And why shouldn't they, for the most part it isn't a pleasant experience for anyone. You'd be borderline inhuman if you recognized pain, suffering, etc and didn't feel just a little bad in an objective sense.
@@jnharton ummm I’m not sure if you’re attacking me for simply making a statement, or not. Let me try to clarify my take on things. I didn’t say that they shouldn’t be looked after. Anyone dying from any disease is going to suffer. Being provided aid and assistance is the bare minimum that everyone deserves. Consoling and comforting a person who has perpetrated twisted, sick or evil acts upon another living creature is not a requirement. Showing mercy to someone who didn’t have mercy for the soul that they committed atrocities against, is a personal choice. I, personally, deeply feel the pain and anguish that others experience. But you never know what role you are supposed to play in another person’s reality. Did they come into your life to give you the opportunity to elevate your spiritual understanding? Did you come into their life to show them vengeance, to treat them as they treated an other? The only things we have any actual control over is how we act and how we react. The one thing that we have to live with 24/7 is our conscience. The phrases, “judge not lest ye be judged” and “treat others as you wish to be treated”, play a powerful role in this type of situation. No matter how big or small any of our interactions with other souls may be, every single person will have to face themselves. We will all endure a reckoning. We will all experience what we’ve done to others, from their perspective. You either recognize and reconcile your acts here or you do it after the body dies. Either way you will have to face yourself. My apologies for the extensive explanation. I kept trying to shorten it but, I felt compelled to type every word. I hope you didn’t take any of it as a me try to justify my comment. Nuance is always lost when the words aren’t spoken.
@@mt_gox you poor thing Thank you for taking the time to comment on a reply that wasn’t addressed to you, had nothing to do with you and is apparently above your capabilities, nay your capacity of understanding. The world is a better place now, having been blessed with your inspiring articulation of, “nobody gonna read all that bs”. How accomplished you must feel, having put me in my place.
I worked in the prison system for 27 years and I never wanted to know why they were in prison because it would not allow me to treat them fairly so I know where you’re coming from.
Had to work in the "prison" ward of a hospital for a while. One of my colleagues stupidly asked one guy "you seem so nice, what did you do to end up in prison?" He gave a really smart answer "I was a really bad person and I deserve it. If I tell you, you'll hate me." So we left it at that.
@@dustinh4175have you not ever gotten something you didn’t deserve. Before you answer that think. I am quite sure you have. If you are a believer and are saved by the blood of Yeshua then you have received the most precious gift anyone can have and you didn’t deserve it, none of us did.
@@dustinh4175they deserve only what their sentencing requires. Anything beyond that makes the nurse or doctor evil and at odds with our system of justice.
This is why I never condem people's children when they don't take care of their parents when they are older or sick. You never know what they put those kids through.
My mother in law explicitly said she does not ever want to be nursed by her family, she herself nursed her mother-in-law and she does not want to put us through this experience. That could be another reason 😊
@@koellekindYES to this! I am a daughter-in-law caring for my mother- in-law. I have told my son and his wife that I would rather go to a nursing home than have them do what I am doing.
My mother was a monster. She was dying, no one else would help or cared. I took her in and cared for her as best as I possibly could. She died with me still hating her. But I don't regret my decision. I am nothing like her.
@@deangulberry1876 Would YOU make it as a fire fighter? Would YOU have been able to continue doing your job as usual, like the nurse in this video did, after finding out what she found out? That's what laur100 means.
This is exactly why I have been planning on doing hospice care since 7th grade. I just want to make sure people are comfortable when they pass, instead of uncomfortable in a horrible hospital bed with random strangers walking through the hallways right outside their death bed. It seems like an absolutely amazing job and experience to be a hospice nurse, which is why I want to become one.
@@Simplebn I've attended the deaths of many of my family members. we had amazing discussions. It also helps to alleviate their fear if they have someone who is willing to answer the hard questions and to discuss things with the family if there is any.
My mother was an end of life care nurse for over 30 years. She was always so good to her patients up until the moment they died. She would always say that people need a certain amount of dignity no matter who they were. She delt with old white men who were racist with dementia. The names that they would call her were disgusting. She always kept a smile on and treated EVERYONE with respect. She was just a beautiful person. I miss her smile everyday ❤❤❤.
You were gifted a wonderful caring mother. People with dementia sometimes call people names they would never say in real life before dementia--and sometimes they use language they wouldn't dream of saying. I'm a nurse and I think your Mom was a gift to the hospital and families she worked with. I hope she was shown the recognition she deserved by her peers and the hospital administration.
@michelemasarech1478 My mom worked in a lot of nursing homes. She also did in- home hospice care. She also had that weird power where she could predict a time of death better than anyone else. She was always spot on with her prediction. She used that power to keep her patients at ease because she never panicked. She took care of both of her parents and her three older siblings on each of their death beds. Grandma= ovarian cancer; Grandpa= loneliness( he died almost 6 months after the love of his life). Uncle Joe= shot in the stomach by a gangster for messing with his woman. It took him 3 days to die. My grandfather and my mom insisted that they bring him home so he could die with the family. He died on my eldest sister's third birthday. Uncle Major= the cancer killed him in under 3 months. Stomach, lungs, liver, and pancreas. They tried surgery to remove it, but it was just too advanced. I still hear him calling for my mom in my dreams. Auntie Ruby= stroke. My mom was the one who made the decision to end life support. She was amazing
My dad came home from the ER one night and described having to treat a woman who had 1) driven to a bar, leaving her two young children in the backseat to sleep 2) left the bar drunk and caused an accident in which she 3) killed the occupants of the other vehicle and her own children. When she was taken to the ER for treatment of her injuries, she 4) threw a big fit, cursing and spitting at the nurses who were trying to restrain her enough to treat her. Dad’s lesson was that his professionalism was basically sacred, and that his only standard of care was his very best, regardless of the patient. Never compromise your standards for any reason. It will save you, as a nurse, in the long run. God bless you.
@@user-ov4wr5yu4r That is for the legal system. You can see why you wouldn’t want an anesthesiologist or hospice nurse to see themselves as The Punisher!
@@user-ov4wr5yu4r It's fine to feel that way, but the point of both the nurse and doctor's stories is that their obligation is not to exact justice, but to provide the best care they can to each of their patients.
@@user-ov4wr5yu4rnah the torturer paid his debt...he was all caught-up on his court fines when he got cut loose to lie there in bed all day at home being pampered & coddled by this hot little piece o' azz 🙂
"I'm so happy I'm not mean!" Amen! I really wish more of the world thought this way. Kindness isn't always easy, but the world would be a much better place if everyone made it their mission to be kind.
As a kid I remember going with my mom to her hospice jobs. I couldn't stay home as I did not sleep nights (natural 3rd shift personality) and both my parents are retired army, so the sound of a light switch being thrown will wake my dad up... Well I know going to folks to help them pass takes a bit out of you each time, or it did with my mom... Now shes 80 and I am taking care of her... Thank you to all the amazing hospice staff that take the jobs with no happy ending...
You’re human. We are curious creatures. And we’re human. His actions affected your perception. Thank you for sharing. You chose humanity. Even though he didn’t. ❤
It might also go against the Hippocratic oath. This is an age old question or dilema. But the general consensus seems to be it's not the doctor's place to judge guilt or innocence or mete out punishment. Same sort of scenario with treating enemy combatants.
He didn’t deserve it, if it helped her that’s fine, but this nonsense of forgiving people eases your mind is nonsense, we have feelings for a reason about people like these it’s our morals, decency and compassion for those wronged that gives us those feelings. To do the basics for this man would have been enough, just to do your job and not cause any suffering by your actions would have been enough. Just a job. Save your compassion for those that deserve it.
I was a prison doc in the past. Every time I had to look at a patient's criminal record I regretted the knowledge. It didn't help that I was working with maximum security. It is interesting that your video came up on my feed, because my wife is a palliative care doctor.
My pop was a CO in a max security state PEN before I was born & man does he have some stories of shit he's seen in the infirmary. Hell, just in general in there. Hat's off to you buddy!
My parents were both very abusive. I was estranged from them when my mom died, and it was very painful to grieve her death. Somehow I got a message when my father was dying and I decided to go see him in a split second. I spent several weeks there with him, and I’m so glad I did. I saw a different side of him. He had dementia, and his last months were not peaceful because his wife didn’t want him to die and put him through a lot of what I felt was unnecessary treatment- including open heart surgery. She refused a lot of pain meds because she was convinced they would kill him. It was so hard to watch him suffer, but a good friend reminded me that he chose his wife, not me to make the decisions. I did what I could to make him comfortable and flew home a few days before he passed. I realized that what he and my mom did to me didn’t make me an awful person. It did something for me to realize he was a human capable of suffering just like anyone else and to realize I felt compassion for his suffering no matter what.
I am in this situation right now. Evil parent is in dementia. I forgave him but don't feel responsible for him. I feel I have done all this work on my own to feel at peace and I'm sort of like, what is the point of me going to see all that and do feel a sense of self protection since he was creepy all my life and if he doesn't recognize me could assault me. Sorry if this is tmi but it's a unique situation you commented on and I can relate, and debating on things. Ty
Who in the heck has a dementia patient get open-heart surgery?! Maybe if it was stage 1 or 2, but anything beyond that is crazy. I’m surprised a surgeon went along with it.
