This story triggered a lot of memories. Empaths have a way of being taken advantage by Narcissists. Move on, nothing feels good like going back to yourself. You will be ok❤
Mother's instincts are always high. My mum saved me from a bad relationship, which would have ruined my entire life. She just said, " Huyo mtu hakupendi anapenda kazi yako" Take heart sister
Hawa ni wale benjamin zulu talks about - under 25s you haveno business getting into relationships coz you are still growing & dont have the mental & emotional maturity to handle the issues that arise therein. Kudos Grace for realising you were being financially manipulated & deciding to cut your losses albeit at the time you were over 25. Wasichana wadogo listen & learn 👂
Very unfortunate that her simplicity and innocence were exploited by a good for nothing dependants. You are right, but for majority of women I dare say and I am one, having a husband in quotes takes priority especially when there's a baby all ready. Tunajifubga na watoto. I wish we could learn to wait for longer before allowing ourselves to be pregnant. We will not think right if there's a baby already. Pole sana but she survived to tell her story. Hope we have learnt. All the best girl. Your path is crystal clear now I hope. God shine his face upon you. Poor child had to leave early.
If it nessary for u to get married marry ur friend ❤ when loves fade friendship remains 😊 wenye tuko single let's countinuea being single till we meet our friends
A user is a user ata ufanye nini, what were you really looking from this man? Kupata second born ulizidi sana. Marriage is not for the weak. it's for the very strong and upright n have muscles to face it head on
Waaah first of all getting asecond born with him was amistake cos right from the word go he was not agood man.secondly the red fags were too many him as aman was supposed to be aprovide yet you were the one who was providing all thru.iwish you contineud staying with your child instead of wellcoming him to your life again.but God wii see you through now you know better
True, just remain single than spend your money on any man, btw, why should you. Ironically, ladies with real money like Kawira Mwangaza, Gladys Wanga, Milly Odhiambo, Senator Omanga, yule senator wa Samido, Hon. Mishi mboko etc all don't have issues.
Grace that's what am going through right now I have a baby through cs now three wks but no relationship since I have no funds,but I paid all I had in hospital and did everything for my baby
In life never force issues ladies, you forced yourself to the man and family, tena university student wana pesa ya kulea familia #university man ako na pesa kweli to cater for family?
Ukimwagia mwanamme love yako yote baadae anakuhate akijua minus him you will not survive 😮ningekua mm naonyeshwa upumbavu huu wote ningejiondoa mapema xana,mapema ndo best.
Sometime i wanna blame parenting .....because parents had time to install values especially to young boys on hiw to treat a woman ...this why you see nowdays the adult men we have in the world mostvofvtgem think a woman nikifagio ya kufagilia..very few gentleman we have out there and most already taken😏
So sad that women continue going through this kind of pain.its so sad aki.the desperation.lesson number one,only submit to men who love you and provide,Hawa wengine,NO
Very true.... But apparently most people will think that iyo mentality ni ya gold digging 😅 but me husema wacha ni itwe gold digger kama mtu ha provide please kip off.... And if there's no genuine love kip off too. Mimi ata my baby dadi i sued him in childrens court coz utakua aje uko alive and kicking and you don't want to provide for your own child/ children aaai no way. And ladies should also stop providing for men who who don't do anything for their children what you allow is what continues
Eh? Surely this lady has been through so much. I feel like the fights were solely because the guy did not love this lady at all. I pray she finds joy and peace.
The marriage was dramatic from both ends. Weuh! This definition of submission is more human than Godly. You are to submit to a man who is laying down himself for you. Not some person taking advantage of you in the name of submission. The mother-in-law was crazy. That man was sick. How do you not bury your own child?!
I got angry listening to this story. I’m glad you’re grown now. Let’s learn to speak openly to our parents and listen to them very well. They only want what’s best for you! Men who do this should stop doing this rubbish . Women wake up!
But what is this? Being young and naive is a problem. You were never in a relationship with this man, not even one day. All the red flags were there, bright and RED.
Women please please having a child with someone is not marriage You dont need to be married. Women self love is the best thing love yourselves. Your children belong only to you if the man does not show any effort to help or take responsibility. They is nothing wrong to be a single woman or single mother. Our life belongs to God . Let God's will be done in your life .
