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Sounds are vibrations, you physically seen her facial expressions change from the boos to the cheers...we chase the positive vibrations which in turn are SOUNDS...who doesn't want to have positive vibrations instead of negative ones?? Poppy cock
Julien, I’m Ali I went through the mentoring about a month/2 months ago. I want to let you know that I’m seeing spectacular results from releasing, it’s so insane I can’t even believe it. To anyone reading this it’s a testimonial that proves Julien knows his shit and his letting go method really works. Forever grateful and blessed thank you Julien🙏
@@obi-wankenobi1419 You can’t solve you’re emotional problems analytically, you solve/heal them by feeling. Also you need to use different introspection techniques to become aware of deep rooted stuff. And also taking your time with releasing and extending the meditations not just rushing through them. This is just a couple but I’ve been following Julien since 2020 and simply knew what he was talking about, but now I’ve actually experienced it. You can’t do this alone I suggest you join his mentoring as you’ll be guided and mentored and make sure you’re applying his teachings correctly:)
I think that you right I would feel the same, becasue it comes from the world "SHAME'' like one time people by my side and i am happy and other one is not smily face beacause people hate me
I don't agree, I actually noticed a smile on her during the boo, and she was looking straight ahead at the crowd. During the cheer she seemed more withdrawn, sort of hiding and her smile seemed a little off.
I feel this was a particularly insightful video, because (caution: approval) you did a good job answereing back and sharing your view and understanding. Particularly around 6:00 and 15:00, and at the same time you didn't shy away from saying "i don't feel right now, i freeze". I could sense, when he asked you why you were "scared by him", that might have been so, because he is a guy who worked so much on himself and on letting go and to him it seems so easy, yet its not that easy for you especially on stage. Maybe one feels bad for not having achieved the same things yet, somehow feeling bad about feeling bad and not just being able to work through it on the spot. I have a friend of mine, like my uncle i never had somehow, who is quite a mindset and coping mentor to me, but i sometimes struggle not to feel bad and judged about me struggeling and not being able to incoorporate the advice and just be like him. But in the end its just hard and honest work we have in front of us, and results come up in the process. The obligatory screaming part was especially great to see, as i could really feel the toughness of the situation and that he pushed you. You were nearly fed up and thinking "duh, obviously just let go.. if it was that easy dude, tell me something new". But i think that was quite the necessary level of inner anger or frustration to answer to the question "why am i really not able to scream?" and push through and be yourself. This was really, as i said, helpful to watch. Sorry for rambling.
It's been 1 year i have been watching julien videos to be honest i've never seen any girl more cute than you. you have a great hidden energy inside i hope you find it✊
I think we’re so attached to approval from others is because they may be the link to our survival for food, water, social status etc…. That’s why it’s hard to break
Yeah, approval from the tribe versus banishment from the tribe. The latter almost certainly meaning death if we go back to the time we were still living as hunter gatherers.
@@TheGeneralDisarraythat’s why we need to work on detaching. Thats no longer the case, and it’s therefore not a useful skill to have so we can let it go.
But thats why being attached to approval or effected by disapproval is a warning for others especially for women because they feel your status in your social circle can be taken away easily
I always felt that this issue goes deeper than simply being ego driven. We have this primal survival instinct that creates a need to be accepted and to feel that we are part of a community. That's why being rejected sometimes creates a feeling of dread, as if we are in danger of dying. "The bird sleeps peacefully not because it trust the branch, but because it trusts it's ability to fly!" - this works for me, by cultivating competence and gathering as much experience as possible creates a basis in reality for confidence to take root, and that confidence that I can survive on my own is what helps me not care about what other people think/say. The problem is that I never feel safe enough: economically, emotionally, or physically.
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What helped me get to this point was self love. Being there for myself, understanding and having compassion for myself, makes it easier not to rely on others for emotional regulation. I enjoy when people like me, I observe the feelings of fear when they dont, but there is a stillness of security within myself underneath those waves on the surface. I think thats what Julien is pointing at in this exercise
You know, I think your content is so much deeper and better than usual self-help content that everyone sells. So much deeper. More like awakening. But not so strange as buddizm. Like it
Julien your teaching’s have truly changed my life. For all my life I felt like I wasn’t good enough but loving myself and feeling good enough is the foundation of my life and nothing affects my self worth, thank you Julian 👊💪
I love the message and what it's about. Though, there was once a study from japan where an experiment was held with waterplants being cursed at regularly or saying beloved things regularly. The plants which were being cursed at began to die and to rot and the other ones were getting stronger. I do believe there is power in words and frequencies they convey - but at the same time you still decide what has power over you.
that’s absolutely false and never happened lmao, if you actually knew how science worked you would realise that that is impossible. words do not effect plants lmaooo.
I agree, that study got debunked, just another example where they wanted the hipothesis to be true so they interpreted the data in a way that justified the original premise.
