Why old friends keep you poor...
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How I got here…
21: Graduated Vanderbilt in 3 years Magna Cum Laude, and took a fancy consulting job.
23 yrs old: Left my fancy consulting job to start a business (a gym).
24 yrs old: Opened 5 gym locations.
26 yrs old: Closed down 6th gym. Lost everything.
26 yrs old: Got back to launching gyms (launched 33). Then, lost everything for a 2nd time.
26 yrs old: In desperation, started licensing model as a hail mary. It worked.
27 yrs old: "Gym Launch" does $3M profit the next 6 months. Then $17M profit next 12 months.
28 yrs old: Started Prestige Labs. $20M the first year.
29 yrs old: Launched ALAN, a software company for agencies to work leads for customers. Scaled to $1.7mmo within 6 months.
31 yrs old: Sold 75% of UseAlan to a strategic buyer in an all stock deal.
31 yrs old: Sold 66% of Gym Launch & Prestige Labs at $46.2M valuation in all-cash deal to American Pacific Group. (you can google it)
31 yrs old: Started our family office Acquisition.com. We invest and scale companies using the $42M in distributions we had taken + the cash from the $46.2M exit.
32 yrs old: Started making free content showing how we grow companies to make real business education accessible to everyone (and) to attract business owners to invest or scale their businesses.
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Today: Our portfolio now does $200M/yr between 10 companies. The largest doing $100M/yr the smallest doing $5M per year. Our ownership varies between 20% and 100% ownership of the companies. Many of them we invested in early and helped grow (which is how we make our money - not youtube videos).
To all the gladiators in the arena, we’re all in the middle of writing our own stories. The worse the monsters, the more epic the story.
You either get an epic outcome or an epic story. Both mean you win.
Keep crushing. May your desires be greater than your obstacles.
Never quit,
Alex
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It's OK to ditch friends who don't want you to grow. But there are old friends that even when they have been left behind in terms of "life progress" or "self-improvement", they have proved to be loyal. And loyalty is not abundant in this world.
I still have my normie friends that I know since high school. I don't have to compromise my progress because of them: I show up when I can, not when they demand it, and they accept it.
I agree. People take this “cut them off” mantra to the extreme and it’s unnecessary. If someone is encouraging and supportive of you and doesn’t ask for anything. There’s no reason to totally get rid of them. You can focus on your goals and not completely cut off good people
I’m glad you are smart enough to understand this concept
Also
I really _like_ my best friends
Lol normie. I cut off my best friend who thought the same. Can't be dealing with people like that. They think they are better than everyone else.
Yeah he should have talked about friends that APPEAR to be well meaning, but are toxic underneath. In a world full of narcissist's ready to swarm once there's blood in the water, you can't have a healthy social circle without:
1) Being an excellent judge of character, seeing deep into a soul, recognizing indicators of manipulative behavior.
2) Standing up for yourself/others, being sincere and ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES. (You are your best friend)
3) Understand that life changes; 95% of friends are Fairweather as they have their own lives... but always work the hardest to make sure the purest hearts stay closest the longest.
“You want people around you who don’t believe the lies you used to tell about yourself”. Most powerful thing I’ve heard in a while
I've never related to a video so much. My entire time in college, I'd get shat on for not going to parties, hanging out with friends because I wanted to build something. Making the decision to cut them off was the hardest thing I did, but necessary,
Looking back at it now 5 years later, they're exactly where they were then and I've made enormous strides in my career.
Can't stress enough how important it is not just to be around people who add to your life but REMOVE those who hold you back.
Another banger of a video.
@@STARSENMT Belief and consistency are absolute key. Good on you my friend
did you find time to enjoy yourself or were you advancing in your career full time?
@@conradmbugua9098 I did but significantly less than most people I'd say.
@@YasirKhanCoaching lol
Took me up until 34 to do this with most family and so called "family-friends." Surr-fucking-real.
Alex is not wrong, though there seems something a bit sad about defining the entirety of one's life by one's own ambition. But then, one doesn't have to take this to the same extreme to get a lot of value out of the advice.
