Last week on Tuesday I was diagnosed with uterine cancer. I'm overweight (107kg) and even though my chances of a full recovery without a hysterectomy are really high (even though I still don't know if the cancer has spread), I have to turn my life around. Thank you, Mr. Snowflake, for showing me the road I mustn't follow and to motivate me and probably others. Jen's story didn't have a happy ending, I hope mine will. And if it does, be sure that you will have played a part in it. Keep up the great work and have a nice evening.
Please keep me and people informed. I’m just editing Amberlynn Reid’s cancer video now and she makes a full recovery after her hysterectomy. And I remember her saying how uterine cancer doesn’t spread like others so much. I’ll pin this comment and hopefully others can send you some nice comments :) please get in touch anytime you want to xxxxxxxx
@@MrSnowflake thank you :) My next appointment is on Tuesday and I hope I can give you a positive update then. After I got the news I watched ALRs vids because I wanted information without googling. Her reaction to her diagnosis was so relatable and I found her other videos to be really helpful and calming. Who knew she could have that effect as well... Really looking forward to your take on it!
@@MrSnowflake nah your accent is fine! I am a Nova Scotian who lived in Ireland and then England for a large period of time. And I’ve since lived in the USA for some years, where I am now. MY accent is fucked beyond repair at this point. Yours is lovely-ly normal.
@@BeckBeckGoLol, I hear you! I was born in New Zealand, moved to Nova Scotia as a kid and stayed for 17 years, then back to NZ as an adult and now live right in between Edinburgh and Glasgow 😅 I call my accent mushy
@@calamitynatalie8590 OH MY GOD, WE ARE GEOGRAPHIC SIBLINGS. Sort of. I grew up in NS, as you know, ofc. I lived in Edinburgh (downtown) proper for a short period in my youth so I could room with my friend, Lucy when we left London (Clapham). I lived in County Kildare for a few years being a pretend Irish person. Where did you live in NS? I'm unhealthily curious now.
ive only ever heard of her and didnt know anything about her. but based on this video, sounds like jen had no chance from the get go. life was just unfair for her forever. more so than usual.
@bearflipstable8365 She had MULTIPLE chances to get better. She was in the hospital for 6 months and refused to do anything that would help her lose weight. She also refused to follow the diet plan,mental health and PT at home as well. She was an animal abuser and she hit her mother on numerous occasions.
What killed me the most is when she said her father would molest her and then make her a bologna sandwich and she would endure that pain and trauma and wait for the sandwich after. That just broke my heart, from that very moment, that dangerous addiction that took her life was born. How devastating and my heart hurts for Jen. I wish I could've given her a big hug and my friendship and let her know she wasn't alone and someone cares.
@@paulwoodford1984 This is a disgusting, weird comment. First of all she was a little girl when the molestation took place. She was not a big woman back then. Second of all, predators are going to predate, they don't care often times what the victims look like. What an ignorant, stupid comment. Seriously. Get your head checked bro.
It kills me that she said there were times when her father was good, because we’re made to feel that way by our abusers. Your father was never good Jen, and you deserved so much better than what that breathing piece of trash did to you.
I could never comprehend that whole "he was a good dad when he wasnt molesting me" thing- but I never went through that so I try to be careful to keep it at that and not cross the line into casting any kind of judgement.
@@poutinedream5066 To be honest, it's a combo of things. Society and everyone else tells you as a child that you ought to like your parents, and listen to them; they're there to protect you after all. Then, you see other kids and their parents, all these happy families on TV, and you want to be like them. Then, after the abuse is over for the night, and you're spending time forcibly forgetting about it, they do something nice, and it reminds you of the family you wish you had. It kind of fills you with hope that maybe you could be that family you dreamed of, and maybe they DO love you and didn't mean to hurt you like they did. You're so small and helpless to stop the actual abuse you kind of delude yourself into that idea. Then the abuse happens again.
Nah - people are complicated, I've yet to meet anyone purely good or evil. My dad beat the crap out of me. Sent the eldest to the hospital with broken bones and a detached retina, eldest always got it worst but I remember him strangling me unconscious once thinking, 'oh... OK. So this is how I die.' (Blackness) hiding the bruises around my neck at school from his huge fingers. You know what else my dad did? Had a brain tumor and a botched brain surgery thereafter really damaging his impulse control. Sometimes i was a jerkoff kid who would push it as far as I could to see how mad he could get. Know what else my dad did? Saved me from myself when I wanted to die, held me close and told me how much he loved me and all the amazing things I had to live for. When I was dealing i got robbed and if I didn't have the money I'd be dead so dad did all he could to get the money to get the big dealers off my back then let me move in and paid for me to go to school and get out of that life style and now I got a bunch of fancy initials after my name when he didn't make it out of fifth grade. We are all just flawed people. Some more than others. Simple as that.
@@MrSnowflake It's more respectful this way - injecting any commentary could come off as condescending/mocking, letting Jen speak for herself works better
The respectful, professional and compassionate way you have approached the making of this video is just flawless and a beautiful way of honouring someone’s story. The music score and editing just enhance the experience further. Very moving. Incredibly well done.
Sexual child abuse is almost worse than murder. It doesn’t kill the child right away but it ruins their lives so they are mostly unhappy and scared for the rest of their lives.
I think the misunderstanding comes from people who don't have an emotional connection to food. That possibility never occurred to me until I watched Jen and others suffering with morbid obesity. Now that I get it, I can sympathize. It's hard for me to throw unneeded things away due to my childhood. Other people think it's ridiculous that it takes hours of agonizing for me to figure out what I need and don't need. I think everyone has some unhealthy attachments whether they realize it or not.
@sarchil6705 the majority of people leaving comments on her channel were not cruel. There were tired of being constantly lied and manipulated. And she went to therapy so she could talk about her poor childhood but once her various therapists wanted her to work on herself she quit going.
@jessicapollan4039 i definitely wouldn't say she "manipulated and lied to us" she was very open and honest about her addiction to food and being unable to stop. At the end of the day she was only lying to and manipulating herself into thinking she had more time to fix her health problems, she didnt, and she suffered the consequences for it. She didnt owe us as her viewers anything other than her sharing her experience and she did.
I don’t normally comment on videos, but I want to say that you really humanized this individual by sharing her story in her own words. So many documentaries like this are clips with someone else’s opinion over it and I appreciate your approach. I hope she is at peace now.
A lot of people will reference "Life by Jen", but I don't think many know her story other than it's sad end. If having this story told saves just one person.. it needs to be shared.
She did a fantastic job of articulating her past and how it led to her ED & ultimately her obesity. For better or worse, she was frank about a lot of her trauma. She struck me as a sweet person & I always rooted for her....she was much smarter & more self aware than cows like ALR or foodie.
The way her father abused her and made this pathway between food and love or food and comfort in her brain at such a young age for his own self gratification is so fucked up. I feel a lot of pity and sympathy for her and like she was kind of set up to fail from the start. Very sad situation.
What’s wild to me is, she lied just as consistently as Amber and even allegations of abusing her elderly mother which she spoke about. Everyone questions Amber but Jen bc she met a tragic end, it’s soooo sad and she was sooo amazing. Such a sad story. Well, say the same about Amber then bc they’ve had legitimately the exact same stories and found out they lied nonstop for backlash got on and cried show binges “and you don’t care” to gain sympathy. Her and ALR were sooooo much alike. They blame everyone else and embellish etc. it’s very sad she lost her battle but so crazy how quick people are to forget and let it slide when someone’s gone. Shoot after I go if I’ve been terrible to anyone , doesn’t erase it. You don’t get a clean slate once you’re gone. You have to do that when you’re here. Sadly, she did not and nor will Amber. They were so much alike.
It’s insane how similar Amber and Jen are. They both suffered abuse from their families and both developed uterine cancer due to their poor health. I will never understand how Amber refuses to change when this could be her. Jen’s death was tragic and is a prime example of the seriousness of untreated mental health and obesity.
Amber won't reach the age of 50 either if she doesn't change. It is sad to say but it is the truth. Your fourties hit hard if you are super morbidly obese and therefore in poor health...
I suspect that ALR doesn’t change, despite knowing this could be her future, for the same reason many of use. We tell ourselves “look, I want to change, and will, but not today because (too busy, too stressful, etc). But I WILL change… first thing tomorrow.” Then you just keep doing that. Or you start a change and do well a while, but then stop, try another change, stop….hoping that if you just find the “right way”…then the change will be “easy.” But it won’t.
I dont know who you are, but this video came across my page... I followed Jen for many years... though there were many times she frustrated the heck out of me. I have to say that you have made the most beautiful, truthful, professional and gentle representation of Jens jpurney. She was a tragic character, and I wish things had been different for her. Thank you for telling her story❤❤
Aw well hello and thank you for that. I didn’t watch Jen before she died. But watching her for these videos I made were difficult. Sometimes I’d be I. Her side then others I’d think she was awful. I’m glad you liked the video. Next part will be up soon. Thanks for commenting x
I know this sounds hyperbolic, but I really think Snowflake is one of the best TH-cam documentarians, and a very talented documentarian regardless of platform. I’m not really effusive with praise, but I’ve watched all of Snowflake’s docs, and he gets better and better.
Well that’s kind. I am getting better I can tell. I’m not there yet but hopefully there more videos I make I keep getting better. Long way to go still. Cheers for that comment. Happy you’re enjoying the videos. Thanks again
@@MrSnowflakeconsidering all the shitty docus Netflix has been pumping out at break neck speed recently, your talents would probably go to waste there ):
@@trashcant69I actually was noticing how half assed Netflix has been with their documentaries lately. I actually turned one off the other day because it was such trash...like court tv
I am currently struggling with binge eating and I can’t watch all of this. The pain is too great. Thank you for telling her story in a kind and compassionate way. Even the first two minutes killed me.
Justine please know U deserve to be happy and healthy and deserve to live a long beautiful life. It is never too late to live the life you have longed for. Please keep fighting for urself and that person that is broken inside. U r worth the fight. I’m sending u big hugs of comfort and strength. U got this!!
@justine8387, I don't know if you'll ever see this but please keep fighting, the struggle is worth it. I'm almost out the other side, don't binge eat anymore, and I'm down 192 lbs. so far, about another 90 lbs. to go to be a normal weight. I'm 63, fought with this all my life. I never stopped fighting. What I figured out and maybe this can help you: up your protein, like, a LOT. Eat fruits and veg along with the protein and get away from processed foods, that's what was at least somewhat responsible for me never being able to stop eating, I just always had to have more. I see Jen and see myself 5 years ago. I cried when she died because I feel for her (I was also SA'd as a child by my father) and I came really close to not being here now for all the same reasons she isn't. It doesn't have to go down like this though, change is possible, and it's glorious. Never give up, never surrender!
Stay strong, you can overcome it. As they say live is a road, and there will be dumps, accidents and mishaps. To bring you to the final polish version of you. I see you I hear you you ARE strong enough❤
I've never really watched her channel but watching this I can't help but see a warm-hearted person who was struggling. Her affection towards her cats was particularly touching because I can see that she genuinely loved them. You are such a beautiful soul and may you rest in peace, Jen.