A certain man was seriously offended after requesting the wife to add 5k so that he can buy water dispenser for the family, only to be exposed before long that he had kept mpango wa kando who was really squandering family resources. Some men are heartless, no mercy, take advantage of their wives. Women be aware. Weeee
Watu wengine hupenda tu kuchapwa makofi motomoto ndio waamke kutoka usingizi! sasa wewe ulikuwa uko na job yako, kuolewa na shetani nayo ya nini? na walipeleka mahari nyumbani kwenu ama ni kuolewa ya jina tu? wewe ulijiharibia tu mda bure so ni kujipendea shida tu.
Jeez! You went through all that at your age! Pole sana especially for the loss of your child. I would advise that you take time to heal and seek therapy. Also, accept that you made mistakes by entertaining a FOOLISH MAN and his FOOLISH RELATIVES for way too long! You need to learn how to establish your boundaries lest you make similar or worse mistakes in your next relationship. It's common to find oneself developing a pattern of dating men or women with the same kind of behaviour. Going through this kind of stress can kill you. Please learn kujipenda. Also, young girls, please avoid getting into emotional entanglements with men who dont love you. You can always tell a man who loves you from the way he treats you while you're dating. Find out if he has future plans with you by asking him. His response should help you decide of it's a short term relationship or a long term one. And, only make babies when you're ready to have them. There's nothing like it was an accident. I say this because I was sexually active while at Uni and I used condoms throughout. My ex and I weren't ready for kids, because we were not sure about what the future had for us and we did not want to risk getting STIs. Also, don't get on a family planning method just because your boyfriend has asked you to. Only do it because you have decided to. Also make sure you get this at a reputable health facility after being assessed by a nurse, a clinical officer or a gynaecologist. It's also possible to remain celibate until you're emotionally ready for sex and its potential consequences.
Waah. Many factors can lead to such situations. Including our own family backgrounds.. E.g. Men can marry a woman and as soon as they do their lives turn useless, happens too women can marry men and their lives turn useless.. Family backgrounds matter.. More than that Prayer and submission to Christ matters. You might be with the man you need most, you might be in a spiritual fight and you don't know how to handle it.. Pray, seek spiritual help.. But first don't break your ndoa.. And don't listen to everyone's opinion and stories. I have male friends who have noticed and say it, ever since I married so and so I have turned into a cabbage. I feel useless and psych less. So pray mami
Am really sorry for this lady,however I am not okay with the camera man and the directors.she needed some training on how to sit and that handkerchief..
Ata kama ulikuwa mdogo, u entertained this idiot for too long, this was desperation of highest order . Even us we were once naive but can't remember getting to this point. Bado uliendelea kumbebea miimba, surely. You brought all this to yourself. Bembeleza mwanaume at tour own risk. Mwisho wa siku wewe ndio utaumia Mt friend.
I think should take a bit of time to stabilize financially and mature before getting into serious commitments. This KM place in KU has a lot of kalongo unions masquerading as marriages. Mtoto anaoa mtoto wanazaa mtoto
The part where you give him your furniture😰 Mi hukuja hapa show nijifunze. Nijichune maskio. I want to learn from people's stories. Haki but where are your friends in this journey? Every gal needs galfriends who tell you No and snap you out of it.
Why are you so keen on manufacturing problems/poverty? Like why are you bringing in a second child and he didn't even take care of the first one? Be fair to your children, the decisions you made all of them were so unjust to your kids.
Weeeee I can support a visionary man who is worth supporting but not a useless man We just need to ask God to help differentiate the 2, There's a difference between submission and slavery let again learn to differentiate the 2 You overlooked so many red flags The best thing a woman can do is to love herself first
This story triggered a lot of memories. Empaths have a way of being taken advantage by Narcissists. Move on, nothing feels good like going back to yourself. You will be ok❤
thanks dear
So sorry for the loss of you baby. Soldier on girl, you are beautiful and eloquent. You got a bright future ahead. Bravo for taking baby girl back
Thanks
There were too many glaring red flags to bring a second child into the mix,pole mama
Absolutely
Especially hiyo Ya mtu kujilipia fare yake when travelling together
Lesson learned never support anyone in this life only your children 😂😂😂😂😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😮
Our parents see far!
