And what I like about your advice is that you are not giving advice on how to get him/her back,like other sites are saying, but your advice is like it should be. If it was "working" you would still be together. A simple truth, once you get the ego out of the way.
You are officially my favorite therapist. It's like having a good friend sitting opposite me telling me like it is. I had many issues with my ex , but when he started pulling away I got really upset. This really helps.Thank you.
I just want to say I've recently come out of a 6yr relationship with the person I thought was going to be my life partner and its been a tough couple of months but in the 1 week that I have been watching your videos I have managed to change my outlook on the situation that was, that is and what is to come but not worrying so much about the future because as you said it hasnt happened so it doesnt really exist. My pain and heartbreak hasnt gone away but it has reduced immensely ! So thank you sir, keep up the good work !
I am delighted that you feel strong again and see clear that life has lot more to offer than one relationship. :) Aleksandar please make sure to share the videos you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you will so others will get to know about the help that is available. I also have a live talk on Sundays 8.30 AM pacific time ( west coast Canada time ) on a FB page called " Amazing things in the world “ ( here is the link : facebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/ ), and usually I answer questions at the end of the 10-15 minute talk, you are welcomed to join us there. Also please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. Be good to yourself always. with thanks, Mehran
I think I sent you a similar message as a respond to your last comment but never heard back from you about from which country you are watching the videos and about your age group. Hope you will let me know!
Love your videos. Very insightful. Brings some clarity to my situation. It's still very hard to let go of someone you have been with 2+ years (strong emotional ties than bind, even when you know deep down inside that the relationship is probably not the best thing for either of you).Emotions have the ability of overriding logic and I still find myself fighting the sadness that comes with the detachment process. I've learned if you truly love someone and they or both of you are not happy with this union or there are too many problems to fix, you must let go so that both can figure out where their happiness exists. True love is wanting the best for you and the other person and that may mean you have to dissolve the relationship to let that happen... even if that means going through a period of pain. Thanks and keep these up, it really helps those like me, who at some points of our lives become prisoners of love.
Wow and now I’m coming here 3yrs after you posted I wonder how you are? I feel exactly the same way as you the pain of the heartbreak, the memories, the feelings that your love meant nothing to them, all those cold and remote behavior, how can they treat you like that? It really is the rejection and the abandonment one feels from a person who was meant to be your person. I’m only starting to see light and sense of these kinds of videos and I’m about 2yrs into my process - but you had 2yrs in your belt with this person, I had 10yrs (plus knowing this person 6yrs before) in a marriage and 2kids so mine would take considerably longer. I don’t fault myself for doing so I take it day by day and there will always be days a milestone, bday, anniversary or even a kids thing whereby it will be a constant reminder of your pain and separation? But wot can one do? My ex feels same as you that if I truly loved him I’ll let him go so he can go be happy ... I think he’s waiting for me to show him that will prove to him Iv ultimately changed .... coz he always felt I rely on him for my happiness and he can’t take that anymore he feels I must take responsibility for myself ! Anyways nothing can be further from the truth (ito his perceptions about me) but it’s ok I can’t try to convince him otherwise - when you show your sight of commitment and loyalty by trying to fight for a marriage, you will never win if the other person doesn’t equally want it because they only see you with a hidden agenda and not letting them go is to meet your needs and not respecting their needs. Nothing you do will ever be good enough for them and tbh we dumpees fight so hard - they not asking us to work on ourselves and change and become better - they don’t need it from us - so that is why often we start on a process to fix ourselves hoping they’ll notice which often they don’t and that’s ok. Soon we have become better and used our pain to motivate our personal self growth and development so we know how to better in our next relationships. So I hope you have healed and moved on with someone better :)
Mehran, you are helping me find myself again 1 video at a time, I can't tell u how much you have helped me, Thank You! 36 years old, from Cape Town South Africa
You are welcomed and I am delighted that you are on your way to balance and strong strides again :) See if you can help with giving the channel more exposure so we will have more subscribers, we are still invisible! :)
I do love your videos. Why spend money on therapy when you have people such as yourself that breaks everything down for you.. and makes you understand sometimes the Ridiculousness you put yourself through.
Hey , thank you very much for making this video. I am going through a rough break up ,there were so much promises,dreams,love etc. but now it is gone. Today,I had ups and downs in my mood through the day,and this was definitely an 'Up' . it helped a lot. thx ,
Incompetence has become a big deal for us, or at least what we consider incompetence.. I'm not going to lie, as soon as you mentioned that it is possible for the ex to be with someone else, I felt a little bad but then towards the end when you clarified everything and why we care so much about it then I felt much better. Especially when you said that if the relationship was good we would have been together. Through time I have come to realize that I was not compatible with the last partner I had. That has made me feel much better. Thank you once again.
