@@JEFFMAN90 I would not blame the dating apps. They have been around for many years now. It is the fact that women have this new power and 'equality' they never had before... They cannot deal with it!
@Retro Nomix The apps are not the problem. I would say you are aiming too high, there are ugly guys and girls on them... But yes the expectations for all is too high! No one seems to be willing to accept where they are in life... We all want the 'good life' and the same things... What a millionaire has, a shop worker wants etc...
Your not alone. I'm 26 never had a girlfriend and still a virgin. I could honestly say it is/has affecting my mental health because I start to think I'm weird and not good enough. I had a rough childhood I was homeless from 21-24 and don't have the best job. My advice is to start exercising it will really help with you over well being as a human. God bless you bro I pray you find happiness in this life!
26 is still young so you have time. I am a 21 year old guy who never had a girlfriend. Got rejected by 3 girls who are 19-21 year olds so far(2 from my college and 1 from a dating app). I tried following few girls on Instagram too whom I knew in my high school days and they are all 20-22 year olds now but only 7 of them followed me back and 2 of my high school crushes who are 21-22 now didn't even accept my follow request. 3 days I got matched by 2 girls on dating app Hinge. One is 21 and the other one is 23. Unfortunately, the 21 year old girl stopped replying after a small chat whereas I had a decent chat with the 23 year old and she is super cute and I really wish she won't ghost me too.
Bout to 26 in a month bro I ain’t got a girl either sometimes I get down on myself because I see my friends in relationships n I wish I was in one in not a virgin tho cause I had play before but nothing else no girl I feel lonely most days 😢
You girlfriend people are so young lol. There's plenty of time. Just be patient and go smooth and slow. Really calm, relaxed. Friendly. They don't wanna date? No problem, just say have a nice day and move on. Go do some bowling and go to a community Xmas dinner. If you care too much it erodes your mental sanity. It's kind of like in a video game where you have to go in lava but if you stay in there long your space suit wears away.
@@doejohn7548 trust me bro, the modern women is not a wife or girlfriend, all that they have is a show to keep up an appearance. They will be lucky to be together after two years today especially if they aren’t older and didn’t meet in better days like 20-22 years ago etc The majority of these situationships are fake and the guy isn’t getting anything of value, a helpmate, sweet loyal or submissive feminine women. It’s just a female who doesn’t want to be alone in these cases today. Gen Z females aren’t even built for being a side piece let alone a girlfriends, a different breed. The guys are weak and emasculated as well which is another issue. Relationships and I mean real solid ones where the man and women know their purpose, role etc are over.
@@doejohn7548 your so called friends are probably being disrespected, cheated on physically or emotionally, manipulated with se*, get no encouragement, no hot meals daily or any domestic comfort. That’s what I can Guarantee most cats your age will get out of it, absolutely nothing but a feminist woke libtard egalitarian broad. It’s a rap for us millennials and especially you Gen Z. Count yourself as blessed with peace.
Ty for sharing bro I'm 28 and am American and I'm 28 with no gf and I'm losing hope over here. I feel ashamed and I won't even talk with men because I know they'll know I'm a virgin fucking loser and make fun of me. If you know any discords in English llz share I need people to talk to I can't be alone in my bedroom anymore I need people, anyone preferably people who understand.
I’m 30 and never had a girlfriend, never been on a date. I’ve been rejected my whole life. I feel you brother. I look forward to dying and leaving this world
Im sorry bro but sometimes you gotta say fuck it! You gonna die anyway drink some booze get that confidence, get your fashion sense up and find a hobby
Same man. I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend. Btw is it fine for me to think about trying my luck on a girl who was my childhood friend? There is a girl named Aishu who was my close friend when we were in elementary school and we were neighbors too so we used to often study together, play together, make silly drawings together etc and even fight sometimes but again become friends. But in 2011, my parents bought a new apartment so we came to a different area, so me and Aishu never really talked with each other since 2011. Now we are both 21 and I saw her on Instagram few days ago and I tried following her but she isn't even accepting my follow request and idk why and it makes me sad. I really wanna talk with her, hug her and kiss her but I feel like it won't happen.
I'm 35 and never had a girlfriend and have missed out on so many damn opportunities that women signaled for me to talk to them. I hate my life. And I hate that the burden is entirely on men to get a relationship or sex. I wonder if women even really like us because they literally don't make any effort to get to know us.
@@Josh-fp2qn I feel your pain. I think women do like us, but we're just too damn shy to approach them. Even if you're a good looking guy women almost never make the first move. I've had women show signs that they liked me but I've always been too shy to walk up to them and make something happen.
Social anxiety is a curse, I swear I can be totally fine outside and I'm able to engage a conversation with anyone with no issue but when this thing kicks in its hell on earth and I get fking stressed lmao
Oh damn really 50 and never had one? And here I am a guy who turned 22 just over 8 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend and its bothering me a lot. I use dating apps but hardly any matches. I got matched with 2 girls 2 weeks ago. One is 18 and another one is 20 turning 21 in April but no plan of first date or anything. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago but both rejected me. I do follow and chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in my school days and they are all 19-22 age range but still some of them don't chat regularly with and they probably doesn't see me as someone more than just a friend. I really wanna ask either of them out but Idk when.
Go to the gym, gain some confidence & get over this obstacle brother. You can do this. I don’t wanna undermine your struggles but I won’t undermine your potential either. You are capable of achieving everything you want in this life. Pitty party is over & it’s time to begin your new life. Your real life. Blessings brother.
This is good advice in the short term though. It's not trivial. For the long-term though. Yes, it's deeper. But for now, keep a fresh cut & trimmed beard for starters. Yes, like he said, hit the gym, regularly. Dress to impress. No more sweats. Get a female family member to hook up your styling.. Do these 3 things and don't even think about women while you're dropping lbs, building a wardrobe, and staying groomed. Just do those things to improve self.. Then see if they don't approach YOU, man. Now, here's the thing. Punch your own weight. Don't be thinking about beauty queens...not right now. For now, just flow with any 3, 4 or 5 that gives you a signal. You'll find affection. Doesn't mean you have to wife her.
@@richardwilliams2861 lol. Typical normie garbage advice. Here is some advice for younger men: try to gtfo of Western countries and get away from useless Western women. Move to SE Asia.
Father God, I ask that you point this man, your child & your creation, in the direction of counseling. God, allow this man to live his life fully & abundantly. Amen.
I feel your pain man I'm 34 with bad social anxiety and Ive never had a real gf, Ive only hooked up with 2 girls in my life but that's only b/c they made the first move on me. Living with social anxiety is fucking torture b/c I've had gorgeous girls throw hints at me that they like me but my social anxiety is so bad that I just freeze up and don't try to talk to them, and they think I'm just some weirdo for not trying to talk to them. Shit makes me want to jump off a bridge sometimes.
I know exactly how you feel. I'm 35. Had so many girls over the years give me approach invitations. One time in college a girl told a dude at my dorm right in front of me that she wanted to fuk me and I DID NOTHING. The anxiety was too strong and I hated how my body looked at 18. I refused to get the covid shot during the pandemic because I really don't care if I live or if I die. At this point, my life is a total waste.
I get the same problem.. i think you should let your mind go blank and just do it, dont think, just say hi and smile. Im moving cities for a new job and will be out on my own again.. i hope i can overcome my fears too
Aye man, you putting your true emotions out there infront of who even knows how many people are gonna see this takes a lot of guts, you never know what’s the like-minded people you’ll meet in real life that has the same issues, and emotions as you. It’s always important to understand the people you go up to and have a convo with may have the same values as you, may be interested in the same music you like, the same hobbies, and they might also have social anxiety. We as people just want to have that warmth and that reinsurance of another person, there’s plenty of people out there that have a great heart and would love for you to meet them
The older generation had it easier. We never used the term "social anxiety". Everybody was a nervous dork, at first. We all just teased, taught, joked, and fumbled our way through it. We all as a culture, went through it, accepted it, and just got on with it. Before you knew it, you weren't too uncomfortable. Your confidence increased, and you tried more things. Met more people. Sure many girls would reject you, but some would like you, and you would get to know them. Maybe have sex, maybe not. Depended on the chemistry, and it wasn't a big deal if it went nowhere. There's always another girl. The things we tell ourselves affect us greatly. If you tell yourself "I have social anxiety", it makes it seem that you have an incurable disease. More helpful would be to accept that you're exceedingly nervous about interacting with the opposite sex, for the time being, Allow yourself to feel nervous, but focus on getting what you want out of life because you desire it, and deserve it, and are not hampered by an incurable disease. You're just normal, and have waited a longer than typical time to start connecting with the opposite sex. The kind of person that will like you will find your honesty endearing. Just remember to not smother somebody at first. It takes time to get to the place where two people each have deep feelings for the other. Don't skip steps. Love doesn't happen overnight, though YOU will feel it. And that's okay.
Kind of the same here but 8 years younger. I am a 22 year old guy and never even had a girlfriend before. After having not much luck on dating apps and getting rejected by 2 girls in my college few months ago, I do see some ray of hopes as I chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are 19-22 year olds now and I had been chatting for over 2 weeks with this girl who is 20 year old now and she is very sweet and we send each other virtual hugs daily and she even says that I am sweet and cute and that makes me blush. We were in the same school but now in different colleges but still same city and I think I am falling in love with her but idk when it will be fine to ask her out.
@@manosijroy8282 22 ist still very "normal". If you're in the same city, go ask her out already. Don't fall in the trap of "online relationships" like I did.
I'm in my late 20's same boat. I hear you bro it's hard for me too. It's hard to give somebody something when you never had it or experience it before, it's frustrating. Keep you head up I believe their will be a open door in your life and mine. it's hard to express my feelings too, I want to get married one day, I face a lot of low self confidence and that might be one thing with me. I'm trying my best to fight it and stand tall. God has a plan i promise. One day I will walk down the aisle and kiss the most amazing woman in my life . I hope the Same for you also. We're in this together and we will succeed. Keep you head up. Sorry for long message.
I am 26 years old, and i can relate to your words, i am headed on the same path. Brother, the suffering mitigates when we're together on that path. To all the men out there that struggle. We can't do anything but pray and keep going.
@@csgo8614 I have severe social anxiety. Been to 6 different psychologists and doctors. Taken medications. Forced myself to talk to people. Nothing showed improvement. I'm 20 and I've been to therapy since 5th grade
True man. I can feel your pain but try to not lose hope man. 32 isn't too late. I am 21 now in last year of college so I am a bit over a decade younger than you and I never had a girlfriend either. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me last week on Instagram. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her. We do chat on Instagram every alternate days since last week Monday and it looks like she is getting more comfortable but idk whether she would like me or not but I really like her.
@@thirteenpixelz7365 no man sadly she rejected me last week after I said her I like her a lot. Now I am hopeless. Dating apps aren't giving me any luck.
You not alone on this situation bro. Im 34 and being single all my life. Also social anxiety, life is lonely, no friends as well. i stammer as well. I want to live a normal life, friends, a relationship and happiness.
I am a guy who turned 22 just 18 days ago and never even had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago and both rejected me and I use 4 dating apps but hardly get matches and even they ghost me for no reason. I also follow some girls on Instagram and chat with like 4 of them. I knew 3 of them in my high school days and they are 20-22 year olds but they hardly chat much with me and their replies are slow. I also started chatting with another girl who is 18 turning 19 after 2 months and she was suggested to me on IG as we have a common follower and she said she is fine chatting with me but her replies are slow or one word maybe because she doesn't know me and we go to different college but still live in the same city.
I'm 35 and at this point in my life I cannot even picture myself going on dates, meeting a woman's parents, holidays with her and her family, etc. Attractive women have actually been very flirty with me but because of my anxiety I can't bring myself to ask them out. This life is hell. In fact, I didn't get the Covid shot and people wondered why. If they lived the life of loneliness that I have they wouldn't care about dying either.
