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Like "finding a needle in a haystack" "dont go clutching at straws" Your thalamus is waiting for the shaking to stop, then it will show you the memories But the cortex stopped the shaking didn't it ? So what's still shaking ? or where is the order to shake ? that is still ordering the shake that the cortex is stopping The Slavers didn't care, we were just told to get over it and knowledge was hidden in plain sight for future generations Keep seeking more shepherds are needed
Hey man. I have a sincere question. How much of people’s issues come from biological stuff and poor diet. Lack of sleep etc. I lost a sister when I was younger and was bullied for years. Now really struggling with lack of identity. Though you’d never know it because of outward appearance. Total shit show inside though. Does this program go over that stuff?
@@DuckOnRoblox-u8u your family has an inflamed Amygdala , which means your imaginary idea of self, is imagined in total physical fear ! But your very powerful Left PFC imagines its ok when its not in psycho babble Your over associated with your left PFC your noise brain and disassociated with your emotional brain the Amygdala The Abrahamic religions were created to purposely create humans that imagine their lower brain does nothing In fact those religions call the Amygdala the horns of the beast, the devil Because its your emotional self, the mandala No other medication , then take the most powerful anti inflammatory known to man by thousands of % LSD and play the grateful dead a band of musicians that are like you and learnt a miracle , My detached brother
I don't think people realize how traumatic bullying is when it comes to kids. Most of my social anxiety - when I go back - it stems from being a child. Feeling attacked and rejected. I've seen how a lot of those bullies ended up in life though. Losers and some are dead. I just want to shake it all off for good.
Bullies thrive in an environment where bullying is not only accepted but encouraged. Corporate environments are perfect for bullies, helping people is not.
@@crouchingspider2001 from my perspective corporate environments are the least bullying festering environments, I would know I work in one. That's coming from someone who was in the military that worked blue collar as an electrician working on airplanes. Now that shit reeked of male ego and berating to the max. It's all perspective
Just be yourself and let life flows are good advices that might not work for everyone's perspective, so it kinda depends on what works for you and which word or feeling will touch that sense of waking up and breaking these walls of emotional and mental blocks, is specific
@@ditystanutthat's the million dollar question. All of us are so complex deep inside and we can only show some parts of it. Self-discovery is a lifelong journey and you need to be able to embrace it
I had zero social skills (grew up with single mom with no social skills and an in ability to connect even with me), I was quiet, timid, shy, skinny little dude. Got bullied at school, in my neighborhood, and at home made to feel like I was not enough in many ways. Every single environment I grew up in constantly programmed with with the message I wasn’t enough. And I had nobody there to show me otherwise….it is deeply engrained….and I’ve had enough
Me too. It’s very hard to have to figure everything out by yourself. It feels unfair. Not being able to socialise adds to the loneliness and feeling of being ‘different’. Wishing you luck in your journey!
I appreciate Julian telling everyone that you will not be changed after his talk. It is just not that simple. I am sick of these self-styled guru's telling everyone that their product is so good that you will be changed instantly, just like a fairy tale.
It helped when I found out my mother was a Sociopath. I was only 72. Now I'm taking baby steps finding myself. Lately I have been over the top angry. I used to be hopeless. It will be interesting to see what comes next.
Apathy Grief Fear Anger Courage Desire Purpose Love Thanks soooo much for the levels. I am between Anger and Courage right now. I have a clear goal, despite my doubts and despite my age. I am aiming to reach the self-love stage so that I don't have to be dependent on others. Wish me luck guys. Wish you guys all the best for your journey 🙏✨️
Literally! Confirmation bias is a killer. Modern age makes it so easy too. You can quickly make a search online and exclusively be with someone who agrees with them.
Tonny Robbins:" I am sick and tired of people in power.. You wanna change your life you must do this .." full of anger and doing . Eckhart Tolle - just take one conscious breath. I love him 😊 You need to feel greater than your emotions and environment to create change. Joe Dispensa Not motivation, but inspiration gets you where you wanna be. Abraham Hicks
Few months ago i saw one of your videos and it was a glimpse of freedom for me. Just seeing all that shit thats coming in and out of my head was a huge step forward. I was controlled by mother from childhood till now, she tries to still tell me what i can or cant do. I was so obsessed by it that i subconciously analysed every single choice i made by asking myself 'would she allowed it?'. Its absurd! It was in me for like 25 years and i just couldnt notice it. It takes time, but now i can step up, and say enough! And as you said here, its not one minute or one hour, the change needs time. Thanks man!
This was my life! You hit the nail on the head! . My mother had such control over me that even now... At 71... I ask myself... Would mom approve? What would mom think? And I get so angry. But I don't know how to change it in my head. I remember the punishments... Sitting in the corner....spankings (that's what they were called back then! 😢) How does it end?
My issue is exactly what you've been preaching in your videos. Whenever I feel accepted, my confidence grows (i get a +rep), but when I dont get the response or action I desire from someone/or situation... I crash and get quiet (low point = -rep). Then I go home thinking how stupid I am for saying what I said or acting the way I did (overthinking), but in reality its just the devil wispering in your ear negative stuff. Then I guard myself the next day and withold my posture by putting this mask/shield on for not experiencing the same confidence killer again. But then I keep myself inside this invisible prison and it just gets miserable.
Was gonna go to sleep and now ive been up for an hour and a half going through and studying this, thank you so much for this sense of security you have brought to me. Would love a video on what the meditations you do for each level if you haven’t already.
This dude is so fucking cool. You rarely ever see him "dressed for the occasion" and when he does he still styles his hair so it looks like he doesn't give a flying fuck. My insecure ass lined up my beard and everything just for some stupid uni class presentation, and I told myself it's adulting when I fully well knew it was just me being scared little bird. I have social anxiety. I got rid of it but it came back after I stopped socializing. Got me down a rabbit hole of why? and found you telling me I was just managing the symptoms. Thank you. Now I know I can actually uproot it. Life without it was so much better. I even went on dates just because the way I was in the world invited people to interact with me in a way that made such arrangements possible.
