"I DON'T play GAMES": understanding what this really means
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This is a phrase I have heard many, many times over the course of my dating history. You would be forgiven for thinking that the person who says this is ready to "cut to the chase:" to dispense with all the courtship nonsense and negotiate a relationship. However, this is not the case. "I don't play games" really means "hurry up, and give me what I want" -- which is a tactic in the game of relationships. Be very wary of those who profess not to play games. Most likely, they can't afford to pay the sticker price.
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This is a phrase I have heard many, many times over the course of my dating history. You would be forgiven for thinking that the person who says this is ready to "cut to the chase:" to dispense with all the courtship nonsense and negotiate a relationship. However, this is not the case. "I don't play games" really means "hurry up, and give me what I want" -- which is a tactic in the game of relationships. Be very wary of those who profess not to play games. Most likely, they can't afford to pay the sticker price.
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for my understanding you had things like that : "i don't play games- k, what do you offer ? - fuck off, you greedy bastard.(i dont owe you nothing, and many variation of robbed insecurity)"
actually i see great opportunity for interesting conversation there and whant to hear your's thoughts on this perspective:
1. i don't play games. i want serious relationships
2. great, i apprishiate your's straight approach. lets discuss our ideas of serious relationships just to be on the same side - how do you see serious relationships ?/what team yo want to join and in witch role ? carry + support ? partners in crime ? maybe oddly specific combination of those ?
3.- she told you her's preferences
4. k there is my preferences ! how do we will match them/ or how do you see this variation of matching our preferences ??? (repeat untill you ll find common ground)
5. great! we figured out prefered roles in our team! also fell free repeat this conversation if you feel need to redefine this roles (not too often, it ll be quite hard to sustain too chaotic system)
6. now we have to decide what we want to achive together ! pls share what do you expect from this relationships ? cute yellow house where always plays house of the rising sun ? maybe couple nasty boys who always play baseball in the backyard instead of doing their homework?
7. k let's recognize that it is alot of work.
8. with respect of our role preferences and our current recources what do you thing would be fair share of work between us ?
......
this way you do actually communicate her that you are ready to support your's fair share and you both in power to deside that split, instead of ultimatuing her on shady conditions.
p.s. i litterally have no idea and experiances in relationship with a woman, but this kind of discuttion feels fair in this circumstances, so maybe im dellusional, feel free to educate me
I love what you're doing here Doc. Massive respect and the best wishes for you
secular dating is such a fail lol. religious society with arranged marriages ftw
Mate - leave the USA. Everything you say basically only applies to American women. I honestly think that American men should simply boycott their women until they get the picture.
In other countries, women will tell you what they offer - or they will show you. It's normal. Men do the same.
I would be interested to hear from you what factors in American culture have created a generation of women are surprised that a man wants something out of a relationship too.
Short version: any woman who says this is going to be completely toxic to any man. Say nothing and walk away.
“I don’t play games” - I already ran the streets and been through hell and back. Now it’s your job to fix all the mistakes and live up to a higher standard than all the men that came before you. As a man, do not pay premium price for a product other men before you got for free or at a far higher discount.💯
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥✊🏾
Preach!
I had a date said I'm tired of getting ghosted afyer smashing so ima wait 3 months 😂 I took the L and ran
Perhaps they didn’t treat her well as a human being should be treated and you should treat them well ? Bec you’re not her exes?
That could very well be the case, but today women have more options than ever on the dating market. If she was constantly with men who mistreated her, it's because she chose to be with those men. She absolutely had the option of men that would have treated her better.
"Don't waste my time," is essentially saying, "I already wasted my time."
For most of modern women, and just about every women who are not virgins
The answer to 'dont waste my time' is 'you already wasted your time ,no way i can match that waste in my lifetime'.🤔
I don't play games= I play games.
I hate drama= I create drama.
I'm finding myself= I'm participating in hookup culture.
I bring myself to the table=I have nothing to offer.
