I normally agree with him, but on this one I must disagree. It's not helping yourself either, when you're being dishonesty your hurting yourself in ways many don't understand.
@@DraQinn That's not the point. The point is about people who lie to others as a way to exploit them or manipulate them. They tell them what they want to hear or support blatant misinformation for personal gain or to create chaos/confusion.
More like nice guy lol. Be a good man who is honorable, respectful, courageous, honest, has high standards and expectations of himself and those around him, has strong core moral values and does not tolerate disrespect, fakeness, cruelty, bullies, manipulation, exploitation and deceit.
Samwise the Brave! Started out as Frodo and his trusted gardener and ended as Sam who carried Frodo over the finish line and resilient enough to resume his old life.
@@baswenmakers6846 I was hoping that there would be a further story on the returning heroic hobbits. They left the shires as boys but returned as warriors. I was hoping to see them become guardians of the Shires and take up positions of power and influence amongst the grassy verges and green hollows.
@BennyMcGibbon I mean they did, Mary and pippin took over as lords of the shire and where allowed to be burried with aragorn when they died and Sam while not a lord was well respected and considerably rich and iirc was given special rights to follow frodo to the undying lands. Tho this last part might Elbe mistaken for gimli
This is what happens when you abandon God according to the Bible, pretty much to the letter. Never would've thought that once you do away with God, the Devil will gladly fill that hole. Fancy that.
Honestly (and please be aware I'm not personally attacking you) it's this type of negative mindset that is the problem. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's not your fault - negativity is so prevalent on social media and regular media, such that many of us have been conditioned to not see positives, even though objectively they're there. We live longer, healthier, more prosperous lives, by a huge margin, than almost every human to have lived in history. If you live in a western country you have so many advantages, and the main thing that's preventing you from using these advantages is negativity. Negativity is you talking yourself out of success and happiness. You literally can be successful and happy. You've just got to learn to get out of your own way.
@paulw No doubt (as long as there aren't extenuating circumstances in your life: for instance I had to give up everything to take care of my Dad. And Now I'm running out of money to do so). The vast majority of people can do well if they get out of their own way.
In Classical times men were more aware of the need to fight and die for each other. There was a brotherly love that accompanied this and was recognised in the literature. It was not soxual or romantic love. It was commonly seen as superior to the love one might have for a woman as men depended upon each other far more and were likely to sacrifice themselves for each other far more.
@stephenelliott6552 David said that same thing in his eulogy to Jonathan when he died in battle. 2 Samuel 1 I believe. They were not gay lovers they were just best friends.
Women can never understand this as their inherent nature is to be selfish. Women are only capable of truly loving their children and that is not even guaranteed.
As soon as modern day people see two men express genuine friendship and respect for each other then they will deem it being gay. Which is so lame and absolutely wrong. A brotherhood cannot be formed without trust and respect for one another. But today’s times are so weird and unhinged with how they try to control how men operate. It comes off creepy and annoying when others voice their opinions on how men should operate versus how they truly go about things due to different upbringings and ways of learning about life.
Yeah, now everything's annoyingly reduced to eros. I had a very deep friendship with a guy whom i did have a very special care for, and his leftist grandmother noticed it and asked if i was romantically into him. I got so angry, not at her, but at the fact that apparently there can't be special deep friendships between males anymore without someone else thinking it's or will be a gay relationship
It's not done by accident. Part of the agenda of the feminist movement and LGBTQ+ is to destroy male hegemony in all forms. One of the most powerful types of relationships is strong male friendship, especially when those men have survived challenging times together. That's one of the reasons men naturally gravitate towards sports and military service. If you notice, it's usually women calling two men who enjoy each others company gay or saying they are in a bromance. Which implies potential sexual relations between both men. Even though it's usually a lot of females, especially the more liberal ones that engage in a lot of bi-curious relationships with their so called female friends and some even mess around with their gay guy friends lol. Trust me, almost nothing you see happening is just random coincidence.
What planet are you living on? I know tons of male frendship's where they express genuine friendship and respect for each other and they are not deemed gay. Practically nearly every man I know has a friendship with another man, as well as ton's of men of all different ages online you can see right here on youtube that do podcasts and all kinds of other videos together. I don't know any men that get called gay for having a close friendships with other men..
So many times come to mind of how many male to male friendships were immediately seen as by people as being a secretly gay relationship, and I’ve always wondered how nobody put 2+2 together that you can’t simultaneously say men need to be there for men while also taking every opportunity to label any positive interaction between men as a secret relationship scenario.
It's done to destroy male bonds so they need to depend more on women for emotional support which the women then uses against them down the line. That's why most men are lonely and suicidal.
@@thewolfex1 because its women's jealousy of the brotherhood. I would hear my battle buddies' wives always say something like "its your boyfriend" when handing him the phone. Whenever I called him or needed his help. Or when my little brother and I would get some dinner or food, women would always say "you guys look good together." That's what I gathered over the years. 😕
Many of my long-term life friends openly tell each other “I love you, bro”. Secure in our Gen-X manhood, it’s an expression of the real feeling. When you spend decades as friends watching each other grow and accomplish great things you become family.
@@BeauDAmore-u1o yeah I am Gen X and my friends have always told each other “I love you” and such. Not even a big deal- just how you say goodbye. “Love you- take care.” Nothing gay about it.
I’m a young millennial but I’m friends with a group of younger gen z men who have no problem saying that. It was strange to me at first but i now understand and say it at the end of every conversation. I don’t care what this stupid society says anymore, I love those guys
I watched male camaraderie and male group activities be shamed in popular media during the 1980s and 1990s. Poker night, bowling leagues and the like were outlets for working class men as a general rule. At some point that was deemed not important and Dad had to give his time to Mom or the kids.
And now Men are shamed for opening up to their wives. "Unpaid Emotional Labor" they started calling it. So they cut off everything, isolated men and wont even hear them out.
@Zinlain Yup. I remember when men started putting "She's my best friend" in their wedding vows. Somehow, to your point, talking to your best friend is unpaid emotional labor. They can't stop writing thinkpieces about what their mothers asked for a generation ago.
@@Syracuseman77- well they call women getting custody of children after divorce a patriarchal norm, not realising that the patriarchal norm is what still happens in islamic countries where the patriarch takes his children with him and pays the ex-wife alimony until she finds a new man to support her. Women in the 1800s fought to get custody following divorce. Initially they won it for babies and toddlers who hadn't been weaned. Then they kept fighting until it was children under 7. Then in the UK the law was finalised as children under 12 defaulting to maternal custody, with 12 year olds and up deciding for themselves. I mean, child support laws only came into existence at the same time to ensure children in the custody of their mothers were still financially supported (because, though mothers were given the caring responsibilities of custody, the financial responsibilities of child custody remained the father's).
"Pleasantville" was top notch S.I.G.N. Language propaganda, too, wasn't it?!? That was a moment, too. The jokes about domestic responsibility, insinuating men were taking advantage and dumb... yeeeeeeah. Things were built off the sentiment harvested when that debuted.
I have had the privilege of deep heartfelt male friendship when I was very young. I am friends with these guys to this day. I have had male friends in my adult life that were more like my brothers than my own brother. All it took was one call and we were there for each other. I noticed that women were very threatened by that and actively tried to " break up the band ". I grew up very close to my father and my wife was very insecure and threatened by my deep friendship with my Dad. Society thrives on men fighting each other and shudders when men cooperate.
At my workplace, there are posters up about getting men into counseling and help if they are depressed. As though men need to talk about their feelings. They don't, not at first. They need to move their hands, be a little dangerous, go out on limbs, get exhausted, reach the edge just to look out over the valley of the shadow of death... And then they will talk to the one who went there with them. Men don't need counseling. They need to stop being penalized for choosing danger over safety. "If you do not learn to love the battle-axe, your enemy will."
