Also those are her kids once the relationship is over with. And even though she couldn't trust him in the relationship somehow she's suppose to trust that he will still be an active father after the relationship is over😂😂😂
How many times has a man told his soon-to-be ex wife “oh, it’s fine, don’t worry, I’ll take care of everything!…” and then she’s left w/ nothing??? No sympathy from _this_ direction!💅🏾
Chii... This reminded of a post I read by a man that was whining about how his wife took "everything". So basically the man cheated on his wife with a younger woman and the wife filed for divorce. Apparently he did not see this coming, he was blindsided, like most men are🙄 The wife got one of the houses with all the furniture and all (they had two houses), a car and half from the joint account. You know what's funny, the man made sure a prenup was put in place and the plot twist is, he was the ONE that actually made sure an infidelity clause was put in the prenup🤣😭 This man had the audacity to blame his wife for throwing their marriage away and taking "everything" from him, and what's more insane was the group of men sympathizing with him, talking about how evil women are🙆🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
If there's a court order to appear, it's never a good idea not to appear, no matter who says it's optional. That guy's wife was definitely up to no good for suggesting he not show up.
Half of the marital assets is fair. She contributed to the marriage as a mother, wife, cook, maid, nurturer, and general domestic laborer. I'm so tired of this "she took half my stuff" narrative. The marital assets are shared. She took half of THEIR stuff, which she was entitled to. He got the other half, which he was entitled to. But these guys are addicted to victim mentalities.
Exactly. Let them pay for a maid, cook, nanny, surrogate, prostitute, and personal therapist. Then they don’t have to lose half “their stuff”. Besides a lot of guys saying she took his money are in a situation where the finances are 50/50, with the woman also doing all the household chores and childcare.
His ex-wife didn’t “take everything”, she took the bare minimum. Unless someone already has significant personal wealth/assets from before their relationship began, a fair divorce is ALWAYS a 50/50 split + ongoing child support.
Exactly! Men truly believe once a “relationship” or marriage ends- they shouldn’t be responsible for anything. Especially if they no longer have access to the mother- that includes the kids. This is why they go on have more , or simply ignore sets of children when they have them by more then one woman.
@angeloliver7613 most jurisdictions base child support on a straight up percentage of the non-custodial parents income. There are adjustments in the calculation depending on time the children spend with the non-custodial parent - I.e. non-custodial parent had the kids every weekend, they're going to pay less than someone who has them every other weekend, or not at all.
My poor mother came from child sexual abuse and abject poverty and when she was much older became a doctor. My ex is trying to get the money she left me. I loved him with all my heart and he’s still trying to screw me for money
So let me get this straight. He left it up to the woman who is divorcing him to see to his interests in the divorce and expected her to treat him fairly. 😂😂😂😂😂🤔
Oh these men won’t get married- they’ll just have a forever girlfriend and convince her to “build him up”. She’ll give him kids along the way because he will make her think she’s “ earned the right “ to carry his kids…..smh lol
Men need to understand that when they are married, the money they make is considered FAMILY money, especially when you have a SAHW. If you consider that money YOURS because you are the one that went to a job to work, then the children belong to the woman because it was HER body that carried and birthed them and she stays home to care for them.
@@hmm-zoololYes, trucking is important. But, this man had a family and chose to ignore that responsibility. He didn't even get a lawyer for his own divorce. I don't know if he is plain stupid or just arrogant. Either way, divorce results in assets and debt being divided. And the children need financial support to live. He made those children with her,so zero sympathy for this guy.
He made sure his wife will divorce him and he thought he doesn’t have to pay?? Men really think they can mistreat us, and when we leave them they expect to be free as a bird with no consequences for their crappy behaviour. News flash! You will PAY for your nonsense.
😂. I don't understand the lack of intelligence of these men. They want to suck the energy, life, health, and financial resources from women but expect to contribute nothing. Where on earth would that be acceptable?!
I don't understand how he got screwed over? She should be entitled to half of their assets during their marriage. He just thought he would leave her destitute while he went out and lived his best life. He didn't even seem to think he had to pay child support for his own kids!
Plus barely seeing his kids bc he has job that will give him a great excuse to never be around. He thought he’d be able to work from coast to coast then randomly come in and demand ish, bc he’s a man/the father.
My ex of 23 years did just that to me and our 2 kids. He left me destitute and it was the financial support of my sister that kept me and my kids alive. He took off with a woman 20 years younger than himself to live his best life with her. I picked up the pieces and, after 10 years have rebuilt a lively life for my children and myself.
I’ll set straight and say when men no longer have access to you, they don’t want nothing to do with the kids. It’s about control for them. She got what she was entitled to, they don’t get that because most men never wanted marriage. They just wanted the social status, while doing single man activities. No thank you.
THANK YOU! I am so happy I found your comment! Because baby.. YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD! Whether it’s divorce, a mere break up, or moving out, whatever- when men dislike/hate/ no longer have initiate access to a woman or at the very least some sort of mental control over her- they could care less about them kids! That’s why so many men complain about child support! They don’t believe they should be held responsible for kids that they truly no longer live with or care about. THIS IS REAL LIFE !
No. No, she didn't. 1/2 the assets accumulated during the marriage, child support for the children *he caused* + alimony which tells me he married someone w/zero job skills, experience & likely no education or she now has multiple, preschool kids or has medical issues which preclude her working (which he more than likely gave her).
The statistically most dangerous person in a pregnant woman's life is literally the baby daddy or husband and the risk that he will freak out and try to k:ll her as a way to abort the fetus. And dudes are out actin like women are pure evil for saying "if you want that kid to have your last name and/or recognize you as their dad, you better help raise them."
I want to be empathetic however it is your responsibility, no matter the gender, to go to your court date defend yourself, and make your claim to what you want/what is yours. The court is unempathetic to you if you do not show up and if the other person gets free reign, assume the worst.
He’s a truck driver and they are notorious for cheating and rarely home so the wife has little to no support, needs not being met, etc. Bills paid and that’s it. That’s not enough!
