Who's At Your Table ? // Dr. Dharius Daniels
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Dharius Daniels is a cultural architect and trendsetter for his generation. He is the founder and Lead Pastor of Change Church. Change Church is a vibrant ministry that impacts people of all ages, socioeconomic classes, and ethnic backgrounds.
He holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Political Science from Millsaps College in Jackson, Mississippi, a Master of Divinity degree from Princeton Theological Seminary in Princeton, New Jersey, and a Doctorate of Ministry degree from Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena, California.
He is married to Shameka Daniels and they are the proud parents of two sons Dharius Seth and Gabriel Micah Daniels. Visit Dr. Dharius on the web at www.dhariusdaniels.com.
Everybody gets love! Everyone doesn’t get access!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"Everyone should be loved biblically, valued equally, but treated differently." What a word! To God be the glory!
YES
Yes indeed!
JESUS!!! YOU ARE PREACHING A WORD!.. YOU ARE SOOOO DOPE PASTOR. YOU BLESSED MY SOUL!!
Wow!!!
This series is PHENOMENAL!! The nuggets and information provided is TIMELESS!! Love it!! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I've been telling people this for years! Years! My husband finally gets it. When people show me who they are I dont even get upset. I believe you and will put you where you belong. Why do we get mad when people are just being who they really are? Nope. You belong in this area and you will stay in this area. I'm not even mad but thank you for letting me know.
Wow...wow wow...
Exactly! I say this all the time also.
Carlye People don’t get mad. I blv they become disenchanted, disappointed. We tend to live in illusions until we get smacked in the face. That’s why sometimes it’s not good to meet ur favorite celebrity.
Amen!!!!
Carlye Amen Amen My Sister Grandmom Always Said When People Show You Who They Are Believe Them And Sometimes When They Show You You Don’t Want To Believe We Did Not Take Heed To What Grandmom Said Just Live Long Enough You Will Learn What She Said Was What She Ment
Holy Spirit set us FREE. Praise the Lord we have the VICTORY...Favor, Favor, Favor...WE WIN❤❤ ❤
I could jump up and down! No mysnogymy here!!!🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
God knows what we need even though we don’t.
Blind betrayer - harms you and gets mad at you when you decide that they can't continue to do so. Get mad because you leave or say no more. My God.. Clean word.. perfect for the season of new beginnings.
Your goodness does not change a person's character....#PreachSir
sha sha I was on the treadmill when he said that and literally almost fell off, that was a mighty word
I wish I had learned this powerful truth sooner, then I would not have been a codependent doormat to all my loved ones
Better single than UNhappy/ miserable and married.. PREACH.. yesss.
Pastor Dharius Daniels is TRULY in his calling...absolutely...💯
One who is intelligent will understand , one who has a heart will feel...
Preach, preacher!
1. Open Your Eyes
2. Lord, Open My Heart
3. Lord, Open My Ears
BROTHER TRULY YOU ARE ANOINTED AN HAVE A MANTLE FROM GOD.SO BLESSED BY THIS THANK YOU.GODS BLESSINGS
Betrayal is the worst thing that anyone can feel especially when it comes rom the person you loved.
Rhonda Woods amen so true realized people only do what they been taught and know how to do. Pray for them and keep it moving
Audrey Abby this conformation.. thanks
I needed your guidance 20 years ago. Lord I'm so grateful I have it now. I have been cleaning the feet of individuals trying to force them to see my value. It caused me emotional pain. It was their character. Judas will be Judas. Keep on being a blessing Pastor Daniels.
I love his teaching. I'm moving forward with changing my seating arrangement and I don't feel bad about it. Thank you Jesus for Pastor Daniels.
Everybody gets love but not everybody gets access!! I am hard to replace. (that Esther annointing)❤ She comes with favor!
In 2018 Jesus got all the toxic people out, Amen-Super Happy lool
Thank you. I love your Ministry. I have to say I have never seen so many commercials in a video.
yeah... youtube is so horrendously annoying for that. Skip the ads at all times and get back to Gods word through the anointed voice you listen to. Even some of these ads are from the devil through people he uses.
