Just placed an order! I'm not Mormon or Ex-Mormon, but I'm so excited to read this! I was involved in a different religious practice but I have some religious trauma. Even though they're different religions, your videos make me feel so much more confident in my decision to keep myself and my daughter out of my old church and live my life on my terms.❤️
This comment makes me so happy. I think anyone raised in a high demand religion can benefit from the perspectives. I’m happy to hear you’re feeling more confident and on a good path 😌
@@alyssadgrenfell purely out of curiosity, and you don’t have to answer this if you don’t want, but what do you think of Non-Mormon Christian churches? Also, what are your thoughts on Catholicism and its role in Christianity? Again, you don’t have to answer if you don’t want, but I know the Mormon church calls itself Christian, even though almost all other Christians disagree with that idea, so I was just curious how you think about Christianity after leaving the Mormon church
Can’t wait to read this!! I was raised in the “Church of Christ” branch of Mormonism and was shunned from the church at 18. I’m now 27 and I genuinely wish I could’ve had a book exactly like this one 10 years ago when I felt so confused 😭
I agree!! When I left I really wanted something like this. Like a true guide to flip through and just take my questions/pain to. I hope you like it and it still resonates!
@@alyssadgrenfellI'm just wondering, are you an atheist now? And did the church do anything particularly bad to you or did you lose faith or wanted to try prohibited things and they didn't want to be friends with that? What makes you vehemently anti Mormon? I believe you are personaly anti Mormon but are you anti Mormon for others? Does the culture you joined, a modern American individualism Make you against Mormons for not being that. I feel a real liberal would allow Mormons to have a Mormon culture and not rail against it. I want to know if you feel that way If that's ok I am to cheep to buy books. new book, I look to buy ones that have a good shelf life. So only if there 10 years old. I borrow from the library in all others cases
@@charlesmendeley9823 uhhh? I’m not really sure what you’re asking here… There are not “so many” different church of Christ. It’s all the same branch as each other. All the church’s that say “church of Christ” teach the same things. We even used to have state wide rally’s that all the different “churches of Christ” would travel to one big place for a huge gathering together once or twice a year. As for the specific message- we didn’t focus on any one specific prophet or message. There were several different ones we learned about but the majority of it all boiled down to “you will never get into heaven no matter what you do or don’t do because you’re a human and inherently bad just by existing… but here are some awful and strict rules to follow anyway. Just in case you do get in!” 🤣 Edit because I also wanted to add that while we DID go on missions still, all of the missionaries at my church only ever went to the same place: Honduras. Every. Single. Time. EVERYONE went to Honduras. And I have no idea why 😅
i wasn’t Mormon but i was raised Christian and currently in the process of deconstructing! it feels good to take ownership of my life 🎉 those fears instilled in us since we were children are the hardest to overcome sometimes congrats on your book! thank you for being strong 😊
Usually like exmos, "backsliders" are rejecting some organization's traditions and wrong doctrine. I've had the pleasure of being a friend to an unusually large portion of people with both stories, and when we go into the nitty gritty wounds and what worldview they are actually rejecting, not one of them has understood the gospel. When you get the time and the emotional energy (remember, Christ is the Lord of the Sabbath; and Israel was told to let the land rest or God would remove the from His land and it would get rest without them. Very important for your health, please make sure you rest and recover.), I hope you will dive into your curiosity to learn about what it really is. You have a natural instinct to know when something is not in line with the truth or else you wouldn't have identified and rejected a false gospel. Solomon wrote in Proverbs that it's God's glory to conceal a secret, and that it's the glory of kings to search it out. That emotional intuition and discernment to know what's NOT true??? Well that is a really powerful gift, and I hope you flex those discerning muscles on the Gospel again once they're all rested up. The truth is clouded up by so many denominations and so many parrots who may read but don't really study. They can interpolate, but not extrapolate, and that leads to enforcing unlawful doctrines and living really harshly towards one another. That's one of the biggest things the Pharisees did, cause church hurt by false teaching and wrong living, which Jesus constantly criticized them for. They were in the wrong. The missed the mark and forgot the SPIRIT and PURPOSE of the law, and many similar groups today do that with the Gospel. I've been ground up by a few of those churches myself. Anyways, that's all I really wanted to say. Many have been in your shoes, including myself; and my crises led me to such a beautiful life and development in my walk with Christ (and away from those kinds of churches). ❤ I hope that wasn't too much to read and that you have a wonderful season of rest from whatever wounds are still hurting.
@FDroid01 I personally appreciate your thoughtful and well thought-out comment, however please understand that not everybody finds fulfillment and truth in your beliefs ♡ Frankly, we're tired of hearing about what God says or wants for us.
