1) He is not a woman 2) He is under a lot of pressure. More than you will know. 3) He doesn’t want to “deal”with the woman when he gets home. He needs to decompress. 4) He doesn’t need another mother. He needs a helper. 5) He needs to be honored and respected. Acknowledged. 💎💎💎💎💎
Amen I don't want to be contentious with my husband because he has to go out in the world and navigate especially a black man to provide for me so it's important that we do just this
@yemi6184 if that woman agreed with the man before she married or even after his leader which is God will show him how to lighten her role that keeps her covered and supported in every way some men stay home and take care of the children because her skills set makes the most money but that man is not to be devalued in that setup he is still the head
😂I think you put up the 5 bullet point summary on the women's side of this. Thanks. I move quickly and before I had time to sit and dive deeper, this helps. **edit, no it was someone else, but thanks still applies.**
Some gems were dropped. My advice is to Ask God to make u a better wife and He will. If ur husband is getting on ur nerves, ask God to work on u. Not him. Through all my years of marriage one revelations I’ve gotten is if I do right in my marriage, God will honor me. Even if u have a husband who is not doing right. U continue to be the wife God called u to be and watch Him bless u.
@@jenniferwhite1516 Learning to forgive your husband is a great step towards being the way God wants you to be. Holding on to the wrong of what others do to you, will only cause you to be bitterness. Bitterness is sin. Jesus forgave us when we didn’t deserve forgiveness, choose to forgive those who have wronged you. And ask the Lord to heal and strength your mind and spirit to fulfill the Will that He has sent forth for you to do. I’ve held on to bitterness for years toward my mother for what she has done. I decided to give it to Jesus and ever since, I’ve been free from bondage and can’t care less about what others say. Because I know what Jesus says about me. ❤
I apologized after 6 years of being divorced to my ex . It was a relief and lifted a burden. The marriage did not end because of one person. Pride and ego and not forgiving can burden us … ❤
Yes, I'm in the same position. My ex hunsband and I both realised how much we did not understand each other. I have learned so much, I'm now in Christ, I know now my role as a women for his kingdom. In jesus name. Amen ❤
Amen I'm with you once I learned from a damaged man that nothing I did he couldn't trust me so I prayed to God and seeing you say this I agree I damaged my ex-husband
21 years married - hubby and I have had NO pre counselling cause our foundation is the same. God is the head of our marriage- and because of that I e going strong. It ain’t perfect but I can’t imagine being with anyone else and he always let me know how much he loves and appreciate me. Counselling is a good thing, but not everyone needs it 😊
A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears it down. Women will not submit to her husband if he does not work and provides for her family. Thanks for sharing.
Praise God, I'm hoping and praying for you, I hope that your life has become wonderful as you have grown in your walk with the Lord. God bless your marriage ❤️
It's just hit me that God intended for me to come across your channel. When you said you pray and ask God to let the right persons watch your videos, I see this as a sign to an answered prayer. I'm watching and learning what I need to work on in my life. Thank you Pastors 🙏
Purposely passing gas and not picking up after ourselves in front of anyone is inappropriate regardless of our gender. It’s more about living more like CHRIST by being more considerate of each other as CHRIST is considerate of us even though He created us.
As a man I agree. I think farting around others is gross and inconsiderate and leaving things everywhere is inconsiderate as well. However I do think there is room for understanding from both men and women. My wife understands that messiness does not give me anxiety the same way it gives her anxiety. So I try to help keep our home clean to absolve her anxieties and she doesn’t get mad at me if I happen to leave a few things out.
I learned something today. There’s a difference between how boys versus men communicate to their women. I also learned how femininity plays a role in how we treat our men.
Wow this was an amazing conversation, I really didn’t want it to end. As a 23 yr old engaged woman this gave me a lot to think about in terms of how to ensure that my man feels valued, respected , and honored and being able to set the tone of the atmosphere of the home. Thank you for this wisdom🙌🏾✨
Before now, Iv'e never been into podcasts, BUT, I've been addicted to you guys since Wednesday 10/12/23 of this week. Thank you lovely people. I'm a Single woman using my single season to prepare for my Boaz.
I percieve rhat the Holy spirit is preparing me now for marriage...i had fear and anxiety about marriage before i came across this channel and was praying to get a marriage coach and here i found one.. Thank you Lord. .
Girl I had to stop this video to respond on your comment I am in the same season as you and I must say it is not what I had imagined being an way what I am struggling with now is that I feel like I am not ready and I feel like I am still to broken to have someone close to me like that and also I don't want to break any one else around me I did take those fear or these struggles to the the lord just letting him know how I really feel so I get you sis honestly I do 🇿🇦
A man doesn’t need another mother. Some men need to hear that because that’s what he is expecting from his wife. Would love to hear this from the dynamic of today where most woman are working and some cases the bread winner
❤ God is LITTERLY speaking to me. He always been there.. He loves me soo much. God sees my heart, God knows my prayers, God opens my eyes! God is indescribable AMAZING!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
This next level communication. I’ve been married for 8 years and I can honestly say ive have a long way to go with understanding. Thank y’all for the vulnerability and transparency 🙏.