Men want us to go half or be a servant in the homefront. And then they get upset when half goes to the wife in divorce? And men are the logical ones, lmao. His kids are half of him but he doesn’t care a lick for them and feels like he shouldn’t care for them via child support? So who’s the real vampire here
My ex doesn’t care about the kids…at…all. But he got custody…..for no reason whatsoever. Judge was female btw. All I did was love the family but I’m being punished for divorcing him
what wrong with this men ? did they expect to get free servant and owe their kids nothing after divorce ? if you care about your money, then marry working women and do half chores, she will create half the money mostly and you will still owe your kids child support. but keep seeking trads women then whine about money is stupid.
i saw a clip from a divorce lawyer who said that the women who go after the most money are the sahm's. working women don't fight too much for assets because she has her own already. but some men won't go for the high earning woman because they want complete control over her. so whenever a man gets "screwed over" in court, i don't feel bad. he should've cared more about partnership than control.
Yes, they do. And it's ubiquitous too. Doesn't matter your race, ethnicity, SES, culture,or religion...in the states it's a community property state and unless you have a specific prenup, your divorce is a lawsuit that breaks a contract (marriage) and assets and debts are divided and she deserved half. These men think they are entitled to a woman's free labor in the home, free child care, access to her body for pleasure, and most women now work full or part time, so they expect that too. But, many think they owe nothing to the wife and that means money, equitable work in the home and equitable time parenting. The 1950's are not coming back. Women are just going 4B.
Unless the wife has a prenup to protect HERSELF and HER interests, wives need at least half of everything. She was cooking, cleaning, parenting, sex on demand, therapist, and probably more things. He wanted her to just leave with the clothes on her back? 🤔 clown behavior. And, why wouldn't you pay child support? The way he's about to cry is ridiculous 😜🤧🤣🤣
Attorney here. It’s important to keep in mind that 1) equitable division of marital assets, 2) alimony, and 3) child support are three completely separate issues that have little to do with each other (for the most part) and serve three completely separate and distinct purposes. EDIT: I said that to emphasize that he was complaining as if his former spouse was taking a more than she was entitled to when in reality the court could have properly awarded her property (including money) from three completely different sources. A lot of the times people conflate division of marital assets with alimony when they’re two completely different legal analyses.
Sir, You had divorce court & didn't have enough common sense to attend. Didn't obtain legal counsel. Didn't protect his own assets. Yet got the nerve to call his wife out her name. I can't imagine how much work she was doing, but yet there's NO mention of how much unpaid labor his wife was doing.
Half is fair. Even the other men dragging this guy feed the idea that women are vampires who take everything. But in a marriage with kids...half is completely fair
That’s very telling of how men are and how many view women. They truly don’t believe women deserve anything. YET, they think they’re owed our bodies after a mere conversation…
Should have gotten a lawyer bc if he represented himself, the judge might have given her more. It happened to my mom's ex, arrogant stupid prick, thought he knew everything, argued with the judge.... this is the best outcome for him tbh. 50% is fair
It always amazes me how they want to build with you. You build with them and when things go south they think suddenly they built all of this by themselves?? 50/50!
These men want a trad wife but during a divorce they don’t want to give her anything. They think she “hasn’t worked” so she doesn’t deserve half of his 401k or the house. And this is why being a SAHM is so risky.
@@beewest5704 Yeah, she probably has little or no work experience at age 30 or more, so she will struggle getting a good job. Plus 3 kids at home with support gone, if they have health issues or any of them are very young, she's stuck at home because daycare will cost more than what she can make at this time. It's shameful. They do it on purpose, I'm absolutely certain. Meanwhile my man has supported me through part time university education for 6 years, I have 1 more year left. I might not even use my degree for a job, because I've decided to get into something else, but he's supported me, celebrated my achievements with me. She likely didn't get a higher education, because she likely would have been working too if she had to pay back those loans. So he swooped in, married a young girl without work experience and education, left her at home to cook, clean and take care of the children so he can have his cake and eat it too, but then half of their assets is too much? Dude, get out of here with that nonsense. The fact he trusted her to, what, not take any of the money, the house, nothing? Tells us everything we need to know. She has treated him like a king and he expected she would do so even in divorce court. Instead she got her half of the assets. Good for her and good for the children. Hope she finds someone who cares about her.
Good for her. Men know by now how marriage works. The risks. Also having kids. Im sick of them acting like children when the court treats them like adults and expects them to pay up.
Women know how it works as well. Women are never without responsibility or accountability. Never. Everything is on our shoulders. The least they could do, especially in a society where men make more money because of their gender, is just pay up for their kids and whatever else. That’s the very least
This is where that money mindset messes men up. As a grown man, you should know if you don’t show up to any kind of court hearing (divorce, housing, civil) the ruling will be against you. I know he is a trucker and it possibly would have been hard to take off, but f*** the job, have them figure it out. Go to your court hearing and advocate for yourself. 🤦🏾♀️ I’m seeing women do the work, get shit done and men are holding their crotches and scratching their heads.
I don't think his boss would skip his own court business to go to work. This is why men stay poor, they have no common sense. They're single minded. They think a basic job is such an accomplishment that they shouldn't have to do anything else, not even pay attention to their own legal affairs. Lazy!
Trucking companies I worked for all had policies to get drivers home for court appearance, but required 2 wk notice. I've never heard of divorce court appearance ordered less than a month in advance
If you have a decent amount of time, which the courts give plenty, any employer will and must let you have the time off. I have an employee who let me know last week that he has some court stuff this coming week. I gave him the time off.
If men don't want to pay after a divorce, don't force your wife to have kids. Don't take away her freedom to work by having her work for you at home. I don't feel sorry for him. His wife deserves more for her time wasted on him.
Yep, mothers that stay at home need that money the most cus they will have a harder time explaining the gap in her resume and they need to take care of the children on top of it, that time she was doing all of the house work she could of have been working but they had an agreement, so she is entitled for half. Don’t like it? Don’t marry someone that would like to stay at home and do the 50% of the child care and house work.