^this
I make TH-cam videos that are common-sense information about human relationships = I make TH-cam videos that are nonsense opinion designed to pander to the disaffected.
Legend 💯
@@xyaeiounnmaybe you should stop doing those kind of videos, no wonder why you have only 3 subs. 😂
@@tivasthegamer9817 it's a troll. Pay them no mind. There will always be haters when the truth is spoken. The only people that dislike this message is a woman or a white knight
"Don't waste my time."
The way the culture has been going this is the immediate assumption men have whenever they hear these words. Its the same with women suddenly finding Jesus (or any other religion) in their late 20s, or becoming a part of the conscious community, or writing "no hook-ups" on their dating profiles...for some reason it just screams "questionable dating/sexual history". Men just think to themselves "how bad must her past be for her to need this much damage control on a spiritual level"
Bc she already wasted it.
Men will overlook almost everything except body count,feminism and libtardery 🤣
Yeah well abusive and toxic relatinships mess you up and they're really hard especially if you were a good and kind, loving person who did not deserve that to begin with and yes recovery is hard also.
@@NobodyXSomebodyor maybe men are just not interesting to them anymore 🤷♀️
let's be real: people are not interesting.
It's a form of arrogance. It's being so entitled that you think you're above selling yourself. Even the most successful companies have massive sales teams for this reason. No entity is above pitching itself.
Except women! women are the exception to every bad or negative rule! LOL
women generally believe that you walking up to her is equivalent to a purchase decision. Hence the arrogance. Or they just wanna belittle you so they can feel better about being dumped by chad last night. lol
Yes, but in women's defense it's necessary in today's dating environment. A significant portion of men can't/won't/don't sell themselves (or massively undersell) and since they aren't acting masculine to polarize the relationship the woman is forced to play an assertive, frame-setting hand. If many men will accept anything then women must adapt by presenting the lowest bid necessary or they degrade their self-respect by giving up more than required. And there's a lot of men nowadays that will accept nearly anything...
@@allenlin7333 this is absolutely true....EVERY woman I have ever said Hello to assumes I am hitting on them
Games aren't a sales pitch but your statement is a sales pitch for games... albeit, not a very good one.
For some reason, this episode feels unintentionally funny and it works.
I laughed at the title lol
that's the intent.
Truth has that effect. This is why all comedy is based on some truth!
@@jerryjessup9192 I've been known to dabble in the humor.
@@psychacksfunny guy
"i dont play games" is another way of saying "im tired of getting played by guys out of my league"
It's always a game but not the same game if she goes in her league.
@@ClaudiaM-js6ol they're not men, they're cosplaying as women.
@@Altair-El-Haddad Or it's just a case of believing an exception disproves a rule.
Yes. And also No.
"I don't play games" is just shorthand for "I'm tired of being pumped and dumped." That's it.
pumped and dumped by chads
It's also a substitute for not being so high value due to look / running out of time being older. Ie her bartering position is weaker but wants to start with a high bid from a man despite that and has to say "I'm high value" instead of "being high value".
"you have to be able to make me laugh"=I'm a terrible conversationalist, with no sense of humor and you have to do all the talking
@@commentarytalk1446 "Any man who must say 'I am the king' is no true king."
The traditional "I don't play games" relationship is called arranged marriage, done by parents with a rational head instead of the romantic heads of the lovers.
Yes 😂, yet women love to say they don't want mother men 🤷... Men like games just not mind games
@@RicksPhatPharm-vw2lb
Which kind of games
More mature games
Less immature games
This
"with a rational head, instead of a romantic head." 🏆
There was a study with pre-arranged marriages and they were more successful.
When I hear "I don't play games" it generally means "The games are much more sophisticated than you're used to". Or it's a bluff, and there are in fact games, and they are just as transparent and juvenile as you would expect.
What it means is "Now that I'm older with baggage and at a disadvantage in the dating market, men can now manipulate me like I used to manipulate men, and I don't like it'."