@@Josh-fp2qn man I'm 32 I can relate so much to that. A nurse was flirting with me nonstop a few years ago but..I just didn't know what to say at the time. Life for all men of different ethnic groups is hard
You remind me so much of myself. I'm 28, and I'm in the exact same boat as you. Never had a girlfriend, been on a date, had my first kiss, none of that. I have terrible severe social anxiety and depression caused from my anxiety. I'm often super lonely and jealous of other people when I see couples together. I've learned over the years that working on yourself and your purpose in life is one of the best things you can do. By working on yourself, I don't mean just working out, getting shredded or anything like that, but working on your mind as well. Better understanding yourself, what you want out of life, asking yourself all the big questions and how you can better yourself, which will do wonders for your confidence. Also, by putting some more effort into our appearance helps immensely too. Ever heard of the saying, "Look good, feel good"? Doesn't have to be expensive or anything, but anything that really makes you feel good and looks good on you definitely helps with your confidence. Our anxiety doesn't need to define us and serves as a obstacle for us to help each other overcome together. Thanks for sharing your story with us, friend and wish you and others suffering the very best with your journey in life with this huge obstacle in front of us.
I am a 21 year old guy turning 22 after 8 days and its been bothering me so much lately that I still don't have a girlfriend. I am on dating apps but only got some matches. Most of these matches are 18-23 year old girls and they end up ghosting or rejecting me. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago but both rejected me as well. I follow some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are all 20-22 year olds now and I even chat with some of them but many times, they kinda ignore my messages too for a day or so.
I suffer bad with social anxiety and that also causes alot of depression, i found i had to hit rock bottom b4 i had the anger that turnt into motivation to start doing something about it. I was so confused about everything and generally still am. Something thats been helping me is: 1. Listen to your body feel it from fingers to toes 2. WHEN you start to get that anxious feeling you tell yourself IM NOT GUNA RUN FROM THIS, IM GUNNA SORT THIS OUT. Just force yourself to do this just one time when you get that feeling then slowly build on that. Try to bring more positive actions than negative into your life. Start doing stuff for yourself make yourself a priority, Going to the gym helped me massively giving me something to focus on and not focusing on my anxiety as much, it gave me loads of positives. Much love my freind be the MAN you need to be. Ben UK
I tried staying strong bro, but all this feelings you couldnt tell about became too anger an isolating my self from friends and family, I was dumb before I didn't trust anyone. Traumas really can mess u up growing up ... Idk u bro but I'll try listen too u everyone who tries to help me I let dem down 🙏🏿Staystrong
Same here man I’m currently 20 years old I’ve never felt the touch of a woman before all you can really do is just focus on whatever it is your doing Ik it hurts so much to the point where you feel it in your chest but the sad reality is , is that it all starts within in you man.
Don't beat yourself up too bad, bro. This is becoming more common. I'm 34 and have only dated one woman. I have social anxiety disorder. Best thing that has helped me medically for it is propranolol. Literally a life changer.
I am a guy who turned 22 just over 8 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend. I use dating apps but hardly any matches. I got matched with 2 girls 2 weeks ago. One is 18 and another one is 20 turning 21 in April but no plan of first date or anything. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago but both rejected me. I do follow and chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in my school days and they are all 19-22 age range but still some of them don't chat regularly with and they probably doesn't see me as someone more than just a friend. I really wanna ask either of them out but Idk when.
@manosijroy8282 When I turned 22 in May last year I felt like I was miles away from my having a girlfriend. Fast forward to 2023 and I'm officially dating a pretty girl with light brown hair, 27 years old and she's slim. She's really quite a dream. It could happen for you if you keep trying. Note that I'm not at all bothered by her age. You should probably try dating one of your female friends rather than asking out a complete stranger, that's my best advice. If she doesn't want to still be friends with you anymore after you asked her our then that's childish on her part. So if you have been friends for long enough and can trust one another at least, I would ask her out on a date when the time is right.
I am in the same boat as you but 11 years younger. I am a 22 year old guy(turning 23 exactly after 12 days) who never had a girlfriend but I went on my first ever date over 2 months ago. She is 19 and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and we hugged too and I was pinching her cheeks a lot. But 2 weeks after the date, she turned out to be toxic and mean and blocked me on social media. I also have a massive crush on this girl who is also 22. We go to the same class for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 4-5 months ago and planning to study MBA next. I am usually shy near her and she is the one who tries to talk with me. I pinched her cheeks last month and again almost 2 weeks ago when she actually said that I am looking cute and I also said she looks cute too and pinched her cheeks. She smiled and I also blushed after she called me cute. Sadly she does have several male friends which makes me worried that she might go for either of them. Over a month ago, I also went out with this another girl from the same class who is also 22 or 23 now. We are just friends tho but we roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant. I pinched her cheeks too while we took selfie but I was kinda shy to ask her for a hug. Overall it was a great day and we might go out again. I also chat daily with this another girl who is 19 on Instagram who used to be in the same school as me but didn't know each other in school days. We send each other virtual hugs daily and she is very sweet and caring too and we always talk about our favorite food as we are both foodies haha and we will meet soon too and eat somewhere and hug each other for real. Sadly, in the end I am still single.
@Retro Nomix Im a mother btw...How about you look within yourself. Take note of your inner dialogue, the voice inside your head. How do you speak to yourself every waking morning until to the time you close your eyes to sleep? Everything is created by our THOUGHTS! Be kind to yourself. Read some SELF HELP books to solve the problem
@Retro Nomix You sound quite articulate and normal with your communication. Let go off you limiting beliefs and get out of your comfort zone. Stop telling yourself you're crippled. You want a girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever, stop standing in your own way
Hey bro, I just turned 34 & I been single all my life too.... It's very hard to believe theres guys like you in similar situations as mine. But know you're not alone. Hope all things falls in place. Please stay safe & up!
I am a guy who just turned 22, 12 days ago and I never had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot. I had crush on 2 girls in my college but both rejected me. I use dating apps and get matched by 18-23 age girls but they end up ghosting or unmatching me. I also follow some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days. I only chat with 4 of them. 3 of them are 20-22 year olds and another one is an 18-19 year old girl who was suggested to me on IG as we both have a common follower. Idk her really and we go to different college but same city and she said she is fine with chatting with me but her replies are short or one word so far.
Hey man. Everyone always says you aren’t alone in what you feel. And I usually just brush that off. But you should know that myself, many many other men, feel the exact same way as you. I have trouble talking to girls, meeting new people, etc. not just girls, but guys too. All people. I get nervous, don’t know what to say, I feel invisible and unnoticed in social settings. I look around the room and everyone’s having a good time laughing and shit, but not me. I struggle to connect with people, even if we have tons in common. So just know that I understand exactly how you are feeling. I know you said it isn’t easy to express yourself (I’m in the same boat) but the way you expressed yourself in this video made it very very easy to understand. Because I feel the same exact way. It’s hard, but men need to lift each other up because I KNOW it can’t be just you and me struggling with this shit. Hope you see this. I’m gonna continue watching your videos because I relate to what you’ve said.
I love you man. I feel for you. I know that as soon as you aren't pre occupied with the girlfriend thing, out of the blue you will find someone. You are a brave dude for even doing a video like this. That is an admirable quality... Keep your head high and look within.
@@moneymittenfx5697 meaning Ive never had these problems, have 2 strong boys who wont face these issues, and take care of my family? Yup blue pilled AF. Go back to your crypto hole weirdo
That's what they all say. Stop being fake and giving false hope. It's funny how people say when you stop.chasing it it will.come to you, then you have the other type of idiots who say the complete opposite like it's because you arnet looking or don't have game bro, gotta be in it to win it type shit. So which one is it???? They both seem to be the worst advice I've ever heard
You are right. It is the same non sense that goes on in the word of faith Christianity. Speak stuff into existence. It is false hope. No one is destined to be anyone’s soul mate. It does not exist so no one is going to stumble on your path and it was meant to be. Confidence which is direction and strength , is helpful to attract females and also resources. Females are hard wired to seek those things subconsciously. Men just have a gapping whole for females to fill the void. Choose the girl wisely though.
for sex before marriage pressure my advice is to read NIGHT IN ZAGREB by author Adam Medvidović. This sex before marriage pressure on young people is just beggining of the coming SNAKE FROM THE EAST agenda.
Dude I hope you listen to this. Walk out there and know in your head that you are the best. Confidence is what women love. You can get whatever women you want just make sure you choose the right one. You're probably a great guy.
Stop lying to this man … he’s screwed …. Just like everyone else in this comment section….what confidence?… he can be confident In one thing and not confident in another… since you said he needs to be confident then explain to me and him what confidence is?
@@modalsoul6511 I mean a lot of 70% of men are screwed but it’s up to them to change their mindset and be better than these bums that treat them like shit
I am in the exact same boat. I am 30 as well, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, still a virgin, the whole 9 yards and then some. All I can say is try to keep your head up, because there is someone out there for you whether you realize it or not and she will come to you when the time is right. Just trust God's plan and things will follow through on their own.
Or maybe be realistic with yourself instead of being naive about someone being out there for you. God or that “special someone” ain’t gonna save you lol.
Damn man bro your not alone my g keep pushing i have social anxiety and fear of rejection so I don’t even try to approach women at the age of 28 because of fear.
I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend and recently on dating apps I got unmatched immediately by 2 girls(One is 19 and the other one is 21) after I asked them out after a decent chat. I also tried asking out 2 girls recently who were in the same school as me. One of them is 19 now and we were chatting on Instagram for a month and I asked her out on last Sunday and she even agreed that we will meet up one day but 6 days ago she blocked me mysteriously for no reason and it hurt me. Then yesterday I asked out another girl who is turning 20 next month and I asked her out very politely for a coffee after chatting with her on Instagram for over 3 weeks but she immediately blocked me after seeing it. My last hope is my childhood friend now who is 21 now turning 22 after 4 months and I asked her out for a coffee too but she isn't that active on Instagram so still didn't see or reply to my message yet. I hoping for a positive reply this time but I am so worried that what if she rejects me too.
This sounds like me in the video... I'm 32. I try to face the social anxiety in my job, hoping one day I get over it but never do. I go home and relive all the embarrassing shit in my day, every day. I'm an all natural guy, fk pills. I dont 'see people' about my anxiety, people that 'studied' psychology in college are not my go to for life advice. I think the culture changes over the last few generations fucked us. Women have the power in the early years, they go for the non shy 'bad boys' , the talkers.. After the women get chewed up and spit out by daring carousel they come knocking, kids in tow, on the doors of guys with resources. Not interested in that shit, if you didnt give me your prime years I'm not giving you mine. All I can try and do is level up, try to get a few prime years out of a 26~29 year old before I get into mid 30s. Us single dudes, we have FREE TIME thats our advantage. Hit the gym, get certified/edumacated , level up the job.
I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend either. Got rejected by 3 girls so far recently and 2 were from my college and another was by a 19 year old girl who matched with me on a dating app and she literally insulted me. I tried following some girls on Instagram who were shown as suggested profiles and I knew those girls in my high school days. One of the girl even followed me back and she is also 21 now so the same age as me. We were in the same grade but weren't classmates. I didn't message her yet because I just don't know what to write to her because we never really interacted in high school as we weren't classmates.
Wow I like the way you approach and think about social anxiety. Only, what do you do to alleviate it do you just do the things that cause you anxiety and hope it gets better over the years?
Some things I have faced, like giving large presentations at work. I about have a heart attack before I have to speak, but I get a tiny bit better each time. I get less nervous when I'm prepared, so for this specific issue, I'm getting better at learning how to prepare. Otherwise, exercise is incredibly helpful, and is pry the #1 thing you can do to get a natural confidence boost@@vonnyeaallen
I never got my first girlfriend until I was 33. I have serious social anxiety too. I tried hitting on girls a lot when I was a teenager, but after 32 rejections, I gave up and couldn't bring myself to try again. 2 months before my 33rd birthday, I tried again on most days and on my 36th try, 68th try in my life, I finally succeeded and got a girlfriend. I know it's hard, I know the absolute misery of being single, it's very deeply depressing. But you HAVE to try over and over and over. Women will NEVER hit on you, that's a fact. It won't "just happen" when you least expect it like what people who can't comprehend our situation will say. You absolutely HAVE to be proactive. And you will be rejected a lot. Look for women who should have less options, such as women who are overweight and have kids. That's what I did. As for me, it mostly ended because I wanted kids and she didn't. I think the fact I am boring played a role too, but whatever. I'm getting into shape and improving my financial situation before trying again.
I turned 22 just 4 days ago and I never had a girlfriend either and its bothering me a lot. Got rejected by 2 girls in my college few months ago and had not much luck in dating apps. Btw yesterday I got some hope after one girl finally accepted my follow request on Instagram. I knew her in high school days and we were in the same grade but we weren't classmates. I had crush on her when we were in 9th and 10th grade. Now she is also either 21 or 22 and she is even prettier now and she accepted my follow request after about 2 months. I guess she doesn't remember me much tho as she didn't follow me back so idk how can I get to know her and I am afraid that she might be having a boyfriend now.