It's not his stuff it's called martial assets. She was entitled to that stuff and child support and alimony. She was his wife not his girlfriend and they have kids. It's crazy how they keep saying his stuff. Then his goofy self don't even care about his kids. I didn't hear him say nothing he willing to do for them. Just a bunch of crying for himself. They ruin they own marriage then have surprised pikachu face when the divorce doesn't go there way🤦🏾♀️🤯🤯
It’s not HIS savings account. The day I filed for my divorce, I had to send my lawyer statements showing my bank balances because it’s considered community property. We were financially pretty even since no one got anything either way but that’s how it’s viewed. It’s marital assets and I’m so sick of them saying “half my stuff.”
He is the funniest fool i ever had seen for not showing up to divorce court and not having a prenup i don't blame her for taking half and of course he was gonna have to pay that good ole child support 😂🤦.
Hmm, I bet he was a hard worker and saver. My cousin's decreased husband was a hard worker and saver; therefore, he was able to leave her and their son comfortable.
When the woman @ 5:30 said that “Men still think you belong to them even after the breakup,” I literally started clapping 😭 Can you tell I’m triggered? 🤣🤣
I know of many instances where men said a woman cheated on them- and then later revealed that they had already been broken up for some time. Like literally hadn’t even been with the woman in a while, find out she’s dating or has someone else and claimed she “ cheated”. SMH
This is why they will also baby trap women for as one man put it -they think even if they don’t “want “you , they believe that they still have access to you and control over you when you’re stuck with an anchor baby.
I’m dying laughing, the Ex Wife did everything, she even handled the divorce on her own. Some people need you to hold their hand too much, people need to keep coming for him.
These men are insane. Im a Sahm my husband works out of town for 3-5 weeks at a timr he worked 13 hours a day i worked 14-17 plus waking up in the night... When the f are you supposed to make your "own money" your money's our money when a woman can no longer make her own income... Common sense.
I’ve seen a lawyer already and I’m going to get half of a lot of stuff and probably the house. This man thinks he will get away with leaving me high and dry. Um ok.
I spoke to my husband and made him listen to these videos and scenarios, he understands why the women deserves half at divorce, if anything she deserves more not just for all the unpaid work, but loss of income for sacrificing her career.
My uncle who lived with my family when I was 10 would always handle his business with child support hearings he has 4 baby Mama's and at one point he didn't have a car but always found a way to get to court.😊
@@margodphdwell you can’t return children to the sender so yeah making 4 mistakes and accepting responsibility for those 4 mistakes is holding yourself accountable …..
Just as men scream and shout that paternity tests should be default at birth, they should also put in the prenuptial agreement how many children THEY WANT *INDEPENDENT* of what number the woman/wife/gf wants. I have NEVER understood why they cry about being ordered Child Support...... FOR THEIR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD!!!!! Ones they themselves wanted!!! And particularly for that number of kids no blame should be passed on the mother/woman. And not complain about it all.
Definitely should have hired a divorce attorney. Second he is responsible for taking care of his children, and especially if she is a stay at home mom she is entitled to alimony.
I'm so sick of people saying "Put me on child support". You aren't on child support. You're paying child support. She didn't "take him" for anything. She got what was hers.
Kids aren’t cheap, and they’re not the entire responsibility of one parent & everyone else’s taxes. The nation chips in for the good of the nation, but the parents are responsible.
Well when men are done with a woman, they believe those children are her full responsible. That’s why the saying is always about “ keeping your legs closed”. Men don’t believe in true accountability. And once a marriage or relationship dissolves they tend to make this reality pretty obvious- but they’ll claim a mother is “ bitter” as his main excuse for simply neglecting his kids.
Men:women live life on easy mode! Also men goes Thanksgiving dinner, eats food and then watches football. Women at Thanksgiving: I gotta clean the house, decorate the house, go grocery shopping for ingredients, prepare a five course meal, eats dinner last, then pack up all the leftovers, wash the dishes, clean the house, put the kids to bed, maybe if there's time take a shower, pass out from exhaustion
Let me get this straight, he was too lazy to be married and a father, then too lazy to do the divorce proceedings, and is shocked things didn't go his way?! Living in lazy stupid land.
His kind always snaps- and literally for nothing. That’s exactly why at least for black people, we need to stop this victim culture regarding black men. Hold them accountable for their choices, especially when it comes to them being married, or just living with a woman , or sleeping around & making kids that they claim they never wanted.
look up cost of housekeeper, personal cook and childcare. you're implying he should benefit from that for free??? so her time and efforts in the home dont count for nothing?
So she recieved exactly what she was entitled to? Wow she really is the worst how terible of her to want to be able to feed the children that he fathered. Dude she birthed your children because of her your genetics get to continue, what she did for you is beyond anything money could replace. How much money are your children worth? Or are they priceless??
5:03 I've heard guys complain about "the courts screwing them" and when I ask basic questions about it.... Turns out they either were lazy and didn't bother doing any of the paperwork, or did it incorrectly, and didn't even bother to any type of consultation with legal experts, which often are available at low cost.... But they rather just cry victim and how unfair it is to men.... Yeah lazy men who don't even bother to show up to their own court dates 🙄
That's because she was a good woman and he was out there driving other things than trucks. So he thought he could trust her with the DIVORCE!!! When a woman is fed up.....
He thought she was an idiot. Period. That’s how men view women who claim they are “ good” simply because they endure various forms of abuse. I realize now that for most males- a “ good woman”, is simply a slave minded woman who allows him to do whatever, however, WHENEVER.
Listen, if I were her, I would have taken more since he literally left the divorce entirely up to her. She must be a really nice lady, and I'm so happy for her. I bet the glow-up afterward was epic.
If you don't show up to court the court automatically sides with the person who actually DID show up it's always been like that. Same thing with child support if you do not show up regardless of if that is your child or not the courts WILL name you as the father and put you on child support AUTOMATICALLY. It doesn't matter what his wife said while she was in court the judge would've divided everything equally off the fact he did not show up to court. At least half isn't everything.
Man always acting like the woman is owed nothing. This isn't new. But now we don't have to hear about oh you are bitter...blah blah blah...no trying to save you from Trauma.
He sounds like something my ediot boy husband would do: Leave everything up to me because he doesn't want to be bothered, and i would smoothly do the same thing she did. This is what happens when you weaponize incompetence. My bird brain husband's favorite line is "i didn't know." Even if he just saw something or i just told him, it's always "well, honey, i didn't know."
