Toxic Relationships | Signs, Red Flags and How to Let Go and Heal! - FT Muthoni Mukiri

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  • Hello BKS lovers! Welcome to the season THREE of Best Kept Secrets.
    On this episode, our host Sharon K speaks to Muthoni Mukiri, an author and mindset coach on toxic relationships. How to identify if you're in one, how to spot red flags and how to let go, move on and heal. They also share their personal experiences with unhealthy love.
    Please let us know your thoughts in the comments and don't forget to share, like and subscribe!

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  • @muthonismission
    @muthonismission 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +170

    Beautiful Sharon… Thank you for this platform and for hosting me. You have a lot of value to give. It takes alot to be vulnerable and to open up for the sake of helping other people. You are doing Gods work. Be blessed ❤️

    • @charitygachara1198
      @charitygachara1198 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      We love you muthoni❤

    • @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq
      @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are an Amazing woman, been keen on your work for some time now, and its Top Notch. Keep up @muthoni

    • @faithwangeci4972
      @faithwangeci4972 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hey gal...I really need help, someone to talk to

    • @marynjoroge8954
      @marynjoroge8954 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank so so Much@Sharon K wangi and @Muthoni Mukiri for this Relatable topic,you have touched me .
      The topic has really helped me and thank God I'm a mom to a four year old I wouldn't want to mess up with her future I will treat her like a queen and make the right decisions for her I won't let my past define mine or my daughters future I'm currently In a Healthy relationship though the ups n downs are there had to start from episode 1 to catch up thank you
      Beautiful women.

    • @cathrinewanjiru1348
      @cathrinewanjiru1348 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@faithwangeci4972 hope you got someone to talk to

  • @Africangyal
    @Africangyal 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    If dating a narcissist is horrific, try coming from a narcissistic family 🙀

  • @marywairimu8060
    @marywairimu8060 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    Wow just finished watching . It was great . lesson," if you make your home in another person, you give them the power to make you homeless." Make yourself the home, know your values and write them , know what makes you happy. ❤❤❤

  • @rhodabyoga
    @rhodabyoga 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    Thank you so much for sharing...I'd also like to bring to light another indicator of a toxic trait called Stonewalling: A communication behaviour characterized by a person's refusal to engage, discuss, or respond to their partner during a conflict or disagreement. It involves deliberately shutting down communication and emotionally withdrawing from a conversation. This behavior is highly detrimental to relationships, particularly in intimate or close settings such as marriage.

    • @bettymwaura4867
      @bettymwaura4867 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Aki am going through this😢

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I knew i was in the right relationship when being me was accepted.

  • @TheGadifele
    @TheGadifele 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    beautiful topic, i dated narcissist for 18 years, hoping he will growup one day maybe he was just being childish, but the minute i knew the narcissist word, i run and nver looked back

  • @EstherNungari-ii3db
    @EstherNungari-ii3db 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Nothing will change until you face yourself. Until you hold a mirror up and see that you are in a pattern and you are enabling the pattern you won't get unstuck.

  • @njerigakuru7519
    @njerigakuru7519 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Abuse in whatever form (Emotional, financial, physical) is enough for you to leave that relationship.

  • @emeldatrading6108
    @emeldatrading6108 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I was married to a narcissist who came from a narcissistic family. When I I started pointing out what he was doing to me they took his side and made me feel soooooooo small. They blamed me and said men are like that and that it's my responsibility as a wife to make my marriage work

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    About praying for the man you want , Muthoni is absolutely right God is faithful he never disappoints those who put trust in them

  • @katemumbi3501
    @katemumbi3501 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    wow there's so much to learn.....ladies you just hit it we are dying silently in toxic relationships that looks perfect

  • @wairimu625
    @wairimu625 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    I'm loving the guests Sharon plus the diverse conversations. This is my favorite season so far.

  • @bellaash2510
    @bellaash2510 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I enjoyed this. People are getting in relationship just for the sake of it. Don't be a stereo dater. Be single for a long time , Get to know who you are first before jumping into a relationship. Be whole on your own and don't expect someone to make you whole .

  • @maimunaaketch
    @maimunaaketch 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    It's illegal for today’s podcast to be this short😂😂😂😂....