How exactly would someone define their own life by someone else's ambition...? Doesn't quite make sense. 🤔
I think you're right in some sense, I understood your point, but at the same time, to me, it seems a bit sad to have an ambition and not being able to dedicate yourself fully to your most ambitious objective, and if that is the case, what level of dedication your putting into less important things in life ?
@@thehoov6672 He doesn't say someone else's ambition, reread the comment.
This is a guy driven to make a fortune because of a hared of his dad who married for business purposes.
Different people want different things out of life.
the way I see it, all boils down to the willingness to pay the price
Most of my friends from high school are content with making $15/$20/$25 an hour. Now I don't care to be ultra wealthy. My goal is to make six figures. Near the $200k range. Able to afford most of the things I want, help out some of those around me, and have a substantial chunk for retirement. Last night, I went out to eat with some of those old high school friends. They thought my goals were boring. One of them suggested I move back home so we could hang out more.. I spent so much time with these people during my early 20s. I'd probably be much closer to my goals today if I dropped them earlier, but you know if you look at me from Alex's perspective he would say my loyalty is a weakness.
Alex does have a point. I don't think I will ever fully drop them though. Hang out with them much less? Definitely. Maybe one or two times year when I'm visiting family, but I will never fully cut them off. We still have fun together when we do hang and well they were there for me when I was down. I won't forget that.
Just because your friends don't give you monetary value, they still give you value in certain ways. As long as their benefit of value outweighs what they do to hold you back, then keep them! Don't give up your friendships just because they may hinder your goals of reaching 200k unless you feel your goal is that much more important than your social goals or whatever they give you.
Yeah, this sounds like a more reasonable approach.
I agree your approach is much more reasonable. I don’t know why alex couldn’t say the same
Bros before hoes. Remember the pact you made with your homies. Fun fun fun times. I guess people change cause they weren't true to the word when they verbally committed to the brotherhood blood compact
I find myself shedding almost all of my friends I have even reaching my tech career making near 200k. The amount of effort it requires me to do my job, and have a healthy marriage is enormous😢
So weird how videos like this pop up at moments. I've been on a mission over the past year and have more or less cut out my use of Instagram and Twitter to maximise my focus. I found out one of my "good" friends got married the other day and I wasn't invited. Nothing but great memories during and after university, frequent communication but nothing. Since I found out I've been obsessing on why I wasn't invited/why didn't I know etc etc. Too busy holding onto the past. I watched this now and remembered the saying about friends being for reasons, seasons or a lifetime. I was super hurt but I'm getting back to pursuing my goals. It is what it is
Ask him why
Ask him why
Pursue goals yes, but if you end up lonely at the top, will you be content with life?
@@fajr_fitness I don’t think I’ll be alone per se. I think I can look at my life and see that I’m definitely going through a shift phase at the moment. I think from the video I took that it’s actually “okay” for friendships to run their course and that new friendships will be built along the way. Of course it’s be great to share success with the people who knew me from when I was 18 - 21 but I’ve accepted that not everyone who’s been in my life will stay in my life
@@kcfx9137 fair point man. I’m kind of in the same boat. I hope you’re successful in whatever you’re trying to accomplish 👍
Needed this today. Saving this for the future so I can listen back. Thanks so much!
Hey papi matt
Well then what color is your Bugatti?
that doesn't even make any sense
Me and my best friend were discussing this subject one day. We concluded that relationships and friendships should be "fruitful" For both sides.
I have been feeling so horrible in recent years because I am losing old friends left and right. The one that are still there, we no longer have anything in common and hanging out with them just makes me more lonlier.
just let go man. i am in the process of doing that and it is not easy
Dropping your old friends isn't easy, but it is sometimes neccessary!
It's easy asf
“You can’t expect to do the same thing others are doing and expect a different outcome”...Alex
Brilliant, simply brilliant!!
Friends are not about just about activities. What about trust? It’s hard to trust people when you just know them for a season. Trust takes time and consistency something that can’t be answered in a season.
Alex I so needed this !! Have been into this loop of jealous friends being good on my face and shower hate behind my back. Now I know where to put them. Back.
