She is so fiercely intelligent, what an impressive human being who can communicate all these difficult concepts into something the outside world can understand.
@@Chanie787878 family based disciplined upbringing wins over growing up with addicted /unwell parent with no boundaries. I speak from experience it takes a village
@Johnny Ronimsom why do u say that?? I'm not in favour of overly restrictive religion either, who the son sets free is free indeed!! But the sense of belonging kids get in big families or groups is priceless
It's now 6 year since this interview. I've just finished the Netflix series "Unorthodox". It touched me so deeply. I instantly wanted to know more about Deborah. I love this interview, and the history she shared in such a short conversation. I absolutely want to buy her book, and hopefully learn from her. She seems like the type of person we could all learn from. 💜
I found it amazing how she not only explained what it was like for her in her community, but WHY - which can so often be neglected in conversations like this. So glad for the empathy and understanding that it allows for conversations like these.
Sorry but the respresentation of women in islam is not like in judaism!! Go have a research before you state your prejudices about my beautiful religion!!
@@busraskitchen2941 where a woman testimony is only worth of a man's? Where a woman only gets less for inheritance compared to his brothers? Where the husband is allowed to beat his wife "lightly"? Where the husband can force his wife to have sex because if she doesnt want to, she will be cursed by angels? Lmao yeah right.
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The person who interviews her is very sensitive and very intelligent. Thank you so much!
Well, it's just because they have a worldview in which there's a God who oversees everything. So of course the question of why God would allow the holocaust to happen has to be answered. It's blasphemous to assert that God has done something wrong or to assert that God is powerless to stop things like that from happening. So the conclusion is that it must be a well-deserved punishment. A lot of religious people think like that...
How could anyone "hate" this woman? She is an international treasure! And should be treated as such by whatever community she chooses to be part of. After reading her story, I have the utmost respect for Deborah, what a special person she is!
Crazy thinking that if she had never left the Hasidic community, it's possible no one would ever find out how brilliant she really is! Glad she got out for herself, her child, and for all of us to benefit from hearing her experience.
@efopo I don't know, but there are certainly several tight knit Hasidic communities in just the NYC area (Brooklyn, Queens, maybe elsewhere). Certainly in Israel, and probably Europe as well (as that's where they originally came from).
That’s truth, but I guarantee you a lot of her “brightness” comes from growing up as a person, after she left New York. Notice how she credits meeting other people around the world with a lot of her growth as a person. I am sure that she learned English later too, so being steeped in this growing process gives her a unique insight and the eloquence to make the experience communicable to a wider audience.
Most of the Hasidic communities are very much alike, some are more strict than the other, but not as nearly as the Satmar community, where she came from. And just to be clear, they are actually a very small minority. Most of the Hasidic communities in NY do not support these type of radicalism. On the contrary.
That is so untrue so many chasidish and satmar people are successful business men/women and she didn’t escape she left you can only escape if you are kept hostage no one forces anyone to stay
I used to hate her cause I was told to and now I see her as a role model I'm so happy she is spreading awareness about this community and what goes in it
Most of the comments here are self serving and misguided. If you haven't read her book you shouldn't be commenting on her point of view. I've read her book This was her experience. She didn't have the best family life. She was not set up for success in the many others are. Her book is not a profile on the Satmar way of life. It was just her life. Its interesting that so many orthodox Jews vilify Deborah for telling her story. As in any community there are many that are abused or unhappy for a number of reasons. She decided to do something about it. I think she is a brave woman.
Walter Van der Wahl I agree I read this book and I didn’t know anything about this but I love to read so it was very interesting. It’s her story. Key word her. We al see things differently and this her testimony.
Susan Webb Hi from the Netherlands here. Germany is very beautiful with kind people. I can understand your fear. But i’ll never exchange West-EU into the USA. Live here is Nice. And traveling is easy.
Her story and the series was extemly relatable❤️ I left Christianity 3 years ago because of similar feelings and experiences, and watching Unorthodox literally made me cry like a baby😭❤️
I watched all the episodes of Unorthodox last night in one sitting. I couldn't pull myself away. Ended up going to bed at 5am on a work night. It was that good.
It’s amazing how she found the inner strength to leave. At 23 and into a world that she knew nothing about. She is a role model for women who are living under the heavy yoke of religious fanaticism!
Her story isn't real. It's her narrative and she omits so many details. I would suggest you read her good friend's book about how she left. Deborah and her husband left Satmar over 1.5 years before she ran to Berlin. They were finding themselves together and she was going to college, they were going to movie theaters etc when one day she just abandoned her husband.
@@moonbeeps Did the war between Communist Cambodia and Communist China against Communist Viet Nam get started because of religion? All sweeping statements are wrong!
