I cried while watching this, I’m so glad this video exists. Hearing my gynaecologists say that “it’s all in your head” and not take me seriously destroyed me, and made me feel like something was wrong with me. So happy that there’s people out there who understand.
@@pathojen9691 you're not alone I've went through the same exact issue!! I don't feel like many ob gyn are understanding or compassionate about this and in the past were very forceful when conducting pelvic exams which have caused me so much fear & anxiety to this day. I recently found out about pelvic floor exercises & dialators and am considering looking into that. It really is awful, most ppl don't understand or get it unless they've dealt with this
I'm so grateful for this video. Thankyou so much, I broke down in tears because I can really relate. I am a 24 yr old and have been married for 4 years. I was a virgin before I married, so I had no clue I had this condition until my wedding night. I still have this condition, and have finally started psycho-sexual therapy. I have been given dilators and feel a panic every time I even look at the box. I am looking into botox treatment but wish me luck on attempting to use dilators. Whoever is reading this and is going through this emotional & physical turmoil, Please know your not alone. Stay strong ladies, We can do this! I just wanted to add... After 6 months of using dilators (beginning with the smallest which took the longest because overcoming the fear of entering anything for the first time was very daunting) I managed to overcome the condition and had sex for the first time! It wasnt always simple... what works for some, may not work for others. I used PLENTY of lubricant (got through 6 big bottles) each time I would use the dilator and in the beginning I found that distracting myself by watching a tv show whilst doing the exercise really helped. I was taught to wean myself off this slowly and concentrate on my breathing and going very slowly. I also took my time with progressing to each size, which ultimately helped me get over the fear. I'm so glad I stuck through the dilators because i think most the fear was in my head. It wasnt as bad as I thought. Once you get through the smallest dilator, you realise that it is painless and easy. If I can do it, anyone can do it!
Hello amarah! Tell me where r u from?? I m suffering same problem. It's been three years of my marriage but unable to have relationship with my hubby. Can u guide me in this regard
@@noreenshahzad5970 Hi, I am from the UK. I am still going through this problem, however I am seeing a therapist who has given me dilators to try at home. I suggest you find a sex therapist nearest to you and they will be able to advise you further considering how severe your condition is. I know it's hard, especially being married but get help for this problem it won't go away by itself.
I cried watching this. I'm 27 and have never been able to have sex or even insert a tampon it's excruciating. I finally seeked medical advice and was told it may be vaginismus and have been referred to a gynaecologist so hoping this is the start of recovery :)
Alexandria hi Alexandria, I wanted to know if perhaps you would share your experience with me? I’m kind of in the same boat as you. My email is breatheeasy22@outlook.com
Lucky to have an understanding mother, my mom mocked me and said I don't love my boyfriend enough to feel aroused. That destroyed me inside. I never talked about any intimate thing with her again...
the day after my wedding I called my cousin because I needed somebody to please tell me I'm not a freak of nature. she laughed at me and told me that it was the weirdest thing she had ever heard. has nothing to do with how much you love the person you're with it's a medical condition. never let anyone make you feel like a freak over it sweetie.
I'm so sorry for you about this. Sometimes parents don't know what they're saying. Parents only give what they have, or say what they know. I know this comment was 9 months ago but idk if you're feeling the same still... Don't let this stop you. This is a taboo, and there's a lot of people that don't know anything about it.
I guess there is a lot of misunderstanding going on over this topic. I got such a reaction from my GP (a doctor, yes!). I went to see her for something else and decided to bring up this thing on how I was unable to have sex. She just looked at my file and said: "But you're already 23, no wonder you're being nervous by now." I said I didn't think that was the problem but she just insisted: "23 is late, most people have already done it by your age." Yeah, so would I if I had been able to. She made me feel like such a freak. Anyway, soon after that I got ditched by a guy over this and I decided that something needed to be done. I made an appointment with a sexologist and had some sessions with her, which worked amazingly well and fast. Soon after that I met another guy and we were able to have sex. Our relationship didn't last very long, but I was over it by then.
Thank you for this. I was just diagnosed with vaginismus. I am currently in a relationship with a partner who is very understanding and supportive. He doesn’t pressure me to have sex and knows that it is something that I physically can’t do. I’m very lucky to have a partner who is so supportive and is with me every step of this journey ❤️
Molly, your story mirrors mine in so many ways. Wish we could connect, I've never met anyone with this disorder! Thank you for sharing your story, it makes me not feel so alone.
Kate, you can meet many other women with vaginismus by joining our support group Private Pain on Facebook. If you do not want the group to show on your wall, login under a different name and follow instructions for joining.
I'm 26 now and I continue to deal with this. Hoping to resolve this somehow. The silver lining, meanwhile, is how, to quote something I read once, our condition helps "weed out the jerks"
Sorry to read of your struggle with vaginismus, and glad you see the silver lining. We are here to provide solutions, if interested. Contact us by either calling 516.576.1118 or emailing to doctors@womentc.com
I got rid of it myself at 26, I was just too concerned something is wrong with me. I begged gynecologists for a surgery but hopefully none of them said yes. So I bought a really small bullet vibrator and I read a lot of my favourite fanfics to turn myself on :D Btw it did not hurt and didn't even bleed, it was also really satisfying to finally confirm my body is doing ok 😅
Molly is a wonderful, attractive spokeswoman for the "cause" -- which I say as a woman who suffered from vaginismus and also had a doctor-ordered hymenectomy many years ago. I wish you a very happy future, Molly!