Im 31 and have moved to four different states in the name of career progression as well as experiencing different cultures. I have alot of friends from my hometown that have stayed behind and in the same job since college. Alot of my family and friends live paralyzed in fear of risk and of change, something I have embraced and it has benefitted me and most people who are successful.
Ouch. The part that hit hard for me is leaving a friend makes room for them to find someone who better suits their activities.
It's a WIN WIN! XD
Why? Seems you're still being friend for the ego.
I once had an 8 year long friendship end, primarily because my best-friend at the time was trying to spend more time smoking weed, drinking, playing games, etc, than focusing on his life/career.
He was constantly hanging around the wrong types of people and had the wrongs goals.
He started to complain about things I perceived as childish, and really wasn't trying to fix his issues in life or put in the work.
It was pretty clear I was outgrowing him, I was basically his nagging mom telling him about his bad habits.
Eventually he broke off our relationship, and said he didn't want to be my friend anymore.
For me, it was quite the shock, I really wondered; "Did this guy dump me for trying to help him? To betray our friendship like that". After I had spent 8 years supporting this person.
I knew he had replaced me with a new friend of his because I watched their relationship develop and they got closer over the previous year or so.
This video outlines that behavior exactly.
He ended the friendship to go find someone more compatible with him, and quite ironically after the friendship ended it did WONDERS for me.
I'm a loyal person and spent so much time dedicated to him, constantly trying to hang out, etc.
I had so much more time to continue to develop myself without him around.
I skyrocketed in potential, and I was already on a great path to begin with.
I haven't spoken to him since, but I assume he's probably happier without me in his life, and I'm happier without him.
I still have love for him and our friendship, but I couldn't be happier it ended.
But do you help ppl, communities without expecting anything in return?
@@ViolentMLG it ended in your favour.
I would rather have less money than give up my best friends who are broke asses but to each his own. having my childhood friends in my life gives my life a lot of meaning.
You're lucky. not a lot of people have the fortune to have met great friends that you wouldn't trade for emotional/ financial stability
If they're your friends, yall can make $$$ together.
I tried my best to bring my friends up with me but they just didn't want to move forward in life... Had a friend I really tried to help. He's damn near 30 living with his mom unemployed for several years just playing video games all day... It was hard but he has to grow up and I can't make him.
this is one of the most seen scenarios nowadays , its crazy.
That’s unfortunate but you gotta do what you gotta do
Maybe one day he will know that he has lost a friend and will stop video games addiction. This shit of game addiction is real he should get help
You're not gonna marry him, why does it matter to you where he is in his life? It's perfectly understandable and normal that people sometimes drift apart, but the idea that you can't be friends with anyone that's not on the same path as you doesn't make any sense.
@@alterego157 it makes a lot of sense, if you yourself are on a positive path and your old friends are on destructive paths it might not be in your best interest to continue hanging out with those friends. Unless you want them to drag you down with them, it’s different if they are willing to start going down a better path.
I was pushed as a "high achiever" in school, and didn't fit in with the popular crowd. It took a lot of work to gain "normal" social skills as an adult. I love hanging out with regular people now, being social, and staying in touch. There are different kinds of people and we take different paths.
Not even two minutes into the video and I’m 100% on this wavelength . I thought I was the only one who thinks like this. Your old friends have a story about you that is the old you, and trying to convince them that you changed is exhausting and most of the times doesn’t work because they don’t wanna see you doing better then them because you guys were friends because of the similar levels you were at in life. Now that you change and your friends didn’t, they still see you and want to see you as your old self. You can’t grow like that. If you’re someone that’s committed to changing for the better each day, and have goals to achieve , your friends will always be changing .
@Alex Hormozi get a real job and life
Such a relatable video, Alex. Thanks for saying it as it is. I got rid of some old friends who were dragging me down because they lacked a purpose in life. Now it gets a bit lonely sometimes but eventually it feels better cause I grew so much. Different friends for different seasons! Cheers 🥂
"the majority of people get left behind" 🔥
No
much respect man, I came to realize every point you made as I was 25 till 30. I recently expressed my thoughts on friendships being transactional and my emphasis on getting something (not strictly money) out of them and was seen in a negative way by the people I was talking to but it didn't phase me one bit because I have the battle scars to prove every single point I made.