1. She locked one cat in the cold bathroom to be left alone to die a horrible death for three days bc her cat had a tooth infection. She also abused her dying elderly mom by having her bring her food several times a day bc she didn't want to get her fat ass out of bed and get it herself. She CONSTANTLY lied to her followers so they would feel sorry for her and send her money and gifts. She was a horrible and vile person
Stories like Jen’s make me wish the world was more kind. I know a lot of people have different opinions on her, but i can’t help but feel horribly bad for her. she deserved a better start at life, she deserved a lot more. fly high jen, may you never feel pain again
Why would you feel sorry for an animal abuser and a woman who admitted to hitting, shoving, cussing out her own mother who was dying of cancer? Jennifer was a horrible and vile person who hid behind religion
Your work goes farther than TH-cam. You are television,, movie documentary worthy. It's a delight watching your work. I think I've watched practically all 9f them. Thank you for posting.
Thank you for showing this video. While it was so depressing, it gave me encouragement to get over my issues. I am 74 years old and being old is very depressing to me. All I think about are the dark parts of my life. She made me realize that there are so many people who have it worse and are struggling with a variety of issues and that mine are miniscule compared to theirs. I have to snap out of this depression. It's affecting my dogs. Watching her trying makes me feel like I am not trying enough. May she rest in peace. I hope she is in a better place if there is a better place. I don't know what to believe since I have found that we have been lied to about so many things we have been taught. Especially in the medical profession.
I really hope you start to feel better I understand about the age thing.ive found it helpful to take pleasure in the small things a nice coffee a chat a walk a stroke of a lovley dog or cat a good TV show I know life can get us down I'm not surprised humans are unhappy sometimes I think live for the day is not such a bad idea take care my dear I so hope you'll feel happier soon🌈
From the bottom of my heart, I truly hope that you feel better about your life. You're loved, your life is precious and I just hope the best for you. May your days be full of joy and love. Cheers from Brazil 💕
Please don’t feel like just because others have had more trauma than you that your depression is not valid, causing you to feel guilty. I’ve done it myself and it’s a terrible feeling. Whatever you’re experiencing and feeling is valid. Society has brainwashed us into not showing our “negative” emotions and that feeling them means our vibration is low🙄 No wonder most of us are depressed, always trying to stuff down anything other than gratitude and joy. Most of us where never taught how to process our emotions, if we had, I think we would all be much happier. Instead of fighting the sadness, it’s best just to accept that it’s there and it’ll pass a lot quicker. I’m still trying to get the hang of this myself. Progress, not perfection! Aging is no joke and not for the faint of heart. You’re stronger than you know! Sending much love❤️😇
Please reach out to us online, I know it is hard but you deserve to NOT be alone and feeling like there is nothing out there!!! I am 48 but I feel your pain. I have a daughter that makes me feel like I am nothing, even though her father and I have supported her after her divorce, (she is 30). And now we are bad parents for wanting her to stand on her own 2 feet without us paying her bills, YES she has worked the whole time after her divorce and lived in our 1st house, but we paid all the bills. She has had more than 4 years to save up, but NO she hasn't. And some how it still our probelm. I pray that she (Jen) found the peace that she ALWAYS deserved in life!!!
It’s so scary how rampant child abuse is, especially sexual.. So incredibly sad. That poor little girl deserved better. I think you did an amazing job making this video & allowing her to tell her own story. I hope this helps others fight for their own lives. As someone who has struggled with my weight from a very young age, it can be VERY difficult to turn it around (especially if it’s tied to childhood trauma and you have enablers around), but man is it worth it!🖤
It was shocking to watch her very sharp decline after her stint in skilled nursing & having gotten covid. Her body reached a tipping point where there was just no coming back. The loss of muscle she had in the nursing home was shocking. Rest in paradise, sis. Btw The beginning left me in tears. I hope she's free of all the shit wherever she is. 🙏🏼
@@jessicapollan4039 well given the money has been spent & the woman is dead and can't defend herself....I see absolutely no point in casting aspersions at this point. It's kindof sad you feel the need to point this out. If we can finance a war in Europe, Jen can have some public assistance. Our gov does all kinds of asinine shit with tax money... leave it to the internet to begrudge a dead woman medi care. 🙄
@SamIAmB Jennifer loved playing the victim. She never had a job, and she never contributed anything to society. She could physically walk but decided that she needed a tax payer wheelchair to sit in.
As someone who had been in gorl world for a few years I can remember rooting for Jen, and most people did - at least for a while longer than Amber or Chantal. I truly wonder it Gene was a help or hinderance and where he is now.
I never watched Jen, so I didn't know her story or anything. I feel so sorry for baby Jen, who was hurt so terribly and had no choice but to carry those wounds into adulthood because the adults in her life failed to help her in so many ways. I don't know.... I've watched all your videos, but this one just hurt my heart. She just seemed so kind and earnest, and I would have liked to have known her. Whatever happens after we die, I hope she's finally found the peace she couldn't find in life...
She passed away on Sept 10th last year. Can't believe it's almost been a year. I was so sad that she passed. I followed her and was rooting for her. Loved the way her story was presented. It was done in a dignified way
I'm 33 and I've suffered from binge eating disorder and severe depression since I was 11. I see SO MANY similarities in my life to Jen's. It's unbelievable. I'm a tall girl (5'11) but I weigh 300 lbs. It truly is a daily, sometimes hourly battle within myself to not eat badly. Thankfully I've lost 15 lbs, first time I've had any weight loss in my life. As tragic as Jen's story is, it motivates me to not give in, and when she said "nothing tastes as good as feeling healthy", that changed me.
Don’t ever give up! Also, keep researching what will work for YOU. Don’t get lost in this absurd BS and drama, as it’s just a diversion from the true issues at hand. You can absolutely meet your goals; it’s not easy, but it’s a lifestyle that says you are putting yourself first, as we all need to, before we can help any others. Best of luck to you, my only recommendation is to find role models that have done what you want to do, to get to where you want to be, and then stay there. ❤
Keep going, love; you’ve got this! I’m sorry you’ve gone through trauma to get to this point. I’ve been looking at a lot of videos about those with BED/morbid obesity. 9/10 times, they’ve had horrific childhoods that have led to food addiction as a comfort strategy. Sadly, Jen lost her battle but you CAN make it! 15lbs is an awesome start & I wish you a long life, happiness & most importantly, inner peace. I’m rooting for you! 💕
Congratulations on your weight loss, that's awesome! 15 pounds may not seem like much but it is!! And that 15 will turn into 30... 40...60... & eventually 100!! Remember to take your journey one day, one moment, one step at a time. Be proud of yourself even on the days/weeks you only lose a few pounds (if that happens). And don't beat yourself up on the days you don't lose any at all. It's OKAY! DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! Allow yourself a cheat day. Portion control and determination. Give yourself the credit you deserve throughout the process. And don't forget that a healthy Weight loss journey takes time. Don't expect long-lasting results from fast and rushed weight loss. Things worth having take time. You're going to have good days AND bad days. That's reality. It's OKAY! But whatever you do, DON'T give up on yourself. Life is a bitch. So is weight loss.🤷♀️ 🗣📣 Now, give yourself a high-five and go kick some weight loss ass!!😎🙌 && I know I don't know you, but I'm rooting for you!! You got this!!
I can't watch this. I had no idea the level of horrible trauma and abuse she went through. I know people say she was a jerk, but the food issues and trauma, now it makes more sense. I might come back at a later time. Sorry Jen that you had to endure that. To all the kids out there.
@@jamespaul6315 She was a highly toxic person. She could be very manipulative, and her moods could swing wildly. It didn't help that she got with an equally toxic person. They kept triggering one another's worst traits, yet were extremely codependent as well.
@@jamespaul6315 I just read comments on how she was "snarky" and manipulative, and something about treating her mom or gramma like crap. I didn't ever know the full story though. You know how TH-cam comments can get out of hand.
@@lewasil she admitted to hitting her dying mother and making her crawl up the stairs 5 times a day to get her food. She was VERY manipulative and she treated her followers like crap unless she wanted money from you. She met her boyfriend while trolling him about his alcohol addiction and they also made fun of covid.
I heard people refer to the passing of Life By Jen, but I never knew anything about her. Never watched her, never looked into her. The masterful way you put together her story in her words is a beautiful intro to the soul that she was, not just the online persona people viewed. This honestly touched my heart and was an unexpected wonderfully emotional ride. I have had some truly authentic laughs and now some genuine tears watching the genius of Mr. Snowflake. Well done, stellar storytelling as usual sir. Thank you for gifting us with these gems of art ✨️
I never knew “Life by Jen”, either as a content creator or a person. This is so incredibly heartbreaking. Hard to watch, but you have given her a voice and is a cautionary tale. We all live in glass houses. We do not have the right to throw stones, sometimes we all forget that. RIP Jen.
Sorry, but she abused her dying mother and let her sick cat die in the bathroom bc she didn't want to deal with him anymore. These are just 2 examples of all the horrible stuff she did
No angels here. None of us is without sin. Extreme EDs are psychosis-they are not in reality. No excuses or blame, but focus your judgement with that knowledge.
@@jessicapollan4039You may not know the answer, but was her mother aware of the sexual/physical abuse Jen’s dad was committing against her? Did she know and allow it to continue for a while before leaving? It would help me figure whether or not I give 2 phuks about her mom being allegedly abused by her.
@@jessicapollan4039 yeah and you’re going at a dead woman who was once severely abused as a child despite that mother being there the whole time. We are none of us perfect. You have regrets yourself. We all do. How about you lay those out next? Let’s put you in the hot seat?
There is something comforting about being overweight. If you have been sexually abused as a child or an adult, those extra pounds make you invisible and less likely to be abused again.
My husband's auntie was savagely beaten by her ex husband daily, when she finally got away she gained a massive amount of weight and cut her hair off because she didn't want anyone to find her attractive ever again. So sad.
She was a full grown adult at this point and both of her parents were dead. She didn't have to continue to wallow in self pity but did so bc it made people feel sorry for poor poor Jennifer
@@jessicapollan4039 sad, and maybe too blunt for some, but true. Many of us endured horrific upbringings and didn't end up like Jen. I struggled with binge eating, bulimia, alcoholism, serial monogamy and so much more. But it eventually got to a point where I just snapped out of it and realized I had to start taking my health seriously because nobody else will do it for me. I also had children who I not only wanted to be around for, but wanted to DO BETTER for. I'm not sure what ambition Jen really had, for a better life for herself. She couldn't afford to lose her disability payments or her only IRL human contact (Gene). One can have plenty of aspirations besides getting married or having kids. Jen just didn't have any.
I had to rewind because I didn't hear about the dad stuff, I was like why would he give her a bologna sandwich but after finding out my jaw dropped. I didn't know much about Jen but hearing what a sick twisted fuck could do to his own daughter and how it deeply affected her life just hurts.
I was a subscriber of Jen’s and even communicated a little with her on Tiktok. She was troubled but I think at her core she was a good person. Her passing while not a surprise was very sad.
@@MrSnowflake I'm only 9 min in and idk this lady, and am pretty new to the gorlworld, but I already sense this lady has wayyyy more self awareness and genuine humility than Amber has ever shown. I still have to remind myself that Amber is in her 30s, Jen actually talks like a real adult. I see some similarities for sure, but my general first impression is that they're very different personalities 🤷♀️ Edit: 29 min in and I can sense some foreshadowing that's probably going to make me regret my comment above lol
@@MrSnowflakeyes there were definitely some unfortunate similarities…and I am just speaking from my personal experience with her. She definitely did and said things I didn’t agree with. I always hoped she would get on track and get healthier mentally and physically but sadly wasn’t to be. Love your content Mr Snowflake!
