I found it important to realise that loving my own body isn't necessarily about feeling sexy or attractive - for me it was about realising and being grateful for all the non-sexual ways my body serves me. I love my body because it let's me dance, create, draw, sing, travel, see, hear, learn and experience. I think we put too much value on whether other people will find our body HOT and that ends up being damaging. Our bodies do WAY more for us than that.
I think this is also what I'm realising! I need to love myself how other people do, as a multifaceted person. There's a line in Chessie Kings book where she talks about the fact that no one will remember you for how symmetrical your boobs are or how tiny your waist is but for all of your personality
What’s crazy is that I think literally everyone is beautiful and I am able to appreciate their unique beautiful qualities, but not my own.. ( I can now confidently say, 1 year from posting this comment, I’ve finally learned to love and appreciate myself as an individual. I find my body beautiful and I don’t see my “flaws” as flaws anymore; though it’s extremely hard, I hope everyone can do the same :)
I know! 😭 I find everyone’s beauty to be different and unique. I never look at things on others that I feel are imperfections on myself. Why are we so hard on ourselves?!
You know how when you say a word over and over again and it starts to sound weird? After years and years of living in the same body with the same face, I think we can start to get bored, or see it as weird or wrong (like the repeated word). I’m sending love to everyone as we’re all on this difficult and beautiful journey together.
I feel the same, when I hear other people talk about their insecurities, I feel like they are beautiful and the issue is with their mentality not their physicality. But I get this feeling sometimes like there is something objectively wrong with my body and like everyone else looks at me the way I look at myself. I think it just takes some time to reprogram these beliefs
what a thought provoking comment. I often have days where I feel so attractive and sensual...and then they're are days where i want to hide under rock. I feel that the ebbs and flows of these feelings are part of being and accepting our human form as women, men....just being in flow with our humanness. love to you.
Other animals don’t worry about their body image. We find elephants, dolphins, butterflies, birds, etc to be beautiful. Yet we look at our diverse species and find flaws in our physical form. I wouldn’t tell a giraffe that it’s neck was too long. Why should I think poorly of cellulite and acne? Which is extremely common for 90+ percent of women.
I think about this a lot. Growing up our neighbour used to have two shar peis. I thought they were the most adorable things ever with their chubby face and rolls, and I've come to realize that I am allowed to feel the same way about *my* body and *my* backrolls and just exist without being shamed by society.
Furthermore we usually view chubby animals like cats dog bunnies etc to be extra cute so don’t worry about what you look like elephants still think we’re adorable
Something I’ve noticed is how many women apologize for the way they look. On tiktok or Instagram especially. These women will be telling stories or sharing knowledge and they start out ‘sorry for my hair, I just woke up,’ ‘sorry I look like a mess.’ Who told us we need to apologize for not looking our best? And who decided what ‘our best’ is? Why does looking our best mean having straight hair and concealer? It’s so sad when these gorgeous women apologize for looking the way they naturally look.
Disclaimer for people with ED - I once watched an interview with a professional dietician, nutritionist and intuitive eating specialist. She was talking about how amazing intuitive eating is but advised AGAINST doing it yourself if you have or had an eating disorder. In fact, she advised to first treat the ED, and then shift towards intuitive eating. I hope I explain it well - EDs can disrupt our thought processes as to eating and our body image to the point it can be very hard for us to know if something is really "intuitive" for us. Intuitive eating can trigger some behaviors in e.g. binge eating disorder. So just keep that in mind everyone xx
I'm in recovery for anorexia and I honestly don't know what I expected but this actually made me really emotional in realising I'm not ready to start this process yet, and that that's okay. I've learnt some really toxic body ideals from online ED groups and in my mind my weight still dictates my worth. But, this has inspired me to work harder at my recovery so that one day I accept myself :)
Martha I wish you the best im glad your recovering im dealing with some problems of my own, but I know that we'll get through this together we have to stay strong for ourselves and the ones we love
@@gaz8148 I know how it feels. I was in recovery for anorexia too and it takes time. And sometimes 'loving' your body is a lot to do, when you have treated your body like an enemy for so long (that is obviously my personal experience!). What helped me personally was to accept the fact that I have an eating disorder and noticing when my mindset was shifting to a place where I wanted my weight to dictate my life. In those moments I knew that these thoughts are not really mine, rather more the thought of the disorder. This way I could detache myself from that toxic mindset. I also learnt new, fun hobbies and experienced joy and confidence in different things than my weight scale for example. There are so many other things to be happy about than a number on a scale. You will find out whats working best for you and you are so so worthy! You got this. ♡♡
@@DanaM18129 I completely relate to treating my body as an enemy and it's very hard to break the mindset. Thank you for your support though people like you help me believe that recovery is possible even if it kind of feels like yelling at a brick wall for now.
I was also always the “skinny kid” and I didn’t realize how much that had become a part of my identity until I started gaining weight and no longer recognized my body. I’m trying to remind myself that I’m an adult now and that adults have differently shaped bodies than children and teens, but it’s hard
I actually find people who have more weight on their body to be more attractive and more sexy to me. I have also had an eating disorder most of my life. When I was super skinny most people didn't find me to be attractive. I received more phone numbers and interest when I gained weight. I think this is because I looked more healthy.
Something that bothers me is how younger girls think the have to follow a certain style or follow a role model like seriously at the end of the day it's your body do as well but why follow after celebrities so you can thier style.I believe a person should be your own stylists.
I experienced the same thing with my body hair, I felt a lot more feminine with it grown out! I go back and forth between shaving and growing out the body hair that I have in different places, trying to find out what my own preference for it really is. The first time I let it grow out was the first time I truly felt like the woman I've grown up to be
My obsession with wanting lip fillers was directly correlated with the HOURS I used to spend on my instagram explore page... ever since I've stopped myself looking at insta models I've been completely satisfied with my lips and the way my face looks in general. I know it's the most oversimplified example, but it's shocking how quick and easy it was for my attitude to change just by stopping myself from looking at these pictures of absolute strangers.
Personally, it always felt weird to me to shave down there. For me, it just reminded me of how I looked before puberty and gave me really weird vibes. Like, I'm a grown ass woman and my lady bits look like the way they did when I was ten? Ugh. It just didn't sit well with me so I stopped.
I needed this. Thank you. And to all people who are reading the comments: no matter what’s your gender, skin color, nationality, sexuality, preferred pronouns, body shape...YOURE BEAUTIFUL, YOURE DIVINE, AND YOU DESERVE ALL THE LOVE IN THE WORLD, ESPECIALLY LOVE COMING FROM YOUR OWN SELF 🤎🤎🤎
This was a good video for me to see. I am a “recovered” ED sufferer but recently I’ve had very intrusive thoughts. I will look for vintage clothes on eBay etc and see the measurements would never work....it’s damaging. I always thought I needed to look different regardless of whether I was skinny or more midsized. The thing is, I think every body is beautiful, I love plus and straight sized people, I love pear shaped bodies and straight figures bodies and I extend the same love and appreciation of form to all genders. The only person I don’t extend that love and acceptance to is myself and that’s what I’m working on now.
i also recommend the beauty myth by naomi wolf as it speaks about how these beauty standards are ingrained into us so that we continue to spend more money on beauty products, plastic surgery etc
One thing that really helped me was to imagine me as a small child or my future child stood in front of me. All the horrible things I think about myself, would I say those things to her... NO it would be sick and horrible and I'd never want to hurt them like that.
This is beautiful, our bodies go through so much. They are the vehicle that allows us to experience life. They go through constant changes from day-to-day, year-to-year, and so will our relationship to it. This is a lifelong journey
This is awesome. I am 5 months postpartum and am the heaviest I've ever been, which has been a bit of mind mess. I've always been chubby, but I've gained a lot of weight recently since becoming less active physically. A couple of weeks ago, I was walking down the street in a dress on a windy day and was petrified that I'd flash a thigh. This want a new feeling; I've always been self conscious of my legs and have the mindset of not wanting to inflict my fatter parts on others. As I was walking, I all of a sudden realised that nobody cares. Nobody was looking at me. Nobody was grimacing at me. Nobody was whispering or laughing as i walked by. Literally nobody cared and it felt great. I had the epiphany that I'm not some hideous monster just because i have a flabby tummy and wobbly legs, and i was the only person thinking this about myself. After this, i went to to beach with my family for the first time in 20 years and wore bathers and swam in the ocean. It was so liberating. I'm going to swim a few times a week because it makes me happy and to keep myself healthy, and it's ironic that it took me being at my heaviest to do exercise that makes me feel the most vulnerable.
nobody cares and get this: those people that you’re scared of judging you are probably just as scared of YOU judging THEM! point being is that no one cares and they are more worried abt how they look themselves. and if they really wanna judge someone then that’s their own personal issue, not something that they perceive is “wrong” with you
I once was told to think about the person I loved most and to list the top 3 things I loved about them. Then I was told to ask myself whether even one of those things had something to do with the person's body.
