I have GAD and I don’t regret any of my just-in-case purchases, especially as regards clothes. For one thing, waiting until I need the thing means I’ll have to buy it quickly and probably at full price. My job as a writer can take me anywhere, and if it isn’t expensive, I’ll buy the things that might help me. My path to chilling out is to feel prepared, organised and in control, rather than having to make a frantic last minute purchase.
These are good points too, and if you actually do have the needs come up (traveling as a writer, etc) then it's not a bad thing to be prepared either! I just have the feeling that marketing is trying to make customers out of people who don't always have the real need, I know I've fallen for buying something I thought would make things easier but it turned out that I didn't really need the thing after all.
@@Alexas.nobuyyear yes, there’s definitely a strategy of creating an imaginary need and then selling a product to deal with it! Beware of picking out avocado slicers and things of that ilk, though. Being disabled, things like this can be genuinely helpful.
On the other hand, there are things like food you will need because you eat it regularily, e. g. my dad buys 10 cans of tuna on discount :D Or I bought a new jacket after finding a good deal, because the old started peeling off and soon won't be wearable at all, even though I won't need it until spring. There's a thin line between anxiety overbying and smart preparedness
Omg, I teared up. Thank you just for making us special needs moms not invisible. I have two kids who both have a chromosome triplication. I went through a time where I “ hid,” and I really started to despise the public ( yes harsh, but honest feelings). Now, oh my, if you have a problem with them, that’s on you. We are here; we are slow; we are odd and noisy, and “ screw you and your dirty looks because I don’t give a crap anymore.” We are part of the world. Just say Hi, hold a door, just don’t be an ass. If you need to stare, stare, but say Hi Ok, rant over :) Gratitude for the acknowledgement Alexa!
Another great video! Agree with trying to sit with the discomfort, trying to be resourceful (I think we spend even more time evaluating the need when we do this), and doing the internal work to evaluate our stressors.
This is happening right now in the state of Florida in which multiple times a year people are running to the stores fighting each other for bottled water and gasoline to prepare for the hurricane to alleviate the anxiety of not knowing the path of the hurricane until the day of. Vast marjoity of us do not lose electricity or water for prolonged periods of time (hurricane recovery prioritize areas with higher population density). The alternative that cost no money and does not produce any plastic waste would be... simply fill the many receptacles that we all have up with filtered/potable water before the hurricane. It's so maddening.
Yes! While my family doesn't really keep many emergency supplies (and I acknowledge that it's some level of privilege that makes us feel OK with that) it does seem like there are frenzied times where "reasonable" consuming goes out the window - the balance of "being prepared" and being in touch with our humanity and community....for example in every city I've experienced power outages in, friends or community members who still have power will be reaching out to others to make sure they have somewhere to stay. I hope that everyone is able to have some kind of network of helping each other out, to both contribute to and take from in times of need.
This is part of why I never went in on minimalism. It's wasteful to get rid of things just because you don't need it now and could get it if needed. No, use it. It's been awful to see the way the minimalism TREND has destroyed our ability to trust donation services to redistribute items. They got so much stuff from people purging their homes there is now a high likelihood that donated items go to landfill instead of into the hands of people who will use them or need them. And that's disgusting. I instead changed my SHOPPING habits to a minimalist mindset and resolved to use what i have and mend, upcycle, or downcycle things. I focus on need vs want and material makeup, trying to avoid artificial fibers in clothing to reduce and eventually eliminate microplastics shed from my footprint. But as Shelbee says, better tons of people doing sustainability imperfectly vs a few doing it perfectly.
