Self Confidence - The Two Essential Avenues For Building Confidence
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- Self Confidence - Understand the inner workings of confidence, how it's created, and why you don't have confidence now.
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Video Summary:
The best way to build your self-confidence is by understanding the two core elements that create it. No one is born with self-confidence; it is acquired. And self-confidence is not global -- it tends to be situational. Self-confidence is a vibration of energy in your body that makes you calm and grounded when attempting a task. The negative vibration of being worried, anxious, or entertaining negative visualizations indicates a lack of confidence.
Virtually everyone is confident of their abilities in some arena. Those who appear the most magnificently self-confident have likely had lots of experience at the particular skill you're observing right now. They likely suck at other tasks that you haven't witnessed. Skill mastery contributes greatly to self-confidence.
The longer someone has been doing something, the more confident they'll likely become. Remember that most Olympic figure skaters or gymnasts started as young children. To achieve self-confidence in a skill, you must commit to the action to flawlessly acquire it.
But self-confidence, beyond mastery of an external skill, also requires the element of internal psychology. Those who perform flawlessly, and yet struggle internally, may need to address issues of personal development, possibly anxiety or neuroses. They may need to mitigate limiting beliefs that are sabotaging their performance.
To improve your self-confidence, address both the external and internal variables.
Disclaimer: All personal development advice and information is provided as-is and may not suit your specific circumstances. It may also contain errors or omissions. Neither Actualized.org, nor any of its employees, nor Leo Gura is liable in any way for any potential damages that may be incurred from this information. By listening to this advice you agree to take 100% responsibility for your life!
If you liked this video, I recommend watching the following next:
1) How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident
2) How To Overcome Shyness - Transform Yourself Into An Extrovert
3) How To Be Yourself - Become Your Authentic Self Right Now
4) Self Image - The Amazing, Absolute Key To All Personal Growth
Most of the girls I know, who have been told they're good-looking throughout their whole life, have been and still are the most insecure people I know too. They crave compliments and attention constantly to keep the belief that they're good-looking consistent from childhood and when they lose this attention, they believe they've suddenly become ugly, because no one is saying otherwise. I think it's actually easier for average looking people, because they're less likely to attract attention to their looks and become dependent on that attention, since it's not consistent and is not perceived as a loss when it stops. So whether you're good-looking or not, whether you've always been told you are or not, it's still the same mind game - you believe what you tell yourself you are.
how can you possibly know that all the girls you consider "good looking" were told all their life that they are good looking??
yeah how ... ? sounds creepy?
Nice. Advice. Leo
Sounds like projection
This is true, at least for me.
You really talk from the heart and want us to feel better, that's amazing. Finally I gonna change for better with your help and my will that I didn't even knew I had. Amazing how you speak for so long and don't make a mistake, cuz your videos aren't even edited.
Hi there Leo! I feel much more confident and at ease after watching your videos. I'm 20 and struggling with the "getting to know myself" stage... Trying to adapt into the world. Thank you for all of your helpful advice and videos! :)
I am always so thankful for your videos , I wash them everyday.
Yea get that dirt of your shoulder, girl.
Leo. Your videos have made a significant impact in my life. I just wanted to say thank you for making this amazing videos available to the public
There is no one else in my opinion who is doing work in this particular way. Very unique.
I am not really a comment guy but I have to admit that you ROCK. you have changed my life on so many levels. Thank you.
The best explanation of what confidence is, that I have ever heard. Excellent lesson. Thank you. And thank you for posting other videos of yours that could help.
Leo, again thank you...confidence is self-image issue
you are amaaazing Leo... you've really changed my life...THANK YOU!!!!!!
I feel you are my brother. The love you're showing the world is marvelous baby!!! Keep it UP. No negative thinking...only what we want. Right! You're a smart, loving, giving, and honest person like me. THANK YOU!
I was recently chosen by my peers to be their coordinator on a thing we're working on. This implies that I have to organise meetings and collaborate with them efficiently, but my anxiety/confidence issues get in the way. I know I do good work, but when it comes to public speaking it's a whole different thing. I appreciate your videos Leo, and I hope your counsel will help me make good progress.
Leo you are a great guy. You have a very encouraging and positive attitude in all your videos. Thanks for these awesome reminders! Am signing up for the newsletter.
"Anxiety prone type of person" thanks for the reminder. I have anxiety issues and now I just remembered why need to keep meditating and exercising everyday to keep my mind in a positive state.
I love you Leo, that's all.
Thank you !
Thank you Leo!! I being following you for years now, and I love the way you teach!! Keep it the hard work
My councillor showed me one of your videos, the introvert vs extrovert one. Your videos are very helpful. Thanks for posting!
Councillor? Where at?
