Just like empathy, narcissists are also void of any sense of obligation. Their sense of entitlement completely voids any opportunity for obligation to fit in. Yet, the narcissist will absolutely use their target’s sense of obligation - to keep the target locked into the toxic relationship. People need to learn these twisted tactics, and stop allowing these narcs to play their sick game.
Do all narcissists threaten to cancel vacation trips when getting close to the date of vacation? Silent treatment, walking on eggshells, getting mad for everything? He didn’t even celebrate my birthday with me he just ignored me and for valentines the same no flowers no dinner nothing
Wow. Yeah, holidays, birthdays, and such I used to dread them. Every trip ever scheduled would result in threatening to cancel and constant drama and chaos.
Honestly, I've spent so much time trying to figure out why they always pick fights before or during important dates. It's such a ridiculous and irrational pattern when you think about it.
Narcissistic husband, over 50 years, constantly complained about anything and if he had nothing to complain about, in reality, he made up problems/chaios! I caught him in the act. Example: Long and slim iced tea spoons put in dishwasher with long slim handles placed downward to cause possible damage to dishwasher if handles extended past the flatware basket. He would hide, all the iced tea spoons. One day, he didn't know I was behind him while he purposely placed the iced tea spoons incorrectly into the flatware basket. All of HIS "CONSTANT "GAMES"!!!
That tornado analogy is excellent. Also good for understanding the narcissist's attitude towards boundaries... they respect them as much as a tornado respects a picket fence.
We're here to support your healing journey. Come join us in this free masterclass to learn about the secret methods on breaking free from the toxic, break the bond and empower yourself once more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass.
My husband would mess with my mind so much I'd think to myself "I can't believe I lived my whole life not knowing how horrible I am." But I see now that yes I lived my whole life and never was horrible person to my friend or family till I met this person that convinced me that I was mess so he could control and manipulate me.
Wow man you are amazing. You managed to get self aware and study it and see it for what it is, that it is a disorder and it takes tons of self reflecting and intense therapy to escape your patterns. Bipolar here. It takes so much willpower and self-awareness to fight the enemy within your own mind. Gotta show this to my psychoanalyst and my psychiatrist, they say narcissists rarely come in and stay in therapy. This is such a plot twist for my views on the disorder. 🤯
This is the story of my life - going through this dark & sorrow full situation for over 30 yrs. Never experience anything nice with this man supposed to be my husband.
My narcissistic partner was using money to control me. Im a single mom living paycheck to paycheck and he used my weakest area to keep me under his control ..but then picked a fight and took away his financial help as punishment and it left me in a really bad place financially and emotionally…he loves to punish me😥
My Narc would say I didn't have to worry about money, then make me feel like a burden ans discard me because I wasn't doing enough for 'us' financially. I had my own place to look after and a family. I think he was jealous.
Did you ever have periods of time where you were not playing any narc games where you were not triggered ?? Or were you always playing narc control games ? Is it a non stop thing or do you do this within periods of time ??
If I leave I will be homeless, on the street, or in a shelter, I feel stuck, and powerless. My husband is not just mentally and emotionally abusive,l he is also physically abusive. The last time he hit me, I had him put in jail, after a year of anger management classes court ordered, we was sperated for 4 months. I was in a battered woman shelter. I have no family living, to help me. He made a 1000 promises, I went back. I knew within 3 days I had made a mistake, I've been stuck sense then. He hasn't hit me, but he has bumped up the mental and emotional abuse. I'm planning my escape, but it's going to take months.
Can I please ask did you know you were doing the tactics you speak of or did you only just realise you were doing them after you became self aware? Thanks
I am so confused if my Ex was a narc and we still interact and alwys drama or trauma...not sure why. Sometimes I wonder if I am the narc? I am confused on it for sure
We're here to support you on your healing journey. Take the first step by joining our free masterclass, where you'll learn how to break free from toxic relationships and much more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass
Never a straight answer, always talking around an issue, saying he’d “love to see me but has a cold” after ghosting me for nearly a month. Utter B.S. Called him on it, and got silence.
I think he's kinda presenting from his wife/mistresses' perspective as the targets of HIS abuse... He usually generalises - 'he/she/they' - but he was feeling/owning his personal role as abuser on this one
Just like empathy, narcissists are also void of any sense of obligation. Their sense of entitlement completely voids any opportunity for obligation to fit in. Yet, the narcissist will absolutely use their target’s sense of obligation - to keep the target locked into the toxic relationship. People need to learn these twisted tactics, and stop allowing these narcs to play their sick game.
No empathy, lies, conflicting stories, words don't match actions, codependent. RUN,!
I feel crazy😢
Do all narcissists threaten to cancel vacation trips when getting close to the date of vacation?
Silent treatment, walking on eggshells, getting mad for everything? He didn’t even celebrate my birthday with me he just ignored me and for valentines the same no flowers no dinner nothing
A lot of times yes. Https://www.rawmotivations.com/unchained
Wow. Yeah, holidays, birthdays, and such I used to dread them. Every trip ever scheduled would result in threatening to cancel and constant drama and chaos.
hope you are healing!
@@RawMotivations slowly. Why can't I find your second journal? 😔
OMG, that was my experience too. I was always walking on eggshells around important dates and travel plans.