@@LuckyCharms777 the surgeon tried to talk his wife out of it. His wife did not want him to die and was convinced he had a moment of lucidity and agreed to the surgery. I had been estranged from him for 18 years and had no say. My brother was just compliant and barely said anything.
This unironically is something I needed to hear... I'm currently going through a weird situation with a group of friends. They're always very mean to me in a joking manner and I was so over it, I told one of them to shut their mouth the other day... caused a rift between myself and them. We game together so typically I just let things slide but I just wasn't in the mood. I'm struggling with the repercussions of what I did and recognizing that we can no longer be friends anymore, and that I simply need to move onto other things in life. Now I'm realizing that I simply need to be who I am- a kind person- and let them go. They trigger me so much to be my worst and I can't stand it.
It is never a joke when it hurts. Once they realize that they have been hurting you, it shows they don't love you That is not a true friend. I wish you the best and finding the type of people that respect you and enjoy you those are true friends. I am somebody that jokes around A LOT, but if I hurt someone I'm quick to apologize and hug them. Being very mindful of not saying such again. I build my friends up, not tear them down. I have many for this reason. Your true friends again will do the same.
In fact: Not calling out abusive behaviours in them and now following through with consequences is a big big disservice to do to them. It's because others have done the same that these people are that bad at reacting to boundary setting now. If they had been called out with kindness before, neither of you would have gone through this situation now. Inthe future, when you make new friends, actually have a "hey, I'd like to set rules together for when we're bugging each other. I don't wanna lose this friendship, so we need to agree on healthy ways to resolve problems that won't build up resentments"
I had friends like that when I was younger and it’s been many years since I’ve let them go… it’s the best thing I could have possibly done for myself. I forgot that I was a kind person bc they just brought out the absolute worst in me, I realized that being the way that they were made me miserable. Letting them go helped me become my most authentic self. And then I found friends who are actually kind to me too. My entire life is different now :’)
I’m a former NYC EMT and I too attended many passings . And I spent nearly 8 months in the hospital in 2022 due to me getting hit by a E350 van while I was riding my bicycle. I love nurses. Thanks to a nurse who saved me from a serious DBT while I was in a hospital bed while others would not listen to my complaint of extreme pain , I would be dead. I’m back to work and rebuilding all because of nurses caring for me and others when it was needed most. I love nurses.
I was really interested in your comment but had one question. I tried to find the answer myself but it didn't work. So, asking wholly respectfully: I looked up DBT and it's defined as a psychological / psychiatric issue. So, what do you mean by DBT and pain and a nurse listening and saving you? I appreciate your time!
Thanks for your honesty. This is a good lesson to learn “don’t google your patient”. We don’t care for people because they earned it. We care for them because they are human and it’s our job.
You are human and a normal reaction to such news. My husband has dealt with the same issues in his line of work. He worked in the Correction Dept. of a local police dept. Over the years, this facility has held many criminals who have committed a variety of terrible crimes including horrific murders. I once asked him how he copes with that knowing what the crimes were. He told me it's his job to keep them secured, fed and protect their legal rights during that time. No matter how bad the crimes they've done, he has to remain professional. It's completely up to the courts...judge and jury to determine their fate. You have to keep your job and emotions separate.
Yep. Society has determined their punishment. As much as one may wish to add to it, it's not anyone's place but a judge. I think it's a sign of strength to stay above the urge to be nasty to them and give them the basic dignities we give everyone. It says "I choose to be decent to you despite the fact that you were not decent to others. I won't stoop to that level in reaction."
If everyone picked jobs they shared the same emotions for (well, emotions change but values don't!) it would have made work much easier and allowed people to provide a better quality service. I don't think job and emotions should be distinct. Why bother working at a position we don't share values with? (No offense).
If I couldn't find compassion for the patient, I always found compassion for the family. Having them know that their loved one was being taken care of, gave them peace. Sometimes all you can do, is all you can do. You did good. ❤
Exactly. The state transfers the expense for care and burial to the welfare system, which used Federal Medicare money instead of the state's prison budget.
@@MyFiddlePlayer You're absolutely right. I'm a retired judge and our county jail was constantly after me to release pregnant inmates on "unsecured bail' when they were getting close to having their babies or injured or sick inmates who needed hospital care. They didn't like it when I told them it was "welfare fraud" to do that and I wasn't going to be an accomplice in their scam and end up getting indicted with them when the feds finally caught on to what they'd been doing for years at that prison. This pissed off the County Commission, County Administrator, District Attorney, etc. My guess was that when the shit hit the fan, they'd all point at my signature and seal on the release documents and claim they were "just doing what the judge told them to do." There's a LOT of crap like that going on in crooked counties. This particular county is a 3 to 1 Republican electorate and I wouldn't "fix" their traffic and speeding tickets for their families and donors, etc. So they found a crony to run against me using their party's unlimited treasury and ran a smear campaign to get me out.
@@yepiratesworkshop7997I’m Republican and believe you did the right thing. Corruption isn’t the platform for either party and people who try should be held to account.
That would be tough for me. I’m a nurse and I couldn’t care for someone knowing they tortured someone else. I guess I have a darkness in me in that way. I hate injustice. I hate a person that brings suffering to another. I can’t empathize with them for a second. But I know you did the right thing. You played the role you were supposed to play.
You don't have a darkness in you. Your being logical. People that committed evil actions on someone else and not having any respect for another life or human do not deserve any compassion or sympathy.
I feel exactly the same way as you do, I just couldn’t continue caring for a patient who tortured someone else. I know they’re sick & they’re dying, however I couldn’t be connected with that kind of person! 😖 It would creep me out just thinking about going there. I don’t think it’s a darkness in you - they’re the ones who have darkness in them!
@@michelemasarech1478 You make a good point - everyone has their limitations. Transferring care is a great option. I hadn’t considered that. Especially when you may feel unsafe in their presence, even if they are sick & dying. People have to earn trust & sick or not, who’s to say what they’ll do if you make a mistake in their care? I wouldn’t want to fear retaliation. There’s no way of knowing their tolerance threshold.
I too am a hospice nurse and in nursing school cared for a felon who had escaped from prison to a foreign country and was repatriated to my country. He was treated as "less than" by medical staff and was under medicated for pain from his injuries. I did my best for him and try every day to do my best. I love your videos. Thank you for making them.
this is why I know I'm not cut out to be compassionate release nurse. It's not that I'm without empathy... I just can't forgive everything a human being is capable of enough to let that guy pass away without pain that I can take away but choose not to. I'm not "evil" but I'm not "good" either. takes strength to do what you do.🙂
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I understand what you’re saying colloquially, but in real ethical terms you wouldn’t be able to “forgive them” even if you had wanted to - in the same way that we can’t apologize for others. The remorse is theirs to express, just as forgiveness is for the wronged to bestow. For this reason murder should be considered “unforgivable” per se not for lack of human ethical ability, but for lack of the forgiver. The family can forgive the pain and loss it has caused them, but even they can never forgive the deed-in-itself. Much less a total stranger
@@jamesfrancese6091 You can appologise for others. It's the perspective you come from. An act of homoside could be an attack on civilization. You might be able to forgive that as an individual. I can't.
So SO true!! Nurse Hadley, you have learned a spiritual lesson some people go to their grave still not understanding. May God continue to bless you & your family, sweet girl!
Literally this is my response when family told me I should be a medical doctor. I would loose my job the first time I have to help someone like this. Thank you for what you do.
Allowing these people to die peacefully surrounded by their families is just madness tbf. Their victims weren't allowed to die peacefully with their family, they died with fear and pain, that's all
Mindblowing message, Nurse Hadley. Your ability to do your job best, despite what the patient had done, is legendary, and I'm deeply grateful for the lesson. Thank you for your honesty and for reminding us of our own humanity. I've posted your video to my social media.
You're an angel, and don't think for a second that any negative or intrusive thoughts had that day makes you any less. To be kind and just to someone at the end of their time who wasn't to others, is the ultimate test of humanity.
I'm glad you figured that out quickly. You aren't there to judge a person. A jury has already done that. You are there to provide a service to that person. Not letting your emotions dictate the level of care you provide somebody under your care is part of being a professional. I made the same mistake when I worked in prison caring for inmates. I worked in an infirmary that saw all levels, from minimum to maximum - robbers, murders, child molesters, rapists, etc. I saw what you saw. You think about whether they even deserve to be treated as human and what treatment options they should even receive. That's quite the ethical dilemma to put yourself in. It's easier to not know these things if at all possible and let others make that decision.
Similar experience. I had a patient in regularly for dialysis catheter changes, an inmate. One day he coded after a routine change. I did my job and got the code team called, we got him back. Later I found out that he was the perp in a savage attack on a newly married couple, murdering the husband as he raped his wife. Fortunately I never had to take care of him again because I don't think I could have done it. It's always better not to know anything extraneous about the patient.
I am a retired RN and was touched by your video. That was a lot to unpack, and you shared it so honestly and gracefully. Wonderful to know that there are nurses out there like you. God Bless You!
You did for him what he didn't have the heart to do for anyone else. It goes to show how much better of a person you are. You're out there making the world a better place. Thank you. 🖤
Hadley, the respect I have for you is unlimited. If every person possessed even a sliver of the boundless uplifting energ you have and share...the world would be a much easier place to exist in.
This comment section is the definition of "whatever helps you sleep at night" lol. All these people circle-jerk ing about how kind, elevated and superior they are, at the expense of tge true victim, the ONLY one who deserved kindness and compassion in this case
Thank you for your honesty. You did your job to the best of your ability. And treated him with dignity and respect and compassion. He made the evil choices opposite of your choices.
