Estranged Father Meets Long-Lost Daughter | Real Families
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Wow the first story. So sad that stubborness can get so intense.
My mom is Dutch. The closest thing to a "hug" my Opa ever showed was to grab our arms. I'm not saying it is the norm, but it doesn't surprise me.
@@sharlawilliamson9609 Lol I was thinking the same Dutch people are tough, stubborn and stoic and not very outwardly affectionate in the usual way ( at least in my experience of the Dutch )
My daddy that I adored hugged me and kisses me all my life and verbalizes to me his love.. thank God I know how my daddy feels about me and about me..!! Sad for kids who never heard and felt love from their mom n dads..
I’m Dutch and can confirm. It’s not as bad as the family in the first story, yet we express our love in ‘different’ ways. We just don’t like to talk about it.
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When she opened the door & the father & brothers performed the haka, I lost it! OMG! That was beautiful. What a welcome.
Soon as her father and brothers started preforming for her I got the chills like I have never experienced before and honestly it brought me to tears. How incredibly powerful and beautiful. I seriously love their culture and hope they always keep it alive.
It showed acceptance which is what each side wanted... I hope thileir relationships continues to grow and she can forgive her mother despite what information she was provided
Same
I don't know what this is ...........I am Caribbean black but everytime I see a Haka something old inside of me awakens I cry like a little kid, I have no idea what is being said but it speaks to me..Thank you Maori ppls, thank you New Zealand!
Same here u feel somehow connected to it
It's true, same!
@@raerae7463 really, ok so now I know I am not mad..
I thought the same thing. I feel like our identity heritage and history has been stolen etc. We long for that identity like what type of names would we ehave had, culture traditions like we don't have our blueprint
The Dutch father Kees had a painful childhood full of abandonment - it explains alot...poor guy. His daughter is as cold as he probably used to be. Old age makes ppl usually have regrets...
Redwolf Pearl, exactly. That’s what I was thinking and he came home and caught his wife cheating on him in his house. I’m sure that reinforced (in his mind) that he can trust no one.
It is interesting to see all the responses to the first story. And that no one seems to see the damage of WW2. Kees was Jewish, homeless and without parents at 7 years old in occupied Amsterdam. He must have lost trust in others. His father deserted the family - perhaps unwillingly. He hadn’t seen his sister in 70 years and his daughter in 40. He seems like a profoundly damaged man.
You're right. I get his behaviour so much better now, knowing what happened to him. People don't realise what an impact such early trauma can have on people and their relationships. I also think many comments could've been written during the first 10 minutes when we didn't know about his WWII past.
Thank you for saying this, his experiences are the reason for his personality.
If he had no family already, all the more reason for him to be the adult in the situation and keep in touch with the child he helped bring into the world.
@@rebudgets Rationally you are completely correct. But damaged people (actually people generally) are not particularly rational. It sounds like he was very very difficult and when people left him it proved to him no one was trustworthy.
Yes I agree he's old and also her daughter .she should have be more understanding because the life of his father is very difficult since his young age .I hope that the daughter will be more understanding besides hes got only a few years to live coz he's old
He showed such emotion upon learning that his daughter had been found. So it was so sad that they didn’t form a father/daughter relationship. He had a damaged childhood & she had one too. She was also deeply traumatized by her past.
Van den BOSCH, Kees. Passed away peacefully on 27 July 2017, aged 82. Loving husband of Shirley. Father of Caroline. Step-father of Debbie, Jenni and Andrew. Loving Opa of Monique, Marguerite, Rebekah, Katie, Holly, Sarah, Matthew and Melanie. Sincere thanks to all the staff of Bethesda Care for the kindness and care given him over the last few months.
Thank you for positive. He wrote a book.
Hi is true that Van den Bosch died. I'm from Zimbabwe
when he started crying i had tears running down my face so beautiful to them reunited together
my dad passed away when i was 15 im now 24 and i would do anything to have him here with me and to meet his grandchildren im so happy for them
I love that moment when the Haka has ended and father and daughter are just looking at each other (30:01) - the father's face is just so full of wonder and happiness. Amazing moment.
Yes and when they embrace, the quiet.
The Haka is so powerful. Its like listening to Native drums to me. It hits you right in the feels, the soul.
I don't understand the words, but can sure feel it..
Beautiful story. The haka upon seeing his long lost daughter was powerfully emotional. Much Love to, and high respect to the Maori culture.
I got chills when they danced for her....