Saying you don’t play games is kinda of a game in itself.
"i don't play games" = I chased after Chad and Tyrone in my 20's. I gave myself completely to them and got nothing in return. I'm now traumatized, in my 30's and running out of time. I want a stable, dad bod, beta provider who I can marry without a pre-nup so I have the leverage. Take it or I'm moving onto my next target.
Well said brother. And I really love your nickname man haha!
spot on
GAME OVER!
Translated the womanese like a true master
i was in this situation even just before we started dating they were still in hoe mode sending nudes to co workers but once we started dating she played the innocent victim card on me and she was beautiful and i would of probably fell for it too but i just couldnt get past her shallow standofish personality. Not my job to fix you do it yourself
I'm a 40 year old guy and it's basically 90% of middle aged women on tinder UK say exactly that in their bio. Or the usual "my kids come first" "no hookups" and the general passive aggressive crap they spew.
All loking for security in a LTR.
"no hookups"... the number of times THEY initiated on 1st dates when they had that in their bio is crazy. "Believe all women". Yeah... right.
Zero originality.
It's almost like women can't think for themselves...
Hahahaha so true, the other standard bio line you missed from the UK "Lay'deeez" car crash sales pitch is "I don't need a man"
What's the matter, mate? Don't want to get in line for those used up tuna holes!?
If a woman says "I don't play games", I'm gone in a heart beat. That statement of hers, is already part of her "master plan". Giant Red Flag - RUN!
Ooof you have been hurt
@@Didi-fr5ichey everyone. This a female using SIGN language. Instead of saying something about the argument she disagreed with, she instead insults the speaker. Real mature….
Got ‘em 🎉
@@brycewilkins9421 The comments for this video are going to have a good amount of female SIGN language, along with a fair amount of simping\white-knighting
@@Didi-fr5ic Says the person who thinks Dr.Taraban really-really hates women Ha!
U do realize u r projecting so hard, all the guys here can see your headlamp is flashing LOL
Allow me to piggyback on what the Good Doctor has already said excellently: I dont play games ACTUALLY means: i dont want YOU to play games with me! But everything else was said better than i could re-say it! Bravo!
Exactly! There are men that she would play "games" with, you're just not one of them.
Let me add to your addition that:
I don't play games ACTUALLY means: i don't want YOU to play games with me, But I WILL be playing games with you!
I always hear "I don't play games" as "Let the games begin!"
Player! 🙌
Jigsaw😈
Reverse Uno 🤣
My inner ear often hears Triple H's entrance music...
Same with “I don’t do hookups.”
Um, ma’am, If you have to say that in your profile, you definitely do hookups.
Exactly correct...."I dont play games", means give me what I want. So true, every time, every time.
And it means that they do, in fact, play games and just want to disguise that fact so they have you playing their game. Which makes them the problem as soon as they say that
Starting at the 1:03 mark and ending at the 1:22 mark perfectly defines this whole topic. Might not be a bad idea to clip that portion into a TH-cam short. A lot of women and men need to hear that. Another home run Doctor! Thank you!
"Hi - I frittered away the things you might value in a mate, but now you have the things I value in a mate, so 'game time' is over."
The time for ultimatums is when *YOUR* value is highest.
"I don't play games" = "Now that I'm older with baggage, I'm at a disadvantage in the dating market. Men can now manipulate me like I used to manipulate men, and I don't like it."
Doesn't seem to consistently work that way. The young are naive, the old have wisdom; sometimes that's the stronger effect.
@@Tzizenorec
_"The young are naive, the old have wisdom..."_ Sure, if you're a man, who's compelled to live in reality as the builder, designer, maintainer, and defender of civilization who's forced to contend with the world as it is. It doesn't apply to infantilized females who're rescued from the consequences of their poor decisions by society and sheltered against truth.