Things do change when they're observed, and it also depends on the intention behind the observation. Check out the double slit experiment. Julien's message is very helpful, although I agree that outside influence DOES change you initially (booing evokes shame, natural human survival strategy)... But having a secure sense of self acts as an anchor through those feelings of elation or fear.
Yes. The brightest minds, such as tesla, understood this. There is indeed power in this. We can measure the voltage of emotions, and the body is an electrical, organic machine. @Morale_Booster
I came back to this video four times and I cannot hold back longer, I have to write it out... First of all, I have to get this out of the picture: I cannot be more creeped out by myself how incredibly beautiful I find her. Although, it doesnt matter. I also LOVE her hair, but that doesnt matter either. She seems to be exceptionally clever. I am not an expert by any means, but the way she handles herself, her thoughts, makes me think of her as a science major of some sort. Either way, I really hope, she finds what she is looking for and never logic her life into anything harmful. I hope she is at least as OK as she states, but I have a bad feeling, but I might be just self-reflecting. Logic is a great tool, but you have to be in peace with, and be kind to yourself too.
These exercises are so meaningful and powerful. The "giving yourself permission" and resistance is crazy. Good for the participant for sticking with it and awesome for Julien to continuing to push, but in small steps. Love this stuff.
Im a brown belt in my karate class, which means that sometimes my sensei will allow me to lead the class. I remember this one time when I was trying to teach the class how to do a kia, and I was very surprised by how few were willing to do it. Then I remembered how I first learned how to kia and how ridiculous it made me feel. However, after a while of shouting like that, I've let go of that embarrassment. I think I might recommend some of my classmates this video as I think it might greatly help them. I enjoyed watching it.
Why don't you try and teach them the way that Julien is? Pass it on yourself, you have the knowledge. It would be more impactful that way and empower your students.
Only take advice from someone you want to be like? Evaluate the person giving the advice and make sure you want to be like them. Is this guy a good role model? Have a blessed day! Get that confidence!
@didiermauricelbg brutal in what way? Just trying to explore your opinion a bit more. I'm still trying to decide personally if he's actually in it to help people or if it's all about money/status/power. It's kind of difficult to tell. But it sure does look like he has a fun life!
Hello Julian, the fear of disapproval I and most people I speak experience is not that the sunglasses do meet approval but the fact that that because of that they will be put in the drawer or thrown away. That means careers, life opportunities and benefits for us and our love ones.
Been struggling with social anxiety since forever. Last week I started going at a cafe and I started talking to the girl working there. I started joking and asking her about herself,her job etc. The 3rd time I went I kept the same tactic and at some point I asked her out but she ignored my offer. The other day, I met a girl via social media. We met in person she stayed for 30 minutes then when I asked her for our next date she said she was busy twice. I'm sad and angry at the same time. But I understand that I can do nothing about it. I just give up wear my sunglasses at all times and keep endorsing myself
@@KristyRamirezgomez Yup. 2 weeks later I feel more comfortable but I still know that Im not a handsome man. I got used to being rejected,ignored so it doesnt really surprises me
Yoo Julien, Im letting go for 2 yrs now and found out a week ago about cocoa. It helps so much with processing emotions I highly recommend trying it out!!! I use about 20g raw cocoa powder and its crazy how it helps!!!
My relationship with the present: Watching Julien video full of lookers as participant from top ranked polluted city that actually ruins our facial appearance. Yet I should tell my self its the best life I could've gotten.
You brought one of the last puzzle pieces to me, or TH-cam or what ever - both (you are *not* your algorithm!!) but jokes aside: Thank you man and to the girl - You both delivered an answer to me I was creeping around for very long now. "Permission granted!"
So interesting to listen and watch. You post at divine timings, it's resonating 100%! I'm gratefull for being alive in the same time as Julien and the rest of the people who are teaching me, shining a Light, giving me that 'Ah..is this how it is' moment
i say this all the time YOUR IN CONTROL OF YOUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS …. YOU ….. SO THAT MEANS IF SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING THAT YOU GET UPSET OVER THEN ITS YOUR OWN FAULT …… ACCEPT IT AND MOVE FORWARD…… PPL WILL DO WHAT THEY WANT IN THE END
I'm kind of scared right now cause I'm going to travel for a better Job opportunity, and my family is against it. Basically because of my safety and They don't know the Job I'm going for. I've always been close to my mom and it feels as if I'm hurting her by going any way, I made a promise to her that I'll be responsible, I'm not used to doing something and people not agreeing with it. Thank you for reading, I just needed to get it off my chest, I know I'm going to be fine and it'll work out, just that the fear of traveling alone for the first time at 21 is scary. Thank you Julien, I know what you probably would say. THIS IS FOR ME ❤️🔥
I always have low self esteem.. i came from poor family ..so when i met school ,college ..friends they dominated me.. i always hesitate to ask anything , tell anything.. in class room im not comfortable to walk alone ...i can't able to speak infront others ..while reading Anything in stage my body and hand started shivering.. due to this everyone laughted ..at me in class room.. after completed my degree..can't able atten any interview due to anxiety and now in office also if i'm attending any meeting... Same things repeated my hand started shaking and not able to communicate more than 1 minute and vocal not coming ..if i'm speaking in meeting more than 1 minute my voice is coming like crying in meeting...from the child hood i'm facing this issue ..anybody ..😢 plz tell how can i resolve this issues with me... ?