I grew up with severe social anxiety. And I mean severe. I'm not perfect now, but I am A LOT better at socializing compared to where I was. What helped most was: 1) getting a job at Best Buy as a sales associate. It involved me having to walk up to customers in the computer section and ask them if they needed help. Then of course we'd talk or I'd show them things or get them checked out with a laptop or something. This of course includes attractive women. It SUCKED at first and was extremely difficult emotionally, but I man, over the weeks and months I got A LOT more comfortable talking to people - even when not at work. The skills carry over quite a bit. It works because you get to have a lot of social interaction in a situation where there is already a reason and expectation to be talking to people, so there is something to focus on, a purpose. This really helps to get used to it and become less anxious about talking to people. 2) I had a few friends in college who were really good with women. I observed how they talked and behaved. I tried to implement bits of that in my own life (at least the core principles of what was going on, not literally imitating their whole personality, because that's impossible). This didn't help a ton, but it was useful. 3) Watched a lot of videos of guys picking up women in fun, light situations. Channels like Steven Shapiro and Jack Denmo and Social Animal. Also watch channels of guys who straight up teach social skills and dating skills and understanding what women like in a man. (Don't go overboard and think women just want psychopaths and billionares, but you need to understand the basic ways they feel about men). Modify your behavior to fit what works, in ways that "feels right" to you and still feels true to who you are deep down.
Dont feel bad man I'm 32 and only had like 1 and that was back in my early Marine Corp career. Just maintain your fitness and finances keep focusing on improving who you are. My friends that are married do nothing but complain and say I'm lucky so..I try not to take anything for granted
I am a guy who turned 22 almost 7 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend and its bothering me. I use dating apps and sometimes get matched with some 18-23 age girls but most of them ghost me. I am having a decent chat with 2 girls, one of them is 18 almost 19 and another one is 20 almost 21 but thats it. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago and both rejected me. I also follow and chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school and they are all 20-22 year olds now. I am having a very good chat with a girl who is 20 for almost 3 weeks and I knew her in school too but idk whether she would wanna date me as she became uncomfortable once when I gave her a cheesy compliment. Another one is my childhood friend who is 21 now and only 5-6 months younger than me and she didn't reply to my last message for over 4 weeks. I also chat with another one who is 22 but she is pretty busy and doesn't chat regularly with me.
Idk man, being married and having children has been the best thing that ever happened to me. Gave me more purpose than I ever would’ve imagined it would
@@Ithaca-vv5dy that just means you went into marriage with better understanding of all the struggles you would face and maturity. I think alot of my buds did it out of avoiding child support or just sex. So they ended up getting tired of everything else but sex marriage comes with.
how long did that relationship last? and shocking that it was just one, because a lot of women find military guys attractive, its a popular assumption that military guys have an easy time getting girlfriends
Anxiety and socialization are two of the hardest parts of our society. People don’t make it easy for one another but we also make it difficult for ourselves. I hope you find your groove and take it easy. Keep your head up, social situations are like a muscle!! ❤
People don't make it easy for one another? More like women make it hard for men. Any men i ever talked to was happy that someone finally cared enough to talk to them even if its just a few sentences. While women are straight up angry if you dare to talk to them. Dumb fcking gender.
I'm the same brother. I struggle with severe social anxiety, avoidant personality disorder and Aspergers. I'm only 20 but I've never talked to a girl. I struggle a lot.
Cases or situations like this make me mad and upset because it's a reminder that men are far more likely than women are to reach an age like 30 and to have never dated anyone or never had a relationship before. Should be obvious as to why it's like that
Bro, as someone who has been in a comparable situation, YOU NEED TO FIND YOURSELF! I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25 and didn’t have a girlfriend until I was 26. I am now 30 and happily married. Find what you are most passionate about, pick up an instrument, read a book and learn something, go to the gym, eat healthy, go to a concert….even the smallest thing can reveal something you never knew was there. All of the other things you lack will come with time. It takes WORK. I believe in you, man. Take care ❤.
25 years old no girlfriend but I'm not frustrated as you are, but may be time will get me frustrated, I see where you coming from brother same here been rejected all day...!
Are you an Indian? I am also an Indian(Bengali) living in Bangalore and I am 21 years old turning 22 after 9 days and I never had a girlfriend and never been kissed and it has been bothering me so much. I am having no luck on dating apps too as I get ghosted and rejected a lot and even 2 of my crushes in college too rejected me few months ago. All these girls are 18-23 age range who match with me on dating apps. I even tried following some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are all 20-22 year olds now and I even had small chat with them but for the past 2 days, none of them are replying or even seeing my last message.
I'm turning 27 never a girlfriend or a first date and I'm still a virgin I don't have any friends either no one wants to talk to me I'm very depressed and lonely
Kinda same. I am a 21 year old guy who never had a girlfriend. Had crush on 2 girls in college recently and got rejected by both. Few days ago I heard a song which reminds me of a girl who was in my school and same grade but we weren't classmates and she changed school after 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe 22 now so same age as me and I followed her on Insta but she declined or rejected my follow request. I tried sending her a message but she didn't reply. Today I followed another girl on Insta who too was in my school and same grade but we weren't classmates either. I remember having a little crush on her when we were both in 10th grade and she has a beautiful smile too. She is also 21 so again the same age as me but I found out that she lives in another country now goes to college in that country abroad so I have no chance with her.
Same here, back in middle school i always stood on the wall during breaks. I would never try to talk to anyone because of being shy and having social anxiety/panic attacks. I would get so worked up would hyperventilate sometimes being in public around crowds. So i get what you mean about you getting overly nervous i would get shaky. I never dated or had any gfs growing up because of it. It really tears down your self esteem and causes depression to.
I did the exact same thing throughout my 1st 2 years of hs! Idk what made me do it but I started doing things that triggered my anxiety but that I also genuinely had an interest in like theatre. I still have SAD but not to the extent like then. Have you had any imrovement with anxiety over the years?
Just like you man i have nothing. Im 23 and got no girlfriend, no friends, and my siblings are already doing much better than me… and im older. Idk why but nobody ever seems to want to my friend, not even looking for a gf necessarily… i just want friends again
In my case, I feel like most 18-25 age girls are rude to me. Btw I am a 21 year old guy and I never had a girlfriend either. I did have crush on 2 girls in my college recently. One is 19 and the other one is 20 or 21 but they both rejected me. I am using 3 dating apps but barely get any matches. Most of my matches who were in the 18-24 age range either give rude replies or just ghost me. Today I got matched by an 18 year old girl on one of the dating app and she too is a college student but her replies were kinda rude and she suddenly stopped replying after a small chat. Idk whether I will be lucky with her or not. Few days ago, I got matched by a 23 year old girl who was even worse than this and she too ghosted me completely.
@@manosijthehero3686 dating apps are a waste of time unless you're extremely goodlooking. Your best bet is to form some social group you can go to events with and then try to get them to wingman for you. It's better to be with a friends group because it's social proof that you're likeable.
@@painexotic3757 I don't really have a social life and only have few close friends who are males and they too live far away from my home. I did find a girl a week ago in the classes I joined recently. She is also a college student but from a different so she is definitely 19-21 age range but idk her actual age so she can be 18 too and I am 21 so we are both about the same age. She is beautiful but I was too shy to initiate a convo with her that day. Now I can't meet her until 1st Nov because she is out of city for 2 weeks. Idk whether she would want me tho as she is in a different college.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and feelings. You expressing yourself will allow others to feel comfortable doing the same. Keep up the good work
You’ve never had a gf bro?!?! You don’t look bad at all man! I’m honestly surprised you’ve never had one. I genuinely hope things get better for you, nobody deserves to deal with social anxiety all the time, I myself deal with it and it really truly sucks.
Man no worries your gonna be in a relationship someday just try to you know maybe go to the gym, just be yourself and she will come. Try to walk to some girl when you'll feel your ready. Love you my man
Wow man really? Btw I am a guy who just turned 22, 13 days ago and I never had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot. I had crush on 2 girls in my college but both rejected me. I use dating apps and get matched by 18-23 age girls but they end up ghosting or unmatching me. I also follow some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days. I only chat with 4 of them. 3 of them are 20-22 year olds and another one is an 18-19 year old girl who was suggested to me on IG as we both have a common follower. Idk her really and we go to different college but same city and she said she is fine with chatting with me but her replies are short or one word so far.
New subscriber I like your Contant and I’m in the same boat i’m 36 years old and it’s a horrible feeling to never have a girlfriend knowing you’re not going to be desired by women can really make a man go mad.
I am in the same boat as you but I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. 2-3 months ago I asked out my childhood friend who is 21 now turning 22 very soon but she isn't that active on Instagram so she took pretty much a month too reply to it but she did reply yeah ok and we even said we will meet maybe on some weekend but idk when exactly due to her being so inactive on IG. I also got crush on a new girl recently in a class where I started going for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I am about to finish college. She is also 22 or maybe 23 now and very pretty and on the first day of our class there (13th July 2023), she did handshake with me and we said our names and introduced ourselves. Till last week she was trying to initiate convo with me asking whether I had lunch or not and many more but for the past 4-5 days, she is no longer trying to talk with me. Actually I am still kinda shy near girls in person so I usually don't initiate further convos with her and just answer what she asks. I am shy to try to talk with her. I followed her on Instagram and she followed me back too but I am yet to dm her. I also have been chatting with this another girl who is 19 on Instagram since 28th May 2023. We used to be in the same school but now we are in different colleges but her college is very near to my home. We chat about literally everything daily and even send each other virtual hugs but it still looks she just sees me as a good friend and nothing more so I am nervous to ask her out too as I also got rejected by 4 girls recently.
This popped up in my recommendeds, I could somewhat relate, Im 26 years old I've dated a few people, had a short term relationship(for 1 month lol), but I never had a serious relationship too. I grew up in a strict traditional house where dating at a young age was taboo, so I didn't have as much experience with dating too, plus being neurodivergent and sensitive too was also an issue too for me. Im still a virgin too. I feel behind in life at times too with this, but I just randomly stopped caring so much about finding love at 22, and im okay now, relationships aren't everything. If you can, I would recommend for you to get tested for other neurological disorders, such as Autism, ADD/ADHD, OCD, CPTSD, BPD etc
I am a 21 year old guy turning 22 after 9 days and I never had a girlfriend and never been kissed and it has been bothering me so much. I am having no luck on dating apps too as I get ghosted and rejected a lot and even 2 of my crushes in college too rejected me few months ago. All these girls are 18-23 age range who match with me on dating apps. I even tried following some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are all 20-22 year olds now and I even had small chat with them but for the past 2 days, none of them are replying or even seeing my last message.
I am TWICE as old as you and I have never had a girlfriend. I do not feel bad about it. I have never wanted to have a girlfriend. I like to live alone. I have more freedom this way.
Wow are you really 60 and never had a gf? Why? BTW I am a 21 year old guy who never had a girlfriend either. Got rejected by 3 girls so far(2 from my college and another from a dating app who insulted me too). I tried following some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school but only 3 of them followed me back and I still didn't message them yet as idk what to write and they are also 21-22 year olds. But I am sad that the girl named Britney didn't accept my follow request yet. She was my classmate in 6th to 10th grade and I had a crush on her when we were in 9th and 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe even 22 now and she is very pretty and I wish she follow me back because I think I again got a crush on her just seeing her profile pic on IG and she is even prettier now at 21.
@@manosijroy8282 There is no point for me dating anybody because I have no intention of getting married. I would not be able to live together with anybody. I like privacy. I am also quite asexual so I have not much interest in women. I am happiest on my own. I even choose to be alone on Christmas Eve. It is peace and quiet and I enjoy it.
