Why Latino Dads Don't Say "I Love You" | ON PAPER EP. 1 - mitu
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 มิ.ย. 2019
- Things got emotional when we sat down to talk to 3 dads and 3 sons about why it is that they don't tell each other "I love you." What are your thoughts on this?
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The Spanish conversation was more heart felt
Everything in Spanish seems more heartfelt I think. Like idk how but Spanish is just a language that amplifies emotions
Yeah it's true
@@jackie2011jr it's probably because it's your first language .. atleast that's what my brother told me when I felt the same way
@@chelseag724 Fun fact I actually don't really speak Spanish, I have a long Spanish journey ahead of me lol. I guess I think Spanish seems more passionate and sincere just in the context I've heard it
jackie2011jr agreed, everything just seems more powerful in Spanish to me. Maybe it's just because it's the first language I learned, the language I've grown up around, the language my name is called in, and the language people tell me they love me in but I just know it's a language with a big emphasis on emotion.
I just turned 24. My Mexican dad has never told me he loves me. But I’ve seen him struggle and huddle for the roof over my head. His actions speak to me. This video brought me to tears. I love my pops.
Yes
Same 😩❤️
That’s how old school Mexican dads are. They work hard for us, but never actually say they love us. But they never give up on their family.
yes and yes
Real Mexican Food Shouldn't Give You Diarrhea truest thing I’ve ever read. I’m 18 and my dad has never said I love you but I know deep down he does because of his actions. I’m happy to know that I’m not the only one that this is like.
My grandfather gave me the first hug and kiss I've ever received from him on my bootcamp graduation... my dad was left with tears and when I asked him why he was crying that not to worry ill be fine, he answered with "that's the first time I've seen my dad give someone a hug and kiss, he's never gave me one as a kid or as an adult." shit got me...
Aww
Why are Latino/Hispanic dads so scared of showing and giving affection? I thought they were supposed to be strong men.
@@rae4818 well pls explain it bc any therapist/counselor/psychologist/psychiatrist worth her or his salt will tell you it is fear that is holding these men back. They are scared of being vulnerable. And Hispanic men are known to be strong men but this is the opposite of strong.
First, I want to thank you for your brave service! I support the military even though no one close to me is in it. I love you guys!
Second, your story is so touching because grandpa was the same. Once he got older I think I heard him tell me 5 times he loved me. My evil aunt took my grandpa away from us and I didn't get to say goodbye when he passed away. 💔 always tell anyone you live that you love them. They will live with that forever. Thank you again for your service.
Took a deployment to Iraq in 2003 when the war kicked off to see a tear in my dads eye and get a hug. Quite honestly I didn’t know how to react. I think it hit me right then and there that I might not come back. When you are 20 years old you are unstable that was my mentality.
What scars son said about the fish store hit me. I was a young father and i remember taking my daughter to petco to look at the animals because i was broke. Fortunately we made it out ok. And as she got older i was able to take her to disney land and all that fun stuff. Shes 17 now and i dont think she even knows how poor we were. Im ok with that.
You're a good father, and I'm sure your daughter forever cherishes those memories. I wish you and your folks the best.
A lot of fathers in those situations wouldn’t do anything because they think “oh I can’t take them to Disneyland or the movies so why bother?” But the truth is fathers like at least did SOMETHING. Doing something with your kids is better than nothing. My fondest memories with my dad were just going to the park, hun teaching me to ride my bike, playing soccer in the backyard. All stuff that are FREE. You are a great dad ❤️
That some dumbass Edgar man up
you were never poor, her happiness is priceless :D
For the ones talking in Spanish omg pobresito u can tell he really appreciated everything his son had to say.
It literally brought me to tears.
God bless them
PATTYY L Yup. That’s an og Mexican dad. Reminds me of my own and my grandpa.
@@RealMexFoodShouldntGiveUDrrhea I love your username haha.
But yes I agree
Breh that shit rocked my heart.
I cried too 😭😭 because it's like I was looking at my past through this video. It's weird. 😭
@Danielzzz28 seriously tho
I’m mexican myself and i like how they showed like 3 different categories for hispanics, from the city, los del rancho y los del barrio ❤️
crystalline es verdad 😔
Preach! They say the same message but for different life stories.
Yea it’s hard when u grow up en el barrio I live in a small town in Cali and so many things happen that u get used to it which sucks
@@kaytlincordero5692 same too much norteno vs sureno bullshit.