Julien, I smile as a coping mechanism, I can never say no to people, and i research body language in the middle of the night. That is to say, I mask a LOT. I want to be more true to myself, but I don't know specifically how. Everything's in a barrel with a lid that won't budge. where, specifically, would I start unmasking?
When she was talking about her hairstyle.. it remind me something that i saw, a lot of times in the last years. I saw a lot of young woman that are working on their hairs, makeup, style, thinking that being too girly means be weak, being a tomboy means be strong. The problem is that you take a normal feature and you convert it in a big part of your charachter, of your identity. It's hard for young girls, in this chaos, to find their identity. We are a decadent society, we are losing our identity. I don't think this girl have some big problem to solve, i just think that she's trying to find her normal state of mind using their resources and tools. She can do it but she just needs some other tools, not a big deal. She will be okay. It's just my opinion. But i hope that some people will lose this habit to take a detail of their charachter and use it to identify is something (victim, a weak, etc) because you are accidentally hiding yourself behind this identity, and we love you for who you are, we want to see you.
He's missing something. I'm not sure exactly how to put it, but others' approval does matter to some degree. It matters less today, with our hugely interconnected yet largely anonymous society, but for most of human history, survival has depended to a large degree on the approval of our peers. Loss of approval still means loss of opportunities today. He has a point, but he's completely dismissing a whole counterpoint that's actually legitimate and important that I would like to hear him address.
Yeh there's some good stuff in these vids but the overall message is too simplistic. The whole 'just be yourself' thing sounds great, but applying that ethos every second of every day would mean being completely honest in everything you say and do at all times, risking the very likely scenario of ending up ostracised from even previously close friends and family, as you suddenly went from maintaining a level of sincerity while being protective of their feelings to the kind of outright bluntness that i'm afraid very few people, if any, can handle, even if they claim otherwise. Ideally we could all go around saying exactly what we think but we simply aren't wired that way by nature - it's as natural as sex, eating food etc. As i say, there are some worthwhile pointers in amongst all this, but life's too complex to have solutions to all problems, and there's also a reason these sorts of self-help seminars have been satirised so often...can't help thinking of the simpsons episode 'barts inner child'. Despite the humour, it pretty much nails what would happen in society if we all just started to 'do what we feel like' lol.
Basically she became cute and people treat her better. Im bulky with beard and average looking and people treat me like im a threat so I cope with people by being people pleaser
Hi julien, i am having troubles becoming life of the party i want to be popular in class and i want everyone to know my name and everyone to like me any tips?
hey the actual person in the video here! The thing is what I've realized that if you dress and express the way you feel most like yourself it'll work like a magnet. Attracting the people that fit with you and repel the people who do not fit with you. It makes making friends all the more easier.
When I was a child when I got smacked I mocked my parents to do it again until the wooden spoon broked then I laughed and slammed the door. I didnt look for approval then and not now as an adult. I was the bad child of the three.
Let’s cut the bullshit we all like approval more than disapproval we like it so much we can boost our self confidence alone or seek it from others but it’s a necessity in order to feel good and feel less like shit. He also talks about identity and habits when he mentions why we try to look different from others because we want to express our freedom and the screaming exercise the girl does is linked to trauma because maybe she’s very introvert and is not use to center attention or maybe how her parents raised her to be very quiet and refrain from yelling. Personally I don’t like disappointing people only when made an oath not out of fear we just need to decide where we can fit in society to feel good enough to serve some beneficial way
So ur saying don't look for proval and don't fear the disproval always looks to ur self not to there proval or disproval and if there proval or disproval comes to ur way just deal with it and don't complain. If it hurts u let it go if it like benefits u it's ok enjoy. That what u saying julien?.