Ohhhhh.... i watched too many prepper videos.!! I had to stop, because the truth is, you cant prepare for everything. As i learned with the last bad storm here and i lost power for 5 days. I get anxiety when i see sales, but the truth is, it will go on sale again
Yes - you can't prepare for everything! Even if marketing would like to make us think we can, if we buy the right stuff. I think we are conditioned to want to avoid those hard situations but as you discovered, losing power for 5 days isn't really a situation you could avoid, no matter how much stuff you buy. I guess there are people who have backup generators but how far are we supposed to go in "expecting the worst"? And you are also so right about how things always go on sale again. I'm going to probably try and find some info on sales to share as we get closer and closer to November and Black Friday season...
The video reminded me of a fear I have that you can buy things for, which is having to flee instantly from a fire or something and needing an emergency bag for that. There are many companies that sell you these complete bags, but I saw a video of someone making their own with an old backpack, old clothes, and 2nd hand stuff, and other things they had laying around the house, which inspires me to do the same :)
I love the idea of assembling your own go-bag (or whatever they're called) - it really is an individual set of needs too, depending on climates and proximity to other communities and stores and etc if the "worst case" happens! So it's probably helpful to have complete choice over what's inside anyway.
I would just like to offer a different perspective: the children with special needs grow up and become adults with special needs. In the case of autism, in particular (which is the only thing i can speak about from experience), loud children can make it really really difficult to function. The brain processes information differently than in neurotypicals, so something that sounds simply loud to you, can be literally painful to someone with autism. So yes, the special need point you make is fair, but also please remember that those children eventually become adults, and that society is way less forgiving to an adult having a mental breakdown in public vs a child (which can happen if you have autism and your environment is overstimulating).
Absolutely! Thank you - and apologies if I seemed to allude to adults not deserving as much compassion for when they are having a hard time - on reflection it's not just about how children respond or behave and addressing their needs, it's really about everyone, making sure we apply ourselves to finding out why someone is responding a certain way and asking oneself what they may be experiencing, and that they deserve compassion rather than judgement.
@@Alexas.nobuyyear Hi again, thank you for the response! I just wanted to say that the way you conduct yourself on this channel is what made me feel safe enough to comment my thoughts on this, to begin with, and that I really appreciate how introspective and open-minded you are. Thank you for listening and for always being willing to accept new information and analyze it!
Oh times do change though. When we were young children our parents didn't take us out in public very much at all. Probably with good reason. Having separate places for children is a high ask. Today you can see parents out with their children in a stroller at midnight. It's a very stark difference.
It is a high ask! I just figure that if society decides it has a problem with something, society should come up with a solution - although I do realize that this is probably wishful thinking😅
@@Alexas.nobuyyear Not sure whose responsibility that would be - the government's? Some people think that the government should subsidize their child rearing because the government/society benefits from them having children. And often times it does pay in the form of welfare or child tax credits. Where does that end?
@juliehanson1175 I wasn't necessarily thinking about the government but yes the question of where it ends is always a tricky one. When it does come to the government and child rearing, Americans often point to examples of European countries with different policies. I'm not nearly informed or opinionated enough to speak on that though - and I should have been more specific in my previous comment that I figure that society should come up with a solution that isn't pitching products to buy, to try and solve the problem. Which also brings up the question of marketing regulations if we consider it practically, and I know many are against that kind of regulation as well. My bottom line is just that I wish for people to treat each other kindly...but even that, I suppose could be turned around to say that people shouldn't take unkind comments or experiences to heart. But still, for whatever reason, I feel that it matters to try to have empathy. Sorry to not have any answers! 🙃
A hard panic attack could lead to a heart attack which again could lead to death. So yes, if tendency to be anxious, please learn breathing techniques, learn cues before it gets so serious as panic attack and perhaps learn yin yoga. Namaste 🙏✨
As per usual- you are brilliant! And, have you read "Affluenza"? If not, so sorry for perpetually threatening to increase your reading list, but it is amazing! Written before influencers, but still so relevant!
Haha it feels like you've peeked into my bookshelf - that's another one I've started reading and had to temporarily put aside, because it was SO relevant that I felt like I needed to read it when I'm able to take notes. That one's definitely going to make an appearance on here when I've gotten around to it!
