Unorthodox: Deborah Feldman's escape from Brooklyn to Berlin | DW Interview

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  • Devout and isolated, with guilt as a constant companion: for the Satmar sect of Hasidic Judaism, the Holocaust is God’s punishment. Deborah Feldman tells the story of her life as an ultra-orthodox Jew and her rejection of Hasidic traditions. Her book, 'Unorthodox,' inspired the Netflix series of the same name.
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  • @roxannerodriguez7075
    @roxannerodriguez7075 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    It's now 6 year since this interview. I've just finished the Netflix series "Unorthodox". It touched me so deeply. I instantly wanted to know more about Deborah. I love this interview, and the history she shared in such a short conversation. I absolutely want to buy her book, and hopefully learn from her. She seems like the type of person we could all learn from. 💜

    • @anna-tn8mg
      @anna-tn8mg 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why? You can just read Mein Kampf.

    • @greggschroeder
      @greggschroeder 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here. Fascinating life and person.

  • @havelockv728
    @havelockv728 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2298

    She is so fiercely intelligent, what an impressive human being who can communicate all these difficult concepts into something the outside world can understand.

    • @Chanie787878
      @Chanie787878 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Let's not overlook the probability that Ms. Feldman's good qualities are partly her own development, and partly a result of her family upbringing.

    • @velvet2406
      @velvet2406 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      She has done very well and made a good quality question ping film.

    • @mommabear5059
      @mommabear5059 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Chanie A I think she said that I this video.

    • @christinapsalmist4267
      @christinapsalmist4267 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Chanie787878 family based disciplined upbringing wins over growing up with addicted /unwell parent with no boundaries. I speak from experience it takes a village

    • @christinapsalmist4267
      @christinapsalmist4267 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Johnny Ronimsom why do u say that?? I'm not in favour of overly restrictive religion either, who the son sets free is free indeed!! But the sense of belonging kids get in big families or groups is priceless

  • @amyg5311
    @amyg5311 3 ปีที่แล้ว +115

    I found it amazing how she not only explained what it was like for her in her community, but WHY - which can so often be neglected in conversations like this. So glad for the empathy and understanding that it allows for conversations like these.

  •  4 ปีที่แล้ว +169

    The person who interviews her is very sensitive and very intelligent. Thank you so much!

  • @cestmoi5702
    @cestmoi5702 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1062

    I want to listen to her talk nonstop. She’s so wise!

    • @sylvialb9823
      @sylvialb9823 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      and so eloquent

    • @cestmoi5702
      @cestmoi5702 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Agreed!

    • @churblefurbles
      @churblefurbles 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Is she? She kind of admits that her people will die out if people follow her ways, its demographically proven at this point.

    • @keptins
      @keptins 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      And her accent is nowhere near as "foreign" as depicted in the Netflix series.

    • @jenmdawg
      @jenmdawg 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I agree. She is measured and in control but also lively and bright. I'll be ordering her book tonight.

  • @tinasparkles2434
    @tinasparkles2434 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    How could anyone "hate" this woman? She is an international treasure! And should be treated as such by whatever community she chooses to be part of. After reading her story, I have the utmost respect for Deborah, what a special person she is!

    • @denisehall4818
      @denisehall4818 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      She is warmer than the actress that played her in the movie.

  • @TwelvetreeZ
    @TwelvetreeZ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +866

    The way she describes how they set up the community makes me quite sad, like the founders blamed themselves for being victims of genocide. Yikes.

    • @llc1976
      @llc1976 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      😭yes Stockholm
      Syndrome

    • @yossiringel6822
      @yossiringel6822 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Its not true

    • @etcetraetcetra3173
      @etcetraetcetra3173 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Maybe survival guilt.

    • @lorrilewis2178
      @lorrilewis2178 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Yes! Instead of blaming the aggressors, they blamed themselves. That's incredibly sad.

    • @elisyaomorose957
      @elisyaomorose957 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Well, it's just because they have a worldview in which there's a God who oversees everything. So of course the question of why God would allow the holocaust to happen has to be answered. It's blasphemous to assert that God has done something wrong or to assert that God is powerless to stop things like that from happening. So the conclusion is that it must be a well-deserved punishment. A lot of religious people think like that...

  • @saturnprincess88
    @saturnprincess88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +492

    Crazy thinking that if she had never left the Hasidic community, it's possible no one would ever find out how brilliant she really is! Glad she got out for herself, her child, and for all of us to benefit from hearing her experience.

    • @saturnprincess88
      @saturnprincess88 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @efopo I don't know, but there are certainly several tight knit Hasidic communities in just the NYC area (Brooklyn, Queens, maybe elsewhere). Certainly in Israel, and probably Europe as well (as that's where they originally came from).

    • @Etatdesiege1979
      @Etatdesiege1979 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That’s truth, but I guarantee you a lot of her “brightness” comes from growing up as a person, after she left New York. Notice how she credits meeting other people around the world with a lot of her growth as a person. I am sure that she learned English later too, so being steeped in this growing process gives her a unique insight and the eloquence to make the experience communicable to a wider audience.

