People Are Getting Laid Less... Why? - A Dose of Buckley
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Did you know that people aren't bumpin' uglies as much as they used to? That's right, studies show that the amount of people enjoying bedroom funtimes is less and less, despite (or maybe because of?) the fact that we are bombarded with sexuality maybe now more than ever. Buckley looks at a few studies, as well as a couple charts that went viral that reportedly showed the hobbies that women find most and least attractive, to try and get to the bottom of why no one's getting on top of each other.
I'm willing to bet that the lack of affordable 3rd spaces to meet people/go on dates also helps contribute.
The decline of social clubs overall has to contribute too. Where do people meet offline?
Im so tired after my 9-5 i dont wanna go anywhere. I just watch stuff on the weekend and play games. And im a 26 year old woman. I simply do not have enough time or energy. It doesnt help that everything is so expensive. Going out costs quite a bit of money.
Perhaps, although I do wonder if people are looking for those. Like, on my local subreddit, every month or so there'll be some post from someone in my city going "I just don't know how to meet people what am I supposed to do?" and then like 50 people offer advice and places in this city to meet people or places they've met people, and then inevitably they'll get replies like "yeah but I don't like [blank]", which then takes me back to an older video where I talked about people not being interesting enough or willing to try new things.
@@iluvtacos1231 this is huge for my area (Midwest us) at this point basically your only option is bars unless you Meet them in high-school or college
@@ADoseofBuckley
Yeah, that can definitely be an issue as well
As a generalization, women might not play games as much or as often as men, but they can absolutely love engaging with them as much as any male gamer. My previous girlfriend wanted to play Left 4 Dead 2 every time she came over to my house. She convinced me to buy one of the Resident Evil games so she could watch me play it. I played it myself maybe once before she ended up taking the controller. From then on, she'd take the controller from me every time she asked me to play it, and instead, she'd play it herself while _I_ watched. Essentially the inverse of the stereotypical "man plays game and ignores his girlfriend while she sits right next to him" situation. I don't know how worthwhile or genuine I find most of this discourse. Be a well-adjusted human being, and you'll be fine.
the answer is that very, very little of the discourse is genuine or worth anything at all, and generally speaking any conversation on the major social media platforms should be taken with 7,000 grains of salt
@@g3intel Well said.
Anecdotal.
I don't know if you're wrong or not more broadly, I don't really care. I have a hard time with relationships because i dislike sex and being touched.
@@cultreader9751 Of course it's anecdotal. That's entirely the point. This widespread online pissing match instigated by a fake chart has not matched with what I see in my day-to-day life. It's like Buckley said near the end of this video--polarizing online bullshit. It all comes off less as sincere dialogue and more like a spiteful fit of delirium between tragically demoralized people just looking to be angry or vindicated. I'm not necessarily telling you my experience is why you should disregard this; I'm simply explaining why I disregard this, mostly in hopes that others can relate.
I've been replaying Witcher 3. It's such a fun game. I've read the Witcher books too so I enjoy all of that series.
I’m a 5’1 (freedom units) gamer. Somehow I’ve managed to get married and enjoy my life.
The crowd of dudes who thinks it’s impossible must really be off putting.
It's because you didn't walk around throwing a tantrum about it. While some women don't like short dudes, ALL women hate complainers or entitled man-children.
@@ADoseofBuckley Is that exclusive to women? I feel like everyone in general hates complainers.
@@ADoseofBuckley It's always funny how it's always "what women want/like" but not "what men want/like"- constantly. From the UN to a Twitter channel. Maybe there's some food for thought there. If women were lost in life, it'd be, "omg what's happening?" but if it's for men, "fix yourself by your bootstrap skipper".
And by men we don't mean adult 35 year olds- like me. We're fine. It's young boys who constantly get TOLD on . Again, from the UN to a Twitter channel. It's OK the first 50 times, but the 51st time one does tend to check out.
It's the one thing I noticed about my nephew and his life.
I do agree with your video though.
The short guys I know do incredibly well romantically. Like better than most of the guys I know tbh. They're fun guys to be around and have great personalities.
Short guys who whine all the time about how they'll never get a girl because they're short aren't going to get a girl because they're annoying 😆
@@NerdHerdForLife yes everyone dislikes the person who always moans.
Jesus. This just makes so happy to be content with being alone.
As a kid coming of age in the mid 2000s, individualism and things like "girls don't want your attention, guys" were drilled into my head.
A combination of things like the internet, teenagers being taught things that don't serve them well in the end (making them become bitter adults), so many different things taking up our time now (even if it is streaming and things like it)... and connection is happening less and less.
Socially, we've been told tons of what not to do, but not much of what TO do instead. When there's a lot of "don't do this, don't do that", people are going to choose other things to take up their time. Women saying "we don't want to be approached at work" is understandable. But people will apply that sort of logic everywhere if they're not careful about it (and it's not helped by women saying "don't approach us at the gym, bar/restaurant, when we're with friends, etc".)
Oh as a girl I have a field day with this media. My thing is this do you put effort into yourself? If so someone will find you attractive. Here's the thing, talk to us and get to know us before hitting on us. Sometimes men do stuff that I end up liking after I get them talking. Also not every woman hates getting approached at work. Sometimes talking about it can let you see how the attractive coworker feels.
TLDR: talk to women because it helps both parties see if there is anything that can happen
Yeah, but I don't want to approach them either. I'm not approaching someone who has never showed the slightest hint of any interest in me. It's all risk and no reward.
@@runningcommentary2125From my understanding the only "reward" is that you put effort into to approaching a woman, because it shows that you can speak to anybody or in other words you are able to step out your comfort-zone.
Also doesn't help that if you meet their idea of attractive, they'll happily let you approach them
@@annaconigliaro2907 You have no idea what it's like to be a man.
Stay angry everyone
Both my husband and I are avid gamers. I love that we can play video games together. I think the sweeping declaration that a lot of those women are making is ridiculous. Some women, like myself, love a man who plays video games
Gaming is a common interest for me. I understand with the right game it can be an escape from reality and a good way to unwind. It's nice sometimes to fall asleep next to my partner while he games.
1:33 I love how they include a picture of Gorlock the Destroyer in an article about women
As an aro/ace person I thought "finally at least some heteros stopped wasting their time" 😂😂
I’ll always enjoy when Buckley reads typos and lack of punctuation as is
That dude was nowhere near his character limit on his post but he decided to go full caveman anyway.
I don’t remember which video it was, but there was one time he read the asterisks as “stars.” So he read “f**ked” as “f-starstar-ked.” It made me laugh SO hard
I’ve listened to him so it so much I unironically do it in my daily life when I read online shit lmao
same I love it
One thing in regard to birthrates declining, is because we’ve drastically lowered teen pregnancy rates. There was even an article a couple of years ago of an adoption agency bemoaning the lower teen pregnancy rates because it greatly reduced the “supply of infants” which is a disgusting mindset.
This is exactly why conservatives in the us want to limit or ban abortion and contraceptives
@@xunqianbaidu6917 true
Also generally speaking as average incomes go up birth rates go down
This is fine because it can be fixed through immigration
@@tdring10681 That isn't a fix
@@nickberg8070 why
@nickberg8070 why not?
