I really enjoyed this video especially now in my 30's when I'm beginning to fully understand the beauty and the commitment it takes to navigate quality female friendships. Jbums is really a wealth of knowledge.
I'm not the type to comment, but this video brought back some memories of a friendship break up I had, a 10 years friendship ,no closure till now , I do miss her , but I'm tired of being the one calling for reconciliation , especially since I was the one she hurt this time.
I didn't know if I was going to be interested in this video because I didn't know your guest. Immediately she answered friendship is community, I picked my note book. I have a whole page of notes in the middle part of the video already 🤗🤗 WHAT! ❤️ THIS ONLY HAPPENS WHEN 2 INTELLIGENT GODLY WOMAN COLLIDE... God bless🙏🏾🙏🏾🙇🏾♀️
This beautiful soul of a guest has an aura of raw humility and Bible practicality, selflessness and understanding which emanates and showcases her deep relationship with the Holy Spirit. I am in awe. No self aggrandisement and the popular self worship termed "self love". No "false humility" or trying to fine tune one s shortcomings other than presenting our personal struggles to God as they really are and as God really sees it and which alone will lead to Him actually intervening in a person s life to effect a remodelling from inside out; onto the PURITY OF HEART that Jesus well buttressed in the Bible. This lady is a stack exhibition of Jesus ' s kind of love for men as written in exact words in the Bible. I have a deficit of words to describe what I see in this daughter of God that you brought to us as a guest, Tolu. God bless you. I am truly blessed. Since the proud shall be resisted by God while the humble be exalted, so shall it be for this our guest. That's all I can say.
My bestest friend woke up one day and blocked me on all socials. Not a closure, not a conversation, not 1 quarrel for the time we knew each other, I was a good friend to her, I prayed for her, I listened to her and I can't remember hurting her in any way ( I would've even appreciated a communication to apologize). She never said anything to me. I was totally hurt and still hurting for over a year now. Does it mean our friendship didn't mean anything to her? She left me at my lowest point and yep! I was depressed and lonely. I called our mutual friend, called her Mum and nothing was said. I cry as I type because honestly she was the one person I could forgive for anything in this world but, I guess this is life. I wish her the best.
Love me some jbums aka Mrs Black! A big IG fan! Female friendship as a topic is dear to my heart, as I realize many adult women, particularly above 30s and beyond, have a hard time understanding being intentional about friendship. It’s important to understand that there are diff levels of friendship too. Consistency, creating a safe space and being vulnerable are very vital to friendship. Friendship is a place to show God’s love. You give first, not in response but because God has placed you in their life and blessed you with that responsibility. Too many ladies are waiting for the other to make the first move. “Oh I will give her child a gift, because she gave mine first” “Oh I invited her to lunch last month, so she must invite me this month” Naah, that’s not friendship should be. You give first, not because you expect anything in return, but it’s God’s way. I see friendship the way I see other ships in my life, As an ambassador of Christ, I am reppin Christ in your life. This means there are many ppl I am friendly with, but there are few ppl I consider my close friends. Read that again, and know the difference. Know the difference between acquaintances and regular friends and the difference between those, and your inner circle of close friends. The length of the friendship isn’t as important as the quality! I am closer to one I have known for 3 years vs. one I have known for 20 years. Someone once asked me how to define friendship, and I asked “Can you trust your children with them?”, like can you leave your kids with them for a few days, and know they would go far and beyond to make sure they are ok? If you can’t, then it may mean you have to invest more in that friendship, or find others that you can. If you desire that kind of friend, then pray and step out. Be that kind of friend, and God will reward you accordingly with someone who will do the same for you.
The part where JBums said ‘maybe the person is not worth fighting for’. That really hit hard😫, I allow some friendships end when it is not doing me good
Came back to watch this video again. I met Jbums on this channel for this first time when this video dropped and I've loved her since then. Grateful to God for these women that are indirectly shaping lives of a lot of young girls like me. I love you both so muchhhhh ❤️
I so agree with that "soulmate" in female friendship. When I was younger, my best friend used the term "twin flame" and I didn't quite get it. As I mature in my faith, I understood it. We can both sense when one person is having a challenging time faith wise, and pray each other up.
I'm like J-Bums, Friendship is extremely important to me. I honestly believe God does not want us to do life alone. At every stage in my life, asides from my old friends, God always sends me a friend. It's a pattern I have learnt to recognize. So when I'm in a new season or phase, I ordinarily look out for that person(s) and if I'm not able to readily recognise the person, I pray to God to reveal the person.
Out do in love and friendship! It's not just marriage you do these things. I totally love it! Friendships are a big deal, and a good thing. Serve people, take relationships seriously, be the friend you want them to be, submit your heart to the Lord. Waiting for part 2. Love you both❤️
I can totally relate. Female friendships mehn... My mantra now is take what the person is giving to you and evaluate how much you can give without getting hurt. Always found myself bending over backwards for others and never reciprocated even after complaining about it. I just write in my journal now, reach out to people when I can and talk to God.