    • @shisha4848
      @shisha4848 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Most of the Hasidic communities are very much alike, some are more strict than the other, but not as nearly as the Satmar community, where she came from. And just to be clear, they are actually a very small minority. Most of the Hasidic communities in NY do not support these type of radicalism. On the contrary.

    • @theotherview1716
      @theotherview1716 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know right? Like what would we have done without this. Kiddin

    • @chayarivkyheilpern2658
      @chayarivkyheilpern2658 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That is so untrue so many chasidish and satmar people are successful business men/women and she didn’t escape she left you can only escape if you are kept hostage no one forces anyone to stay

  • @Daiin0
    @Daiin0 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1545

    Religion extremism sucks in any religion. Judaism, Islam and Christianity.

    • @ghostofdayinperson
      @ghostofdayinperson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Religion sucks

    • @leifharmsen
      @leifharmsen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      peas in a pod

    • @rubina1868
      @rubina1868 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Dan so true

    • @busraskitchen2941
      @busraskitchen2941 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Sorry but the respresentation of women in islam is not like in judaism!! Go have a research before you state your prejudices about my beautiful religion!!

    • @friscoramadhan
      @friscoramadhan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      @@busraskitchen2941 where a woman testimony is only worth of a man's? Where a woman only gets less for inheritance compared to his brothers? Where the husband is allowed to beat his wife "lightly"? Where the husband can force his wife to have sex because if she doesnt want to, she will be cursed by angels?
      Lmao yeah right.

  • @chani8801
    @chani8801 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1036

    I used to hate her cause I was told to and now I see her as a role model I'm so happy she is spreading awareness about this community and what goes in it

    • @JazDickinson1
      @JazDickinson1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +84

      Sex and control of women bodies. It's all that cults about

    • @shyanedejesus75
      @shyanedejesus75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      little chani wow Chani we appreciate your honesty here.

    • @Sbannmarie
      @Sbannmarie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Have you read her book? thinking of getting it. I lived in Israel

    • @daniiiakasha4711
      @daniiiakasha4711 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Celisar1 Try to figure it out

    • @bargjgyhi6854
      @bargjgyhi6854 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same!

  • @adlerfg
    @adlerfg 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1135

    Extremism in any field is dangerous.

    • @moonbeeps
      @moonbeeps 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Religion in any field is absurd and dangerous

    • @teamgitusome
      @teamgitusome 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      thank you

    • @7Spronge
      @7Spronge 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Any ism is

    • @teodora9280
      @teodora9280 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@7Spronge especially dadaism, it can get so absurd that you die of either laughter or confusion

    • @zeribawbaw5048
      @zeribawbaw5048 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Religion*

  • @ErycaKZaiser
    @ErycaKZaiser 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1398

    I just finished the Netflix show based on this! So worth watching!

    • @vashappeninlainey
      @vashappeninlainey 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Eryca Zaiser just did too omg! incredibly moved and satisfied here

    • @stefanodepeppo
      @stefanodepeppo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I am just starting!

    • @mahajanssen
      @mahajanssen 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What is the title of the show?

    • @charmainedupuis1869
      @charmainedupuis1869 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@mahajanssen unorthodox

    • @cestmoi5702
      @cestmoi5702 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I just finished it too! Amazing!!!

  • @kokestomoshira5854
    @kokestomoshira5854 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Her story and the series was extemly relatable❤️ I left Christianity 3 years ago because of similar feelings and experiences, and watching Unorthodox literally made me cry like a baby😭❤️

    • @brooklynbabe7896
      @brooklynbabe7896 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow my dear I'm very sorry about that sister 💓😘🇬🇧🇮🇱🇸🇭🇯🇲🇮🇪🇨🇦🇬🇧 🇺🇸🇦🇩🇮🇱🇸🇭🇯🇲🇮🇪🇨🇦🇬🇧🎇🎆💔😢😭😘✡️🕎🎆🎇❤️💓😿🙏🕊️🎇🎆🕎✡️♾️💟

  • @eddiego9294
    @eddiego9294 4 ปีที่แล้ว +713

    Her story is so ironic, she fled to Germany to escape from her community in USA.
    Unorthodox is worth watching!

    • @marybg7631
      @marybg7631 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      The book is worth reading too.

    • @TheWorldOfHarmony
      @TheWorldOfHarmony 4 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      @Susan Webb 1. Watch the movie. 2. She had a German citizenship, after her mother. 3. Hope this helps.

    • @anynextdon4684
      @anynextdon4684 4 ปีที่แล้ว +98

      @Susan Webb have you ever been to berlin? she's right, it's one of the freest places in the world...and i'm from london lol.

    • @TheWorldOfHarmony
      @TheWorldOfHarmony 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @Susan Webb I guess, Germany was an option to get her away from New York. And her mother could make it happen.

    • @NoorNoor-ul5zh
      @NoorNoor-ul5zh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      Susan Webb Hi from the Netherlands here. Germany is very beautiful with kind people. I can understand your fear. But i’ll never exchange West-EU into the USA. Live here is Nice. And traveling is easy.