Love biblically
Value equally
Treat differently
WOWWW FAMILY OF GOD ‼️‼️ Did this penetrate your spirit like it did mines?? Stay encouraged and prayed up, have a blessed and safe week and weekend 🙏🏽🙌🏽🫶🏽🔥😌💯
👏👏👏👏🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️This message is Anointed...I just been set free!!!!! Thank you Jesus!!!!🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿❤❤❤❤❤
Pastor Daniels the Holy Spirit has taken over you completely!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🕊🕊🕊
Praise God from whom ALL blessings flow!!!!😭😭😭😭😭
This message literally just answered a prayer for answers that I prayed TODAY.
WOW,WOW,WOW,WOW!!!!!!!!
Open our heart that we can sense. The Holy Spirit is our 6th sense. Don’t ignore it or it will cost us.
Somebody take his plate!! I felt that!! 😅😄😂
Where was this kind of training when I was going thru financial abuse, bondage, emotional abuse....where? Thank God for you Pastor...!!
Culture says goes see counselling and such. But The word of God says let us not neglect meeting together. Its so freeing hearing these messages that change your life and cause real transformation.
I receive this prophetic word and prayer in Jesus name, Amen!
Such a gem the Lord has sent to us as a messenger. You are such a pearl of eye opener 🥹😮💨👏🙏
Dr Dharius, you are a man truly plugged into God and what He wants you to say and teach
The truth that a small heart within a mentor is a recipe for abuse and exploitation-this is what I have been experiencing. And a small heart is someone who is a coward,they are takers who are not friends, they do not love. Small hearts are incapable of love and are jealous.
💯💯👍🏾💯💯
An empowering word right here. Took extensive notes, and will have to come back to it in the near future. I Know that God is moving in our lives with evaluating who our friendships are, and where to place people. Praise Jesus.
I have been there ”distraction that brings destruction” I wish to hear this before. I learned in a hard way.
Some have big gifts and small hearts....(mentors). This is GOOD👍
Peter James and John were his inner circle
Open our ears. God knows our heart because we don’t. The mouth speaks what the heart is full of. Listen carefully so we can see. Discern what you are hearing around you from others and the Holy Spirit. Love ppl enough so you don’t trigger their triggers.
My life is being changed by your teachings, you are a God sender in my life, thank you.
Sometimes " I can't make it" is enough!! You betta speak on it Pastor!
yes! got used to saying that over the pandemic. People be trying to overstep those boundaries like nah, thats all you get lol. Bless Dr. Dharius Daniels.
I need the transcription to this whole sermon so I can highlight almost everything. ❤️🙏🏽
😂🤣😂
Yes😂🙌🏾❤️
You can click on the transcript and screenshot it
good morning thank you for the day and my health all praise and glory too the e mighty father amen
Finally got the book.... I screamed when they delivered it 🤣🤣- South Africa🇿🇦
I was praying for the scales to fall off their eyes instead of opening my blind, passive eyes!!!👀😆 But the Lord saw the true intentions of my heart. Amen to that!!💜 #lessonslearned
"Without relational intelligence, the people who mean the most to you will get the least from you". I immediately thought about my family when he said that :(
What a powerful sermon... If I knew all of this 10 years ago, I would not have wasted so much time through experience. We really can't change people who don't wanna change.
"DON'T FAST FORWARD, I know you!" Lol okay Pastor I'll hear your announcements this time 🤣🤗
as im hitting the forward button🤣🤣🤣🤣🤪
Pastor Daniels your teaching is on another LEVEL!! Amen!
Everyone gets love everyone does not get access... 💪💪
Excelent teaching and Even more to apply it on these days, specially on these days, when we must have very Open eyes ...
And GOD father guidance very very present...🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I'm a Seventh Day Adventist Dr. Daniels and I love your down to earth keeping it real way of preaching. I've be sharing in my office with my co-workers some of your messages and your Relationship series. May God continue to use you and your lovely wife. Blessing.
📣Get your identity from the Creator not modern culture 🙌👆
GLORY TO GOD 🙏🏽 ❤️ this is good 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽!! Hallelujah 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥, Amen 🙌🏽 🙏🏽 ❤️! PD stay on fire 🔥🔥🔥 for God 👏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽.
