My boyfriend just broke up with me two weeks ago, I thought he was the one for me and he didn't see a future with me. I've been so distraught and heartbroken. This is what I needed so thank you for sharing
It's amazing how much you have changed over the years. I remember when you had black hair and knew nothing about makeup to someone who started going on trips with brands to today where you have grown and progressed so much and know so much about makeup, fashion, relationships, life etc. LOVE YOU LYDIA
I only had my first boyfriend when I was 20. we‘re still together, going strong for 3 years. I think it really helped waiting for that long, I had already figured out who I was and who I wanted to be.
I don’t want kids, never have. I knew at 3 (according to my mom) that I didn’t want kids, I was going to get a degree, and I wasn’t going to live in England. I’m 42, have a degree and have lived in Sydney for 18 years. I still get people asking me when I’m having kids, I’ve literally had people gasp in horror when I’ve said I don’t. It’s my choice, but people should be mindful that some people have issues and can’t have children. That question possibly breaks them on a daily basis.
The same thing happened when I got married. And I have a step-daughter. But people were so incredibly rude about it. Sometimes they were so rude that I thought about saying that we had one but they are gone now. I am older now and realize that not having mutual children has made my husband and I never argue about one, be railed at and rebelled against, or worried about their choices, actions or decisions. It's been damn good.
This video is my favorite i think! After my break up with my first boyfriend i realised exactly what you said. There are certain relationships that steal your sparkle, even not intentionally, change you for the worst, that when the break up takes place it feels so liberating ! I will never forget that freeing feeling! I think I felt better than ever, and trust me I cried so much.. But it was necessary for me to happen I think. I learned to appreciate and love myself. I really found myself and started to enjoy my life like for the first time.That is when i met the most amazing person! What you exsume, you attract! That;s my moto!
When you are with the right person true love feels calm and secure. It shouldn't make you feel anxious. I wish someone told me that when I was younger.
I’m currently going through a break up and this has helped so much! I always felt the same as you by dealing with jealousy in all my previous relationships and I’m so happy you’ve found Ali it’s given me hope! You’re an amazing couple, Thank you Lydia 🙏🏼
Congratulations on this video and the way you are thinking. I am a bit older than you and I can safely say that it took me a while to have such a calm and composed way of thought.
Sound advice, i think most people have had their hearts broken and been in relationships that were not good and toxic, but it makes the people that we are today. If anyone is going through a bad breakup, it does get better, you will love again, make the most of friends and familly get closure and you can move on. 👍
I thought I was the only person who took several years to get over my first love. I definitely delayed my progress by keeping him in my life after we split up. Thank you for sharing this and for giving us such sage advice. ❤️ His friends hated you? I bet 15 year old Lydia was a sweetheart and I don’t understand how anyone could dislike you.
This felt very genuine, Lydia. Love it. // On another note: I totally agree with you on the topic of asking women if they want children. I also wish people would stop telling women who don't want children that that'll change. Makes it seem like women have no own mind and are just here to make babies. Hearing this always upsets me..
Lydia you are and inspiration to me and you always make me want to be a better person. I love the relationship between you and Ali wish all the best for both of you in ur lives. All the love
I'm nineteen and me and my boyfriend of two years have just split up so this video could not have come at a better time for me. It gives me hope that I'll find my very own Ali and that my person is still out there and that I can still make an amazing life for myself. Thank you Lydia xx
Lydia, you are my absolute favorite person on TH-cam. Here’s why...you are funny, intelligent, down to earth, humble and kind. You’re facial expressions are hysterical. And, your laugh is contagious. You are true friend, and a terrific partner to Ali. Your lifestyle is one I’ll never achieve, but it’s fun to see “that” side of life. Keep living your nest life without apologies to anyone.
My husband left me between chemotherapy and radiotherapy for breast cancer. I didn’t see it coming. And I couldn’t understand it at all. Years later I don’t think I’ve really recovered. Love your blogs/vlogs ( still don’t know the difference!).
Oh the “first love” I was also 15 and can completely relate to your story, I too had the opportunity to get back with him years later but by then I had wised up 👋🏼😅 That is also how I knew my husband was the one, the trust was there. I have never felt jealous with him and that’s because he doesn’t make me feel that way ❤️ Wonderful hearing some of these things about you Lydia and being able to relate to many of them ☺️
I just ended my sixteen year relationship with my husband. Unfortunately he broke my heart by cheating on me but It really helped me to watch your video. Thanks for your honesty , it’s certainly it easy to be open about your love life ❤️
@paravanehKohandel....soo sorry to hear ONLY time can heal the heart....TAKE one day at a time and BREATHE....I was divorced after 13years of marriage after he cheated on me too with 9year old twins...now 13years later I remarried last summer with THE most understanding...caring ... trustworthy person I have EVER met....everything happens for a reason....and YES ..for something BETTER...we become wiser..and selfcaring of OURSELVES....learn toLOVE YOUR SELF...first...and then you will be LOVED AGAIN...I promise you that...Hi from sunny Greece 🙋🙏
I have a question: How did you continue having faith in yourself and having faith that you will find someone eventually during the times that you weren't in a relationship? Sometimes its a struggle to not think that the single life would be forever!