The division of assets is equtible especially in California but I agree with the first poster, she was his mommy and did everything even manage THEIR divorce. He should blame himself.
In my state the court will literally not allow someone to not pay child support. Everything here is on an algorithm and nothing you can do or say will sway that. So each parent has a baseline responsibility to each other and the kids based on income and nights spent with the parent. She could walk into court in my state and tell them she wants a divorce and doesn’t want anything and they would say oh well you are a SAHM and he’s not around ever…you are getting half no matter what you want. Knock knock case closed.
He must have married in a state that splits marital assets. The fact he didn't bother to show up court proves a complete lack of personal accountability. He's not a victim. He's foolish.
i don't like how the men were saying that dude's now ex wife is bitter... nah...if she was bitter she would have fought to get all of his stuff.... but she didn't...se just got was she was legally entitled to get...
Lol, so 50/50 is King except during a divorce? Yah see how men switch up.
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They say tricks are for kids. 😁
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She's a stay at home mother. You're damn right she deserves half.
If he's in long-distance trucking, she would have effectively been a single parent during their marriage.
@@kismetcaffet9862Yep. I don't even wanna know how many women he's cheated with while "truck driving."
She deserves more. She has children. Get child support, too.
@@Prismatic9008 you KNOW he did, probably running around with the lot lizards
@@kismetcaffet9862my uncle has his own truck company even though he has a wife n kids he has kids n girls in every state he goes to
Why are men upset about child support?! They make kids and then during a divorce think they don't need food, or what?!
They don’t care about the kids they just use the kids to have access to the woman’s body.
That’s because men or “ fathers” are attached to children based on their attachment to the mother.
BINGO! No access to the mom sexually then many don't want to be bothered withe kids.
Or shelter ????
Also those are her kids once the relationship is over with. And even though she couldn't trust him in the relationship somehow she's suppose to trust that he will still be an active father after the relationship is over😂😂😂
He's so uninvolved that he didn't even care to get a lawyer or anything. People don't divorce for no reason.
That's all I heard. UNINVOLVED
Your name is unhinged 😂
Right? I couldn't be told to stay home with something like that.
He's a tumbleweed with a job.
But had money for a lawyer!
@@lizziedanse8335 Exactly. These are the men who never understand "why."
Bro, grow up and own your own lack of effort. You were ok with leaving her with nothing and karma came and found you.
MEN IF YOU WANT PEACE DONT DATE BLACK WOMEN!!!
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THIS. He's in his FAFO season
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I’ll never understand why men expect their wives and kids to get absolutely nothing after divorce.
Patriarchy 😂they think it's in the best interest of poor males
Entitlement pure and simple. I loved and nurtured him for 27 years I am being screwed and feel fighting just to get something
@@gingerfellah5665. They say men don’t benefit from marriage when it’s actually the other way around.
How many times has a man told his soon-to-be ex wife “oh, it’s fine, don’t worry, I’ll take care of everything!…” and then she’s left w/ nothing???
No sympathy from _this_ direction!💅🏾
Chii...
This reminded of a post I read by a man that was whining about how his wife took "everything".
So basically the man cheated on his wife with a younger woman and the wife filed for divorce. Apparently he did not see this coming, he was blindsided, like most men are🙄
The wife got one of the houses with all the furniture and all (they had two houses), a car and half from the joint account.
You know what's funny, the man made sure a prenup was put in place and the plot twist is, he was the ONE that actually made sure an infidelity clause was put in the prenup🤣😭
This man had the audacity to blame his wife for throwing their marriage away and taking "everything" from him, and what's more insane was the group of men sympathizing with him, talking about how evil women are🙆🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Why wouldn't you go to court on your own behalf?
Or at least hire a divorce attorney
He has to be some kinda slow
He trusts her. Obviously @@iris7301
Some kinda, ALL Kinda Slow more like 😂😂😂
If there's a court order to appear, it's never a good idea not to appear, no matter who says it's optional. That guy's wife was definitely up to no good for suggesting he not show up.
Half of the marital assets is fair. She contributed to the marriage as a mother, wife, cook, maid, nurturer, and general domestic laborer.
I'm so tired of this "she took half my stuff" narrative. The marital assets are shared. She took half of THEIR stuff, which she was entitled to. He got the other half, which he was entitled to. But these guys are addicted to victim mentalities.
Exactly. Let them pay for a maid, cook, nanny, surrogate, prostitute, and personal therapist. Then they don’t have to lose half “their stuff”.
Besides a lot of guys saying she took his money are in a situation where the finances are 50/50, with the woman also doing all the household chores and childcare.
She furthered his goddamn lineage. He should kiss her feet.
My favorite is when they try to say "She took half my social security!" No, she was awarded the EQUIVALENT of half. You still get all your money, bro.
His ex-wife didn’t “take everything”, she took the bare minimum.
Unless someone already has significant personal wealth/assets from before their relationship began, a fair divorce is ALWAYS a 50/50 split + ongoing child support.
Exactly! Men truly believe once a “relationship” or marriage ends- they shouldn’t be responsible for anything. Especially if they no longer have access to the mother- that includes the kids. This is why they go on have more , or simply ignore sets of children when they have them by more then one woman.
100%. But it should be a fair amount of child support.
@angeloliver7613 most jurisdictions base child support on a straight up percentage of the non-custodial parents income. There are adjustments in the calculation depending on time the children spend with the non-custodial parent - I.e. non-custodial parent had the kids every weekend, they're going to pay less than someone who has them every other weekend, or not at all.
They don’t want you to get even one penny when you divorce him
My poor mother came from child sexual abuse and abject poverty and when she was much older became a doctor. My ex is trying to get the money she left me. I loved him with all my heart and he’s still trying to screw me for money
So let me get this straight. He left it up to the woman who is divorcing him to see to his interests in the divorce and expected her to treat him fairly. 😂😂😂😂😂🤔
He's not smart. A real man handles his own business. Thats why he got screwed over
Real man show up to court no matter what work can wait.😊
Half is fair.
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He was treated fairly. He got everything he was entitled to.
My husband says if you cant afford a wife or a family thats fine just don't get married.