@@FDroid01 It's convenient that people can study a book their whole life, but those who disagree with what it says just 'didn't understand it'. Very convenient.
@@bleepbloop101010101 I know what you're getting at. "Trust the science" but anyone who listens to real scientists is a conspiracy theorist. It is a valid point and a reasonable concern. I am explaining here, not blaming. I'm not trying to say, "You didn't study hard enough." I'm trying to say, "Yeah, I see this all the time and it sucks. These are some similar stories I have, and this is how I see them normally play out." I'm big on sharing information. It's not convenient that people are misled or earnestly misunderstand. I'm speaking again as someone who studies Scripture almost constantly and has had numerous experiences with people having that kind of crisis. There are Christians in Mormon households and Christians in the Catholic church, but those organizations are not Christian. These crises come from wrongly equivocating false teachings with the truth of the Bible. This wrestle with God is experienced as a crisis because they are not familiar enough with the Gospel to refute those false teachings, and usually the communities that organized these individuals' lives have done it in a way that makes believing the gospel materially and emotionally costly. The Manual isn't wrong. It's the drunk old shop teacher that tells you the Manual calls for AC power instead of DC so he can laugh at you when it blows up. Somehow it entertains a false teacher even though he's the one who misled you and made you unsolder the rectifier. If you understand the Gospel and leave it anyway, you're a statistical anomaly but you won't have a crisis or deconstruction. If you leave a false organization for their false teaching because you know sound teaching, you won't have a crisis. You know what to do with that sense in your soul that something there isn't right. It hurts but you'll just find a Biblical church and maybe start to teach. It's leaving false teaching because it's false, WHILE being under the presumption that you're actually leaving the truth, that causes someone to experience this kind of crisis. I've experienced them before too. So I have personal experience, confidential experience, and a fairly decent grasp on available research about this stuff. (I'm smart and most likely autistic. I know it's not normal to gather information that obsessively or to be that obsessed with accuracy. There's the explanation haha 😆) My comment is well-intentioned and well-informed, just like I'm sure yours is as well. I just honestly see these crises work out how I explained, and would have appreciated if someone told me back when I had my crises. ❤ This tired vet is falling asleep, so may God bless you sweetly and I hope you all have a lovely night.
I left almost 4 years ago when I turned 19. There are still those moments where I feel tremendous guilt and the embedded shame, but I’m so grateful for the platform you have built, and I can’t wait to read! 💛
Those days were the worst for me, in my area, seminary was at 6am an hour away so we left at 5am and I had to be at school by 8 so god forbid if the class went over or there was traffic😂. I was late to school almost everyday and constantly sleeping in class getting bad grades, but it was all worth it in my mom's eyes for my eternal soul to be saved cause education didnt matter 😅
@@sarairvin9727 yeah, I’m having to do it as a online course so everyday I have an online lesson, I’m still trying to catch up but because of also having seminary I fell extremely behind in high school. I have about 30 assignments that I have to do by the end of next week because exams are coming up quick. I got that far behind because I was abo it 30 assignments behind in seminary too but obviously seminary was more important to get done. All of my Christmas break was spent on seminary instead of school. I have a 19 in one of my English classes because of this. I might fail because of the church. That’s a new low.
Congratulations! I just placed the order! My book will arrive on January 13th to Bountiful Utah 😂 I'm not a mormon, but I'm surrounded by mormons and knowing the culture have helped me to understand better people around me, yes, they are so much different than anyone else I've known before. Thank you for sharing your videos!! 💞
I just left the church a year ago, on my 21st birthday. I’ve been struggling with it so much, and can’t wait to read your book! ❤ your videos help me very much with coming to terms with, essentially, the loss of my entire culture
Wow, your 21st birthday :( that’s so rough. It’s remarkably strange to lose Mormonism, because it’s truly every piece of you. I hope the book helps things get better 💙
As someone who is the only one of her family to leave the church- even amongst extended family, both sides- I truly didn’t realize how much of my own faith I didn’t know about…I left home at 19- inactive for about 9 years. I tried going back just to see…and suddenly I found myself questioning everything. My whole world shattered around me- i suddenly realized the dirty underbelly and secrecy to it all…realizing there are things my entire family know I’m not allowed to…it’s been a roller coaster to say the least. But I finally feel like I’m finding some semblance of peace, emotionally and mentally. Hell, spiritually. I can’t wait to buy this book. 🎉
@@alyssadgrenfell hearing stories like yours, the guilt of leaving for one, and just all the different aspects of things…it’s so healing to hear it from someone else. It also helps when trying to explain some things to my amazing non LDS husband. Light at the other side of that tunnel. And I’m happy to have found your channel.