You handled this tragic story with such compassion and letting her tell her own story is very powerful. You are the best documentary channel on TH-cam, and I won’t be surprised if I see you go on to bigger platforms. Seriously amazing work.
While I feel for what she went through as a child, and her struggles with addiction... The way she treated her Mother rocked me. She admitted to hitting her. And in videos from the beginning (that she deleted) she would yell at her to cook for her. Her Mother had to crawl up the stairs several times a day to Jen's bedroom to bring her the food as she was dying from her own health issues. She also made fun of covid patients. It was hard to keep showing her understanding at times.
I learned about that as I was grieving for my mother, who had just died the week before. 💔 Because of that knowledge, I've had to dig deep to find any compassion for her. I'm not always successful.
You've earned a new sub. I followed Jen's channel on and off and the cards she got dealt were so horrific from the start and the just trauma never ended. She could have been so much more in her short life had she not went through sexual abuse, especially at the hands of her own father. Her mom dying was a nail in her own coffin. She could have had a successful career, and possibly a family with children of her own. She was so sweet and genuine. She deserved so much more.
I'm only 3 minutes in but already i'm in awe of the editing style, it's so beautiful and fitting for the story, i just seriously love how well you've put this all together.
Superbly done. This is beyond a cautionary tale. It is a tragedy. The demons of unresolved childhood trauma can destroy an otherwise good soul. R.I.P. Jen. You deserved far better as a child. And sadly too, as an adult.
I was NOT ready for this. Your editing is Oscar-worthy, and the story itself is so compelling and heartbreaking. She reminds me a lot of my late mother. 😢
I watched this Jen series when you initially released the episodes. I appreciate how you let Jen speak for herself. I do not have cancer and I am not fighting overweight, but I am a woman Jen’s age. I feel so much sadness for her life, and I think you presented her story with compassion. I was just thinking about her and came to watch your series again. Thank you ❤
This is so fantastic, Snowflake! Very well done. You're a great documentarian! The use of Jen's own narration really is not only impactful, it's personal. I'm only a few minutes in and already my heart is breaking for Jen. I am so sorry and sad for her that she is no longer with us. ❤
Wow this was extremely raw & heavy. I know others have stated this already, but I appreciate this new style of approach - running the tape & letting the subject speak for themselves. All I can say is that this is your rawest video to date. It felt like I was watching an A&E original documentary…. Great video as always, brother. Sláinte.
I've been watching since your first Shaped by the Algorithm, and I just want to say that you have gotten so good as an editor and narrator that I swear your quality is getting close to professional. Great work Mr. Flake. This is in my own opinion such a beautiful tribute to someone's story, leaving a biography of her channel on the platform that she used to share her life.
I was not expecting to cry in my kitchen at 7am, but here we are. Snowflake, you handled Jen’s story with such care. This is intentional thought-provoking, heartstring tugging content. RIP, Jen.
This was extremely well done and very respectful. I can only imagine how much time you spent creating these. Truly a tragic story... It really shows how childhood trauma can effect a person as an adult. RIP Jen ❤
I think this was an important series for you to make, man. All joking aside, you did a beautiful job and I like your choice to let her tell her own story. I'm glad it's getting traction in the algorithm. This woman was incredibly honest to her audience and as difficult as it was to see, I'm glad I did and that others are, too.
Some people disliked her for always stumbling over and over again with the same rock...but Jen did not deserve that painful and infuriating ending, she deserved a life without fear and addiction ruining her future. Thank you for doing a documentary filled with kindness and letting her speak. She really wanted to have a life outside her agoraphobia, outside food, and she...she couldn't. Its sad. Life is not fair and I know that...what is, is what must be. But sometimes you kinda wish it was a little more kind :(
@@jessicapollan4039 yeah, this is true too. I remember her denying help or doing everything against the program, and don't get me started on Gene... Still, not a way to go. :/ Her food addiction really did her in, all those UTIs and all were because she got so big that hygiene was hard or right out impossible.
@Dracon7601 no, she refused PT and refused to get healthy. She should have lost a ton of weight while in the hospital. She would have Gene bring her food bc the hospital didn't have healthy food for her. She also would order from door dash. She blamed everything on others
Wow - there were so many things I didn't know about her childhood and trauma that she went through. So many people look at people like her and forget that inside there's a broken person that made her that way until the very end. I pray she got the closure she needed before she passed. This was incredibly insightful and respectful to her life. Thank you for posting this. ❤
If her own series isn't a wake-up call for her, maybe this will be the one that gets through to Amber. She talked with jen, they were at least acquantences until amber went after her to defend chantal of all people. The fact that she never really said anything about jen's passing (except that it made her cry 🙄) has never sat right with me, especially after how often she would bring jen up to deflect any criticisms away from herself. Edited to add: UTERINE CANCER?? god, this woman really was just a stark look at Amber's future. They're so damn similar, right down to the things they say, their illnesses, and their lifespans, unfortunately. If Jen followed the same make up tutorial from 2013 that amber does and invested in a flat iron it would be impossible to tell them apart.
I just sat and stared at the screen when she said she had uterine cancer. It made me wonder if Amber saw how much sympathy Jen was getting and decided to try that for herself. The way Jen speaks about it compared to the way Amber almost floated about it… it’s uncomfortable.
I dont keep up with Amber like I used to,but when I heard she finally got down to 460 pounds I thought it was amazing and that maybe Jen's desth hit home. Found out later I was wrong
@rhi_danceswithwolves that's my biggest issue with amber tbh, she always presents her stories of trauma as a badge of honor and pride, and she basks in the attention it gets her. Like I think there is some truth to some of her stories, but she twists and distorts every single facet of her life to fit the narrative she creates, so that even the most innocuous stories raise eyebrows, because she'll tell that same story 18 different ways, and attack you for questioning its validity. Her cancer tale specifically, she spun it as some tragic saga, but then the plain facts and the information she shared with us, tracks almost beat for beat with what I've seen people with endometriosis go through. She had fibroids that had begun to produce precancerous cells, and because of her size, the simplest solution was a hysterectomy. That is a totally valid, scary medical issue to deal with in your early 30s! But it didn't have the oomph she was looking for, so she lied.
When I first started to watch Life by Jen, she was just getting under 500lb and in a very positive frame of mind. The contrast to Amberlynn was admirable. Her sensitivity and empathy for others were the qualities that kept me following her. I stopped following her when Gene moved in, a very toxic influence that seem to bring out a side to Jen that was not at all flattering. There was an innocence and purity of soul qualities I associated with her that began to vanish when Gene became part of her channel, in and it was too hard to watch her lose herself to this man.
Your documentaries just get better and better. The Shane series was incredible and I felt like it was your best work so far. And this is amazing as well, I appreciate you beginning the series by showing her past and introducing more complexity to her character beyond just the lolcow reactions I've always seen on her. The subjects of your documentaries, I have been watching these people for years and I still learn new important and profound things about them through your work. No regrets on being a member of your channel. Thank you. 🙏
Aw well how lovely is that. I was proud of the Shane. Cheers for being a member. It’s stupid I have to have the membership thing but god it’s helped me out so many times. Be nice one day when I’m rich and I can stop making people pay. I appreciate you being a member and I’m glad you’re enjoying it all
I will say, I am not sure about the framing of “Gene is the bad guy” zooming in on his eyes. Yes I know Mr SnowFlake didn’t intend that, but for those that don’t know the whole story and it’s just her words, but it’s painting a picture as if he’s somewhat to blame for her death. I didn’t really like that.
It's so cool to see you trying different approaches while creating your documentaries. The editing was honestly top notch, as well as the vibe you created by using the cassette/slides sound sample and old home movie reel filtre. Also, only using Jen's footage without your own voice over was an excellent choice for this series - in a way it shows how different she seems from the more recognizable characters, like "That Woman™" or Foodie Beauty.
Amazing, amazing job mr. Snowflake. I learn so much from your documentaries and really feel immersed in other peoples’ lives. You are an incredible story teller. I wish there were more eating disorder treatment centers catered towards overeaters. It’s such a societal issue.
@@thereturnofveronicasawyer9998 At the inpatient facilities for anorexia/bulimia type eating disorders there are life saving measures that the hospital does when a patient is not compliant (tube fed, involuntary hospitalization). I just don’t feel like those with binge eating disorders are provided with the same care.
Wow, Mr Snowflake, this is beautiful and Netflix would be proud to host this as one of theirs. Really well made. I can imagine some streaming service coming along this and perhaps wanting to make a movie about Jen's life. God bless her, I hope she is in heavenly peace.
Oh wow. I live in a small town about an hour of Pittsburgh. I have never heard of this girl and hearing that she lived so close to me just made it even more real and sad. God bless her soul. I hope she is in eternal peace and happiness.
I had just apologized to her and she was so kind to me....I had left some terrible comments after getting angry about her covid jokes. I still shouldn't have said thr horrible things I said. I absolutely enjoyed her channel and I really wanted her to get to that beach she so longed for. She certainly didn't ask for much and I hate that she didn't make it to the beach. Jen, I miss you. No more pain, dear one.
Her own fault she didn't make it to the beach. She was in the hospital for 6 months and gained weight instead of losing. When she came home, she refused to put in the work to get better
I consider myself a very strong minded and emotionless person because of things I have experienced in life but I feel for this Woman. May she Rest in Peace.
I couldn’t think of a better person to tell this story. I’m so proud of you for doing it with clarity and respect. Jens life was the epitome of tragedy. She literally ate herself to death. And it’s sad to see that ALR and Candy are both in line to be the next Jennifer Gwen Ann. Rest in Peace Jen. I hope you have finally found the peace you searched for…..for so long.
The thing that gets me about Jen is that she knew and acknowledged all her issues but still participated in them. Like I get the back and forth of addiction and self-harm (I struggle with both myself) but her ability to talk openly about it and still not take action… I can’t understand.
It takes a long time to leave the substance of choice. Nothing else to fall back on, feeling way too deep in the addiction, for some it has become a part of their identity, lack of other social skills, being in Ana environment in which other people are using (family, partners, friends). It’s like any dysfunctional behavior. For as long as it serves some purpose no matter how small people will keep using. We stop when we truly get sick and tired of being sick and tired. I am a recovering addict, both food and substances. I’m sober from drugs and in the process of getting my health back.
That is true. Though through my personal experience with drug addiction and experienced seizures and suicidal multiple times from withdrawals of opiates & benzodiazepines, its so hard to stop because its awfully dangerous to. Especially when people dont have access to proper detox/rehab facilities. Im very lucky to be alive today. But it pains me how society has and still treats addicts of all kinds. I do agree with you that we will always have to eat but many also underestimate the risk and difficulty of quitting drugs.
but you can beat your addiction but she didn't want to do that bc it was way easier getting people to feel sorry for her situation and send her money and things from her daily updated Amazon Wish list.
Omg that’s so real. I never thought of that. You have to learn to control it since you can’t stop entirely. Maybe stopping entirely would actually be easier :(
My heart utterly breaks for this woman. So devastating, such a necessary story and I bet she would have wanted her story shared if it helped and inspired others.