I wish I had this wisdom earlier in my marriage. I have been with my husband for almost 40 years but am seeing so many mistakes that I have made. Keep bringing these messages and pray for me that I will make the changes that I need to see my marriage flourish. In the name of Jesus. Amen ❤🙏🏽
God was in the garden and he said Adam where are you. God holds men accountable. satan wants to destroy men, couples, family which leads to messed up young’s and everybody is jacked up. Thanking God mom and dad raise 4 boys in Brooklyn in an AG church. Thanks to the church community and parents bring up productive save and sanctified work in progress. Good work guys 👍🏻
I just love you both so much! I’m a single mom of 2 girls and trying to become the wife God has called me to be to the husband I know he has created me for. Tabitha, talk about a Proverbs 31 woman! You remind me so much of my mom and how submissive and supportive she is to my dad. I pray I carry that same anointing and that God will use me as a strategic helpmate for my future husband and for His kingdom. God bless your beautiful marriage and family. Love y’all 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️
Single mommy of 1 girl here! I am praying for us! I’ve followed this couple recently in hopes of learning to do better! Candice God is going to lead us to our kingdom marriages on His perfect timing
I watched one episode and now I cannot stop but binge watching. I am fasting in social media, worldly songs even worldy books. And I am listening to podcast and watching this is life chaging.❤❤
This is my first time listening to you guys, but can I tell you I enjoyed your wisdom. As a divorced woman of many years I desire to marry again and be the best wife I can the second time around!! Thank you so much for sharing and doing it in such a beautiful way❤️🙌🏾🙏🏽.... Many more Blessings to you both!!!
I had the opportunity to meet Pastor Tabatha this past weekend. She’s such a sweet soul! Prayerfully, marriage isn’t that far down the road for me, and this episode helped me so much! Thank you Pastor Ken & Pastor Tabatha!🤍
I love the content in your videos. One thing that I'd like to add is that "It takes 2 to make a thing go right." Either partner can give their ALL in making a relationship/marriage successful, HOWEVER, if only one is doing the work, it's doomed to fail. That's reality. Or, you stay... just because, and there's no peace, joy, or success in that. KEEP IT COMING....WE'RE LEARNING AND GROWING ❤
@ 10:56 I took a pause to get myself together. I did not know what is was like to have a dad growing up, mine was in prison. We were introduced at the age of 13. My dad was released when I was 18. It was the best day and year of my life!!! Then, what happened broke my heart into a million pieces….the cops killed my daddy. They shattered my dreams. I am 56 , 10:5910:59 and I miss him so much. I am grateful that God is my Heavenly Father. Thank you for giving me the language of how to express what I was missing. ❤❤😢❤❤
I literally almost burst into tears when you were talking about having the children respect the father, his face and just his presence. It brought up what was happening in my home with my husband, as my children were coming up. And I am calling my husband to apologize for the way that I handled him and those situations.I dealt with everything through hurt and not through the word.
2 days ago I made a statement and the Holyghost rebuked me immediately. I have never been one to watch or listen to marriage anything but ooohh the Holyghost sent my behind to TH-cam and I have learnt a lot in the last 24 hours and the devil has fled away because I now have the knowledge on how to be that helper to my husband and how he can support me. ❤❤❤❤
So very refreshing to see a Godly couple that can give inspiration of insight in a Godly covenant relationship/marriage(s). Blessings 💕💖💖💖💖💖 So much relevance spoken.
Yesterday the holy spirit told me that I need to unlearn and relearn what love is about. And he told me to spend days learning what God says about love and true companion. And I got this video. This was after I complained about my failed relationship😅
WoW ❤ My first time here, praying GOD prepares me like this as I also prepare for the godly man HE has for me. This was very transparent, transformative & beautiful
A lot of this makes sense but I struggle to relate to it as a woman who works full time and long hours. There’s so much reference to the man “coming home after a long day’s work”. What happens if it’s the woman coming home after a hard day’s work? I’m glad the model you both have works well for you, but there’s a whole host of people this would never work for in today’s world. Also @Ken, I hope there’s also a “Tabatha day”. Wishing you both the best.
The value of this practical, down-to-earth conversation is immeasurable! 💪🏼💪🏼 Thank you for a tool that can be used by couples who sincerely desire to do marriage well. I believe that the couple who listens to this open and honest dialogue together can use it to jumpstart their own conversation customized for their marriage where they can be “naked and not ashamed” (Genesis 2:25). ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
So glad I found this channel. I first watched 10 ways to prepare yourself for marriage. Thank you for this channel in general🙏🏾 and letting God use you two
Amen! This is such a Blessing to hear you guys talking about marriage. I really want to get married because we really do need each other. Its Gods plan for us..
I didnt know why i kept on watching watching your videos for the past 6-8 hours not until i came to realize you were a Pastor. Surely you have been called to redefine marriage and Christian relationships and may God increase you and continue using you for this great assignment
I appreciate this video. As I listened, I recognized that there are some things that I didn't do during my first marriage. However, as God continues to work on me and prepare me for my kingdom spouse , I will take these points along with the Word of God to be a better wife in the future. Thank you Ken and Tab for sharing, and allowing God to use you.