Problem with us women is that we use our heart to love instead of our head.
true...
Mother's instincts are always high. My mum saved me from a bad relationship, which would have ruined my entire life. She just said, " Huyo mtu hakupendi anapenda kazi yako" Take heart sister
That's true mothers instincts are always right
Walipata mutungi ya kuchota pesa . never be soft in a relationship, kubembeleza msee ni kuharibu
Sure
Hawa ni wale benjamin zulu talks about - under 25s you haveno business getting into relationships coz you are still growing & dont have the mental & emotional maturity to handle the issues that arise therein. Kudos Grace for realising you were being financially manipulated & deciding to cut your losses albeit at the time you were over 25. Wasichana wadogo listen & learn 👂
YES. am listening and am like you guys don't listen to Benjamin Zulu ..
sorry not being judgemental,but ladies tujipende. desperation will make men despise us even more
Very unfortunate that her simplicity and innocence were exploited by a good for nothing dependants. You are right, but for majority of women I dare say and I am one, having a husband in quotes takes priority especially when there's a baby all ready. Tunajifubga na watoto. I wish we could learn to wait for longer before allowing ourselves to be pregnant. We will not think right if there's a baby already. Pole sana but she survived to tell her story. Hope we have learnt. All the best girl. Your path is crystal clear now I hope. God shine his face upon you. Poor child had to leave early.
Thank you! Yoooh
He noted your desperation and capitalised on the same...hadi anaita vitu zako...and you must share costs 50..50
I have like 300 words to comments. But in short... Pole sana.
Thanks
If it nessary for u to get married marry ur friend ❤ when loves fade friendship remains 😊 wenye tuko single let's countinuea being single till we meet our friends
Love doesn't fade. It only grows. If it fades it was never love but infatuation
A user is a user ata ufanye nini, what were you really looking from this man? Kupata second born ulizidi sana. Marriage is not for the weak. it's for the very strong and upright n have muscles to face it head on
Wueeh huyu hata yeye she was too much
Amen💯
Waaah first of all getting asecond born with him was amistake cos right from the word go he was not agood man.secondly the red fags were too many him as aman was supposed to be aprovide yet you were the one who was providing all thru.iwish you contineud staying with your child instead of wellcoming him to your life again.but God wii see you through now you know better
I do not blame her,Kenyan societal has enslaved people ati lazima uwe na bwana
Ogopa hao wakora in the name of in laws 😢😢
Siwezi spend pesa Kwa mwanaume, Wacha nibaki single nkt
Heri
Huu ni untanyasaji wa highest order
True, just remain single than spend your money on any man, btw, why should you. Ironically, ladies with real money like Kawira Mwangaza, Gladys Wanga, Milly Odhiambo, Senator Omanga, yule senator wa Samido, Hon. Mishi mboko etc all don't have issues.
Kwanza spending money on a man who dasent support his own child / children 🤦♀️ women pia muache kukua desperate.....
Wueh...Mami umeteseka. Pole
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Grace ulibeg sana huyo jamaa weee do not force yourself to someone mwenye hakupendi ende ukiendenga
That's a good experience learned 😂😂the boy,s family were so happy kupata fala kwa family yao wa kutumika kipesa😂😂😂😂
Pole Grace
There was no marriage from day one, hiyo ilikuwa kwa kichwa yako tu
Grace that's what am going through right now I have a baby through cs now three wks but no relationship since I have no funds,but I paid all I had in hospital and did everything for my baby
Pole sana God will take care for you and the little one
Hugs mommo you will overcome like me
In life never force issues ladies, you forced yourself to the man and family, tena university student wana pesa ya kulea familia #university man ako na pesa kweli to cater for family?
Waah! Nimeshaanga sana huyo mwanamume
How can you leave your kid mahali ata ujui and you are comfortable??😂😂😂that's being desparate
Ukimwagia mwanamme love yako yote baadae anakuhate akijua minus him you will not survive 😮ningekua mm naonyeshwa upumbavu huu wote ningejiondoa mapema xana,mapema ndo best.
Absolutely hey this one tolarated alot of bullshit
But why should you pay him to look after his own child?
