Throw guilt to the wind | Barry Kerzin | TEDxSaoPaulo
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- Barry Kerzin explains there is no word in Tibetan language for "guilt" and the concept of guilt does not exist in Buddhism. He tells us to throw guilt to the wind and liberate ourselves from the feeling of guilt. Barry Kerzin is an American physician and Buddhist monk. He serves as a personal physician to the 14th Dalai Lama, along with treating people in the local community. He has written Tibetan Buddhist Prescription for Happiness, and with the Dalai Lama and Prof. Tonagawa, Mind and Matter: Dialogue between Two Nobel Laureates. He has also written Nagarjuna’s Wisdom: A Guide to Practice, Compassion-Bridging Practice and Science and No Fear No Death: The Transformative Power of Compassion. Barry is a fellow at the Mind and Life Institute and consults for the Max Planck Institute in Leipzig on compassion training. He is the founder and president of the Altruism in Medicine Institute (AIMI) and the founder and chairman of the Human Values Institute (HVI) in Japan. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
my sister did the arabic subtitles for this video ~~ so proud and happy
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I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
So guilt in not innate, it's a learned behavior. I wish I could unlearn. ✌️☘️
You can. Im a western. Brazilian.. here we also have this kimd of guilt of not being enogh. More often refferening to social aspects. When you start understand the buddhism teachings with very patience. Well patience and time. You can understand and feel it. Meditanting for example.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
So wonderful this monk!
Thank you so much
Guilt is there to make you stop the mistakes you make . But you don't have to feel guilty to change. But you need to know right from wrong. Guilt makes us want to fix things. If it stays, leave it and let it go. Regrets, well do better, shame, do better. So guilt, DO BETTER, this is if you made a mistake. Not other cases unless it matches and works too. But if it is not pushing you to change what you did wrong it is useless, if you keep feeling guilty over and over. No point If you do not change it. If your not gonna change it, well why live with guilt. Guilt does seem pointless. But if it leads you to repent from wrong doing, it was worth it and good to have even though it did not feel good.
I am sorry cause it's not that easy.
Its a practicable thing
Milarepa felt guilt. Now where is your assertion?
this guy's what feynman would call a faker
Excuse me ,he is a qualified docter .