I just discovered your channel, and this is the first of your videos that I’ve watched. I was a longtime subscriber of Jen’s, and I always hoped that she would turn things around. I appreciate you doing this video, and I look forward to part 2. I’ve watched TH-cam videos for years, and I must say that the quality of this video is literally the best I’ve ever seen! You put time and effort into it, and it shows. Thank you!
I remembering subbing to her channel when she first got her start. It’s absolutely gut wrenching the things she went through. May her soul be at peace. This was truly an excellent documentary on Jen. You did her justice.
Not falling for this again, Mr Snowflake! She’s coming across as sweet, sad & traumatised, but I suspect there’s darkness there. The mediumship & empath claims are a bit suss. Also, did ALR steal her story? By the way, brilliantly done as always.
Thank you for putting this together, especially in such a respectful way. I didn't even know she had passed away until like 6 months afterwards, because the gorlworld community just kind of glossed over it and didn't really acknowledge it. Her story is so sad. I hadn't heard the story about her dad, that is atrocious. Poor woman. I really hope her partner is doing okay, I don't know that much about him other than about his alcohol use disorder struggles. I hope he has been able to get sober, it must be very difficult after losing her. Nobody ends up with addiction issues, regardless of their substance of use without horrific trauma. It's an atrocity when that takes a person's life, it's terrible it took her life, and it would be terrible if it took his too.
Poor Jen, her life was a tragedy. I watched her occasionally during the last part of her life especially post Covid/Nursing Home. She had such low self esteem and had no clue how to judge people's character. Gene, like many addicts, was very good at manipulation. I believe he took years off of her life.
As someone that struggles (lifelong) with their weight & food addition like Jen did, I can relate to 99.99% of the statement she says, "...This is the life you are given and don't destroy or don't waste your life because food is not worth it . I know I've done this to myself." I concur with the majority of these comments that this four-part series is made very respectfully, it's obvious you worked consciously on this documentary and put piece-by-piece together seamlessly. I hope there are others watching that will find inspiration from Jen's life. And just so you know, Mr.Snowflake I didn't know who you were until a few days ago so this video is definitely spreading. Again, exceptional work, sincerely.
Wow this was an intense video your editing skills are amazing you really captured the sadness and trauma of her life in a very compassionate and empathetic way. I hope her father watch’s this and unalives himself to cause his daughter so much trauma as you really made an incredible video I can’t wait for the other parts.
@@stacielle3627This is what I've read from other commenters (I don't know if any/all of this is true or 100% acurate) : 1.She forced her mother who was dying of cancer to crawl up the stairs to bring her food several times a day and she (Jen) would sometimes be mean to her mom and even hit her. 2. She let her cat die in the bathroom. (I haven't seen any specific details about this story) 3. She and Gene made a mockery out of covid until it hit her and she had to be hospitalised. 4. She was apparently nasty to the nurses who came to take care of her. One of them dropped her by accident while trying to put her on a stretcher so she sued him and made him lose his job.
@trinketeerrine6674 All of this is 100 percent true. She and Gene were very anti vaxx and Gene was into western medicine. She was already in the hospital for an impacted bowel from eating so much cheese when she caught covid.
Around 45:00 damn that’s so sad but I can totally relate-being in an toxic or abusive relationship and being made to feel like, or even eventually making yourself feel so horribly guilty for not even just tiny mistakes but for non mistakes such as simply setting boundaries for yourself that in absence of them being there to punish you and make you feel horrible, you punish yourself. Meanwhile they do worse to you CONSTANTLY but you’re essentially trained to not see that, or to excuse it because somehow it’s different when they do it, you did something to earn it. It’s so f’d. And it’s especially bad when you’ve been abused as a child because your mind is always warped in favor of abusers, you already always blame yourself by default. Poor Jen.
Sir Flake!! This is definitely the workings of a masterpiece. The lack of outside narration and the title cards makes this so haunting. I knew of Jen and knew a bit about her but not as much as the other gorls, so this is a treat. It’s so strange to see how similar she was to Amber (even having similar moments like “…… this is what an emotional binge looks like” and addressing the trolls in such a high school catty way). I can’t wait for Part 2!
Ive always been so uncertain about Jen. From disappointment, to frustration, to utter dislike. But you have really shown Jen in a light that I've not been used to. You did this so right, not sure how else to say it.
Dear Sir. I used to follow Life By Jen for quite awhile, but then I had to disengage myself from social media, things online, just to..give myself a chance to breathe..and I feel so terribly bad that it was only through your videos that I discovered she had passed. That poor, dear sweet woman. Thank you for sharing this series with a sympathetic view and the realization that not everyone is out here for fame. Some are just looking to find people to connect with, to share with, because lonliness is..an all encompassing beast. This was done so well and I'm so very thankful and so very proud of you.
After watching Jen for over 5 years, I felt she was unrepairably broken. She never had an easy life even as a child and it is so unfortunate a child can have so much dysfunction to deal with that the adult they turn into is so broken. I knew 2 addicts couldn't grow and overcome. They manipulated each other to get their fix. One is no more responsible over the other but the viewers that commented how fortunate she was to have Gene are. Jen had health problems due to obesity but I believe she died of a broken heart. RIP Jen
so well done! very respectful as well as visually appealing - well paced - you lend her story the gravity and dignity it deserves (unlike some characters we know)
You handled this is such a lovely, compassionate way. It feels like a piece of art honoring her memory while simultaneously shedding light on the lessons her story can teach. Well done.
This is my first introduction to Jen’s story, although I know how it ends. In addition to the pain and sympathy I feel for Jen, I’m also struck by how similar her story is to Amber’s. It can be easy to forget with all her fire and rage, but Amber is not far off from repeating Jen’s mistakes. I hope Amber can do better, and I hope Jen is at peace.
She needed to be in rehab. Like any addiction or ED. She should have been under a doctor’s care because she obviously wasn’t okay. This breaks my heart and pisses me off at the same time. She deserved more
She WAS under a doctor's care but she refused to do PT and follow the strict diet plan they had set up for her in order for her to lose weight and lead a productive healthy lifestyle.
You always make the best documentaries. This series is going to be so good. Ever since her passing I thought someone should do one on her. Glad it was you.
Last week on Tuesday I was diagnosed with uterine cancer. I'm overweight (107kg) and even though my chances of a full recovery without a hysterectomy are really high (even though I still don't know if the cancer has spread), I have to turn my life around.
Thank you, Mr. Snowflake, for showing me the road I mustn't follow and to motivate me and probably others. Jen's story didn't have a happy ending, I hope mine will. And if it does, be sure that you will have played a part in it. Keep up the great work and have a nice evening.
Please keep me and people informed. I’m just editing Amberlynn Reid’s cancer video now and she makes a full recovery after her hysterectomy. And I remember her saying how uterine cancer doesn’t spread like others so much. I’ll pin this comment and hopefully others can send you some nice comments :) please get in touch anytime you want to xxxxxxxx
@@MrSnowflake thank you :) My next appointment is on Tuesday and I hope I can give you a positive update then. After I got the news I watched ALRs vids because I wanted information without googling. Her reaction to her diagnosis was so relatable and I found her other videos to be really helpful and calming. Who knew she could have that effect as well...
Really looking forward to your take on it!
I wish you the very best!! You can absolutely overcome. Please please keep us informed ❤
Wishing you the best, I knew someone who was able to overcome it as well. Keep us informed. ❤
I hope all goes well for you. Much love to you!
You made a good decision to let Jen tell her own story.
Yeh felt weird my stupid northern English accent over it
such a wonderful blessing to the world. May she rest easy❤️
@@MrSnowflake nah your accent is fine! I am a Nova Scotian who lived in Ireland and then England for a large period of time. And I’ve since lived in the USA for some years, where I am now. MY accent is fucked beyond repair at this point. Yours is lovely-ly normal.
@@BeckBeckGoLol, I hear you! I was born in New Zealand, moved to Nova Scotia as a kid and stayed for 17 years, then back to NZ as an adult and now live right in between Edinburgh and Glasgow 😅
I call my accent mushy
@@calamitynatalie8590 OH MY GOD, WE ARE GEOGRAPHIC SIBLINGS. Sort of. I grew up in NS, as you know, ofc. I lived in Edinburgh (downtown) proper for a short period in my youth so I could room with my friend, Lucy when we left London (Clapham). I lived in County Kildare for a few years being a pretend Irish person.
Where did you live in NS? I'm unhealthily curious now.
rest in peace Jen. I hope you’ve found more peace than you had in this life.
Sweet comment
She was an.utterly repulsive, nasty person
Second this, rest well Jen 🩵🩵. Hope you’re enjoying more freedom in your next life.
ive only ever heard of her and didnt know anything about her. but based on this video, sounds like jen had no chance from the get go. life was just unfair for her forever. more so than usual.
@bearflipstable8365 She had MULTIPLE chances to get better. She was in the hospital for 6 months and refused to do anything that would help her lose weight.
She also refused to follow the diet plan,mental health and PT at home as well.
She was an animal abuser and she hit her mother on numerous occasions.
Child abuse victims carry the trauma and emotional scars well into adulthood, and it's something that needs to be discussed more often.
It’s heartbreaking
What killed me the most is when she said her father would molest her and then make her a bologna sandwich and she would endure that pain and trauma and wait for the sandwich after. That just broke my heart, from that very moment, that dangerous addiction that took her life was born. How devastating and my heart hurts for Jen. I wish I could've given her a big hug and my friendship and let her know she wasn't alone and someone cares.
It was probably another lie from her bc pretty much all she did was lie.
This is so sad and twisted. That part broke my heart.
But why would he want to molest a big woman like that. he had no taste
@@paulwoodford1984 This is a disgusting, weird comment. First of all she was a little girl when the molestation took place. She was not a big woman back then. Second of all, predators are going to predate, they don't care often times what the victims look like. What an ignorant, stupid comment. Seriously. Get your head checked bro.
She also probably saw food as love too because he was giving her something …food.
It kills me that she said there were times when her father was good, because we’re made to feel that way by our abusers. Your father was never good Jen, and you deserved so much better than what that breathing piece of trash did to you.
I could never comprehend that whole "he was a good dad when he wasnt molesting me" thing- but I never went through that so I try to be careful to keep it at that and not cross the line into casting any kind of judgement.
So sad. Subconsciously recycling the experience with her father. And trying to fix it.
I get that. Her dad molested her, and I’ll bet he did good things, too. It happens, and that’s why abuse is so devastating.
@@poutinedream5066 To be honest, it's a combo of things. Society and everyone else tells you as a child that you ought to like your parents, and listen to them; they're there to protect you after all. Then, you see other kids and their parents, all these happy families on TV, and you want to be like them.
Then, after the abuse is over for the night, and you're spending time forcibly forgetting about it, they do something nice, and it reminds you of the family you wish you had. It kind of fills you with hope that maybe you could be that family you dreamed of, and maybe they DO love you and didn't mean to hurt you like they did. You're so small and helpless to stop the actual abuse you kind of delude yourself into that idea.
Then the abuse happens again.
Nah - people are complicated, I've yet to meet anyone purely good or evil. My dad beat the crap out of me. Sent the eldest to the hospital with broken bones and a detached retina, eldest always got it worst but I remember him strangling me unconscious once thinking, 'oh... OK. So this is how I die.' (Blackness) hiding the bruises around my neck at school from his huge fingers.