This is huge! Publishing is no easy feat, even more so when such personal struggles are explored throughout the material. I’m sure this will have a lasting impact on those who read this, wether Mormon/ ex Mormon or anyone who finds your book on their path.
Congratulations. I really find these posts so helpful, liberating, thought provoking, inspiring. Thanks so much for your courage and for sharing with the world
Incredible, congratulations!!! My partner is in the process of leaving and your videos help me so much - it’s such a hard world to escape, and I’m so happy for you that you did. Thank you for sharing your story!
Congratulations! I love your channel, your education of us who are not Mormon, your exposé of the truth about Mormonism, and your general overall spirit and love of life! Thank you!
yoooooo! congrats!!! and foreword by john dehlin and all!!! love the cover, love the concepts, will be purchasing. probably as an ebook if that's possible bc my bookshelves are in a dire state and i think a lot of people will value their physical copies in a manner that i legit can't as a nevermo. excited for you and excited to read it. congratulations, you deserve it all for all your hard work
looks like there is kindle. i had my accounts set wrong, accidentally almost ordered this to my friend who lives in the UK and has never been in ANY religion 😂
My sister left the church and its been really hard on me so hard ive started to lose my faith Thank you for your videos they help me understand that its ok to lose my faith Hopefully i can get this book ❤❤
I investigated the church for over a year, going every Sunday, making new friends within the church, and making lasting friendships with many missionary Elders and Sisters. I was drawn to the wholesomeness of it all, the structure, the members and their families are all such amazing people, there was such an innocent quality about everything but I knew there was more to it than that. I knew the church controlled your life and every aspect of it. I didn't join because every time I was asked: Do you know that the church and the Book Of Mormon are true and that Joseph Smith was a true prophet of God? My answer was: I don't know. Also, I didn't think I would be able to live up to the level of perfectionism in my daily life that would have been required of me. But I miss the people. They are really good people.
My mom's side of the family is HEAVILY mormon, some of my cousins have been distancing themselves from their mormon parents and the church. I'm absolutely checking this out and will consider gifting this to them. so excited for you!🎉❤
Congrats! I’m not an ex-Mormon, but have found many of your experiences leaving to be relatable to my departure from religion. A book is a HUGE accomplishment. Eat all the chicken! 🎉
As an exmo, i also want to bear my testimony and say that YES, life outside the church is sooooo much more beautiful and loving. I will always be greatful to my inner self, but leading me away from this diabolical control cult.
Congratulations!!! I know it’s not the same, but I found my passion too recently, and I’m on the road to try and get there! I want to train service dogs, and I want to have an animal sanctuary one day! I’m already a pet sitter/dog walker, so, one step closer I’m really, really proud of you for leaving the church, and I’m so proud of you for becoming a published author!!! Both of those are equally hard, and so difficult to do, but you did it!!! I can’t wait to see what you next 🩷
Please be careful, from what I’ve heard from you and from other friends of mine who also left the church, it would not be a stretch for the Mormon church to want to silence you in any way necessary. You’re doing great work and I’m proud of you, keep doin what you’re doin and stay safe!!❤
Congratulations i'm so proud of you. I've enjoyed your channel since I found it and I love the truth the you giving to us. They need to be stopped making people believe that trash. Thanks for your bravery. I know couldn't have been easy.
It's actually crazy to me that there is bow a whole nee community of ex Mormons. My husband and his siblings are part of that community, so I am watching it unfold from the sidelines. I love that it is gaining so much momentum, and that you all have each other to lean on.
Congrats !!! I haven’t been watching your content for very long but it has been so interesting to learn about and I have you to thank for my new knowledge :)
I'm so happy that Ex-Mormons are sticking together, supporting each other and getting to share their stories worldwide. When I heard someone was Mormon I never really knew what that meant until I started seeing all of these stories. Come to find out my girlfriend (who is gay and Asian) was raised Mormon! The Utah Mormon lifestyle is often the only kind of life these sheltered people see. It's not right to indoctrinate & isolate children and young adults, instill deep guilt & shame, and keep them from the workings of the real world. This leads them to believe they have no choices if they want to get into heaven. The amount of shame purposely instilled into every single Mormon is heartbreaking. Especially the girls and women who are led to believe the ONLY worthy life is one dedicated to the church, their husband, and many children.
Congrats on the publish, Ally, you're an author! I've been frustrated about Mormonism because I've had so many friends who had left that false church. I've even been considering moving to Utah to start a Christian church that teaches the Gospel with respect for how the "temple" twists the meanings of so many things (for example what a testimony is).