I am glad you find them helpful. You will be fine, there are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :) Hope you have subscribed and clicked on the bell so you will be notified when I go live. Below is my standard E-mail respond which contains some information in regards to my live talks, how to join in when I have a live talk on TH-cam and where to see my site and one on one Skype consultation packages. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know which country you are watching the videos from and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran P.S. How to join the live talks: You can join my live talks on Vancouver ( Pacific ) Time zone), Always on TH-cam channel: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish or On some days of the week ( Same Time Zone) on my Facebook page: This is how the post looks like for the Live Talk on Saturdays or Sundays which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talk: LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life. With Mehran D (Author) Unlock Your Mind & Move On! (Today or the day of the week) 11.30 AM Vancouver time (Pacific), 2.30 PM (Atlantic), 12.30 after midnight (India) Right here on this link: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com For Skype consultation: If you would like us to address the certain specific situation you might be faced with, then please visit my site www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com and click on the " Talk to me for consultation " button and see which one of the appointment options are suitable to your needs. I will receive the request through the system and will confirm one of the 3 time and date choices you may choose and will confirm it through e-mail or the Skype address of yours.
This makes sense. I always used to love getting time to myself when I had a girl, like on nights we were supposed to go out, if it got cancelled it was a relief. Recently got broke up with about 5 weeks ago, still can't really believe it, feels horrible, but these videos help me understand it more, like no other videos. They're about moving on and not about regrets. Thank you
Hey man, totally nailed it with some of your phrases and ideas. I'm going through a really rough breakup and really needed to watch this. Thank you for your words, keep it up!
You are welcomed dear, I am glad that the videos are helpful to you :) also check out the forum www.breakupclub.ca and share stories and get other peopl's support and opinios from around the world. :) Be good to yrself and enjoy every moment of life.
I am glad you find the video helpful Jay. Please feel free to visit and like my FB page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran P.S. How to join the live talks: You can join my live talks on TH-cam th-cam.com/users/MD007ish or on my Fb Page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ This is how the post looks like for the Live Talks which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talks which could be held either on Face book or TH-cam channel. ( Most often these days will be on TH-cam and the post will provide the link to it: LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life. With Mehran D (Author) Unlock Your Mind & Move On! Vancouver time (Pacific), Right here on this link:: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish Then with some additional information on my site or events www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com
You are welcomed Marko, I am delighted that the video is helpful to you. Please share the videos you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media so others will also get a chance to know about my work. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age group you are in. Be good to yourself always, Mehran :)
+Mehran Dadbeh I'm going to share on my Twitter account. I'm from some ex Yugoslavila republic, Bosnia and Hercegovina. I don't know are you informed about civil war we have 20 years ago. And that war are paralyzed and stuck on stupid our people, including our professors on our school and Universitys, that they mostly don't know to explain our young people what is important in life. So I'm glad to have social media like this and I can hear very interesting subject explanation and hear new tought about something important for me, and to upgrade my mental health. I belong in group of age 28+ Really you are the best. Thanks once again.
Thank you Marko, Wish you the best of health and happiness always. Hopefully some time in the future I would do talks in different countries if I am invited and perhaps one of these universities or places will be Bosnia and I would share these topics with people and maybe some could be your friends! :) and yes I remember the war in Bosnia Hercegovina well. With kind regards, Mehran
+Mehran Dadbeh Thank you Mr. Mehran. If you came somewhere near me, and if I had free time I would like to visit and hear your lecture and maybe introduced myself to you after. :) And just to know, after once I see and hear your video, you have my full attention and I liked how you talk and how you try to explain the fact. I look forward new videos from you and topics that you are going to talk about. Marko
your videos have been so helpful for me in my situation, thank you for the clarity and the manner in which you share the information!! thank you Mehran!!!
