I’m not joking a guy literally ask me to bring him flowers . BLOCKED ! Also I’m not lying their are a lot of girls who taken men on dates and pay for them. Also will take their whole friend group out and pay for them . I know be cause a couple of my male friends told me. I was shocked !
Ladies, 50 year old man here. If a man tells you to eat snacks before the date, you calmly and kindly say to that man, “I wouldn’t want to put you in a situation that makes you uncomfortable so I am going to respectfully decline” and no matter what he says next DO NOT go on that date. K? Now don’t say Gen X doesn’t care about you…
No one's seeing the actual game here. He sits at fancy restaurant bars waiting to meet a sugar momma. He thought she was his ticket. Then got pissed when his plan didn't pan out for him like he wanted. Guaranteed his sassy butt will be right back sitting at that bar waitin on the next one. Keep letting these women know. Do not give men any benefit of the doubt. They are dust demons.
Right I was thinking the same once she mentioned how they met. That was so obvious. At least she didn’t let it get too far. It’s sad that this is what dating has come to.
That man is dating by the numbers. He is playing the odds. He goes in with the worst behavior and those still standing are the ones he uses. He doesn't like any woman. Women, for him, are to be used. He told her who he was before they met. She should have hung up the call, blocked him, and date herself.
I had one guy tell me " thats strange " when I refused to pay the bill on a date HE took me on. I'd rather mop the entire ocean dry than see him again. Bye.
To add to everything said, Ladies men are on a wave to humble, break, and flip women's expectations back on to them. Know when you are being targeted and punished for someone else's actions. Refuse to be punished and used. Simple.
@@mrs.g.r.n those examples are nothing compared to the rate at which BW suffer DV, abandonment of them and their children(ren), assault & battery, human trafficking, STD rates (esp. HIV), and homicide rates which are 3x WW and 11x WW if you're pregnant. For better outcomes which may save your life, it's undeniable that we have to make better choices in men. No one is required to date WM - there are other races of men - but any BW with a brain and self-respect, and any instinct of self-preservation, would avoid this very high risk group.
@@me0on0utubesame here lmfao when I was in college some of my roommates were in a sorority and lord…the toxicity they tried to normalize because the man was cute…. And then be baffled that they got played out…NEXT😂😭
@@chaoticodin09411 I made a friend in art school (sweet girl) who started dating a guy who's name was (no joke) Stress. He was an A-hole to her and he told her he didn't like me cuz...reasons and I was baffled but she said she "gets it" and I was like "get what" she just kept saying she gets it. So we didn't stay friends
Hearing these horror stories of what the dating pool has to offer just reconfirms my decision to remain single and child free. Yikes! What a nightmare!
I decided to have one by myself. Picked a 25 year old with great health confirmed by extensive genetic testing, over 6 ft tall, fit, good looking, confirmed his college degree and his current master's program. Now I have 2 perfect embryos, a girl and a boy, and I'm SO excited. Got my community, my childcare squared away that's right next to my job, this child is about to have three godmothers, 4 little cousins close by, three uncles. And I get to pick everything.
@silverbluemonsoon That is beautiful. It truly takes a healthy community to raise children in, and I wish you the best. I personally decided raising children wasn't in my personal journey. I had assisted in raising two nephews and three nieces all before the age of 30, and that was plenty for me. 😃
@@nitarhodes42 Right on! I had to raise my little sister. It wasn't right, and I will make sure that my kids aren't parentified, but I still found it rewarding. Now that little sister is all grown up and child-free, but she loves the idea of being an auntie :) And it makes sense the way it's shaping out. She likes kids just fine, but wants her peace at the end of the day, doesn't want to be responsible for anyone and the idea of pregnancy horrifies her. BUT she is so into holidays, decorations, cooking and other domestic arts, making each season special, etc.. So she can't wait to share all of that with a niece and a nephew because adults just don't tend to share her enthusiasm. And then the little ones will go home, and she will have her peace :)
Ladies, walk sway as soon as he makes u feel weird or uncomfortable. Don’t even wait until the date. If he’s being weird over text or phone block block block!
All I heard was, "I'm not in a position to date (financially nor psychologically), and though I'm not really invested in, nor feel the need to be respectful to you, we can hang out as long as I get something while giving nothing." Then she said, "Ok!"
Why was he expecting her to pay for him? They aren't even married? He isn't reciprocating the same energy. No. No. No. The minute he called before the first date and said to have a snack before he took me out for dinner because he didn't want to pay for a full meal. I would have hung up & immediately blocked him. That was a major red flag for me. This man has no business dating anyone. Period.
Ain't no way would I have went to that date after that comment, TF. He didn't like her and wanted to see what he could get out of her. Don't let a man tell you he don't want you more than once
The sassy apocalypse is real and has been building up to this since at least 2009 😂 Women, especially Black women, have to shut this down at first sight. I know everybody blames the friend for going along with this at first (and no woman should) but keep in mind that Black women and girls have been conditioned for centuries to not only "get" and "keep a man" but to accept whatever a Black man gives her, no matter how little it is or how disrespectful he treats or talks to her. From the "WM is holding him down" to the "work with a brotha" nonsense to even modern day attempts to condition BW to date bus drivers and take care of males who can only pay the light bill, we have to reverse our conditioning if we want more women to fight against the sassy trend.
