Finding my voice & courage to face life after divorce! Amakove Wala - Shared Moments with Justus
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This is her story. Now if interested in the other party, go find it from him. Her story is complete and valid without his.
Correct. Or tell yours
Exactly 100%
Thank you!
@isaackip6480 If Men spoke as often as women, you would know that there's always two sides to each story.
So true.
She's so soft spoken. It's easy listening to her.
A lot of power couples are really the wife doing it all.
This is one way of healing .you cannot understand the pain if you have never gone through it..I love her honesty..Most of us are dying silently with this kind of suffering and it is damaging generations..Keep speaking out.
Life is not a destination but a series of breakthroughs. Don't despair if your career, finances or neighborhood don't put you in the glamorized definition of success. Nobody has the exact formula for life
I like that the host lets the guest tell their story without interrupting.
Imagine hitting rock and bottom and having to pick yourself up again and becoming great again yet differently.. women don't let anyone make you feel worthless or liimited. You are great and can do great things❤
Me i was oversexed till i started having hormonal imbalance. Still abuse.
Great Amakove!! ! Women must speak out and not be fooled “awww you are exposing your family and children “ if we keep quiet we are putting our children at risk of repeating those toxic cycles!!
Thanks for being vulnerable enough to share your story. Anyone who have gone through this, relates well.
Categorically, I say sexless marriage is not marriage.
Exactly
Thank you Amakove for telling your story. I’ve listened to it with love, openness and zero judgment. ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your story!
It happens a lot in today’s society… the stereotype of women being homemakers.
Sex is a deal breaker for most women and if denied as a form of punishment that’s sexual abuse.
Wow. Calm and collected. I have learned a lot from this. Thanks for being vulnerable
I think ambitious women need to be taught that many will use it against them to cover their own insecurities including mislabeling them and be given the tools how to handle it even if it means walking the journey of life alone.
Wow. Am proud of you Dr. Amakove, the courage to speak it is. One day I will speak about my story. One day
This is the most candid show ive watched/listened to. Its tricky when a 'perpetual success' experiences failure in some field. It gives it a human face. It makes the reality of dating and the truth that women too need sex and intimacy. As a person who's been through this, and ridicule of sexlessness in marriage.... id say that its a great move.
Well done Amakove
Amakove Wala this is amazing. Thank you for sharing your story.
Always provided....Never rendered...Sad flags around such a humble hardworking soul..Thanks for sharing
That you for sharing your story. I commend you for your bravery on such a sensitive topic. Africans need to learn how to talk openly about taboo topics rather that suffering in silence. Səx is important to women but we are made to feel ashamed for even thinking about it let alone asking for it. I can only imagine the backlash you have gotten for opening up. More power to you girl!
im a man and was not aware that xxx means alot to women. i thought this is only our thing. i have learnt from this
😅have you thought about how the females in that coast prison are pleading for sexual freedom during visits,but never in male prisons ..females love it😅
And you think you love it more than us ladies😂😂😂am sorry bro
Apparently it’s not yall thing either idk 😬😳
Lol
Women are more sexual than men we're just taught to suppress it, it's not proper, etc., etc.
I have greatly enjoyed the narration of your journey. You are a beautiful, articulate and wholesome human and your vulnerability is a blessing. Wish you well in the myriad initiatives you have birthed or are a part of.
Thanks for sharing your story
I reasonate with this and I thank God I am healing
This is a story I resonate with
A lady whom i know decided to walk away from marriage because of lack of intimacy,she had a one year old baby and realized its' not worth being in such a union.
The man never loved her or simply settled down so as to have a baby.
Dr Wala, it's amazing to see someone I look up to share her vulnerability. Thank you for encouraging many career women ❤
Amakove Wala herselfuuu, I love her courage
A woman of class and substance
I related to this Alhamdulilah i walked away.
Hello justus! Merry Christmas & A Very Happy New Year to u & your family. Watching from Zambia.
I'm also ENFP 😭 If nothing else, you have already inspired me on temperament/MBTI and personality typing. Thank you for sharing on that! Still listening...
Amakove Wala, I could reflect on my life as you spoke. Your experience is very similar to mine. Just that I am a man
I was in a sexless marriage for 6 years too. No children, time wasted. My ex used to say sex was like a chore to him.
Weeeuh. Am sorry
Might he have been gay? He probably got married to please his family and society.
😢
Flourish hugs I relate .
Pole, have experiencef similar. And if you go out for pleasure you're judged
Wow,BE YOU Ama.
You are one brave lady for coming out
Thank you for sharing your story.
I love this Lady.