Money printing and subsequent inflation + war really amps up the anxiety and makes us behave in even stranger ways. I somehow need to look stylist during this great depression😂 I guess it’s my survival strategy to be able to be good looking. I have a very small budget so I have to be careful 😊 I am autistic so anxiety is my normal state😅
I think this is actually somehow a normal feeling - we try to keep control over something in our lives while the rest of the world is burning around us, so yes, if we can be stylish even now maybe we feel a little bit better 😅
Hi Alexa!!! This is another great video!!!! I´m writing this comment only because you mention this reason a few times now … I understand your point of view of being more conscious, saving the things that you don´t long want to your kids to wear. But I would like to make some of questions for you to think about, if you don´t mind: 01. if your mom had saved for your some of her not special clothes, would you happily wear it today? 02. Don´t you think that maybe you will burden your kids with pieces of clothes that you already decide that you don’t want, but you saved for sooooo many years to them? 03. Maybe if you find a more sustainable way to not have them anymore, would also bring you (and your family) more piece of mind? as it is less things to maintain. I am asking you this in a kindly way, not judging! Hope you can feel that! Have a wonderful day!
Hi! Thanks for your ideas and questions. I have kind of thought through these already and choose the pieces to save based on the "answers" I've come up with. I share my answers here not to have an argument or "shoot down" your questions - if you've been floating around on this channel for awhile you might have seen that I often write long "essay responses" 😅 so it really is just another opportunity for me to think and articulate things. And I appreciate these opportunities! 1. While my mom and I actually aren't the same size as adults, her mom - my grandma, actually passed down some clothes that I very happily wore all throughout high school and early adulthood. I actually wish I'd kept a couple of pieces to this day, but they did get a lot of use. I don't necessarily envision my kids keeping my "old clothes" for the rest of their lives, but the stuff I'm saving is definitely appropriate for use during high school years even if it is then discarded. 2. Because I'm thinking about the things I'm saving being temporary "high school era" pieces, (mostly tshirts, jeans or jean shorts, tank tops, loungewear) I'm thinking of them as supplementary options and they can be free to pick and choose what they could use. These will also be years where I will be providing most of their wardrobe as a parent, and I see me saving a few things for them as not much different from thrifting, they've just been used by their mom and not an unknown donator. I also hope to instill values of secondhand shopping in my kids, and they're currently already happy to get hand-me-downs from friends of mine with older kids. It's a similar approach where we don't feel obligated to keep all the hand-me-downs, but we will hang onto them until everyone has grown out of the sizes in case we need the options. One of my kids in particular really enjoys clothing options and I wouldn't be surprised if she's like that as a teenager too. 3. Peace of mind and reducing clutter is definitely a thing and so I'm trying to have a hard limit on "storage clothes" - for example just having one bin so that it doesn't become too much to maintain. If we end up moving a lot in the future it might not make sense to keep even that one bin, but right now we are location-stable and have the closet space. It's also not impossible that I might dip back into this bin for functional clothing if my current "homewear tshirts" wear out. If I CAN resell something or have high confidence that something would be resold if I donated it, I am happy to do that, however I'm just not confident that some of the used tshirts and tank tops, while still perfectly wearable and not ratty-looking, would be worth the resell value to a donation center. As always these ideas could change as the journey progresses! So while I might "have answers" now I may not have the same answers in the future 😆 and again I appreciate your thoughts.
@Alexas.nobuyyear i really appreciate you taking time to reply my comment! And I totally see your point of view better now! I wear a lot of my grandma's clothes (but not my mom), and for sure basics are always a good idea as jeans, shorts are not very trendy so it makes easy to keep using after several years!!! Have a great day!!!