So true. This is really a thing. BW are the only women told to humble themselves and not ask for too much from men. And even with divesting, we have to set standards. Because the dust and sassiness, is a WORLDWIDE phenomenon.
I agree. Black women need to open their options or stay single. Being single is not the end of the world. Black women cannot heal in the same environment that made us sick. We have to separate from black culture as a whole. Women like Eve, Tina Turner, Serena Williams, separated from black American culture and are living their best lives.
They call us women emotional but they act completely childish. Why did she even go with a man who suggested that. I’m taking my own accountability but after a certain point we have to take accountability and I will not feel sorry for anyone including myself
I’m telling y’all I’ve never been more happy to be single. Inflation is high as hell, and men on the hunt for their forever momma. I’m REFUSEEE to take care of ANY MAN. Sorry men yall think we about to have drought? yeah keep thinking it will be us who has the problem in the end 🤷🏾♀️😂
I'm from Richmond as well and I 100% can tell you the Men here in this city are deep in their Soft Girl Era. I went on a date once and ordered (my usual) glass of Prosecco and this Man proceeded to shout "OK BIG MONEY" hella loud in the restaurant. I excused myself to the bathroom and left.
I'm dead! I take myself on very expensive dates and make sure they know! Don't play with me! I'm from New Orleans and I eat and go to nice restaurants. You're not going to treat me less than I treat myself period
"Sis..." 😂 If sassy isn't the way to describe it... 7:05 Yes...I say that too! Women who'll do anything for male attention (and people who'll do anything for attention period) are dangerous
I totally agree with the woman who said women like the friend are dangerous. She has no survival skills at all and lacks the ability to sense danger. That is the type of friend that will invite you to hangout with suspicious type of dudes or to sketchy places that no woman or girl should ever be around.
I 100% agree with the last young pretty lady, ain't no F'N way a dude that wants to be in my face say some mess like that and still expect my time. I will stay home and order a nice juicy steak on doordash LOL!
Unfortunately 70% of BM walk around with their single Mother/sister mindset, While living as a Man …. Sounds like we need Women to have sons with Men that’s going to stick around to build these Manly men yall want.
it's a good deal. think about it. You get courted, then if the guy is good enough, he gets to pay for you and help you out financially. All you gotta do is give him some cat that you gave to many others already. How is that surprising?
They will only get worse as there's always going to be women settling for them out of desperation. In 2023, I support whatever a woman decides her worth is. There's enough historical and empirical data out there for women to heed the writing on the wall. Ignoring them is a choice...
Feminism is about more than elevating women ….it's about paving the way for mutual attention and care. This is a move towards balance an we should all be here for it
No. Feminism IS about elevating women only, it doesn't involve pandering to men too. Why should women have to use THEIR own movement to play mommy to men?
Yes! That first stitch response! This has happened to me several times: how about being me being stranded at 4am because my one female friend took me along for the ride. How about being stranded for an entire night and half the next day because ANOTHER female friend took me along for a crazy ride. It took two tries but I learned my lesson🤦🏽♀️ And yes, we women do need to have open, honest, compassionate discussions with each other about the Choices we make and we need to have firm boundaries about how involved we will be in our friends’ personal lives.
We sure do. I tap out when women blame men, but don’t discuss or deny accountability for their personal choices. No one is forcing us to be with these dudes.
the woman is equally to blame. when you meet bad poeple you don't take them out on dates for their birthday wtf. in a few years she'll be complaining that he was mean to her.
I need some of these women to have better standards and more self esteem because why did the friend from the first stitch continue to interact with that guy when he showed his true colors BEFORE the first date. These dudes are very sassy! Cut these "males" off and keep it moving.
That man was acting like he was in that movie “Desperately Seeking Susan”, the modern man demanding of a submissive woman but they aren’t willing to be the protector & provider. Smh
I agree with the first lady, as soon as he said that I would immediately tell him let's not bother and move on. He will switch up when he gets tired of failed dates/rejections and will be more willing for a woman he's really into.
😂😂😂 You can NOT convince me that this sassy man ain’t the same man whose mother told the whole female innanets that they have to earn a nice date with her son. I am dying! ☠️☠️☠️
I have to blame that young lady for putting up with his mess. Sometimes we put ourselves in situations we shouldn't be in. People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. 11-20-2023(Mon)
At the first story, why did she go on the "date"??? We won't get better men til woman get some ESTEEM AND STANDARDS! WTF! So said that she even accepted his invite 😢
Not bring snacks my gawd. I couldn't be in the presence of a boy like that I have hmgirls and gay friends that treat me to dinner and I do the same. They're so broke and useless
Lady #1 had it. That is very dangerous to even hang with ppl that accept that level of disrespect. Also it's absolutely sassy Era, but absolutely walk away. I Am single & Sun bathing, out of the pool, at the beach 🏖 fr! Glad more guys are speaking as well.