Exactly.
Oh these men won’t get married- they’ll just have a forever girlfriend and convince her to “build him up”. She’ll give him kids along the way because he will make her think she’s “ earned the right “ to carry his kids…..smh lol
And get a vasectomy!
Mine too
Right!! Now if only these women would STOP BEGGING THEM TO PROPOSE 🙄
She better be careful of him right now, iykyk
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Iykyk girl. Ikyk.
He out for blood
yep, most dangerous time for a woman is when she is pregnant with his child, or when she is trying to leave him
Men need to understand that when they are married, the money they make is considered FAMILY money, especially when you have a SAHW. If you consider that money YOURS because you are the one that went to a job to work, then the children belong to the woman because it was HER body that carried and birthed them and she stays home to care for them.
MEN IF YOU WANT PEACE DONT DATE BLACK WOMEN!!!
Dont say I didnt warn you
This.
This is funny too because a lot of men would concede the kids to the wife but never the money. They are HER kids but his money is HIS.
@@DesiJoyshows what’s most important to them.
Exactly. I’m so sick of them saying “half my stuff.” Absolutely sick of it.
He's a trucker so he's rarely at home to begin with. He was an absent father and husband.
And I bet he loved every second of it too. It’s the affairs that probably made her actually leave though. Smh
@@hmm-zoololwhatever. They are habitual liars and womanizers. 😂😂😂
@@hmm-zoolol men do bad stuff on work trips all the time, the profession doesn't matter. Haven't you ever heard of a "lot lizard"? 🙄
@@hmm-zoololmen do bad stuff on work trips all the time, the profession doesn't matter. Haven't you ever heard of a 'lot lizard'?
@@hmm-zoololYes, trucking is important. But, this man had a family and chose to ignore that responsibility. He didn't even get a lawyer for his own divorce. I don't know if he is plain stupid or just arrogant. Either way, divorce results in assets and debt being divided. And the children need financial support to live. He made those children with her,so zero sympathy for this guy.
He made sure his wife will divorce him and he thought he doesn’t have to pay?? Men really think they can mistreat us, and when we leave them they expect to be free as a bird with no consequences for their crappy behaviour. News flash! You will PAY for your nonsense.
😅😅😅 at this slow bus 🥷! He thought he owned and controlled her, and she got what she rightly deserved! These clowns!🤡
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So many of them quit jobs to avoid paying. There are even many who go to jail/prison rather than pay.
@fantym1633 toxic men can be evil, this is why women are waking up & making sure they have money first or not having kids at all
@@fantym1633 and they will be broke or live in prison.
Sir we do not care.
😂. I don't understand the lack of intelligence of these men. They want to suck the energy, life, health, and financial resources from women but expect to contribute nothing. Where on earth would that be acceptable?!
😂 who is he complaining to?
😂😂😂😂 FACTS .. SOUNDS LIKE A DRIZZLE DRIZZLE PROBLEM TO ME 🤣🤣🤣👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Lmaoo
I don't understand how he got screwed over? She should be entitled to half of their assets during their marriage. He just thought he would leave her destitute while he went out and lived his best life. He didn't even seem to think he had to pay child support for his own kids!
No he thought he would leave her and the kids destitute WITH HER DOING ALL THE WORK TO MAKE IT HAPPEN, and she would be happy about it.
Plus barely seeing his kids bc he has job that will give him a great excuse to never be around.
He thought he’d be able to work from coast to coast then randomly come in and demand ish, bc he’s a man/the father.
@@xletragedyx yup, he definitely wanted to leave his kids destitute.
My ex of 23 years did just that to me and our 2 kids. He left me destitute and it was the financial support of my sister that kept me and my kids alive. He took off with a woman 20 years younger than himself to live his best life with her. I picked up the pieces and, after 10 years have rebuilt a lively life for my children and myself.
I’ll set straight and say when men no longer have access to you, they don’t want nothing to do with the kids. It’s about control for them. She got what she was entitled to, they don’t get that because most men never wanted marriage. They just wanted the social status, while doing single man activities. No thank you.
THANK YOU! I am so happy I found your comment! Because baby.. YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD!
Whether it’s divorce, a mere break up, or moving out, whatever- when men dislike/hate/ no longer have initiate access to a woman or at the very least some sort of mental control over her- they could care less about them kids! That’s why so many men complain about child support! They don’t believe they should be held responsible for kids that they truly no longer live with or care about. THIS IS REAL LIFE !
Some of them do worse than that. My took EVERYTHING……so far….
He is a victim of his own laziness!
She weaponized his incompetence against him 😂
No. No, she didn't.
1/2 the assets accumulated during the marriage, child support for the children *he caused* + alimony
which tells me he married someone w/zero job skills, experience & likely no education or she now has multiple, preschool kids or has medical issues which preclude her working (which he more than likely gave her).
She took half my savings!
Translates: she now has $38.72 more then yesterday
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Or he was trying to hide some money and she got a nice chunk of change
Bingo! 😂
Women worry about their husband/ex physically hurting them during the divorce process. Men crying about not getting enough money 🙄
The statistically most dangerous person in a pregnant woman's life is literally the baby daddy or husband and the risk that he will freak out and try to k:ll her as a way to abort the fetus. And dudes are out actin like women are pure evil for saying "if you want that kid to have your last name and/or recognize you as their dad, you better help raise them."
THIS 🎯
I was attacked…..he got custody. Yes I don’t believe it either
He was even making her do everything in the divorce. He couldn’t be bothered. Damn.
He was another child to her!
When weaponize incompetence works in your favor 😂
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So true
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The safe he kept at her house??? Sounds like her safe, bruh.
I want to be empathetic however it is your responsibility, no matter the gender, to go to your court date defend yourself, and make your claim to what you want/what is yours. The court is unempathetic to you if you do not show up and if the other person gets free reign, assume the worst.
Especially with kids involved. The court absolutely HATES deadbeat parents. If you don’t even show up, they will throw the whole ass book at them.
Yep! This is accurate af. Tell 'em!
