Depression /anxiety is not necessarily crying or wanting to cry. Sometimes an apt description is that life is in a fog that you can’t lift or get past. A person can suffer even when you can’t see anything particularly stressful or bad going on in your life.
Most definitely true. I feel like a lot people don’t realize this. They think oh just because your not crying that your not depressed but that’s not the cause depression comes in many different ways and that’s why I feel a lot of people can’t always tell when their love one is depressed.
As some who is currently suffering with mental health issues …. Crystal even throughout this podcast , I can see you noticing Aaron’s ‘distress’ signs …. The shaking legs , the ringing hands ….. keep noticing …. Even if no1 realized you did it’s very important ❤️❤️
Aaron saying he still doesn’t fully understand it is the best admission he could have made. The fact that he knows he doesn’t totally get it but wants to help and is willing to learn is the best thing for his daughter. I had parents who don’t get it and told me I was making it up and there was nothing wrong with me and that made me spiral even more. It’s such a scary place to be. My 7 year old now has anxiety and it breaks my heart because I DO get it and I KNOW how he feels and I know I can’t always help him. I feel guilty because I know anxiety runs very genetically strong in my family and I know that’s why he has it. Sensibly I KNOW I didn’t hand pick this burden for him and I’m grateful I do get it and know how to find resources to get him the help he needs but my guilt is crazy strong…every day I see him struggling.
This is something a old man can talk about.I am 57. Although I come a very violent childhood. Depression and Anxiety was never a problem. Now I had a very bad temper but could quickly cool off. I had many people who thought I should be in therapy. But I am great about compartmentalize. And could keep my violent childhood in a box buried deep down. I always stayed busy. It was non stop 23 hours a day. But than 5 years ago I became disabled. And had 2 strokes. That is when the depression and anxiety went nuclear. Where I was able to keep my childhood hid. I was not able to hid any longer from my childhood. But thankfully with Therapy and medications I can control the symptoms of each. But it will now always be a struggle. The best advice I have gotten was take it one day at a time. And sometimes one minute at a time. And you just do not feel like you can do something don't. Learn to say no. God Bless!
I agree with what Halie said. We teens don't usually want to be a burden so we end up dealing with it silently. I've been through depression and it's really a hard journey. It takes courage to be able to deal with it. I just love the bond between the crazy pieces. I've been binge-watching their videos since yesterday, and I can't stop smiling.
I went and Googled what Hallie has PCOS. I have researched mental health for many years. I had never came across PCOS. But now I understand why. It is a medical condition that only women can get. I learned something new today. Hallie you are very brave sharing your life in a public forum.🥰🥰
I am so proud of Halie. I have had a hard time talking about my mental health. I’ve been struggling with my mental health for 12 years or so I am now able to talk about my struggles and I admire Halie for advocating for others.I relate to her because I am always wanting everyone else to be happy even when I am drowning in my own problems. Keep up the amazing work Halie you got this❤
Hearing her talk about how young she noticed her depression and anxiety...it makes me feel more normal because thats around the same time i noticed my own issues, thank you for sharing 💜
Thank you so much for sharing your story Halie❤️ This is my story: I was diagnosed with autism last year at the age of 22 after struggling with my mental health especially from being undiagnosed autistic my whole childhood where my parents didn't know how to deal with my "challenging behaviour" which we now know to be meltdowns from feeling overwhelmed where I would scream, cry and lash out for hours at home especially when I had to do my homework, I was struggling at school to keep up with my peers so when I was 8 I got a teaching assistant to help me in school who unfortunately was a pedophile who went on to abuse me in his office, I was luckily able to get him to stop by refusing to go with him, I was kicking, screaming, throwing things around and hiding under the table, I was so out of control that the teachers had to clear the classroom, that was the last time I ever had to go with him, but the teachers or my parents never asked why I reacted this way, and I never told anyone before I was 16, because I honestly forgot it happened like my brain just erased the horrible memories until I was 16 when I unexpectedly met my childhood friend who was also abused by him, so when we started talking and she told me about what had happened to her all my memories came back which resulted in me getting hospitalized in the psych ward at 17 where I was diagnosed with anxiety and OCD I was struggling loudly between the age of 3-11 where I was punished for my "bad" behaviour, I was struggling so much that I ran away from home and tried to commit "S" at the age of 11, I was found by someone who knew my dad so the called him and he came to get me, but nothing happened and I unfortunately didn't get any help. Then the next day I was again having a big meltdown, I was so out of control that my mom put me in the car and drove me to the police station and said that if I didn't stop this behavior she would drop me of and let the police deal with me, I then promised to be good so she took me back home and then I just closed down and learned to never show any other emotion that happiness, but inside I was hurting so much. Then when I was 17 I started a new school and about 2 months in I just broke down and told my teacher everything she then drove me to the psych ward where I was admitted for 3 months where I got diagnosed with anxiety and OCD, I finally started to get some help and began to slowly open up to my parents about how I was feeling. When I was 19 I found my now ex boyfriend who unfortunately was very abusive, but I didn't notice the red flags before we moved in together in March 2020 when I was 21, I was finally able to leave him and move back home to my parents in February 2021, I was struggling so much to come to terms with the abuse I suffered and was then referred to an outpatient phych ward where I was diagnosed with depression, but after 3 sessions the therapist saw signs of autism so I was then referred to get assessed and was diagnosed with autism november 16th 2021 On November 11th 2021 I was then sectioned under the mental health act in a closed psych ward after planning and collecting what I needed to end everything, I'm forever thankful that my doctor saw the signs and got me admitted otherwise I probably wouldn't be here today, where I can share my story and maybe just help one person feel less alone. No matter what you're going through in life just know hope is real and that you've already survived 100% of your worst days and that's something to be incredibly proud of. Healing isn't linear there will always be ups and downs and bumps on the road, but it's how we learn to deal with it that makes the difference. I've learned that talking and being open and honest about what's going on and talking through my triggers is very helpful so that it all doesn't get buddled up and suddenly gets too much to the point where you don't know where to begin to explain what's going on and how your feeling❤️ Just in case no one has told you lately "I'm so incredibly proud of you" Love from Denmark🇩🇰 Ps: if anything is spelled wrong or grammatically incorrect that's because I'm Danish and English is my Second language😊
Im sorry you had to deal so many challenges without the support you and your family needed. I wish you all the best with the new phase of enlightenment xox
What I do when I am out and about I just smile at random strangers and see how many people smile back. It is great to see someone with a sad face on and when you smile at them their faces light up with a smile.
I wish there where more people like crystal and Aaron that don't judge and take a step back and think like they do. I struggle with depression and anxiety and the holidays are definitely the hardest for me, I want to see everyone happy but inside I'm dieing that's kinda how it feels. Good job Hailey for coming on and speaking!
I suffer from Anxiety/panic disorder. I also feel very sad at times. I recently lost 2 friends. They died 2 days apart from each other. I've been crying a lot lately. Any time I feel sad I listen to Christian music. My favorite Christian singer is Chris Tomlin. Not sure if you know who Chris Tomlin is. His music always helps me get through the hard times. Watching this video made me cry 😢😭 I felt really bad when Halie started to cry 😢😭
You can hear the shakyness in Haley’s voice and Aaron’s voice that just made me sad because I understand them and I’m so glad they have somebody to talk to for anything because sometimes people don’t want to understand you or there isn’t enough understanding or empathy to understand what you’re going through that makes it worse because there is nobody to go to. I always pray about it and talk to God and it helps but there’s always still that burden that comes back like Haley said that feels seasonal or just at times and it sucks. I love this channel
I wish y’all would have asked her if there wasn’t so many brothers and sisters like would have it made a difference in how she grew up? Not blaming everybody else or not that it’s the parents fault but maybe it would have made a difference in how much time was spent with her or idk you know?
It’s crazy how even when you’re shown love and your going through it it sometimes doesn’t make a difference in a way so I love that you said that it’s okay because it’s okay to have those feeling sometimes and people who don’t understand want to show you love and want you to automatically change your whole mood and it’s like.. it doesn’t work that way
I hope Haley knows that we recognize how courageous she was for coming to Aaron with her bad feelings. It's something that she did for all of the people that love her. Look at people who have chosen the alternative and how very sad their loved ones feel. So her stepping into that scary vulnerable moment is really something she did for her family!!!
I lost my brother to depression and the amount of regret I have after he left is insane. He has called me many times asking for a support and i answered every time. He called a couple days before he committed and I didn’t hear the phone. I called back and he didn’t answer but I didn’t think it was a big deal because he was working at that time. That was the last time he reached out. I was the one who knocked on his door trying to wake him up for work and something was holding me back. Like I was being told not to knock. 2 years later my son was born on the day we found out he passed. I truly believe he was a gift from my brother.