You are welcomed Nicholas, I am glad you feel better and that the videos are helpful to you. :) Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
YUXUE JIN You are most welcomed dear. Enjoy your life, life is far bigger than we think and has lot to offer but not showing it all at the same time . So keep on going forward dear build your happiness by learning from experiences till life unfolds more of it's fruits and possibilities as we grow and become ready to understand and see the new. :) As long as you attend to your normal duties and social, academic, day to day responsibilities, you will be just fine, I am certain of that. Please let me know from where you are watching the videos and how young are you. Thanks, Mehran
This has caused me a lot of angst even though I don't want my ex-husband back. I wish you'd do another video about jealousy/envy/anger (that they moved on etc) because I know it's wrong to feel these things (and pointless etc) but I cannot seem to stop it. ;(
I did sometimes just want my own time but I didn't want to brake up, she broke up with me after a 4 year relationship and I'm devastated, I tried to get her back by texting but just made things a lot worse, I don't know what to do now I just can't stop thinking about her, she was perfect for me and I helped her out with her 3 kids but she tought I was just plodding through the relationship as I hadn't asked her to marry me yet or didn't talk about certain things, I had moved in with her and her 3 kids and I was paying half towards the bills and rent, I'm 40 now and I don't feel that I'll find anyone like that again or find anyone as good for me.
Hey Thanks, watching some of your videos. I dont get it at all, I dumped this woman who deceived me bad, yet I still 'WANT' her. I have no future with her yet since breaking up I regret it and want her back, its pathetic and I even called her once and want to try to make up.
dragon0085 You are thinking physical about her and the pleasure you get from physically being with her. When you can understand and focus on that what holds people together is not only the physical parts and in fact the inner qualities is what makes a relationship whole, strong, bonding and lasting, then it will be easy for you to select correctly and let go the not good choices. :)
Thanks for this video , I just wanna know , how can we forget semoene that we love secretly ? and why always wait for him even if we know that he will never come tu us ? Thank you
It has a lot to do with your conditioning since child hood in regards to this. Lots to discuss about this but the freedom in sexual activity being lot more and easier a,d accepted more than how it was years past also has a lot to do with devaluation in how special it is to be in a relationship in the eyes of both male and female of today and having such option so readily available plus the known experiences of the short term commitments of the men and women in today's culture all have something to do in having shaped the opinion of men and woman somewhat altered towards relationships and the pursuit of it. You have mdd the unknown to be considered perfect without acknowledging the short comings of the person and following your desire to know the manias made you distracted from his lack of many things which at this time you are oblivious to due to the fact that your focus on the pleasure of fulfilling your desire has made you distracted from vetting the candidate. You may enjoy watching these : th-cam.com/video/UvUTJBp5_CI/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/P1RWewvbyE8/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/F9BzARhv7RY/w-d-xo.html
Sir,I understand the things you say.. but the memories hunts me and I go back to past. I know she cheated me but the emotions are up and down.. it hurts..
Watch my other videos addressing your concerns. They are all on this channel for you. Just type in the search engine of my channel how you feel in one word and you will find many videos on that what concerns you or how you feel.
I know every person who watches your videos walks away with a handful of positive advise, but personally I feel as though you are talking only to me. That's how meaningful and fulfilling are your messages to me. I want to say thanks for your support and advise. Keep it up... And so shall we!
+Joe Jackson Thank you Joe and that is how I like it to be felt. Please make sure you share the videos you like on your social media and share with as many people as possible. My books are almost here and I need more exposure for the Marketing site www.mindthatseekstruth.com so the books will get known and it would balance the time and cost invested in them :) Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and what age category are you in. With thanks, Mehran :)
Hello Jon, thank you for your e-mail. The volume is fine for everyone else and also I am watching it here and sound volume is good. perhaps your device needs adjustment.
Hi, can you help me, I split up with my wife last week and after 5 years of marriage it came to an end and my question to you is I'm confused, in one hand I want her back and then in the other hand i don't want her. Need help. I'm getting so depressed and upset and i feel like I'm not going to meet anyone else like her. That's how i feel.
+charanjit1974 I understand how you mean. We need to discuss how this journey of yours has been and consider your experiences , age, and history a bit. So I am afraid I would not be much help without more in-dept discussion on your story. If you like you can visit my appointment site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and we can discuss it further.
Hello there, one question why do I still want my ex husband back he never treat me good , always cheated on me , was never home , and would never take me to eat or to family reunions, all because I was fat wich he would say it on my face and made me cry also because I couldn't gave him a baby boy , so he end up Leaving me we are not divorce yet but he is living with the other girl now he still looks for me he still wants to have sex he tell me he loves me and in my head I know what I live with him and i know i don't have a life with him but I still want him back!