I’ve had this same mindset for a few years and it feels good to hear you express these thoughts. Many of the people in my age group around me are busy idling around drinking, partying and doing stupid stuff while I build my business.
"You've changed."
"You haven't."
Cold.
Deadly
man i was always bullied and never held a meaningful conversation with anyone in throughout my middle and high school years. I jump from my middle school group of "friends" to another in high school. I knew that if didnt at least associate myself with some people then i would be picked on constantly. I tried to laugh, to be funny and hangout. But i was constantly reminded that after all im not those things and that why am I trying to act different or change. After high school I just deleted my social media and felt like i've been freed of all the worrying of me loosing a follower, comparing myself to others and being talked down upon. I want to surround myself with people who are better than me and learn from them. I want to be a kind person but not taken as a total Nice guy. I believe in my dream so much that im willing to endure pain. I live life for the better
Oh man, this hit home. I started feeling this way years ago with friends & family in my life- No one could make sense when I told them what my husband and I’s financial goals were. 99% of my friends are completely content with their lives and settling for the fact that as a stay at home mom, being “broke/poor” is just part of sacrifice. I finally started waking up to that BS and realizing I am in control of building something from the ground up & online (something no one around me was doing). I started getting into social media and all the things- It was until I began connecting with like minded individuals and staying close to them, that my business started to form. I am the rare & lucky ones that has a spouse, that has caught up to me and see the vision of building online businesses!
"You can't expect to do what everyone else is doing and then somehow achieve a different outcome." Love this 🔥🔥
Man I resonate deeply with this. I've always questioned why I "ditched" people and hurt them in the process. I put up many boundaries and keep a tight circle but many people don't r3spect boundaries and are almost clingy and codependent
When I got rid of my friends who didn't want to grow I levelled up, having no friends is honestly a blessing
I'd say to the young people who are full of goals and ambitions that you may want to take some of this with a grain of salt.
He's right that some people are in your lives for a season. When you're young and you don't have as many responsibilities and you have good health and a lot of energy, you have time to party and drink and hang out and do all that stuff. That's kinda the beauty of being in your 20s. Some people are super serious about their goals, some just enjoy their youth and free time.
The reality is the older you get it's going to get harder to maintain relationships...including the ones you care about it. You don't have to have this mindset that you must cut people out of your life in order to make room for new friends or make time for what you really want to do. Life will kind of do that for you, and it's usually nobody's fault.
I think this kind of mentality leads to a dead-end. People are going to be hesitant to put their arms around you or let you put your arms around them if they feel like you look at everyone as expendable.
I wish I came to the conclusion of letting my childhood and high school friends go soon.
Dude, I wish I had all this wisdom so many years ago. Thanks for making such a video for those out there that suffers through their entourage of friends that are not healthy.
i think as human beings we get way too caught up in success and money. The last thing you would want to do is get rid of your lifetime friends because you want to make more money. The older you get the less money actually matters. On your deathbed the things you will look back on and cherish most are your close relationships with friends and family.
As long they are not toxic people, and they add solid value to your life
I agree that me trying to keep relationships with people is holding me back big time. Not serving me to reach my goals at all. Perfect timing with this video.
When i got my 2 new friends from universiry , we sarted talking about sucess instead of videos games and leisure activities . We talk aboug goals . Being with them has completely change me for the better .
all important life lessons here
I realized last year that I outgrew a lot of my friends. A lot of them are broke, making dumb decisions in life, and very stagnant. It seems like the more successful I got the less friends that I had but I’m open to doing things by myself or with people on equal playing fields.
Every millionaire on TH-cam tells you to give up on your friends and surround yourself with other successful people. I hope one day I can devote all my time to working so I can be around people who turned their backs on their friends, sounds like a dream come true.
Haha so true. These guys are all pricks.
Man this is GOLD! I totally resonate with Alex's brutally frank and honest take on shedding friends who are trying to hold us back from achieving our true potential
Great content as usual. Reinforce the ones that count. Seasons can always be remembered with fondness for others who can’t keep up or have different priorities than you do.