I lost the love of my life of the past 20 years on 9/4/22 and I struggle with mental health and don’t really have anyone to talk to and he was my heart and soul the one person that was always there for me and I’m have cried everyday since he’s been gone.i sit by myself 99% of the time and the only people I talk to is my doctors, I have a lot of doctors because I’ve been going through lung cancer and all the stuff that the treatment has caused. I’ve always loved to give Gifts but nobody ever gave me anything and I always said that I didn’t want anything but I have found that when I would go home I would cry because I give so much then I fine nobody cares enough about me to even give me a Christmas card. I miss my love he always gave me money and told me to buy whatever I want and I always took the money and bought from everyone else. I took my grocery money of 75.00 last night and bought my 85 year old Aunt blanket sheets so she stays warm this winter. Merry Christmas 🎄 i’m on oxygen and when I cry I can’t breathe through my nose , i’m so glad Halle that you started your own channel, God Bless you and Happy New Year 🎆🎊🎈 Do you still have your boyfriend?
I'm so glad you did this podcast. I will be rewatching it with my daughter. She is 13, and has expressed that she suffers with depression and anxiety. And as a mother who has always dealt with that as well, it hurts my heart for her.
From an old retired nurse: there is seasonal affective disorder that is treated with light therapy. This may be worth talking to doctor about. I feel proud that you work on yourself. Good for you, God bless you and Merry Christmas to you and all your family.
My depression was really bad last month, like I was genuinely scared for myself. Thank you for being so open about these types of things! Love how open Halie is and how comfortable she feels about talking to her parents about these things. I wish my mom and I had this kind of relationship.
I love you Halie and I can listen or watch you all day long. You are an amazing young lady, blessed and I believe God is using you to help millions of struggling people, you a voice and your sincerity is strength for many. Again let me say again, I love you girl keep going. As your watch over you some of us notice and watch you from outside.
I’ve suffered in silence my whole life and did try the S word when I was going through a bad divorce 20 years ago but my childhood was really bad but I’ve never asked for help I got put into treatment when I tried S but was forced in I found that group therapy was pretty good because I seen people that had it worce then me but in all actuality it didn’t stop those feelings of hurt from Everyman I have had in my life I’ve given up on dating and haven’t for 20 years I was watching when Halie was going through her struggles and I cried right along with all of you I understand what she was dealing with mine is a little different because I didn’t have a family like the Crazy pieces I was mentally and physically abused and put on the streets at 16 so I had to grow up quickly 😢Love you guys
Halie is such an old soul. She's such a beautiful little lady! Max is so sweet too. You could tell when Halie was crying..he isn't big on physical touch but I just felt like he so badly wanted to just hug her. She does truly seem happy and I really really hope she is and that she's not ever gonna let the devil take hold over her. Its God, family and friends. Let them be there if you need them to be. Love you Halie!
love this it been so hard i lost my hubby on Sept 13 2022. I've been grieving and down in the dumps and this kind of helped that I'm not the only one going through depression or grieving or any problems.
Hearing Halie talk about how it is like an overwhelming guilt and you don't want to put the burden of your mental health struggles on someone else by telling them made me think of when I told my mom I was SA'd and she basically put even more burden on me because of it. She has really bad coping mechanisms for that type of stuff, which is something I've only realized recently. She's always made me carry not only my own struggles, but also in a way made me responsible for HER struggles. What I want to say here is, if you're a parent, DO NOT "vent" with your kid if they tell you about their struggles. If your kid tells you they're depressed, have anxiety, have been through trauma etc, you CAN NOT go to that kid to talk about how hard it is for you being their parent. My mom also gets mad at me because I "never tell her anything", but when I do, she always finds a way to make me feel worse about it. Just can't do right with her.
I remember struggling a lot with mental health in middle school and high school and when I tried to open up to some “friends”, they literally told me that other people have things worst or are going through worst things so you shouldn’t feel that way and it hurt because it almost invalidated my feelings. Just because other people might going through something “worst” doesn’t mean that your feelings don’t matter or aren’t important. Something small to someone else could be big for you and vis versa. All problems/feelings big or small matter. ❤ Everyone feels things differently and are on their own journey in life
There’s just one thing that I have to add on what halie said (am about to cry as I say this ) but being a sensitive person as she is and as I am you, you feel everything, everything and all of those feelings are not your own it’s all the people around you what you see on tv what ever people are going through which makes it so hard to go through the day. God have mercy on us all
I know of someone that actually don't like to be hugged when they're in that moment. She perceived it as pity and made her even more emotional. Happy you're doing better Halie. You're so brave 🥰
December is a tough month for me because my depression and anxiety hit me really hard especially the last two years because I lost my younger brother and he should be here. Hallie keep your head up you are so much stronger than you realize because God gives his toughest battles to his strongest warriors
Thank you for speaking about this. Mental health care is health care and needs to be talked about openly. Also, “committing” S is no longer used as it’s not a crime, etc. It’s “died by S.” It can put guilt on the survivors. 💕
Feeling very alone this year. Especially this month, missing my bff who died last fall and my husband being gone 15 hours a day working. Battling depression yet again.
I struggle with depression and anxiety, I've found this year that wrapping gifts and listening to music to be calming. I remember growing up that it was taboo to talk about mental health, i feel like my mom was made fun of for having mental illnesses . I also find drawing, and talking and playing video games with to my boyfriend to be calming. Thanks for making this video.
I also suffer from Anxiety, depression and P.C.O.S. it is a really big struggle most days. I have had a lot of people in My life I have lost from death and it really makes it hard for me to deal with things from day to day. It has made it hard for me to be close to anyone in my life because I'm always afraid of loosing anyone I get close to. Watching all of the Keep It crazy Family Vlogs and all of the other families I watch is actually my happy place. It really love watching other families and following there lives. It makes me feel like I'm a part of the families.
I suffer from, among other things, complex post-traumatic stress with anxiety, and Panic anxiety. Something I often hear is when the question "when am I going to get well?" Just like choosing to be sick. People have also told me to my face that they don't think I want to get well. But I don't think anyone who suffers from "S-Thoughts" and anxiety/panic disorder wants it. Love your family and that you dare to talk about mental health.
I’ ve have anxiety/panic and depression since age 8. When I got older and shared it, it made people leave from being my friend. It pushed people away. So I got to where I never shared again. I had psychiatrist that fell asleep during my sessions, which turned me against getting Psychiatry help anymore. No one wants your problems added to their lives. So I just quit sharing and learned to live with it. I am so lonely now, but not suicidal. I want to live snd be happy. Its so hard.
Halie thank you so much for sharing your journey with depression & anxiety & how you work through these things. Your words & advice have helped this older gal. I have been struggling with depression & not having anyone to talk to that can understand & validate how I'm feeling. What I'm able to do has changed for me. I can't go on long walks, or ride a bike or go up or down stairs. I do what I can & the best I can. Christmas time can be a struggle but I make myself think on the positive, being with family. I feel it is so important for parents/guardians to validate your childrens feelings & work to understand & listen. ( Growing up my feelings were never validated. It was a get over it attitude, you have nothing to be depressed about) Listening is so important! Your child may not always want you to 'fix' things, they just want someone they trust to listen. For them to get out & release how they are feeling makes them lose there power over them. Great podcast! Thank you all for doing this!
I have mental illness and also have SAD this time of year is so hard for me. I don't like how mental illness is so looked at and how people are treated and all we need is love and acceptance. Halie you would make a great peer to peer support specialist. God bless your family
Hallie I also have seasonal depression and it sucks, I am in a wheelchair and I think that's why I go thru it and also because my family has it as well but I understand you completely I love you
Hallie /Halo 😇 is such a beautiful person and she is becoming a beautiful woman and is so strong when I see her I just see so much grace I can't wait to see all the awesome things she does in the future and yes I do follow her channel how could I not she is just so awesome
I will never forget when I first told my mom I had depression. She told me “if anyone should be depressed it should be me”. I also used to vent to my ex boyfriend ( not the one mentioned below I was actually talking to him about everything below) a lot and he told me my problems and my sh*t was too much for him to handle. That is something that makes you never want to open up and talk to others. What crystal said about the quote... situations don’t happen to you they happen for you but it’s very similar to the everything happens for a reason quote. I used to believe that until I went thru an abusive narcissistic relationship. Who then two months after we broke up got with my sister.. my family and him hide it from me for over a year until HE told me she was pregnant. I can’t wrap my mind around ANY of that happening for a good reason. Of course there is A LOT more to the story when it comes to my abusive ex and my relationship with him that I could be here all day writing about. Or family trauma... But with all that being said... and while I have no damn clue what I was meant to learn from any of the things I went thru.. If anyone happened to read this and has a theory I’m all ears.