@@andreasrylander same. Many of my friends are straight men. Many of them have become fairly open and discuss a lot of things with me. For a lot of them it’s the deepest they have gone emotionally with another man, or in some cases, even anyone. Because men are taught to hold so much stuff in. There’s also a mix in there that I’m a highly receptive person with providing space to talk (in the sense that people say things to me like I feel like I can tell you anything and you don’t judge me). People tell me things all the time and say wow I’ve never told that to anyone. I’m a therapist but I’m not just speaking about therapy clients. There’s a healthy balance in between stoicism and neuroticism. It’s sad how much our culture tries to force men into stoicism.
You get that benefit since you cannot have your masculinity questioned in the eyes of women since you're literally gay. It is meant as a form of shaming language when said to straight men and women say it, men repeat it due to them being susceptible to female shame, since they're the absolute gatekeepers of reproduction.
In Hollywood when men are friends they ALWAYS make it gay. And no we don’t just make fun of eachother, we build eachother up, because *REAL MEN BUILD!!*
I graduated High School in 2008. Had a best friend who was like a brother to me. Many people thought it was weird we hung out so much, made jokes that we were gay for each other. Both of married women and he has like 5 kids with 3 different women and I haven't talked to him in years. He definitely let the jokes get to him. He no longer allowed me to stay at his house around age 15 or 16 because of optics even though we were in seperate rooms. So dumb. Its only gotten worse since then. "Bert and Ernie are gay" "Samwise snd Frodo are gay" etc
Bert and Ernie are gay is a little more plausible and it is still innocent in retrospect considering thr culture of the time not being g as open to openly gay relationships. Plus, many gay relationships start off as platonic. The important fact here is that friendship is prioritized. Platonicsm is extremely important for men, of all sexualities.
I had a best friend we knew each other since 1998. We then went to study in university in different countries and didn't see each other for something like ten years. Then we finally came back and reconnected immediately. The last time we saw each other, I was like man I love this dude, he is the best person in my life. I was so lucky to have such a great friend. Last time I talked to him he called me to say that I fainted on the way to his house. He was laughing about it, but I told him to go to the hospital. Two days later he collapsed in his bedroom and died. My brain refused to accept that he was dead, I even tried to avoid going to his funeral, a common friend of us dragged me there. When I saw him laying in his coffin, I just turned back and left. I felt ashamed to not stay and support his parents who were like family to me. But I just couldn't imagine my life without him, I had to organize my life and not fall deeper into depression (I had depression because of my job and my ex). Then when I overcame my depression I started to accept the fact that he was dead, and man I cried a lot.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband has a friend who is like a brother, and I know if anything were to happen to him, my husband would be devastated.
@FTDeBert thanks for the support, I lost a couple of other good friends during my life, but this one was truly devastating. Since his death I kinda avoid to meet new people, I have almost no friends and certainly no best friend. People tried tell me to not stay like that and have a social life again, but I prefer to stay alone.
@anthonydjeguede694 People say time heals all wounds, but that's not really true. Time just helps those wounds turn to scars, and we can learn to live them. I hope you are able to talk to someone about your depression. People can't understand what is going on in your head and in your heart. But a counselor can give you the tools to deal with those hurts. I also hope that if you don't know Jesus, you find Him. When I was younger, I kept feeling like there was more to life. Once I found Jesus, that feeling went away. He filled that hole in my heart. He gave me true peace. It doesn't mean you won't still struggle, but with Jesus, he gives me what I need to overcome my struggles. I hope and pray you can find some peace, too.
The point about modern men thinking any kind of arguing or disagreement is anger - that is also a symptom of being raised by women. Women view disagreement as confrontation and equate that to anger. I used to sit around and have heated debates with my friends all the time for hours and it always fell apart once a female got into the conversation.
Same here. I was raised with two brother though. Disagreement was a way of life. Lol. The arguing became draining though as it wasn’t always productive and indicative of a deeper issue. Me and friends would debate a lot too but that was different. We would always go back to normal friendship after the fact. It was never really a thing.
Discussion, confrontation, and disagreement are all important in order to unveil REALITY. And the idea of equating "hatred, anger, malevolence, and evil" to someone who is being direct, stern, and uncompromising in their beliefs... is absolutely destructive. For 30+ years, I've been direct, stern, and uncompromising. I'M LOOOAAATHED FOR THIS. 😂🤣😂 It's unfortunate, but I don't control the way other neærds think. I do my studies, training, and work, and thus, I produce epic results. If people don't like this, they should Reflect and think carefully about the distinctions I mentioned above. After all... there most CERTAINLY are or were far worse people than myself out there. Chump, XiXiPi, Pol Pot, Stahleen, Heetlar, Shenko, Puton, 3l0n, Bezoz, Gates, Bankman-Fraud, Theranos chick, Madeoff, KK, LH, Eyegurr, Aleggz Jonez, etc., etc.
Schema therapy (great book reinventing your life) hits on what you were saying in regards to not speaking up very well. It’s a subjugation schema. As a therapist, I actually help a lot of people through that one and actually have some interventions now that can rapidly resolve that which is nice. Conflict and assertiveness ARE anger. Not all anger is destructive. Anger is necessary, and there are healthy ways to express it. Our culture throws the baby out with the bathwater here because when we think of anger, we think of people who are not skilled with anger, and they are too aggressive. The opposite end, the subjugation schema, is too little anger. That’s when people are doormats. They suppress all of their anger. When you are describing when men can set boundaries, which is an expression of anger, and then they can breathe again… this is because they are alleviating their anxiety. The emotion that shows up in anger’s place when you suppress all of your anger is anxiety. Overall, I would say you absolutely have the right mechanism here just a semantic piece. It’s still anger. Assertive anger that is appropriate to the context is healthy and important. The example of setting the boundary with the worker was probably on a scale of one out of 10. That was appropriate channeling of anger.
I saw this when i worked at a high school summer camp in Amherst, MA. Two of the boys became close friends and i had to tolerate the teachers(!) telling each other the two boys must be gay for each other. I was so disgusted. FYI the teachers included men and women, but all of them clearly had never had a real friendship in their lives. It's pathetic. I encourage my husband to go out with his guy friends. Of course it's important.
Samwise Gamgee is my favorite character. No way he is gay. Nor is Frodo. They don’t wanna make out, they are together in their quest to save Middle Earth. Friends through thick and thin!
Politeness is not kindness. True, but that doesn't even begin to scratch the surface. Politeness is a WEAPON. Being polite is an exercise of POWER. You're not polite with your friends or your family, you are direct but kind. You are polite with people you do NOT care about, people who you do NOT trust. It is a way of keeping other people off their guard while simultaneously making sure that you yourself always remain alert and on top of any social situation.
I agree that’s a thing but I also think being polite is more than that. It makes for an easier time in society. Am I polite to an old lady because I want to exercise power? No. I will be polite to a shady dude who I don’t want to arouse any undesirable behavior in.
Sometimes, I think it's deliberate. Break down bonds of trust and companionship between men using propaganda. It makes men atomized, isolated, and less likely to be able to push back. As an aside, eros and agape are Greek, not Hebrew. There are also phileo and storgei. So, four, not just three...at least in Koine.
It IS deliberate. The wealthy cannot keep control of their empires if the poor plebs and pathetic peasants on the ground unite. Thus, *ya don't allow it!* 😂🤣😂 Ya shame 'em. Ya keep 'em busy from sunup to sundown. Make 'em exhausted, miserable, angry... ... and unable to fight back! 💪😎✌️ Pro tip: IT WORKS. 😁
@thenerdyknight1559 Thinking about it, yeah. As the old saw goes: once could be coincidence, twice might be happenstance, but three times is most likely enemy action.
