@@elguapo7754exactly, my point. She blames porn for making men not want sex with their wife. I would say it’s a poor alternative and a bandaid caused by rejection by one’s wife.
I find myself only sticking around because I love my kids. I don’t want to cheat, but I have needs that aren’t being met and I’m not only talking about the act of sex.
Leave a sexless marriage. You can try to fix it for a little bit, but eventually just to have to accept the reality and a sexless relationship isn't one worth keeping.
@@klamb9 I don't view marriage as disposable, its actually pretty hard to get divorced. I can only tell you I did not enjoy being married. I spent 10 years in a marriage with a loveless woman. I won't remarry. "until death do us part.." isn't a real thing to start with. I've been unmarried now for over 5 years, I like it better this way. If you like being married and its working well for you - carry on. For many of us, it wasn't enjoyable. I want a sex life more than a wedding and if things aren't going well - I'd rather just say "no thanks" and then continue living at my place. If my girlfriend isn't sleeping with me, she's not my girlfriend anymore.
Leave her because it won't get any better. Denying sex in marriage is an expression of the highest contempt. She knows exactly that you are suffering, but she doesn't give a damn. And maybe it gives her a sense of wild satisfaction from controlling you. She is convinced, empirically, that you won't leave. so why would she do it... You have two options, leave and find someone else or end up with depression and a sense of a stolen life... like me... unfortunately
Appreciate the video and the time you spent doing it. What you suggested may actually work if my wife was interested in putting forth any effort at all which she is not. She forces celibacy but still expects monogamy. After 24 years of marriage it's not going to change. The last 5 years have been completely sexless and before that several times a year at best. Our last anniversary I took my wife out for a really nice evening that she enjoyed very much. I tried to initiate intimacy later that evening and all it did was piss her off. She said just because it's our anniversary doesn't mean we're going to have sex. She left the room and slept on the couch. That was the last time I will ever try to initiate anything to do with intimacy. Deep inside I know nothing is going to change and I have to either choose to stay and deal or leave, but when you've built a life together where everything is intertwined families, finances, children, friends.. you tend to question if sex intimacy is really worth that cost.
I think that last point is where men in sexless marriages feel trapped and hopeless. Is the need for sex with giving everything up? It's such a difficult fucking question to ponder.
Yeah I'll always be angry and bitter and resentful that I didn't have my first girlfriend until my early 30s, me and her are not together anymore though. I know I've spoken to another guy like this who has a similar story who says he never had a girlfriend until he was 30, he has the mindset that if he was born a woman he would not have been alone and single that long. I remember one guy said this to me and he really pissed me off when he said to me: "Why would you be bitter once you got what you wanted? Even if it took that long why does it matter? You can still enjoy the fruits of your labor now" Because I didn't get into my first relationship until later than normal that's why I feel angry bitter and resentful. And plus being a guy, how the dating game has always been different for men for women in which I know I'm not the only guy that has this mindset and that is men always have to be the ones to put in all the work and effort in order to land a girlfriend or in order for a heterosexual relationship to happen or start. It's like men are the only ones that have to know or learn so many skills and behaviors on how to attract a mate but not the other way around. I get more mad and angry that people in society say that men are not supposed to view that as work or a burden as in men always having to be the ones to take the lead and Court women and lead the interaction, I will never understand why men are supposed to enjoy and embrace that role. Should be obvious as to what I'm talking about, yeah and I get even more pissed off that people and Society say that women also have to learn dating skills on how to meet men or how to attract men when it never will make sense to me since women don't have to do jackshit to make a relationship happen. Speaking of my lifelong hatred of men always having to make the first move all the time. Didn't happen for me around the time people normally have their first relationship. I get very angry and pissed off whenever people and Society have the mindset that it's better to be a man. I remember another guy said and he only added fuel to fire which made me more angry and pissed off when he said: "Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together" Let's just say he pissed me off so much that it's not appropriate for me to say what was on my mind when I read that comment. Yeah I don't understand why a lot of people have the mindset as to why it's better to be a man at the end of the day. Yes it does truly feel unfair being a man at times. It only pisses me off even more when people say "thats the way it is, or so what?". it just fills me with a lot of anger and rage.
Apollonia been your subscriber here since forever and your videos are amazing as always. Just wondering why your videos don’t show up on my feed anymore. I need to look you up before i see your upload :( are you shadowbanned ?