Don't fast-forward, I know you!!😅😄 I heard you Lord!
This is a whole comedy skit. Pastor Dharius, this sermon is amazing impactful, engaging, hilarious, etc. God bless you! Thank you for answering the calling.
THIS WAS SOOOOO GOOD!!!
🤣🤣 I WANNA HUSBAND WHO LOOS AT THE FAVOR FAVOR FAVOR FAVOR 🤣🤣🤣🤣🙋🏽♀️YEEEESSS. This was another right on time sermon, going into day two of my vision fast!!!!
I get a lot of challange and illumination as listen to this man of God, God bless you sir
PASTOR DANIELS
OTHER PASTORS & PEOPLE NEED TO HEAR & COUPLE YOUR WORD THROUGH MINISTRY WITH A MESSAGE!!! OH KAY !!!
BE BLESSED!!! AMEN
💜🙌 Thank you. I agree Pastor. It's better to be single and lonely than married and miserable. And I agree Pastor takers are not givers. Some people are rare and cannot be replaced. Preach it out!!! Great message!!! 🙌💜
Ever since I have seen his sermon entitled " I Quit Church", Pastor Daniels has been my TH-cam Pastor lol ...great ministry and so relate able ... God bless the Change church, family and your Union!
PookieKurt same here! 🙋🏽♂️
Check out Transformation Church too
@@TheAstridmusic Yes! Between these two ministries God has really been working in my life. Two different styles but they both make the word accessible to daily living.
I Still need to watch that sermon. I can't wait. Its funny how going back to older messages can bless our lives too.
Starting over and cleaning up, always fixing stuff from the last season. You nailed it, Pastor Dharius! I can hardly tell you how much you have helped me.
27 December 2022 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙋🏽♀️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Love this great teaching 🙌🏽👏🏽
...why ?
Get discernemt ....new level ...new devils
GOOD to apply the teaching 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙋🏽♀️
I stopped attending church before they were shut down when I learned my Hebrew truth, yet I’ve been binge watching this pastor all day. He’s truly a blessing.
Pastor you are swollen in the spirit. I know your wife is saying " Favor, Favor Favor.
Idk who disliked this, but This word is so good. I mean just blessed my soul on a level that I cannot express. Thank God for you man of God.
ssl0ve those who know they belong in the outer circle 😇😇
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Knowing the Tree 🌲, Time to Advance Completely and Pursue Purpose.
This series is a God send to me at exactly the right time, Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou !
To God be the glory. I receive this word, I pray that I'll be a hearer and a doer of the living word. I pray for the souls that gave this a thumbs down. I plead the blood of Jesus to cover them. Open their eyes. Their ears and their soul. And that you show them your love even greater. Like only you can. In your name. Amen 😍
*Bible Gateway interviewed Dharius Daniels (@Dhariusdaniels) about his book, Relational Intelligence:* The People Skills You Need for the Life of Purpose You Want (Zondervan, 2020).
*BIO:* Dr. Dharius Daniels is the founder and lead pastor of Change Church, a vibrant, diverse congregation. With a doctorate in ministry from Fuller Theological Seminary, Dr. Daniels speaks to national audiences. He’s the author of Relational Intelligence: The People Skills You Need for the Life of Purpose You Want and Re-Present Jesus: Rethink Your Version of Christianity and Become More Like Christ. He lives with his wife, Shameka, and their two sons in New Jersey.
*BUY YOUR COPY OF THE BOOK - Relational Intelligence* in the Bible Gateway Store where you'll *enjoy LOW PRICES every day!*
biblegateway.christianbook.com/relational-intelligence-people-skills-purpose-want/dharius-daniels/9780310357827/pd/357827?p=1172374&
Dharius Daniels, What relational model did Jesus use when he selected the 12 disciples? What are the biblical principles that teach how to assess your relationships, define them, discern them, align them, and activate them to unlock their greatest potential?
What do you mean when you write, “Your greatest gifts walk into your life on two legs”?
