Hi friends! Apologies for the delay on this week’s video - there were some things on the back end that delayed posting but here we are!! If you haven’t seen my community post yet, the virtual housewarming party is Saturday March 9th from 5-6pm ET over youtube live 💘 Let me know if you’ll be able to make it, can’t wait to hang out in real time! Have a great weekend.
That time is generally perfect 4 me … except maaaybe not THAT day. Will be gettin ready for leaving town the next day ( realllly early) . Will play it by ear . If not Live , I’ll def catch it later . Looking forward to it !
You’re a young woman and you’re teaching this 59-year-old woman how to be independent I was married for 30 years very rough marriage finally got divorced on my own for the first time in my life. I’ve never done a movie by myself always with girlfriends the only time I went to a restaurant is a fast food restaurant by myself never a sit down restaurant, I feel like I have time to grow. Thanks for encouraging and sharing your story. I too have learned to enjoy my alone time never thought I would but once I had to put my big real pants on, I learned I could fly, and hopefully I can fly higher.🦋
Laura, I can relate-- I too am 59 and divorced after 30 years of marriage. I did have some time alone in my early 20s and I learned I do like doing some things alone, like going to movies or events if I couldn't find someone who wanted to go (I like going with people, but going alone is nice too). Divorce after a long marriage is a huge change, but there's a lot of growth in it. Good luck!
@@ChelseaCallahan just realizing how you’ve attracted a tribe of us more, ehem, mature women 😃. Really enjoying your channel and perspective of single life in NYC.
I had my first kiss last year and I'm 25 lol. It's very easy to feel behind on these things but i have come to the fact that what's meant to be will be. I enjoy being alone and don't want kids so i will continue enjoying every stage I'm in. You're doing great!
Chelsea. 32-year-old (almost 33 ugh) single Canadian woman here. I cannot even begin to tell you how much I relate to what you're saying about putting up a defence mechanism after being hurt so many times. I just went through another heartache recently and have been feeling so jaded and heartbroken in recent weeks. Dating in your 20's is one thing, but dating in your 30's is a whole different thing - especially in this day and age. It's especially hard for us women when we have so many people saying "you're so great - how are you single?!!" If I hear that one more time I might go crazy. I just wanted to thank you for being so open. It's been really great seeing another woman my age being so honest. And, you make me realize that being single isn't so bad. We've got this. xo
My son was deeply hurt 2 years ago and is only now finding how being single has its bonuses. He is able to travel which really helped him cope and and try new things. Don’t get me wrong, he would love to meet someone again but it takes time, especially in your 30’s. He’s happy again and that’s what’s important.
@@lindao1327 I’m so sorry to hear about your son having been hurt. I can absolutely relate. I’m so glad that he’s finding the silver linings in it now ♥️ I’m sure he’s a catch and that he’ll find an amazing lady soon enough
Ok so I’m 41. I was single and lived alone for 8 years. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just under a year and we just moved in together. The reason why it’s going so well is that we have seperate rooms. He can watch tv in his, while I’m watching tiktoks and crocheting in mine. People who don’t do this are bonkers. Alone time is a must.
Alone time is important. Me and my husband both have "our stuff"-he has his motorbike, I have my running and music. We spend a lot of time together and share some passions, but we also appreciate time for ourselves. It's the balance that matters,because you don't want to end up being "roommates" and living next to each other, as opposed to together. But if there is communication and understanding, it works I think :)
Agreed! Hubby & I have been together 32 years, married 28. We have 2 living rooms. It is SO important to not only have to your own time apart, but to have your own spaces..... ❤
I found you about 6 months ago. I am 65 and love your videos. Never commented before but wanted you to know I follow you religiously. You’re so real ! Love it!!!! You’re very brave. Keep going ! You’re a great example from my young granddaughters! I want them to be fearless!! Thank you.
Hi @susancarr6500, just wanted you to know I am a 66 yr old woman that also enjoys Chelsea’s videos. I admire her following her dreams and her strength living in that brutal city. I caught up with all of her former videos from her first and it’s so lovely to see her grow and progress. She is also very funny and has a rich way of examining life. Nice to meet a fellow boomer!
If nobody is buying you flowers, it's absolutely when you should have them. Also, it's the best way to get the kind of flowers that you like. Being single teaches you how to create your own happiness.
As a woman in my 50s I have learned not to settle for something that I know isn't for me. I pay my own bills and pretty much do my own thing. I would rather wait and be selective rather than end up with someone who doesn't make me happy. Just my 56 year old thoughts. Great video as always!! Your honesty on the dating issues was very much appreciated!
Damn Chelsea as a gay man when you were showing off your look, I paused to see you and all of your beauty and my whole computer froze, and I had to do a hard reset because it couldn’t stop looking at you. You’re looking awesome and happy. ❤ giving me life!!!