@@Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq. I did say "sometimes". _You,_ on the other hand, did not. You really think _all_ women are that way? I've spoken with women who threw all that coddling away to please the nearest man, and with women who never got that coddling at all because of their family. (And men aren't always how you describe either; you're describing a hero.)
@@Tzizenorec
You're not a eunuch or a female, are you?
@@Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq. WTF, man? No, I'm not. Entirely heterosexual male, living alone off my own earnings.
Now, there have to be stakes for both sides when you raise a question like that, so I'd say you just admitted I'm right. Because I'm a man, so I can't be wrong, eh?
"I don't play games" then they play games. Women wrote the book on game playing.
"I don't play games" is just the first half. second half is "but you better still be playing"
@@allenlin7333 💯💯🎯
This is why I laugh when woman complain that I play games. They had no problem doing the same to all the other losers out there, now you complain that I do it? That just means I’m that much better
If you play the game with their rules, you already lost. They want you to fail so they can justify looking for a better option, they want the best of the best.
And they do NOT want to pay a lot for this muffler!
Why would anyone be stupid enough to play a woman’s games when they’ve never earned the power to implement them?
well I'm a simple person, if she start playing games, I'm used to following their rules, just keep calm and observe the game, she's gonna confused at the end of the game
trust me they don't know where the game going to, they just feel that's fun to do. nothing else
@@inconnu4961 They want *YOU* to pay full price for their muffler, which is often rusted-out and leaking carbon monoxide into the passenger compartment.
I burst into laughter at the analogy 😂
I know a million women who could benefit from this video but I pissed enough off this summer. This channel gives me so much food for thought and plenty to journal about in the 6 languages I'm learning. Thanks for this video. I love it!
"Don't waste my time" is womanese.
Good job, hopefully you find a respectable masculine man.
Searching 6 countries for 1 man
@Michael_Arnold 🤣 Learning languages is my passion. This channel is enlightening and entertaining.
@chahailus Which 6?
(I dabble in Czech, Russian, Spanish, Irish, French, Italian and German. Still haven't found the girl).
The good doc is killing it lately!
He's been killing it!
I had a woman tel me to take her as she is or watch her as she leaves. I watched her as she left lol.
You should let her watch u as you leave
@@joshg854😂leave on the spot !
"I don't play games" means: "I have a high body count and I'm tired of getting run thru and I'm looking for a poor chump who will take me off the streets.". Run, run, run.
Beta provider can't be poor even when she's independent (of men).
I always translated "I don't play games" as "at LEAST 50 men have used me as a sexual punching bag."
Amazing! I haven't come up against this often but I do hear it a lot from my female friends and they deserve to know that they are starting a negotiation not a relationship with that line. Thank you for this video! I definitely will use this information going forward
why do you have female friends? what do they do for you?
I want to add that a woman who has genuine "burning" desire for a man would ensure to let only things out of her mouth that she expects are kind of appealing to her object of interest. I dare to state that "I don't play games" does not belong to a womans "charming speak". If she uses this, she does not care enough, feels narcissiticly entitled or is already hurt and disillusioned, not being able to get to know each other romantically, already exhausted by the discrepancy of past experiences vs expectations.
This is feel is 100% true in a face 2 face engagement.
What I have found is that dating apps are riddle with this statement by women in their 30s and older, but when I actually go on a date with a younger women in here 20s, I have personally never heard a single one of them ask me this
This actually makes sense. "I don't play games" is similar to a seller saying "THIS IS NOT A SCAM" and takes your money.
A person saying he doesn't play games is scamming you to use you.
Any woman that says that they don’t play any games are usually the same ones that perform shit tests on their man to add some unnecessary chaos into the relationship if they’re bored.
Interesting observation, I find all women eventually shit test until you have put your foot down after passing all their test
I usually disqualify myself after a girl says this. It's one of my favorite times to give her the gift of assurance that I am captain of this ship.
7:20 "People don't get what they deserve, they get what they negotiate."
Now thats a great quote man!
Or what they tolerate.
