Pain & Perspective | Imp And Skizz Podcast (Ep90)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 เม.ย. 2024
- In this episode of the Imp And Skizz podcast, Skizz goes into some more detail about his daughter's injury and how it relates to the quest for perspective.
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Skizz I know you won't see this, but imagine if you weren't there when you daughter got injured. What a blessing that she didn't have to wait for her family to be there to comfort and support her.
Absolutely. It may not be the game that he wanted to be at but it's the one he needed to be at. Speaking on the luck thing, Skizz and his daughter are both incredibly lucky/blessed to have such a beautiful father-daughter relationship.
100%
My thoughts exactly
He WON'T see this? You sure? =^.^=
Agree with all of you guys
For a little perspective on the off topic parts of the chat: Skizz, besides all the other things you bring to Hermitcraft, do not underestimate the value of your building skills. Yes it is far from the standards of the many "master builders" on the server, but your builds are still good, and they are at a level attainable to those of us who gets disillusioned when looking at the many incomprehensibly beautiful builds on the server. In other words you give the fans who have not spend the last 10 years becoming good builders a fair chance to build alongside you in our own worlds, and grow in skill with you.
This!!! This is soooo important!
Also want to point out that just because the pyramid may not look as flashy on the outside if compared to some of the other things on the server - that does not diminish the absolute brilliance, creativity, and forethought that Skizz has been putting into this! This base is going to be one of the most thought provoking and imo challenging of anything else I’ve seen on the server so far this season. Like he’s said - it will be an experience more than it is a build and that is so much of what inspired me to start playing Minecraft on my own this year. Yes - I want to build something that looks cool but if you can add an interesting experience to that - totally skyrockets the value to me
if he allows it he can take it as an opportunity to be the audience stand in. Learn from them and be able to ask questions in the moments that we can't.
I second this motion!
54:06 speaking about Joel, you should totally invite him to a podcast. He said in his Q&A video he would like to be in an imp and skizz podcast!
Watching your child severely injured is a trauma Skizz. It’s ok it took you a while to get over the intrusive image and sadness. Thank you for sharing your process to help others.
I was going to say something like this. ❤
Can I please just say one more time how much I appreciate your guys honest vulnerability on these podcasts. It is so important that young men (as a mother of two sons who are huge hermit fans) have such a great example of emotional maturity. Life is hard in ways that will literally take the air out of your lungs even when things in all other aspects of our life are good and privileged. You guys just are the best role models and I appreciate you both for doing these so beautifully and openly. Thank you.
I think about this so often as a guy in his 20s - how much my peers could benefit from consuming content from people like Skizz & Impulse!
Skizz is in hermitcraft because he is an amazing human being. Don't feel pressure to have to be present all the time. It is more important that you are present when you are there.
We love you, Skizz!
When I lost my husband, every day was doomsday. Every day was black. Every day was heavier than the weight of the world. Grief is the most powerful, awful feeling in the world. It’s so hard to see or feel anything else when you’re in its throes. Perspective is a freaking GIFT when dealing with grief. It allows you to see where you were and how far you’ve come in your healing.
I’m sorry for your loss. I went through this with my parents about a year ago when we lost my Dad suddenly. It was hard to watch her in so much pain. I hope you find some peace. ❤
Hey Impulse and Skizz! I've never really been a podcast kind of guy, but I watched the episodes with X and Mumbo and have been hooked since. Since I saw those episodes a three ago I've been hooked and have gotten to episode 56 (plus new ones as they come out and a couple extra because I really wanted to listen to all of the episodes with the other Hermits, as I am a huge fan of Hermitcraft).
I just wanted to say thank you, as discovering this podcast came at a perfect time for me. About 5 weeks ago I was in a really bad place again, and I knew I needed to make some changes. I decided to quit my long time habit of extremely heavy cannabis and inappropriate content use, and started going back to therapy. The first two weeks were tough and I was about to throw in the towel, but after seeing the X and Mumbo episodes I decided to watch more, and the next auto play episodes were the "What's stopping you" and the "Resilience" episodes. Those episodes really stuck with me and gave me the strength and advice I needed to push through it and begin to do some other things I have wanted to do with my life but have just felt too busy to do.
Since then I have also seen the "Habits" and "The power of goals" (along with many other episodes), and your stories of hard times, hard work, persistence, and strength have stuck with me a lot, and have given me the strength to push forward.
I have recently also given myself a goal to view life through a more positive lens, as I am a very pessimistic person. I have also set the goal to workout every day as well, as while I am not out of shape and am fairly active, I have never actively worked out a day in my life, and since I'm moving into my mid twenties, I know that it will probably be a problem soon if I don't do something about it now.