Having a well-rounded present father is important not just a father. I grew up with my dad from the age of 10. He was a single parent. At the age of 32, I had to unlearn certain behaviors and thought patterns I learned from him. I was told I can be harsh and lack emotion. I didn't know how to connect emotionally to people or even receive physical affection. I didn't know how to express my emotions. I didn't receive those from him. I am still learning.
Wow! The both of you are awesome! A whole year later and I ran across this clip by the both of you. Ken and Tabatha Claytor. Keep being obedient to what God has called you to do. I will take and prepare to be a great help mate when it’s time. Thank you Pastor Claytor and First Lady Tabatha.😊🤎💜
This gave me allot of Godly insight and opened my eyes with me being a Pastor and my husband not being in ministry. Understanding from a man of God what is needed and required to help to have a successful marriage and household. I thank God for this I almost wanted to walk out on my marriage today Jesus!
Yes, telling me he was attracted to another woman has happened. I created a safe space for him to speak. We discussed things about her and we were able to find the root, we were able to pray about it and break a soul tie. He felt free to talk to me about a lot of things until drugs got involved. When drug use began there was no saving the marriage after all the deceit, shame, dangers that came with the drug use. We are no longer married, but before drugs, the marriage was a safe place for us to communicate. We did discuss the beginning of drug use as well but he succumbed fully to it. I chose to let him go for my own safety.
I’m only 25 and came across your podcast and you both are doings Gods work!!! I’m so happy to have found you even though I’m in a single season these gems are amazing and will be useful for my future King 🥰
I really enjoyed this!!!! Many of us didn’t grow up with healthy relationship examples or guidance. You don’t have to replicate everything this couple is doing but it’s great insight on how to cover, honor and nurture your man. Good men deserve to be treated well
Wow, so amazing. There's a reason why God wanted me to come across this podcast. This is the second episode I've watched, and I have been so blessed. Thank You so so much, this is what I was missing and needing. God bless you and give you both more knowledge to keep teaching us these things. As a 22 years old, it is never too early to start learning about mariage and life in general as a daughter of God.
We need male men, we need masculinity in our lives. We need men to be men…… 👏🏽 Tabatha is telling the truth, because it’s a shortage in the home. Society is definitely doing a number on our men….. both of these sessions were good. Ken just also gave me something good, but men don’t open up like that and I don’t know what it will take for them to open up like that. Thank you for the insight. God bless you both ❤🙏🏽
I can tell you not growing up with a dad does an effect in my life. We had two older brothers and they did what they could for their two younger sister, but it was only so much they could do.
I absolutely love y’all’s wisdom and insight! I am learning so much and even taken notes! I pray that I can be a better woman, soon to be wife and Mom for my Family with this guidance! 🙏🏽💕
if my husband say i am attracted to this woman! sorry i dont want to know that! i dont come to my husband and tell how many men shot there shot! ow no! abraham never told his wife that he was going to crucify his only child to his wife. you saying my husband cant shut his mouth about his temptation lol but i love the conversation! she is level headed and great wife!
I just found you. I watched the one on what men need to know about women too. You remind me of what I thought when I was the preachers wife. My husband would tell me he prays all day with people. He doesn’t want to pray once he gets home. After 7 yrs of building him up, being his help mate, and giving him 3 children, he told me he didn’t find me beautiful anymore, he felt he needed to sow his wild oats, was not sure he still believed in God, and he wanted me to support all that so he wouldn’t look bad. Our baby was just a week or two old. I’ve not found men in the church who understand how to have a great relationship. I was not supported in various churches when I was looking for help. We divorced 30 yrs ago. He’s refused to parent with me, got into addictions and pulled our son down with him. It still hurts to see how this impacts our grown kids. I still believe this is the way. I have found that being good to a man now, he gets suspicious that I’m manipulating him. I think it’s harder to build this when we’re older. I’m 60. I’ve been a therapist for a decade now. I specialize in communication, neurodiversity, and sexuality. I can see other perspectives now. I can see how our world is full of relationship killers disguised as good intentions. We need to bring more truth to the world.
I hardly comment on anything on youtube, but you both are full of godly wisdom, very real and there's so much to learn from both of you, so i'll definitely keep watching. God bless you both for such insight.
I’m so thankful to have found this Chanel I’ve been struggling with my partner/children’s dad/ future husband but now I know we need god and I need to be the woman god needs me to be for him and put my pride aside
This was truly helpful for me. What Ken said explained about all the pressures he faces as a man...made me have more understanding for my own fiance. He has tried to explain his pressures to me, but it helps to hear it from another source also. It makes me want to help reduce the load rather than add more burdens...
Great video! I loved serving my ex husband, I really enjoyed making sure he was satisfied but honestly there was not the same thing in return so that was hurtful. Acts of service is my natural love language so that part wasn't hard. Me not feeling loved in return was tough. How do you deal with that as a woman? He apologized years later. I know God has me 🙏 Love, love 💞
What a powerful video. I loved when Tabatha said if you want to change your marriage, you have to change yourself first. It hit me hard. I came across yourself your videos and I don’t believe it was by accident- I think it’s by purpose.