They get what they can afford
It's a great quote if he's a psychopath. Real humans appreciate more than they calculate or evaluate.
@@xyaeiounn disagree. A lot of people take things for granted
@@xyaeiounn unfortuantely, thats not how the real world works
Jeez, Ryan is having give us (both men and women) the parental advice our own parents were too lazy, timid, or unknowledgeable to give us.
He's not the father we all deserve but the one we need.
Women NEVER expect to give ANYTHING in a relationship.
YOU are expected to give her everything.
This is how Women see relationships. "What can I get".
I’m a dude and think the same way, interesting that.
@@joshuarasmussen641You don't have a choice, in the modern western dating environment it's full of shitty people, if u don't set higher frame, your game will be weak and it's just a lose lose situation
What I have seen is a man who approaches w "What can I get", usually end up with a fairer exchange and get reciprocation from the women, because i can guarantee you women will always ask even if you can get her to give
As a man over 40, this is 100%. Women only care what you can provide. The only love you will find is in the friendship of other men. Took me too long to figure this out.
@@joshuarasmussen641 : even in woman /woman friendship she expect something: you be her supportive listener allowing her crap & be her flying monkey to fight her ennemy & lend her money& give her stuffs. Most of the time she don't reciprocate any of these gifts and services. She will give out something whenever she feel, i am retiring from the frienship, as a bait to keep me attached.
A relationship with a woman, in it's natural state, is TOXIC for a man. They can't love us back. Apparently, nature forbids it.
This is amazing, I recently had that conversation with a woman this weekend.. I asked her what she had to offer... She was completely confused and had no answer lol
Sounds about right. Im pretty much convinced at this point, that modern western women really, actually believe that they don't need to bring anything at all, but boobs & puss and their drama. Entitlement is out of the scale.
@@tkr212 I don't see it as a negative thing. I think if one can articulate ones ideas the women will follow a man that's admirable. I think it's a great position for a man to be when he can lead.
Maybe she's one of those weirdos that doesn't see every human interaction in a transactional sense? You know, that weird 98% of humanity.
@@xyaeiounn A sizable minority, if not an outright majority, of that 98% behave transactionally while their 'views' are filtered thru delusions - delusions that are similar to those being pointed out by Dr. Taraban in his video, as well as by the OP.
Engaging with things as they truly are sometimes makes people *feel* bad, so they try to sidestep those *feelings*
@@xyaeiounn since the moment we are born; our families, communities, nations teach us to become useful. If you want to name that transactional, then name it that.. I name it being beneficial. Why some individuals only want to think of their own interest and not how they will help others is insane. The best way to produce anything that functions is to understand what we have to offer. That is humility and peacefulness. That is love and care.
I come from a middle eastern culture where you get one relationship one marriage one job most of the time which leads to a lack of experience in dating in knowing how people are and also in preparing for the demands and betrayal and lies of the partner or future partner. And my good friends, when i see your comments and your understanding of the human psychology, all i can say is bravo . You read a lot , and search a lot , also admit your mistakes after analysing and perceiving. So you go deep in the tunnel of living and enlightenment. .as an arabic man who lived with Americans and Brasilians for a long time , i think that getting in relationships and admiring people and not having sex until marriage is the best part of it . Not for religious reasons or social one, but this secret need reflection meditation observation not seeking pleasures and copying others but letting the seeds of pleasure and the sunshine of joy and smell of nirvana chase you after knowing the distance between the spirit and the soul .
"I don't play games" and "Not here for hook ups" is what i suspect are phrases women use more to convince themselves rather than a potential partner. It also implies that they have indeed let men use them for sex and then gotten discarded in the past, which is a double doo doo judging from the perspective of a man looking to date her. It also shows that she doesn't know/care what men are actually looking for in a partner because if she did, she wouldn't flaunt this kind of fatal flaw.
Bro, that's as good as anything in the video!
If a woman has used a man in the past does that make him less worthy!?