I worked for more than a decade with patients who were ruled to not be able to stand on trial. One thing they tell you when you work at a psych hospital is to make sure you don’t read the background info in the charts. It affects how you treat that client. It’s human nature to be uncomfortable around certain patients given their history. You do a very important job and I commend you for it.
Now psych patients are commonly held in an ER until placement can be found. It's extremely dangerous. And nobody will tell you what kind of psycho we're supposed to be caring for: not the patient, not the family, not the other professionals that dealt with him before.
Yeah I've always wondered if there's a good way to convey safety information without instilling prejudice or making carers see them differently. Like if a patient is there for a very violent or sexual crime and it needs to be considered when transporting and rendering aid. Ideally the safety precautions in place should be so rubust so as to make it where the carers don't have to be warned, but institutions don't exactly have unlimited budgets to ensure that.
@@feoxorus You sound terrifying. Psych holds are literally a form of incarceration. "Psych patients" are often just people who are mentally ill or have suffered tremendously. The true "psychos" in these situations are often the clinicians and other healthcare workers. YOU are the ones with the power in this situation. The patients are in a very vulnerable position. For the most part, mentally ill people are not dangerous. But healthcare workers often are, so I guess it goes both ways.
@@malinia.20 agreed that they sound terrifying… I went to the ER a couple times in the past by choice because of not wanting to live. I have awful anxiety, and the way that comment is worded is EXACTLY how I fear ppl secretly think of me, when I’m literally so polite that drs don’t realize I’m suffering until my dad explains to them for me since I accidentally hide my pain nobody wants to go to the ER for s*icidal thoughts.. it’s such an unfriendly and scary environment sometimes. There’s a HUGE difference in how they treat you when u go for physical emergencies vs mental ones…. Heartbreaking honestly While they probably meant severally dysfunctional mentally ill ppl and not just depressed teens or stigmatized illness, it’s still sad
@@feoxorusHere’s a good tip for you that will make your life in the ER way easier. When dealing with a psych hold, just learn not to care that it’s a psych hold. A psych patient can be set off by your fear or your anxiety. So don’t show fear, don’t appear anxious, and whatever you do, do not be cold or come across as fake to them. I get it, you have safety concerns which believe it or not is exactly why you don’t have access to the information on the patient.
"And it has made me a lot happier." That there is the whole point. So many people today are pointing fingers at everyone else around them, trying to drag others down, trying to find fault in every little thing. And all the people doing that are miserable. Maybe if they just tried to be better people, and ignored the missteps and faults of others, they wouldn't be so unhappy and mean. Maybe they'd realize that being kind makes them happier than tearing down everyone else around them.
I think you're right. I've heard therapists basically say that happy people aren't mean. Something else that occurred to me is that if you take a kind, forgiving attitude (to the point that it's part of your very character) is that you may not take insults and shows of disrespect as personally. When you choose to live with goodwill, patience, and forgiveness, you probably realize more than before that living with a mean spirit is a choice too, and an unnecessary one. You realize their bad attitude is coming from them, not from you.
He didn’t deserve better treatment then what he caused upon someone else, but at the end of the day, he was leaving this life already to not harm anyone else.
I appreciate the vulnerability and realness. What a struggle this would be for any of us, and your insights on how you managed to come to terms with the situation are so insightful.
Isn’t that pathetic? It almost seems like the more evil you are the more people want to bend over backwards to show the world how good they are at having compassion for evil people. May God rest your mother soul, amen.
Girl, i want to thank you for your service. Because of ppl like you, my momma could stay home with her family for her last days on this earth. That matters. ❤❤❤
@jennifermcguire8867 yeah she did. Big time. Doesnt matter if king jong un was her patient. She has every requirement to treat him equally and professionally. She admitted she let her feeling saffect her work. Quite honestly if i was the family i would use this to sue her. She admitted on film to providing inadequate care.
@@I_Am_L_3 No - Hadley usually goes ABOVE & BEYOND her job. this one time, she simply DID HER JOB. IF YOU'VE WATCHED ANY OF HER OTHER CONTENT YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS!
You are a beautiful human being and I cannot adequately describe how much I LOVE your book! I gave my mom a copy for Mother's Day and she said it helped her with some pain and trauma she still had from losing her mother to breast cancer in 1984. You ARE making a difference every day Hadley!❤️🙏
People should meet the end that they have earned through their actions while alive. I nursed for almost two decades. My reservoir of empathy has run dry. You sow and then you reap. It’s up to you.
Nice to see you making videos again. You look absolutely beautiful and refreshed. I hope life is leveling out and you're ready to share even more hospice stories with us soon! I quit reading patients' personal/social histories after I found out one of my resident's was a pedophile and raped his own siblings. After knowing that, watching his interaction with my young CNAs made me cringe. So hard to not have a bias or judge when we're supposed to be advocates for our patients. Ugh. Nursing is hard 😑
Very candid. You’re human. You’re in an impossible and wrong situation. A program that is wrong. You felt terrible inside because you’re a good person, doing for another, what they do not deserve.
Babe, I feel like there's a Reason Why you felt the need to look up This particular patient. That's really cool how you did a Deep Dive on Yourself, & altered your mind in order to do your job! Love you Hadley; You Are what All Ppl Should Be! I'm a disabled person, & man, I Pray for help from someone like You when my time is a-comin🥰
Me neither. And I honestly do not want to change that in me. I understand that someone chooses differently, but it would require to pretty much remove everything I am, down to my very core.
@@Usortert Right? I know I couldn't have done it. No way, no how. Hats off to her, though, for working through it and achieving growth and maturity. And most importantly, happiness.
@auntypc4791 I do not know her, so I am not going to guess if this is an improvement or not in her case. Yet, I have seen similar development in health care workers though, and it has had nothing to do with growth and acceptance, but resignation and defeat. We are all different. Her way of changing works for her, and makes her able to do a important job for horrible people without falling apart herself. Is she a better human than those that would do the bare minimum for someone convicted of torture? I am not sure. It is interesting to ponder at least.
@@Usortert I don't know her personally, either, but I do know it's an improvement for her because she said it was and that she is happier for it. I commend her; I'm sure that took a lot of strength.
@@auntypc4791 Maybe. I do not inherently see it as a sign of strength, nor is all happiness a positive in the long run (that be for the individual, and/or their surroundings), but I hope all goes well.
My hat is off to you. It takes an exceptional person to rise above as you did. You, Young Lady, are a hidden gem in life. May you never lose your sparkle!!
After he crossed over, he knew what horrific things he had done and he knew what a blessing he had having you care for him at the end. I aspire to be as strong as you when faced with adversity.
I think you are an ignorant lunatic for those beliefs. That aside, he did horrible shit here and now. He should be punished here and now. If there is a god #1: he’s awfully quiet. And #2: if there is a god, he can deal with it later.
After he crossed over, he knew nothing, for he was DEAD. He already knew "what horrific things he had done" while serving his remaining time in prison and he will have to answer for his deadly crime to a higher power when that time comes. Though the nurse was very professional and acted in the way she was trained, perhaps and only perhaps, I might have asked him if there was anything he would like to repent of... But then again, I'm neither a trained nurse nor a clergy-member...
@@PattyWilliams-bg4ec If he knew nothing because he was dead, then how could there be a higher power to answer to? The point is the nurse was strong enough not to waver in her duties. She did not allow her personal opinions, likes, or dislikes, to interfere in her job.
Wow, this is such an amazing story. I am so glad therapy helped you return to being the wonderful human you are - a loving, caring and compassionate person. I love that you said when someone is mean to you you are kind to them and so happy that you are not mean. I can relate to the not Googling someone in a very small way. What I do is absolutely nothing compared to what you do, but I am part of a ministry that writes to prisoners. It's not a pen-pal situation where we correspond with them, but we send short notes throughout the year, just to let them know they are not forgotten. Most of them have been abandoned by their families and our cards are the only mail they ever receive. Anyway, it was suggested that we Google the prisoners we write to and a lot of the other people in our group did so, but I have steadfastly refused to do this for the same reason you mentioned. What if they did something horrific? This prison houses a mixed population of inmates that have committed minor crimes and others who have committed very serious crimes. I simply don't need to know.
Two wrongs don't make a right. Treating someone with basic dignity is a win for humanity. What you have achieved is greater humanity. I don't know you but I'm so proud of you. What an incredible thing to have done.
So then why do we put mer dah raz and ray pests in jail? Shouldn't we "treat them with dignity" and let them be free? Oh right..... Daddy government decides when we oughta "treat others with dignity" and when we shouldn't... Of course. I always forget that. 🙄
You are an angel. This past Thursday was the 19th anniversary of my father's death. He was in hospice and subsequently died there. The nurses were so great. I have the utmost respect for you.
I work as a nurse in the jail and I never wanted to know what my patient’s crimes were. I always tried to stay lighthearted in this dark, oppressive environment, talking to my patients, and take good care of them, of course. One day one of my coworkers asked me if I wanted to know what this patient did to end up in the jail…she proceeded to inform me that this nice elderly man that I was doing wound care on was a child molester. I can honestly say it was hard for me to do my job and unbiased way after that and it was almost impossible to talk to him as I did before, because of my bias. I soon left the jail to work in the ER.