You guys are a breath of freshness for any marriage. I and my ex are attempting to remarry. We have been apart for around 20 yrs. I believe GOD had gave us the want to be married again and to each other. I was guided to your ministry and it is very insightful and informative. You speak on things truthfully with a calmness that really gives you hope that when you put in the work GOD'S way, it will come to fruition. Thank you and continue to be blessed in all you do.😊
I am rather news to listening to you guys and I love the chemistry yall have. You both bring such great views and insight. I'm at a point in my 22 yr marriage that anytime we need to talk about or discuss an issue, I always get the "poor pitiful me "speech because of his past. Now I choose to not to say anything and just handle it all and deal with the outcome afterwards. Feel like we're not even close to being on the same team anymore. All I do is pray for him. Keep the good point's rolling.. love yall
You two are a blessing to the Body of Christ! Obviously understand biblical roles for the man and woman in marriage. You two unapologetically proclaim what the Bible says about a godly marriage!! God's continued blessings over your lives, family, and ministry!
Time stamp 10:06 I think that because so many of us didn’t grow up in families with fathers, not only does it create the feeling of “I don’t need a man” but because we don’t understand men & have never really had any examples on how to be with and work with a man in a healthy way it feeds into that feeling of a woman wanting to do it alone because it feels so much harder trying to do it with a man. It almost feels like an added stressor trying to understand, learn, teach & grow with another person who often times is just as broken & unequipped as you are . It can feel like setting the tone on your own is so much easier to withstand & control But this is not the mindset or the type of lives and families we need. The answer is truly in learning the opposite sex and learning how to partner with them. Thank you all for these conversations!
Thanks so much for this presentation. Can you give us a part 2? As a Caribbean woman/ believer, I don't think we are/were cultured to treat our men/ fathers as the real king in our homes. You see, most homes are/ were without FATHERS in them. I am pleased to hear all of this information from a Beliver, both the man and his wife. This is REAL TALK ❤
If you want to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, your life will be able to build and grow together❤🎉 It's great to practice understanding eachother, then it will be easier to love, value and respect eachother. Love this couple and their Godly perspective.
1) He is not a woman
2) He is under a lot of pressure. More than you will know.
3) He doesn’t want to “deal”with the woman when he gets home. He needs to decompress.
4) He doesn’t need another mother. He needs a helper.
5) He needs to be honored and respected. Acknowledged.
💎💎💎💎💎
Amen I don't want to be contentious with my husband because he has to go out in the world and navigate especially a black man to provide for me so it's important that we do just this
What happens if it’s the woman who has to go out “conquer the world” to provide for her family? Too many disturbing presumptions in this message
@yemi6184 if that woman agreed with the man before she married or even after his leader which is God will show him how to lighten her role that keeps her covered and supported in every way some men stay home and take care of the children because her skills set makes the most money but that man is not to be devalued in that setup he is still the head
😂I think you put up the 5 bullet point summary on the women's side of this. Thanks. I move quickly and before I had time to sit and dive deeper, this helps.
**edit, no it was someone else, but thanks still applies.**
Some gems were dropped. My advice is to Ask God to make u a better wife and He will. If ur husband is getting on ur nerves, ask God to work on u. Not him. Through all my years of marriage one revelations I’ve gotten is if I do right in my marriage, God will honor me. Even if u have a husband who is not doing right. U continue to be the wife God called u to be and watch Him bless u.
How has this worked out for you? I’m barely stepping into this mindset after being done wrong over and over.
@@jenniferwhite1516 Learning to forgive your husband is a great step towards being the way God wants you to be. Holding on to the wrong of what others do to you, will only cause you to be bitterness. Bitterness is sin. Jesus forgave us when we didn’t deserve forgiveness, choose to forgive those who have wronged you. And ask the Lord to heal and strength your mind and spirit to fulfill the Will that He has sent forth for you to do. I’ve held on to bitterness for years toward my mother for what she has done. I decided to give it to Jesus and ever since, I’ve been free from bondage and can’t care less about what others say. Because I know what Jesus says about me. ❤
She is definitely a traditional wife…. Working on myself to become like this
Awareness is so good, I’m happy for you Beautiful Ashley🌹, you’re well on your way!
She's a kingdom woman not a traditional wife. These are kingdom principles❤
I’m divorced for 7 years this year… I feel like I owe my ex an apology after listening to this wisdom😮, thank you guys. I love you two❤
I apologized after 6 years of being divorced to my ex . It was a relief and lifted a burden. The marriage did not end because of one person. Pride and ego and not forgiving can burden us … ❤
That would be very wise. Please do! May God heal your hearts and restore your home
@@lucyr1822glad you did. It takes courage and humility to do that and I pray God heals your hearts and home
Yes, I'm in the same position. My ex hunsband and I both realised how much we did not understand each other. I have learned so much, I'm now in Christ, I know now my role as a women for his kingdom. In jesus name. Amen ❤
Amen I'm with you once I learned from a damaged man that nothing I did he couldn't trust me so I prayed to God and seeing you say this I agree I damaged my ex-husband
Pre-marital counselling is so important.