Kaytlin Cordero yeah i feel you im from the city i guess or like the suburbs theres like white ppl in my neighborhood so im not in el barrio i used to when i was little i even think my dad was like a lil cholo once but when i go to Mexico i definitely live the rancho life so im glad i get to experience the 3 different life styles :)
My dad didn't call me by my first name until I was 16. He always just called me "Boy" as in "Get up Boy, we're mowing the lawn" or "Come on Boy, we're checking the oil in your mom's car" I am the oldest and I never knew why he treated me different than my brother and sister. When I was 16, I woke up to use the restroom and realized that that it had froze the night before. I woke up early the next day to scrape off the ice from everyone's car so we could go to work/school. I was eating breakfast when my dad went out with the scraper.....he came back in, put the scraper by the door, and said "Good work Jack." Still one of my favorite dad/son moments. Mexican dad's don't say "I love you" but they let you know it in subtle ways yo.......
Clarification, I was the oldest male in the family, my sister was 2 years older.
One weird question: Is Jack an unusual name for a latino or do you know other hispanics that are named Jack too?
Sorry I know this has nothing to do with your story.
May god bless you and your family
@@endrinarr5819 No worries, bro! I am happy to explain. My Dad was heavy into History and named us as such. Calico Jack Rackham (Infamous Pirate), Cleopatra (Bad A** Egyptian Queen), and Erik the Red (Brave Norse Explorer/Warrior). We usually just call my sister Cleo, or C.C., just incase you guys were wondering.
@@endrinarr5819 Oh, and I've never met another Latino with my, or my sister's name. I have met a few with my brother's tho lol. So very unusual haha.
@@jacktherripper thx that's super intresting. Really dope names I love em all.
This is why I consistently tell my son I love him. We gotta break the cycle as Mexican dads.
Diff generations.
Mexican fathers show love with actions not words.
Amen
Facts
You damn right ese
True vato
Facts On God
Dam for those who understood the spanish letter, that one hit hard. My old man has always worked hard all his life, very straight forward but a loving guy.
Maria Monteleone but it literally already has the english translation...
Jaymie not for me the sub titles aren’t accurate
@@mariamiamonteleone I'd love your translation, I'm over here still dripping tears down my face over this
Maria Monteleone the channel itself made a translation not youtubes closed captions..
I cried like a baby with that old man
Me: te quiero mucho☺️
My dad: pasa me un cerveza
Así es. Una cerveza para digerir el amor que siente uno por los hijos.
Lmfao
Fr
Me: dad can you lend me 20 bucks
Dad: ponte a cortar sacate
Yes!!! Why?! 😂
I don't know much about the Latino community, but I know that any man who works hard for his family is displaying love toward them.
Agree 👍🏻
The way how the older dad was emotionally getting honestly hit😔
I know me too ☹️
Fr that shit hurted 😂
Same bro when I was little like 5 now I’m 13
"mi viejo es un viejon" can't really translate that in English but it's beautiful
xSamDGK my old dad is grumpy or a grumpy old guy. Literally me when I describe ma dad sometimes.
Are you Latina Faves thengirl? Or you guys use the same word like us but in English
It translates to “my old man is now an old man”
My old man is the greatest. That's what it means.
You can’t really translate it , you can get a direct translation which is “my old man is OLD” it has a different meaning in Spanish
Many mexican fathers had a hard life and grew up dirt poor. Their parents never told them that they loved them. A lot of fathers don’t say this because they never knew what that felt like. It’s important you become aware of it though and tell your loved ones these words to let them know because you may never get another chance to do it. Like many things, death is unpredictable so it’s best to do it while we’re still alive and breathing.
Zamudio tu comentario es el mas cercano a la realidad de los que somos padres paisas! Saludos Amigo!
Yes. My father lost his father when he was a baby and had other two younger brothers. He had to work at age 11 while studying. He didn't have anyone to look after him because my grandmother was busy working. So I think mexican people get to understand why their parents don't say "I love you" that often. They didn't learn how to do that.
So true. So true. People NEVER talked about these things YEARs ago. Hispanics usually shun mental/ emotional illness!! 😢 but now there are ways to reflect and heal and grow
I would have commented these words myself, but I hug tell me Son daily that I love him. I wished I could have read a letter like these to my late Father.
My dad grew up in the dirt poor side of Laredo Mexico. He'd every once in a while, as a child, walk door to door of the neighbors houses with a bowl, asking for some cereal. My mother's up bringing was not any better.
Lost my dad in 2016. I'm a grown man now at 33 and I just cried because I miss him. If you love your dad, hug it or for me, because I will never be able to again.
Same. He passed back in 2012. Never said we loved each other but I guess he showed thru his actions.
Bro ❤
“One thing about being a dad is that you’re never told that you’re being a good dad, you just gotta hope that you are”
That’s deep.
Felt that shit all the way bro.
GiirlHeSooNastyy! I have a 6 year old and this is true. But all the more reason to continue pushing to be a better father everyday.
When he does say “I love you dad”, it’s the best feeling in this entire planet. It makes me feel accomplished
Only part of this video that made me cry. Im trying kids. I love you and always will.