You know what else my dad did? Had a brain tumor and a botched brain surgery thereafter really damaging his impulse control. Sometimes i was a jerkoff kid who would push it as far as I could to see how mad he could get.
Know what else my dad did? Saved me from myself when I wanted to die, held me close and told me how much he loved me and all the amazing things I had to live for. When I was dealing i got robbed and if I didn't have the money I'd be dead so dad did all he could to get the money to get the big dealers off my back then let me move in and paid for me to go to school and get out of that life style and now I got a bunch of fancy initials after my name when he didn't make it out of fifth grade.
We are all just flawed people. Some more than others. Simple as that.
well done flake, the use of her own voice without your usual narration is powerful
Yeah when I did script there wasn’t many chances for me to talk because Jen says everything. Usually I talk just to set up next scene. But Jen did it
@@MrSnowflake It's more respectful this way - injecting any commentary could come off as condescending/mocking, letting Jen speak for herself works better
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Jen was a pretty good narrator, actually. I mean Snowflake could be just finding the right clips, but it definitely works.
The respectful, professional and compassionate way you have approached the making of this video is just flawless and a beautiful way of honouring someone’s story. The music score and editing just enhance the experience further. Very moving. Incredibly well done.
Wow lovely lovely comment. Cheers for that honestly
Came here to say this exactly.
Totally agree!
cant wait to watch the video about amber when she dies. theres gonna be sooooo many fart sound effects
Yes! I love that about his channel! Even when he trolls Amber, he does it in a really kind way haha, even she can't be mad at it!
The horror of child abuse is beyond my comprehension. My heart breaks for Jen.
Awful
I truly believe that there is a special place in He🏒🏒 for people who harm children, and a very, very special place for a parent who would do that. 💔
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And holy fuck is she ever brave for being so honest and vulnerable. My heart goes straight for her. ❤
Sexual child abuse is almost worse than murder. It doesn’t kill the child right away but it ruins their lives so they are mostly unhappy and scared for the rest of their lives.
Jen's story proves that the emotional connection to food is very real and you can't just "lose some weight" on someone else's command.
I think the misunderstanding comes from people who don't have an emotional connection to food. That possibility never occurred to me until I watched Jen and others suffering with morbid obesity. Now that I get it, I can sympathize.
It's hard for me to throw unneeded things away due to my childhood. Other people think it's ridiculous that it takes hours of agonizing for me to figure out what I need and don't need. I think everyone has some unhealthy attachments whether they realize it or not.
Absolutely right! People who are cruel to overweight people are so wrong.
@sarchil6705 the majority of people leaving comments on her channel were not cruel.
There were tired of being constantly lied and manipulated.
And she went to therapy so she could talk about her poor childhood but once her various therapists wanted her to work on herself she quit going.
@@AshleyWilliams-xq7ljit's still an addiction and can be stopped (mostly) by using willpower
@jessicapollan4039 i definitely wouldn't say she "manipulated and lied to us" she was very open and honest about her addiction to food and being unable to stop. At the end of the day she was only lying to and manipulating herself into thinking she had more time to fix her health problems, she didnt, and she suffered the consequences for it. She didnt owe us as her viewers anything other than her sharing her experience and she did.
I don’t normally comment on videos, but I want to say that you really humanized this individual by sharing her story in her own words. So many documentaries like this are clips with someone else’s opinion over it and I appreciate your approach. I hope she is at peace now.
Yes it was a lovely tribute
A lot of people will reference "Life by Jen", but I don't think many know her story other than it's sad end. If having this story told saves just one person.. it needs to be shared.
Good way looking at it which I didn’t even think of actually
She did a fantastic job of articulating her past and how it led to her ED & ultimately her obesity. For better or worse, she was frank about a lot of her trauma.
She struck me as a sweet person & I always rooted for her....she was much smarter & more self aware than cows like ALR or foodie.
@@SamIAmBErectile Dysfunction?
@@murrmurr765eating disorder
Amen!!!!!!
The way her father abused her and made this pathway between food and love or food and comfort in her brain at such a young age for his own self gratification is so fucked up. I feel a lot of pity and sympathy for her and like she was kind of set up to fail from the start. Very sad situation.
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@@kaasbaas9532 huh?
If you watch My 600lb Life, I would say minimum of 98% of them were molested as children. It's heartbreaking.
What’s wild to me is, she lied just as consistently as Amber and even allegations of abusing her elderly mother which she spoke about. Everyone questions Amber but Jen bc she met a tragic end, it’s soooo sad and she was sooo amazing. Such a sad story. Well, say the same about Amber then bc they’ve had legitimately the exact same stories and found out they lied nonstop for backlash got on and cried show binges “and you don’t care” to gain sympathy. Her and ALR were sooooo much alike. They blame everyone else and embellish etc. it’s very sad she lost her battle but so crazy how quick people are to forget and let it slide when someone’s gone. Shoot after I go if I’ve been terrible to anyone , doesn’t erase it. You don’t get a clean slate once you’re gone. You have to do that when you’re here. Sadly, she did not and nor will Amber. They were so much alike.
It’s insane how similar Amber and Jen are. They both suffered abuse from their families and both developed uterine cancer due to their poor health. I will never understand how Amber refuses to change when this could be her. Jen’s death was tragic and is a prime example of the seriousness of untreated mental health and obesity.
Amber doesn't look at these things, she thinks if she ignores her problems they'll go away
It makes me wonder if Chantal passes away soon would that possibly wake Amber up? She'd be the last gorl standing at that point
Amber won't reach the age of 50 either if she doesn't change. It is sad to say but it is the truth. Your fourties hit hard if you are super morbidly obese and therefore in poor health...
Amberlynn is also abusive and bigoted. To my knowledge, Jen was not like that.
I suspect that ALR doesn’t change, despite knowing this could be her future, for the same reason many of use.
We tell ourselves “look, I want to change, and will, but not today because (too busy, too stressful, etc). But I WILL change… first thing tomorrow.”
Then you just keep doing that.
Or you start a change and do well a while, but then stop, try another change, stop….hoping that if you just find the “right way”…then the change will be “easy.” But it won’t.
I dont know who you are, but this video came across my page... I followed Jen for many years... though there were many times she frustrated the heck out of me. I have to say that you have made the most beautiful, truthful, professional and gentle representation of Jens jpurney. She was a tragic character, and I wish things had been different for her. Thank you for telling her story❤❤
Aw well hello and thank you for that. I didn’t watch Jen before she died. But watching her for these videos I made were difficult. Sometimes I’d be I. Her side then others I’d think she was awful. I’m glad you liked the video. Next part will be up soon. Thanks for commenting x
I know this sounds hyperbolic, but I really think Snowflake is one of the best TH-cam documentarians, and a very talented documentarian regardless of platform. I’m not really effusive with praise, but I’ve watched all of Snowflake’s docs, and he gets better and better.
Well that’s kind. I am getting better I can tell. I’m not there yet but hopefully there more videos I make I keep getting better. Long way to go still. Cheers for that comment. Happy you’re enjoying the videos. Thanks again
Yesss!! 🙌🏻
If you're such a fan then name every video he's uploaded
@@foscogrubbyou first.
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Her dad straight up killed her with that childhood abuse
Argh my god worst story I’ve heard on here
I hope he didn't hurt anyone else. Working in the school system could have given him access to more potential victims.
@@tom1644x that's a really good point as well
A part of you dies when you’re abused. It’s sad 😢
yes, omg!
The editing and over all presentation is incredible. Every documentary gets better and better
Imagine in a few years ha I’ll be working for Netflix
@@MrSnowflakewhy downgrade
@@godshand6822for real…
@@MrSnowflakeconsidering all the shitty docus Netflix has been pumping out at break neck speed recently, your talents would probably go to waste there ):
@@trashcant69I actually was noticing how half assed Netflix has been with their documentaries lately. I actually turned one off the other day because it was such trash...like court tv
I am currently struggling with binge eating and I can’t watch all of this. The pain is too great. Thank you for telling her story in a kind and compassionate way.
Even the first two minutes killed me.
Well I hope you watch all 4 parts and hopefully it helps with something. Fingers crossed for you x
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Justine please know U deserve to be happy and healthy and deserve to live a long beautiful life. It is never too late to live the life you have longed for. Please keep fighting for urself and that person that is broken inside. U r worth the fight. I’m sending u big hugs of comfort and strength. U got this!!
@justine8387, I don't know if you'll ever see this but please keep fighting, the struggle is worth it. I'm almost out the other side, don't binge eat anymore, and I'm down 192 lbs. so far, about another 90 lbs. to go to be a normal weight. I'm 63, fought with this all my life. I never stopped fighting. What I figured out and maybe this can help you: up your protein, like, a LOT. Eat fruits and veg along with the protein and get away from processed foods, that's what was at least somewhat responsible for me never being able to stop eating, I just always had to have more. I see Jen and see myself 5 years ago. I cried when she died because I feel for her (I was also SA'd as a child by my father) and I came really close to not being here now for all the same reasons she isn't. It doesn't have to go down like this though, change is possible, and it's glorious. Never give up, never surrender!
Stay strong, you can overcome it. As they say live is a road, and there will be dumps, accidents and mishaps. To bring you to the final polish version of you. I see you I hear you you ARE strong enough❤
I've never really watched her channel but watching this I can't help but see a warm-hearted person who was struggling. Her affection towards her cats was particularly touching because I can see that she genuinely loved them. You are such a beautiful soul and may you rest in peace, Jen.
1. She locked one cat in the cold bathroom to be left alone to die a horrible death for three days bc her cat had a tooth infection.
She also abused her dying elderly mom by having her bring her food several times a day bc she didn't want to get her fat ass out of bed and get it herself.
She CONSTANTLY lied to her followers so they would feel sorry for her and send her money and gifts.
She was a horrible and vile person
Stories like Jen’s make me wish the world was more kind. I know a lot of people have different opinions on her, but i can’t help but feel horribly bad for her. she deserved a better start at life, she deserved a lot more.
fly high jen, may you never feel pain again
true dat
Why would you feel sorry for an animal abuser and a woman who admitted to hitting, shoving, cussing out her own mother who was dying of cancer?
Jennifer was a horrible and vile person who hid behind religion
Thanks for covering her story. I’ve heard her name a lot, but don’t know much about her. Really liking the editing on this one. It’s giving me chills
Chills was the vibe I was going for ha
Your work goes farther than TH-cam. You are television,, movie documentary worthy. It's a delight watching your work. I think I've watched practically all 9f them. Thank you for posting.
Aw well that’s very kind cheers for that
@@MrSnowflake For real, this is professional quality. I could easily see this airing on television.
@@WobblesandBeanyeah I was about to agree also. I've been watching Mr Snowflake a couple of years now and the quality just gets better and better.
I agree. This is professional filmmaking 💕
For real. And I love his title intro. I love marvel, and it’s so cool to me
Thank you for showing this video. While it was so depressing, it gave me encouragement to get over my issues. I am 74 years old and being old is very depressing to me. All I think about are the dark parts of my life. She made me realize that there are so many people who have it worse and are struggling with a variety of issues and that mine are miniscule compared to theirs. I have to snap out of this depression. It's affecting my dogs. Watching her trying makes me feel like I am not trying enough. May she rest in peace. I hope she is in a better place if there is a better place. I don't know what to believe since I have found that we have been lied to about so many things we have been taught. Especially in the medical profession.