Judith barragan Because you have established what ever this relationship was, as your "ORDER" and now that this relationship is going through a break up, you feel that the ORDER as it was for you is no longer there ( regardless of how this relationship was, that was your ORDER in life ) So now you feel that YOUR ORDER is disturbed and feel there is a DISORDER . You want to get things back as you are used to it and felt secured. Even though it was an abusive relationship but you felt that it was making you feel as if you had psychological security. Right or wrong is a different question but for you you felt that it was YOUR ORDER therefore you felt as if you had Psychological security. Now even though you are free and out of that abusive relationship, you feel insecure as what you were used to, what was your ORDER is now changed and this is why you feel how you feel, just as an addict wants his fix regardless of how bad it is for him, but he is used to call that chaos his normal life . Give it time you will establish new ORDER and if you take care of yourself and make positive efforts and changes, all will be as you want it, safe, happy, fair and pleasant and that would be your new ORDER. Watch this as it will explain more. :) th-cam.com/video/QtOhy5Y8uGU/w-d-xo.html
I have one question for you just out of curiosity. If your Ex comes back to you after being gone for 3-4 months and you finally got over the relationship and don't think about her anymore.. How do you tell her you are no longer in love with her but want to be in her life without being mean or sounding like an asshole? Because my Ex broke up with me a few times before and she always seems to find her way back to me after a few months go by with no contact so I just want to make sure that if she decides to try and come back to me later this time I don't make the same mistake with her that I've made countless times before?
MON3YonPC She never worked her way back in to your life, you allowed her to get back in for any reason known to you only, Ego , Image, manhood, sex, wining feeling, still mine, I won, ........or any other and all reasons worth nothing.:) So why do you even need to have any excuse for her if she suggests the same after a while, simply keep going about your own business and say ( if called for ) "sorry dear I have no longer the necessary interest for a relationship together ". You do not need an excuse dear , just live your life. : )
Mehran Dadbeh haha mehran you are the man! thanks I will do just that if she comes back and for the record I let her back into my life so I could feel like "the man". Shes just so beautiful so it made me feel like a great guy or something thanks again
MON3YonPC These ( she is so beautiful...reasonings and influences ) will all end when you realize the respect you should be having for yourself. You are the one who choses for you and it is not enough to have been chosen, that is only half of the equation . Don't even plan on what to say if she comes back or if this or that, just focus on building your life and prepare for your better future by building yourself and your life . Having been with a physically beautiful woman, and yet you see that it has not worked and there were problems and that being beautiful does not make them also tic perfect ! :) then you should not fall for the physical beauty and be tempted for the pleasures of physical attributes and keep making the same mistake as if this time this same beautiful physical entity will think and tic differently because ...? because of what ? did she have a change of attitude, way of thinking, neurones are reborn with different program and level of electrical activities , characteristics ? Why do we ever think that physical beauty also represents perfect engine ? :) why ? any ways with your experience in this matter and with this same person, then you must think seriously as what is it that you want and expect from a lasting and decent relationship, a beautiful honey outside with no stability or enough compatibility for a lasting relationship or am I in it for the sex and fooling myself that I can make the physical beauty of her's fix and fill all other missing parts? you keep doing what you did , you will keep getting what you got :) Get serious as quality of life is a serious matter and will not improve by wishing for it but keep using the same parts that don't fit. ! Be good to yourself. "Think deep and judge well ".
Mehran Dadbeh You are so right! she wont change. I always think.. oh this time is different but the end result is always the same.. a beautiful woman is so hard to turn down but next time I think I will turn her down because just because she is beautiful doesn't mean anything it is only physical and she does NOT have a perfect engine like you said and there is no stability or compatibility it was ALL physical and sexual although I was with her for 7 years and thats why I kept letting her back in because I know her and I love her but I know she is not right for me but I struggle with this and I understand what you mean and I will try my hardest to not give in. sometimes I think if I do not forgive her I will never find that deep of a connection again with a woman as beautiful as her. But I do not know. Thanks Mehran!! you are a great guy that gives great advice and everyone should watch all of your videos!
Marcy Allison lol. Or maybe you are impatient! Which sentences would you have prefered to be shortened or deleted Marcy? :) Watch the short ones. Out of over 600 videos 300 are between 12 and 35 min mostly 20 min and 300 or so between 3 to 8 minutes. Look at the durations and watch the shorter ones.
And what I like about your advice is that you are not giving advice on how to get him/her back,like other sites are saying, but your advice is like it should be. If it was "working" you would still be together. A simple truth, once you get the ego out of the way.
You are officially my favorite therapist. It's like having a good friend sitting opposite me telling me like it is. I had many issues with my ex , but when he started pulling away I got really upset. This really helps.Thank you.