Honestly, I've spent so much time trying to figure out why they always pick fights before or during important dates. It's such a ridiculous and irrational pattern when you think about it.
Narcissistic husband, over 50 years, constantly complained about anything and if he had nothing to complain about, in reality, he made up problems/chaios! I caught him in the act. Example: Long and slim iced tea spoons put in dishwasher with long slim handles placed downward to cause possible damage to dishwasher if handles extended past the flatware basket. He would hide, all the iced tea spoons. One day, he didn't know I was behind him while he purposely placed the iced tea spoons incorrectly into the flatware basket. All of HIS "CONSTANT "GAMES"!!!
That tornado analogy is excellent. Also good for understanding the narcissist's attitude towards boundaries... they respect them as much as a tornado respects a picket fence.
appreciate the insight!
Most all of them do not change. Everyone needs to move on and stop holding their breath. This behavior started at a very young age.🤡👈🏻
Leaving this comment for survivals be strong I'm also struggling but believe one day I'll be okay he make me feel crazy .
We're here to support your healing journey. Come join us in this free masterclass to learn about the secret methods on breaking free from the toxic, break the bond and empower yourself once more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass.
My husband would mess with my mind so much I'd think to myself "I can't believe I lived my whole life not knowing how horrible I am." But I see now that yes I lived my whole life and never was horrible person to my friend or family till I met this person that convinced me that I was mess so he could control and manipulate me.
I said I was going to lock myself up in a mental ward and that I was going to get tested for Alzheimer's
Said to who ?
One of your best, Ben. So accurate I cried...
Wow man you are amazing. You managed to get self aware and study it and see it for what it is, that it is a disorder and it takes tons of self reflecting and intense therapy to escape your patterns. Bipolar here. It takes so much willpower and self-awareness to fight the enemy within your own mind. Gotta show this to my psychoanalyst and my psychiatrist, they say narcissists rarely come in and stay in therapy. This is such a plot twist for my views on the disorder. 🤯
Yes I have that all the time . I now have to find ways to deal with it . But it gets to me mentally . I need to find a way to escape from it .
I want to do the 7 day challenge but I have no money and its vital to my life
This is the story of my life - going through this dark & sorrow full situation for over 30 yrs. Never experience anything nice with this man supposed to be my husband.
My narcissistic partner was using money to control me. Im a single mom living paycheck to paycheck and he used my weakest area to keep me under his control ..but then picked a fight and took away his financial help as punishment and it left me in a really bad place financially and emotionally…he loves to punish me😥
My Narc would say I didn't have to worry about money, then make me feel like a burden ans discard me because I wasn't doing enough for 'us' financially. I had my own place to look after and a family. I think he was jealous.
The financial abuse is horrible and probably one of the worse things they do especially when kids are involved
I think my Ex used my 'never giving in or quitting attitude' as leverage against me, making the Trauma-Bond hold over me even tighter. 🍒
Did you ever have periods of time where you were not playing any narc games where you were not triggered ?? Or were you always playing narc control games ? Is it a non stop thing or do you do this within periods of time ??
Your stuff is so fucking great!
Thank you! Take the next step in your healing www.rawmotivations.com/survivor
Thanks
If I leave I will be homeless, on the street, or in a shelter, I feel stuck, and powerless. My husband is not just mentally and emotionally abusive,l he is also physically abusive. The last time he hit me, I had him put in jail, after a year of anger management classes court ordered, we was sperated for 4 months. I was in a battered woman shelter. I have no family living, to help me. He made a 1000 promises, I went back. I knew within 3 days I had made a mistake, I've been stuck sense then. He hasn't hit me, but he has bumped up the mental and emotional abuse. I'm planning my escape, but it's going to take months.
Contact Called to Peace Ministries. They can help you.
💯
Did you know you were using these tactic's
Can I please ask did you know you were doing the tactics you speak of or did you only just realise you were doing them after you became self aware? Thanks
What if he doesn't deny what he did. But he just doesn't say a word. He won't respond.
That's a great question! You can discover the answer by joining our free masterclass at www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass.
I am so confused if my Ex was a narc and we still interact and alwys drama or trauma...not sure why. Sometimes I wonder if I am the narc? I am confused on it for sure
We're here to support you on your healing journey. Take the first step by joining our free masterclass, where you'll learn how to break free from toxic relationships and much more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass
Watch the Called to Peace Ministries videos and contact them. They’ll help you figure out what to do and help you understand what’s happening better.
Never a straight answer, always talking around an issue, saying he’d “love to see me but has a cold” after ghosting me for nearly a month. Utter B.S. Called him on it, and got silence.
The only way to get away is to not engage
What was the moment which made you self aware? Would love to know your story !!
Here's one th-cam.com/video/zJ2hQ6oqbrw/w-d-xo.htmlsi=ivCmps3x4mmqqIOC
👍💚
Not all narcs are male.
I think he's kinda presenting from his wife/mistresses' perspective as the targets of HIS abuse... He usually generalises - 'he/she/they' - but he was feeling/owning his personal role as abuser on this one
A “self aware narcissist” who can only discuss things through the lenses of their interactions with the world.
Sometimes you have 57 staples in your head and you live in Florida.
Florida man🤡👈🏻🤯👈🏻😄👈🏻
I want to do the 7 day challenge but I have no money and its vital to my life
Https://www.rawmotivations.com/escape-toxicity