British people say "sorry" when you said your father had passed away because it's a way of expressing sadness for your loss. They don't know you but they are sad for you because your father is dead.
Yes! “Sorry” has a broader meaning; just because people happen to use the word during an apology, it’s not the “sorry” itself that expresses a guilty feeling or admission, but the context, (and, hopefully, many other simple and considered words). “Sorry” is closer in meaning to “sad” or “regret/ful” than, “I apologise” “I’m sorry for your loss” means “I’m sad for your loss”
I admire you for having the courage to go on video and make videos in your second language, especially when you and your husband are dealing with his serious illness. You have a great sense of humour. and a great positive attitude, which is the most important factor in life. Walking a dog is a great way to meet people. Some people who own dogs cannot take them for a walk every day and may pay someone to do that for them. It can be difficult to live in a new culture but you have a very observant and intelligent attitude to those differences, which is how all of us should approach the differences. You made me think. You have a lot to offer as a friend but it can be difficult to make friends in a different culture. When a family member or special friend dies, they are still present in your life because you think about that person. Here in London one can often see couples from different races. If two people form a special connection, then nothing else seems important. The local cultures vary around the UK, so that makes it even more difficult to understand. For example, in London, it is rare for strangers to say 'hello' but in the countryside it is normal to say 'hello' if one meets anyone in a walk.
I lived in London for 3 years and it felt quite unfriendly. In my home town everyone says hello when you are out walking, or chats if you are in a long queue, but no-one does that in London. The only people who ever started random conversations with me were those from other countries!
It's actually really rather wonderful seeing you gradually learning your place in our culture and getting your perspective on the way we behave. And you hit me by surprise with your ending here! Oh my word! I wish your husband every fortune in winning his fight with that awful disease.
I think maybe the Mandarin for that particular way of "sorry" is 遗憾/遺憾 It is a different meaning. The most used meaning of the word "sorry" is an apology. I am sorry I scared you. This means "I regret that I scared you, I apologise" However, there is a different way that "sorry" is used also. If you say about something bad that has happened "my father died" "my phone was stolen", then others may reply with "I'm sorry to hear that" or "I'm sorry that happened" This is not apology. This is a way to express sympathy with the person who received bad news. They are saying "you experienced sadness" For example, if a friend has a job interview, but they do not get the job, then you might say "I am sorry to hear that" because you wished that they had the job. If their grandmother is in hospital, you might say "I am sorry to hear that" because you wish their grandmother was healthy and happy instead
UK and your husband are lucky to have you. I know what you are going through . I've been through it. You've chosen a very healthy option to deal with it by sharing your stories. A beautiful and human thing ❤️
Thank you for taking the time to produce and share this video. I loved your suggestion that the salt in the park was for people who have ran out of salt for their BBQs
What a pleasure to listen to all your stories having found you quite by chance. I sympathise with you and your husband going through cancer as this was my own story. I sincerely hope he does well and beats this and perhaps we will get to meet him in the future. Carry on with your podcasts as you are a real pleasure to listen to and get to know. Xxx
I'm really sorry to hear about your husband. Cancer treatment is tough for patient and for the family. I hope you are both doing ok and that you aren't feeling too isolated.
The salt story is hilarious. The best way to learn a language is through immersion, which is how we learn as children. It was a nice change to watch a video on cultural differences that didn't express amazement at all the accents in the UK, and that we drink tea and drive on the left. The key point to remember is you're living in a different country so things are bound to be different from what you're used to. Some things might be better, some things might be worse. My very best wishes to your husband for a speedy recovery.
I really enjoy your explanations of how you initially viewed the British culture. I am sad to hear about your husband's illness. I wish him and you all the best life can offer.
Hi Lisa, it’s really interesting to hear your thoughts about living in Britain. I like to hear about other countries, and how life is different there. I think small towns here are very different to cities. When I lived in London no-one ever spoke to me in the street, but in my home town everyone says hello when I am out walking. Well done for learning so much English! You are welcome to send me a message if you have any language questions. 😊
You're absolutely right on the jeans thing. I'm a london fashion designer & I think women even men too need a bit of curve. I've trained with Chinese Shaolin kungfu masters in London - you can clearly see a cultural difference between the masters who have freshly arrived from China and those who've been living in the UK for a long time. Those who've freshly come from China are skinnier, don't like fatty foods and prefer traditional way of training. However, those who've been in the UK for a long time, understand that they needed to adapt, they realised that fat is not always a bad thing, in fact they've learnt that fat stores long term energy essential for long session of kungfu practice. Those who understand that, start eating pizza, cheese etc. lifting weight to build bigger muscles because they realise a bit of muscles and fat makes you look better and stronger.