@@mohamedshakir1642exposure therapy. Going out and doing what you fear most. I know this is easier said than done, but it is the solution. Start with small things, like just going to a place where people are and how walking around (like a mall). Go to any place that fits your lifestyle and say hi to somebody. You know your interests best and where you go and what activities you would like to partake in. Have an exit strategy for when you get too overwhelmed, especially in the beginning, so you don’t feel trapped. Be gentle with yourself and do not shame yourself for anything. Accept your emotions instead of trying to control them. Realize your thoughts are random and mostly out of your control but the way you RESPOND to your emotions is within your control. Don’t try to control your thoughts. Let them do whatever they do and tell yourself they are not you, they are random. What is you is how you respond. Any progress is better than no progress. Even if it’s leaving your room and just going somewhere where people are and not interacting with anyone is better than staying in your room all day and doing nothing. I hope this helps even just a little. I am doing the same thing that I wrote above and it is not easy. But I’m sick of how insecure I feel and the feeling of insecurity and procrastination and not living my life is worse than any fear I have. Be motivated by your pain. Realize it only gets worse, trust me. I believe in you
wow what a video. i had no purpose in life anymore and i figured out some weeks ago that i have C-PTSD. I think it's time to take some action and get forward. thank you julien!
I also play guitar and love music. Playing guitar is soul therapy. Love John Mayer, Robben Ford, Rhoads, SRV, Hendrix, Matt Schofield, John Schofield, Robert Cray... Just so glad music exists.
I have been "working on myself" for over 20 years now and I think this video is amazing. Full of good advice for someone that is in the begining of this path and even for advanced truth seekers. 😊
You have the mindset that I can relate to, and you dropped the jewels to solve the problem that I needed to be solved, that is why I subscribed and liked your channel
My BIGGEST takeway: That suppression and repression is good and natural. The fact that animals can just "shake it off" after facing trauma/fear and human's can't, actually hits home how the letting go technique. Actually we shouldn't even be calling it a technique because it's actually something very natural. Knowing that animals can shake it off really eliminates most of the mistakes while letting go. Eckhart Tolle also talks about this in his book (either The Power Of Now or The New Eath) that after a fight, the two ducks just shake off all the excess energy. Because we suppress/repress our traumas, we need INTROSPECTION to identify what's running us. Thanks Julien as always! You never miss to hit points home! BTW can you make a video on mistakes to avoid during introspection?
Yes, glad this resonates! There are MANY subtle mistakes people make when introspecting... I'd suggest applying for coaching so I can see what you're doing and give you personalized feedback: application.julienhimself.com
It's true they shake of ONE intense and/or traumatic event. The same way people can let go of for example a car accident or being victim of a robbery - if their life and relationships are generally good outside of that. But animals who are victims of abuse for a long time, they don't just "shake iot off". I have a living breathing example of that right here at home, a dog I rescued who was severly abused, we're on year four of his rehabilitation. He's much better, but still not healed and still gets his wounds very easliy triggered. It's the repetetive trauma that is so damaging, for both animals and human animals. It causes actual brain damage, it rewires your brain and affects the whole body in a negative way. That's why it makes people physically ill. There's plenty of science on this nowadays. So the "shaking off" doesn't really apply unless it's just one single event.
@@OliHandy2008 - That's bullshit. Being traumatized by a traumatizing event does not depend on your IQ. It's like saying retarded people don't get traumatized.. You just revealed your own level of intellgence with this stupid comment.
I really enjoyed this talk. One thing I noticed is that most people live in what I call the observation feedback loop. Essentially, we're all creating and observing reality in an infinite loop, and internal and external things alter this loop. For example. SAS. System - By using a system, it creates an external framework of to carry out a task. This bypasses an internal system that might feedback into chaos rather than into control. Accountability - By being accountable to other people or God, it's an external influence that prevents the feedback loop from diminishing personal accountability. Support - By having external supports, it gives a positive input into the feedback loop which alters reality into a higher energy state making it more likely to frame observations in a positive light. I think you've developed a good methodology for dealing with the observer paradox.
Never having depression in my life, my mental breakdown destroyed me. Loss of trust in my total thought process. Needed some kind of help. True to my nature i dug deep into everything. Religion, meditation, selfhelp videos. Searched videos with my circumstances. Organized would have been amazing. Took me about 3 years to get to a ladder out of my rock bottom. Climbing that ladder now. Hard as hell.
Your shadow work vid is great. I used psychedelics to go back into my timeline and heal memories, learn about myself/universe and speed up automatic synaptic pruning and new neuron growth. THCA and CBG made tripping 10x less stressful, self talk in mirror made it 10x more productive.
I'm very careful with my self-talk I thought, but that word on "Should" or "Need to" really hit me in the face! I'm constantly using this as an excuse I realize now. Thank you sir
00:12:45 ABSOLUTELY ACCURATE 👏👏👏👏👏 As a Tiktok user, I have come across several videos talking about wounded inner child to the core but never address the solution or they keep it short “see a therapist” / “work on your inner child”. The question that remains is HOW ? while so many users don’t even grasp the definition of inner child !
Wow sooo cool - just the first 5 minutes everyone on the journey should see and get in! Change in the end is so easy, as it is just getting free from the delusional self you built up your whole life around you to protect your from this „horror“ feelings from the past - you think you won‘t survive. But it is and can be the most frightening and challenging work because you have to painfully desconstruct yourself again. Yourself is like mummy breast, warm and tasty but your personal chains in the end. You want to get free? Be willing to die - then you realize there is nothing to do, to be, to have, and start living! Great work julien - I should had had that 15 years ago, and I had saved myself a lot of „stupid“ Ego pick-up delusion. But in the end - i am grateful, this is way - and everyone gets the path one needs for growth at the right moment in time. It‘s not about getting anything I’m you anymore. It is just about getting rid of all the burden you stuffed into yourself by yourself - to protect your from pain! This is why pain is the way back to yourself! It won‘t hurt you, because it can‘t! Awesome lecture ❤
Very insightful. Helps to understand politicians. They want people to be in a state of anger to “get out and vote!” and the only way to do that it to constantly push the victimhood narrative
the more i watch your online seminars the more i lurn about myself what happend through the years and gives me insite of what i need to do to help myself just be me. thank you greatly for posting your work. and keep up doing what you do best.
Many histories like yours look like chilhood trauma, frequently with covert abuse and or cpstd. It's very difficult to heal cause of trauma acumulation, so many triggers too. It's great to hear it's posible to change this reality in some better ways. If you are free is a life that worthy to live
It's definitely possible to change, as long as you have the right tools and guidance... And yes, the day you are no longer triggered is the day you are FREE!
It’s like you are describing a very elementary version of certain aspects of tarot/Kabbalah that come alive when incorporated internally- and also super useful for someone who has no inclination towards meditation and growing their inner world. As vague as this comment is (it has to be) I would encourage anyone interacting with a system of personal evolution to internalize it as much as possible. And I don’t mean simply in your head. I mean your entire energy spectrum. Bless up.