That part got me. Ufff true true true
GiirlHeSooNastyy! U had 666 likes I liked so know it’s 667💀🤷🏻♀️
The only one that mad me cry was the one with Manuel and Sergio 😢
I guess it made me relate since he was speaking Spanish to his dad.
I know what you mean, I also cried.
Same made me tear up cause looking at the dad whipe his tears got to me
They made me cry so much because they remind me of my dad and me. It’s made me realize I have to tell my dad how much I love and appreciate him before it’s too late.
Also because you can tell they both needed that and Dad put his pride aside to say that to his son and it humbled him in so many ways. --Broken and Beautiful--
Scars son was so inspirational even scar wanted to cry 😢
"No cabe duda que my viejo es un viejon."
Only time my dad said he loved me is when we were drunk lol.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Aye u guys so dysfunctional homes... thug life👻👇☝️
Then that shit was real
At least he told u
😂🤣😂🤣😂😂😂
Damn I felt that LMFAO!!! 😂😂😂
Complete with the awkward latino Dad hug. What an amazing video.
keely _cn right that is a hug lol
Why is this soo true!!! 😂
The sad part is they can slide up to females so suave, but can't give their child a hug. Time for prioritizing and progressing.
C86 that shit triggering 😂
😂 yuh
Mi viejo no era muy amoroso pero yo sabía que él me quería a su modo descanse en paz mi viejo 😥😥
Alguien una vez me dijo esto y se me grabó por siempre…”uno añora y desea que nos quieran de cierta manera pero a veces esa otra persona puede que te quiere en la manera que mejor sabe o puede” 💝
Born in Argentina and both my parents are from there, my dad always said “I love you” and “I’m proud of you” and he continues to show it to us. I’m blessed and there is power in those words. I am the step dad now of a Mexican boy and I love him like he is my own. Thanks to my dad.
Well maybe your family is an exception but most Latinos including Argentinians are not very verbally affectionate, yet they are expressive with actions
*because I grew up with both parents not telling me "I love you" I learned how to value actions more than words and I think that's the most important advice my parents have taught me without them knowing*
True
Real shit haha
Same once I asked my mom why she didn’t say I love you and said said esptupida if I didn’t love your ass would be on the street doing whatever you want
Wow
aLittle Crazy im crying this is so true 😂
My father told me he loved me every day, because his father never did.
Mine too also my dads father beat him everyday and my dad sometimes shows how that affected his life but out of all my life he has never said i am sorry
David Trujillo I tell my kids I love them
A lot too
I do the same to my son
Same but my dad never had a dad when he was born his father died
Love my father, he never told me he loves me but I knew he did though his actions... my dad is old school Mexican, did what he knew. I respect him greatly and he's a great man.
Now, I'm raising my son with the same values I was raised with, and with the addition of telling him I love him.
I never heard my dad really tell me he loved me until he was ill and didn’t have much time to live. It was crazy going from barely saying those things to all of a sudden him hugging me and him telling me he loved me. Honesty I am so grateful for that and will treasure that until I die.
Antonio be Thankful He did tell You He loved You ok . I didn’t know My Mother She died when I was 2and 1/2 years old of Cancer and My Dad just put in foster homes all My Life. So Love Frm a Mother never and My Dad hardly saw Him only when I would be transferred to a foster home. I never heard that Man say I Love or Carino. I always made it a point to tell My children I Love You and lots of Carino. So I know the feeling But took many years to Forgive Him . 🇺🇸🇲🇽✝️🙏🏽 Amen
Neither of my parents have ever said ILU or an I’m proud of you. Despite me being first gen college grad with a PHD. However, I do tell my son everyday how proud I am and how much I love him..breaking cycles😊
This just made me realize my dad has never said it either and I’m a girl. He is really reserved when it comes to emotions but he does everything for us. So I guess he doesn’t need to say it. I just know that he does. Actions speak harder than words.
Omg facts my father never said ILY but I always did and will always say that to my daddy
Same here
Yea my dad too but I’m also reserved when it comes to emotions. I don’t say ily often but I do say it once in a while.
The same goes with my dad as well. He never said it, but he did so much for me growing up. I can relate.
Please remember that our people back in the day grew up bien rígidos y el enseñar emociones era sinonimo de "debilidad" but know that every single time he steps out of the house to work for his family he does it with his soul and pours his heart to make it happen for those he loves the most. Also nos toca a nosotros quererlos y decirles cuanto los queremos y asi enseñarles que si se puede decir un Te Quiero Mucho y ser fuerte a la vez 🙏💖 bediciones a tu apa
whenever i tell my grandpa te quiero or i love you he’ll just say “okay thank you” gotta love him 😂
First Last same my dad is the same 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 my lil sis said it to my dad , that's ecxactly what he said.
Lmao
Mine just grunts and punches me in the arm or smacks my head. I’m immune to concussions because of him
Marco Zamudio nice nice
My dad didn't tell me, "I love you" until I was 22yrs old, about to board a bus to the airport to head out to Iraq back in 03'. He never needed to say it. I knew he did.
