estranged from my mother who is exactly as you described yours. Thankfully my sister and I get along great but I have the same issues with my younger brother. Cut from the same cloth but is so different from my sister and I. He's 9 years younger, maybe that's it? Idk. I hope things work out for you. Sounds like you got some major decisions to make in regards to the house, etc.
Wow Mike, sorry you're going through this. I hope and pray that your sis will come to realize what an asset you are in her life.
Its so obvious that you want the best for her and will do whatever it takes to make that happen for her. Like the shed!!!! ( very honorable)
Just continue being the amazing and caring brother that you are, eventually she will see it for herself.She's blessed to have you in her corner. Hang in there, good guy!!!
I made it - you owe me a beer.
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You should borrow my motto. Always be nice until its time not to be nice.
I always lead with kindness but if its take advantage of...then I'm not going to be nice.
Hi, Mike. Sorry to hear of the family dynamics but you learned a very valuable lesson for pretty cheap -- you can't work with your sister, you are just too different to meet anywhere in the middle. So whatever you choose to do, will have to be on you. Doesn't matter if you think she's right or wrong, or if she think you're right or wrong -- you cannot work together. Put that on a poster and stick it next to your bed so you see it every night before you go to sleep, and first thing in the morning: "I cannot work with my sister." I'm not kidding in the least. When my dad passed away, I was executor of his will, and all my interactions with my own sister went through a lawyer. Every single one. You cannot work with your sister. This doesn't mean that either one of you is right or wrong about anything! It's just that you can't work with your sister. I wish you the best of luck out there, but if you think you can work with your sister, you're in for a world of hurt.
I knew there were problems with her. After my parents passed in 2021 my sister lied and took everything that had any sentimental value . So my two boys got nothing. She took things out of the house in the night illegally. She lied when I told her caught her and then said my parents had given her everything she took. I am still dealing with this year and this was a rough holidays for me because my parents passed right around the holidays. It sucks but is comforting to know I am not alone in what happened.
Seems like there was a reason why your mother gave you the house rather than your sister with children, she obviously knew the score, stay focused and keep on keeping on,
💥you’re a great brother! 🤠
Sleep tight brother 👍
Mike: Build the shed. Put your sister's "stuff" in the shed Change the locks on the house. Send your sister a key to the shed with a notice that she can have access to the shed for 60 days after which the property will be considered abandoned. You must take charge of the situation - from the information you have provided, you are the legal owner of the property and she will become a trespasser once the 60 days after notice had passed. It is a nice home and you should be able to live there, create a great life and take time to decide if it is your forever home and renew your friendships and create new friendships. I have always found that there are those family members who feel entitled and they shit on everyone to get what they want or try to....
Remember Mike you can pick your friends but not your family. No matter how good things can seem they can turn to a basket of crap overnight. Good luck and find some serenity.😊
Hope you feel better talking thru this Mike. Until you make a decision about the house, “all of this” will continue to agitate you.
I hope you will know what to do and have peace in your decision. Others’ choices & their consequences to their
choices affect us only as far as we allow them.
Life’s too short for family hassles/drama.
North Carolina people sure could use you in the area where they got flooded out... there is a lot of people that lost everything and living in tents now.
Throw the stuff on the front lawn and move in! Sometimes you have to move some family members aside. Trust me I know if you know my story. It’s hard but life is hard.
@@NurseNettie
Excellent post,
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Love you Bro.
Life is grand - Ying and Yang - at our age you should know I been through the same type of situation. I have a solution/idea if you have any interest to hear it. Sending positive vibes brother. 😊
(on a side note: might be easier and less stress to just get a storage unit closer to her apartment and dump all her stuff there and hand her the lock key.)
I agree with you, in a lot of familles there's constant drama. I'm estranged from my family of origin for that reason. Whenever I question myséf about that choice I remind myself what I got away from.
You can’t do the Right thing…around the Wrong People….
Never appologize for your content , Mike. We all have families, and we all go thru this stuff. I've been there ! Was refreshing to hear someone else's family drama !! You keep true to you. You ARE a very kind asshole ! 😊 Can't wait to hear that story....😂.
Well.... we both know she's a bit nuts. You're the only family member I have that I respect.
IMO... the more money you give to a whiner, the more whining you will get. However... family issues are tough. I'm an only child so, had it relatively easy. I would just say, A goal worth making, is a goal worth keeping. Stay the course and make it happen. In the meantime.... Turn up the music! 😉 it relieves anxiety by approx. 60%. Make it a good week!
Did music yesterday....
Hi Mich. No way I'm going to unsubscribe. I sat through all of this. It's very interesting. Seems to me you're experiencing the typical 'dogs breakfast' issues that many families go through when a family member dies and there's a Last Will and Testament situation. I assume you have the Title Deeds to the House ? So------------------------- Of course as an outsider I know nothing is ever straight forward. 'Cut and dry' as they say. Anyway, lets hope things work out for the best. Looking forward to more interesting videos from you.