Love is “the good of us all” level. The opposite of “you vs them” states. Incidentally, people pleasing is within the competitive, “you vs them” paradigm, where you are trying to please them, in spite of yourself, because you feel you need to choose one (of the two). And healthy boundaries can be summed as “the good of us both”. It’s a different state, a different paradigm where you don’t need to hurt the other to get your way or vice versa
Hi Julien, I found your content through a TH-cam suggestion, how funny is that? I've just left a narcissistic relationship and I agree with what you have said. I've been on TH-cam virtually the day it started and people were putting up really good content until Google took over. What I do is subscribe to the person, like yourself and study more of your videos. You speak the truth, you give great tips, you share your own experience which builds trust and with so much content out there you could easily pick the wrong course to follow. They have diluted it just like plumbing and heating, which is my trade. You can do a course that limits your abilities and I find this with a lot of courses. I'm half Dutch and all the open university-type courses were not recognised in the industry so people spent all that money for nothing. Thank you for sharing your content for free, when I have some more time I will find a window to do some courses as I'm too tied up in new renewable energy courses, gdpr, asbestos, all health and safety, plus starting a new job, so I'm not saying I might do it, at some point haha. Great work, I'm very impressed! The only thing though mate is that I don't like women these days. In England there are a lot of women who want and like so much attention from other men, it is what makes them feel alive. I've also spent 18 years studying our system of law, economics and I know you know the score mate on what is going on, I heard it when you were talking. It is hard to find people who are awake and would support me in changing the world, we have figured it out. So, maybe I can get some help with a strategy that is suitable for me that you can help me with, with your insights because it is easier for people to see what you are doing right or wrong than I can see myself. I'll be in touch. Greetings from England
Accountability is a HUGE one I was feeling really depressed because my boyfriend lives in England and I’m in the US So I began not taking care of things in my house for a almost a week. (I know it’s not long but I don’t have a dishwasher and I have lots of animals) One night I had just gotten off of my all day shift being a caregiver and I was feeling really sad not being able to be with my boyfriend. I took a shower and in the shower JUST ONE THOUGHT hit me! “What if.. he called you and was at the airport and told you he was on his way to your house??” So I freaked out! Haha! I frantically started cleaning and doing chores! The amount of energy I had was insane! I even scrubbed the walls! I spent 3 hours doing chores and setting the house up as if he may actually show up! Call it insanity or whatever but it worked hahaha
Hey man, thanks for posting this video. Very insightful, helpful, easy to follow. Love your down to earth approach. Keep helping people please. People need you
Hi Julien, wow, did you just read my mind?? I have been following your channel and soaking in your teachings for a while now. Thank you for that!!🙏✨️ And just today in the morning I asked myself:"Who is this guy actually? What's his story? I would really like to know." And now I am exactly receiving the answer I was looking for ... 🤩 Thank you, Julien, for your great work and the knowledge your sharing!! Much love to you.
Yo, one day my sis just told me that i constantly acted like a victim, and not gonna lie i felt offended on the moment. Then later i searched what acting like a victim meant i had my "Ho" Moment. Then it helped search what i needed to change to help feel better in my skin.
Thanks for explaining all of the levels and the mindsets & problems associated with them. It's helpful to know how to pinpoint where I'm at for various pursuits in my life
and I just want to say that I'd be a completely different human if I'd never been shown your content by one of my fraternity brothers. You and Owen have inspired me to become the best version of myself, and I've been moving up ever since I started taking your advice
I'm only 14 minutes into this video and you're talking about apathy, I honestly believed I'm apathetic! Thanks for the perspective! I wouldn't be doing everything I do, including watching this video if I was as apathetic as I want myself to believe I am. ❤❤
It makes a lot of sense though. In order to move forward one has to look back. I have a lot of fear and only just starting to journal again after years of shutting down and not doing my writing or piano or drawing or anything that made me me. I have had a few instances of existential crisis and this time i did a personality type test and that opened up my eyes too a lot of things. Incidently finding out im an infp personality type got me researching typology, carl jung, psychology, self awareness, self care and so many topics that led to here right where i needed to be. So funny. Rock bottom is the only way up 😊
It is like the conversations I have with myself in my head or when no one is around, because I have to be vocal and get things off my chest. "And it sky rockets, and around and around we go"... A friend of mine once told me i was pessimistic, that was my wall.
In the labyrinth, of minds we roam, Seeking paths, that lead us home, But within our psyche's deepest core, Lies a wall, unseen, yet remains, forever more. We claim free will, our choices grand, But are we truly free, to take the stand, Against the currents, that surround, Or does fate's hand, keep us all bound? Find these mental walls we face, Look where triggers, leave a trace, In discomfort, unease, we find, The limits of our confusions, keep us confined. Some souls we meet, with open hearts, To them we give, smelly farts, Or just a sense of ease is it? that imparts? Oh, how it tears the soul apart, To yearn for love, yet we shrink, in heart, A prisoner we are, within our minds, Shackles forged by unseen binds. But to others, who seem out of reach, Elicit fears they can no longer breach. In moments bold, we strive to rise, With courage bright, we see with our eyes, Yet shadows lurk, and doubts sail, As confidence begins to fail. Oh self-sabotage, insidious foe, With cunning ways, it reaps, then it sows, The seeds of doubt, the seeds of the pain, Leaving dreams shattered, always in the rain. To audit life, you must be brave, Confront the truths that we engraved, What successes have we truly found, In health, or wealth, and the spirits found? The allure, we chase in vain, To be admired, desired, and free from this pain, But quick fixes, won't set us free, Embrace the self, for that's the key. From birth, we're shaped by life's demand, By culture's rules, and by life’s command, Yet deep inside, a spark remain, A self untame, that still sustain. Oh, let us delve into our cores, Unravel what our hearts, truly adores, In tears and laughter, joy and strife, Embrace the fullness of this life. See the light. To oneself, a lifelong quest, To break these walls, we must invest, Understanding love and care, To find the freedom, waiting everywhere. So let us strive, with open hearts, To mend the wounds, where walls depart, For in embracing, who we are, We find the strength to journey far. No longer, by fear's embrace, Soar beyond this mental space, And, in the vastness of our soul, Discover the freedom, that makes us all whole. So let us weep, let us rejoice, Find the solace, in each other's voice, For together, we can break these walls, And rise above, self-imposed squalls. In every triumph, and every fall, We'll answer destiny's, one great call, To be unshackled, strong, and true, To rediscover, through and through.