@@ABC-ho5jo If he advertises that trauma as part of his armor when meeting women, like the example i mentioned i guess it might. Blaming new people you meet for what people in the past did to you just shows a lack of maturity and accountability to deal with negative experiences in a healthy way imo
Whenever a woman says "I DON'T play GAMES", always add "with you" at the end.
It makes far more sense and takes out all unnecessary fluff or mental gymnastics she might try to pull on you.
As commonly known: women break rules for alphas, makes them for betas. She will play ANY game if she has burning desire for you.
it could mean that she has done terrible choices in life and now expects you to jump thru her hoops because of the trauma she developed for making her own bad decisions. crazy, huh?
Yee. Just gotta chime in one time and say your consistent delivery and clear concepts are appreciated. Peace from Asia.
"I don't want to play games" is a cheap parlour trick women use to disarm potential victims and quickly work out maximum benefits to be obtain for the minimum effort required on her side!
It's a lot worse than that, it's vast majority either or a combination of:
1) Burnt-out due to chasing chad and losing so "Plan B-eta" and if a baby-mama already Min-Max Strategy Alpha-Fs and Beta-Bs
2) Her Ego is desperate to keep the illusion she's still High Value and a Man has to prove high value to justify her so she feels in control of the relationship, still able to ego-trip ie the Man is the one who's "gaing so much" by having sloppy-seconds...
another home run! Thank you Dr. Orion!
This channel is GOLD!
It's like a guy saying outloud how confident he is. If you have to say it you're probably the opposite.
"Any man who must say I am the king is no true king" -Tywin Lannister
Don’t know if anyone else has seen it, but the marriage negotiation scene from “News Radio” was an amazing thing to see. Look it up.
Your wisdom is invaluable. Peace and love all the way from South Africa.
Relationship should be before being intimate with someone, people should go out, have fun and enjoy. Not otherwise.
Are you ready for an awakening?
Brillante y sencilla explicación del "complejo juego amoroso",
Spot on. Women are terrible with direct communication and usually get burned when you are straight and clear with them.
Their fault for letting themselves get burned so easily
@@marcusmcgraw3519 it's an ego thing. They don't want be scolded even when wrong and want the truth sugarcoated when painful.
@@legiontepes3474 well of course not. But that’s never stopped me from being the one to do it. I will lay into a damn woman if she’s a problem. I don’t care how she feels. She’ll respect me more for it later on
@@marcusmcgraw3519 💯📠 same
I did say that, “I don’t play games.” I didn’t explicitly say what I have to offer, but I showed him through actions what I can do, how I can contribute. It is not bullshit for me. I just wanted to point out that by games I mean manipulate him into anything. I would love organic love. I presented what I have on the table, by showing him that, And if he is not happy with that or appreciative of that, I move on
Nah… when you play games, you don’t respect the other person and their capacity to love you without manipulation and playing games. i get your point but it is misleading because believe it or not, there are still good people out there who don’t play games, respect the needs, desires and boundaries of other people who also demand to be with people who don’t play games and respect other people. I have met one, and this inspired me to be a more authentic person too who values the quirks, uniqueness and respects the free will of other people. So go tell people to play games is kinda dangerous, what kind of values are you teaching here?
"I don't play games" means we aren't going to put up with manipulation. Ofcourse it hurts their ego hearing it because that requires them to self reflect a little. Every single one of these men in the comment section is clearly guilty of lying and cheating and playing games. I come to these comments to laugh at the men here. Their poor little bruised ego 😂 They are so far off it's amusing.
@@aprils.r8418 exactly!
As a car salesman that was such a great analogy! We will get people come in and say “I don’t want to go back and forth”.
Me: ok so you’re fine with paying sticker price?
Them: of course not
It’s not that they don’t want to play games, it’s they want to play games on THEIR terms on an uneven playing field.
Exactly. Playing games is a womans strategy to try to get a something for nothing deal. But nothing in life is something for nothing and if it is, you will quickly lose that thing.