Being bullied in school for being fat has totally ruined my self image and even when I lost a bunch of weight I still thought I was too fat. Trying my best to take care of myself but its still tough because I still feel like people are judging me for my weight. okay rant over sorryyy have a nice day y'all
people are always going to judge because of the DISGUSTING beauty standards that are infused in our belief systems. it makes me so mad that people have the audacity to comment on another person's appearance without considering the traumatizing effects they can have on that person throughout their life. know that you are loved and that you are BEAUTIFUL!!
im so sorry that someone did that you. i believe with all of my heart that you will overcame all of that and love the incredible being that you are with so muuuch potential. have a nice day !!
I've slipped back into diet culture the last few weeks telling myself I'm just going to get healthy, but I'm already healthy. You just checked me. Thank you harmony. I worked so hard over the last year to learn to love myself. Self acceptance is definitely a journey. I just deleted all of my social media's and fitness apps again. Back to square one.
about 18 months ago i refused to bleach or dye my hair anymore. i stopped wearing make up and a bra , i wanted to be me , to be authentic, i wanna love myself for me ...just for me.
I started crying when I read the comments and so many people feel the same as me, I really just want everyone to be happy and healthy and confident and loving to themselves. I wish I could give everyone a big hug and tell them to f society, but I can barely tell that myself. Thanks harmony for making videos like that.
This reminds me of what Jameela Jamil speaks a lot about which is self acceptance over self love. I 100% agree that acceptance helps get you to the end goal which is self love. And it's a good fall back on the days you don't love your face or your body. Rewiring your mind to accept your body also helps you accept change in life. You learn to accept your wrinkles and stretch marks and weight gain or loss or sagging etc. I'm learning to see the body as a vessel for my soul. And it helps me move throughout life which I am grateful for. Also, I hope we get an apartment tour! It looks gorgeous. I'm actually moving next week so anyone reading this, please send prayers and good energy this way! Peace and blessings. ❤️
Ive been thinking a lot recently about how social media has changed my body image. it was crap to begin with, what with the state of beauty standards and magazines in the early 2000s, but im really worried about kids who are growing up in this world with social media being SO appearance based and becoming more and more integral to modern socializing...its frightening to think about what kinds of message thats sending to kids now. Its not that ~just seeing a few very thin models on the covers of magazines~ gave me an eating disorder, there was more to it than that, but just thinking about how much more deeply body fixation has been ingrained into our culture since i was seeing thin models on magazines and criticizing myself.
I’ve also struggled a lot with loving my body and I recommend the book Body Kindness by Rebecca Scritchfield! It’s a book all about changing your relationship to your body and food and exercise and everything relating to body image. It really helped me!
I just need to express that you seem so much happier and relaxed in your last videos, it feels like you’ve became more rooted in yourself, so happy for you
I also recommend "beauty sick - how the cultural obsession with appearance hurts girls and women" by renee engeln and "women don't owe you pretty" by florence given, it really helped me a lot!
accepting my body is especially hard for me currently, because i'm stuck in a toxic household, where a lot of my family members bodyshame me ad other things. but this video made me feel really good, the things Harmony says always makes me feel nice :)
Living in a toxic household can be a deal breaker for an eating disorder. I weighed 80 pounds when I lived with my toxic family. My narcissistic mom was constantly fixated on my weight. I tried everything to recover from my ED. I was in therapy, on meds, I saw a nutritionist. What helped me the most was moving out of the environment. I fell in love with food when I moved out. I didn't have to work or try gaining weight. It just happened naturally. I hope that you are able to change your living situation ❤️
@@laurelgrasso2897 im so happy everything worked out for you!!😍 I also moved since commenting this and i can say i fell in love, not just with the most amazing guy ever but also with myself and life itself. 🥰🥰
I love that journal idea! Over the past two years I lost a ton of weight not by choice and I realized “oh I won’t be happier if I’m skinnier. I’ll be happier if I’m HEALTHIER” I gained the weight back and now am trying to get back to a healthy diet that has nothing to do with losing weight. I also realized that every single day I would think negative thoughts about my body. One day I was just like NO MORE. Every time I had one of those thoughts I would think it, then think, “I would never say this to someone else that’s not very nice.” After a while I started replacing the negative thoughts with things that I did like and now I have a passing negative thought but it doesn’t take over my life. If you had told me 3 years ago I wouldn’t think about my body and how it looked every day I would have thought you were crazy. Good look for anyone starting down this journey! It’s hard but it’s so worth it.
I have a chronic illness so it's hard for me. I try to love my body because even in illness it's my home and it's functional (I'm very lucky and I count my blessings!) but it's hard :/ Some days it feels like an enemy.
as a fat person the most helpful thing for me has been getting into the mindset that loving my body is an act of resistance in a world that thinks people with bodies like mine are not worthy of love, or admiration, or basic respect.
Great video! I think even the most realists of us forget about what you mentioned that "no matter how you look, it won't make people love you more". True love is true love. I think its a healthier place when you feel bettering yourself physically for someone you love, or for yourself, just because you want to.
i have spent so long trying to like how my body looks but how it looks doesn’t matter. it does so many amazing things. it lets me smile and see and live my life. that is so amazing :)
day by day, i feel myself coming more and more to terms with my body. after gaining weight, accepting my new body is hard - it still is. even my face, although it really hasn't changed much. wanting to always make myself desirable to others, a constant necessity at the back of my head. i hope to one day come back to this comment and be able to confidently say - i am happy with who i am:)
Thank you so much for this, unfortunately as I've decided to take care of my body more by doing workouts during quarantine and involving myself in the health and fitness side of TH-cam, I've been exposed to so many attitudes of improving your body only for physical results. This viewpoint has integrated itself into my brain and has made me more self conscious about myself than I've ever been before. Its very hard to balance out the attitudes thrown on me everyday with statements like "this will give you a six pack/summer body etc..." with my own belief of doing it only for my health. I've realised that even just exposure to such ideas affects you. Its very upsetting that this has come as a result of my trying to improve myself but here we are. Videos like yours are helping me stay grounded to my core beliefs and making me feel more like my old self who didn't give shit about this stuff. Thank you so much for what you're doing, its helping everyone so much more than you know
One thing that's helped a lot is yoga with adrienne- she focuses on how you feel versus how you look and it helps me view exercise as something good for my body rather something to change or another way to hate my body
Love the quote she said at 9 minutes: "People don't owe you a perfect body". Which also in turn means that you don't own them a perfect body. I've been thinking a lot about self-imposed guilt recently and that struck a cord. You feel guilty when you don't work out even if you have had a horrible day. I feel guilty about having that extra snack when I know I reached my calorie count. Even if my body says I'm hungry. I've been really focusing on that self-imposed guilt factor recently and trying to fight it.
This is the sort of mature, grounded approach to body care and perception that we need more of. I think it is rly unhealthy how so many of us alternatively fetishise and catastrophise some of the most basic and integral aspects of ourselves. Be well, take care of yourselves 💙💜
Loving the sober, fresh, grounded, morning, clarity vibes this videos gives off:) Since we're on the topic of appearance, will you do a hair/spiritual journey update one day? love from Porto
My best friend and I are saying one thing that we like about ourselves every single day for a year, and so far it’s been SO enlightening on how we think about ourselves. Some days it’s impossible to think of one good thing about yourself. It’s been really positive and then at the end of the year you have a long list of things you like about yourself. You definitely have to start getting creative, like liking your feet because they take you to places in your life. I really really recommend it 😊😊❤️
I recently got a breast reduction because I was really unhappy with that part of myself and it also caused me a lot of pain. I had lots of conflicting feelings about how much I preach body neutrality and body acceptance but I was undergoing surgery to change a part of myself. The way I justified it was just knowing that I had tried for so long to accept this part of myself but I was still unhappy. I knew I definitely wanted it and it wasn't a passing phase when I realized I thought about it every day. For example, there were somedays where I didn't hate my stomach or my legs, somedays I just didn't think about it, but I was insecure about my breasts every single day. I am only 2 weeks post-op but I already love my body so so so much more and I'm so happy with myself and my back pain is gone. I used to think all the work I was putting in to accept myself wasn't doing anything but I can see now how much it really has helped me and changed me. Overall, I'm so much happier with myself and it's okay that I needed to change myself for that to happen and I'm proud of myself for being able to overcome so many anxieties and fears and get the procedure done.