I wanted to say thank you for the podcast and keep up the good work and the hard work. Thank you for your vulnerability, honesty, and bravery to share your wisdom and experience on this podcast. Despite what you guys sometimes say or maybe think, you are full of important insight and you are definitely qualified to give the advice you give and it is changing lives for the better. I appreciate it in ways that I cannot even begin to put into words.
Sorry for the long post, I just wanted to let you know how great you guys and this podcast are.
Thank you for the advice, strength, and inspiration, and the mountain of joy and laughs that have come along with it.
P.s I would absolutely love to see you guys go ghost hunting and do some real life phasmo. Please, I would give anything 😂. I've got a ton of pretty much unused ghost hunting equipment I bought and haven't gotten around to using because of my job and time constraints. I would be happy to ship it over and let you borrow it if that's what it takes lol
Just wanted to add a word of encouragement. It's great that you're setting goals and looking ahead to creating the life you want to live! Therapy is very helpful. If you don't feel like you're hitting it off with your therapist, don't give up - Find a different therapist. I say that from experience. They're humans, too, and come with their own habits and biases, so some will work well for you and some won't. You're their customer, so you can fire them and hire a new one. The right one can provide small insights that resonate so you can take action, using them as inspiration. And, two important words of advice: When you have a victory, even a small one, literally congratulate yourself! Say it out loud, treat yourself to something (healthy) that you enjoy. It helps the brain retrain itself to appreciate these small achievements. And if you hit a rough patch and backslide, remind yourself that it's not the end. Healing isn't a straight line, it curls around, loops, makes all sorts of shapes. Be gentle on yourself and just start moving forward again. You got this!
When I was diagnosed with a tumor in my tibia last year, I listened to the resilience podcast on repeat. All through the exams and MRIs and even up until I got taken into surgery. It got me through the stay in the hospital, struggling to get back to walking with a fully numb leg, going to physical therapy and how humiliating it was to learn how to do basic human things again. Now my tumor is back and much worse. This surgery is going to be intense, and I'll end up with a knee replacement and a prothetic implant to replace the bone that is causing this whole issue. But even with the bad news, "Nothing is more impressive than getting kicked in the teeth, and you don't even flinch." Was in my head. I let myself cry when I need to, but no wallowing. We have a plan. We are getting things done that need to be done, and I'll kick this stupid tumor in the teeth and see how it feels. And now I have this new podcast to help me get through this surgery in a month. Thank you, Impulse. Thank you, Skizz.
Joe is on the Hermitcraft server. He hardly even builds anything. He's there because he's Joe.
We needed Skizz on the server for the fun!
We did not watch all the Naked & Scared only because of the adventure ... we watched for the fun, stories, ideas, ...
I think this was one of the things circuiting among the fandom before season 10, when we hoped that Skizz would be invited in, and the argument was always: there's three categories of hermits: the builders, the redstoners, and the team players.
the builders (Scar, Pearl, etc) make the big builds that everyone cites whenever you think about hermitcraft.
the redstoners (Doc, Tango, etc) create feats nobody can even imagine possible within minecraft.
and the team builders (Joe most notably) make sure the vibe fits right. And help where help need be.
To me, Skizz fits firmly into the latter. His presence alone brings so much joy to me.
And of course, there's overlap within the categories. (Mumbo for example was known for redstone, but it seems to be his season project to build really well and it's amazing.) (and of course redstoners can build and builders can learn redstone and the teamplayers can do both of these or learn it as well, and the others are also collabing and joining on projects)
but I feel like, without the teamplayers as a little bit of glue... Everything would run a lot harder.
just looking back at Doc's mural project, where Joe shoveled immense amounts of sand, causing him to be slower on his own project. This mural would have never gone as well as it did without Joe.
And I can see streaks of that within Skizz as well. He compliments others easily, brings a fun energy in that you can't help but laugh with, and his willingness to ask for feedback is an amazing thing. He belongs. And he brings the fun. And it makes me happy to catch a video of his cause I know it will be filled with adventure and joy and sometimes mistakes that will cause Tango to pop up and go "not like this skizz". The idea of the blooper reel as well at the end is a fun thing for those among us who couldn't catch a stream. I- I just feel like he brings a wonderful energy to the server. And among a group, where people are specialised on one field or the other, the driftwood ends up lodging itself into a bridge, and being central to the whole thing as well. (metaphor got away from me, hups).
Idk. I just feel like, while it's of course important to be humble, sometimes our humility keeps us from seeing how important we actually are.