As an American of Korean Christian evangelical background, I really resonate with the experiences she went through as a Hasidic Jew and as someone leaving the faith. Insular religious communities are very difficult to break away from, especially when they have such great grips on your family. I myself also had the additional struggle of coming out as a lesbian. What also spoke out to me was her journey through Germany and how it allowed her to actually heal and move on. The Hasidic view on Germans - how evil they are, yet how much of the Nazi propaganda actually became part of the Hasidic propaganda itself - sounds just like how the Japanese imperial occupation of Korea between 1910 and 1945 functioned. Especially considering that Korean Christians built their reputation on resisting the forced Shinto shrine visits that Japan required. Some of South Korea's leadership also had been officers of the Imperial Japanese Army and absolutely adored their former masters' work ethic and blabbered about how God punished Korea and its wayward ways by strengthening Japan and sending it conquering. I finally made my own journey to Japan in 2017 and was able to put all of that garbage to rest; to me, Japan is now just another amazing and lovely country, one with its own set of strengths and weaknesses, one with things to be proud of and ashamed of, like Korea, the US, Germany, Israel, or any other.
And it’s all garbage indeed. You should read the Name of the Rose, by Umberto Eco. It’s a very long story about how being ruled by fear destroys lives.
It's always great to read a really interesting comment as yours on internet, we can really understand more points of view of different people, different ethnicities, different religions. I wish you the best, you're very strong!!
@efopo The Feelings , the Mortality and the language is past on from Generation to Generation . So even though the newer generation didn't actually experience it . They ended up sharing those attitudes they are past on. Segregation was just anther form of it so you have people that have parents and grandparents still alive that went through that.
dmink lee intelligence? bravery? she ran away from family and structure to become another foul mouthed cigarette smoking narcissist. as if we needed any more of those.
samanthaNL run away from the community and lead a life of sexual sin, teaching the next generations after them to be soul less and carnal in that way. sexualizing children because of it. hmmm....that all sounds worse to me than being family focused and being people of faith.
@@JazDickinson1 Who are you to even make a statement based on this beligerant kid from our community, who you dint even know, but I do. I am an adult in my 6th decade of life, who grew up in the CULT she claims are her own. Your gullibility is striking...we are more respected as woman than probably any secular woman out there. You havent a clue but take your reference from a kid who ran off, with a set of ill parents and goes around besmirching her family and making a career out of it. She and a couple others....have a great day and stop accepting things before you know anything. Oh and by the way...L love my "CULT", (a word penned by beligerant angry frustrated youths who cannot abide by rules their parents , schools...raised them with)....wouldnt change it for anything in the world!!
I just finished watching Unorthodox. What an amazing story. Deborah, you are so driven, it is truly inspiring. The process of deconstruction or “reprogramming” as you mentioned is incredibly difficult, and somewhat impossible. Our journey will always be tainted by our memories, but the best part that we can hold on to is that we are in our own power to reinterpret each of these memories. Congratulations for your journey and for being brave to share your story. Hope you have a wonderful life!
This is the first time I’ve heard the connection to the Holocaust and Hasidic Judaism. This is a huge turning point for me! Helped me understand the community a little more!
Dear Deborah, , do not feel any guilt.. God gave you 2 gifts in particular: Intelligence and discernment , What you did is what true freedom all about. You wanted a better life for you and your child. my view on the holocaust is this " I am heartbroken as to what happened, and although i was not yet born.. here is my way of having empathy for all who died and suffered . Every day I do acts of kindness to anyone I meet. This is the best way to remember those who died and suffered so much . By being kind to others and loving others with a pure heart is what we are here for. A hundred years or so is such a short time for living . we must make the best of it and not keep people from having this basic right . To live free and make their own decisions. I send all my love to you and you're child.
@@Bembel81 I beg to differ : but if this is your opinion I feel sorry for you . For me , God is my all , my strength and my belief in Him , will never waver. I will pray for you
She went thru everything, wrote the book, the series got picked up, produced, shot, marketed, etc., it came out and she is STILL in the process of learning how to let people in again!? Oooof how they damaged this poor woman...
Unfortunately her story resonates with my life story. All I can say is no one religion is perfect but women in the so-called Haredi community should be allowed to speak up and not cower in the corner. Grow some "balls" and tell the truth! Good luck to u and all the women of every religion cowering in corners. Gd gave us life and strength. Use it!
i stumbled upon the trailer, and i'm yet to watch the series. But watching this interview, the refreshing honesty, intelligence, and self-awareness of the author, is amazing. The next challenge in my life- is to learn how to let people in again. WOW!
I watched Unorthodox a few months ago. As a woman I am aware of how we are perceived in many religions, the more strict the more we are demonized. I think Ms. Feldman is very bright and very brave. And as such she took the only way out that she could. I held my breath with her during her flight. Such a story. Watch the film, it is very well done. Bravo Ms.Feldman, you have the strength of the survivors in your blood.
Deborah Feldman is a bright well spoken and courageous young woman. Everything in the interview has been well thought of and she treats the subject of her interview with dignity and respect. She truly has my admiration and deference.
All people hating on her moving to Germany clearly haven’t watched the country’s massive development over the last few decades. These days there are countries, especially in eastern Europe, where discrimination and anti-semitism are way more present than in Germany. No denial that these still exist in Germany though. Also due to the trauma I can understand why descendants of the Holocaust cannot change their way of thinking about the country. But others shouldn’t judge based on something that’s almost 90 years ago.
I would not live in USA due to racism and discrimination against color people and Hispanics. I lived in Germany for 4 years, safe and respectul country.
She moved to Berlin. Berlin is a very special city that is completely different to the rest of Germany. The rest of Germany is not international. She wouldn't have adapted elsewhere in the country, for sure. I know for personal experience.