I asked God to heal me from friendship hurts and he showed me this video🥺😭 First of all this is the beginning of the healing because for him to lead me here. I’m going to have to rewatch this video severally for every advice, lessons and encouragement to sink in God bless you Mrs Bunmi. When one stays through a training process you will know. God has trained you and taught you a lot and I love it
First off, the make up on you both is on fleeekkk 😍😍😍😍😍 Then the wisdom that is our IG Bestie! Jbums 🙌🏾 woooshhhh 🔥🔥🔥 Thank you for blessing us, God bless you ma'am
This conversation is definitely light in many forms...when Jbums said some friendship are irreplaceable, I legit felt it, pride will say otherwise but just an understanding that we're all flawed makes it easier especially knowing that the other friend is also accountable to God.
I'm that kind of friend who give chances, I have pals but just a friend and that gladys, one of the best thing 2019 gave me, met her in church and I just came to that church and we spoke like we knew like 10 years ago. Gladys and I have literally have been through a lot together, I remember when my name didn't come out for my school admission list, as if you knew I was so sad that day, it was evening she called and pray with and for me, that night I checked my school portal and saw I was granted admission, i called her and told her and we both cried together on the phone because she was in school then. Gladys loves me too much and I do even more. I'm in tears now because gladys is not just a friend to me but a sister, she's a treasure God dropped in my life, I cherish and honour gladys so much with so much love, I don't joke with her. Though we don give each other break fast😂😂 but we thank God helping us sailing in this sisterhood, there is no one that can replace Gladys. We have a motto that we are soulmates until the God brings ou original soulmates 😂😂. We talk about everything and anything and what I admire in our sisterhood is that we involve God in any conversation we have and we might not even speak for weeks and when we do it just like we continue from where we stopped. I love you Akpevwe( Her native name🤗)
Beautiful women! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. It's so true that our friendships mirror our relationship with God, when we act in love and with pure intentions its a lot easier to navigate tough seasons. I am super thankful for my core friends.
Same thing I said to a friend, if we can keep relationships with our partner and family then good friendship is worth being committed to🥰Thank you solutions and jbums🙏
Watching this made me realise I have been focused to protecting myself than being humble and reaching out to someone who hurt me few years ago, but I will try. Scared of how it will go, but I won’t let my ego hold me back.
This topic is extremely underrated. Thank you both for sharing your insights on this. Everything in life is intentional and friendships are not excluded. As much as lack of understanding, pride and co can get in the way, thank God for His Grace to be able to navigate these issues in friendships.
God! This video is givinggggggg! Video Quality, makeup, outfits, beaurie, video editing, wisdom, everything! Love it! Tapping into this beautiful wholesome godly female friendship. Thank you for sharing this amazing content. Love you Solutions and Jbums 💗
Thank you ladies for such insightful perspective. I have definitely learned a thing or two from your conversation today. Female friendships are extremely complex and from my experience evolves with age, life altering events (marraige, kids, moving from being single to married) and when people move to a different city. True friendships will survive any change. Some people have many besties and some people only have one - Like Oprah she only has one best friend - Gayle! and we can see how mutually enriching and beneficial their relationship have been for over 50 yrs so much that they finish each other’s sentences! True rewarding friendships are orchestrated by God. I don’t use the word “friend” loosely anymore. Calling someone my friend has taken a new meaning for me and when I decided to do an inventory on my friendships I was shocked to see that I actually don’t have any friend only acquaintances that I labelled as friends. When I discovered what true friendship entails I realised that my friendship with the women in my life were one sided me giving to much and not getting the same in return. When I discovered that I had no real friends around me I made a decision to pray for destiny helpers and asked God to put the right people in my life and give me the wisdom to discern them. Female friendships are complex and only God can truly surround you with the right people that would be a mutually beneficial and rewarding friendship. It is well and thanks again for a great video
Female friendship are so so so so hard mehn, its been a rollercoaster, loved every piece of this! May God lead us to meaningful & loving friendships and preserve existing ones.
The biblical reconcilation thing is so true,this female friendship thingy is a course to be studied.I recently made a video around this topic on my channel and listening to you both speak such wisdom ,thank you Jbums for sharing so much with team solutions,we appreciate you💎Thank you Aunty Tee for bringing her on❤
I think I'm more like Solutions. I'm guarded and would have just been a family person ; just my husband, kids and I. But learning from Jbums today and I'm now open to female friendships that God has for me. Learning so much from this video.
Jbums is such a people person. Omo. She loves human beings very much and shows it and I envy that. I can't relate. I'm always guarded. Can't let people show me pepper. Big ups Jbums, you dey try.
I'm one of those people who built a wall based on bad friendship break ups and it helped me when another friend did the same thing to me. I have resolved to have several close friends rather than one bestie. Also, I think I gravitate more towards male friendship and people who are older than me and I have no regrets there. Hopefully, I can develop better female frienships.