Yeah that's right on point. A lot of women can't even tell you what they offer in a relationship which is why if you ask them they give you a bunch of abstract things that you can't put a value on. They'll say things like, "My presence will inspire you," and "I bring feminine energy." And will then call you dusty if you don't like that answer or expect something more from someone you're putting so much of yourself into.
@2:21 holy shit I love this. Orion you’re the man, I’ve already learned so much from you and I’m very glad you kept going through the first year to get to where you reached me. Thank you, sir.
Honesty! Brilliant & Authentic 💙
That was so fun, I laughed deeply
Yet again, king of the road! Well played sir, well played.
I interpret the statement ‘I don’t play games’ as indicating a lack of awareness or acknowledgment of one’s inherent human instincts.
We're no strangers to love,
You know the rules and so do I
Over the last few years, I've always called BS in response to this... After my rationale and explaining that you have to learn to 'dance', women usually drop the front and agree...
I like the way you cut through the imprecise nature of colloquial speech to get to a clear meaning but I feel in this case the meaning you arrive at is but one of many possibilities. I've always assumed this expression to mean I'm looking for commitment and if you're not then I'm not the one for you. Fair warning in other words. That doesn't mean skipping courtship and jumping straight to commitment but only that is my expectation if our courtship pans out.
I salute you! The honesty is so refreshing and you’re absolutely right about the transactional reality. As a woman I would like to purchase you for a relationship, how much do I need to bring? (will cash be ok?) I do however expect a 25% discount after hearing your singing voice.
It's interesting how easily it's thrown around and how offputting it it, but I could never quite put a finger on it since it's so universally accepted now. You're doing the Lord's work, doc.
She knows her time is running out and she needs the marriage insurance policy.
Doc, this was your best video! Thank you.
that talk was marvellous, in case I haven't fed this back earlier yet.
Yeah making shit explicit ruins the spell. That was the key phrase there for me. This is why I've struggled with relationships...I don't like to play games, like, for real. And there is so much bullshit to navigate through, that you're forced to play too many games and deceive and/or lie just to get the girl to stick around amidst the storm of dick in her DMs (that, of course, would have to deceive and/or lie to get the girl too). So my way is to just do what I want and not waste my time and sort of just passively get out there whenever I'm very secure about my place in life. So, basically, so many men out there are using way more powerful tools than I am because I just don't want to dig myself into a hole of lies. So, I might as well not dig myself into a hole and become a giant on the ground floor.
Are you a mathematician? You have a very direct turn of phrase...
Agree! Statement is pure bull$hit.
Started dating after divorce at 50. Variation i heard most often was "Im too old to play games." My experience was that the woman was often "a gal who once was", i.e. a faded beauty who still thought her looks could get her anything. Also seemed to me an indicator that any relationship with her was going to be strictly transactional, with no true desire.
I have to say I handled this much better than the Doctor. A woman told me, "I'm tired of playing games; I want a serious relationship." I replied: "That's interesting. I am tired of being serious; I only want to play games. Can you introduce me to one of your nieces?"
That's funny, here is mine, so how is that working for you from 18 to late 20s...or whatever age she is at now.
@@joshg854 Male 45 Female 22 relationships can be a very good experience with each person finding great value in the other; it beats the hell out being "serious" to clean up another's decades of messes, fecklessness, bad decisions and running out of gas.
Points for style. How's eating alone?
Genius Response. That really exposes, that they really have nothing to offer.
Actually, I prefer when a woman puts “I don’t play games” in her profile. I know to skip over that one, and I hope most men feel the same way.
‘Awesome you can play with me instead I am not a game’ is a response that keeps yourself humoured
When she says, “I don’t play games,” might that indicate that she actually _is_ playing games?
Hell yeah
Tennis without the net
It's another game with rules regarding what the man can provide.