21 years married - hubby and I have had NO pre counselling cause our foundation is the same. God is the head of our marriage- and because of that I e going strong. It ain’t perfect but I can’t imagine being with anyone else and he always let me know how much he loves and appreciate me. Counselling is a good thing, but not everyone needs it 😊
A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears it down. Women will not submit to her husband if he does not work and provides for her family. Thanks for sharing.
This was so refreshing. I felt the Holy Spirit tell me you are closer to marriage because now I have a revelation on how to be a good wife
Praise God, I'm hoping and praying for you, I hope that your life has become wonderful as you have grown in your walk with the Lord. God bless your marriage ❤️
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It's just hit me that God intended for me to come across your channel. When you said you pray and ask God to let the right persons watch your videos, I see this as a sign to an answered prayer. I'm watching and learning what I need to work on in my life. Thank you Pastors 🙏
We love to hear it!
Watching you both pour into me such good
advice is so nice,and I thank God for pushing those buttons in my life. Keep up the good work.
I have just announced that we are starting Gloria night is back at our home Thanks for the idea!
Yes the world says the algorithm I see God's divine intervention
Amen
This was so good. I realize I was helping the enemy break down my husband. We're not going out like that!! Thank you!
Purposely passing gas and not picking up after ourselves in front of anyone is inappropriate regardless of our gender.
It’s more about living more like CHRIST by being more considerate of each other as CHRIST is considerate of us even though He created us.
As a man I agree. I think farting around others is gross and inconsiderate and leaving things everywhere is inconsiderate as well. However I do think there is room for understanding from both men and women. My wife understands that messiness does not give me anxiety the same way it gives her anxiety. So I try to help keep our home clean to absolve her anxieties and she doesn’t get mad at me if I happen to leave a few things out.
I learned something today. There’s a difference between how boys versus men communicate to their women. I also learned how femininity plays a role in how we treat our men.
Wow this was an amazing conversation, I really didn’t want it to end. As a 23 yr old engaged woman this gave me a lot to think about in terms of how to ensure that my man feels valued, respected , and honored and being able to set the tone of the atmosphere of the home. Thank you for this wisdom🙌🏾✨
I love how Tabatha looks at her husband...you can tell how much she adores him. I hope she gets the same, she looks like a sweet soul🌼🌼🌼
Before now, Iv'e never been into podcasts, BUT, I've been addicted to you guys since Wednesday 10/12/23 of this week. Thank you lovely people. I'm a Single woman using my single season to prepare for my Boaz.
I percieve rhat the Holy spirit is preparing me now for marriage...i had fear and anxiety about marriage before i came across this channel and was praying to get a marriage coach and here i found one.. Thank you Lord. .
Girl I had to stop this video to respond on your comment I am in the same season as you and I must say it is not what I had imagined being an way what I am struggling with now is that I feel like I am not ready and I feel like I am still to broken to have someone close to me like that and also I don't want to break any one else around me I did take those fear or these struggles to the the lord just letting him know how I really feel so I get you sis honestly I do 🇿🇦
A man doesn’t need another mother. Some men need to hear that because that’s what he is expecting from his wife. Would love to hear this from the dynamic of today where most woman are working and some cases the bread winner
Some men expect this but some women impose it without their man wanting that. Regardless it’s never good
I am learning so much. The Lord is really preparing me for marriage. This was so good 🎉🎉🎉
Swear 😌 I called my engagement off the other day and I’m here realizing I just didn’t understand my man.
❤ God is LITTERLY speaking to me. He always been there.. He loves me soo much. God sees my heart, God knows my prayers, God opens my eyes! God is indescribable AMAZING!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
This next level communication. I’ve been married for 8 years and I can honestly say ive have a long way to go with understanding. Thank y’all for the vulnerability and transparency 🙏.
Amazing! I loveeeeee the example of honor this wife gives her husband. Us young daughters need more of her counsel. Teach us woman of God!
What a blessing to hear this, we have been married 37 years. But, you have spoken life into our lives.
Thank you
I wish I had this wisdom earlier in my marriage. I have been with my husband for almost 40 years but am seeing so many mistakes that I have made. Keep bringing these messages and pray for me that I will make the changes that I need to see my marriage flourish. In the name of Jesus. Amen ❤🙏🏽
You need to tell on sin before sin tells on you woooo! That’s a word!!
WOW, that last part. She has built honor and respect into the culture of their home. I will do the same.
I am no longer with my sons dad but I will always respect and love him for being an incredible father. Our son is so blessed
Your channel is underrated I’m on my fourth consecutive video and I’m so happy for it! Such a blessing to the body!!!