I don't even know where to start commenting from based on my experiences, I even started crying at some point of watching but I know my healing will be complete. I learnt a lot from this video, thank you Jbums and Aunty T for this ❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗
I’ve been a team solutions for three years but this is my first time of dropping a comment. I looooooove this collaboration. Thank you for making this video and you are looking so beautiful solutions mama🥰 ( In PG’s voice) We love you jbums😍
JBUMS is my girl. Love love her emphasis on involving God in every nook and corner. God-fearing friends will hear God's opinion concerning their relationships which will in turn lead to healthy relationships
Ha, Tolulope, this your friend is very passionate about friendship o!🤣🤣🤣 The way she’s talking and the words she uses are very deep! But I enjoyed listening to her sha. Makes me reflect on a lot of things. I have never taken any kind of relationship (even marriage) as seriously as she’s made it look and I’m here wondering if I’m normal like this!😂😂 I just always believe that most friendships are for times and seasons and when a relationship is falling apart, I just let go…
Now thank you so much for this! We need more of these conversations, I hear and get feedbacks on my friendship/conversation segment, especially from the younger-age circle and I believe there’s need for great conversations to help shape the whole idea & understanding of friendship. Oh, how deep this is! Friendship may be a lot, but when we realize how important it is to discern reasons and seasons for people in your life per time, it makes it easier to know that on some days, in this hood, we extend grace to others and on other days, grace is to be extended to us knowing that no one is perfect but all parties are ready to put in the work in form of love, communication & sacrifice😊🤗. Thanks to you both for having this conversation. 🙏🥰🥰 Welldone Sisterly💯
Beautiful content, so heartfelt, it's even like you are in therapy..... I've found that I'm not a 'bestie' person but l have a couple of good friends and I am a loyal person.... I've tried to do these besties things because I admire people with besties alot but l've found that I do not have the energy and commitment to pour myself into someone and I'm at peace with that fact. Reading Job 39, l'll like to say in this life, it's good for one to know their uniqueness, know their place and stay in their lane.
I loved this conversation. This friendship breakup topic is so underrated. Can't wait for part 2. My major takeaway was "be the friend you want to have, serve your friends the way you want to be served".
I totally relate with this discussion,I fell out with my cousin/friend in 2019,she wasn’t just family to me she was my best friend.we were extremely close.she did me so dirty I just decided to shut her out completely.I haven’t crossed paths with her since then .Of recent I have come across tons of videos about forgiveness and all,I don’t know if God is trying to tell me something??That friendship breakout hurt me so bad.This fall out just made me keep to myself more I have not made one single friend since 2019 which I am not proud of
This particular topic is very dear to my heart! Thank you for bringing this up, Solutions. Bunmi definitely did justice to the topic. Female friendships/sisterhoods are truly God's gifts and I'm on the lookout for part 2 ✋✋✋✋✋✋✋✋ (how many hands are you gonna be needing? 😅)
Wow. Wow. Wow. Thank you so much for this. I've never opened my heart to friendships because I had my share of hurts when I was young but lately, HS has been bringing me to this topic and this video did it for me. I'm starting afresh and hoping to meet destiny friends and besties on the way. Thank you so much for this beautiful session 😭😭😭
I just saved this video. I want to archive it, is it possible? Omo this is wow and I love love love 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼Well done both of you. BE THE FRIEND THAT YOU WANT TO HAVE
Please more of these conversations, it's so nice to see you both talk about female friendships. Relationships in general are such a complex ball of yarn. If we were more candid and just forgiving and more loving it would work out better.
I think loyalty is also a big part of friendship apart from the other great points mentioned by you ladies. Thanks for sharing this, it affirmed some things that I have a concern for me in a relationship that was budding but I stepped from which is intentionality and I felt convicted about having more humility. God bless you both.
All my life, I've served people. I am that loyal friend but I don't get that in return. Make I dey my dey abeg. My husband is my best friend after Jesus. 😂
Ohh no! So sorry dear. But you can pray about it. It sure does work. Cos of Female friends issues, I tilted towards Male friends. But God knew my heart, I told him about it and I have got more amazing friends turned Sister all around. Routing for me so much that I feel I'm not even doing well for them. God bless Mama Solution.
This applies in marriage too where external family members get in the mix. I love the way you tie it with the God factor!! Letting go our pride ( if we realize it).
This friendship thing is a lot, tbh. Having to go to God everytime cos you just cant handle the back to back hurts. You finally letting go of friendships after investing soo much.... all these things can be tiring. It has gotten so serious that i now have a whole wall built. I dont even know how to let people in again. I see people i really want to get close to, but i just cant. It is well. Since you spoke about intentionality, maybe...just maybe i'll try. God help me. Thank you so much for talking about this topic many people shy away from. You both looked goooooodd!😍😍😍
I get you totally. Love is a risk however I have learnt that having the right people in my life is what really matters therefore praying to the Father and asking him to send the right friends into my life has been the only way that I believe I can win in life and fulfil my purpose. There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother and I believe only God brings those types of people into our lives. Someone’s we only just need one destiny helper. Like Oprah Winfrey has only one best friend that the whole world knows about- Gayle! They have been friends for over 45yrs and you can see how much true destiny friendship helps shape us and helps us grow. It was so funny watching them being interviewed and how they were finishing each other’s sentences
I'm happy I came across this video. My bestie in Uni got in a relationship, engaged and married on a perfectly low-key. It hurt and broke me. I was transparent about every single thing but she held alot back. I was depressed for a very long time. I haven't ever cried for anyone like I did for her cos she broke my heart. I've been thinking of her lately and dreamt of her all through last night. ...I just had to admit to a mutual friend that 'I miss that stupid girl and I've forgiven her'. I just hope she's safe and fine wherever she is. If you see this Mayowa, I'm sitting in my toilet and its 11:51pm 10/09/2022. I'm crying and typing this "I've forgiven you and pray you are happy wherever you are!" Till we meet again shaaa
It is the "I miss that stupid girl" for me 😂 I feel you! You'll be fine dear.❣️💓 I thiugh its a weird thing to be in the toilet and be pressing phone... I do that too 🤣
This was so nice to watch. I'm so grateful for my amazing friends. I have friends who have become family over the years. Distance has somewhat separated us but we keep in touch and whenever we meet it's like we were never apart, we just pick up from where we left off. When we talk on the phone, we go on and on non-stop. We are real with eachother and we love from the heart. We don't have time for drama or pretence. I'm super blessed to have them for real!