My yard man in jail right now for the same thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣 that fool don’t learn 🤦♀️
Why should we encourage a father to go to Court to leave his ex-wife and kids destitute? 🥴🤪🙄
He’s a truck driver and they are notorious for cheating and rarely home so the wife has little to no support, needs not being met, etc. Bills paid and that’s it. That’s not enough!
It sounds like he was already living a divorced life paying child support and she gets half, so what difference does it make when its legal divorce
Cheating, side babies and STD's!
She was your other half………so she gets half
Best comment ever!😂😂😂
Men want us to go half or be a servant in the homefront. And then they get upset when half goes to the wife in divorce? And men are the logical ones, lmao. His kids are half of him but he doesn’t care a lick for them and feels like he shouldn’t care for them via child support? So who’s the real vampire here
And women are the “emotional” ones to top it off too
My ex doesn’t care about the kids…at…all. But he got custody…..for no reason whatsoever. Judge was female btw. All I did was love the family but I’m being punished for divorcing him
what wrong with this men ? did they expect to get free servant and owe their kids nothing after divorce ? if you care about your money, then marry working women and do half chores, she will create half the money mostly and you will still owe your kids child support. but keep seeking trads women then whine about money is stupid.
They fully expect slavery.
i saw a clip from a divorce lawyer who said that the women who go after the most money are the sahm's. working women don't fight too much for assets because she has her own already. but some men won't go for the high earning woman because they want complete control over her. so whenever a man gets "screwed over" in court, i don't feel bad. he should've cared more about partnership than control.
That's actually exactly what they expect bc they never saw his wife as a person in the first place
@@hardcandy71287dang, that’s some karma for being so exploitative of women’s labor and love.
Yes, they do. And it's ubiquitous too. Doesn't matter your race, ethnicity, SES, culture,or religion...in the states it's a community property state and unless you have a specific prenup, your divorce is a lawsuit that breaks a contract (marriage) and assets and debts are divided and she deserved half. These men think they are entitled to a woman's free labor in the home, free child care, access to her body for pleasure, and most women now work full or part time, so they expect that too. But, many think they owe nothing to the wife and that means money, equitable work in the home and equitable time parenting. The 1950's are not coming back. Women are just going 4B.
Unless the wife has a prenup to protect HERSELF and HER interests, wives need at least half of everything. She was cooking, cleaning, parenting, sex on demand, therapist, and probably more things. He wanted her to just leave with the clothes on her back? 🤔 clown behavior. And, why wouldn't you pay child support? The way he's about to cry is ridiculous 😜🤧🤣🤣
I left with my car and the clothes I stood up in
Attorney here. It’s important to keep in mind that 1) equitable division of marital assets, 2) alimony, and 3) child support are three completely separate issues that have little to do with each other (for the most part) and serve three completely separate and distinct purposes.
EDIT: I said that to emphasize that he was complaining as if his former spouse was taking a more than she was entitled to when in reality the court could have properly awarded her property (including money) from three completely different sources. A lot of the times people conflate division of marital assets with alimony when they’re two completely different legal analyses.
My uncle has been " separated" from his wife who is a lawyer for 9 years. The fool really thinks they are still married. 😂😂😂😂.
I never feel sorry for BM.
Oooph, not sure if we should go to a kinda racist thing about this. Men suck in all races
At this point. I get it 😂
Me either. 🤷🏽♀️
They’ll be iight
Neverrrrrr
💯 I can’t and won’t .
Sir, You had divorce court & didn't have enough common sense to attend. Didn't obtain legal counsel. Didn't protect his own assets. Yet got the nerve to call his wife out her name. I can't imagine how much work she was doing, but yet there's NO mention of how much unpaid labor his wife was doing.
Half is fair. Even the other men dragging this guy feed the idea that women are vampires who take everything. But in a marriage with kids...half is completely fair
That’s very telling of how men are and how many view women. They truly don’t believe women deserve anything. YET, they think they’re owed our bodies after a mere conversation…
So... he didn't go to court... did not think it was a good idea to get a lawyer or even show tf up. Sir, take that L.
Should have gotten a lawyer bc if he represented himself, the judge might have given her more. It happened to my mom's ex, arrogant stupid prick, thought he knew everything, argued with the judge.... this is the best outcome for him tbh. 50% is fair
It always amazes me how they want to build with you. You build with them and when things go south they think suddenly they built all of this by themselves?? 50/50!
What you want to bet half his savings is $800 😂
AND IS ! 🤣🤣
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That's a nice wee bit of change though
My guess is less than that amount!😂😂
That is what I thought when he said that I was like his saving gotta be less than $2k😂
These men want a trad wife but during a divorce they don’t want to give her anything. They think she “hasn’t worked” so she doesn’t deserve half of his 401k or the house. And this is why being a SAHM is so risky.
And even if she gets half 44% of women fall into poverty after a divorce.
@@beewest5704 Yeah, she probably has little or no work experience at age 30 or more, so she will struggle getting a good job. Plus 3 kids at home with support gone, if they have health issues or any of them are very young, she's stuck at home because daycare will cost more than what she can make at this time. It's shameful. They do it on purpose, I'm absolutely certain. Meanwhile my man has supported me through part time university education for 6 years, I have 1 more year left. I might not even use my degree for a job, because I've decided to get into something else, but he's supported me, celebrated my achievements with me. She likely didn't get a higher education, because she likely would have been working too if she had to pay back those loans. So he swooped in, married a young girl without work experience and education, left her at home to cook, clean and take care of the children so he can have his cake and eat it too, but then half of their assets is too much? Dude, get out of here with that nonsense. The fact he trusted her to, what, not take any of the money, the house, nothing? Tells us everything we need to know. She has treated him like a king and he expected she would do so even in divorce court. Instead she got her half of the assets. Good for her and good for the children. Hope she finds someone who cares about her.
Good for her. Men know by now how marriage works. The risks. Also having kids. Im sick of them acting like children when the court treats them like adults and expects them to pay up.
Women know how it works as well. Women are never without responsibility or accountability. Never. Everything is on our shoulders. The least they could do, especially in a society where men make more money because of their gender, is just pay up for their kids and whatever else.