God was in the garden and he said Adam where are you. God holds men accountable. satan wants to destroy men, couples, family which leads to messed up young’s and everybody is jacked up. Thanking God mom and dad raise 4 boys in Brooklyn in an AG church. Thanks to the church community and parents bring up productive save and sanctified work in progress. Good work guys 👍🏻
I just love you both so much! I’m a single mom of 2 girls and trying to become the wife God has called me to be to the husband I know he has created me for. Tabitha, talk about a Proverbs 31 woman! You remind me so much of my mom and how submissive and supportive she is to my dad. I pray I carry that same anointing and that God will use me as a strategic helpmate for my future husband and for His kingdom. God bless your beautiful marriage and family. Love y’all 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️
Single mommy of 1 girl here! I am praying for us! I’ve followed this couple recently in hopes of learning to do better! Candice God is going to lead us to our kingdom marriages on His perfect timing
I watched one episode and now I cannot stop but binge watching. I am fasting in social media, worldly songs even worldy books. And I am listening to podcast and watching this is life chaging.❤❤
Powerful, Sow there before you go there...truth. Sowing and reaping is universal
This is my first time listening to you guys, but can I tell you I enjoyed your wisdom. As a divorced woman of many years I desire to marry again and be the best wife I can the second time around!! Thank you so much for sharing and doing it in such a beautiful way❤️🙌🏾🙏🏽.... Many more Blessings to you both!!!
Wisdom here. I am really learning to better me waiting. This is going to be God way
I had the opportunity to meet Pastor Tabatha this past weekend. She’s such a sweet soul! Prayerfully, marriage isn’t that far down the road for me, and this episode helped me so much! Thank you Pastor Ken & Pastor Tabatha!🤍
I want this for my daughter 😔. Her dad and I need so much healing.
praying for healing in your relationship!
Some boat😢
I love the content in your videos. One thing that I'd like to add is that "It takes 2 to make a thing go right." Either partner can give their ALL in making a relationship/marriage successful, HOWEVER, if only one is doing the work, it's doomed to fail. That's reality. Or, you stay... just because, and there's no peace, joy, or success in that. KEEP IT COMING....WE'RE LEARNING AND GROWING ❤
You are in my mind. It takes two to tango. It becomes a burden when you are giving without receiving.
@ 10:56 I took a pause to get myself together. I did not know what is was like to have a dad growing up, mine was in prison. We were introduced at the age of 13. My dad was released when I was 18. It was the best day and year of my life!!! Then, what happened broke my heart into a million pieces….the cops killed my daddy. They shattered my dreams. I am 56 , 10:59 10:59 and I miss him so much. I am grateful that God is my Heavenly Father. Thank you for giving me the language of how to express what I was missing. ❤❤😢❤❤
I literally almost burst into tears when you were talking about having the children respect the father, his face and just his presence. It brought up what was happening in my home with my husband, as my children were coming up. And I am calling my husband to apologize for the way that I handled him and those situations.I dealt with everything through hurt and not through the word.
2 days ago I made a statement and the Holyghost rebuked me immediately. I have never been one to watch or listen to marriage anything but ooohh the Holyghost sent my behind to TH-cam and I have learnt a lot in the last 24 hours and the devil has fled away because I now have the knowledge on how to be that helper to my husband and how he can support me. ❤❤❤❤
So very refreshing to see a Godly couple that can give inspiration of insight in a Godly covenant relationship/marriage(s). Blessings 💕💖💖💖💖💖
So much relevance spoken.
Yesterday the holy spirit told me that I need to unlearn and relearn what love is about. And he told me to spend days learning what God says about love and true companion. And I got this video.
This was after I complained about my failed relationship😅
Wow God will always come through 🙏🏾
WoW ❤
My first time here, praying GOD prepares me like this as I also prepare for the godly man HE has for me.
This was very transparent, transformative & beautiful
A lot of this makes sense but I struggle to relate to it as a woman who works full time and long hours. There’s so much reference to the man “coming home after a long day’s work”. What happens if it’s the woman coming home after a hard day’s work? I’m glad the model you both have works well for you, but there’s a whole host of people this would never work for in today’s world. Also @Ken, I hope there’s also a “Tabatha day”. Wishing you both the best.
The value of this practical, down-to-earth conversation is immeasurable! 💪🏼💪🏼
Thank you for a tool that can be used by couples who sincerely desire to do marriage well. I believe that the couple who listens to this open and honest dialogue together can use it to jumpstart their own conversation customized for their marriage where they can be “naked and not ashamed” (Genesis 2:25).
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So true! Well said!🙌🏾♥️
So glad I found this channel. I first watched 10 ways to prepare yourself for marriage. Thank you for this channel in general🙏🏾 and letting God use you two
Glad to have you here!
@ 21:53 discussing the man being tempted ... I wanted to throw in a reminder that Jesus was tempted in all things, yet without sin.
Amen! This is such a Blessing to hear you guys talking about marriage. I really want to get married because we really do need each other. Its Gods plan for us..
I didnt know why i kept on watching watching your videos for the past 6-8 hours not until i came to realize you were a Pastor. Surely you have been called to redefine marriage and Christian relationships and may God increase you and continue using you for this great assignment
I thoroughly enjoyed this. I loved these reminders. My husband is the best and I strive to be the best wife to and for him.
got married 2 weeks ago and this video is such a blessing! I learned a lot! ❤
Congratulations on your marriage! Go with God for His protection and guidance.