More likely she wants you to play Chad's Saved Game
Wow. That hit me right in the Cheap Trick feels!
When are we all going to wake up & start enjoying the beautiful truth that ITS ALL A GAME!?! A glorious, unpredictable smorgasbord of variety & flavor & it never ends! You get this, you get to be the architect of the game too…
Anyone who says it’s not, just doesn’t know yet, as the game does it’s best to prove otherwise, at least that’s been my experience…
If you want an honest, straightforward answer, it sometimes isn’t the best strategy to ask an honest, straightforward question.
You are looking better and better the more I trust your advice.😮
"Marrying and Divorcing financially intentionally"
Oh they are not playing games when they initiate divorce to grab assets and start the journey to discover that the grass isn't green elsewhere LOL
There is an old saying: "A woman is known by her questions a man, by his answers"
Great topic Dr, Taraban! Question and funny how towards the end you mentioned arranged marriages because I wonder if collectively as a society feeding into the "and they lived happily ever after" mentality we are actually complicating things.
"I don't play games"
It means you better be ready to jump through hoops, put up with her attitude without complaint and be the perfect boyfriend. She's had her fun with 100+ guys and now wants the perfect man to bow and scrape before her.
This is the equivalent of "no drama"
W: "I want a serious relationship. I don't want to play games anymore."
M: "Okay, i respect that. If i offer you a committed monogamous Relationship and take care of all your needs, what do i get in return"
W: "I will respect you and treat you like a King. As far as the bedroom is concerned, i do anything you want, wherever, whenever, enthusiastically and i don't need a bedroom to do it"
M: "Sold."
This is one of the ways to deepen the gap between people in a relationship.
Good advice!
People don’t get what they deserve, they get what they negotiate 🤯
Orion killed it!! What a legend
Girls - I don’t play games. Also girls- you have to compete with 20 other guys, I’m going to occasionally leave you on read for funsies, and truthfully I’m just hoping that by telling you I don’t play games, that you don’t play games.
The worse break up was when a girl said "I don't play games" and I fell to that and tried to do "the right thing".
After dozens of other relationships after that I realized saying "I don't play games" is part of the game.
This is comedic gold! You made my day 😂
This is slowly becoming one of my most watched youtube channels
Why slowly?
When is the 3rd video for “how to get a man” or whatever your women’s advice video final video coming out!!!!!???!
Like I feel like this is information I have already learned but you’re laying it out in such a great comprehensive way… even tho I know I’ve heard this same thing before, it’s the way your are presenting it and wording it etc. it’s just really hitting right!! Making so much sense!! Really really appreciate this mini series as a long time female follower!! Thank you!! 🙏🙏 some of us actually are self aware and trying to do better ❤ appreciate creators that give me the opportunity to learn ❤
That's hilarious, Doc! Maybe my Latina wife will let me go on some dates just so I can use that line! 🤣
Sacred words Dr. Orion
Orion, good episode... and well clearly spelled out what that means. And yes, I asked a few women "what's on the offer " silence or confusion and how could I...
I'd like to meet the one who has something on the offer ... good on you ... to spell it out for many who are clueless..
Haha love this fricken page lol 😂🎉🎉🎉 happy to discover it
16 heads of cattle, damn, now that's an offer you cannot refuse.
You are the best!
I love your comeback about their offer, and it’s funny no girl ever answered you straight 😀
If I ever have a first date again I will definitely lead with "What's in it for me?" Also, I would ask does the "not playing games" extend to DURING the relationship?
Oh many man today are using the "What's in it for me?", well various version of it and they are not getting anywhere.
Him: What do you bring to the table?
Her: Me / Myself - I bring magic / Only weak man ask that question
[Her Translation: Only Sex / I don't have any other skills but Sex / You need to be Rich, Mature, and Responsible enough too handle my Broke, Immature, Irresponsible Ass AKA I'm a Risk Factor]
@joshg854 the correct reply to that by a woman is " I AM THE FUKING TABLE"