I’m getting this in a massive way just now. Baby is 6 weeks old, the first month I was off work on parental leave and never expected to be so on the outside. Our girl needs so much time with her mum it meant I literally had maybe 5 minutes a day of my child in my arms, with my wife having really strong bond to the baby it felt like she’s waiting to get her off me as soon as possible. It's a horrible feeling to watch your child from a distance or in someone else’s arms, even if that person is your wife. Genuinely feels like it wouldn’t even matter if I was around or not, I doubt my child even recognises I’m her dad with such little time holding her. Since I’ve returned to work 2 weeks ago it’s even worse and even less time holding her. I’m well aware this time is just “grin and bear it” time and it will pass. I just wish there was some more advice and support given to dads in this early stage. Never expected this feeling at all.
I live in Germany - my feminist social worker girlfriend tells me of a culture she sees among parents where the mamas' exclusively claim the right to postnatal depression, since papa's job is to be the clueless parent, with mama heroically compensating. I can't imagine how that that feels for some of these fathers.
I know in suffering but the help isn't there. I also feel my partner is too but whenever I ask if he is okay he doesn't say and won't go to the drs. I'm so stuck on what to do now. It's getting so much :(
rose ward i feel you can help him. I think he needs appreciation for any of his efforts, sometimes even public appreciation. He needs to be told thanks too, for anything he does or doesn’t do. Of the man I’ve interacted, they contribute buy not doing many things that we’re doing earlier, which is an alien feeling.
BBC, you need to report this video or share this video on your other platform! (Instagram, Twitter, snachat, ext) This is un-known issue and not very recognized. More people need to see this video or even the title - there needs to be more information from a trusted source about this issue! Provo! This is well down video and great topic to cover!
I felt great until the day after we got baby home. Then she became very fussy and we realised she wasn't actually swallowing from the breast. Now with all the screaming and milk pumping it just feels very joyless and mechanical. If she's awake she's asking for food or screaming. I don't think I'm depressed, I'm like the opposite of a depressive person, I just think that this really sucks and I can't do anything to fix it, which in most cases, I'd usually think of some solution or just get away. Do people get depressed even when things are going smoothly? Or is it mainly when the baby is in the high-demand category? I can totally understand if it's the latter.
Got a 9 month old bouncing laughing little girl now. Such a joy. Still hard work, but nothing like those first first weeks. If you're struggling then hang in there, it gets better! And believe it or not, it'll all feel like the bad times were a mere blip. In fact, they grow so fast you might find yourself missing those times. They are really only a tiny baby for like a month or something.
Hey, I would like to share something here. I'm a college student and I do have this teacher that gives us a topic to research about and this is "postnatal depression" I do kind have a little knowledge about it that mostly women as they're giving birth experienced it and also I didn't expected that also men may suffer to this kind of depression also. So I tried reasoning out that even men can experienced this too. But still simplicity is beauty, knowing that this was almost happened to women who give birth that's all he does believe. If someone here is another doctor I'm seeking consultation to prove my research basis to defend the answers that I needed for. Thank you.
Yeah and I always get told that I don't understand how a woman feels and I have no right to feel these emotions. I am almost at breaking point really...
It might be hard for a lot of people to understand it at first if they don’t recognize that a man is experiencing a very real, diagnosable form of depression. While PPD can often be related to the hormone fluctuations being experienced for women, when a person actually looks into perinatal/postpartum/postnatal depression in men, it becomes clear that men also experience postpartum mood disorders, and it is not a sign that the man is less manly or less masculine than those who don’t show symptoms. It also doesn’t mean that he is trying to take attention away from the baby or mother. Have things started to get better for you, Adam? I hope so! Prayers for you...
Hello, Fellow Dads who have Post Natal Depression. I had it for about 6 years and it only tells you you are an absolute protector of your kids. It's our caveman instincts of protecting our family from the saber tooth tiger, it's part of our genes! Simple hang in there and it will pass! If you thought of jumping in front of the train, just back off. There is no mind-controlling alien commanding you to do it. You're a great Dad of having PND.
I’m getting this in a massive way just now. Baby is 6 weeks old, the first month I was off work on parental leave and never expected to be so on the outside. Our girl needs so much time with her mum it meant I literally had maybe 5 minutes a day of my child in my arms, with my wife having really strong bond to the baby it felt like she’s waiting to get her off me as soon as possible.