Me too, I have always enjoyed haka
I've never been to New Zealand and don't know a lot about Maori culture but ever since I first saw a Haka, they always make me tear up, I don't know why. They just seem so powerful
I love Gary, I love the welcoming to his daughter.
29:16 the haka me bawling. And when the dad whispered Kia Ora to her, it was so heartwarming, no? They do look so much alike! Glad they found each other.
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So uplifting had me bawling too.
I almost cried too and I never cry.I got tears in my eyes.
And now her son has a large family to be with no matter what happens to his mom! What an immense gift. I hope she is doing well and they get to be together often.
Me too! So emotional!
I enjoyed all the stories but the dance from her family and the way he looked at her when they was done....man!!!!
I'm totally hooked on these videos. I found my birth father when I was 57-changed my life. We felt as if we'd know each other forever.
Omfg I lost it when she opened the door. How incredibly beautiful to welcome her like that ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Right?! Talk about an ice breaker! No doubt she felt immediately Welcomed into the arms of dad and brothers. So Beautiful.❤🤗🙏🏻
First of all I would like to praise and congratulate Mr David Lomas for his show. The story of Reihana makes me cry all the time so so touching I wish her dad was my brother. So so glad you found your family Reihana.
The last one... that was THEE MOST INTENSE WELCOME I have ever witnessed. The love and connection in that room was overwhelmingly poignant. I felt that in the deepest part of my souls.
Oh my what a Maori greeting
Beautiful
Heart wrenching.......I could feel the genuine warm love
Was balling my eyes out at the second reunion. So beautiful 🏴
I love how new Zealanders are always so chilled out. Just "Awesome! Wow!"
The second and third stories are both so rewarding and endearing, and to watch how important it is for the children to look like their fathers, and sound like them, and share interests.
Thank you - Glad you enjoyed it :)
Wow, that welcoming chant from the second father and family welcoming her in true cultural fashion gave me goosebumps.
Reihana and her Dad - so beautiful! Even without knowing that she was interested in exploring her Maori culture, her father and brothers had prepared a haka for her. I think they will maintain their relationship now. The first story goes to show what happens when both sides refuse to budge - a lot of time wasted. Jim and Anthony's reunion was beautiful - I think they will be together for a long time to come.
Jeff*
Every time I watch this channel it makes me cry, it is so beautiful to hear all these stories. Life deals many different hands and we somehow fulfill our own destinies. Love goes a long way.
My father was half dutch. Seeing Kees and his daughter explains a lot.
oh my god the welcome that the maori woman got , i know the significance and i cried with her , her father he welcomed his daughter as a maori , this is how they do and i was so happy for her , it meant the were glad she was home , its a welcome home Haka for family , i seen a none maori family being welcomed by their future in laws this way and that was just as moving
i was surprised the last one the father married a maori woman , so clearly since he stuck around for those kids , he really did want to be there for his son , just was never given the choice , same with the maori woman , do not want to spell her name wrong so not trying to write it , i do not understand how maori spell
Bless you sir.... You're doing a wonderful miracle.to these families...separated by circumstances, you're great.
Both of these stories have helped give me a different perspective and in some ways has healed me a bit. Thanks for sharing
I'm an African and also I have great respect for culture and tradition and so when I saw the Haka I felt it more than anything. With love from South Africa
that Haka is to welcome family home , it was so moving , different races are just so interesting , i am part mexican native american , that means part african too , i am what my native family call a Mandala a collections of all the siblings of this planet because we are all family no matter what shade we come out , my children their father is Nigerian , my native family a lot of them have mixed race children , well i suppose we are mixed race hahahahaha , but you know what i mean , i had 6 kids but strangly only 2 married africans so i have 4 look like me and 5 look pure african , its very strange to see peoples reactions to the colour difference , like a brown labrodore is not as much a labrodore as a golden , colour is just our creators joy , we turned it into a weapon and its so stupid
I have respect for everyone I don't see someone's skin color as a problem cause at the end of the day where all human we all bleed the same so I hate when people judge someone by the color of there skin or where they come from..
Obed I'm South African too, heya!
Hi Im South Africa Toooo and I just love watching these shows and Culture is my Thing like Obed he is my African Brother i just need to look at his name Nicky can be my White or Coloured Sister I am What you call Colored and too many that sounds Derogatory but we proud to be Coloured a Mix of so many Nations going way back to the Slaves that came to Africa Mixing Mingling and getting Funcky with our Indigenous Forefathers called the Koi and San People Culture and Family and respect is our strong hold irrespective of the colour
I was most happy to see Anthony found a man who will allow him to call him Daddy. Wish they would have shown the wedding with ALL of his family there.