I'm 18 right now so i'm pretty young, yet i still don't know what love feels like and it sucks sometimes when all my friends have at least gone through it, I'm a pretty outgoing energetic person both alone and in social gatherings, so I'm pretty unique, I have a lot of good going for me yet i don't know what that love life feels like, It makes me relieved to know I'm not the only one who doesn't know what love is but also saddened to see this as our current state in society with non ideal dating apps and social media in general. All i can say for us brothers (and sisters because it can happen to them too) Is to keep our head high and remember that we're not alone, improve who you are as a person and understand that you don't need someone to complete you, you are your own superhero
I am a guy who turned 22 just 19 days ago and never even had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago and both rejected me and I use 4 dating apps but hardly get matches and even they ghost me for no reason. I also follow some girls on Instagram and chat with like 4 of them. I knew 3 of them in my high school days and they are 20-22 year olds but they hardly chat much with me and their replies are slow. I also started chatting with another girl who is 18 turning 19 after 2 months and she was suggested to me on IG as we have a common follower and she said she is fine chatting with me but her replies are slow or one word maybe because she doesn't know me and we go to different college but still live in the same city.
I’m 20 and never been I a relationship because of a learning disability when I was younger and girls preferred normal people. Now it’s healed but they are still keeping distance. Crushes have been rejecting me which quite a lot of people I know have been I a relationship. Been on the dating apps for 2 years hasn’t worked:(
@Manosij Roy girls liked me and I liked them back ONLY because they liked me but I never approach them. That's why I'm still single at 24. And i also ignore them too because I don't know what to say.
Thank you for being open and sharing your story. Modern women don’t make it easy man. Most of them aren’t even worth it though man and it’s so easy to feel depressed and lonely these days. A lot of men are in the same boat these days and it’s sad that women don’t even care
I feel for you my brother I’m 52 and single and have only had a couple of girlfriends for a very short time and also have mental disorders so hang in there my man
Hey man! I was diagnosed with Mixed anxiety-depressive disorder a long time ago, I've been struggling to find a qualified physician to help me out. I must admit that there were times for me when I really did feel better because of a combination of therapy and medications, I do believe that there is a way to combat greatly your condition as well with a help of a decent physician. There is one thing you should be aware of, please do not overestimate the help you'd get from the doctor in terms that you'd be able to fight back your anxiety, but it is not necessarily it'd help you to find a GF. The thing is, anxiety is detrimental across ALL aspects of your life for sure + at this stage, there are no risks to seeking help, it wouldn't turn things for the worse, for sure.
It's so frustrating that people always looking for constant entertainment everywhere. Nowadays it's just really hard to go on a date and sit quietly and enjoy that. It is hard to get a date when you are the quiet one coz ppl are expecting you to be funny and chatty and all these things. I think you are a handsome guy, and I really hope you will find someone somewhere who can accept you as you are and you both can open up to each other and have fun together they way what fun means to you guys.I hope your wish to have someone in your life will soon become reality.
@@RavDLC Really? You don't look like you'd have any problems at least with women approaching you or being receptive. Anybody can have social anxiety. Have you tried online dating? For me personally, I find it lessens the anxiety enough for me to talk to guys initially.
@@vonnyeaallen Nah I haven't. But now that I'm already out of college maybe I should look into that. Most of the times I feel like you run into alot of fake accounts regardless of the sites
It’s some people who have never been able to choose their next meal & does not have a beanie for their skull when they get cold. Be blessed king build your self bruh and the women will come 💯
I once chatted with a girl on a dating app, almost got a heart attack and just told here I can’t continue talking. I am 27 now, and still never had a girlfriend. I just need to get my anxiety under control. It fucks up my life.
Thanks for sharing this - it takes courage - give yourself credit. I understand your situation as my brother and I are in the same boat. I'm a 44 yr old woman and he's 41. I think accepting where we are at in life right now is a good starting point. I'm trying to work with what I'm capable of doing at the moment - simple things, like feeling comfortable just casually smiling at people on the street and making eye contact, and sometimes saying hello to them. Baby steps. I need to remind myself not to compare myself to others and that I need to be realistic about how quickly I can achieve something, if at all. I must remind myself it's not realistic to get from point A to point Z immediately. I can start with point A, then point B, etc. I encourage you to push yourself to get comfortable doing little things at first, then you can gradually increase doing more things. Try not to be hard on yourself. I understand it can get very frustrating, stressful and discouraging. If something happens that you see as unfavorable, just pick yourself up and dust yourself off. It's ok that you have social anxiety. I think it's more common than we realize. You're in my prayers. Regards from Sydney, Australia 😊🌸
Wow are you both really in your 40s and never dated? BTW I am a 21 year old guy who never had a girlfriend either. Got rejected by 3 girls so far(2 from my college and another from a dating app who insulted me too). I tried following some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school but only 3 of them followed me back and I still didn't message them yet as idk what to write and they are also 21-22 year olds. But I am sad that the girl named Britney didn't accept my follow request yet. She was my classmate in 6th to 10th grade and I had a crush on her when we were in 9th and 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe even 22 now and she is very pretty and I wish she follow me back because I think I again got a crush on her just seeing her profile pic on IG and she is even prettier now at 21.
@@manosijroy8282 Hi there. My brother has never dated, I've only been on a handful of dates. I regret not trying earlier in my 20s although I was very anxious at that time. I think it's great that you keep trying. Don't give up. Just as I said, if something unfavourable happens, pick yourself up and dust yourself off. If you like someone & make contact with them, they'll respond to you if they really want to, if not, perhaps it's best to let them go. Don't end up like my brother and I. It can get quite lonely at times. And it doesn't get easier when you're older. I encourage you to keep soldiering on. You are still young. You have a lot of life to live. You are in my prayers too 😊
@@vools8621 Well you're a woman so you probably have millions of men throwing themselves at you. All you gotta do is pick one. And you're 44 . I wonder if you're OK. with dating younger guys cause' a lot of younger guys are into Cougars these days.
Listen bro, I was in the same type of spot a few years ago, I'm (33) what helped me was *self improvement* . That anxiety and lack of confidence will stay there until you level up, improve yourself daily and give yourself something to be proud of. It's difficult because you might be used to the life you've been living but you need to step out of that box since it's not working for you. Things won't change overnight but what you need to do is start loving yourself, be honest with yourself and eventually others will start to notice you. Loving yourself involves taking care of you and becoming the best version of yourself. You're not alone, many men are feeling lonely out here and it's natural to want female companionship, it's in our DNA. You just need to work on things like you interests, health, hygiene, presentation, social skills etc... stuff like that. I know it might seem like a lot at first but it's a snowball effect, once you get into the groove of self improvement it's like a game and leveling up is the goal. Not everyone is going to like you, that's just how it is for everyone but the more you level up the more people will notice and don't just go after these drop dead beautiful women either, just worry about meeting new people and making friends. eventually some average looking chick will so interest and that's where it starts. go from there. Sometime rejection can kill your confidence even more so look for the right opportunities and be honest with yourself. You need to create a better life for yourself, you need to put in the work. Hope you find useful information out there bro. There's a community of men out here will to help you because we understand, just type *Self Improvement* into youtube or google. thousands of channels and videos.
I am a guy who turned 22 quite recently and never had a girlfriend either and after not having much luck on dating apps and getting rejected by 2 girls in my college few months ago, I see some ray of hope as I chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are within 19-22 age range. I have been chatting with this girl for the past 10 days on insta who was in the same school as me but she was my junior. She is 20 turning 21 after 4 months and she is super sweet. We chat often and we both send virtual hugs to each other and she says that I am sweet too and I feel butterflies. Yesterday I was tired so I told her that I might fall asleep on her shoulder while hugging her and she said she would have let me and told me to go home and have a good sleep while imagining that I am sleeping on her shoulder and that made me blush. Idk whether she is just being friendly or not. We both go to different college tho but still live in the same city.
This is sadly getting to be the new 'norm' for many guys!
Thanks to dating apps and toxic feminism
@@JEFFMAN90 I would not blame the dating apps. They have been around for many years now. It is the fact that women have this new power and 'equality' they never had before... They cannot deal with it!
@Retro Nomix The apps are not the problem. I would say you are aiming too high, there are ugly guys and girls on them... But yes the expectations for all is too high! No one seems to be willing to accept where they are in life... We all want the 'good life' and the same things... What a millionaire has, a shop worker wants etc...
@@justinengland9814
Dating apps have more men on them than women.
Unless a guy is gay than he would have a bad time
@@Shay45 How do you know that? I would say dating apps have more Bots than humans...
Your not alone. I'm 26 never had a girlfriend and still a virgin. I could honestly say it is/has affecting my mental health because I start to think I'm weird and not good enough. I had a rough childhood I was homeless from 21-24 and don't have the best job. My advice is to start exercising it will really help with you over well being as a human. God bless you bro I pray you find happiness in this life!
26 is still young so you have time. I am a 21 year old guy who never had a girlfriend. Got rejected by 3 girls who are 19-21 year olds so far(2 from my college and 1 from a dating app). I tried following few girls on Instagram too whom I knew in my high school days and they are all 20-22 year olds now but only 7 of them followed me back and 2 of my high school crushes who are 21-22 now didn't even accept my follow request. 3 days I got matched by 2 girls on dating app Hinge. One is 21 and the other one is 23. Unfortunately, the 21 year old girl stopped replying after a small chat whereas I had a decent chat with the 23 year old and she is super cute and I really wish she won't ghost me too.
Bout to 26 in a month bro I ain’t got a girl either sometimes I get down on myself because I see my friends in relationships n I wish I was in one in not a virgin tho cause I had play before but nothing else no girl I feel lonely most days 😢
You girlfriend people are so young lol. There's plenty of time. Just be patient and go smooth and slow. Really calm, relaxed. Friendly. They don't wanna date? No problem, just say have a nice day and move on. Go do some bowling and go to a community Xmas dinner. If you care too much it erodes your mental sanity. It's kind of like in a video game where you have to go in lava but if you stay in there long your space suit wears away.
@@doejohn7548 trust me bro, the modern women is not a wife or girlfriend, all that they have is a show to keep up an appearance. They will be lucky to be together after two years today especially if they aren’t older and didn’t meet in better days like 20-22 years ago etc The majority of these situationships are fake and the guy isn’t getting anything of value, a helpmate, sweet loyal or submissive feminine women. It’s just a female who doesn’t want to be alone in these cases today. Gen Z females aren’t even built for being a side piece let alone a girlfriends, a different breed. The guys are weak and emasculated as well which is another issue. Relationships and I mean real solid ones where the man and women know their purpose, role etc are over.
@@doejohn7548 your so called friends are probably being disrespected, cheated on physically or emotionally, manipulated with se*, get no encouragement, no hot meals daily or any domestic comfort. That’s what I can Guarantee most cats your age will get out of it, absolutely nothing but a feminist woke libtard egalitarian broad. It’s a rap for us millennials and especially you Gen Z. Count yourself as blessed with peace.
I'm 40 years old and never had a girlfriend! I'm a 40 year old VIRGIN and I have social anxiety!
I feel you, I'm 26 and I struggle to go outside and talk to people. It has gotten worse since the pandemic. Love from Mexico bro.
Some women suffer from this too SAD (social anxiety disorder) 🙋♀️
Ty for sharing bro I'm 28 and am American and I'm 28 with no gf and I'm losing hope over here. I feel ashamed and I won't even talk with men because I know they'll know I'm a virgin fucking loser and make fun of me. If you know any discords in English llz share I need people to talk to I can't be alone in my bedroom anymore I need people, anyone preferably people who understand.
jesuss htae to see it.
It will get better brother you're still young. Sometimes it just takes time.
I’m 30 and never had a girlfriend, never been on a date. I’ve been rejected my whole life. I feel you brother.
I look forward to dying and leaving this world
Im sorry bro but sometimes you gotta say fuck it! You gonna die anyway drink some booze get that confidence, get your fashion sense up and find a hobby
@@KhanyisaniSithole-kr2knnone of that stuff works
Dates are a waste of time anyway
Same here . No gf . No friends . Virgin . No family . I just don't have the courage to end my life . But slowly I'm getting ther e
@windsurfer3314 I'm not a virgin I have family but no girlfriend
I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend either. Having social anxiety freaking sucks
Same man. I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend. Btw is it fine for me to think about trying my luck on a girl who was my childhood friend? There is a girl named Aishu who was my close friend when we were in elementary school and we were neighbors too so we used to often study together, play together, make silly drawings together etc and even fight sometimes but again become friends. But in 2011, my parents bought a new apartment so we came to a different area, so me and Aishu never really talked with each other since 2011. Now we are both 21 and I saw her on Instagram few days ago and I tried following her but she isn't even accepting my follow request and idk why and it makes me sad. I really wanna talk with her, hug her and kiss her but I feel like it won't happen.