  • @immaculatemwangi3099
    @immaculatemwangi3099 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I am currently working on leaving a relationship I feel is quite toxic. I have left so many times but I am determined for this to be the last. Thank you so much ladies for this episode. It made me feel I am not alone. My greatest desire for my next relationship is to be loved softly and peacefully.

    • @ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood
      @ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hugs to you precious one. You are definitely not alone in this. Focus on healing before the next relationship to avoid repetitive cycles. God bless you through this tough journey ❤

  • @heatherwanjuguna4629
    @heatherwanjuguna4629 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Always follow your heart. It speaks to you because it cares about you. Say 'No' from the get go no matter the investment if it doesn't sit right with you.

  • @violaboiyo
    @violaboiyo 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I dated a narcissist some years back but today im grateful because i left without looking back. No one will ever mess with my life again

    • @silaton305
      @silaton305 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      👏👏👏👏I love this for you. A resolute mind. ❤

  • @janewambui264
    @janewambui264 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I reckon with Sharon about praying for the guy you want.
    God hears and He will give you that ideal guy meant for you. ❤

    • @edinahkendi9871
      @edinahkendi9871 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We also did this in highschool..I still believe in it still

  • @mercymutie7991
    @mercymutie7991 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is exactly what i needed to hear today because all along ive been betraying myself.

  • @kachela794
    @kachela794 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pure gold. I loved this episode a lot, I’m that one person you touched today

  • @eunicelefty9835
    @eunicelefty9835 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The best conversation I've had in ages I'm a staunch follower of muthoni

  • @btsstreamsdata
    @btsstreamsdata 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That dedication was meant for me!...i am truly moved by it

  • @faithmackenzie7508
    @faithmackenzie7508 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This episode was so deep, I was in my emotions all through. Love it 😍👏🏾

  • @jerushawanjiku5576
    @jerushawanjiku5576 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Watching this and resonating with so much, the confusion, wanting better for yourself, praying about it, work on yourself, elevating yourself to attract a high value partner that you deserve and that love should be easy, calm, a home. Thank you so much Sharon and Muthoni. God bless 🙏

  • @Mary-cj7pv
    @Mary-cj7pv 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love the point on soul ties, life is spiritual. Thanks for sharing that point Sharon. The conversation was generally very helpful.

  • @mercymbula8653
    @mercymbula8653 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I needed this today, thank you Sharon.

  • @cherrymakena
    @cherrymakena 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This was such an enriched conversation👌🏾Awesome guests, and thank you both for your openness👌🏾

  • @kimberlymburu3057
    @kimberlymburu3057 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My favorite episode so far. Such an enlightening episode ❤

  • @RatoM.Official
    @RatoM.Official หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed it.

  • @dorcasmathenge3621
    @dorcasmathenge3621 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I pray for more grace for you Sharon it's clear that you went through all that for us to be helped thankyou for being such an impact to us women and our generation God bless you ❤️

  • @blessedmary3418
    @blessedmary3418 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dear Jesus thank you for helping me to come to this video.

  • @SoniaMbithe
    @SoniaMbithe 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When you know better, you do better❤

  • @anndamara9427
    @anndamara9427 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    God bless you Sharon you have really changed my relationship life and am proud of whom I am today ❤

  • @emeldatrading6108
    @emeldatrading6108 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for the dedication 😭🙌🏽❤

  • @edahwanjiru4557
    @edahwanjiru4557 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    We need more of this from the coach

  • @sharonnyaga7983
    @sharonnyaga7983 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so enriching. Thankyou Sharon and Muthoni🤍

  • @maggieshikuoh7710
    @maggieshikuoh7710 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i have just finished watching...it was such a nice episode...
    was happy to see and listen to muthoni and you

  • @bethgitau4240
    @bethgitau4240 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you guys for the empowering conversation

  • @user-lq2kz9mu4z
    @user-lq2kz9mu4z 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    definitely needed this!

  • @kinyuamwende5703
    @kinyuamwende5703 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This season has been so good

  • @angelinegichaba7758
    @angelinegichaba7758 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I stayed with a narcissist for 13 good years! My self-esteem went down and I became ill. I am glad I finally left but I have to deal with chronic illnesses for a life time!