I am in a program that offers SAS: Alcoholics Anonymous. System = 12 Steps. Accountability = good sponsor. Support = good group ( not all are good, shop around). For MONTHS tho I’ve been stuck in grief, and until this video I didn’t know why. I see myself as a victim of narcissistic parents. Daily pot smoking had me stuck in Apathy, with Grief at least I was feeling something. But it was never safe for me to express Anger as a child, so I topped out at Fear. If you are watching this, LEARN IT, LIVE IT, LOVE IT! This advice can save you DECADES. Thank you, Julien. This is GOLD.
That's funny I healed the same way in 3 years. Then I got in a relationship with a man who had what I just healed from. He totally threw me off balance so I learned so much about imbalanced relationships. I love this video it reminded me of the levels and it's easy for me to get into each of them so I'll start meditating to do that. Thanks! I really needed this.
Once one set a clear intention and sticks to it TH-cam recommeds you all sorts of gems that seemed invisible before. Whoever you are if you read this, All I want to Say is KEEP STAYING ON TRACK
It's an interesting point that people need a system - perhaps that's the positive aspect of religion, or a psychological approach, e.g. psychoanalytic working with the unconscious. Understanding the multiple ways in which we defend ourselves against internal 'threats' (e.g feelings of shame, persecution, desire, impulses to hurt, rivalry etc.) makes the external 'threats' like meeting people and building success feel far less 'threatening' or overwhelming.
How do you satisfy purpose and move up to love? Do you only achieve love once you've found your purpose? That's about where I am, I'm just walking into purpose and I don't know how to navigate to it. It's all a bunch of choices that are overwhelming.
Funny, the anxiety I felt when you said you'd been working on yourself only four years before you started coaching. Only four years! my brain ejaculated, how could you possibly be ready? But nobody's ever ready, are they, really. Bit leap of faith-y, that sort of thing. I'm training to teach tai chi and I'm afraid of forgetting something or getting stuck in front of a class, I never feel prepared enough. I've only been studying it to a teaching level for two months but I've been practising tai chi nearly half of my life on and off. I never feel ready and I'm anxious about showing myself up. Even though when I started shibashi, the teacher had only just qualified herself, had sheets on the floor to remind her of stuff, and none of us judged her for it. It's daft that I worry so much, I know that I know my shit. But as soon as there's an audience, someone who might react poorly, my brain starts locking up. I was bullied relentlessly in school for every creative endeavour and i still feel mentally blocked and creatively constipated. I'm trying to be less small and unnoticed now but how do you cross that line where you go for a thing even if you don't feel ready? How do you get to that point of "however it goes, I'll handle it"?
You will continually keep making the same mistake until you learn the lesson, Its true, some people will continually traumatize themselves until they have processed it.
I was mistreated and abused as a child. Disproportionate punishment for small infractions. I was a child for God's sake! I was supposed to make mistakes to learn. I have NO Idea who I am or who I'm supposed to be. I'm not very fond of me now... What if I don't like the 'real' me?
@janayholbrook2749 Me too and it’s been a challenge. That said, I think of my mind like a computer. So I can delete the negative programming at will. To do so I have to discover the negative thoughts and the inner voice that ridicules. All of that negativity came from childhood abuse. Soooo lots of getting outside, sunshine, appreciation, gratitude, and then allowing myself my feelings. Keep at it and you will gain mastery. It’s an ongoing process.
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Thank you, Julian. This is really good stuff! We need tools for healing trauma...much appreciated!
Like "finding a needle in a haystack" "dont go clutching at straws"
Your thalamus is waiting for the shaking to stop, then it will show you the memories
But the cortex stopped the shaking didn't it ?
So what's still shaking ? or where is the order to shake ? that is still ordering the shake that the cortex is stopping
The Slavers didn't care, we were just told to get over it and knowledge was hidden in plain sight for future generations
Keep seeking
more shepherds are needed
I would like to learn what is this course gotta help me achieve and how to subscribe to it please
Hey man. I have a sincere question. How much of people’s issues come from biological stuff and poor diet. Lack of sleep etc. I lost a sister when I was younger and was bullied for years. Now really struggling with lack of identity. Though you’d never know it because of outward appearance. Total shit show inside though. Does this program go over that stuff?
@@DuckOnRoblox-u8u your family has an inflamed Amygdala , which means your imaginary idea of self, is imagined in total physical fear !
But your very powerful Left PFC imagines its ok when its not
in psycho babble
Your over associated with your left PFC your noise brain and disassociated with your emotional brain the Amygdala
The Abrahamic religions were created to purposely create humans that imagine their lower brain does nothing
In fact those religions call the Amygdala the horns of the beast, the devil
Because its your emotional self, the mandala
No other medication , then take the most powerful anti inflammatory known to man by thousands of % LSD and play the grateful dead a band of musicians that are like you and learnt a miracle , My detached brother
I don't think people realize how traumatic bullying is when it comes to kids. Most of my social anxiety - when I go back - it stems from being a child. Feeling attacked and rejected. I've seen how a lot of those bullies ended up in life though. Losers and some are dead. I just want to shake it all off for good.
Oh yeah… Anything that happens during our childhood has a PROFOUND impact on us!
Yep, same.
Bullies thrive in an environment where bullying is not only accepted but encouraged. Corporate environments are perfect for bullies, helping people is not.
@@crouchingspider2001 Interesting conclusion about the world, what made you believe this?
@@crouchingspider2001 from my perspective corporate environments are the least bullying festering environments, I would know I work in one. That's coming from someone who was in the military that worked blue collar as an electrician working on airplanes. Now that shit reeked of male ego and berating to the max. It's all perspective
“just be yourself” is the same vibe as “ thoughts and prayers.”
Just be yourself is a good advice for those who don't need advice. Everyone else please don't be the thing you think is yourself.
Just be yourself and let life flows are good advices that might not work for everyone's perspective, so it kinda depends on what works for you and which word or feeling will touch that sense of waking up and breaking these walls of emotional and mental blocks, is specific
but WHO is myself?
@@ditystanutthat's the million dollar question. All of us are so complex deep inside and we can only show some parts of it.
Self-discovery is a lifelong journey and you need to be able to embrace it
its a case of finding the yourself you lost and that can be so buried
Distinguishing how being a victim is a step up from apathy made so much sense!
Glad this was insightful for you! 👌
Reminds me of the emotional scale where anger is a higher vibration emotion than depressed.
I had zero social skills (grew up with single mom with no social skills and an in ability to connect even with me), I was quiet, timid, shy, skinny little dude. Got bullied at school, in my neighborhood, and at home made to feel like I was not enough in many ways. Every single environment I grew up in constantly programmed with with the message I wasn’t enough. And I had nobody there to show me otherwise….it is deeply engrained….and I’ve had enough
Same..