Love love love this The openness, the subject, great advice and making ppl really care about themselves. Ancestors worked hard for the freedom, so live your best life, be proud and respectful to yourself 😊. Love your videos ❤️ It feels like a meditation 🧘♀️ You look great, healthy and happy and it is so contagious
This help so much I’ve been hurting because of my ex bf he was my first bf and I truly loved him I was with him for 3 years and half and it’s been a 1 year already but I still feel lost
I have been watching your videos for years and have loved seeing your growth. You are one of the most inspiring influencers in my opinion and hearing more about your story and how you've made your dreams a reality is what I hope to achieve. Im only 20 now but hearing your opinion and advice on topics like this make you seem like an older sister or cousin. Thank you for always being so honest and open, it helps more than you may even imagine.
I love how you are very open on your channel. It’s really nice to see and that’s why I’ve been watching your channel for so long! Also I think this background for your sit downs is beautiful!
I am like you when it comes to love as well, I fall truly in love and it's difficult when it doesn't work out. Yes, it does show that you are better off if it doesn't work out, this is what I have also realized with time.
I really needed to hear the jealousy advance. My boyfriend is a very wanted man and sometimes I feel insecure. Your advice really made me see things in another way. Thank you so much!
Very wise words, Lydia. I really appreciate your comments on not asking people if they’re going to have children. Having gone through soul destroying infertility myself, I died inside every time someone asked me, however well intentioned. It’s unkind and nosy, and people should know that by now. Btw, I adopted my beautiful son so the story has a happy ending, but not everyone has one. Thanks for being so wise and wonderful. ❤️
Loving hearing your relationship journey. It resonates with me so much and I'm much older than you are. That first hurt really doesn't go away but you definitely learn to live with it.
Hi Lydia, I LOVED this, so interesting! I’m just wondering how you would feel about doing a part two with Ali and Carrie as you all have had such different experiences yet you have all ended up together somehow. It just really intrigues me as me and my friends can often have similar experiences and I almost think we feed each other’s unhealthy habits and it’s a huge reason we all keep repeating them. I hope that makes sense. Thank you for everything you do xx
It’s been a year since I break up and I still cry at nights... I can’t get over it. I can’t get over the idea that I mean nothing to him. In a blink of an eye he beak up with me and never text me or call me again... :(
Girl... please... throw everything away that remember him.. do yourself a make over. Only do you, what makes you happy.. if you need a digital slap watch Sheraseven and Michaela pink in TH-cam.. they will wake you up before more of your important time is wasted..
Time and getting yourself busy will eventually heal everything. It's not easy to just snap out of this, but take it day by day, put one foot in front of the other, spend time with family and friends and it will eventually get better. ❤️
Stella, I know this is cliche but where one door closes another one opens. Try to focus on some goal in your life that you want to go after. Leave that person in the rearview mirror until you can turn around and really see them and the relationship or what it was. File that info in the back of your mind and move forward. Try to move forward everyday even if it's just teeny tiny steps. You are meant for good and great things. 💞❣️🙏
I'm sorry you're going through that. BUT, why would you want to be with someone who does not appreciate you? You deserve to be adored and treated like queen. Give other, better men a chance to enter your life. Stop crying. Stop the self pity. Focus on your hobbies. Reconnect with your friends. Don't talk about the guy. Don't waste your energy on him anymore, use it for yourself.
This was a really cool video! I love how Lydia is so king and non-judgemental. I feel like there are still some people who need to watch the movie 'He's Just Not That Into You'.
Lydia, so lovely to hear you talking about such an important topic. You and Ali have such a great relationship and I love that you are a model for others who might never have seen such a healthy relationship in real life. Big hug 🤗
It was like this for all the 'cool' girls when I was younger and with guys even in their 20s. Now we're all more clued up on grooming etc it makes me feel a bit sick.
Lydia you are such a heartwarming person to watch and I wish I could hug you right now. I have been trying to conceive for 6 years, me and my partner are healthy and both have clear results from fertility tests. We even went for IVF last year which failed, it was my last resort and hope in having my own family. Till this day it breaks my heart to see everyone I know have the one thing I thought was a guarantee in life. Turns out it's not and to hear someone who is so thoughtful to understand that really touched me. I wish us as humans would be more considerate to others. If only people had your mentality the world would be a better place. P.s this is the first time I've ever commented on anything... Thank you for making me believe in kind people again.