I love this show but i can never make it through an entire episode without tearing up.
Sarah Gray - I just blame it on the onions I was slicing before the show!
I believe the creators of the show fashioned it to elicit an emotional response. It is part of mind control and makes you want to watch it again because as humans an emotional release gives a chemical pleasure.
@@gwens5093 or it can be because there are a lot of people that grew up without their parents and wish for a happy ending in finding them?
Me too I'm crying right now 😭
You are not alone, all of these type of shows, leaves me a sobbing mess !
I'm so mad at this show for making me cry... but I can't wait to see the next episodes.
That was the BEST! Welcome from her Father and brothers ❤️❤️❤️
I am crying like a baby I love the way her brother's and dad welcome her
Beautiful True Stories. Thank you David for your kindness in reconciling long lost families.
God Bless y'all.
Lol, best father, daughter meeting ever! I had to laugh out loud. What a great way to meet. Great guy! Perhaps the first guy and his daughter could have taken some lessons (and tats!).
So touching of a father
Who has been longing to meet her daughter in real ❤️
The heart will never let you forget the ones you left behind.
That was the sweetest greeting I’ve ever seen in my life ,when she opened that door Maori people are amazing 🤩❤️
Māori culture is so beautiful. I felt the love when they danced for her. 😭
I watch a lot of reunions but Reihan's Maori reception was 💯
Agree 100%
That haka dance...so emotional.. a father welcome dance for his daughter!,
Watching these episodes makes me believe that we really do choose our parents. ❤️
This man is like my father tough and unexpressive of their love but inside they do care.
Why a mother would stay and have children with a man who did not accept her child is beyond me.
First story- feel a bit sorry for the old man. He was clearly mentally scarred from the war and couldn't get past that to allow him to have good relationships with loved ones
Just started the 3rd story and it makes me sad that the stepfather did not allow Anthony to call him Dad. How weird that must have felt growing up.
Yeah. I don’t understand him doing that. 😢
Very odd.
I think I'm more upset about that than Anthony 😅
As a step parent this seems like the cruelest thing you could do to a child without hitting them. What and evil man.
Yes, that's a cruel thing to do. Despite that he says his step dad was good.
Farmers can be cruel people, I learned. Sad. And stubborn. 😔
Now that's 2 hardheaded ppl!!! And the daughter is the one with a COLD HEART..
This is a great show with a great host. From Canada
I got really touched with the last story ...
how could a man so cold to this guy.... how heartless..!!
My dad died in 1996. This makes me miss him more..Kenneth L. PATTON RIP
The first family made me uncomfortable. The old man and his daughter are stubborn and they sacrificed years not to communicate cause of their pride. The man didn't have any communication with his sister for more than 60 years. The ex wife (tina) has a sister that confidently believe that she's dead, it doesn't make any sense, you just believe your sister is dead while she actually is very alive? How? I mean what kind of family is this? They're all so distant from each other
It's not uncommon here in the Netherlands, we're quite an individualistic country. And you'll most likely also find plenty of estranged families in other countries.
True 😂😂😂😂😂
Sounds exactly like my family. Only they all get together and keep in touch....just not with me 😅
Been running after them for 40 years. 2 years ago I stopped.
It's a waste of time.
Concentrate life energy on those that love you, and accept you for who you are. That's not always family.
Some families just are. Ours too. It goes deep into the past. Some people cant forget nor forgive. Thats so sad. We are here just a few winters, as native americans say.
It's a damaged family ....... super sad
When I watch the two countries Zealand and Australia with the ingenious ppls it’s amazing to watch how Zealand practice their cultures and heritage it’s amazing that carry on the traditional in the generations blessing one love ❤️. Yes it’s incredible when he welcomed his daughter with tribal performers
She really looks old for 57 yrs old she could pass for 60s her father looks better than her at his age
I'll tell you, if you want a good cry, watch these shows. Absolutely fantastic.
How sad that his step dad wouldn't permit the child he had raised since infancy to call him "Dad."
some people hey ? it is sad , but he did all the father things and maybe a rose by anyother name ... at least in his manner to him he was a father even if he did not let him call him dad , i do not know if he is maori too , maybe its part of their coulture a step dad is not called dad , i do not know enough tbh , its a long way from uk learning here about Maori has to be a choice and takes work , i am part native american , in that coulture we are taught we are all related , so i try to learn about all at least a bit
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Even though he wasn’t his. Yeah too bad but it was true. Breaks your ♥️
It is totally off in my opinion. Adopted and foster children call the people who are raising them mom and dad or some similar variation for the most part.