I also think that more and more people are becoming happy with just being single. I'm certainly seeing it in my friend group, anyway. The ever increasing demands of keeping a work-life balance in check for a lot of people is becoming a lot harder to do, so whatever little time and energy left over becomes a bonus.
I definitely feel like that's a factor. I see a lot more people recognizing that they don't have to get married or even partner up, and I know in the past that wasn't socially acceptable so it happened a lot less. I used to work with the elderly and I remember several little old ladies who talked about how great it was that we younger women didn't have to marry, and how they would have preferred not to marry but had to. So at least some of it is that there is always a percentage (even a small one) of people who don't WANT to be in a relationship and now just have the freedom to live that way.
Most of the most miserable, boring, ugly, nasty, rude people I've ever met were married. Sadly, it's not actually hard to be in a relationship....it's hard to be in a *healthy, happy* relationship.
Nah, the older you get the more realize why people stick together. Like that moment when you’re old and fall and realize there’s nobody that is going to find you.
I think there was a study that said something like 85% of people hate their job.
Taking that in consideration, it's not hard to see why people who work 40h a week at a job they hate would select to put their free time into something they actually enjoy instead of going out trying to get laid, get rejected frequently or hey! Strike the jackpot, but risks eventually end up in a miserable relationship once the honeymoon period is over (goes both way, maybe your partner will get bored after a while).
But it's true that it also feels like we live in an ADHD time where people have a 30s attention span and will get bored way easier than before.
Sociologists sure have quite a puzzle to figure out, but I think humanity's on its way out anyway, so it doesn't even matter if we try to get the birthrate up, it just means our kids would struggle with our stubbornness to change and adapt to new realities.
I think work has been one of those things that are making sex ACTUALLY less common. Who wants to have sex have the time when there's a physically or mentally draining job
@@issahumps You can stick together in other ways than with romantic partners though. No one in my friend group wants kids and a lot of us don't want partners either, so we form closer bonds to each other and our family members instead. If you think you'll be lonely without a partner then try strengthening your other relationships instead.
“Ew I don’t like her she plays Kingdom Hearts”
My brother you know the Metal Gear lore. The fuck you mean??
1. It’s expensive to be parents
2. Social media dating apps/ emphasis on “grinding”
3. People are angry, scared and depressed about the present and future
4. Having children isn’t societally enforced as much becuase of technology
5. Its just expensive to just hang out, there’s no where to go without spending a lot of money that doesn’t involve doing something like eating or watching movies that takes the focus off of socialising
Just some reasons.
This seems like reasons birth rates are going down instead of casual sex, times are bad for us
TH-cam seems to be deleting my comments I leave in the replies
exactly this
Preach 🙌
I couldn't agree more
It's easier to be single and people are choosing the easier choices more so than ever
@@noorkassem6354 its not really a case of people choosing the easier option just because they’re lazy but because they pay a arm and a leg to a system that given them nothing back, mortgages and rent at Steal all of their income and goods and services that they would’ve enjoyed or taken advantage of if inflation didn’t kick them while they’re down.
Sure technology has lessened the demand for children when job roles are being replaced by robots and AI but living standards for a lot of people haven’t gone up and even going down sharply I don’t blame people for not having kids under the circumstances. I feel like people who would’ve had children despite bad circumstances are bad people , forcing kids into horrific living conditions for the sake of having children because the culture demands it. I don’t want to grow up in bad conditions simply because the parents felt obligated to have children in the first place.
That’s my position, the system doesn’t have any kind of responsibility or inventive to reproduce, the conditions are violent and turbulent that makes planning for the future hard, also a better life is mainly obtained by a high-paying career and the first thing people sacrifice is having children or socialising to participate in the hyper capitalist system that created all these problems in the first place
And big corporations have a hand in the blame by promoting such a lifestyle and suddenly rewarding sacrificing friends and family for a career but ultimately it’s not to improve your life it’s almost always just some billionaire gets that tiny bit more richer from your extra productivity
Do you understand where I’m coming from?
Don’t blame the players blame the game itself
@@noorkassem6354 I don’t think it’s people simply not choosing to do things is because it’s not easy
The entire system has just let problems fester until people stop doing the thing that is slowly poisoning us and exasperating problems because society care more about GDP then human lives
Do you understand? In like the 90’s where I’m from you could buy a house for 50k that’s fine if you were born before and some hard work and a little help from family could get you there now in 2024 house prices are 350k and I’ve only just started my working life, I’m sure birth rates will keep going down and the politicians will keep swinging from political party to poetical party knowing that all the problems we face today could be solved with the stroke of a pen
But they don’t because they’re human and want only for themselves, and they know if things go bad for them have a golden parachute written into law they can sail by with a government pension and 24/7 security ensuring they don’t face any direct consequences for they life ruining policies.
Also the way that can become inflation proof is using their existing money and power to buy, and trade amongst themselves despite insider trading being illegal but only a fool would believe they would see the inside a prison cell for even a second.
@@noorkassem6354 I don’t think it’s people choosing the easy option just because they’re lazy. I think it’s much simpler than that.
Times are tough right now and the political and society situation is turbulent, capitalist system tells us that the only way to have a better life and more fulfilling one is to not reproduce and chase our career, and the political system that we pay into with our harder money gives us nothing in return but more lecturing and insulting our intelligence by telling us that now now that they’re in power everything will change
My two other comments that were much longer and went into more detail seem to have been auto blocked for no reason
I really disagree that women in general have a problem with games as a hobby. A few game haters on Twitter are not representative to the general population, especially when you realize that everyone plays games nowadays, it's as common as watching TV shows. Not a single one of the women I know has a problem if their boyfriend problem plays video games (especially since most of them also play them), just don't be a jerk that neglects the relationship because of it. Most of the men I know who play video games and have a good personality have a girlfriend or wife. It's not the hobby in itself that turns off women, it's when the person doesn't act normal about it, which is a problem only for a minority of people who play video games.
I don't think "most of them also play them", however your point more broadly is correct: most women don't care if you play vidya.
@@cultreader9751 Buckley gave us these figures in the video: 81% of men play video games, with women trailing but only slightly at 72%. I assume those numbers are obviously just estimates/from limited surveys taken but it's still likely a good indication of the rough numbers for each sex.
@@cultreader9751 Women don't live in a bubble and also engage in activities you see everywhere, including gaming. If you look at the stats, they usually say that that most women play games and that the general playerbase is made up out of at least 40% women. It's not always a perfect ratio because different genres might attract different demographics, but it's video games nevertheless. There's also the problem of women often not feeling comfortable to reveal their gender in multiplayer games because of sexism, so it might appear as if there's much fewer female players there than they actually are, don't let yourself be fooled by that.
All the quotes Buckley shared spoke about the amount of time spent playing video games, not the games themselves.
Yep, I'm a woman and though I don't experience attraction to other people at all except for very rare and very fleeting attraction to other women, I can say it's less that women have a problem with men playing games (I play a lot of them!) but that that gaming time is time that could've previously been used trying to meet other people. Not a problem on the surface, but most women, myself included, refuse to interact with men we do not already know when we're playing video games, since it can quite quickly devolve into some guy sexually harassing us. I love playing games with my friends, including my friends who are men, but I HATE HATE HATE playing games with strange men.