You are right sadly becase women who attract abusive men abuse women and they don't stop at them. Cassie said didn't scared all her friends and tried to attack one of them. It's sad
The thing is.....i have found that other women accepting less doesnt have to be a bad thing. When a guy meets you and you dont allow hs....they actually like you I dog men out directly "of course your name is Reeko 🙄" or "my kids go to private school, you can afford it🤷🏾♀️"....they suprisingly stay. But i get it. Its a challenge. But i am glad other women are starting to raise the entire bar for themselves.
Right! They are🤦🏾♀️ Like 2 wks ago. At a lounge with Some Employee after work. A dude walks up to me. We’re talking, laughing, chill vibes. And outta nowhere, He asks Me “So are you gonna buy me a drink!” Me:😳Sir….. He turned Me sooo Off!
They know their worth and I couldn’t be more proud of them, they won’t let women capitalize off of them and I bet they’re getting plenty of action regardless
This sounds like the same situation where that mother made a video with her son about women having too many expectations when it comes to dating and that the women are getting out of hand with these dates and all this type of stuff. Basically I bring the mothers because all they are is m Mama boys and will forever be single! Living with their mama😂
Gen X here, and these kinds of men have always been around. I think because of social media they get exposed more often. I’m from a marginalized community so maybe it was worse for me. But the number of men I’ve known when I was younger who thought a fast food dinner and drive to a “parking spot” was enough for her to “put out” was insane. And if he was feeling really romantic you’d get a half dead gas station rose. It’s true that overall men were expected to pull out chairs, open doors, pay for meals, etc but that stuff was a drop in the bucket when you factor in the rampant sexism at the time. And I’ve seen many a woman foot the bill for bums in my lifetime. And talking to older women taught me they’ve just been around this whole time. Just leave them alone! Stack your own resources and get a pet. ❤
There was a previous video I saw, not sure if it was here or somewhere else, where a man was saying women are using the word "sassy" as a modern derogatory term for gay men, but after this video, I'm not seeing that. I am seeing a man acting like a spoiled brat though. Not attractive.
It is not women’s job to set the standard for how men should behave. Setting standards for behavior is a leadership role. If men want to be respected as the head of a household then he has to be able to set a standard. It is a woman’s job to set the standard for what and who she will accept into her life. When people show themselves to not fit the criteria then she has to exclude them or push them to the periphery of her life. The people on the periphery of our lives are those that we are friendly with but we don’t bring them close.
In a sentence, that woman lacks self-love and self-respect, something that that dude was fully intending to cash in on. But for her friend, he would have. Self-love gives a woman discernment. Self-respect makes her walk away from disrespectful situations like this…with a quickness.
I don’t care what nobody says; she’s the problem, she’s the red flag. He is honest and intentional about his character, and she ignores it and she continues to entertain him. She's the crazy one
This is low-key true 🎯 This is why men tell women to "choose better" because some women date with rose colored glasses on and ignore all kinds of bright red flags.
If he told me to eat snacks before our date, we would not be going on a date. Game over! He would not see or hear from me again. I don't have time to waste. 11-20-2023(Mon)
14:07 FR this is the reason why they keep doing it bc it obviously is working for some !! As a collective women really need to stop accepting crumbs fr
You wouldn't even know: there's 2 types. The feminine ones (they play the nice guy card) and the macho man. Both are closeted and very difficult to spot.
Maybe no one should expect shit from each other and just get to know each other mutually without spending money on each other . But no, you women need to capitalize off of men
Its disgusting behavior...then they have the nerve to ask what women bring to the table. No sir...I need them to go get their passports, get on a 1 way flight and go be problematic elsewhere.
I went on a first date with a man I really liked. It turned out he was wearing a very dirty sweather under his jacket, it showed when we went somewhere for coffee. Also, the smell indicated he didnt shower that day, or perhaps for a couple of days. He told me he never reads, has no ambitions, and he lives with his parents, at 40+. And then proceeded to try and get into my pants. That was a hard no from here.. he was upset, but i simply told him I have never seen a man make that little effort for someone he claims to like
@@DestinyUteh i had an ex roommate (i finally moved out who became extremely toxic after 2 years. I know she had her gripes with many people. But on the third year she met an equally toxic narc. They seriously brought out the worst in one another. One thing abt this woman is that she loves male attention. It's like air to breathe for her. There was no standard as long as they were men. She'd entertain really low quality men. Anyways she turned more and more nasty when I met my current sweet SO. She sent me a screen shot abt what one of her two boyfriends said. He said he was afraid MY PARTNER would leave me for her once he saw her. Hey lady. You're almost a decade older than me and my partner, why you telling me this shit. Another time, which was the straw that broke the camels back after almost a year of more BS. Her other bf kept commenting about my looks. First I was pretty then I was fat. The thing is how did I knwo all these? She fking TOLD me. And you know what were her replies? She laughed. Bitch. Glad that now she has blocked and ignored me. She's rotten inside. I havent even got into what she did to her other female friends.