This is such an important video. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Harmony. I’ve been treating my body horribly for years and your words, “food is like medicine for the body,” inspired me to really start trying to have a healthy relationship with food and my body. Thank you 💞✨
I just wanted to say: so have been subscribed for many years now and I just really love your videos. They always put me in a great mood☺️🌻✨ I wish you only the best✨
very very helpful video, it just lifted my mood up so much! i haven't really heard yet anyone talking about body in such a healthy, happy and relaxed way. It honestly helped me, thank you Harmony! :))
Thank you for this video. I have chronic illness and I am trying to love myself more and accept my body with limitations.. this video gave me some inspiration definitely x
This is a beautiful video ❤ I'm currently on a journey of self acceptance not wearing makeup and letting my body hair grow, it has helped me massively. Acceptance with my body itself is taking alot longer as the issues are alot deeper rooted from childhood but I'm hoping with time and positivity I will get to a point where I accept myself for who I am and not wanting to see someone else when I look in the mirror. Your videos have inspired me to keep on a positive track, they are so uplifting and kind, thankyou for sharing your beautiful journey 💚
There were so many wise things said here, I wish our societies start to think this way too. My favourite part is when you said that you promote acceptance rather than 100% self love as it is more realistic and that id SO true. This is exactly how a human brain works too, in steps and stages. Thank you for this.
Thank you for this video, Harmony! (Also, thanks youtube algorithm which brought me here.) I am currently suffering severe depression which involves a lot of self-hatred and comparing myself to others. My experience showed me exactly what you are saying: It is super important what and who you surround yourself with. You will definitely be someone who's videos I will start watching regularly to remind myself not to fall back into the negative feedback loop of doom. Also, you are so beautiful! This is a wonderful reminder that other people will have a totally different view on us than we do, anyways. If I had seen you somewhere on the streets I would never have thought that you were struggling with body image in your past. We always critisize ourselves so much harder than we would anyone else. We look so closely at tiny "flaws" that noone else would even notice. Thank you so much for putting out this positivity and love! You are radiant like a star! 🌟
I absolutely HATE diet culture. it's one of the reasons (there are many others) I've been battling with an ongoing eating disorder for over 16 years. It all started with the slim fast diet. I also think that when things are chaotic around me, my appearance is the easiest thing I can control. Everyone and their bodies are unique and should be celebrated (I almost never take my own advice). Beauty resonates from someone from within not the other way around. I was never taught how to love my body when I was younger and I think that's lacking these days. I'm absolutely loving stalking your channel and binge watching your videos. You're so insightful and wise.
Also, your hair is getting so long now! I started growing mine around the same time and it’s weirdly fulfilling. (I used to change it almost weekly because I was never happy with it).
I love that when I found your channel it was because of your witchcraft content but I seem to be growing similarly to you if I were to judge just based on your TH-cam content. I also rely on your videos to get me through storms 😂 I am still very anxious during strong bad weather so I put headphones in. 🤷🏼♂️ It is soothing. I really enjoy your new content as well as I do not have many real life friends who find it worthwhile to explore or talk about these topics. I've come to view the world and my place in it quite differently and it has been so helpful and I really like to share when I see people struggling with someone that I used to. I try to find a nice balance because I know constantly suggesting things that I did to help myself would be annoying. On the same note listening to people complain about the same issues without making effort to change is a touch annoying to me. It is nice to have a place to go like this channel.
Definitely needed this right now. So much going on and it’s hard to stay positive about myself and my body, but it’s so important to be reminded and learn how to. I also have always been very skinny but recently gained a lot of weight and haven’t learned how to really accept and love it like this. Thank you for uploading content like this ❤️
For me, I’ve always felt like I’m not supposed to think my body is cute or love it. I’m fat and while there are people like Lizzo who really embraces her body and can be very inspiring there are moments where it’s like “No, you’re not supposed to love your body, you’re supposed to hate your body then go hard on exercise and healthy eating.”
I relate to this but with acne. I try to cut that thought quickly and realize that it's just the media putting us down to get money. We are worthy right now. Not once we fit the mold. Do things that make you feel beautiful, look at yourself in a beautiful light. You'll see your true self and not care about the pressures everyone tells you
I’m not fat, so I can only share this from that perspective, but I recently read a book that directly tackled that exact voice you’ve shared in your comment. It’s called What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat, by a self-identified fat author. It opened my eyes to how that “hate your body for motivation to fix it” mentality is totally damaging, and even leads to unhealthy behaviors people might not have had otherwise. It talks a lot about fat discrimination, too, so it may be a tough read, but it had a big impact on how I think about bodies in society and the damage that people, particularly women, are expected to endure to make ourselves consumable for public viewing.
Also remembering that health isn't this ideal that everyone can achieve. It doesn't matter what I eat, how I exercise, I am disabled, I am unwell. And I'm still working on accepting that because I got sick relatively young and I've always tried to "push through" to try and fix myself. And that's not how it works. So health for me will always be relative xD what is healthy for one person is going to be different for others and that's ok. And I want to stop hating my body for "letting me down" (unhealthy intrusive thoughts I have often lead back to this thought)
I needed this. I had my 3rd child two and a half years ago and have been struggling with accepting my body and particularly my stomach. I am still carrying some of the pregnancy weight and I find it hard find clothes I like as I’m always judging how my stomach looks. This reminded me that instead of disliking my stomach I should be thanking it for growing my three beautiful children and learn to accept that my body has changed and it is normal. Thank you for helping me find a more positive perspective.
I recently recovered from body dysmorphic disorder after suffering from it terribly for 2 years, and it is such a beautiful feeling to look in the mirror and not be horrified. Thanks for the video! I will be sure to incorporate more of these things into my healing journey
I think it’s very coincidental that i’ve been accepting myself and loving who i am, rather than putting effort into other people more than i have myself. For you to post this video made me very happy
This video just came in divine timing. I had such bad body image day yesterday.. This video really helped me lift my mood again and see that I'm on the right path.
Thank you, especialy since the lockdown i've been trapped with my body. Or so it feels anyway. And everyday feels like a fight against my negative believes towards it. This video helped a lot, like I know these things. But my negative thoughts are louder and I seem to forget everything good and usefull.