It's definitely deliberate. They say it as a joke most times, but their intention is insidious. The goal of feminism is to destroy male hegemony at all levels.
I know a bunch of gen Z "kids" that are soon turning 18 and its impressive how more touchy they are with each other than how my friends and I were at the same age. But I agree they might have been feminized in a way, like, 2 of them were playing and kissed by mistake (it was a real mistake) but they weren't flushed by that and when I raised that point, they said it wasn't the first time, something totally unthinkable back in my youth.
@@daganisoraan To be fair, I don’t think that guys being more physically intimate or just okay with others perceiving it that way, is a bad thing. I think making ANY show or form of intimacy between men into a romantic or sexual interaction IS a BAD thing to do. We should normalize closeness between men because frankly, we need it. We need brotherhood, we platonic companionship, we need intimacy, we need other male friends.
Listen to “MIGHTY MAN” by Mungo Jerry, sing it with brothers, doing whatever, drinking, running, driving around. Enjoy the time with your brothers. It’s an easy and fun song.
My friends and I say, “I love you” every time we talk. We’ve seen so many of our friends die, why not tell them you care for them while they’re still here? Who doesn’t tell their brothers that they love them? How sad, if you don’t.
It’s really related to grooming behavior. People who almost reflexively brand any male friendship as gay do so as a form of wish fulfillment in the same way that a pedophile convinces himself/herself that the child actually likes getting molested. These are groomers, folks.
Also sometimes it's projection. The people doing this are usually women who are having sexual relations with their so called female friends and sometimes gay best friends.
@@Anduril919 I wouldn't go too far with this assessment as wish fulfillment of queerness is innocent (albeit naive). But people really need to just prioritize platonicism in their lives. Even with male and female friends
I am a gay man. This is all so 100% true. As a gay man, I will tell you flat out that being close with a guy is not "gay". Ill tell you want os gay, staring at and wanting a man the way you would want a woman. That is it, umbrellas ar wnot gay, glasses are not gay, etc. .😊
The framing of this topic is rooted in shaming heterosexual men. The same women that will say that to you. They have gay male friends who they would defend in a heartbeat for shaming their feelings or how they express themselves. We gotta stop putting qualifiers on issues with men to not offend women. They’re gonna be upset anyway, Start putting yourself first and the number one priority is your purpose. Continued success and many great things are ahead for you and yours. 💯
Me and all my dudes are stronger friends than ever, but we are 50-60 years old and pay no attention to what the "modern world" tells us. Look out for, take care of, and love your brothers, y'all! ✌️😉
@@Stitch-smart It’s the opposite. It’s going to a salon that makes you effeminate. A traditional barbershop is a very masculine environment. Barbers talk to and touch their clients heads differently than a salon.
Agree, but at the same time as a man, I feel there isn't a need to say such things when the actions speak for themselves. Modern men try too hard to be like women, and it's weird. And to equate us men not expressing our love for each in words with male loneliness is weird to me, doesn't correlate at all.
Modern media has a penchant for revisionism. They like to look at everything and find a queer angle, even older media. I can agree that art is open to each individual's interpretation and that that's something that can elevate the material in said individual's eyes, but when they start to push that revisionist narrative onto everyone else, make it word-of-God, in what may very well be an attempt at finding outside validation to dissuade their own insecurities, that's when it becomes a problem. They set out on what to them is a just mission to revise the past, in order to correct the wrongs of exclusion and inaccurate portrayal, but inadvertantly end up becoming bullies in the process.
The sad part is, they are so stuck with the insanity of believing that the current fad is word-of-god the best way to exist, when we are so beyond disassociated with the real world
My friends ask to meet for trivia every once in a while. I don’t think any of us particularly care about it but who ever asks to meet up I go no questions asked
Reminds me of the woman who posted a viral video of herself at a New Jersey restaurant tearing down Greek flags after mistaking them for Israeli ones. ^^
Watched Transformers One the other day. They wrote the Optimus Prime-Megatron frienship like a Romance... Men dont talk to each other that way. Must have been writren by a woman........ 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
I can be a gentleman but I'm not in fact a gentle man! Modern men should realize this. Also ponder on the Asians 3 faces or masks parable. "Each of us has 3 faces we wesr. The 1 everyone sees each day. The 1 only our friends lovers and confidants see. And finally our 1 true face!
There a very few male only spaces now, especially for young boys and men don't act the same way when even one women is involved. So they are not learning to bond with others the way males bond! I'm 43 in the UK and I have a number of guys I hang out with within different social circles and activities who I see regularly and discuss hobbies with. But if you asked me if I have a best friend I'd struggle to give you an answer! We don't talk about ourselves we talk about our shared interests.
Kids need a mother AND a father? What a novel concept! And, yes, I know this can't happen for 100% of all children throughout the world. But to not recognize that the nuclear family is the ideal circumstance and to claim that all family arrangements are perfectly equal is the height of stupidity. Uh oh, some fee fees may have been hurt.
In Greek, there are 5 different words for love. Eros is romantic love... you love your significant other. Philia is love of friends and equals. Storge is familial love. Agape is love for mankind, like we are called to love our neighbor. Mania means obsession, but it's not really a love.
I have my boundries in another place as other people. I have had it that some people thought I would let other people do with me whatever they want. But it was just that I didn't care about that particular thing. Especially in the military I had a few comrades who said I should stand up for myself, because I did stuff/let others do stuff to me, which made them think I was a pushover. My strategy usually is to not even let a situation come to the point where my boundries are crossed. So it is not as obvious to observers how I enforce them. Is that a problem? I'm not the best with social dynamics anyways, so I'm not sure if that is hurting me. I'm not sure if that contibutes to the reason to why I'm still single and why people regularely treat my as a filler friend.
My family has the same habit. I live on a ranch so I liken it to cattle herding. Kind of a use of basic animal psychology. With most animals you cannot let your intent show too much. If they sense your emotions then you are not able to get them to do what you want. You also have to convince them that what you want is what they want and that it is their idea. The downside is that once the animal, people included, think they had the idea themselves, they tend to forget you had any part of the process. So in a mental slight of hand, you bowed to their whims even though you were the one in control. They think they got one over on you and that you are a pushover, not realizing that you got what you wanted. Even when you do something that contradicts that thought, the default is set. So even when you are more staunch in your position, it is forgotten pretty quickly. To quote God from Futurama, "When you do things right, it is like you have done nothing at all." Unfortunately being a cowherd in a world of neon lights doesn't get you very far socially. 😅 Nobody appreciates subtlety.