Low standards and expectations at play here. How do you still go on a date after someone tells you to get snacks before a date. Imagine the other red flag that were in the text messages between them that she ignored!
It kills me that her told her he didn’t intend to pay, after trying to connect, after asking her out. And to bring snax bc he assumes she doesn’t have her own money bc other men made him believe we’re all broke and they deserve better. Um sir, then why not try to connect with someone who you KNOW is not broke😅 but you do this.. on purpose.. to tear a woman down.. and play victim.. this mess is soo weird!
That date would NOT have happened!!!! At what point do we start holding our female friends accountable for putting up with bad behavior. Then they will try and gaslight you by saying..oh, its not that bad....I agree with the first lady, these type of women are dangerous because they help keep the BS going
Staying single has never been so easy nowadays, so many males think they're gonna get princess treatment from women. Insane apocalypse.
🤣🤣🤣 Your comment is sooooo on 🎯🎯🎯 🤣🤣 I love it! 🤣🤣
The script has been totally flipped! GRRRRRRGGHHHH!
I’m not joking a guy literally ask me to bring him flowers . BLOCKED !
Also I’m not lying their are a lot of girls who taken men on dates and pay for them. Also will take their whole friend group out and pay for them . I know be cause a couple of my male friends told me. I was shocked !
Trust me they won't be thinking that if women are not doing it out here women are desperate af
Not men only the men you date
Ladies, 50 year old man here. If a man tells you to eat snacks before the date, you calmly and kindly say to that man, “I wouldn’t want to put you in a situation that makes you uncomfortable so I am going to respectfully decline” and no matter what he says next DO NOT go on that date. K? Now don’t say Gen X doesn’t care about you…
Hahahah! This was a fun comment to read! Thank you for caring about us X!
Kindly? No. Women should say nothing and dismiss.
Edit: immediately
@@AminaPhilosophy Trust me. This is good advice. No need to shame the person or be rude. Remove the anger. Know your value. Be polite. Keep it moving.
💖🙏 Yes!
@@jaugustrichardsthanks sir... I'll definitely keep that advise! 😊
No one's seeing the actual game here. He sits at fancy restaurant bars waiting to meet a sugar momma. He thought she was his ticket. Then got pissed when his plan didn't pan out for him like he wanted. Guaranteed his sassy butt will be right back sitting at that bar waitin on the next one. Keep letting these women know. Do not give men any benefit of the doubt. They are dust demons.
Trust me he does get women and they pay for him. Don't underestimate women's desperation,hell they date men in prison for murder
Right I was thinking the same once she mentioned how they met. That was so obvious. At least she didn’t let it get too far. It’s sad that this is what dating has come to.
@@aselyne5631Smh.
That man is dating by the numbers. He is playing the odds. He goes in with the worst behavior and those still standing are the ones he uses. He doesn't like any woman. Women, for him, are to be used. He told her who he was before they met. She should have hung up the call, blocked him, and date herself.
This!!!
Right couldn’t agree more 💯💯
Same thing women what’s the problem now oh I get it
Facts.
I had one guy tell me " thats strange " when I refused to pay the bill on a date HE took me on.
I'd rather mop the entire ocean dry than see him again. Bye.
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I'm stealing that. That "Mop the ocean dry."
😮😂❤
To add to everything said, Ladies men are on a wave to humble, break, and flip women's expectations back on to them. Know when you are being targeted and punished for someone else's actions. Refuse to be punished and used. Simple.
And some are especially targeting Black women, so date out
@@teresam5199 the stories of britney spears, anne heche, madonna, roseanne barr, halle berry etc. prove that's not the answer
All of this 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@mrs.g.r.nstats prove that this is actually a better alternative .
@@mrs.g.r.n those examples are nothing compared to the rate at which BW suffer DV, abandonment of them and their children(ren), assault & battery, human trafficking, STD rates (esp. HIV), and homicide rates which are 3x WW and 11x WW if you're pregnant. For better outcomes which may save your life, it's undeniable that we have to make better choices in men. No one is required to date WM - there are other races of men - but any BW with a brain and self-respect, and any instinct of self-preservation, would avoid this very high risk group.
The first stitch said it PERFECTLY!!!! Like sorry how desperate do you have to be to go on a date and continue to talk to someone like this…
Yes. I'm a guy (gay) but i've seen women ignore giant red flags for a guy they just met and as a guy I don't understand it
@@me0on0utubesame here lmfao when I was in college some of my roommates were in a sorority and lord…the toxicity they tried to normalize because the man was cute…. And then be baffled that they got played out…NEXT😂😭
@@chaoticodin09411 I made a friend in art school (sweet girl) who started dating a guy who's name was (no joke) Stress. He was an A-hole to her and he told her he didn't like me cuz...reasons and I was baffled but she said she "gets it" and I was like "get what" she just kept saying she gets it. So we didn't stay friends
She will have kids with him then gets unalived when she tries to leave that's always what happens in situations like this
The text alone would’ve had me be like we are not compatible 😂
Hearing these horror stories of what the dating pool has to offer just reconfirms my decision to remain single and child free. Yikes! What a nightmare!