Yes, and even better is in Finland where people also provide bottles of sauce, firewood, and an axe at public barbecues in the woods. P.S: sand is put on the ground, not salt, because it is too cold for salt to melt ice, and salt pollutes the ground water.
You're doing everything right. You like to talk , and talking with your neighbours and people around your area is great. I know an Italian lady that came here speaking zero English and she said that she learned via the neighbours and watching Coronation Street (!)
This is a great style of video, very enjoyable. I work with Chinese people who visit us here in the UK regularly, but they rarely comment on life here. It’s great to hear a Chinese person’s views on life in Britain. Thank you Lisa and very best wishes to your husband.
@@GobbyLisa99 🤣. You no doubt have loads you want to talk about, no shortage of ideas!.. If you need some more, I know a lot of people like me would be fascinated to understand, from someone who has lived both, how the experience of daily life here compares with living in China - from daily routines to major family events. Good luck with your super channel!
Lisa you are an absolute joy to watch and listen to. Your honesty and the pureness of your soul is just wonderful. I hope you never change this about yourself. This world needs all of the people it can get who are like you. Have a wonderful and truly blessed day!!
Thank you for making so much effort to be respectful and integrate with us in UK. You will be warmly welcomed for being so thoughtful. I wish everyone that comes here would be like you. ❤
What a lovely video :). I'm sorry to hear your husband's not well Lisa. Sending lots of positive thoughts to both of you. So happy you've found an audience here to share your thoughts with. I've subscribed and look forward to watching more of your videos :) xxx
It is fascinating to hear you talk about the UK. I love different cultures. My late wife was from another country, and learning her culture was a lot of fun. She was from the USA.
I love your videos, Lisa, I find them enjoyable, and I find you charming. People can be sensitive about being overweight so, that's why they might find the word "Fat" offensive, it's better to say "A little overweight" instead. An alternative to the words, 'Fatty' or 'Fat' are 'Weighty" or 'Weight" so, you could say, "Some women are too thin, they could do with gaining a little weight". I'm sorry to learn that your Husband has Cancer, I hope that he's on the road to recovery? Take care and all the best.
fatty is a word that is usually only used for food - e.g. the lamb was a bit fatty. Unless you really want to insult someone and call them a big fatty.
Your English is ok, my Chinese none existent lol Trying to learn Filipino, very hard for older people. Languages earlier to learn when young. The more you chat the more you learn, keep on chatting.
I think that most people would give people the benefit of the doubt. People are usually very friendly and helpful. We do say ' sorry ' not because we think it's our fault, but we mean that we have a feeling of sorrow and sadness for you. 🙂 By the way, your English is incredibly good. It's very strong. I will pray for your husband. God bless you both.
It’s true that people will ask how you are, but you are not compelled to answer truthfully. If you are not feeling well, they will still be interested in your health, but that is not why they asked you that question, it is just being sociable.
I'm sure there will be many people who aren't English puzzling over a couple of the things you mention. But that's all part of the learning process. For anyone not understanding about the salt boxes; the boxes of salt are to spread over icy areas on the path when there is very cold weather to prevent people from slipping over and you may also see them in villages and small roads or near the bottom of little hills where cars may skid in the icy conditions. It is hoped people will help by throwing salt over the area to thaw the ice.
This is interesting! In the northeast US, we have trucks that spread salt and sand after a snowstorm or precipitation in the winter, and homeowners or business owners salt their own pathways.
@@leftiesoutnumbered Well, it's about managing resources and costs. In England we have a fairly changeable climate, it can be unpredictable but it's rarely extreme, so keeping the main roads useable is the primary concern. After that it's down to local authorities to budget as they see fit.
Lorries (ie trucks) funded by the local government usually only grit/salt main roads in the UK, but salt may be provided for local people to spread themselves, especially on steep, narrow side roads and paths where it would be difficult/impossible or not cost effective for a large vehicle to access. @@leftiesoutnumbered
@@leftiesoutnumbered We have the trucks on main roads (we call them gritters), but in smaller villages or off-road areas it’s up to the local residents to sort it out.
I think your very brave doing this, I mean being in a foreign country without knowing the language and it’s impressive that you have learned so much English, and I’m sorry to hear your husband is unwell. I hope he makes a full recovery.
I was in international business for years. There were a lot of cultural clashes with the Japanese. Later with the South-Koreans and in Europe with Eastern European countries, or better, groups within these countries. After that the Chinese came, and we got to China. A lot of different groups and customs. Sometimes some Chinese were more alike as people from Taiwan, and others were very old-fashioned. I remember some people had never met a white person. It started nice, but they also want to sell me something I didn't understood at all. I went out alone, without a Chinese companion. After a while, and after quite a few streets, it wasn't nice anymore. It was an annoyance. The Chinese told me which markets and shops were safe. Others apparently were not. I didn't understand the reasons from my Chinese companions. They were quite helpful, though, and very nice. A lot has changed. I hope these people are safe.