I understand you.One day I'll speak of my story too.
Waiting
i love the english
The sexlessness in marriage is a symptom of a problem...and the problem is the childhood wounds both are carrying, and in this case if the woman is too masculine the man diminishes. And he isn't even intentionally punishing you,but your energies are misaligned, and both of you need help to heal. Most couples don't and go their separate ways.... Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing.
Phenomenal woman..... am glad to know her in the healthcare space she is a trailblazer and oozes power every room she is in.
Wow and the way i complain when he wants it almost everyday even when am looking my worst!! I remember some guy telling you if i had someone who doesnt want it with u all the time there must be a problem. Now i get it
Exactly my point. You see how women are right? Selfish beings. It's always about them. The guy wants it always, it's a problem. The guy doesn't want it, it's a problem. Don't be surprised that the true story might be that the man wanted sex always or was always available for sex but the woman was using it as a weapon against him until the man got fed up and decided he wasn't going to ask for sex again,then when she wanted he wasn't interested,that was when it got to her. But she wouldn't say she pushed the man to that point. Never believe any story you hear on social media. Obviously she will paint the story to favour her. If you ask the man his part of the story you might be shocked. Only God knows the truth.
You kill his desire for you everyday you refuse him(constant chipping at his ego), learned the hard way when he completely stopped initiating, my excuse was that I have small kids and I'm too tired, well the kids grow up and your libido comes back in full force esp in your 40s, that's when they have given up kitambo without you knowing when it happened while you were pushing him away, he discarded you for the naive 20 year old or maid, co worker etc😅
So well articulated.So relatable.. Choosing courage over culture! 🎉
Wow Liz
So relatable 😢…
I was here aki...there was a time i stayed 2yrs without sex😂😂😂😂 aki i left....and get somewhere else...i couldn't be happier the way i am
🤣😅😂
#theamakovewalashow ..liz the story involving you and Tonee...I believe your side of the story and you dodged a bullet....
That situation will safe and protect you from Std's, Aids and civical cancer.
I love this woman. You are inspiring Amakove
Woooooow
Am still waiting for the story to begin
i know hehehehe same here
Spirit of Asmodia
Psychosomatic …thank you for sharing…
its time you realise you owe no one an inspiration , yangu imekuwa hivo no zaga zaga for five years .
There r times depending on how issues r dealt with in the marriage, it could drain someone completely both men n women. It can drain so much emotional energy so much that u don't even understand who is this you live with. Mine could tell me things like she regrets being with me even in her dad's presence, things like reporting me all over the place if she feels upset. Wacha i get some good money, she's automatically so loving, prayerful, the moment i struggle abit am the worse devil alive.
She will constantly accuse me of cheating to an extent i start wondering could she be the one doing it. She will frawn for like a week in the name of feelings. I litterally walk on eggshells while dealing with her. Anything bad I've ever done since 1901 will be used to put me down to the ground. My friend how much can a man take, u also expected to come to such a house with a hard on. That's how resentment causes men to switch off emotionally n as a result find u unattractive or a major mistake.
Wow
That laughter 😅
I would like to join the whattup
Its the soft sexy laughter for me!💗
49:54 👏🙌🙌🙌
Thank you! I forwarded till there 😊
Its so funny to see how pissed men are about sth they know nothing about.
Yeah,as always they don't want women to speak up because calling them out for ill behaviour infuriates their demons. If you do you are a problem. They always setting standards on how women should be yet they have no idea how to be.
Am stuck her coz first am jobless
She is should also share about the other men she dated after divorce in as much detail as she is sharing about her ex husband. If she left her husband because of lack of sex, why did she part ways with those who offered sex to her?
Try 10
Somebody tell me which hair is this pls
Sisterlocks
I need help,he spoiled my business while i went for Derivery he still denies me sex for da last three years
What's the name ofbthe personally test you took would love to do it please share the name
Mbti
Please add me to the group
Do you the world will adjust.
That's a very ridiculous quote and unfortunately some young people will take it and be misled. You can't just do you and hope the world adjust to whatever you do. The right thing to say is ,"always do the right thing".
What if "doing you is wrong"? Do you expect the world to just adjust to your wrong for you???
Unfortunately most Ridiculous quotes like this come from women because most women lack accountability so they do whatever the want .and most often than not the world just doesn't tell women the truth. Accountability is like Kryptonite to women . Let's have an example, let's assume a decide that "doing me " means having sex with different ladies and breaking their hearts. Do you think I should just go ahead and do me and the world will adjust for me???? Isn't that ridiculous mentality. Just because a quote sounds nice doesn't make it right
@@kingsleypaul1116 You missed the context under which that comment was made. Any sensible person knows what is good and what is right and what ought to be done, So doing you does not necessarily mean doing what is wrong. Please see the positive in this.