I appreciate this video. As I listened, I recognized that there are some things that I didn't do during my first marriage. However, as God continues to work on me and prepare me for my kingdom spouse , I will take these points along with the Word of God to be a better wife in the future. Thank you Ken and Tab for sharing, and allowing God to use you.
Having a well-rounded present father is important not just a father. I grew up with my dad from the age of 10. He was a single parent. At the age of 32, I had to unlearn certain behaviors and thought patterns I learned from him. I was told I can be harsh and lack emotion. I didn't know how to connect emotionally to people or even receive physical affection. I didn't know how to express my emotions. I didn't receive those from him. I am still learning.
these sit downs are lit 🥹
"You have to sow there, before you go there" that's a Whole Word.. Totally agree....Amen ❤
Thanks for watching!
Wow! The both of you are awesome! A whole year later and I ran across this clip by the both of you. Ken and Tabatha Claytor. Keep being obedient to what God has called you to do. I will take and prepare to be a great help mate when it’s time. Thank you Pastor Claytor and First Lady Tabatha.😊🤎💜
This gave me allot of Godly insight and opened my eyes with me being a Pastor and my husband not being in ministry. Understanding from a man of God what is needed and required to help to have a successful marriage and household. I thank God for this I almost wanted to walk out on my marriage today Jesus!
At work with my headphones listening to yall….so far #4. You two are great!
I like the transparency of these two; they end up asking questions live about their own marriage and how to keep improving their relationship
I love the way tabitha speaks so eloquent and clear such a sweet voice
I thoroughly enjoy your wisdom and coaching for marriage. Appreciate you all very much! Grace to you in abundance!
Yes, telling me he was attracted to another woman has happened. I created a safe space for him to speak. We discussed things about her and we were able to find the root, we were able to pray about it and break a soul tie. He felt free to talk to me about a lot of things until drugs got involved. When drug use began there was no saving the marriage after all the deceit, shame, dangers that came with the drug use. We are no longer married, but before drugs, the marriage was a safe place for us to communicate. We did discuss the beginning of drug use as well but he succumbed fully to it. I chose to let him go for my own safety.
Not married but I love your videos. I'm working on myself to be a good wife to my husband someday.
Me too, we have to prepare ourselves earlier
I’m only 25 and came across your podcast and you both are doings Gods work!!! I’m so happy to have found you even though I’m in a single season these gems are amazing and will be useful for my future King 🥰
This was such an amazing conversation. I'm working on being the best version of a help meet possible for my man.
These are great tips on understanding how men deal with their emotions.
Thank you for tuning in!
I love them....just started listening to them yesterday.....thank you....now until my husband finds me❤
I really enjoyed this!!!! Many of us didn’t grow up with healthy relationship examples or guidance. You don’t have to replicate everything this couple is doing but it’s great insight on how to cover, honor and nurture your man. Good men deserve to be treated well
wow its amazing how you put God first in everything. We can do everything through him who gives the strength. I love your shows
I'm soo happy I came across your page. I've watched 3 videos already and I'm learning so much. Thanks guys❤
Wow, so amazing. There's a reason why God wanted me to come across this podcast. This is the second episode I've watched, and I have been so blessed. Thank You so so much, this is what I was missing and needing. God bless you and give you both more knowledge to keep teaching us these things. As a 22 years old, it is never too early to start learning about mariage and life in general as a daughter of God.
We need male men, we need masculinity in our lives. We need men to be men…… 👏🏽 Tabatha is telling the truth, because it’s a shortage in the home. Society is definitely doing a number on our men….. both of these sessions were good. Ken just also gave me something good, but men don’t open up like that and I don’t know what it will take for them to open up like that. Thank you for the insight. God bless you both ❤🙏🏽
I can tell you not growing up with a dad does an effect in my life. We had two older brothers and they did what they could for their two younger sister, but it was only so much they could do.
I'm so glad I found your channel. Thank you, Lord Jesus, for this ministry.
You two are really teaching, if someone had told me this things a long time ago....things may have been different...better in my life.
I absolutely love y’all’s wisdom and insight! I am learning so much and even taken notes! I pray that I can be a better woman, soon to be wife and Mom for my Family with this guidance! 🙏🏽💕
Thank you for explaining well especially what it means to be a man. From Uganda we celebrate you. God bless you.
Wow!!! The empowerment of women is not the undermining of men!! Exactly!!!
if my husband say i am attracted to this woman! sorry i dont want to know that! i dont come to my husband and tell how many men shot there shot! ow no! abraham never told his wife that he was going to crucify his only child to his wife. you saying my husband cant shut his mouth about his temptation lol but i love the conversation! she is level headed and great wife!
I wouldn't want to know either. He needs to take that burden and leave it at the cross. Im a woman not Jesus.
My point exactly....keep it between you and God.
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I just found you. I watched the one on what men need to know about women too. You remind me of what I thought when I was the preachers wife. My husband would tell me he prays all day with people. He doesn’t want to pray once he gets home. After 7 yrs of building him up, being his help mate, and giving him 3 children, he told me he didn’t find me beautiful anymore, he felt he needed to sow his wild oats, was not sure he still believed in God, and he wanted me to support all that so he wouldn’t look bad. Our baby was just a week or two old.
