9 Signs You’re In A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ต.ค. 2024
- 9 SIGNS YOU'RE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
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Yayyyyyyyyy QUALITY videos are back baby... hold on let me get my popcorn... y'all don't know how happy I am right now
Not going to lie it has been the longest year ever without seeing you guys and makes me so happy to see you. But I have to say I'm so proud of you guys for putting up boundaries with your relationship and what you choose to share on TH-cam I love to see you guys WIN keep winning!!!
Definitely love seeing a "black" couple who is putting Yah first. Applying spirit aspects to life will definitely strengthen the relationship. Glad seeing yall back
@@LifeJourneyfulthey didn’t move into their own place until like 2 years ago. Half was at Josh’s aprt and then a whole year or so in this apartment BUT THEY HAD PLANS TO BE ENGAGED/MARRIED soon within living together so noooo they weren’t shacked up for years. You make it sound like it was 5 years of just living together with no plans like some folks. 🥱🥱
Y’all have no idea how happy I am that y’all are back on TH-cam, I’ve missed you guys so much 😭 AND I’m in my early 20s so I need that QUALITY advice 👏🏾
isi looks more like her mom every time i see her in videos whether her mom is in the video or not
now y'all know I NEED a part 2!! these signs held a mirror to us. all of these were gems!
Since the last time y'all uploaded, I've gotten into a relationship myself. Back then I listened to your guys' advice and was like "that's solid, I'll aim for that when I get in one." Now that I'm in a relationship, I can relate more/have more of an idea of what you guys actually mean. It's nice being reminded of how to continue having a healthy relationship and things to watch out for 😌
eyes OPENED and thoughts PROVOKED. this was amazing! God is truly an on time God. you guys nailed this one.. glad to see you back! #Part2
Hi Isi and Josh. I thought this would be the perfect time to apologize to both of you for a very rude comment I made years ago on the topic of colorism. I am a subscriber and really like your content. You are a beautiful couple.... happy to see both of you still together.
Healthy communication is SUPER important.
I’m not even in a relationship but I’m still watching for the qualittyy content lol
Thank you for displaying the beauty of true love out loud. You helped me recognize how I deserved to be treated. Inspirational.
Random comment but it's Josh's love note on the mirror for me ❤ Love you guys #OG
Just have to say, absolutely here for the scriptural and Godly references! Toxicity within Christian relationships is often overlooked when in fact, it's a common trend. We feel inclined to love through it, be patient etc until those red flags become pink. We're not called to that, so tips on discernment would be appreciated :) #Part2
That equally yoked bro! This is the 3rd time I heard about this regarding the relationship, once with my friend from school during a conversation in their car, and another during a conversation with my friends in class during a podcast project we did, and now this! Dang! That just goes to show how much more I needed to pay attention to her actions vs words and not try to justify her actions for her
Great advice, straight from the Bible. ❤
@@anitadavenport3265 Yes Ma’am!
You guys just put into words something that I’ve actually been struggling with in a friendship. These apply & now I feel more confident in my choices!
This was a relationship therapy session for me !!! Y’all are AMAZING
Thank youuu
I love y'all no matter where you post! I enjoy the energy! I felt like y'all were talking to me. I recently got out of a 7 year relationship that I was unhappy in. People questioned why I left if he wasn't beating me or cheating. I felt we were unequally yoked on multiple levels. I felt I wasn't getting what I needed overall and i was defintely feeling like "a broken record". Thanks for the honesty in this video, I feel affirmed. Another Qualitty video!!❤
Phewww 😮💨 ‼️ I have missed this sooo much! The way I smiled listening to you guys speak life through all them points! 🎯 🔥 it’s REAL real when God is in it! Part Two please… 🫶🏽
The amount of times I kept replaying the blooper trying to figure out what he hit. Then when I actually saw he hit his side on that counter. I replayed it again just for the sound effect. 💀
Honestly y'all, I needed this video a long time ago but the fact that y'all uploaded it yesterday means a lot because I'm still hurt by what happened between me and my ex and we've officially been broken up for two months.
My favorite TH-camrs are back!!! Love y’all! Let the qualitty content commence!
You know, I've finally gotten to a point where I can look at what I see as my flaws (recognize what my flaws really are and what my strengths are as well). Now that my 30s are around the corner, I feel that grown woman maturity is coming, and I'm excited. I have a lot to work on, but I'm making progress, and I will get there.