This is going to be a hit or miss for people based on a matrix of a few factors, particularly attachment history. If this feels unnatural to you and if relationships are how are you derive your deepest satisfaction then it’s highly predictable, and to your credit, that you were not persuaded by much of this.
The point isn't that friendships aren't transactional, it's that if you only view it from the perspective of what you are getting from someone you are being selfish. My requirement for friendship is that I like being around someone. That's it. It just so happens that people I enjoy being around tend to be generous and kind, but focusing on what I'm getting from them is a shallow perspective. Like, it makes me wonder what you are hoping to gain from your relationships other than satisfying social interactions?
Im the person left behind and I totally understand it. They all have family, have high paying jobs, able to go to expensive places and experience so many things. It is up to me to catch up and not bringing anyone down.
Can't thank you enough for speaking on this topic man!
I am 23 and when I was in my high school level I had lots of friends and things changed for me. After this everything changed, most of my friends joined university and but I wasn't able to pursuit university due to my poor financial situation and joined another college for a bachelor degree but as I said I am not able to visit college and study so I do work in the day and just attend exam once a year and I am at 3rd year of my bachelor degree.
Recently, I was worried and shocked noticing that one of my closest friends wasn't in my contact and Literally I have no friends right now that I can talk openly.
Now I know why this happened. It's because I choosed different goal and I am willing to do anything for it that's why they didn't fit in my circle ( so do I in their) .
And I have still another part where I am interested in learning. it's on sex relationship and choosing romance or goal or what cause it's hard in my age like 23 totally ignore romance life when everyone around me are enjoying it.... So I'm in confusion on this...
“If I die and don’t do epic shit, I’ll be bummed” great quote great video.
Gold, you are who you hang out with.
If you hang out with losers, you will always stay a loser...
Is this why so many rich people end up chasing after more and more wealth?
Because they are lonely and trying to fill the void, and building wealth made them happy once upon a time?
We only have so much time in our lives to dedicate in a day/week etc. Priorities it with people that are likeminded and also ambitious. Pretty sound advice and well said on the basic premise of relationships.
dude this is what i needed today at this moment . i feel sad today but i know that what youre saying is relatively true for my life. I felt like an asshole because of everyone around me is making me think that i shouldnt want to be great . thank you alex . much love and so grateful you are on this planet at the same time as me! this has been one of the hardest things ive struggled with in life.. letting go of the people in my life.. this helps staright up dawg
Best friends, basically brothers, big time stood me up today in a big way. Absolutely dropped the ball. Then TH-cam recommended me this video as soon as I opened it. It’s a sign.
Sounds like a sad life
Whilst I agree with everything said, I look at it a bit differently.
If i stop speaking to someone, it's not because they lose their value, it's because they conflict with me.
I had a friend with ambitious ideas who was willing to do whatever it took (quite literally) to get what he wanted, he had good "value", but everything about him didn't mesh with me as a person, our "goals" were aligned but in the end i said "Fuck this" because despite being mutually beneficial to one another, i couldn't stomach what he was doing to get "his" and had to step up to fill the void he left.
I suppose it's just my way of looking at it.
No
I like your comment and agree with what you're saying. I just underwent a period of growth and I found myself more easily able to see people's core selves. I realized I had to let go some of my long term friendships. Some of these friendships I should have let go a while back but I am a loyal person. It's a balance between being a good friend and knowing when it's time to move forward for the reasons stated in this video. Not everything is so cut and dry.
So you weren’t willing to pay the cost anymore 🤷🏿♂️
The price of associating with how he got his was too much so you agree 100%
@@Thewanderingsoulskool It was a moral thing really, he did thing's that were unethical to me, and I just fucked off.
The biggest reason people can't find success is because we are too nice ! Shed your morality and you will be on a different platform for a launch ! But the question is , is it worth it ? Don't we need more compassionate and loyal people in the world than successful one's ?
A friend of 14 years really hurt me and I was struggling to let go of the friendship. I decided yesterday that I would distance myself and I needed the affirmation of this video.