This is an absolutely beautiful conversation. Full of wisdom💯 I follow Bunmi on her IG and sooooo much in love with her friendship❤😍 Thank you for this video Tolulope. Waiting for Part 2
Wow am in love with shredded gang more .., she spoke my mind about friendship..because I get judged my my family members..because of how I carry my friends on my head …..I love and admire genuine friendship
Question for part 2: how do you navigate a friendship that it has been long since you guys hangout in person or see each other. Say you live in different countries. How do you move away from the surface level convos of hey, hi, how have you been type convos. Love you two😍
You both!!!!! Whattttt!!! “SOLUTIONS”!!! This name didn’t come by as a mistake, God did it!!! 😩❤️ Thank you so much @jbums for this beautiful talk, I’m so passionate about Godly and healthy friendship too and this just came in timely 😩❤️🔥🔥🔥 Thank you So much, God bless you❣️
Having female gender friends is hard, amd finding genuine friend is hard too, woman always have Issues, a friends who has your interest and love at heart is rare to find this days, jealousy is just taking over .. me am scared of female friends ooo
My oldest friend of over 17 years is a Christian. I am a Muslim in every way, as much as I can have a beautiful faith related discussion with her, my innermost circle are my Muslim girlfriends. Having soul mates within your faith circle is important especially for moments when life serves breakfast
I really love this conversation, and this has been a serious struggle for me as I have the same view as Jbums concerning friendships but I have had a hard time attracting these kinds of friendships as we end up not having the same values or ideals of friendships. Thank you both!!!
This made me look at friendship in another perspective, left to me, I was giving up on that thing... I mean, what's the essence, but then with this video... we will keep trying 💪💪 thank you mama
I had to let go of a friend because I always felt in a negative place or a certain negativity when I was around her. I had to distance myself because I was looking for positivity and someone who could lift me up or make me feel happy
Tolu is me in this video she just kept asking all the questions I really needed to hear answers for😂I learnt so much from this video had to share it . I am definitely waiting for a part two❤️
I just love the Holy Spirit of God! This has been God's dealings in my life of recent and I just even made a recent video on my channel titled "Take Charge of your Life" out of that recent dealing. This just literally confirms that God wants us to do all it takes to have our lives back and be in a good place as it pertains to relationships. God bless you Tolu. Thank you for this. And thank you Bunmi for being a good friend and investing in your friendships/relationships.
This is a very powerful video. The holy spirit really was involved in this conversation and Jbum's wisdom and passion flew out of the roof for me. Jbums your wonderful thank you for gracing us with your presence. Team Solution na ni😅 ❤
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I really enjoyed this video especially now in my 30's when I'm beginning to fully understand the beauty and the commitment it takes to navigate quality female friendships.
Jbums is really a wealth of knowledge.
"Be the friend you want to have". Thank you for this.
I'm not the type to comment, but this video brought back some memories of a friendship break up I had, a 10 years friendship ,no closure till now , I do miss her , but I'm tired of being the one calling for reconciliation , especially since I was the one she hurt this time.
I didn't know if I was going to be interested in this video because I didn't know your guest. Immediately she answered friendship is community, I picked my note book.
I have a whole page of notes in the middle part of the video already 🤗🤗 WHAT! ❤️ THIS ONLY HAPPENS WHEN 2 INTELLIGENT GODLY WOMAN COLLIDE... God bless🙏🏾🙏🏾🙇🏾♀️
This beautiful soul of a guest has an aura of raw humility and Bible practicality, selflessness and understanding which emanates and showcases her deep relationship with the Holy Spirit. I am in awe. No self aggrandisement and the popular self worship termed "self love". No "false humility" or trying to fine tune one s shortcomings other than presenting our personal struggles to God as they really are and as God really sees it and which alone will lead to Him actually intervening in a person s life to effect a remodelling from inside out; onto the PURITY OF HEART that Jesus well buttressed in the Bible. This lady is a stack exhibition of Jesus ' s kind of love for men as written in exact words in the Bible. I have a deficit of words to describe what I see in this daughter of God that you brought to us as a guest, Tolu. God bless you. I am truly blessed. Since the proud shall be resisted by God while the humble be exalted, so shall it be for this our guest. That's all I can say.
My bestest friend woke up one day and blocked me on all socials. Not a closure, not a conversation, not 1 quarrel for the time we knew each other, I was a good friend to her, I prayed for her, I listened to her and I can't remember hurting her in any way ( I would've even appreciated a communication to apologize). She never said anything to me. I was totally hurt and still hurting for over a year now. Does it mean our friendship didn't mean anything to her? She left me at my lowest point and yep! I was depressed and lonely. I called our mutual friend, called her Mum and nothing was said. I cry as I type because honestly she was the one person I could forgive for anything in this world but, I guess this is life. I wish her the best.