Will you tell your teen & adult children that you live them?
@@cutthechicken194 yes I will tell them.
I was 30 years old when I told both my parents that I loved them. For, the first time ever in my life they said it back to me . I cried on my way home 😇 Soon, after that my older sisters began to say it to each other. ❤️
Hello Roxshells
I don't understand why this is so hard to say to each other for many Hispanic families. My mother only said it once or twice to me.
Que bonito! En buena hora! 💙
i only said it twice to my parents, both dire situations. don't remember them saying it to me, but i know it's there
When I tell my dad "Te quiero 'apá" he just says "igualmente" 😂. From little to teenage years I always wore hand-me-downs. When I went into highschool I asked him for a new pair of jeans and he said ok. Next day he told me to go with him, I thought he was taking me to the mall but no, he took me to work with him (he is a handyman). He took me for a week and then he paid me, he said "Toma, te has ganado tu dinero para los jeans". Best life lesson I had. Love him to death for showing me how to work. He has never personally told me but my family says that he tells them I'm still his little girl, I'm 38 now.
Wow . omg .
Str Essed he was being sarcastic 🤣
Lala Mtz Salazar so relatable
Eso es ser padre ..
Bendiciones a tu apa y que sus dias sean muchos en este planeta🙏💖 thank you for sharing
It's the machismo in Latinos that make it hard. And to not express their feelings. Some think just providing should be show enough. But hearing the words are different. I hope this brings people together.
my step dad is mexican and he says i love you to his sons and daughters and greand kids all the time.he even says it to me and im a in law
That's awesome. But I'm just saying in general. Like it's not common at least from what I've seen.
@@selindagarcia there are some who dont say it .guess imy hubby and i got lucky
Well said! 👏 exactly..
I'm dominican and my dad say he loved me all time.
my parent show me that they loved me with la "chankleta" back then i didnt see it but know that im grown i can see it more clearly. Thank you Mom and Dad One day i will show the love of las chankleta to my son too.
Don’t fear the chankla. ☝️🥴
@@EnlightenedRogue24 the chankla in my moms hand were deadly doesn't matter how fast i ran she snipe me with the chankla and it will return to her hand like a boomerang,💀
I disagree with this . But i also understand too , but i have a different view about your comment , but my respect tho.
@@alejandrasantos9136 yeah honestly hitting your kids is not not ok it’s not a form of love at all. My dad punches me though :(
@@didntaskbrobutkissme7579 I'm really sorry to hear that . Mine was way worse .
I grew up without my dad and only my mom to guide me. I didn’t know most of the things that fathers are supposed to teach their kids.
Today, I have a little 7 year old son and a 10 month old baby girl with another in the belly. I constantly struggle asking myself, “am I doing this right or enough?” I let my kids know I love them everyday so they grow up to be better than me and not make the same mistakes I had done.
I’m sitting in my car outside my home before I go in to wipe my tears and put on a smile cause I want my kids to know that I’ll always love them for the rest my of my life. I go back to this video every now and then to remind myself not to be emotionless and to love forever.
I'd like to think my like was a reminder to watch this video again
My dad first told me he loved me when I was 25 or so and I really wondered if he was dying or something 🤔 he's ok tho 🤣
Lol🤣
LMFAO this comment has me rollin’ 🤣
Aww ❤️😅
@Pablo Gonzalez No, I think this was when I first moved out. I guess he missed me.
gracefultimes I’m sorry but this made me laugh. My mom is the same way n it sucks.
My family is like that..My dad is so weird 🤣..We told him “Happy Birthday” & He said “Oh, okay” 🤦🏽♀️
Hahahahahahaha my dad is like that too. I guess it's commom for Mexican dads to be like this.
Thats the same with my grandpa
@Rolando Mota why u add the condom part 😂
Haha it’s so common. My dad doesn’t even say bye when we get off the phone. He just hangs up 🤣🤣
Hella Slapz same
I’m like can u just say thx
My Dad never never had a childhood. He quit Elementary just to work and help his family. He had me when he was still a teenager, was never abusive, is still very supportive and always worked his ass off. It is your actions that set an example not your words. I don't have to hear him tell me what I already know. That he loves me.
Do you tell your love ones that you love them?
I'm mexican and I can confirm, he's never said it. No affection either. But, he did the best he could for us. They tell us by giving their lives for us. 🖤
They show love thru their actions not their words. That's cool too.
Aaaaah Scar has a son that old!? I thought he himself was like 24
I thought he was in his 30’s.
Same here!
Tampoco 24 Haha maybe 30 something
I thought he was 29 I-
Thought he was in his 30s and I knew he was married and had his own kids but I didn’t think they were that old ya know
You can tell the rancher dad and son had a rough life, but persevered.