We were great in university but our lives couldn’t be more different today. Thanks Alex 💪🏾
"You want people around you that don't believe the lies you used to tell about yourself"
"If I'm not seeing them anymore doesn't mean that I don't wish them well"
Totally agree
I'm so glad you had this conversation!!! I've been struggling to do exactly that with wasted relationships and people, while not alienating myself from my small community.
This really made me realize that I'll never be successful and that's okay. Because I'm more like the teacher who gave 2 hours per day for a year, getting nothing in return, to help launch a young man into a life of health and wealth; and could therefore never be the person who would turn that teacher away in the future. I'm okay with that. But Alex, why wouldn't you believe you could use those 2 hours per week to bring that teacher up to a level where he could be in your circle of influence? I think someone like Tony Robbins could bring a person up to a level where they could then be a beneficial influence. Grow them into your level y'know?
I texted my 2 friends yesterday and let them know im deleing social media becuase its holding me back. Its costing me contact with a solid 30-50 people. It's stressful but i know where i want to be when i die and its not on bed scrolling instagram with 207 fake friends, its with 2 real friends and all my dreams achieved. Hopefully theyre both life long friends, but who knows
I think its about priorities. Alex is right in his own way because thats his priority. For me, i feel life is fulfilling if you spend time with your family and friends. Like alex said, I too prefer a very tight and small circle of friends. I'd say just tailor your approach based on your life goals.
Decades ago, I adopted the philosophy and practice whereby I view my friends and potential friends as various types of plants. Which I carefully select to be place in my friendship garden. But if they should start to transform into weeds, they are immediately uprooted and cast out. Friendships must be fruitful.
There is such a thing as being too ambitious, its a control thing fueled by anxiety, insecurity, spirituality has been my best learning ❤
Yeah this helped me a lot. Graduating from college led to a lot of friendships dying and then there are some that have endured. I'm really starting to see that as a very good thing. Energy is super important. Those friends of mine who help me to become better are definitely worth prioritizing more. Lately I've found that my younger brother James has helped me tons, and so I am spending more time with him.
Probably going to come back to this video in a few years. Right now really trying to just give, give, give, more and prioritize those people who've helped me the most. I love the concept of lunch tables on steroids. If the dream is being held back because of someone yep you gotta find a way to let that person go for a time, probably indefinitely. It's a fragile thing, but getting this wrong leads to all kinds of problems. That last thought made me think of this timeless quote from the movie, "It's a Wonderful Life", "No man is a failure that has friends." So true.
If anyone was watching this before becoming friends with Alex it's likely they would be disposed of quite quickly. While I agree with quite a bit of what he said it's like all of his relationships are only guagued in terms of matched ambition, nothing else. I get rid of relationships where values are not present and / or when the other person doesn't bother investing at all so it feels one sided. I actually spent over 20 years trying to have relationships with my indifferent brother and sister. I reached out to both of them just once in my life for help and they both ignored me. My learning was it didnt matter how much or for how long I poured positive energy into those relationships, I still had no value to them. I ended my relationship with them both and never even cried because there was nothing to miss. I'm a lot more careful now about my energy and who it goes to but I wouldnt dump a friend because they didnt match my ambitions.
Sounds like a lonely life. Negotiating in relationships can be harder than in business but it brings more fulfillment.
Maybe for some ppl, but not for everyone...just because ppl are alone doesn't always mean that they're lonely
Needed this today
Felt kinda shitty removing myself from relationships for my goals but ultimately, my relationship my my goals I love more than them
"If you die with one or two really great friends you've had a great life" No.
Maybe I won't be as materially successful, but I have an entire community of people who love me. I am so impressed by so much of you but don't miss Beauty.
How the heck does anyone make millions or ten/hundreds of mills and make no close friends along the way? Thats a personal choice.
It means you choose them over your dreams... Idk your statement makes sense but also it means they're not right for what you really want to become... it means you love them more than you love that part of yourself... be careful you can end resenting them once you are old and didn't become who you could and really wanted
"You've changed"......yea and "You haven't". Damn. That is gold.