I am so sorry (you know what that means now!) to hear that your husband has got cancer. I hope his treatment goes well. You may have found this out already, but I wanted to bring to your attention if not: most hospitals have a support service for patients but this also extends to their relatives. It’s normally run but a charity such as MacMilan , the one near me is called Maggies. It’s physically at the hospital, but not part of a clinic. It is somewhere to go where the patient can get help with counselling, pain management and so on. But there are also lots of social groups and activities which help you meet people going through similar things. The two of you are noe alone in this journey. There are groups specific for relatives so they can have someone to chat with too. Do please investigate and find out what the provision is in your area. It is not just limited to clinical/medical support. Cancer is horrible and we need a lot more than a few tablets and a scalpel to get through it and cope with the side effects.
Hello You 💕 Welcome 🤗 Thank you for sharing your thoughts on You Tube, Your English is Very Good and I enjoyed hearing about how you are learning and becoming used to living here. I am looking forward to your next video 🥰
The standard in Asia is incredibly thin. My wife is from Taiwan and is extraordinarily petite. Her perception of being overweight is scary!!!! Her idea of gaining a significant and unacceptable amount of weight is equivalent to me changing into my hiking boots!!!
My wife is Filipina we live in UK. I scolded her for telling a friend they looked fat. She could not understand why. It turns out, in Filipino culture, this is a compliment implying you are rich and successful you can now afford extra nice food.
Sorry isn't an apology, it expresses a feeling of emotional hurt. Sore - sorry. So it can be used to express sympathy as well as regret, discomfort or embarrassment.
How about you don’t comment on their weight at all. I think most overweight people are aware they are overweight and already have self confidence issues with it. So keep your unnecessary comments to yourself.
This actually happened to a Chinese woman that I know! She had a big surprise when she met him by accident at a street market, and had absolutely no idea that he would be there, with Camilla!
Hello Lisa. I have just subscribed as I have taken an instant like to you. If you are concerned with upsetting a Brit just explain before that your English is a little difficult. Personally I think your English is quite good. I hope your husband feels better soon. Incidentally, I am English.
You are a beautiful, wonderful, sweet, super good, very intelligent lady. Your husband is a very blessed man. I like listening to you. You are so very sweet and a good person. When we say, "I am sorry for what happened to you", we mean, I wish it had not happened and I empathize with you. That means, I feel your pain with you. I pray for GOD to heal your husband totally and to bless you with HIS Spirit and all good things. Please read the Bible and start with the book of John. GOD loves you. HE really loves everyone very, very much.
As other commenters have said, "I'm sorry (for your loss)" means 很難過. But in fact, many British people also have the thoughts you had about this use of "sorry". Sometimes, when someone tells you they are recently bereaved and you say "I'm sorry", they will respond "Why are you sorry? You didn't do it." It may be that they're just a little tired of constantly having people say they're sorry, or it might be a sign of a broader social confusion over the role of "sorry". It might also be a response that you hear from more literally minded or less linguistically conventional people, such as autistic people. This area of language is called pragmatics, and it's something that autistic people often have difficulty with. In many ways, being a beginning language learner is a lot like being autistic because you typically lack broad contextual understanding and tend to hyperfocus on the message rather than the meaning, or on the meaning rather than the use. The other similarity is that cruel, unscrupulous people will often have fun at your expense. I hope you continue to make progress and enjoy your explosions in British English. 加油！
We don't say fat is good on women, we politely say it is noce to see "some meat on her bones." It is also too cute that you thought salt in the park was for cooking, very funny. Lots of us in UK love Asian women, do you have single friend for a fat 51 year old Australian living in UK that you can introduce to me please? Hope your husbands therapy is going well and he recovers well.
It is a fact that when people of one race are not familiar with people of another race, they do have difficulty telling them apart. After a while, the problem disappears. Those you may pass will often greet you when there is something in common between you, even like being out early in the morning when few people are around.
British culture? I have spent 71 years of my life in the UK and I still don't understand its culture, and inadvertently cause offence wherever I go. Five years in France was spent learning about French culture, that to me is easier to understand, and trying to explain British culture to French people. I grew up in a predominantly white area, where the culture is intolerant of change, but now I live in one of the most diverse parts of the country where people are far more friendly and accepting. The UK is multicultural with some progressive parts, and some areas where the people hark back to an era that only exists in their minds and that AA Gill described as "that most pernicious and debilitating Little English drug, nostalgia".