I can confirm he's real, I was behind him and he was talking through Julien and then Julien berated him. He turned red as a tomato--I would feel bad for him but he then tried to make a point out of it again later lol. Very clear instance of ego problems
I wonder whether i radicalize your teachings, maybe I'm taking them too far or i simply misunderstood your teachings from the start, why do i need to confirm whether I'm doing good or not why don't i take my word for things? Do i perhaps dont trust myself, in letting go what should i do, am i thinking too much? i wonder whether i need to realize that i think too hard or i don't think hard enough ? Do i need to realize anything? A world where i have to take the word of others not my own that is a world i have chose to live in but can i choose to live in one where i know my word is enough ,there it is again the word enough i seem to somehow always come to this am i doing enough am i good enough , why do i even have to make you a question im getting angry just thinking about it, why do you believe you are not enough why do you believe there's always something wrong with you, always something to fix can you imagine such a world were you are good enough and this can never be questioned you simply are by the mere fact that you exist, a world were there's nothing to fix because theres nothing wrong with you
Julien bro, HOW, do you not care about how everything affects you? Like you say, wear clothes that will trigger you, and then learn to LET GO of that, so it doesn’t affect yourself. How do you, “Let go”, of something that matters? Like, I don’t get it. How do I simply not care, about wearing a ratty old t-shirt at a wedding dinner party? Why should we disassociate with how, clothing, which is an extension of our body, aka an extension of our self, affects us? And how is it even possible to not let everything affect you? Do you just practice it so much, it doesn’t matter anymore? How does your choice of clothing at a certain point, “not matter”? Doesn’t everything matter? Why not just wear clothes we love and feel good in? Why should we make it “not matter”? Why not take it a step further and cut off your arm. Doesn’t it “not matter” bro? Why let that arm affect us? Don’t be a slave to having 2 arms bro?
I came to this conclusion no matter what you did or will do or does, people find you less attractive unless you copy their interests or give them the control button of your life Even you did so They will find another hole to still make you under their mercy 👣🦷
But Julian.... In a work place for instance disapproval and ostracism can be an objectively bad thing that can make or break your future. As you know, as social animals, tribal animals, ostracism is bad. It can mean total ruin. Liss of job. Bullying in the work place. Destroyed menyal health. How do I get past all this? I can barely speak at work because of this. Heeelllllppppp lol
Mmmh.... not sure about this... you don't build courage and being able to stand alone on a mind decision. It builds over time, and progressively, because you are pushed by the circumstances to do so... The same way, you don't destroy centuries of convention just by will... it has consequences... i'm not saying it's bad though! Just that it takes, realistically, more time than this... Ask martial arts people or soldiers... or professional dancers and singers... or any person who needs courage on a daily basis to be able to function at their job or school ! I was bullied at school, and at some point, i realized that i was alone with that... no choice but being courageous and patient for everything to end...
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Sounds are vibrations, you physically seen her facial expressions change from the boos to the cheers...we chase the positive vibrations which in turn are SOUNDS...who doesn't want to have positive vibrations instead of negative ones?? Poppy cock
Julien, I’m Ali I went through the mentoring about a month/2 months ago. I want to let you know that I’m seeing spectacular results from releasing, it’s so insane I can’t even believe it. To anyone reading this it’s a testimonial that proves Julien knows his shit and his letting go method really works. Forever grateful and blessed thank you Julien🙏
Hey, man! That's AMAZING to hear! So happy for you!! 🙌
Much love father J💚💚
Do you have any key takeaways you have learnt? I'm on the journey myself
Can I get your snap or way of contact I wanna ask you some questions
@@obi-wankenobi1419 You can’t solve you’re emotional problems analytically, you solve/heal them by feeling. Also you need to use different introspection techniques to become aware of deep rooted stuff. And also taking your time with releasing and extending the meditations not just rushing through them. This is just a couple but I’ve been following Julien since 2020 and simply knew what he was talking about, but now I’ve actually experienced it. You can’t do this alone I suggest you join his mentoring as you’ll be guided and mentored and make sure you’re applying his teachings correctly:)
I saw when people boo her, she didn`t do nothing, but when they cheer her a nice smile popped up :)
Good awareness... 👌
I think that you right I would feel the same, becasue it comes from the world "SHAME'' like one time people by my side and i am happy and other one is not smily face beacause people hate me
@@EranMesilati Either way you are on your side, and when you think of that it takes all the weight off…
@@licho2941 its all about spending time with yourself and get it strong and connected inside out then the world outside change
I don't agree, I actually noticed a smile on her during the boo, and she was looking straight ahead at the crowd. During the cheer she seemed more withdrawn, sort of hiding and her smile seemed a little off.
Hi! This was me in Amsterdam. It was a wonderful experience and very scary but eye opening at the same time :)
I feel this was a particularly insightful video, because (caution: approval) you did a good job answereing back and sharing your view and understanding.
Particularly around 6:00 and 15:00, and at the same time you didn't shy away from saying "i don't feel right now, i freeze".
I could sense, when he asked you why you were "scared by him", that might have been so, because he is a guy who worked so much on himself and on letting go and to him it seems so easy, yet its not that easy for you especially on stage.
Maybe one feels bad for not having achieved the same things yet, somehow feeling bad about feeling bad and not just being able to work through it on the spot.
I have a friend of mine, like my uncle i never had somehow, who is quite a mindset and coping mentor to me, but i sometimes struggle not to feel bad and judged about me struggeling and not being able to incoorporate the advice and just be like him.
But in the end its just hard and honest work we have in front of us, and results come up in the process.
The obligatory screaming part was especially great to see, as i could really feel the toughness of the situation and that he pushed you.
You were nearly fed up and thinking "duh, obviously just let go.. if it was that easy dude, tell me something new".