Dharius Daniels: *When I say gift, I mean something that adds value to a person’s life; it’s an expression of value from the giver and it adds value to the receiver.* So, I believe the greatest gifts that God gives to us are people, not possessions, because when the rubber meets the road, who we have in our life is much more significant than what we have.
How are relationships “purpose partners”?
Dharius Daniels: I believe relationships are purpose partners because I believe *purpose isn’t just about what we do. Purpose is also about who we become.* Therefore, relationships shape us into becoming someone and who we become ultimately impacts whether or not we carry out our purpose. People in our life don’t always help us do something, but *they do help us become someone* and in that sense, people are purpose partners.
*Read the Bible Gateway Blog post, The Profound Impact of Relationships on Your Life*
What need do you see that prompted you to write this book?
Dharius Daniels: I saw that people’s greatest joy and greatest pain came from the same place and that was relationships. I saw that people’s uprising and many people’s downfalls came from relationship and I figured if something is so consequential in our life, we can’t afford to be unintelligent in the way that we manage them.
What are the categories in which people should define their relationships?
Dharius Daniels: There are *4 categories in which people should define their relationships* and that is: friends, associates, assignments, and advisers.
*FRIENDS* would be people where there’s a mutual interest in being present for each other, supporting one another, and doing life with each other.
*AN ASSOCIATE* is someone you’ve developed a relationship with, but the relationship is merely the consequence of intersecting schedules, where we work together, we go to school together, or we attend the same gym, and as a result, we have a relationship. But the kind of reciprocity that’s present in a friendship may not be present with an associate.
*AN ASSIGNMENT* is quite simply a mentee, an advisee, someone you feel called to help, coach, or mentor.
*AN ADVISER* is an individual that is mentoring, advising, or coaching you.
How do you suggest people should discern their relationships?
Dharius Daniels: I think Jesus gives us very clear instructions on how to discern relationships, and that’s by fruit inspection. He says we know a tree by the fruit it bears - and I use the word fruit inspection intentionally - because *the goal of fruit inspection is not to judge whether or not it’s a good tree or bad tree; the goal of fruit inspection is to discern what kind of tree it is and whether or NOT that’s the tree you want or need in your life.* I think often times, people don’t do a lot of discerning because they confuse discerning with judging.
What are some examples from the Bible of purposeful relationships?
Dharius Daniels: I think the Bible is filled with examples of purposeful relationships. Barak and Deborah is an example of a purposeful relationship, [and so it is with, Paul and Barnabas, David and Jonathan, Moses and Aaron] and obviously Jesus and the disciples are examples of purposeful relationships.
What lessons can we learn from bad relationships described in the Bible?
Dharius Daniels: Quite simply, we can learn from the Bible that bad relationships are either destructive or they’re distractions. Solomon is an example of this as his bad relationships were both destructive and distracting. Some of the women he got into a relationship with turned his heart from God, so it wasn’t immediately destructive, but it was a distraction that ended up causing destruction in his life.
How is self-assessment necessary in all relationships?
Dharius Daniels: Self-assessment is necessary in all relationships, because if a person is not constantly aware of who they are and where they’re going, they won’t be able to accurately assess who they need and don’t need in their life.
What is a favorite Bible passage of yours and why?
Dharius Daniels: 1 Corinthians 15:33 - “Don’t be misled, bad company corrupts good character.” That’s one of my favorite Bible passages and the reason why is, one, it’s practical, and then two, it’s one of my favorites because the fact that Paul says don’t be misled lets me know it’s possible to be unaware of the bad impact that a relationship is having on you. I think it’s a call to humility; a call to self-assessment-relationship assessment-and I think it’s a call to relational intelligence.
What are your thoughts about Bible Gateway, the Bible Gateway App or Bible Audio App?
Dharius Daniels: For me, personally, it’s a resource that I use for my own study. There are a number of different features on there that are valuable for my personal life. It’s also an incredible resource for me professionally as a pastor, as it helps me create sermons and content. I think it’s a necessary resource for the body of Christ because the Scriptures are clear; people do perish for lack of knowledge. BibleGateway.com is a portal; a resource with knowledge that we need to help us become who God called us to be.
Is there anything else you’d like to say?