@@Phantom86d After reading through my comment and your comment, I noticed that some things are left out and your impression is certainly a valid one, although not what I intended. I get along with everybody. I'm not asocial. But it's just that while I'm there people appreciate my presence and when I'm not there they don't think about me anymore. A guy compared me to a glass of water. It's refreshing, clear and neutral. I can talk about the wildest topics, but nobody is offended. Probably because I only open up as much as the situation allows for it Also I think people notice that I respect everybody as humans made in the image of God. But just like a fresh glass of water is nice, many people choose another drink instead and don't go out of their way to grab a glass of water. They rather stick to people who are more exciting or more integrating into their social circle. When reading your comment I can fully understand where your coming from, but I don't relate to it myself. Funnily enough, in the military I work with horses. But horses perceive me as nervous and don't want to follow my lead as much as that of other people. Same is true in human situations. I'm only a useable leader if everybody is motivated and nobody wants to take up the duty of leading. I can't motivate people into doing stuff and I can't punish people if they don't want to do stuff. And I'm even less likely to steer the group into a direction from the background. I can bring a military example of what I meant in my first comment. I had a situation where a drunk guy sat down to the right from me and started arguing with the guy left from me. And he was leaning over me while arguing. The situation escalated but luckily stopped before it got violent. The guy from the left of me thought that the guy who leaned over me invaded my private sphere. But I already left the private sphere when I left my home, so a slightly uncomfortable situation where I wasn't even the target didn't matter to me at all. And if I were the target, I would just bob and weave (figuratively speaking) and wait until the other person get's bored. If I see that this is a repeated situation I would just look that I don't get into a conversation with that person anymore and the problem is solved. That way I'm much more difficult to emotionally being injured and I could also keep all drama queens and manipulators out of my life. But in the situation I'm neither the guy taking charge nor the guy standing his ground. I do stand my ground, but people may not perceive it that way and I certainly don't have this aura that some leaders have. The reason why I wrote my comment is because I've heard plenty of times that women desire security from their man. But if I don't come across as doing that, is that a problem for me? Will mature and good quality women loose attraction because of that or will they notice that preventing a fight is often better than winning a fight? I can imagine it that women think I'm the logical and safe option, but I'm not an attractive option. And if that is the case a woman may marry me, but always think she settled and if she is a loyal woman, she would have to constantly fight her lizard brain. Your situation is just as interesting from that aspect. I think the mechanisms behind it are completely different, but the end result may turn out pretty similar.
I've never liked or had much respect for other men. I've always had a wife or girlfriends to avoid relationships with other men. I've always considered myself almost hyper-masculine in a lot of ways, but I just don't like'em.
Some of us are fiercely independent. I’ve had friends at different times in life and some closer than others, but mostly I feel most alive and most productive in life in solitude. We’re all different and I think internally we have an intelligence that tells us what we need in any given moment. For some it’s solitude and for others it’s more community. We need to unapologetically embrace who we are and not try to change to fit what narrative others think is true.
As someone who has never had this issue, my brothers, I implore you, ignore the peanut gallery. These people don’t know what strong male friendship looks like nor do they know its value. I am every man.
It's interesting to note that among divorce rates, the highest are lesbian and the lowest are gay men. In heterosexual couples, the woman initiates divorce around 75%-85% (depending on country) of the time. I think it's time to put the phrase "happy wife, happy life" in the bin.
The whole fitness/gymbro thing is tedious. Fitness is great but there are many domains. There is many a fit guy who watches what he eats and exercises all the time who couldnt handle the pressure of a job that a fat dude does. There are people who deal with crazy stress and jobs where lives are at stake who eat unhealthily. Being unfit automatically makes you unreliable? Nonsense!
I will never not be grateful to have met two fellow amazing men very early in my life. It has been the greatest gift God gave me other than my brother. These aren’t the kinds of men I just hang out with. I’d die for them and them for me. It’s hard to have a miserable life when you have three people you can constantly laugh with. May all who seek a friend find one. And may they never take that gift for granted.
He might have a good point... but he talks like he's trying to sell a Pyramid scheme. Why don't I have friends? Easy, all those people who I was supposed to be 'lifelong friends' with, I saw early on as nothing but a bunch of users. And now that I'm an adult and have seen what's happened to them, I was vindicated. And now I don't have friends because I either am at work and don't have time or I'm not at work and don't have the money.
Great video. Funny point… Aside from my son and my dad, the only men in my life who have ever told me they love me (and vice versa) are my infantry buddies that I served with in Iraq and Afghanistan. Fortunately there’s still 5 of us that regularly talk. But we make it a point to say we love one another regularly. And then our wives wonder why we all say we would rather go back over seas than go to our office jobs now….
Lmao these bros always link everything back to fitness. To equate discipline with weight is totally ridiculous. There are plenty of people, most people I would say, who are thin just because of genetics. There are people who work hard and eat right but have a hard time losing weight because of genetics. There are also many people who are not fit, but are extremely disciplined in other areas that fit men aren't. Its just perpetuating this notion that women should only respect men with gains. That the most important thing is the superficial, and coming up with excuses to justify bullying of overweight men.
@@PostMillMan That's an excuse. You should be setting the schedule in your household, and part of that should be time spent with friends. The reason why men spend so little time with friends nowadays is because they married wives with attachment issues or with controlling behavior. It has nothing to do with how busy having a family is.
Only a beta male lets his wife run his life. And don't give me that excuse that you don't have time for friends because being married with kids is so time consuming.
Im afraid you are projecting here. I perceived all 4 of those characters as normal, if anything youthful males. Nothing homo about it. That the whole premise of this video.
0:57 - That's Greek homie, not Hebrew; other than that though, you are exactly correct in this observation. Actually, you know what, I will be that guy, dude, how is it possible that you think those words were Hebrew? I'm genuinely a little astonished. EVERYONE, PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, GO READ PLATO.
To quote Thomas Sowell: "If you want to help a person, you tell them the truth. If you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear."
I normally agree with him, but on this one I must disagree. It's not helping yourself either, when you're being dishonesty your hurting yourself in ways many don't understand.
@@DraQinn That's not the point. The point is about people who lie to others as a way to exploit them or manipulate them. They tell them what they want to hear or support blatant misinformation for personal gain or to create chaos/confusion.
@@DraQinn try being honest and people will lash out at you in ways you don't understand, and your lack of understanding will make them angrier.
As I like to say it "Don't be a nice man. Be a good man."
@@zomday71 niceness is a spieces of timidity.
Being a good man is knowing when to be a nice man and when to be Genghis Khan.
More like nice guy lol. Be a good man who is honorable, respectful, courageous, honest, has high standards and expectations of himself and those around him, has strong core moral values and does not tolerate disrespect, fakeness, cruelty, bullies, manipulation, exploitation and deceit.
Samwise the Brave! Started out as Frodo and his trusted gardener and ended as Sam who carried Frodo over the finish line and resilient enough to resume his old life.
Sam is my favourite character in Lord of the Rings.
@@baswenmakers6846 I was hoping that there would be a further story on the returning heroic hobbits. They left the shires as boys but returned as warriors. I was hoping to see them become guardians of the Shires and take up positions of power and influence amongst the grassy verges and green hollows.
PO TAY TOES
@BennyMcGibbon I mean they did, Mary and pippin took over as lords of the shire and where allowed to be burried with aragorn when they died and Sam while not a lord was well respected and considerably rich and iirc was given special rights to follow frodo to the undying lands. Tho this last part might Elbe mistaken for gimli
Because almost everything about the current system is designed to make things worse
This is what happens when you abandon God according to the Bible, pretty much to the letter. Never would've thought that once you do away with God, the Devil will gladly fill that hole. Fancy that.
Seems that way lol
Indeed
Honestly (and please be aware I'm not personally attacking you) it's this type of negative mindset that is the problem. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's not your fault - negativity is so prevalent on social media and regular media, such that many of us have been conditioned to not see positives, even though objectively they're there. We live longer, healthier, more prosperous lives, by a huge margin, than almost every human to have lived in history. If you live in a western country you have so many advantages, and the main thing that's preventing you from using these advantages is negativity. Negativity is you talking yourself out of success and happiness. You literally can be successful and happy. You've just got to learn to get out of your own way.
@paulw No doubt (as long as there aren't extenuating circumstances in your life: for instance I had to give up everything to take care of my Dad. And Now I'm running out of money to do so).
The vast majority of people can do well if they get out of their own way.
In Classical times men were more aware of the need to fight and die for each other. There was a brotherly love that accompanied this and was recognised in the literature. It was not soxual or romantic love. It was commonly seen as superior to the love one might have for a woman as men depended upon each other far more and were likely to sacrifice themselves for each other far more.
@stephenelliott6552 David said that same thing in his eulogy to Jonathan when he died in battle. 2 Samuel 1 I believe. They were not gay lovers they were just best friends.