Same
Me too. It’s very hard to have to figure everything out by yourself. It feels unfair. Not being able to socialise adds to the loneliness and feeling of being ‘different’. Wishing you luck in your journey!
@@MajellaGrowsAs someone who has made massive progress from being miserable to content but still fighting everyday to be better I 100% believe in you
@@c0rkum That’s sweet thank you! I believe in you too :)
“Trying to feel better but not changing” THAT is insightful.
I appreciate Julian telling everyone that you will not be changed after his talk. It is just not that simple. I am sick of these self-styled guru's telling everyone that their product is so good that you will be changed instantly, just like a fairy tale.
It helped when I found out my mother was a Sociopath. I was only 72. Now I'm taking baby steps finding myself. Lately I have been over the top angry. I used to be hopeless. It will be interesting to see what comes next.
That’s great! Keep going, I’m rooting for you!
@lindamoses3697 you were only 72?
72?
Do you perhaps mean 7?
I am pretty sure he meant what he wrote. After all, 72 is just the beginning!
Apathy
Grief
Fear
Anger
Courage
Desire
Purpose
Love
Thanks soooo much for the levels. I am between Anger and Courage right now. I have a clear goal, despite my doubts and despite my age. I am aiming to reach the self-love stage so that I don't have to be dependent on others. Wish me luck guys. Wish you guys all the best for your journey 🙏✨️
It's wild how our conscious and subconscious minds work in favor of our beliefs, affirming them around every corner, whether merited or not.
Literally! Confirmation bias is a killer. Modern age makes it so easy too. You can quickly make a search online and exclusively be with someone who agrees with them.
Tonny Robbins:" I am sick and tired of people in power.. You wanna change your life you must do this .." full of anger and doing .
Eckhart Tolle - just take one conscious breath. I love him 😊
You need to feel greater than your emotions and environment to create change. Joe Dispensa
Not motivation, but inspiration gets you where you wanna be. Abraham Hicks
Beautiful. We all hear in different ways the same song!!
Few months ago i saw one of your videos and it was a glimpse of freedom for me. Just seeing all that shit thats coming in and out of my head was a huge step forward. I was controlled by mother from childhood till now, she tries to still tell me what i can or cant do. I was so obsessed by it that i subconciously analysed every single choice i made by asking myself 'would she allowed it?'. Its absurd! It was in me for like 25 years and i just couldnt notice it. It takes time, but now i can step up, and say enough! And as you said here, its not one minute or one hour, the change needs time. Thanks man!
You're so welcome! Glad my content has been so impactful for you!
This was my life! You hit the nail on the head! . My mother had such control over me that even now... At 71... I ask myself... Would mom approve? What would mom think? And I get so angry. But I don't know how to change it in my head. I remember the punishments... Sitting in the corner....spankings (that's what they were called back then! 😢)
How does it end?
@@janayholbrook2749 oh, physical punishments... Thats probably something you would need a therapy to change.
This gives me hope. Thank you.
My issue is exactly what you've been preaching in your videos. Whenever I feel accepted, my confidence grows (i get a +rep), but when I dont get the response or action I desire from someone/or situation... I crash and get quiet (low point = -rep). Then I go home thinking how stupid I am for saying what I said or acting the way I did (overthinking), but in reality its just the devil wispering in your ear negative stuff. Then I guard myself the next day and withold my posture by putting this mask/shield on for not experiencing the same confidence killer again. But then I keep myself inside this invisible prison and it just gets miserable.
Don't beat yourself up for anything at all. Everyday is a new day. You're human and same with the people u deal with.
Was gonna go to sleep and now ive been up for an hour and a half going through and studying this, thank you so much for this sense of security you have brought to me. Would love a video on what the meditations you do for each level if you haven’t already.
Glad this spoke to you! I'd suggest applying for the mentoring here, you'll get all those mediations and more: application.julienhimself.com
Ultimately, it's really you that you have to thank for giving yourself that sense of security. He merely showed you the way
This dude is so fucking cool. You rarely ever see him "dressed for the occasion" and when he does he still styles his hair so it looks like he doesn't give a flying fuck.
My insecure ass lined up my beard and everything just for some stupid uni class presentation, and I told myself it's adulting when I fully well knew it was just me being scared little bird.
I have social anxiety. I got rid of it but it came back after I stopped socializing. Got me down a rabbit hole of why? and found you telling me I was just managing the symptoms. Thank you. Now I know I can actually uproot it. Life without it was so much better. I even went on dates just because the way I was in the world invited people to interact with me in a way that made such arrangements possible.
How did u over come it ? I also have it help me pls
@@mohamedshakir1642 I worked in a very busy customer service job where I was required to have some expertise. That kills it pretty good.
@@mohamedshakir1642exposure therapy. Going out and doing what you fear most. I know this is easier said than done, but it is the solution. Start with small things, like just going to a place where people are and how walking around (like a mall). Go to any place that fits your lifestyle and say hi to somebody. You know your interests best and where you go and what activities you would like to partake in.
Have an exit strategy for when you get too overwhelmed, especially in the beginning, so you don’t feel trapped.
Be gentle with yourself and do not shame yourself for anything.
Accept your emotions instead of trying to control them. Realize your thoughts are random and mostly out of your control but the way you RESPOND to your emotions is within your control. Don’t try to control your thoughts. Let them do whatever they do and tell yourself they are not you, they are random. What is you is how you respond.
Any progress is better than no progress. Even if it’s leaving your room and just going somewhere where people are and not interacting with anyone is better than staying in your room all day and doing nothing.
I hope this helps even just a little. I am doing the same thing that I wrote above and it is not easy. But I’m sick of how insecure I feel and the feeling of insecurity and procrastination and not living my life is worse than any fear I have. Be motivated by your pain. Realize it only gets worse, trust me.
I believe in you
wow what a video.
i had no purpose in life anymore and i figured out some weeks ago that i have C-PTSD.
I think it's time to take some action and get forward.
thank you julien!
I also play guitar and love music. Playing guitar is soul therapy. Love John Mayer, Robben Ford, Rhoads, SRV, Hendrix, Matt Schofield, John Schofield, Robert Cray... Just so glad music exists.