A lot of us have had family drama, I haven't spoken to either of my brothers in over 20 years, and now can't to one of them as he just passed! Anyway, this is about you, and I did watch the entire vlog. You need to get this off your chest for your own wellbeing, and your sisters! Hopefully she will see this, will have a better outlook, and will change her ways to make life better for the both of you, and your relationship! Cheers Mike!👍✌🗽
Just know you are not alone in your struggles with family and doing an executor job…. Take care Mike
My parents died. Their house is in great location on an acre. I bought my sister out of the house. But had to get 3 appraisals she didn't trust the gut I hired out of the phone book. Had her own guy come he was less than my guy. I ended up paying her 30,000more than I should've.
It all comes down to how much crazy can you live with. Me personally, ZERO.
And most women never apologize for anything ..
Like I said before. My Birthday is Dec 26 1966 Holly crap. Your life sounds almost like mine.
Unfortunately, most of us have these family trauma bonds that seem to unravel once the parent's pass and leave the children/siblings with many different prospectives of unhealed wounds that turn into a battle ground. You're trying to man up and be like your Dad as the caretaker role model for everybody but you! There is no easy solution, 'cause you are trying to set boundaries with your sister, when she may have never had them from her parents. She knows you as a person to do the right thing, but she isn't grasping your choices as she wants and needs control over the situation, however, legally she can't in this situation and she's mad. Some of this could be too, that you made right with your mom and she regrets not having that opportunity.....her grief and trauma may be unresolved??? Mother's and daughter's are like oil and water!!! One last bit of perspective is that you have been an enabler, doing what you feel is right and helpful has only helped bail your family out of bad choices. Those of us that care too much, tend to do that and we never feel appreciated and seen as the heart of the family knowing that our kindness is not as valued as we value those whom we are helping. Peace and less stress~
Stoicism…. We all have the power to control our own emotions.. Silence is a very powerful tool.. especially with family… Marcus Aurelius teachings are a must. 🙏🏼💪🏼👈🏼
Sounds like it may be time for a "pros & cons" list for each living space!
It appears you are leaning towards staying in L.A.
Some life issues never change or go away, it sounds like your sibling has some "issues" that are not allowing her to move on. Try to do what is the right thing for you, live "Your life" the way is best for you and not another human being. I trust you will make the right decision that enriches "Your life" Mike. It's up to you. Wishing you well.....take care.
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Mike, I love your content. I especially love the Sunday chats. However, it doesn't seem like sharing the family's problems on the internet is going help matters. I understand you need to vent and wish you and your family the best
😂 😂 😂 😂 😂REALLY Smart people never say they're smart tho...
This story is common with a family... I mean I have heard people tell stories similar to yours... you are a great storyteller. When you are dealing with family and materialism it is bad.
Family dynamics like this are tough!!! Should you continue with the move definitely set boundaries! Especially to protect your peace and sanity. Ma, was triangulating with everyone for her benefit. It’s good to vent and let it out…dealing with crazy dynamics is never easy. Stop the madness~set boundaries and then you will be a shit for setting them but in time the dust will settle.
Don’t apologize for having feelings & being you~human! Small knife collector here. Haha. You’re okay Mike. Dont feel/ be guilt shamed. Drink some water. 🚿 💧🥃
At some point it gets too old man...to deal wit it...
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Do what makes you happy, you can't change other people.
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Absolutely Right, Nick😊
Your sister sounds like my mom. Is she an Aquarius by chance? lol
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@AstroVanTribe she's a Cancer then.
Your sister reminds me so much of my ex I got PTSD watching this lol. Family drama is terrible. I hope it all blows over soon for you. If you decide you don't like AZ I have almost 4 acres in North East TN with plenty of room for you. We'll go down there and build a compound lol.
Love that shirt!!!
That is some f-upped sh*t you have to deal with in the family. Sell the AZ house and move to somewhere where they
can't get to you.
Your not responsible for unworthy family
C Y A When dealin wit mental
Cases…..uncle wants u to have
It, he respected u, and knew u
Are responsible, Honorable man,
Very high complement, act in his memory….
Michael, I can so relate to all of your sister & yours situation! Gotta stay away from my volatile brother! Healthwise, don’t wanna do it. Distance is safest for me. He hates that I don’t wanna do dinner family holidays at his house!! Nope. Insanity… what’s the definition;right!! If u want any relationship with her, keep ur distance & less chatter. Good luck
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Same thang for me,
Had enough, told em
Years ago, Tgiving and Christ-
mas is at my house, hope ta see ya,
No more drama, now, 30 years later,
They are all gone…..🤔✌🏻✌🏻