OMG.. This episode made me cry. Just hearing what Halie went through and reflecting on some of the moments I suffered with Depression. Anxiety is new to me but I learned to reach out...thank you for this
As someone with PCOS, I wanted to say thank you to Hailey for being so open and raw about her feelings. It’s not easy to have those thoughts about motherhood but I want her to know that no matter what, there are supports out that to help. When the time is right and she is trying to have a baby, I would recommend that you speak with a gyno/OBGYN and get their support from day one. It will make the journey easier knowing that you have someone on your team. As a side note, it would be interesting if you did a collab with mama dr Jones to talk about Crystals struggles and PCOS.
Thanks for this. Timing was perfect. I have lost 11 people to cancer since 2017 including both my parents. I am a nurse with 2 out of 3 autistic kids. All 3 suffer anxiety and depression. I have rheumatoid arthritis so am always in pain, but I kept going . This year I got breast cancer, and as my psychiatrist said, that smashed my bucket, I could not help or help myself. I too have PCOS and the hormone treatment just tipped me as it made my arthritis worse. I have cried more in last few weeks than in last few years. Yesterday I tipped. I had a medical product in my work fridge which I did not trust myself to be around. I asked our pharmacist to remove it. Tomorrow I see psychologist to decide if I go into clinic. But my family is going on a road trip for 2 weeks. And I don't know if I will cope being alone over Christmas and New Year. I have no other family. Thank you guys for this. It's so needed right now.. ...
One of the good things that came out of COVID is that mental health became more mainstream, help became more available and even virtually. I went through 55 years of my life with anxiety and depression and even knowing my family history with the issue I always felt asking for help was admitting that I was weak. I finally during the pandemic and the ensuing isolation told my doctor I needed help and I finally got some. I think about how different many aspects of my life would have been different if when I was younger I had a parent who would have recognized my struggle and got me help.
I suffer from depression, anxiety and panic. I was so strong and at 32 years my life fell apart to depression,anxiety, and panic attacks. I got to where I could not even turn a light on. I have went to therapy and still do at 59. Breath in deeply, and excelling. I am happy now but with a heart disease and stints it is scary having a panic attack. I take medicine for all of mine and the PTSD. Praise God I am doing a lot better by the grace of God. It is very scary. Prayers for you Hallie and Aaron❤️🙏
Society struggles to understand the difference between anxiety and having an anxiety disorder, as well as being depressed vs a depression disorder. Having the actual disorder often means that there’s either a chemical imbalance in the brain or something related to brain development that’s causing the issue. So someone who has depression can’t always help it when they’re having depression episodes, same goes for anxiety. Just feeling anxious or depressed for a short period of time is hard, but actually having a disorder means that it’s always going to be present with some periods being harder than others. You guys did a good job handling it and I think the most important thing you can do for someone having those, or any other mental health, issues is to let them know you’re there for them. Not to necessarily “fix” them, but be there to listen and to ask if they want some help to do something. ❤
People who bully others whether in person or online aren’t happy in their life so the feel powerful tearing others down. You can let that get to you.Thank you for sharing your family.
So proud of you Hallie for the courage to open up about your feelings. And proud of you, Crystal and Aaron, for embracing those feelings and figuring out ways to deal with them as a caring family 🥰
I have masked how I feel when I have been really bad with my mental health, having family support is amazing,took me awhile to open up to all my family,keep being amazing family you are thank you
I have PCOS and depression and anxiety has really affected me in my life. Having an identity to my issues was a complete life changer because before it was like fighting an invisible giant and now that I know what it is I can recognize the symptoms and things in myself and it really helped me.
From a grieving mom whom has had to live without her son for 3 years as of December 10th due to losing his battle with depression and anxiety. PLEASE anyone whom is struggling don’t be silent ask for help and don’t allow the stigma in this world to make you feel embarrassed or ashamed. Depression and anxiety truly can affect anyone including fame and fortune etc. Thank you all for speaking openly about this.
Mental health specialist for 20 years...I thought I had seen it all. It's been a blessing and curse at times as I am always analyzing. Don't feel bad about being in denial Halie. I had a knee replaced and had anesthetic depression. I knew all the signs but would question why...what is wrong with me. My doctor looked at me like really? I said I am depressed aren't I? He said yes and he thought he knew why. I talked to my surgeon about it and he said I am so sorry. I need to talk to my patients about this being a thing. He said the good thing is that it usually only lasts 3 months. Something I never learned about in my training so our next continuing education classes I brought it up. After 3 months my cloud drifted away slowly but surely. Depression is definitely an imbalance...take your meds that work for you...get out in the sun at least 20 minutes at a time...make plans with family/friends. Tell your family/friends so they can get you out of the house when you want to change plans.
I have struggled for years with Depression. The few things I have learned, (and I am 62) is that It does get better, It may not feel like it at times but It will. Also, friends and family are not educated enough to help you deal with most issues. They want to, but please turn to a professional. If you don't feel like it's a good fit with one professional, seek out another. You matter! OX
Honestly I know people love tiktok ....but think about how bad it is for your mental health when you watch a happy video . Next is a sad video. Next is a scary video. Next is a happy video and Next is a angry video ...... in a "normal" life we wouldn't be going through allllllll those emotions sooo many times in just a few minutes.. try taking a break from tik tok.. cut out caffeine. Drink alot of water. And talk to those close to you and you'll start feeling alot better. I used to struggle bad also and after making these simple changes it has changed my life. Love your family and you all have great support buddies in the fam ❤️ LOVE ALL YOUR CHANNELS
loving this podcast. hope we can get an ep with hannah, perhaps delving into her story and foster experience, also her family and mom's story and how she deals with all the emotions? i really admire it
Breathing = Life! I struggle with Bipolar since 1998! It is so important to see a therapist to help you get through the deeper struggles! I know a lot of people to when they get upset, they say they need a cigarette! I explain to them that they don’t really need the cigarettes, they just need to learn how to breathe, because that is what they are doing when they smoke, they breathe in and breathe out while smoking. I used to smoke and realized this! But I also got saved and asked Jesus into my heart. I prayed that He would help me quit! So I believe He really helped me realize the breathing technique!
Thank you crazy pieces for talking about this topic. I also have depression and anxiety for quite some time. I as well didnt like to talk about my feelings even in my darkest times but i realized it was not healthy for me. I decided to speak to a therapist and each week she would give me a little assignment to do to work on myself and that does help. For anybody who does have depression or anxiety give yourself a break. Do something that makes you happy that can help release your emotions whether its painting, writing poetry, learning a new instrument, going to the gym etc. For anybody who has anxiety when you feel like its about to start just stop where ever you are and close your eyes, take a deep breath and count to 5. Repeat until you feel more calmer. I completely understand how Hailie feels because people in general tend to not talk about their real feelings or emotions. This is why we should check on family and friends every now and then like hey how are you feeling. People tend to make others happy and forget about themselves which is something I do as well. Give yourself a schedule of little things to everyday and change it up but also dont push yourself too hard❤ You are not alone, take little steps at a time❤ Opening up is the toughest thing to do but when you do a weight is lifted off your shoulders. You're on the right path Hailie and dont ever stop😊❤We love you!
I really relate to halie so much, seasonal depression is so hard to deal with. It’s hard going through the holidays wanting to be happy being with your family but it’s not easy. Sometimes it’s scary but I like being sad, I wouldn’t say I particularly enjoy it but after so many years of being in that emotion it has become so normal to be sad. As a teenager with severe depression and anxiety it’s so easy to mask your feelings for others. You feel like your going to hurt them and they will look at you different. Unfortunately for me I tried to seek help but could never tell the doctor my actual problems.
First Halie is a beautiful young lady with a heart of gold and make a us realize that what you see from the outside that isn’t always what the person is going through! After having been with my wive for 60 years and having her gone for last 5 years my family has been able to help me through this sad time by showing their love and understanding!❤
This is a great topic. My brother 3 years ago committed the “S” word. I never understood after family tried to help him. He did counseling, not sure if that was helpful. You can’t help if they don’t want help. He was so far down and rejected so many times. RIP Mickey.