What's your reaction to our food (most people out side the UK cool it bland ) or dull so I'm courses off how u like the food comperd to the food you were use to
I think the characteristics of British food are that it is either too salty, too greasy, too sweet . .But in the morning I like eggs with toast.I used to cook Chinese food.🥘
The calling people fat or other "bad" words is just annoying to most people they use these words in private with friends or family..... I think its called decorum. The rules basically say you can insult your own friends and family but not strangers.... This is more of a rule tought to children as so you dont start a fist fight on the street... Some time later its become it own thing
Lisa, you're very beautiful, and instead of saying " men like a little bit of fat on a woman, maybe you should just think, " a little bit of texture ", sweetie. : - ) Your english is commendable. I wish I could speak Mandarin as well. Oh to be young again. ( chuckle ) Stay safe, stay happy, stay healthy, but always stay YOU. I wish you rainbows, dear lady.
She means the culture here compared to China. The culture in any part of the U.K. is very similar compared to Chinese culture, as she explains in the video
No sucj thung as British culture Britain is not a country the uk is not ine country you ard talking about english culture not British culture .Scottish NEVER BRITISH
I'm from England and have chosen to live in Scotland, vote for indy and all that. So I understand and agree with you. But it is up for debate even here as you know. So I think shouting in all caps at a lady with little English who probably doesn't understand that nuance isn't going to help convince her or anyone of the wonderful charm of uniquely Scottish culture.
What is this hang-up? We are pretty much alike, in the British nations. Most things are common. We who live here occasionally have to deal with local differences but truly not that much, and a Chinese person hardly ever need bother about such things.
If a british person says sorry, after you tell them someone you know passed away, what they mean is "I am sorry for your loss" As in we feel sad about your loss "I am sorry about your loss" - "I am sad for you because of your loss" A polite way to express empathy and sympathy over someone they don't know. I'm sure someones already said this but I'm having problems seeing the other comments. I hope your husband gets the treatments he needs and gets better x
British people say "sorry" when you said your father had passed away because it's a way of expressing sadness for your loss. They don't know you but they are sad for you because your father is dead.
Yes!
“Sorry” has a broader meaning; just because people happen to use the word during an apology, it’s not the “sorry” itself that expresses a guilty feeling or admission, but the context, (and, hopefully, many other simple and considered words).
“Sorry” is closer in meaning to “sad” or “regret/ful” than, “I apologise”
“I’m sorry for your loss” means “I’m sad for your loss”
@@CoedtwrchWildoriginally sorry comes from sorrow like you said meaning felling sad
They use the word "sorry" as the sympathy word in this case and not as an apology. In Yoruba they have a word for sympathy sorry "Bella".
You are a great asset for this country. So glad you're here.❤
Thank you so much!
I am sorry to hear your Husband is not well. I hope it all goes well for him.
Thank you very much.
I admire you for having the courage to go on video and make videos in your second language, especially when you and your husband are dealing with his serious illness. You have a great sense of humour. and a great positive attitude, which is the most important factor in life. Walking a dog is a great way to meet people. Some people who own dogs cannot take them for a walk every day and may pay someone to do that for them. It can be difficult to live in a new culture but you have a very observant and intelligent attitude to those differences, which is how all of us should approach the differences. You made me think. You have a lot to offer as a friend but it can be difficult to make friends in a different culture. When a family member or special friend dies, they are still present in your life because you think about that person. Here in London one can often see couples from different races. If two people form a special connection, then nothing else seems important. The local cultures vary around the UK, so that makes it even more difficult to understand. For example, in London, it is rare for strangers to say 'hello' but in the countryside it is normal to say 'hello' if one meets anyone in a walk.
I lived in London for 3 years and it felt quite unfriendly. In my home town everyone says hello when you are out walking, or chats if you are in a long queue, but no-one does that in London. The only people who ever started random conversations with me were those from other countries!
It's actually really rather wonderful seeing you gradually learning your place in our culture and getting your perspective on the way we behave.
And you hit me by surprise with your ending here! Oh my word! I wish your husband every fortune in winning his fight with that awful disease.
Well said.
Thank you very much.
I think maybe the Mandarin for that particular way of "sorry" is 遗憾/遺憾
It is a different meaning.
The most used meaning of the word "sorry" is an apology.
I am sorry I scared you. This means "I regret that I scared you, I apologise"
However, there is a different way that "sorry" is used also.
If you say about something bad that has happened "my father died" "my phone was stolen", then others may reply with "I'm sorry to hear that" or "I'm sorry that happened"
This is not apology. This is a way to express sympathy with the person who received bad news. They are saying "you experienced sadness"
For example, if a friend has a job interview, but they do not get the job, then you might say "I am sorry to hear that" because you wished that they had the job. If their grandmother is in hospital, you might say "I am sorry to hear that" because you wish their grandmother was healthy and happy instead
UK and your husband are lucky to have you. I know what you are going through . I've been through it. You've chosen a very healthy option to deal with it by sharing your stories. A beautiful and human thing ❤️
Thank you for taking the time to produce and share this video. I loved your suggestion that the salt in the park was for people who have ran out of salt for their BBQs
Haha .