Only video on this channel I’ve ever completely disagreed with. The further you get in life, the more you understand the importance of balance. Balance can be defined as many different things but mostly…. Business, friends, family, etc. That said, the better you get in business and managing assets, goals, etc., the better you become at a balanced approach in business and relationships. The friends that matter will not have left you by the time you figure this out but nonetheless, you can walk and chew gum at the same time while also talking to an teacher from high school that invested in you. A regimented 2 hours per week is dumb. Just talk every once in a blue moon like normal ppl. Good video either way… peace
Yes. This makes sense.
Talk every once in a blue moon is more of an aqantence to a degree. If you really do not have that much in common anymore why still be friends?
@@computernerd8157 I said find balance
@@dwarner9158 I would find a balance as long as I still click with the other person, otherwise I would let them go.
Did you even watch the whole video?
This video again- meets me just at the right time..
Today I met a friend from elementary school- haven’t seen him since about 7 years.
We were talking about the world:
Me: it’s really wild how the more you learn about the world, you see how corrupt everything is, the central banking system for example…
His response: it really is crazy all of football is so corrupt too! It’s incredible!!!
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He said this with such conviction- elaborating on how the corruption compares… it made me realize, just how separated our ways of thinking were.. we live in different worlds now.
I wish him nothing but the best and that was just so interesting to notice..
Maybe you should stick to business advice. You usually say "don't take financial advice from poor people..."
What qualifies you to give friendship advice?
You are extremely poverty stricken in the friendship department.
just saying
I can't believe so many people want to complain about this impactful video. There's nothing controversial even said. If you value a friendship, maintain it. If not, dont.
Alex speaking facts!💯 you become the company you keep.
3:49 hits hard
Still waiting for the merch drop on those acquisition hats!
3:59 so ironic I love it
This was awesome! I love these vids that are more focused on social skills or aspects of relationships
This dude is a breath of fresh fucking air. Please never stop making videos brother
Why friends and family keep you poor or people in general that have the same as you, they don’t want you to have more than them forcing you to make relationships with strangers who treat you better because they care about their money as well! Surround yourself around people who have more to lose than you or just as much to lose as you and things look better in life.
I'm naturally a blunt person. Sometimes it intimidates people because they don't like the truth. I have found my peace in spending time working on my goals and family. As a result, my awareness is increased, my network has increased, and I am closer to GOD. Great Video man. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a season and not reap the benefits of the best version of you.
Can’t see everything through that one lens, people come in different shapes and sizes often most successful people are able to relate to everyone. You just need to manage your life for example some of my childhood friends are just chillers but I go see them a few times a year we hang out have boxing nights watching big fights and having fun together it’s a welcome relaxing time. The flawed way this guy is describing things makes a person come across as a snake only there to get something from you otherwise he is ghosting you or cutting you off, it’s a lonely life too when he gets older and realises life is about balance and not just financial gain.
I think transactional implies a short term mindset around the thing it describes. Regarding relationships, It's not that you shouldn't expect value from them. You should, but there are periods of time when you have to be willing to give without receiving anything back. That's not sustainable forever, but it's part of maintaining a relationship. That's why I don't think they are transactional. Not that you shouldn't expect to receive any net value from them in the long run. Same idea in a good business too, so that's not necessarily the word I'd use here, but everything else in the reasoning behind this was spot on.
I don't agree with this idea.. you are thinking in a very selfish morals, its like you are the only one who's "growing", there is probably friends who grow & develop their life more than u do but somehow u think u better than them & dish them
I think its more about the direction of growth. What are you seeking, who do you want to be, what kind of experiences are you lacking, who should you associate with to gakn those experiences, where are you going to take time from in yojr current life to gain those experiences?
4:39
Shedding identities
I am no longer this way
I will no longer behave in this way
And I don’t accept that reality as truth
This quote touched my spirit.
This is called sociopathy
Agree with everything except the telling in someone's face part. There is a third option of silently distancing yourself from a person. You don't have to rub it in their face that you are leaving them because they don't deserve you. People are complicated but they have feelings. You do you and let them do them.
If you have to be honest then it better be for their good like making someone quit addiction etc.
I agree.