Dharius Daniels: I’d like to say thank you, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to contribute to this platform and I hope that this interview helps people in their relational life.
Relational Intelligence is published by HarperCollins Christian Publishing, Inc., the parent company of Bible Gateway.
Bible Gateway Blog · News and reflections from www.BibleGateway.com
My mom told me she had video for me to watch. She never told me what the video was about. I truly enjoyed the word how u break the bible down. Truly I left the table full can't wait watch your next video.
GOD is good .Favour is my name from Today.......bless you Pastor .stay real and keep putting the verse's for us.blessing upon you and ur family
Wow. This series is so awesome! I needed this 10 years ago. I'm still in clean up mode. But I thank God I'm learning it now! And I'm still here, so it's not too late! Bless you Pastor.
Empresserica: I know EXACTLY whatyou mean! It's the same for me!😊! I NEEDED it 10 yrs ago too!! But not certain, at that time, IF I would've HEARD! My SPIRITUAL EARS ARE OPEN NOW! I HEAR YOU HOLY SPIRIT!! OUR GOD has the MOST PERFECT and BEAUTIFUL TIMING, doesn't HE!!😊🐑😊! Blessings!....
W😊W!!!
AMAZING, AMAZING, AMAZING!!!
Thanks my Brother D.
Thanks be to God 🙏❤🙏
I'm going to share this with my inner circle for starters.
Then Everyone,,, who will listen and are open to learning. 😁😀😁!
Dr Darius is keenly insightful, explicitly articulates Bible based principles, if one applied, will gain increased self awareness, clarity, and confidence in his or her direction in life. Love, respect, and appreciate this Pastor. I would love the opportunity to bring skills to be an asset to this ministry. I am the Confidentialistener, 🙏🏾❤️
Seriously! Schools don't even teach you this stuff. No wonder why people are so lost in the world. These kind of messages save you years of time. Stuff I wish I knew in my 20s. But God is so good, a redeemer of time, and so full of mercy and grace.
I am just blown away! - I went to a gathering recently with a group I work with in ministry and my husband asked how it went, I said "I was at the wrong table." The people sitting with me are great people, but I struggled engaging with the topics of convo and felt like I had "been there, done that" and I'm so ready to go higher and deeper. At the same time many of us are trying to see how our gifts can collaborate for purpose, but again....I was at the wrong table! After hearing this word, I know exactly how to place them and everyone else I give my time to. In addition, I see my relationship flaws and desire to do better. THANK YOU SO MUCH! I'm coppin that book and will be at the Change event in ATL! 💛
I love your teaching. Can listen to this non stop. So blessed 🙌
"Some people are hard to replace. They are expressions of favor from God." 🙌🏾
"A wife is favor on two legs."
"Without relational intelligence, the people who mean the most to you will get the least from you." 🙌🏾
Half way through.....and this message is both laced with scripture and exceptionally practical....thank you Pastor.
Amen amen amen to this word!!!! I struggled in my friendships because I loved people so much and I wanted them in my life despite their lies, jealousy, and inconsistency ........I sure know where put people
Important to keep it Even more clear now and further 🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Dr. Dharius, you are one well educated man of God. Know just in knowing the bible, but in the way you convey His word. Thank you so much. May you and your family be blessed.
This message is a great message!!!!!!!!!!!
Nobody is at my table. And I know what I bring to the table.
amen to that
This message is GOOD!
Relationships matter. People we encounter are either sent by God or sent by the devil. People either help us or hurt us.
*Bible Gateway interviewed Dharius Daniels (@Dhariusdaniels) about his book, Relational Intelligence:* The People Skills You Need for the Life of Purpose You Want (Zondervan, 2020).
*BIO:* Dr. Dharius Daniels is the founder and lead pastor of Change Church, a vibrant, diverse congregation. With a doctorate in ministry from Fuller Theological Seminary, Dr. Daniels speaks to national audiences. He’s the author of Relational Intelligence: The People Skills You Need for the Life of Purpose You Want and Re-Present Jesus: Rethink Your Version of Christianity and Become More Like Christ. He lives with his wife, Shameka, and their two sons in New Jersey.