  • @Leah-xq2ko
    @Leah-xq2ko 4 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    Very well spoken. I am Orthodox, but extremism is dangerous for all people.

    • @siervodedios5952
      @siervodedios5952 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yeah there are crazy extremists in all religions, worldviews, beliefs, ideologies, etc.

    • @brooklynbabe7896
      @brooklynbabe7896 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@siervodedios5952 touche my dear

    • @mariekebootsma4346
      @mariekebootsma4346 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I am raised as a Jehovah witness, a very dangerous cult. I escaped. But the trauma is for life.

    • @Genghis_Khan3
      @Genghis_Khan3 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@mariekebootsma4346 Oof hope ur doing well

    • @patriciaoreilly8907
      @patriciaoreilly8907 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Agree 👍 in all walks of life 😊

  • @pt4942
    @pt4942 4 ปีที่แล้ว +288

    What a thoughtful, well paced and reflective interviewee.

    • @Ray-fk7ly
      @Ray-fk7ly 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just a reminder that not everyone thinks like this, I feel bad that she had a miserable childhood/life, but many if not most of us don't feel the same

    • @alex-qd6of
      @alex-qd6of 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Ray-fk7lynot that most people would dare say, if they felt like she did.
      Few would even be brave enough, to admit it to themselves.

  • @SKS2011SC
    @SKS2011SC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    I watched all the episodes of Unorthodox last night in one sitting. I couldn't pull myself away. Ended up going to bed at 5am on a work night. It was that good.

  • @SteveFirefly777
    @SteveFirefly777 4 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    “There’s good and bad everywhere, and it’s hard to generalise. “ Absolutely true - for the religious and non religious.

  • @SianLondon
    @SianLondon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +414

    I came straight from Unorthodox on Netflix, made me so curious. I'll definitely read the book

    • @Sdority905
      @Sdority905 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      The book is amazing. Highly recommended.

    • @franchescazamora1726
      @franchescazamora1726 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same

    • @tomastrogliero4804
      @tomastrogliero4804 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      The book is the same historia that movie?

    • @IshaSidi
      @IshaSidi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      tomás Trogliero The directors and story writers described the show as having the same background/history as the book with a different story

    • @perilyman8963
      @perilyman8963 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sian Nelson book is very different

  • @karenwagner5372
    @karenwagner5372 4 ปีที่แล้ว +355

    It’s amazing how she found the inner strength to leave. At 23 and into a world that she knew nothing about. She is a role model for women who are living under the heavy yoke of religious fanaticism!

    • @Etatdesiege1979
      @Etatdesiege1979 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Karen Wagner
      That’s how desperate she was.

    • @JewishGirlRox
      @JewishGirlRox 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Her story isn't real. It's her narrative and she omits so many details. I would suggest you read her good friend's book about how she left. Deborah and her husband left Satmar over 1.5 years before she ran to Berlin. They were finding themselves together and she was going to college, they were going to movie theaters etc when one day she just abandoned her husband.

    • @boobookitty4201
      @boobookitty4201 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@JewishGirlRox what is the name of the book you speak of?

    • @lepetitchat123
      @lepetitchat123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      If you do it you gotta do it when you are still young. The older you get the harder it is to leave

    • @rightcheer5096
      @rightcheer5096 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I wonder if any tell-all books will be published in the future about anybody fleeing the iron grip of Woke secular fanaticism.....

  • @wvanderwahl
    @wvanderwahl 6 ปีที่แล้ว +970

    Most of the comments here are self serving and misguided. If you haven't read her book you shouldn't be commenting on her point of view. I've read her book This was her experience. She didn't have the best family life. She was not set up for success in the many others are. Her book is not a profile on the Satmar way of life. It was just her life. Its interesting that so many orthodox Jews vilify Deborah for telling her story. As in any community there are many that are abused or unhappy for a number of reasons. She decided to do something about it. I think she is a brave woman.

    • @tahliah6691
      @tahliah6691 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      The comments are not misguided the comments are guided by what she expresses in the video.....

    • @leahsmith2693
      @leahsmith2693 5 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      Are you satmar? Her book is very satmar, I grew up in that cult. It’s a horrible abusive community.

    • @liveandletlive2894
      @liveandletlive2894 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@leahsmith2693 and now?

    • @pdad58
      @pdad58 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I will read her book and I look forward to it.

    • @denicawilliams4565
      @denicawilliams4565 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Walter Van der Wahl I agree I read this book and I didn’t know anything about this but I love to read so it was very interesting. It’s her story. Key word her. We al see things differently and this her testimony.