Breakups are truly the worst but I’m a big believer also that everything is for a good reason even if you can’t see that reason at the time. Time is the only healer xxx thanks for this vid
Hey Lydia, I have been a huge fan of yours for years. This video is to another level, hats of to you woman to talk openly about your life and general relationship advice too. You have said things so beautifully. I have always learnt so much from you. Love you and Ali.
Lydia😍 Love this video. I am a rather new subscriber but love your transparency. The truth is many ppl halt their potential dealing with matters of the heart. This is why it’s so important to find purpose in our own journey.... then no one can take our happiness away at will. 💕.
Great talk on relationships and hearing your perspective! I could say so much on my own experiences but I’ll go a little off topic and admit my distraction with the pretty arrangement behind you, which I believe I’ve seen placed in other areas of your dressing room. Maybe do a “my relationship with flowers” next?!😉. I’d love to see a close up of that arrangement as well as one that sits on your kitchen island!
I'm only halfway through the video but I want to say that this is a great video and a nice addition to your usual uploads 😊 Also why do women ever think it's ok to message any man that is clearly taken? This is something I will never understand, it just seems so disloyal to females in general. It must give some men such an odd idea of women! 🤯
Darling Lydia I'm 61 years old and have been married for 41 years. But honestly I never got over my boyfriend when I was 16 breaking my heart. He was my first love and I believe my purest and most innocent love. I still get sad when I think of that time in my life.
Omg have to say this is the most beautiful time I've watched you in the video since I followed you. That's so inspired and encouraged. Thank you so much Lydia.
LYDIA I’ve just caught up on your videos and I swear your literally the kindest person ever I envy YOU . I have to meet you one day and come to London ! Your videos literally give a piece of fresh air and life . You have the best personality I just love you 🥰 and your videos thank you for what you give us !
Great video and advice Lydia! You always have to love yourself first and know when it is the right time to walk away because when u do that is when you meet the person truly meant for you!😊
Oh I love this video I’m so happy you have found a good man...We have all been through things situation relationships like this!..I’m so happy I’m in a good strong positive relationship now!
I brooke up with my boyfriend of 15 years back in december 2019. He is now my best friend, he supports me so much better as a friend. He is the best X you could ask for. So I don’t agree with the ‘cut them out of your life’ part. But maybe it is because of the length og our relationship and the fact that I was the mother of his daughter for all those years (she is not mine biological)
My ex and I are best friends! We call each other a lot and support each other and I just find that its better that way. We've been best friends for nearly 4 years or so.
Lydia you done an awesome job of answering these questions. I am 54 and I can see that no matter the age it’s still relatively the same. Except of course for me social media wasn’t a situation to deal with. But let me say you and I were the same when it came to break ups. The part I liked the most was when you said you think you will never get over it and you feel like it’s the end of the world. But there’s something better coming and there is! And now that I’m older I’m like would I really not want to have experienced that because had I not I wouldn’t have grown. There are some people who fall in love and have never been with anyone else, but I truly think that’s rare and I have even seen friends who did and are now divorced and having lots of family issues because now you have children and grandchildren involved. KUDOS to you for speaking about this! 🙌🏻😉🧡
Wow! There's some things up in the air in my life right now that have been extremely distracting to me and with today's video you just nailed everything on the head. Thank you so much. Also, you seem very wise beyond your years. You've ever come a lot of obstacles and learn from them I salute that! You are a doll ❣️💞🥰
Last April my bf of nearly 5 years abruptly ended the relationship, just cut me off, it was done, no explanation or discussion, absolutely no closure. The past year has been such a rollercoaster trying to process the million questions I have and accepting that I'll never get answers, and even if I did, they wouldn't be good enough and would probably just cause me more pain. I've been struggling with my career and with work so the timing couldn't have been worse. Now I'm coming up on the first anniversary of the relationship ending and I can feel all the emotions resurfacing and I'm still burned out and unable to process it. I definitely related when you talked about how sometimes a relationship ends and you look back and see how you'd changed yourself for that person, and not for the better. Looking back I can see all the red flags and all the things I would do differently and will never do again in a future relationship. I don't have regrets but I also struggle with wondering how I'll ever give my trust again because I loved him so completely and it still wasn't enough for him. I know that's a reflection on him, not on me, but it's still hard. This was really helpful to listen to, just having some validation that it's not just me who is going through/has gone through this kind of pain.