@@manosijroy8282 if it was 10 years ago then sorry she probably won't even remember u
29 here and same
I'm 35 and never had a girlfriend and have missed out on so many damn opportunities that women signaled for me to talk to them. I hate my life. And I hate that the burden is entirely on men to get a relationship or sex. I wonder if women even really like us because they literally don't make any effort to get to know us.
@@Josh-fp2qn I feel your pain. I think women do like us, but we're just too damn shy to approach them. Even if you're a good looking guy women almost never make the first move. I've had women show signs that they liked me but I've always been too shy to walk up to them and make something happen.
Social anxiety is a curse, I swear I can be totally fine outside and I'm able to engage a conversation with anyone with no issue but when this thing kicks in its hell on earth and I get fking stressed lmao
Imagine having it all the time when you are outside. Only alcohol helps me.
I'm 50 and never had a girlfriend or been on a date. I'm OK with that as long as nobody knows.
Oh damn really 50 and never had one? And here I am a guy who turned 22 just over 8 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend and its bothering me a lot. I use dating apps but hardly any matches. I got matched with 2 girls 2 weeks ago. One is 18 and another one is 20 turning 21 in April but no plan of first date or anything. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago but both rejected me.
I do follow and chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in my school days and they are all 19-22 age range but still some of them don't chat regularly with and they probably doesn't see me as someone more than just a friend. I really wanna ask either of them out but Idk when.
@@manosijroy8282 you really do sound like a real creep replying to all these people with your detailed sorry ass lame sob story
Society is gonna clown on you, I hope you find a way to avoid that. They clown on me too, it hurts more than the virginity itself.
Takes Balls of Steel to admit this and talk about it publicly. Keep your Head up King and focus on your self and LvL up in Life
About to be 24. I have awful social anxiety as well. It takes alot of courage to make a video on it and i respect you.
It's okay to make the mistakes. Don't focus on mistakes. Just be yourself, and do your best!
So you have a girlfriend 😂 seems you can't relate to not having one
@@LavenderLabster i dont though
Go to the gym, gain some confidence & get over this obstacle brother. You can do this. I don’t wanna undermine your struggles but I won’t undermine your potential either. You are capable of achieving everything you want in this life. Pitty party is over & it’s time to begin your new life. Your real life. Blessings brother.
trivial advice for a deeper problem
This is good advice in the short term though. It's not trivial. For the long-term though. Yes, it's deeper. But for now, keep a fresh cut & trimmed beard for starters. Yes, like he said, hit the gym, regularly. Dress to impress. No more sweats. Get a female family member to hook up your styling.. Do these 3 things and don't even think about women while you're dropping lbs, building a wardrobe, and staying groomed. Just do those things to improve self.. Then see if they don't approach YOU, man. Now, here's the thing. Punch your own weight. Don't be thinking about beauty queens...not right now. For now, just flow with any 3, 4 or 5 that gives you a signal. You'll find affection. Doesn't mean you have to wife her.
Bruh I used to be like you for real. I just didn’t really have a choice but to up my skill set to pull women.
@@richardwilliams2861 as a woman I agree!! Good advice for him to start with!
@@richardwilliams2861 lol. Typical normie garbage advice. Here is some advice for younger men: try to gtfo of Western countries and get away from useless Western women. Move to SE Asia.
Father God, I ask that you point this man, your child & your creation, in the direction of counseling. God, allow this man to live his life fully & abundantly. Amen.
I feel your pain man I'm 34 with bad social anxiety and Ive never had a real gf, Ive only hooked up with 2 girls in my life but that's only b/c they made the first move on me. Living with social anxiety is fucking torture b/c I've had gorgeous girls throw hints at me that they like me but my social anxiety is so bad that I just freeze up and don't try to talk to them, and they think I'm just some weirdo for not trying to talk to them. Shit makes me want to jump off a bridge sometimes.
I know exactly how you feel. I'm 35. Had so many girls over the years give me approach invitations. One time in college a girl told a dude at my dorm right in front of me that she wanted to fuk me and I DID NOTHING. The anxiety was too strong and I hated how my body looked at 18. I refused to get the covid shot during the pandemic because I really don't care if I live or if I die. At this point, my life is a total waste.
interesting, girls normally will never do that
I get the same problem.. i think you should let your mind go blank and just do it, dont think, just say hi and smile. Im moving cities for a new job and will be out on my own again.. i hope i can overcome my fears too
@@Josh-fp2qnare you doing any better now?
@@Josh-fp2qnshit man… that’s tough
Aye man, you putting your true emotions out there infront of who even knows how many people are gonna see this takes a lot of guts, you never know what’s the like-minded people you’ll meet in real life that has the same issues, and emotions as you. It’s always important to understand the people you go up to and have a convo with may have the same values as you, may be interested in the same music you like, the same hobbies, and they might also have social anxiety. We as people just want to have that warmth and that reinsurance of another person, there’s plenty of people out there that have a great heart and would love for you to meet them
The older generation had it easier. We never used the term "social anxiety". Everybody was a nervous dork, at first. We all just teased, taught, joked, and fumbled our way through it. We all as a culture, went through it, accepted it, and just got on with it. Before you knew it, you weren't too uncomfortable. Your confidence increased, and you tried more things. Met more people. Sure many girls would reject you, but some would like you, and you would get to know them. Maybe have sex, maybe not. Depended on the chemistry, and it wasn't a big deal if it went nowhere. There's always another girl. The things we tell ourselves affect us greatly. If you tell yourself "I have social anxiety", it makes it seem that you have an incurable disease. More helpful would be to accept that you're exceedingly nervous about interacting with the opposite sex, for the time being, Allow yourself to feel nervous, but focus on getting what you want out of life because you desire it, and deserve it, and are not hampered by an incurable disease. You're just normal, and have waited a longer than typical time to start connecting with the opposite sex. The kind of person that will like you will find your honesty endearing. Just remember to not smother somebody at first. It takes time to get to the place where two people each have deep feelings for the other. Don't skip steps. Love doesn't happen overnight, though YOU will feel it. And that's okay.
I like this ....thank you :)
Bless you
@NapalmFlare sadly true, I'll be alone for the rest of my life
Alot of older people grew up in the love 💕 generation swingers doing the devil's work
Social anxiety is way more than being nervous about interacting with the opposite sex, wth.
Yeah I'm 30 and never had a girlfriend either. I also have social anxiety, but also fear of intimacy and low self-esteem.
Kind of the same here but 8 years younger. I am a 22 year old guy and never even had a girlfriend before. After having not much luck on dating apps and getting rejected by 2 girls in my college few months ago, I do see some ray of hopes as I chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are 19-22 year olds now and I had been chatting for over 2 weeks with this girl who is 20 year old now and she is very sweet and we send each other virtual hugs daily and she even says that I am sweet and cute and that makes me blush. We were in the same school but now in different colleges but still same city and I think I am falling in love with her but idk when it will be fine to ask her out.
@@manosijroy8282 22 ist still very "normal". If you're in the same city, go ask her out already. Don't fall in the trap of "online relationships" like I did.
@@Tschoo
I got you.Same problem.I'm 21.I feel very bad.
Your not alone 27 in the same boat
Thank you for your support.
Same here
I'm 29.
27
I'm in my late 20's same boat. I hear you bro it's hard for me too. It's hard to give somebody something when you never had it or experience it before, it's frustrating. Keep you head up I believe their will be a open door in your life and mine. it's hard to express my feelings too, I want to get married one day, I face a lot of low self confidence and that might be one thing with me. I'm trying my best to fight it and stand tall. God has a plan i promise. One day I will walk down the aisle and kiss the most amazing woman in my life . I hope the Same for you also. We're in this together and we will succeed. Keep you head up. Sorry for long message.
I am 26 years old, and i can relate to your words, i am headed on the same path. Brother, the suffering mitigates when we're together on that path. To all the men out there that struggle. We can't do anything but pray and keep going.
Here I am at 20 and in the same boat, you’re so strong bro. Social anxiety is kinda torchere because you can’t live a normal life.
You can overcome it
@@csgo8614 Bullshit.
@@csgo8614 I have severe social anxiety. Been to 6 different psychologists and doctors. Taken medications. Forced myself to talk to people. Nothing showed improvement. I'm 20 and I've been to therapy since 5th grade
@TheIcemanBergkamp God heals, not Jesus.
@@duncanpincushion9980 I hope so brother, thank you!
I’m 19 but I can already feel it coming to me
That's how I felt when I was 19 too. I'm 27 now. I was right 😭
Same
There is no future # MGTOW: Abandon The West
@@youngtrout4950 What are the chances of me getting a girlfriend if I am 22 now and never had a girlfriend before?
@@manosijroy8282 If you have friends, you still have a good chance. Don't give up. It only gets harder the older you get.
You are incredibly brave for admitting this, and being this vulnerable. The situation you are in is more common than you think.
You’re very brave for putting this out there. A lot of guys feel this way but wouldn’t be able to talk about it on TH-cam
I'm 25 burden with childhood trauma,Lonely, depressed, never been into relationship..i understand ur feelings bro😄
I'm an ugly girl. Flat chested, frizzy hair, small eyes, glasses, no curves, etc. Never went on a date either classmates called me ugly
Your not ugly,work on yourself,dont give up
May be we should all start a group. I'm 32 and never have my first kiss, obviously virgin too. You are not alone bro.
True man. I can feel your pain but try to not lose hope man. 32 isn't too late. I am 21 now in last year of college so I am a bit over a decade younger than you and I never had a girlfriend either. I had been using tinder, bumble and hinge for almost a month but not even a single match. I have 4 crushes on real life. 3 are from my college and are 18-20 year olds and another is 23 or 24 from another institute. I am too shy but finally managed to get the name of 2 of my crushes and follow them on Instagram and finally messaged one of them and was really happy when finally one of the crush who is 19 and in 2nd year replied to me last week on Instagram. I didn't say her yet that I have crush on her but I am in last year of college and will be graduating by August end or Sept first week so would I have any chance with her and should I try to date her? I am confused and I am kinda scared to say her about my crush on her. We do chat on Instagram every alternate days since last week Monday and it looks like she is getting more comfortable but idk whether she would like me or not but I really like her.
@@manosijthehero3686 Thank you bro.
@@manosijthehero3686 bro shoot your shot worst she says is no. But if shes already talking to you often thats a good sign
@@thirteenpixelz7365 no man sadly she rejected me last week after I said her I like her a lot. Now I am hopeless. Dating apps aren't giving me any luck.
Am 29
You not alone on this situation bro. Im 34 and being single all my life. Also social anxiety, life is lonely, no friends as well. i stammer as well. I want to live a normal life, friends, a relationship and happiness.
I am a guy who turned 22 just 18 days ago and never even had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot.
I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago and both rejected me and I use 4 dating apps but hardly get matches and even they ghost me for no reason.
I also follow some girls on Instagram and chat with like 4 of them. I knew 3 of them in my high school days and they are 20-22 year olds but they hardly chat much with me and their replies are slow. I also started chatting with another girl who is 18 turning 19 after 2 months and she was suggested to me on IG as we have a common follower and she said she is fine chatting with me but her replies are slow or one word maybe because she doesn't know me and we go to different college but still live in the same city.
I'm 35 and at this point in my life I cannot even picture myself going on dates, meeting a woman's parents, holidays with her and her family, etc. Attractive women have actually been very flirty with me but because of my anxiety I can't bring myself to ask them out.
This life is hell. In fact, I didn't get the Covid shot and people wondered why. If they lived the life of loneliness that I have they wouldn't care about dying either.
@@Josh-fp2qn man I'm 32 I can relate so much to that. A nurse was flirting with me nonstop a few years ago but..I just didn't know what to say at the time. Life for all men of different ethnic groups is hard
You remind me so much of myself. I'm 28, and I'm in the exact same boat as you. Never had a girlfriend, been on a date, had my first kiss, none of that. I have terrible severe social anxiety and depression caused from my anxiety. I'm often super lonely and jealous of other people when I see couples together.
I've learned over the years that working on yourself and your purpose in life is one of the best things you can do. By working on yourself, I don't mean just working out, getting shredded or anything like that, but working on your mind as well. Better understanding yourself, what you want out of life, asking yourself all the big questions and how you can better yourself, which will do wonders for your confidence. Also, by putting some more effort into our appearance helps immensely too. Ever heard of the saying, "Look good, feel good"? Doesn't have to be expensive or anything, but anything that really makes you feel good and looks good on you definitely helps with your confidence.