  • @AllyMcLesbian
    @AllyMcLesbian 6 ปีที่แล้ว +525

    As an American of Korean Christian evangelical background, I really resonate with the experiences she went through as a Hasidic Jew and as someone leaving the faith. Insular religious communities are very difficult to break away from, especially when they have such great grips on your family. I myself also had the additional struggle of coming out as a lesbian.
    What also spoke out to me was her journey through Germany and how it allowed her to actually heal and move on. The Hasidic view on Germans - how evil they are, yet how much of the Nazi propaganda actually became part of the Hasidic propaganda itself - sounds just like how the Japanese imperial occupation of Korea between 1910 and 1945 functioned. Especially considering that Korean Christians built their reputation on resisting the forced Shinto shrine visits that Japan required. Some of South Korea's leadership also had been officers of the Imperial Japanese Army and absolutely adored their former masters' work ethic and blabbered about how God punished Korea and its wayward ways by strengthening Japan and sending it conquering. I finally made my own journey to Japan in 2017 and was able to put all of that garbage to rest; to me, Japan is now just another amazing and lovely country, one with its own set of strengths and weaknesses, one with things to be proud of and ashamed of, like Korea, the US, Germany, Israel, or any other.

    • @PianoMeSasha
      @PianoMeSasha 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      right on.

    • @jessicacole8404
      @jessicacole8404 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      *Like even now I'm reading through what I've written and realize how patronizing and ethnocentric some of it is, so I apologise for that

    • @ilirkastevanovic7061
      @ilirkastevanovic7061 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Very interesting point. I agree

    • @Etatdesiege1979
      @Etatdesiege1979 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      And it’s all garbage indeed.
      You should read the Name of the Rose, by Umberto Eco. It’s a very long story about how being ruled by fear destroys lives.

    • @Taglianetti
      @Taglianetti 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      It's always great to read a really interesting comment as yours on internet, we can really understand more points of view of different people, different ethnicities, different religions.
      I wish you the best, you're very strong!!

  • @darrentrentacosta
    @darrentrentacosta 4 ปีที่แล้ว +259

    She is brilliant...articulate, smart, compassionate...insightful..would love if she did a speaking tour!

    • @sallybrite1530
      @sallybrite1530 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I like her so much more than the actress playing her.

    • @shira1270
      @shira1270 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes lucky she wasn’t married off at 18

    • @mitchellauerbach1489
      @mitchellauerbach1489 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      But she isn't telling the truth. Women are treasured and saved us many times in history. She lies.

    • @alex-qd6of
      @alex-qd6of 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@mitchellauerbach1489nah. I've heard similar stories from other people who escaped this cult. Far worse ones, in fact.

    • @steelethescene
      @steelethescene 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I thought all the actors were wonderful. The show is brilliantly done. I think Deborah must be very happy that such justice was done to her memoir.

  • @Velianna
    @Velianna 4 ปีที่แล้ว +235

    She ought to be a role model for people seeking their own path. And she's so insightful about it.

  • @jeaniechowdhury6739
    @jeaniechowdhury6739 4 ปีที่แล้ว +618

    Extremism in any religion is not good.
    Anything that you can’t free,y leave is a cult.

    • @shanice8351
      @shanice8351 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Jeanie Chowdhury Exactly

    • @Dulcimertunes
      @Dulcimertunes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Right

    • @moonbeeps
      @moonbeeps 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      All religion is just bad, all wars just began bc of religion. It's not good for nothing

    • @moonbeeps
      @moonbeeps 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @peace be with you - bc judaism was not the problem at all lol

    • @milascave2
      @milascave2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@moonbeeps Did the war between Communist Cambodia and Communist China against Communist Viet Nam get started because of religion?
      All sweeping statements are wrong!

  • @KushalAshok
    @KushalAshok 4 ปีที่แล้ว +410

    "It's about people wanting power" - A good takeaway

    • @AirParrott
      @AirParrott 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      penguins inadiorama Or power over women, like she spoke of at length. Don’t hurt yourself trying to twist it to fit your agenda.

    • @EdwardOberon
      @EdwardOberon 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Always

  • @jbb2009
    @jbb2009 4 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    She's very eloquent in describing her upbringing and the challenges she survived.

  • @gulfbaby230
    @gulfbaby230 4 ปีที่แล้ว +218

    I love her, especially her intelligence and bravery. I’m so glad she has told her story!!

    • @teamgitusome
      @teamgitusome 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      dmink lee intelligence? bravery? she ran away from family and structure to become another foul mouthed cigarette smoking narcissist. as if we needed any more of those.

    • @teamgitusome
      @teamgitusome 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      rainy luv they are not real if they do

    • @samanthaNL
      @samanthaNL 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@teamgitusome people like you are the reason why people run away from their community.

    • @teamgitusome
      @teamgitusome 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      samanthaNL wow because i dont believe in poisoning your body or having sex openly? hmm

    • @teamgitusome
      @teamgitusome 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      samanthaNL run away from
      the community and lead a life of sexual sin, teaching the next generations after them to be soul less and carnal in that way. sexualizing children because of it. hmmm....that all sounds worse to me than being family focused and being people of faith.

  • @lesliesmith5797
    @lesliesmith5797 4 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    Deborah is very intelligent and expresses herself so well. 🌺🦋

  • @sdar6273
    @sdar6273 4 ปีที่แล้ว +661

    Am I the only one who thinks she looks like Amy Sheldon's girlfriend ? :P

    • @MairahSh
      @MairahSh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      omg yes!