Exact same thing with me. I dated my husband for 3 years and we got engaged and married. This is still a struggle for me. I really hope I can get a cure.
I too can relate. In have been married 4 months now to an amazing man who I love deeply. I'm riddled with guilt, depression and shame over this. I need help
I am suffering from this, it's been 3 yrs of our marriage, I am not able to conceive, not able to enjoy being intimate with my husband, he thinks I making excuses. I feel terrible.
I have had severe vaginal pain for months. I have been to 7 appointments with 5 different doctors. They do not seem to understand the level of pain I am experiencing. I have done hours of research on my own due to the doctors lack of research, I pray it will be cured as soon as possible. I am engaged and have been in a relationship for 7 years. Luckily he is understanding but I, nor he deserve being unable to have sex. I hope everyone experiencing this finds relief. ❤️
The same thing happened to me. I had read about vaginismus before the gynecological exam and when I first went she couldn't examen me because it was too painful. I had mentioned it briefly but she brushed it off and I had a hymenectomy. During the post-op exam I thought it would have been all better like Molly had thought. After it was awfly painful she said to just relax and asked if I wanted condoms. I had already told her I was lesbian and besides the fact she did not know about idk... how women can still retract STIs from lesbian sex. But thats besides the point, she told me to "just relax" and when I told her to take her finger out she didn't until I started crying repeating "stop, stop! Take it out!" I feel like crap because "it's all in my head." It's comforting to know that there are people who understand.
My SO thinks I don’t get turned on by him because I have vaginismus and that’s not true. I literally can’t help it but I am trying to work on it. I can insert things without pain but it takes a lot of relaxation and deep breathing.
i'm 20 and I have it. I am from Italy, we don't have this center and the last boy I told about my condition just laughed at my face. So I'm going to die alone, I wish I could have just been normal.
It's gonna be okay, I'm 20 too and I'm from South Africa . I'm just hoping that everything will be fine with me One day and I won't have to lose any boyfriend I get.most of people don't know anything about Vaginismus so they don't believe wen sex is not happening, at first I just thought sex it's not meant for me but after watching this video I'm hoping for the best..Stay strong ❤
Same here, I'm italian too and I'm 23, my condition got better with time and exercises, sometimes I'm able to have penetrating intercourse but sometimes not, I'm in an open relationship and with new guys no matter how much I want it sometimes it won't work and that makes me feel so miserable and ashamed and yeah the fact that everyone thinks that "it's *just* in your head" makes it even worse 'cause it makes me feel even more guilty and broken.
Vaginismus continues to be an elusive condition that is poorly understood and inadequately managed. Let us know if we can be of further assistance. www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
You can read more here www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/ and let us know if you need further assistance.
Thank you for your story. Your story is much like mine. I found out on my wedding night I have this. I havent talked to many people about this and am seeking treatment to get through this. Your story is inspiring.
Watching this video in 2022, I honestly thought I was the only one who suffered with this. The condition has made me feel defective. They told me that it was all in my head and did not really support me. I am still suffering and now I have a partner and it is really worrying me. I am trying pelvic therapy and medication and still not working. It just feels like a hopeless situation :(
Never give up! Are you able to come to us in New York for treatment? Please direct communication to our office at 516.576.1118 or via email to doctors@womentc.com
Blessings on you Molly for your story and willingness to help others! And blessings on WTC for providing this informative and encouraging channel on youtube! Straight men will never understand, and so many men are still so immature in their comprehension of the act of sex and its many dimensions. I also wish to encourage you and all women to seek ways to improve your self-image and sense of self-worth. I cannot pretend to understand, but I can provide my partner with a protective space to build love and trust, and after 10 years she now wants to see a doctor and consider hope for her future. Visualize success, and create some visual aids to remind you of your vision of success, they really will help! :) Don't date men who are driven by their testosterone to say or do whatever will help them achieve their own selfish outcomes they only re-introduce painful traumatic experiences; be very selective in dating, even after the healing is complete. I was like that for many years, and I am very sorry for the pain I caused others through my selfish, childish motives. I am amazed and undeserving of the relationship I now have. Visualize success, and create those visual aids!
i’ve never been able to insert a tampon. for about 6 months i’ve been trying to insert my index finger in my vagina- without succes. i could only manage about half my finger. today, i’ve been officialy diagnosed with vaginismus. weirdly enough, the doctor’s pinky finger fit in all the way without pain?! so, just an hour ago i tried it myself, and guess what? my index, ring, and pinky finger fit without a problem (not at the same time, lol)?! now i’m gonna order a dilator set and start pelvix floor therapy. but, idk, for the past few years i thought that i couldn’t insert anything ever, and now i can manage an entire finger?! in conclusion: i’m hopeful and i strongly advise everyone to go and see a doctor. (:
@@daniellekotrotsos608 hi Danielle, I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Hopefully this can bring some comfort: I am officially “cured”. I’m able to have pain free sex and have been able to for about 2,5 years now. Not saying it’s like that for everyone, but I think that a combination of different treatments is your best bet :) Good luck ❤
@@adrianadilaurentis3382Hi, may I ask how long does it take to be fully treated, and can you share more about the whole treatment process. Thank you so much
Thank you so much for this video. I am 30 years old and have never enjoyed sex, no matter how aroused I was by my partner. I feel like I've been partially losing my virginity over and over again for 10 years. It's been awful. I've worried that I was actually asexual (not that it's bad to have this or any orientation, but I didn't want to be) or just not compatible with anyone because sex was just impossible. I can't afford a sex therapist but I'm going to see both a gynecologist and a therapist (for anxiety) and I will bring up this issue as a possibility so fingers crossed...