It's vital for your soul that you explore those dark parts and think about them. A lot. It hurts and it's hard, but it's necessary.
I really hope you start to feel better I understand about the age thing.ive found it helpful to take pleasure in the small things a nice coffee a chat a walk a stroke of a lovley dog or cat a good TV show I know life can get us down I'm not surprised humans are unhappy sometimes I think live for the day is not such a bad idea take care my dear I so hope you'll feel happier soon🌈
From the bottom of my heart, I truly hope that you feel better about your life. You're loved, your life is precious and I just hope the best for you. May your days be full of joy and love. Cheers from Brazil 💕
Please don’t feel like just because others have had more trauma than you that your depression is not valid, causing you to feel guilty. I’ve done it myself and it’s a terrible feeling. Whatever you’re experiencing and feeling is valid. Society has brainwashed us into not showing our “negative” emotions and that feeling them means our vibration is low🙄 No wonder most of us are depressed, always trying to stuff down anything other than gratitude and joy. Most of us where never taught how to process our emotions, if we had, I think we would all be much happier. Instead of fighting the sadness, it’s best just to accept that it’s there and it’ll pass a lot quicker. I’m still trying to get the hang of this myself. Progress, not perfection! Aging is no joke and not for the faint of heart. You’re stronger than you know! Sending much love❤️😇
Please reach out to us online, I know it is hard but you deserve to NOT be alone and feeling like there is nothing out there!!! I am 48 but I feel your pain. I have a daughter that makes me feel like I am nothing, even though her father and I have supported her after her divorce, (she is 30). And now we are bad parents for wanting her to stand on her own 2 feet without us paying her bills, YES she has worked the whole time after her divorce and lived in our 1st house, but we paid all the bills. She has had more than 4 years to save up, but NO she hasn't. And some how it still our probelm. I pray that she (Jen) found the peace that she ALWAYS deserved in life!!!
It’s so scary how rampant child abuse is, especially sexual.. So incredibly sad. That poor little girl deserved better. I think you did an amazing job making this video & allowing her to tell her own story. I hope this helps others fight for their own lives. As someone who has struggled with my weight from a very young age, it can be VERY difficult to turn it around (especially if it’s tied to childhood trauma and you have enablers around), but man is it worth it!🖤
It was shocking to watch her very sharp decline after her stint in skilled nursing & having gotten covid. Her body reached a tipping point where there was just no coming back. The loss of muscle she had in the nursing home was shocking.
Rest in paradise, sis.
Btw
The beginning left me in tears. I hope she's free of all the shit wherever she is. 🙏🏼
Sorry, but she got a crap ton of help for free at the taxpayers of West Virginia's dime and then refused to put in the work to get better etc.
@@jessicapollan4039Ikr its just another lying abusive lolcow, but it shines a great comedic light on this small doc series.
@@jessicapollan4039 well given the money has been spent & the woman is dead and can't defend herself....I see absolutely no point in casting aspersions at this point.
It's kindof sad you feel the need to point this out.
If we can finance a war in Europe, Jen can have some public assistance. Our gov does all kinds of asinine shit with tax money... leave it to the internet to begrudge a dead woman medi care. 🙄
@SamIAmB Jennifer loved playing the victim.
She never had a job, and she never contributed anything to society.
She could physically walk but decided that she needed a tax payer wheelchair to sit in.
@@jessicapollan4039 so she deserved to die is what you're hinting?
As someone who had been in gorl world for a few years I can remember rooting for Jen, and most people did - at least for a while longer than Amber or Chantal. I truly wonder it Gene was a help or hinderance and where he is now.
Sooooo glad you mentioned gene. Just wait till we get to him. God it made me angry
He was most definitely a hindrance. Many people think he was a feeder, myself included.
Openly admitting to being part of Gorl World is an interesting move. Toxic, misogynistic cesspool that it is.
I hope he's getting his life together.
Gene pushed her into her grave.
I never watched Jen, so I didn't know her story or anything.
I feel so sorry for baby Jen, who was hurt so terribly and had no choice but to carry those wounds into adulthood because the adults in her life failed to help her in so many ways.
I don't know.... I've watched all your videos, but this one just hurt my heart. She just seemed so kind and earnest, and I would have liked to have known her.
Whatever happens after we die, I hope she's finally found the peace she couldn't find in life...
Kind people don't abuse their dying mother
Yes not all is what it seems she was a very selfish woman. And No I’m not saying she deserved to die at all.
@@jessicapollan4039 Her mother married a pedophile and allowed him to abuse her for years. I'd say she deserved a few right hooks
@@jessicapollan4039Did she really? I know nothing about her, but keep seeing this in the comments.
@@UnchainedMelodie92 yrs,type alex is shook life by jen and it's the second video where he discusses it
She passed away on Sept 10th last year. Can't believe it's almost been a year. I was so sad that she passed. I followed her and was rooting for her. Loved the way her story was presented. It was done in a dignified way
I'm 33 and I've suffered from binge eating disorder and severe depression since I was 11. I see SO MANY similarities in my life to Jen's. It's unbelievable. I'm a tall girl (5'11) but I weigh 300 lbs. It truly is a daily, sometimes hourly battle within myself to not eat badly. Thankfully I've lost 15 lbs, first time I've had any weight loss in my life.
As tragic as Jen's story is, it motivates me to not give in, and when she said "nothing tastes as good as feeling healthy", that changed me.
Awesome job on the weight loss!! 👏👏 You can do it, little by little! I've lost 100 pounds since April 2022 and I feel like I have my life back again ❤
Don’t ever give up! Also, keep researching what will work for YOU. Don’t get lost in this absurd BS and drama, as it’s just a diversion from the true issues at hand.
You can absolutely meet your goals; it’s not easy, but it’s a lifestyle that says you are putting yourself first, as we all need to, before we can help any others.
Best of luck to you, my only recommendation is to find role models that have done what you want to do, to get to where you want to be, and then stay there.
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Keep going, love; you’ve got this! I’m sorry you’ve gone through trauma to get to this point. I’ve been looking at a lot of videos about those with BED/morbid obesity. 9/10 times, they’ve had horrific childhoods that have led to food addiction as a comfort strategy. Sadly, Jen lost her battle but you CAN make it! 15lbs is an awesome start & I wish you a long life, happiness & most importantly, inner peace. I’m rooting for you! 💕
Congratulations on your weight loss, that's awesome! 15 pounds may not seem like much but it is!! And that 15 will turn into 30... 40...60... & eventually 100!! Remember to take your journey one day, one moment, one step at a time. Be proud of yourself even on the days/weeks you only lose a few pounds (if that happens). And don't beat yourself up on the days you don't lose any at all. It's OKAY! DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! Allow yourself a cheat day. Portion control and determination. Give yourself the credit you deserve throughout the process. And don't forget that a healthy Weight loss journey takes time. Don't expect long-lasting results from fast and rushed weight loss. Things worth having take time. You're going to have good days AND bad days. That's reality. It's OKAY! But whatever you do, DON'T give up on yourself. Life is a bitch. So is weight loss.🤷♀️
🗣📣 Now, give yourself a high-five and go kick some weight loss ass!!😎🙌
&& I know I don't know you, but I'm rooting for you!! You got this!!
I can relate to you a lot. I'm your height, 350, and also deal with BED.
I can't watch this. I had no idea the level of horrible trauma and abuse she went through. I know people say she was a jerk, but the food issues and trauma, now it makes more sense. I might come back at a later time. Sorry Jen that you had to endure that. To all the kids out there.
Yeah she’s like most. Complicated. Trauma is awful to hear and at times she can be lovely but other times not so much
How was she a jerk? I dont see it here
@@jamespaul6315 She was a highly toxic person. She could be very manipulative, and her moods could swing wildly. It didn't help that she got with an equally toxic person. They kept triggering one another's worst traits, yet were extremely codependent as well.
@@jamespaul6315 I just read comments on how she was "snarky" and manipulative, and something about treating her mom or gramma like crap. I didn't ever know the full story though. You know how TH-cam comments can get out of hand.
@@lewasil she admitted to hitting her dying mother and making her crawl up the stairs 5 times a day to get her food.
She was VERY manipulative and she treated her followers like crap unless she wanted money from you.
She met her boyfriend while trolling him about his alcohol addiction and they also made fun of covid.
I heard people refer to the passing of Life By Jen, but I never knew anything about her. Never watched her, never looked into her. The masterful way you put together her story in her words is a beautiful intro to the soul that she was, not just the online persona people viewed. This honestly touched my heart and was an unexpected wonderfully emotional ride. I have had some truly authentic laughs and now some genuine tears watching the genius of Mr. Snowflake. Well done, stellar storytelling as usual sir. Thank you for gifting us with these gems of art ✨️
I never knew “Life by Jen”, either as a content creator or a person. This is so incredibly heartbreaking. Hard to watch, but you have given her a voice and is a cautionary tale. We all live in glass houses. We do not have the right to throw stones, sometimes we all forget that. RIP Jen.
Sorry, but she abused her dying mother and let her sick cat die in the bathroom bc she didn't want to deal with him anymore.
These are just 2 examples of all the horrible stuff she did
No angels here. None of us is without sin. Extreme EDs are psychosis-they are not in reality. No excuses or blame, but focus your judgement with that knowledge.
@@jessicapollan4039You may not know the answer, but was her mother aware of the sexual/physical abuse Jen’s dad was committing against her? Did she know and allow it to continue for a while before leaving? It would help me figure whether or not I give 2 phuks about her mom being allegedly abused by her.
@@jessicapollan4039what did she do to her mother?
@@jessicapollan4039 yeah and you’re going at a dead woman who was once severely abused as a child despite that mother being there the whole time.
We are none of us perfect.
You have regrets yourself. We all do. How about you lay those out next? Let’s put you in the hot seat?
There is something comforting about being overweight. If you have been sexually abused as a child or an adult, those extra pounds make you invisible and less likely to be abused again.
My husband's auntie was savagely beaten by her ex husband daily, when she finally got away she gained a massive amount of weight and cut her hair off because she didn't want anyone to find her attractive ever again. So sad.
I feel this. It’s why growing up I refused to wear dresses and when I did I was miserable
Proof that your parents can really mess up your life. Her dad is responsible for this. Rip, Jen.
She was a full grown adult at this point and both of her parents were dead.
She didn't have to continue to wallow in self pity but did so bc it made people feel sorry for poor poor Jennifer
@@jessicapollan4039 sad, and maybe too blunt for some, but true. Many of us endured horrific upbringings and didn't end up like Jen.
I struggled with binge eating, bulimia, alcoholism, serial monogamy and so much more. But it eventually got to a point where I just snapped out of it and realized I had to start taking my health seriously because nobody else will do it for me.
I also had children who I not only wanted to be around for, but wanted to DO BETTER for.
I'm not sure what ambition Jen really had, for a better life for herself. She couldn't afford to lose her disability payments or her only IRL human contact (Gene). One can have plenty of aspirations besides getting married or having kids. Jen just didn't have any.
Man, that story about her dad gutted me. I didn’t know that. It definitely puts everything that follows into context
Worst story
I didn't know it either. Always had a soft spot for her. It's sad to know she hurt so much.
Same. My heart broke and it all just made too much sense and made everything all the more saddening.