    • @aryaarai6696
      @aryaarai6696 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Literally my first thought

    • @odessafile75
      @odessafile75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Mayim Bialik

    • @EC2019
      @EC2019 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I thought it was her at first glance. If you told me they were sisters I'd totally believe it.

    • @adararelgnel2695
      @adararelgnel2695 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      OH MY GOD!! I was wondering why she looked familiar looool

  • @carlingnugent
    @carlingnugent 4 ปีที่แล้ว +465

    10 and 20 children. TWENTY children. That alone is horrifying.

    • @Chanie787878
      @Chanie787878 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Not to the youngest child. :)

    • @milascave2
      @milascave2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      bing> If a woman marys young and uses no birth control and keeps having sex she will have a child about every 9 months until menopause or death.

    • @nahjawhite3792
      @nahjawhite3792 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      bingbongboop I have 2 and it’s terrifying some days 😂😂

    • @DanielaLedo
      @DanielaLedo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Eventually, your second son is born at same time as you youngest brother.

    • @No44778
      @No44778 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@milascave2 fortunately, we really dont :D having a child often means your body doesnt release an egg for a while, especially if youre nursing

  • @brainonsleep6754
    @brainonsleep6754 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I just finished watching Unorthodox. What an amazing story. Deborah, you are so driven, it is truly inspiring. The process of deconstruction or “reprogramming” as you mentioned is incredibly difficult, and somewhat impossible. Our journey will always be tainted by our memories, but the best part that we can hold on to is that we are in our own power to reinterpret each of these memories. Congratulations for your journey and for being brave to share your story. Hope you have a wonderful life!

  • @neriamoye6729
    @neriamoye6729 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Dear Deborah, Thank you so much for speaking your truth so articulately. You open doors of understanding for all of us. Be richly blessed and loved.

  • @RicardoMoralesMassin
    @RicardoMoralesMassin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    She went thru everything, wrote the book, the series got picked up, produced, shot, marketed, etc., it came out and she is STILL in the process of learning how to let people in again!? Oooof how they damaged this poor woman...

  • @jeaniechowdhury6739
    @jeaniechowdhury6739 4 ปีที่แล้ว +298

    The community is collectively suffering from ptsd from the holocaust.
    It’s not an excuse for oppressing females....

    • @sharon4639
      @sharon4639 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      I agree forgetting ones history is not good but hanging on to a victim hood narrative and shaming/guilting isn’t healing for the generations.

    • @roboparks
      @roboparks 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @efopo Its generational though. Like Slavery was in The USA .

    • @roboparks
      @roboparks 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @efopo The Feelings , the Mortality and the language is past on from Generation to Generation . So even though the newer generation didn't actually experience it . They ended up sharing those attitudes they are past on. Segregation was just anther form of it so you have people that have parents and grandparents still alive that went through that.

    • @thiammariam2938
      @thiammariam2938 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      The females were not the only oppressed. If you have watched the movies you would have noticed that the husband of the hero was brainwashed as well.

    • @Chanie787878
      @Chanie787878 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Aura I wish you success and healing.

  • @nyulbela
    @nyulbela 4 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    So brave of her standing up for the rights of women against such medieval religious fanatics

  • @jessica214972
    @jessica214972 6 ปีที่แล้ว +558

    She looks like Blossoms older sister.

    • @kathaiti
      @kathaiti 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      I thought she was Blossom too. I think her real name is Mayim Bialik.

    • @evaj5937
      @evaj5937 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      She does!😀

    • @kate-sf6lo
      @kate-sf6lo 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      From riverdale?

    • @losheroes6076
      @losheroes6076 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      She looks like meg from family guy 😂😂

    • @SKS2011SC
      @SKS2011SC 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      That's it! I couldn't figure out who she reminded me of, but you're right, it's Mayim Bialik aka Dr. Amy Farrah Fowler

  • @rivabetzalel3278
    @rivabetzalel3278 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I love how you speak, so articulate. Beautiful and confident.

  • @christinetucci9227
    @christinetucci9227 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I read this book when it was released and I couldn't put it down. I'm so pleased to know that it has been made into a film.

    • @JazDickinson1
      @JazDickinson1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm seeing the series on Netflix right now

    • @bethp3320
      @bethp3320 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Is the book worth reading if I have already watched the series?

    • @christinetucci9227
      @christinetucci9227 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@bethp3320 Absolutely. It is different than the movie. Equally as good and interesting.

  • @PinskyKyaroru
    @PinskyKyaroru 4 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    She look so similar to Mayiam Bialik (I might edit this comment after checking the spelling)
    EDIT: Yup, I was wrong, her name is Mayim Bialik

    • @mirapankiw9592
      @mirapankiw9592 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      CarolNav I thought at first it was Mayim as well.

    • @princEsstefania1
      @princEsstefania1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's was the first thing that I thought too

    • @mrsTraveller64
      @mrsTraveller64 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I actually thought it was her!!