What a pleasure to listen to all your stories having found you quite by chance. I sympathise with you and your husband going through cancer as this was my own story. I sincerely hope he does well and beats this and perhaps we will get to meet him in the future. Carry on with your podcasts as you are a real pleasure to listen to and get to know. Xxx
Thank you very much.
@@GobbyLisa99 You;re English is very good:)
@@IsleofskyeThanks.
lovely experience Lisa! all the best! And speedy recovery to your husband.
I'm really sorry to hear about your husband. Cancer treatment is tough for patient and for the family.
I hope you are both doing ok and that you aren't feeling too isolated.
Thank you very much.
This is so charming, you have my utmost respect for diving in to a new world so admirably. My best to your husband
The salt story is hilarious. The best way to learn a language is through immersion, which is how we learn as children. It was a nice change to watch a video on cultural differences that didn't express amazement at all the accents in the UK, and that we drink tea and drive on the left. The key point to remember is you're living in a different country so things are bound to be different from what you're used to. Some things might be better, some things might be worse. My very best wishes to your husband for a speedy recovery.
You are doing exceptionally well, great respect to you. Thank you for posting :-)
When they say 'I'm sorry to hear that' they mean 'I'm sad to hear that'.
I really enjoy your explanations of how you initially viewed the British culture. I am sad to hear about your husband's illness. I wish him and you all the best life can offer.
Thank you 🙏
Sorry to hear about you husband, hopefully he makes a full recovery
Nice to see you, Lisa 😀
You have done so well.
Nothing will ever stop you!
Thank you.
I think a majority of British people would forgive any honest faux pas. They might even find them endearing.
Lisa you are doing great keep it up and be true to yourself. The more you interact the better you can react. 🙂
Thank you very much.
Hi Lisa, it’s really interesting to hear your thoughts about living in Britain. I like to hear about other countries, and how life is different there.
I think small towns here are very different to cities. When I lived in London no-one ever spoke to me in the street, but in my home town everyone says hello when I am out walking.
Well done for learning so much English! You are welcome to send me a message if you have any language questions. 😊
Thanks.
I enjoy listening to your story. Looking forward to see more
Thank you
You're absolutely right on the jeans thing. I'm a london fashion designer & I think women even men too need a bit of curve. I've trained with Chinese Shaolin kungfu masters in London - you can clearly see a cultural difference between the masters who have freshly arrived from China and those who've been living in the UK for a long time. Those who've freshly come from China are skinnier, don't like fatty foods and prefer traditional way of training. However, those who've been in the UK for a long time, understand that they needed to adapt, they realised that fat is not always a bad thing, in fact they've learnt that fat stores long term energy essential for long session of kungfu practice. Those who understand that, start eating pizza, cheese etc. lifting weight to build bigger muscles because they realise a bit of muscles and fat makes you look better and stronger.
Just found your channel today, immediate subscribe! You seem wonderful and have excellent English. I hope your husband is able to fully recover soon!
Thank you 😊
What a lovely lady, so glad you have come to the UK. Please tell your Husband I wish him good luck.
Thank you.
You are enchanting and I have Subscribed.
I have just walked 6 dogs in the park, all off the lead, and having a lovely time:)
Boxes of salt for barbecues...sounds good, let's adopt that idea!
Yes, and even better is in Finland where people also provide bottles of sauce, firewood, and an axe at public barbecues in the woods. P.S: sand is put on the ground, not salt, because it is too cold for salt to melt ice, and salt pollutes the ground water.
You're doing everything right. You like to talk , and talking with your neighbours and people around your area is great. I know an Italian lady that came here speaking zero English and she said that she learned via the neighbours and watching Coronation Street (!)
Thank you.
This is a great style of video, very enjoyable. I work with Chinese people who visit us here in the UK regularly, but they rarely comment on life here. It’s great to hear a Chinese person’s views on life in Britain. Thank you Lisa and very best wishes to your husband.
Thank you. Most Chinese people are shy and are not willing to express themselves. I’m not .😊
@@GobbyLisa99 🤣.
You no doubt have loads you want to talk about, no shortage of ideas!..
If you need some more, I know a lot of people like me would be fascinated to understand, from someone who has lived both, how the experience of daily life here compares with living in China - from daily routines to major family events.
Good luck with your super channel!
Great channel. Your a lovely person!
Lisa you are an absolute joy to watch and listen to. Your honesty and the pureness of your soul is just wonderful. I hope you never change this about yourself. This world needs all of the people it can get who are like you. Have a wonderful and truly blessed day!!