I just want to say I've recently come out of a 6yr relationship with the person I thought was going to be my life partner and its been a tough couple of months but in the 1 week that I have been watching your videos I have managed to change my outlook on the situation that was, that is and what is to come but not worrying so much about the future because as you said it hasnt happened so it doesnt really exist. My pain and heartbreak hasnt gone away but it has reduced immensely ! So thank you sir, keep up the good work !
I am delighted that you feel strong again and see clear that life has lot more to offer than one relationship. :) Aleksandar please make sure to share the videos you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media if you will so others will get to know about the help that is available. I also have a live talk on Sundays 8.30 AM pacific time ( west coast Canada time ) on a FB page called " Amazing things in the world “ ( here is the link : facebook.com/AmazingThingsInTheWorld/ ), and usually I answer questions at the end of the 10-15 minute talk, you are welcomed to join us there. Also please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. Be good to yourself always. with thanks, Mehran
I think I sent you a similar message as a respond to your last comment but never heard back from you about from which country you are watching the videos and about your age group. Hope you will let me know!
+Mehran Dadbeh oh sorry, I am from Australia age 29
I am still suffering bro
Love your videos. Very insightful. Brings some clarity to my situation. It's still very hard to let go of someone you have been with 2+ years (strong emotional ties than bind, even when you know deep down inside that the relationship is probably not the best thing for either of you).Emotions have the ability of overriding logic and I still find myself fighting the sadness that comes with the detachment process. I've learned if you truly love someone and they or both of you are not happy with this union or there are too many problems to fix, you must let go so that both can figure out where their happiness exists. True love is wanting the best for you and the other person and that may mean you have to dissolve the relationship to let that happen... even if that means going through a period of pain. Thanks and keep these up, it really helps those like me, who at some points of our lives become prisoners of love.
exactly the same situation here, can you inspire me and tell me how you are doing after two years since you commented?
Wow and now I’m coming here 3yrs after you posted I wonder how you are? I feel exactly the same way as you the pain of the heartbreak, the memories, the feelings that your love meant nothing to them, all those cold and remote behavior, how can they treat you like that? It really is the rejection and the abandonment one feels from a person who was meant to be your person.
I’m only starting to see light and sense of these kinds of videos and I’m about 2yrs into my process - but you had 2yrs in your belt with this person, I had 10yrs (plus knowing this person 6yrs before) in a marriage and 2kids so mine would take considerably longer. I don’t fault myself for doing so I take it day by day and there will always be days a milestone, bday, anniversary or even a kids thing whereby it will be a constant reminder of your pain and separation? But wot can one do?
My ex feels same as you that if I truly loved him I’ll let him go so he can go be happy ... I think he’s waiting for me to show him that will prove to him Iv ultimately changed .... coz he always felt I rely on him for my happiness and he can’t take that anymore he feels I must take responsibility for myself !
Anyways nothing can be further from the truth (ito his perceptions about me) but it’s ok I can’t try to convince him otherwise - when you show your sight of commitment and loyalty by trying to fight for a marriage, you will never win if the other person doesn’t equally want it because they only see you with a hidden agenda and not letting them go is to meet your needs and not respecting their needs.
Nothing you do will ever be good enough for them and tbh we dumpees fight so hard - they not asking us to work on ourselves and change and become better - they don’t need it from us - so that is why often we start on a process to fix ourselves hoping they’ll notice which often they don’t and that’s ok. Soon we have become better and used our pain to motivate our personal self growth and development so we know how to better in our next relationships.
So I hope you have healed and moved on with someone better :)
Mehran, you are helping me find myself again 1 video at a time, I can't tell u how much you have helped me, Thank You! 36 years old, from Cape Town South Africa
You are welcomed and I am delighted that you are on your way to balance and strong strides again :) See if you can help with giving the channel more exposure so we will have more subscribers, we are still invisible! :)
I do love your videos. Why spend money on therapy when you have people such as yourself that breaks everything down for you.. and makes you understand sometimes the Ridiculousness you put yourself through.
Hey ,
thank you very much for making this video. I am going through a rough break up ,there were so much promises,dreams,love etc. but now it is gone. Today,I had ups and downs in my mood through the day,and this was definitely an 'Up' . it helped a lot.
thx ,
+Kaplan0644 You re welcomed dear :)
amazing truth great stuff thanks for easing the pain and suffering i thought i had
Incompetence has become a big deal for us, or at least what we consider incompetence.. I'm not going to lie, as soon as you mentioned that it is possible for the ex to be with someone else, I felt a little bad but then towards the end when you clarified everything and why we care so much about it then I felt much better. Especially when you said that if the relationship was good we would have been together.