Blood In My Eye how could you tell
“rancher dad” LMAO WHAT WHY IS HE A RANCHER CAUSE HE WEARS A HAT AND A BUTTON UP??
unknown unknown he’s definitely a rancher
@@alejandroservin1432 you could tell the struggle through their emotion and eyes, literally without speaking a word. Experience enough in life, you'll understand...😉
The struggle is that Latino dads aren't raised to express their feelings. This was the whole point. My father was raised this way and then he raised us the same just maybe a little more gentle with the cinto. Always working from sunrise to sundown to provide everything for us and that's how we knew he loved us.
So glad we're changing this narrative to show and make sure our family not only sees our love but hears it ❤️❤️
Man, my daughter is everything to me. I kiss and hug her everyday almost anytime. I tell her how loved and beautiful she is to me. And I never ever feel embarrassed to show her how much I love her in front of anybody.
Amen ‼️💯
Wow I legit thought my dad was the only Hispanic dad who never said he loved us. He even forgets our bdays. But I always know he cares and loves us. But it’s kind of comforting to know I’m not the only with a dad like that.
Shit at least he stayed
@@alexandergrande8310 foreal bro I'm 20 years old and never met my dad .
Diegoskiii sometimes its good they didnt.
Wow same
@@ripabigfatoneforme True. Staying is just not sufficient
“Mi viejo, es un Viejón” that line right there 😢
Translation please 💝
❤️ for real
jesscateyeSQUAD “my old man is a strong one” he said there’s no doubt that my old man is a strong one ..
Om.Salomon that shit HIT
Man that line got me too I felt that
This hits home. The only time I ever “heard” my dad say he loved me was the last day he was alive, But his actions throughout my life were more than enough proof that he did. I’m just glad I was able to tell him I loved him too. I miss you dad.
That is so evocative and moving! Thank you for this powerful video. Please create more content like this. Beautiful.
Me when I found out scar has a grown ass son 🤯
Me to🤯
@Latina Beauty im 18 and mine is in his late 40s
That dude is for real i fully thought he was going to be a joke in the end like lil moco
Not funny didnt laugh
Melissa Molina scar is 39
DAD: son I love you
SON: Vato das kinda gay homes
Random white person: non whites are just amusing charicatures
@really sore knee lol
NSixtyFour haha yeah they are.
really sore knee another random white guy cussing on the internet trying to be cool
XXDark07VenomXX X you’re a pussy.
Mexican dads show the love you in diffrent ways my dads been dead 20 yrs but i know he loved me.
This sure was a breath of fresh air. I needed to see this instead of all the chaos and selfishness that has become the staple of you tube videos. Not all, but way too much.
My father always says I love you. But he's never said "I'm sorry."
RTTTT🤔👀
Well he should say "sorry" for creating YOU
lord cobi r/wooosh
Same 💔😕🤨😤🙃
@@lord_cobi also yours to you lol
This is a hard topic. I’m about to watch the video but can definitely say, that as a Hispanic young woman, I wish my mom would be more encouraging, supportive, and actively listen to me when I speak. We get into so many arguments over her poor listening/communication skills, and we hardly say “I love you” to each other.
Samantha Omg sis same 😩😥
Samantha , what’s crazy is my dad was the one who told me he loved me , but my mom only told me once in my life and that was on her death bed. Don’t have any regrets mija do your very best to have that relationship with your mom even if you have to put your pride aside cause both my mom and dad are gone and I wish I could do it all over again.
I feel you! The closest my mom has gotten to saying "I love you" was telling me at 25 over the phone that she was proud of me; after I'd moved to the other side of the country, was disowned for about 5 years, and us always having a terrible relationship.
Samantha Same with me 🙁
The ones that dont say it are the ones that love you the most. Sometimes we forget to say it because we like to think our actions speak louder than words. Sometimes people have lied to us and used up words to the point where we think they are meaningless and rather show than say. But we forget how words still mean something to others.
Hearing these touching stories really put it to heart for me. I absolutely love how these Hispanic fathers showed their love for their sons just by their actions while their sons read their letters. Just beautiful. ❤️.
My parents had fathers who didn’t express love and one of them bailed on the family. My dad was raised by his mother and aunts… my dad is one of the most affectionate and compassionate man ever. I am very grateful. My mom will tell us she loves us and isn’t too affectionate. This was awesome to see fathers and sons connect.
👋👋
My dad showed me and my fam that he loves us by working his ass off to provide for us.
Yeah, my dad did construction and when he lost his job picked fruit from sunrise to sunset. Always came home smelling like pesticides
Same ! My dad is a very hardworker and I look up to him. He's always doing something.
There are White people that work their asses off and are always on business trips and are never around their kids but they put them in private schools and live in huge homes. So what’s the difference?
Ong
@@Hahhaha68 huh?