I had never heard of the Māori tribe. I think 🤔 I’ve been living under a rock 😂😂😂Interesting show Lost and Found. I cry most of the time. Only at the show though. Rarely cry
Anthony deserves a better step father. As a mother its all or nothing. If my children can't call you dad then your not the one!
That's the first thing I was thinking. I was raised by a step dad and always called him dad. He stepped up and earned it. When I met my wife she had a son and although he knew his father he called me dad and later in life told me I was his dad and the other guy was just his biological father.
Best program ever!🙏🏼👍🏽
Oh my goodness each story has made me cry! Beautiful!
That old man is so sad. I wouldn't want my dad to leave me alone but I don't know the circumstances. I didn't think I'd ever want nothing to do with my twin but here I am..there's just some things that can cause a person to never look at someone the same again
I wonder what the dad did that his daughter ended up severely regretting the reunion and telling him to leave them alone. Since he’d stayed on in Holland rather than returning home to New Zealand, maybe his motive for finding her was more along the lines of wanting to be taken care of until his death.
Now I want to know too.
Mhhh not sure he was already living in a senior residence. It’s more likely that he was to proud to admit that he said he closed the door while that acknowledgement seemed very important to his daughter.
His first response on seeing his daughter after 40 years 13:52 "Oh she's grey". It didn't bode well for a happy ever after. It was a shame he seemed to be expecting the blonde teenager he had last seen her as and for the years to roll away. That's what stubbornness does to people.
I thought he was shocked that she was gray compared to his photo. So his surprised popped out. He was shocked he's waited so long she was grown and gray. Not sure after hearing here last statements--I wonder what the heck happened for her to tell him leave them alone.
@@cyl742 he probably couldn't leave what her mother did to him and her remembering of what he said alone. They had 40 something years of pent up animosity towards the actions of the past.
Why is it surprising to you that the father would be taken a bit back to see his daughter grey. When he thinks of her of course he sees her as she was when he last saw her. He had never seen her in 40 years and never with grey hair. In my minds eye I see people as I last saw them. I think of my classmates as they were in school.
They are exactly the same kind of person. Tough personalities.
Well look at the response his daughter made when she saw him in his video.. he really is an old man and laughed. Chip off the ol block, I'd say.
The first story was so so sad.. sad to know that that poor man will go to his grave not actually feeling rested. very sad.
love this series. thx for uploading (:
KEES VAN DEN BOSCH OBITUARY
van den BOSCH, Kees. Passed away peacefully on 27 July 2017, aged 82. Loving husband of Shirley. Father of Caroline. Step-father of Debbie, Jenni and Andrew. Loving Opa of Monique, Marguerite, Rebekah, Katie, Holly, Sarah, Matthew and Melanie. Sincere thanks to all the staff of Bethesda Care for the kindness and care given him over the last few months. A service for Kees will be held at the Chapel of the Good Shepherd, 42 Herd Road, Hillsborough on Monday 31 July at 1.30 pm.
Embracing culture... love that.. Big ups to the father and sons.
The Haka really broke me up in bits , Gary is a lovely lovely man
In the first story about Kees and Carolina, I have my doubts about what Carolina heard from her father at age 16, I think Kees was angry that Tina was moving out/on with their daughter, the daughter seemed very angry and cold when told her dad was looking for her, first he was told Tina was dead then we find out she's alive, something must have been said to Tina from Kees about leaving him, so their daughter is caught in the middle, there's so much we don't know, the daughter was very bitter and full of hatred, she wanted to blame her father for everything, which as humans we tend to believe that it's never our fault, however, no matter how thin a pancake is there's always two sides to it, human pride keeps us from admitting our fault, no matter how small it is.
The daughter would not even consider that HER memory was not accurate. When I was younger I met some Jewish immigrants that were concentration camp survivors. Sometimes, they would just stop and retreat into their heads a bit, reliving images that no one else could see and that they would not wish on anyone. Also had some dads that fought in WWII and Korea leading our Scout troop. That generation lived through experiences their children cannot fathom. Surviving each day was an accomplishment.
There are two sides to every pancake, but in real life, sometimes one side is right and the other is wrong. He should have reached out and apologized.
@@timclaus8313 What does that have to do with her memory supposedly being wrong???..