@@Celisar1 Travelling and actually living abroad are two completely different things. I've lived in 6 completely different countries, including Germany (not Berlin) for 4 years and I ended up wanting to leave, after all. I liked the life experience I earned but I rejected assimilation (because thats what they demand from you there). That is not the "whole point of living abroad' actually. Sometimes the cultural differences are too much and just adapting is not enough. My initial comment was about praising Berlin, because it's an amazing microcosmo in Europe that certainly does not represent the rest of Germany - I would say almost anyone loves Berlin and can identify with it, no matter which culture you come from.
It’s interesting how many of us come from communities created out of trauma, oppression and genocide. I wish more people from such communities were supported in telling their stories and those stories were acknowledged.
Even a little goes a long way to poison your mind. You know what is a fair way to raise children? Stop brainwashing them since day one and let them make up their minds if they wanna be religious or not.
Her story is so much deeper than what is shown in the series. I would love a continued series where her character is written to have these much more deeper nuanced and real feelings in her journey of self discovery.
Any kind of extremist is wrong and scary, it shows a lack of open mindness that is very unhealthy and is always really just about power, control and fear. She is very brave, I'm happy she was smart and strong enough to see it and get away from it. Good job Deborah for sharing your story. 👍🏼 ✌🏼
I am converting to Judaism and this was very interesting. She is very intelligent and Unorthodox was done really well. Any religion in extremism is damaging.
From my limited understanding there is so many different types of Judaism. There is a whole spectrum. A lot like the fact there are thousands of Protestant demoninations and practices. Correct, Anywho best wishes
I thought being raised strict Catholic was bad. Always going to confession as a young child. Ridiculous! I feel for Deborah. Movie was amazing. Looking forward to next Season.
What an extraordinafy woman ! Just make me proud to know what a woman can overcome and be able after some years to analyse so clearly what happened in her life and how It can happened the same in all religious extremism. A lesson for all of us.
I cannot stop myself commenting about this movie. I am touched.....the way that girl act, I actually feel the pain from within. Her acting was outstanding.... The pain was bust out from her face and whole physical apperence.... Outstanding acting and direction as well Great team work well done...... 👍👌
He asks: why live in the capital city of Germany, Berlin? She answers that it is the last great bastion of freedom, but then completely contradicts herself and says that she can't say she is Jewish, because they will put her in a drawer!
How about you actually watch the video? She explains everything and she's not contradicting herself. She's comparing the contrast between what her community told her about Germany and reality
I watched unorthodox and was very impressed at the courage of someone leaving such a community. Now that I hear Deborah I am even more impressed! the woman is not only brave but incredibly bright
You need to be extraordinarily intelligent to realise there is something wrong in what you have known for your whole life, and extraordinarily brave to leave it behind and chase something better. This woman is amazing ❤️
Would love to reach out and talk with you. .I grew up orthodox but not Satmar and I didn't have the womanly shame you express growing up in new York. I live in Jerusalem and enjoy a beautiful life.. I appreciate your wonderful openness & hope you still have connection to your family who gave you so much
I appreciate Mr. Craven for conducting such a calm and informative interview. No judgement, just clear questions and comments designed to inform. Thank you to DW News and Deborah Feldman.
What a great interview! I truly admire Deborah for her intelligence, wisdom, sensitivity... We need women like her. Unorthodox is the best Netflix movie I've seen.
I saw the movie and then had to read the book. Both were fascinating and led me to research more of my German heritage. (It was somewhat similar for a girl with 4 brothers growing up in a US/German family). I definitely can relate to Deborah's story. Thank you!
There is bad and good everywhere ! True so true I'm a French in Mexico and I found the same cruel reality I also "escape" from a very low loving family And after so many years I found out that no one can love you better than yourself
I read Deborah’s book and then watched the series on Netflix. I highly recommend both to you all. The book is well written and I couldn’t put it down. I just watched the series yesterday and it’s definitely worth checking out.
Her story isn't real. It's her narrative and she omits so many details. I would suggest you read her good friend's book about how she left. Deborah and her husband left Satmar over 1.5 years before she ran to Berlin. They were finding themselves together and she was going to college, they were going to movie theaters etc when one day she just abandoned her husband.
@@JewishGirlRoxyeah, don't read her book, read her former friend's book about Deborah's Life Experiences, instead lol. The story that you rock, isn't real. Just ask your ex-friends!
She is so fiercely intelligent, what an impressive human being who can communicate all these difficult concepts into something the outside world can understand.
Let's not overlook the probability that Ms. Feldman's good qualities are partly her own development, and partly a result of her family upbringing.
She has done very well and made a good quality question ping film.
Chanie A I think she said that I this video.
@@Chanie787878 family based disciplined upbringing wins over growing up with addicted /unwell parent with no boundaries. I speak from experience it takes a village
@Johnny Ronimsom why do u say that?? I'm not in favour of overly restrictive religion either, who the son sets free is free indeed!! But the sense of belonging kids get in big families or groups is priceless
It's now 6 year since this interview. I've just finished the Netflix series "Unorthodox". It touched me so deeply. I instantly wanted to know more about Deborah. I love this interview, and the history she shared in such a short conversation. I absolutely want to buy her book, and hopefully learn from her. She seems like the type of person we could all learn from. 💜
Why? You can just read Mein Kampf.