You are very brave for doing this I know people that still struggle with this issue. For those out there dealing with this there is no shame in this at all. This can literally tear a relationship apart and even worse you will not be able to bear children. I hope more people realize it’s ok to talk about it and to go get seen. My own past relationship didn’t work because my ex didn’t want to get seen even with my full support.
i can relate too this girl story sooooooooooooooooooooooooo well, so well, 13# can relate to this girls story, may god bless and help all ladys and all girls with this they say i have this too i pray too for help to so i can get me a handsome loving great husband too. god bless you and us all with this problem bless us all lord bless us amen amen.
I had been having penetrative sex with my SO for 4 years before my vaginismus developed and it went from being amazing and painless to slowly developing and it got worse and worse and now it’s been 4 years almost since I’ve had actual sex with my husband. We tried for so long to overcome it but it feels like a razor blade being inserted and I scream out and cry when we attempt it. (It’s been like 2 years now since we attempted penetration bc it’s so painful). I miss having sex with my husband but idk what to do. Gynecologists don’t help and they’ll just try to insert something into me... I feel so lost....
I'm 20 and recently me and my boyfriend tried to have sex 2 times but I couldn't . He said just because I never did this before , it feels like hitting a wall , it was painful . Then suddenly just few days ago a video about vaginismus came in my Instagram feed . After reading about this condition , I couldn't Stop crying . Soon I will consult a gyno
Wonderful that know you know what is the problem - vaginismus - and you will be seeking help. Make sure to also read our website for much more info (www.womentc.com) and let us know if you have any questions.
selam gebretsadic hey Selam, reaching out to your local doctor is a really great start!! However, be confident in your own feelings and body, and don’t let them invalidate anything you’re feeling (they might try to say that it’s something that it’s not). Do you have any other close family members or friends to turn to? xx if not, there’s so many TH-cam videos out there that cover this sort of stuff. And honestly, you are a very strong and brave girl, so I have no doubt that in time you’ll be able to find the treatment you need to be cured :)) good luck!
I have vaginismus and \I am still virgin, I never had sex. I dont know what to do, and I turn to 30 years old....I think in my case is more bad coz I am virgin. and some women have vaginismus but they arent virgin
M 25 years old n I think m also suffering from vaginismus I tried with my 2 fingers n I happens not easily but yeah I did this but after sometime when I move forward n involve my third finger also it was painful n after this few seconds procedure I felt like I have my heart in my vagina it’s like contracted n dilated I was feeling so stressed can’t explain what exactly happening with me PLEASE HELP m literally crying 😭
Vaginismus continues to be an elusive condition, and poorly understood by others. Read more here www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
My case is different.. i am able to use a tampon. But, the room down there is very small. Probably around three/four inches. I also get more discharge than average if that is related to my problem. I am young but im very concerned. Ive looked at some cases and mine doesnt fit with any of them. Ive had this problem for a good amount of time now. Im not too sure if this is vaginismus
Some women with vaginismus can still use tampons and have a gynecologic examination. Discharge may not be a related issue. Have you spoken with your doctor? Read more here www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
Oh, no! Don't feel hopeless. Have you sought treatment? Able to come to us for treatment? Call 516.576.1118 or email doctors@womentc.com to discuss options.
I have been married for 1 and half year, but we didn’t able to have sex for this vaginismus. I cry everyday, i get upset for this, but i thing is that my husband never told me anything for this disease. He is very good person, but i want to make him happy, but the pain is intolerable. But i have decided to myself i will go to a doctor for the dilation in the next month. And i request all of you say Alhamdulillah if you don't have this pain, i wish i could be normal like every women😭 I just wish
Once you cure it is penetration simply not painful and its like you're "enduring" it? Or does it become pleasurable? I'm confused on how I can go from the most extreme pain in my life to pleasure. Because I've still never had an orgasm and am hoping that once I can have penwtration that THAT'S what gets me off.
Once cured, all penetrations are pain-free. Also, most women do not get sexually aroused/climax with during sexual intercourse unless they are stimulated clitorally at the same time. Check more videos about that on our sister channel IntimateLens (th-cam.com/channels/X0RwSXjOxzq1XhJ3MSUWPw.html)
Sorry for the belated reply but your comment did not show up. Are you still seeking our input? www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
Sorry to hear. We had a patient from Romania last year who also struggled with finding local resources. If you can come to us in New York, we'll be happy to discuss further details. Let us know at doctors@womentc.com. You may also want to join Private Pain, our Facebook group for vaginismus.
@@journeyofmillionairemindset Vaginismus is a disheartening condition. Sorry about your suffering. Speak with your doctor about local solutions. We are always here if coming to us for treatment is an option. Good luck!
I am 38 years old and have been suffering from this since 17. There was no treatment when i was young. I was told to oush through and to endure. I didnt. I stoped having sex and me and my husband had to find other ways to be close. We got our children through IVF because even trying to get a suringe with sperm in was too painfull... i am happy that the knowledge has increased. However i feel it is too late for me. I will never ever enjoy sex.
It is never too late!!! We had many patients like you, up to the age of 60+ who wanted to - finally - cure their vaginismus and own their vagina and sexuality. Happy to be of help to you too. Call us at 516.576.1118 or email doctors@womentc.com and mention this conversation.