Am telling you ilkua uchawi
Sometime i wanna blame parenting .....because parents had time to install values especially to young boys on hiw to treat a woman ...this why you see nowdays the adult men we have in the world mostvofvtgem think a woman nikifagio ya kufagilia..very few gentleman we have out there and most already taken😏
So sad that women continue going through this kind of pain.its so sad aki.the desperation.lesson number one,only submit to men who love you and provide,Hawa wengine,NO
Very true.... But apparently most people will think that iyo mentality ni ya gold digging 😅 but me husema wacha ni itwe gold digger kama mtu ha provide please kip off.... And if there's no genuine love kip off too.
Mimi ata my baby dadi i sued him in childrens court coz utakua aje uko alive and kicking and you don't want to provide for your own child/ children aaai no way.
And ladies should also stop providing for men who who don't do anything for their children what you allow is what continues
I pray that every woman going through pain find peace and courage to leave
@Justus, kindly check your guests.aki huyu ata viatu ziko na matope.You can do small training even on sitting posture.
Eh? Surely this lady has been through so much. I feel like the fights were solely because the guy did not love this lady at all. I pray she finds joy and peace.
Thanks dear
Akianani nmekasirika yangu yote!!😵😵😡😡😡naskia kuchapa watu Hadi mother in law
😂😅😂😅
😂😂😂😂 wotee mpaka father in-law and all the inlaws
@@zawadijuliet6311 Yes ata huyo jamaa then nmalizie na huyu Dem kias😵😵
😂😂😂😂😂
Lakini i need another brain to understand why women tolerate some things for too long before they realize there is no love in the relationship
I stopped judging until I stayed in one for 5years.
A good D can make you lose your mind 😂
It should be the first red flag 😂
True, tuseme tu ukweli
This was hilarious, y tollarate all that
all because of love and the desire to ensure a marriage or relationship works
The marriage was dramatic from both ends. Weuh! This definition of submission is more human than Godly. You are to submit to a man who is laying down himself for you. Not some person taking advantage of you in the name of submission. The mother-in-law was crazy. That man was sick. How do you not bury your own child?!
Please dont call those things husband, there are real husbands out here,,, this name is misused just say partner
Amen
Narcissists .are all over
This is true. character dev kweli kweli
Sadly this can happen even in marej ppl change 😢ppl who pretend to love you
So sad, but you followed him, without him showing any interest😮
She is the one who use to look for him they guy had even told him he's married when she was pgd with the first born
Enyewe akuna siku huyu bwana amemtafuta. Yeye ndiye humtafuta
Greetings from the cool hills of Ngong ❤
is she talking about my baby dady 😂😂😂aki men
Yet men be claiming women are being killed for the love of money. Nakumbe ni wao sikuhizi ni makupe. Suckers they are.
My friend,they are called narcissists! Kilikuramba but as long as you have learnt your lessons utakuwa poa in the coming days!
But she really ignored alot of red flags this one will still entertain him when he come back
Kwanza hapo kwa viatu za 3k
Siwezi
Ulidharauliwa since day one but you didn't see this, kwani wewe hadi unanikasirisha haki, ati utumoe father in-law 3k
Imagine!
sorry for the loss Grace
Thanks
eeish,hii nayo sina comment...
Lakini kwa nini uache mtoto kwa family hakuwa amezoeana nayo😢,,,siezi achie mtoto wangu strangers
I got angry listening to this story. I’m glad you’re grown now. Let’s learn to speak openly to our parents and listen to them very well. They only want what’s best for you! Men who do this should stop doing this rubbish . Women wake up!
I just wish to see that man 😂😂😂,,, aki hii dunia iko na wanaume.
Maajabu , lakini funguaa macho mom
Gender roles were reversed in this relationship,he would stay home and watch the infant she was the bread winner
I tell you nilipitia
story of my life....iam having an exit plan
I blame u. He had been telling u pick your items Na bado uko tu? Desparate for marriage
My classmate back in Ukia girls pole mama❤miss you
Thanks
Class of which year, am alluminae wa ukia too
Pole gal
But what is this?
Being young and naive is a problem.
You were never in a relationship with this man, not even one day.
All the red flags were there, bright and RED.
Was this really a marriage? Sounds to me like she was in the relationship by herself.