Our anxiety doesn't need to define us and serves as a obstacle for us to help each other overcome together. Thanks for sharing your story with us, friend and wish you and others suffering the very best with your journey in life with this huge obstacle in front of us.
I am a 21 year old guy turning 22 after 8 days and its been bothering me so much lately that I still don't have a girlfriend. I am on dating apps but only got some matches. Most of these matches are 18-23 year old girls and they end up ghosting or rejecting me. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago but both rejected me as well. I follow some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are all 20-22 year olds now and I even chat with some of them but many times, they kinda ignore my messages too for a day or so.
Gyms seem to be the answer to everything. Shut up you sound like the 99% of dumb people
man you a handsome dude and God brings things to you at the right time keep your head up
I hope things get better for you man. 🙏
Thank You For Your Support Bro 🙏🏿
Girls are like cats they mirror your emotion. When your anxious they’re anxious; once you get over the anxiety your golden with the girls bro.
@@gillroygarlic3616 I like that
nope, that's not how the world works. it will get far worse for us.
I suffer bad with social anxiety and that also causes alot of depression, i found i had to hit rock bottom b4 i had the anger that turnt into motivation to start doing something about it. I was so confused about everything and generally still am. Something thats been helping me is: 1. Listen to your body feel it from fingers to toes 2. WHEN you start to get that anxious feeling you tell yourself IM NOT GUNA RUN FROM THIS, IM GUNNA SORT THIS OUT. Just force yourself to do this just one time when you get that feeling then slowly build on that. Try to bring more positive actions than negative into your life. Start doing stuff for yourself make yourself a priority, Going to the gym helped me massively giving me something to focus on and not focusing on my anxiety as much, it gave me loads of positives. Much love my freind be the MAN you need to be. Ben UK
I tried staying strong bro, but all this feelings you couldnt tell about became too anger an isolating my self from friends and family, I was dumb before I didn't trust anyone. Traumas really can mess u up growing up ... Idk u bro but I'll try listen too u everyone who tries to help me I let dem down 🙏🏿Staystrong
Same here man I’m currently 20 years old I’ve never felt the touch of a woman before all you can really do is just focus on whatever it is your doing Ik it hurts so much to the point where you feel it in your chest but the sad reality is , is that it all starts within in you man.
Don't beat yourself up too bad, bro. This is becoming more common. I'm 34 and have only dated one woman. I have social anxiety disorder. Best thing that has helped me medically for it is propranolol. Literally a life changer.
It's okay to socially interact and make mistakes. Just as long as you can self-communicate, self-correct, and do your best!
Your not alone brother im 34 and as well not have no love life no wife no girlfriend no kids keep ya head up✌️💯
I am a guy who turned 22 just over 8 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend. I use dating apps but hardly any matches. I got matched with 2 girls 2 weeks ago. One is 18 and another one is 20 turning 21 in April but no plan of first date or anything. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago but both rejected me.
I do follow and chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in my school days and they are all 19-22 age range but still some of them don't chat regularly with and they probably doesn't see me as someone more than just a friend. I really wanna ask either of them out but Idk when.
@@manosijroy8282 I wish you nothing but the best and all the luck in the world hope you find what your looking for someday.
@manosijroy8282 When I turned 22 in May last year I felt like I was miles away from my having a girlfriend. Fast forward to 2023 and I'm officially dating a pretty girl with light brown hair, 27 years old and she's slim. She's really quite a dream. It could happen for you if you keep trying. Note that I'm not at all bothered by her age.
You should probably try dating one of your female friends rather than asking out a complete stranger, that's my best advice. If she doesn't want to still be friends with you anymore after you asked her our then that's childish on her part. So if you have been friends for long enough and can trust one another at least, I would ask her out on a date when the time is right.
@@catguy4996 Very true ill give it a try that's awesome!!! 😎
29 here and talking to people is more terrifying than a rollercoaster to me.
Bro you are legend ...you had a balls to make this video
Sorry to hear this brother. I hope you can recover man and get better. Don't give up my brother.
Thank You Bro. I'm Doing So Much Better Now.
Thought it was just me, I’m going to be 34 January and this loneliness on another level. Thanks for the video
I am in the same boat as you but 11 years younger. I am a 22 year old guy(turning 23 exactly after 12 days) who never had a girlfriend but I went on my first ever date over 2 months ago. She is 19 and we went to the mall and ate in Mcdonalds and we hugged too and I was pinching her cheeks a lot. But 2 weeks after the date, she turned out to be toxic and mean and blocked me on social media. I also have a massive crush on this girl who is also 22. We go to the same class for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 4-5 months ago and planning to study MBA next. I am usually shy near her and she is the one who tries to talk with me. I pinched her cheeks last month and again almost 2 weeks ago when she actually said that I am looking cute and I also said she looks cute too and pinched her cheeks. She smiled and I also blushed after she called me cute. Sadly she does have several male friends which makes me worried that she might go for either of them.
Over a month ago, I also went out with this another girl from the same class who is also 22 or 23 now. We are just friends tho but we roamed around the city and had lunch in a big restaurant. I pinched her cheeks too while we took selfie but I was kinda shy to ask her for a hug. Overall it was a great day and we might go out again. I also chat daily with this another girl who is 19 on Instagram who used to be in the same school as me but didn't know each other in school days. We send each other virtual hugs daily and she is very sweet and caring too and we always talk about our favorite food as we are both foodies haha and we will meet soon too and eat somewhere and hug each other for real. Sadly, in the end I am still single.
Im very proud of you 👏 There's more to life than having a girlfriend
@Retro Nomix Im a mother btw...How about you look within yourself. Take note of your inner dialogue, the voice inside your head. How do you speak to yourself every waking morning until to the time you close your eyes to sleep? Everything is created by our THOUGHTS! Be kind to yourself. Read some SELF HELP books to solve the problem
@Retro Nomix You sound quite articulate and normal with your communication. Let go off you limiting beliefs and get out of your comfort zone. Stop telling yourself you're crippled. You want a girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever, stop standing in your own way
@Retro Nomix Your life will transform when you get out of that Victim mentality
@Retro Nomix Ok enjoy your life
The common purpose of every living thing on the planet is to reproduce... what are you talking about?
Hey bro, I just turned 34 & I been single all my life too....
It's very hard to believe theres guys like you in similar situations as mine.
But know you're not alone. Hope all things falls in place. Please stay safe & up!
I am a guy who just turned 22, 12 days ago and I never had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot.
I had crush on 2 girls in my college but both rejected me. I use dating apps and get matched by 18-23 age girls but they end up ghosting or unmatching me.
I also follow some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days. I only chat with 4 of them. 3 of them are 20-22 year olds and another one is an 18-19 year old girl who was suggested to me on IG as we both have a common follower. Idk her really and we go to different college but same city and she said she is fine with chatting with me but her replies are short or one word so far.
man you are not alone - there is plenty of us! 🤣😎👍🤪
Hey man. Everyone always says you aren’t alone in what you feel. And I usually just brush that off. But you should know that myself, many many other men, feel the exact same way as you. I have trouble talking to girls, meeting new people, etc. not just girls, but guys too. All people. I get nervous, don’t know what to say, I feel invisible and unnoticed in social settings. I look around the room and everyone’s having a good time laughing and shit, but not me. I struggle to connect with people, even if we have tons in common. So just know that I understand exactly how you are feeling. I know you said it isn’t easy to express yourself (I’m in the same boat) but the way you expressed yourself in this video made it very very easy to understand. Because I feel the same exact way. It’s hard, but men need to lift each other up because I KNOW it can’t be just you and me struggling with this shit. Hope you see this. I’m gonna continue watching your videos because I relate to what you’ve said.
I love you man. I feel for you. I know that as soon as you aren't pre occupied with the girlfriend thing, out of the blue you will find someone. You are a brave dude for even doing a video like this. That is an admirable quality...
Keep your head high and look within.
@@moneymittenfx5697 meaning Ive never had these problems, have 2 strong boys who wont face these issues, and take care of my family? Yup blue pilled AF. Go back to your crypto hole weirdo
That's what they all say. Stop being fake and giving false hope. It's funny how people say when you stop.chasing it it will.come to you, then you have the other type of idiots who say the complete opposite like it's because you arnet looking or don't have game bro, gotta be in it to win it type shit. So which one is it???? They both seem to be the worst advice I've ever heard
You are right. It is the same non sense that goes on in the word of faith Christianity. Speak stuff into existence. It is false hope. No one is destined to be anyone’s soul mate. It does not exist so no one is going to stumble on your path and it was meant to be. Confidence which is direction and strength , is helpful to attract females and also resources. Females are hard wired to seek those things subconsciously. Men just have a gapping whole for females to fill the void. Choose the girl wisely though.
for sex before marriage pressure my advice is to read NIGHT IN ZAGREB by author Adam Medvidović. This sex before marriage pressure on young people is just beggining of the coming SNAKE FROM THE EAST agenda.
Enjoy the single life bro! After a few toxic relationships it just makes you want to be alone and focus on yourself 💯❤️
Or a few bad experiences with women that have hurt you
I am 30 autistic male never had gf either or ever been on date.
Didn't even watch the video. I see the title, and right away I think: "What a lucky guy!"
😂
Dude I hope you listen to this. Walk out there and know in your head that you are the best. Confidence is what women love. You can get whatever women you want just make sure you choose the right one. You're probably a great guy.
You gotta listen when they say no.
Stop lying to this man … he’s screwed …. Just like everyone else in this comment section….what confidence?… he can be confident In one thing and not confident in another… since you said he needs to be confident then explain to me and him what confidence is?
No one knows what women love! Not even they themselves!
@@shadrachemmanuel1720women love tall attractive men. It's simple.
@@modalsoul6511 I mean a lot of 70% of men are screwed but it’s up to them to change their mindset and be better than these bums that treat them like shit
I have found that a lack of a love life spawns anxiety. A basic human need is not being met causing a vicious cycle in the primal brain.
I am in the exact same boat. I am 30 as well, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, still a virgin, the whole 9 yards and then some. All I can say is try to keep your head up, because there is someone out there for you whether you realize it or not and she will come to you when the time is right. Just trust God's plan and things will follow through on their own.
dont worry
Us bro us
Or maybe be realistic with yourself instead of being naive about someone being out there for you. God or that “special someone” ain’t gonna save you lol.
Get your passport and leave that's the solution.
God can put you in the right position but it’s your actions that will determine the outcome.
Damn man bro your not alone my g keep pushing i have social anxiety and fear of rejection so I don’t even try to approach women at the age of 28 because of fear.
I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend and recently on dating apps I got unmatched immediately by 2 girls(One is 19 and the other one is 21) after I asked them out after a decent chat. I also tried asking out 2 girls recently who were in the same school as me. One of them is 19 now and we were chatting on Instagram for a month and I asked her out on last Sunday and she even agreed that we will meet up one day but 6 days ago she blocked me mysteriously for no reason and it hurt me. Then yesterday I asked out another girl who is turning 20 next month and I asked her out very politely for a coffee after chatting with her on Instagram for over 3 weeks but she immediately blocked me after seeing it.
My last hope is my childhood friend now who is 21 now turning 22 after 4 months and I asked her out for a coffee too but she isn't that active on Instagram so still didn't see or reply to my message yet. I hoping for a positive reply this time but I am so worried that what if she rejects me too.
Hey looks like we share a couple of subscriptions and the fact that we have social anxiety.
This sounds like me in the video... I'm 32. I try to face the social anxiety in my job, hoping one day I get over it but never do. I go home and relive all the embarrassing shit in my day, every day. I'm an all natural guy, fk pills. I dont 'see people' about my anxiety, people that 'studied' psychology in college are not my go to for life advice.
I think the culture changes over the last few generations fucked us. Women have the power in the early years, they go for the non shy 'bad boys' , the talkers.. After the women get chewed up and spit out by daring carousel they come knocking, kids in tow, on the doors of guys with resources. Not interested in that shit, if you didnt give me your prime years I'm not giving you mine. All I can try and do is level up, try to get a few prime years out of a 26~29 year old before I get into mid 30s. Us single dudes, we have FREE TIME thats our advantage. Hit the gym, get certified/edumacated , level up the job.