I felt this! I’m so sorry things happened this way for you. Praying for healing and restoration for you 🙏🏿
@@TolulopeSolutions thank you 🙏💞
Sending you love sis💗💗💗
Sending you love ❤️
Hmm... I can imagine this.
I can almost relate.
Sending you warm hugs🖤🖤🖤
That hug! I felt it 😭😭
I legit have tears in my eyes
Be the type of friend you desire to have! Very important
Love me some jbums aka Mrs Black! A big IG fan!
Female friendship as a topic is dear to my heart, as I realize many adult women, particularly above 30s and beyond, have a hard time understanding being intentional about friendship.
It’s important to understand that there are diff levels of friendship too. Consistency, creating a safe space and being vulnerable are very vital to friendship.
Friendship is a place to show God’s love. You give first, not in response but because God has placed you in their life and blessed you with that responsibility.
Too many ladies are waiting for the other to make the first move.
“Oh I will give her child a gift, because she gave mine first”
“Oh I invited her to lunch last month, so she must invite me this month”
Naah, that’s not friendship should be. You give first, not because you expect anything in return, but it’s God’s way. I see friendship the way I see other ships in my life, As an ambassador of Christ, I am reppin Christ in your life.
This means there are many ppl I am friendly with, but there are few ppl I consider my close friends.
Read that again, and know the difference. Know the difference between acquaintances and regular friends and the difference between those, and your inner circle of close friends.
The length of the friendship isn’t as important as the quality! I am closer to one I have known for 3 years vs. one I have known for 20 years.
Someone once asked me how to define friendship, and I asked “Can you trust your children with them?”, like can you leave your kids with them for a few days, and know they would go far and beyond to make sure they are ok?
If you can’t, then it may mean you have to invest more in that friendship, or find others that you can.
If you desire that kind of friend, then pray and step out. Be that kind of friend, and God will reward you accordingly with someone who will do the same for you.
I just learnt some more!.... thanks for sharing!
The part where JBums said ‘maybe the person is not worth fighting for’. That really hit hard😫, I allow some friendships end when it is not doing me good
Came back to watch this video again. I met Jbums on this channel for this first time when this video dropped and I've loved her since then. Grateful to God for these women that are indirectly shaping lives of a lot of young girls like me. I love you both so muchhhhh ❤️
Can we applaud the beauty in this video? The makeup is popping!🎉😊😊
I so agree with that "soulmate" in female friendship. When I was younger, my best friend used the term "twin flame" and I didn't quite get it. As I mature in my faith, I understood it. We can both sense when one person is having a challenging time faith wise, and pray each other up.
I'm like J-Bums, Friendship is extremely important to me. I honestly believe God does not want us to do life alone. At every stage in my life, asides from my old friends, God always sends me a friend. It's a pattern I have learnt to recognize. So when I'm in a new season or phase, I ordinarily look out for that person(s) and if I'm not able to readily recognise the person, I pray to God to reveal the person.
Out do in love and friendship! It's not just marriage you do these things. I totally love it! Friendships are a big deal, and a good thing. Serve people, take relationships seriously, be the friend you want them to be, submit your heart to the Lord.
Waiting for part 2. Love you both❤️
This video was a mini therapy session for Solutions 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. That hug part ❤️
People hardly change!!!! When people show you who they are believe them👌🏽
I can totally relate. Female friendships mehn... My mantra now is take what the person is giving to you and evaluate how much you can give without getting hurt.
Always found myself bending over backwards for others and never reciprocated even after complaining about it. I just write in my journal now, reach out to people when I can and talk to God.
Jbums is a doctor of friendship o. This is so so nice to listen to. Real words of wisdom.
I asked God to heal me from friendship hurts and he showed me this video🥺😭
First of all this is the beginning of the healing because for him to lead me here.
I’m going to have to rewatch this video severally for every advice, lessons and encouragement to sink in
God bless you Mrs Bunmi. When one stays through a training process you will know. God has trained you and taught you a lot and I love it
First off, the make up on you both is on fleeekkk 😍😍😍😍😍
Then the wisdom that is our IG Bestie! Jbums 🙌🏾 woooshhhh 🔥🔥🔥
Thank you for blessing us, God bless you ma'am
When people show you who they are , BELIEVE THEM.Thank you
I have come to believe this .Atimes I try to make excuse for them but seriously they are just who they are.
Jbums is filled with so much biblical wisdom, she's such a breath of fresh air and an inspiration.
This conversation is definitely light in many forms...when Jbums said some friendship are irreplaceable, I legit felt it, pride will say otherwise but just an understanding that we're all flawed makes it easier especially knowing that the other friend is also accountable to God.
