Donald's story - caring for somebody with dementia

[@zakrossawillis7027]

I dont want to get old

[@ffifi9093]

They did not want that too but there is no escape

[@ctsvblk]

Nobody does but if you accept it you’ll be at peace

[@itzredreaper_playz8950]

Same

[@blitzyt4705]

I know

[@isaacmoreno-doing678]

You will. That is something that you can't help unfortunately

[@komisan_]

this is so upsetting. he hasn't even told his son yet about what he does for his wife, I really hope they are doing well.
so lovely to see he is caring for her

[@berjaboy]

"I just hope there will be someone to look after us".... You mean like your only child? Can't believe their son didn't take a more proactive role in helping his parents once they reached this point.

[@rizzxdlol]

Children you brought into this world should NEVER be too busy for their parents 😡 beautiful touching video showing love respect honor still out there ❤️ prayers for you both much respect 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼

[@orlansmith6230]

Dementia is extremely crippling

[@Gigi-rk7dr]

The children should be there to help. It's very telling that they're not. Hope their children treat them the same way!!

[@josuebartley7272]

It's offal that Donald feels so isolated, but it's not fair to place that all on his son. It can be very difficult for families, especially ones with a young family of their own. It's difficult to tell with such a short video but there are any number of factors, but a mistake some families make is making too many sacrifices (particularly regarding work and income) at the early stages of a disease like this which can take years to get truly bad.
There should be more support tho and it is a pity his son isn't there to help more

[@skobiekilla]

He has responsibilities to his his own family.
Caring for a parent with dementia is more than a full time job. You burden a lone son/daughter with a job ,spouse and kids and care for diminshed parent they will lose everything including their sanity. He should be able to help now and then though.
If you can share the responsibility with your siblings it be more ideal. Have big families.

[@makeupbylakinjune2507]

@@skobiekilla my mom cares for my grandma with it and my little sister and she does the damn thing. There’s no excuse for this son not being there

[@rachelfrees1268]

😢 God bless you dear couple.

[@SKULLHUNTOR]

back in 2014 my Dad passed away within a month after getting diagnosed with cancer. My Wife and I really believed he knew years before but never told anyone including my Mom. He was 84 years old and my Mom was 2 years older. A few days before he passed he pulled me closed and asked to please watch over and take care of my Mom. Even though I had 3 younger Sisters my Mom really did favor me as being her only Son and oldest child. We lived about an hour away from my Parents and we never had any kids and my job is an hour away in the opposite direction of my Parents home. This made it hard to even think of stopping by to check on her on my way home from work. So … I told her to call me at work whenever she wanted and it was OK since I have a desk job. What I started to realize after awhile was that my Mom ( in my belief) had some type of Dementia going on. She would ask the same things over and over or forget what I had previously talked to her about. A few times I talked to her doctor about it and asked about testing her. Well he would always say there is no test and I took his word for it since it was her doctor for along time. Now looking back I think he said that because he didn’t want to be the one to limit her life choices. Well after 4 years of getting no stop calls at work and home it was apparent to me and my Wife my Mom did have this condition but the doctor and all my Sister’s wanted no part of getting her help. So after her calling 911 ( emergency help ) 4 times in the middle of the night and being rushed to the local ER hospital. I finally convinced her to move into an assisted living place. She wasn’t even there 2 days when all hell broke out and they put her into a locked Dementia unit. Actually… it was probably against the Law what they did but I know it was for her own good because if they let her go home she would be in worse shape not being able to take care of herself. The only thing that helped is she thought she was now in a hospital and needed the doctor to approve her release. I was then FINALLY able to convince the doctor to sign papers to make me the person to have full control of here abilities. We had here transferred to another Assisted Living place close to us only a few miles from us so I or my Wife could even check on her daily if I had to. Well that didn’t last long either because again within 2 days all hell broke out again. This time they sent her to a hospital that only deals with people in her condition… I guess you call it a mental hospital. She was there 3 weeks and sure enough they did a test and told me she had the Dementia coming on for atleast 6 to 8 years. This meant that either my Father knew ( and didn’t want to tell me ) for atleast 2 or 3 years before he passed. After the stay at this hospital my Mom had to go to a Nursing Home because the Assisted Living place did not have a Dementia unit and would not take her back. Luckily the nursing home was only 3 miles from my home but by that time my Mom had pretty much given up the will to live. Actually… after my Dad passed she would constantly tell me she didn’t want to live and she was only existing. My younger Sisters or the 2 grandchildren they had hardly if ever even visited my Mom all the years after my Dad passed. I was kinda pissed because my Parents did a lot for all of them when need and as for myself I never asked for help from them ( my Parents ) because I figured it was not up to them to finance stuff I needed or take care of my bills if I over extended myself. Sadly after my Mom passed after just over a month in the nursing home I was talking to one of her neighbors. They told me they saw my Dad once at the local grocery store and he was just walking up and down aisles. He was buying stuff but they asked him if everything was OK and told them no and that my Mom was loosing it. I just wish he told me before he passed even if he only THOUGHT it so I could have some how forced or looked into getting better help for my Mom. Her life would have been so much better because with this information I could have most likely would have been able to get her to move closer to me and watch over her better :-(

[@SuperDoncaster1]

This is so slimmer to my parents but with my dad in hospital it’s hard with about 11 phone calls a day asking where he is

[@scarymary461]

What’s more crippling that social services and NHS leave old folk to look after other old folk - with little help! 🤬 disgusting.

[@mopargaming7465]

This is some hard stuff to watch my grandmother just 2 years younger i see her slipping went to go see her she had fell and fotgot she had life alert around her neck shes still strong she crawled to the phone sad its one of things like would it be right to take her to a retirement home i think its more humane to let still live in her home of 57 years i really dont know what to do she dont know we took her gun that are grandfather got she dont need lol

[@ananthnaren9183]

These two old people are like babies their children should be with their parents. But I will be with my parents to care 24/7 them till the end. Thank God for the pills which prevent and keep helathy from dementia.

[@stephanielekas583]

What do you do for yours?

[@scarymary461]

Those pills do very little. I know.

[@ananthnaren9183]

@@stephanielekas583 taking care for me and also for them. If interested Will you take care of me

[@ananthnaren9183]

@@scarymary461 of course mary

[@passionatesingle]

People nowadays find it easy to make an excuse of being too busy to look after elderly parents. I quit my job and moved to the other side of the world to look after my mum with Alzheimers. It was an easy decision for me because it was the right decision. But I am south European and we still tend to look after our parents. It's an honour. It's extremely hard but knowledge is power and it gives you strength to carry on to just get on with the job. I was certainly very busy with my career and life but I have had no second thoughts. It's a new chapter and if the entire family chip in its not that great a burden, no that I would ever think of taking care of my parents as a burden.

[@isaacmoreno-doing678]

If she is 88. How old is Donald

[@xkyleprivatex815]

87. he states in the first 30 seconds. seems like you need to work on your listening skills

[@inhisservice2880]

87

[@louisianna5524]

Hi love
have you thought about putting yourselves into a retirement home..
it might be really helpful for you both.
take care lovlies xoxo💜💖💙

[@SSSILENTPRODUCTIONS]

@@Mitsuki_TheWolf174 How me make mine like that?

[@inhisservice2880]

The choice to have one or two children backfires in old age.

[@vanessasimmons1175]

Maybe if his son and his family visited more often they’d realise they need help. No excuses.

[@maryseiler8476]

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