@@nikk-named this is very well said. i don't have anything useful to add but i felt like just liking your comment wasn't enough. i always feel like i'm learning to be a better person just by watching silly minecraft videos by joe or skizz
@@nikk-named holy crap that's is a solid gold comment
My kid was on a neighborhood swim team. We were going to the doctor because of ‘growing pains’ that I thought were more than that. A month after being diagnosed with EDS, kid dislocated their shoulder doing a casual freestyle warmup. Had to drop out of Marching band too. I’m not sure how much longer it’ll be before they are using mobility aids. It’s hard for something to be wrong with your kid.
Y’all are so great at discussing these things. And it helps that Hermitcraft is Hermitcraft and is amazing. People like Scar show how big your world can be, even when you’re in a physically small boundary.
This is well timed. My mom is newly diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. This diagnosis came 3 weeks after my baby boy was born (her first grandchild). It’s extremely hard right now to find perspective and not just be angry/sad all the time. I will definitely try to keep this in mind. Thank you both for your thoughts and this discussion.
i’m so sorry that this is happening, but i’m so happy that you had your first baby. huge congrats!
remember that the time you spend with your mother is worth everything. in health and sickness all we can do is be there for each other and we will have those memories forever. stay strong
Big hug to you and your family x
I'm so sorry for you. Remember that love is the most important thing, not only for your son and your mother, but for yourself too. Don't forget to love yourself. I wish you all the best
Skizz, I don't watch your videos for your building, I watch because they always bring a smile to my face with every commentary and interaction you have. Don't change Skizz.
I think what Skizz was saying about his own reaction vs his daughters is something so common. When I was first diagnosed with my disability I think it hit my mum harder than it hit me, and it took me a while to understand it. But I think seeing someone you care about and love so deeply in pain is different because we often hold loved ones in a higher regard than ourselves? Although it’s important to have perspective, it’s also important to let yourself feel pain both for yourself and others no matter how trivial it seems. I always remind myself that you can’t control what you feel, only what you then do with that feeling
Really interesting topic :)
I suffer from daily suicidal ideation. I have been in this place for about 5 years now. Depression for 12 or so years. I look forward to this weekly podcast. Just watching the two of you lifts me up a bit. Thank you for the distraction. I need to hire Skizz as my therapist.
I hope you find peace soon my friend...Depression is a b*tch and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. What you're doing is SO hard...please please please be proud of yourself for dealing with something so exhausting
You are amazing! This world is better because you are in it. You are strong and we're glad you are part of the Imp and Skizz Family. ❤
I still think that was the BEST game for you to have been at. Was it a good game for your daughter, for sure no. But as a daughter myself, if something that bad happened to me, having my mom and dad be there in person immediately to help and support me would be so much better than doing it alone.
I am very impressed how quickly Skizz found perspective in the ROC park. Emotions take over so forcefully that people in your situation are forgiven for their actions at the time. You show such deep maturity in how you are dealing with her injury, without losing empathy for your daughter. Stay strong, Andy, your right, this could lead anywhere and it's part of your daughter's course in life.
Perspective is one of those things that we tend to lose as we get into something. Were so micro focused on something that we miss out whats around us or we start to take it for granted.
When Skizz talks about "why do we have to compare everything bad to death", that got me. I swear I've said something similar while going through a very public, messy divorce. And it didnt help that I wallowed, rather than trying to have perspective. Hard things are hard. Changing my perspective and focusing on God are the only things that got me through the darkness that I'm barely coming out of, even though it's been 5 years since this whole mess happened.
Came over from Spotify to comment a thank you. My uncle just passed today and, while I'm still obviously super upset, listening to this podcast helps. I appreciate you both.
There will always be someone who "has it worse". That doesn't take away from what you're going through. I hate that some people want to one up each other as to who has it the worst. Skizz, you are one of the most positive and enlightened people I know of. Your feelings and grief about your daughter and other struggles lately are valid! I hope things turn around soon and sounds like your daughter has her Dad's incredible positive outlook and I'm sure she will get herself back to where she wants to be. ❤
I know im not giving much context, but you guys have changed so much with all the podcasts, the content. I cant express how much Im grateful that I found the hermit community. You all have been a life line to me in my darkest times.. Thank you for all the unintentional and intentional teachings.
I second this ❤
honestly probably the best first podcast episode i have listened too, the universe has a weird way of telling you exactly what you need to hear.
Oooh have fun watching the rest they’re all really good! If you want a slightly more lighthearted podcast to watch (in comparison to this one) I would recommend their ghost stories one if you like spooks! Happy watching!
@@flicker3475 Thank you!!
@@jensencastle910 Np!