Congrats!! Are you planning to be on Mormon Stories podcast? I love your short-form content but would also love to hear your whole story longer / in more detail
CONGRATS!! i have never been religious but used to have a mormon best friend. we chatted all through his mission when he could, but it sucked when he went to BYU after and completely stopped talking to me. fully absorbed into the cult. i hope he makes his way out :/
The prankster in me would want to hide your book in mormon libraries. Even if it's a 1 out of a 100,000 chance of someone finding the book, reading it, and never reporting it, hey at least it helped someone.
I'm guessing Deseret Press isn't the printer? 😅 Seriously, congratulations! Keep moving forward and keep discovering the world that was hidden from you.
@alyssadgrenfell I have no doubt that the entire book is a great read, and I'm so excited about it!! I've never been Mormon, but left my own Catholic-based cu|+ and eventually fell down the Mormon rabbit hole hardcore. I always look forward to your content (and to engaging with the angry Mormons in the comments lmao). Seeing you shine as you live your life as it was intended gives me immense joy. You're amazing!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Mormonism seems to be like a prison. Countless rules and no freedom. When members leave, they have to navigate a new world which leads to an appreciation of life and freedom.
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Just placed an order! I'm not Mormon or Ex-Mormon, but I'm so excited to read this! I was involved in a different religious practice but I have some religious trauma. Even though they're different religions, your videos make me feel so much more confident in my decision to keep myself and my daughter out of my old church and live my life on my terms.❤️
This comment makes me so happy. I think anyone raised in a high demand religion can benefit from the perspectives. I’m happy to hear you’re feeling more confident and on a good path 😌
@@alyssadgrenfell so, no offence, but did your parents disown you after you left the Mormon church, or are you still in contact with them??
@@alyssadgrenfell purely out of curiosity, and you don’t have to answer this if you don’t want, but what do you think of Non-Mormon Christian churches? Also, what are your thoughts on Catholicism and its role in Christianity?
Again, you don’t have to answer if you don’t want, but I know the Mormon church calls itself Christian, even though almost all other Christians disagree with that idea, so I was just curious how you think about Christianity after leaving the Mormon church
Sin does that. Sinners think that way.
@alyssadgrenfell It should being the absolute liar you are.
CONGRATS!!!🎉
THANK YOU!! 🎉
I love the use of the mormon book font for thr title😊
Thank you!! It’s meant to look like an old church manual 😮
@@alyssadgrenfellit totally does!!
@@alyssadgrenfellyou nailed it! So proud of you! ❤
Sassy! 😂🎉❤ I like Aly's sense of humor
Congrats I feel like this will help so many that are on the brink
That’s my hope. I think of it as a kind of “CES letter part two.” After you lose your faith, you need some help rebuilding after 😌
I felt the same way when I left the Truth (or the 2x2s). Your stories resonate with me SO MUCH and here we are, becoming our authentic selves! ❤❤❤❤❤
The WHAT? It even sounds like a cult😭
Can’t wait to read this!!
I was raised in the “Church of Christ” branch of Mormonism and was shunned from the church at 18. I’m now 27 and I genuinely wish I could’ve had a book exactly like this one 10 years ago when I felt so confused 😭
I agree!! When I left I really wanted something like this. Like a true guide to flip through and just take my questions/pain to. I hope you like it and it still resonates!
@@alyssadgrenfellI'm just wondering, are you an atheist now?
And did the church do anything particularly bad to you or did you lose faith or wanted to try prohibited things and they didn't want to be friends with that?
What makes you vehemently anti Mormon?
I believe you are personaly anti Mormon but are you anti Mormon for others?
Does the culture you joined, a modern American individualism
Make you against Mormons for not being that. I feel a real liberal would allow Mormons to have a Mormon culture and not rail against it.
I want to know if you feel that way
If that's ok
I am to cheep to buy books. new book, I look to buy ones that have a good shelf life. So only if there 10 years old. I borrow from the library in all others cases
Are you gay?
What exact denomination is this, as there are so many "Church of Christ" in Mormonism? Any label such as Clark, with the Elijah message?
@@charlesmendeley9823 uhhh? I’m not really sure what you’re asking here… There are not “so many” different church of Christ. It’s all the same branch as each other. All the church’s that say “church of Christ” teach the same things. We even used to have state wide rally’s that all the different “churches of Christ” would travel to one big place for a huge gathering together once or twice a year.