@@raymondsmith2040- rhey were brothers. Not in the genetic sense but in the truest sense.
Women can never understand this as their inherent nature is to be selfish. Women are only capable of truly loving their children and that is not even guaranteed.
As soon as modern day people see two men express genuine friendship and respect for each other then they will deem it being gay. Which is so lame and absolutely wrong. A brotherhood cannot be formed without trust and respect for one another.
But today’s times are so weird and unhinged with how they try to control how men operate. It comes off creepy and annoying when others voice their opinions on how men should operate versus how they truly go about things due to different upbringings and ways of learning about life.
Yeah, now everything's annoyingly reduced to eros. I had a very deep friendship with a guy whom i did have a very special care for, and his leftist grandmother noticed it and asked if i was romantically into him. I got so angry, not at her, but at the fact that apparently there can't be special deep friendships between males anymore without someone else thinking it's or will be a gay relationship
It's not done by accident. Part of the agenda of the feminist movement and LGBTQ+ is to destroy male hegemony in all forms. One of the most powerful types of relationships is strong male friendship, especially when those men have survived challenging times together. That's one of the reasons men naturally gravitate towards sports and military service.
If you notice, it's usually women calling two men who enjoy each others company gay or saying they are in a bromance. Which implies potential sexual relations between both men. Even though it's usually a lot of females, especially the more liberal ones that engage in a lot of bi-curious relationships with their so called female friends and some even mess around with their gay guy friends lol. Trust me, almost nothing you see happening is just random coincidence.
What planet are you living on? I know tons of male frendship's where they express genuine friendship and respect for each other and they are not deemed gay. Practically nearly every man I know has a friendship with another man, as well as ton's of men of all different ages online you can see right here on youtube that do podcasts and all kinds of other videos together. I don't know any men that get called gay for having a close friendships with other men..
So many times come to mind of how many male to male friendships were immediately seen as by people as being a secretly gay relationship, and I’ve always wondered how nobody put 2+2 together that you can’t simultaneously say men need to be there for men while also taking every opportunity to label any positive interaction between men as a secret relationship scenario.
It's done to destroy male bonds so they need to depend more on women for emotional support which the women then uses against them down the line. That's why most men are lonely and suicidal.
@@thewolfex1 because its women's jealousy of the brotherhood. I would hear my battle buddies' wives always say something like "its your boyfriend" when handing him the phone. Whenever I called him or needed his help. Or when my little brother and I would get some dinner or food, women would always say "you guys look good together." That's what I gathered over the years. 😕
Many of my long-term life friends openly tell each other “I love you, bro”. Secure in our Gen-X manhood, it’s an expression of the real feeling.
When you spend decades as friends watching each other grow and accomplish great things you become family.
@@BeauDAmore-u1o yeah I am Gen X and my friends have always told each other “I love you” and such. Not even a big deal- just how you say goodbye. “Love you- take care.” Nothing gay about it.
I’m a young millennial but I’m friends with a group of younger gen z men who have no problem saying that. It was strange to me at first but i now understand and say it at the end of every conversation. I don’t care what this stupid society says anymore, I love those guys
I watched male camaraderie and male group activities be shamed in popular media during the 1980s and 1990s. Poker night, bowling leagues and the like were outlets for working class men as a general rule. At some point that was deemed not important and Dad had to give his time to Mom or the kids.
And now Men are shamed for opening up to their wives. "Unpaid Emotional Labor" they started calling it. So they cut off everything, isolated men and wont even hear them out.
@Zinlain Yup. I remember when men started putting "She's my best friend" in their wedding vows. Somehow, to your point, talking to your best friend is unpaid emotional labor. They can't stop writing thinkpieces about what their mothers asked for a generation ago.
I noticed this too.
@@Syracuseman77- well they call women getting custody of children after divorce a patriarchal norm, not realising that the patriarchal norm is what still happens in islamic countries where the patriarch takes his children with him and pays the ex-wife alimony until she finds a new man to support her.
Women in the 1800s fought to get custody following divorce. Initially they won it for babies and toddlers who hadn't been weaned. Then they kept fighting until it was children under 7. Then in the UK the law was finalised as children under 12 defaulting to maternal custody, with 12 year olds and up deciding for themselves.
I mean, child support laws only came into existence at the same time to ensure children in the custody of their mothers were still financially supported (because, though mothers were given the caring responsibilities of custody, the financial responsibilities of child custody remained the father's).
"Pleasantville" was top notch S.I.G.N. Language propaganda, too, wasn't it?!?
That was a moment, too. The jokes about domestic responsibility, insinuating men were taking advantage and dumb... yeeeeeeah. Things were built off the sentiment harvested when that debuted.
That sensation of having a hand holding you from falling down is the best weapon against depression, brotherhood.
I have had the privilege of deep heartfelt male friendship when I was very young. I am friends with these guys to this day.
I have had male friends in my adult life that were more like my brothers than my own brother.
All it took was one call and we were there for each other.
I noticed that women were very threatened by that and actively tried to " break up the band ".
I grew up very close to my father and my wife was very insecure and threatened by my deep friendship with my Dad.
Society thrives on men fighting each other and shudders when men cooperate.
At my workplace, there are posters up about getting men into counseling and help if they are depressed. As though men need to talk about their feelings. They don't, not at first. They need to move their hands, be a little dangerous, go out on limbs, get exhausted, reach the edge just to look out over the valley of the shadow of death... And then they will talk to the one who went there with them.
Men don't need counseling. They need to stop being penalized for choosing danger over safety.
"If you do not learn to love the battle-axe, your enemy will."
Bingo! We are feminizing young men while the enemies of this country are raising their sons to be conquerors
Interesting. Thanks for your insight. I do think you have a valid point.
Men are hardwired to seek out adventure and discovery, not to sit behind an office desk all day.
Men certainly don't need to be venting to people who will only turn around and blame men
I am a gay man, and 99% of my male friends are simply FRIENDS, and even when I tell them I love them, I sincerely only mean that on a friendly level.
@@andreasrylander same. Many of my friends are straight men. Many of them have become fairly open and discuss a lot of things with me. For a lot of them it’s the deepest they have gone emotionally with another man, or in some cases, even anyone. Because men are taught to hold so much stuff in. There’s also a mix in there that I’m a highly receptive person with providing space to talk (in the sense that people say things to me like I feel like I can tell you anything and you don’t judge me). People tell me things all the time and say wow I’ve never told that to anyone. I’m a therapist but I’m not just speaking about therapy clients. There’s a healthy balance in between stoicism and neuroticism. It’s sad how much our culture tries to force men into stoicism.
You get that benefit since you cannot have your masculinity questioned in the eyes of women since you're literally gay. It is meant as a form of shaming language when said to straight men and women say it, men repeat it due to them being susceptible to female shame, since they're the absolute gatekeepers of reproduction.
Degen.
@@Sakattack2023 you’re unhinged
@@Sakattack2023 I hope you stay lonely
"Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way...."
Pink Floyd, Time
Man, what a great episode. One of my favorites yet! Such an important conversation needing to be had.
Thanks!
@@ZubyMusic Jayvik shippers in Arcane
In Hollywood when men are friends they ALWAYS make it gay.
And no we don’t just make fun of eachother, we build eachother up, because *REAL MEN BUILD!!*
Because Hollywood is so degenerate and disgusting that they have literally lost all their sense of normal values and morality.
I graduated High School in 2008. Had a best friend who was like a brother to me. Many people thought it was weird we hung out so much, made jokes that we were gay for each other. Both of married women and he has like 5 kids with 3 different women and I haven't talked to him in years. He definitely let the jokes get to him. He no longer allowed me to stay at his house around age 15 or 16 because of optics even though we were in seperate rooms. So dumb.