My mother always tells me the same story since I was little, probably from something, it goes somewhat like this:
"A man paid for a very expensive plane ticket to go and enjoy a vacation, but the day of departure his alarm doesnt go off and he wakes up late. Now his money is wasted, hes angry and goes back home, then sees on the news that the plane crashed and hes still alive because of that stupid alarm"
Like Skizz said, bad can lead to good and good can lead to bad, you never know with life, thats just how it is
People are apparently calling this burnt toast theory now. The idea that the little things going wrong are meant to happen. That sometimes, these things protect you.
Try not to worry Skizz. From how you describe your daughter, she’ll get through this. If it helps: when I tore my ACL, I lost my job and became a Minecraft TH-camr. So worst case scenario you get a new person to collab with.
I’m sure I’m only one of many people who will be flooding this comment section with gratitude for this podcast, and that’s for good reason. I really appreciate you both taking the time to put these together for us, because I know finding that time can be hard. I’m a freshman in college, and hearing your takes on life has been so helpful in getting me through some stressful times where I really needed a new perspective. Thank you for helping me to be more positive and find the joy in the journey. You guys are great! ❤️
Fun fact, in Sweden you can call in sick on your vacation and your vacationdays don't get consumed, because vacation time is not meant to recover from illness #skizzdeservesagoodsabatical
I've been so stressed recently that it's causing a flare-up. It sucks because even after I take away the stressors, I still have to deal with the fallout. This is definitely a great reminder that in a year, I'll look back at this as inconsequential even though it feels so overwhelming right now.
I lost my brother. Went through a car accident that caused TBI and worsened my chronic clusters. Then more happened with having a family. This was in five years of each event. It was a dark horrible time. It wasn't with faith or some big moment- i pulled myself together by making the bed every morning. No joke.
Since then, i do some when in pain and more when not. Also relax mostly to Hermitcraft. It just takes more to keep up but its so much more rewarding.
Going from being in too much pain to do anything to attempting to create is a slow and wonderful journey.
The main reason I was so happy for Skizz to join Hermitcraft, is the wholesomeness Skizz brings along. He is funny and chaotic enough to fit in with everyone on the server and if there is any awkwardness he has a natural counter to make it enjoyable in a natural way.. And for building you have the vision required, and most hermits has had that journey and I'm looking forward to following yours... Very good episode as always.
Praying for your daughter Skizz!!!!
The story of your daughter getting injured really hit hard Skizz. I was a competitive softball player for a long time, and a catcher myself, so I can imagine how hard it must be for her. I happen to be taking a psychology of injury class rn in uni (it focuses on sports injury) and I'm sure it means the world to her to have your support and the support of her team and coaches. That emotional support system is just as important for her recovery as the rehab and surgery. It's very clear how much you care about her and will do anything to help her out, and that's really touching. Best wishes for her recovery! You're doing great Skizz
This episode really hit home for me. In 2022 my spouse had what was supposed to be routine neck surgery-PT for 6 weeks and on with their life. My spouse ended up quadriplegic after the surgery and now can only move very limited amounts and needs 24/7 care (which is me). We are only in our mid 40s and this has been a huge struggle (mentally, emotionally and physically) for both of us. At the beginning I tried to keep a good perspective when the drs said they would be walking in a couple months but here we are 1.5 years later and still can barely move. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy but I am grateful they are alive and yes we still go through all the emotions because all our plans were sidelined. No one can tell us why this happened or if they will ever get better but we have hope and that's all I can cling to at this moment.
Bless you, there is no greater calling than caregiving for your loved one when they need help like this. This season of hardship may be long for you, I pray you have the support for respite and to get the rest you need to carry on.
Skizz, I can't listen to you talk about your daughter's injury and not cry. I'm so glad you and your wife have raised a strong human being dealing with this so well. 💪❤️
Skizz! I found you through watching Impulse and 3rd life. You make every video you're in better. My fiancé and I watch Hermitcraft together after work and we agree that the server not only needs you for your creativity, but for leading interactions with other hermits. By simply being yourself you have brought a stronger sense of community, and that's why we watch Hermitcraft. We like the cool builds, but we watch for the funny moments and we stay hooked because of the friendships. They did a good thing when they invited you in, Hermitcraft will never be the same again, in the best way! ❤
Impulse & Skizz, I just wanted to say a massive thank you!
Ive been through alot this year, my mental health has been on a rough decline and im finding it hard to do things i enjoy. But every time I get the notification that there's a new podcast, i just sit and listen and it really helps me. You're both inspirations, after watching these I feel motivated and I feel good about myself and realise that I am better off than other people and that we all take that for granted!