Omg plz help me i am married for 3months and i am suspecting i have vaginismus, i thought it'll go with time now knowing all your experiences i am really afraid. The society i live in i can't go to a gyno with the situation. Plz help
To each woman her own process. Vaginismus treatment is NOT a cookie cutter approach. While it always includes guides/supervised dilator use, there is much more to the process, including managing the underlying anxiety.
I have a girlfriend she has vaginismus, she doesn't want do any treatment, I'm not sure if this condition is solvable or not ,but we tried hunderd times with any possible ways we used numbness substances we changed positions, she drunk alcohol it's impossible, and exhausting I'm not interested to be with her anymore even though she is very nice behaved girl ,I don't think this condition she got solved , even if she can handle it with dilators yet she would have painfull intercours that is not sex,it's something disturbing for both of us ,Idk,it's weird because after several years I met her who I trust her and this is my luck 😂now I should return to my past being single looking for dates
Where are you located? And, visit our website for more information about vaginismus www.womentc.com. Email us for further discussion doctors@womentc.com
Bre, the details differ per the specific needs of each woman. Molly's course of treatment may not at all suit yours. Feel free to contact us directly with questions (doctors@womentc.com)
İ have a vaginismus and my partner said in anger that should İ teach you everytime the position of sex ? İ said oh , it's a bad behavior and continued in anger that learn then ! İt was soo painful & İ said let's stop and he didn't pay any attention to me and he kept fuc king me , after sex he said in anger that your tolerance for pain is so low , İ said don't talk to me like that and he said in anger that it's on my nerves !
So sorry to hear of your partner's abusive behaviour toward you. Maybe he is not the partner to have? Nobody should force any woman into anything, and they should certainly stop when the woman tells them to. Be strong and protect your sexual rights!
Vaginismus has nothing to do with sexual practice -- it is a panic about vaginal penetration. Many have a wonderful sex life with the exception of intercourse.
How horrible... So sorry to hear... Sadly, such ignorance (and abuse) still happens... Stay strong and seek help for your vaginismus as there is no reason to live with it. Let us know if interested in our services (doctors@womentc.com or 516.576.1118)
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I cried while watching this, I’m so glad this video exists. Hearing my gynaecologists say that “it’s all in your head” and not take me seriously destroyed me, and made me feel like something was wrong with me. So happy that there’s people out there who understand.
i feel like that....like somthing is wrong with me...
You're not alone, I feel the exact same way, that theres something wrong with me. Its heart breaking
Kirra Lang I was also told it was in my head, I don’t believe men would be told this. I hope you heal soon.
@@pathojen9691 you're not alone I've went through the same exact issue!! I don't feel like many ob gyn are understanding or compassionate about this and in the past were very forceful when conducting pelvic exams which have caused me so much fear & anxiety to this day. I recently found out about pelvic floor exercises & dialators and am considering looking into that. It really is awful, most ppl don't understand or get it unless they've dealt with this
Well it is a psychological thing, but it is also physical
I'm so grateful for this video. Thankyou so much, I broke down in tears because I can really relate.
I am a 24 yr old and have been married for 4 years. I was a virgin before I married, so I had no clue I had this condition until my wedding night. I still have this condition, and have finally started psycho-sexual therapy. I have been given dilators and feel a panic every time I even look at the box. I am looking into botox treatment but wish me luck on attempting to use dilators. Whoever is reading this and is going through this emotional & physical turmoil, Please know your not alone. Stay strong ladies, We can do this!
I just wanted to add... After 6 months of using dilators (beginning with the smallest which took the longest because overcoming the fear of entering anything for the first time was very daunting) I managed to overcome the condition and had sex for the first time! It wasnt always simple... what works for some, may not work for others. I used PLENTY of lubricant (got through 6 big bottles) each time I would use the dilator and in the beginning I found that distracting myself by watching a tv show whilst doing the exercise really helped. I was taught to wean myself off this slowly and concentrate on my breathing and going very slowly. I also took my time with progressing to each size, which ultimately helped me get over the fear. I'm so glad I stuck through the dilators because i think most the fear was in my head. It wasnt as bad as I thought. Once you get through the smallest dilator, you realise that it is painless and easy.
If I can do it, anyone can do it!
Hello amarah! Tell me where r u from?? I m suffering same problem. It's been three years of my marriage but unable to have relationship with my hubby. Can u guide me in this regard
@@noreenshahzad5970 Hi,
I am from the UK. I am still going through this problem, however I am seeing a therapist who has given me dilators to try at home. I suggest you find a sex therapist nearest to you and they will be able to advise you further considering how severe your condition is. I know it's hard, especially being married but get help for this problem it won't go away by itself.
Thanx for ur reply, but i m afraid i will not b able to find any sex therapist in Pakistan
@@noreenshahzad5970 I understand how this may feel, but have you tried looking in a city? You can find female OBGYN's I'm sure.
Why r u not using dilators? Is it also painful to use dilators?
I cried watching this. I'm 27 and have never been able to have sex or even insert a tampon it's excruciating. I finally seeked medical advice and was told it may be vaginismus and have been referred to a gynaecologist so hoping this is the start of recovery :)
Good luck to you, and do not hesitate to reach out to us if you do not find solutions elsewhere.
Alexandria hi Alexandria, I wanted to know if perhaps you would share your experience with me? I’m kind of in the same boat as you. My email is breatheeasy22@outlook.com
Hi Alexandria, How did it go, are you cured now?