Gotta factor in how back in the day all relatives did was shame single people about “when are you going to get married and have kids”
And before that, parents arranged marriages. The marriage was set in stone before the child had reached puberty and it was consummated when one or both were teenagers. Societies were socially engineering higher birth rates. The spread of religion contributed to that too. Religions that oppose birth control encourage procreation. I believe the percentage for a married couple to end up pregnant inside the first year, with no birth control, is 85%. If you arrange your child's marriage and raise them in an environment that forbids contraception, what else can be expected?
"Back in the day" my ass. I've made it clear to my family that I'm not interested in getting married or even having a girlfriend/boyfriend/enbyfriend much at all, yet every few months I get asked when I'm going to start looking for a girlfriend. I haven't dated anyone since I was a teenager (I'm 40 now), and yet I still get shaming attempts. (I say attempts, because I'm no longer fazed by them.) Jesus, I don't care about sex. And, many of the people I'd be interested in are off-limits for people my age and/or gender, which is fine. But because of these proclivities, the potential dating pool is very limited anyway, so why bother?
@@TheSamuraiGoomba Very true. Historically, this whole marrying for love thing is a rather recent innovation &, in fact, in some countries & societies, they still do arranged marriages.
I mean, even in wealthy elite circles in the West, prospective spouses have to be implicitly signed off on by family. It's not as overt as in previous centuries but the societal expectation is still there.
@@TheSamuraiGoomba My marriage at 18 was arranged.
I decided to leave it alone because we have nothing in common, only being infant friends.
I understand that most people who are infant friends are most likely to stay together but not always.
I was tired of pretending to love someone I was not in love with.
I'd rather my family told me to get married and have kids than tell me to get a better job. I don't care about having a high paying career at all.
In Victoria, Australia, there was a major egg shortage. So yes, things are getting laid less.
Hehehe nice
@@OfficialAshArcherI didn’t know this, cause I don’t look at like any news.
But I couldn’t find eggs for ages, it’s weird that I’m finding out why in the comments of a Buckley video.
.....chickens don't need to get laid to lay eggs. Just to have a chick. Eggs are unfertilized eggs, kinda like women ovulate and "lay eggs" and have periods whether we get laid or not.
Ahhh the great Egg shortage of '23...I will never forget.
The last bit was pure classic Buckley
An ancient joke that's been around since the original Xbox. yeah pure Buckly.
True enough tho. Women who dress like a slob and/or let themselves go might find it harder to interest their man in hot sweaty sex.
Facts
@@michaelrapaport4494 it’s so funny to me how mad this made you 😂
@@austinhalpin5282 are you 12
We all know which hobby women think is really sexy: bee keeping.
"Obviously he's bee keeping age."
BEEEES!
I can’t talk for everyone, but personally I’m just fed up with sex culture. Don’t get me wrong I like it as much as the next guy, but I am sick of everyone being obsessed with sex like it’s the only thing in their lives that matters. Most people these days don’t care for dating or doing shit together and having fun, most women I’ve hanged out with in the past few years thought I had no interest in them or was scared of them because I didn’t try to fuck them the same week we met. I literally had a girl tell me she is not interested in me anymore because I didn’t take her to bed 2 days prior because she really wanted it and that is her revenge even though we just met and didn’t know shit about each other. Call me whatever you want, but I don’t want to jump in bed with someone I know nothing about and start a relationship that won’t go anywhere.
Ayy man , you'll find someone who's down-to-earth but always continue to keep it #trill with yourself and do your best not to let this things distract you.
A few times I've been talking to women and they start getting sexual before we even meet. I just lose all interest at that point. Maybe my equivalent of "ick" whatever that means. Sucks because it's rare to even match with someone let alone get a conversation going when you're just like "decent"
@@pXnTildesame here. When I talk to a woman and she gets sexual right off the bat it tells me she has done that a lot and monogamy isn’t in her vocabulary.
Sex sucks
This exact mindset is why I put my hobbies, including video games, on my dating profiles when I was single, to ward off anyone who might find that a problem. I ain't changing so let's not waste each others time.
Yeah, I agree, I think it's better to put it all out there rather than try and hide things, especially if they're things you really enjoy. A woman who HATES video games isn't going to be charmed by you and then 3 dates in find out you spend 50 hours a week speedrunning games and go "OH, well, I'm so in love with you now it doesn't matter!", better they just know ahead of time, because you're not going to be happy with that girl either when they're constantly bothering you to do things YOU don't want to do.
It's wild that people think that isn't how it's supposed to work. People should have hobbies! It's a healthy thing to have some task you enjoy as recreation. You should be able to have common interests with your partner that extends outside of how you want to raise your child or career choices. Sometimes the Internet genuinely makes me feel like we broke people.
@@Sinovian I think one issue that was legitimately raised by one of the women was that there's a difference between hobby and obsession. Men have always had their hobbies, their meeting places, etc, and they should, both men and women should share interests while also having something that's their own, no one should be glued to each other 24/7 (I think the Pandemic proved that). BUT, there needs to be a healthy balance, and you have a lot of people who DO tend to play like 4 hours+ of video games a day on a work day, and then spend all day in front of the TV on Saturday/Sunday. And that's just not healthy in terms of a relationship OR in terms of being single for that matter.
@@ADoseofBuckleythat’s where I’m at. One of my exes used to play video games a fair bit, but he would self-regulate when he felt it was verging into addictive territory and I never had to nag him to do things around the house, it was all equal and agreed upon. I never once got annoyed at him playing video games because I never had to. Another ex would play video games instead of helping around the house. He would be shouting into his mic at 3 in the morning, keeping me awake. He would start campaigns when he knew we had stuff to get to because he thought he could fit ‘one more in’- he couldn’t fit one more in at all so we were perpetually running late. I’d remind him of things but he was focusing on games so he would be mad later that I ‘hadn’t reminded him’. He would play games that made him mad and then be super rude to me because he had a losing streak. If we went on holiday or to see my parents he would be winging the whole time and visibly sulking because he couldn’t play games. Yes. It is not the hobby that is the issue, it’s when it becomes obsessive and I know a lot of women out there that have dated this kind of guy. It sucks. You can’t have a relationship like that.
To be honest some men and women are practicing celibacy and transmuting their life force energy. Ever heard of semen retention? You have men on this platform who talk about that. You have women who are withholding their energy as well. Not everything is about not being able to get laid. I am a female who chose celibacy. Do I get urges? Of course. Transmute the energy into a task, hobby, or workout goals. The glow is very noticeable.
"Blacksmithing, what year is this?" Fuckin sent me 😂
I can tell you right now, whoever wrote that reads way too much "historical romance", they're enamored with the idea of being some aristocrat who falls in love with the town's blacksmith.
@@ADoseofBuckley I also saw archery on the list 😅. As a woman, I have never heard another woman say, "Yeah, I'm going to the range on the weekend to do some archery," lol. Super oddly specific.
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValleyI love Archery and was shocked to see it up there 😂
@@ADoseofBuckley A good chunk of them were also occupations. Hobbies as well for sure, but primarily occupations. Like, do some people realize how much more expensive it is to get into blacksmithing seriously than gaming, figures, and other stuff from the "bad" and "expensive" hobbies list.
