Therapist Reacts To: Cherry Wine by Hozier *trigger warning: DV* Male version of Ultraviolence?!

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  • @elioharrington
    @elioharrington 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +419

    I always took the "sleep to the freezing" in a darker sense. When you get hypothermia, one of the symptoms is sleepiness, but falling asleep is how you die in the intense cold. So the girl in this song can be like a sanctuary/respite, but even when she's bringing him "peace", she's killing him.

    • @lyndsiebeesley7850
      @lyndsiebeesley7850 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      This is exactly how I’ve always taken that part.

    • @angelalurtz3638
      @angelalurtz3638 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Spot on, as a kid in Alaska we were always warned not to ever fall asleep if we were stuck outside in the winter

    • @keymeko95
      @keymeko95 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same I took it like that as well

    • @loTonks
      @loTonks 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I'm pretty sure there's an interview of hozier somewhere where he explains that he actually meant it this way

    • @TheGalwayjoyce
      @TheGalwayjoyce 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Bingo

  • @aeri_taylors-version
    @aeri_taylors-version 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +253

    i think the most heartbreaking thing about this song is that despite everything, in the end Cherry Wine IS a love song 💔

  • @myliewalls721
    @myliewalls721 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    “He hit me and it felt like a kiss” is a line from a song written by Carole King and Hozier said he actually wrote this song with that particular line in mind

  • @BayawKhem
    @BayawKhem 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

    the way she tells me im hers and shes mine - verbal abuse to
    the way she shows me im hers and shes mine - physical abuse

    • @naila6291
      @naila6291 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      i feel like that second line could also be like crossing his sexual boundaries and not really respecting his consent

  • @Varient
    @Varient 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    I've heard of people using this song as a wedding song and it always deeply concerns me, because this song 1000% is about DV. Just goes to show the importance of looking more into lyrics when choosing a song.

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      Wedding song?! Wow. That’s wild to me. That would be so awkward and I would want to be like “sooo this isn’t exactly a love song”…

  • @augustine7570
    @augustine7570 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

    What makes me love this more is the fact that in the music video of this song, the roles are actually reversed, and there's a woman experiencing this kind of relationship, meaning that this can happen to everyone regardless of their gender. I have a huge respect for this man and what he does. Thank you for the video. It was really nice. 🙏🤍

  • @Joydisaster
    @Joydisaster 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    Thank you so much for reacting to Hozier, it saddens me he’s such an underrated artist when he’s one of the absolutely most talented people out there. I met him once after his concert and he was the sweetest and most gentle soul I’ve ever met. It hurts me that there’re people who are capable of taking advantage of this. Hope there’ll be more reactions to his songs ❤️

    • @BelovedChatter
      @BelovedChatter 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I hope Hozier doesn’t find out how saddened and hurt you are.

    • @Joydisaster
      @Joydisaster 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@BelovedChatter I saw him couple weeks ago and he didn’t seem to know, you can sleep well again 🙏❤️

  • @etherealibra1642
    @etherealibra1642 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    I’ve listened to his music since I was 8-9 and this song was always one of my favourites bc of its gorgeous melody, now I sit here almost 20 just coming out of an abusive relationship, bawling at the lyrics of this song that I couldn’t quite comprehend at that age. He is just brilliant, and I hope he never lets anyone treat him this way ever again. Please do more hozier reactions mere!! Love you🫶🫶🤞☺️

  • @adekribre
    @adekribre 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    To me this song is the answer to the "why do/did you stay?", because when it was good it was amazing and I convinced myself it was ok

  • @avalonperry1628
    @avalonperry1628 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    Another great reaction as always, thank you Mere! This is such an beautiful and heartbreaking song, I love Hozier's music. If you're planning to react to any more of it, I would recommend you react to "From Eden" along with the music video. It's one of his more underrated songs, but the lyricism is incredible.