*BUY YOUR COPY OF THE BOOK - Relational Intelligence* in the Bible Gateway Store where you'll *enjoy LOW PRICES every day!*
biblegateway.christianbook.com/relational-intelligence-people-skills-purpose-want/dharius-daniels/9780310357827/pd/357827?p=1172374&
Dharius Daniels, What relational model did Jesus use when he selected the 12 disciples? What are the biblical principles that teach how to assess your relationships, define them, discern them, align them, and activate them to unlock their greatest potential?
What do you mean when you write, “Your greatest gifts walk into your life on two legs”?
Dharius Daniels: *When I say gift, I mean something that adds value to a person’s life; it’s an expression of value from the giver and it adds value to the receiver.* So, I believe the greatest gifts that God gives to us are people, not possessions, because when the rubber meets the road, who we have in our life is much more significant than what we have.
How are relationships “purpose partners”?
Dharius Daniels: I believe relationships are purpose partners because I believe *purpose isn’t just about what we do. Purpose is also about who we become.* Therefore, relationships shape us into becoming someone and who we become ultimately impacts whether or not we carry out our purpose. People in our life don’t always help us do something, but *they do help us become someone* and in that sense, people are purpose partners.
*Read the Bible Gateway Blog post, The Profound Impact of Relationships on Your Life*
What need do you see that prompted you to write this book?
Dharius Daniels: I saw that people’s greatest joy and greatest pain came from the same place and that was relationships. I saw that people’s uprising and many people’s downfalls came from relationship and I figured if something is so consequential in our life, we can’t afford to be unintelligent in the way that we manage them.
What are the categories in which people should define their relationships?
Dharius Daniels: There are *4 categories in which people should define their relationships* and that is: friends, associates, assignments, and advisers.
*FRIENDS* would be people where there’s a mutual interest in being present for each other, supporting one another, and doing life with each other.
*AN ASSOCIATE* is someone you’ve developed a relationship with, but the relationship is merely the consequence of intersecting schedules, where we work together, we go to school together, or we attend the same gym, and as a result, we have a relationship. But the kind of reciprocity that’s present in a friendship may not be present with an associate.
*AN ASSIGNMENT* is quite simply a mentee, an advisee, someone you feel called to help, coach, or mentor.
*AN ADVISER* is an individual that is mentoring, advising, or coaching you.
How do you suggest people should discern their relationships?
Dharius Daniels: I think Jesus gives us very clear instructions on how to discern relationships, and that’s by fruit inspection. He says we know a tree by the fruit it bears - and I use the word fruit inspection intentionally - because *the goal of fruit inspection is not to judge whether or not it’s a good tree or bad tree; the goal of fruit inspection is to discern what kind of tree it is and whether or NOT that’s the tree you want or need in your life.* I think often times, people don’t do a lot of discerning because they confuse discerning with judging.
What are some examples from the Bible of purposeful relationships?
Dharius Daniels: I think the Bible is filled with examples of purposeful relationships. Barak and Deborah is an example of a purposeful relationship, [and so it is with, Paul and Barnabas, David and Jonathan, Moses and Aaron] and obviously Jesus and the disciples are examples of purposeful relationships.
What lessons can we learn from bad relationships described in the Bible?
Dharius Daniels: Quite simply, we can learn from the Bible that bad relationships are either destructive or they’re distractions. Solomon is an example of this as his bad relationships were both destructive and distracting. Some of the women he got into a relationship with turned his heart from God, so it wasn’t immediately destructive, but it was a distraction that ended up causing destruction in his life.
How is self-assessment necessary in all relationships?
Dharius Daniels: Self-assessment is necessary in all relationships, because if a person is not constantly aware of who they are and where they’re going, they won’t be able to accurately assess who they need and don’t need in their life.
What is a favorite Bible passage of yours and why?
Dharius Daniels: 1 Corinthians 15:33 - “Don’t be misled, bad company corrupts good character.” That’s one of my favorite Bible passages and the reason why is, one, it’s practical, and then two, it’s one of my favorites because the fact that Paul says don’t be misled lets me know it’s possible to be unaware of the bad impact that a relationship is having on you. I think it’s a call to humility; a call to self-assessment-relationship assessment-and I think it’s a call to relational intelligence.