I had a similar experience. I used to teach in the prisons. One day I was looking up the weather forecast by way of a local TV station ahead of a big storm. Well, what else was news on the front page that day? One of my prison students. Foolishly, I stopped and read the article. I knew better, just like you. I didn't go searching for the back story of my student, Life just plopped the story in my lap when I looked up the storm track. I *SO* wished I hadn't read the article. I *SO* wished I could continue to look at that student like all the other students -- someone who had made a grievous mistake and was now in prison. But reading that article changed me. Total regret. I am glad you were able to overcome your changed emotions and able to do your job diligently despite your web search. I admire that. Now, DON'T do a web search on anyone else and I'll promise not to read more news articles even if they plop in my lap. Deal?
Also, you have to remember that Drama (aka Bad News) sells and M.S.M. is well known for embellishing stories and exaggerating details. There's a chance (small as it may be) that the person in the story is not guilty. There's also a chance the person's actions were justified but he's being held accountable anyway. Could also be actions taken out of ignorance type of thing. Yes, these are small chances but I believe it's more common than I and otherslike me care to admit.
If something is laid in front of you usually there is reason behind it. Things don't just happen. Maybe you want to hear your students side of it? We can never believe what is told in news, they always exagerate or even lie. And most or even all of the inmates have a horrible background themselves. (No excuse, just to understand)
@iyaayas.....Bad news does sell but from what I've witnessed myself, the news doesn't embellish, it actually hides many details of crimes. Reasons are the investigations are on going or the details may be to gruesome for the public. Some details may not be released previous to trial. This is very common.
trust instincts, get the facts, you looked him up because you had a feeling. Your safety is the most important, never trust any one else especially your employer to.
Remember, too, that your assistance isn’t just for the patient: you’re also helping the family and friends. And in this particular instance, your ability to be there likely gave them a bit more room to process their own complex emotions. ❤
This is what the good Lord wanted you to do. Show kindness and compassion. Don’t judge others, no matter how hard it is. You see there’s only one judge who will judge the person. It’s not us on earth. I’m so glad you got the chance to show him compassion and support in his last days. God bless you and your family. Also praying for his family, and the victims family.
So why was this person in prison if they had not been judged? Should we get rid of the criminal justice system then and let only god judge? Ridiculous. He should have been left to suffer like he did to his victim.
@@benu_birdI totally understand your point of view. It is very easy to want to think that way. We don't know the man's life prior to his crime, and we don't know his remorse. We do know he served his sentence in full - life. Nurse Hadley was faced with a situation for which she chose compassion and care, to cast aside judgement. Professional, honorable, and humane. To give less would put you at the same level as the criminal.
Wow, that's great insight, I really appreciate you talking about this. I work in mental health and I care and support people who have undoubtedly had horrific childhoods. I refuse to support people who create these types of childhoods for children. They can all go to hell.
Hadley, i love your passionate heart and the passion you have for your career, BUT... Nope. I could NEVER work with a program like that. Where was HIS compassion for the victim???
I was an RN for 24 years. Occasionally we would get prisoners on my unit. I never asked anything about why they were incarcerated. Didn’t feel it was any of my business. Just treated them like I did any other person.
Thats because you were an actually medical professional. She on the other hand needs a new line of work. She is not an investigator, she was *supposed* to be a nurse.
Hadley, you are genuinely a kind soul! We are not all born to do what you do. But I thank my lucky stars that there are folks just like you in this world. Like I have always told my daughter...."Kindness will NEVER fail you"....❤
Your outlook in the end was perfect. My thoughts on it as a CNA were that no matter what, at the end of my day, I want to be the person who was kind and compassionate to everyone. Whether they deserved it or not. God would handle the rest. So I heard many people say things about one resident we had in particular, and for a few days I even found myself treating them at an arms length approach, and then I realized that that isn't my job. It isn't my place to judge or condemn. I am not a judge, lawyer, or cop. I am a health care provider. I am there to provide health. That is the hypocratic oath. And I started being warm and open again, talking to them friendly again, and honestly, at the end of the day, I know that even if this person was the scum of the earth, I myself did the right thing for my position, whether they did in life or not. They ended up firing me for refusing to take a shift, a month before my last day anyway because I had given my notice. I do not blame you at all for having the rough feelings after learning the truth though, that is so so so hard.
My mother used to be a nurse for a juvenile detention center. She said her first week she was kind of afraid, a lot of the kids were in there for murdering their parental figures. She said one of the girls came up to her and hugged her the first day. As soon as she got over her fear she loved the job, but came home so sad cause most of those girls hadn’t been shown real love.
Bravo to you!! BTW--I loved your book. Extremely well written and so many lessons for my life journey. I couldn't put it down. Looking forward to your next one.
You transmuted all of it to light. Good job. Now you know how to do it, easily, almost effortlessly… and you hold gratitude at being able to do it. That’s a beautiful thing.❤
As a true crime follower I've always justified compassionate release as the FAMILY having the opportunity to say goodbye and get their last visits in. In many cases it's been decades since they've been able to even touch. I'm not a nurse or anything but I def don't see it as for the bad guy, they're dying either way, but the peace it can bring families to be there and to know the exact moment. This is a gift the state doesn't need to give the family's but chooses to, plus it saves the state money and time. You're a wonderful woman Hadley!
I don't blame you for googling him. I think it is important for you to know what he was convicted of if there is ANY chance that they could hurt you or anyone in your world.
I think most people tend to feel for the dying and the elderly.
What most people forget is that evil gets sick and old too.
And why shouldn't they, for the most part it isn't a pleasant experience for anyone.
You'd be borderline inhuman if you recognized pain, suffering, etc and didn't feel just a little bad in an objective sense.
@@jnharton ummm
I’m not sure if you’re attacking me for simply making a statement, or not. Let me try to clarify my take on things.
I didn’t say that they shouldn’t be looked after. Anyone dying from any disease is going to suffer. Being provided aid and assistance is the bare minimum that everyone deserves.
Consoling and comforting a person who has perpetrated twisted, sick or evil acts upon another living creature is not a requirement. Showing mercy to someone who didn’t have mercy for the soul that they committed atrocities against, is a personal choice.
I, personally, deeply feel the pain and anguish that others experience. But you never know what role you are supposed to play in another person’s reality. Did they come into your life to give you the opportunity to elevate your spiritual understanding? Did you come into their life to show them vengeance, to treat them as they treated an other?
The only things we have any actual control over is how we act and how we react. The one thing that we have to live with 24/7 is our conscience.
The phrases, “judge not lest ye be judged” and “treat others as you wish to be treated”, play a powerful role in this type of situation.
No matter how big or small any of our interactions with other souls may be, every single person will have to face themselves. We will all endure a reckoning. We will all experience what we’ve done to others, from their perspective. You either recognize and reconcile your acts here or you do it after the body dies. Either way you will have to face yourself.
My apologies for the extensive explanation. I kept trying to shorten it but, I felt compelled to type every word. I hope you didn’t take any of it as a me try to justify my comment. Nuance is always lost when the words aren’t spoken.
@@jnharton I guess I’m borderline because I wouldn’t feel bad towards them.
@@bahmdiggity9577 nobody gonna read all that bs
@@mt_gox you poor thing
Thank you for taking the time to comment on a reply that wasn’t addressed to you, had nothing to do with you and is apparently above your capabilities, nay your capacity of understanding.
The world is a better place now, having been blessed with your inspiring articulation of, “nobody gonna read all that bs”.
How accomplished you must feel, having put me in my place.
I worked in the prison system for 27 years and I never wanted to know why they were in prison because it would not allow me to treat them fairly so I know where you’re coming from.
Had to work in the "prison" ward of a hospital for a while. One of my colleagues stupidly asked one guy "you seem so nice, what did you do to end up in prison?" He gave a really smart answer "I was a really bad person and I deserve it. If I tell you, you'll hate me." So we left it at that.
oh did your moral superiority make your job difficult loonie leftist.
Maybe they don't deserve good treatment
@@dustinh4175have you not ever gotten something you didn’t deserve. Before you answer that think. I am quite sure you have. If you are a believer and are saved by the blood of Yeshua then you have received the most precious gift anyone can have and you didn’t deserve it, none of us did.
@@dustinh4175they deserve only what their sentencing requires. Anything beyond that makes the nurse or doctor evil and at odds with our system of justice.
This is why I never condem people's children when they don't take care of their parents when they are older or sick. You never know what they put those kids through.
My mother in law explicitly said she does not ever want to be nursed by her family, she herself nursed her mother-in-law and she does not want to put us through this experience. That could be another reason 😊
@@koellekind true.
@@koellekindYES to this! I am a daughter-in-law caring for my mother- in-law. I have told my son and his wife that I would rather go to a nursing home than have them do what I am doing.
Father: Yes I know I've called you twice i the last 25 years, but I'm dying now so come visit
Me: Pass
My mother was a monster. She was dying, no one else would help or cared. I took her in and cared for her as best as I possibly could. She died with me still hating her. But I don't regret my decision. I am nothing like her.
Thank you for doing a job that most of us wouldn't stand a chance at.
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@@deangulberry1876 Would YOU make it as a fire fighter? Would YOU have been able to continue doing your job as usual, like the nurse in this video did, after finding out what she found out? That's what laur100 means.