Its only gotten worse since then. "Bert and Ernie are gay" "Samwise snd Frodo are gay" etc
Bert and Ernie are gay is a little more plausible and it is still innocent in retrospect considering thr culture of the time not being g as open to openly gay relationships. Plus, many gay relationships start off as platonic. The important fact here is that friendship is prioritized. Platonicsm is extremely important for men, of all sexualities.
I had a best friend we knew each other since 1998. We then went to study in university in different countries and didn't see each other for something like ten years.
Then we finally came back and reconnected immediately. The last time we saw each other, I was like man I love this dude, he is the best person in my life. I was so lucky to have such a great friend.
Last time I talked to him he called me to say that I fainted on the way to his house. He was laughing about it, but I told him to go to the hospital.
Two days later he collapsed in his bedroom and died.
My brain refused to accept that he was dead, I even tried to avoid going to his funeral, a common friend of us dragged me there.
When I saw him laying in his coffin, I just turned back and left. I felt ashamed to not stay and support his parents who were like family to me. But I just couldn't imagine my life without him, I had to organize my life and not fall deeper into depression (I had depression because of my job and my ex).
Then when I overcame my depression I started to accept the fact that he was dead, and man I cried a lot.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband has a friend who is like a brother, and I know if anything were to happen to him, my husband would be devastated.
@FTDeBert thanks for the support, I lost a couple of other good friends during my life, but this one was truly devastating. Since his death I kinda avoid to meet new people, I have almost no friends and certainly no best friend. People tried tell me to not stay like that and have a social life again, but I prefer to stay alone.
@anthonydjeguede694 People say time heals all wounds, but that's not really true. Time just helps those wounds turn to scars, and we can learn to live them. I hope you are able to talk to someone about your depression. People can't understand what is going on in your head and in your heart. But a counselor can give you the tools to deal with those hurts. I also hope that if you don't know Jesus, you find Him. When I was younger, I kept feeling like there was more to life. Once I found Jesus, that feeling went away. He filled that hole in my heart. He gave me true peace. It doesn't mean you won't still struggle, but with Jesus, he gives me what I need to overcome my struggles. I hope and pray you can find some peace, too.
The point about modern men thinking any kind of arguing or disagreement is anger - that is also a symptom of being raised by women. Women view disagreement as confrontation and equate that to anger. I used to sit around and have heated debates with my friends all the time for hours and it always fell apart once a female got into the conversation.
@@Erick_Bloodaxe I'm 23 and I'm still recovering from this. It's becoming easier as I am happy to say goodbye to modern education forever.
Same here. I was raised with two brother though. Disagreement was a way of life. Lol.
The arguing became draining though as it wasn’t always productive and indicative of a deeper issue.
Me and friends would debate a lot too but that was different. We would always go back to normal friendship after the fact. It was never really a thing.
Discussion, confrontation, and disagreement are all important in order to unveil REALITY. And the idea of equating "hatred, anger, malevolence, and evil" to someone who is being direct, stern, and uncompromising in their beliefs... is absolutely destructive.
For 30+ years, I've been direct, stern, and uncompromising. I'M LOOOAAATHED FOR THIS. 😂🤣😂 It's unfortunate, but I don't control the way other neærds think. I do my studies, training, and work, and thus, I produce epic results. If people don't like this, they should Reflect and think carefully about the distinctions I mentioned above. After all... there most CERTAINLY are or were far worse people than myself out there. Chump, XiXiPi, Pol Pot, Stahleen, Heetlar, Shenko, Puton, 3l0n, Bezoz, Gates, Bankman-Fraud, Theranos chick, Madeoff, KK, LH, Eyegurr, Aleggz Jonez, etc., etc.
Schema therapy (great book reinventing your life) hits on what you were saying in regards to not speaking up very well. It’s a subjugation schema. As a therapist, I actually help a lot of people through that one and actually have some interventions now that can rapidly resolve that which is nice.
Conflict and assertiveness ARE anger. Not all anger is destructive. Anger is necessary, and there are healthy ways to express it. Our culture throws the baby out with the bathwater here because when we think of anger, we think of people who are not skilled with anger, and they are too aggressive. The opposite end, the subjugation schema, is too little anger. That’s when people are doormats. They suppress all of their anger.
When you are describing when men can set boundaries, which is an expression of anger, and then they can breathe again… this is because they are alleviating their anxiety. The emotion that shows up in anger’s place when you suppress all of your anger is anxiety.
Overall, I would say you absolutely have the right mechanism here just a semantic piece. It’s still anger. Assertive anger that is appropriate to the context is healthy and important. The example of setting the boundary with the worker was probably on a scale of one out of 10. That was appropriate channeling of anger.
I like that Zuby has mixed races as friends and does not say the N word as of my watching his content and hardly swears.
He’s not American that’s why.
I saw this when i worked at a high school summer camp in Amherst, MA. Two of the boys became close friends and i had to tolerate the teachers(!) telling each other the two boys must be gay for each other. I was so disgusted. FYI the teachers included men and women, but all of them clearly had never had a real friendship in their lives. It's pathetic. I encourage my husband to go out with his guy friends. Of course it's important.
Samwise Gamgee is my favorite character. No way he is gay. Nor is Frodo. They don’t wanna make out, they are together in their quest to save Middle Earth. Friends through thick and thin!
Politeness is not kindness. True, but that doesn't even begin to scratch the surface. Politeness is a WEAPON. Being polite is an exercise of POWER. You're not polite with your friends or your family, you are direct but kind. You are polite with people you do NOT care about, people who you do NOT trust. It is a way of keeping other people off their guard while simultaneously making sure that you yourself always remain alert and on top of any social situation.
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I agree that’s a thing but I also think being polite is more than that. It makes for an easier time in society. Am I polite to an old lady because I want to exercise power? No.
I will be polite to a shady dude who I don’t want to arouse any undesirable behavior in.
@@J.B.1982 No, you're not polite to the old lady, you are KIND to the old lady. Polite is NOT the same thing.
@@khatack
Maybe I’m understanding the word differently then.
Either way, I agree to your main point.
100%
Sometimes, I think it's deliberate. Break down bonds of trust and companionship between men using propaganda. It makes men atomized, isolated, and less likely to be able to push back.
As an aside, eros and agape are Greek, not Hebrew. There are also phileo and storgei. So, four, not just three...at least in Koine.
It IS deliberate. The wealthy cannot keep control of their empires if the poor plebs and pathetic peasants on the ground unite. Thus, *ya don't allow it!* 😂🤣😂 Ya shame 'em. Ya keep 'em busy from sunup to sundown. Make 'em exhausted, miserable, angry... ... and unable to fight back! 💪😎✌️
Pro tip: IT WORKS. 😁
@@CShirkPaladin
That's because it is
@thenerdyknight1559 Thinking about it, yeah. As the old saw goes: once could be coincidence, twice might be happenstance, but three times is most likely enemy action.
It's definitely deliberate. They say it as a joke most times, but their intention is insidious. The goal of feminism is to destroy male hegemony at all levels.
That would mean men having to tell women no to a lot of their incredibly horrible ideas. That's turning out to be a lot harder than expected.
I know a bunch of gen Z "kids" that are soon turning 18 and its impressive how more touchy they are with each other than how my friends and I were at the same age. But I agree they might have been feminized in a way, like, 2 of them were playing and kissed by mistake (it was a real mistake) but they weren't flushed by that and when I raised that point, they said it wasn't the first time, something totally unthinkable back in my youth.
them dudes gay. masculinity left the chat. they have no masculine structure
@@daganisoraan
To be fair, I don’t think that guys being more physically intimate or just okay with others perceiving it that way, is a bad thing.