Oh Harmony, I loooove this! I'm really working to find a balance with my body as well. I've been telling myself that as long as I get my fruits and vegetables in and go on my morning walk each day, that's enough. I don't need to count calories, or weigh myself, or cut out certain foods. Our weight/body size has no correlation with our intrinsic value as human beings. It's so messed up how society has destroyed our perception and made us believe otherwise. Thank you for these videos
I really needed this video right now so “Apparently” I’m quite blessed to be a size 6 I’m 5,2 so for me it’s just about right for my size health wise I’m fine and I try to be healthy as possible but mostly it’s just good genes all my family are like it I can’t help it I can’t gain weight anyway .. but I have a holiday in July 🤞 but iv always been completely embarrassed and ashamed of my chest I’m a 34aa so .. flat nothing there there non existent 🥺😂 and iv been like this for years I’m 28 and I know since I was 15 I was getting a breast enlargement but there expensive and I haven’t been able to afford it so haven’t yet so back to going away I’m going with my partner and all his family and it dawned on me .. I have to wear a bikini or swimsuit and this is something i have gone out of my way to avoid since I was a teenager but I can’t really get away with it on a family holiday his family on the female side are larger and have what I wish I had so since I was a teen iv been wearing push up bras padded bras when I was younger stuffing bras the only person who has ever seen my “real” chest is my partner and it terrified me he says I shouldn’t get a boob job there perfect but I’m not doing it for other people I don’t feel like a woman I feel like a boy so many people tell me I’m so lucky I’m like kera knightly it’s great but for me that’s not a complement it’s feeling constantly like I can’t wear this I can’t wear that no backless because that means no bra no swimming that means wearing a bikini and those push up bikinis are dangerous they don’t work they fill up with water and fall off or sag down and flap open it’s not a look 😂 anyway so recently iv been following a lot of the girls on TH-cam that have the same body type as me and there promoting body positivity and how to love your body and get some confidence so the other day I wore a normal bra no padding ect and a black semi sheer shirt and .... I cried ... twice😂 but I didn’t take it off or change I stayed in it all day and continuing to watch the girls being so happy in their bodys and just rocking the itty bitty tittys I haven’t actually worn a bra for 2 days not with anything showing but with jumpers and baggy tops and guess what no one has pointed and laughed at me for one and I’m just getting used to it I’m not there yet I still cry I still feel like a boy in most things but I’m working on it and trying not to look at social media too much buying bikinis was kinda torturous 🤣 but I’ll get there so if anyone is feeling the same I know girl 😅 it sucks and it takes time but sometimes you just gotta jump in the deep and and hope for the best sorry that was longggg but wanted to put it out there much love to all the beautiful bodys out there 💚💚💚
People seem to want and admire what they don't have. I bet ppl look at you with the same admiration you look at others. As a woman with an average chest size, I do not think women with smaller boobs look like boys or less womanly. I have always seen an ethereal, elven, elegant beauty about that frame. I know you have heard that before and it is hard to see it yourself. Bottom line- We can't have it all, but we CAN love and accept what unique beauties we do possess. Good for you for trying to love yourself more, beautiful ❤️
@@stringquarkette1916 thank you for the reply 😊 and yes your completely right grass is always greener I know it’s the media and corporations brands ect that has made us feel this way like you have to be slim but not too slim but you also have to have boobs but not saggy you have to have nice legs and a round butt but no blemishes or wobbles 🙄🙄 it’s an impossible standard only a small amount of people in the world are naturally in the view of social media and all that “perfect” and seeing it in everything it’s brainwashing like I said when shopping for bikinis all the models are like “perfect” and it dosent make me think oh if I buy that I’ll look like that it just makes you feel crap knowing that you definitely won’t look like that 😅 and ahh I never thought of it that way Elven 🥰 maybe I’ll just start dressing like a fairy and throw myself fully into that style maybe it may help with the insecurities 😬😬 I’m not going to quit I’m going to just accept and one day hopefully i will feel the confidence I think also the confidence is a massive part of finally accepting if you have the confidence you can rock anything 🤞🤞 much love to you 💚💚💚
Exactly what they said ^^^ you sound waiflike and that’s absolutely enchanting. Learning how to dress and SEE yourself as unique makes it almost impossible to compare yourself because you know that every single person (including you!) is spectacular and incomparable in their own unrepeatable way. Sounds like you’re well on your way! I wish you luck and light on your journey! :)
Girl I’m 29 and having saggy boobs on a young looking body is absolutely horrible. Small perky breasts stay young and keep your overall appearance young. Large ones in general make you look matronly and top-heavy after 30 🤷🏻♀️ and they sag SO LOW.
@@catobrien837 🥰🥰 thank you I’m trying thats the first step and definitely need to work out my own style that works for me and yes every single person is in there own way I love all the bodys it’s strange isn’t it that you can admire everyone else but pick holes in yourself and find it hard to see what others see 💚💚
this is exactly what i needed right now. harmony's videos are so lovely because she really makes it feel like you're just having an uplifting conversation with a friend.
srsly this made me feel so much better :( i've been struggling with an ed for like 2-3 years and its so difficult to actually accept my body, but i'm trying and i think seeing this video or any content that talks about body positive really helps 💖 i'm so happy that now there's more ppl that talk about his personal experiences and can give some advice to others, this video helped a lot so thank u thank u thank uuu love you and your vibes 🥰💖
Wishing you peace and harmony~ Thankfully the ego has no place in 5D! But the soul, the energy, and uncondnditional love and kindness will be the beautiful new beauty of Earth's population. You're absolutely amazing and completely embody all of the latter! Blessings eternally 💫 Infinant love and light. Happy New Year 🌟 Namaste 🌬️💨💖🙏♾️
Harmony, make a video about aging, please. I don't like the way my face is changing and deforming and I cannot learn to accept it. It would be helpful to hear your point of view. Thank you 💙
I understand you with this. Society teaches us that women aren’t allowed to age & furthermore being older than a teenager is considered old by society for women.
I am normally not into youtubers, but once in a while one suprises me. You are a lightworker in your own way, and it is nice of you to do this. Thank you
Such a great message. Definitely one women in this world need to really learn. Our culture has really messed us up, especially women. Hopefully many people hear this and listen.
I just need to thank you, cause every time I watch one of your videos I just feel so happy and in a good place, thank you very much Harmony, you are a amazing person with a energy that all people can feel even so phisically distant
You've inspired me to wanting to be more accepting of my appearance and I've started working out which helps loads with being more pleased with my body! That negative thought/3 good thoughts exercise sounds wonderful and I'm excited to make a journal where I can note everything down to do with self acceptance. Thank you for being such a light and sharing your inspiring mind with us
this is so helpful. ive recently been feeling so disgusted about my body because of how much it has changed during quarantine and its been so hard to even look in the mirror :( thank you so much for this harmony ♡
Thank you so much for this. Your content really had a wonderful effect on my life during lockdown (and before, too) - that sounds like kind of a wild, big ol' statement but it's true. For all of its toxic downfalls, I'm so glad that social media and TH-cam exist as they provide a platform for people like you to reach out to people and share your love and wisdom. Blessed be, Harmony.
I have a weird relationship with my weight. I was always really skinny and this year I've gained weight because of antidepressants that made me enjoy food again. And on one hand I hate that I'm not as skinny as I was but on the other hand I finally stopped feeling cold all the time, which I've learned comes from being underweight. And now I don't like this extra weight and want to be super skinny again but man not feeling cold all the time is such a cool thing
I think these videos would work really well as positive podcasts as well! I don’t really have the time to sit down and watch these, but while in getting ready or going for walks, these are PERRRFECT 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽 love them so much
This was actually the perfect body pep talk for me. I definitely needed to hear this perspective, so thank you as always for taking the time to make this video :)
I found it important to realise that loving my own body isn't necessarily about feeling sexy or attractive - for me it was about realising and being grateful for all the non-sexual ways my body serves me. I love my body because it let's me dance, create, draw, sing, travel, see, hear, learn and experience. I think we put too much value on whether other people will find our body HOT and that ends up being damaging. Our bodies do WAY more for us than that.
I love this comment, thank you
I think this is also what I'm realising! I need to love myself how other people do, as a multifaceted person. There's a line in Chessie Kings book where she talks about the fact that no one will remember you for how symmetrical your boobs are or how tiny your waist is but for all of your personality
Yessss exactly!
This is so true and I’ve never really thought of it like that before. Thanks for sharing
This is beautiful and eye opening
Thank you!
Ladies I am 62 our bodies go through changes all our lives.
So true! 👏👏👏
Very true!
What’s crazy is that I think literally everyone is beautiful and I am able to appreciate their unique beautiful qualities, but not my own..
( I can now confidently say, 1 year from posting this comment, I’ve finally learned to love and appreciate myself as an individual. I find my body beautiful and I don’t see my “flaws” as flaws anymore; though it’s extremely hard, I hope everyone can do the same :)
I know! 😭 I find everyone’s beauty to be different and unique. I never look at things on others that I feel are imperfections on myself. Why are we so hard on ourselves?!
You know how when you say a word over and over again and it starts to sound weird? After years and years of living in the same body with the same face, I think we can start to get bored, or see it as weird or wrong (like the repeated word). I’m sending love to everyone as we’re all on this difficult and beautiful journey together.
I feel the same, when I hear other people talk about their insecurities, I feel like they are beautiful and the issue is with their mentality not their physicality. But I get this feeling sometimes like there is something objectively wrong with my body and like everyone else looks at me the way I look at myself. I think it just takes some time to reprogram these beliefs
what a thought provoking comment. I often have days where I feel so attractive and sensual...and then they're are days where i want to hide under rock. I feel that the ebbs and flows of these feelings are part of being and accepting our human form as women, men....just being in flow with our humanness. love to you.