Hi can I help you
Lucky to have an understanding mother, my mom mocked me and said I don't love my boyfriend enough to feel aroused. That destroyed me inside. I never talked about any intimate thing with her again...
the day after my wedding I called my cousin because I needed somebody to please tell me I'm not a freak of nature. she laughed at me and told me that it was the weirdest thing she had ever heard. has nothing to do with how much you love the person you're with it's a medical condition. never let anyone make you feel like a freak over it sweetie.
I'm so sorry for you about this. Sometimes parents don't know what they're saying. Parents only give what they have, or say what they know. I know this comment was 9 months ago but idk if you're feeling the same still... Don't let this stop you. This is a taboo, and there's a lot of people that don't know anything about it.
joanaboleo don’t listen to her -.-
Spazzy taco like for real man. Nobody would listen when I said I was in constant pain
I guess there is a lot of misunderstanding going on over this topic. I got such a reaction from my GP (a doctor, yes!). I went to see her for something else and decided to bring up this thing on how I was unable to have sex. She just looked at my file and said: "But you're already 23, no wonder you're being nervous by now." I said I didn't think that was the problem but she just insisted: "23 is late, most people have already done it by your age." Yeah, so would I if I had been able to. She made me feel like such a freak. Anyway, soon after that I got ditched by a guy over this and I decided that something needed to be done. I made an appointment with a sexologist and had some sessions with her, which worked amazingly well and fast. Soon after that I met another guy and we were able to have sex. Our relationship didn't last very long, but I was over it by then.
Thank you for this. I was just diagnosed with vaginismus. I am currently in a relationship with a partner who is very understanding and supportive. He doesn’t pressure me to have sex and knows that it is something that I physically can’t do. I’m very lucky to have a partner who is so supportive and is with me every step of this journey ❤️
Did you cure it already? How is it going? I am a male and my girlfriend has this but I don‘t know how to help
Hi can I help
Have you gotten Pelvic Floor Therapy?
This is so real Molly thank you so much for SPEAKING about it since barely no one does.. Thank you lovely, brave Molly
Molly, your story mirrors mine in so many ways. Wish we could connect, I've never met anyone with this disorder! Thank you for sharing your story, it makes me not feel so alone.
Kate, you can meet many other women with vaginismus by joining our support group Private Pain on Facebook. If you do not want the group to show on your wall, login under a different name and follow instructions for joining.
I'd also like to connect. I live in Africa, resources on this topic seem so scarce here
25% of women have this condition
@@Womentc can i join please reply
@@noorjahannoora7194 Of course! Go to our website and follow the link www.womentc.com
I'm 26 now and I continue to deal with this. Hoping to resolve this somehow. The silver lining, meanwhile, is how, to quote something I read once, our condition helps "weed out the jerks"
Sorry to read of your struggle with vaginismus, and glad you see the silver lining. We are here to provide solutions, if interested. Contact us by either calling 516.576.1118 or emailing to doctors@womentc.com
I got rid of it myself at 26, I was just too concerned something is wrong with me. I begged gynecologists for a surgery but hopefully none of them said yes.
So I bought a really small bullet vibrator and I read a lot of my favourite fanfics to turn myself on :D
Btw it did not hurt and didn't even bleed, it was also really satisfying to finally confirm my body is doing ok 😅
It's hard that only few understand. They need awareness. Thank you for sharing your story.
It is indeed, and we appreciate your comment. Let us know if we can be of further assistance (www.womentc.com)
Molly is a wonderful, attractive spokeswoman for the "cause" -- which I say as a woman who suffered from vaginismus and also had a doctor-ordered hymenectomy many years ago. I wish you a very happy future, Molly!
Hello, how did you overcome vaginismus?
Exact same thing with me. I dated my husband for 3 years and we got engaged and married. This is still a struggle for me. I really hope I can get a cure.
I’m sorry your engagement ended. I hope it wasn’t because of this.
I too can relate. In have been married 4 months now to an amazing man who I love deeply. I'm riddled with guilt, depression and shame over this. I need help
Evn me
I am suffering from this, it's been 3 yrs of our marriage, I am not able to conceive, not able to enjoy being intimate with my husband, he thinks I making excuses. I feel terrible.
A real man will be patient
I have had severe vaginal pain for months. I have been to 7 appointments with 5 different doctors. They do not seem to understand the level of pain I am experiencing. I have done hours of research on my own due to the doctors lack of research, I pray it will be cured as soon as possible. I am engaged and have been in a relationship for 7 years. Luckily he is understanding but I, nor he deserve being unable to have sex. I hope everyone experiencing this finds relief. ❤️
My wife suffers fro this and she is tired of seeing doctors. She feels they're all fucking useless.
The same thing happened to me. I had read about vaginismus before the gynecological exam and when I first went she couldn't examen me because it was too painful. I had mentioned it briefly but she brushed it off and I had a hymenectomy. During the post-op exam I thought it would have been all better like Molly had thought. After it was awfly painful she said to just relax and asked if I wanted condoms. I had already told her I was lesbian and besides the fact she did not know about idk... how women can still retract STIs from lesbian sex. But thats besides the point, she told me to "just relax" and when I told her to take her finger out she didn't until I started crying repeating "stop, stop! Take it out!" I feel like crap because "it's all in my head." It's comforting to know that there are people who understand.
My SO thinks I don’t get turned on by him because I have vaginismus and that’s not true. I literally can’t help it but I am trying to work on it. I can insert things without pain but it takes a lot of relaxation and deep breathing.
i'm 20 and I have it. I am from Italy, we don't have this center and the last boy I told about my condition just laughed at my face. So I'm going to die alone, I wish I could have just been normal.