Your story is spot on the same as my girlfriend's, he was her highschool sweetheart, they were together for like 10 years and he just dissapeared, like that, no closure, no nothing. It's almost a year too and I see that she's still hurting. But trust me when I say this: it will all pass and you'll be happy again, Probably way happier than you were with that other person. He didn't deserve you and you deserve the world.
I had a very, very similiar situation to yours once and I think it's completely okay to sometimes still struggle and ask yourself questions about the relationship. Healing always takes time... But I always believe that your perfect match will come around some day and you won't even ask yourself these questions anymore. Just wanted to let you know :) xx
Kei-chwan thanks, I’m sorry your friend is dealing with this but it helps knowing I’m not the only one. I definitely deserve better, so I know it’s for the best, it’s just so hard in the meantime. ❤️
@@AndreaJSeverson I wish I had a special tipp or something but there probably isn't a universal one. I also recently listened to the the first episode of Amelia Liana's podcast "What I know now" and really agreed with it:)
Interesting to hear you talk about your first boyfriend, who was older and broke your heart. My first boyfriend was pretty much the same story... Older, every girl liked him... broke my heart and I also thought that would end me, so I completely get what you felt 😉. Also took me a couple of years to get over it and the worst part was him flirting or even dating some girls I knew, so it was really in my face all the time too. Funny to think about it now.
Your insight about asking about children.... I never thought it a big deal but your insight really shifted the way I think..... love your videos as ush 💞🔥
Dear Lydia! It is exactly your rumbling that keeps me as a hughe fan of yours! You are so naturally talanted to speak your mind and experience, thank you for that! Wish you a long and healthy happy life together with Ali! I online love you both :)
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Please please please do a style evolution! It would be so cool to show how your style has changed over the past 10 years or so!
Yes please
“Pull yourself together and go and find someone better”
Great advice, needed to hear that 🙏🙏
My boyfriend just broke up with me two weeks ago, I thought he was the one for me and he didn't see a future with me. I've been so distraught and heartbroken. This is what I needed so thank you for sharing
so sorry, same boat here, I choose to think of our breakup as, he might have been a prince...….my King is still out there!! cheers
Try Amelia liana’s podcast! Amazing
@@Hollybryonyforder I will! Thank you!!
I walked away from a really toxic marriage, I'm so glad to say I'm in such a happier relationship now x
It's amazing how much you have changed over the years. I remember when you had black hair and knew nothing about makeup to someone who started going on trips with brands to today where you have grown and progressed so much and know so much about makeup, fashion, relationships, life etc. LOVE YOU LYDIA
I only had my first boyfriend when I was 20. we‘re still together, going strong for 3 years. I think it really helped waiting for that long, I had already figured out who I was and who I wanted to be.
I don’t want kids, never have. I knew at 3 (according to my mom) that I didn’t want kids, I was going to get a degree, and I wasn’t going to live in England. I’m 42, have a degree and have lived in Sydney for 18 years. I still get people asking me when I’m having kids, I’ve literally had people gasp in horror when I’ve said I don’t. It’s my choice, but people should be mindful that some people have issues and can’t have children. That question possibly breaks them on a daily basis.
We could be lifestyle twins! From the UK now in Sydney. First one in family to get a degree and am still iffy about kids. I love adventure too much!
The same thing happened when I got married. And I have a step-daughter. But people were so incredibly rude about it. Sometimes they were so rude that I thought about saying that we had one but they are gone now. I am older now and realize that not having mutual children has made my husband and I never argue about one, be railed at and rebelled against, or worried about their choices, actions or decisions. It's been damn good.
This video is my favorite i think! After my break up with my first boyfriend i realised exactly what you said. There are certain relationships that steal your sparkle, even not intentionally, change you for the worst, that when the break up takes place it feels so liberating ! I will never forget that freeing feeling! I think I felt better than ever, and trust me I cried so much.. But it was necessary for me to happen I think. I learned to appreciate and love myself. I really found myself and started to enjoy my life like for the first time.That is when i met the most amazing person! What you exsume, you attract! That;s my moto!
I like learning about this side of u. thanks for the video
I’m so glad you enjoyed it xxx
When you are with the right person true love feels calm and secure. It shouldn't make you feel anxious. I wish someone told me that when I was younger.
I’m currently going through a break up and this has helped so much! I always felt the same as you by dealing with jealousy in all my previous relationships and I’m so happy you’ve found Ali it’s given me hope! You’re an amazing couple, Thank you Lydia 🙏🏼
Congratulations on this video and the way you are thinking. I am a bit older than you and I can safely say that it took me a while to have such a calm and composed way of thought.