In England, I'm not sure how he came across them
Fiorella's Cooking Cool, thanks for letting me know :)
A lot of great advice, thank you Leo. Love your videos watch the all the time.
Thank you Leo, i love your videos. I am 22 and you are helping me out with the content in your videos. This is the time I can make a powerful transition.
wow. thanks Leo that was great. I'll be lookin for more interesting stuff from you cheers
thanks Leo again! every video in right time, its not coincidence anymore...
Thank you Leo!
Hi Leo, this is Angie from Egypt. Very informative video. I had never really grasped that confidence was so controllable. I always thought it was about shyness but you are right, it is specific situations that shake us, for me it was and still is public speaking in front of a very large group of audience. I used to do it perfectly when I was younger but somehow throughout the years, i became shy publicly !!!
Join Toastmasters if you got them in Egypt.
Toastmasters, I never heard of it before. I will check it out. Thanks Leo for all your videos. I watch them day and night. We don't really have Personal Development awareness in Egypt.
+Angie Eissa actually i am from egypt and im really interested in self development and in this amazing guy ..so please dont publish rumours about us : )
Thank you so much for making this video.
I'm so going to use these amazing tips. Love this.
My new daily affirmation for actions
Competence + Inner Work = Confidence.
I'm going to share that with my audience. It will be so useful to them!! I work with men that struggle with women.
I'm a relationship and dating coach and I want to take my practice to the next stage.
I'm going to practice and do the inner work in order to get better at public speaking.
Thank you so much 💛 🙏 lots of love your way
I personally feel the best way to gain confidence is to put yourself in situations you'd usually recognize as uncomfortable (outside the comfort zone). Before I started my business, I was terrible in social situations but now I'm completely fine. Still a little off when it comes to young audiences though, went back to my old college the other day to do a speech and was incredibly nervous. I'd've much rather spoken to big shot business owners than them haha. But it turned out to be fine.
Another thing that helped me was looking back on my progress, not what I could've done, but what I have done. Many of us forget the great and amazing things we've achieved in our lives, so at the end of the day I now write down things I've achieved in that day so that I can reflect and appreciate my efforts.
Most informative video on self esteem and confidence really helps people understand what maybe holding them back. Thank
you sound like an old drunk homeless man who solved mystery of life at 0.5 speed :)
great video btw, thanks
haha. true
Thanks Leo. You’re doing a lot of research and passing the knowledge to us. You’re amazing. I really enjoy your videos
Heyyy Leo, really good words thank you. (:
Keep it up! greetings form Cairo, Egypt ;)
Thanks dude for posting this and a lot of other videos on TH-cam.They are proving themselves as a good step towards high level confidence for me. Thanks a lot.:-)
4:18 Confidence is a vibrarion of enegy, a mindstate. Calm and grounded
How is confidence developed?
- Nobody is born with it
- They have experience that you are lacking
- Basically confidence through competence
- Also you might be anxiety prone and pessesimistic
1. Get the Competence
How do i get the competence?
2. Get your mind handled
Confident people got it early
i am naturally timid and axious. Also have inferiority complex
Leo, can you make a video about social anxiety?
I notice social anxiety is just from extreme shyness. You just need to do alot more desensitization to get your subconscious to realize theres nothing peoples opinions of you have any value or harm. I guess theres physical brain components to it but if you have the psychology part down it wont really affect you.
Just try pushing yourself more and more over time... use mindfulness etc. And you'l probably melt it away... hope that helps... ive had a social anxiety problem for ages but i noticed after using mindfulness and pushing through slowly over time its starts to melt away
What's mindfulness??
@@kylebarnett9234 explain Mindfulness boss
Thank you for all this content that you provide to improve ones self. I like it I like it a lot.
Hey Leo, thanks a lot for putting up these videos, they've helped me a lot!
Great video! Thank you for posting it 🙏
very insipiring ! it made me see things in a different angle !thanks Leo
Good video, Leo. Thanks.
Thank you Leo.
what a great video ... thank you so much
this person is really amazing
you deserve more than 1 million views :)
wow, seriously, this was so helpful, Leo!
I never saw confidence that way like being confident in one particular area, I just thought either you are confident in general or not at all which really lowered my self-esteem...
But actually it´s just logical that you are confident about things if people keep telling you that you are good at something and then you KNOW it and act like it.
For me, I (without wanting to sound arrogant which I am really not :D) know that I am pretty, I´m pretty good with languages (I´m from Germany) and I´m quite a good singer for example...those are things that I know...but where I have like zero confidence is when it comes to public speaking (teachers and my parents always said to me that I was a rather shy girl so I assumed I´m probably not good at talking in front of others) and just most things that have to do with social interaction when I feel like my partner has all those traits that I lack like confidence, being good at telling funny stories or stuff like that...and this really puts me down. I´m really happy that I found your channel and I´ve watched your "find your true self" video or something like that and I feel like I know now what to do to find it and like I shouldn´t care so much about how I come off...thanks for that ;)
Thanks Leo great video !!