As a childcare employee, it seems that mainstream American society today is hostile to “village”-style child-rearing. In comparison to many other cultures, parents are less able to lean on extended family, neighbors and friends for support. If the cause isn’t distance or the parents being overprotective and possessive, it’s potential helpers fearing retaliation or litigation. My dad used to act as the neighborhood “school bus.” It was helpful to our lower-middle class neighborhood. Now I think people are more afraid of the risk of transporting another person’s child, etc.
And…. Oh my, the preying on special needs mom and things that can help and the “just in case. “ Whoa- talk about mom anxiety on steroids. And don’t get me started on the medical community preying on us moms. I was a seasoned mom feeling like I was in a new uninverse, and, sad to say, fell for many things to “ help” my special needs kids. We are so, so vulnerable.
I am very slim but I always have a big tummy, it's genetic and also a result of years of yo-yo dieting. Now that I'm vegan there's a lot of "fibre in transit" and my belly can look very big after a meal. So I am investing in cropped jackets that cover my belly but are not too long, since I'm petite. Finding the perfect blazer/jacket has become important to me and I think it's a worthwhile investment to avoid looking pregnant age 58. I buy quality pieces, new or pre-loved, in classic designs and neutral timeless colours. I also buy great scarves whenever I see them, also to cover the tummy as well as keep warm/add a splash of colour to my outfits, scarves are great and don't have to be expensive.
I buy (multiples) in case I need them in future and the price goes up or the item gets discontinued, e.g. perfect-fitting underwear, jeans, tights, footwear for my big feet that looks elegant, etc.
I love that thought about mcguivering solutions rather than buying something for every possible problem. And the inconvenience of having to manage more inventory is is so much heavier than the convenience won. I really love to listen to your thoughts on the no buy!
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I like how you turn the situation around when a child is having a hard time to focus on helping the child instead of apologizing to bystanders.
I have GAD and I don’t regret any of my just-in-case purchases, especially as regards clothes. For one thing, waiting until I need the thing means I’ll have to buy it quickly and probably at full price. My job as a writer can take me anywhere, and if it isn’t expensive, I’ll buy the things that might help me. My path to chilling out is to feel prepared, organised and in control, rather than having to make a frantic last minute purchase.
These are good points too, and if you actually do have the needs come up (traveling as a writer, etc) then it's not a bad thing to be prepared either!
I just have the feeling that marketing is trying to make customers out of people who don't always have the real need, I know I've fallen for buying something I thought would make things easier but it turned out that I didn't really need the thing after all.
@@Alexas.nobuyyear yes, there’s definitely a strategy of creating an imaginary need and then selling a product to deal with it! Beware of picking out avocado slicers and things of that ilk, though. Being disabled, things like this can be genuinely helpful.
On the other hand, there are things like food you will need because you eat it regularily, e. g. my dad buys 10 cans of tuna on discount :D Or I bought a new jacket after finding a good deal, because the old started peeling off and soon won't be wearable at all, even though I won't need it until spring. There's a thin line between anxiety overbying and smart preparedness
Omg, I teared up. Thank you just for making us special needs moms not invisible. I have two kids who both have a chromosome triplication. I went through a time where I “ hid,” and I really started to despise the public ( yes harsh, but honest feelings). Now, oh my, if you have a problem with them, that’s on you. We are here; we are slow; we are odd and noisy, and “ screw you and your dirty looks because I don’t give a crap anymore.” We are part of the world.
Just say Hi, hold a door, just don’t be an ass. If you need to stare, stare, but say Hi
Ok, rant over :)
Gratitude for the acknowledgement Alexa!
You are part of the world! Yes! 🥰
Another great video! Agree with trying to sit with the discomfort, trying to be resourceful (I think we spend even more time evaluating the need when we do this), and doing the internal work to evaluate our stressors.
This is happening right now in the state of Florida in which multiple times a year people are running to the stores fighting each other for bottled water and gasoline to prepare for the hurricane to alleviate the anxiety of not knowing the path of the hurricane until the day of. Vast marjoity of us do not lose electricity or water for prolonged periods of time (hurricane recovery prioritize areas with higher population density). The alternative that cost no money and does not produce any plastic waste would be... simply fill the many receptacles that we all have up with filtered/potable water before the hurricane. It's so maddening.