I'm that kind of friend who give chances, I have pals but just a friend and that gladys, one of the best thing 2019 gave me, met her in church and I just came to that church and we spoke like we knew like 10 years ago. Gladys and I have literally have been through a lot together, I remember when my name didn't come out for my school admission list, as if you knew I was so sad that day, it was evening she called and pray with and for me, that night I checked my school portal and saw I was granted admission, i called her and told her and we both cried together on the phone because she was in school then. Gladys loves me too much and I do even more. I'm in tears now because gladys is not just a friend to me but a sister, she's a treasure God dropped in my life, I cherish and honour gladys so much with so much love, I don't joke with her. Though we don give each other break fast😂😂 but we thank God helping us sailing in this sisterhood, there is no one that can replace Gladys. We have a motto that we are soulmates until the God brings ou original soulmates 😂😂. We talk about everything and anything and what I admire in our sisterhood is that we involve God in any conversation we have and we might not even speak for weeks and when we do it just like we continue from where we stopped. I love you Akpevwe( Her native name🤗)
I wish Gladys sees this
Beautiful women! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. It's so true that our friendships mirror our relationship with God, when we act in love and with pure intentions its a lot easier to navigate tough seasons. I am super thankful for my core friends.
Same thing I said to a friend, if we can keep relationships with our partner and family then good friendship is worth being committed to🥰Thank you solutions and jbums🙏
Both of you are glowing!! I celebrate the Glow’ry👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Watching this made me realise I have been focused to protecting myself than being humble and reaching out to someone who hurt me few years ago, but I will try. Scared of how it will go, but I won’t let my ego hold me back.
This topic is extremely underrated. Thank you both for sharing your insights on this. Everything in life is intentional and friendships are not excluded. As much as lack of understanding, pride and co can get in the way, thank God for His Grace to be able to navigate these issues in friendships.
God! This video is givinggggggg! Video Quality, makeup, outfits, beaurie, video editing, wisdom, everything! Love it!
Tapping into this beautiful wholesome godly female friendship. Thank you for sharing this amazing content.
Love you Solutions and Jbums 💗
When you serve people, they will serve you back. Thank you for this, I am evaluating my heart for the next phase of friendship
Thank you ladies for such insightful perspective. I have definitely learned a thing or two from your conversation today. Female friendships are extremely complex and from my experience evolves with age, life altering events (marraige, kids, moving from being single to married) and when people move to a different city. True friendships will survive any change. Some people have many besties and some people only have one - Like Oprah she only has one best friend - Gayle! and we can see how mutually enriching and beneficial their relationship have been for over 50 yrs so much that they finish each other’s sentences! True rewarding friendships are orchestrated by God. I don’t use the word “friend” loosely anymore. Calling someone my friend has taken a new meaning for me and when I decided to do an inventory on my friendships I was shocked to see that I actually don’t have any friend only acquaintances that I labelled as friends. When I discovered what true friendship entails I realised that my friendship with the women in my life were one sided me giving to much and not getting the same in return. When I discovered that I had no real friends around me I made a decision to pray for destiny helpers and asked God to put the right people in my life and give me the wisdom to discern them. Female friendships are complex and only God can truly surround you with the right people that would be a mutually beneficial and rewarding friendship. It is well and thanks again for a great video
Female friendship are so so so so hard mehn, its been a rollercoaster, loved every piece of this! May God lead us to meaningful & loving friendships and preserve existing ones.
The biblical reconcilation thing is so true,this female friendship thingy is a course to be studied.I recently made a video around this topic on my channel and listening to you both speak such wisdom ,thank you Jbums for sharing so much with team solutions,we appreciate you💎Thank you Aunty Tee for bringing her on❤
I think I'm more like Solutions. I'm guarded and would have just been a family person ; just my husband, kids and I. But learning from Jbums today and I'm now open to female friendships that God has for me.
Learning so much from this video.
Jbums is such a people person. Omo. She loves human beings very much and shows it and I envy that. I can't relate. I'm always guarded. Can't let people show me pepper.
Big ups Jbums, you dey try.
Honestly, she is such an amazing human being
I'm one of those people who built a wall based on bad friendship break ups and it helped me when another friend did the same thing to me. I have resolved to have several close friends rather than one bestie. Also, I think I gravitate more towards male friendship and people who are older than me and I have no regrets there. Hopefully, I can develop better female frienships.
I think we should appreciate Tolulope for asking the right questions! 👏
Omo Jbums is so wise and thorough in her answers
I like Jbums vibe. Shes really a happy person. Thanks Tolu for bringing her
I don't even know where to start commenting from based on my experiences, I even started crying at some point of watching but I know my healing will be complete. I learnt a lot from this video, thank you Jbums and Aunty T for this ❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗
It is very surprising that you have only been friends for such a short time, it is quite challenging forming real deep friendships the older you get.
I’ve been a team solutions for three years but this is my first time of dropping a comment. I looooooove this collaboration. Thank you for making this video and you are looking so beautiful solutions mama🥰 ( In PG’s voice) We love you jbums😍
JBUMS is my girl.
Love love her emphasis on involving God in every nook and corner. God-fearing friends will hear God's opinion concerning their relationships which will in turn lead to healthy relationships
Ha, Tolulope, this your friend is very passionate about friendship o!🤣🤣🤣 The way she’s talking and the words she uses are very deep!