@@kingsleypaul1116 And now that you talk about accountability. This is an argument that is neither here nor there. Saying that women are less accountable is fallacy. It boils down to an individual, irrespective of their gender.😀
Maybe the man only mates to procreate.
Her ex is a friend, I kind of feel sorry for him. He is quite athletic and I wonder why a healthy man doesn’t want intimacy.
Did he remarry after divorce?
I think he has a girlfriend, to me he is good guy, has a good career, quite disappointed that he didn't even want to support his kids financially,. That's the least he could do.
Probably he used alot of supliments. That happens alot
If he does steroids its a huge issue as to why they can't perform. Or maybe he's battling with his sexuality.
@@maryowino9403 or he could be gay!
He was narcissist that's one of the signs😂
And don't you think you are senseless for accusing someone just from someone else's story without hearing from the person??? The stupidity of social media. Just because someone comes online, speaks in a soft tone doesn't make what they say correct. Just because someone comes on social media and play the victim doesn't make them one. You should have the sense of maturity to withhold judgement until you know the truth. And this is exactly why social media thrives because it depends on millions of people with very low IQ to just act on a story with their emotions without any reasoning.
When someone tells a story, and in their story they were completely RIGHT and the other person was completely WRONG, that's a RED FLAG. There are 3 sides to a story, her's, his and the truth. Use your brain
🥰 please add me to the group, id be happy to benefit from it
My current situation..I feel worthless
You shall overcome. I did overcome such a situation. It was not easy but l did overcome. Keep the faith
@@xolanimhlanga7963 Thankyou for the word of encouragement.🙏
Leave that relationship, ita form of control
@@xolanimhlanga7963 Thankyou for the encouragement
@@fatmatakamara1866youd find that man can have sex outside very well bila any issues. Most men dont want to sleep with their wives once they have kids. They sleep with singke women and give their wives intimacy once a yr.
Madam your strory is all over the place , all about cv, qualifications , achievements, nothing about the title of the video ,no sequence of events.
Maybe the ex was gay
Not necessarily, you do not have to be an extreme of anything
It is normal to actually not like sex... Very normal
Or asexual..or tramautized by a childhood event
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Then why marry if you are asexual
😅😅😅
Not everybody likes having sex
It is good to share a story, though one sided, it could have been even better to hear from the man too.
I don't care what the man says, I'm in sexless marriage.
Interview him. We’ll listen.
Her story is complete not one sided.
It’s her story not his story.
You can look for her Ex and interview him. I’m in a sexless marriage for 5 years now and counting. So I can relate with Dr Wala 💯
Men can't compete with wonen in mattters of speech. Bring the ex husband
You owe no one an explanation.... It seems to me that you leave in a glass house
Uongo😂😂
Of course you’re a guy
its not your story soo..
Oh is this your story
Read more about sexless marriages in the internet.
These soft spoken are toxic
Men rarely run to social medial to speak about the trials of their marriage. When men are challenged, they keep it to themselves. When men provide, they rarely shout it from the mountain tops. She has not only taken a jab at her ex but her dad as well.
It is their responsibility to provide. Sir down
@@georgenyasudi4060 but she has achieved a lot being single and than when she was married 🙄🙄 and she’s been talking about her divorce for years and the ex is not complaining, infact they are co parenting peacefully, unaandika composition mrefu as if you know her personally… mtcheeeeeew
I really don't like how she's giving her story.ugh!! The communication 😣
Why, she is a vibe
Sorry, you are not her audience
Have you considered the questions being aske by the interviewer?
Oh my.. people READ BOOKS to understand different types of narrations 🤭
Our system of education is so vague and useless. How I wish the woman would have known the importance of sex in marriage. Sex is merely sacred and not for pleasure. Regards.
Lol. You may want to invest some time in research. Though debatable, sex cannot be only for procreation. Do you honestly only think of or want sex for the purpose of procreation? Sex is an essential part of intimacy.
It’s for intimacy, your wife is probably getting it somewhere else
I love sex as pleasure ... not planning to recreate .... .. everyone with their personal views
You were denied sex,well n good, Is confessing making it better? absolutely NO
People like you are a waste of oxygen
Are you even sure she was denied sex??? We need to be careful how we believe people online. If you hear from the husband you might be shocked. People tell lies all the time
So your kids will grow up one day and know that their father denied you sex and you went to look for it elsewhere?