Really interesting videos man
Active duty coming my way finally I get to live it.
Love this video! I Love all of your videos actually.. very very helpful! :)
its all about looks....
Exactly!
Can u make vedio related to pregnancy mood swings..and postpartum depression..how to come back to normal physically and emotionally
Thanks for your help :)
Leo, thanks for that video ❤
Ty very mach amazing video
Thanks Leo that made so much sense now I will do the work 😇👌💖
Thanks for clearing it up! And also that 'one-take mode' adds some believability to your words. Thank you, Leo!
Thanks :) Yeah, one-take ain't easy without fucking it up. I will sometimes shoot 3 full one-takes and select one that's as articulate as I want. The rest are thrown away.
Actualized.org You do have cue cards around, don't you? :-)
Anyway excellent job, Leo! You ARE going to have millions of subscribers!
Arthur Konstantinov I usually have a few bullet points so that I stay on topic and don't ramble, but 95% of it is on-the-fly.
Actualized.org Bullet points. That's what I meant. Thank you for the feedback! Always nice to get some response. Makes you real!
Actualized.org You show your lack of professionalism. You say goddamn in the video. And fucking it up in a comment. You don't hear Wayne Dyer or Tony Robbins using those words.
You said that action brings to mastery and therefore confidence: I am in the sales industry for many years now, and still, making cold calls or asking for an appointment to a prospect makes me still very anxious, stuck and miserable. Any advice,Leo?
Very informative and practical
thank you.
Greetings from Romania Leo ! Nice Videos. Thanks.
Greeting from Vegas! ;)
Thank you very much for the Videos. I've knew about law of attraction and practiced it for about 1 year but you give some step to step solutions. I practice the metods that you showed me from the time I've commented to your video and now I'm going to an interview for a job. Yes... today... It's amazing. I hope that I can maintain these steps because I'm also a student and the time it's a problem. You are doing a great job man. I'm going to meditate now because in 3 hours I have the interview. Thanks alot. You are also a great psychologist with a little manipulation skills but I appreciate it because those are needed in order to help others, give them confidence like you gave me an to so many . Just .... Thank you !
thank you!
I am naturally good at software design. I am naturally good at coding. I am naturally good at passing CS313E this semester
thank you dude !
If you’re good at cooking dinner! 😂 I’m sorry I couldn’t help it. I’m still self actualizing. FR thank you Leo
Not to be confused with arrogance. You can be confident and humble.
Hey man awesome video! Wan a ask you how can i be a "success" among people, i wanna be enjoyed by the girls and by other guys in order to make friends. I wanna get a gf from my college and i wanna find this one unique girl and have lots of friends, how can i be more confident to realize my dreams?
+Actualised.org..Leo this video ia amazing.But i realy want u to make a long clip on confidence..Bcz At the end of the day whatever we do is just to fell more CONFIDENT..
What if you have to much confidence?
LEO? would "I am emotionally independent of both the good or bad opinions of others" work well as an affirmation? is there anything wrong with saying it that way?
Danzel Maltby If you really understand the meaning behind it then it will work fine
If you got a weak brain, and a narrow mind,
this world will leave you, way behind,
your friends will deceive you, leave you crying,
you can't have yours, while you're watching mine.
But if you got a strong brain, and your mind is broad,
you'll have more friends, than a train can haul,
you won't have no worries, no trouble at all,
if you got a strong brain, and your mind is broad. Widespread Panic, and older.
I'd rather view confidence as the trust in ones global ability to integrate chaos, rejection and alike constructively. Partial confidence might be the consequence of some internalized routine and can be gained by interacting authentically with the world and hopefully experiencing unfiltered reality in exchange. The higher your ability to see the deep roots of everything being the same, the more confidence you might have with trying and doing new things, as they will already be somewhat familiar.
How do we build self confidence in dating and relationships? "Take actions" as you said, do you mean we should go out with more people and accept anyone? I've always had bad relationships so it's in my mind right now.
Experience!
I'm assuming you're a man. You need to date a lot of women to get good. It won't happen otherwise. Watch this:
How To Be A Man - The Deep Core Of Being Masculine
No I'm a girl. Do I have to date a lot of men as well?
Shoug H Okay, sorry then, hehe :) For women, yes, dating experience can be helpful, but I think the advice is different. If you have bad relationships, you need to start working on yourself. Watch these videos:
- Bad Relationships - How To Break Your Cycle Of Painful Relationships
- Self Esteem - Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem
Actualized.org ass/u/me
This is an interesting video. I have had massive confidence and self esstem issues despite getting a degree past the issues of dyslexia. I am trying and so far failing to get my business of the floor, I feel it is down to family background issues and not believing i myself and I'm hitting a barrier every time i want to gain in my life. I have trained as a web designer, videographer and life coach but i am not confident enough to use it. Though I know i am good in bed and if it wasn't for my moral stance and love for my God, boyfriend and child I would probably had done that by now. Im just struggling very badly right now and need Help!