But i think that was quite the necessary level of inner anger or frustration to answer to the question "why am i really not able to scream?" and push through and be yourself.
This was really, as i said, helpful to watch.
Sorry for rambling.
It's been 1 year i have been watching julien videos to be honest i've never seen any girl more cute than you. you have a great hidden energy inside i hope you find it✊
I saw you were basically the only one taking notes there as well, respect!
@@Ahmed_R_46 ty!
Good job ✌🏻
I think we’re so attached to approval from others is because they may be the link to our survival for food, water, social status etc…. That’s why it’s hard to break
Yeah, approval from the tribe versus banishment from the tribe. The latter almost certainly meaning death if we go back to the time we were still living as hunter gatherers.
@@TheGeneralDisarraythat’s why we need to work on detaching. Thats no longer the case, and it’s therefore not a useful skill to have so we can let it go.
But thats why being attached to approval or effected by disapproval is a warning for others especially for women because they feel your status in your social circle can be taken away easily
I always felt that this issue goes deeper than simply being ego driven. We have this primal survival instinct that creates a need to be accepted and to feel that we are part of a community. That's why being rejected sometimes creates a feeling of dread, as if we are in danger of dying.
"The bird sleeps peacefully not because it trust the branch, but because it trusts it's ability to fly!" - this works for me, by cultivating competence and gathering as much experience as possible creates a basis in reality for confidence to take root, and that confidence that I can survive on my own is what helps me not care about what other people think/say. The problem is that I never feel safe enough: economically, emotionally, or physically.
The trap you're falling into here is that you're cultivating situational confidence VS core confidence... Watch this: th-cam.com/video/qRnX09SYiDs/w-d-xo.html 👌
@@JulienHimself thank you, very informative!
Dude. My jaw dropped when she released her hair. Its beautiful.
Wow! That last yell was louder. Seems like she didn’t want to be the only one yelling. Proud of her. This was great.
You always appear at the right exact time man.
Glad to hear my content is helpful with what you're going through! 🙏
What helped me get to this point was self love. Being there for myself, understanding and having compassion for myself, makes it easier not to rely on others for emotional regulation. I enjoy when people like me, I observe the feelings of fear when they dont, but there is a stillness of security within myself underneath those waves on the surface. I think thats what Julien is pointing at in this exercise
Your words here are my own, friend! Thank you for sharing. Congrats to you! It feels so good, doesn't it? Blessings from Austin ❤️🔥
You know, I think your content is so much deeper and better than usual self-help content that everyone sells.
So much deeper. More like awakening. But not so strange as buddizm. Like it
Julien your teaching’s have truly changed my life. For all my life I felt like I wasn’t good enough but loving myself and feeling good enough is the foundation of my life and nothing affects my self worth, thank you Julian 👊💪
Amazing to hear! Congrats on your progress! 🔥👊
Julien your style is like me when I was 12 yr old. Bored at home alone exploring my mom’s wardrobe 🤣🤣 I love it ❤
I love the message and what it's about. Though, there was once a study from japan where an experiment was held with waterplants being cursed at regularly or saying beloved things regularly. The plants which were being cursed at began to die and to rot and the other ones were getting stronger. I do believe there is power in words and frequencies they convey - but at the same time you still decide what has power over you.
that’s absolutely false and never happened lmao, if you actually knew how science worked you would realise that that is impossible. words do not effect plants lmaooo.
I agree, that study got debunked, just another example where they wanted the hipothesis to be true so they interpreted the data in a way that justified the original premise.
Masaru Emotos experiments still hold true. Words matter.
Things do change when they're observed, and it also depends on the intention behind the observation. Check out the double slit experiment. Julien's message is very helpful, although I agree that outside influence DOES change you initially (booing evokes shame, natural human survival strategy)... But having a secure sense of self acts as an anchor through those feelings of elation or fear.
Yes. The brightest minds, such as tesla, understood this. There is indeed power in this. We can measure the voltage of emotions, and the body is an electrical, organic machine. @Morale_Booster
This channel deserves so much more exposure and it's actually so necessary in these times.
I came back to this video four times and I cannot hold back longer, I have to write it out...
First of all, I have to get this out of the picture: I cannot be more creeped out by myself how incredibly beautiful I find her. Although, it doesnt matter. I also LOVE her hair, but that doesnt matter either.
She seems to be exceptionally clever. I am not an expert by any means, but the way she handles herself, her thoughts, makes me think of her as a science major of some sort.
Either way, I really hope, she finds what she is looking for and never logic her life into anything harmful. I hope she is at least as OK as she states, but I have a bad feeling, but I might be just self-reflecting.
Logic is a great tool, but you have to be in peace with, and be kind to yourself too.
Thank you for your kind words! I actually study game art (i basically make games) :)
These exercises are so meaningful and powerful. The "giving yourself permission" and resistance is crazy. Good for the participant for sticking with it and awesome for Julien to continuing to push, but in small steps. Love this stuff.