@@jasongates- I would not
This is exactly why I have been planning on doing hospice care since 7th grade. I just want to make sure people are comfortable when they pass, instead of uncomfortable in a horrible hospital bed with random strangers walking through the hallways right outside their death bed. It seems like an absolutely amazing job and experience to be a hospice nurse, which is why I want to become one.
@@Simplebn I've attended the deaths of many of my family members. we had amazing discussions. It also helps to alleviate their fear if they have someone who is willing to answer the hard questions and to discuss things with the family if there is any.
My mother was an end of life care nurse for over 30 years. She was always so good to her patients up until the moment they died. She would always say that people need a certain amount of dignity no matter who they were. She delt with old white men who were racist with dementia. The names that they would call her were disgusting. She always kept a smile on and treated EVERYONE with respect. She was just a beautiful person. I miss her smile everyday ❤❤❤.
Your mom sounds like a beautiful person, and a good nurse
Your mother was a saint. I'm sorry for your loss ❤
You were gifted a wonderful caring mother. People with dementia sometimes call people names they would never say in real life before dementia--and sometimes they use language they wouldn't dream of saying.
I'm a nurse and I think your Mom was a gift to the hospital and families she worked with. I hope she was shown the recognition she deserved by her peers and the hospital administration.
@michelemasarech1478 My mom worked in a lot of nursing homes. She also did in- home hospice care. She also had that weird power where she could predict a time of death better than anyone else. She was always spot on with her prediction. She used that power to keep her patients at ease because she never panicked. She took care of both of her parents and her three older siblings on each of their death beds. Grandma= ovarian cancer; Grandpa= loneliness( he died almost 6 months after the love of his life). Uncle Joe= shot in the stomach by a gangster for messing with his woman. It took him 3 days to die. My grandfather and my mom insisted that they bring him home so he could die with the family. He died on my eldest sister's third birthday. Uncle Major= the cancer killed him in under 3 months. Stomach, lungs, liver, and pancreas. They tried surgery to remove it, but it was just too advanced. I still hear him calling for my mom in my dreams. Auntie Ruby= stroke. My mom was the one who made the decision to end life support. She was amazing
@@trenettdejesus3917 Wow! That indeed is a beautiful gift! Not everyone has that extraordinary empathy!
My dad came home from the ER one night and described having to treat a woman who had 1) driven to a bar, leaving her two young children in the backseat to sleep 2) left the bar drunk and caused an accident in which she 3) killed the occupants of the other vehicle and her own children. When she was taken to the ER for treatment of her injuries, she 4) threw a big fit, cursing and spitting at the nurses who were trying to restrain her enough to treat her.
Dad’s lesson was that his professionalism was basically sacred, and that his only standard of care was his very best, regardless of the patient.
Never compromise your standards for any reason. It will save you, as a nurse, in the long run. God bless you.
Unfortunately that's the outcome of someone who is struggling with alcoholism and mental health issues... 😕 😞
It's correct, but I feel such person as the torturer didn't pay his debt.
@@user-ov4wr5yu4r That is for the legal system. You can see why you wouldn’t want an anesthesiologist or hospice nurse to see themselves as The Punisher!
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It's fine to feel that way, but the point of both the nurse and doctor's stories is that their obligation is not to exact justice, but to provide the best care they can to each of their patients.
@@user-ov4wr5yu4rnah the torturer paid his debt...he was all caught-up on his court fines when he got cut loose to lie there in bed all day at home being pampered & coddled by this hot little piece o' azz 🙂
"I'm so happy I'm not mean!" Amen! I really wish more of the world thought this way. Kindness isn't always easy, but the world would be a much better place if everyone made it their mission to be kind.
I wholeheartedly agree!
It's one of the fruits of the spirit
Not treating someone kindly who doesnt deserve kindness obviously isnt mean..
Amen 🙏
As a kid I remember going with my mom to her hospice jobs. I couldn't stay home as I did not sleep nights (natural 3rd shift personality) and both my parents are retired army, so the sound of a light switch being thrown will wake my dad up... Well I know going to folks to help them pass takes a bit out of you each time, or it did with my mom... Now shes 80 and I am taking care of her... Thank you to all the amazing hospice staff that take the jobs with no happy ending...
You’re human. We are curious creatures. And we’re human. His actions affected your perception. Thank you for sharing. You chose humanity. Even though he didn’t. ❤
That's a great answer.
@@ajmartineau8221 💜
It might also go against the Hippocratic oath. This is an age old question or dilema. But the general consensus seems to be it's not the doctor's place to judge guilt or innocence or mete out punishment. Same sort of scenario with treating enemy combatants.
He didn’t deserve it, if it helped her that’s fine, but this nonsense of forgiving people eases your mind is nonsense, we have feelings for a reason about people like these it’s our morals, decency and compassion for those wronged that gives us those feelings. To do the basics for this man would have been enough, just to do your job and not cause any suffering by your actions would have been enough. Just a job. Save your compassion for those that deserve it.
@@kirkp-ko8hkJust do the basic job without compassion.
It just baffles me that someone like that would be approved for compassionate release.
I was a prison doc in the past. Every time I had to look at a patient's criminal record I regretted the knowledge. It didn't help that I was working with maximum security.
It is interesting that your video came up on my feed, because my wife is a palliative care doctor.
This came up cuz our phones hear us
My pop was a CO in a max security state PEN before I was born & man does he have some stories of shit he's seen in the infirmary. Hell, just in general in there. Hat's off to you buddy!
My parents were both very abusive. I was estranged from them when my mom died, and it was very painful to grieve her death. Somehow I got a message when my father was dying and I decided to go see him in a split second. I spent several weeks there with him, and I’m so glad I did. I saw a different side of him. He had dementia, and his last months were not peaceful because his wife didn’t want him to die and put him through a lot of what I felt was unnecessary treatment- including open heart surgery. She refused a lot of pain meds because she was convinced they would kill him. It was so hard to watch him suffer, but a good friend reminded me that he chose his wife, not me to make the decisions. I did what I could to make him comfortable and flew home a few days before he passed. I realized that what he and my mom did to me didn’t make me an awful person. It did something for me to realize he was a human capable of suffering just like anyone else and to realize I felt compassion for his suffering no matter what.
same ! i nursed my folks thru cancer, helped them w everything.
they were evil to me all my life.
I am in this situation right now. Evil parent is in dementia. I forgave him but don't feel responsible for him. I feel I have done all this work on my own to feel at peace and I'm sort of like, what is the point of me going to see all that and do feel a sense of self protection since he was creepy all my life and if he doesn't recognize me could assault me. Sorry if this is tmi but it's a unique situation you commented on and I can relate, and debating on things. Ty
Who in the heck has a dementia patient get open-heart surgery?! Maybe if it was stage 1 or 2, but anything beyond that is crazy. I’m surprised a surgeon went along with it.
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@@LuckyCharms777 the surgeon tried to talk his wife out of it. His wife did not want him to die and was convinced he had a moment of lucidity and agreed to the surgery. I had been estranged from him for 18 years and had no say. My brother was just compliant and barely said anything.
That’s the best way to be. Resentment will burn you up inside. I need to remember that myself.
I do too. 💙
@@01splitpea So do I. I should literally make that statement my screensaver or something.
Not having resentment is fine. Treating someone kindly who caused a traumatic death to an innocent person is twisted logic imho
Now imagine that guy did that to one of your loved ones. Your child? your mother?... and then tell me again how everything is Kumbaya.
@serenity1378there's never "punished enough" after taking someone's life. Only if its an eye for an eye situation
This unironically is something I needed to hear... I'm currently going through a weird situation with a group of friends. They're always very mean to me in a joking manner and I was so over it, I told one of them to shut their mouth the other day... caused a rift between myself and them. We game together so typically I just let things slide but I just wasn't in the mood. I'm struggling with the repercussions of what I did and recognizing that we can no longer be friends anymore, and that I simply need to move onto other things in life. Now I'm realizing that I simply need to be who I am- a kind person- and let them go. They trigger me so much to be my worst and I can't stand it.
Sometimes we need to stay away from toxic people to allow ourselves to be the best we can be. 🙏👍
It is never a joke when it hurts. Once they realize that they have been hurting you, it shows they don't love you That is not a true friend. I wish you the best and finding the type of people that respect you and enjoy you those are true friends. I am somebody that jokes around A LOT, but if I hurt someone I'm quick to apologize and hug them. Being very mindful of not saying such again. I build my friends up, not tear them down. I have many for this reason. Your true friends again will do the same.
Maybe you weren't really your worst. It sounds like a regular human response.
In fact: Not calling out abusive behaviours in them and now following through with consequences is a big big disservice to do to them.
It's because others have done the same that these people are that bad at reacting to boundary setting now. If they had been called out with kindness before, neither of you would have gone through this situation now.
Inthe future, when you make new friends, actually have a "hey, I'd like to set rules together for when we're bugging each other. I don't wanna lose this friendship, so we need to agree on healthy ways to resolve problems that won't build up resentments"
I had friends like that when I was younger and it’s been many years since I’ve let them go… it’s the best thing I could have possibly done for myself. I forgot that I was a kind person bc they just brought out the absolute worst in me, I realized that being the way that they were made me miserable. Letting them go helped me become my most authentic self. And then I found friends who are actually kind to me too. My entire life is different now :’)
I’m a former NYC EMT and I too attended many passings . And I spent nearly 8 months in the hospital in 2022 due to me getting hit by a E350 van while I was riding my bicycle. I love nurses. Thanks to a nurse who saved me from a serious DBT while I was in a hospital bed while others would not listen to my complaint of extreme pain , I would be dead. I’m back to work and rebuilding all because of nurses caring for me and others when it was needed most. I love nurses.