But I enjoyed listening to her sha. Makes me reflect on a lot of things. I have never taken any kind of relationship (even marriage) as seriously as she’s made it look and I’m here wondering if I’m normal like this!😂😂
I just always believe that most friendships are for times and seasons and when a relationship is falling apart, I just let go…
Now thank you so much for this! We need more of these conversations, I hear and get feedbacks on my friendship/conversation segment, especially from the younger-age circle and I believe there’s need for great conversations to help shape the whole idea & understanding of friendship. Oh, how deep this is! Friendship may be a lot, but when we realize how important it is to discern reasons and seasons for people in your life per time, it makes it easier to know that on some days, in this hood, we extend grace to others and on other days, grace is to be extended to us knowing that no one is perfect but all parties are ready to put in the work in form of love, communication & sacrifice😊🤗. Thanks to you both for having this conversation. 🙏🥰🥰 Welldone Sisterly💯
All you said 💯! May grace be multiplied to us always 🙏🏿
Beautiful content, so heartfelt, it's even like you are in therapy.....
I've found that I'm not a 'bestie' person but l have a couple of good friends and I am a loyal person....
I've tried to do these besties things because I admire people with besties alot but l've found that I do not have the energy and commitment
to pour myself into someone and I'm at peace with that fact.
Reading Job 39, l'll like to say in this life, it's good for one to know their uniqueness, know their place and stay in their lane.
I loved this conversation. This friendship breakup topic is so underrated. Can't wait for part 2. My major takeaway was "be the friend you want to have, serve your friends the way you want to be served".
I totally relate with this discussion,I fell out with my cousin/friend in 2019,she wasn’t just family to me she was my best friend.we were extremely close.she did me so dirty I just decided to shut her out completely.I haven’t crossed paths with her since then .Of recent I have come across tons of videos about forgiveness and all,I don’t know if God is trying to tell me something??That friendship breakout hurt me so bad.This fall out just made me keep to myself more I have not made one single friend since 2019 which I am not proud of
This particular topic is very dear to my heart! Thank you for bringing this up, Solutions. Bunmi definitely did justice to the topic. Female friendships/sisterhoods are truly God's gifts and I'm on the lookout for part 2 ✋✋✋✋✋✋✋✋ (how many hands are you gonna be needing? 😅)
Wow. Wow. Wow. Thank you so much for this. I've never opened my heart to friendships because I had my share of hurts when I was young but lately, HS has been bringing me to this topic and this video did it for me.
I'm starting afresh and hoping to meet destiny friends and besties on the way. Thank you so much for this beautiful session 😭😭😭
I just saved this video. I want to archive it, is it possible? Omo this is wow and I love love love 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼Well done both of you. BE THE FRIEND THAT YOU WANT TO HAVE
I love the idea of giving many chances, and letting go when you are done with it.
I’m such a sucker for female friendships and this video is so timely.
The videography in this particular video is different. It really adds to the content 🤎love it !
This guest is on fire , so much intelligence. Thank you mama for feeding us right in on here
First of all, you both look so pretty!
I love the make up❤️🔥❤️❤️
Please more of these conversations, it's so nice to see you both talk about female friendships. Relationships in general are such a complex ball of yarn. If we were more candid and just forgiving and more loving it would work out better.
This is such an honest conversation! So timely. God bless you Bunmi & Solutions❤️❤️
She talks so much like DDK. I LOVE this video so much. Well done, Solutions! ❤️
Wow..The eyes of my understanding are being enlightened😃
Anticipating part two!
Bunmi is very gorgeous and loveable woman of God. Thanks Tolu for this video 👏👏👏
This is so deep and lovely! Love this concept of applying Biblical reconciliation even with friendships. Love you Jbums ❤️
I know right. Love it so much.
This was my study this morning. Jn12:26. Following Jesus' footsteps and precepts even as you serve in your friendship.
Jbums needs a TH-cam channel or podcast or something. Too much wisdom
I agreee😫😫
Omg omg omgggggg. THIS IS THE VIDEO I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR!! I haven’t even started watching the video and I love it🥹❤️ Welcome Aunty Jbums🥰🥰
I think loyalty is also a big part of friendship apart from the other great points mentioned by you ladies. Thanks for sharing this, it affirmed some things that I have a concern for me in a relationship that was budding but I stepped from which is intentionality and I felt convicted about having more humility. God bless you both.
You can clearly tell that solutions was learning a lot 🔥❤️
I love her charisma, the way she talks( so fluent😍) and her choice of words... #JBums, thank you, ma.
Wow, this is a very deep conversation. I long for female close-knit friendships but I mostly keep to myself. I have learnt a lot here.
All my life, I've served people. I am that loyal friend but I don't get that in return. Make I dey my dey abeg. My husband is my best friend after Jesus. 😂
I'm with you sis. So unlucky with relationships 😪.
Ohh no!
So sorry dear.
But you can pray about it.
It sure does work.
Cos of Female friends issues, I tilted towards Male friends. But God knew my heart, I told him about it and I have got more amazing friends turned Sister all around.
Routing for me so much that I feel I'm not even doing well for them.
God bless Mama Solution.
This applies in marriage too where external family members get in the mix. I love the way you tie it with the God factor!! Letting go our pride ( if we realize it).
Tolulope is a good listener. Jbums is so sweet
Had to struggle hard to see pass there beautiful faces to able to concentrate on the message. This conversation blessed me🙌
This friendship thing is a lot, tbh. Having to go to God everytime cos you just cant handle the back to back hurts. You finally letting go of friendships after investing soo much.... all these things can be tiring. It has gotten so serious that i now have a whole wall built. I dont even know how to let people in again. I see people i really want to get close to, but i just cant. It is well. Since you spoke about intentionality, maybe...just maybe i'll try. God help me. Thank you so much for talking about this topic many people shy away from.