Thank you so much.
Sorry to hear that your husband isn't well, my best wishes for a good recovery. Good luck with the channel, keep it up!
Thank you very much.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Very interesting. I hope your husband gets better soon.
Thank you for making so much effort to be respectful and integrate with us in UK. You will be warmly welcomed for being so thoughtful. I wish everyone that comes here would be like you. ❤
What a lovely video :). I'm sorry to hear your husband's not well Lisa. Sending lots of positive thoughts to both of you. So happy you've found an audience here to share your thoughts with. I've subscribed and look forward to watching more of your videos :) xxx
Thank you.
It is fascinating to hear you talk about the UK.
I love different cultures.
My late wife was from another country, and learning her culture was a lot of fun. She was from the USA.
Thank you.
I hope your husband will make a full recovery! Wishing the both of you well.
Thank you so much!
Well done for giving so much enjoyment - seeing the funny side of our language. You’ve getting our humour. I’ve subscribed for more!!!
I have Chinese neighbours who don't speak English - but we still respect each other and say, hello, after ten years.
Chinese people usually in here are very friendly.
I'm dying over that salt story! That is something a member of my family would say
I love your videos, Lisa, I find them enjoyable, and I find you charming.
People can be sensitive about being overweight so, that's why they might find the word "Fat" offensive, it's better to say "A little overweight" instead. An alternative to the words, 'Fatty' or 'Fat' are 'Weighty" or 'Weight" so, you could say, "Some women are too thin, they could do with gaining a little weight".
I'm sorry to learn that your Husband has Cancer, I hope that he's on the road to recovery?
Take care and all the best.
Thank you.
fatty is a word that is usually only used for food - e.g. the lamb was a bit fatty. Unless you really want to insult someone and call them a big fatty.
Your husband sounds like a very nice man who loves you very much. Much strength to you both! 💪♥💪
Thank you very much.He is a very good husband.
You're very sweet, I hope things go well for you and best wishes for your husband.
Your English is ok, my Chinese none existent lol
Trying to learn Filipino, very hard for older people.
Languages earlier to learn when young.
The more you chat the more you learn, keep on chatting.
Good luck to your husband. I am glad that you are in the UK.
Thank you.
Thank you for your insights in to British culture. I hope your husband is doing well, a positive attitude helps.
Now I know why you are Gobby Lisa 😂
Its funny
Haha.😂
I think that most people would give people the benefit of the doubt. People are usually very friendly and helpful.
We do say ' sorry ' not because we think it's our fault, but we mean that we have a feeling of sorrow and sadness for you. 🙂
By the way, your English is incredibly good. It's very strong. I will pray for your husband. God bless you both.
Thank you.
Can we have more people like you in the world and esp in the UK please.
You're English is better than mine and it's my first language 😊
Are you joking?😊
It’s true that people will ask how you are, but you are not compelled to answer truthfully. If you are not feeling well, they will still be interested in your health, but that is not why they asked you that question, it is just being sociable.
I'm sure there will be many people who aren't English puzzling over a couple of the things you mention.
But that's all part of the learning process.
For anyone not understanding about the salt boxes; the boxes of salt are to spread over icy areas on the path when there is very cold weather to prevent people from slipping over and you may also see them in villages and small roads or near the bottom of little hills where cars may skid in the icy conditions. It is hoped people will help by throwing salt over the area to thaw the ice.
This is interesting! In the northeast US, we have trucks that spread salt and sand after a snowstorm or precipitation in the winter, and homeowners or business owners salt their own pathways.
@@leftiesoutnumbered Well, it's about managing resources and costs.
In England we have a fairly changeable climate, it can be unpredictable but it's rarely extreme, so keeping the main roads useable is the primary concern. After that it's down to local authorities to budget as they see fit.
Lorries (ie trucks) funded by the local government usually only grit/salt main roads in the UK, but salt may be provided for local people to spread themselves, especially on steep, narrow side roads and paths where it would be difficult/impossible or not cost effective for a large vehicle to access.
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@@leftiesoutnumbered We have the trucks on main roads (we call them gritters), but in smaller villages or off-road areas it’s up to the local residents to sort it out.
I think your very brave doing this, I mean being in a foreign country without knowing the language and it’s impressive that you have learned so much English, and I’m sorry to hear your husband is unwell. I hope he makes a full recovery.
I was in international business for years. There were a lot of cultural clashes with the Japanese. Later with the South-Koreans and in Europe with Eastern European countries, or better, groups within these countries. After that the Chinese came, and we got to China. A lot of different groups and customs. Sometimes some Chinese were more alike as people from Taiwan, and others were very old-fashioned. I remember some people had never met a white person. It started nice, but they also want to sell me something I didn't understood at all. I went out alone, without a Chinese companion. After a while, and after quite a few streets, it wasn't nice anymore. It was an annoyance. The Chinese told me which markets and shops were safe. Others apparently were not. I didn't understand the reasons from my Chinese companions. They were quite helpful, though, and very nice. A lot has changed. I hope these people are safe.