I think making ANY show or form of intimacy between men into a romantic or sexual interaction IS a BAD thing to do.
We should normalize closeness between men because frankly, we need it.
We need brotherhood, we platonic companionship, we need intimacy, we need other male friends.
Listen to “MIGHTY MAN” by Mungo Jerry, sing it with brothers, doing whatever, drinking, running, driving around. Enjoy the time with your brothers. It’s an easy and fun song.
It's very telling that the most popular tv show that examined platonic male love and relationships was/is Sons of Anarchy.
My friends and I say, “I love you” every time we talk. We’ve seen so many of our friends die, why not tell them you care for them while they’re still here? Who doesn’t tell their brothers that they love them? How sad, if you don’t.
Samwise is the hero in the film. He made everything happen for Frodo.
It’s really related to grooming behavior. People who almost reflexively brand any male friendship as gay do so as a form of wish fulfillment in the same way that a pedophile convinces himself/herself that the child actually likes getting molested. These are groomers, folks.
Also sometimes it's projection. The people doing this are usually women who are having sexual relations with their so called female friends and sometimes gay best friends.
@@Anduril919 I wouldn't go too far with this assessment as wish fulfillment of queerness is innocent (albeit naive). But people really need to just prioritize platonicism in their lives. Even with male and female friends
I am a gay man. This is all so 100% true.
As a gay man, I will tell you flat out that being close with a guy is not "gay".
Ill tell you want os gay, staring at and wanting a man the way you would want a woman. That is it, umbrellas ar wnot gay, glasses are not gay, etc. .😊
The framing of this topic is rooted in shaming heterosexual men. The same women that will say that to you. They have gay male friends who they would defend in a heartbeat for shaming their feelings or how they express themselves. We gotta stop putting qualifiers on issues with men to not offend women. They’re gonna be upset anyway, Start putting yourself first and the number one priority is your purpose. Continued success and many great things are ahead for you and yours. 💯
What a start of a video lmao
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Me and all my dudes are stronger friends than ever, but we are 50-60 years old and pay no attention to what the "modern world" tells us. Look out for, take care of, and love your brothers, y'all! ✌️😉
I just ran across a channel where they were talking about how having a male barber somehow made men feminine... WTH?
@@Stitch-smart
It’s the opposite. It’s going to a salon that makes you effeminate. A traditional barbershop is a very masculine environment. Barbers talk to and touch their clients heads differently than a salon.
What the heck indeed
Who cares what women and their slaves think?
It seems like every time I think I’ve found a male friend, they die.
It’s literally made me afraid to make a friend.
@@JLCProductions1976 Make friends with your enemies
@ I don’t have any of those either.
P.C. is dangerous, but it serves it's intended purpose well; obedience to the state. "Political correctness is the newest form of fascism", literally.
Agree, but at the same time as a man, I feel there isn't a need to say such things when the actions speak for themselves. Modern men try too hard to be like women, and it's weird.
And to equate us men not expressing our love for each in words with male loneliness is weird to me, doesn't correlate at all.
When you see in the middle east men walking and holding hands....
Same thing in India. Watching Bollywood can be confusing for westerners.
That's because it's treason in their cultures to be gay. So they can have close relationships without being labeled as such cuz it's illegal.
The guest said that there are 3 ways to say “love” in Hebrew and then spoke Greek - WTF 😂
Modern media has a penchant for revisionism. They like to look at everything and find a queer angle, even older media. I can agree that art is open to each individual's interpretation and that that's something that can elevate the material in said individual's eyes, but when they start to push that revisionist narrative onto everyone else, make it word-of-God, in what may very well be an attempt at finding outside validation to dissuade their own insecurities, that's when it becomes a problem. They set out on what to them is a just mission to revise the past, in order to correct the wrongs of exclusion and inaccurate portrayal, but inadvertantly end up becoming bullies in the process.
The sad part is, they are so stuck with the insanity of believing that the current fad is word-of-god the best way to exist, when we are so beyond disassociated with the real world
I love pizza differentlier than how i love my beer.
And i love one kind of beer differentiler than how i love another kind of beer.
Assuming that 2 men that are close friends are gay is gay.
They try to do the same with David and Jonathan in the bible. It's disgusting.
My friends and I hug and tell each other I love you all the time. Maybe it's because we are contrarians by nature hence why we were drawn to friends.
My friends ask to meet for trivia every once in a while. I don’t think any of us particularly care about it but who ever asks to meet up I go no questions asked
Movement releases happy hormones. It's the least we can do to grow our physical and mental strength. The rest will follow suit.
Says hebrew, speaks greek
Reminds me of the woman who posted a viral video of herself at a New Jersey restaurant tearing down Greek flags after mistaking them for Israeli ones. ^^
The point still stands though
Emotional maturity goes along way and unfortunately it's like a rare diamond when coming to men.
Watched Transformers One the other day. They wrote the Optimus Prime-Megatron frienship like a Romance... Men dont talk to each other that way. Must have been writren by a woman........ 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
I can be a gentleman but I'm not in fact a gentle man! Modern men should realize this.
Also ponder on the Asians 3 faces or masks parable. "Each of us has 3 faces we wesr. The 1 everyone sees each day. The 1 only our friends lovers and confidants see. And finally our 1 true face!
There a very few male only spaces now, especially for young boys and men don't act the same way when even one women is involved. So they are not learning to bond with others the way males bond! I'm 43 in the UK and I have a number of guys I hang out with within different social circles and activities who I see regularly and discuss hobbies with. But if you asked me if I have a best friend I'd struggle to give you an answer! We don't talk about ourselves we talk about our shared interests.
Kids need a mother AND a father? What a novel concept! And, yes, I know this can't happen for 100% of all children throughout the world. But to not recognize that the nuclear family is the ideal circumstance and to claim that all family arrangements are perfectly equal is the height of stupidity. Uh oh, some fee fees may have been hurt.
What? Noone is offended by this. Ostracization of other family types is usually the complaint made about this.
Thank you for this clip. I will be subscribing to his content.
In Greek, there are 5 different words for love. Eros is romantic love... you love your significant other. Philia is love of friends and equals. Storge is familial love. Agape is love for mankind, like we are called to love our neighbor. Mania means obsession, but it's not really a love.
I don't think that they will think I'm weird....I KNOW that they will think that I am weird.
I have my boundries in another place as other people. I have had it that some people thought I would let other people do with me whatever they want. But it was just that I didn't care about that particular thing. Especially in the military I had a few comrades who said I should stand up for myself, because I did stuff/let others do stuff to me, which made them think I was a pushover.
My strategy usually is to not even let a situation come to the point where my boundries are crossed. So it is not as obvious to observers how I enforce them.
Is that a problem? I'm not the best with social dynamics anyways, so I'm not sure if that is hurting me. I'm not sure if that contibutes to the reason to why I'm still single and why people regularely treat my as a filler friend.
My family has the same habit. I live on a ranch so I liken it to cattle herding. Kind of a use of basic animal psychology.
With most animals you cannot let your intent show too much. If they sense your emotions then you are not able to get them to do what you want.
You also have to convince them that what you want is what they want and that it is their idea.
The downside is that once the animal, people included, think they had the idea themselves, they tend to forget you had any part of the process. So in a mental slight of hand, you bowed to their whims even though you were the one in control. They think they got one over on you and that you are a pushover, not realizing that you got what you wanted.
Even when you do something that contradicts that thought, the default is set. So even when you are more staunch in your position, it is forgotten pretty quickly.
To quote God from Futurama, "When you do things right, it is like you have done nothing at all."
Unfortunately being a cowherd in a world of neon lights doesn't get you very far socially. 😅 Nobody appreciates subtlety.