Both lists also seemed to recycle *A LOT* of old anti nerd cultural markers that we keep saying we totally don't do anymore.
As an honest to goodness backyard blacksmith in my spare time... i hope it cancels out my time playing games from time to time. Dang, if only id just been a gambler like my grandpa... *sigh*
Personally think it’s a good thing less people are getting laid and/or having babies, means we’re getting more responsible about those things. How many peoples’ relatives stayed married just so they won’t be alone & were miserable in the end? Plus with more women in the workforce & having more rights than in the past, they have a chance to live life more than their grandmothers did.
this.
As a woman and a gamer....I just don't care. Getting laid is honestly at the very bottom of my list for important things. But I also don't want kids so maybe if that was something I actually wanted then I might feel more inclined to date. I can't speak for anyone else though.
@@sardonicprincess ok ocean man
@@sardonicprincess ....ok now I'm confused. I was making a reference to jojo. Are you saying I look like Taylor Swift? Why the hostility?
@@sardonicprincess You confuse me.
@Miss_Kisa94 I'm right there with you on that. I do keep my eyes and ears open in case I run into someone that interests me, but it's not a high priority.
Yeah I think some women just don’t want kids it’s as simple as that. Or it’s expensive
Considering the amount of online trolling that's happening, it has to be a hobby. For some people it's probably the only joy in life besides looking at memes.
Yeah I mean people can claim it's not a hobby, but you look at some of these people and how much they angry-tweet at people all day long? That IS a hobby.
Interesting, considering "online trolling" was pretty high on the unattractive list. I think I'd pick a gamer gf over a terminally online Twitter user every day
Maybe but if you are talking about people trashing Disney+ shows that is not trolling rather people sick of POOR writing.
@@TheBEARofHIGHWAY1 I wasn't talking about that at all, but trashing Disney+ might be a hobby too.
@@KelmutHool I think for some fellas on TH-cam they have made a career of it. I'd do the same but then I would have to watch the terrible crap on Disney+ and the only thing I watch on Disney+ are old Fox shows.
I knew since I was 18 years old that I don't want children because I knew that I didn't have the patience for raising children.
I always found kids annoying. I don't enjoy being around kids in general.
I knew I didn't want a "traditional" family (wife and kids, normally including a quiet suburban neighborhood) because those are poor environments for intellectual pursuits.
@@cultreader9751 I have younger cousins who I see from time to time, I do enjoy being with them but I know that I couldn't handle the day to day routine of raising them..
I made that choice before being 18. I don't mind being around them for a while, but I rather it just be me and whoever I'm in a relationship with
Its all tied to the world population becoming more educated, prosperous, and "stable" in terms of life. Studies have shown that birth rates go down the more wealthy and educated a population becomes.
Its a global phenomenon with some countries affected more than others.
1960 the Pill is introduced, birthrate NOSE DIVES.
Video: "Biology Culture Ideology" by Colttaine (OG)
Timestamp: 23:46
Also, birth rate is inversely proportional to women's liberation. Wealthy countries with patriarchal enclaves maintain a high birthrate WITHIN the enclave.
I almost read it as “people are getting PAID less!”
Well, that's happening too. And possibly also one of the reasons people are getting LAID less.
They are, though. I wish there was a video about it, too.
Well it's not true. People are getting paid more, but the value of the money they are being paid is less
Maybe it's that the "sexual saturation" in the media is pushing intimacy into a corner where it's almost impossible to have a normal, relaxed experience. It’s like the louder the world screams about sex, the quieter it gets in real life. Everyone's overstimulated and underwhelmed, maybe even detached. There's a deeper need for genuine connection, but it's drowned out by this constant barrage of hypersexualized noise.
I feel this. I'm someone who gets uncomfortable around sex and sequel conversations, so it's very hard for me to connect with most people, who seem to talk about sex a lot.
Was supposed to say "sexual conversations"
I think it's an important factor, too. I remember a documentary from the early 2000's mentioning something similar. People see so much sexual imagery in their everyday life, that they become tired of it.
@@cultreader9751 speaking as someone who's very comfortable having conversations about sex... I also struggle to connect with many people, maybe even most people. Beyond conversations with people I already connect with (and in limited contexts) it really doesn't come up in the overwhelming majority of conversations I am part of.
Maybe I'm part of that hypersexualized crowd, but nonetheless I struggle to take part in conversations about *casual* sex and the dating/"dating" culture peripheral to it. BDSM, kink, physical intimacy or the act of sex itself, I'm totally down for the chat, but on the clothed, social prelude? I got nothing
Wrong. Sex in media is less, much less than it was in the 70’s and 80’s.
It’s just people agreeing with each other that sex is not important because thinking so is trendy.
Why not just get a nerdy chick that likes video games
Guys plays a game 3 hours while smoking weed to relax waste of time
Girl spends 6 hours scrolling Twitter while hearing short pop music waste of time
the graph was obviously bullshit. Everyone knows the least attractive hobby for men is "watching Buckley videos." Good thing I'm already married
Fuck he finally uses my name and I'm the neglectful gamer dad? He even used the correct spelling...
In my opinion, the main problem is the economy we (I’m from Austria/Europe; but I assume it won’t be that much different in the states) live in. Everyone works full time jobs - a lot of people struggle to pay off all their bills despite of this. Many people lack the energy to meet/hook up with others on the weekend and want to relax instead, hence one of the reasons why gaming is a popular hobby. The financial aspect might not be significant for dating (some people will be like “why should I invest time and money in something that won’t pay off at the end”), but based on my experiences (hearing people talking about this) I think it’s affecting the birth rate to some degree, on top of being overworked. Some young people actually want children, but they don’t know how they gonna take care of them, if they already struggle to take care of themselves.
I think countries like South Korea and Japan demonstrate the path we’re currently on. Their working cultures are even more extreme to some degree.
I’ve always found this reason to be an excuse and a cop out. People make time for what they want, regardless of their schedules. Korea and Japan are the way they are, because of their horrific treatment and societal views on women. After studying crimes against women in SK (not so much in Japan, though), I understand why they feel the way they do.
Honestly, by far the most egregious things about these graphs is the ranking of bird-watching. Don't think I've ever met a bird watcher who wasn't financially stable, didn't a satisfying job and didn't know how to care for a household
I identify as a "bird watcher" or as it's more commonly referred to, a "birder". My first thought was "Oh, how awful it is to enjoy nature and the outdoors! What an awful hobby!" 🙄
this world isn’t safe for children. wtf is a point of having a children when you can’t even envision a future for yourself, let alone some child.
This has nothing to do with kids.
People are just not having sex because someone got it into their heads that it is trendy. And you have media constantly saying that sex is bad and dangerous. Give me a break.
@@AB-80X i was responding to another comment and youtube turned my response into a whole new comment.
the only problem with that statement is the world was never safe for children! Humans have always been assholes its just now people can hear about it 24/7 (im not justifying it BTW)
I think the issue is more financial. The cost of living is nuts and people are less able to afford $100 dinners and $50 movie nights.