Sound advice, i think most people have had their hearts broken and been in relationships that were not good and toxic, but it makes the people that we are today. If anyone is going through a bad breakup, it does get better, you will love again, make the most of friends and familly get closure and you can move on. 👍
I thought I was the only person who took several years to get over my first love. I definitely delayed my progress by keeping him in my life after we split up. Thank you for sharing this and for giving us such sage advice. ❤️
His friends hated you? I bet 15 year old Lydia was a sweetheart and I don’t understand how anyone could dislike you.
My first love was a rhinestone and I thought he was a diamond. I wish I had known what I know now.
Becky Bryant ugh I know the feeling. I actually feel bad for anyone currently dating these guys.
This felt very genuine, Lydia. Love it. // On another note: I totally agree with you on the topic of asking women if they want children. I also wish people would stop telling women who don't want children that that'll change. Makes it seem like women have no own mind and are just here to make babies. Hearing this always upsets me..
isabel2016 I totally agree! I have someone say this to me at least once a week and it really grates on me! x
Beauty and brains and great sensibility! She’s awesome!
It’s really nice that you’ve done a video like this! I’ve been watching you for years and it’s great to seen your growth online
Lydia you are and inspiration to me and you always make me want to be a better person. I love the relationship between you and Ali wish all the best for both of you in ur lives. All the love
Thank you so much xxx
@@lydiamillen OOOOOHHH MY GOD a like and a comment you just made my day. Hoping one day I could meet you in person
I'm nineteen and me and my boyfriend of two years have just split up so this video could not have come at a better time for me. It gives me hope that I'll find my very own Ali and that my person is still out there and that I can still make an amazing life for myself. Thank you Lydia xx
I absolutely love your opinion/attitude towards money in marriage. Wish more people were so level headed around this subject!
Lydia, you are my absolute favorite person on TH-cam. Here’s why...you are funny, intelligent, down to earth, humble and kind. You’re facial expressions are hysterical. And, your laugh is contagious. You are true friend, and a terrific partner to Ali. Your lifestyle is one I’ll never achieve, but it’s fun to see “that” side of life. Keep living your nest life without apologies to anyone.
Your advice for partner’s income was the best explanation I have ever heard. So very true. Well done.
Completely agree x
She said it perfectly 👌
Honestly love you so much Lydia! Thank you for being so transparent, bubbly and aesthetically inspiring ❤️
Your personality is just so lovely and I enjoy listening to you so much! ❤️❤️
I love this video, thank you for opening up! its so nice to see how happy you can be after being in a bad relationship, makes me more optimistic
My husband left me between chemotherapy and radiotherapy for breast cancer. I didn’t see it coming. And I couldn’t understand it at all. Years later I don’t think I’ve really recovered.
Love your blogs/vlogs ( still don’t know the difference!).
Stay strong and love your self 💙
Oh the “first love” I was also 15 and can completely relate to your story, I too had the opportunity to get back with him years later but by then I had wised up 👋🏼😅 That is also how I knew my husband was the one, the trust was there. I have never felt jealous with him and that’s because he doesn’t make me feel that way ❤️ Wonderful hearing some of these things about you Lydia and being able to relate to many of them ☺️
I appreciate the honesty and candidness Lydia! You have come a long way and as someone who has watched you over 4 years, I'm proud of you.
I just ended my sixteen year relationship with my husband. Unfortunately he broke my heart by cheating on me but It really helped me to watch your video. Thanks for your honesty , it’s certainly it easy to be open about your love life ❤️
parvaneh Kohandel I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I hope you feel better soon❤️
@paravanehKohandel....soo sorry to hear ONLY time can heal the heart....TAKE one day at a time and BREATHE....I was divorced after 13years of marriage after he cheated on me too with 9year old twins...now 13years later I remarried last summer with THE most understanding...caring ... trustworthy person I have EVER met....everything happens for a reason....and YES ..for something BETTER...we become wiser..and selfcaring of OURSELVES....learn toLOVE YOUR SELF...first...and then you will be LOVED AGAIN...I promise you that...Hi from sunny Greece 🙋🙏
I have a question: How did you continue having faith in yourself and having faith that you will find someone eventually during the times that you weren't in a relationship? Sometimes its a struggle to not think that the single life would be forever!
Dani Alaka - God has great plans for you! Trust Him! He loves you so much! ♥️🙏🏼
Or maybe because there are 7 billion people in the world and a good portion of them are single 🤷♀️
I've been watching all of your old videos 💕 I love to see how you have grown as a person and how you have progressed through life. X
I’m all about that growth, thank you lovely x
Love love love this
The openness, the subject, great advice and making ppl really care about themselves. Ancestors worked hard for the freedom, so live your best life, be proud and respectful to yourself 😊. Love your videos ❤️
It feels like a meditation 🧘♀️
You look great, healthy and happy and it is so contagious
This help so much I’ve been hurting because of my ex bf he was my first bf and I truly loved him I was with him for 3 years and half and it’s been a 1 year already but I still feel lost
Beautiful. Thank you for having the bravery to speak publicly about these subjects.