Through time I have come to realize that I was not compatible with the last partner I had. That has made me feel much better. Thank you once again.
Emmanuel Perez I will release a new on to help moving on after a break up which I think it will help you and everyone else even more! 😊
Watching your videos and I feel better. You're the shining light to my darkness.
I am glad you find them helpful. You will be fine, there are over 1,200 videos on my channel now and I am certain that they will be helpful beyond expectations! :)
Hope you have subscribed and clicked on the bell so you will be notified when I go live.
Below is my standard E-mail respond which contains some information in regards to my live talks, how to join in when I have a live talk on TH-cam and where to see my site and one on one Skype consultation packages.
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you sir are a God send. thankyou for taking the time to make these videos.
This makes sense. I always used to love getting time to myself when I had a girl, like on nights we were supposed to go out, if it got cancelled it was a relief. Recently got broke up with about 5 weeks ago, still can't really believe it, feels horrible, but these videos help me understand it more, like no other videos. They're about moving on and not about regrets. Thank you
You are welcomed Dsn. You may also like this one : th-cam.com/video/guMDhsmVNHA/w-d-xo.html
Be good to yourself always, Mehran
Hey man, totally nailed it with some of your phrases and ideas. I'm going through a really rough breakup and really needed to watch this. Thank you for your words, keep it up!
You are welcomed dear, I am glad that the videos are helpful to you :) also check out the forum www.breakupclub.ca and share stories and get other peopl's support and opinios from around the world. :)
Be good to yrself and enjoy every moment of life.
You nailed it. I listen to this and feel like you truly understand.
I am glad you find the video helpful Jay.
Please feel free to visit and like my FB page:
facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to.
It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
P.S. How to join the live talks:
You can join my live talks on TH-cam th-cam.com/users/MD007ish
or on my Fb Page: facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/
This is how the post looks like for the Live Talks which I will post it on my FB page: (facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/) a day or a few hours or minutes prior to the Live Talks which could be held either on Face book or TH-cam channel. ( Most often these days will be on TH-cam and the post will provide the link to it:
LIVE Q & A on Your Breakup, Your Relationship, Your Psyche & Life.
With Mehran D (Author)
Unlock Your Mind & Move On!
Vancouver time (Pacific), Right here on this link:: th-cam.com/users/MD007ish
Then with some additional information on my site or events www.MindThatSeeksTruth.com
The best explanation about this moment in some relationship. Thank you Mr.Mehran. You realy know how to simplify things. I wish you all the best.
You are welcomed Marko, I am delighted that the video is helpful to you. Please share the videos you like along with my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media so others will also get a chance to know about my work. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age group you are in. Be good to yourself always, Mehran :)
+Mehran Dadbeh I'm going to share on my Twitter account. I'm from some ex Yugoslavila republic, Bosnia and Hercegovina. I don't know are you informed about civil war we have 20 years ago. And that war are paralyzed and stuck on stupid our people, including our professors on our school and Universitys, that they mostly don't know to explain our young people what is important in life. So I'm glad to have social media like this and I can hear very interesting subject explanation and hear new tought about something important for me, and to upgrade my mental health. I belong in group of age 28+
Really you are the best.
Thanks once again.
Thank you Marko, Wish you the best of health and happiness always. Hopefully some time in the future I would do talks in different countries if I am invited and perhaps one of these universities or places will be Bosnia and I would share these topics with people and maybe some could be your friends! :) and yes I remember the war in Bosnia Hercegovina well. With kind regards, Mehran
+Mehran Dadbeh Thank you Mr. Mehran. If you came somewhere near me, and if I had free time I would like to visit and hear your lecture and maybe introduced myself to you after. :) And just to know, after once I see and hear your video, you have my full attention and I liked how you talk and how you try to explain the fact. I look forward new videos from you and topics that you are going to talk about.
Marko
your videos have been so helpful for me in my situation, thank you for the clarity and the manner in which you share the information!! thank you Mehran!!!
You are welcomed Nicholas, I am glad you feel better and that the videos are helpful to you. :) Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what I do. Be good to yourself always. With Thanks, Mehran
Thanks doctor.
You really helped me alot.
Made myself more grown up than before.