As for the specific message- we didn’t focus on any one specific prophet or message. There were several different ones we learned about but the majority of it all boiled down to “you will never get into heaven no matter what you do or don’t do because you’re a human and inherently bad just by existing… but here are some awful and strict rules to follow anyway. Just in case you do get in!” 🤣
Edit because I also wanted to add that while we DID go on missions still, all of the missionaries at my church only ever went to the same place: Honduras. Every. Single. Time. EVERYONE went to Honduras. And I have no idea why 😅
i wasn’t Mormon but i was raised Christian and currently in the process of deconstructing! it feels good to take ownership of my life 🎉 those fears instilled in us since we were children are the hardest to overcome sometimes
congrats on your book! thank you for being strong 😊
Usually like exmos, "backsliders" are rejecting some organization's traditions and wrong doctrine. I've had the pleasure of being a friend to an unusually large portion of people with both stories, and when we go into the nitty gritty wounds and what worldview they are actually rejecting, not one of them has understood the gospel. When you get the time and the emotional energy (remember, Christ is the Lord of the Sabbath; and Israel was told to let the land rest or God would remove the from His land and it would get rest without them. Very important for your health, please make sure you rest and recover.), I hope you will dive into your curiosity to learn about what it really is. You have a natural instinct to know when something is not in line with the truth or else you wouldn't have identified and rejected a false gospel. Solomon wrote in Proverbs that it's God's glory to conceal a secret, and that it's the glory of kings to search it out. That emotional intuition and discernment to know what's NOT true??? Well that is a really powerful gift, and I hope you flex those discerning muscles on the Gospel again once they're all rested up. The truth is clouded up by so many denominations and so many parrots who may read but don't really study. They can interpolate, but not extrapolate, and that leads to enforcing unlawful doctrines and living really harshly towards one another. That's one of the biggest things the Pharisees did, cause church hurt by false teaching and wrong living, which Jesus constantly criticized them for. They were in the wrong. The missed the mark and forgot the SPIRIT and PURPOSE of the law, and many similar groups today do that with the Gospel. I've been ground up by a few of those churches myself. Anyways, that's all I really wanted to say. Many have been in your shoes, including myself; and my crises led me to such a beautiful life and development in my walk with Christ (and away from those kinds of churches). ❤ I hope that wasn't too much to read and that you have a wonderful season of rest from whatever wounds are still hurting.
Hey, I was raised roman catholic and I'm currently deconstructing the beliefs I was raised into at the age of 21 :)
@FDroid01 I personally appreciate your thoughtful and well thought-out comment, however please understand that not everybody finds fulfillment and truth in your beliefs ♡ Frankly, we're tired of hearing about what God says or wants for us.
@@FDroid01 It's convenient that people can study a book their whole life, but those who disagree with what it says just 'didn't understand it'. Very convenient.
@@bleepbloop101010101 I know what you're getting at. "Trust the science" but anyone who listens to real scientists is a conspiracy theorist. It is a valid point and a reasonable concern. I am explaining here, not blaming. I'm not trying to say, "You didn't study hard enough." I'm trying to say, "Yeah, I see this all the time and it sucks. These are some similar stories I have, and this is how I see them normally play out." I'm big on sharing information. It's not convenient that people are misled or earnestly misunderstand. I'm speaking again as someone who studies Scripture almost constantly and has had numerous experiences with people having that kind of crisis. There are Christians in Mormon households and Christians in the Catholic church, but those organizations are not Christian. These crises come from wrongly equivocating false teachings with the truth of the Bible. This wrestle with God is experienced as a crisis because they are not familiar enough with the Gospel to refute those false teachings, and usually the communities that organized these individuals' lives have done it in a way that makes believing the gospel materially and emotionally costly. The Manual isn't wrong. It's the drunk old shop teacher that tells you the Manual calls for AC power instead of DC so he can laugh at you when it blows up. Somehow it entertains a false teacher even though he's the one who misled you and made you unsolder the rectifier. If you understand the Gospel and leave it anyway, you're a statistical anomaly but you won't have a crisis or deconstruction. If you leave a false organization for their false teaching because you know sound teaching, you won't have a crisis. You know what to do with that sense in your soul that something there isn't right. It hurts but you'll just find a Biblical church and maybe start to teach. It's leaving false teaching because it's false, WHILE being under the presumption that you're actually leaving the truth, that causes someone to experience this kind of crisis. I've experienced them before too. So I have personal experience, confidential experience, and a fairly decent grasp on available research about this stuff. (I'm smart and most likely autistic. I know it's not normal to gather information that obsessively or to be that obsessed with accuracy. There's the explanation haha 😆) My comment is well-intentioned and well-informed, just like I'm sure yours is as well. I just honestly see these crises work out how I explained, and would have appreciated if someone told me back when I had my crises. ❤ This tired vet is falling asleep, so may God bless you sweetly and I hope you all have a lovely night.