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    "Ati dress more like kambua" 😂😂😂sharon yenyewe umekapitia..

  • @linnet-gutsykariuki7305
    @linnet-gutsykariuki7305 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is wonderful. You guys mentioned his name 😂. Peter.... so grateful I'm done🙌

  • @lnjoroge
    @lnjoroge 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow, I love this, may we all get a healthy love ❤

  • @wambuinderitu2461
    @wambuinderitu2461 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Am very glad sharon that you invited muthoni 😊.Am a huge fan of hers n have picked something

  • @nancygituto469
    @nancygituto469 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    She helped me move from a toxic relationship ❤🎉

    • @silaton305
      @silaton305 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for validating her calling. I’m happy for you.

    • @nancygituto469
      @nancygituto469 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@silaton305 Thank you ❤

  • @elizabethawino3494
    @elizabethawino3494 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When Sharon said giving and expecting back...I really relate

  • @carolinemukundi4918
    @carolinemukundi4918 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Bring Muthoni back❤❤that was such a nice conversation.

  • @QueenCiru
    @QueenCiru 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Quite an eye opener. Sharon is such a darling ❤

  • @nassoziprossy3351
    @nassoziprossy3351 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you ladies for this episode after watching this now my minds are open and I have a believe that one day I will be out of this although it hurts 💔💔💔😢

  • @wanjiruolive
    @wanjiruolive 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Wonderful episode I love muthoni mukiri I believe in her. She's a real testimony that if you put in the work your life will change for sure..

  • @Mwihakigitau
    @Mwihakigitau 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yeey🎉🎉 am here to learn ❤❤ I really enjoy your podcasts ❤

  • @lindangii3841
    @lindangii3841 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was criminally good❤

  • @cynthiawangui2115
    @cynthiawangui2115 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I really loved the trust part , especially in kanairo and how things are

  • @mima8345
    @mima8345 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Amazing conversation one day i will share my story .. i left 2years down the line am the happiest woman ever

  • @faithmulinzi4138
    @faithmulinzi4138 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks Sharon this conversation really helped me.

  • @pinkysaka1512
    @pinkysaka1512 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sometimes this men he will say something that he knows is very sensitive to you and then tomorrow he will be sorry but he will never stop saying it

  • @graciousgracee1
    @graciousgracee1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Am in love with the conversation and it is very clear enjoyable to listen ❤

  • @janembora4737
    @janembora4737 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thankyou for this conversation.

  • @mercyjannes
    @mercyjannes 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Based on the current issues on relationship this is a master piece everyone should be listening especially when you are trying to get in a relationship .....🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @jescacherotich8358
    @jescacherotich8358 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so beautiful came across this Podcast at the Rightime.

  • @lessscriptedfam111
    @lessscriptedfam111 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    absolutely amazing convo

  • @dianakims1538
    @dianakims1538 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh my goodness 😢 I am here wondering how many people have and are in relationships with narcissists. Tha statics are shocking me, but thank you to this platform bcz it's an eye opener for the people who are aware of what kind of people they are dating/involved in.

  • @marciajames9434
    @marciajames9434 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ON POINT TODAY!!!!!! Thanks

  • @julietmacharia5825
    @julietmacharia5825 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was amazing from both of you ladies

  • @linetkerubo4356
    @linetkerubo4356 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This has impacted me so very much

  • @hinesightmind
    @hinesightmind 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I learnt about this in 3rd year of campus... let me tell you, maina I was deep into a toxic relationship.. and yes, I never left. I stayed for like a month, and then I left. Then I started working on me, and I started attracting better friendships and guys.

    • @wambuinderitu2461
      @wambuinderitu2461 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Am happy for you gal😊 am also in 4yr n there is nothing good as working on yourself

    • @wanguimbatia2456
      @wanguimbatia2456 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Heey
      Define working on yourself please 😅

    • @brendakemunto4045
      @brendakemunto4045 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@wanguimbatia2456you missed the whole point of this podcast!

  • @maureenmaingi
    @maureenmaingi 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This conversation was divine

  • @abasadaphine1605
    @abasadaphine1605 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such a wholesome conversation❤

  • @user-bl7mw1wp4e
    @user-bl7mw1wp4e 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    thank you for this podcast❤best conversations ever.