THANKS SO MUCH, I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU.HOW I WISH I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN ALL THESE STUFFS 10 YEARS AGO.THANKS ALOT.
Where are all these video links he's talking about??
That’s powerful 👍🏻
God bless you!! i really really really appreciate this :)
fan of your work bro!
hey Leo,there's this girl at church that i like and i want to talk to her and tell her how i feel but everytime i get up to go talk to her i can't..do u think i lack confidence in talking with girls?
"You're kinda the shit" lol thanks Leo.
This video was helpful
leo i personally don,t approach girls as many as i could not coz of being shy to her but because of environment that other people are watching me for example in starbuks if the hot girl is sitting other side or there 3 hot girls who are laughing out and already got lots of guys attention and you wanna talk to her or them ,u need to walk to get there and start a conversation and since i,m bit tall and muscular and foreigner where i,m living now usually people look at me and make me uncomfortable , what my mindset should be that time ? what are practice i need to do please help me out peace
Im one of those gorgeous girls who was told i‘m gorgeous from friends and family but i never believe it, my parents were not around when i was growing up and i was mobbed when i was a teenager...i‘m still struggling with low confidence and self image issues
Good video man.
Dude Thanks.
I dint realize before that i lacked Confidence in Specific Area Only, and I can Do Shit others Can't.
Thanks.
By the way i still wonder How Could U Know So Much all by Yourself. I Envy u. :)
Introduction to Self-Confidence - 00:00:01
Examples of Situations Requiring Confidence - 00:01:15
Understanding What Confidence Is - 00:04:22
Development of Confidence - 00:06:23
Early Experience and Confidence - 00:08:51
Impact of Good Looks on Confidence - 00:10:09
The Role of Self-Image in Confidence - 00:14:00
Context Dependence of Confidence - 00:14:52
Building Confidence Through Competence - 00:16:11
Inner Game: Mindsets and Psychology - 00:16:41
Conclusion and Encouragement - 00:18:04
Closing and Call to Action - 00:18:28
You may look like Leon Trosky's love child but you actually talk a lot of sense
Thank you :)
When someone has grown asking permission for everything to their parents this leads in adulthood to a lack of confidence when making important decisions in life. Also looking for aproval, inaction or blocking, blank. Any tip to face it?
Yes, that can be the case. This video should help you:
Self Esteem - Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem
This is awesome :) good work
***** One of the best on this subject. This method I found online helped me to achieve my goals, www.selfconfidenceachievement.blogspot.com
Love it! Thanks :-)
I can have a skill and be very good at it but as soon as i attempt doing it in front of many people i lose all my confidence and i don't do that skill i'm good at even half as well as i do it when i'm alone.
16:00 public spesking course
Competence and mind handle
what if u r not good at anything,like nothing?
I've always been compared to my sister in the looks dept. so I lack confidence in that area... how do I help myself not getting into the habit of comparing if it's ongoing, not just childhood
Leila Star
Me too and when we take a picture of the both of us in the comments they say how she's so pretty and then for me nothing and I feel like I have to live up to her beauty standards but it hurts your self esteem when everyone's telling her how gorgeous she is and I'm in the background
I need help
it is very hard to teach to be confident if you are not born with it but it is possible to train it.
Leo what ís Your opinion on dale carnegee?
A good source of wisdom.
god bless u.
is any relationship between self confidence and loving yourself?
Sometime yes, sometimes no. For example, no matter how much you love yourself, you will never feel confident handling a wild cobra unless you've mastered the art of snake-handling. But, alternatively, if you love yourself, you will be more confident in certain situations, like in relationships or dating, and you will have a general self of confidence about life (aka, self esteem).
i dunno about the good looking part.. I know people who are stunning, since they were kids were told they were gorgeous all the time but are still really insecure and that insecurity got worse as they got older. So yeah the exact opposite of what you said.
I need your appointment
Does emotional stimulation means compliments all the way?
No! Don't compliment women too much. At least not until sex. She needs to feel like you're the prize, not her. She should be complimenting you.
Yes they have to chase... But can you give an example on stimulation? Just to make it clearer.
Fabian Vargas There are a thousand examples. Anything you say or do that spikes her emotions up or down. If you just walk to a random girl, grab her by the hand without saying a word, spin her around, smile, and then tell her that you hate her and she's going to hell, that would be stimulating.
Haha I'll try that! evil stimulation
Fabian Vargas Do it with confidence! Otherwise you will fall flat on your face.