  • @dogcollar
    @dogcollar 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    a lot of people take this as a straightforward love song on first listen because of the soft vocals and instrumental and even the lullaby-like melody, which i think is deliberate. on a casual first listen, the most concern i’ve seen people show has been a vague sense of something being off. it’s only when you start to really examine the lyrics that you understand what’s actually going on. beautiful song and great analysis, it was so interesting seeing this from your perspective + i learned a couple new things!

  • @lisam7861
    @lisam7861 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    You should react to Work Song. It’s such a beautiful-sounding song and I’ve never quite been capable of fully grasping the lyrics, so would love your take on it!

  • @papl20
    @papl20 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    What I like the most about this song is that the song is clearly from a male pov but the music video is from a female pov. So creative 😊

  • @FrenchRedHawk2011
    @FrenchRedHawk2011 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    A powerful song and a quality reaction from you! This song and your words shine a light on an important issue: men as victims of domestic violence is a reality that is often overlooked. What can we do differently as a society/culture to make men feel like they can share there stories and pain instead of “being a man” and depressing it?
    If looking to do more Hozier, his new album is awesome. I’d love to hear your reaction to any of those songs, but especially “All Things End” and “First Light.”

  • @meg_th3_ant1_h3ro
    @meg_th3_ant1_h3ro 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Well, for once, I’m speechless! 😂 Honestly, I have absolutely nothing to add. You covered it all!. Wonderful reaction and analysis. 👏🏼

  • @user-pb4ni1tr8l
    @user-pb4ni1tr8l 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    we need more hozier reactions pleasee🙏

  • @parakeetparayeet5187
    @parakeetparayeet5187 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Ah, so happy you reacted to one of my requests :) Great analysis as always. I think “To be alone” by Hozier would also be a wonderful listen

  • @noonenooneatall5876
    @noonenooneatall5876 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Omg I'm so glad you reacted to this song, I absolutely love Hozier

  • @kupchoi
    @kupchoi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Awesome breakdown of this song. Great job 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @thechelseachannel794
    @thechelseachannel794 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks Mere for explaining this song! Wasn’t sure what a lot of it meant at first, but now I do! It’s a beautiful sad song. ❤

  • @sadmoms
    @sadmoms 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    i’ve always loved this song, but can’t believe i never actually listened to the lyrics. i thought it was this beautiful sweet song lmao. to be fair i’m mesmerized by the guitar playing 🔥but thank you for doing this song mere!!

    • @raleighkapp-mcdonald1300
      @raleighkapp-mcdonald1300 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That’s powerful because often abusive relationships can seem beautiful and sweet and mesmerize people but underneath it’s ugly.

  • @somuchsavv
    @somuchsavv 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Hozier is the absolute best! I’m excited to hear your thoughts on this song! 🖤

  • @jbegaj
    @jbegaj 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Mere, you def need to listen to Bjork. 100% recommend her album “Vulnicura”. Lionsong and Black Lake (quite a long song) are really worth the listen and the lyrics are next level. Love you always❤

    • @pabloescobarschanclas
      @pabloescobarschanclas 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      commenting on this so i won’t forget to check out these songs 🥲

  • @thytuz
    @thytuz 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Amazing❤

  • @looseleaflyra
    @looseleaflyra 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    i’ve been a fan of hozier for many many years and for most of that time i listened to cherry wine as a love song and only a love song. only about a year ago did i realize what it was really about and shit it messed with me

  • @perlacampos4628
    @perlacampos4628 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Imagine starting a book club with your book and doing a live stream with your members and then posting it for the rest of your viewers… imagine 💞

  • @pamelapiano3904
    @pamelapiano3904 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I clicked on this immediately because I thought this was Lana’s Cherry song!! 😂I’m Lana and Mere obsessed 😅
    Really glad I stayed to listen to something new ❤ You get so deep into the lyrics, I love it