Thank you! ❤
I lost my mum 5 years ago when i was 33. She was my last elder so i have seen and felt alot of loss. I was riddled with grief but it made me realise that my grief was mine and my friends that were going through things were dealing with their own stresses and depressions. It made me re evaluate how i saw people and realise that no one elses grief/problems are going to be the same as ours and that their grief/problems are important to them.
If a friend loses a family member then check in on them and if a friend seems to be having ‘small’ problems then check on them too. One small thing can be the breaking point for some. Everyones grief/problem is important
Skizz, I'm gonna tell you....all of that happening on your time off was actually good for you. Of you had it all and got more than a week on HC you would have hated to go back to work and you've already said work isn't that much fun for you.
Also, your pyramid is amazing and everyone will go through it when it's done and be better for it. You make everyone a better person and SHOW people how they're better than they think they are.
We love you Skizz, seriously💜
I've been dealing with chronic pain, and I'm at a point where meds, rest, and ice won't help. I don't know what to do other than wait for the doctors. Everyday I try to stay positive, focus on what I can do, and maintain perspective on what matters. Its hard, but I try. This podcast is a helpful reminder. I am here for a reason, and things will get better. As always, you guys are a shining light in my life. Thank you.
Edit: Especially with Skizz being on HC. You guys turn my tears of pain into tears of laughter!
Skizz in a manbun gave me a new perspective. TBH he doesn't act like someone with a manbun now! Love him!
Perspective is a powerful emotion and can help you thru many hurdles thru life. I lost my son to cancer at the age of 9. He was the toughest kid I know and he loved life, lego and Minecraft. Watching him battle thru treatment for two years and then slowly getting weaker and sadly lose his fight was the hardest thing any parent will have to go thru. But put into perspective I knew that he had a tough battle and I made every day he was here the best it could possibly be. I was prepared for the day I had to say goodbye. Some parents don’t get that and sadly lose their child in an instant be it accident or wrong doings you don’t have that chance to say good bye which I think would be way worse. Pain and perspective is powerful. ❤❤
I watched this podcast yesterday. In the same time skizz is having all this bad luck, I was on the brink of a depression. For the lovely people that are concerned: I’m much more stable now.
But what kept me sane was perspective. What was happening to me was not as bad as things could have been. It was just my incapability of understanding the situation and my own emotions that made it difficult for me. I gave myself time to understand my emotions and tried my best to not go farther into a depression. There are people in the world who have it much much worse than I have. Especially the ones with their countries at war.
i knew this would help, reconnecting with my youngest niece is happening and im so nervous. we lost connection due to severe reasons when she was a young teen. the reconciliation with your brother Skizz is exactly what im going thru and i hope it turns out the same for me.
I wrote on Xisuma's video yesterday that I am loving this season! I love that you are all working together, and engaging with each other more than other seasons! Love the podcast, and I thoroughly enjoy watching both of you!
Skizz's story about his building during Jimmy and Martyn's visit to the server reminded me of a stream where Jimmy explained about his doubts over joining Empires because of his building skills. These two deserve a chat in this podcast about the similar paths they're currently on
The way Skizz described his eldest brother... That's how my brother is. Very sensitive and yet very stoic. It's hard to describe but I think you cracked it.
I’ve been to the ROC park and understand that feeling of seeing all the plaques of the young children who passed away, it really makes you appreciate what you have. All the best to your daughter skizz
There is sooo much love in this comment section and it's all good vibes. Thank you Skizz for being you, I'm so glad I've discovered your content and awesomeness.
My husband and I want to make sure we always keep life in perspective. We do this with our kids in the evening. Before we eat, each person states what they are either thankful or grateful for that day. Even on bad days, we can say that we are thankful for each other or for the food on our table. It really has helped us all deal better with whatever life may throw at us.
Love you guys - just want to encourage you Skizz, just because others are also suffering and there’s greater evil in the world, doesn’t diminish the suffering you experience. It’s real and it hurts and it’s valid. Feel it fully and don’t be ashamed. It takes time to reach that perspective, which comes through gratitude. Proud of you and thankful for y’all!
2022 was my year of hell.. my perspective came in December that year as I was planning to unalive myself…
It has taken a long time to work through stuff in my head to deal with grief and trauma but I feel better now . Everyday is still hard but I can cope. My faith and kids have kept me going and without them I wouldn’t be here .
I hope your daughter heals quickly and strong. Seeing our kids hurt is the worst thing-I love your outlook and your energy Skizz. You are lucky to have a good buddy in Impulse ❤
skizz i commend you for being able to discuss something like this so eloquently. i don't have kids yet, i can't imagine what it would be like to see your child badly hurt. it's something that scares me when i think about getting pregnant in the future. sending you & your daughter love 💕🐶
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This is a very real thing. My mind also tends to go to worst case scenarios for the same exact reason. Thank you for the openness imp & skizz
Man in this one I've got so much to say thank you skizz for being ok sharing this story and experience with use.