Scar looks gangsta af, he even has the pistol earring 💀😭
Scar is a cholo 😭
He my favorite
Aww this video made my cry and felt so emotional. I didn't grow with a dad but seeing this video warmed my hearth and felt the father love..
Beautiful video💜 shout out to all Dad’s out there man, keep loving your kids tell them that you love them and make better people than you 💯🙏🏾
Damn these onions being cut...
I'm not crying, you're crying
pitbull4christ 😂
pitbull4christ you better put them onions on my tacos G
@@noahibarramartinez6351 whatever you say papas. You want me to bring you a drink while you at it? 😂
My grandpa never told my father "I love you" so my dad made it his job to tell me how much he loves me every single day.
Ali Leon same here
I got my dad to finally say it at 34 years old. I make a point to tell my so that I love him all the time. I just can't Hugh him or kiss him because his mom's dad taught him that is awkward..... It sucks having a dad that is not emotionally involved and a son that is the same. But I got to keep trying.
Same story with my dad
Same
My mother had never said she loved me until I moved miles and miles away, now I have my own baby and I can't count how many times I tell him I love him a day! 🥰
That was about the most heartfelt thing I've seen in a while.
I'm a middle aged white dude and after watching this I realized that we all share the same human heart and father.
Thanks for sharing.
Damn, this got me good. My dad was raised in LA and never was close with my Grandpa. He went into the Marines at 17 and I wonder a lot if that's why he's always been the Unemotional type or because my Grandpa was too hard on him?
But probably both. Thankfully, I grew up close to both of them.
My Grandpa died almost 4 years ago and I think it's softened him up significantly ❤️.
The last time I recall my Pa saying he's Proud of me was almost 2 years ago when I got my Barber's license.
It was over the phone as I'm near Sacramento.
I was surprised but I think what's important here is as sons (or daughters) we Know that they Love us even though they don't express it verbally. Or not often enough.
But just hearing those words, I Love You can save Years of Hurt, Self-Doubt, Anger etc.
This is a very much a Cultural issue, but Everyone needs to know that they are loved by their parents.
Especially our Fathers.
I think that all of the Padres did an Excellent job raising their sons, they all have a lot of Character and Personal Strength, Dignity too.
I'm happy I came across this 🥲
Me// pa I love you
Dad// ahora que quieres.
Steph Navarro this is facts 😂😂
😂😂😂
Same, I was playing with playing with his face yesterday and he was like "You probably want something"
Steph Navarro it be like that 😭
or he asks what ive done 😂👋🏻
This hit me real hard and I felt this 💔
Facts I felt that too
I did too, I cried.
Bc u gay
Me too!
I think most fathers they show their love to their family by working hard and make sure that their families are well fed and healthy...they dont show love out loud like mothers did,bcuz they need their families to respect them and think that they are strong for them like a rock that they can rely on in every moment...thats what my father is like for me...he is my rock n a person who i can rely on in every difficult situation i've been through...he barely shows his feeling,but i can tell that he love us very dearly...i love you dad...hope for the best for you...🤗🤗
Is it love? Being responsible is something a parent is suppose to do
This is so needed. Thank you for capturing these beautiful moments.
Latino dads don’t say they love you....instead they show you they love you there’s a difference
Chris Aaron make them understand i
Hearing it helps and sometimes kids arnt able to understand the love ya know
You still need to hear it
The only person that understands. Most of these lil boys wanna hear the actual words.
@@efrain.g8778 they're children that grow up never knowing affection from their father it's not until you're a man you realize what they've done for you but still to that point a father should be supportive and somewhat loving to their child
Scar is so cuteeee, I never thought he was so sensitive, thanks for changing the way we look to Latinos dad
I am a white father of 14 beautiful kids 4 are my stepchildren they are Latino I know it's a much different culture But the love and respect is beautiful between us. Not of the same blood but definitely share the same love. It was awesome hearing the 3 letters being read Is beautifully spoken and received. He reminded me of when my son was in boot camp he wrote me a letter the same way Put everything into perspective for me. the labor of love Was definitely paid in full the day I received that letter from my son.
Good lord 10? pls tell us your story
I finally found what matches what I grew up surrounded by. Thank-you for your channel!! (I subbed) My mother never hugged or said “I love you” when we were little. Now having my own children I tell my kids I love them, & hug them everyday/ EVERY chance I get! 🙏 All of the heartfelt conversations made these fathers feel extremely worthy of being in the spotlight.
My dad didn’t have much of a childhood. He quit school in the 7th grade to work the fields.He had to raise his 6 brothers and sisters at 19. His mom died and his dad left the family. My dad died 5 years ago. He showed us love by feeding us and taking us on vacations.There were over 300 people at his funeral. He was a great man not only to his family but to everyone he could help.