You both looked goooooodd!😍😍😍
I get you totally. Love is a risk however I have learnt that having the right people in my life is what really matters therefore praying to the Father and asking him to send the right friends into my life has been the only way that I believe I can win in life and fulfil my purpose. There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother and I believe only God brings those types of people into our lives. Someone’s we only just need one destiny helper. Like Oprah Winfrey has only one best friend that the whole world knows about- Gayle! They have been friends for over 45yrs and you can see how much true destiny friendship helps shape us and helps us grow. It was so funny watching them being interviewed and how they were finishing each other’s sentences
I'm happy I came across this video.
My bestie in Uni got in a relationship, engaged and married on a perfectly low-key. It hurt and broke me.
I was transparent about every single thing but she held alot back.
I was depressed for a very long time. I haven't ever cried for anyone like I did for her cos she broke my heart.
I've been thinking of her lately and dreamt of her all through last night. ...I just had to admit to a mutual friend that 'I miss that stupid girl and I've forgiven her'.
I just hope she's safe and fine wherever she is.
If you see this Mayowa, I'm sitting in my toilet and its 11:51pm 10/09/2022. I'm crying and typing this "I've forgiven you and pray you are happy wherever you are!"
Till we meet again shaaa
It is the "I miss that stupid girl" for me 😂
I feel you! You'll be fine dear.❣️💓
I thiugh its a weird thing to be in the toilet and be pressing phone... I do that too 🤣
"When people show you who they are, believe them"...words of wisdom
First off, these two women are just too beautiful 😍
Totally beautiful.
Second of all, lessons!!
This is packed with such wisdom
This was so nice to watch. I'm so grateful for my amazing friends. I have friends who have become family over the years. Distance has somewhat separated us but we keep in touch and whenever we meet it's like we were never apart, we just pick up from where we left off. When we talk on the phone, we go on and on non-stop. We are real with eachother and we love from the heart. We don't have time for drama or pretence. I'm super blessed to have them for real!
To say I enjoyed this video is an understatement goshhhhhhh🥰
Thank you for this. Thank you. I’ve been doing well
This is an absolutely beautiful conversation. Full of wisdom💯 I follow Bunmi on her IG and sooooo much in love with her friendship❤😍
Thank you for this video Tolulope. Waiting for Part 2
Probably my best video yet on this channel. Thank you so much for keeping it real and sincere. And I love that Tolu really let Jbums talk.
Wow am in love with shredded gang more .., she spoke my mind about friendship..because I get judged my my family members..because of how I carry my friends on my head …..I love and admire genuine friendship
This way Jbums holds friendship is just exactly how I hold my friendship.
Question for part 2: how do you navigate a friendship that it has been long since you guys hangout in person or see each other. Say you live in different countries.
How do you move away from the surface level convos of hey, hi, how have you been type convos.
Love you two😍
You both!!!!! Whattttt!!! “SOLUTIONS”!!! This name didn’t come by as a mistake, God did it!!! 😩❤️
Thank you so much @jbums for this beautiful talk, I’m so passionate about Godly and healthy friendship too and this just came in timely 😩❤️🔥🔥🔥
Thank you So much, God bless you❣️
Having female gender friends is hard, amd finding genuine friend is hard too, woman always have Issues, a friends who has your interest and love at heart is rare to find this days, jealousy is just taking over .. me am scared of female friends ooo
My oldest friend of over 17 years is a Christian. I am a Muslim in every way, as much as I can have a beautiful faith related discussion with her, my innermost circle are my Muslim girlfriends. Having soul mates within your faith circle is important especially for moments when life serves breakfast
I really love this conversation, and this has been a serious struggle for me as I have the same view as Jbums concerning friendships but I have had a hard time attracting these kinds of friendships as we end up not having the same values or ideals of friendships. Thank you both!!!
22:49 that particular moment hit me🥹
This made me look at friendship in another perspective, left to me, I was giving up on that thing... I mean, what's the essence, but then with this video... we will keep trying 💪💪 thank you mama
I had to let go of a friend because I always felt in a negative place or a certain negativity when I was around her. I had to distance myself because I was looking for positivity and someone who could lift me up or make me feel happy
Please part 2, part3, part 4!!! God bless Bunmi this was wonderfulll!!!!
Tolu is me in this video she just kept asking all the questions I really needed to hear answers for😂I learnt so much from this video had to share it . I am definitely waiting for a part two❤️
Jbums mama on d channel! Right person to talk about this Topic. Lemme get my 🍿 nd juice. Solutions never disappoint 🙌
I just love the Holy Spirit of God! This has been God's dealings in my life of recent and I just even made a recent video on my channel titled "Take Charge of your Life" out of that recent dealing. This just literally confirms that God wants us to do all it takes to have our lives back and be in a good place as it pertains to relationships.
God bless you Tolu. Thank you for this. And thank you Bunmi for being a good friend and investing in your friendships/relationships.
Jbums is my fav!! Can’t wait to watch 💃🏾💃🏾
This is a very powerful video. The holy spirit really was involved in this conversation and Jbum's wisdom and passion flew out of the roof for me. Jbums your wonderful thank you for gracing us with your presence. Team Solution na ni😅 ❤