Ex Mormon here… You inspire me can’t wait to grab your book. Congratulations.
I left almost 4 years ago when I turned 19. There are still those moments where I feel tremendous guilt and the embedded shame, but I’m so grateful for the platform you have built, and I can’t wait to read! 💛
Getting the notification for this while stuck in a seminary zoom class is CRAZY
Those days were the worst for me, in my area, seminary was at 6am an hour away so we left at 5am and I had to be at school by 8 so god forbid if the class went over or there was traffic😂. I was late to school almost everyday and constantly sleeping in class getting bad grades, but it was all worth it in my mom's eyes for my eternal soul to be saved cause education didnt matter 😅
@@sarairvin9727 yeah, I’m having to do it as a online course so everyday I have an online lesson, I’m still trying to catch up but because of also having seminary I fell extremely behind in high school. I have about 30 assignments that I have to do by the end of next week because exams are coming up quick. I got that far behind because I was abo it 30 assignments behind in seminary too but obviously seminary was more important to get done. All of my Christmas break was spent on seminary instead of school. I have a 19 in one of my English classes because of this. I might fail because of the church. That’s a new low.
@@AdalynAlbert , You know what you need to do, don't you? Save yourself before it's too late.
@@KarisPigNose I can think of a couple ways you could mean this. Please elaborate.
@@sarairvin9727 liar.
CONGRATS! Looking forward to reading it
Amazing, I hope you love it 💛
Congratulations! I just placed the order! My book will arrive on January 13th to Bountiful Utah 😂 I'm not a mormon, but I'm surrounded by mormons and knowing the culture have helped me to understand better people around me, yes, they are so much different than anyone else I've known before. Thank you for sharing your videos!! 💞
I just left the church a year ago, on my 21st birthday. I’ve been struggling with it so much, and can’t wait to read your book! ❤ your videos help me very much with coming to terms with, essentially, the loss of my entire culture
Wow, your 21st birthday :( that’s so rough. It’s remarkably strange to lose Mormonism, because it’s truly every piece of you. I hope the book helps things get better 💙
That's wonderful. I somehow didn't realize you had written a book. 100% ordering it! I'm so happy for you friend. I cant wait to read your stories
As someone who is the only one of her family to leave the church- even amongst extended family, both sides- I truly didn’t realize how much of my own faith I didn’t know about…I left home at 19- inactive for about 9 years. I tried going back just to see…and suddenly I found myself questioning everything. My whole world shattered around me- i suddenly realized the dirty underbelly and secrecy to it all…realizing there are things my entire family know I’m not allowed to…it’s been a roller coaster to say the least. But I finally feel like I’m finding some semblance of peace, emotionally and mentally. Hell, spiritually. I can’t wait to buy this book. 🎉
That really does sound like a roller coaster, and to be the only one in your family to leave-so impossibly difficult. 😞 I hope the book helps 💜
@@alyssadgrenfell hearing stories like yours, the guilt of leaving for one, and just all the different aspects of things…it’s so healing to hear it from someone else. It also helps when trying to explain some things to my amazing non LDS husband. Light at the other side of that tunnel. And I’m happy to have found your channel.
Congratulations!!! I'm so proud of you!! Thank you for sharing your journey and for helping so many with your words. Sending love and light friend!
I’m 43 years out after going on a mission and getting married in the temple. Your descriptions of the leaving experience are spot on..!!
So tired of fighting, and trying to find where I fit. As an older girl, I get a lit from your posts. Good luck with the book.
Thank you ☺️ it’s such a long road, but it makes us stronger. I’m proud of you for choosing your own way.
This is huge! Publishing is no easy feat, even more so when such personal struggles are explored throughout the material. I’m sure this will have a lasting impact on those who read this, wether Mormon/ ex Mormon or anyone who finds your book on their path.
Congratulations. I really find these posts so helpful, liberating, thought provoking, inspiring. Thanks so much for your courage and for sharing with the world
Congratulations! That's so cool!
And Thank you! For sharing those experiences, I'm sure it's gonna help a lot of people. ❤
Incredible, congratulations!!! My partner is in the process of leaving and your videos help me so much - it’s such a hard world to escape, and I’m so happy for you that you did. Thank you for sharing your story!