😂😂😂😂 I'm also surprised what is is that she is naming husband
Women please please having a child with someone is not marriage
You dont need to be married.
Women self love is the best thing love yourselves. Your children belong only to you if the man does not show any effort to help or take responsibility.
They is nothing wrong to be a single woman or single mother.
Our life belongs to God .
Let God's will be done in your life .
Hii sasa ni ujinga Grace aki aiiiiiii
Thought Soo too
There's was no marriage hapo. Utalipa aje mtu kuchunga mwanawe?. He should be the one providing for you and the children.
Am telling you I did it ..bt later nilitoka hio slavery
A certain man was seriously offended after requesting the wife to add 5k so that he can buy water dispenser for the family, only to be exposed before long that he had kept mpango wa kando who was really squandering family resources.
Some men are heartless, no mercy, take advantage of their wives.
Women be aware. Weeee
I left and i dont regreat,i was a single mother in marriage
We si ulijitolea
Watching from US but don’t understand…and no subtitles 😢
The later is lucky in employment not in love.pole mummy
Kumbe izi marriage wengine wanaforce tu issue, awuoro. 🤣🤣Desperation is a disease, why would I send a man who is not providing money
I totally understand toxic men still exist.sorry for everything
Kienyeji+Foolishness+Desperation+Naivety🟰This nonstop disaster of a woman 👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽
I’m sure even now if the man comes back she’ll take him 🙆🏽♀️
Am not smart but as a woman ukiwa na mtoto you focus on the child/lren.
@@paulysutsiey649 surely how can she even open her mouth and talk? The Israeli army wouldn’t be able to get this information out of me‼️
Watu wengine hupenda tu kuchapwa makofi motomoto ndio waamke kutoka usingizi! sasa wewe ulikuwa uko na job yako, kuolewa na shetani nayo ya nini? na walipeleka mahari nyumbani kwenu ama ni kuolewa ya jina tu? wewe ulijiharibia tu mda bure so ni kujipendea shida tu.
I see most ladies bashing this girl .She is a good soul who valued family but fall in love with a bad guy.
Narcissist all over
This kind of stories are so common among naive village girls from the village who met men in KU. Huko vienyeji wanatapa narcissists. Student wives
Jeez! You went through all that at your age! Pole sana especially for the loss of your child.
I would advise that you take time to heal and seek therapy. Also, accept that you made mistakes by entertaining a FOOLISH MAN and his FOOLISH RELATIVES for way too long!
You need to learn how to establish your boundaries lest you make similar or worse mistakes in your next relationship. It's common to find oneself developing a pattern of dating men or women with the same kind of behaviour. Going through this kind of stress can kill you.
Please learn kujipenda.
Also, young girls, please avoid getting into emotional entanglements with men who dont love you. You can always tell a man who loves you from the way he treats you while you're dating. Find out if he has future plans with you by asking him. His response should help you decide of it's a short term relationship or a long term one.
And, only make babies when you're ready to have them. There's nothing like it was an accident. I say this because I was sexually active while at Uni and I used condoms throughout. My ex and I weren't ready for kids, because we were not sure about what the future had for us and we did not want to risk getting STIs.
Also, don't get on a family planning method just because your boyfriend has asked you to. Only do it because you have decided to. Also make sure you get this at a reputable health facility after being assessed by a nurse, a clinical officer or a gynaecologist.
It's also possible to remain celibate until you're emotionally ready for sex and its potential consequences.
Am leaving with such a parasite know , Mungu anihelp tu nimwondokee
Toka mbio haraka vile iwezekanavyo
ATI mungu afanye?😂😂😂
Jiondoe dadaa
Waah. Many factors can lead to such situations. Including our own family backgrounds.. E.g. Men can marry a woman and as soon as they do their lives turn useless, happens too women can marry men and their lives turn useless.. Family backgrounds matter.. More than that Prayer and submission to Christ matters. You might be with the man you need most, you might be in a spiritual fight and you don't know how to handle it.. Pray, seek spiritual help.. But first don't break your ndoa.. And don't listen to everyone's opinion and stories. I have male friends who have noticed and say it, ever since I married so and so I have turned into a cabbage. I feel useless and psych less. So pray mami
Toroka haraka before ukufe
Jiondoe isikurambe kaa mimi bt now am enlightened
Ladies why are you desperate for love that will never work 😅😅😅😅😅😅
This was beyond........I don't want to sound rude or disrespectful but ukweli foolishness was part of it on the ladies side
What does not kill you only makes you stronger.