Same here. Fascinating life and person.
I found it amazing how she not only explained what it was like for her in her community, but WHY - which can so often be neglected in conversations like this. So glad for the empathy and understanding that it allows for conversations like these.
♡
Religion extremism sucks in any religion. Judaism, Islam and Christianity.
Religion sucks
peas in a pod
Dan so true
Sorry but the respresentation of women in islam is not like in judaism!! Go have a research before you state your prejudices about my beautiful religion!!
@@busraskitchen2941 where a woman testimony is only worth of a man's? Where a woman only gets less for inheritance compared to his brothers? Where the husband is allowed to beat his wife "lightly"? Where the husband can force his wife to have sex because if she doesnt want to, she will be cursed by angels?
Lmao yeah right.
The person who interviews her is very sensitive and very intelligent. Thank you so much!
Thought so too!
The way she describes how they set up the community makes me quite sad, like the founders blamed themselves for being victims of genocide. Yikes.
😭yes Stockholm
Syndrome
Its not true
Maybe survival guilt.
Yes! Instead of blaming the aggressors, they blamed themselves. That's incredibly sad.
Well, it's just because they have a worldview in which there's a God who oversees everything. So of course the question of why God would allow the holocaust to happen has to be answered. It's blasphemous to assert that God has done something wrong or to assert that God is powerless to stop things like that from happening. So the conclusion is that it must be a well-deserved punishment. A lot of religious people think like that...
I want to listen to her talk nonstop. She’s so wise!
and so eloquent
Agreed!
Is she? She kind of admits that her people will die out if people follow her ways, its demographically proven at this point.
And her accent is nowhere near as "foreign" as depicted in the Netflix series.
I agree. She is measured and in control but also lively and bright. I'll be ordering her book tonight.
How could anyone "hate" this woman? She is an international treasure! And should be treated as such by whatever community she chooses to be part of. After reading her story, I have the utmost respect for Deborah, what a special person she is!
She is warmer than the actress that played her in the movie.
Crazy thinking that if she had never left the Hasidic community, it's possible no one would ever find out how brilliant she really is! Glad she got out for herself, her child, and for all of us to benefit from hearing her experience.
@efopo I don't know, but there are certainly several tight knit Hasidic communities in just the NYC area (Brooklyn, Queens, maybe elsewhere). Certainly in Israel, and probably Europe as well (as that's where they originally came from).
That’s truth, but I guarantee you a lot of her “brightness” comes from growing up as a person, after she left New York. Notice how she credits meeting other people around the world with a lot of her growth as a person. I am sure that she learned English later too, so being steeped in this growing process gives her a unique insight and the eloquence to make the experience communicable to a wider audience.
Most of the Hasidic communities are very much alike, some are more strict than the other, but not as nearly as the Satmar community, where she came from. And just to be clear, they are actually a very small minority. Most of the Hasidic communities in NY do not support these type of radicalism. On the contrary.
I know right? Like what would we have done without this. Kiddin
That is so untrue so many chasidish and satmar people are successful business men/women and she didn’t escape she left you can only escape if you are kept hostage no one forces anyone to stay
I used to hate her cause I was told to and now I see her as a role model I'm so happy she is spreading awareness about this community and what goes in it
Sex and control of women bodies. It's all that cults about
little chani wow Chani we appreciate your honesty here.
Have you read her book? thinking of getting it. I lived in Israel
Celisar1 Try to figure it out
Same!
Most of the comments here are self serving and misguided. If you haven't read her book you shouldn't be commenting on her point of view. I've read her book This was her experience. She didn't have the best family life. She was not set up for success in the many others are. Her book is not a profile on the Satmar way of life. It was just her life. Its interesting that so many orthodox Jews vilify Deborah for telling her story. As in any community there are many that are abused or unhappy for a number of reasons. She decided to do something about it. I think she is a brave woman.
The comments are not misguided the comments are guided by what she expresses in the video.....
Are you satmar? Her book is very satmar, I grew up in that cult. It’s a horrible abusive community.
@@leahsmith2693 and now?
I will read her book and I look forward to it.
Walter Van der Wahl I agree I read this book and I didn’t know anything about this but I love to read so it was very interesting. It’s her story. Key word her. We al see things differently and this her testimony.
Extremism in any field is dangerous.
Religion in any field is absurd and dangerous
thank you
Any ism is
@@7Spronge especially dadaism, it can get so absurd that you die of either laughter or confusion
Religion*
Her story is so ironic, she fled to Germany to escape from her community in USA.
Unorthodox is worth watching!
The book is worth reading too.
@Susan Webb 1. Watch the movie. 2. She had a German citizenship, after her mother. 3. Hope this helps.
@Susan Webb have you ever been to berlin? she's right, it's one of the freest places in the world...and i'm from london lol.
@Susan Webb I guess, Germany was an option to get her away from New York. And her mother could make it happen.
Susan Webb Hi from the Netherlands here. Germany is very beautiful with kind people. I can understand your fear. But i’ll never exchange West-EU into the USA. Live here is Nice. And traveling is easy.
Very well spoken. I am Orthodox, but extremism is dangerous for all people.