Then wouldn’t they get married so there’s 2 incomes 🤔
@@issahumps can't get married if you can't afford dates, let alone the wedding
Weddings dont have to be expensive. Vain people make them expensive for some impossible "perfect day" that never happens. My wife and I spent less than 4k on ours, and thats including food and everything. Rented a pavilion, got someone in our family to officiate the wedding and got our papers from the courthouse. My parents wedding was literally exchanging vows at the courthouse. @Nozizaki
I've had dates where I just invited the girl home and we ordered pizza, or we just went to a local coffee shop o/s. Getting to know people doesn't have to be expensive
Quite interesting, that the birth rate is lower in places, where people earn more...
speaking as a child of divorce and a terrible mother it has forever ruined any chance of me being in a normal relationship. i have hooked up on occasion but i have never dated a woman for more than 2-3 months. kids that grew up in the 90s who saw their mothers in particular break their dads in the court systems never want it to happen to them. i saw my dad at his lowest and promised that would never happen to me. i think that is the misconception where people only want to blame porn, alpha bro podcasts etc. it is from personal experiences of living through traumatic childhoods.
And it looks like many many kids go through this unfortunately, or know someone with how high the divorce rate is, with vvomen being the ones filling
Same experience. Also saw it happen to a lot of my friends. It leaves me viewing most of them as predators who can’t wait to get you to sign a contract they can use to destroy you.
@@theroguecybersoldier2629 yeah and you see women brag about wanting a millionaire. you could be married for 10yrs and she would drop you in a second for a better lifestyle. my mom did it and seeing what it did to my dad left scars that therapy cannot heal. i am fine being single and just waiting for the android revolution.
@@theroguecybersoldier2629 women love to blame porn/incel/andrew tate etc but they need to look in a mirror because no guy wants what the modern woman is. the kind of girl who dream of being a billionaire like a kardashian. guys dont all want 10s or some perfect girl we want a girl who is not on tik tok, maybe can play video games or some other fun hobby.
My husband and I have similiar but different hobbies, we both love gaming, but he'd rather play Satisfactory with a spreadsheet while id rather sit on the porch doodling and playing Animal Crossing, honestly with how solitary we can be sometimes its amazing we found each other lol.
OMG SAME!! same dynamic! he'll be playing minecraft and I'll be playing stardew just chilling in the same room lol
Yes and anyone who's been in a relatively healthy long term relationship knows that being able to spend some time apart doing your own things is just as important as spending time together because people will drive each other crazy if they can't have some of their own time to themselves.
This topic has been gaining traction for awhile now and if I can give some "insider” perspective as an older gen z or as some like to call a zillennial, I will. Something that comes back often when discussing this topic with my friends or people in my age range, is that we grew up being overexposed to sex. Depending on where you grew up, your dating life started on dating apps. Dating apps not only ruined dating but also how two generations (millennials and gen z) view searching for a partner. Online dating is like shopping, too fat, too boring, too much this or that. It devalues not just people but the act of finding love/company as well. Coming back to the overexposure to sexual content, that too demystifies sex unlike in previous generations where it was a lot more taboo and kept like an open secret. Lots of us started our sexual lives directly going through the "slut era". We did fuck a lot but for many of us younger women and men, casual sex has lost its charm. Couple that with the fact that lots of women who went through that phase now realize that they’ve had lots of sex sure but was it good sex? Not so much for many. Don’t quote me on this but I recall seeing a research graf showing how the orgasm gap between men and women hasn’t shrunk that much if at all. Women are getting fucked but not in the way they should be. I’m saying all of this as someone who went through the tinder hook up phase and realized it wasn’t for me. I wasn’t traumatized or anything, but the sex wasn’t all that great now that I think about it. I’ve felt more sexually satisfied now that I’ve been with a person I’m actually compatible(not just sexually but you get my point) with for nearly 8 years. And many of my fellow women and friends say the same or want the same thing. I think women and men are over hook up culture and want a bit more out of sex and relationships than previous generations maybe?
Now don’t take this as me preaching or advocating for a return to tradition or Puritanism. That would be like shooting myself in the foot as a bisexual gal.
Edit: as for video games. I’ve been gaming since 6 years old so that ain’t a problem. Same goes for friends and acquaintances in my age range so I guess it’s very much a North American problem.
My wife and I both love Stardew Valley, so I guess that's another stereotype reinforced.
Stardew Valley is for everyone!
I couldn't get into Stardew. Everyone and everything was so damn depressing.
I know why (the message/plot of the game) and understand why people would enjoy it (and respect their choice), but I couldn't get into it. Not enough escapism for me.
Some of the unhinged mods, like the one where you can put people's heads on sprinklers are pretty fun tho.
I hate how those blue checkmark women speak over all other women. I'm a woman and I play games, my spouse also plays games but he plays less than me. why does it HAVE to be a gender issue? it really has to just be bad experiences they've had and they're making blanket statements cause of it
but also holy shit if anyone spends money on a checkmark on twitter you just know they're gonna have the worst possible take lol
Also, let's consider the fact that the one to two day party to even DELIVER a child is astronomically expensive, even after insurance kicks in. No thanks.
There is too much drama, risk and expense involved in having modern day relationships. Our hyper stressful/hyper expensive society does not foster a way to have healthy relationships. Men know that all it takes to have his life destroyed and financial stability ruined forever is by simply having a spiteful woman who wants to punish you for whatever reason. And then social media is a CONSTANT, never-ending temptation to invite in “competition”.
Absolutely love how Buckley blocks out usernames and stuff, but makes sure to keep the blue checks visible. Even cherry-picking for the funniest posts to riff on, it's downright comical how many are from blue checks
They paid to either pretend they're important (since the blue check used to be for people of some notoriety, used to be a time that if you were followed or had a post liked by someone with a blue check, that meant you might see some actual reach out of it because they were an actual famous person) OR because Elon made Twitter "pay-to-be-seen", these people truly believe their opinions are so important they MUST be brought to the top of the pile. Imagine thinking this dreck was worth PAYING MONEY to be seen by people? And then it becomes even funnier when you see the view counts on some blue check posts, like they're still not getting anything out of it, because Elon doesn't limit how many blue checks there are, so it's like... an amusement park offering fast passes to everyone, everyone bought one, so everyone STILL ends up standing in line waiting.
1960 the Pill is introduced, birthrate NOSE DIVES.
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Personally speaking, I won't date a girl who doesn't have some nerdy tendencies. It's who I can relate to and am attracted to so I search those kinds of women out when I'm single. Some woman complaining about this doesn't bother me because they weren't my type anyways.
That is typically the healthy way to look at it too, I've seen a lot of nerdy guys who chase these "cheerleader" types or whatever, the women who were the popular girls in school and are still very attractive, and then get mad when they can't get them... you'd be miserable dating them anyway! You just want a trophy to show off, because you certainly wouldn't be doing anything else, nothing in common, they'd hate everything you do, you'd hate everything they do.
@@nsaspynetwork3196 that's always my thing--sure, some women find nerdy interests to be a turn off, but that just means they aren't a good match for you. There are so many people, of course some of the ones you'd be attracted to are also into the same stuff. I also prefer to seek out guys with some nerdy interests when I'm single, just makes it more fun
@@ADoseofBuckleythat was a coworker of mine and it would make me die every time because he looked like a foot
@@Vi_Vi_1What annoys me so much are the people who say stuff like “having a common interest/hobby isn’t a good basis for a relationship”, when every dating experience I’ve had seems to confirm it is SUPER important.