Amen same here hun
I decided to have one by myself. Picked a 25 year old with great health confirmed by extensive genetic testing, over 6 ft tall, fit, good looking, confirmed his college degree and his current master's program. Now I have 2 perfect embryos, a girl and a boy, and I'm SO excited. Got my community, my childcare squared away that's right next to my job, this child is about to have three godmothers, 4 little cousins close by, three uncles. And I get to pick everything.
@silverbluemonsoon That is beautiful. It truly takes a healthy community to raise children in, and I wish you the best. I personally decided raising children wasn't in my personal journey. I had assisted in raising two nephews and three nieces all before the age of 30, and that was plenty for me. 😃
@@nitarhodes42 Right on! I had to raise my little sister. It wasn't right, and I will make sure that my kids aren't parentified, but I still found it rewarding. Now that little sister is all grown up and child-free, but she loves the idea of being an auntie :) And it makes sense the way it's shaping out. She likes kids just fine, but wants her peace at the end of the day, doesn't want to be responsible for anyone and the idea of pregnancy horrifies her. BUT she is so into holidays, decorations, cooking and other domestic arts, making each season special, etc.. So she can't wait to share all of that with a niece and a nephew because adults just don't tend to share her enthusiasm. And then the little ones will go home, and she will have her peace :)
@@silverbluemonsoon Amend to that!
Ladies, walk sway as soon as he makes u feel weird or uncomfortable. Don’t even wait until the date. If he’s being weird over text or phone block block block!
SMH there’s no amount of propaganda or social conditioning that will make me partner with a sassy man. It’s 2023.
All I heard was, "I'm not in a position to date (financially nor psychologically), and though I'm not really invested in, nor feel the need to be respectful to you, we can hang out as long as I get something while giving nothing." Then she said, "Ok!"
Why was he expecting her to pay for him? They aren't even married? He isn't reciprocating the same energy. No. No. No. The minute he called before the first date and said to have a snack before he took me out for dinner because he didn't want to pay for a full meal. I would have hung up & immediately blocked him. That was a major red flag for me. This man has no business dating anyone. Period.
That's the gag! Ok, u want to go Dutch? But...he wanted her to pay for him! 😅😅😅😅bit probably wasn't even his bday
What does marriage have to do with anything? They’re barely dating. Not everyone even believes in marriage
Her friend blew past 4 red flags 🚩🚩🚩🚩 Women, why aren't you able to cut communication immediately??? We need to discuss this topic amongst ourselves.
Are we in a Tyler Perry movie? Be forreal, heal, and up your self esteem.
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Ain't no way would I have went to that date after that comment, TF. He didn't like her and wanted to see what he could get out of her. Don't let a man tell you he don't want you more than once
The sassy apocalypse is real and has been building up to this since at least 2009 😂 Women, especially Black women, have to shut this down at first sight. I know everybody blames the friend for going along with this at first (and no woman should) but keep in mind that Black women and girls have been conditioned for centuries to not only "get" and "keep a man" but to accept whatever a Black man gives her, no matter how little it is or how disrespectful he treats or talks to her. From the "WM is holding him down" to the "work with a brotha" nonsense to even modern day attempts to condition BW to date bus drivers and take care of males who can only pay the light bill, we have to reverse our conditioning if we want more women to fight against the sassy trend.
DIVEST.
So true. This is really a thing. BW are the only women told to humble themselves and not ask for too much from men. And even with divesting, we have to set standards. Because the dust and sassiness, is a WORLDWIDE phenomenon.
Facts
@@ibabechanel Absolutely, Divest and don't look back!
I agree. Black women need to open their options or stay single. Being single is not the end of the world.
Black women cannot heal in the same environment that made us sick. We have to separate from black culture as a whole. Women like Eve, Tina Turner, Serena Williams, separated from black American culture and are living their best lives.
They call us women emotional but they act completely childish. Why did she even go with a man who suggested that. I’m taking my own accountability but after a certain point we have to take accountability and I will not feel sorry for anyone including myself
Desperate
Conditioning
Less effort on the first date means less effort throughout the whole relationship.
and who puts most effort in a date, usually?
"Sis & I'm talking to you young man" I'm in SHAMBLES 🤣🤣🤣
It’s bad when the female is just sitting back , sipping on her 🍹, and the man way more sassy then she is.
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I’m telling y’all
I’ve never been more happy to be single. Inflation is high as hell, and men on the hunt for their forever momma. I’m REFUSEEE to take care of ANY MAN. Sorry men yall think we about to have drought? yeah keep thinking it will be us who has the problem in the end 🤷🏾♀️😂
"Forever mama" 😭😭😅😅😅! Girl thank you for the laugh❤.
but you're okay with a man taking care of you? 😂
... i mean....that first date would've been over when he said that to me. How do you ask someone on a date and not be prepared to pay for the date?