Im a brown belt in my karate class, which means that sometimes my sensei will allow me to lead the class. I remember this one time when I was trying to teach the class how to do a kia, and I was very surprised by how few were willing to do it. Then I remembered how I first learned how to kia and how ridiculous it made me feel. However, after a while of shouting like that, I've let go of that embarrassment. I think I might recommend some of my classmates this video as I think it might greatly help them. I enjoyed watching it.
Why don't you try and teach them the way that Julien is? Pass it on yourself, you have the knowledge. It would be more impactful that way and empower your students.
Thank god we got Julien in this universe the guy changes people's life!
🙏🙏
Yes!
We are so caught up in struggling in life that we want to make it easier on ourselves
Only take advice from someone you want to be like? Evaluate the person giving the advice and make sure you want to be like them. Is this guy a good role model? Have a blessed day! Get that confidence!
@didiermauricelbg brutal in what way? Just trying to explore your opinion a bit more. I'm still trying to decide personally if he's actually in it to help people or if it's all about money/status/power. It's kind of difficult to tell. But it sure does look like he has a fun life!
Hello Julian, the fear of disapproval I and most people I speak experience is not that the sunglasses do meet approval but the fact that that because of that they will be put in the drawer or thrown away. That means careers, life opportunities and benefits for us and our love ones.
This girl is stunning
Yeah, she’s gorgeous
I'm grateful that this channel popped up in my yt feed
Been struggling with social anxiety since forever. Last week I started going at a cafe and I started talking to the girl working there. I started joking and asking her about herself,her job etc. The 3rd time I went I kept the same tactic and at some point I asked her out but she ignored my offer. The other day, I met a girl via social media. We met in person she stayed for 30 minutes then when I asked her for our next date she said she was busy twice. I'm sad and angry at the same time. But I understand that I can do nothing about it. I just give up wear my sunglasses at all times and keep endorsing myself
You want the right girl to say yes, though. Keep at it.
@@KristyRamirezgomez Yup. 2 weeks later I feel more comfortable but I still know that Im not a handsome man. I got used to being rejected,ignored so it doesnt really surprises me
Saving the world, one seminar at a time. Thanks Julien 👏
Yoo Julien,
Im letting go for 2 yrs now and found out a week ago about cocoa.
It helps so much with processing emotions I highly recommend trying it out!!!
I use about 20g raw cocoa powder and its crazy how it helps!!!
My relationship with the present: Watching Julien video full of lookers as participant from top ranked polluted city that actually ruins our facial appearance. Yet I should tell my self its the best life I could've gotten.
Julien i love these people on stage videos, please make them even more frequent!!!
You brought one of the last puzzle pieces to me, or TH-cam or what ever - both (you are *not* your algorithm!!)
but jokes aside: Thank you man and to the girl - You both delivered an answer to me I was creeping around for very long now. "Permission granted!"
So interesting to listen and watch. You post at divine timings, it's resonating 100%! I'm gratefull for being alive in the same time as Julien and the rest of the people who are teaching me, shining a Light, giving me that 'Ah..is this how it is' moment
i say this all the time YOUR IN CONTROL OF YOUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS ….
YOU ….. SO THAT MEANS IF SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING THAT YOU GET UPSET OVER THEN ITS YOUR OWN FAULT …… ACCEPT IT AND MOVE FORWARD……
PPL WILL DO WHAT THEY WANT IN THE END
Julien I've passed my exam and I wanna scream so loudddd 😂 scared of the lecturer's couldn't do it lol❤
Self esteem to me comes from social exercises. And also praying and getting out of the isolated comfort zone.
I'm kind of scared right now cause I'm going to travel for a better Job opportunity, and my family is against it.
Basically because of my safety and They don't know the Job I'm going for.
I've always been close to my mom and it feels as if I'm hurting her by going any way, I made a promise to her that I'll be responsible, I'm not used to doing something and people not agreeing with it.
Thank you for reading, I just needed to get it off my chest, I know I'm going to be fine and it'll work out, just that the fear of traveling alone for the first time at 21 is scary.
Thank you Julien, I know what you probably would say. THIS IS FOR ME ❤️🔥
Time and space are functions of ones conceptual scheme, consciousness is the fundamental reality
Check in with yourself every time it rains.
Me, in the UK.
Every 5 minutes it is then!
I always have low self esteem.. i came from poor family ..so when i met school ,college ..friends they dominated me.. i always hesitate to ask anything , tell anything.. in class room im not comfortable to walk alone ...i can't able to speak infront others ..while reading Anything in stage my body and hand started shivering.. due to this everyone laughted ..at me in class room.. after completed my degree..can't able atten any interview due to anxiety and now in office also if i'm attending any meeting... Same things repeated my hand started shaking and not able to communicate more than 1 minute and vocal not coming ..if i'm speaking in meeting more than 1 minute my voice is coming like crying in meeting...from the child hood i'm facing this issue ..anybody ..😢 plz tell how can i resolve this issues with me... ?