@@Phantom86d After reading through my comment and your comment, I noticed that some things are left out and your impression is certainly a valid one, although not what I intended.
I get along with everybody. I'm not asocial. But it's just that while I'm there people appreciate my presence and when I'm not there they don't think about me anymore. A guy compared me to a glass of water. It's refreshing, clear and neutral. I can talk about the wildest topics, but nobody is offended. Probably because I only open up as much as the situation allows for it Also I think people notice that I respect everybody as humans made in the image of God. But just like a fresh glass of water is nice, many people choose another drink instead and don't go out of their way to grab a glass of water. They rather stick to people who are more exciting or more integrating into their social circle.
When reading your comment I can fully understand where your coming from, but I don't relate to it myself. Funnily enough, in the military I work with horses. But horses perceive me as nervous and don't want to follow my lead as much as that of other people. Same is true in human situations. I'm only a useable leader if everybody is motivated and nobody wants to take up the duty of leading. I can't motivate people into doing stuff and I can't punish people if they don't want to do stuff. And I'm even less likely to steer the group into a direction from the background.
I can bring a military example of what I meant in my first comment. I had a situation where a drunk guy sat down to the right from me and started arguing with the guy left from me. And he was leaning over me while arguing. The situation escalated but luckily stopped before it got violent. The guy from the left of me thought that the guy who leaned over me invaded my private sphere. But I already left the private sphere when I left my home, so a slightly uncomfortable situation where I wasn't even the target didn't matter to me at all. And if I were the target, I would just bob and weave (figuratively speaking) and wait until the other person get's bored. If I see that this is a repeated situation I would just look that I don't get into a conversation with that person anymore and the problem is solved.
That way I'm much more difficult to emotionally being injured and I could also keep all drama queens and manipulators out of my life. But in the situation I'm neither the guy taking charge nor the guy standing his ground. I do stand my ground, but people may not perceive it that way and I certainly don't have this aura that some leaders have. The reason why I wrote my comment is because I've heard plenty of times that women desire security from their man. But if I don't come across as doing that, is that a problem for me? Will mature and good quality women loose attraction because of that or will they notice that preventing a fight is often better than winning a fight?
I can imagine it that women think I'm the logical and safe option, but I'm not an attractive option. And if that is the case a woman may marry me, but always think she settled and if she is a loyal woman, she would have to constantly fight her lizard brain.
Your situation is just as interesting from that aspect. I think the mechanisms behind it are completely different, but the end result may turn out pretty similar.
Good luck.... You are all on your own! Dont glaze him to hard... Its so broken its not fixable.
Good convo.
I've never liked or had much respect for other men. I've always had a wife or girlfriends to avoid relationships with other men. I've always considered myself almost hyper-masculine in a lot of ways, but I just don't like'em.
No hyper masculine man hangs out with women all day long, nice try though.
I always tell my boys I love them when I say bye or when we get off a call. I always say love ya bby
It's good for men to help other men.
For every 1 source of help for men can get, Women have 100 time more help.
Some of us are fiercely independent. I’ve had friends at different times in life and some closer than others, but mostly I feel most alive and most productive in life in solitude. We’re all different and I think internally we have an intelligence that tells us what we need in any given moment. For some it’s solitude and for others it’s more community.
We need to unapologetically embrace who we are and not try to change to fit what narrative others think is true.
I just subscribed because of this clip it’s so powerful ❤
I have no one.
As someone who has never had this issue, my brothers, I implore you, ignore the peanut gallery. These people don’t know what strong male friendship looks like nor do they know its value.
I am every man.
It’s been that way for a long time.
''A man will stick to his wife and they will become ONE flesh'' .. not ,,"" keep your mates happy""...
It's interesting to note that among divorce rates, the highest are lesbian and the lowest are gay men. In heterosexual couples, the woman initiates divorce around 75%-85% (depending on country) of the time. I think it's time to put the phrase "happy wife, happy life" in the bin.
The whole fitness/gymbro thing is tedious. Fitness is great but there are many domains. There is many a fit guy who watches what he eats and exercises all the time who couldnt handle the pressure of a job that a fat dude does. There are people who deal with crazy stress and jobs where lives are at stake who eat unhealthily. Being unfit automatically makes you unreliable? Nonsense!
@@hooligan9794 being unfit shows a lack of self accountability
@jessesantiago6575 no it doesn't. It just means someone has different priorities to you.
@@hooligan9794 The priority being self-indulgence and lack of discipline.
I will never not be grateful to have met two fellow amazing men very early in my life. It has been the greatest gift God gave me other than my brother. These aren’t the kinds of men I just hang out with. I’d die for them and them for me. It’s hard to have a miserable life when you have three people you can constantly laugh with. May all who seek a friend find one. And may they never take that gift for granted.
Words foe love are Greek.
Has absolutely nothing to do with the grand old women behind the sad old club haus
IDGAF what people think!
That’s already going on and doenst help
@@DTraiN5795 in what regard?
Just waiting for neorolink tired of not knowing who people are.
Nah, this doesn't exist.
I hug my mates, I tell my mates I love them.
Perhaps this is for the US.
He might have a good point... but he talks like he's trying to sell a Pyramid scheme.
Why don't I have friends? Easy, all those people who I was supposed to be 'lifelong friends' with, I saw early on as nothing but a bunch of users. And now that I'm an adult and have seen what's happened to them, I was vindicated. And now I don't have friends because I either am at work and don't have time or I'm not at work and don't have the money.
Nah. It ain't worth it.
Great video.
Funny point…
Aside from my son and my dad, the only men in my life who have ever told me they love me (and vice versa) are my infantry buddies that I served with in Iraq and Afghanistan.
Fortunately there’s still 5 of us that regularly talk. But we make it a point to say we love one another regularly.
And then our wives wonder why we all say we would rather go back over seas than go to our office jobs now….
Greek, not Hebrew.
eros, agape etc. are greek though not hebrew😂
3:20 guess thats worth a sub XD
Old old old old old news
Lmao these bros always link everything back to fitness. To equate discipline with weight is totally ridiculous. There are plenty of people, most people I would say, who are thin just because of genetics. There are people who work hard and eat right but have a hard time losing weight because of genetics. There are also many people who are not fit, but are extremely disciplined in other areas that fit men aren't. Its just perpetuating this notion that women should only respect men with gains. That the most important thing is the superficial, and coming up with excuses to justify bullying of overweight men.
I'll throw a curveball: pRon has played a huge factor in this situation. Feel free to guess why.
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You have close friends, Zuby because you have no wife and kids 😅 …. Come on man
@@PostMillMan He just got married
@@basedbulgarian511 oh! well that explains it, ......just give it time.... Zuby will understand soon.
@@PostMillMan That's an excuse. You should be setting the schedule in your household, and part of that should be time spent with friends. The reason why men spend so little time with friends nowadays is because they married wives with attachment issues or with controlling behavior. It has nothing to do with how busy having a family is.
@PostMillMan shit...hes cooked
Only a beta male lets his wife run his life. And don't give me that excuse that you don't have time for friends because being married with kids is so time consuming.
Seek first the Kingdom of God.
Also John 8:12, find it, read it.
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Yes to what you say, but lets keep it Real here, the 4 hobbits in LOTR were played and acted with a homosexual undertone. That was obvious.
Im afraid you are projecting here. I perceived all 4 of those characters as normal, if anything youthful males. Nothing homo about it. That the whole premise of this video.
gay is good. 2 guys having love for each other is good
0:57 - That's Greek homie, not Hebrew; other than that though, you are exactly correct in this observation.
Actually, you know what, I will be that guy, dude, how is it possible that you think those words were Hebrew? I'm genuinely a little astonished. EVERYONE, PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, GO READ PLATO.
Good convo.
Greek, not Hebrew.