Honestly, I don't know why. Probably because I don't pay for ads and also don't make a lot of click bait videos. So, my suggestion is go to my profile (homescreen) press the bell notification and you will be notified when I post a video. Thanks so much for your support!
@@ApolloniaPonti done 🎉 I hope you keep posting more contents! More more more , can you talk about men using money to attract women ? I cant find any videos of that in your channel
Marriage and values have nothing to do with each other. Marriage is a business. It's the legal contract to bind your resources. You can hate the person you are with and still have a succesful marriage. How do you save a dead bedroom? You don't. You can't. She has shown you how much she values you. Best you can hope for is starfish which is worst than nothing. Save yourselves the trouble, not worth it.
Yes but how can they say they want their partnwr to find them attractive for the rest of their life and still withold sex and intamcy? Cant say i want them to want me but then show they dont want you to touch them.
Why this happens to a man , simple women control the sex and men control the relationship, so just fix women problem solve , men are pressured to do a ton of things to please women and its still not working out for men. So no thanks we men will chase money not sexless relationships or Marriages 😅
For many men, porn is a reaction to the sexless relationship.
Of course..
Best lifeline ever created. Women that have a problem with it are jealous and projecting.
Yeah, she could be right in some cases, but I think her causal relationship between men in sexless relationships and porn is backwards for many.
@@stevelovescars I've yet to meet a guy who would find porn to be a better option for contact with a woman.
@@elguapo7754exactly, my point. She blames porn for making men not want sex with their wife. I would say it’s a poor alternative and a bandaid caused by rejection by one’s wife.
A lot of guys turn to porn because they're stuck in sexless relationships. It's like social media for women.
I find myself only sticking around because I love my kids. I don’t want to cheat, but I have needs that aren’t being met and I’m not only talking about the act of sex.
Leave a sexless marriage. You can try to fix it for a little bit, but eventually just to have to accept the reality and a sexless relationship isn't one worth keeping.
Sex is not always important specially for me
Your comment sounds like you consider marriage as disposable. What happened to 'until death due us part'?
@@klamb9 I don't view marriage as disposable, its actually pretty hard to get divorced. I can only tell you I did not enjoy being married. I spent 10 years in a marriage with a loveless woman. I won't remarry. "until death do us part.." isn't a real thing to start with. I've been unmarried now for over 5 years, I like it better this way. If you like being married and its working well for you - carry on. For many of us, it wasn't enjoyable. I want a sex life more than a wedding and if things aren't going well - I'd rather just say "no thanks" and then continue living at my place. If my girlfriend isn't sleeping with me, she's not my girlfriend anymore.
@@muhyadindahir3188 Speak for yourself only. Why are you even here? Did you not read the video title?
men that have more than one woman dont have this issue
A week????? damn…..I’m married to Sister Mary Katherine the nun.
Leave her because it won't get any better. Denying sex in marriage is an expression of the highest contempt. She knows exactly that you are suffering, but she doesn't give a damn. And maybe it gives her a sense of wild satisfaction from controlling you. She is convinced, empirically, that you won't leave. so why would she do it... You have two options, leave and find someone else or end up with depression and a sense of a stolen life... like me... unfortunately
Appreciate the video and the time you spent doing it. What you suggested may actually work if my wife was interested in putting forth any effort at all which she is not. She forces celibacy but still expects monogamy. After 24 years of marriage it's not going to change. The last 5 years have been completely sexless and before that several times a year at best. Our last anniversary I took my wife out for a really nice evening that she enjoyed very much. I tried to initiate intimacy later that evening and all it did was piss her off. She said just because it's our anniversary doesn't mean we're going to have sex. She left the room and slept on the couch. That was the last time I will ever try to initiate anything to do with intimacy. Deep inside I know nothing is going to change and I have to either choose to stay and deal or leave, but when you've built a life together where everything is intertwined families, finances, children, friends.. you tend to question if sex intimacy is really worth that cost.
I think that last point is where men in sexless marriages feel trapped and hopeless. Is the need for sex with giving everything up? It's such a difficult fucking question to ponder.
Yeah I'll always be angry and bitter and resentful that I didn't have my first girlfriend until my early 30s, me and her are not together anymore though.