Rip to your dad.
my grandfather went to jail when my dad was 17. he was super abusive and was a drunk so my dad lived a hard life even in childhood. because of this, my dad didnt have anyone to teach him how to become an adult. he became involved with gangs, drugs (no hard drugs just the simple stuff), alcohol. it was hard but when he had my sister at 18, decided he needed to change. he didnt really get to it but then he had me 2 years later. then he realized he needed to change for both of us so that we could be safe. he is now getting his bachelors degree in business, about to buy his first house, and is pretty happy. he doesn´t tell me i love you often, but he does tell me and show me enough for me to know how much he really does love me
My dad didn't even finish 3rd grade
Good.
Respect to your dad.
I told my dad I love you a lot on Father’s Day and he said “ok” lmao perfect
l o w s h y n e 6 sucks 😢
Haha
Toughhhhhhhhhhhhhh. 😂
Hope you lying bro
l o w s h y n e 6 😭😭
This is a very good step into the right direction of real and open communication into the an existing toxic masculinity ridden culture we latinos have. A tear, a real one would have sealed the deal here. Very touching. Congrats for setting an example to follow among latino fathers amd sons. Great video.
Happy Father’s Day to all the father out there reading this in the future . Thank you for being there for us and teaching us your best. 💕
LEAVE ME ALONE
I'M NOT CRYING
IT'S JUST ALLERGIES... 😢😢😢
Hope Duarte its the histamines...making my eyes water--april showers April showers...close the door lol
For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16
For real lol
Roberto Ayala exactly, thats crazy
That fool aint no gangster that fool is a wana be.
@@trillmexicanz hes just a normal foo dumbass
@@trillmexicanz the wanna be's are the ones thugging around in the streets doing dumb shit just to prove they something. The real gangsters are the one's working hard asl, looking out for they community, loving they family, and having hella respect because they know they're worth and don't gotta prove shit to no one like the goons in the streets
This made me cry...I wish I had more time with my dad. ...You men, please please tell your children you love them. They need to hear it! Especially your little girls. Protect your little princesses. I didnt meet my father till I was 30. My step dad treated me like dirt because I wasnt his. I needed my dad. I needed to be told I was loved and protected.
I don't remember my dad saying "i love you" to me or hugging me. I do remember his psychological and physical abuse. I understand his life was tough, but i can't forgive.
My father was the same never said s word or wanted me around, he got sick and got a stroke yet i go see him but it hurts when i remember all the abuse.
I didn’t have a father, but my mom wasn’t exactly a mom... and she was pretty abusive, physically, verbally, emotionally, and mentally and I can’t forgive either... don’t really talk to her... so I feel you
If you try really hard to forgive it will help you in life to overcome those memories, thats the cycle to break. Your parents had it rough and they didn't forgive their parents and understand that they were taught or exposed to traumatic things that was difficult for them and wasn't strong enough to overcome it and resorted to what they know, alcohol, yelling and physical abuse etc.. doesn't make it right for them but to judge and hate doesn't help you. If you reflect on yourself you will see some traits of them or your emotionally driven(angry fast, etc) try to overcome through forgiveness and if you can take it a step up and apologize for hating them for how they treated you. Give it a shot while they are still alive. God Bless
Same ..
@@lafiYO apologize for hating them? I don’t think you mentioned anything about parents apologizing to their sons and daughters for treating them like crap. Since when do victims have to apologize to the abusers? This mentality is part of the problem... people always being justified and excused for being sh*tty humans/parents... always excuses... how about accountability???
Me: Te quiero mucho apa'.
Dad: Que quires? No tengo dinero!🤔😆
Arabel Gonzalez I don't know how to read spanish but this seems universal for " why you saying you love me.....I don't have no money" lol sounds like my southern grandfather that raised me.
Coco T “what do you want?” “i don’t have money” 😆
yngbld yup! I was right! It's universal. Lol
That’s exactly what my apa says to me😂😂
@@cocot9414 i said i love you to my dad and he gave me a high five and fist bump then said "que quieres?"
Me: dad i love you
My dad: HAS LEFT THE CHAT
Lmao
😅
Lmfaooooooooooooo 😂 💀 af
🤣🤣🤣🤣
LMAO LMAO classic comment 💀😂
My Latino dad didn’t say I love you to me or my siblings growing up (I’m almost 40) but he sure does say it to my babies (who are now 8&9) and has ever since their births. They softened him and he wants to make sure they know exactly how he feels about them every single day until the day he dies and I couldn’t be more grateful. It melts my heart. My father adores us but got into the habit of not saying it so we didn’t say it either as we grew up. We don’t hug usually but recently we’ve gotten much closer and I’d like to thank the kids for that. They brought us all together. I made sure when I had kids to shower them with the I love you’s and break that cycle.... and because my dad says it to them too now they get even more love. Life is good!
My dad still can't say it.