I am a 21 year old guy and never had a girlfriend either. Got rejected by 3 girls so far recently and 2 were from my college and another was by a 19 year old girl who matched with me on a dating app and she literally insulted me. I tried following some girls on Instagram who were shown as suggested profiles and I knew those girls in my high school days. One of the girl even followed me back and she is also 21 now so the same age as me. We were in the same grade but weren't classmates. I didn't message her yet because I just don't know what to write to her because we never really interacted in high school as we weren't classmates.
Wow I like the way you approach and think about social anxiety.
Only, what do you do to alleviate it do you just do the things that cause you anxiety and hope it gets better over the years?
Some things I have faced, like giving large presentations at work. I about have a heart attack before I have to speak, but I get a tiny bit better each time. I get less nervous when I'm prepared, so for this specific issue, I'm getting better at learning how to prepare.
Otherwise, exercise is incredibly helpful, and is pry the #1 thing you can do to get a natural confidence boost@@vonnyeaallen
It's over. It never began.
I been seeing this more and more on TH-cam and I’m more thankful I’m not alone anymore even though I feel alone I’m not thank you 🙏
I never got my first girlfriend until I was 33. I have serious social anxiety too. I tried hitting on girls a lot when I was a teenager, but after 32 rejections, I gave up and couldn't bring myself to try again. 2 months before my 33rd birthday, I tried again on most days and on my 36th try, 68th try in my life, I finally succeeded and got a girlfriend. I know it's hard, I know the absolute misery of being single, it's very deeply depressing. But you HAVE to try over and over and over. Women will NEVER hit on you, that's a fact. It won't "just happen" when you least expect it like what people who can't comprehend our situation will say. You absolutely HAVE to be proactive. And you will be rejected a lot. Look for women who should have less options, such as women who are overweight and have kids. That's what I did. As for me, it mostly ended because I wanted kids and she didn't. I think the fact I am boring played a role too, but whatever. I'm getting into shape and improving my financial situation before trying again.
I turned 22 just 4 days ago and I never had a girlfriend either and its bothering me a lot. Got rejected by 2 girls in my college few months ago and had not much luck in dating apps. Btw yesterday I got some hope after one girl finally accepted my follow request on Instagram. I knew her in high school days and we were in the same grade but we weren't classmates. I had crush on her when we were in 9th and 10th grade. Now she is also either 21 or 22 and she is even prettier now and she accepted my follow request after about 2 months. I guess she doesn't remember me much tho as she didn't follow me back so idk how can I get to know her and I am afraid that she might be having a boyfriend now.
how do you feel about not having had a GF until 33?
We gon get there one day bro 🙏
I'm 30 & wish I never had a gf.
Have you f*cked ?
I grew up with severe social anxiety. And I mean severe.
I'm not perfect now, but I am A LOT better at socializing compared to where I was. What helped most was:
1) getting a job at Best Buy as a sales associate. It involved me having to walk up to customers in the computer section and ask them if they needed help. Then of course we'd talk or I'd show them things or get them checked out with a laptop or something. This of course includes attractive women. It SUCKED at first and was extremely difficult emotionally, but I man, over the weeks and months I got A LOT more comfortable talking to people - even when not at work. The skills carry over quite a bit. It works because you get to have a lot of social interaction in a situation where there is already a reason and expectation to be talking to people, so there is something to focus on, a purpose. This really helps to get used to it and become less anxious about talking to people.
2) I had a few friends in college who were really good with women. I observed how they talked and behaved. I tried to implement bits of that in my own life (at least the core principles of what was going on, not literally imitating their whole personality, because that's impossible). This didn't help a ton, but it was useful.
3) Watched a lot of videos of guys picking up women in fun, light situations. Channels like Steven Shapiro and Jack Denmo and Social Animal. Also watch channels of guys who straight up teach social skills and dating skills and understanding what women like in a man. (Don't go overboard and think women just want psychopaths and billionares, but you need to understand the basic ways they feel about men). Modify your behavior to fit what works, in ways that "feels right" to you and still feels true to who you are deep down.
Did you actually get laid though?
I have zero social anxiety but after getting lied on 11 years ago I am not just approaching randoms.
Dont feel bad man I'm 32 and only had like 1 and that was back in my early Marine Corp career. Just maintain your fitness and finances keep focusing on improving who you are. My friends that are married do nothing but complain and say I'm lucky so..I try not to take anything for granted
I am a guy who turned 22 almost 7 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend and its bothering me. I use dating apps and sometimes get matched with some 18-23 age girls but most of them ghost me. I am having a decent chat with 2 girls, one of them is 18 almost 19 and another one is 20 almost 21 but thats it. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago and both rejected me.
I also follow and chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school and they are all 20-22 year olds now. I am having a very good chat with a girl who is 20 for almost 3 weeks and I knew her in school too but idk whether she would wanna date me as she became uncomfortable once when I gave her a cheesy compliment. Another one is my childhood friend who is 21 now and only 5-6 months younger than me and she didn't reply to my last message for over 4 weeks. I also chat with another one who is 22 but she is pretty busy and doesn't chat regularly with me.
Idk man, being married and having children has been the best thing that ever happened to me. Gave me more purpose than I ever would’ve imagined it would
@@Ithaca-vv5dy that just means you went into marriage with better understanding of all the struggles you would face and maturity. I think alot of my buds did it out of avoiding child support or just sex. So they ended up getting tired of everything else but sex marriage comes with.
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Facts bro. It's beautiful and amazing
how long did that relationship last? and shocking that it was just one, because a lot of women find military guys attractive, its a popular assumption that military guys have an easy time getting girlfriends
Anxiety and socialization are two of the hardest parts of our society. People don’t make it easy for one another but we also make it difficult for ourselves. I hope you find your groove and take it easy. Keep your head up, social situations are like a muscle!! ❤
People don't make it easy for one another? More like women make it hard for men. Any men i ever talked to was happy that someone finally cared enough to talk to them even if its just a few sentences. While women are straight up angry if you dare to talk to them. Dumb fcking gender.
Social Anxiety sucks. I get it bad. I feel you man
this shit made me cry I understand bro I go through this too hope we can get through this and have a better life
I'm the same brother. I struggle with severe social anxiety, avoidant personality disorder and Aspergers. I'm only 20 but I've never talked to a girl. I struggle a lot.
I got diagnosed with all 3 of those. It's brutal. I'm 26 though. Still a friendless virgin. I don't really have any advice. Nothing worked for me.
@@youngtrout4950 ahh man. I understand your pain. Have you tried going to the gym?
@@youngtrout4950 forget it, seems like you already go to the gym by the looks of your default pic
Cases or situations like this make me mad and upset because it's a reminder that men are far more likely than women are to reach an age like 30 and to have never dated anyone or never had a relationship before.
Should be obvious as to why it's like that
Not true
bruh u always in every comment section 🤣
@@joeroot9142 elaborate why it isn’t true
Bro, as someone who has been in a comparable situation, YOU NEED TO FIND YOURSELF! I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25 and didn’t have a girlfriend until I was 26. I am now 30 and happily married. Find what you are most passionate about, pick up an instrument, read a book and learn something, go to the gym, eat healthy, go to a concert….even the smallest thing can reveal something you never knew was there. All of the other things you lack will come with time. It takes WORK. I believe in you, man. Take care ❤.
Lol bro u a loser
Recording and posting this video is definitely a step in the right direction, many would likely talk themselves out of sharing
This is the new normal for young men.
25 years old no girlfriend but I'm not frustrated as you are, but may be time will get me frustrated, I see where you coming from brother same here been rejected all day...!
Are you an Indian? I am also an Indian(Bengali) living in Bangalore and I am 21 years old turning 22 after 9 days and I never had a girlfriend and never been kissed and it has been bothering me so much. I am having no luck on dating apps too as I get ghosted and rejected a lot and even 2 of my crushes in college too rejected me few months ago. All these girls are 18-23 age range who match with me on dating apps. I even tried following some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are all 20-22 year olds now and I even had small chat with them but for the past 2 days, none of them are replying or even seeing my last message.
I'm turning 27 never a girlfriend or a first date and I'm still a virgin I don't have any friends either no one wants to talk to me I'm very depressed and lonely
Kinda same. I am a 21 year old guy who never had a girlfriend. Had crush on 2 girls in college recently and got rejected by both. Few days ago I heard a song which reminds me of a girl who was in my school and same grade but we weren't classmates and she changed school after 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe 22 now so same age as me and I followed her on Insta but she declined or rejected my follow request. I tried sending her a message but she didn't reply. Today I followed another girl on Insta who too was in my school and same grade but we weren't classmates either. I remember having a little crush on her when we were both in 10th grade and she has a beautiful smile too. She is also 21 so again the same age as me but I found out that she lives in another country now goes to college in that country abroad so I have no chance with her.
Kinda same. I'm 19 years old guy who never had a girlfriend, never had even a kiss, I'm studying in university the third course
My grandma walked by me and saw your videos, she said your are very handsome.
Tell Her I Said Thank You
Same here, back in middle school i always stood on the wall during breaks. I would never try to talk to anyone because of being shy and having social anxiety/panic attacks. I would get so worked up would hyperventilate sometimes being in public around crowds. So i get what you mean about you getting overly nervous i would get shaky. I never dated or had any gfs growing up because of it. It really tears down your self esteem and causes depression to.
I did the exact same thing throughout my 1st 2 years of hs!
Idk what made me do it but I started doing things that triggered my anxiety but that I also genuinely had an interest in like theatre. I still have SAD but not to the extent like then.
Have you had any imrovement with anxiety over the years?
This is the norm for a lot of guys
Just like you man i have nothing. Im 23 and got no girlfriend, no friends, and my siblings are already doing much better than me… and im older. Idk why but nobody ever seems to want to my friend, not even looking for a gf necessarily… i just want friends again
In my case, I feel like most 18-25 age girls are rude to me. Btw I am a 21 year old guy and I never had a girlfriend either. I did have crush on 2 girls in my college recently. One is 19 and the other one is 20 or 21 but they both rejected me. I am using 3 dating apps but barely get any matches. Most of my matches who were in the 18-24 age range either give rude replies or just ghost me. Today I got matched by an 18 year old girl on one of the dating app and she too is a college student but her replies were kinda rude and she suddenly stopped replying after a small chat. Idk whether I will be lucky with her or not. Few days ago, I got matched by a 23 year old girl who was even worse than this and she too ghosted me completely.
@@manosijthehero3686 dating apps are a waste of time unless you're extremely goodlooking. Your best bet is to form some social group you can go to events with and then try to get them to wingman for you. It's better to be with a friends group because it's social proof that you're likeable.
@@painexotic3757 I don't really have a social life and only have few close friends who are males and they too live far away from my home. I did find a girl a week ago in the classes I joined recently. She is also a college student but from a different so she is definitely 19-21 age range but idk her actual age so she can be 18 too and I am 21 so we are both about the same age. She is beautiful but I was too shy to initiate a convo with her that day. Now I can't meet her until 1st Nov because she is out of city for 2 weeks. Idk whether she would want me tho as she is in a different college.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and feelings. You expressing yourself will allow others to feel comfortable doing the same. Keep up the good work
You’ve never had a gf bro?!?! You don’t look bad at all man! I’m honestly surprised you’ve never had one. I genuinely hope things get better for you, nobody deserves to deal with social anxiety all the time, I myself deal with it and it really truly sucks.
Love and support from Michigan. Stay strong brother!
Feel you bro! God bless you!!
Social anxiety has a lot to do sometimes with a lack of confidence. Working on that first might help.
Man no worries your gonna be in a relationship someday just try to you know maybe go to the gym, just be yourself and she will come. Try to walk to some girl when you'll feel your ready. Love you my man
mate I am 38 years of age and never had a girlfriends in my life
Wow man really? Btw I am a guy who just turned 22, 13 days ago and I never had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot.
I had crush on 2 girls in my college but both rejected me. I use dating apps and get matched by 18-23 age girls but they end up ghosting or unmatching me.
I also follow some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days. I only chat with 4 of them. 3 of them are 20-22 year olds and another one is an 18-19 year old girl who was suggested to me on IG as we both have a common follower. Idk her really and we go to different college but same city and she said she is fine with chatting with me but her replies are short or one word so far.