  • @Sparkleanais
    @Sparkleanais 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi!! TH-cam just recommended one of your videos and I must say I've been binge watching everything I can! (I've watched alllll videos of ldr reacts already)
    I love your fresh perspective, and yes, I do agree cherry and wine is almost a male version of ultraviolence. There's something in both songs that bother me, maybe because I can somewhat relate. I absolutely adore Hozier, but Cherry and Wine is not one of his best songs IMO lol
    Recently he released a new album, sorta based on Dantes Inferno/pandemic, and it's so beautiful it almost hurt in a beautiful way. He sings about the different levels of hell in his own perspective, and I particularly love Francesca and I, Carrion - probably the most love song in this album lol But all of it is just a masterpiece, and it would be amazing to see your perspective! The poetry in his lyric is not always obvious and the more I listen and read about it all, it makes me realize how much of a genius he is!

  • @tellmeifyouwannagohome9729
    @tellmeifyouwannagohome9729 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    MORE HOZIER 💖

  • @clarificandome
    @clarificandome 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    that makes me wanna cry…

  • @Myatheroses
    @Myatheroses 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love this song when I’m sad

  • @LouisianasQueenLuisaMorgado
    @LouisianasQueenLuisaMorgado 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'm still in love with Violets For Roses

  • @mdz2186
    @mdz2186 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A beautiful song about a man that leaves a toxic relationship : Keeping me alive by Jonathan Roy. The acoustic version blows me away. He also has one narrated as the close friend/family of someone deeply struggling with mental health : lost
    If you are interested in another song about a female point of view of DV, Bad thing from Jesy Nelson is on this theme with a music video.

  • @marykatedoyle9574
    @marykatedoyle9574 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    PLEASE listen to the new album! I would love to hear your takes

  • @wakatoo2588
    @wakatoo2588 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really thought this was going to be a Lana song but then I remembered she sang Summer Wine

  • @emmapanzica8333
    @emmapanzica8333 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey I have a question. Will your book be available at bookstores such as Barnes and noble when it comes out and will you still receive a profit from me purchasing it from there?

  • @ninabridget5403
    @ninabridget5403 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    please react to "Hard times" by Ethel Cain. its very heavy, but its written so beautifully

  • @breathingroom9786
    @breathingroom9786 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You should react to From Eden by Hozier. It's a wonderful song and a strong message

  • @mnahbangtan9138
    @mnahbangtan9138 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think u should do more about hozier songs

  • @irvingpimentell
    @irvingpimentell 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Please react to Breathe me by Sia
    “Breathe Me” is a cry for help, a cry for hope, a cry for survival. It talks about depression and the feeling of not being good enough. The feeling of worthlessness and no self love. A such beautiful song !

  • @nimkiibinesiikwe
    @nimkiibinesiikwe 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Can you do Unknown/Nth by Hozier? 🥺🤍

  • @keithmoore8702
    @keithmoore8702 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Hi Mere. I made a point of watching the music video for this first before your reaction.
    The song IS about the violence he has suffered because of her but for some reason I don't know why, he has reversed the roles in the video. She is the one with the bruises and seeing her black eye in the mirror. It's pretty emotional. Would love to hear your comments after watching it. Love from the UK 🇬🇧

    • @aeri_taylors-version
      @aeri_taylors-version 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      i think the purpose is to show that abuse can happen to anybody, that’s why the lyrics is for male victims while the mv is for female victim

    • @keithmoore8702
      @keithmoore8702 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@aeri_taylors-versionyes good point
      Makes sense

    • @laincoubert7236
      @laincoubert7236 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@aeri_taylors-version i might be reaching here but what if it's about what "sells" more? as in less people would be drawn (at least i would assume) to the reversed video. i believe the same thing happened with Take Me to Church where he replaced "he" with "she" in the lyrics but then settled on portraying a gay couple + homophobic alt right group in the music video.