Yeah there are crazy extremists in all religions, worldviews, beliefs, ideologies, etc.
@@siervodedios5952 touche my dear
I am raised as a Jehovah witness, a very dangerous cult. I escaped. But the trauma is for life.
@@mariekebootsma4346 Oof hope ur doing well
Agree 👍 in all walks of life 😊
Her story and the series was extemly relatable❤️ I left Christianity 3 years ago because of similar feelings and experiences, and watching Unorthodox literally made me cry like a baby😭❤️
Wow my dear I'm very sorry about that sister 💓😘🇬🇧🇮🇱🇸🇭🇯🇲🇮🇪🇨🇦🇬🇧 🇺🇸🇦🇩🇮🇱🇸🇭🇯🇲🇮🇪🇨🇦🇬🇧🎇🎆💔😢😭😘✡️🕎🎆🎇❤️💓😿🙏🕊️🎇🎆🕎✡️♾️💟
What a thoughtful, well paced and reflective interviewee.
Just a reminder that not everyone thinks like this, I feel bad that she had a miserable childhood/life, but many if not most of us don't feel the same
@@Ray-fk7lynot that most people would dare say, if they felt like she did.
Few would even be brave enough, to admit it to themselves.
I watched all the episodes of Unorthodox last night in one sitting. I couldn't pull myself away. Ended up going to bed at 5am on a work night. It was that good.
Me too. Haha
I'm calling your mom.
They make it that way lol
Me also 😂
I tend to do the same whenever I find something fascinating. Thank you for sharing! ❤
It’s amazing how she found the inner strength to leave. At 23 and into a world that she knew nothing about. She is a role model for women who are living under the heavy yoke of religious fanaticism!
Karen Wagner
That’s how desperate she was.
Her story isn't real. It's her narrative and she omits so many details. I would suggest you read her good friend's book about how she left. Deborah and her husband left Satmar over 1.5 years before she ran to Berlin. They were finding themselves together and she was going to college, they were going to movie theaters etc when one day she just abandoned her husband.
@@JewishGirlRox what is the name of the book you speak of?
If you do it you gotta do it when you are still young. The older you get the harder it is to leave
I wonder if any tell-all books will be published in the future about anybody fleeing the iron grip of Woke secular fanaticism.....
I just finished the Netflix show based on this! So worth watching!
Eryca Zaiser just did too omg! incredibly moved and satisfied here
I am just starting!
What is the title of the show?
@@mahajanssen unorthodox
I just finished it too! Amazing!!!
Extremism in any religion is not good.
Anything that you can’t free,y leave is a cult.
Jeanie Chowdhury Exactly
Right
All religion is just bad, all wars just began bc of religion. It's not good for nothing
@peace be with you - bc judaism was not the problem at all lol
@@moonbeeps Did the war between Communist Cambodia and Communist China against Communist Viet Nam get started because of religion?
All sweeping statements are wrong!
As an American of Korean Christian evangelical background, I really resonate with the experiences she went through as a Hasidic Jew and as someone leaving the faith. Insular religious communities are very difficult to break away from, especially when they have such great grips on your family. I myself also had the additional struggle of coming out as a lesbian.
What also spoke out to me was her journey through Germany and how it allowed her to actually heal and move on. The Hasidic view on Germans - how evil they are, yet how much of the Nazi propaganda actually became part of the Hasidic propaganda itself - sounds just like how the Japanese imperial occupation of Korea between 1910 and 1945 functioned. Especially considering that Korean Christians built their reputation on resisting the forced Shinto shrine visits that Japan required. Some of South Korea's leadership also had been officers of the Imperial Japanese Army and absolutely adored their former masters' work ethic and blabbered about how God punished Korea and its wayward ways by strengthening Japan and sending it conquering. I finally made my own journey to Japan in 2017 and was able to put all of that garbage to rest; to me, Japan is now just another amazing and lovely country, one with its own set of strengths and weaknesses, one with things to be proud of and ashamed of, like Korea, the US, Germany, Israel, or any other.
right on.
*Like even now I'm reading through what I've written and realize how patronizing and ethnocentric some of it is, so I apologise for that
Very interesting point. I agree
And it’s all garbage indeed.
You should read the Name of the Rose, by Umberto Eco. It’s a very long story about how being ruled by fear destroys lives.
It's always great to read a really interesting comment as yours on internet, we can really understand more points of view of different people, different ethnicities, different religions.
I wish you the best, you're very strong!!
The community is collectively suffering from ptsd from the holocaust.
It’s not an excuse for oppressing females....
I agree forgetting ones history is not good but hanging on to a victim hood narrative and shaming/guilting isn’t healing for the generations.
@efopo Its generational though. Like Slavery was in The USA .
@efopo The Feelings , the Mortality and the language is past on from Generation to Generation . So even though the newer generation didn't actually experience it . They ended up sharing those attitudes they are past on. Segregation was just anther form of it so you have people that have parents and grandparents still alive that went through that.
The females were not the only oppressed. If you have watched the movies you would have noticed that the husband of the hero was brainwashed as well.
@Aura I wish you success and healing.
"It's about people wanting power" - A good takeaway
penguins inadiorama Or power over women, like she spoke of at length. Don’t hurt yourself trying to twist it to fit your agenda.