@@8bitdiedieI’ve always struggled with the idea of opposites attract. Yeah it may be nice to introduce somebody to something you like, or if you get your kinks being a soft boi with a dominatrix, but put a far left woman with a right wing man, let’s be honest, that relationship won’t last.
My boyfriend WISHES he was as good at CoD as me! Also the attractive list. Bullshit. Cooking is number 1. I am confident I can say that for all women lol
You are correct. Especially when it's connected to cleaning up afterwards.
Yeah I don't know why cooking wasn't #1, always seems to be the top one, "A man who can cook", OR maybe even more importantly, a man who will try new/interesting foods. I remember having more than one female friend who told me they wouldn't go on a second/third date with a guy because they ordered like... plain spaghetti with red sauce at an Italian restaurant, or who would complain there wasn't anything on the menu they liked at other places. That is a HUGE one for women.
1. People have no time for kids since they gotta work
2. The world is absolute trash rn, why would you want to bring a kid into that
3. People can't afford kids right now
The world is actually the best it’s ever been. So.
You missed the part about baby boomers I guess. They were all born a decade or so after one of the worst wars in human history and you think NOW the world is trash?
When was the world in a good shape? What year would you pick that makes you say "Yeah thats an amazing year to get a kid because I would be sure the next 20 years would be stable" And you cant use hindsight, put yourself in the shoes of a person of year X and think if that person knew he would have 20 years of stability to raise a kid with no economic or societal crisis hitting them.
People could afford kids in the dust bowl, and africa is full of them.
People in the Demoratic Republic of Congo and Chad also can't afford kids, work for 50 cents an hour in a miserable existence, but that doesn't stop them from bringing like 8 more kids per woman into that living nightmare. Low fertility is mostly a result of modern life(hence why the Amish have an extremely high birthrate)
Top unattractive trait for women: not liking video games
Right? I see a lot of women on dating apps who have shit hobbies too. Going to the bar to get hammered when you're 30 isn't attractive to me. Neither is watching Real Housewives ad nauseum.
Disliking metal is up there too 🤘
Or just hating our hobbies in general, meanwhile they go get drunk at the bar and right the CC
Someone needs to make a list of women's hobbies.
"Says some poor gnome". Great episode. I think video gaming is part of it, social media another and gross inequality is another part of it. It is getting so expensive to go out and do things, we have less capital to spend on the things that we want to do. Stress is also at an all-time high etc.
It couldn't have ANYTHING to do with: the housing crisis, inflation, violence, political infighting, and climate change.
All of those things are way better now than any other time in history save for the climate thing and housing
@@mmmmmmmm1942inflation is worse now
Maybe housing, but all of human history is one bloody tapestry of atrocities and misery, and our ancestors never had any trouble breeding.
@@alexwithadashofsaltThere are periods in history when inflation has been far worse, especially for particular countries. None of those things are the problem, the problem is people thinking those things are problems while spending hours a day mindlessly scrolling, watching tv or playing video games. Our brains don't have the ability to rest anymore, because we think those activities are restful, when they're not. That makes the feeling of all the above problems, significantly worse
@@rorybessell8280 that’s just not correct at all
Will check back in a few years on the Ozempic thing
It really is like a boys vs girls throwaway episode of a TV show. Like why? I've been saying that for years like if you show any kindness or decency to a woman, you're a simp...
Remember Mike Teevee from Charlie and The Chocolate Factory? He was addicted to videogames in the 2005 version, but Western movies on TV in 71.
I guess he would not have made a good husband. Also he died (I guess they all technically lived, right?)
I'm 29M, still a virgin, and I don't care.
I think a lot of people of my generation have learned that relationships and sex is not the most valuable thing that makes you an adult, and that there's nothing wrong with spending time alone
Depends what you mean by valuable. You're correct of course, but I highly doubt you or anyone else you know have actually discovered the things that are truly valuable. Because if you think it's the next hit of dopamine from a video game, or your career, that couldn't be further from the truth
As one of those none-sex havers, honestly, I'm not sure if I'm an outlier or if there's something more fundamentally wrong. In any case I can't quite figure it out. I should mention that I live in Europe, not the US, so unless this is a general modern or Western thing, my problem might be different. I should also mention that I am very much looking for a long-term relationship - no shame if you like one-night stands or more casual stuff, but I am very much looking for a partner, man or woman.
On paper, I should be doing everything right. Physically, I'm in good shape, tall enough, and take care of my appearance. Mentally, I'm educated, ambitious, responsible, moral and creative. Socially, I'm kind, funny, goofy and charming (according to how people seem to react to me, in any case). I spend a lot time with a lot of different things that interest me, I have a lovely circle of friends (men, women and other), do sports, play instruments, and other social stuff. I meet new people all the time and do new things regularly. (I also don't want to toot my own horn too much, but I feel an accurate assessment is more helpful than an overly humble one here.)
I've also asked a number of people on dates the past few years. We always parted on good terms - hell, some are still part of my friend group, which I'm thankful for; after all, a big part of why I asked them out was because I really like them as people - but I've never gotten a second date.
Honestly, I am a little frustrated, but mostly I'm just confused. If I knew what I was doing wrong I could take steps to fix it, as I have done many times before with other stuff in my life, but since I don't I just feel I'm floundering, locked out of the potential for romantic companionship for lacking practical knowledge that seems obvious enough to 80% of other people my age.
The most plausible answer is that the problem is that I am autistic. It makes it difficult for me to intuit what neurotypical people are thinking and feeling, and vice versa for them about me. So it might be that some way I am just prevent people from feeling that spark, you know? But that's not something I can fix - I can hide it, through masking, but that's exhausting - and aren't we supposed to be ourselves when dating so we'll connect with the _right_ people? Hiding who I am would at best lead to a shallow and short-lived relationship.
So really don't know if I'm doing something wrong, if I'm just unlucky (in being me or in meeting the right people), or if there's another or additional problem more fundamental to our modern society. After all, this is the first time we're like this, having achieved this level of technology and social structure. It would be really lucky if there were _no_ unintentional consequences we needed to address.
It's totally okay if this is too much or not really something you want to do, but especially if you are friends with those people who weren't interested in second dates, ASK THEM about it! Just tell them you're not mad or holding bad feelings about it, but you've noticed it as a pattern with multiple dates, not just the person you're asking, and you're wondering if you're going wrong somewhere. If most of your friends are neurotypical especially, this can lead to such valuable insight into how they think/what people like them might be looking for!
@@chelseahuddle557 You know, that's not a bad idea at all.
You will never have a family as an autistic male virgin. If you're in Europe go see a brothel/prostitute to get your sex game up. You need to go to the gym and buy expensive clothes if you want to make it in modern society. I highly recommend looking into the blackpill to understand modern dating games. Also it is not your fault don't blame yourself. Modern society is hell for young men.
I knew you were autistic before you said it. I am not, but I am neurodivergent as well and I have to say society is not made for us. Having a partner definitely relies on a lot more patience for us. More practice reading social cues or finding someone not taken aback by being asked if we get their meaning. No silly games. Overcoming social anxiety, etc.