I'm from Richmond as well and I 100% can tell you the Men here in this city are deep in their Soft Girl Era. I went on a date once and ordered (my usual) glass of Prosecco and this Man proceeded to shout "OK BIG MONEY" hella loud in the restaurant. I excused myself to the bathroom and left.
I'm dead! I take myself on very expensive dates and make sure they know! Don't play with me! I'm from New Orleans and I eat and go to nice restaurants. You're not going to treat me less than I treat myself period
@@BayouBarbie504And keep going by yo self pay for yo own shit
Soft Girl Era 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
That’s hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
I hope you downed that drink b4 making your exit. 😂😭 LMAO I’m so weak
"Sis..." 😂 If sassy isn't the way to describe it...
7:05 Yes...I say that too! Women who'll do anything for male attention (and people who'll do anything for attention period) are dangerous
I totally agree with the woman who said women like the friend are dangerous. She has no survival skills at all and lacks the ability to sense danger. That is the type of friend that will invite you to hangout with suspicious type of dudes or to sketchy places that no woman or girl should ever be around.
I 100% agree with the last young pretty lady, ain't no F'N way a dude that wants to be in my face say some mess like that and still expect my time. I will stay home and order a nice juicy steak on doordash LOL!
The first stitch was so right. Why would u allow urself to have ur time wasted? This guy was joke right out the gate.
"How you practice is how you play." Yes!
For anyone to put up with that just screams low self esteem. Much love and great content 🙏 👑
I hate the sassy man apocalypse. It’s annoying how many are trying to be women.
it's disgusting
Nah men just waking up 😂
Unfortunately 70% of BM walk around with their single Mother/sister mindset, While living as a Man …. Sounds like we need Women to have sons with Men that’s going to stick around to build these Manly men yall want.
You hate that they won’t let you be selfish and capitalize off of them. If you want the men you are looking for, go find them. They’re beta simps
it's a good deal. think about it. You get courted, then if the guy is good enough, he gets to pay for you and help you out financially. All you gotta do is give him some cat that you gave to many others already. How is that surprising?
No, indeed . I will stay home if i have to snack before dinner 😅. # bye dusty dan # the audacity
😅😂
They will only get worse as there's always going to be women settling for them out of desperation. In 2023, I support whatever a woman decides her worth is. There's enough historical and empirical data out there for women to heed the writing on the wall. Ignoring them is a choice...
Feminism is about more than elevating women ….it's about paving the way for mutual attention and care. This is a move towards balance an we should all be here for it
This is not the video to write this under. The boys in these stories should date each other.
No. Feminism IS about elevating women only, it doesn't involve pandering to men too. Why should women have to use THEIR own movement to play mommy to men?
Men don't want balance and this not what feminism is about. When you use words you don't know the meaning of use a dictionary or Google search
Except women are the ones under fire atm. Men are already elevated. WE are not. And until we are, there’s no conversation to be had about balance.
Yes! That first stitch response! This has happened to me several times: how about being me being stranded at 4am because my one female friend took me along for the ride. How about being stranded for an entire night and half the next day because ANOTHER female friend took me along for a crazy ride. It took two tries but I learned my lesson🤦🏽♀️ And yes, we women do need to have open, honest, compassionate discussions with each other about the Choices we make and we need to have firm boundaries about how involved we will be in our friends’ personal lives.
We sure do. I tap out when women blame men, but don’t discuss or deny accountability for their personal choices. No one is forcing us to be with these dudes.
The whole story had me laughing because it is too unreal. Eat snacks🤣🤣🤣
the woman is equally to blame. when you meet bad poeple you don't take them out on dates for their birthday wtf. in a few years she'll be complaining that he was mean to her.
I need some of these women to have better standards and more self esteem because why did the friend from the first stitch continue to interact with that guy when he showed his true colors BEFORE the first date. These dudes are very sassy! Cut these "males" off and keep it moving.
Don’t just block, delete also!!
This is the guy who takes you somewhere and as you’re walking in announces, “I didn’t bring my wallet.”
Remember you teach people how to treat you
That man was acting like he was in that movie “Desperately Seeking Susan”, the modern man demanding of a submissive woman but they aren’t willing to be the protector & provider. Smh
Pay for his haircut? What does he want.. a mother?? Only person I have ever known to pay for a birthday haircut is a parent.
I agree with the first lady, as soon as he said that I would immediately tell him let's not bother and move on. He will switch up when he gets tired of failed dates/rejections and will be more willing for a woman he's really into.
Sadly there is a higher probability that a desperate woman with a very low self-esteem will go along with it and take care of this dude.
😂😂😂 You can NOT convince me that this sassy man ain’t the same man whose mother told the whole female innanets that they have to earn a nice date with her son.
I am dying! ☠️☠️☠️
Earn??
@@zeenhlengcobo … yes. His mother said “earn.”