Nurses are hereos ❤
What do you mean by attended many passings? (I tried to google it but can't find it, sorry... English isn't my native language).
@@PraiseBeToGodOurLord I think what they mean is that as an EMT, they've seen a lot of people pass because of their job
@@PraiseBeToGodOurLord”attended many (people’s)passings” means being with people when they died.
I was really interested in your comment but had one question. I tried to find the answer myself but it didn't work.
So, asking wholly respectfully:
I looked up DBT and it's defined as a psychological / psychiatric issue. So, what do you mean by DBT and pain and a nurse listening and saving you?
I appreciate your time!
Thanks for your honesty. This is a good lesson to learn “don’t google your patient”. We don’t care for people because they earned it. We care for them because they are human and it’s our job.
You are human and a normal reaction to such news. My husband has dealt with the same issues in his line of work. He worked in the Correction Dept. of a local police dept. Over the years, this facility has held many criminals who have committed a variety of terrible crimes including horrific murders. I once asked him how he copes with that knowing what the crimes were. He told me it's his job to keep them secured, fed and protect their legal rights during that time. No matter how bad the crimes they've done, he has to remain professional. It's completely up to the courts...judge and jury to determine their fate. You have to keep your job and emotions separate.
Yep. Society has determined their punishment. As much as one may wish to add to it, it's not anyone's place but a judge.
I think it's a sign of strength to stay above the urge to be nasty to them and give them the basic dignities we give everyone. It says "I choose to be decent to you despite the fact that you were not decent to others. I won't stoop to that level in reaction."
That must be very, very hard. Kudos to your husband.
If everyone picked jobs they shared the same emotions for (well, emotions change but values don't!) it would have made work much easier and allowed people to provide a better quality service. I don't think job and emotions should be distinct. Why bother working at a position we don't share values with? (No offense).
If I couldn't find compassion for the patient, I always found compassion for the family. Having them know that their loved one was being taken care of, gave them peace. Sometimes all you can do, is all you can do. You did good. ❤
What about compassion for the family of the victim he tortured to death?
“Compassionate Release” is double-speak for “the state doesn’t want the expense or responsibility…”
Exactly. The state transfers the expense for care and burial to the welfare system, which used Federal Medicare money instead of the state's prison budget.
@@MyFiddlePlayer You're absolutely right. I'm a retired judge and our county jail was constantly after me to release pregnant inmates on "unsecured bail' when they were getting close to having their babies or injured or sick inmates who needed hospital care. They didn't like it when I told them it was "welfare fraud" to do that and I wasn't going to be an accomplice in their scam and end up getting indicted with them when the feds finally caught on to what they'd been doing for years at that prison. This pissed off the County Commission, County Administrator, District Attorney, etc. My guess was that when the shit hit the fan, they'd all point at my signature and seal on the release documents and claim they were "just doing what the judge told them to do." There's a LOT of crap like that going on in crooked counties. This particular county is a 3 to 1 Republican electorate and I wouldn't "fix" their traffic and speeding tickets for their families and donors, etc. So they found a crony to run against me using their party's unlimited treasury and ran a smear campaign to get me out.
Or, and hear me out, it's a touch of charity and a moment of grace for the convicted's loved ones. 🤷🏼♀️
@@Cool-TinaNope. Next.
@@yepiratesworkshop7997I’m Republican and believe you did the right thing. Corruption isn’t the platform for either party and people who try should be held to account.
That would be tough for me. I’m a nurse and I couldn’t care for someone knowing they tortured someone else. I guess I have a darkness in me in that way. I hate injustice. I hate a person that brings suffering to another. I can’t empathize with them for a second. But I know you did the right thing. You played the role you were supposed to play.
You don't have a darkness in you. Your being logical. People that committed evil actions on someone else and not having any respect for another life or human do not deserve any compassion or sympathy.
I feel exactly the same way as you do, I just couldn’t continue caring for a patient who tortured someone else. I know they’re sick & they’re dying, however I couldn’t be connected with that kind of person! 😖 It would creep me out just thinking about going there. I don’t think it’s a darkness in you - they’re the ones who have darkness in them!
Acknowledging your limitations is the point. You could transfer care to someone who doesn't have the same opinion.
Maybe their victim also caused suffering and didn’t deserve peace?
@@michelemasarech1478 You make a good point - everyone has their limitations. Transferring care is a great option. I hadn’t considered that. Especially when you may feel unsafe in their presence, even if they are sick & dying. People have to earn trust & sick or not, who’s to say what they’ll do if you make a mistake in their care? I wouldn’t want to fear retaliation. There’s no way of knowing their tolerance threshold.
I too am a hospice nurse and in nursing school cared for a felon who had escaped from prison to a foreign country and was repatriated to my country. He was treated as "less than" by medical staff and was under medicated for pain from his injuries. I did my best for him and try every day to do my best. I love your videos. Thank you for making them.
this is why I know I'm not cut out to be compassionate release nurse. It's not that I'm without empathy... I just can't forgive everything a human being is capable of enough to let that guy pass away without pain that I can take away but choose not to. I'm not "evil" but I'm not "good" either. takes strength to do what you do.🙂
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I understand what you’re saying colloquially, but in real ethical terms you wouldn’t be able to “forgive them” even if you had wanted to - in the same way that we can’t apologize for others. The remorse is theirs to express, just as forgiveness is for the wronged to bestow. For this reason murder should be considered “unforgivable” per se not for lack of human ethical ability, but for lack of the forgiver. The family can forgive the pain and loss it has caused them, but even they can never forgive the deed-in-itself. Much less a total stranger
@@jamesfrancese6091 You can appologise for others. It's the perspective you come from. An act of homoside could be an attack on civilization. You might be able to forgive that as an individual. I can't.
Having a sense of justice is a good thing. If you don't hate evil there is something wrong with you
@@peach0129 Agreed
Mastery. Wisdom. Integrity. Spiritual maturity. You are achieving it. ❤
Yes! ❤
So SO true!! Nurse Hadley, you have learned a spiritual lesson some people go to their grave still not understanding. May God continue to bless you & your family, sweet girl!
Good to know that being immoral pays off in the eyes of g-d. I stand a chance at seeing pearly gates after all 😍
Literally this is my response when family told me I should be a medical doctor. I would loose my job the first time I have to help someone like this.
Thank you for what you do.
Allowing these people to die peacefully surrounded by their families is just madness tbf. Their victims weren't allowed to die peacefully with their family, they died with fear and pain, that's all
Wow, I’m a hospice nurse and was just having this conversation with my CNA daughter this morning!
What is a CNA daughter?
Mindblowing message, Nurse Hadley. Your ability to do your job best, despite what the patient had done, is legendary, and I'm deeply grateful for the lesson. Thank you for your honesty and for reminding us of our own humanity. I've posted your video to my social media.
Oh hun, its okay. You wanted to do your job and you had compassion no matter what. You did what you had to do, thank you no matter what.
You're an angel, and don't think for a second that any negative or intrusive thoughts had that day makes you any less. To be kind and just to someone at the end of their time who wasn't to others, is the ultimate test of humanity.
I'm glad you figured that out quickly. You aren't there to judge a person. A jury has already done that. You are there to provide a service to that person. Not letting your emotions dictate the level of care you provide somebody under your care is part of being a professional. I made the same mistake when I worked in prison caring for inmates. I worked in an infirmary that saw all levels, from minimum to maximum - robbers, murders, child molesters, rapists, etc. I saw what you saw. You think about whether they even deserve to be treated as human and what treatment options they should even receive. That's quite the ethical dilemma to put yourself in. It's easier to not know these things if at all possible and let others make that decision.
The only thing we ever get to change is us. Sometimes, it's a hard lesson.
Thank you fir staying true to you!!!
So true!
I couldn't imagine having to navigate through that. So glad you were able to get help to do so
Yep.
Similar experience. I had a patient in regularly for dialysis catheter changes, an inmate. One day he coded after a routine change. I did my job and got the code team called, we got him back. Later I found out that he was the perp in a savage attack on a newly married couple, murdering the husband as he raped his wife. Fortunately I never had to take care of him again because I don't think I could have done it. It's always better not to know anything extraneous about the patient.
I wonder if he had a NDE?
I am a retired RN and was touched by your video. That was a lot to unpack, and you shared it so honestly and gracefully. Wonderful to know that there are nurses out there like you. God Bless You!
You did for him what he didn't have the heart to do for anyone else. It goes to show how much better of a person you are. You're out there making the world a better place. Thank you. 🖤
As if that would somehow make someone a better person.
You chose to be the wonderful person you are. Your light shines bright and beautiful ❤️
Hadley, the respect I have for you is unlimited. If every person possessed even a sliver of the boundless uplifting energ you have and share...the world would be a much easier place to exist in.
TOTALLY!
You are a better person than I am.
How nice of you to give peace and kindness to a monster...
This comment section is the definition of "whatever helps you sleep at night" lol. All these people circle-jerk ing about how kind, elevated and superior they are, at the expense of tge true victim, the ONLY one who deserved kindness and compassion in this case
It truly must feel like such a nice meaningless victory to be nice to a horrible person, god people are to naive and stupid now
@li_tobler true true
Thank you for your honesty. You did your job to the best of your ability. And treated him with dignity and respect and compassion. He made the evil choices opposite of your choices.