I watch the service member homecoming videos when I feel sad. The videos make me happy for the families and I get good cry that is a release. I have been having a hard time this year also
I grew up with a mother that suffered through mental illness. This was back in the 60’s and 70’s. I always thought if I was perfect in every way she would be happy and not beat me. When I moved away from home to another province, I realized after therapy that I too suffered from anxiety and depression due to my childhood. It wasn’t until my own kids were almost grown that I could forgive my mom for the abuse because she was ill. I suffered in silence and thought if I was gone that everyone would be happier, the only thing that stopped me was knowing my kids and husband would be upset and I couldn’t do that to them. I am so grateful I found the best therapist and am able to be here for my kids, husband, grandkids and future great grandchildren. Yes I still feel unhappy the odd time but I understand that is ok. One question I have for Halie, do you find being apart of a Big family is harder for you than being apart of a smaller family or even an only child? I was asked that by my therapist and I felt conflicted with my answer
Thank you for sharing that. I’m 45 and just in the last 2 years started to share with loved ones that I wasn’t ‘ok’. It is so freeing to admit and ask for help. It’s ok to not be ok ❤️
Thank you for starting this podcast, truly! This episode is by fsr my favorite! Mental health is truly not easy to navigate. I've been struggling since I was young. I had a rough childhood and I think that didn't help. Then I lost my brother to unaliving himself in 2015. I was just starting to get myself on a good path after therapy and healing but then mothers day of this year I lost my dad. Then about a month ago my entire family including my mom turned on me and decided to sell my dad's farm behind my back because I wanted to keep his legacy going and they wanted fast money. This Christmas has been really hard cause I lost my whole family and my best friend, my dad, now lives in heaven. The only thing keeping me breathing is my 2 year old daughter. Everyday is a struggle but I refuse to let her childhood lack. I planned an advent calendar with her elf of Christmas crafts and fun things we can do together to make sure she still has a good Christmas. It's been so hard but I refuse to let it take me down. To keep me going after the holidays I signed my daughter up for gymnastics, honestly just anything to hold me accountable. She will not get the same childhood I got I absolutely refuse no matter how hard it is on me.
I also suffer from anxiety and depression so I can relate and I don't draw but making wreaths, crafting or scrapbooking makes me happier (being creative) ❤️
I’m in the best place I’ve ever been, but just hearing her talk about it brought tears to my eyes as I remembered how I was. I’m so grateful to be where I am now, to have what I have, and to be who I am.
with aaron i feel like it takes gut for "men to open up and u can see it on his face how hes not okay and that hes been strong for so long, and he always put others first before himself
Hallie you are amazing! I am 41 and have been suffering with deprrssion and anxisty since I was around 10. I did not realize I had it and was in denial until I had a devorce 4 years ago that pusbed me over the edge. I never got to the point of the S word but I got really close. If not for my faith, my son,family and some amazing coworkers and friends I might have gotten to that point. Its important to find that support system . I ended up doing some therapy until my free sessions ran out and covid hit. I tried medicatiosn (but that made me become a zombie or made my anxiety worse) so I quit taking then (Hemp oil and Terripans have helped better than those) Anyway you are an ispiration! I am also hoping to start my own channel but have no equipment except my phone (no extra money either) and keep putting it off because I am also short of time (40 to 60 hour work weeks and single mom).
I hope Aaron is doing okay. Im a people watcher too and an empath. Ive noticed his energy change drastically over the past month or two. Make sure you check in, im sure you do. Hallie being the one to come to him might just be the thing that helps him get though his struggle. He may not understand why he's feeling how he is but experiencing that rock bottom moment with Hallie could help him recognize if he too is reaching the limit, might not be as extreme. Also check in with the other kids about how they are feeling especially if they watched this episode. If they are feeling at any point like Hallie and watching how everyone is feeing and now their dad if could effect them mentally and emotionally , Hannah has caught my eye too her smile doesn't quite reach her eyes anymore. I wish you all a happy and healthy 2023, you've helped me so much over the past two years and I enjoyed my first Christmas this year too. Thank you.
I really enjoyed this podcast and hope you bring up more neurodivergent type subjects in future episodes. I am a autistic and a mom, and I can relate a lot with the anxiety and depression struggles that Halie described. Especially she said something like "I feel like I have a lot going on yet I don't have a lot going on", because depending on my mental health at the time I can cope with more or less things at the time. So sometimes "not a lot" is all I can handle and it feels quite busy!
I love that y'all and especially Halie is so open with sharing these experiences. I'm 24 and I've had anxiety since I was a young child and have had depression since I was 12 as well. I feel Halie so much on needing to know exactly what's going on. I have to have a plan when I'm doing something and if the plan gets changed, it can cause a panic attack for me. I'm glad you're doing well Halie and I hope you're feeling better too Aaron especially since you can recognize what might be going on. Sending Love to you all💙
Sometimes when suffering from mental health we feel a little guilty, like we are wrong or weird. The diagnosis sometimes helps with these feelings, it's okay that I feel or behave this way - I'm not to blame for the details I came into the world with, just like I was born with eyes of a certain color, etc... so all I have left to do is learn how to get the best out of what's inside of me
When she said sometime you want to sit and be sad I felt that I grew up writing in a journal and my grandma took that and used it against me and I stopped I’m a wife now and It feels so vulnerable to that someone could potentially see and look at how I am feeling.
I agreed you can have everything and still feel sad. I am 33 years old and I am just now seeking for help. I appreciate you guys talking about this. I can relate
This really hit home. I’m grateful I don’t suffer from depression but I have recently realised I have PTSD and anxiety. And it not so much the diagnosis that helped me but realising that I’m not alone and having copy techniques to help me when I’m too lost in my head and feelings. Also, for years I never realised why I feel / react to situations the way I do. It always used to feel like there was something wrong then my therapist pointed out that I was an Empath and sensitive to the energies around me. Which honestly was the best thing because suddenly I didn’t feel so alone or like I was doomed to feel like this forever. Now I’m just trying to teach myself how to block out negative energy. It’s definitely helped. I want to thank you guys for this podcast. I think it’s going to help so many people especially in realising that we’re not alone even when it feels like it.
Halie am so proud of you , am 37 yrs old and been going thru depression / anxiety for a long time just started to get help am currently in counseling and so far I’ve been okay ,your truly an inspiration ❤
I have a daughter that is just like Halie - anxiety, depression, PCOS. I give her kudos for being open about it as my daughter isn't quite there yet (and she's older than Halie too). I try to be there and listen when it gets rough and I like the suggestions all of you offered. As a father, we feel it's our job to fix things but sometimes there are situations that just can't be fixed - at least without some outside assistance. This podcast was one that hits home to me and to others as well. Thank you.
Love you Halie!!! You are very beautiful inside and out! You are very loved!! I know you have a beautiful future ahead of you no matter what you decide to do! Sending you 🤗 hugs and peace in Jesus name!🙏🏻🙌🏻💜
hey hallie just know ur not alone i also struggle with those things i also an an advocate ive been on websites and pocast and shared my story and expirences to help others so keep going im rooting for ya
As someone who has depression and anxiety, it’s very difficult to stop putting on that mask and happy face to even tell someone. Hallie, I’m so happy you managed to stop that mask even for a night and tell someone to get that help. Even if you aren’t ‘cured’ because depression and anxiety can’t be cured, but you can have very good times and good years without a bout of it. Christmas is my favourite time, and it’s the only true thing that helps my depression and such. Other with depression tend to be worse because it is the time of year, the sun sets earlier, less hours of light and such. I hope you find ways to cope, both you and Aaron specifically❤️
I have horrible anxiety and depression, I have worst case scenario about everything! I always stress and worry, I have panic attacks, always worried people are mad at me, I'm a people pleaser, I suffer daily. Halie is younger then I am, but she is such a role model to me 💜
I had no idea that Halie has PCOS. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 21. It is definitely linked to anxiety and depression. I had to do fertility to have my first child, but I now have 6 🥰
This comment give me so much hope because I also have pcos and I cried about that fear of not being able to have kids I’m just 23 and I pray whenever I am ready for a child i don’t have difficulties I also have trouble with depression 😫
when you were talking about decorating the tree I do the same thing it stresses me out i have to move them, the holidays stress me out so much my anxiety is always high I try so hard to make everyone else happy that no one notices I'm actually miserable.
Depression /anxiety is not necessarily crying or wanting to cry. Sometimes an apt description is that life is in a fog that you can’t lift or get past. A person can suffer even when you can’t see anything particularly stressful or bad going on in your life.
Agree!
So true hard to get through each day
Most definitely true. I feel like a lot people don’t realize this. They think oh just because your not crying that your not depressed but that’s not the cause depression comes in many different ways and that’s why I feel a lot of people can’t always tell when their love one is depressed.
This is so true, depression can look so different for everybody. For me I didn’t cry once in 5 months when I was severely depressed 🤷♀️
As some who is currently suffering with mental health issues …. Crystal even throughout this podcast , I can see you noticing Aaron’s ‘distress’ signs …. The shaking legs , the ringing hands ….. keep noticing …. Even if no1 realized you did it’s very important ❤️❤️
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Aaron saying he still doesn’t fully understand it is the best admission he could have made. The fact that he knows he doesn’t totally get it but wants to help and is willing to learn is the best thing for his daughter. I had parents who don’t get it and told me I was making it up and there was nothing wrong with me and that made me spiral even more. It’s such a scary place to be. My 7 year old now has anxiety and it breaks my heart because I DO get it and I KNOW how he feels and I know I can’t always help him. I feel guilty because I know anxiety runs very genetically strong in my family and I know that’s why he has it. Sensibly I KNOW I didn’t hand pick this burden for him and I’m grateful I do get it and know how to find resources to get him the help he needs but my guilt is crazy strong…every day I see him struggling.