Me too.
The fact that TH-cam’s algorithm gave me a dieting ad before this video really is mind blowing
me toooo....
So effed up. Nothing gets me more than when I want to watch a vegan food video and I get bloody kfc adds before...
I get offended by the ads too!!
this sucks and I'm so sorry, i wish we had some control over what ads could go on our videos :(
Happened to me too, by no means should you take that to heart love, your gorgeous 🖤
Other animals don’t worry about their body image. We find elephants, dolphins, butterflies, birds, etc to be beautiful. Yet we look at our diverse species and find flaws in our physical form. I wouldn’t tell a giraffe that it’s neck was too long. Why should I think poorly of cellulite and acne? Which is extremely common for 90+ percent of women.
I think about this a lot. Growing up our neighbour used to have two shar peis. I thought they were the most adorable things ever with their chubby face and rolls, and I've come to realize that I am allowed to feel the same way about *my* body and *my* backrolls and just exist without being shamed by society.
Furthermore we usually view chubby animals like cats dog bunnies etc to be extra cute so don’t worry about what you look like elephants still think we’re adorable
Exactly 💜🦋
It’s simple I see my hippie mom, I click.🥰🥰🥰
why did I read nipple mom
@@pprettyawesome SAME
@@pprettyawesome hahahahaah 😂😂 omg I see why you would see that lol
Something I’ve noticed is how many women apologize for the way they look. On tiktok or Instagram especially. These women will be telling stories or sharing knowledge and they start out ‘sorry for my hair, I just woke up,’ ‘sorry I look like a mess.’ Who told us we need to apologize for not looking our best? And who decided what ‘our best’ is? Why does looking our best mean having straight hair and concealer? It’s so sad when these gorgeous women apologize for looking the way they naturally look.
Preach !
Disclaimer for people with ED - I once watched an interview with a professional dietician, nutritionist and intuitive eating specialist. She was talking about how amazing intuitive eating is but advised AGAINST doing it yourself if you have or had an eating disorder. In fact, she advised to first treat the ED, and then shift towards intuitive eating. I hope I explain it well - EDs can disrupt our thought processes as to eating and our body image to the point it can be very hard for us to know if something is really "intuitive" for us. Intuitive eating can trigger some behaviors in e.g. binge eating disorder. So just keep that in mind everyone xx
I'm in recovery for anorexia and I honestly don't know what I expected but this actually made me really emotional in realising I'm not ready to start this process yet, and that that's okay. I've learnt some really toxic body ideals from online ED groups and in my mind my weight still dictates my worth. But, this has inspired me to work harder at my recovery so that one day I accept myself :)
Martha I wish you the best im glad your recovering im dealing with some problems of my own, but I know that we'll get through this together we have to stay strong for ourselves and the ones we love
You are doing so well, this kindness and patience towards yourself is what leads (in its own time!) to recovery. Don't be afraid to take your time xxx
You'll make it for sure! Congrats and I wish you well on your recovery!
@@gaz8148
I know how it feels. I was in recovery for anorexia too and it takes time.
And sometimes 'loving' your body is a lot to do, when you have treated your body like an enemy for so long (that is obviously my personal experience!).
What helped me personally was to accept the fact that I have an eating disorder and noticing when my mindset was shifting to a place where I wanted my weight to dictate my life. In those moments I knew that these thoughts are not really mine, rather more the thought of the disorder. This way I could detache myself from that toxic mindset.
I also learnt new, fun hobbies and experienced joy and confidence in different things than my weight scale for example. There are so many other things to be happy about than a number on a scale.
You will find out whats working best for you and you are so so worthy!
You got this. ♡♡
@@DanaM18129 I completely relate to treating my body as an enemy and it's very hard to break the mindset. Thank you for your support though people like you help me believe that recovery is possible even if it kind of feels like yelling at a brick wall for now.
I was also always the “skinny kid” and I didn’t realize how much that had become a part of my identity until I started gaining weight and no longer recognized my body. I’m trying to remind myself that I’m an adult now and that adults have differently shaped bodies than children and teens, but it’s hard
Same here
I actually find people who have more weight on their body to be more attractive and more sexy to me. I have also had an eating disorder most of my life. When I was super skinny most people didn't find me to be attractive. I received more phone numbers and interest when I gained weight. I think this is because I looked more healthy.
our fairy godmother has returned
Something that bothers me is how younger girls think the have to follow a certain style or follow a role model like seriously at the end of the day it's your body do as well but why follow after celebrities so you can thier style.I believe a person should be your own stylists.
I experienced the same thing with my body hair, I felt a lot more feminine with it grown out! I go back and forth between shaving and growing out the body hair that I have in different places, trying to find out what my own preference for it really is. The first time I let it grow out was the first time I truly felt like the woman I've grown up to be
Me too!
My obsession with wanting lip fillers was directly correlated with the HOURS I used to spend on my instagram explore page... ever since I've stopped myself looking at insta models I've been completely satisfied with my lips and the way my face looks in general. I know it's the most oversimplified example, but it's shocking how quick and easy it was for my attitude to change just by stopping myself from looking at these pictures of absolute strangers.
Personally, it always felt weird to me to shave down there. For me, it just reminded me of how I looked before puberty and gave me really weird vibes. Like, I'm a grown ass woman and my lady bits look like the way they did when I was ten? Ugh. It just didn't sit well with me so I stopped.
I needed this. Thank you.
And to all people who are reading the comments: no matter what’s your gender, skin color, nationality, sexuality, preferred pronouns, body shape...YOURE BEAUTIFUL, YOURE DIVINE, AND YOU DESERVE ALL THE LOVE IN THE WORLD, ESPECIALLY LOVE COMING FROM YOUR OWN SELF 🤎🤎🤎
I’m a few days late but that comment was so beautiful and something I really needed to here today ✨🦋
Thank you so much! I really needed this today 💞
This was a good video for me to see. I am a “recovered” ED sufferer but recently I’ve had very intrusive thoughts. I will look for vintage clothes on eBay etc and see the measurements would never work....it’s damaging. I always thought I needed to look different regardless of whether I was skinny or more midsized. The thing is, I think every body is beautiful, I love plus and straight sized people, I love pear shaped bodies and straight figures bodies and I extend the same love and appreciation of form to all genders. The only person I don’t extend that love and acceptance to is myself and that’s what I’m working on now.
i also recommend the beauty myth by naomi wolf as it speaks about how these beauty standards are ingrained into us so that we continue to spend more money on beauty products, plastic surgery etc
One thing that really helped me was to imagine me as a small child or my future child stood in front of me. All the horrible things I think about myself, would I say those things to her... NO it would be sick and horrible and I'd never want to hurt them like that.
This is beautiful, our bodies go through so much. They are the vehicle that allows us to experience life. They go through constant changes from day-to-day, year-to-year, and so will our relationship to it. This is a lifelong journey
This is awesome. I am 5 months postpartum and am the heaviest I've ever been, which has been a bit of mind mess. I've always been chubby, but I've gained a lot of weight recently since becoming less active physically. A couple of weeks ago, I was walking down the street in a dress on a windy day and was petrified that I'd flash a thigh. This want a new feeling; I've always been self conscious of my legs and have the mindset of not wanting to inflict my fatter parts on others. As I was walking, I all of a sudden realised that nobody cares. Nobody was looking at me. Nobody was grimacing at me. Nobody was whispering or laughing as i walked by. Literally nobody cared and it felt great. I had the epiphany that I'm not some hideous monster just because i have a flabby tummy and wobbly legs, and i was the only person thinking this about myself. After this, i went to to beach with my family for the first time in 20 years and wore bathers and swam in the ocean. It was so liberating. I'm going to swim a few times a week because it makes me happy and to keep myself healthy, and it's ironic that it took me being at my heaviest to do exercise that makes me feel the most vulnerable.
nobody cares and get this: those people that you’re scared of judging you are probably just as scared of YOU judging THEM! point being is that no one cares and they are more worried abt how they look themselves. and if they really wanna judge someone then that’s their own personal issue, not something that they perceive is “wrong” with you
I once was told to think about the person I loved most and to list the top 3 things I loved about them. Then I was told to ask myself whether even one of those things had something to do with the person's body.