I’ve not found men in the church who understand how to have a great relationship. I was not supported in various churches when I was looking for help. We divorced 30 yrs ago. He’s refused to parent with me, got into addictions and pulled our son down with him. It still hurts to see how this impacts our grown kids.
I still believe this is the way.
I have found that being good to a man now, he gets suspicious that I’m manipulating him. I think it’s harder to build this when we’re older. I’m 60.
I’ve been a therapist for a decade now. I specialize in communication, neurodiversity, and sexuality. I can see other perspectives now. I can see how our world is full of relationship killers disguised as good intentions. We need to bring more truth to the world.
I hardly comment on anything on youtube, but you both are full of godly wisdom, very real and there's so much to learn from both of you, so i'll definitely keep watching. God bless you both for such insight.
I’m so thankful to have found this Chanel I’ve been struggling with my partner/children’s dad/ future husband but now I know we need god and I need to be the woman god needs me to be for him and put my pride aside
Yes Tab we have to embody the behavior we want to display my husband is the head and if he Godly he'll be accepting of my change
This was truly helpful for me. What Ken said explained about all the pressures he faces as a man...made me have more understanding for my own fiance. He has tried to explain his pressures to me, but it helps to hear it from another source also. It makes me want to help reduce the load rather than add more burdens...
Glad the video blessed you in this way. Thank you for watching!
This is so awesome, I love the way you both converse with each other. It’s a Blessing ❤
I subscribed immediately. They're real and have blessed me.
I am a new person listening to your podcast. I thank you for listening to God and doing what you doing . God bless you both
Am sooo blessed by this honest sincere conversation. 🙏
This was a great topic to cover. I'm so happy the both of you were vulnerable to share your thoughts on various topics. Thank you and blessings.
I've watched this a few times, and each time, I'm learning something new! Thank you so much for the podcast and the honesty 🙏
I dontt think I can get married again...nah...but this us good...1st time here and I love the excellence! Continue to allow God to use you!
Great video!
I loved serving my ex husband, I really enjoyed making sure he was satisfied but honestly there was not the same thing in return so that was hurtful. Acts of service is my natural love language so that part wasn't hard. Me not feeling loved in return was tough. How do you deal with that as a woman?
He apologized years later.
I know God has me 🙏 Love, love 💞
This is a great question, I’ve dealt with the exact same.
What a powerful video. I loved when Tabatha said if you want to change your marriage, you have to change yourself first. It hit me hard. I came across yourself your videos and I don’t believe it was by accident- I think it’s by purpose.
Wow, like the Lord said, who wants to be greater in God's Kingdom will be the one who serves. Jesus came to serve and He is Lord.
I teared up when your husband said good job and thank you for implementing honor and respect ❤ 😢
You guys are a breath of freshness for any marriage. I and my ex are attempting to remarry. We have been apart for around 20 yrs. I believe GOD had gave us the want to be married again and to each other. I was guided to your ministry and it is very insightful and informative. You speak on things truthfully with a calmness that really gives you hope that when you put in the work GOD'S way, it will come to fruition. Thank you and continue to be blessed in all you do.😊
I am rather news to listening to you guys and I love the chemistry yall have. You both bring such great views and insight. I'm at a point in my 22 yr marriage that anytime we need to talk about or discuss an issue, I always get the "poor pitiful me "speech because of his past. Now I choose to not to say anything and just handle it all and deal with the outcome afterwards. Feel like we're not even close to being on the same team anymore. All I do is pray for him. Keep the good point's rolling.. love yall
Thanks for sharing. I am a single lady but greatly appreciate your honesty and transparency. This is really good advice ❤
You two are a blessing to the Body of Christ! Obviously understand biblical roles for the man and woman in marriage. You two unapologetically proclaim what the Bible says about a godly marriage!! God's continued blessings over your lives, family, and ministry!
This is so good and put everything into perspective. I regret my last relationship ended.
I’m hoping that there will be a part 2 on what men need to know about women.
There will be stay tuned!
Time stamp 10:06
I think that because so many of us didn’t grow up in families with fathers, not only does it create the feeling of “I don’t need a man” but because we don’t understand men & have never really had any examples on how to be with and work with a man in a healthy way it feeds into that feeling of a woman wanting to do it alone because it feels so much harder trying to do it with a man. It almost feels like an added stressor trying to understand, learn, teach & grow with another person who often times is just as broken & unequipped as you are . It can feel like setting the tone on your own is so much easier to withstand & control But this is not the mindset or the type of lives and families we need. The answer is truly in learning the opposite sex and learning how to partner with them.
Thank you all for these conversations!
Thanks so much for this presentation.
Can you give us a part 2?
As a Caribbean woman/ believer, I don't think we are/were cultured to treat our men/ fathers as the real king in our homes.
You see, most homes are/ were without FATHERS in them.
I am pleased to hear all of this information from a Beliver, both the man and his wife.
This is REAL TALK ❤
If you want to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, your life will be able to build and grow together❤🎉 It's great to practice understanding eachother, then it will be easier to love, value and respect eachother. Love this couple and their Godly perspective.