This is something a old man can talk about.I am 57. Although I come a very violent childhood. Depression and Anxiety was never a problem. Now I had a very bad temper but could quickly cool off. I had many people who thought I should be in therapy. But I am great about compartmentalize. And could keep my violent childhood in a box buried deep down. I always stayed busy. It was non stop 23 hours a day. But than 5 years ago I became disabled. And had 2 strokes. That is when the depression and anxiety went nuclear. Where I was able to keep my childhood hid. I was not able to hid any longer from my childhood. But thankfully with Therapy and medications I can control the symptoms of each. But it will now always be a struggle. The best advice I have gotten was take it one day at a time. And sometimes one minute at a time. And you just do not feel like you can do something don't. Learn to say no. God Bless!
I agree with what Halie said. We teens don't usually want to be a burden so we end up dealing with it silently. I've been through depression and it's really a hard journey. It takes courage to be able to deal with it. I just love the bond between the crazy pieces. I've been binge-watching their videos since yesterday, and I can't stop smiling.
Sadly I’m still that way now. I silently keep it to myself.
Thats the same for everyone struggling with memtal health not just teens..
I went and Googled what Hallie has PCOS. I have researched mental health for many years. I had never came across PCOS. But now I understand why. It is a medical condition that only women can get. I learned something new today. Hallie you are very brave sharing your life in a public forum.🥰🥰
the way max was looking at his sister.... hugsss
I am so proud of Halie. I have had a hard time talking about my mental health. I’ve been struggling with my mental health for 12 years or so I am now able to talk about my struggles and I admire Halie for advocating for others.I relate to her because I am always wanting everyone else to be happy even when I am drowning in my own problems. Keep up the amazing work Halie you got this❤
Hearing her talk about how young she noticed her depression and anxiety...it makes me feel more normal because thats around the same time i noticed my own issues, thank you for sharing 💜
Thank you so much for sharing your story Halie❤️
This is my story:
I was diagnosed with autism last year at the age of 22 after struggling with my mental health especially from being undiagnosed autistic my whole childhood where my parents didn't know how to deal with my "challenging behaviour" which we now know to be meltdowns from feeling overwhelmed where I would scream, cry and lash out for hours at home especially when I had to do my homework, I was struggling at school to keep up with my peers so when I was 8 I got a teaching assistant to help me in school who unfortunately was a pedophile who went on to abuse me in his office, I was luckily able to get him to stop by refusing to go with him, I was kicking, screaming, throwing things around and hiding under the table, I was so out of control that the teachers had to clear the classroom, that was the last time I ever had to go with him, but the teachers or my parents never asked why I reacted this way, and I never told anyone before I was 16, because I honestly forgot it happened like my brain just erased the horrible memories until I was 16 when I unexpectedly met my childhood friend who was also abused by him, so when we started talking and she told me about what had happened to her all my memories came back which resulted in me getting hospitalized in the psych ward at 17 where I was diagnosed with anxiety and OCD
I was struggling loudly between the age of 3-11 where I was punished for my "bad" behaviour, I was struggling so much that I ran away from home and tried to commit "S" at the age of 11, I was found by someone who knew my dad so the called him and he came to get me, but nothing happened and I unfortunately didn't get any help. Then the next day I was again having a big meltdown, I was so out of control that my mom put me in the car and drove me to the police station and said that if I didn't stop this behavior she would drop me of and let the police deal with me, I then promised to be good so she took me back home and then I just closed down and learned to never show any other emotion that happiness, but inside I was hurting so much. Then when I was 17 I started a new school and about 2 months in I just broke down and told my teacher everything she then drove me to the psych ward where I was admitted for 3 months where I got diagnosed with anxiety and OCD, I finally started to get some help and began to slowly open up to my parents about how I was feeling.
When I was 19 I found my now ex boyfriend who unfortunately was very abusive, but I didn't notice the red flags before we moved in together in March 2020 when I was 21, I was finally able to leave him and move back home to my parents in February 2021, I was struggling so much to come to terms with the abuse I suffered and was then referred to an outpatient phych ward where I was diagnosed with depression, but after 3 sessions the therapist saw signs of autism so I was then referred to get assessed and was diagnosed with autism november 16th 2021
On November 11th 2021 I was then sectioned under the mental health act in a closed psych ward after planning and collecting what I needed to end everything, I'm forever thankful that my doctor saw the signs and got me admitted otherwise I probably wouldn't be here today, where I can share my story and maybe just help one person feel less alone. No matter what you're going through in life just know hope is real and that you've already survived 100% of your worst days and that's something to be incredibly proud of.
Healing isn't linear there will always be ups and downs and bumps on the road, but it's how we learn to deal with it that makes the difference. I've learned that talking and being open and honest about what's going on and talking through my triggers is very helpful so that it all doesn't get buddled up and suddenly gets too much to the point where you don't know where to begin to explain what's going on and how your feeling❤️
Just in case no one has told you lately "I'm so incredibly proud of you"
Love from Denmark🇩🇰
Ps: if anything is spelled wrong or grammatically incorrect that's because I'm Danish and English is my Second language😊
Im sorry you had to deal so many challenges without the support you and your family needed. I wish you all the best with the new phase of enlightenment xox
What I do when I am out and about I just smile at random strangers and see how many people smile back. It is great to see someone with a sad face on and when you smile at them their faces light up with a smile.
I wish there where more people like crystal and Aaron that don't judge and take a step back and think like they do. I struggle with depression and anxiety and the holidays are definitely the hardest for me, I want to see everyone happy but inside I'm dieing that's kinda how it feels.
Good job Hailey for coming on and speaking!
I suffer from Anxiety/panic disorder. I also feel very sad at times. I recently lost 2 friends. They died 2 days apart from each other. I've been crying a lot lately. Any time I feel sad I listen to Christian music. My favorite Christian singer is Chris Tomlin. Not sure if you know who Chris Tomlin is. His music always helps me get through the hard times. Watching this video made me cry 😢😭 I felt really bad when Halie started to cry 😢😭
You can hear the shakyness in Haley’s voice and Aaron’s voice that just made me sad because I understand them and I’m so glad they have somebody to talk to for anything because sometimes people don’t want to understand you or there isn’t enough understanding or empathy to understand what you’re going through that makes it worse because there is nobody to go to. I always pray about it and talk to God and it helps but there’s always still that burden that comes back like Haley said that feels seasonal or just at times and it sucks. I love this channel
I wish y’all would have asked her if there wasn’t so many brothers and sisters like would have it made a difference in how she grew up? Not blaming everybody else or not that it’s the parents fault but maybe it would have made a difference in how much time was spent with her or idk you know?
It’s crazy how even when you’re shown love and your going through it it sometimes doesn’t make a difference in a way so I love that you said that it’s okay because it’s okay to have those feeling sometimes and people who don’t understand want to show you love and want you to automatically change your whole mood and it’s like.. it doesn’t work that way
I hope Haley knows that we recognize how courageous she was for coming to Aaron with her bad feelings. It's something that she did for all of the people that love her. Look at people who have chosen the alternative and how very sad their loved ones feel. So her stepping into that scary vulnerable moment is really something she did for her family!!!
Her name Halie not Haley
I lost my brother to depression and the amount of regret I have after he left is insane. He has called me many times asking for a support and i answered every time. He called a couple days before he committed and I didn’t hear the phone. I called back and he didn’t answer but I didn’t think it was a big deal because he was working at that time. That was the last time he reached out. I was the one who knocked on his door trying to wake him up for work and something was holding me back. Like I was being told not to knock. 2 years later my son was born on the day we found out he passed. I truly believe he was a gift from my brother.
Seeing Halie crying when she said she didn’t want her dad feel sad and I just balled myself Halie ur not alone I have depression anxiety and bipolar
I lost the love of my life of the past 20 years on 9/4/22 and I struggle with mental health and don’t really have anyone to talk to and he was my heart and soul the one person that was always there for me and I’m have cried everyday since he’s been gone.i sit by myself 99% of the time and the only people I talk to is my doctors, I have a lot of doctors because I’ve been going through lung cancer and all the stuff that the treatment has caused. I’ve always loved to give Gifts but nobody ever gave me anything and I always said that I didn’t want anything but I have found that when I would go home I would cry because I give so much then I fine nobody cares enough about me to even give me a Christmas card. I miss my love he always gave me money and told me to buy whatever I want and I always took the money and bought from everyone else. I took my grocery money of 75.00 last night and bought my 85 year old Aunt blanket sheets so she stays warm this winter. Merry Christmas 🎄 i’m on oxygen and when I cry I can’t breathe through my nose , i’m so glad Halle that you started your own channel, God Bless you and Happy New Year 🎆🎊🎈 Do you still have your boyfriend?