I am so sorry (you know what that means now!) to hear that your husband has got cancer. I hope his treatment goes well. You may have found this out already, but I wanted to bring to your attention if not: most hospitals have a support service for patients but this also extends to their relatives. It’s normally run but a charity such as MacMilan , the one near me is called Maggies. It’s physically at the hospital, but not part of a clinic. It is somewhere to go where the patient can get help with counselling, pain management and so on. But there are also lots of social groups and activities which help you meet people going through similar things. The two of you are noe alone in this journey. There are groups specific for relatives so they can have someone to chat with too. Do please investigate and find out what the provision is in your area. It is not just limited to clinical/medical support. Cancer is horrible and we need a lot more than a few tablets and a scalpel to get through it and cope with the side effects.
Hello You 💕 Welcome 🤗 Thank you for sharing your thoughts on You Tube, Your English is Very Good and I enjoyed hearing about how you are learning and becoming used to living here. I am looking forward to your next video 🥰
Thank you .
You are doing so well lisa hope your husband gets well .keep smiling darling 😊
Thanks you.
The standard in Asia is incredibly thin. My wife is from Taiwan and is extraordinarily petite. Her perception of being overweight is scary!!!! Her idea of gaining a significant and unacceptable amount of weight is equivalent to me changing into my hiking boots!!!
I went to Taiwan before. I think Taiwanese are thinner than Chinese standards.
My wife is Filipina we live in UK. I scolded her for telling a friend they looked fat. She could not understand why. It turns out, in Filipino culture, this is a compliment implying you are rich and successful you can now afford extra nice food.
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The problem is that in the UK, being obese is a sign of being poor, because nutritious, fresh food is not cheap or convenient
Different culture.
@@CodeCube-rv1rmWow . I don’t know that .
Sorry isn't an apology, it expresses a feeling of emotional hurt. Sore - sorry. So it can be used to express sympathy as well as regret, discomfort or embarrassment.
For women who are on the larger side, you can refer to them as voluptuous or rubenesque.
Nobody does though 😃
@@Hildred6 and it is sad they do not 😊
How about you don’t comment on their weight at all. I think most overweight people are aware they are overweight and already have self confidence issues with it. So keep your unnecessary comments to yourself.
@@cloveriteI agree. You don’t need to insult other people commenting their weight.
Maybe consider making a ‘ live’ video so that people can ask you questions and you can ask them ( slowly) in the future
😓My English is not good enough for Live stream.
I'm a British-born Aussie. I'm so thin, a shark would probably use me as a toothpick!
Briths Culture is reserved.
So if you ever meet King Charles and he asks you "How do you do?", you don't have to go into details . . . 🤣
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This actually happened to a Chinese woman that I know! She had a big surprise when she met him by accident at a street market, and had absolutely no idea that he would be there, with Camilla!
Be polite and considerate, that is all you need.
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I hope your husband recovers soon and look forward to hearing you tell us that he's well
Thank you very much.
It's not just British culture, whatever you learn in British will pretty much hold for Western culture.
They are not saying 'sorry' because it's their fault. They are saying 'sorry that you had to go through such a sad time'.
Hello Lisa. I have just subscribed as I have taken an instant like to you. If you are concerned with upsetting a Brit just explain before that your English is a little difficult. Personally I think your English is quite good. I hope your husband feels better soon. Incidentally, I am English.
You are a beautiful, wonderful, sweet, super good, very intelligent lady. Your husband is a very blessed man. I like listening to you. You are so very sweet and a good person.
When we say, "I am sorry for what happened to you", we mean, I wish it had not happened and I empathize with you. That means, I feel your pain with you.
I pray for GOD to heal your husband totally and to bless you with HIS Spirit and all good things. Please read the Bible and start with the book of John. GOD loves you. HE really loves everyone very, very much.
Thank you so much
As other commenters have said, "I'm sorry (for your loss)" means 很難過. But in fact, many British people also have the thoughts you had about this use of "sorry". Sometimes, when someone tells you they are recently bereaved and you say "I'm sorry", they will respond "Why are you sorry? You didn't do it."
It may be that they're just a little tired of constantly having people say they're sorry, or it might be a sign of a broader social confusion over the role of "sorry". It might also be a response that you hear from more literally minded or less linguistically conventional people, such as autistic people.