Yes! While my family doesn't really keep many emergency supplies (and I acknowledge that it's some level of privilege that makes us feel OK with that) it does seem like there are frenzied times where "reasonable" consuming goes out the window - the balance of "being prepared" and being in touch with our humanity and community....for example in every city I've experienced power outages in, friends or community members who still have power will be reaching out to others to make sure they have somewhere to stay. I hope that everyone is able to have some kind of network of helping each other out, to both contribute to and take from in times of need.
This is part of why I never went in on minimalism. It's wasteful to get rid of things just because you don't need it now and could get it if needed. No, use it. It's been awful to see the way the minimalism TREND has destroyed our ability to trust donation services to redistribute items. They got so much stuff from people purging their homes there is now a high likelihood that donated items go to landfill instead of into the hands of people who will use them or need them. And that's disgusting.
I instead changed my SHOPPING habits to a minimalist mindset and resolved to use what i have and mend, upcycle, or downcycle things. I focus on need vs want and material makeup, trying to avoid artificial fibers in clothing to reduce and eventually eliminate microplastics shed from my footprint.
But as Shelbee says, better tons of people doing sustainability imperfectly vs a few doing it perfectly.
This is right on, about how we need to "minimize" our shopping habits first and foremost to achieve "minimalism"
Ohhhhh.... i watched too many prepper videos.!! I had to stop, because the truth is, you cant prepare for everything. As i learned with the last bad storm here and i lost power for 5 days. I get anxiety when i see sales, but the truth is, it will go on sale again
Yes - you can't prepare for everything! Even if marketing would like to make us think we can, if we buy the right stuff. I think we are conditioned to want to avoid those hard situations but as you discovered, losing power for 5 days isn't really a situation you could avoid, no matter how much stuff you buy. I guess there are people who have backup generators but how far are we supposed to go in "expecting the worst"?
And you are also so right about how things always go on sale again. I'm going to probably try and find some info on sales to share as we get closer and closer to November and Black Friday season...
The video reminded me of a fear I have that you can buy things for, which is having to flee instantly from a fire or something and needing an emergency bag for that. There are many companies that sell you these complete bags, but I saw a video of someone making their own with an old backpack, old clothes, and 2nd hand stuff, and other things they had laying around the house, which inspires me to do the same :)
I love the idea of assembling your own go-bag (or whatever they're called) - it really is an individual set of needs too, depending on climates and proximity to other communities and stores and etc if the "worst case" happens! So it's probably helpful to have complete choice over what's inside anyway.
I would just like to offer a different perspective: the children with special needs grow up and become adults with special needs. In the case of autism, in particular (which is the only thing i can speak about from experience), loud children can make it really really difficult to function. The brain processes information differently than in neurotypicals, so something that sounds simply loud to you, can be literally painful to someone with autism. So yes, the special need point you make is fair, but also please remember that those children eventually become adults, and that society is way less forgiving to an adult having a mental breakdown in public vs a child (which can happen if you have autism and your environment is overstimulating).
Absolutely! Thank you - and apologies if I seemed to allude to adults not deserving as much compassion for when they are having a hard time - on reflection it's not just about how children respond or behave and addressing their needs, it's really about everyone, making sure we apply ourselves to finding out why someone is responding a certain way and asking oneself what they may be experiencing, and that they deserve compassion rather than judgement.
@@Alexas.nobuyyear Hi again, thank you for the response! I just wanted to say that the way you conduct yourself on this channel is what made me feel safe enough to comment my thoughts on this, to begin with, and that I really appreciate how introspective and open-minded you are. Thank you for listening and for always being willing to accept new information and analyze it!
I don’t mind children, I object to the parents that do NOT parent.
This is a good point too!