    • @abcdefg7679
      @abcdefg7679 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      CarolNav yes sooo much

    • @susiecam1033
      @susiecam1033 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I though so too.
      Maybe a distant cousin

  • @carmenkeele9622
    @carmenkeele9622 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    The production is remarkable and Shira Haas, the lead, blew my socks off.

    • @lindacowles756
      @lindacowles756 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, she was excellent in the role. Always looked terrified.

  • @denysephenix2349
    @denysephenix2349 4 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    Dear Deborah, , do not feel any guilt.. God gave you 2 gifts in particular: Intelligence and discernment , What you did is what true freedom all about. You wanted a better life for you and your child.
    my view on the holocaust is this " I am heartbroken as to what happened, and although i was not yet born.. here is my way of having empathy for all who died and suffered . Every day I do acts of kindness to anyone I meet. This is the best way to remember those who died and suffered so much . By being kind to others and loving others with a pure heart is what we are here for. A hundred years or so is such a short time for living . we must make the best of it and not keep people from having this basic right . To live free and make their own decisions. I send all my love to you and you're child.

    • @Bembel81
      @Bembel81 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gawd gave her nothing. That thing did never exist.

    • @denysephenix2349
      @denysephenix2349 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@Bembel81 I beg to differ : but if this is your opinion I feel sorry for you . For me , God is my all , my strength and my belief in Him , will never waver. I will pray for you

  • @belindagarza3958
    @belindagarza3958 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Sounds like an entire group of people with PTSD.

    • @MsTwiggy28
      @MsTwiggy28 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, have you watched the documentary on Netflix?

    • @Ray-fk7ly
      @Ray-fk7ly 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Belinda that's true, but with every generation its effects aren't as severe.

  • @srushtiapadival
    @srushtiapadival 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i stumbled upon the trailer, and i'm yet to watch the series. But watching this interview, the refreshing honesty, intelligence, and self-awareness of the author, is amazing.
    The next challenge in my life- is to learn how to let people in again.
    WOW!

  • @tovalieberman6686
    @tovalieberman6686 4 ปีที่แล้ว +290

    What an intelligent woman. Good luck.

    • @tovalieberman6686
      @tovalieberman6686 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Unfortunately her story resonates with my life story. All I can say is no one religion is perfect but women in the so-called Haredi community should be allowed to speak up and not cower in the corner. Grow some "balls" and tell the truth! Good luck to u and all the women of every religion cowering in corners. Gd gave us life and strength. Use it!

  • @BlueEyesBrittany
    @BlueEyesBrittany 6 ปีที่แล้ว +335

    Human beings are very good at hurting each other ... that is what the problem is .. not to mention the way women are treated

    • @8270361507
      @8270361507 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      This 100%.

    • @1life744
      @1life744 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      100% right

    • @anonymousanonymous-qx7mv
      @anonymousanonymous-qx7mv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      They are not treated the way she describes...not every family is her family.

    • @JazDickinson1
      @JazDickinson1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @@anonymousanonymous-qx7mv ... Cults are very abusive with women and you can't deny that

    • @anonymousanonymous-qx7mv
      @anonymousanonymous-qx7mv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@JazDickinson1 Who are you to even make a statement based on this beligerant kid from our community, who you dint even know, but I do. I am an adult in my 6th decade of life, who grew up in the CULT she claims are her own. Your gullibility is striking...we are more respected as woman than probably any secular woman out there. You havent a clue but take your reference from a kid who ran off, with a set of ill parents and goes around besmirching her family and making a career out of it. She and a couple others....have a great day and stop accepting things before you know anything. Oh and by the way...L love my "CULT", (a word penned by beligerant angry frustrated youths who cannot abide by rules their parents , schools...raised them with)....wouldnt change it for anything in the world!!

  • @riogrl324
    @riogrl324 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is the first time I’ve heard the connection to the Holocaust and Hasidic Judaism. This is a huge turning point for me! Helped me understand the community a little more!

  • @msf2168
    @msf2168 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Her story is so much deeper than what is shown in the series. I would love a continued series where her character is written to have these much more deeper nuanced and real feelings in her journey of self discovery.

  • @user-wx9ky9lr1y
    @user-wx9ky9lr1y 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    The Netflix show was superb-highly recommended

  • @devolutionone
    @devolutionone 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Any kind of extremist is wrong and scary, it shows a lack of open mindness that is very unhealthy and is always really just about power, control and fear. She is very brave, I'm happy she was smart and strong enough to see it and get away from it. Good job Deborah for sharing your story. 👍🏼 ✌🏼

  • @nathashou
    @nathashou 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    You can see how such a beautiful person she is just from hearing her speak and seeing her smile.

  • @ronycamacho7132
    @ronycamacho7132 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I admire her, intelligence, experiences and bravery. Truly amazing.

  • @theway24
    @theway24 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I cannot stop myself commenting about this movie.
    I am touched.....the way that girl act, I actually feel the pain from within. Her acting was outstanding.... The pain was bust out from her face and whole physical apperence.... Outstanding acting and direction as well
    Great team work well done......
    👍👌

  • @sdarling6518
    @sdarling6518 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It’s interesting how many of us come from communities created out of trauma, oppression and genocide. I wish more people from such communities were supported in telling their stories and those stories were acknowledged.