That’s the very least
This is where that money mindset messes men up. As a grown man, you should know if you don’t show up to any kind of court hearing (divorce, housing, civil) the ruling will be against you. I know he is a trucker and it possibly would have been hard to take off, but f*** the job, have them figure it out. Go to your court hearing and advocate for yourself. 🤦🏾♀️ I’m seeing women do the work, get shit done and men are holding their crotches and scratching their heads.
I don't think his boss would skip his own court business to go to work. This is why men stay poor, they have no common sense. They're single minded. They think a basic job is such an accomplishment that they shouldn't have to do anything else, not even pay attention to their own legal affairs. Lazy!
Trucking companies I worked for all had policies to get drivers home for court appearance, but required 2 wk notice. I've never heard of divorce court appearance ordered less than a month in advance
If you have a decent amount of time, which the courts give plenty, any employer will and must let you have the time off. I have an employee who let me know last week that he has some court stuff this coming week. I gave him the time off.
If men don't want to pay after a divorce, don't force your wife to have kids. Don't take away her freedom to work by having her work for you at home. I don't feel sorry for him. His wife deserves more for her time wasted on him.
Yep, mothers that stay at home need that money the most cus they will have a harder time explaining the gap in her resume and they need to take care of the children on top of it, that time she was doing all of the house work she could of have been working but they had an agreement, so she is entitled for half. Don’t like it? Don’t marry someone that would like to stay at home and do the 50% of the child care and house work.
It's not his stuff it's called martial assets. She was entitled to that stuff and child support and alimony. She was his wife not his girlfriend and they have kids. It's crazy how they keep saying his stuff. Then his goofy self don't even care about his kids. I didn't hear him say nothing he willing to do for them. Just a bunch of crying for himself. They ruin they own marriage then have surprised pikachu face when the divorce doesn't go there way🤦🏾♀️🤯🤯
In the words of red fox from Stanford and son you big dummy 😂😂.
🤣🤣🤣 I can hear that in my head! Nice reference...
It’s not HIS savings account. The day I filed for my divorce, I had to send my lawyer statements showing my bank balances because it’s considered community property. We were financially pretty even since no one got anything either way but that’s how it’s viewed. It’s marital assets and I’m so sick of them saying “half my stuff.”
They are just stupid . Literally
Men should look into the cost of hiring a cook, a cleaner, a nanny, a laundry person, a servant, and a personal secretary.
Him not showing up told the judge ALL he/she needed to know. These judges see the BS and act accordingly. AH WELLLLLLLLLLLLL. NEXT CASE!!!
LOL I love watching these fools crying! I bet he was out in these streets doing everything and putting his ex-wife through all sorts of mess!
A grown crying about anything is the stupidest thing ever.
He is the funniest fool i ever had seen for not showing up to divorce court and not having a prenup i don't blame her for taking half and of course he was gonna have to pay that good ole child support 😂🤦.
Looks like she was bearing the emotional burden and had to make all decisions in the marriage and even the DIVORCE! Good that she left him.
💯 agree!
Court cases rarely go in your favour, if you keep on ignoring them, or don't do what your lawyer told you.
Facts!!!
If she took half his savings that should be enough for a lunch for a day😂
Hmm, I bet he was a hard worker and saver. My cousin's decreased husband was a hard worker and saver; therefore, he was able to leave her and their son comfortable.
😂😂😂😂savage
When the woman @ 5:30 said that “Men still think you belong to them even after the breakup,” I literally started clapping 😭
Can you tell I’m triggered? 🤣🤣
I know of many instances where men said a woman cheated on them- and then later revealed that they had already been broken up for some time. Like literally hadn’t even been with the woman in a while, find out she’s dating or has someone else and claimed she “ cheated”.
SMH
@@AmberColeman-gq1wnlmao my ex did this 🤣🤣🤣we were broken up for 8 months lmao
This is why they will also baby trap women for as one man put it -they think even if they don’t “want “you , they believe that they still have access to you and control over you when you’re stuck with an anchor baby.
I’m dying laughing, the Ex Wife did everything, she even handled the divorce on her own. Some people need you to hold their hand too much, people need to keep coming for him.
These men are insane. Im a Sahm my husband works out of town for 3-5 weeks at a timr he worked 13 hours a day i worked 14-17 plus waking up in the night... When the f are you supposed to make your "own money" your money's our money when a woman can no longer make her own income... Common sense.
She needs to avoid this guy for the next 6 months at least. He looks like he's out for blood.
In all honesty he looks too lazy for that lol
Who’s half? His half or her half? What, did he want her half too? Is this boy math?
I’ve seen a lawyer already and I’m going to get half of a lot of stuff and probably the house. This man thinks he will get away with leaving me high and dry. Um ok.
I spoke to my husband and made him listen to these videos and scenarios, he understands why the women deserves half at divorce, if anything she deserves more not just for all the unpaid work, but loss of income for sacrificing her career.
He cares more about his money than his children. He is crying over the money.
We need to stop saying "She got/took half".
Marriage is a joint venture. The venture failed and each member gets to CASHOUT or be BOUGHT OUT.
If he didn’t know he need lawyer can you imagine all the other thing he was stupid about thru his marriage
So was... there a reason she was not entitled to half?
My uncle who lived with my family when I was 10 would always handle his business with child support hearings he has 4 baby Mama's and at one point he didn't have a car but always found a way to get to court.😊
The rare case of a man being accountable. It’s rare for sure .
@@AmberColeman-gq1wn4 baby mama's is accountability? Is the bar really that low?
@@margodphdwell you can’t return children to the sender so yeah making 4 mistakes and accepting responsibility for those 4 mistakes is holding yourself accountable …..
@@aBreathOfZoe1 time is a mistake (if that). After, they are choices. He chose to create broken homes and not be responsible for anything.
Just as men scream and shout that paternity tests should be default at birth, they should also put in the prenuptial agreement how many children THEY WANT *INDEPENDENT* of what number the woman/wife/gf wants. I have NEVER understood why they cry about being ordered Child Support...... FOR THEIR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD!!!!! Ones they themselves wanted!!! And particularly for that number of kids no blame should be passed on the mother/woman. And not complain about it all.
The fact that she doesn't know the combination to the family safe *IN HER HOUSE* already TOLD ME ALL I NEEDED TO KNOW ANYWAY.