This is why I love you, we can actually talk or rather you can talk and I can listen and relate
I have been watching your videos for years and have loved seeing your growth. You are one of the most inspiring influencers in my opinion and hearing more about your story and how you've made your dreams a reality is what I hope to achieve. Im only 20 now but hearing your opinion and advice on topics like this make you seem like an older sister or cousin. Thank you for always being so honest and open, it helps more than you may even imagine.
I love how you are very open on your channel. It’s really nice to see and that’s why I’ve been watching your channel for so long!
Also I think this background for your sit downs is beautiful!
I love when you do these types of videos....I already have great respect for you however you have raised the bar once more. Thank you for sharing!!
I am like you when it comes to love as well, I fall truly in love and it's difficult when it doesn't work out. Yes, it does show that you are better off if it doesn't work out, this is what I have also realized with time.
Such a good video! Felt like I got to know you a bit better too :)
I really needed to hear the jealousy advance. My boyfriend is a very wanted man and sometimes I feel insecure. Your advice really made me see things in another way. Thank you so much!
The best advice I give my daughters when it comes to heartbreak: You will get over a boy when you find another. Always works!
Very wise words, Lydia. I really appreciate your comments on not asking people if they’re going to have children. Having gone through soul destroying infertility myself, I died inside every time someone asked me, however well intentioned. It’s unkind and nosy, and people should know that by now. Btw, I adopted my beautiful son so the story has a happy ending, but not everyone has one. Thanks for being so wise and wonderful. ❤️
Loving hearing your relationship journey. It resonates with me so much and I'm much older than you are. That first hurt really doesn't go away but you definitely learn to live with it.
... it took me 6 years to get over my first bf ... jesus .. never again .. what a waist of my precious time
I know what you mean xxx
Lydia Elise Millen I wish it was only 2 years like yours... not whole 6 years 🙄🙄🙄🙄 anyways everything happens for a reason...
Hi Lydia, I LOVED this, so interesting! I’m just wondering how you would feel about doing a part two with Ali and Carrie as you all have had such different experiences yet you have all ended up together somehow. It just really intrigues me as me and my friends can often have similar experiences and I almost think we feed each other’s unhealthy habits and it’s a huge reason we all keep repeating them. I hope that makes sense. Thank you for everything you do xx
It’s been a year since I break up and I still cry at nights... I can’t get over it. I can’t get over the idea that I mean nothing to him. In a blink of an eye he beak up with me and never text me or call me again... :(
I’m so so sorry lovely, sending you love and strength xx
Girl... please... throw everything away that remember him.. do yourself a make over. Only do you, what makes you happy.. if you need a digital slap watch Sheraseven and Michaela pink in TH-cam.. they will wake you up before more of your important time is wasted..
Time and getting yourself busy will eventually heal everything. It's not easy to just snap out of this, but take it day by day, put one foot in front of the other, spend time with family and friends and it will eventually get better. ❤️
Stella, I know this is cliche but where one door closes another one opens. Try to focus on some goal in your life that you want to go after. Leave that person in the rearview mirror until you can turn around and really see them and the relationship or what it was. File that info in the back of your mind and move forward. Try to move forward everyday even if it's just teeny tiny steps. You are meant for good and great things. 💞❣️🙏
I'm sorry you're going through that. BUT, why would you want to be with someone who does not appreciate you? You deserve to be adored and treated like queen. Give other, better men a chance to enter your life. Stop crying. Stop the self pity. Focus on your hobbies. Reconnect with your friends. Don't talk about the guy. Don't waste your energy on him anymore, use it for yourself.
This was a really cool video! I love how Lydia is so king and non-judgemental. I feel like there are still some people who need to watch the movie 'He's Just Not That Into You'.
The first heartbreak is killer!
omg sit down video! ❤️ Love your relationship with Ali, you two are so funny and kind to each other. Lots of love 💕 Vic ✨
Lydia, so lovely to hear you talking about such an important topic. You and Ali have such a great relationship and I love that you are a model for others who might never have seen such a healthy relationship in real life. Big hug 🤗
A 15 year old dating a 18/19 year old roofer! I’m scandalized!! (I have a 12 year old so I’m a little prudish suddenly! 😂)
It was like this for all the 'cool' girls when I was younger and with guys even in their 20s. Now we're all more clued up on grooming etc it makes me feel a bit sick.
roxcandymountain I know! As a mom of a 15 year old daughter I am thinking how I would handle that. Yikes!