Judgement from society for not getting married.
Yanii i sit with my boyfriend in a mat then i pay for myself???😂😂😂😂😂
Am really sorry for this lady,however I am not okay with the camera man and the directors.she needed some training on how to sit and that handkerchief..
Sorry but this relationship had a lot of red flags from the start ... lets love ourselves more
Ata kama ulikuwa mdogo, u entertained this idiot for too long, this was desperation of highest order . Even us we were once naive but can't remember getting to this point. Bado uliendelea kumbebea miimba, surely. You brought all this to yourself. Bembeleza mwanaume at tour own risk. Mwisho wa siku wewe ndio utaumia Mt friend.
Most women who works in rural areas are like this I don't know why, You get a nurse married to a bodaboda and she provides everything... I wanta
What sort of a relationship 😮😮😮????????????
sad to say but you got yourself into something knowingly and ignoring all the red flags. victim mentality wont save people nor will ignorance.
Woooi this one was too gullible
Thank God ulifunguka macho juu wueh huyo mngezeeka pamoja??
Saa hii ningekua nishakufa aki ni God alisaidia nikajitoa
The lady ni mjinga naturally na watu wa bwana waliua mtoto
Whàaah kweli hii dunia
Her story has given ne some sort of depression. That "man" child knew she was kind hearted and took advantage of it.
Subtitles please.
Not all people understand Swahili. Borrow from Lynn ngugi
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Women be careful, days are evil, have boundaries, some men are so subtle and take advantage of women .
I think should take a bit of time to stabilize financially and mature before getting into serious commitments. This KM place in KU has a lot of kalongo unions masquerading as marriages. Mtoto anaoa mtoto wanazaa mtoto
Kalekye nawe uliforce issues hapa
You ignored every Red flag possible
I didn't know
Ladies, dont be this desperate in the name of marriage . Arghhh 🙄
Waah
Lakini men aki
Pesa luoro koko
It is called trauma bonding huwezi elewa mpaka you deal with a narc before that utaongea venye unaongea
Nowadays watoto hutulet down sana kama wazazi, I think am wasting my data, this lady sound so desparate, ananunua mapenzi live live😂😂😂
Huyu ni wife material na urembo kama yote.,wanaume mko na nini jameni? Ngai fafa.
The part where you give him your furniture😰 Mi hukuja hapa show nijifunze. Nijichune maskio. I want to learn from people's stories. Haki but where are your friends in this journey? Every gal needs galfriends who tell you No and snap you out of it.
I can’t tolerate such what a sad story
Unaboo grace kwani ulikua umerogwa
😂😂
Wacha tu ilkua urogi sikuamini
Two working parents abandoning a child to live with grandparents. Yes legally that's abandonment. Very selfish
exactly
imagine how would a mother agree to that. I guess she was too naïve or in love
Don't judge
People are so quick to judge yet they cannot fit in others shoes.
Imagine. Na wanapata mimba ingine
Who said nowadays only men should support ladies?
Women with love tolerating all the nonsense because of love ..
Why are you so keen on manufacturing problems/poverty? Like why are you bringing in a second child and he didn't even take care of the first one? Be fair to your children, the decisions you made all of them were so unjust to your kids.
THANK YOU!!!!!
Choices have consequences. She was in this marriage alone but was trying to convince herself that she was married maybe out of desperation.
I tell you I saw red flags bt red was my favorite color..bt now I know better
@@gracekalekye9699 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Alaf chunga usiangukie the same trap tena
Take time finding a good partner
Am wise now
@gracekalekye9699 .Nothing like wise Grace,Put God first all these other things will follow.
Io ilikuwa mwanaume ama ng'ombe ya mtu
😂 from analysis ni kama the second option 😅
Ilikua ngombe aki
Weeeee
I can support a visionary man who is worth supporting but not a useless man
We just need to ask God to help differentiate the 2,
There's a difference between submission and slavery let again learn to differentiate the 2
You overlooked so many red flags
The best thing a woman can do is to love herself first