I can only imagine how infuriating watching your kid go through that right in front of u I think I would have wound up yelling at the coach for not takein her out the first time
U got me crying listing to the story
I was told this by a friend of mine a long time ago and it's stuck with me ever since because I'm a very impathic person and try to make sure those around me are always doing ok when he told me this I hade a bit of an epiphany the saying goes kinda like this (saying I understand is often time not the words people who r hurt need to hear because no mater how much u can relate to there situation u and them have lived different lives and had different experiences your not going to be effected the same way emotionally so u will never understand completely how they feels) since the I've tried to not say I understand as a blanket statement to help people but instead if I don't think I have and beneficial advise I'll just sit with them cuz alot of time all people really need is just company
i doubt anyone will see this but the spotify episode is named untitled podcast, if you can't fix it its fine. Just thought you may want to know
Hey fellas, I don’t know if you’ll read this but it’s important to me that you know how much this podcast and your conversations have helped me this past semester. I was dealing with my lowest of lows and the only thing pushing me through life was knowing there would be an imp & Skizz podcast episode or some hermitcraft vid to watch. It got to the point where I was considering dropping out of university because of how overwhelming everything got but there was constant encouraging mantra with the hard truth of accepting if you really want something or if you don’t. Im slowly getting out of that funk but I just really appreciate being able to listen to you both and the wisdom you’ve imparted to me. I lost my dad 3 years ago (I’m 21 now) and in some way it’s comforting knowing that I’m still reviving some fatherly advice, even if the dads aren’t my own. So thank you for your perspective and broadening my own ❤
Understanding perspective and knowing you are lucky is different from feeling all the feels when bad things happen to you. You are allowed to be angry, sad, frustrated and to feel sorry for yourself. You are human. Take time to take care of yourself so you can continue to take care of others. ❤ (People have given me this advice and it helped me.)
During high school, when my hidden disability was taking a real toll on me, I started losing hope, I was burnt out and it made me depressed, I had no future in sight and no purpose because the one thing I had to dedicate myself to was school and even with all my efforts wasn't going well, but I had perspective that things were worse for a lot of people, didn't help me tho cause my body and subconscious were both still suffering the same, and starting to invade my consciousness, I had to keep fighting the negative thoughts, try to logically give myself hope and understanding, but I still felt so much pain and loneliness. I know it could be much worse but I was at my worst and if it matters to someone then it matters.
I also has an emotional disconnecting thing called alexithymia, its one of the reasons people often say "autistic people have no feelings" cause thats what it can look like, but I use it to push through stuff, I always go to my limits and end up hurting myself
Then I discovered autism and got the ultimate new perspective on my life lol, my pain was the same as so many others in my situation, perspective about greater evils helped, but not as much as perspective about not being the only one suffering like this
Skizz I think you handled it like you could with the tools you had at the moment. And like you said, it just another thing that will make you grow and become a better version of yourself. We can't expect to be "perfect" (whatever that means) and still be human. Emotions will always be messy and people process them in different ways. Keep doing what you're doing because in the meantime you are making us viewers better people too. :D
I'm going through copious struggles right now that have literally ripped my world apart 😔 clicking on this podcast I didn't expect it to hit me so hard in the feels! I mean this when I say you guys are so amazing at hitting the nail on the head and weirdly finding topics that need to be explored at the right time when I need it the most. I just want to say thank you, and I wish I could have someone like you both to just chat to over a drink, I'm pretty sure you'd both have just the right words to say to put my world back to rights!
Sincerely..... Thank you both ❤️
Audio only listener here. When listen to your podcasts (which I have listened to all of) I have to turn my volume up to more than twice of what I usually listen to. Does not matter the platform I listen on. This is with earbuds or radio blue tooth. I hope you guys actually read this because when I switch back to music my volume is still way to high. Love you guys. You are an inspiration
The butterfly effect is crazy. If my mom hadn't introduced me to this guy who stopped by her coffee shop, I wouldn't have gone down a really dumb path, with lots of mistakes, BUT I also wouldn't have met my husband of six years either. Because of my dumb choices, I ended up single and pregnant and living on my own, then stumbled into being friends with my husband, who was getting out of a nasty relationship himself. Over time we got to know each other and really connected even after I had my baby boy. And now he's been the only dad my son knows, and we had another boy together, and their a handful. Lol. Some times you just have to keep moving and make big changes to get to a better place, one you never expected or saw coming.