Hi my name is Lisa Krueger and have anxiety and depression and this podcast is very important for me and to others.
I'm so glad you did this podcast. I will be rewatching it with my daughter. She is 13, and has expressed that she suffers with depression and anxiety. And as a mother who has always dealt with that as well, it hurts my heart for her.
From an old retired nurse: there is seasonal affective disorder that is treated with light therapy. This may be worth talking to doctor about. I feel proud that you work on yourself. Good for you, God bless you and Merry Christmas to you and all your family.
My depression was really bad last month, like I was genuinely scared for myself. Thank you for being so open about these types of things! Love how open Halie is and how comfortable she feels about talking to her parents about these things. I wish my mom and I had this kind of relationship.
I love you Halie and I can listen or watch you all day long. You are an amazing young lady, blessed and I believe God is using you to help millions of struggling people, you a voice and your sincerity is strength for many. Again let me say again, I love you girl keep going. As your watch over you some of us notice and watch you from outside.
Several people in my family suffer from depression and anxiety their whole life... seeing it first hand gives you a good idea what they go through.
I’ve suffered in silence my whole life and did try the S word when I was going through a bad divorce 20 years ago but my childhood was really bad but I’ve never asked for help I got put into treatment when I tried S but was forced in I found that group therapy was pretty good because I seen people that had it worce then me but in all actuality it didn’t stop those feelings of hurt from Everyman I have had in my life I’ve given up on dating and haven’t for 20 years I was watching when Halie was going through her struggles and I cried right along with all of you I understand what she was dealing with mine is a little different because I didn’t have a family like the Crazy pieces I was mentally and physically abused and put on the streets at 16 so I had to grow up quickly 😢Love you guys
Halie is such an old soul. She's such a beautiful little lady! Max is so sweet too. You could tell when Halie was crying..he isn't big on physical touch but I just felt like he so badly wanted to just hug her. She does truly seem happy and I really really hope she is and that she's not ever gonna let the devil take hold over her. Its God, family and friends. Let them be there if you need them to be. Love you Halie!
love this it been so hard i lost my hubby on Sept 13 2022. I've been grieving and down in the dumps and this kind of helped that I'm not the only one going through depression or grieving or any problems.
Hearing Halie talk about how it is like an overwhelming guilt and you don't want to put the burden of your mental health struggles on someone else by telling them made me think of when I told my mom I was SA'd and she basically put even more burden on me because of it. She has really bad coping mechanisms for that type of stuff, which is something I've only realized recently. She's always made me carry not only my own struggles, but also in a way made me responsible for HER struggles.
What I want to say here is, if you're a parent, DO NOT "vent" with your kid if they tell you about their struggles. If your kid tells you they're depressed, have anxiety, have been through trauma etc, you CAN NOT go to that kid to talk about how hard it is for you being their parent.
My mom also gets mad at me because I "never tell her anything", but when I do, she always finds a way to make me feel worse about it. Just can't do right with her.
I remember struggling a lot with mental health in middle school and high school and when I tried to open up to some “friends”, they literally told me that other people have things worst or are going through worst things so you shouldn’t feel that way and it hurt because it almost invalidated my feelings. Just because other people might going through something “worst” doesn’t mean that your feelings don’t matter or aren’t important. Something small to someone else could be big for you and vis versa. All problems/feelings big or small matter. ❤ Everyone feels things differently and are on their own journey in life
There’s just one thing that I have to add on what halie said (am about to cry as I say this ) but being a sensitive person as she is and as I am you, you feel everything, everything and all of those feelings are not your own it’s all the people around you what you see on tv what ever people are going through which makes it so hard to go through the day. God have mercy on us all
November andDecember are the hardest for me
because both months I have had family passed away,
on December 12 would be her birthday and I miss her
How could you not get up and hug your daughter?? I am so proud of you Halie for educating us all. You are an inspiration to others!
I know of someone that actually don't like to be hugged when they're in that moment. She perceived it as pity and made her even more emotional. Happy you're doing better Halie. You're so brave 🥰
December is a tough month for me because my depression and anxiety hit me really hard especially the last two years because I lost my younger brother and he should be here. Hallie keep your head up you are so much stronger than you realize because God gives his toughest battles to his strongest warriors
so sorry for your loss ❤
Thank you for speaking about this. Mental health care is health care and needs to be talked about openly.
Also, “committing” S is no longer used as it’s not a crime, etc. It’s “died by S.” It can put guilt on the survivors. 💕
Feeling very alone this year. Especially this month, missing my bff who died last fall and my husband being gone 15 hours a day working. Battling depression yet again.
I struggle with depression and anxiety, I've found this year that wrapping gifts and listening to music to be calming. I remember growing up that it was taboo to talk about mental health, i feel like my mom was made fun of for having mental illnesses . I also find drawing, and talking and playing video games with to my boyfriend to be calming. Thanks for making this video.
I'm watching max expression when Hallie is talking I can tell he wishes he could do something I love seeing them sit together
Hallie is my favorite!!!! Don’t get me wrong I love all of you ❤but Hallie is so sweet and kind ❤
People her name is spelled Halie
Not Haley or hallie
I also suffer from Anxiety, depression and P.C.O.S. it is a really big struggle most days. I have had a lot of people in My life I have lost from death and it really makes it hard for me to deal with things from day to day. It has made it hard for me to be close to anyone in my life because I'm always afraid of loosing anyone I get close to. Watching all of the Keep It crazy Family Vlogs and all of the other families I watch is actually my happy place. It really love watching other families and following there lives. It makes me feel like I'm a part of the families.
I suffer from, among other things, complex post-traumatic stress with anxiety, and Panic anxiety. Something I often hear is when the question "when am I going to get well?" Just like choosing to be sick. People have also told me to my face that they don't think I want to get well. But I don't think anyone who suffers from "S-Thoughts" and anxiety/panic disorder wants it.
Love your family and that you dare to talk about mental health.
I’ ve have anxiety/panic and depression since age 8. When I got older and shared it, it made people leave from being my friend. It pushed people away. So I got to where I never shared again. I had psychiatrist that fell asleep during my sessions, which turned me against getting Psychiatry help anymore. No one wants your problems added to their lives. So I just quit sharing and learned to live with it. I am so lonely now, but not suicidal. I want to live snd be happy. Its so hard.
Halie thank you so much for sharing your journey with depression & anxiety & how you work through these things. Your words & advice have helped this older gal. I have been struggling with depression & not having anyone to talk to that can understand & validate how I'm feeling. What I'm able to do has changed for me. I can't go on long walks, or ride a bike or go up or down stairs. I do what I can & the best I can. Christmas time can be a struggle but I make myself think on the positive, being with family.
I feel it is so important for parents/guardians to validate your childrens feelings & work to understand & listen. ( Growing up my feelings were never validated. It was a get over it attitude, you have nothing to be depressed about) Listening is so important! Your child may not always want you to 'fix' things, they just want someone they trust to listen. For them to get out & release how they are feeling makes them lose there power over them.
Great podcast! Thank you all for doing this!
This podcast has become a piece of me! Thanks for being another video of yours that I look forward to every week ❤️
I have mental illness and also have SAD this time of year is so hard for me. I don't like how mental illness is so looked at and how people are treated and all we need is love and acceptance. Halie you would make a great peer to peer support specialist. God bless your family
Hallie I also have seasonal depression and it sucks, I am in a wheelchair and I think that's why I go thru it and also because my family has it as well but I understand you completely I love you
Hallie /Halo 😇 is such a beautiful person and she is becoming a beautiful woman and is so strong when I see her I just see so much grace I can't wait to see all the awesome things she does in the future and yes I do follow her channel how could I not she is just so awesome
I will never forget when I first told my mom I had depression. She told me “if anyone should be depressed it should be me”.
I also used to vent to my ex boyfriend ( not the one mentioned below I was actually talking to him about everything below) a lot and he told me my problems and my sh*t was too much for him to handle. That is something that makes you never want to open up and talk to others.
What crystal said about the quote... situations don’t happen to you they happen for you but it’s very similar to the everything happens for a reason quote. I used to believe that until I went thru an abusive narcissistic relationship. Who then two months after we broke up got with my sister.. my family and him hide it from me for over a year until HE told me she was pregnant. I can’t wrap my mind around ANY of that happening for a good reason. Of course there is A LOT more to the story when it comes to my abusive ex and my relationship with him that I could be here all day writing about. Or family trauma...