I have been "working on myself" for over 20 years now and I think this video is amazing. Full of good advice for someone that is in the begining of this path and even for advanced truth seekers. 😊
You have the mindset that I can relate to, and you dropped the jewels to solve the problem that I needed to be solved, that is why I subscribed and liked your channel
My BIGGEST takeway:
That suppression and repression is good and natural. The fact that animals can just "shake it off" after facing trauma/fear and human's can't, actually hits home how the letting go technique. Actually we shouldn't even be calling it a technique because it's actually something very natural. Knowing that animals can shake it off really eliminates most of the mistakes while letting go. Eckhart Tolle also talks about this in his book (either The Power Of Now or The New Eath) that after a fight, the two ducks just shake off all the excess energy. Because we suppress/repress our traumas, we need INTROSPECTION to identify what's running us.
Thanks Julien as always! You never miss to hit points home!
BTW can you make a video on mistakes to avoid during introspection?
Yes, glad this resonates! There are MANY subtle mistakes people make when introspecting... I'd suggest applying for coaching so I can see what you're doing and give you personalized feedback: application.julienhimself.com
Dogs get traumatized. All intelligent animals do. Dumb animals don't.
I like this guy. He’s real!
It's true they shake of ONE intense and/or traumatic event. The same way people can let go of for example a car accident or being victim of a robbery - if their life and relationships are generally good outside of that. But animals who are victims of abuse for a long time, they don't just "shake iot off". I have a living breathing example of that right here at home, a dog I rescued who was severly abused, we're on year four of his rehabilitation. He's much better, but still not healed and still gets his wounds very easliy triggered.
It's the repetetive trauma that is so damaging, for both animals and human animals. It causes actual brain damage, it rewires your brain and affects the whole body in a negative way. That's why it makes people physically ill. There's plenty of science on this nowadays. So the "shaking off" doesn't really apply unless it's just one single event.
@@OliHandy2008 - That's bullshit. Being traumatized by a traumatizing event does not depend on your IQ. It's like saying retarded people don't get traumatized.. You just revealed your own level of intellgence with this stupid comment.
He explained letting go david hawkin with stunning daily language
I really enjoyed this talk. One thing I noticed is that most people live in what I call the observation feedback loop. Essentially, we're all creating and observing reality in an infinite loop, and internal and external things alter this loop.
For example. SAS.
System - By using a system, it creates an external framework of to carry out a task. This bypasses an internal system that might feedback into chaos rather than into control.
Accountability - By being accountable to other people or God, it's an external influence that prevents the feedback loop from diminishing personal accountability.
Support - By having external supports, it gives a positive input into the feedback loop which alters reality into a higher energy state making it more likely to frame observations in a positive light.
I think you've developed a good methodology for dealing with the observer paradox.
Never having depression in my life, my mental breakdown destroyed me. Loss of trust in my total thought process. Needed some kind of help. True to my nature i dug deep into everything. Religion, meditation, selfhelp videos. Searched videos with my circumstances. Organized would have been amazing. Took me about 3 years to get to a ladder out of my rock bottom. Climbing that ladder now. Hard as hell.
Your shadow work vid is great. I used psychedelics to go back into my timeline and heal memories, learn about myself/universe and speed up automatic synaptic pruning and new neuron growth. THCA and CBG made tripping 10x less stressful, self talk in mirror made it 10x more productive.
What is tcha and cbg?
@@Socutensinon psychoactive cannabinoids
sounds like delusions, and addiction to feel good
I'm very careful with my self-talk I thought, but that word on "Should" or "Need to" really hit me in the face! I'm constantly using this as an excuse I realize now. Thank you sir
He doesnt care who doesnt like what he says. This man is amazing.
This has to be one of the top 3 most helpful lectures I have ever heard.
00:12:45 ABSOLUTELY ACCURATE 👏👏👏👏👏 As a Tiktok user, I have come across several videos talking about wounded inner child to the core but never address the solution or they keep it short “see a therapist” / “work on your inner child”. The question that remains is HOW ? while so many users don’t even grasp the definition of inner child !
Wow sooo cool - just the first 5 minutes everyone on the journey should see and get in! Change in the end is so easy, as it is just getting free from the delusional self you built up your whole life around you to protect your from this „horror“ feelings from the past - you think you won‘t survive. But it is and can be the most frightening and challenging work because you have to painfully desconstruct yourself again. Yourself is like mummy breast, warm and tasty but your personal chains in the end. You want to get free? Be willing to die - then you realize there is nothing to do, to be, to have, and start living! Great work julien - I should had had that 15 years ago, and I had saved myself a lot of „stupid“ Ego pick-up delusion. But in the end - i am grateful, this is way - and everyone gets the path one needs for growth at the right moment in time. It‘s not about getting anything I’m you anymore. It is just about getting rid of all the burden you stuffed into yourself by yourself - to protect your from pain! This is why pain is the way back to yourself! It won‘t hurt you, because it can‘t! Awesome lecture ❤
Very insightful. Helps to understand politicians. They want people to be in a state of anger to “get out and vote!” and the only way to do that it to constantly push the victimhood narrative
Am saving for your courses. I’m tired of crippling anxiety that I impose on myself.
the more i watch your online seminars the more i lurn about myself what happend through the years and gives me insite of what i need to do to help myself just be me. thank you greatly for posting your work. and keep up doing what you do best.
I'm so grateful the algorithm suggested me a video from Julien and I actually clicked it.
Many histories like yours look like chilhood trauma, frequently with covert abuse and or cpstd. It's very difficult to heal cause of trauma acumulation, so many triggers too. It's great to hear it's posible to change this reality in some better ways. If you are free is a life that worthy to live
It's definitely possible to change, as long as you have the right tools and guidance... And yes, the day you are no longer triggered is the day you are FREE!
It’s like you are describing a very elementary version of certain aspects of tarot/Kabbalah that come alive when incorporated internally- and also super useful for someone who has no inclination towards meditation and growing their inner world. As vague as this comment is (it has to be) I would encourage anyone interacting with a system of personal evolution to internalize it as much as possible. And I don’t mean simply in your head. I mean your entire energy spectrum. Bless up.
Love is “the good of us all” level. The opposite of “you vs them” states. Incidentally, people pleasing is within the competitive, “you vs them” paradigm, where you are trying to please them, in spite of yourself, because you feel you need to choose one (of the two). And healthy boundaries can be summed as “the good of us both”. It’s a different state, a different paradigm where you don’t need to hurt the other to get your way or vice versa
Hi Julien, I found your content through a TH-cam suggestion, how funny is that? I've just left a narcissistic relationship and I agree with what you have said. I've been on TH-cam virtually the day it started and people were putting up really good content until Google took over. What I do is subscribe to the person, like yourself and study more of your videos. You speak the truth, you give great tips, you share your own experience which builds trust and with so much content out there you could easily pick the wrong course to follow. They have diluted it just like plumbing and heating, which is my trade. You can do a course that limits your abilities and I find this with a lot of courses. I'm half Dutch and all the open university-type courses were not recognised in the industry so people spent all that money for nothing.