So much value value given for free thank you
25:45 should i do this exercise at home where my parents are sleep and let go of the bad feelings I would feel when they punish me 😆?
Julien, I smile as a coping mechanism, I can never say no to people, and i research body language in the middle of the night. That is to say, I mask a LOT. I want to be more true to myself, but I don't know specifically how. Everything's in a barrel with a lid that won't budge. where, specifically, would I start unmasking?
I really want to join your course hope this year i do
Your videos Helped me tremendously
Glad to hear my free content has been so helpful! Just wait until you experience my premium content in my courses... 😉
When she was talking about her hairstyle.. it remind me something that i saw, a lot of times in the last years. I saw a lot of young woman that are working on their hairs, makeup, style, thinking that being too girly means be weak, being a tomboy means be strong. The problem is that you take a normal feature and you convert it in a big part of your charachter, of your identity. It's hard for young girls, in this chaos, to find their identity. We are a decadent society, we are losing our identity. I don't think this girl have some big problem to solve, i just think that she's trying to find her normal state of mind using their resources and tools. She can do it but she just needs some other tools, not a big deal. She will be okay.
It's just my opinion. But i hope that some people will lose this habit to take a detail of their charachter and use it to identify is something (victim, a weak, etc) because you are accidentally hiding yourself behind this identity, and we love you for who you are, we want to see you.
when u think you are born with the "second bad" personality. '
your confident starts going down. (comes from your childhood)
He's missing something. I'm not sure exactly how to put it, but others' approval does matter to some degree. It matters less today, with our hugely interconnected yet largely anonymous society, but for most of human history, survival has depended to a large degree on the approval of our peers. Loss of approval still means loss of opportunities today. He has a point, but he's completely dismissing a whole counterpoint that's actually legitimate and important that I would like to hear him address.
Yeh there's some good stuff in these vids but the overall message is too simplistic. The whole 'just be yourself' thing sounds great, but applying that ethos every second of every day would mean being completely honest in everything you say and do at all times, risking the very likely scenario of ending up ostracised from even previously close friends and family, as you suddenly went from maintaining a level of sincerity while being protective of their feelings to the kind of outright bluntness that i'm afraid very few people, if any, can handle, even if they claim otherwise. Ideally we could all go around saying exactly what we think but we simply aren't wired that way by nature - it's as natural as sex, eating food etc. As i say, there are some worthwhile pointers in amongst all this, but life's too complex to have solutions to all problems, and there's also a reason these sorts of self-help seminars have been satirised so often...can't help thinking of the simpsons episode 'barts inner child'. Despite the humour, it pretty much nails what would happen in society if we all just started to 'do what we feel like' lol.
Hey, Julien happy belated Easter!
as soon as they booed i feel devastating and uneasy, but i dont feel any on the clap
Thank you ❤❤❤❤
The cleanest most fluent boo I’ve ever heard haha
I kid you not, I have added jackets like the one Julien is wearing to my Pinterest board of clothing I would like to sew and wear 😂
Basically she became cute and people treat her better. Im bulky with beard and average looking and people treat me like im a threat so I cope with people by being people pleaser
have you ever tried to do the screaming exercise, and they scream loud on the first go?
asking the real questions
Good Job Julian!!
“yeah, you’re big and you’re shape” there’s something so funny about that 4:24
Great work Mr. Tyler Durden!
no Tyler was the other guy. IYKYK
Hi julien, i am having troubles becoming life of the party i want to be popular in class and i want everyone to know my name and everyone to like me any tips?
Does when someone doing the letting go , feels light but after a while tire??
observations don’t change things
Shes beautiful ❤😊
Notification Squad!🔥🔥🔥
Boom! 🔥🔥🔥
How do you adapt this for neurodivergent people, who have vastly different brain chemistry,
that’s so cold thank youuuu
11:55 Exactly
Notification squad !!
🔥🔥
"You still you" save my day from rejected moment, Thanks Julien 🙂
She is so beautiful with her hair down and she doesn't even know it.
"Once I live up to my potential, I'll get the clap!" That didn't quite come out right. 😅
Will there be any shows in germany? ❤🎉
Yes! 👉 www.noanxietytour.com
HOLYYY SHIT @THE ALARM THIBG
JULIEN UR A WIZARDDDDD!!!!
#GENIUS
❤
i can relate to her i m tomboy too and i feel like i am going against the norm or society and i feel everybody hates me for that .
hey the actual person in the video here! The thing is what I've realized that if you dress and express the way you feel most like yourself it'll work like a magnet. Attracting the people that fit with you and repel the people who do not fit with you. It makes making friends all the more easier.
@@zhonglikinnie5198 Hello. I want to tell you that you are the most beautiful and natural girl I have ever seen. :)
Can anyone find what her necklace is? Im in love
what about failure?
When I was a child when I got smacked I mocked my parents to do it again until the wooden spoon broked then I laughed and slammed the door. I didnt look for approval then and not now as an adult. I was the bad child of the three.