It's gonna be okay, I'm 20 too and I'm from South Africa . I'm just hoping that everything will be fine with me One day and I won't have to lose any boyfriend I get.most of people don't know anything about Vaginismus so they don't believe wen sex is not happening, at first I just thought sex it's not meant for me but after watching this video I'm hoping for the best..Stay strong ❤
Same here, I'm italian too and I'm 23, my condition got better with time and exercises, sometimes I'm able to have penetrating intercourse but sometimes not, I'm in an open relationship and with new guys no matter how much I want it sometimes it won't work and that makes me feel so miserable and ashamed and yeah the fact that everyone thinks that "it's *just* in your head" makes it even worse 'cause it makes me feel even more guilty and broken.
Vaginismus continues to be an elusive condition that is poorly understood and inadequately managed. Let us know if we can be of further assistance.
www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
You can read more here www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/ and let us know if you need further assistance.
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Thank you for your story. Your story is much like mine. I found out on my wedding night I have this. I havent talked to many people about this and am seeking treatment to get through this. Your story is inspiring.
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Are you able to do it now? I’m nervous. Help me. Guide me. Talk to me.
Watching this video in 2022, I honestly thought I was the only one who suffered with this. The condition has made me feel defective. They told me that it was all in my head and did not really support me. I am still suffering and now I have a partner and it is really worrying me. I am trying pelvic therapy and medication and still not working. It just feels like a hopeless situation :(
Never give up! Are you able to come to us in New York for treatment? Please direct communication to our office at 516.576.1118 or via email to doctors@womentc.com
Blessings on you Molly for your story and willingness to help others! And blessings on WTC for providing this informative and encouraging channel on youtube! Straight men will never understand, and so many men are still so immature in their comprehension of the act of sex and its many dimensions. I also wish to encourage you and all women to seek ways to improve your self-image and sense of self-worth. I cannot pretend to understand, but I can provide my partner with a protective space to build love and trust, and after 10 years she now wants to see a doctor and consider hope for her future. Visualize success, and create some visual aids to remind you of your vision of success, they really will help! :) Don't date men who are driven by their testosterone to say or do whatever will help them achieve their own selfish outcomes they only re-introduce painful traumatic experiences; be very selective in dating, even after the healing is complete. I was like that for many years, and I am very sorry for the pain I caused others through my selfish, childish motives. I am amazed and undeserving of the relationship I now have. Visualize success, and create those visual aids!
i’ve never been able to insert a tampon. for about 6 months i’ve been trying to insert my index finger in my vagina- without succes. i could only manage about half my finger.
today, i’ve been officialy diagnosed with vaginismus. weirdly enough, the doctor’s pinky finger fit in all the way without pain?! so, just an hour ago i tried it myself, and guess what? my index, ring, and pinky finger fit without a problem (not at the same time, lol)?!
now i’m gonna order a dilator set and start pelvix floor therapy. but, idk, for the past few years i thought that i couldn’t insert anything ever, and now i can manage an entire finger?! in conclusion: i’m hopeful and i strongly advise everyone to go and see a doctor. (:
hey did it ever improve? please reply because i’ve just been diagnosed and im so scared
@@daniellekotrotsos608 hi Danielle, I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis.
Hopefully this can bring some comfort: I am officially “cured”. I’m able to have pain free sex and have been able to for about 2,5 years now. Not saying it’s like that for everyone, but I think that a combination of different treatments is your best bet :) Good luck ❤
@@adrianadilaurentis3382Hi, may I ask how long does it take to be fully treated, and can you share more about the whole treatment process. Thank you so much
That’s very brave of you telling your story! Thank you
Once you understand, and cure your vaginismus (a medical condition), there is no shame is talking about it!
Youre so brave, youre right its nothing to be ashamed of, thank you for sharing. youre not alone. youre helping others, thats really cool.
Thank you so much for this video. I am 30 years old and have never enjoyed sex, no matter how aroused I was by my partner. I feel like I've been partially losing my virginity over and over again for 10 years. It's been awful. I've worried that I was actually asexual (not that it's bad to have this or any orientation, but I didn't want to be) or just not compatible with anyone because sex was just impossible. I can't afford a sex therapist but I'm going to see both a gynecologist and a therapist (for anxiety) and I will bring up this issue as a possibility so fingers crossed...
I can definitely relate; I feel exactly the same way too.
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You are very brave for doing this I know people that still struggle with this issue. For those out there dealing with this there is no shame in this at all. This can literally tear a relationship apart and even worse you will not be able to bear children. I hope more people realize it’s ok to talk about it and to go get seen. My own past relationship didn’t work because my ex didn’t want to get seen even with my full support.
Omg i thought it was just meeeeee
Thank you for sharing your story, Molly! This should be something we speak about more openly!
i can relate too this girl story sooooooooooooooooooooooooo well, so well, 13# can relate to this girls story, may god bless and help all ladys and all girls with this they say i have this too i pray too for help to so i can get me a handsome loving great husband too. god bless you and us all with this problem bless us all lord bless us amen amen.
I had been having penetrative sex with my SO for 4 years before my vaginismus developed and it went from being amazing and painless to slowly developing and it got worse and worse and now it’s been 4 years almost since I’ve had actual sex with my husband. We tried for so long to overcome it but it feels like a razor blade being inserted and I scream out and cry when we attempt it. (It’s been like 2 years now since we attempted penetration bc it’s so painful). I miss having sex with my husband but idk what to do. Gynecologists don’t help and they’ll just try to insert something into me... I feel so lost....