Thank you
YUXUE JIN You are most welcomed dear. Enjoy your life, life is far bigger than we think and has lot to offer but not showing it all at the same time . So keep on going forward dear build your happiness by learning from experiences till life unfolds more of it's fruits and possibilities as we grow and become ready to understand and see the new. :) As long as you attend to your normal duties and social, academic, day to day responsibilities, you will be just fine, I am certain of that. Please let me know from where you are watching the videos and how young are you. Thanks, Mehran
You are a gift to us
This has caused me a lot of angst even though I don't want my ex-husband back. I wish you'd do another video about jealousy/envy/anger (that they moved on etc) because I know it's wrong to feel these things (and pointless etc) but I cannot seem to stop it. ;(
I did sometimes just want my own time but I didn't want to brake up, she broke up with me after a 4 year relationship and I'm devastated, I tried to get her back by texting but just made things a lot worse, I don't know what to do now I just can't stop thinking about her, she was perfect for me and I helped her out with her 3 kids but she tought I was just plodding through the relationship as I hadn't asked her to marry me yet or didn't talk about certain things, I had moved in with her and her 3 kids and I was paying half towards the bills and rent, I'm 40 now and I don't feel that I'll find anyone like that again or find anyone as good for me.
Hey Thanks, watching some of your videos. I dont get it at all, I dumped this woman who deceived me bad, yet I still 'WANT' her. I have no future with her yet since breaking up I regret it and want her back, its pathetic and I even called her once and want to try to make up.
dragon0085 You are thinking physical about her and the pleasure you get from physically being with her. When you can understand and focus on that what holds people together is not only the physical parts and in fact the inner qualities is what makes a relationship whole, strong, bonding and lasting, then it will be easy for you to select correctly and let go the not good choices. :)
thank you very much it helped a lot
Thanks for this video , I just wanna know , how can we forget semoene that we love secretly ? and why always wait for him even if we know that he will never come tu us ? Thank you
It has a lot to do with your conditioning since child hood in regards to this. Lots to discuss about this but the freedom in sexual activity being lot more and easier a,d accepted more than how it was years past also has a lot to do with devaluation in how special it is to be in a relationship in the eyes of both male and female of today and having such option so readily available plus the known experiences of the short term commitments of the men and women in today's culture all have something to do in having shaped the opinion of men and woman somewhat altered towards relationships and the pursuit of it. You have mdd the unknown to be considered perfect without acknowledging the short comings of the person and following your desire to know the manias made you distracted from his lack of many things which at this time you are oblivious to due to the fact that your focus on the pleasure of fulfilling your desire has made you distracted from vetting the candidate. You may enjoy watching these :
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Sir,I understand the things you say.. but the memories hunts me and I go back to past. I know she cheated me but the emotions are up and down.. it hurts..
Watch my other videos addressing your concerns. They are all on this channel for you. Just type in the search engine of my channel how you feel in one word and you will find many videos on that what concerns you or how you feel.
I know every person who watches your videos walks away with a handful of positive advise, but personally I feel as though you are talking only to me. That's how meaningful and fulfilling are your messages to me. I want to say thanks for your support and advise. Keep it up... And so shall we!
+Joe Jackson Thank you Joe and that is how I like it to be felt. Please make sure you share the videos you like on your social media and share with as many people as possible. My books are almost here and I need more exposure for the Marketing site www.mindthatseekstruth.com so the books will get known and it would balance the time and cost invested in them :) Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and what age category are you in. With thanks, Mehran :)
i wanted to be good enough for her
Please record at a higher volume. Like your message but it is of little value when I have to stay quiet and right next to the video to hear
Hello Jon, thank you for your e-mail. The volume is fine for everyone else and also I am watching it here and sound volume is good. perhaps your device needs adjustment.
Hi, can you help me, I split up with my wife last week and after 5 years of marriage it came to an end and my question to you is I'm confused, in one hand I want her back and then in the other hand i don't want her. Need help. I'm getting so depressed and upset and i feel like I'm not going to meet anyone else like her. That's how i feel.
+charanjit1974 I understand how you mean. We need to discuss how this journey of yours has been and consider your experiences , age, and history a bit. So I am afraid I would not be much help without more in-dept discussion on your story. If you like you can visit my appointment site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and we can discuss it further.
Hello there, one question why do I still want my ex husband back he never treat me good , always cheated on me , was never home , and would never take me to eat or to family reunions, all because I was fat wich he would say it on my face and made me cry also because I couldn't gave him a baby boy , so he end up Leaving me we are not divorce yet but he is living with the other girl now he still looks for me he still wants to have sex he tell me he loves me and in my head I know what I live with him and i know i don't have a life with him but I still want him back!