36:48 The outro is so sweet😭 I'm praying for love like this 💕
So glad you guys are back! Missed y'all! So proud of you guys as well! Much love to the both of you. 🤎
People forget celebration is a form of gratitude. For yourself. You're life and the people around you
our relationship was so messed up because for one neither of us “made things official” in the beginning . we just had strong feelings for each other and we moved on too fast . im about to be 22 and im trying to figure out my life and love myself more ! thank you for this video . all of the 9 signs were in our relationship !
Omg!!!! Me tooo I’m going thru the same thing
This video definitely led me to some self reflection and looking into my relationship and seeing how I add to some of the problems we have. Really happy y’all are bck 🎉
Y’all be saving folks with your advice😮💨 I’m glad y’all came back 🤎🤍
My gosh I wish I could "like" this video a 1000x over because nothing but facts were spoken in this video. I'm one of your younger viewers and am hopefully about to enter a relationship myself. However, there are things that you guys touched on that I feel I should definitely communicate to my future partner (and looking in the mirror at myself of course). Thank you so much for such an insightful video! Definitely would LOVE a #part2. Glad you guys are back! You were dearly missed!
This is so insightful 😭 I got married a month after you guys and this past almost 8 months of marriage has been a huge experience and I definitely think a lot of these topics need to be addressed definitely helps in the long run
Eaaaaarrrrllllyyyyyy❤🎉
Edit: ohk I commented before even watching the video, I was excited lol but here are my edited thoughts
I have always seen my relationship in your relationship so I have always related to you both but this definitely hit the nail and have been things my partner and I have worked on for years. We're on year 5 and still growing so I just look forward to your thoughts and experiences and what we can take from that ❣️
This was so edifying, wonderful key points to think about while dating eachother & even while married it helped lift a mirror to my face to see where I could do better! Thank y’all for this 🧡
I just left a toxic situationship. Thank you for this video it confirmed that I made the right decision. Thank you, guys! Can't wait for more videos part 2
OMG IM SO GLAD U GUYS ARE BACKK😫
Not me dropping everything just because yall are posting again
I’m so happy y’all back 🥹😭
I keep coming back to this video, mind you, Im not even in a relationship atm, but its just really good advise. These are such good eye opening points and reminders cause at times we can really forget what toxicity looks like. Welcome back ya'll ❤
Yall ate-tah! With this video🎉 Back to back each sign and explanation HIT 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 Thank you for bringing back 🔥
Yesss! Soo glad to have you guys back on TH-cam! First one here ❤
Sounding like real counselors!! Wow!
I’ve missed y’all so much!! I can’t wait for all the QUALITTY content!!
Not me just smiling and happy to see y’all ☺️
Our faves are back. 🥹❤️
WELCOME BACKKKK FAMILY
Love this!! Can't believe my last relationship hit every single one of those signs and kids are involved! Please pray for us!❤
I love that looking at you two I see two strong individual pillars ❤ Love the growth 💪🏼
THIS WAS RIGHT ON TIME ‼️💪🏾💪🏾 Pt.2 please
I'm sayin’!
1st one herreee!!😆😆 #BeauteGang #JisiGang!!🫶🏾🫶🏾
This needed it own comment.
Isi your outfit is beautiful 🥹
Wow I really missed this healthy knowledge. Part 2 most definitely. This has just given a lot of important questions that I need for myself and my partner. Thank you guys. Keep this good coming
Awwww omg I'm so glad y'all are back (not sure if y'all are 100% back but I'm glad to see y'all ) I've missed y'all sooo much as everyone else ❤❤❤❤❤❤
# part 2, Im here for it ❤
Yes this definitely hit home and very relatable. Thank you for this!
I’m so glad to see you both back dropping much needed knowledge. 10/10 happy to see my favs☺️
I needed this! I’m on Patreon but I missed this kind of content being on TH-cam. Thank you Woodards! #Part2
Welcome baccccckkkkkk
I know that my comment below was more about dating, but my point is also to notice when you first meet someone, and you're getting to know them, and they can't even be consistent or mindful. be aware of the signs, before feelings get in the way and you feel it will be harder to let go and you find yourself dealing with scenarios and situations, that will cause toxic relationships in the future.