    • @AnxietyRat
      @AnxietyRat 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@laincoubert7236yeah I mean he was also able to get a very famous actress to play the main character in the music video.... But yeah I agree with the person above me in the reason for him changing these things is that it can happen to anybody.... I think take me to church was switched because the song is kind of about his OWN sexuality in contrast to his religion he grew up in but... He was also very inspired by the gay men that were being beaten to death in Russia on livestreams back then ... So that's where the music video story comes in.

  • @othinus
    @othinus 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    for another artist with vivid imagery in his writing, please check out *ONE OK ROCK - We Are AMBITIONS JAPAN DOME TOUR*

  • @derlis_whatever7033
    @derlis_whatever7033 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I need your reaction to First Time and Butchered Tongue from his new album

  • @ravennoodles705
    @ravennoodles705 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Honestly I think being lost in the tide of her breathing could also mean that he's afraid she'll end her life if he leaves her. Often and domestic violence situations the abuser will threaten to take their life. I dunno if that's what he meant but as all poetry, Hozier's lyrics have so many meanings.

  • @DarkOneSixtyfour
    @DarkOneSixtyfour 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Really wished you watched the music video he made for this. At the end it shows faces of dv survivors.

  • @GreySavo
    @GreySavo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Please, alkaline or missing limbs by sleep token. The lyricism lightens my soul

  • @katieprater1566
    @katieprater1566 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Please do “Work Song”

  • @Myatheroses
    @Myatheroses 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When you’re abused and literally harmed, your body produces some endorphins. When I used to self harm, the blood would literally feel weirdly like a sweet release but there is shame and sadness with it.

  • @Alex_Traduz
    @Alex_Traduz 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    *I would love to see your reaction and thoughts about Nicki Minaj's new song "Last Time I Saw You", It's a emotional track about his father who died* 🙏🏼😿

  • @chasedaniels8086
    @chasedaniels8086 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Can you do "Cherry" by lana del rey?

  • @jimjohns9051
    @jimjohns9051 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Video starts at 2:40

  • @kielbenton8563
    @kielbenton8563 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think it crazier when you feel like you lived the song

  • @pawineewattana8082
    @pawineewattana8082 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    can you do "Coney Island" by TS pweeseeeeeeeeeeee

  • @MegaGustavo246
    @MegaGustavo246 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    SO... PLEASE REACT THE : French restaurant - Lana Del Rey

    • @hunny2401
      @hunny2401 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg yes i want this

  • @sleepyzryy
    @sleepyzryy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mere Please do noir by Lana Del Rey!!

  • @irina009
    @irina009 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I fell in love with Hozier's music because of this song and just like Ultraviolencee it affected me a lot because i've lost loved ones to this cycle of domestic violence. When it comes to Johnny Depp and Amber Heard's case, theirs was a toxic relationship but there's nothing like mutual abuse, which is what a lot of people who don't want to take sides say. Johnny has a history of violence and he got involved with Amber when she was very young, he abused her till she'd had enough and fought back, but the thing with our world is its fixation with perfect victims and the moment you don't fit into that mould they're not for you. The case is so saddening because it was a social media prosecution and how Amber was mocked by everyone is sickening. The only thing it did is make it easier for men like Depp to scare their victims to silence with similar lawsuits

  • @daniellebailey6802
    @daniellebailey6802 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Portulaca can survive just about anything. ❤

    • @mendwithmere
      @mendwithmere  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hell yes it can!! I write about it in the book, how it was a sign when I read the little card with care instructions for the plant. I have it everywhere now. Love that you shared this! ♥️

  • @thee.angelgabriel
    @thee.angelgabriel 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    i truly cannot wait to read your book mere! 💞 i believe you put me onto a new artist with this reaction. 🫶🏼

  • @user-nx1fp6tj3f
    @user-nx1fp6tj3f 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love song, by lana del rey

  • @Whitehotforever1_
    @Whitehotforever1_ 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No one compares to Lana 😅 but this song is pretty good