Oh times do change though. When we were young children our parents didn't take us out in public very much at all. Probably with good reason. Having separate places for children is a high ask. Today you can see parents out with their children in a stroller at midnight. It's a very stark difference.
It is a high ask! I just figure that if society decides it has a problem with something, society should come up with a solution - although I do realize that this is probably wishful thinking😅
@@Alexas.nobuyyear Not sure whose responsibility that would be - the government's? Some people think that the government should subsidize their child rearing because the government/society benefits from them having children. And often times it does pay in the form of welfare or child tax credits. Where does that end?
@juliehanson1175 I wasn't necessarily thinking about the government but yes the question of where it ends is always a tricky one. When it does come to the government and child rearing, Americans often point to examples of European countries with different policies. I'm not nearly informed or opinionated enough to speak on that though - and I should have been more specific in my previous comment that I figure that society should come up with a solution that isn't pitching products to buy, to try and solve the problem. Which also brings up the question of marketing regulations if we consider it practically, and I know many are against that kind of regulation as well.
My bottom line is just that I wish for people to treat each other kindly...but even that, I suppose could be turned around to say that people shouldn't take unkind comments or experiences to heart. But still, for whatever reason, I feel that it matters to try to have empathy.
Sorry to not have any answers! 🙃
@@Alexas.nobuyyear No worries, just pondering some things!
A hard panic attack could lead to a heart attack which again could lead to death. So yes, if tendency to be anxious, please learn breathing techniques, learn cues before it gets so serious as panic attack and perhaps learn yin yoga. Namaste 🙏✨
Oh! Thanks for the recommendations 😅
As per usual- you are brilliant! And, have you read "Affluenza"? If not, so sorry for perpetually threatening to increase your reading list, but it is amazing! Written before influencers, but still so relevant!
Haha it feels like you've peeked into my bookshelf - that's another one I've started reading and had to temporarily put aside, because it was SO relevant that I felt like I needed to read it when I'm able to take notes. That one's definitely going to make an appearance on here when I've gotten around to it!
@Alexas.nobuyyear again, so grateful to be on this journey with you!
Money printing and subsequent inflation + war really amps up the anxiety and makes us behave in even stranger ways.
I somehow need to look stylist during this great depression😂
I guess it’s my survival strategy to be able to be good looking.
I have a very small budget so I have to be careful 😊
I am autistic so anxiety is my normal state😅
I think this is actually somehow a normal feeling - we try to keep control over something in our lives while the rest of the world is burning around us, so yes, if we can be stylish even now maybe we feel a little bit better 😅
Great video as usual
Hi Alexa!!! This is another great video!!!!
I´m writing this comment only because you mention this reason a few times now … I understand your point of view of being more conscious, saving the things that you don´t long want to your kids to wear.
But I would like to make some of questions for you to think about, if you don´t mind:
01. if your mom had saved for your some of her not special clothes, would you happily wear it today?
02. Don´t you think that maybe you will burden your kids with pieces of clothes that you already decide that you don’t want, but you saved for sooooo many years to them?
03. Maybe if you find a more sustainable way to not have them anymore, would also bring you (and your family) more piece of mind? as it is less things to maintain.
I am asking you this in a kindly way, not judging! Hope you can feel that!
Have a wonderful day!
Hi! Thanks for your ideas and questions. I have kind of thought through these already and choose the pieces to save based on the "answers" I've come up with. I share my answers here not to have an argument or "shoot down" your questions - if you've been floating around on this channel for awhile you might have seen that I often write long "essay responses" 😅 so it really is just another opportunity for me to think and articulate things. And I appreciate these opportunities!
1. While my mom and I actually aren't the same size as adults, her mom - my grandma, actually passed down some clothes that I very happily wore all throughout high school and early adulthood. I actually wish I'd kept a couple of pieces to this day, but they did get a lot of use. I don't necessarily envision my kids keeping my "old clothes" for the rest of their lives, but the stuff I'm saving is definitely appropriate for use during high school years even if it is then discarded.
