Hello! I am just learning about parentified children and it’s explaining so much about myself. My parents are immigrants from india, they did not have a healthy relationship with each other and my dad was a heavy drinker. I had to protect my mom and be her confidant at such an insanely young age. And now I struggle with autonomy and feeling good about my own sense of identity, and often feel like others are correct and I am faulty, and often become an emotional sponge for their feelings and criticisms as opposed to feeling good about my own. It’s now making sense to me that this is because I spent those impressionable years taking care of others as opposed to cultivating a safe sense of self. It’s a tough road but I find these kids of resources and discussions very enlightening, thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I'm so glad you found this helpful. It is a long road, and it's not always easy but I hope you are able to give your inner child the care and attention he's always needed. 💪🏽
I kinda have a same story just the difference is i am from a lower middle class family in India and i have to look through my parents financial state too
The last half of your video put into words a feeling that I never could. I felt guilty and like a financial burden as a child. From a very young age, I sacrificed and concealed my emotions in order to reduce the stress on my parents. Other resources on this topic never fully resonated with me. I didn't want to feel like I was putting blame on my parents because I knew they did sacrifice and work so hard to give me a better life. So they did work hard to meet my physical needs, but other needs were not met. Thank you for making this video
You are so welcome. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I'm so glad the video resonated with you. Its such a tricky balance to validate our own experiences growing up as parentified children without placing blame on parents we know tried so hard but we find healing when we accept that both things are possible. 🤎
I understand what you mean completely. I remember I wouldn't want to ask for medicine or clothes because I would feel like a burden. We are growing though. We are going to overcome this and reach for a higher quality of life. Good luck to each of us!
On the merits of this video alone, I subscribed and shared with my wellness groups online. Thank you for your work with POC and this topic specifically. Much needed.
Oh wow. Thank you so much for this. I'm starting to unpack my childhood trauma and, as a latin/brazilian, I had no idea this was an issue for a very long time. Everyone I knew suffered from parentification (I grew up in a very poor neighborhood), so I thought it was normal, despite always having this crushing feeling of only being able to rely on myself. Thank you for your final thoughts and the perspective on why this happened. Sometimes life is hard and people don't mean to harm you. It really hits different now that I am no longer fighting for survival and I can give myself all the support to heal and stop this cycle. Thank you 😊❤️
Just found your channel and I love your videos and the amount of valuable information! I am finishing my Masters to become a Therapist and I found your videos so helpful . Please make more ☺️
Thank you so much for your lovely comment! I will absolutely continue to make more :) Please let me know if there is anything you would like me to cover in a future video!
Haha, oldest child? The oldest child has to do jack shit in my family. They both simply fucked with me, the middle child and completely let the youngest off the hook
Of course! My work takes into account the BIPOC experience but can absolutely be applied to anyone. As long as you find it helpful, I hope you keep coming 🤎
@@TherapyExplained It's racism, plain and simple. Judging someone based solely on skin color is the definition of racism. I think that the therapist should do some soul searching herself and think of all the people that you could've helped by being more open minded. You don't have to follow the crowd. ALL people should be included. The blind shouldn't lead the blind. ❤️
Hello! I am just learning about parentified children and it’s explaining so much about myself. My parents are immigrants from india, they did not have a healthy relationship with each other and my dad was a heavy drinker. I had to protect my mom and be her confidant at such an insanely young age. And now I struggle with autonomy and feeling good about my own sense of identity, and often feel like others are correct and I am faulty, and often become an emotional sponge for their feelings and criticisms as opposed to feeling good about my own. It’s now making sense to me that this is because I spent those impressionable years taking care of others as opposed to cultivating a safe sense of self. It’s a tough road but I find these kids of resources and discussions very enlightening, thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I'm so glad you found this helpful. It is a long road, and it's not always easy but I hope you are able to give your inner child the care and attention he's always needed. 💪🏽
I kinda have a same story just the difference is i am from a lower middle class family in India and i have to look through my parents financial state too
India is better
The last half of your video put into words a feeling that I never could. I felt guilty and like a financial burden as a child. From a very young age, I sacrificed and concealed my emotions in order to reduce the stress on my parents. Other resources on this topic never fully resonated with me. I didn't want to feel like I was putting blame on my parents because I knew they did sacrifice and work so hard to give me a better life. So they did work hard to meet my physical needs, but other needs were not met. Thank you for making this video
You are so welcome. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I'm so glad the video resonated with you. Its such a tricky balance to validate our own experiences growing up as parentified children without placing blame on parents we know tried so hard but we find healing when we accept that both things are possible. 🤎
I understand what you mean completely. I remember I wouldn't want to ask for medicine or clothes because I would feel like a burden.
We are growing though. We are going to overcome this and reach for a higher quality of life. Good luck to each of us!
On the merits of this video alone, I subscribed and shared with my wellness groups online. Thank you for your work with POC and this topic specifically. Much needed.
Thank you so much! It means a lot to be recommended. 🙏🏼🤎
Oh wow. Thank you so much for this. I'm starting to unpack my childhood trauma and, as a latin/brazilian, I had no idea this was an issue for a very long time. Everyone I knew suffered from parentification (I grew up in a very poor neighborhood), so I thought it was normal, despite always having this crushing feeling of only being able to rely on myself. Thank you for your final thoughts and the perspective on why this happened. Sometimes life is hard and people don't mean to harm you. It really hits different now that I am no longer fighting for survival and I can give myself all the support to heal and stop this cycle. Thank you 😊❤️
Thank you for watching but most importantly thank you for your story! This is why I do what I do.
thank you for this,truly. ❤️ felt very seen by this and can’t wait to apply all the tools you gave us here!
You are so welcome. I'm so glad this resonates with you! 🤎
Just found your channel and I love your videos and the amount of valuable information! I am finishing my Masters to become a Therapist and I found your videos so helpful . Please make more ☺️
Thank you so much for your lovely comment! I will absolutely continue to make more :) Please let me know if there is anything you would like me to cover in a future video!
Thank you for this video❤️
you are so welcome Annie! Thank you so much for watching!
Thank you so much for this!
You're so welcome! Thank you for watching!
Thank you ❤️
Thank you so much for watching!
Any book for childhood truma?
hmm.... I do have some parental wound healing books I would recommend. Check them out here: www.toctherapy.org/reading
Wow this resonates so much to me thank you 🙏 💕
I'm so glad to hear that! It's why I do what I do. Please let me know if there is anything you'd like for me to expand on! ☺️
I would be interested to hear a video regarding toxic parents and how to deal with toxic households
Haha, oldest child? The oldest child has to do jack shit in my family. They both simply fucked with me, the middle child and completely let the youngest off the hook
Well I want to watch the video but I feel rejected from the opening. Didn’t realize I had to be a person of color to be included
Is it okay that I'm the wrong race to be listening to this? am I still allowed? :/
Of course! My work takes into account the BIPOC experience but can absolutely be applied to anyone. As long as you find it helpful, I hope you keep coming 🤎
My same thoughts...
Yeah same thoughts. It’s a pretty racist way to open the videos. Basically anyone but whites.
@@TherapyExplained It's racism, plain and simple. Judging someone based solely on skin color is the definition of racism. I think that the therapist should do some soul searching herself and think of all the people that you could've helped by being more open minded. You don't have to follow the crowd. ALL people should be included. The blind shouldn't lead the blind. ❤️
Thank you!
You're welcome! Thank you so much for watching!