We're happy to help you with your secondary vaginismus. Contact our office 516.576.1118 or doctors@womentc.com
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@@arpitsri9631may ik how can you help?
It's confusing, so did you have to use the dilator ? Or what did the women's therapy centre really do
Yes thought the same
I'm 20 and recently me and my boyfriend tried to have sex 2 times but I couldn't . He said just because I never did this before , it feels like hitting a wall , it was painful . Then suddenly just few days ago a video about vaginismus came in my Instagram feed . After reading about this condition , I couldn't Stop crying . Soon I will consult a gyno
Wonderful that know you know what is the problem - vaginismus - and you will be seeking help. Make sure to also read our website for much more info (www.womentc.com) and let us know if you have any questions.
Are u cured,?
15, I don't have a mom and I don't know what to do
selam gebretsadic hey Selam, reaching out to your local doctor is a really great start!! However, be confident in your own feelings and body, and don’t let them invalidate anything you’re feeling (they might try to say that it’s something that it’s not). Do you have any other close family members or friends to turn to? xx if not, there’s so many TH-cam videos out there that cover this sort of stuff. And honestly, you are a very strong and brave girl, so I have no doubt that in time you’ll be able to find the treatment you need to be cured :)) good luck!
Hey hope you’re okay, if you need anyone to talk to I’m here ❤️
I have vaginismus and \I am still virgin, I never had sex. I dont know what to do, and I turn to 30 years old....I think in my case is more bad coz I am virgin. and some women have vaginismus but they arent virgin
We're happy to help if you contact our office by phone (+1.516.576.1118) or via email to doctors@womentc.com
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M 25 years old n I think m also suffering from vaginismus I tried with my 2 fingers n I happens not easily but yeah I did this but after sometime when I move forward n involve my third finger also it was painful n after this few seconds procedure I felt like I have my heart in my vagina it’s like contracted n dilated I was feeling so stressed can’t explain what exactly happening with me PLEASE HELP m literally crying 😭
Hi my dear email me @ nungaripesters@gmail.com
I can help you with this
Always best to talk with an expert in this subject.
While listening you, it seemed like someone speaking my story. I😊
Sadly, vaginismus is such a common problem... Glad you were able to 'connect' with the video and hoping it encouraged you to seek help.
Well i had also this condition but i overcame and my man waited almost 2.5 years in our 5 years of relationship.
I suffer from vaginismus I am 32 and with a broken unconsummated marriage.
Sorry to hear. We're here to help you if interested. Contact our office at either 516.576.1118 or via email to doctors@womentc.com
please try dilators!!!
Thank you Molly.
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Nobody will understand me it’s scary because I really don’t know what to do.
Vaginismus continues to be an elusive condition, and poorly understood by others. Read more here www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
I had never heard of this until I had a girlfriend who suffered from it. Yes, most ppl may not understand you.
My case is different.. i am able to use a tampon. But, the room down there is very small. Probably around three/four inches. I also get more discharge than average if that is related to my problem. I am young but im very concerned. Ive looked at some cases and mine doesnt fit with any of them. Ive had this problem for a good amount of time now. Im not too sure if this is vaginismus
It could be a rigid / stiff hymen. Not everything is caused by something psychological
Some women with vaginismus can still use tampons and have a gynecologic examination. Discharge may not be a related issue. Have you spoken with your doctor? Read more here www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
26 and hopeless. I have began to live with it but.
Oh, no! Don't feel hopeless. Have you sought treatment? Able to come to us for treatment? Call 516.576.1118 or email doctors@womentc.com to discuss options.
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Thanks a ton for sharing your story .
I have been married for 1 and half year, but we didn’t able to have sex for this vaginismus. I cry everyday, i get upset for this, but i thing is that my husband never told me anything for this disease. He is very good person, but i want to make him happy, but the pain is intolerable. But i have decided to myself i will go to a doctor for the dilation in the next month. And i request all of you say Alhamdulillah if you don't have this pain, i wish i could be normal like every women😭 I just wish
Sorry to read of your vaginismus struggle and glad you decided to seek help. Good Luck!
Alhamdulillah! I think I’m going through the same. I’m seeing a gynaecologist soon I hope. We can overcome this
Stay strong sister, you are definitely not alone, Inshallah you and my wife who has the same problem will overcome this 🤲🏻
You are a wonderful girl, God bless you.
I need to talk about the same. Have very less hope that someone would read my msg. I need help. Anybody who can help please reply.
Aside from others responding, we are happy to speak with you if you email us at doctors@womentc.com or call +15165761118
@@Womentc i will connect via email. Thank You so much.
@@Womentc i have mailed on the given mail id. But hasn’t received any reply. I need help. Please reply to my email.
Girl can u please help me. I am suffering from a bad vaginismus.
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How long did it take from her first appt to finally being able to have intercourse?
I’m confused. What is the cure?
The cure is a treatment intervention we offer at our New York location.
Once you cure it is penetration simply not painful and its like you're "enduring" it? Or does it become pleasurable? I'm confused on how I can go from the most extreme pain in my life to pleasure. Because I've still never had an orgasm and am hoping that once I can have penwtration that THAT'S what gets me off.
Once cured, all penetrations are pain-free. Also, most women do not get sexually aroused/climax with during sexual intercourse unless they are stimulated clitorally at the same time. Check more videos about that on our sister channel IntimateLens (th-cam.com/channels/X0RwSXjOxzq1XhJ3MSUWPw.html)
Is there a place like this in texas?