I'm hyper-hyper independent but got into a relationship last year. He is a stellar human being and treats me well but sometimes it's difficult for me to be paired up, due to me being so used to my alone time and enjoying it. We both agree that doing our own things is just as important as time together. So, it can be done, as long as both parties are on the same page. Unrelated: if you havent already, you have to get that TJ's chili oil (it's not hot) and add it to eggs in the AM. Game changer.
@@ChelseaCallahan No problem! And def don't let society pressure you or make you feel bad about not being at a certain life point by a certain time. I'm 43 (according to my mom and my license lol) and Ive always done things in my own time, for me. I'm super happy as a result! It'll all work out the way it's supposed to, when it's supposed to -promise. 🙂🫶🏼
Can absolutely attest to how important it is to have solo time in a relationship. My partner and I met at 18 in college and have been together nearly 13 years - he and I love spending time together but time apart allows us to share new experiences & add some fun into our conversations. I’ve actually given myself a mini vacay today & am heading out for a day of solo plans - (Sephora, lunch, & craft stores) ✨
Hi, I feel really similarly and I've been with my partner since we were younger as well. It is so fun to grow up together and change together but I love traveling for work solo and seeing my own friends, having my own adventures. It's so so important to maintain your own life that is separate. Now that we are thinking about kids I'm wondering if I'll be able to keep that up lol.
@@sweeeeeet85 I think it is! It’s about respecting that the other one needs time to be a human outside of partner and parent. Sounds like you and your partner already have great communication on that and I have no doubt it will continue when it comes to building a bigger family. 😊
Same here! Been with my partner since I've been 17, now 30. I never want to feel like I HAVE to stay with him because I couldn't do life alone, I'd rather actually choose to be in this relationship because I want to, not out of fear. I even enjoy taking trips alone, my partner doesn't like city trips/going to museums etc so I love that I'm independent enough to just go away for a long weekend and do what I enjoy! I'm in Europe and I've been in Prague, Brussels and Copenhagen alone. It's a bit uncomfortable at first but you really get used to it quickly.
@@SammyK45 Life can definitely be done alone but it’s way more fun as a team. Being supported by someone you love on the daily is what I consider to be a great gift in my life. I couldn’t feel you more on that. My partner and I lived in Scotland while he was getting his masters and I spent a lot of time traveling and doing day trips alone. The more you do it, the better you feel. 🖤
I have been with my husband for 16 years and married for 12 years - I have solo dates all the time! Of course we have our date nights doing things we love to do together but on my solo dates I do things I love to do! I will watch a girly movie, go to TJ Maxx and Ulta, or try a cute coffee shop or have lunch alone.
As a 50+ year old Latina born and bred New Yorker, I ended up taking a break from New York City in my late 20s and decided to start fresh in Chicago and that is where I met my husband. We ended up moving to NYC a couple of years later. So, love happens when you least expect it. When it does…you know it and you are not afraid of it. Also, as a New Yorker…the beauty of NYC and NYS is that you can have your own adventures by yourself! My favorites were going to the Met or the Cloisters or like you…to the movies. So keep doing them!
Solo dates are sooo important. I’m in year five of a very loving relationship, but I need my alone time! Sometimes I just want to talk to myself and wander around lol. Alone time helps me refill my cup and gives me more to talk about/share with my partner! Since we live together, it helps to have some fresh material from time to time ❤
The cottage cheese on bread , so good and filling. I do that but mine , I do on sourdough bread toasted, and I put the cottage cheese in a blender smooths it all out and then I put tomato on top of the cottage cheese then I put on balsamic vinegar glaze and salt and pepper. True game changer!
Im 21 and and I have never dated so far. Last year I felt really pressured that I was behind somehow. Then I learnt the difference between being lonely and being alone and realized I actually really like being alone, going on solo dates and so on. I dont want to look for anyone because I know I am good on my own and I can focus on my own life. that realization feels so liberating for me. Thank you Chelsea for sharing your experiences. As always, great video❤
I may have said this before, but it is a privilege to live alone as a woman. History has not reflected a very positive experience for women living by themselves in the past. You’re really making g the most of things Chelsea and I love how you’re blossoming in front of our eyes. Dating in most places from your 30s onwards is a bit tricky, you’re doing so well. Fun fact, I’ve just found out that Trader Joe’s is owned by ALDI. Apparently two brothers inherited ALDI from their dad, and they spilt into Aldi south and north. The difference being that originally one of the brothers didn’t want to sell cigarettes. Hence, the differing company names…who knew. Keep doing what you’re doing Chelsea, your community loves you ❤❤❤❤
I’m 35 and never had a bf. However I live in NM and have dated in my 20s. I’m a religious person so praying for the one has been the most effective ❤ remember Mariah Carey had her twins at 41 and got married at 38. I’m always looking up women who got married after 35 to at least make me feel better. I have done everything you can do alone! Living by myself, Movies, eating out and staying at hotels by myself. Also doing everything alone I have a routine and it keeps me on schedule
I am 39-year-old woman with two kids. My husband and I are working full-time and taking care of the kids. Honestly, it is exhausting. My son is homeschooling and we have to hire someone to work with him. My husband works from home. I literally could not feel that my life belonged to me. It seems that I have to exhaust myself every minute to either study and work, or serve the family. I really enjoy watching videos that are peaceful and leisure.