Thank you for sharing your content for free, when I have some more time I will find a window to do some courses as I'm too tied up in new renewable energy courses, gdpr, asbestos, all health and safety, plus starting a new job, so I'm not saying I might do it, at some point haha. Great work, I'm very impressed! The only thing though mate is that I don't like women these days. In England there are a lot of women who want and like so much attention from other men, it is what makes them feel alive. I've also spent 18 years studying our system of law, economics and I know you know the score mate on what is going on, I heard it when you were talking. It is hard to find people who are awake and would support me in changing the world, we have figured it out.
So, maybe I can get some help with a strategy that is suitable for me that you can help me with, with your insights because it is easier for people to see what you are doing right or wrong than I can see myself. I'll be in touch. Greetings from England
Accountability is a HUGE one
I was feeling really depressed because my boyfriend lives in England and I’m in the US
So I began not taking care of things in my house for a almost a week. (I know it’s not long but I don’t have a dishwasher and I have lots of animals)
One night I had just gotten off of my all day shift being a caregiver and I was feeling really sad not being able to be with my boyfriend.
I took a shower and in the shower JUST ONE THOUGHT hit me! “What if.. he called you and was at the airport and told you he was on his way to your house??”
So I freaked out! Haha! I frantically started cleaning and doing chores! The amount of energy I had was insane! I even scrubbed the walls!
I spent 3 hours doing chores and setting the house up as if he may actually show up!
Call it insanity or whatever but it worked hahaha
Hey man, thanks for posting this video. Very insightful, helpful, easy to follow. Love your down to earth approach. Keep helping people please. People need you
35:55 - 36:48 How Similar We All Our. We Are Part of a Community. It’s Never Just Me. Knowing You’re Not Alone is Inspiring and Empowering.
What's most personal is most universal... 🙏
@@JulienHimself Factual, my friend.
been implementing and my life and others I've influenced have IMPROVED INDEFINITELY thank you 🙌
I totally feel you on the feeling anxious even around family members
Always noticed that certain people trigger anxiety and others do not. Haven't been able to pinpoint what is it about some people that do trigger it.
Same, I think it depends on how anxious they are + how much they're masking or smth, dunno.
For me it’s when I feel they are judgemental ….but often that can be my own perception
you've become a total 10 of a public speaker holy shit man
Thank you! 🔥👊
Hi Julien, wow, did you just read my mind?? I have been following your channel and soaking in your teachings for a while now. Thank you for that!!🙏✨️
And just today in the morning I asked myself:"Who is this guy actually? What's his story? I would really like to know." And now I am exactly receiving the answer I was looking for ... 🤩
Thank you, Julien, for your great work and the knowledge your sharing!! Much love to you.
I've ran into my first video of you today and my chest has felt like it's been caved in because I feel like this is me.
Apethy
Grief
Fear
Anger
Courage
Desire
Purpose
Love
So happy i found this channel its pretty much explaining everything thats going on atm, i definitely taking this as a sign.
The information in this video is incredibly invaluable. Thank you for sharing
Can wait to see you in person!
See you in Berlin! You're going to LOVE it!
I am blessed today, this is pure gold thank you so much
I was shy, invalidated and doubt myself ..now I know my worth and can sleep at night ..its hard talking about it
Yo, one day my sis just told me that i constantly acted like a victim, and not gonna lie i felt offended on the moment. Then later i searched what acting like a victim meant i had my
"Ho"
Moment. Then it helped search what i needed to change to help feel better in my skin.
Thanks for explaining all of the levels and the mindsets & problems associated with them. It's helpful to know how to pinpoint where I'm at for various pursuits in my life
and I just want to say that I'd be a completely different human if I'd never been shown your content by one of my fraternity brothers. You and Owen have inspired me to become the best version of myself, and I've been moving up ever since I started taking your advice
@@StevenBoutcher How long has that been for you? It's only been like 5 days for me, and I already feel a shift from just his YT videos & meditations.
Years, man. I just keep coming back to it when I get in a funk to remind myself how to handle it. Never fails to set me back on course
@@StevenBoutcher That's wonderful. Love it.
I'm only 14 minutes into this video and you're talking about apathy, I honestly believed I'm apathetic! Thanks for the perspective! I wouldn't be doing everything I do, including watching this video if I was as apathetic as I want myself to believe I am. ❤❤
It is the last day of 2023 and this is perfect timing!
Julien, you are amazing!
Continue to gain great value from you and applying things I've learned from you. !
Glad to hear it! 🙌
@@JulienHimself 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Your honesty and self deprecation is what I need to do more. Thank you 🙏
When?
@@vincentdesrosiers3489 just now?
Nice, the SAS is new content! Nice to see that you keep evolving Julien. I'll see you in Amsterdam again this June. Best
Thank you! See you in Amsterdam! 🔥👊
It makes a lot of sense though. In order to move forward one has to look back. I have a lot of fear and only just starting to journal again after years of shutting down and not doing my writing or piano or drawing or anything that made me me. I have had a few instances of existential crisis and this time i did a personality type test and that opened up my eyes too a lot of things. Incidently finding out im an infp personality type got me researching typology, carl jung, psychology, self awareness, self care and so many topics that led to here right where i needed to be. So funny. Rock bottom is the only way up 😊
It is like the conversations I have with myself in my head or when no one is around, because I have to be vocal and get things off my chest. "And it sky rockets, and around and around we go"... A friend of mine once told me i was pessimistic, that was my wall.
Really appreciate the more serious tone and serious look 👍
Let’s get to work.
Yes! Content without ACTION is useless!
In the labyrinth, of minds we roam,
Seeking paths, that lead us home,
But within our psyche's deepest core,
Lies a wall, unseen, yet remains, forever more.
We claim free will, our choices grand,
But are we truly free, to take the stand,
Against the currents, that surround,
Or does fate's hand, keep us all bound?
Find these mental walls we face,
Look where triggers, leave a trace,
In discomfort, unease, we find,
The limits of our confusions, keep us confined.
Some souls we meet, with open hearts,
To them we give, smelly farts,
Or just a sense of ease is it? that imparts?
Oh, how it tears the soul apart,
To yearn for love, yet we shrink, in heart,
A prisoner we are, within our minds,
Shackles forged by unseen binds.
But to others, who seem out of reach,
Elicit fears they can no longer breach.