We all know this to be true but a lot of us don’t want to admit it because we know we’d have to lose people close to us, but that is the cost to excel. Great video
100% Alex!
I'm here to do epic shit and make magic happen because I choose to live that kind of life.
I choose be around people who build me up instead of tearing me down.
I am choosing the right people to be beside me as I build my dream and they build theirs.
Thank you again for your time, thoughts and knowledge.
Loyalty Over Money
The thing is you have to be humble and actually want to help people not expecting anything back. This actually creates genuine happiness. And realizing your not better than anybody. There will always be ppl who are more succesful than you.
People that are slow to progress in life might be due to soo many factors.
Thank you for this
lol I've been going through this unconsciously from a long time i was feeling pretty bad and alone in between leveling up this video really helped me boosting my confidence back 🥰🥰
I wrote down, only last night, how it’s alright to let go of friends, from my old life - because I am up to WAY bigger and better things, than they are (respectfully).
I have been bedridden/housebound, for nearly the past decade, until this past year.
Hardly anyone stuck around; and it feels like those whom did - either did it for guilt/pity, or control [I survived Munchhausen by Proxy, at the hands of my “caretaker” mother. Which, I believe is an epidemic - what, with all the “transgender youth,” “fat acceptance,” in children and such.. Though, I digress]..
I am a logical person (autistic), by nature; though, the brainwashing which comes from spending nearly a decade with a severely narcissistic mother (my grandmother was, officially, diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder - so, it’s a repeated cycle), in my most vulnerable state - well, it’s a lot to work with and unlearn/require neurological pathways.
Thankfully, I took a leadership course, a few years before I got sick - and revolves around much of what you teach, Alex.
Those lessons are what kept me focused, even in the darkest of times.
Those leadership skills, absolutely, were survival skills - and I am so thankful for what I went through, to learn what I am truly capable of.
Now that I am recovering and rebuilding my life - though, feeling at my lowest, in a lot of ways..
It’s really nice to have these external reminders of such FACTS.
I found your channel a few days ago, Alex - and your straight-forward approach is so refreshing; and so reflective of my own intrinsic beliefs.
I don’t owe anybody anything - and all of my success is my responsibility..
As well as inevitable, as long as I am willing to claim said responsibility.
And in that responsibility, it’s about willing to do whatever is necessary - especially, moving on from the past and One’s perceived identity, attached to said past; where many of the old friends and family members fail to fully let go of, themselves.
I survived what I did (along with CA’s most deadly wildfire - and losing everything (material) - for a reason..
To do all the shit I think is cool and I wanna do.
Period.
It’s really that simple.
And it’s high time for me to surround myself with people whom are on my level - which, is constantly ascending.
I get to stop playing small - and if that means I only surround myself with myself?
Then so fuckin’ be it.
I’ve certainly learned it’s better to be alone - than surrounded by people, whom lead One to feel lonely.
Putting all my energy towards myself and what I, solely, envision doing - is the only key to success.
Subbed.
"The value of the relationship was in the past."
Damn, its true.
Poor Dr Kashey, he’s going to get ditched soon.
It DEPENDS… old friends are great because of how well they know you, not just reinforcing past versions of you.
They do know you well if you are ever changing
Dudes hide behind this loyalty crap as some excuse for their awful behavior.
Definitely needed to hear this at this point in my life. Thank you
I believe having a few friends that you have deep roots with is priceless even if their not your best friend,I have many!!!
I truly believe that if you are guiding yourself with your moral values and principles, you are going to achieve great things. Unfortunately, there are people who's principles are just all over the place, one day they would say that they want to be hardworking while the other day they just lay in bed all day so naturally, you being a person who has good and strong values, will recognize this and see that it is not up to your standards and eventually lose touch with those kinds of people. From my personal experience, when I stopped drinking until I pass out or stopped smoking weed, just focused on my growth, people kinda weeded out themselves. No one wants to be friends with a person who is not "fun" by their standards and that is fine.
Wonderfully edited ... Wonderfully. Those pauses and sounds were Perfect. BILLIONAIRE CLEAN!! Like my room and life, increasingly, thanks to Alex.