But with all that being said... and while I have no damn clue what I was meant to learn from any of the things I went thru.. If anyone happened to read this and has a theory I’m all ears.
I have suffered through depression and aniexty for years. Holidays are real hard!!
OMG.. This episode made me cry. Just hearing what Halie went through and reflecting on some of the moments I suffered with Depression. Anxiety is new to me but I learned to reach out...thank you for this
As someone with PCOS, I wanted to say thank you to Hailey for being so open and raw about her feelings. It’s not easy to have those thoughts about motherhood but I want her to know that no matter what, there are supports out that to help. When the time is right and she is trying to have a baby, I would recommend that you speak with a gyno/OBGYN and get their support from day one. It will make the journey easier knowing that you have someone on your team.
As a side note, it would be interesting if you did a collab with mama dr Jones to talk about Crystals struggles and PCOS.
Thanks for this. Timing was perfect. I have lost 11 people to cancer since 2017 including both my parents. I am a nurse with 2 out of 3 autistic kids. All 3 suffer anxiety and depression. I have rheumatoid arthritis so am always in pain, but I kept going . This year I got breast cancer, and as my psychiatrist said, that smashed my bucket, I could not help or help myself. I too have PCOS and the hormone treatment just tipped me as it made my arthritis worse. I have cried more in last few weeks than in last few years. Yesterday I tipped. I had a medical product in my work fridge which I did not trust myself to be around. I asked our pharmacist to remove it. Tomorrow I see psychologist to decide if I go into clinic. But my family is going on a road trip for 2 weeks. And I don't know if I will cope being alone over Christmas and New Year. I have no other family. Thank you guys for this. It's so needed right now.. ...
One of the good things that came out of COVID is that mental health became more mainstream, help became more available and even virtually. I went through 55 years of my life with anxiety and depression and even knowing my family history with the issue I always felt asking for help was admitting that I was weak. I finally during the pandemic and the ensuing isolation told my doctor I needed help and I finally got some. I think about how different many aspects of my life would have been different if when I was younger I had a parent who would have recognized my struggle and got me help.
I suffer from depression, anxiety and panic. I was so strong and at 32 years my life fell apart to depression,anxiety, and panic attacks. I got to where I could not even turn a light on. I have went to therapy and still do at 59. Breath in deeply, and excelling. I am happy now but with a heart disease and stints it is scary having a panic attack. I take medicine for all of mine and the PTSD. Praise God I am doing a lot better by the grace of God. It is very scary. Prayers for you Hallie and Aaron❤️🙏
Society struggles to understand the difference between anxiety and having an anxiety disorder, as well as being depressed vs a depression disorder. Having the actual disorder often means that there’s either a chemical imbalance in the brain or something related to brain development that’s causing the issue. So someone who has depression can’t always help it when they’re having depression episodes, same goes for anxiety. Just feeling anxious or depressed for a short period of time is hard, but actually having a disorder means that it’s always going to be present with some periods being harder than others. You guys did a good job handling it and I think the most important thing you can do for someone having those, or any other mental health, issues is to let them know you’re there for them. Not to necessarily “fix” them, but be there to listen and to ask if they want some help to do something. ❤
People who bully others whether in person or online aren’t happy in their life so the feel powerful tearing others down. You can let that get to you.Thank you for sharing your family.
So proud of you Hallie for the courage to open up about your feelings. And proud of you, Crystal and Aaron, for embracing those feelings and figuring out ways to deal with them as a caring family 🥰
I have masked how I feel when I have been really bad with my mental health, having family support is amazing,took me awhile to open up to all my family,keep being amazing family you are thank you
I have PCOS and depression and anxiety has really affected me in my life. Having an identity to my issues was a complete life changer because before it was like fighting an invisible giant and now that I know what it is I can recognize the symptoms and things in myself and it really helped me.
From a grieving mom whom has had to live without her son for 3 years as of December 10th due to losing his battle with depression and anxiety. PLEASE anyone whom is struggling don’t be silent ask for help and don’t allow the stigma in this world to make you feel embarrassed or ashamed. Depression and anxiety truly can affect anyone including fame and fortune etc.
Thank you all for speaking openly about this.
Mental health specialist for 20 years...I thought I had seen it all. It's been a blessing and curse at times as I am always analyzing.
Don't feel bad about being in denial Halie. I had a knee replaced and had anesthetic depression. I knew all the signs but would question why...what is wrong with me. My doctor looked at me like really? I said I am depressed aren't I? He said yes and he thought he knew why.
I talked to my surgeon about it and he said I am so sorry. I need to talk to my patients about this being a thing. He said the good thing is that it usually only lasts 3 months. Something I never learned about in my training so our next continuing education classes I brought it up. After 3 months my cloud drifted away slowly but surely.
Depression is definitely an imbalance...take your meds that work for you...get out in the sun at least 20 minutes at a time...make plans with family/friends. Tell your family/friends so they can get you out of the house when you want to change plans.
I have struggled for years with Depression. The few things I have learned, (and I am 62) is that It does get better, It may not feel like it at times but It will. Also, friends and family are not educated enough to help you deal with most issues. They want to, but please turn to a professional. If you don't feel like it's a good fit with one professional, seek out another. You matter! OX
Harley is so cute!! She is just loving getting the love from her Human Dad Aaron. 😊
Honestly I know people love tiktok ....but think about how bad it is for your mental health when you watch a happy video . Next is a sad video. Next is a scary video. Next is a happy video and Next is a angry video ...... in a "normal" life we wouldn't be going through allllllll those emotions sooo many times in just a few minutes.. try taking a break from tik tok.. cut out caffeine. Drink alot of water. And talk to those close to you and you'll start feeling alot better. I used to struggle bad also and after making these simple changes it has changed my life. Love your family and you all have great support buddies in the fam ❤️ LOVE ALL YOUR CHANNELS
Ooo and STAYING BUSY is 🔑
loving this podcast. hope we can get an ep with hannah, perhaps delving into her story and foster experience, also her family and mom's story and how she deals with all the emotions? i really admire it
Breathing = Life!
I struggle with Bipolar since 1998! It is so important to see a therapist to help you get through the deeper struggles!
I know a lot of people to when they get upset, they say they need a cigarette! I explain to them that they don’t really need the cigarettes, they just need to learn how to breathe, because that is what they are doing when they smoke, they breathe in and breathe out while smoking. I used to smoke and realized this! But I also got saved and asked Jesus into my heart. I prayed that He would help me quit! So I believe He really helped me realize the breathing technique!
Thank you crazy pieces for talking about this topic. I also have depression and anxiety for quite some time. I as well didnt like to talk about my feelings even in my darkest times but i realized it was not healthy for me. I decided to speak to a therapist and each week she would give me a little assignment to do to work on myself and that does help. For anybody who does have depression or anxiety give yourself a break. Do something that makes you happy that can help release your emotions whether its painting, writing poetry, learning a new instrument, going to the gym etc. For anybody who has anxiety when you feel like its about to start just stop where ever you are and close your eyes, take a deep breath and count to 5. Repeat until you feel more calmer. I completely understand how Hailie feels because people in general tend to not talk about their real feelings or emotions. This is why we should check on family and friends every now and then like hey how are you feeling. People tend to make others happy and forget about themselves which is something I do as well. Give yourself a schedule of little things to everyday and change it up but also dont push yourself too hard❤ You are not alone, take little steps at a time❤ Opening up is the toughest thing to do but when you do a weight is lifted off your shoulders. You're on the right path Hailie and dont ever stop😊❤We love you!
I really relate to halie so much, seasonal depression is so hard to deal with. It’s hard going through the holidays wanting to be happy being with your family but it’s not easy. Sometimes it’s scary but I like being sad, I wouldn’t say I particularly enjoy it but after so many years of being in that emotion it has become so normal to be sad. As a teenager with severe depression and anxiety it’s so easy to mask your feelings for others. You feel like your going to hurt them and they will look at you different. Unfortunately for me I tried to seek help but could never tell the doctor my actual problems.
First Halie is a beautiful young lady with a heart of gold and make a us realize that what you see from the outside that isn’t always what the person is going through! After having been with my wive for 60 years and having her gone for last 5 years my family has been able to help me through this sad time by showing their love and understanding!❤
This is a great topic. My brother 3 years ago committed the “S” word. I never understood after family tried to help him. He did counseling, not sure if that was helpful. You can’t help if they don’t want help. He was so far down and rejected so many times. RIP Mickey.
