Dear Joy Thank you for your part in helping some of us dig out from underneath the rubble of our ruined relationships. This is such a toxic treasonous issue. And I intend to pick up a baton and run with it straight and headlong into the biblical counseling world. I am going to try and bring about change… or die trying.
It’s the covert nature of emotional abuse that is so insidious. A physical abuser leaves cuts, broken bones and bruises you can see and call it abuse. But emotional abuse hides in the dark and is harder to detect or visualize because the wounds are on the inside of the victim. Especially so when the emotional abuser is a withholder and neglectful and doesn’t yell or use actual words to do their dirty work at breaking you down. Disengagement while appearing to be married or caring is horrific. And abusers are excellent masters at image management and manipulation on the outside to others. Basically, they are hypocrites, actors, who are very used to deceiving outsiders. Many have slithered by undetected because if it.
I am begging for someone to talk to help me understand what to do. I have the situation where the church is telling me and my husband that I need to repent, but I can’t get back into that box but I don’t know how to get them to understand. The abuse is very covert and so hard to explain that I look like I’m making a molehill out of a mountain or lying. I have tried many Internet searches to find someone that deals with this and understands, and I haven’t found an advocate yet. Bc if I’m wrong and crazy then I will repent and but I believe with all my heart I’m seeing things clearer than I ever have. Can you please recommend someone to talk to?
As far as financial went for me, he refused to pay my health insurance so I had no choice but to work full time which left me completely burned out to my core
Dear Joy
Thank you for your part in helping some of us dig out from underneath the rubble of our ruined relationships. This is such a toxic treasonous issue. And I intend to pick up a baton and run with it straight and headlong into the biblical counseling world. I am going to try and bring about change… or die trying.
He'd threaten suicide and i called the cops 2x that I remember. Then he would threaten my family heirlooms because I was very close to my grandmother.
Indeed. Thank you for your response. Learning about setting firm boundaries with my kids. It has been gut wrenching.
The silent treatment is also verbal abuse.
It’s the covert nature of emotional abuse that is so insidious. A physical abuser leaves cuts, broken bones and bruises you can see and call it abuse. But emotional abuse hides in the dark and is harder to detect or visualize because the wounds are on the inside of the victim. Especially so when the emotional abuser is a withholder and neglectful and doesn’t yell or use actual words to do their dirty work at breaking you down. Disengagement while appearing to be married or caring is horrific. And abusers are excellent masters at image management and manipulation on the outside to others. Basically, they are hypocrites, actors, who are very used to deceiving outsiders. Many have slithered by undetected because if it.
Very well said!
I am begging for someone to talk to help me understand what to do. I have the situation where the church is telling me and my husband that I need to repent, but I can’t get back into that box but I don’t know how to get them to understand. The abuse is very covert and so hard to explain that I look like I’m making a molehill out of a mountain or lying. I have tried many Internet searches to find someone that deals with this and understands, and I haven’t found an advocate yet. Bc if I’m wrong and crazy then I will repent and but I believe with all my heart I’m seeing things clearer than I ever have. Can you please recommend someone to talk to?
Contact Called to Peace Ministries and tell them your situation. Hopefully they will be able to connect you with an advocate or support group.
You can request an advocate at www.calledtopeace.org.
Thank you I did that. And looking so forward to my first call next Monday.
Excellent help! Sharing!❤
As far as financial went for me, he refused to pay my health insurance so I had no choice but to work full time which left me completely burned out to my core
How do I work with my adult children who are gaslighting me and turning it around on me. I cannot find a church to call home.
reach out and connect with us at calledtopeace.org
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