Maura Noonan I know I wouldn’t be too keen, but what do you do?! Crazy to see things from the mom side now! 🤪
Lydia your so good at explaining things . I admire your honesty . Yours and Ali’s relationship is fab .
Lydia you are such a heartwarming person to watch and I wish I could hug you right now. I have been trying to conceive for 6 years, me and my partner are healthy and both have clear results from fertility tests. We even went for IVF last year which failed, it was my last resort and hope in having my own family. Till this day it breaks my heart to see everyone I know have the one thing I thought was a guarantee in life. Turns out it's not and to hear someone who is so thoughtful to understand that really touched me. I wish us as humans would be more considerate to others. If only people had your mentality the world would be a better place. P.s this is the first time I've ever commented on anything... Thank you for making me believe in kind people again.
Breakups are truly the worst but I’m a big believer also that everything is for a good reason even if you can’t see that reason at the time. Time is the only healer xxx thanks for this vid
funny how i was thinking about my ex and you uploaded this :)
Hey Lydia, I have been a huge fan of yours for years. This video is to another level, hats of to you woman to talk openly about your life and general relationship advice too. You have said things so beautifully. I have always learnt so much from you. Love you and Ali.
I want to thank you for this video, you have no idea how much this helps all of us! Kisses from The Netherlands 😘
Lydia😍 Love this video. I am a rather new subscriber but love your transparency. The truth is many ppl halt their potential dealing with matters of the heart. This is why it’s so important to find purpose in our own journey.... then no one can take our happiness away at will. 💕.
Great talk on relationships and hearing your perspective! I could say so much on my own experiences but I’ll go a little off topic and admit my distraction with the pretty arrangement behind you, which I believe I’ve seen placed in other areas of your dressing room. Maybe do a “my relationship with flowers” next?!😉. I’d love to see a close up of that arrangement as well as one that sits on your kitchen island!
I got sidetracked with the beautifully arranged things behind her too 😍😘❤️
I'm only halfway through the video but I want to say that this is a great video and a nice addition to your usual uploads 😊
Also why do women ever think it's ok to message any man that is clearly taken? This is something I will never understand, it just seems so disloyal to females in general. It must give some men such an odd idea of women! 🤯
Darling Lydia I'm 61 years old and have been married for 41 years. But honestly I never got over my boyfriend when I was 16 breaking my heart. He was my first love and I believe my purest and most innocent love. I still get sad when I think of that time in my life.
Omg have to say this is the most beautiful time I've watched you in the video since I followed you. That's so inspired and encouraged. Thank you so much Lydia.
Such an elegant woman with a lot of wisdom ❤️
LYDIA I’ve just caught up on your videos and I swear your literally the kindest person ever I envy YOU . I have to meet you one day and come to London ! Your videos literally give a piece of fresh air and life . You have the best personality I just love you 🥰 and your videos thank you for what you give us !
Thank you for this video..it made my thoughts more clearer about money...loved this one..(per usual..im a fan)
Great video and advice Lydia! You always have to love yourself first and know when it is the right time to walk away because when u do that is when you meet the person truly meant for you!😊
God knows I needed this today thank you 😔❤️
Lydia you have such a grounded attitude to relationships - you and Ali are a great partnership and that really came across x
Oh I love this video I’m so happy you have found a good man...We have all been through things situation relationships like this!..I’m so happy I’m in a good strong positive relationship now!
Thanks so much for approaching these topics in an empowering way 🖤
This video could not have come at a better time- its like you know :)
Anastasia Wynands 💝
I brooke up with my boyfriend of 15 years back in december 2019. He is now my best friend, he supports me so much better as a friend. He is the best X you could ask for. So I don’t agree with the ‘cut them out of your life’ part. But maybe it is because of the length og our relationship and the fact that I was the mother of his daughter for all those years (she is not mine biological)
Ringgaard1983 same! I’ve known my ex for nearly 20 years and he’s one of my best friends ⭐️
My ex and I are best friends! We call each other a lot and support each other and I just find that its better that way. We've been best friends for nearly 4 years or so.
I honestly hope you're doing well sunshine ❤️
Thank you lovely and you xx
Great video! It's nice to know we're not alone with past heartbreaking relationships.☺💪❤
Lydia, your hair looks amazingly nice and fresh!
MORE PLEASEE!! Loved this style of video!