Always
10 and 20 children. TWENTY children. That alone is horrifying.
Not to the youngest child. :)
bing> If a woman marys young and uses no birth control and keeps having sex she will have a child about every 9 months until menopause or death.
bingbongboop I have 2 and it’s terrifying some days 😂😂
Eventually, your second son is born at same time as you youngest brother.
@@milascave2 fortunately, we really dont :D having a child often means your body doesnt release an egg for a while, especially if youre nursing
Am I the only one who thinks she looks like Amy Sheldon's girlfriend ? :P
omg yes!
Literally my first thought
Mayim Bialik
I thought it was her at first glance. If you told me they were sisters I'd totally believe it.
OH MY GOD!! I was wondering why she looked familiar looool
She ought to be a role model for people seeking their own path. And she's so insightful about it.
“There’s good and bad everywhere, and it’s hard to generalise. “ Absolutely true - for the religious and non religious.
That was one of her wisest statements and I appreciated it very much!
I came straight from Unorthodox on Netflix, made me so curious. I'll definitely read the book
The book is amazing. Highly recommended.
Same
The book is the same historia that movie?
tomás Trogliero The directors and story writers described the show as having the same background/history as the book with a different story
Sian Nelson book is very different
She is brilliant...articulate, smart, compassionate...insightful..would love if she did a speaking tour!
I like her so much more than the actress playing her.
Yes lucky she wasn’t married off at 18
But she isn't telling the truth. Women are treasured and saved us many times in history. She lies.
@@mitchellauerbach1489nah. I've heard similar stories from other people who escaped this cult. Far worse ones, in fact.
I thought all the actors were wonderful. The show is brilliantly done. I think Deborah must be very happy that such justice was done to her memoir.
She's very eloquent in describing her upbringing and the challenges she survived.
I love her, especially her intelligence and bravery. I’m so glad she has told her story!!
dmink lee intelligence? bravery? she ran away from family and structure to become another foul mouthed cigarette smoking narcissist. as if we needed any more of those.
rainy luv they are not real if they do
@@teamgitusome people like you are the reason why people run away from their community.
samanthaNL wow because i dont believe in poisoning your body or having sex openly? hmm
samanthaNL run away from
the community and lead a life of sexual sin, teaching the next generations after them to be soul less and carnal in that way. sexualizing children because of it. hmmm....that all sounds worse to me than being family focused and being people of faith.
Human beings are very good at hurting each other ... that is what the problem is .. not to mention the way women are treated
This 100%.
100% right
They are not treated the way she describes...not every family is her family.
@@anonymousanonymous-qx7mv ... Cults are very abusive with women and you can't deny that
@@JazDickinson1 Who are you to even make a statement based on this beligerant kid from our community, who you dint even know, but I do. I am an adult in my 6th decade of life, who grew up in the CULT she claims are her own. Your gullibility is striking...we are more respected as woman than probably any secular woman out there. You havent a clue but take your reference from a kid who ran off, with a set of ill parents and goes around besmirching her family and making a career out of it. She and a couple others....have a great day and stop accepting things before you know anything. Oh and by the way...L love my "CULT", (a word penned by beligerant angry frustrated youths who cannot abide by rules their parents , schools...raised them with)....wouldnt change it for anything in the world!!
I just finished watching Unorthodox. What an amazing story. Deborah, you are so driven, it is truly inspiring. The process of deconstruction or “reprogramming” as you mentioned is incredibly difficult, and somewhat impossible. Our journey will always be tainted by our memories, but the best part that we can hold on to is that we are in our own power to reinterpret each of these memories. Congratulations for your journey and for being brave to share your story. Hope you have a wonderful life!
Deborah is very intelligent and expresses herself so well. 🌺🦋
So brave of her standing up for the rights of women against such medieval religious fanatics
This is the first time I’ve heard the connection to the Holocaust and Hasidic Judaism. This is a huge turning point for me! Helped me understand the community a little more!
Dear Deborah, , do not feel any guilt.. God gave you 2 gifts in particular: Intelligence and discernment , What you did is what true freedom all about. You wanted a better life for you and your child.
my view on the holocaust is this " I am heartbroken as to what happened, and although i was not yet born.. here is my way of having empathy for all who died and suffered . Every day I do acts of kindness to anyone I meet. This is the best way to remember those who died and suffered so much . By being kind to others and loving others with a pure heart is what we are here for. A hundred years or so is such a short time for living . we must make the best of it and not keep people from having this basic right . To live free and make their own decisions. I send all my love to you and you're child.
Gawd gave her nothing. That thing did never exist.
@@Bembel81 I beg to differ : but if this is your opinion I feel sorry for you . For me , God is my all , my strength and my belief in Him , will never waver. I will pray for you
Great interview. The interviewer lets her talk, and she answers the questions so intelligently.
This may be the best video I've seen on TH-cam in years.
She went thru everything, wrote the book, the series got picked up, produced, shot, marketed, etc., it came out and she is STILL in the process of learning how to let people in again!? Oooof how they damaged this poor woman...
What an intelligent woman. Good luck.