Letting go of letting go? Been stuck on it for awhile
Let’s cut the bullshit we all like approval more than disapproval we like it so much we can boost our self confidence alone or seek it from others but it’s a necessity in order to feel good and feel less like shit. He also talks about identity and habits when he mentions why we try to look different from others because we want to express our freedom and the screaming exercise the girl does is linked to trauma because maybe she’s very introvert and is not use to center attention or maybe how her parents raised her to be very quiet and refrain from yelling. Personally I don’t like disappointing people only when made an oath not out of fear we just need to decide where we can fit in society to feel good enough to serve some beneficial way
I am not able to figure out how to thank you 🙏
Julien you remind me of Mickey Rourke in the 80s!
so people used to talk to me like in my age group and now its like I dont exist when Im out and about doing my own thing
"Why are you not giving yourself permission?" I asked myself this but im scared of making myself vulnerable :(
Gotta get that clap
Julien My Dude, you should make a collab/video with Matt Cross (M*) from The 33 Secrets 👍👊😎
So ur saying don't look for proval and don't fear the disproval always looks to ur self not to there proval or disproval and if there proval or disproval comes to ur way just deal with it and don't complain. If it hurts u let it go if it like benefits u it's ok enjoy. That what u saying julien?.
Best thing to master detachment, do some special k. Do a couple rails, your good to go.
That girl had such a cute personality
2:24 why does bro walking out look photoshoped/edited into the video at this moment? 😂
I can confirm he's real, I was behind him and he was talking through Julien and then Julien berated him. He turned red as a tomato--I would feel bad for him but he then tried to make a point out of it again later lol. Very clear instance of ego problems
@@rubenmeijerink4266so they cut that part out huh?
I won’t lie I don’t think ANYONE related when he said “bird nest” lol
I wonder whether i radicalize your teachings, maybe I'm taking them too far or i simply misunderstood your teachings from the start, why do i need to confirm whether I'm doing good or not why don't i take my word for things? Do i perhaps dont trust myself, in letting go what should i do, am i thinking too much? i wonder whether i need to realize that i think too hard or i don't think hard enough ? Do i need to realize anything? A world where i have to take the word of others not my own that is a world i have chose to live in but can i choose to live in one where i know my word is enough ,there it is again the word enough i seem to somehow always come to this am i doing enough am i good enough , why do i even have to make you a question im getting angry just thinking about it, why do you believe you are not enough why do you believe there's always something wrong with you, always something to fix can you imagine such a world were you are good enough and this can never be questioned you simply are by the mere fact that you exist, a world were there's nothing to fix because theres nothing wrong with you
Julien bro, HOW, do you not care about how everything affects you? Like you say, wear clothes that will trigger you, and then learn to LET GO of that, so it doesn’t affect yourself.
How do you, “Let go”, of something that matters? Like, I don’t get it. How do I simply not care, about wearing a ratty old t-shirt at a wedding dinner party? Why should we disassociate with how, clothing, which is an extension of our body, aka an extension of our self, affects us? And how is it even possible to not let everything affect you? Do you just practice it so much, it doesn’t matter anymore? How does your choice of clothing at a certain point, “not matter”? Doesn’t everything matter? Why not just wear clothes we love and feel good in? Why should we make it “not matter”? Why not take it a step further and cut off your arm. Doesn’t it “not matter” bro? Why let that arm affect us? Don’t be a slave to having 2 arms bro?
Letting go is a process
Done at a quiet place similar to meditation
I came to this conclusion
no matter what you did or will do or does, people find you less attractive unless you copy their interests or give them the control button of your life
Even you did so
They will find another hole to still make you under their mercy
👣🦷
Bro I feel like crap what do I do
Some of us didnt get enough oxytocin in childhood, so...
This is westernproblem i feel. Here in India before the westernisati9n happened , everyone had their own way of living.
But Julian.... In a work place for instance disapproval and ostracism can be an objectively bad thing that can make or break your future. As you know, as social animals, tribal animals, ostracism is bad. It can mean total ruin. Liss of job. Bullying in the work place. Destroyed menyal health. How do I get past all this? I can barely speak at work because of this. Heeelllllppppp lol
Action
Trigger
Release
Repeat
like everything it's a choice wow so supriseed. Wake up
That boo hurt my feelings. Lmao
AAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaagggghhhhh...that feels better!🤣
Mmmh.... not sure about this... you don't build courage and being able to stand alone on a mind decision. It builds over time, and progressively, because you are pushed by the circumstances to do so... The same way, you don't destroy centuries of convention just by will... it has consequences... i'm not saying it's bad though! Just that it takes, realistically, more time than this... Ask martial arts people or soldiers... or professional dancers and singers... or any person who needs courage on a daily basis to be able to function at their job or school ! I was bullied at school, and at some point, i realized that i was alone with that... no choice but being courageous and patient for everything to end...
Link me that jacket lol
She's so cute
thx :)