its been a couple of weeks since this was posted but I'm going to comment this anyways cuz this helped me, I recently suffered an injury that lead to the discovery that I was out of remission for an autoimmune disease, I had to quit (hopfuly a temp break) my sport and move back home, and ive been fighting with my parents about it a lot, hearing a parents perspective helped. thank you for doing this topic and sharing your story on it
I'm thinking about what is happening with skizz... I believe that if the road is hard then it's the right road. I feel you skizz! I also thought that my choices were bad ones as I had it hard and others around me seemed to have it easy... But it was just like I said - it seemed like that. Now I am happy in my life, it's still hard but I am grateful for my decisions and I see that those who seemed okay are not doing that great now - privately they actually are not okay and I think it might've been connected with their decisions in the past...
Life is a sum of our choices
Oh another comment, just injury-wise, my brother once tried to server me a smoothie from the blender when I came back from vacation, the blade fell onto my foot, I only saw it in my peripheral but man was it bloody.
Got to the emergency and while my mother was super worried I just existed, when horrible things happen I have no control over or is no ones choice, im very good at just accepting
I love dancing and it was just a few millimeters off me not being able to dance again, and I was aware it could have been horrible but I accepted.
What I cant accept is peoples selfishness and cruelty
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter Skizz, wishing her a speedy recovery from all the way from the UK. Thanks to your "just do it" show, I always listen to you two when I'm doing my side hustle / hobbie (which is woodworking) at the weekend. Thank you for all that you do and the great content from both of your channels. John.
I love you guys! So much stuff is happening in my life right now and you guys help so much with your laughs and wisdom
Best podcast yet. Thanks guys
Thanks guys for helping me get some perspective 🖤
Also, just to add to what you said - everything happens for a reason. It might be a cliché, but its so true. When you come out the other side of bad times and youre back in the good, you'll join the dots and realise that they had to happen to be where you are. And if you changed anything, those good times may not have come to be.
"When you're worried and you can't sleep, just count your blessings instead of sheep. Then you'll fall asleep counting your blessings." - Bing Crosby
Something I've always tried to do when things get tough. And holding on to the reminder that one day I'll be able to look back on this hard thing, it will not consume me forever. Hard things have an end, even if you can't see them. Loved this topic! Wishing your daughter a speedy recovery, Skizz! From all you've spoken of her, I know she'll get there, probably faster than anyone expects. I work with injuries for a living, and it's the dedicated ones that pull themselves out the fastest. She's definitely one of those people
Another great podcast! Thank you both!
Listening to this podcast I had another thought about your daughter's injury being the game you attended... Yes, bad luck that it happened, but good(ish) luck that you were there to support her!
My husband tore his meniscus while at work (he's a paramedic) he waited until they'd finished before heading off to hospital himself. He had such a long healing time after they reattached it, and it was quicker than most as he worked hard to help fix it, it still came loose and he had a 2nd surgery. He's all healed now but he's always doing things to help keep it strong. He's in is 40's. Skizz your daughter is young and you say she's strong. She will be fine! She's got this! ❤
Wonderful podcast. I can so relate. My rugby career was ended due to a neck injury. And then all the rest of my sports playing was ended following cornea transplants. Good job both of you.
Thank you Skizz and impulse for being open and sharing your experiences. This hit me hard in a good way because I have been also experiencing something that feels rock bottom for two years. Impulse: you are so right in that it’s okay to still not be fully over what you are going through but have the push to move forward, I admire your dedication so much. Skizz… thank you for being open in sharing that you felt like you processed “poorly”, I am feeling the exact same way. I am still in the healing process and it feels that I have done everything the hard way, but it’s because of people like you, who have experiences and want to help others, are what gives me (and others) thankfulness that I’m not alone in how I feel and that it’s possible to get out of the darkness. Thank you so much!! ♥️♥️♥️
this topic is so fitting for what i needed today. thank you for doing this podcast and for everything else you do!
i also have to say that your daughters love for the sport is very admirable. even with her injury she’s out there keeping her head high and is supporting her team. i can tell why you’re always so proud of her :)
My thinking is that saying that you can't be upset because other people have it worse, is just as nonsensical as saying that you can't be happy because other little have it better. Having perspective is important! But it's possible to both see how others have it worse and be grateful that you're not in their shoes, while also being upset about the hard things happening to or around you.
Oh my gosh I have been waitinggggh for a podcast episode lol the highlight of my week
1:05:57 Skizz, a tip as someone that also has to multitask during meetings: get a second account that’s whitelisted just for grinding so that the other hermits know you’re on but not available for a collab.