Geezus lmao@@rainbeauxunicorn5237
Sassy man apocalypse is fatherless sons
I have to blame that young lady for putting up with his mess. Sometimes we put ourselves in situations we shouldn't be in. People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. 11-20-2023(Mon)
Thirsty much?....🙄 cause it's giving 🧐 desperate🥴
At the first story, why did she go on the "date"???
We won't get better men til woman get some ESTEEM AND STANDARDS!
WTF! So said that she even accepted his invite 😢
Not bring snacks my gawd. I couldn't be in the presence of a boy like that
I have hmgirls and gay friends that treat me to dinner and I do the same. They're so broke and useless
The girl is likely the same type of woman as the ones in the other videos talking about how perfect their marraige is. Lol
😂 I get you!! Makes you wonder. hidden agenda but the same scenario
Lady #1 had it. That is very dangerous to even hang with ppl that accept that level of disrespect. Also it's absolutely sassy Era, but absolutely walk away. I Am single & Sun bathing, out of the pool, at the beach 🏖 fr! Glad more guys are speaking as well.
You are right sadly becase women who attract abusive men abuse women and they don't stop at them.
Cassie said didn't scared all her friends and tried to attack one of them.
It's sad
Exactly! When she’s running away from some demon, she’ll come to YOUR home and he’ll show up and delete YOU!
“Oh, I didn’t know you were too poor to afford to date.” Block, delete, next. Why would you ever entertain a guy like this?
I love you. 😂❤
We apologize " for the quantity, not quality ." 😂 # adorable
Sounds like Houston. Same type of restaurant…same types of men.
The thing is.....i have found that other women accepting less doesnt have to be a bad thing. When a guy meets you and you dont allow hs....they actually like you
I dog men out directly "of course your name is Reeko 🙄" or "my kids go to private school, you can afford it🤷🏾♀️"....they suprisingly stay. But i get it. Its a challenge.
But i am glad other women are starting to raise the entire bar for themselves.
Man, these men pursuing women, they don’t even like I don’t get it.
It’s entertainment for them
Right! They are🤦🏾♀️
Like 2 wks ago. At a lounge with
Some Employee after work.
A dude walks up to me. We’re talking, laughing, chill vibes.
And outta nowhere, He asks Me
“So are you gonna buy me a drink!” Me:😳Sir…..
He turned Me sooo Off!
What did you say to him?
I don’t even know how to respond to these stupid questions……
Girl please & BOY BYE 😅😊😂😅😊 LOL
10:04 we ain't even gotta go to superspreader ass restaurants for dates; food trucks and picnics in the park are a thing!
He should just get him a man like many of them since he want a carriage and a pacifier. It sounds like he need a daddy.
Where are these men’s friends at? We woulda shamed a guy for acting like that😅
Know your worth king 😂😂
They know their worth and I couldn’t be more proud of them, they won’t let women capitalize off of them and I bet they’re getting plenty of action regardless
@@brendanrichart4804 fact.
This sounds like the same situation where that mother made a video with her son about women having too many expectations when it comes to dating and that the women are getting out of hand with these dates and all this type of stuff. Basically I bring the mothers because all they are is m Mama boys and will forever be single! Living with their mama😂
Go watch Pimps up Hoes down. This isn’t new. Everyone telling us to stop dealing with these people is correct.
Destiny!
I think I enjoy watching your face expressions and reactions more than the videos itself. You're too funny I can't!
This was great I enjoyed watching it, and it's crucial
He’s right She should’ve just left.
Gen X here, and these kinds of men have always been around. I think because of social media they get exposed more often.
I’m from a marginalized community so maybe it was worse for me. But the number of men I’ve known when I was younger who thought a fast food dinner and drive to a “parking spot” was enough for her to “put out” was insane. And if he was feeling really romantic you’d get a half dead gas station rose.
It’s true that overall men were expected to pull out chairs, open doors, pay for meals, etc but that stuff was a drop in the bucket when you factor in the rampant sexism at the time.
And I’ve seen many a woman foot the bill for bums in my lifetime.
And talking to older women taught me they’ve just been around this whole time.
Just leave them alone! Stack your own resources and get a pet. ❤
There was a previous video I saw, not sure if it was here or somewhere else, where a man was saying women are using the word "sassy" as a modern derogatory term for gay men, but after this video, I'm not seeing that. I am seeing a man acting like a spoiled brat though. Not attractive.
Just say no to dating apps! No!
Boundaries.
7:21 glad someone said it, because I've definitely seen it happen; Hell, it's happened to me before!
I had a grown man tell me "Women are the new men" 🤦🏽♀️
Well he didn't lie. We're the ones with the degrees, high positions and businesses.
I don't even think it was his real birthday tbh. Men ain't shit!
It is not women’s job to set the standard for how men should behave. Setting standards for behavior is a leadership role. If men want to be respected as the head of a household then he has to be able to set a standard. It is a woman’s job to set the standard for what and who she will accept into her life. When people show themselves to not fit the criteria then she has to exclude them or push them to the periphery of her life. The people on the periphery of our lives are those that we are friendly with but we don’t bring them close.