  • @karenbochinski
    @karenbochinski 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Love this woman; she has gone through a lot in her young life.

  • @margret-annchinn7807
    @margret-annchinn7807 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Deborah Feldman is a bright well spoken and courageous young woman. Everything in the interview has been well thought of and she treats the subject of her interview with dignity and respect. She truly has my admiration and deference.

  • @janesanders8475
    @janesanders8475 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I have nothing but admiration for this very courageous and well spoken woman

  • @GrammyHarriet
    @GrammyHarriet 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I saw the movie and then had to read the book. Both were fascinating and led me to research more of my German heritage. (It was somewhat similar for a girl with 4 brothers growing up in a US/German family). I definitely can relate to Deborah's story. Thank you!

  • @janedumanoir6998
    @janedumanoir6998 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    What an extraordinafy woman ! Just make me proud to know what a woman can overcome and be able after some years to analyse so clearly what happened in her life and how It can happened the same in all religious extremism. A lesson for all of us.

  • @vinitaw8219
    @vinitaw8219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I am converting to Judaism and this was very interesting. She is very intelligent and Unorthodox was done really well. Any religion in extremism is damaging.

    • @lepetitchat123
      @lepetitchat123 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It would be the biggest mistake of your life. Joining a cult for what?

    • @nikkio.9990
      @nikkio.9990 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      From my limited understanding there is so many different types of Judaism. There is a whole spectrum. A lot like the fact there are thousands of Protestant demoninations and practices. Correct,
      Anywho best wishes

  • @pipermims5147
    @pipermims5147 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    “Unorthodox”...great show. Very informative...I’d love to see more seasons of it because it left me wanting more. Shira Haas was amazing!

  • @nihaopaty
    @nihaopaty 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This interview gave me the goosebumps especially her answer to the last questions. Wow

  • @lalakuma9
    @lalakuma9 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    She's so intelligent and insightful. Amazing woman.

  • @susanstebbins1211
    @susanstebbins1211 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I watched Unorthodox a few months ago. As a woman I am aware of how we are perceived in many religions, the more strict the more we are demonized. I think Ms. Feldman is very bright and very brave. And as such she took the only way out that she could. I held my breath with her during her flight. Such a story. Watch the film, it is very well done. Bravo Ms.Feldman, you have the strength of the survivors in your blood.

  • @ragemodels
    @ragemodels 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I ABSOLUTELY LOVE HER !!! WHEN SHE ENDS HER BRILLIANT INTERVIEW BY ANSWERING HE LAST QUES " HER BIGGEST CHALLENGE NOW " IS LET PEOPLE IN !!! OMD!!!

  • @lilacrose5266
    @lilacrose5266 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Deborah Feldman is amazing! very moved by this interview

  • @janicewhite2300
    @janicewhite2300 4 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    A courageous woman- “religion taken to the extreme is always associated with mayhem”

  • @janetkizer5956
    @janetkizer5956 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great interview. The interviewer lets her talk, and she answers the questions so intelligently.

  • @DVWNatSecResearcher
    @DVWNatSecResearcher 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What an amazing and insightful interview. I particularly found the discussion on the manifestation of extreme expressions of religiosity across the spectrum of faith practices very timely.

  • @jenesaispas4030
    @jenesaispas4030 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I respect this women so hard!
    Her story needs to be told to the world! So courageous!

  • @mariamatmos4506
    @mariamatmos4506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You need to be extraordinarily intelligent to realise there is something wrong in what you have known for your whole life, and extraordinarily brave to leave it behind and chase something better. This woman is amazing ❤️

  • @Anne-FromQc
    @Anne-FromQc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Wow, what a great soul, unique and difficult journey... and she’s making it happen. Letting people in again. 💞

  • @belenlg5978
    @belenlg5978 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I watched unorthodox and was very impressed at the courage of someone leaving such a community. Now that I hear Deborah I am even more impressed! the woman is not only brave but incredibly bright

  • @deborahehrman8848
    @deborahehrman8848 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Would love to reach out and talk with you.
    .I grew up orthodox but not Satmar and I didn't have the womanly shame you express growing up in new York.
    I live in Jerusalem and enjoy a beautiful life..
    I appreciate your wonderful openness & hope you still have connection to your family who gave you so much

  • @SarahAnnBellham
    @SarahAnnBellham 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Loved the Netflix series!!! We need a follow-up series!

    • @lesleysimpson5793
      @lesleysimpson5793 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes! After the baby is born. Will Moishe make good on his threat to come back for the baby?

  • @piafrazier7461
    @piafrazier7461 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I watch this story on Netflix- it was so good!! Hats off to this lady!

  • @bass13mary
    @bass13mary 6 ปีที่แล้ว +301

    Deborah looks like Jo Frost, super nanny

  • @faebrowne2537
    @faebrowne2537 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I could listen to her in interview all day

  • @Liren1975
    @Liren1975 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I appreciate Mr. Craven for conducting such a calm and informative interview. No judgement, just clear questions and comments designed to inform. Thank you to DW News and Deborah Feldman.