I had to rewind because I didn't hear about the dad stuff, I was like why would he give her a bologna sandwich but after finding out my jaw dropped. I didn't know much about Jen but hearing what a sick twisted fuck could do to his own daughter and how it deeply affected her life just hurts.
I was a subscriber of Jen’s and even communicated a little with her on Tiktok. She was troubled but I think at her core she was a good person. Her passing while not a surprise was very sad.
Aw really. Well she reminds me a lot of amber which is worrying
@@MrSnowflake I'm only 9 min in and idk this lady, and am pretty new to the gorlworld, but I already sense this lady has wayyyy more self awareness and genuine humility than Amber has ever shown. I still have to remind myself that Amber is in her 30s, Jen actually talks like a real adult. I see some similarities for sure, but my general first impression is that they're very different personalities 🤷♀️
Edit: 29 min in and I can sense some foreshadowing that's probably going to make me regret my comment above lol
@@RavingKatsI can tell you now you’ll regret your comment 😂
@@AM09286why? She never seemed close to hamberlynn
@@MrSnowflakeyes there were definitely some unfortunate similarities…and I am just speaking from my personal experience with her. She definitely did and said things I didn’t agree with. I always hoped she would get on track and get healthier mentally and physically but sadly wasn’t to be. Love your content Mr Snowflake!
You handled this tragic story with such compassion and letting her tell her own story is very powerful. You are the best documentary channel on TH-cam, and I won’t be surprised if I see you go on to bigger platforms. Seriously amazing work.
While I feel for what she went through as a child, and her struggles with addiction...
The way she treated her Mother rocked me. She admitted to hitting her. And in videos from the beginning (that she deleted) she would yell at her to cook for her. Her Mother had to crawl up the stairs several times a day to Jen's bedroom to bring her the food as she was dying from her own health issues. She also made fun of covid patients. It was hard to keep showing her understanding at times.
😱😱💀 you say what?
She was like Steve Asanti but not publicly?
Wow...my sympathy for her just plummeted.
I learned about that as I was grieving for my mother, who had just died the week before. 💔 Because of that knowledge, I've had to dig deep to find any compassion for her. I'm not always successful.
@@catalinaortoljo2821. I wonder where her mother was when her father did what he did? Lots of women turn an eye on the evils of their men
Hurt people hurt people.
You've earned a new sub. I followed Jen's channel on and off and the cards she got dealt were so horrific from the start and the just trauma never ended. She could have been so much more in her short life had she not went through sexual abuse, especially at the hands of her own father. Her mom dying was a nail in her own coffin. She could have had a successful career, and possibly a family with children of her own. She was so sweet and genuine. She deserved so much more.
I'm only 3 minutes in but already i'm in awe of the editing style, it's so beautiful and fitting for the story, i just seriously love how well you've put this all together.
Jen’s story is dark but you did it justice.
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Nice words❤
Superbly done. This is beyond a cautionary tale. It is a tragedy. The demons of unresolved childhood trauma can destroy an otherwise good soul. R.I.P. Jen. You deserved far better as a child. And sadly too, as an adult.
Cautionary tale is exactly it
I was NOT ready for this. Your editing is Oscar-worthy, and the story itself is so compelling and heartbreaking. She reminds me a lot of my late mother. 😢
I watched this Jen series when you initially released the episodes.
I appreciate how you let Jen speak for herself.
I do not have cancer and I am not fighting overweight, but I am a woman Jen’s age.
I feel so much sadness for her life, and I think you presented her story with compassion.
I was just thinking about her and came to watch your series again.
Thank you ❤
This is so fantastic, Snowflake! Very well done. You're a great documentarian! The use of Jen's own narration really is not only impactful, it's personal. I'm only a few minutes in and already my heart is breaking for Jen. I am so sorry and sad for her that she is no longer with us. ❤
My friend was maintenance man in her building. He drove her to Kroger to get groceries a couple times.
Wow this was extremely raw & heavy. I know others have stated this already, but I appreciate this new style of approach - running the tape & letting the subject speak for themselves.
All I can say is that this is your rawest video to date. It felt like I was watching an A&E original documentary…. Great video as always, brother. Sláinte.
Jen was her worst enemy. Gene was a close second. Codependency surely had a big hand in her demise. RIP, Jen.
Well that’s a great comment. Spoilers. Gene rocks up in episode 3 and my god. I’ve never seen anyone so unlikable. By episode 4 I think I hated him.
3:36 I'm not even 5 minutes in, and I already have a lump in my throat. This is so heartbreaking and traumatic.
Hate one to watch x
@@MrSnowflakeindeed it's very hard to watch. I'm just now finishing it. Thank you for sharing her story. ❤
This is really visually well put together, I really dig this style!
Yeah I like this one
I've been watching since your first Shaped by the Algorithm, and I just want to say that you have gotten so good as an editor and narrator that I swear your quality is getting close to professional. Great work Mr. Flake. This is in my own opinion such a beautiful tribute to someone's story, leaving a biography of her channel on the platform that she used to share her life.
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Hear hear
I was not expecting to cry in my kitchen at 7am, but here we are. Snowflake, you handled Jen’s story with such care. This is intentional thought-provoking, heartstring tugging content. RIP, Jen.
sobbing. As soon as he showed her and her cat it was over.
This was extremely well done and very respectful. I can only imagine how much time you spent creating these. Truly a tragic story... It really shows how childhood trauma can effect a person as an adult. RIP Jen ❤
I think this was an important series for you to make, man. All joking aside, you did a beautiful job and I like your choice to let her tell her own story. I'm glad it's getting traction in the algorithm. This woman was incredibly honest to her audience and as difficult as it was to see, I'm glad I did and that others are, too.
Some people disliked her for always stumbling over and over again with the same rock...but Jen did not deserve that painful and infuriating ending, she deserved a life without fear and addiction ruining her future.
Thank you for doing a documentary filled with kindness and letting her speak. She really wanted to have a life outside her agoraphobia, outside food, and she...she couldn't. Its sad. Life is not fair and I know that...what is, is what must be. But sometimes you kinda wish it was a little more kind :(
She had help for free and refused to get better.
@@jessicapollan4039 yeah, this is true too. I remember her denying help or doing everything against the program, and don't get me started on Gene...
Still, not a way to go. :/ Her food addiction really did her in, all those UTIs and all were because she got so big that hygiene was hard or right out impossible.
@@jessicapollan4039Refused is a reach, struggled is more accurate
@Dracon7601 no, she refused PT and refused to get healthy.
She should have lost a ton of weight while in the hospital.
She would have Gene bring her food bc the hospital didn't have healthy food for her.
She also would order from door dash.
She blamed everything on others
@@jessicapollan4039 Addiction is a prick, it's not something that people really overcome on their own and Gene was absolutely an enabler.
Wow - there were so many things I didn't know about her childhood and trauma that she went through. So many people look at people like her and forget that inside there's a broken person that made her that way until the very end. I pray she got the closure she needed before she passed. This was incredibly insightful and respectful to her life. Thank you for posting this. ❤
If her own series isn't a wake-up call for her, maybe this will be the one that gets through to Amber. She talked with jen, they were at least acquantences until amber went after her to defend chantal of all people. The fact that she never really said anything about jen's passing (except that it made her cry 🙄) has never sat right with me, especially after how often she would bring jen up to deflect any criticisms away from herself.
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UTERINE CANCER?? god, this woman really was just a stark look at Amber's future. They're so damn similar, right down to the things they say, their illnesses, and their lifespans, unfortunately. If Jen followed the same make up tutorial from 2013 that amber does and invested in a flat iron it would be impossible to tell them apart.
Amber will never change.
Except cancer was not enough to motivate Amber to lose weight. Amber is happy as she is, she will not change.
I just sat and stared at the screen when she said she had uterine cancer. It made me wonder if Amber saw how much sympathy Jen was getting and decided to try that for herself. The way Jen speaks about it compared to the way Amber almost floated about it… it’s uncomfortable.
I dont keep up with Amber like I used to,but when I heard she finally got down to 460 pounds I thought it was amazing and that maybe Jen's desth hit home.
Found out later I was wrong
@rhi_danceswithwolves that's my biggest issue with amber tbh, she always presents her stories of trauma as a badge of honor and pride, and she basks in the attention it gets her. Like I think there is some truth to some of her stories, but she twists and distorts every single facet of her life to fit the narrative she creates, so that even the most innocuous stories raise eyebrows, because she'll tell that same story 18 different ways, and attack you for questioning its validity.
Her cancer tale specifically, she spun it as some tragic saga, but then the plain facts and the information she shared with us, tracks almost beat for beat with what I've seen people with endometriosis go through. She had fibroids that had begun to produce precancerous cells, and because of her size, the simplest solution was a hysterectomy. That is a totally valid, scary medical issue to deal with in your early 30s! But it didn't have the oomph she was looking for, so she lied.
When I first started to watch Life by Jen, she was just getting under 500lb and in a very positive frame of mind. The contrast to Amberlynn was admirable. Her sensitivity and empathy for others were the qualities that kept me following her. I stopped following her when Gene moved in, a very toxic influence that seem to bring out a side to Jen that was not at all flattering. There was an innocence and purity of soul qualities I associated with her that began to vanish when Gene became part of her channel, in and it was too hard to watch her lose herself to this man.
Thanks!
Your documentaries just get better and better. The Shane series was incredible and I felt like it was your best work so far. And this is amazing as well, I appreciate you beginning the series by showing her past and introducing more complexity to her character beyond just the lolcow reactions I've always seen on her.
The subjects of your documentaries, I have been watching these people for years and I still learn new important and profound things about them through your work.
No regrets on being a member of your channel. Thank you. 🙏
Aw well how lovely is that. I was proud of the Shane. Cheers for being a member. It’s stupid I have to have the membership thing but god it’s helped me out so many times. Be nice one day when I’m rich and I can stop making people pay. I appreciate you being a member and I’m glad you’re enjoying it all
I will say, I am not sure about the framing of “Gene is the bad guy” zooming in on his eyes. Yes I know Mr SnowFlake didn’t intend that, but for those that don’t know the whole story and it’s just her words, but it’s painting a picture as if he’s somewhat to blame for her death. I didn’t really like that.
It's so cool to see you trying different approaches while creating your documentaries. The editing was honestly top notch, as well as the vibe you created by using the cassette/slides sound sample and old home movie reel filtre. Also, only using Jen's footage without your own voice over was an excellent choice for this series - in a way it shows how different she seems from the more recognizable characters, like "That Woman™" or Foodie Beauty.
Amazing, amazing job mr. Snowflake. I learn so much from your documentaries and really feel immersed in other peoples’ lives. You are an incredible story teller. I wish there were more eating disorder treatment centers catered towards overeaters. It’s such a societal issue.
Aw bless you. Yeah this one gets super super hard to watch ha so get ready for that
She went to eating disorder clinic and was a non compliant patient.
@@thereturnofveronicasawyer9998 At the inpatient facilities for anorexia/bulimia type eating disorders there are life saving measures that the hospital does when a patient is not compliant (tube fed, involuntary hospitalization). I just don’t feel like those with binge eating disorders are provided with the same care.
Wow, Mr Snowflake, this is beautiful and Netflix would be proud to host this as one of theirs. Really well made. I can imagine some streaming service coming along this and perhaps wanting to make a movie about Jen's life. God bless her, I hope she is in heavenly peace.