2. Because I'm thinking about the things I'm saving being temporary "high school era" pieces, (mostly tshirts, jeans or jean shorts, tank tops, loungewear) I'm thinking of them as supplementary options and they can be free to pick and choose what they could use. These will also be years where I will be providing most of their wardrobe as a parent, and I see me saving a few things for them as not much different from thrifting, they've just been used by their mom and not an unknown donator. I also hope to instill values of secondhand shopping in my kids, and they're currently already happy to get hand-me-downs from friends of mine with older kids. It's a similar approach where we don't feel obligated to keep all the hand-me-downs, but we will hang onto them until everyone has grown out of the sizes in case we need the options. One of my kids in particular really enjoys clothing options and I wouldn't be surprised if she's like that as a teenager too.
3. Peace of mind and reducing clutter is definitely a thing and so I'm trying to have a hard limit on "storage clothes" - for example just having one bin so that it doesn't become too much to maintain. If we end up moving a lot in the future it might not make sense to keep even that one bin, but right now we are location-stable and have the closet space. It's also not impossible that I might dip back into this bin for functional clothing if my current "homewear tshirts" wear out. If I CAN resell something or have high confidence that something would be resold if I donated it, I am happy to do that, however I'm just not confident that some of the used tshirts and tank tops, while still perfectly wearable and not ratty-looking, would be worth the resell value to a donation center.
As always these ideas could change as the journey progresses! So while I might "have answers" now I may not have the same answers in the future 😆 and again I appreciate your thoughts.
@Alexas.nobuyyear i really appreciate you taking time to reply my comment! And I totally see your point of view better now! I wear a lot of my grandma's clothes (but not my mom), and for sure basics are always a good idea as jeans, shorts are not very trendy so it makes easy to keep using after several years!!! Have a great day!!!
As a childcare employee, it seems that mainstream American society today is hostile to “village”-style child-rearing. In comparison to many other cultures, parents are less able to lean on extended family, neighbors and friends for support. If the cause isn’t distance or the parents being overprotective and possessive, it’s potential helpers fearing retaliation or litigation. My dad used to act as the neighborhood “school bus.” It was helpful to our lower-middle class neighborhood. Now I think people are more afraid of the risk of transporting another person’s child, etc.
Agreed. I actually live with my in-laws for this reason, and sometimes when I tell people this they respond as if I'm crazy
I get anxious in case my size sells out, which happens frequently, so I tend to buy straight away
Yes it's pretty frustrating when that happens, for sure!
And…. Oh my, the preying on special needs mom and things that can help and the “just in case. “ Whoa- talk about mom anxiety on steroids. And don’t get me started on the medical community preying on us moms. I was a seasoned mom feeling like I was in a new uninverse, and, sad to say, fell for many things to “ help” my special needs kids. We are so, so vulnerable.
I am very slim but I always have a big tummy, it's genetic and also a result of years of yo-yo dieting. Now that I'm vegan there's a lot of "fibre in transit" and my belly can look very big after a meal. So I am investing in cropped jackets that cover my belly but are not too long, since I'm petite. Finding the perfect blazer/jacket has become important to me and I think it's a worthwhile investment to avoid looking pregnant age 58. I buy quality pieces, new or pre-loved, in classic designs and neutral timeless colours. I also buy great scarves whenever I see them, also to cover the tummy as well as keep warm/add a splash of colour to my outfits, scarves are great and don't have to be expensive.
I buy (multiples) in case I need them in future and the price goes up or the item gets discontinued, e.g. perfect-fitting underwear, jeans, tights, footwear for my big feet that looks elegant, etc.
I love that thought about mcguivering solutions rather than buying something for every possible problem.
And the inconvenience of having to manage more inventory is is so much heavier than the convenience won.
I really love to listen to your thoughts on the no buy!
Thank you!