I love this so much! I was under the control of my parent's expectations until I was about 31 years old... now that i set boundaries they are angry and don't like them..but i'm doing this for me and my family not their own lives.... I have had to distance myself to maintain my mental health and raise my daughter in a healthy enviroment
Listening to her share how her mom would respond was almost spot on to how my mom would be. She then would add that, “i’m not one of your friends, i’m your parent.” When she said her name i stopped moving as my name is Kristen (so close lol).
Without reading any of the comments I can almost guarantee her Mom is not married or in a serious relationship because if she was, she probably wouldn’t be so focused on her daughter. She would be occupied with something/someone else. Could her mom still act this way and be married/in a relationship…sure she could but I bet she’s not. I find that a lot of older women with adult children who are single tend to be this way (controlling and manipulating).
Wow, sounds like my mother and I. And, it is hard. We live together again because she was recently divorced from her narc husband and I decided to move back because of health issues that set me back financially and couldn't work going on disability. She promised to change and pleaded for us to work together. Gaslighting is her way of trying to control and manipulate me. She's a narc herself. She wouldn't listen to me like this Dr. Cloud. Your thoughts?
I'm 25 and getting married in December. I chose to not make my elder sister my maid of honor because she can be very entitled, combative and frustrating to be around. Apparently my sister had assumed that it was "automatic" that she would be the maid of honor and was offended when she found out that she isn't my maid of honor. She blew up and started raging and has been attacking all my decisions ever since. My mom has taken it up and recently started blming my elder sisters bad decisions on the fact that I did not make her my maid of honor. That it's my fault that my sister is drinking and moving back in with her toxic boyfriend.
I love this so much! I was under the control of my parent's expectations until I was about 31 years old... now that i set boundaries they are angry and don't like them..but i'm doing this for me and my family not their own lives.... I have had to distance myself to maintain my mental health and raise my daughter in a healthy enviroment
That sounds just like my mom, and I'm an only child too! Blame, guilt-tripping, and tears.
What I'm learning to do is not let them distract me from the point with guilt or gaslighting.
Healthy boundaries for grown children, they don’t need or want us when they no longer need a free baby sitting.
So you're saying we can't have boundaries?
Boundaries are not about getting someone to do or give something to you. It is about not allowing mistreatment.
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Dr. Cloud, This was great information; so very helpful. So thankful for you sharing what do you do on your TH-cam channel. ❤
God bless you abundantly Dr. Cloud you have been a great blessing in my life to God be the glory hallelujah 🙌🏻
God bless this man
The story of my life thank you for this
Great information! 😀
Sooo helpful!!!
Listening to her share how her mom would respond was almost spot on to how my mom would be. She then would add that, “i’m not one of your friends, i’m your parent.” When she said her name i stopped moving as my name is Kristen (so close lol).
My story is EXACTLY the same, and my name is Kristian. I felt like I was being spoken to.
Without reading any of the comments I can almost guarantee her Mom is not married or in a serious relationship because if she was, she probably wouldn’t be so focused on her daughter. She would be occupied with something/someone else. Could her mom still act this way and be married/in a relationship…sure she could but I bet she’s not. I find that a lot of older women with adult children who are single tend to be this way (controlling and manipulating).
My mom to a t.
Unrelated, but did anyone else notice the tie-dyed couch in the background??
Sounds like both my mother and father! It’s the entitlement for me!
Wow, sounds like my mother and I. And, it is hard. We live together again because she was recently divorced from her narc husband and I decided to move back because of health issues that set me back financially and couldn't work going on disability. She promised to change and pleaded for us to work together. Gaslighting is her way of trying to control and manipulate me. She's a narc herself. She wouldn't listen to me like this Dr. Cloud. Your thoughts?
Sounds like our moms have the same philosophy ;)
I'm 25 and getting married in December. I chose to not make my elder sister my maid of honor because she can be very entitled, combative and frustrating to be around. Apparently my sister had assumed that it was "automatic" that she would be the maid of honor and was offended when she found out that she isn't my maid of honor. She blew up and started raging and has been attacking all my decisions ever since. My mom has taken it up and recently started blming my elder sisters bad decisions on the fact that I did not make her my maid of honor. That it's my fault that my sister is drinking and moving back in with her toxic boyfriend.