Being bullied in school for being fat has totally ruined my self image and even when I lost a bunch of weight I still thought I was too fat. Trying my best to take care of myself but its still tough because I still feel like people are judging me for my weight. okay rant over sorryyy have a nice day y'all
people are always going to judge because of the DISGUSTING beauty standards that are infused in our belief systems. it makes me so mad that people have the audacity to comment on another person's appearance without considering the traumatizing effects they can have on that person throughout their life. know that you are loved and that you are BEAUTIFUL!!
im so sorry that someone did that you. i believe with all of my heart that you will overcame all of that and love the incredible being that you are with so muuuch potential. have a nice day !!
Your amazing love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I've slipped back into diet culture the last few weeks telling myself I'm just going to get healthy, but I'm already healthy. You just checked me. Thank you harmony. I worked so hard over the last year to learn to love myself. Self acceptance is definitely a journey. I just deleted all of my social media's and fitness apps again. Back to square one.
about 18 months ago i refused to bleach or dye my hair anymore. i stopped wearing make up and a bra , i wanted to be me , to be authentic, i wanna love myself for me ...just for me.
This is so random but I have a friend who watches this channel and was thinking what if she sees this comment lmao shout out to Daisy ly xxxx
Why am I suddenly invested in her seeing your comment haha
Heyy Daisy!!
hey Daisy!!
Hi Daisy!!!!!
@@robynboyleart8889 srsly same. Daisy, notice @Arabella!
I started crying when I read the comments and so many people feel the same as me, I really just want everyone to be happy and healthy and confident and loving to themselves. I wish I could give everyone a big hug and tell them to f society, but I can barely tell that myself. Thanks harmony for making videos like that.
This reminds me of what Jameela Jamil speaks a lot about which is self acceptance over self love. I 100% agree that acceptance helps get you to the end goal which is self love. And it's a good fall back on the days you don't love your face or your body. Rewiring your mind to accept your body also helps you accept change in life. You learn to accept your wrinkles and stretch marks and weight gain or loss or sagging etc. I'm learning to see the body as a vessel for my soul. And it helps me move throughout life which I am grateful for.
Also, I hope we get an apartment tour! It looks gorgeous. I'm actually moving next week so anyone reading this, please send prayers and good energy this way!
Peace and blessings. ❤️
Ive been thinking a lot recently about how social media has changed my body image. it was crap to begin with, what with the state of beauty standards and magazines in the early 2000s, but im really worried about kids who are growing up in this world with social media being SO appearance based and becoming more and more integral to modern socializing...its frightening to think about what kinds of message thats sending to kids now.
Its not that ~just seeing a few very thin models on the covers of magazines~ gave me an eating disorder, there was more to it than that, but just thinking about how much more deeply body fixation has been ingrained into our culture since i was seeing thin models on magazines and criticizing myself.
I’ve also struggled a lot with loving my body and I recommend the book Body Kindness by Rebecca Scritchfield! It’s a book all about changing your relationship to your body and food and exercise and everything relating to body image. It really helped me!
This book really helped me as well. Hope you're doing well.
I just need to express that you seem so much happier and relaxed in your last videos, it feels like you’ve became more rooted in yourself, so happy for you
The Fuck It Diet is a good book as well
I also recommend "beauty sick - how the cultural obsession with appearance hurts girls and women" by renee engeln and "women don't owe you pretty" by florence given, it really helped me a lot!
accepting my body is especially hard for me currently, because i'm stuck in a toxic household, where a lot of my family members bodyshame me ad other things. but this video made me feel really good, the things Harmony says always makes me feel nice :)
Living in a toxic household can be a deal breaker for an eating disorder. I weighed 80 pounds when I lived with my toxic family. My narcissistic mom was constantly fixated on my weight. I tried everything to recover from my ED. I was in therapy, on meds, I saw a nutritionist. What helped me the most was moving out of the environment. I fell in love with food when I moved out. I didn't have to work or try gaining weight. It just happened naturally. I hope that you are able to change your living situation ❤️
@@laurelgrasso2897 im so happy everything worked out for you!!😍 I also moved since commenting this and i can say i fell in love, not just with the most amazing guy ever but also with myself and life itself. 🥰🥰
I love that journal idea! Over the past two years I lost a ton of weight not by choice and I realized “oh I won’t be happier if I’m skinnier. I’ll be happier if I’m HEALTHIER” I gained the weight back and now am trying to get back to a healthy diet that has nothing to do with losing weight. I also realized that every single day I would think negative thoughts about my body. One day I was just like NO MORE. Every time I had one of those thoughts I would think it, then think, “I would never say this to someone else that’s not very nice.” After a while I started replacing the negative thoughts with things that I did like and now I have a passing negative thought but it doesn’t take over my life. If you had told me 3 years ago I wouldn’t think about my body and how it looked every day I would have thought you were crazy. Good look for anyone starting down this journey! It’s hard but it’s so worth it.
are you still doing enchanted endeavors? i love that series and just wondering if you're still doing it.
Yess I love her witchy content
Yes I wanna know too
Omg me too
She said once
That if she stoped she would tell us
I think she just rarely does them now
@@danielac2285 oh ok, thanks for telling me! hopefully she makes some more soon.
I have a chronic illness so it's hard for me. I try to love my body because even in illness it's my home and it's functional (I'm very lucky and I count my blessings!) but it's hard :/ Some days it feels like an enemy.
Okay I am not the only one who feel more feminine with body hair !
This video came just in time I was falling into bad eating habits again, thank you Harmony
Self love is the Key to healing everything about yourself 💜 To not care about what others think of you, is also, true freedom 💖
I agree!
as a fat person the most helpful thing for me has been getting into the mindset that loving my body is an act of resistance in a world that thinks people with bodies like mine are not worthy of love, or admiration, or basic respect.
Great video! I think even the most realists of us forget about what you mentioned that "no matter how you look, it won't make people love you more". True love is true love. I think its a healthier place when you feel bettering yourself physically for someone you love, or for yourself, just because you want to.
This couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. Love you lots, Harmony. 💗
I was just thinking of watching a video of yours as the motivation came up
I love the wholesome comment sections under harmony's videos, everybody's always so nice
i have spent so long trying to like how my body looks but how it looks doesn’t matter. it does so many amazing things. it lets me smile and see and live my life. that is so amazing :)
day by day, i feel myself coming more and more to terms with my body. after gaining weight, accepting my new body is hard - it still is. even my face, although it really hasn't changed much. wanting to always make myself desirable to others, a constant necessity at the back of my head. i hope to one day come back to this comment and be able to confidently say - i am happy with who i am:)
honestly if you did a podcast I would listen the heck out of it
She's legit my therapist, cause I don't have one. She's my go to for help. Thank you for your videos. You inspire me.
Thank you so much for this, unfortunately as I've decided to take care of my body more by doing workouts during quarantine and involving myself in the health and fitness side of TH-cam, I've been exposed to so many attitudes of improving your body only for physical results. This viewpoint has integrated itself into my brain and has made me more self conscious about myself than I've ever been before. Its very hard to balance out the attitudes thrown on me everyday with statements like "this will give you a six pack/summer body etc..." with my own belief of doing it only for my health. I've realised that even just exposure to such ideas affects you. Its very upsetting that this has come as a result of my trying to improve myself but here we are. Videos like yours are helping me stay grounded to my core beliefs and making me feel more like my old self who didn't give shit about this stuff. Thank you so much for what you're doing, its helping everyone so much more than you know
One thing that's helped a lot is yoga with adrienne- she focuses on how you feel versus how you look and it helps me view exercise as something good for my body rather something to change or another way to hate my body
I highly recommend checking out Christy Harrison's podcast Food Psych xxx
@@abbyneffphotography6936 I love yoga with adrienne! shes another person who is starting to help me feel better about myself again.
@@mosaic2476 thank you so much for the reccomendation!