What are your thoughts about Bible Gateway, the Bible Gateway App or Bible Audio App?
Dharius Daniels: For me, personally, it’s a resource that I use for my own study. There are a number of different features on there that are valuable for my personal life. It’s also an incredible resource for me professionally as a pastor, as it helps me create sermons and content. I think it’s a necessary resource for the body of Christ because the Scriptures are clear; people do perish for lack of knowledge. BibleGateway.com is a portal; a resource with knowledge that we need to help us become who God called us to be.
Is there anything else you’d like to say?
Dharius Daniels: I’d like to say thank you, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to contribute to this platform and I hope that this interview helps people in their relational life.
Relational Intelligence is published by HarperCollins Christian Publishing, Inc., the parent company of Bible Gateway.
Bible Gateway Blog · News and reflections from www.BibleGateway.com
Experience is most effective teacher but it is the most expensive because it costs us time because we have to waste time cleaning it up.
Pray. I go forward and not a rollercoaster.
Whoo, cmon Jesus!! Almost made me spit out my cereal. Thank you Pastor Daniels for this confirmation revelation.
Open your eyes 👀
Open your heart ❤️
Open your ears 👂🏾
“Love them enough not to trigger their emotional jealousy because they never got emotional affirmations growing up, so they can’t handle all of you as you’re progressing. (It’s not their fault, love them equally)”
I needed this whole sermon series.
You preaching badddd!! Glory💯🎯❤🙏💃💗💥
You already know I'm letting everyone in Atlanta know that you all are coming back.
JESUS!!! Everything about God's word from His servant Pastor Dharius 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 😭😭💪🏾🙏🏽❤💯
To the 45 people that disliked this video has BIG GIFTS and small hearts. How could you thumbs down such a good word? Y’all need to re-evaluate cause this word was life changing. Be careful who sits at your table. ✌🏽
*Bible Gateway interviewed Dharius Daniels (@Dhariusdaniels) about his book, Relational Intelligence:* The People Skills You Need for the Life of Purpose You Want (Zondervan, 2020).
*BIO:* Dr. Dharius Daniels is the founder and lead pastor of Change Church, a vibrant, diverse congregation. With a doctorate in ministry from Fuller Theological Seminary, Dr. Daniels speaks to national audiences. He’s the author of Relational Intelligence: The People Skills You Need for the Life of Purpose You Want and Re-Present Jesus: Rethink Your Version of Christianity and Become More Like Christ. He lives with his wife, Shameka, and their two sons in New Jersey.
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Dharius Daniels, What relational model did Jesus use when he selected the 12 disciples? What are the biblical principles that teach how to assess your relationships, define them, discern them, align them, and activate them to unlock their greatest potential?
What do you mean when you write, “Your greatest gifts walk into your life on two legs”?
Dharius Daniels: *When I say gift, I mean something that adds value to a person’s life; it’s an expression of value from the giver and it adds value to the receiver.* So, I believe the greatest gifts that God gives to us are people, not possessions, because when the rubber meets the road, who we have in our life is much more significant than what we have.
How are relationships “purpose partners”?
Dharius Daniels: I believe relationships are purpose partners because I believe *purpose isn’t just about what we do. Purpose is also about who we become.* Therefore, relationships shape us into becoming someone and who we become ultimately impacts whether or not we carry out our purpose. People in our life don’t always help us do something, but *they do help us become someone* and in that sense, people are purpose partners.
*Read the Bible Gateway Blog post, The Profound Impact of Relationships on Your Life*
What need do you see that prompted you to write this book?
Dharius Daniels: I saw that people’s greatest joy and greatest pain came from the same place and that was relationships. I saw that people’s uprising and many people’s downfalls came from relationship and I figured if something is so consequential in our life, we can’t afford to be unintelligent in the way that we manage them.
What are the categories in which people should define their relationships?
Dharius Daniels: There are *4 categories in which people should define their relationships* and that is: friends, associates, assignments, and advisers.