I know I've spoken to another guy like this who has a similar story who says he never had a girlfriend until he was 30, he has the mindset that if he was born a woman he would not have been alone and single that long.
I remember one guy said this to me and he really pissed me off when he said to me:
"Why would you be bitter once you got what you wanted?
Even if it took that long why does it matter? You can still enjoy the fruits of your labor now"
Because I didn't get into my first relationship until later than normal that's why I feel angry bitter and resentful.
And plus being a guy, how the dating game has always been different for men for women in which I know I'm not the only guy that has this mindset and that is men always have to be the ones to put in all the work and effort in order to land a girlfriend or in order for a heterosexual relationship to happen or start.
It's like men are the only ones that have to know or learn so many skills and behaviors on how to attract a mate but not the other way around.
I get more mad and angry that people in society say that men are not supposed to view that as work or a burden as in men always having to be the ones to take the lead and Court women and lead the interaction, I will never understand why men are supposed to enjoy and embrace that role.
Should be obvious as to what I'm talking about, yeah and I get even more pissed off that people and Society say that women also have to learn dating skills on how to meet men or how to attract men when it never will make sense to me since women don't have to do jackshit to make a relationship happen.
Speaking of my lifelong hatred of men always having to make the first move all the time.
Didn't happen for me around the time people normally have their first relationship.
I get very angry and pissed off whenever people and Society have the mindset that it's better to be a man.
I remember another guy said and he only added fuel to fire which made me more angry and pissed off when he said:
"Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together"
Let's just say he pissed me off so much that it's not appropriate for me to say what was on my mind when I read that comment.
Yeah I don't understand why a lot of people have the mindset as to why it's better to be a man at the end of the day.
Yes it does truly feel unfair being a man at times.
It only pisses me off even more when people say "thats the way it is, or so what?".
it just fills me with a lot of anger and rage.
It happens because she didn't marry her first choice, she married who she could get (you).
I could binge watch Apollonia’s Video all week ❤️
Awe, love ya!
Been waiting for your upload all week
I'm glad that you spoke about this, thanks so much Apollonia, this insight helps with keeping a grounded perspective.
Of course. This video was a long time coming and I'm happy to help.
Among your best and most thorough videos - thank you!
You're so welcome and I appreciate this comment so much. :-)
Your knowledge is a blessing Apolonia.. thank you!
Wow, thank you
Even pepperoni pizza gets old
Apollonia been your subscriber here since forever and your videos are amazing as always. Just wondering why your videos don’t show up on my feed anymore. I need to look you up before i see your upload :( are you shadowbanned ?
Honestly, I don't know why. Probably because I don't pay for ads and also don't make a lot of click bait videos. So, my suggestion is go to my profile (homescreen) press the bell notification and you will be notified when I post a video. Thanks so much for your support!
@@ApolloniaPonti done 🎉
I hope you keep posting more contents!
More more more , can you talk about men using money to attract women ?
I cant find any videos of that in your channel
Really helpful thank u ap
Glad it was helpful!
Marriage and values have nothing to do with each other. Marriage is a business. It's the legal contract to bind your resources. You can hate the person you are with and still have a succesful marriage.
How do you save a dead bedroom? You don't. You can't. She has shown you how much she values you. Best you can hope for is starfish which is worst than nothing. Save yourselves the trouble, not worth it.
Yes but how can they say they want their partnwr to find them attractive for the rest of their life and still withold sex and intamcy? Cant say i want them to want me but then show they dont want you to touch them.
Very simple.. Find young girl 25 years old and everything will be perfect
How to know whether a Woman is Obsessed over me or not?
Have a video on that. Just go to my videos on my home page and search that and it will come up. :-)
a bunch of relationships are become ‘digital’ these days. how does one handle this new ‘phenomenon’?
Don't get in it. :-)
Dont get married if you are not a CHAD
What?
@@ApolloniaPonti Do not become a betabuxxer, better stay single
Thanks!
Why this happens to a man , simple women control the sex and men control the relationship, so just fix women problem solve , men are pressured to do a ton of things to please women and its still not working out for men. So no thanks we men will chase money not sexless relationships or Marriages 😅
Happy Hubby don't get Chubby
Stop making excuses man it's just time to move on at that's point and start dating elsewhere it's to many females out here.