I am demisexual also and it kind of sounds like you may be too. This means we need more intimacy to be intimate than other people and this by its nature means expecting X to happen by X age is ridiculous. I think genuine connection is worth the wait.
If you are loving and caring, someone is going to think you are worth the wait too.
My ex was autistic and despite his becoming abusive, (and even would say it was because he is autistic), there was a time seeing him smile waa like seeing the sun come out, and I walked through valleys for him and I feared no evil. Unfortunately for me, even into the abuse.
I did notice a huge part of the abuse was never trusting that anyone loved him and seeking some facsimile of it is all consuming (narcissism), which if I didn't unwaveringly adore him while being perfect I didn't do. Also it was always assumed I had an ulterior motive he just had to catch me in, because he did.
His mother was like a mother to me, and I can tell she loved him best she could because her parents were narcissists and he for whatever reason didn't have a way to feel it unless he felt useful. He shut down emotionally after being a tender child, and he won't express what he wants from her without being angry and cruel.
Stay safe out there. Putting me first and not walling off is a delicate dance I practice every day. I think realizing statistically your partner is most likely to harm you puts things into stark relief, still.
surely it has nothing to do with divorce courts having crappy laws that have scared men away from ever wanting to tie the knot, the ability to control when you have a kid rather than having an oopsie and not being able to do anything about it, or social media destroying peoples perceptions of reality and ability to socialize.
Surely it's video games that despite being around for over 50 years, magically became an issue by 2020.
Now this is just me, and well as a permanent resident of the 20%, I feel this just brings back the old "Date someone who has similar interests as you, or at least someone who enjoys things you don't mind." If someone in the relationship is constantly complaining about something then it probably isn't gonna work.
I haven’t lost my virginity because I never lose.
Every woman I know is taken and was long taken before I even knew them… yet most guys I know are single. 🤷🏻♂️
Here's why gaming is not a turn off to me
1. Mental dexterity is actually much more valuable now, a days then it used to be
2. It can actually create good snuggle time
3. Can be a very lucrative industry if you are in
Who has any sex drive left in this world....
Normal people who haven't driven their bodies to breaking point with dopamine hit after hit
Not rich here. Nor am I 6ft.
But man, I lift weights, read, learning new languages recently. Along with my old hobbies like video games and shows/movies and such.
It still got me nowhere.
I realize most (and good majority) of women don’t want to settle for mediocrity. They’ll instead always compare with each others. There’s always gonna be that 1 friend whose BF/Husband is a complete package. And checks mark all the lists. And the rest of their girl friends would try so hard to one up each others.
This is some new level Nietzschian/Darwinism going on these days.
great video as always Buckley, I wish the e-dating scene would have been mentioned too, in a way that also feels like a game, I'm not the most social person in the world, but I've had a lot more fun meeting random girls in public and having a nice chat, than when I was actively trying to seek a partner on some dating app, even if we had nothing in common with the stranger IRL, the personal connection can make it work, especially because there isnt 50 other people lined up for both of you who you can instantly jump to if the conversation drops off even for a second.
in 2021 I barely went to pound town either because covid was still blocking a lot of things. I wasn't going out, wasn't meeting new people, basically just sitting at my desk playing video games. 2024 is a way better year, not even counting the regular orgies..
most countries are having the same issues people just dont want to have kids anymore we have like enough humans already not a bad solution having less kids
i work a 9-5 job and i'm struggling to make ends meet solo. Yeah sure i play a lot of games but my biggest issue right now isn't that. Its that i don't get paid enough to sustain the needs of dating. Cause yeah, we'll split the restaurant bill but the way things are now i'm going to regret even spliting a bill when the bills come due. That has been my observation as a gamer at least. I would love to have the money to buy the clothes i want to show off some personal taste, to have money to go out for drinks or coffee hell, a good friend of mine had kids recently and i wanna have kids too. But i'm not gonna fuck myself over financially just for a shot at that. That's the world we live in. Or at least that's what i've observed
That's why the best first date is always a drink, not a full meal.
Cheaper and it weeds out the users
I'm ok with less births. Personally, I think there are too many people on this planet. And many young people get pregnant early before their brains can fully develop. I've seen it in the army, man. Wonen getting divorced because they regret getting married. Single folks have it way easier than married dudes who probably cannot even handle relationships yet, while also having 1 or 2 kids.
Yeah. No thanks. I appreciate my free time. The only kid I'm gladwho was born was Rizzler. His reviews on the boom meter are amazing
Women and boomers blaming "muh vidya games" is just a way to blameshift the consequences of their own actions onto something in the background. My sh*tty mother used to do so all the time
Guys who shit on girls who play cozy games like Stardew Valley and Animal Crossing do not understand the grind of cultivating and perfecting your own space in a creative and functional way. I always imagine they're like the people who buy a story-based RPG, get annoyed that there's so much story so they stop paying attention to it, then call it a bad game or too easy when they're done. OR The exact opposite, they call games like Dark Souls or Fear and Hunger "too hard," even though they are notoriously difficult. Like, that's the gimmick. YOU MISSED THE POINT OF THE GAME, DUDE.
Anyway this argument is stupid. I'd easily date a gamer guy, our interests intersect. But if he spent the whole time belittling my game choices and never spent any time doing anything else with me then yeah, that would suck. It helps to have more than one hobby you can share with a partner, your life really never should only revolve entirely around one thing. That's not healthy for you in general. And if you can't manage yourself even to that extent, why would someone else want to date you? They would feel like they're doing all the work in the relationship for you to not even be interested in them or anything else they wanna do with you.
As a "gamer guy" I prefer cozy games over shit like dark souls or whatever, which has never appealed to me. I love Stardew, Some of these dudes should try grinding to the most bottom level in the Mines and then get back to me 😂
@@nsaspynetwork3196 Yeah don't talk crap to me until you've at least completed the community center lol, it's literally like the FIRST big goal in SDV
@@TheFangirlOtaku my sister is a gamer and she's married to a gamer guy and while they play different style games, they still absolutely love sharing game fun together. People who can't appreciate a partner with slightly different interests are missing out! Lol
@@Vi_Vi_1 This is totally awesome! I'd enjoy a relationship like this, I'd just like us to do other things together too
@@TheFangirlOtaku yeah! They're really happy and nerdy together and their house is so fun lol. Full of Lego sets and collectibles. Nerd couples rock haha
I'm not opposed to dating gamers guys, just the ones that prioritize gaming over personal hygiene and helping maintain the household!
I'm involved in the local alternative scene, and I'm always surprised how few guys there are that know how to cook or clean house.
I think it’s very much a financial thing and social media. Most young people are working far harder than previous generations and have very little spare time and money to blow on dates and going out. Most of us are still living with our parents or just barely scraping by with bills. You combine that with the warped perception that social media gives everyone, and both sides view the “average” partner as below them. It’s really sad honestly.
Another factor is cost of living and inflation has outpaced paychecks where the average person can't afford anything never mind planting a seed to bring in another person.