What is wrong with that?
@@MoraaOsiemo There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. The kids will be very proud of this being on the internet forever.
@@Grigor_Andolov yes, at least they'll know why their parent's marriage ended.
there are so many single mothers hidden in marriage and the children can always tell. Kids know when things are not right. Knowing the truth is more healing than pretense. @@MoraaOsiemo
And he permitted her to go find it elsewhere, where she really enjoyed it
Is this a documentary or a story I don't like a narrator who lectures us we need a story not a lecture 😢
If you are listening you will hear it 😊
Fastofo... You don't have to watch
Actually, this woman is a doctor, a highly intelligent woman!! I am so stuck to the story, and her flow....only the intellectuals can really understand...so do not expose yourself!!
😂 Where is the lecture? . I have listened to this whole thing and can't find it
Remember, all of us aren't the same, we were born differently.
I don't mean to judge her but now she is telling us for what? Is that an isuue to really bring to us? So what are we supposed to do or say? We are so sorry? Most definitely not! These is not a problem without a solution, you yourself have the solution if you feel you must. People out there are having real problems, If this is your only problem, gal count yourself most lucky.
Wah😮😮😮😮😮😮
You tube stories are just like this we share information
She's sharing her story so as to inspire other people going through similar situations and telling your story is an essential part of the healing process
You can watch something else
She is not talking to you if you have all those questions after listening to her story...
There are 3 sides to any story. Yours, his, the truth.
So people should always be aware of this. The veracity of any story isn't dependent on the softness of the voice, or tears of the narrator. Never be too in a hurry to come to a conclusion. We've seen people that you outside the appear as a dove but at home they are tigers and this goes to both genders so we need to be careful.
And yet you are clearly showing you dont believe her. Walk the walk
It's funny how everyone that comes on social media to narrate their story are always the victims 🤔. The truth is no one comes to narrate their story and paint themselves bad. If you ask their spouse for their own part of the story you'll be shocked. Why will a married woman want to show the world that she is in a bikini? Never be fooled by any bodies story simply because they are soft spoken. Always hear both sides then decide what the truth is. When people completely blame someone else for every failure, that's a RED FLAG
Why are you triggered? This is the 2nd time in the comment section you are trying to discredit her truth...I mean are you her man?
@@ewm4266 grow up and stop talking rubbish. First of all there is nothing like her truth. There is only one truth
Because they have done the self-work and moved from victimhood and unnecessary shame and guilt.
Her ex is a friend, I kind of feel sorry for him. He is quite athletic and I wonder why a healthy man doesn’t want intimacy.
Am in such for 17yrs now, it's so frustrating, it's lowers one's self esteem, am on a dead end now in Ayr you have sex like 3 tym ,and it's not that he has health issues no ,but 100 concubine yes .
@@margaretwanjiru2265When both of you are in good mood, ask him a simple question.
Babe, why do you keep hurting me by denying me sex, is it that I'm no longer attractive to you? The rest you should be able to handle, it also depends on how you pause the question.
It's only unfortunate that most upcountry women don't know how to make their men want to screw them. It's like it's a taboo to ask for sex or seduce your man.
For the swahilis, husband seduction is a way of life & they are not shy when it comes to asking for it. It starts immediately the man arrives home up until when food is served & by the time they're reclining to bed it just comes naturally whether the man came from a mjengo work or office. But for the upcountry women, it's the man to do everything including initiating romance.
Best sex is when the wife initiates it, why? The man feels challenged & because they don't want defeat, they do it better, why? If I don't, obviously someone else will. Our sisters will not do anything apart from complaining to the wrong people including social media. Boldly face your husband.
@@georgenyasudi4060 or maybe he is getting it somewhere else but that is something we do not want to talk about
@@loisewangari3389 we can talk about anything nowadays,we found out who killed tupac after 27 years
Or she is lying just as most women do most often for sympathy votes. Have you thought about that. The mere fact she is even talking about this on social media tells you the kind of woman she is. "you don't shave a man's hair in his absence".
Just because she is sitting calmly and talking softly doesn't make what she says the truth. Have you thought about that. The statistics show that in over 65% of marriages women deprive men of sex, so this should have you thinking. Let's assume he stopped having sex with her do you wonder why????? Or maybe he was always asking and she kept depriving him (just as most myopic women do) and when the man has had enough he decided to stop having sex too. One thing I can assume you is that you see the way she is sitting calmly here, she isn't this way at home, never, trust me I can't be fooled. . when a persons story paints them all good and paints the other person all bad, there is something wrong with that story.