This area of language is called pragmatics, and it's something that autistic people often have difficulty with. In many ways, being a beginning language learner is a lot like being autistic because you typically lack broad contextual understanding and tend to hyperfocus on the message rather than the meaning, or on the meaning rather than the use. The other similarity is that cruel, unscrupulous people will often have fun at your expense.
I hope you continue to make progress and enjoy your explosions in British English. 加油！
We don't say fat is good on women, we politely say it is noce to see "some meat on her bones."
It is also too cute that you thought salt in the park was for cooking, very funny. Lots of us in UK love Asian women, do you have single friend for a fat 51 year old Australian living in UK that you can introduce to me please?
Hope your husbands therapy is going well and he recovers well.
Haha . If I know someone , I will .
"I'm sorry" in this context, means something like, "I share sorrow with you" not "I apologise". BTW a fair number of Brits get this wrong, too.
I was born in Britain , and I still don't understand the British mindset 😅.
It is a fact that when people of one race are not familiar with people of another race, they do have difficulty telling them apart. After a while, the problem disappears.
Those you may pass will often greet you when there is something in common between you, even like being out early in the morning when few people are around.
Now I always say Hello and good morning to everyone 😊
British culture? I have spent 71 years of my life in the UK and I still don't understand its culture, and inadvertently cause offence wherever I go. Five years in France was spent learning about French culture, that to me is easier to understand, and trying to explain British culture to French people.
I grew up in a predominantly white area, where the culture is intolerant of change, but now I live in one of the most diverse parts of the country where people are far more friendly and accepting. The UK is multicultural with some progressive parts, and some areas where the people hark back to an era that only exists in their minds and that AA Gill described as "that most pernicious and debilitating Little English drug, nostalgia".
Nothing wrong with someone having "a bit of meat on them" (a suggestion for avoiding the use of the word fat in relation to peoples weight)
As a British im Huge fan of China entertainment industry i like Fan Bingbing Wu Jing Li Ming Làu Dau
I wanna no wats the most shocking culture shock
What's your reaction to our food (most people out side the UK cool it bland ) or dull so I'm courses off how u like the food comperd to the food you were use to
I think the characteristics of British food are that it is either too salty, too greasy, too sweet . .But in the morning I like eggs with toast.I used to cook Chinese food.🥘
So much to talk about ! My Chinese wife is quiet and I jabber on like a monkey in a tree.
My husband is also a very quiet person, and I also like to talk a lot.
The calling people fat or other "bad" words is just annoying to most people they use these words in private with friends or family.....
I think its called decorum.
The rules basically say you can insult your own friends and family but not strangers.... This is more of a rule tought to children as so you dont start a fist fight on the street... Some time later its become it own thing
Thanks. I will be careful
Saying sorry about your father was expressing sympathy for your loss.
Lisa, you're very beautiful, and instead of saying " men like a little bit of fat on a woman, maybe you should just think, " a little bit of texture ", sweetie. : - )
Your english is commendable.
I wish I could speak Mandarin as well.
Oh to be young again. ( chuckle )
Stay safe, stay happy, stay healthy, but always stay YOU.
I wish you rainbows, dear lady.
Thank you .
Hello Lisa. How is your husband doing? Hope that he is fine now.
He’s ok .Thank you.
hi lisa looking foward to your videos now
Thank you.
That's hilarious with the salt! Sorry you're husband has cancer - it wasn't me ;-). But seriously, I do hope he recovers well!
oh we can call someone fat lol
There is no British culture. English, Scottish, NI & Welsh are all different culturally.
She means the culture here compared to China. The culture in any part of the U.K. is very similar compared to Chinese culture, as she explains in the video
Best not to draw attention to someone's weight ar all
As long as your not CCP sleeper Welcome
Take a day off mate
No sucj thung as British culture Britain is not a country the uk is not ine country you ard talking about english culture not British culture .Scottish NEVER BRITISH
I'm from England and have chosen to live in Scotland, vote for indy and all that. So I understand and agree with you. But it is up for debate even here as you know. So I think shouting in all caps at a lady with little English who probably doesn't understand that nuance isn't going to help convince her or anyone of the wonderful charm of uniquely Scottish culture.
Ironically though shouting at non English speakers in a mistaken attempt to be clearer is a cultural trait across the island of Britain 😂.
What is this hang-up? We are pretty much alike, in the British nations. Most things are common. We who live here occasionally have to deal with local differences but truly not that much, and a Chinese person hardly ever need bother about such things.
scottish speaks english lol
If a british person says sorry, after you tell them someone you know passed away, what they mean is "I am sorry for your loss"
As in we feel sad about your loss
"I am sorry about your loss" - "I am sad for you because of your loss" A polite way to express empathy and sympathy over someone they don't know.
I'm sure someones already said this but I'm having problems seeing the other comments.
I hope your husband gets the treatments he needs and gets better x