I worked for more than a decade with patients who were ruled to not be able to stand on trial. One thing they tell you when you work at a psych hospital is to make sure you don’t read the background info in the charts. It affects how you treat that client. It’s human nature to be uncomfortable around certain patients given their history. You do a very important job and I commend you for it.
Now psych patients are commonly held in an ER until placement can be found. It's extremely dangerous. And nobody will tell you what kind of psycho we're supposed to be caring for: not the patient, not the family, not the other professionals that dealt with him before.
Yeah I've always wondered if there's a good way to convey safety information without instilling prejudice or making carers see them differently.
Like if a patient is there for a very violent or sexual crime and it needs to be considered when transporting and rendering aid.
Ideally the safety precautions in place should be so rubust so as to make it where the carers don't have to be warned, but institutions don't exactly have unlimited budgets to ensure that.
@@feoxorus You sound terrifying. Psych holds are literally a form of incarceration. "Psych patients" are often just people who are mentally ill or have suffered tremendously. The true "psychos" in these situations are often the clinicians and other healthcare workers. YOU are the ones with the power in this situation. The patients are in a very vulnerable position. For the most part, mentally ill people are not dangerous. But healthcare workers often are, so I guess it goes both ways.
@@malinia.20 agreed that they sound terrifying… I went to the ER a couple times in the past by choice because of not wanting to live. I have awful anxiety, and the way that comment is worded is EXACTLY how I fear ppl secretly think of me, when I’m literally so polite that drs don’t realize I’m suffering until my dad explains to them for me since I accidentally hide my pain
nobody wants to go to the ER for s*icidal thoughts.. it’s such an unfriendly and scary environment sometimes. There’s a HUGE difference in how they treat you when u go for physical emergencies vs mental ones…. Heartbreaking honestly
While they probably meant severally dysfunctional mentally ill ppl and not just depressed teens or stigmatized illness, it’s still sad
@@feoxorusHere’s a good tip for you that will make your life in the ER way easier. When dealing with a psych hold, just learn not to care that it’s a psych hold. A psych patient can be set off by your fear or your anxiety. So don’t show fear, don’t appear anxious, and whatever you do, do not be cold or come across as fake to them. I get it, you have safety concerns which believe it or not is exactly why you don’t have access to the information on the patient.
"And it has made me a lot happier." That there is the whole point. So many people today are pointing fingers at everyone else around them, trying to drag others down, trying to find fault in every little thing. And all the people doing that are miserable. Maybe if they just tried to be better people, and ignored the missteps and faults of others, they wouldn't be so unhappy and mean. Maybe they'd realize that being kind makes them happier than tearing down everyone else around them.
I think you're right. I've heard therapists basically say that happy people aren't mean. Something else that occurred to me is that if you take a kind, forgiving attitude (to the point that it's part of your very character) is that you may not take insults and shows of disrespect as personally. When you choose to live with goodwill, patience, and forgiveness, you probably realize more than before that living with a mean spirit is a choice too, and an unnecessary one. You realize their bad attitude is coming from them, not from you.
He didn’t deserve better treatment then what he caused upon someone else, but at the end of the day, he was leaving this life already to not harm anyone else.
A medical provider isn't the judge. Our jobs are to treat all patients with respect and not judge.
@@vickyviola1930 It's not HIPA, it's HIPAA. She looked up public information on the offender, which doesn't fall under PII or PHI.
Good advice! ... Never let the world turn you into a monster.
I appreciate the vulnerability and realness. What a struggle this would be for any of us, and your insights on how you managed to come to terms with the situation are so insightful.
You did the right thing, you’re such a good nurse full of compassion, please keep inspiring others ❤
I could not do your job. Mad respect 🙏 for what you do young lady. You are an inspiration.
You're a lot better than the hospice employees my mom got. She didn't get a peaceful end and she didn't even murder anyone.
Isn’t that pathetic? It almost seems like the more evil you are the more people want to bend over backwards to show the world how good they are at having compassion for evil people.
May God rest your mother soul, amen.
You are an angel & proof not everyone can do your job. I couldn't have nor would I want to do what you did. Your an amazing person.
I have no idea why you appeared on my feed a few days ago, but I'm so glad. You're such a lovely human.
Girl, i want to thank you for your service. Because of ppl like you, my momma could stay home with her family for her last days on this earth. That matters. ❤❤❤
You are such a special human being. So glad I found your channel.
Hi Sally, how's your day going with you?
Thanks for your honesty and integrity.
This was really something I needed to hear; you are better that the people that hurt you, and hurting them won’t make you better
You are a SPECIAL person for doing that type of thing. All respect to you.
You should be proud, Hadley. You did your job. He will be judged and pay the price. Thank you for being you 😘
Proud??? Not even. She crossed the professional line.
No she didn’t!
@jennifermcguire8867 yeah she did. Big time. Doesnt matter if king jong un was her patient. She has every requirement to treat him equally and professionally. She admitted she let her feeling saffect her work. Quite honestly if i was the family i would use this to sue her. She admitted on film to providing inadequate care.
@@I_Am_L_3 No - Hadley usually goes ABOVE & BEYOND her job. this one time, she simply DID HER JOB. IF YOU'VE WATCHED ANY OF HER OTHER CONTENT YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS!
@@I_Am_L_3. What she said is it affected how she felt personally, not how she performed her duties.
You are a beautiful human being and I cannot adequately describe how much I LOVE your book! I gave my mom a copy for Mother's Day and she said it helped her with some pain and trauma she still had from losing her mother to breast cancer in 1984. You ARE making a difference every day Hadley!❤️🙏
WHAT BOOK?? PLEASE TELL ME.
@@elizabethcanterbury1507"The In Between" by Hadley Vlahos. Very good book.
Wow, that's growth, honey. Many people never achieve such maturity. Thank you for sharing!
People should meet the end that they have earned through their actions while alive. I nursed for almost two decades. My reservoir of empathy has run dry. You sow and then you reap. It’s up to you.
Yup unfortunately even the nicest patient can have dark secrets.
Wow... 🙏💙💙💙
What an emotional ride. Damn
Nice to see you making videos again. You look absolutely beautiful and refreshed. I hope life is leveling out and you're ready to share even more hospice stories with us soon!
I quit reading patients' personal/social histories after I found out one of my resident's was a pedophile and raped his own siblings. After knowing that, watching his interaction with my young CNAs made me cringe. So hard to not have a bias or judge when we're supposed to be advocates for our patients. Ugh. Nursing is hard 😑
That is a stage of growth i wish I have. Good job, your mentality is a milestone many people have never reached their entire lives.
Very candid. You’re human. You’re in an impossible and wrong situation. A program that is wrong. You felt terrible inside because you’re a good person, doing for another, what they do not deserve.
Babe, I feel like there's a Reason Why you felt the need to look up This particular patient. That's really cool how you did a Deep Dive on Yourself, & altered your mind in order to do your job! Love you Hadley; You Are what All Ppl Should Be! I'm a disabled person, & man, I Pray for help from someone like You when my time is a-comin🥰
Imagine what a beautiful world we would have if everyone had the same outlook as this lovely lady.
Amen!
man. i couldn't have cared for him. good for you
Me neither. And I honestly do not want to change that in me. I understand that someone chooses differently, but it would require to pretty much remove everything I am, down to my very core.
@@Usortert Right? I know I couldn't have done it. No way, no how. Hats off to her, though, for working through it and achieving growth and maturity. And most importantly, happiness.
@auntypc4791 I do not know her, so I am not going to guess if this is an improvement or not in her case. Yet, I have seen similar development in health care workers though, and it has had nothing to do with growth and acceptance, but resignation and defeat.
We are all different. Her way of changing works for her, and makes her able to do a important job for horrible people without falling apart herself. Is she a better human than those that would do the bare minimum for someone convicted of torture? I am not sure. It is interesting to ponder at least.
@@Usortert I don't know her personally, either, but I do know it's an improvement for her because she said it was and that she is happier for it. I commend her; I'm sure that took a lot of strength.
@@auntypc4791 Maybe. I do not inherently see it as a sign of strength, nor is all happiness a positive in the long run (that be for the individual, and/or their surroundings), but I hope all goes well.
I think you have one of the most beautiful souls. I’ve really been enjoying your book. Thank you for genuinely being such an inspiration.
My hat is off to you. It takes an exceptional person to rise above as you did. You, Young Lady, are a hidden gem in life. May you never lose your sparkle!!
After he crossed over, he knew what horrific things he had done and he knew what a blessing he had having you care for him at the end. I aspire to be as strong as you when faced with adversity.
I think you are an ignorant lunatic for those beliefs. That aside, he did horrible shit here and now. He should be punished here and now. If there is a god #1: he’s awfully quiet. And #2: if there is a god, he can deal with it later.
After he crossed over, he knew nothing, for he was DEAD. He already knew "what horrific things he had done" while serving his remaining time in prison and he will have to answer for his deadly crime to a higher power when that time comes.
Though the nurse was very professional and acted in the way she was trained, perhaps and only perhaps, I might have asked him if there was anything he would like to repent of... But then again, I'm neither a trained nurse nor a clergy-member...
@@PattyWilliams-bg4ec If he knew nothing because he was dead, then how could there be a higher power to answer to?
The point is the nurse was strong enough not to waver in her duties. She did not allow her personal opinions, likes, or dislikes, to interfere in her job.