You guys love us felt through the screen 🩷
I love you guys!! My sister is in this super toxic marriage it's kinda ruining family life for me having to be anywhere near them 🙁
I’m so happy to see my fellow virtual brother and sister back on the tube!!
#part2. Dang didn’t know y’all would be hitting the ground running in this channel. Very pleasantly surprised to see a vid up this morning!!! Qualitty information as always!!! Communication truly is key and sorting through your emotions and intentions before trying to communicate as well bc even if you soften your tone and words, if you’re coming still simmering on the inside or with the intention of convincing or bending them to your will, they can sense that and still become defensive. And no; ive never seen a screaming match end well😅
So glad yall are back!!!! Damn this video is triggering, but necessary to hear #part2 🙃❤
You guys are such a great young couple to look up to. I feel like, now more than ever, many young people don’t believe in marriage and would rather just find a life partner. I would love if you guys could do a video on why y’all chose to get married and y’all’s perspective on the difference between a marriage and a life partnership. Looking forward to more quality content!
Yesss part 2 this is literally my relationship rn and we’re seeing these things and working towards changing them I’m happy to see you all and that this can actually work ❤️❤️ so glad you guys are back!
#Part2 The reflection in the mirror yall just turned to me almost gave me a nightmare lol. Thoughts definitely were provoked, now the actions lead. I got some work to do cuz I wanna keep my man loooord! I thank y'all for this. If imma listen to anyone's relationship advice it will be you two.
Aww yall are back back🥺
Yoooo #9!!! That was the main issue before everything else!!
#8 hits hard too! Cuz she’d apologize but wouldn't make an effort to make things better
Part 2 me PLEEEEASE! I miss you guys! Honestly you 2 are the only young BLACK couple I trust for advice! I’m excited that y’all are back! 🫶🏿
I am proud to say that I am reformed. I use to do these things and I use to tolerate some things 😅. Very good video ❤
love preacher josh 🙌🏾
Love this video soooo much not in a relationship yet but when I do get in one I’ll come back to this video and rewatch with my partner. So many gems luv u guyss🙏🏾😭😭❤
Not only am I happy that ya'll are backkkk buttt I've got my bf interested in ya'll videos 2 years ago and he loves these type of talks. I've been with him for 4 years and I swear HE NEEDS TO HEAR THIS VIDEO ! I cannot wait to have a discussion with him regarding this in it's entirety regarding what he says vs what he does. He has a terrible habit of saying and not showing until I get fed up. I love ya and thank you for sparking these types of convos for couples fr !
#Part2 !!!! you guys are so wise & the Lord's blessing & hand over & in your lives & relationship is SO clear!! so happy to see y'all back 🤎🖤✨
Yayy thanks for coming back guys! You're definitely valuable, appreciated and much needed in the world today. I'm glad y'all listened when God said y'all still had work to do!! Love you guys!!
#part2 Love you guys, so happy y’all are back.
I love that you all are incorporating God more. I am so happy to see more couples especially Black couples talking about and trying to display Godly, healthy, happy relationships. I'm lookin g forward to the coming videos.
I missed y’all so much
I just want to give you guys' parents and mentors the biggest HUG!!!
You both remain the wisest YOUNG people I have ever seen out here on the Internets!! 💯💖😇
Here on time today😩😩
Yall so cute. I'm binging yall content even thought I'm on a break from dating. Celibacy Era.
YAYYYYY yall are back😭 I am just popping off my summer, and this is the best way to start it off. Thanks yall💜
So happy y'all are back! Even more happy you're back with this type of content!!!🙌🏽 Love the obedience 😍
...also the blooper had me crying laughing 😭😂😂
Welcome back Quality crew, has been waiting
Thank y’all for slapping me in the face!! It’s not like I didn’t know, it’s just the confirmation from like minded ppl, that look like me, that are my age, and have achieved what I desire.. marriage.
Funny all 9 my ex husband an i had in our relationship smdh. Lesson learned. 💯 #part2
I'm Soo happy you guys are back. TH-cam didn't feel the same 😂❤
Welcome Back!!!! I'm single but I enjoyed this video. #Part2
Respectfully I don’t like Isi nose ring (no shade or shame) only my opinion
Tip #6 happened with us too and she just tried to justify instead of accountability setting in
"I'm just saying, the Bible adds up" Congrats, you've gained a new subscriber just off that statement! God Bless your union!