Congratulations! I love your channel, your education of us who are not Mormon, your exposé of the truth about Mormonism, and your general overall spirit and love of life! Thank you!
yoooooo! congrats!!! and foreword by john dehlin and all!!! love the cover, love the concepts, will be purchasing. probably as an ebook if that's possible bc my bookshelves are in a dire state and i think a lot of people will value their physical copies in a manner that i legit can't as a nevermo. excited for you and excited to read it. congratulations, you deserve it all for all your hard work
looks like there is kindle. i had my accounts set wrong, accidentally almost ordered this to my friend who lives in the UK and has never been in ANY religion 😂
My sister left the church and its been really hard on me so hard ive started to lose my faith
Thank you for your videos they help me understand that its ok to lose my faith
Hopefully i can get this book ❤❤
I investigated the church for over a year, going every Sunday, making new friends within the church, and making lasting friendships with many missionary Elders and Sisters. I was drawn to the wholesomeness of it all, the structure, the members and their families are all such amazing people, there was such an innocent quality about everything but I knew there was more to it than that.
I knew the church controlled your life and every aspect of it.
I didn't join because every time I was asked: Do you know that the church and the Book Of Mormon are true and that Joseph Smith was a true prophet of God? My answer was: I don't know.
Also, I didn't think I would be able to live up to the level of perfectionism in my daily life that would have been required of me.
But I miss the people. They are really good people.
Wow! Congratulations! Glad you are shedding light on exactly what goes on in Mormonism......❤
My mom's side of the family is HEAVILY mormon, some of my cousins have been distancing themselves from their mormon parents and the church. I'm absolutely checking this out and will consider gifting this to them.
so excited for you!🎉❤
Congrats! I’m not an ex-Mormon, but have found many of your experiences leaving to be relatable to my departure from religion. A book is a HUGE accomplishment. Eat all the chicken! 🎉
As an exmo, i also want to bear my testimony and say that YES, life outside the church is sooooo much more beautiful and loving. I will always be greatful to my inner self, but leading me away from this diabolical control cult.
Congrats! I myself am not Mormon or an Ex-Mormon, but I am excited to read your book!!
Congratulations!!! I know it’s not the same, but I found my passion too recently, and I’m on the road to try and get there! I want to train service dogs, and I want to have an animal sanctuary one day! I’m already a pet sitter/dog walker, so, one step closer
I’m really, really proud of you for leaving the church, and I’m so proud of you for becoming a published author!!! Both of those are equally hard, and so difficult to do, but you did it!!! I can’t wait to see what you next 🩷
That cover art is everything!
I felt the same and I was wrong. Mentally my mind is quiet and so much better and I’m actually happy compared to before
It isn't "losing faith", it is seeing the truth.
Congratulations. I'm glad you're finding home.
Please be careful, from what I’ve heard from you and from other friends of mine who also left the church, it would not be a stretch for the Mormon church to want to silence you in any way necessary. You’re doing great work and I’m proud of you, keep doin what you’re doin and stay safe!!❤
Pretty much already the case in each of her vid's comments, just angry mormons trying to say she's a liar and an evil person lmfao
🎉 yay! Celebrate sister! Congratulations! I will look into your book. Glad you are happy now.
Congrats how exciting!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉 this will help so many ❤
Excellent! As a librarian and a fan, I say congratulations! Also, WOOT Canes!
I left the Mormon church over 20 years ago, but I feel like I need this book as I'm still deconstructing the programming and more.
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you!!
ordered! I'm already out but I am so excited to read this
Congratulations i'm so proud of you. I've enjoyed your channel since I found it and I love the truth the you giving to us. They need to be stopped making people believe that trash. Thanks for your bravery. I know couldn't have been easy.
I just got your book! Looking forward to reading it. ❤️❤️❤️
It's actually crazy to me that there is bow a whole nee community of ex Mormons. My husband and his siblings are part of that community, so I am watching it unfold from the sidelines. I love that it is gaining so much momentum, and that you all have each other to lean on.
Congratulations on your book!
gonna buy this to read around my Mormon friends, hopefully it'll tell them what i don't have the heart to 🥴
You're amazing!! Good for you, girl. Congratulations!
Congrats !!! I haven’t been watching your content for very long but it has been so interesting to learn about and I have you to thank for my new knowledge :)
Yeah!! Congratulations on your book!
so excited to read it! sending love and support!
Thank you!! 💜 it means so much!
I'm so happy that Ex-Mormons are sticking together, supporting each other and getting to share their stories worldwide. When I heard someone was Mormon I never really knew what that meant until I started seeing all of these stories. Come to find out my girlfriend (who is gay and Asian) was raised Mormon! The Utah Mormon lifestyle is often the only kind of life these sheltered people see. It's not right to indoctrinate & isolate children and young adults, instill deep guilt & shame, and keep them from the workings of the real world. This leads them to believe they have no choices if they want to get into heaven. The amount of shame purposely instilled into every single Mormon is heartbreaking. Especially the girls and women who are led to believe the ONLY worthy life is one dedicated to the church, their husband, and many children.