In a sentence, that woman lacks self-love and self-respect, something that that dude was fully intending to cash in on. But for her friend, he would have. Self-love gives a woman discernment. Self-respect makes her walk away from disrespectful situations like this…with a quickness.
I don’t care what nobody says; she’s the problem, she’s the red flag. He is honest and intentional about his character, and she ignores it and she continues to entertain him. She's the crazy one
This is low-key true 🎯
This is why men tell women to "choose better" because some women date with rose colored glasses on and ignore all kinds of bright red flags.
I agree if a man shows you who he is believe it
If he told me to eat snacks before our date, we would not be going on a date. Game over! He would not see or hear from me again. I don't have time to waste. 11-20-2023(Mon)
I like the diversity in the stitches. Bottom line, either he was broke or playing with her 🤦🏿♂️
Either way, he should've been blocked.
The date would NOT have happened. I'll eat my snacks at home with a side of Netflix. WTH⁉️👀🤣🤣
This guy is telling her BEFORE the first date that he is cheap/broke. That should immediately disqualify him from being graced with her presence.
14:07 FR this is the reason why they keep doing it bc it obviously is working for some !! As a collective women really need to stop accepting crumbs fr
4:06 Her “friend” is beneath contempt for letting this foolery go on for this long!
TSTL 😳😵💫
I’m just not tolerating sassy no one men or women
You wouldn't even know: there's 2 types. The feminine ones (they play the nice guy card) and the macho man. Both are closeted and very difficult to spot.
@@kantik2118 the macho ones are easy to spot and the nice ones lol to good to be true they are cunning. But I understand what u say.
Maybe no one should expect shit from each other and just get to know each other mutually without spending money on each other . But no, you women need to capitalize off of men
@@brendanrichart4804 and men needs to sexuality us. But yes I agree on what you say but those feelings are rare now days
“I’m really 6ft in real life” is how that one guy signs off 😂😂😂
Its disgusting behavior...then they have the nerve to ask what women bring to the table. No sir...I need them to go get their passports, get on a 1 way flight and go be problematic elsewhere.
The thirst / desperation ( pick me) is real, know your worth ladies. 🚩 🚩
Thanks for making this!
I went on a first date with a man I really liked. It turned out he was wearing a very dirty sweather under his jacket, it showed when we went somewhere for coffee. Also, the smell indicated he didnt shower that day, or perhaps for a couple of days. He told me he never reads, has no ambitions, and he lives with his parents, at 40+. And then proceeded to try and get into my pants.
That was a hard no from here.. he was upset, but i simply told him I have never seen a man make that little effort for someone he claims to like
My brain won’t even let me comprehend her going on the date after the snack comment. I don’t understand this types of decisions.
City boys up in Richmond 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just go with my friends and family
Omg the comment where u said women who need male validation are dangerous cos they will throw u under the bus. It happened to me.
Really we will need a story time
@@DestinyUteh i had an ex roommate (i finally moved out who became extremely toxic after 2 years. I know she had her gripes with many people. But on the third year she met an equally toxic narc. They seriously brought out the worst in one another. One thing abt this woman is that she loves male attention. It's like air to breathe for her. There was no standard as long as they were men. She'd entertain really low quality men. Anyways she turned more and more nasty when I met my current sweet SO. She sent me a screen shot abt what one of her two boyfriends said. He said he was afraid MY PARTNER would leave me for her once he saw her. Hey lady. You're almost a decade older than me and my partner, why you telling me this shit. Another time, which was the straw that broke the camels back after almost a year of more BS. Her other bf kept commenting about my looks. First I was pretty then I was fat. The thing is how did I knwo all these? She fking TOLD me. And you know what were her replies? She laughed. Bitch. Glad that now she has blocked and ignored me. She's rotten inside. I havent even got into what she did to her other female friends.
Me: Well, do you have enough for one dinner entree?
Him: Yeah.
Me: Then, you can go by yourself. (BLOCK) 🎻
Low standards and expectations at play here. How do you still go on a date after someone tells you to get snacks before a date. Imagine the other red flag that were in the text messages between them that she ignored!
It kills me that her told her he didn’t intend to pay, after trying to connect, after asking her out. And to bring snax bc he assumes she doesn’t have her own money bc other men made him believe we’re all broke and they deserve better. Um sir, then why not try to connect with someone who you KNOW is not broke😅 but you do this.. on purpose..
to tear a woman down.. and play victim.. this mess is soo weird!
14:23 yes indeed LADIES CHOOSE YOURSELF
I've heard worse (not too me or personally) but from dating horrors 😂😂😂why did she goooooooooooooooooooo
That date would NOT have happened!!!! At what point do we start holding our female friends accountable for putting up with bad behavior. Then they will try and gaslight you by saying..oh, its not that bad....I agree with the first lady, these type of women are dangerous because they help keep the BS going