He's in his 90s
I was looking at scar thinking “ Damnn homie don’t cry foooo, DONT CRY VATOO “ 😂😂😂
Edit: GOD DAMN 1.3k likes? My most so far, thanks ese 🤟🏼
Lolol
iLiKeTuRtLeS ! Lmao that’s what I was thinking ...
iLiKeTuRtLeS ! That foo won’t cry dawg he already has a tear on his face. He don’t need to show no more emotion
smile now cry later ese
I’m fucking dead🤣🤣
I’m a dude and I literally rarely cry. I’m not crying you are... this is so empowering thank you for this
Empowering? Lmao you mean powerful?
@@alexandergrande8310 no
Really man up
This is actually kinda gay
@@Jk-nq2tv lmao so crying is gay??😂
Dang! My allergies kicked in on a whole new level. Growing up was told to work hard, don’t complain and show no emotion. In my teens/twenties I questioned whether my father loved or cared about me….. a man of few words but mighty by actions. Now that I’ve grown a bit more i realized that he showed his love and affection by actions and not words. He’s a bit older and has opened up quite a bit. Would have loved to have that communication earlier in life but glad that we have it now. Grateful for that. Now i have the task of modeling for my boys. I hope to do right by them and help guide them in life… best wishes to all the fathers out there. Peace and love
👌🤝🗝
oh my goodness thank you so much mitú! this is so beautiful
Growing up, my sister and I were not shown love by our father. He rarely said he loved us, but we knew he loved us through his hard work to provide for the family. Now that we are grown and adults and our dad a bit older, we have had a chance to speak from the heart and express what we always wanted from him as two little girls. Now, that my parents had our little brother, my father is very loving and affectionate. He is not repeating mistakes and has placed great effort to be a better loving dad. I am soo proud of him. I’m in tears because I know how hard it is for them to show that love. It’s just how they were raised but that love was always there.
Maria Elena I can relate to your story. I have 5 sisters and my dad never told the oldest 4 that he loved us, it was always tough love so we can learn life lessons. It was a different story with the youngest two, they were smothered with love by him. I wish I could’ve had a heart to heart with him but now it’s too late. He passed away last year and I never heard him say he loved me nor did I ever say it back..
Were u in the video didint think so
Yes so true all my life my father didn't say that to me and my sisters, it's like we were used to not hearing that.
Is it love? Being responsible is something a parent suppose to do
*I thought 2 of those dads were the sons until I saw their sons reading them letters lol*
Ong
im sayin lmao
I got confused
Same
Right??
My dad really didn't have a childhood. He worked from the age of 6 to help support his family. He still does to this day at 70. He will take the food off his table to give it to someone in need. He is the strongest and most loving man that I know. I have been blessed in having him as my dad. He tells my kids and me that he loves us every chance he gets. So people tell your friends and family how you feel. We might not get the chance later because tomorrow isn't guaranteed.
Scar you should be proud that you and your wife raised such a great young man. Loosing my dad and my mom recently had made me feel so emotional. I have so much respect for you as a Father. The world can learn from the you great Fatjers.
"Dad, do you love me"
"Shut up son", "leave the stupid questions for your sister".
😂😂
Lmao! 😂
Haha es la verdad
Tough love way of showing you're stupid to think that they don't love you
That’s a yes lmfao
Seeing the older man cry is the most powerful moment.
No it ain’t puzzi
ll ll shut up bitch you prolly crying rn
WOW seriously a beautiful nourishing video. blessing to all of them
Like they say “Actions speak louder then words”
Whenever I told my dad te quiero pa’ he’ll ask me...que quiero? 😂
X2
Evelyn Vanegas “dinero no tengo” 😂😂 every time
Evelyn Vanegas my so called dad always comes home drunk we’ve never really had 20+ second conversation 🥺😔
“Algo has de querer” 😂😂😂
Lmao my mom does that to me 🤣
Me: Dad I love you!
Dad: Y ahora que quieres?
🤣
Itzel Rodriguez if that isn’t my mom!🤣😂
X😂😂😂
Lol
"Nomás me dicen eso cuando quieren algo",
jajajajajaja y sii
I dont give a shit, my father same way. I tell him everytime how it bothers me, how its affected me, how i need love, praise, etc. Mans super religious but doesnt understand the concept of love. Yes being that way can make ur stronger but not all, some of us sons need that love factor. In a way it opened my eyes, now that im a father i know not to do that and kiss and hug and tell my son 20 times i love you. Its made me a better a father but at the same time not a better person. I grew up bitter, jealous, resentful at times. But i knew if my father told me he loved me, how proud he was, i was beyond happy. Go figure whenever he came to my soccer games or track meets, i ran the fastest time, i score a goal. Thats the power of love and hopefully i can raise my son and see how far he goes w me telling him how much i love him EVERY FUCKING DAY!!!
This is a powerful message for the young generation as a father I growing up without a dad and understanding how much a I love you is worth for kids