Congratulations!!!! That's so exciting.
Congratulations ❤ You're incredibly brave and strong!!!
I had no idea you even had a book coming out! Congratulations!
Leaving religion is honestly the most beautiful and freeing thing anyone can do.
Congratulations on the book and the contribution by John Dehlin!! I can't wait to read it ❤
An audiobook with your lovely voice would be a wonderful thing to follow it up with
I’ve wanted to do an audiobook! That might be part two of my release :) I’ll make and update if I do!!
That is fantastic. Keep going. You’re a good person. Need more like you.
Congrats! This is huge! 💞
Congrats on the publish, Ally, you're an author! I've been frustrated about Mormonism because I've had so many friends who had left that false church. I've even been considering moving to Utah to start a Christian church that teaches the Gospel with respect for how the "temple" twists the meanings of so many things (for example what a testimony is).
Congrats!! Are you planning to be on Mormon Stories podcast? I love your short-form content but would also love to hear your whole story longer / in more detail
Yes! I’m going to get interviewed tomorrow!! 😱😱
Congratulations on your book. I will have to read it
Congrats!!!
Enjoy that Mormon free chicken!!!
You’re changing lives darling!
Congratulations! You deserve everything!
I can't wait to read your new book ❤
Congrats! Im on my way to get a copy!
Congrats on your book.
Feeling like you've lost your identity while losing your community is damn rough. I'm glad that led to positive places for you!
So happy for you! 💕
As a Minnesotan it makes me so happy to see you eating canes
🎊🎉Congratulations!!!🎉🎊
Congratulations for helping to light the path for others with your new book. I'm betting that this will not be your last book.
OMG CONGRATS!!!! you are doing amazing work
Ohhhh Marvellous… next book to order, AND now I want some fried chicken 🍗!!
CONGRATS!! i have never been religious but used to have a mormon best friend. we chatted all through his mission when he could, but it sucked when he went to BYU after and completely stopped talking to me. fully absorbed into the cult. i hope he makes his way out :/
The prankster in me would want to hide your book in mormon libraries. Even if it's a 1 out of a 100,000 chance of someone finding the book, reading it, and never reporting it, hey at least it helped someone.
That’s amazing! Well done!
I'm guessing Deseret Press isn't the printer? 😅
Seriously, congratulations! Keep moving forward and keep discovering the world that was hidden from you.
i want to print out ads for this book and bring it to my nearest mormon church lol
😭😭😭 if you do, please tag me in the video where ever it ends up
Congratulations!!!! And a forward by John Dehlin? Amazing!
Edit: Just bought the book!
Thank you so much! I hope you love it. His foreword is such a great read! ⭐️
@alyssadgrenfell I have no doubt that the entire book is a great read, and I'm so excited about it!! I've never been Mormon, but left my own Catholic-based cu|+ and eventually fell down the Mormon rabbit hole hardcore. I always look forward to your content (and to engaging with the angry Mormons in the comments lmao). Seeing you shine as you live your life as it was intended gives me immense joy. You're amazing!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Congrats!!! Just purchased a copy!!!! Hoping to give it to my mom one day
Thank you! That is so beautiful. I hope someday she can read it. 🥺
Well done, you! I hope the book FLIES off the shelves. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽🥰🥰🥰🥰♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I've just placed my order on Amazon. I can't wait to read it
Congradulation 🎉🎉🎉💐happy happy joy joy
Hell yeah!!! Well done! So proud of you!!!❤🎉❤🎉❤
Congratulations! True happiness does indeed begin after Mormonism. Carry on
Mormonism seems to be like a prison. Countless rules and no freedom. When members leave, they have to navigate a new world which leads to an appreciation of life and freedom.
Read it this weekend. It's is very good. Highly recommend fir anyone leaving a high demand religion.
You beat out Hitch?!?! * deeply impressed! *
Somehow! Haha we’ll see how long it lasts 😅
I am excited to get the chance to read this
:) I hope you love it!
From the ex-catholic to ex-mormon: it was the best thing we could do for our mental health
Congratulations 🎊 👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾
From one writer to another, Congrats!
I need to get a book deal, ex Jehovah's witness here. ❤❤.Congrats. ❤❤
That book cover is boss! 🤩
Let’s go I’m so proud of you I can’t wait till my partner gets to leave soon!!!!
i gotta read it
Thank you so much 🥹 I hope you love it 💜
Congratulations!!! 🎉🍾🎈