When he broke down I lost it awh 😥
The best reunion I have seen
Dad is supposed to be the grownup and responsible for his relationship with his daughter.
some people are just cold , those two have no ability to be empathic , both are as bad as the other
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@@jitaamesuluma9730 "both are as bad"?? He was a Jewish street boy in occupied Amsterdam at 7-years-old. Of course, he has trouble with his emotions. He had to be tough to survive under such conditions. And of course, the daughter will have emotional issues as well, being raised by such a damaged man, and having felt so rejected for 40 years. You don't display empathy either.
It takes two to form a relationship and two to maintain it. I feel a little bit of forgiveness on both sides Could have made a great deal of difference. They are so alike neither of them were able to give way. I do feel for the old chap.
I missed why the daughter didn’t want to connect any longer. Anyone know? They reconnected and then she wished she’d closed the door? She told him to stop calling.
Absolutely beautiful reception of family
So sad that the first story ended up so miles apart. Well at least they did meet. Wish I has been able to meet mine but it was too late.
I hope you are doing okay. I know that must not be easy. 🙏🏾🌈
Anthony's step father is a disgusting excuse of a human being. It is beyond me how he could raise a child as his own, but not allow him to call him dad. My step son is 12yrs old, and only just become a part of our family after 10yrs due to his mothers choices. But you can bet your bottom dollar if he ever wants to call me mum I will allow it. He may not be my blood, but he is my son through and through.
Courtney, you are an amazing mother!! I hope your son knows how deeply your love is for him!!
That 57 yold daughter dont know how to love his father Imagine he is 80 yold and crying for her love and even he is bad father at least he is looking to her .hope she appreciated that and be grateful he remember her
I sob like a baby every time I see the Haka, I love it so much, that was so beautiful.
My heart swells for them!
If he's still alive, I hope he writes his stories! Hes lived in an era that is very different.
I feel sorry for emotionally crippled people like that first old man. He was waiting for her to come back but never told her she was wanted... How utterly stupid.
What a terrible childhood he had... Damaged people cause yet more damage.
Not stupid, tragic.
Sooooooo Beautiful - Makes me cry
Yass! We love full episodes
The first story both will die sad and lonely through the stubborn gene their bodies are enriched with so very sad but at least both got a glimpse of real happiness 😊,,,, the 2nd story my favourite how amazing the love shown from this man's heart for his child powerful love at its finest ,,,, the 3rd story how proud both these beautiful human beings are to show their love for each other and the 2 mums aswell absolutely beautiful ,,,, may hod bless all of yous xx
How can you let 40 years go by and not even look back 😣
Unless you have been in that situation you will never know
When two people are as stubborn as each other the time passes very quickly.
You don't know what the childhood was like easy for you to say looking outside and into their lives you only seen what the show allows you to know. He could have been abusive in some way other than just a missing family member.
Gary - 8 children living in all diff parts of NZ. Man got around lol.
Obviously the daughter was looking for something specific out of her stubborn old Dad her being equally as stubborn. She could be at fault for the breakdown of their reunion too.
When words said n pride sets in
I am excited to see you in all your videos big man. . All are super duper
The first story, the dad, he’s got some major issue from his tragic childhood. Regardless, so unfair to Carolina. She had every right to just walk away from this outreach. Sad.
I love this stories and I cry with them
I love this show and this time you even visited the city I was born and raised in. Luckily both my parents where only 4 when WW2 ended in The Netherlands, so they where not that traumatized as Kees was.
Our country is not called Holland it is called The Netherlands. We have 2 provinces called North and South Holland. Amsterdam is indeed in the province North Holland, but Almere is in the province Flevoland.
Reahana meeting her dad made me cry
The second story, an incredible culture!!
Who was shocked when he showed up covered in tats? Beautiful tats, but just wow!
Very shocked too, but everything turned out beautiful. 😂
WOW is right!
Kees is a typical engineer. Overly logical and stubbornly principled, with inability to express emotion.
My son is an engineer and very loving and fun but yes they do want to be right. Lol . I kind of bothers me that they are trying to give excuses for him abandoning his daughter. There is no excuse.
On my bucket list is to one day visit New Zealand and it’s beautiful culture
57 and retired. The Netherlands is great.
If I were greeted with a haka, I would also burst into tears of joy. Not a Maori or Kiwi, just think it's incredibly awesome!
The emotional awareness of the Maori compared to the European is miles ahead.
They are great people
Maori like aboriginals are very wise
if that's true why has he had EIGHT children all over NZ?? How could he be a decent father to any of them?