I play video games, and I don’t care. I have my PhD and I make good money. I also have custody of my kids. And one is in college. So I’m pretty good. I’ll play some Wukong
Yes. But, also, your username makes me sad…😔
Agree with Buckley, but I think there is also the reason of most people just not wanting to have sex for the sake of it and average marriage age going up and marriage rates in general going down. Just a guess though tbh, but from personal experience of people who porked together and plopped out little thems, most of them didn't seem to enjoy it that much but it was just more of a concrete social expectation.
I think we all missed the forest before the trees it's capitalism forehead
Video games are more entertaining than finding a mate.
Finally, I feel included! 26 years and no trips to Pound Town
Go on a date and don’t be so shy and picky. Getting laid does not mean marriage or even a steady relationship.
Try and tell the one you go on a date with that you are interested in them sexually. Men and women want the same much more than you think.
Has people forgot that you could play video games, get laid ,and have a damn family at the same, maybe it’s just me, but what’s wrong with all that?
One of my friends: met his wife on Twitch chat, brought her to our town, provided for her, bought a bigger apartment to prepare and recently celebrated the birth of his son. All the while the dude was 100%ing damn near every game he touched and played CoD competitively while having over 10k hours across his games on steam.
Like, the guy is a pretty damn hardcore gamer and that never stopped him from being a responsible husband and an awesome friend. Considering how wide-spread gaming is nowadays it’s kinda shocking that some people didn’t catch on that you can absolutely lead a decently active lifestyle, work, be a family man and a gamer at the same time. In fact, most young people nowadays are like this, including women(because Sims 4, Stardew Valley and whatever the fuck it is that they’re playing on their phones nowadays absolutely counts as “gaming”)
Literally all of my friends do exactly this and I literally met my ex on FB and we played Among Us together before I came over her house a week later lol.
Reminder that instagram and tiktok are video games especially if youre an "influencer" staring at your view and follower count
They must as well be AI avatars with how fake they are
I don't really consider it an issue. The world is overpopulated as it is and with the way we're dropping bombs and killing the environment there won't be a world for future generations to live in soon enough. Doesn't help that just buying groceries is incredibly expensive, having a family costs way too much money and time.
Wow Buckley!
You really hate 12-year olds!
Well, based on what we've been seeing lately on TH-cam, I think that's probably a good thing. Better than the alternative, all these people we're finding out who seem to love 12 year olds (a little too much).
Really strange to assume it isn't by choice. I'm in this situation not because nobody is willing, but I got out of an abusive relationship at the beginning of the year, and I'm demisexual so no flings for me. Couldn't if I wanted to. Not having a relationship with someone kind of shuts the shop down for me and what I want has no instant powder.
Homie turned my goddamn sister against me he is so vile. I had to stand up to my own sister about what he said about me and she decided having integrity was too difficult.
Men are a little bit like Mr. Grinch right now. Well, at least the nightmares aren't so bad lately.
The men vs women thing, it's kind of like trying to trust fellow pirates. You do, you might come to regret it. And the thing is, men who mistreated women in the past didn't say they wanted women to be able to vote because they didn't and they were not hiding; if a man was kind to you, you could reasonably expect he meant it unless it revolved around your beauty or your spaghetti.
Maybe next year.
People spend every ounce of extra energy they have on scrolling and arguing online. There, solved it for you.
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BRAVO! That's exactly the problem with people nowadays!
I'm 31 no women been attracted to me so I'm good with relationships
First! …just like my ex told me over and over 😂
On the median income you will struggle to own a car, let alone a home. Going out and meeting people is expensive, makes you vulnerable, and demoralizing when you have repeated failures. It's not at all surprising that we're in the situation we are in now.
COST OF LIVING, PEOPLE BEING IN FINANCIAL DEBT, HEALTH ISSUES, NOT BEING ABLE TO AFFORD FOOD, GAS, RENT/MORTGAGE, ETC.
I feel like most of those issues can be resolved if people quit buying stiff put of their range and saved up more money
@@frogglen6350 The house I'm living in now was sold for $40k in 2013, it is now apparently worth ~$100k. Prices of essentials have increased anywhere from 10% to 100% over the last decade, especially during/after covid. Blame the banks buying up homes as a form of investment, or the companies who raised prices and never lowered them.
When the median income leaves you barely above water in large parts of the country, you know something is wrong.
I'm single at 41. Good luck dating!
A LOT of people used to meet their partners at work. These days, I wouldn't EVER consider flirting with a coworker or even giving them a simple compliment. One false allegation and your life is F'd.
I think a lot of it has to do with sex education. Each generation is becoming more understanding of their body as well as consent. I have a boomer parents that don't know the terms for female anatomy, don't know when a woman is most fertile, and didn't even know what it means to coerce someone. But now i have a nephew, who at 5 years old, already knew that women bleed once a month. Don't get me wrong, there's still a lack of education in many parts of the US but just saying, as a whole, we're learning and talking about it more. Hell I was finally diagnosed with endometriosis because my boss had it and said it sounded like i was experiencing similar symptoms. Now any time a girl tells me she has horrible periods, i ask if she has heard of endo.
This people are getting smarter.
I have a 20 year old girl and a 17 year old boy. They have both seen how fucked up this world is and would rather not have kids because of it. Before they knew anything about politics they saw just how bad single parents get treated in the Family Law courts and how expensive and stressful the courts make it just to spend time with your kids so they were against having kids long ago. Now they see how expensive and time consuming kids are. I blame the Government at all levels. The lawmakers, courts, attorneys, and even the church can all go fuck themselves. They need to take responsibility for people wanting to stay childless and maybe actually make the system more tolerable for parents....or deal with the lower number of new births. IDK...I'm not sure why less births are even a problem. Tax everyone at the same rate and we wouldn't need a bunch of new kids to keep the world funded.
brb gonna get in on blacksmithing before it goes mainstream
Why are we all so worried about what other people do in the bedroom, again. Sounds like we're all just too nosy and not worrying enough about our own lives.
0:29 It’s pronounced “Why-ner” lol. I… know “someone” with that last name. (Doesn’t matter who)
As an obese gamer, gaming has never been an obstacle in dating for me. In fact most of the women I've been with were either also gamers, or were happy to join in and try it. The "graph" is definitely bullshit and not representative of the population.
There's so many factors as to why so many, myself included, aren't having kids yet. Most of us can barely make rent, we're overworked and paternity leave barely exists in most countries. Contraception is much more affordable and accessible than before, which has significantly reduced unwanted pregnancy, which was a huge percentage of the birth rate before now.
Anyone trying to minimise it to "men are gamers who aren't getting laid, that's why the birth rate is down" are being either deliberately dishonest, or are easily manipulated by fake studies.
Say that in the developed world, in the developing world sex is still very much alive and well, maybe too well. I don't have a problem finding women, just be a good proper person and not a weirdo. It's really not very complicated, unless you're a weirdo.
I’d argue it has more to do with the death of third spaces, actually. “Going to meet people IRL” has become harder and harder. I feel like I got the last helicopter out of Vietnam when I listen to some of my still-single friends.
Ironically, though, I love reading, met my wife via playing an instrument (I’m a pianist and she’s a singer), and the main way we spend time together is… playing video games.
Me personally, would say that if my hobbies make you vomit (I play video games), then you need to do something that will either make me spending time with you worth it, or you can find someone else who doesn't play video games period. My happiness isn't yours to crush.💯