Everyone should be watching this 🙏🏻 Thank you so much Harmony for reminding us to focus on what truly matters 🌸
I’m so happy you came out with something like this 😌I have been struggling with this for a long time! I love you ❤️
Love the quote she said at 9 minutes: "People don't owe you a perfect body". Which also in turn means that you don't own them a perfect body. I've been thinking a lot about self-imposed guilt recently and that struck a cord. You feel guilty when you don't work out even if you have had a horrible day. I feel guilty about having that extra snack when I know I reached my calorie count. Even if my body says I'm hungry. I've been really focusing on that self-imposed guilt factor recently and trying to fight it.
your hair is getting sooooo long and you're so beautiful, mind, body, and soul ✨😌
This is the sort of mature, grounded approach to body care and perception that we need more of. I think it is rly unhealthy how so many of us alternatively fetishise and catastrophise some of the most basic and integral aspects of ourselves. Be well, take care of yourselves 💙💜
Loving the sober, fresh, grounded, morning, clarity vibes this videos gives off:)
Since we're on the topic of appearance, will you do a hair/spiritual journey update one day? love from Porto
My best friend and I are saying one thing that we like about ourselves every single day for a year, and so far it’s been SO enlightening on how we think about ourselves. Some days it’s impossible to think of one good thing about yourself. It’s been really positive and then at the end of the year you have a long list of things you like about yourself. You definitely have to start getting creative, like liking your feet because they take you to places in your life. I really really recommend it 😊😊❤️
This is my first time here and I must say that she's got an amazing voice. Wow. No wonder she makes her videos so long.
I recently got a breast reduction because I was really unhappy with that part of myself and it also caused me a lot of pain. I had lots of conflicting feelings about how much I preach body neutrality and body acceptance but I was undergoing surgery to change a part of myself. The way I justified it was just knowing that I had tried for so long to accept this part of myself but I was still unhappy. I knew I definitely wanted it and it wasn't a passing phase when I realized I thought about it every day. For example, there were somedays where I didn't hate my stomach or my legs, somedays I just didn't think about it, but I was insecure about my breasts every single day. I am only 2 weeks post-op but I already love my body so so so much more and I'm so happy with myself and my back pain is gone. I used to think all the work I was putting in to accept myself wasn't doing anything but I can see now how much it really has helped me and changed me. Overall, I'm so much happier with myself and it's okay that I needed to change myself for that to happen and I'm proud of myself for being able to overcome so many anxieties and fears and get the procedure done.
This is such an important video. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Harmony. I’ve been treating my body horribly for years and your words, “food is like medicine for the body,” inspired me to really start trying to have a healthy relationship with food and my body. Thank you 💞✨
I love so much the way you explain it, it's really difficult to accept yourself after being bullied for years but I'll keep trying everyday.
"I don't owe anyone having a perfect body"
Love this!
I just wanted to say: so have been subscribed for many years now and I just really love your videos. They always put me in a great mood☺️🌻✨
I wish you only the best✨
As an 18-year-old male who has been diagnosed recently with severe anorexia, thank you for this video! You are truly inspirational
very very helpful video, it just lifted my mood up so much! i haven't really heard yet anyone talking about body in such a healthy, happy and relaxed way. It honestly helped me, thank you Harmony! :))
This could NOT have come at a better time, thank you!! 💖🔮
Thank you for this video. I have chronic illness and I am trying to love myself more and accept my body with limitations.. this video gave me some inspiration definitely x
This is a beautiful video ❤ I'm currently on a journey of self acceptance not wearing makeup and letting my body hair grow, it has helped me massively. Acceptance with my body itself is taking alot longer as the issues are alot deeper rooted from childhood but I'm hoping with time and positivity I will get to a point where I accept myself for who I am and not wanting to see someone else when I look in the mirror. Your videos have inspired me to keep on a positive track, they are so uplifting and kind, thankyou for sharing your beautiful journey 💚
less than 4 minutes in and i’m already crying haha
love you and your kindness💞💞
There were so many wise things said here, I wish our societies start to think this way too. My favourite part is when you said that you promote acceptance rather than 100% self love as it is more realistic and that id SO true. This is exactly how a human brain works too, in steps and stages. Thank you for this.
Thank you for this video, Harmony! (Also, thanks youtube algorithm which brought me here.) I am currently suffering severe depression which involves a lot of self-hatred and comparing myself to others. My experience showed me exactly what you are saying: It is super important what and who you surround yourself with. You will definitely be someone who's videos I will start watching regularly to remind myself not to fall back into the negative feedback loop of doom.
Also, you are so beautiful! This is a wonderful reminder that other people will have a totally different view on us than we do, anyways. If I had seen you somewhere on the streets I would never have thought that you were struggling with body image in your past. We always critisize ourselves so much harder than we would anyone else. We look so closely at tiny "flaws" that noone else would even notice. Thank you so much for putting out this positivity and love! You are radiant like a star! 🌟
I absolutely HATE diet culture. it's one of the reasons (there are many others) I've been battling with an ongoing eating disorder for over 16 years. It all started with the slim fast diet. I also think that when things are chaotic around me, my appearance is the easiest thing I can control. Everyone and their bodies are unique and should be celebrated (I almost never take my own advice). Beauty resonates from someone from within not the other way around. I was never taught how to love my body when I was younger and I think that's lacking these days. I'm absolutely loving stalking your channel and binge watching your videos. You're so insightful and wise.
Also, your hair is getting so long now! I started growing mine around the same time and it’s weirdly fulfilling. (I used to change it almost weekly because I was never happy with it).
I love that when I found your channel it was because of your witchcraft content but I seem to be growing similarly to you if I were to judge just based on your TH-cam content. I also rely on your videos to get me through storms 😂 I am still very anxious during strong bad weather so I put headphones in. 🤷🏼♂️ It is soothing.
I really enjoy your new content as well as I do not have many real life friends who find it worthwhile to explore or talk about these topics. I've come to view the world and my place in it quite differently and it has been so helpful and I really like to share when I see people struggling with someone that I used to. I try to find a nice balance because I know constantly suggesting things that I did to help myself would be annoying. On the same note listening to people complain about the same issues without making effort to change is a touch annoying to me. It is nice to have a place to go like this channel.
Definitely needed this right now. So much going on and it’s hard to stay positive about myself and my body, but it’s so important to be reminded and learn how to. I also have always been very skinny but recently gained a lot of weight and haven’t learned how to really accept and love it like this. Thank you for uploading content like this ❤️
For me, I’ve always felt like I’m not supposed to think my body is cute or love it. I’m fat and while there are people like Lizzo who really embraces her body and can be very inspiring there are moments where it’s like “No, you’re not supposed to love your body, you’re supposed to hate your body then go hard on exercise and healthy eating.”
I relate to this but with acne. I try to cut that thought quickly and realize that it's just the media putting us down to get money. We are worthy right now. Not once we fit the mold. Do things that make you feel beautiful, look at yourself in a beautiful light. You'll see your true self and not care about the pressures everyone tells you
I think the mindset is supposed to be more so about loving your body enough to want to take care of it via things such as healthy eating and exercise.
I’m not fat, so I can only share this from that perspective, but I recently read a book that directly tackled that exact voice you’ve shared in your comment. It’s called What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat, by a self-identified fat author. It opened my eyes to how that “hate your body for motivation to fix it” mentality is totally damaging, and even leads to unhealthy behaviors people might not have had otherwise. It talks a lot about fat discrimination, too, so it may be a tough read, but it had a big impact on how I think about bodies in society and the damage that people, particularly women, are expected to endure to make ourselves consumable for public viewing.
Also remembering that health isn't this ideal that everyone can achieve. It doesn't matter what I eat, how I exercise, I am disabled, I am unwell. And I'm still working on accepting that because I got sick relatively young and I've always tried to "push through" to try and fix myself. And that's not how it works.
So health for me will always be relative xD what is healthy for one person is going to be different for others and that's ok. And I want to stop hating my body for "letting me down" (unhealthy intrusive thoughts I have often lead back to this thought)
I needed this. I had my 3rd child two and a half years ago and have been struggling with accepting my body and particularly my stomach. I am still carrying some of the pregnancy weight and I find it hard find clothes I like as I’m always judging how my stomach looks. This reminded me that instead of disliking my stomach I should be thanking it for growing my three beautiful children and learn to accept that my body has changed and it is normal. Thank you for helping me find a more positive perspective.
I recently recovered from body dysmorphic disorder after suffering from it terribly for 2 years, and it is such a beautiful feeling to look in the mirror and not be horrified. Thanks for the video! I will be sure to incorporate more of these things into my healing journey
I think it’s very coincidental that i’ve been accepting myself and loving who i am, rather than putting effort into other people more than i have myself. For you to post this video made me very happy
This video just came in divine timing.