It's a horrible feeling to watch your child from a distance or in someone else’s arms, even if that person is your wife. Genuinely feels like it wouldn’t even matter if I was around or not, I doubt my child even recognises I’m her dad with such little time holding her.
Since I’ve returned to work 2 weeks ago it’s even worse and even less time holding her. I’m well aware this time is just “grin and bear it” time and it will pass. I just wish there was some more advice and support given to dads in this early stage. Never expected this feeling at all.
I live in Germany - my feminist social worker girlfriend tells me of a culture she sees among parents where the mamas' exclusively claim the right to postnatal depression, since papa's job is to be the clueless parent, with mama heroically compensating. I can't imagine how that that feels for some of these fathers.
@gypsy lab that doesn't mean it is any less bad
@gypsy lab You Just sounded like that feminist friend. Seriously
I know in suffering but the help isn't there. I also feel my partner is too but whenever I ask if he is okay he doesn't say and won't go to the drs. I'm so stuck on what to do now. It's getting so much :(
rose ward i feel you can help him. I think he needs appreciation for any of his efforts, sometimes even public appreciation. He needs to be told thanks too, for anything he does or doesn’t do. Of the man I’ve interacted, they contribute buy not doing many things that we’re doing earlier, which is an alien feeling.
Rose, is there any update you'd be willing to share? Hope things are better with you all 🙏
Can this be a reason for absent fathers.. other than like CHOOSING to leave do they just feel they are better off leaving but don't admit to it?
feeling this now... fucking horrible to feel like this
1 in 10? That's a pretty high incidence.
Post covid, it's 1 in 5 now.
BBC, you need to report this video or share this video on your other platform! (Instagram, Twitter, snachat, ext)
This is un-known issue and not very recognized. More people need to see this video or even the title - there needs to be more information from a trusted source about this issue!
Provo! This is well down video and great topic to cover!
I felt great until the day after we got baby home. Then she became very fussy and we realised she wasn't actually swallowing from the breast. Now with all the screaming and milk pumping it just feels very joyless and mechanical. If she's awake she's asking for food or screaming. I don't think I'm depressed, I'm like the opposite of a depressive person, I just think that this really sucks and I can't do anything to fix it, which in most cases, I'd usually think of some solution or just get away. Do people get depressed even when things are going smoothly? Or is it mainly when the baby is in the high-demand category? I can totally understand if it's the latter.
Got a 9 month old bouncing laughing little girl now. Such a joy. Still hard work, but nothing like those first first weeks. If you're struggling then hang in there, it gets better! And believe it or not, it'll all feel like the bad times were a mere blip. In fact, they grow so fast you might find yourself missing those times. They are really only a tiny baby for like a month or something.
Hey, I would like to share something here. I'm a college student and I do have this teacher that gives us a topic to research about and this is "postnatal depression" I do kind have a little knowledge about it that mostly women as they're giving birth experienced it and also I didn't expected that also men may suffer to this kind of depression also. So I tried reasoning out that even men can experienced this too. But still simplicity is beauty, knowing that this was almost happened to women who give birth that's all he does believe. If someone here is another doctor I'm seeking consultation to prove my research basis to defend the answers that I needed for. Thank you.
Yeah and I always get told that I don't understand how a woman feels and I have no right to feel these emotions. I am almost at breaking point really...
It might be hard for a lot of people to understand it at first if they don’t recognize that a man is experiencing a very real, diagnosable form of depression. While PPD can often be related to the hormone fluctuations being experienced for women, when a person actually looks into perinatal/postpartum/postnatal depression in men, it becomes clear that men also experience postpartum mood disorders, and it is not a sign that the man is less manly or less masculine than those who don’t show symptoms. It also doesn’t mean that he is trying to take attention away from the baby or mother.
Have things started to get better for you, Adam? I hope so! Prayers for you...
@@elizabeththibault8141 Thank you so much. It comes and goes and I totally agree with what you said. Its really hard soecially in these times.
@@tangikis It really can be! I’m glad to hear that it’s at least been better at some points! Have you gotten to received outside help?
@@elizabeththibault8141 Not as of right now but I think everything will be better soon. I am optimistic about the future still.
Hello, Fellow Dads who have Post Natal Depression. I had it for about 6 years and it only tells you you are an absolute protector of your kids. It's our caveman instincts of protecting our family from the saber tooth tiger, it's part of our genes! Simple hang in there and it will pass! If you thought of jumping in front of the train, just back off. There is no mind-controlling alien commanding you to do it. You're a great Dad of having PND.