Oh wow. I live in a small town about an hour of Pittsburgh. I have never heard of this girl and hearing that she lived so close to me just made it even more real and sad. God bless her soul. I hope she is in eternal peace and happiness.
I must live close to you and had the same reaction ❤
I had just apologized to her and she was so kind to me....I had left some terrible comments after getting angry about her covid jokes. I still shouldn't have said thr horrible things I said. I absolutely enjoyed her channel and I really wanted her to get to that beach she so longed for. She certainly didn't ask for much and I hate that she didn't make it to the beach. Jen, I miss you. No more pain, dear one.
Her own fault she didn't make it to the beach.
She was in the hospital for 6 months and gained weight instead of losing.
When she came home, she refused to put in the work to get better
@jessicapollan4039 remember all the food gene would sneak to her jn the hospital
@@lorelaigilrouryep. I remember when they tried not to show the extra cheeseburger.
@jessicapollan4039 well, exactly which was another frustration I felt regarding her situation but it is still awful that she died so young.
@@lynnjackson8367 it is, who knows how her life would have been if she would have put in the mental and physical work to get better.
I consider myself a very strong minded and emotionless person because of things I have experienced in life but I feel for this Woman. May she Rest in Peace.
I couldn’t think of a better person to tell this story.
I’m so proud of you for doing it with clarity and respect. Jens life was the epitome of tragedy. She literally ate herself to death. And it’s sad to see that ALR and Candy are both in line to be the next Jennifer Gwen Ann.
Rest in Peace Jen. I hope you have finally found the peace you searched for…..for so long.
And foodie beauty is too !
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The thing that gets me about Jen is that she knew and acknowledged all her issues but still participated in them. Like I get the back and forth of addiction and self-harm (I struggle with both myself) but her ability to talk openly about it and still not take action… I can’t understand.
It takes a long time to leave the substance of choice. Nothing else to fall back on, feeling way too deep in the addiction, for some it has become a part of their identity, lack of other social skills, being in Ana environment in which other people are using (family, partners, friends). It’s like any dysfunctional behavior. For as long as it serves some purpose no matter how small people will keep using. We stop when we truly get sick and tired of being sick and tired. I am a recovering addict, both food and substances. I’m sober from drugs and in the process of getting my health back.
It really must be hard being addicted to food. You can't just quit food.
That is true. Though through my personal experience with drug addiction and experienced seizures and suicidal multiple times from withdrawals of opiates & benzodiazepines, its so hard to stop because its awfully dangerous to. Especially when people dont have access to proper detox/rehab facilities. Im very lucky to be alive today. But it pains me how society has and still treats addicts of all kinds. I do agree with you that we will always have to eat but many also underestimate the risk and difficulty of quitting drugs.
Sadly people aren't very sympathetic towards this addiction
but you can beat your addiction but she didn't want to do that bc it was way easier getting people to feel sorry for her situation and send her money and things from her daily updated Amazon Wish list.
Omg that’s so real. I never thought of that. You have to learn to control it since you can’t stop entirely. Maybe stopping entirely would actually be easier :(
My heart utterly breaks for this woman. So devastating, such a necessary story and I bet she would have wanted her story shared if it helped and inspired others.
This has a very hostage film feel to it. Probably how she felt in her body.💔
Good way putting it
Very good observation. So sad for her.
I just discovered your channel, and this is the first of your videos that I’ve watched. I was a longtime subscriber of Jen’s, and I always hoped that she would turn things around. I appreciate you doing this video, and I look forward to part 2. I’ve watched TH-cam videos for years, and I must say that the quality of this video is literally the best I’ve ever seen! You put time and effort into it, and it shows. Thank you!
I remembering subbing to her channel when she first got her start. It’s absolutely gut wrenching the things she went through. May her soul be at peace. This was truly an excellent documentary on Jen. You did her justice.
Not falling for this again, Mr Snowflake! She’s coming across as sweet, sad & traumatised, but I suspect there’s darkness there. The mediumship & empath claims are a bit suss. Also, did ALR steal her story? By the way, brilliantly done as always.
Ah, should’ve waited til the end to comment 😆
Hahaha you’ve sussed my system out. Get you to like them then boom!!! Ha well done
Thank you for putting this together, especially in such a respectful way. I didn't even know she had passed away until like 6 months afterwards, because the gorlworld community just kind of glossed over it and didn't really acknowledge it. Her story is so sad. I hadn't heard the story about her dad, that is atrocious. Poor woman. I really hope her partner is doing okay, I don't know that much about him other than about his alcohol use disorder struggles. I hope he has been able to get sober, it must be very difficult after losing her. Nobody ends up with addiction issues, regardless of their substance of use without horrific trauma. It's an atrocity when that takes a person's life, it's terrible it took her life, and it would be terrible if it took his too.
I love that you're letting her tell her whole story now that she's no longer here to tell it.
3:10 Literally no words. No words. My heart dropped completely.
Mr Snowflake thank you SO SO SO MUCH for the beautiful memorial video you made of Jen. She was dear to me& I miss her.
Don’t have to thank me xxxxx
This was very intense and powerful. You showed compassion and empathy and showed me a side i didnt know about Jen. Really moving.
Poor Jen, her life was a tragedy. I watched her occasionally during the last part of her life especially post Covid/Nursing Home. She had such low self esteem and had no clue how to judge people's character. Gene, like many addicts, was very good at manipulation. I believe he took years off of her life.
She was morbidly obese long before he came into the picture but he certainly didn't help things
Gene was her biggest enabler. They were totally codependent
I think he was a catfisher.
I did not know of Jen before watching this. Truly heartbreaking-praying she is at peace ❤
Xxxxx
Same here. I had only heard of her, knew nothing of her story. And knowing that she does pass makes this hard to watch, but also important to watch.
This video was so respectful of Jen. Wonderfully done.
As someone that struggles (lifelong) with their weight & food addition like Jen did, I can relate to 99.99% of the statement she says, "...This is the life you are given and don't destroy or don't waste your life because food is not worth it . I know I've done this to myself."
I concur with the majority of these comments that this four-part series is made very respectfully, it's obvious you worked consciously on this documentary and put piece-by-piece together seamlessly. I hope there are others watching that will find inspiration from Jen's life.
And just so you know, Mr.Snowflake I didn't know who you were until a few days ago so this video is definitely spreading. Again, exceptional work, sincerely.
Wow this was an intense video your editing skills are amazing you really captured the sadness and trauma of her life in a very compassionate and empathetic way. I hope her father watch’s this and unalives himself to cause his daughter so much trauma as you really made an incredible video I can’t wait for the other parts.
Thank you for the upload mr. Snowflake!!! I didn’t know much about life by Jen but gosh 5 minutes in and it’s already so sad.
Oh god part 1 is nothing ha part 4 had me crying ha
@@MrSnowflakeoh no!!!! This one got me crying! Ha! But it was so good. 💙
I was a follower for years until she started showing her true colors, I'm sorry for what she went through but Jen wasn't a nice person.
Yeh she did a few things I didn’t enjoy seeing
What did she do? If you don't mind telling me.
What did she do?
@@stacielle3627This is what I've read from other commenters (I don't know if any/all of this is true or 100% acurate) :
1.She forced her mother who was dying of cancer to crawl up the stairs to bring her food several times a day and she (Jen) would sometimes be mean to her mom and even hit her.
2. She let her cat die in the bathroom. (I haven't seen any specific details about this story)
3. She and Gene made a mockery out of covid until it hit her and she had to be hospitalised.
4. She was apparently nasty to the nurses who came to take care of her. One of them dropped her by accident while trying to put her on a stretcher so she sued him and made him lose his job.
@trinketeerrine6674 All of this is 100 percent true.
She and Gene were very anti vaxx and Gene was into western medicine.
She was already in the hospital for an impacted bowel from eating so much cheese when she caught covid.
Superbly compiled! Well done and thank you. Her story is an important part of TH-cam food/diet/body image narrative regardless of her choices.
Around 45:00 damn that’s so sad but I can totally relate-being in an toxic or abusive relationship and being made to feel like, or even eventually making yourself feel so horribly guilty for not even just tiny mistakes but for non mistakes such as simply setting boundaries for yourself that in absence of them being there to punish you and make you feel horrible, you punish yourself. Meanwhile they do worse to you CONSTANTLY but you’re essentially trained to not see that, or to excuse it because somehow it’s different when they do it, you did something to earn it. It’s so f’d. And it’s especially bad when you’ve been abused as a child because your mind is always warped in favor of abusers, you already always blame yourself by default. Poor Jen.
Sir Flake!! This is definitely the workings of a masterpiece. The lack of outside narration and the title cards makes this so haunting. I knew of Jen and knew a bit about her but not as much as the other gorls, so this is a treat. It’s so strange to see how similar she was to Amber (even having similar moments like “…… this is what an emotional binge looks like” and addressing the trolls in such a high school catty way).
I can’t wait for Part 2!
When she called herself an “empath” a la ALR I did a double-take.
Thank you for the upload big daddy Snowflake!
I didn’t know much about Jen, such a sad story!
Gets so much worse x
Ive always been so uncertain about Jen. From disappointment, to frustration, to utter dislike. But you have really shown Jen in a light that I've not been used to. You did this so right, not sure how else to say it.
You’ll hate her soon don’t worry ha
@@MrSnowflake..... well fuck. Ahaha
Dear Sir. I used to follow Life By Jen for quite awhile, but then I had to disengage myself from social media, things online, just to..give myself a chance to breathe..and I feel so terribly bad that it was only through your videos that I discovered she had passed. That poor, dear sweet woman. Thank you for sharing this series with a sympathetic view and the realization that not everyone is out here for fame. Some are just looking to find people to connect with, to share with, because lonliness is..an all encompassing beast. This was done so well and I'm so very thankful and so very proud of you.
"The loneliness is an all encompassing beast..."
You know that very well too I see.
In your loneliness, you are not alone.
After watching Jen for over 5 years, I felt she was unrepairably broken. She never had an easy life even as a child and it is so unfortunate a child can have so much dysfunction to deal with that the adult they turn into is so broken. I knew 2 addicts couldn't grow and overcome. They manipulated each other to get their fix. One is no more responsible over the other but the viewers that commented how fortunate she was to have Gene are. Jen had health problems due to obesity but I believe she died of a broken heart. RIP Jen
so well done! very respectful as well as visually appealing - well paced - you lend her story the gravity and dignity it deserves (unlike some characters we know)
You handled this is such a lovely, compassionate way. It feels like a piece of art honoring her memory while simultaneously shedding light on the lessons her story can teach. Well done.
This is my first introduction to Jen’s story, although I know how it ends. In addition to the pain and sympathy I feel for Jen, I’m also struck by how similar her story is to Amber’s. It can be easy to forget with all her fire and rage, but Amber is not far off from repeating Jen’s mistakes. I hope Amber can do better, and I hope Jen is at peace.
Omg when she said her dad worked for the school!!
She needed to be in rehab. Like any addiction or ED. She should have been under a doctor’s care because she obviously wasn’t okay. This breaks my heart and pisses me off at the same time. She deserved more
She WAS under a doctor's care but she refused to do PT and follow the strict diet plan they had set up for her in order for her to lose weight and lead a productive healthy lifestyle.
You always make the best documentaries. This series is going to be so good. Ever since her passing I thought someone should do one on her. Glad it was you.