I had such bad body image day yesterday.. This video really helped me lift my mood again and see that I'm on the right path.
Thank you, especialy since the lockdown i've been trapped with my body. Or so it feels anyway. And everyday feels like a fight against my negative believes towards it. This video helped a lot, like I know these things. But my negative thoughts are louder and I seem to forget everything good and usefull.
Oh Harmony, I loooove this! I'm really working to find a balance with my body as well. I've been telling myself that as long as I get my fruits and vegetables in and go on my morning walk each day, that's enough. I don't need to count calories, or weigh myself, or cut out certain foods. Our weight/body size has no correlation with our intrinsic value as human beings. It's so messed up how society has destroyed our perception and made us believe otherwise. Thank you for these videos
The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor is a must read!
I really needed this video right now so “Apparently” I’m quite blessed to be a size 6 I’m 5,2 so for me it’s just about right for my size health wise I’m fine and I try to be healthy as possible but mostly it’s just good genes all my family are like it I can’t help it I can’t gain weight anyway .. but I have a holiday in July 🤞 but iv always been completely embarrassed and ashamed of my chest I’m a 34aa so .. flat nothing there there non existent 🥺😂 and iv been like this for years I’m 28 and I know since I was 15 I was getting a breast enlargement but there expensive and I haven’t been able to afford it so haven’t yet so back to going away I’m going with my partner and all his family and it dawned on me .. I have to wear a bikini or swimsuit and this is something i have gone out of my way to avoid since I was a teenager but I can’t really get away with it on a family holiday his family on the female side are larger and have what I wish I had so since I was a teen iv been wearing push up bras padded bras when I was younger stuffing bras the only person who has ever seen my “real” chest is my partner and it terrified me he says I shouldn’t get a boob job there perfect but I’m not doing it for other people I don’t feel like a woman I feel like a boy so many people tell me I’m so lucky I’m like kera knightly it’s great but for me that’s not a complement it’s feeling constantly like I can’t wear this I can’t wear that no backless because that means no bra no swimming that means wearing a bikini and those push up bikinis are dangerous they don’t work they fill up with water and fall off or sag down and flap open it’s not a look 😂 anyway so recently iv been following a lot of the girls on TH-cam that have the same body type as me and there promoting body positivity and how to love your body and get some confidence so the other day I wore a normal bra no padding ect and a black semi sheer shirt and .... I cried ... twice😂 but I didn’t take it off or change I stayed in it all day and continuing to watch the girls being so happy in their bodys and just rocking the itty bitty tittys I haven’t actually worn a bra for 2 days not with anything showing but with jumpers and baggy tops and guess what no one has pointed and laughed at me for one and I’m just getting used to it I’m not there yet I still cry I still feel like a boy in most things but I’m working on it and trying not to look at social media too much buying bikinis was kinda torturous 🤣 but I’ll get there so if anyone is feeling the same I know girl 😅 it sucks and it takes time but sometimes you just gotta jump in the deep and and hope for the best sorry that was longggg but wanted to put it out there much love to all the beautiful bodys out there 💚💚💚
People seem to want and admire what they don't have. I bet ppl look at you with the same admiration you look at others. As a woman with an average chest size, I do not think women with smaller boobs look like boys or less womanly. I have always seen an ethereal, elven, elegant beauty about that frame. I know you have heard that before and it is hard to see it yourself. Bottom line- We can't have it all, but we CAN love and accept what unique beauties we do possess. Good for you for trying to love yourself more, beautiful ❤️
@@stringquarkette1916 thank you for the reply 😊 and yes your completely right grass is always greener I know it’s the media and corporations brands ect that has made us feel this way like you have to be slim but not too slim but you also have to have boobs but not saggy you have to have nice legs and a round butt but no blemishes or wobbles 🙄🙄 it’s an impossible standard only a small amount of people in the world are naturally in the view of social media and all that “perfect” and seeing it in everything it’s brainwashing like I said when shopping for bikinis all the models are like “perfect” and it dosent make me think oh if I buy that I’ll look like that it just makes you feel crap knowing that you definitely won’t look like that 😅 and ahh I never thought of it that way Elven 🥰 maybe I’ll just start dressing like a fairy and throw myself fully into that style maybe it may help with the insecurities 😬😬 I’m not going to quit I’m going to just accept and one day hopefully i will feel the confidence I think also the confidence is a massive part of finally accepting if you have the confidence you can rock anything 🤞🤞 much love to you 💚💚💚
Exactly what they said ^^^ you sound waiflike and that’s absolutely enchanting. Learning how to dress and SEE yourself as unique makes it almost impossible to compare yourself because you know that every single person (including you!) is spectacular and incomparable in their own unrepeatable way.
Sounds like you’re well on your way! I wish you luck and light on your journey! :)
Girl I’m 29 and having saggy boobs on a young looking body is absolutely horrible. Small perky breasts stay young and keep your overall appearance young. Large ones in general make you look matronly and top-heavy after 30 🤷🏻♀️ and they sag SO LOW.
@@catobrien837 🥰🥰 thank you I’m trying thats the first step and definitely need to work out my own style that works for me and yes every single person is in there own way I love all the bodys it’s strange isn’t it that you can admire everyone else but pick holes in yourself and find it hard to see what others see 💚💚
The light in this video is really really beautiful. 🌞
this is exactly what i needed right now. harmony's videos are so lovely because she really makes it feel like you're just having an uplifting conversation with a friend.
srsly this made me feel so much better :( i've been struggling with an ed for like 2-3 years and its so difficult to actually accept my body, but i'm trying and i think seeing this video or any content that talks about body positive really helps 💖 i'm so happy that now there's more ppl that talk about his personal experiences and can give some advice to others, this video helped a lot so thank u thank u thank uuu love you and your vibes 🥰💖
Wishing you peace and harmony~
Thankfully the ego has no place in 5D!
But the soul, the energy, and uncondnditional love and kindness will be the beautiful new beauty of Earth's population.
You're absolutely amazing and completely embody all of the latter!
Blessings eternally 💫
Infinant love and light.
Happy New Year 🌟
Namaste 🌬️💨💖🙏♾️
i always hate my body but im trying to stop doing so
Harmony, make a video about aging, please. I don't like the way my face is changing and deforming and I cannot learn to accept it. It would be helpful to hear your point of view.
Thank you 💙
I understand you with this. Society teaches us that women aren’t allowed to age & furthermore being older than a teenager is considered old by society for women.
I am normally not into youtubers, but once in a while one suprises me. You are a lightworker in your own way, and it is nice of you to do this. Thank you
Such a great message. Definitely one women in this world need to really learn. Our culture has really messed us up, especially women. Hopefully many people hear this and listen.
I just need to thank you, cause every time I watch one of your videos I just feel so happy and in a good place, thank you very much Harmony, you are a amazing person with a energy that all people can feel even so phisically distant
You've inspired me to wanting to be more accepting of my appearance and I've started working out which helps loads with being more pleased with my body! That negative thought/3 good thoughts exercise sounds wonderful and I'm excited to make a journal where I can note everything down to do with self acceptance. Thank you for being such a light and sharing your inspiring mind with us
this is so helpful. ive recently been feeling so disgusted about my body because of how much it has changed during quarantine and its been so hard to even look in the mirror :( thank you so much for this harmony ♡
Thank you so much for this. Your content really had a wonderful effect on my life during lockdown (and before, too) - that sounds like kind of a wild, big ol' statement but it's true. For all of its toxic downfalls, I'm so glad that social media and TH-cam exist as they provide a platform for people like you to reach out to people and share your love and wisdom. Blessed be, Harmony.
I have a weird relationship with my weight. I was always really skinny and this year I've gained weight because of antidepressants that made me enjoy food again. And on one hand I hate that I'm not as skinny as I was but on the other hand I finally stopped feeling cold all the time, which I've learned comes from being underweight. And now I don't like this extra weight and want to be super skinny again but man not feeling cold all the time is such a cool thing
I think these videos would work really well as positive podcasts as well! I don’t really have the time to sit down and watch these, but while in getting ready or going for walks, these are PERRRFECT 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽 love them so much
This was actually the perfect body pep talk for me. I definitely needed to hear this perspective, so thank you as always for taking the time to make this video :)