Unfortunately her story resonates with my life story. All I can say is no one religion is perfect but women in the so-called Haredi community should be allowed to speak up and not cower in the corner. Grow some "balls" and tell the truth! Good luck to u and all the women of every religion cowering in corners. Gd gave us life and strength. Use it!
I love how you speak, so articulate. Beautiful and confident.
Dear Deborah, Thank you so much for speaking your truth so articulately. You open doors of understanding for all of us. Be richly blessed and loved.
Love this woman; she has gone through a lot in her young life.
i stumbled upon the trailer, and i'm yet to watch the series. But watching this interview, the refreshing honesty, intelligence, and self-awareness of the author, is amazing.
The next challenge in my life- is to learn how to let people in again.
WOW!
She looks like Blossoms older sister.
I thought she was Blossom too. I think her real name is Mayim Bialik.
She does!😀
From riverdale?
She looks like meg from family guy 😂😂
That's it! I couldn't figure out who she reminded me of, but you're right, it's Mayim Bialik aka Dr. Amy Farrah Fowler
I watched Unorthodox a few months ago. As a woman I am aware of how we are perceived in many religions, the more strict the more we are demonized. I think Ms. Feldman is very bright and very brave. And as such she took the only way out that she could. I held my breath with her during her flight. Such a story. Watch the film, it is very well done. Bravo Ms.Feldman, you have the strength of the survivors in your blood.
What a wonderfully heartwarming interview. 💕
I have nothing but admiration for this very courageous and well spoken woman
Sounds like an entire group of people with PTSD.
Yes, have you watched the documentary on Netflix?
Belinda that's true, but with every generation its effects aren't as severe.
Deborah Feldman is a bright well spoken and courageous young woman. Everything in the interview has been well thought of and she treats the subject of her interview with dignity and respect. She truly has my admiration and deference.
Exactly my point
She's so intelligent and insightful. Amazing woman.
The production is remarkable and Shira Haas, the lead, blew my socks off.
Yes, she was excellent in the role. Always looked terrified.
She look so similar to Mayiam Bialik (I might edit this comment after checking the spelling)
EDIT: Yup, I was wrong, her name is Mayim Bialik
CarolNav I thought at first it was Mayim as well.
It's was the first thing that I thought too
I actually thought it was her!!
CarolNav yes sooo much
I though so too.
Maybe a distant cousin
All people hating on her moving to Germany clearly haven’t watched the country’s massive development over the last few decades. These days there are countries, especially in eastern Europe, where discrimination and anti-semitism are way more present than in Germany. No denial that these still exist in Germany though. Also due to the trauma I can understand why descendants of the Holocaust cannot change their way of thinking about the country. But others shouldn’t judge based on something that’s almost 90 years ago.
NO it was 75 years ago not 90??
A Dutchie here! I was Born at the German/Dutch border even iam Dutch i like Germany too. Its a beautiful country.
I would not live in USA due to racism and discrimination against color people and Hispanics. I lived in Germany for 4 years, safe and respectul country.
She moved to Berlin. Berlin is a very special city that is completely different to the rest of Germany. The rest of Germany is not international. She wouldn't have adapted elsewhere in the country, for sure. I know for personal experience.
@@Celisar1 Travelling and actually living abroad are two completely different things. I've lived in 6 completely different countries, including Germany (not Berlin) for 4 years and I ended up wanting to leave, after all. I liked the life experience I earned but I rejected assimilation (because thats what they demand from you there). That is not the "whole point of living abroad' actually. Sometimes the cultural differences are too much and just adapting is not enough. My initial comment was about praising Berlin, because it's an amazing microcosmo in Europe that certainly does not represent the rest of Germany - I would say almost anyone loves Berlin and can identify with it, no matter which culture you come from.
It’s interesting how many of us come from communities created out of trauma, oppression and genocide. I wish more people from such communities were supported in telling their stories and those stories were acknowledged.
I respect this women so hard!
Her story needs to be told to the world! So courageous!
A little religion is able to enrich your life, a lot religion destroys it.
S D that’s a very true statement
Very true
🙌
Even a little goes a long way to poison your mind. You know what is a fair way to raise children? Stop brainwashing them since day one and let them make up their minds if they wanna be religious or not.
I read this book when it was released and I couldn't put it down. I'm so pleased to know that it has been made into a film.
I'm seeing the series on Netflix right now
Is the book worth reading if I have already watched the series?
@@bethp3320 Absolutely. It is different than the movie. Equally as good and interesting.
I couldn't put the book down. Sharing it and recommending it to all my friends.
Her story is so much deeper than what is shown in the series. I would love a continued series where her character is written to have these much more deeper nuanced and real feelings in her journey of self discovery.
Any kind of extremist is wrong and scary, it shows a lack of open mindness that is very unhealthy and is always really just about power, control and fear. She is very brave, I'm happy she was smart and strong enough to see it and get away from it. Good job Deborah for sharing your story. 👍🏼 ✌🏼
A courageous woman- “religion taken to the extreme is always associated with mayhem”
Crime, yes.
You can see how such a beautiful person she is just from hearing her speak and seeing her smile.
Deborah Feldman is amazing! very moved by this interview
I admire her, intelligence, experiences and bravery. Truly amazing.
I am converting to Judaism and this was very interesting. She is very intelligent and Unorthodox was done really well. Any religion in extremism is damaging.