1. 1:21 No Peace
2. 2:47 Lack of Accountability, being brutally honest with yourself and what your possible toxic traits and flaws are. If your partner doesn't EVER acknowledge anything THEY'VE done wrong, or if they never apologize. Must acknowledge, sincerely apologize and have genuine forgiveness.
3. 4:54 Invalidation of Feelings, regardless of whether you understand why, whether they're outlandish feelings or not, acknowledge them.
Grace and empathy are pillars of a relationship.
4. 6:49 Lack of Growth, individually and as a couple, if you see a deterioration or regression in yourself and the relationship is depleting you/your light is dying. Your relationship is like a garden, you have to nourish it. Someone who doesn't share the same morals, beliefs and ambition
5. 6:49 Unequally Yoked, being aligned on beliefs/what you both want in the relationship and in the future. You don't have to be in the same spot but you do need to be on the same page and going in the same direction. Finances, kids, your future, what kind of house you want. Toxic mindset: ignoring the signs it won't work and just relying on hope it will work out. Especially being aligned on beliefs. Being aligned on wants and expectations --don't ever tell yourself it'll change or work out, need to be aligned now.
6. 12:08 Uncompromising, people always change, have to be willing to do that and work with that, growth and change and compromise is part of the game. People get really defensive, when they come to you and say I think you could do better with ___ AT LEAST consider what they're saying. You have to be open minded. Relationships are built on strings of sacrifice. People want to be right so bad instead of listening to understand. You have to let the ego and pride die, this is your LIFE partner. You need peace. People look at changing a toxic trait as changing a part of them, but NO you're improving yourself, your changing a TOXIC trait. Relationships are a team sport.
7. 17:01 No Trust, either you have to look at yourself and ask if you're insecure or if there are signs and symptoms that you shouldn't trust this person. If you can't trust them/the things they say, what are you doing? There HAS to be trust, you have to be confident in them doing right by the relationship. Actions are what you need to base things off of. The actions have to MATCH. It has to add up. Words + Actions = Trust, if you say something and you do it vs. Not.
8. 20:29 Lack of Effort, crucial, not compromising, not prioritizing, not feeling prioritized, etc. It's just a sign --this can possibly be corrected with communication. CONSISTENT effort. Don't need you to do fancy extravagant things, just need to know you care. Sometimes people show their love in different ways, don't love them the way YOU want to be loved, love them the way THEY want to be loved. If you've communicated this and have said it over and over, and they don't correct it, don't threaten, but just be honest, don't settle or lower your expectations. Also a good way to gauge how serious your partner is/how they really feel about you.
9. 20:29 Unhealthy Communication, of grievances, of lack of effort, emotions, you need to be able to hear/listen better than you're able to talk. Even in points of frustration, no name calling, cussing, yelling, or even raising your voice. Sometimes it is good to walk away and gather your feelings.
(20:29 good way to say it)
You can't take back disrespect, boundary crossing, belittling statement. Not just communicating when things are bad, but also when things are good, reinforce the good, don't and they know that you appreciate them, SAY it. When they do something great, talk about it. You wanna be seen the most with your partner. Put your ego aside for your relationship.
It's us vs. problems not us vs. each other.
If your partner feels like your enemy or adversary that's a toxic sign too
And having a trust word for serious conversations, example: Miami.
All these points individually are not signs you need to leave but if a lot of it is adding up, it may be toxic.
Don't look at words, look at actions. He says he wants to do better, or she says she loves me still --don't just look at the words.
YAAAYYY SO GLAD U GUYS ARE BACK. IM SO EXCITED🥳
I do not know how many years I have been watching you guys / but when y'all said - IS THIS AS LOVE CAN GET ahhhh that lesson from JOSH & ISI - life has been changed forever 🥰😭😋
Love you guys, we definitely happy to see y'all back and thriving as ever❤
I’m so glad u didn’t change the peace love hair Greece 💖 and we ouuuuttt.
I missed you guys.
Convicted 😂 I am soooo happy you guys are back. Thank you guys for your obedience in sharing with us. I have some things that I just... It's kind of private...can I message somebody real quick?
Yallll know we missed this!!! Love y’all! 💙 and thanks for bringing us some content 🤌🏾🙌🏾
Im Glad to see Yah Back I Truly Missed yah Quality Wisdom & different content