  • @leonasimwe2947
    @leonasimwe2947 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such a mind blowing session .... made me learn alot

  • @MukiriCarol
    @MukiriCarol 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Amazing conversation

  • @cecilciena2244
    @cecilciena2244 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A part 2 and 3 and more please that was so 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @user-ut5uu9gs4r
    @user-ut5uu9gs4r 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love Muthoni ❤️so much

  • @omaoomosa8636
    @omaoomosa8636 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    amazing.
    that was too good and self disclosure, very assertive girls. keep up

  • @gracewambui9
    @gracewambui9 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved this sooo much❤❤❤

  • @pieramwende3559
    @pieramwende3559 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I wish I would have seen this last year,I was in the worst relationship but still convinced myself all will be well. I am glad I got the courage to leave. It was the best decision I ever made. This is very good. Ladies out there should watch this. You go girl❤

    • @njerikamau6590
      @njerikamau6590 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Tell me how you did it. Am stuck no job toxic relationship weuh

    • @puritykasandi5097
      @puritykasandi5097 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I went through the same thank God for the courage

  • @Valwangila
    @Valwangila 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I loved the episode so much, and I definitely agree with the idea of soul ties, I know that, it's usually a tricky topic to unpack but I also believe that life is spiritual and soul ties are real. So as much as we do the self work, it's important for us to pray and involve God in everything we do.

    • @charlesndungu1529
      @charlesndungu1529 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      the fact you know and involve God ❤

  • @mwanjeri737
    @mwanjeri737 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    we are here for wisdom n to learn

  • @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq
    @SilvernMutisya-kg8fq 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I Love this Sharon, there is no time you disappoint. Loving it to bits!🙂

  • @lizzywambui9697
    @lizzywambui9697 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    @Sharon, this was a really awesome episode

  • @lucyndege5323
    @lucyndege5323 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Muthoni 🙏🙏 honestly

  • @esthermwangi3234
    @esthermwangi3234 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We need part 2 of this😊

  • @edahwanjiru4557
    @edahwanjiru4557 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Really loved the conversation....

  • @ITSIRENE_
    @ITSIRENE_ 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This! So informative!

  • @JoyJelimo-lo9mv
    @JoyJelimo-lo9mv 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love the conversation we have gone through a lot in the name of narcissist

  • @lucyboboh3024
    @lucyboboh3024 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Nice & educative conversation❤.Sharon & muthoni your brilliant beautiful girls❤

  • @Wambui29
    @Wambui29 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so great 🙌🙌..... Even for a girl in a relationship most of what u guys have said about knowing thyself can be applied across the board. I think we should do the make version of this.... About guys who ladies are toxic.... Bottom line this was 🔥🔥🔥

  • @tabbywaithera9112
    @tabbywaithera9112 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so helpful and v therapeutic 😌

  • @wacera78
    @wacera78 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh Sharon God bless you for bringing to us such a platform and such guests who pour positively into our lives. I have enjoyed this episode so much and have a lot of take outs. I love the "cultivate your home " as well as sending myself messages! love it!

  • @njokimuritu1242
    @njokimuritu1242 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great insightful conversation 🎉

  • @tabithawaithira1202
    @tabithawaithira1202 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Interesting discussion, i love it😊

  • @Jerutosharon
    @Jerutosharon 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Discovered this podcast today 😊and I'm already loving it ❤

  • @charlenenjenga6361
    @charlenenjenga6361 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is a very informative video. The value you are giving is 🔥🔥👌🏽

  • @njerigakuru7519
    @njerigakuru7519 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Insightful discussion.

  • @sharondenge8571
    @sharondenge8571 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This so educative...❤

  • @Lelentleleina
    @Lelentleleina 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Beautiful episode Sharon, watching from 🇿🇦

  • @estherchibutia3283
    @estherchibutia3283 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wooow you brought muthoni ma favorite I just love her advise

  • @gracewanjiru3011
    @gracewanjiru3011 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Our girl muthoni in the house....

  • @annenguyo1797
    @annenguyo1797 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved the session❤