*FRIENDS* would be people where there’s a mutual interest in being present for each other, supporting one another, and doing life with each other.
*AN ASSOCIATE* is someone you’ve developed a relationship with, but the relationship is merely the consequence of intersecting schedules, where we work together, we go to school together, or we attend the same gym, and as a result, we have a relationship. But the kind of reciprocity that’s present in a friendship may not be present with an associate.
*AN ASSIGNMENT* is quite simply a mentee, an advisee, someone you feel called to help, coach, or mentor.
*AN ADVISER* is an individual that is mentoring, advising, or coaching you.
How do you suggest people should discern their relationships?
Dharius Daniels: I think Jesus gives us very clear instructions on how to discern relationships, and that’s by fruit inspection. He says we know a tree by the fruit it bears - and I use the word fruit inspection intentionally - because *the goal of fruit inspection is not to judge whether or not it’s a good tree or bad tree; the goal of fruit inspection is to discern what kind of tree it is and whether or NOT that’s the tree you want or need in your life.* I think often times, people don’t do a lot of discerning because they confuse discerning with judging.
What are some examples from the Bible of purposeful relationships?
Dharius Daniels: I think the Bible is filled with examples of purposeful relationships. Barak and Deborah is an example of a purposeful relationship, [and so it is with, Paul and Barnabas, David and Jonathan, Moses and Aaron] and obviously Jesus and the disciples are examples of purposeful relationships.
What lessons can we learn from bad relationships described in the Bible?
Dharius Daniels: Quite simply, we can learn from the Bible that bad relationships are either destructive or they’re distractions. Solomon is an example of this as his bad relationships were both destructive and distracting. Some of the women he got into a relationship with turned his heart from God, so it wasn’t immediately destructive, but it was a distraction that ended up causing destruction in his life.
How is self-assessment necessary in all relationships?
Dharius Daniels: Self-assessment is necessary in all relationships, because if a person is not constantly aware of who they are and where they’re going, they won’t be able to accurately assess who they need and don’t need in their life.
What is a favorite Bible passage of yours and why?
Dharius Daniels: 1 Corinthians 15:33 - “Don’t be misled, bad company corrupts good character.” That’s one of my favorite Bible passages and the reason why is, one, it’s practical, and then two, it’s one of my favorites because the fact that Paul says don’t be misled lets me know it’s possible to be unaware of the bad impact that a relationship is having on you. I think it’s a call to humility; a call to self-assessment-relationship assessment-and I think it’s a call to relational intelligence.
What are your thoughts about Bible Gateway, the Bible Gateway App or Bible Audio App?
Dharius Daniels: For me, personally, it’s a resource that I use for my own study. There are a number of different features on there that are valuable for my personal life. It’s also an incredible resource for me professionally as a pastor, as it helps me create sermons and content. I think it’s a necessary resource for the body of Christ because the Scriptures are clear; people do perish for lack of knowledge. BibleGateway.com is a portal; a resource with knowledge that we need to help us become who God called us to be.
Is there anything else you’d like to say?
Dharius Daniels: I’d like to say thank you, and I’m grateful for the opportunity to contribute to this platform and I hope that this interview helps people in their relational life.
Relational Intelligence is published by HarperCollins Christian Publishing, Inc., the parent company of Bible Gateway.
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Pastor Daniels be killing me (give me my fooood/plate; get away from my table! ) yeah we petty sometimes.
Thank you so much waiting for Sunday god bless you all yess I will do tens too
I recently stumbled on Dr. Dharius Daniels teachings and he has already had a positive impact on My SPIRIT!!!! Great teacher:)
You don't called people when you're dreaming that are gonna help you struggle 🙌
I wish I had Pastor Dharius's teachings about ten years ago. It doesn't get much clearer than this.
Rather refreshing to hear this MOG's teaching.
You are an Amazing Teacher and Preacher.
I needed this teaching over 20 yrs ago.
Open our eyes am see what issues can assassinate me.
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As stupid as we seem at times, we are not ignorant of Satan's devices. Takes a while to realize that any encounter with a viper is only their opportunity to strike. May God protect us from our own stupidity. Awesome message.