It would be the biggest mistake of your life. Joining a cult for what?
From my limited understanding there is so many different types of Judaism. There is a whole spectrum. A lot like the fact there are thousands of Protestant demoninations and practices. Correct,
Anywho best wishes
Great interview and reporter. Ms. Feldman, you are one of the smartest persons I’ve ever seen.
The Netflix show was superb-highly recommended
I could listen to her in interview all day
I cannot stop talking about Unorthodox , Incredible .....such an amazing brave Lady thank you for sharing your story , I admire you 🇨🇦
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE HER !!! WHEN SHE ENDS HER BRILLIANT INTERVIEW BY ANSWERING HE LAST QUES " HER BIGGEST CHALLENGE NOW " IS LET PEOPLE IN !!! OMD!!!
I really enjoyed "Unortodox" on Netflix 👍
I thought being raised strict Catholic was bad. Always going to confession as a young child. Ridiculous! I feel for Deborah. Movie was amazing. Looking forward to next Season.
What an extraordinafy woman ! Just make me proud to know what a woman can overcome and be able after some years to analyse so clearly what happened in her life and how It can happened the same in all religious extremism. A lesson for all of us.
I cannot stop myself commenting about this movie.
I am touched.....the way that girl act, I actually feel the pain from within. Her acting was outstanding.... The pain was bust out from her face and whole physical apperence.... Outstanding acting and direction as well
Great team work well done......
👍👌
He asks: why live in the capital city of Germany, Berlin? She answers that it is the last great bastion of freedom, but then completely contradicts herself and says that she can't say she is Jewish, because they will put her in a drawer!
Berlin as a city represents freedom for everyone and all cultures. Stupid people, however, live everywhere, even in Berlin.
20 kids?
Stop talking
How can u say these things I DNT know anyone that had 20 kids in our community
How about you actually watch the video? She explains everything and she's not contradicting herself. She's comparing the contrast between what her community told her about Germany and reality
I watched unorthodox and was very impressed at the courage of someone leaving such a community. Now that I hear Deborah I am even more impressed! the woman is not only brave but incredibly bright
You need to be extraordinarily intelligent to realise there is something wrong in what you have known for your whole life, and extraordinarily brave to leave it behind and chase something better. This woman is amazing ❤️
“Unorthodox”...great show. Very informative...I’d love to see more seasons of it because it left me wanting more. Shira Haas was amazing!
This brilliant woman is a gift to the world. Her courage is inspiring.
Would love to reach out and talk with you.
.I grew up orthodox but not Satmar and I didn't have the womanly shame you express growing up in new York.
I live in Jerusalem and enjoy a beautiful life..
I appreciate your wonderful openness & hope you still have connection to your family who gave you so much
Loved the Netflix series!!! We need a follow-up series!
Yes! After the baby is born. Will Moishe make good on his threat to come back for the baby?
I appreciate Mr. Craven for conducting such a calm and informative interview. No judgement, just clear questions and comments designed to inform. Thank you to DW News and Deborah Feldman.
Deborah looks like Jo Frost, super nanny
Does she?
And a bit like Amy Farrah Fowler
And Janet in The Good Place
I thought it was her! Haha
I spent the whole video thinking this too! 😂
Wow, what a great personality she has. It seems to me she radiates strength and wisdom, thank you Deborah for being you.
What a great interview! I truly admire Deborah for her intelligence, wisdom, sensitivity... We need women like her. Unorthodox is the best Netflix movie I've seen.
every time I see an interview with Deborah, I am just floored. What an amazing person x
I watch this story on Netflix- it was so good!! Hats off to this lady!
I saw the movie and then had to read the book. Both were fascinating and led me to research more of my German heritage. (It was somewhat similar for a girl with 4 brothers growing up in a US/German family). I definitely can relate to Deborah's story. Thank you!
Religion always seems to make things harder for the women. It doesn't matter which religion. It just always goes that direction..
This is a really thoughtful interview! I’ll have to read her book.
I. salute Deborah Feldman for her heroic courage, determination and overcoming her fears and oppression and fulfilling herself!
Deborah is an amazingly honest and direct woman...I applaud her heroism.
Great interview. Thank you Deborah for sharing your story 🥰👏❤️
You can tell she's very intelligent.
There is bad and good everywhere ! True so true I'm a French in Mexico and I found the same cruel reality I also "escape" from a very low loving family And after so many years I found out that no one can love you better than yourself
Damn! I feel her so much when she talks about Berlin as a place of being free and yourself!
This interview gave me the goosebumps especially her answer to the last questions. Wow
I read Deborah’s book and then watched the series on Netflix. I highly recommend both to you all. The book is well written and I couldn’t put it down. I just watched the series yesterday and it’s definitely worth checking out.
Her story isn't real. It's her narrative and she omits so many details. I would suggest you read her good friend's book about how she left. Deborah and her husband left Satmar over 1.5 years before she ran to Berlin. They were finding themselves together and she was going to college, they were going to movie theaters etc when one day she just abandoned her husband.
@@JewishGirlRoxyeah, don't read her book, read her former friend's book about Deborah's Life Experiences, instead lol.
The story that you rock, isn't real. Just ask your ex-friends!