In moments bold, we strive to rise,
With courage bright, we see with our eyes,
Yet shadows lurk, and doubts sail,
As confidence begins to fail.
Oh self-sabotage, insidious foe,
With cunning ways, it reaps, then it sows,
The seeds of doubt, the seeds of the pain,
Leaving dreams shattered, always in the rain.
To audit life, you must be brave,
Confront the truths that we engraved,
What successes have we truly found,
In health, or wealth, and the spirits found?
The allure, we chase in vain,
To be admired, desired, and free from this pain,
But quick fixes, won't set us free,
Embrace the self, for that's the key.
From birth, we're shaped by life's demand,
By culture's rules, and by life’s command,
Yet deep inside, a spark remain,
A self untame, that still sustain.
Oh, let us delve into our cores,
Unravel what our hearts, truly adores,
In tears and laughter, joy and strife,
Embrace the fullness of this life.
See the light.
To oneself, a lifelong quest,
To break these walls, we must invest,
Understanding love and care,
To find the freedom, waiting everywhere.
So let us strive, with open hearts,
To mend the wounds, where walls depart,
For in embracing, who we are,
We find the strength to journey far.
No longer, by fear's embrace,
Soar beyond this mental space,
And, in the vastness of our soul,
Discover the freedom, that makes us all whole.
So let us weep, let us rejoice,
Find the solace, in each other's voice,
For together, we can break these walls,
And rise above, self-imposed squalls.
In every triumph, and every fall,
We'll answer destiny's, one great call,
To be unshackled, strong, and true,
To rediscover, through and through.
I watch this video 5 to 10 times and wrote a poem about it
Fucking love this. Saving this
I am in a program that offers SAS: Alcoholics Anonymous. System = 12 Steps. Accountability = good sponsor. Support = good group ( not all are good, shop around). For MONTHS tho I’ve been stuck in grief, and until this video I didn’t know why. I see myself as a victim of narcissistic parents.
Daily pot smoking had me stuck in Apathy, with Grief at least I was feeling something. But it was never safe for me to express Anger as a child, so I topped out at Fear.
If you are watching this, LEARN IT, LIVE IT, LOVE IT! This advice can save you DECADES.
Thank you, Julien. This is GOLD.
Love your content my friend!
Thanks! Glad it resonates!
I like your stuff man. You have a good way of getting the information out there. Well done you on raising the collective with your knowledge 👏🙏🙌
Thank you Julien for sharing this with us 🙏❤
Music is the best medicine for childhood trauma.
Excellent presentation Julien. Thanks so much.
That's funny I healed the same way in 3 years. Then I got in a relationship with a man who had what I just healed from. He totally threw me off balance so I learned so much about imbalanced relationships. I love this video it reminded me of the levels and it's easy for me to get into each of them so I'll start meditating to do that. Thanks! I really needed this.
This guy is intriguing me .. I’m glad I found him on YT even if just for his comedy timing and impersonations 😂
one of the best video i watched in 2024
I am by myself. Families mindset or excuse is "you must do this yourself"
Once one set a clear intention and sticks to it TH-cam recommeds you all sorts of gems that seemed invisible before. Whoever you are if you read this, All I want to Say is
KEEP STAYING ON TRACK
Right on @MindGuide1 :D
It's an interesting point that people need a system - perhaps that's the positive aspect of religion, or a psychological approach, e.g. psychoanalytic working with the unconscious.
Understanding the multiple ways in which we defend ourselves against internal 'threats' (e.g feelings of shame, persecution, desire, impulses to hurt, rivalry etc.) makes the external 'threats' like meeting people and building success feel far less 'threatening' or overwhelming.
exactly
How do you satisfy purpose and move up to love? Do you only achieve love once you've found your purpose? That's about where I am, I'm just walking into purpose and I don't know how to navigate to it. It's all a bunch of choices that are overwhelming.
Funny, the anxiety I felt when you said you'd been working on yourself only four years before you started coaching. Only four years! my brain ejaculated, how could you possibly be ready? But nobody's ever ready, are they, really. Bit leap of faith-y, that sort of thing.
I'm training to teach tai chi and I'm afraid of forgetting something or getting stuck in front of a class, I never feel prepared enough. I've only been studying it to a teaching level for two months but I've been practising tai chi nearly half of my life on and off. I never feel ready and I'm anxious about showing myself up. Even though when I started shibashi, the teacher had only just qualified herself, had sheets on the floor to remind her of stuff, and none of us judged her for it.
It's daft that I worry so much, I know that I know my shit. But as soon as there's an audience, someone who might react poorly, my brain starts locking up. I was bullied relentlessly in school for every creative endeavour and i still feel mentally blocked and creatively constipated. I'm trying to be less small and unnoticed now but how do you cross that line where you go for a thing even if you don't feel ready? How do you get to that point of "however it goes, I'll handle it"?
did i get it right?
love
purpose
desire
urge
anger
fear
grief
apathy
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system
accountability
support
This is literally helping me so much
Learning vs Solving was a shift for me.
Thank you very Julien this is actually very good information
You're absolutely right, I always wonder why animals aren't dramatized after seeing predators eating their mates on an almost daily basis
it a eye awarer and a few clue trait and a saftey tip and few suggetuin on rejection
This is good, thanks mate
I am going to meet julien blanc while i meet myself and others!
OMG didn’t know he was Swiss 😮I myself am honored 😊 being from Lucerne
You will continually keep making the same mistake until you learn the lesson, Its true, some people will continually traumatize themselves until they have processed it.
Hey Julien, thank bro.
amazing message
Thank you for these
Hey Thankyou for this ❤
Nice video Julien 🔥🔥
Awesome positive vibes!
I know this theory from books by Hubbard. It's gold.
I was mistreated and abused as a child. Disproportionate punishment for small infractions. I was a child for God's sake! I was supposed to make mistakes to learn. I have NO Idea who I am or who I'm supposed to be. I'm not very fond of me now... What if I don't like the 'real' me?
@janayholbrook2749 Me too and it’s been a challenge. That said, I think of my mind like a computer. So I can delete the negative programming at will. To do so I have to discover the negative thoughts and the inner voice that ridicules. All of that negativity came from childhood abuse. Soooo lots of getting outside, sunshine, appreciation, gratitude, and then allowing myself my feelings. Keep at it and you will
gain mastery. It’s an ongoing process.
I get the whole going down to dinner being scary. I get it. Sometimes it worse because they have an expectation of you.
Looking at the stages you set out you must know about vibrational frequency! Do you have a book recommendation on that perhaps?
you've helped me so much