Listening to this podcast has me in tears almost the whole time. I feel for you, Skizz, for all that you have been through recently and I also feel for you, Impulse, for the helplessness you felt for your best friend. I have been there and know the feeling all to well. Both of you are truly good human beings and we need more people like you in this world. Keep doing you and I hope to meet you both someday. Hugs
Yet another lovely episode. Keep it up guys. Love from Belgium
1:04:40 Skizz said he will sometimes pop on to HC while he's in a meeting but can't interact with Hermits........ Impulse, did you give/teach Skizz the Status mod? That would mostly solve that problem of being interrupted by setting his status to Red/Do not disturb
Congrats on the T.I.E.S MCC team!!!
52:40 this was too funny! Heard you talk about your daughter on stream and I'm very happy you guys managed a positive, inspiring podcast out of a crappy situation. I dont know her but she sounds awesome, best of luck to her!
Skizz. You are such a great dad. ❤
I really like you Skizz! I like what you bring to Hermitcraft (I just started watching towards the end of last season), your pyramid of needs experience is a really cool idea, and I really like your general attitude and interactions with the other Hermits! I really like watching your channels and this is my first Imp & Skizz podcast! I also think your daughter is so fortunate to have such a caring and devoted father who is in touch with his feelings and able to be vulnerable and strong. My father wasn't very good so it makes me so happy to see fathers like you are out there in the world. I really like how positive you can be in spite of your terrible luck. And Impulse you're really great too, I like watching your channels too! I will be back to see more of your podcast. :3
I laugh...
i cry...
i always come back
I think skizz building skills is something that make him more relatable to the average mincraft player he doesn't have a great artistic skill but he has the want to learn a new skill and that is really impressive
Thank you so much for trusting your feeling with us the listeners. I think most parents have felt that pain and frustration when their child has been injured, whether it be physically and/or emotionally. I don't think any of us have handled it with grace on the front end but have learned to "cope" better on the back end. So we are right there with you. On the HermitCraft front....the block game is not always about the blocks, and on HermitCraft, it's never about the blocks. It's about the group and their unique dynamics...and then oh look, someone built something really cool.
This hit at the perfect time. Going through a lot right now and it opened up my perspective a little bit. Thank you guys for covering this topic!
Thank you for being so open and honest and vulnerable with us
By the off chance you see this.
From the bottom of my heart; Thank You Impulse & Skizz So much for sharing these stories.
You helped me gain my perspective today. ❤
Honestly the fact that Skizz is making a build related to mental health is awesome. He could be building anything and hes doing one related to mental health. That means so much. It doesn't matter if its perfect or a mega build. I think that coincides with mental health to. Its never going to be perfect or the best. He's going through so much and still manages to do what hes doing and that is amazing. He deserves a lot of credit and I can't wait to see where Hermitcraft leads him.
I love listening to these podcasts, and hearing and learning from how well you guys handle a lot of situations. You are very mature with how you handle your emotions, which I know is a skill one learns with age, but also how mature you are with reflecting back on past mistakes and owning up to them and learning from them. You guys are such an inspiration! Keep doing what you're doing :)
I have always tried to look at all angles of any situation. When you were talking about your luck, finally getting to go to a game to see your daughter and she gets hurt. As a father myself, I would choose to look at this as luck. Nothing would be worse than your daughter getting hurt and you couldn't get to her. You were right there for your daughter when she needed you. That is an amazingly lucky turn of events.
As someone said, this is so well timed for me! Thank you!
There is a line in the Disney movie Inside Out which I try to remember when I get down “ you can’t feel the joy without the sadness” happiness feels so much sweeter when you endure a trial.
There is always someone worse off so always be kind
47:14 This gave me chills because of how true it is
Skizz, on the "bad luck" and your daughter's disappointment that this was the game you were able to make- as a daughter who has been injured, you'll both be able to look back and see how good it was that this was the game you were at. It still absolutely sucks, but you were able to be right there for her, and that means a lot. The injury would have happened either way, but this way you both could get a hug, she could draw strength and comfort from you, and you could see that while her knee wasn't okay, she was. I'm not sure if that makes sense in the way I want it to, but I hope the point gets across.
This has been really great for me since I often tend to spiral into gloom and doom when things don't go my way or I'm extremely stressed. Too often do I also find myself blaming myself for others misfortune as if I could've done something to stop it (I felt that way a bit when hearing about Skizz's daughter's injury both here and when he first shared it on stream a while back), which could probably just a "me" problem and a consequence of my autism, so I'm not sure if anyone else can relate. But by remembering the good things I do have in life and recognizing that I'm lucky to not be in the situation of whoever's having a bad time (as uncomfortable for me as that is), it makes things a bit better.