I watch the service member homecoming videos when I feel sad. The videos make me happy for the families and I get good cry that is a release. I have been having a hard time this year also
I grew up with a mother that suffered through mental illness. This was back in the 60’s and 70’s. I always thought if I was perfect in every way she would be happy and not beat me. When I moved away from home to another province, I realized after therapy that I too suffered from anxiety and depression due to my childhood. It wasn’t until my own kids were almost grown that I could forgive my mom for the abuse because she was ill. I suffered in silence and thought if I was gone that everyone would be happier, the only thing that stopped me was knowing my kids and husband would be upset and I couldn’t do that to them. I am so grateful I found the best therapist and am able to be here for my kids, husband, grandkids and future great grandchildren. Yes I still feel unhappy the odd time but I understand that is ok.
One question I have for Halie, do you find being apart of a Big family is harder for you than being apart of a smaller family or even an only child? I was asked that by my therapist and I felt conflicted with my answer
U can so do it. God made us so special.
Thank you for sharing that. I’m 45 and just in the last 2 years started to share with loved ones that I wasn’t ‘ok’. It is so freeing to admit and ask for help. It’s ok to not be ok ❤️
Thank you for sharing…….this subject affects so many.❤️
Thank you for starting this podcast, truly! This episode is by fsr my favorite! Mental health is truly not easy to navigate. I've been struggling since I was young. I had a rough childhood and I think that didn't help. Then I lost my brother to unaliving himself in 2015. I was just starting to get myself on a good path after therapy and healing but then mothers day of this year I lost my dad. Then about a month ago my entire family including my mom turned on me and decided to sell my dad's farm behind my back because I wanted to keep his legacy going and they wanted fast money. This Christmas has been really hard cause I lost my whole family and my best friend, my dad, now lives in heaven. The only thing keeping me breathing is my 2 year old daughter. Everyday is a struggle but I refuse to let her childhood lack. I planned an advent calendar with her elf of Christmas crafts and fun things we can do together to make sure she still has a good Christmas. It's been so hard but I refuse to let it take me down. To keep me going after the holidays I signed my daughter up for gymnastics, honestly just anything to hold me accountable. She will not get the same childhood I got I absolutely refuse no matter how hard it is on me.
I also suffer from anxiety and depression so I can relate and I don't draw but making wreaths, crafting or scrapbooking makes me happier (being creative) ❤️
I’m in the best place I’ve ever been, but just hearing her talk about it brought tears to my eyes as I remembered how I was. I’m so grateful to be where I am now, to have what I have, and to be who I am.
with aaron i feel like it takes gut for "men to open up and u can see it on his face how hes not okay and that hes been strong for so long, and he always put others first before himself
Hallie you are amazing! I am 41 and have been suffering with deprrssion and anxisty since I was around 10. I did not realize I had it and was in denial until I had a devorce 4 years ago that pusbed me over the edge. I never got to the point of the S word but I got really close. If not for my faith, my son,family and some amazing coworkers and friends I might have gotten to that point. Its important to find that support system . I ended up doing some therapy until my free sessions ran out and covid hit. I tried medicatiosn (but that made me become a zombie or made my anxiety worse) so I quit taking then (Hemp oil and Terripans have helped better than those) Anyway you are an ispiration! I am also hoping to start my own channel but have no equipment except my phone (no extra money either) and keep putting it off because I am also short of time (40 to 60 hour work weeks and single mom).
Depression is hard in many ways . There is help out there , thank god.... glad to see this video ty
Im over here crying right with halie
I hope Aaron is doing okay. Im a people watcher too and an empath. Ive noticed his energy change drastically over the past month or two. Make sure you check in, im sure you do. Hallie being the one to come to him might just be the thing that helps him get though his struggle. He may not understand why he's feeling how he is but experiencing that rock bottom moment with Hallie could help him recognize if he too is reaching the limit, might not be as extreme. Also check in with the other kids about how they are feeling especially if they watched this episode. If they are feeling at any point like Hallie and watching how everyone is feeing and now their dad if could effect them mentally and emotionally , Hannah has caught my eye too her smile doesn't quite reach her eyes anymore. I wish you all a happy and healthy 2023, you've helped me so much over the past two years and I enjoyed my first Christmas this year too. Thank you.
I watched most of this. And I am so thankful you started the channel. Mental health needs awareness. And therapy is crucial
So proud of Max, this is definitely his element
I've been having a tough few days with my depression so I'm looking forward to watching this
I really enjoyed this podcast and hope you bring up more neurodivergent type subjects in future episodes. I am a autistic and a mom, and I can relate a lot with the anxiety and depression struggles that Halie described. Especially she said something like "I feel like I have a lot going on yet I don't have a lot going on", because depending on my mental health at the time I can cope with more or less things at the time. So sometimes "not a lot" is all I can handle and it feels quite busy!
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I love that y'all and especially Halie is so open with sharing these experiences. I'm 24 and I've had anxiety since I was a young child and have had depression since I was 12 as well. I feel Halie so much on needing to know exactly what's going on. I have to have a plan when I'm doing something and if the plan gets changed, it can cause a panic attack for me. I'm glad you're doing well Halie and I hope you're feeling better too Aaron especially since you can recognize what might be going on. Sending Love to you all💙
Sometimes when suffering from mental health we feel a little guilty, like we are wrong or weird. The diagnosis sometimes helps with these feelings, it's okay that I feel or behave this way - I'm not to blame for the details I came into the world with, just like I was born with eyes of a certain color, etc... so all I have left to do is learn how to get the best out of what's inside of me
When she said sometime you want to sit and be sad I felt that I grew up writing in a journal and my grandma took that and used it against me and I stopped I’m a wife now and It feels so vulnerable to that someone could potentially see and look at how I am feeling.
I agreed you can have everything and still feel sad. I am 33 years old and I am just now seeking for help. I appreciate you guys talking about this. I can relate
This really hit home. I’m grateful I don’t suffer from depression but I have recently realised I have PTSD and anxiety. And it not so much the diagnosis that helped me but realising that I’m not alone and having copy techniques to help me when I’m too lost in my head and feelings.
Also, for years I never realised why I feel / react to situations the way I do. It always used to feel like there was something wrong then my therapist pointed out that I was an Empath and sensitive to the energies around me. Which honestly was the best thing because suddenly I didn’t feel so alone or like I was doomed to feel like this forever. Now I’m just trying to teach myself how to block out negative energy. It’s definitely helped.
I want to thank you guys for this podcast. I think it’s going to help so many people especially in realising that we’re not alone even when it feels like it.
Yes empaths have similar issues.halie gives such good energy and it is very apparent she is a empath
I loved this podcast thank you all for your in put I have three grandchildren with depression and anxiety it helps
I’ve been struggling with depression and anxiety since my grandma passed away then I had three other deaths I am going Thursday to get help
Halie am so proud of you , am 37 yrs old and been going thru depression / anxiety for a long time just started to get help am currently in counseling and so far I’ve been okay ,your truly an inspiration ❤
I have a daughter that is just like Halie - anxiety, depression, PCOS. I give her kudos for being open about it as my daughter isn't quite there yet (and she's older than Halie too). I try to be there and listen when it gets rough and I like the suggestions all of you offered. As a father, we feel it's our job to fix things but sometimes there are situations that just can't be fixed - at least without some outside assistance. This podcast was one that hits home to me and to others as well. Thank you.
Love you Halie!!! You are very beautiful inside and out! You are very loved!! I know you have a beautiful future ahead of you no matter what you decide to do! Sending you 🤗 hugs and peace in Jesus name!🙏🏻🙌🏻💜
hey hallie just know ur not alone i also struggle with those things i also an an advocate ive been on websites and pocast and shared my story and expirences to help others so keep going im rooting for ya
As someone who has depression and anxiety, it’s very difficult to stop putting on that mask and happy face to even tell someone. Hallie, I’m so happy you managed to stop that mask even for a night and tell someone to get that help. Even if you aren’t ‘cured’ because depression and anxiety can’t be cured, but you can have very good times and good years without a bout of it.
Christmas is my favourite time, and it’s the only true thing that helps my depression and such. Other with depression tend to be worse because it is the time of year, the sun sets earlier, less hours of light and such.
I hope you find ways to cope, both you and Aaron specifically❤️
I have horrible anxiety and depression, I have worst case scenario about everything! I always stress and worry, I have panic attacks, always worried people are mad at me, I'm a people pleaser, I suffer daily.
Halie is younger then I am, but she is such a role model to me 💜
I had no idea that Halie has PCOS. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 21. It is definitely linked to anxiety and depression. I had to do fertility to have my first child, but I now have 6 🥰
This comment give me so much hope because I also have pcos and I cried about that fear of not being able to have kids I’m just 23 and I pray whenever I am ready for a child i don’t have difficulties I also have trouble with depression 😫
when you were talking about decorating the tree I do the same thing it stresses me out i have to move them, the holidays stress me out so much my anxiety is always high I try so hard to make everyone else happy that no one notices I'm actually miserable.