  • @claudiacarrera9183
    @claudiacarrera9183 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    U r a very Smart woman, so proud of you, strong, we need more people like you

  • @riisou2264
    @riisou2264 4 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    All people hating on her moving to Germany clearly haven’t watched the country’s massive development over the last few decades. These days there are countries, especially in eastern Europe, where discrimination and anti-semitism are way more present than in Germany. No denial that these still exist in Germany though. Also due to the trauma I can understand why descendants of the Holocaust cannot change their way of thinking about the country. But others shouldn’t judge based on something that’s almost 90 years ago.

    • @II-be1ze
      @II-be1ze 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      NO it was 75 years ago not 90??

    • @NoorNoor-ul5zh
      @NoorNoor-ul5zh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      A Dutchie here! I was Born at the German/Dutch border even iam Dutch i like Germany too. Its a beautiful country.

    • @sduicu
      @sduicu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I would not live in USA due to racism and discrimination against color people and Hispanics. I lived in Germany for 4 years, safe and respectul country.

    • @joanachantre1906
      @joanachantre1906 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      She moved to Berlin. Berlin is a very special city that is completely different to the rest of Germany. The rest of Germany is not international. She wouldn't have adapted elsewhere in the country, for sure. I know for personal experience.

    • @joanachantre1906
      @joanachantre1906 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Celisar1 Travelling and actually living abroad are two completely different things. I've lived in 6 completely different countries, including Germany (not Berlin) for 4 years and I ended up wanting to leave, after all. I liked the life experience I earned but I rejected assimilation (because thats what they demand from you there). That is not the "whole point of living abroad' actually. Sometimes the cultural differences are too much and just adapting is not enough. My initial comment was about praising Berlin, because it's an amazing microcosmo in Europe that certainly does not represent the rest of Germany - I would say almost anyone loves Berlin and can identify with it, no matter which culture you come from.

  • @akirubamiru6700
    @akirubamiru6700 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Yes, I like the conclusion from the interview

  • @goddess_watching
    @goddess_watching 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Deborah is so intelligent and articulate! ♥️ Such a fresh breath of air amidst all the shallowness on social media.

  • @per-ivindmartinsen3086
    @per-ivindmartinsen3086 4 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    I really enjoyed "Unortodox" on Netflix 👍

  • @me951129
    @me951129 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amazing interview and great deep questions

  • @SD-bj1dn
    @SD-bj1dn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    A little religion is able to enrich your life, a lot religion destroys it.

    • @elainemcdonald1463
      @elainemcdonald1463 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      S D that’s a very true statement

    • @rebeccaabel4589
      @rebeccaabel4589 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very true

    • @queerulantin6431
      @queerulantin6431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🙌

    • @lepetitchat123
      @lepetitchat123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Even a little goes a long way to poison your mind. You know what is a fair way to raise children? Stop brainwashing them since day one and let them make up their minds if they wanna be religious or not.

  • @JA-el3ml
    @JA-el3ml 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What a brave soul. To leave everything you know and go toward the unknown, tremendous courage. I haven't seen the series or read her book yet, but I will.

  • @moyal2369
    @moyal2369 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Also here after the Netflix series, Unorthodox. Thank you for sharing your story Deborah. I have learnt so much and could honestly listen to you for hours!

  • @bg9217
    @bg9217 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    What a brave brave soul. The show on Netflix was amazing!!!! I wish there were more episodes.

  • @robertoa.m.3984
    @robertoa.m.3984 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is a most wonderful and unique interview and human testimony!

  • @NanoYoga
    @NanoYoga 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So well spoken of her experience and so self aware. Great interview and what a lady.

  • @avantilicious
    @avantilicious 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very insightful interview, thank you. I'm going to order the book.

  • @phoebebaker1575
    @phoebebaker1575 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is a really thoughtful interview! I’ll have to read her book.

  • @Gabyvg1905
    @Gabyvg1905 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I LOVED the series and learned so much. I am her fan and thank her for sharing her experience

  • @truecynic1270
    @truecynic1270 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very interesting and enlightening! Thank YOU SO MUCH for this education to me and I hope so much to others!

  • @patriciahall2223
    @patriciahall2223 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I cannot stop talking about Unorthodox , Incredible .....such an amazing brave Lady thank you for sharing your story , I admire you 🇨🇦

  • @eshvartz
    @eshvartz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Wow, what a great personality she has. It seems to me she radiates strength and wisdom, thank you Deborah for being you.

  • @merylmontgomery9932
    @merylmontgomery9932 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Religion always seems to make things harder for the women. It doesn't matter which religion. It just always goes that direction..

  • @lifeisgood923
    @lifeisgood923 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow. Thank you Deborah Feldman for being brave and coming forward with your story. I learned a great deal and offer support for her future endeavors.

  • @frankhughes4371
    @frankhughes4371 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Saw Unorthodox on Netflix and enjoyed it greatly. Recommend it to my friends....very interesting.