Judith barragan Because you have established what ever this relationship was, as your "ORDER" and now that this relationship is going through a break up, you feel that the ORDER as it was for you is no longer there ( regardless of how this relationship was, that was your ORDER in life ) So now you feel that YOUR ORDER is disturbed and feel there is a DISORDER . You want to get things back as you are used to it and felt secured. Even though it was an abusive relationship but you felt that it was making you feel as if you had psychological security. Right or wrong is a different question but for you you felt that it was YOUR ORDER therefore you felt as if you had Psychological security. Now even though you are free and out of that abusive relationship, you feel insecure as what you were used to, what was your ORDER is now changed and this is why you feel how you feel, just as an addict wants his fix regardless of how bad it is for him, but he is used to call that chaos his normal life . Give it time you will establish new ORDER and if you take care of yourself and make positive efforts and changes, all will be as you want it, safe, happy, fair and pleasant and that would be your new ORDER. Watch this as it will explain more. :)
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I have one question for you just out of curiosity. If your Ex comes back to you after being gone for 3-4 months and you finally got over the relationship and don't think about her anymore.. How do you tell her you are no longer in love with her but want to be in her life without being mean or sounding like an asshole? Because my Ex broke up with me a few times before and she always seems to find her way back to me after a few months go by with no contact so I just want to make sure that if she decides to try and come back to me later this time I don't make the same mistake with her that I've made countless times before?
MON3YonPC She never worked her way back in to your life, you allowed her to get back in for any reason known to you only, Ego , Image, manhood, sex, wining feeling, still mine, I won, ........or any other and all reasons worth nothing.:) So why do you even need to have any excuse for her if she suggests the same after a while, simply keep going about your own business and say ( if called for ) "sorry dear I have no longer the necessary interest for a relationship together ". You do not need an excuse dear , just live your life. : )
Mehran Dadbeh haha mehran you are the man! thanks I will do just that if she comes back and for the record I let her back into my life so I could feel like "the man". Shes just so beautiful so it made me feel like a great guy or something thanks again
MON3YonPC These ( she is so beautiful...reasonings and influences ) will all end when you realize the respect you should be having for yourself. You are the one who choses for you and it is not enough to have been chosen, that is only half of the equation . Don't even plan on what to say if she comes back or if this or that, just focus on building your life and prepare for your better future by building yourself and your life . Having been with a physically beautiful woman, and yet you see that it has not worked and there were problems and that being beautiful does not make them also tic perfect ! :) then you should not fall for the physical beauty and be tempted for the pleasures of physical attributes and keep making the same mistake as if this time this same beautiful physical entity will think and tic differently because ...? because of what ? did she have a change of attitude, way of thinking, neurones are reborn with different program and level of electrical activities , characteristics ? Why do we ever think that physical beauty also represents perfect engine ? :) why ? any ways with your experience in this matter and with this same person, then you must think seriously as what is it that you want and expect from a lasting and decent relationship, a beautiful honey outside with no stability or enough compatibility for a lasting relationship or am I in it for the sex and fooling myself that I can make the physical beauty of her's fix and fill all other missing parts? you keep doing what you did , you will keep getting what you got :) Get serious as quality of life is a serious matter and will not improve by wishing for it but keep using the same parts that don't fit. ! Be good to yourself.
"Think deep and judge well ".
Mehran Dadbeh You are so right! she wont change. I always think.. oh this time is different but the end result is always the same.. a beautiful woman is so hard to turn down but next time I think I will turn her down because just because she is beautiful doesn't mean anything it is only physical and she does NOT have a perfect engine like you said and there is no stability or compatibility it was ALL physical and sexual although I was with her for 7 years and thats why I kept letting her back in because I know her and I love her but I know she is not right for me but I struggle with this and I understand what you mean and I will try my hardest to not give in. sometimes I think if I do not forgive her I will never find that deep of a connection again with a woman as beautiful as her. But I do not know. Thanks Mehran!! you are a great guy that gives great advice and everyone should watch all of your videos!
Hi Mehran thank you very much your much if i could email you with my situation please let me know
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majid
Hello Majid, yes you can e-mail me at mehran@canadafueltech.ca or Skype me at : md.trading1
hahaha true dat..
I like your videos but they are just a little too long.
Marcy Allison lol. Or maybe you are impatient! Which sentences would you have prefered to be shortened or deleted Marcy? :) Watch the short ones. Out of over 600 videos 300 are between 12 and 35 min mostly 20 min and 300 or so between 3 to 8 minutes. Look at the durations and watch the shorter ones.
I always feel they should be longer..It is like binge watching a series and it suddenly finishes..