This
*HE DEFINITELY WAS A 2ND CHILD AND NOT A HUSBAND*
Definitely should have hired a divorce attorney. Second he is responsible for taking care of his children, and especially if she is a stay at home mom she is entitled to alimony.
What do men think is fair.? Really
He really thought his soon to be ex-wife was going to walk into court by herself and tell the judge she didn’t want anything.
Don't get married, if you do get a prenup, if you don't get a prenup, prepare your exit with the best lawyer.
I'm so sick of people saying "Put me on child support". You aren't on child support. You're paying child support.
She didn't "take him" for anything.
She got what was hers.
Kids aren’t cheap, and they’re not the entire responsibility of one parent & everyone else’s taxes. The nation chips in for the good of the nation, but the parents are responsible.
Well when men are done with a woman, they believe those children are her full responsible. That’s why the saying is always about “ keeping your legs closed”. Men don’t believe in true accountability.
And once a marriage or relationship dissolves they tend to make this reality pretty obvious- but they’ll claim a mother is “ bitter” as his main excuse for simply neglecting his kids.
He is almost as funny as that guy who was *DRIVING* while on a suspended DRIVING LICENSE to a zoom court appearance. 😂
Men:women live life on easy mode!
Also men goes Thanksgiving dinner, eats food and then watches football.
Women at Thanksgiving: I gotta clean the house, decorate the house, go grocery shopping for ingredients, prepare a five course meal, eats dinner last, then pack up all the leftovers, wash the dishes, clean the house, put the kids to bed, maybe if there's time take a shower, pass out from exhaustion
You forgot get pestered and pressured about being too tired for intimacy by him after that long ass day!
Honestly, I’m extremely proud of this woman. Every woman should do the same.
Let me get this straight, he was too lazy to be married and a father, then too lazy to do the divorce proceedings, and is shocked things didn't go his way?! Living in lazy stupid land.
I just hope she protects herself. He seems like the type who will snap. 😕
His kind always snaps- and literally for nothing. That’s exactly why at least for black people, we need to stop this victim culture regarding black men. Hold them accountable for their choices, especially when it comes to them being married, or just living with a woman , or sleeping around & making kids that they claim they never wanted.
@@AmberColeman-gq1wnYup. That’s their brand pretty much. 😕
Technically she didn't even lie. She didn't take any of his stuff. Only hers and children's.
If she help him build his business, she should get half.
look up cost of housekeeper, personal cook and childcare. you're implying he should benefit from that for free??? so her time and efforts in the home dont count for nothing?
So she recieved exactly what she was entitled to? Wow she really is the worst how terible of her to want to be able to feed the children that he fathered. Dude she birthed your children because of her your genetics get to continue, what she did for you is beyond anything money could replace. How much money are your children worth? Or are they priceless??
Its giving "youre a victim" but of his own laziness and responsibilities.
5:03 I've heard guys complain about "the courts screwing them" and when I ask basic questions about it....
Turns out they either were lazy and didn't bother doing any of the paperwork, or did it incorrectly, and didn't even bother to any type of consultation with legal experts, which often are available at low cost....
But they rather just cry victim and how unfair it is to men....
Yeah lazy men who don't even bother to show up to their own court dates 🙄
He gets no sympathy from me.
That's because she was a good woman and he was out there driving other things than trucks. So he thought he could trust her with the DIVORCE!!! When a woman is fed up.....
He thought she was an idiot. Period. That’s how men view women who claim they are “ good” simply because they endure various forms of abuse. I realize now that for most males- a “ good woman”, is simply a slave minded woman who allows him to do whatever, however, WHENEVER.
She is still a good woman half is what she's entitled to and child support should be a no brainer.
Listen, if I were her, I would have taken more since he literally left the divorce entirely up to her. She must be a really nice lady, and I'm so happy for her. I bet the glow-up afterward was epic.
If you don't show up to court the court automatically sides with the person who actually DID show up it's always been like that. Same thing with child support if you do not show up regardless of if that is your child or not the courts WILL name you as the father and put you on child support AUTOMATICALLY. It doesn't matter what his wife said while she was in court the judge would've divided everything equally off the fact he did not show up to court. At least half isn't everything.
Marraige is a business. What does he expect 😅
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This guy doesn't even understand basic court proceedings😂😂 and your laugh at the beginning made me laugh!
"The safe that I kept at HER house" #EnoughSaid
Man always acting like the woman is owed nothing. This isn't new. But now we don't have to hear about oh you are bitter...blah blah blah...no trying to save you from Trauma.
Factz I hope these younger girls take heed
Dude, put a rain coat on the old fella to avoid creating more off spring. 😂😂😂
He sounds like something my ediot boy husband would do: Leave everything up to me because he doesn't want to be bothered, and i would smoothly do the same thing she did. This is what happens when you weaponize incompetence. My bird brain husband's favorite line is "i didn't know." Even if he just saw something or i just told him, it's always "well, honey, i didn't know."
The division of assets is equtible especially in California but I agree with the first poster, she was his mommy and did everything even manage THEIR divorce. He should blame himself.
In my state the court will literally not allow someone to not pay child support. Everything here is on an algorithm and nothing you can do or say will sway that. So each parent has a baseline responsibility to each other and the kids based on income and nights spent with the parent. She could walk into court in my state and tell them she wants a divorce and doesn’t want anything and they would say oh well you are a SAHM and he’s not around ever…you are getting half no matter what you want. Knock knock case closed.
That’s a great state. My state does the exact opposite. It rewards men who abandon children- married or otherwise.
What state is this ?? 👀
😂😂😂 You depend on someone else representing you in court
He must have married in a state that splits marital assets. The fact he didn't bother to show up court proves a complete lack of personal accountability. He's not a victim. He's foolish.
"I have to pay child support!" Yeah, thats what happens when you make children....you help care for them.
How could anyone want to divorce this Prize?
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Most divorces split things 50 50 unless you come to agreement otherwise. So it seems what happened was pretty standard.
i don't like how the men were saying that dude's now ex wife is bitter... nah...if she was bitter she would have fought to get all of his stuff.... but she didn't...se just got was she was legally entitled to get...