@@manosijroy8282 typical
Whatever you are dealing with, I hope things get better!! 👏👏🙏🏼
Idk how I found this channel today but I completely understand. I'm 35
New subscriber I like your Contant and I’m in the same boat i’m 36 years old and it’s a horrible feeling to never have a girlfriend knowing you’re not going to be desired by women can really make a man go mad.
I am in the same boat as you but I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. 2-3 months ago I asked out my childhood friend who is 21 now turning 22 very soon but she isn't that active on Instagram so she took pretty much a month too reply to it but she did reply yeah ok and we even said we will meet maybe on some weekend but idk when exactly due to her being so inactive on IG. I also got crush on a new girl recently in a class where I started going for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I am about to finish college. She is also 22 or maybe 23 now and very pretty and on the first day of our class there (13th July 2023), she did handshake with me and we said our names and introduced ourselves. Till last week she was trying to initiate convo with me asking whether I had lunch or not and many more but for the past 4-5 days, she is no longer trying to talk with me. Actually I am still kinda shy near girls in person so I usually don't initiate further convos with her and just answer what she asks. I am shy to try to talk with her. I followed her on Instagram and she followed me back too but I am yet to dm her. I also have been chatting with this another girl who is 19 on Instagram since 28th May 2023. We used to be in the same school but now we are in different colleges but her college is very near to my home. We chat about literally everything daily and even send each other virtual hugs but it still looks she just sees me as a good friend and nothing more so I am nervous to ask her out too as I also got rejected by 4 girls recently.
Me too, I'm 28 years old and i never had a girlfriend.
Same bro 😔
29 years old guy here. Same situation.
16 and never had one
This popped up in my recommendeds, I could somewhat relate, Im 26 years old I've dated a few people, had a short term relationship(for 1 month lol), but I never had a serious relationship too. I grew up in a strict traditional house where dating at a young age was taboo, so I didn't have as much experience with dating too, plus being neurodivergent and sensitive too was also an issue too for me.
Im still a virgin too. I feel behind in life at times too with this, but I just randomly stopped caring so much about finding love at 22, and im okay now, relationships aren't everything.
If you can, I would recommend for you to get tested for other neurological disorders, such as Autism, ADD/ADHD, OCD, CPTSD, BPD etc
I am a 21 year old guy turning 22 after 9 days and I never had a girlfriend and never been kissed and it has been bothering me so much. I am having no luck on dating apps too as I get ghosted and rejected a lot and even 2 of my crushes in college too rejected me few months ago. All these girls are 18-23 age range who match with me on dating apps. I even tried following some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are all 20-22 year olds now and I even had small chat with them but for the past 2 days, none of them are replying or even seeing my last message.
I've never even had a date since 2014. No woman wants to know me. Haha, you'd think a mass murderer would have a better chance than me.
I left this vid with a small burp in my ear. Thanks bro
I am TWICE as old as you and I have never had a girlfriend. I do not feel bad about it. I have never wanted to have a girlfriend. I like to live alone. I have more freedom this way.
Wow are you really 60 and never had a gf? Why? BTW I am a 21 year old guy who never had a girlfriend either. Got rejected by 3 girls so far(2 from my college and another from a dating app who insulted me too). I tried following some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school but only 3 of them followed me back and I still didn't message them yet as idk what to write and they are also 21-22 year olds. But I am sad that the girl named Britney didn't accept my follow request yet. She was my classmate in 6th to 10th grade and I had a crush on her when we were in 9th and 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe even 22 now and she is very pretty and I wish she follow me back because I think I again got a crush on her just seeing her profile pic on IG and she is even prettier now at 21.
@@manosijroy8282
There is no point for me dating anybody because I have no intention of getting married. I would not be able to live together with anybody. I like privacy. I am also quite asexual so I have not much interest in women. I am happiest on my own. I even choose to be alone on Christmas Eve. It is peace and quiet and I enjoy it.
I'm 18 right now so i'm pretty young, yet i still don't know what love feels like and it sucks sometimes when all my friends have at least gone through it, I'm a pretty outgoing energetic person both alone and in social gatherings, so I'm pretty unique, I have a lot of good going for me yet i don't know what that love life feels like, It makes me relieved to know I'm not the only one who doesn't know what love is but also saddened to see this as our current state in society with non ideal dating apps and social media in general. All i can say for us brothers (and sisters because it can happen to them too) Is to keep our head high and remember that we're not alone, improve who you are as a person and understand that you don't need someone to complete you, you are your own superhero
I am a guy who turned 22 just 19 days ago and never even had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot.
I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago and both rejected me and I use 4 dating apps but hardly get matches and even they ghost me for no reason.
I also follow some girls on Instagram and chat with like 4 of them. I knew 3 of them in my high school days and they are 20-22 year olds but they hardly chat much with me and their replies are slow. I also started chatting with another girl who is 18 turning 19 after 2 months and she was suggested to me on IG as we have a common follower and she said she is fine chatting with me but her replies are slow or one word maybe because she doesn't know me and we go to different college but still live in the same city.
I’m 20 and never been I a relationship because of a learning disability when I was younger and girls preferred normal people. Now it’s healed but they are still keeping distance. Crushes have been rejecting me which quite a lot of people I know have been I a relationship. Been on the dating apps for 2 years hasn’t worked:(
@Manosij Roy girls liked me and I liked them back ONLY because they liked me but I never approach them. That's why I'm still single at 24. And i also ignore them too because I don't know what to say.
@@darkmidnight818 At least girls liked you. No girls seem that interested in me and they don't seem to even like me romantically.
Thank you for being open and sharing your story. Modern women don’t make it easy man. Most of them aren’t even worth it though man and it’s so easy to feel depressed and lonely these days. A lot of men are in the same boat these days and it’s sad that women don’t even care
I feel for you my brother I’m 52 and single and have only had a couple of girlfriends for a very short time and also have mental disorders so hang in there my man
I just want to hug u, brother. Sorry for your situation, man.
Our social anxiety is the reason why we don't have a girlfriend I am 27 years old
Hey man! I was diagnosed with Mixed anxiety-depressive disorder a long time ago, I've been struggling to find a qualified physician to help me out. I must admit that there were times for me when I really did feel better because of a combination of therapy and medications, I do believe that there is a way to combat greatly your condition as well with a help of a decent physician. There is one thing you should be aware of, please do not overestimate the help you'd get from the doctor in terms that you'd be able to fight back your anxiety, but it is not necessarily it'd help you to find a GF. The thing is, anxiety is detrimental across ALL aspects of your life for sure + at this stage, there are no risks to seeking help, it wouldn't turn things for the worse, for sure.
It's so frustrating that people always looking for constant entertainment everywhere. Nowadays it's just really hard to go on a date and sit quietly and enjoy that. It is hard to get a date when you are the quiet one coz ppl are expecting you to be funny and chatty and all these things. I think you are a handsome guy, and I really hope you will find someone somewhere who can accept you as you are and you both can open up to each other and have fun together they way what fun means to you guys.I hope your wish to have someone in your life will soon become reality.
Tsss, i can relate. You make a valid point, it is indeed hard smh
@@RavDLCYou have social anxiety or just bad luck with women?
@@vonnyeaallen I'd say both, unfortunately
@@RavDLC Really? You don't look like you'd have any problems at least with women approaching you or being receptive.
Anybody can have social anxiety.
Have you tried online dating? For me personally, I find it lessens the anxiety enough for me to talk to guys initially.
@@vonnyeaallen Nah I haven't. But now that I'm already out of college maybe I should look into that. Most of the times I feel like you run into alot of fake accounts regardless of the sites
It’s some people who have never been able to choose their next meal & does not have a beanie for their skull when they get cold. Be blessed king build your self bruh and the women will come 💯
I once chatted with a girl on a dating app, almost got a heart attack and just told here I can’t continue talking. I am 27 now, and still never had a girlfriend. I just need to get my anxiety under control. It fucks up my life.
Thanks for sharing this - it takes courage - give yourself credit. I understand your situation as my brother and I are in the same boat. I'm a 44 yr old woman and he's 41. I think accepting where we are at in life right now is a good starting point. I'm trying to work with what I'm capable of doing at the moment - simple things, like feeling comfortable just casually smiling at people on the street and making eye contact, and sometimes saying hello to them. Baby steps. I need to remind myself not to compare myself to others and that I need to be realistic about how quickly I can achieve something, if at all. I must remind myself it's not realistic to get from point A to point Z immediately. I can start with point A, then point B, etc. I encourage you to push yourself to get comfortable doing little things at first, then you can gradually increase doing more things. Try not to be hard on yourself. I understand it can get very frustrating, stressful and discouraging. If something happens that you see as unfavorable, just pick yourself up and dust yourself off. It's ok that you have social anxiety. I think it's more common than we realize. You're in my prayers. Regards from Sydney, Australia 😊🌸
Wow are you both really in your 40s and never dated? BTW I am a 21 year old guy who never had a girlfriend either. Got rejected by 3 girls so far(2 from my college and another from a dating app who insulted me too). I tried following some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school but only 3 of them followed me back and I still didn't message them yet as idk what to write and they are also 21-22 year olds. But I am sad that the girl named Britney didn't accept my follow request yet. She was my classmate in 6th to 10th grade and I had a crush on her when we were in 9th and 10th grade. She is also 21 or maybe even 22 now and she is very pretty and I wish she follow me back because I think I again got a crush on her just seeing her profile pic on IG and she is even prettier now at 21.
@@manosijroy8282 Hi there. My brother has never dated, I've only been on a handful of dates. I regret not trying earlier in my 20s although I was very anxious at that time. I think it's great that you keep trying. Don't give up. Just as I said, if something unfavourable happens, pick yourself up and dust yourself off. If you like someone & make contact with them, they'll respond to you if they really want to, if not, perhaps it's best to let them go. Don't end up like my brother and I. It can get quite lonely at times. And it doesn't get easier when you're older. I encourage you to keep soldiering on. You are still young. You have a lot of life to live. You are in my prayers too 😊
are you saying you never dated?
@@initiatorhater0688 I have only dated a handful of times. I wish I had continued, but I didn't.
@@vools8621 Well you're a woman so you probably have millions of men throwing themselves at you. All you gotta do is pick one. And you're 44 . I wonder if you're OK. with dating younger guys cause' a lot of younger guys are into Cougars these days.
Listen bro, I was in the same type of spot a few years ago, I'm (33) what helped me was *self improvement* . That anxiety and lack of confidence will stay there until you level up, improve yourself daily and give yourself something to be proud of.
It's difficult because you might be used to the life you've been living but you need to step out of that box since it's not working for you. Things won't change overnight but what you need to do is start loving yourself, be honest with yourself and eventually others will start to notice you.
Loving yourself involves taking care of you and becoming the best version of yourself.
You're not alone, many men are feeling lonely out here and it's natural to want female companionship, it's in our DNA. You just need to work on things like you interests, health, hygiene, presentation, social skills etc... stuff like that.
I know it might seem like a lot at first but it's a snowball effect, once you get into the groove of self improvement it's like a game and leveling up is the goal.
Not everyone is going to like you, that's just how it is for everyone but the more you level up the more people will notice and don't just go after these drop dead beautiful women either, just worry about meeting new people and making friends. eventually some average looking chick will so interest and that's where it starts. go from there.
Sometime rejection can kill your confidence even more so look for the right opportunities and be honest with yourself.
You need to create a better life for yourself, you need to put in the work.
Hope you find useful information out there bro.
There's a community of men out here will to help you because we understand, just type *Self Improvement* into youtube or google. thousands of channels and videos.
i know you prolly wont see this comment but i love you dawg, just keep being yourself fam and continue to improve
I appreciate the vulnerability bro I relate to this so well 💯
Don’t feel bad brother im 36 and in the same situation
I am a guy who turned 22 quite recently and never had a girlfriend either and after not having much luck on dating apps and getting rejected by 2 girls in my college few months ago, I see some ray of hope as I chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school days and they are within 19-22 age range. I have been chatting with this girl for the past 10 days on insta who was in the same school as me but she was my junior. She is 20 turning 21 after 4 months and she is super sweet. We chat often and we both send virtual hugs to each other and she says that I am sweet too and I feel butterflies. Yesterday I was tired so I told her that I might fall asleep on her shoulder while hugging her and she said she would have let me and told me to go home and have a good sleep while imagining that I am sleeping on her shoulder and that made me blush. Idk whether she is just being friendly or not. We both go to different college tho but still live in the same city.
sadly going to assume you are a virgin as well