This come at a perfect time for me❤️
Lydia you done an awesome job of answering these questions. I am 54 and I can see that no matter the age it’s still relatively the same. Except of course for me social media wasn’t a situation to deal with. But let me say you and I were the same when it came to break ups. The part I liked the most was when you said you think you will never get over it and you feel like it’s the end of the world. But there’s something better coming and there is! And now that I’m older I’m like would I really not want to have experienced that because had I not I wouldn’t have grown. There are some people who fall in love and have never been with anyone else, but I truly think that’s rare and I have even seen friends who did and are now divorced and having lots of family issues because now you have children and grandchildren involved. KUDOS to you for speaking about this! 🙌🏻😉🧡
Great video Lydia! You are wise beyond your years and give great advice...You and Ali are a great team together xoxo
Fantastic video Lydia with lots of great advice and information. Yes more Q&A's would be great.
Thank you for the video X
Wow! There's some things up in the air in my life right now that have been extremely distracting to me and with today's video you just nailed everything on the head. Thank you so much. Also, you seem very wise beyond your years. You've ever come a lot of obstacles and learn from them I salute that! You are a doll ❣️💞🥰
Loved this! Perfect timing x
Remani Love 💕
Really enjoyed this!
I‘ve only come around to watching this video just now (thanks to self-isolation) and I really loved it! Totally agree with you on so many points!
Last April my bf of nearly 5 years abruptly ended the relationship, just cut me off, it was done, no explanation or discussion, absolutely no closure. The past year has been such a rollercoaster trying to process the million questions I have and accepting that I'll never get answers, and even if I did, they wouldn't be good enough and would probably just cause me more pain. I've been struggling with my career and with work so the timing couldn't have been worse. Now I'm coming up on the first anniversary of the relationship ending and I can feel all the emotions resurfacing and I'm still burned out and unable to process it. I definitely related when you talked about how sometimes a relationship ends and you look back and see how you'd changed yourself for that person, and not for the better. Looking back I can see all the red flags and all the things I would do differently and will never do again in a future relationship. I don't have regrets but I also struggle with wondering how I'll ever give my trust again because I loved him so completely and it still wasn't enough for him. I know that's a reflection on him, not on me, but it's still hard. This was really helpful to listen to, just having some validation that it's not just me who is going through/has gone through this kind of pain.
Your story is spot on the same as my girlfriend's, he was her highschool sweetheart, they were together for like 10 years and he just dissapeared, like that, no closure, no nothing. It's almost a year too and I see that she's still hurting. But trust me when I say this: it will all pass and you'll be happy again, Probably way happier than you were with that other person. He didn't deserve you and you deserve the world.
I had a very, very similiar situation to yours once and I think it's completely okay to sometimes still struggle and ask yourself questions about the relationship. Healing always takes time... But I always believe that your perfect match will come around some day and you won't even ask yourself these questions anymore. Just wanted to let you know :) xx
Kei-chwan thanks, I’m sorry your friend is dealing with this but it helps knowing I’m not the only one. I definitely deserve better, so I know it’s for the best, it’s just so hard in the meantime. ❤️
Samuestar thanks, it helps to hear from people who’ve gone through something similar. I know it will get better, it just takes time. ❤️
@@AndreaJSeverson I wish I had a special tipp or something but there probably isn't a universal one. I also recently listened to the the first episode of Amelia Liana's podcast "What I know now" and really agreed with it:)
Best ever. So good to know & understand that most of us go through similar things. So helpful!
Lydia, beautiful video, just what I need to hear today. Thank you so much!
You are amazing! Keep up the great work:) All the best wishes for you💖
Yes please, more videos like this Absolutely loved it!♥
Interesting to hear you talk about your first boyfriend, who was older and broke your heart. My first boyfriend was pretty much the same story... Older, every girl liked him... broke my heart and I also thought that would end me, so I completely get what you felt 😉. Also took me a couple of years to get over it and the worst part was him flirting or even dating some girls I knew, so it was really in my face all the time too. Funny to think about it now.
I actually loved this. Some real pearls of wisdom! X
Your insight about asking about children.... I never thought it a big deal but your insight really shifted the way I think..... love your videos as ush 💞🔥
Just went back and watched one of your first videos dated Nov 2014. Loved the dark hair, you looked so exotically beautiful.
Loved hearing more about your journey 😘 some great advice xx
Girl you just make my day!!
Real life inspiration changing minds and views in a great way keep it up, love it
Dear Lydia! It is exactly your rumbling that keeps me as a hughe fan of yours! You are so naturally talanted to speak your mind and experience, thank you for that! Wish you a long and healthy happy life together with Ali! I online love you both :)
Love this video, such good advice. On a side note to this would you please do a video on your everyday jewellery? Xx
Great Q&A video! Enjoyed watching this :)
Yes. I needed this. Thank you!