@@PattyWilliams-bg4ecThere is no evidence that one will have to answer to a higher power.
You passed that test with flying colors and have become a better person for your trouble. Keep up the good fight!
Wow, this is such an amazing story. I am so glad therapy helped you return to being the wonderful human you are - a loving, caring and compassionate person. I love that you said when someone is mean to you you are kind to them and so happy that you are not mean. I can relate to the not Googling someone in a very small way. What I do is absolutely nothing compared to what you do, but I am part of a ministry that writes to prisoners. It's not a pen-pal situation where we correspond with them, but we send short notes throughout the year, just to let them know they are not forgotten. Most of them have been abandoned by their families and our cards are the only mail they ever receive. Anyway, it was suggested that we Google the prisoners we write to and a lot of the other people in our group did so, but I have steadfastly refused to do this for the same reason you mentioned. What if they did something horrific? This prison houses a mixed population of inmates that have committed minor crimes and others who have committed very serious crimes. I simply don't need to know.
You are such a beautiful woman and person. The world needs more like you.
Your "mentality" did not expand, your LOVE was the one that did. Many blessings your way
How can anyone feel true compassion for a Dying Kidnapper/Murderer? Feel better, soon. The world is a better place, and good people are all around us.
Two wrongs don't make a right. Treating someone with basic dignity is a win for humanity. What you have achieved is greater humanity. I don't know you but I'm so proud of you. What an incredible thing to have done.
Beautifully expressed. 💙
Yes
I cannot make a bad situation better by making the bad situation worse.
@@DAndyLord That's profound. I wish someone had told me that 40 years ago.
So then why do we put mer dah raz and ray pests in jail? Shouldn't we "treat them with dignity" and let them be free?
Oh right..... Daddy government decides when we oughta "treat others with dignity" and when we shouldn't... Of course. I always forget that. 🙄
OMGoodness Hadley. 1) I adore you and your attitude 2) LOVED your book and 3) how could anyone ever be mean to you??!!! Blessings to you.
You are an angel. This past Thursday was the 19th anniversary of my father's death. He was in hospice and subsequently died there. The nurses were so great. I have the utmost respect for you.
You’re a better person than so many of the rest of us. I mean that sincerely. I doubt I could do your work.
You made the best choice, because evil begats evil. You blocked it and showed grace. May God bless and keep you.
I work as a nurse in the jail and I never wanted to know what my patient’s crimes were. I always tried to stay lighthearted in this dark, oppressive environment, talking to my patients, and take good care of them, of course. One day one of my coworkers asked me if I wanted to know what this patient did to end up in the jail…she proceeded to inform me that this nice elderly man that I was doing wound care on was a child molester. I can honestly say it was hard for me to do my job and unbiased way after that and it was almost impossible to talk to him as I did before, because of my bias. I soon left the jail to work in the ER.
I had a similar experience. I used to teach in the prisons. One day I was looking up the weather forecast by way of a local TV station ahead of a big storm. Well, what else was news on the front page that day? One of my prison students. Foolishly, I stopped and read the article. I knew better, just like you. I didn't go searching for the back story of my student, Life just plopped the story in my lap when I looked up the storm track. I *SO* wished I hadn't read the article. I *SO* wished I could continue to look at that student like all the other students -- someone who had made a grievous mistake and was now in prison. But reading that article changed me. Total regret. I am glad you were able to overcome your changed emotions and able to do your job diligently despite your web search. I admire that. Now, DON'T do a web search on anyone else and I'll promise not to read more news articles even if they plop in my lap. Deal?
Also, you have to remember that Drama (aka Bad News) sells and M.S.M. is well known for embellishing stories and exaggerating details. There's a chance (small as it may be) that the person in the story is not guilty. There's also a chance the person's actions were justified but he's being held accountable anyway. Could also be actions taken out of ignorance type of thing.
Yes, these are small chances but I believe it's more common than I and otherslike me care to admit.
My comment to your thread is not showing up for me.
If something is laid in front of you usually there is reason behind it. Things don't just happen.
Maybe you want to hear your students side of it? We can never believe what is told in news, they always exagerate or even lie.
And most or even all of the inmates have a horrible background themselves. (No excuse, just to understand)
@iyaayas.....Bad news does sell but from what I've witnessed myself, the news doesn't embellish, it actually hides many details of crimes. Reasons are the investigations are on going or the details may be to gruesome for the public. Some details may not be released previous to trial. This is very common.
@@user-ij6ng5bi8j What assumption are you talking about?
trust instincts, get the facts, you looked him up because you had a feeling. Your safety is the most important, never trust any one else especially your employer to.
Vengeance is The Lords. You keep doing your job. You are showing grace.
You are an inspiring human being. Congratulations on facing the challenge and successfully moving through and beyond it. I applaud you.
Wow, I never heard about such stupid idea.
Yeah, let murderer go out of jail because they will be sad while dying in prison...
When you think about it, it's really just less stress on the prison itself and probably cheaper (less tax money).
I agree. I think, well if they know they’re dying and have nothing to lose…
She should have stood on his oxygen hose and smoked a cigarette.
Yes you have heard more stupid ideas
I think it's more for their family who most likely had nothing to do with their crime
Remember, too, that your assistance isn’t just for the patient: you’re also helping the family and friends. And in this particular instance, your ability to be there likely gave them a bit more room to process their own complex emotions. ❤
Wow
This is what the good Lord wanted you to do. Show kindness and compassion. Don’t judge others, no matter how hard it is. You see there’s only one judge who will judge the person. It’s not us on earth. I’m so glad you got the chance to show him compassion and support in his last days. God bless you and your family.
Also praying for his family, and the victims family.
So why was this person in prison if they had not been judged? Should we get rid of the criminal justice system then and let only god judge? Ridiculous. He should have been left to suffer like he did to his victim.
@@benu_birdI totally understand your point of view. It is very easy to want to think that way. We don't know the man's life prior to his crime, and we don't know his remorse. We do know he served his sentence in full - life. Nurse Hadley was faced with a situation for which she chose compassion and care, to cast aside judgement. Professional, honorable, and humane. To give less would put you at the same level as the criminal.
You're human. In this human vessel. Continue doing the blessed work you do.
Wow, that's great insight, I really appreciate you talking about this. I work in mental health and I care and support people who have undoubtedly had horrific childhoods. I refuse to support people who create these types of childhoods for children. They can all go to hell.
Hate or revenge does more damage to your own soul than the person you are targeting.
This is so true.
TRUE WORDS!!!!
Speak for yourself...I say there are situations that certainly call for revenge
LOLOLOLOLOL.....no
You sure about that?
Sound like you were properly brainwashed by your abuser.
Hadley, i love your passionate heart and the passion you have for your career, BUT... Nope. I could NEVER work with a program like that. Where was HIS compassion for the victim???
I was an RN for 24 years. Occasionally we would get prisoners on my unit. I never asked anything about why they were incarcerated. Didn’t feel it was any of my business. Just treated them like I did any other person.
Thats because you were an actually medical professional. She on the other hand needs a new line of work. She is not an investigator, she was *supposed* to be a nurse.
How in the world could ANYONE be mean to you?? You are an angel!!
Hadley, you are genuinely a kind soul! We are not all born to do what you do. But I thank my lucky stars that there are folks just like you in this world. Like I have always told my daughter...."Kindness will NEVER fail you"....❤
Your outlook in the end was perfect.
My thoughts on it as a CNA were that no matter what, at the end of my day, I want to be the person who was kind and compassionate to everyone. Whether they deserved it or not. God would handle the rest. So I heard many people say things about one resident we had in particular, and for a few days I even found myself treating them at an arms length approach, and then I realized that that isn't my job. It isn't my place to judge or condemn. I am not a judge, lawyer, or cop. I am a health care provider. I am there to provide health. That is the hypocratic oath. And I started being warm and open again, talking to them friendly again, and honestly, at the end of the day, I know that even if this person was the scum of the earth, I myself did the right thing for my position, whether they did in life or not.
They ended up firing me for refusing to take a shift, a month before my last day anyway because I had given my notice.
I do not blame you at all for having the rough feelings after learning the truth though, that is so so so hard.
My mother used to be a nurse for a juvenile detention center. She said her first week she was kind of afraid, a lot of the kids were in there for murdering their parental figures. She said one of the girls came up to her and hugged her the first day. As soon as she got over her fear she loved the job, but came home so sad cause most of those girls hadn’t been shown real love.
Bravo to you!! BTW--I loved your book. Extremely well written and so many lessons for my life journey. I couldn't put it down. Looking forward to your next one.
You transmuted all of it to light. Good job. Now you know how to do it, easily, almost effortlessly… and you hold gratitude at being able to do it. That’s a beautiful thing.❤
As a true crime follower I've always justified compassionate release as the FAMILY having the opportunity to say goodbye and get their last visits in. In many cases it's been decades since they've been able to even touch. I'm not a nurse or anything but I def don't see it as for the bad guy, they're dying either way, but the peace it can bring families to be there and to know the exact moment. This is a gift the state doesn't need to give the family's but chooses to, plus it saves the state money and time.
You're a wonderful woman Hadley!
I don't blame you for googling him. I think it is important for you to know what he was convicted of if there is ANY chance that they could hurt you or anyone in your world.
I agree. It’s not wrong to find out and to know whether you need to be on your guard, etc. It’s okay to keep yourself safe!