Sorry but no... Visit our website for information about the 2-week program, which has been successfully completed by many Texan women. www.womentc.com
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my wife is suffering from vaginusmus.kindly advice me the treatment
Sorry for the belated reply but your comment did not show up. Are you still seeking our input?
www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
What was the cure? waste my time..
Contact us at doctors@womentc.com for further details and clinical discussion. Looking forward to being of help.
What did the treatment consist of?
Please direct all treatment inquiries to our office: doctors@womentc.com, or call 516.576.1118
@@Womentc wath about other countrys?
25% of women have this condition
Rueful Rue 5/17%
I suffer from this and don't have anyone to talk about it.. I hope I can find a therapist for this, I live in Romania
Sorry to hear. We had a patient from Romania last year who also struggled with finding local resources. If you can come to us in New York, we'll be happy to discuss further details. Let us know at doctors@womentc.com. You may also want to join Private Pain, our Facebook group for vaginismus.
Same case , eveytime l try to have sex with my boyfriend it.all end in vain, l feel so bad, and l don't know who to heip me . from kenya
@@journeyofmillionairemindset Vaginismus is a disheartening condition. Sorry about your suffering. Speak with your doctor about local solutions. We are always here if coming to us for treatment is an option. Good luck!
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@@journeyofmillionairemindset I hear you. He will have to understand you well and be patient.
thank you for sharing this!
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I am 38 years old and have been suffering from this since 17. There was no treatment when i was young. I was told to oush through and to endure. I didnt. I stoped having sex and me and my husband had to find other ways to be close. We got our children through IVF because even trying to get a suringe with sperm in was too painfull... i am happy that the knowledge has increased. However i feel it is too late for me. I will never ever enjoy sex.
It is never too late!!! We had many patients like you, up to the age of 60+ who wanted to - finally - cure their vaginismus and own their vagina and sexuality. Happy to be of help to you too. Call us at 516.576.1118 or email doctors@womentc.com and mention this conversation.
Omg plz help me i am married for 3months and i am suspecting i have vaginismus, i thought it'll go with time now knowing all your experiences i am really afraid. The society i live in i can't go to a gyno with the situation. Plz help
@@Writter_T We are happy to be of help. Email us at doctors@womentc.com or call 516.576.1118 to discuss.
What was the cure???
Read our information at www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/ and contact us for further discussion.
If you’re watching and wondering when she’s gonna say how she cured it…she’s never does.
To each woman her own process. Vaginismus treatment is NOT a cookie cutter approach. While it always includes guides/supervised dilator use, there is much more to the process, including managing the underlying anxiety.
im 16, can I recover from this at home?
You can try; and if you can, seek professional help.
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I have a girlfriend she has vaginismus, she doesn't want do any treatment, I'm not sure if this condition is solvable or not ,but we tried hunderd times with any possible ways we used numbness substances we changed positions, she drunk alcohol it's impossible, and exhausting I'm not interested to be with her anymore even though she is very nice behaved girl ,I don't think this condition she got solved , even if she can handle it with dilators yet she would have painfull intercours that is not sex,it's something disturbing for both of us ,Idk,it's weird because after several years I met her who I trust her and this is my luck 😂now I should return to my past being single looking for dates
Sorry to hear that she does not want treatment, which is usually because of the underlying anxiety and great fear. So sad.
I m suffering from same problem
Where are you located? And, visit our website for more information about vaginismus www.womentc.com. Email us for further discussion doctors@womentc.com
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Molly can you please PM me. I want to know how you overcame it
the video is great but doesn't talk about details. if you feel comfortable can you message me? :) thank you!
Bre, the details differ per the specific needs of each woman. Molly's course of treatment may not at all suit yours. Feel free to contact us directly with questions (doctors@womentc.com)
Thank you thank you thank you
She had a surgery for vaginismus????
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İ have a vaginismus and my partner said in anger that should İ teach you everytime the position of sex ? İ said oh , it's a bad behavior and continued in anger that learn then ! İt was soo painful & İ said let's stop and he didn't pay any attention to me and he kept fuc king me , after sex he said in anger that your tolerance for pain is so low , İ said don't talk to me like that and he said in anger that it's on my nerves !
So sorry to hear of your partner's abusive behaviour toward you. Maybe he is not the partner to have? Nobody should force any woman into anything, and they should certainly stop when the woman tells them to. Be strong and protect your sexual rights!
I have no idea what your going through. Would oral sex be some kind of treatment.
Vaginismus has nothing to do with sexual practice -- it is a panic about vaginal penetration. Many have a wonderful sex life with the exception of intercourse.
My gynaecologist judged me and told me to leave it to my husband. He wouldn't want an opened vagina. I was like dafuq?????????
How horrible... So sorry to hear... Sadly, such ignorance (and abuse) still happens... Stay strong and seek help for your vaginismus as there is no reason to live with it. Let us know if interested in our services (doctors@womentc.com or 516.576.1118)
holy shit, that gynecologist should be sued for malpractice
Vagusmis is different. It’s more like vaginal muscle spasms.
why didnt u use lubricant or coconut oil for easy penetration........
That does not help with vaginismus...
@@Womentc i tried atleast penetration was possible .....but i felt no pleasure ......
Shut up, Jack
Thank you so much Molly for sharing your story!
🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️i’m so thankful this video exists
Glad to have been of help already. Do not hesitate to reach out if you wish to explore treatment. www.womentc.com or 516.576.1118