Your thoughts on dating are so spot on, "people can only connect with you to the extent that they're able to connect to themselves" AMEN. I would rather stay single and live my life to the fullest (Solo travel! Lots of quality time with friends! Doing whatever you want!) than settle for someone who's not emotionally available. I'm 29 and have watched your channel for a long while now but could not relate to this video more if I tried. Stay awesome!
Thank you for this kind reminder that I just need to go out and enjoy a drink with a friend and be careless for once, instead of always thinking about work (I'm freelancer, that's why) 😆😁
Hello Chelsea! It is amazing how similar life we have! I live in Europe in Warsaw and I am at same age as you, recently I moved to my flat, organising everything as you, and I have the same problems with relationships. It is amazing how far we live and how similar we are. ALL THE BEST FOR YOU
Your videos are just the best 😊 I always look forward to them and watching them feels like catching up with a friend 🩷 I'm living alone after my husband and I broke up last year and it's honestly a breath of fresh air - at the moment, I'm loving living alone 😊
My hubby and I have been married for 33 years. We currently work in separate states and he spends one week a month at home and the rest interstate. It's the best of both worlds. We've always had our own things we like to do and I think it's healthy to be able to spend time together and apart. I agree with you about not settling, but waiting for the right person to share your life with. I'm also happy to see that your neighbours haven't put you off the idea of kids 😄
Could you give more details ? What exactly gets better ? Coz 30’s are definitely better than 20’s but still quite tiring with all the self questioning, even worst when you’re single.
@@FrenchReactingtotally agree! My 30s have been self development and self improvement to the max and I am Half way through so curious what my 40s will be like.
I love that you are so open about your everyday life. It is healing to watch your vlogs and your journey towards self empowerment. Appreciate you 😊 Happy Women's Month 💜
I LOVED “Poor Things!” I think Emma is getting a second Oscar. She deserves it. And as a screenwriter/filmmaker, I go to the movies ALL THE TIME, and often by myself. Also, the joys of seeing a movie in the middle of the day when no one else is there! I love solo movie dates! 😆 As far as dating, I’m also single but I had a ton of fun dating in NYC. My experience was similar to what you said: Everyone was so focused on their careers or hustles that no one was ready for anything serious. We all just wanted to have a good time - and we did. Now that I’m older, and living in Los Angeles, I’m looking at the dating scene a lot differently. It’s difficult to find women my age who I can relate to. I dunno, it’s just hard. I’ve just come to the conclusion that I am going to be a bachelor forever. 😭😭😭 Your first kiss story was funny. 🤣🤣 And finally, yes - Team Kerrygold Butter!
When you talked about "bolting" when you saw the guy you had a crush on my thoughts "omg I love her". Ive been with my husband forever and I absolutely love him to pieces but I always need my alone time life pulls me in a lot of directions. He knows I need my alone time and he respects it which makes me love him even more. When you find the right one he will understand this about you and let you be you ❤
Finally I'm back Nina and I ran all over town, ate fried chicken, passed out, woke up, played, put away the hall and here I am laughing, I can visit you or vice versa, lol, we eat all the same foods, but I haven't had that red juice, must find! No Trader Joes in Hawaii :( but amazing shopping. Getting ready for a few thousand new neighbors next door, as they fill the 42 story building, 4 more going up. We'll hide at the botanical gardens, time to join Costco...Your kitchen is sooo cozy! Okay so that's what I am dreading and fearing, because the new bldg. is all ages condos...no screaming kids please! Oh girlfriend, nooooo, you poor thing..and I love kids, but had a single family home with 6. Nice 1st kiss story btw lol. Chiros saved my life! You should keep your personal life private. You are succsessful and amazing, maybe a matchmaker, say WHAT? Only you will know if you want to share your life on that level with another person. When you want to you will. It will happen when you least expect it. Much Aloha back to Van life vids. I aspire to runaway from home....😊
Hey Chels, great video. You have wisdom beyond your years. I’m 53, never married, no kids. I never met that one that made it a no contest choice as an alternative to my single life where things are pretty chill. I wouldn’t recommend being alone but I would recommend it over being in the wrong relationship. I see too much of that and I don’t want it… for anybody. See you in the next one…
Loved this vlog Chelsea. As a 38yr old woman who's been married for 10.5yrs and with my husband for 15.5yrs, can definitely say time to yourself is still sooo important! I admit I don't get it as much as I need in between work, our 3 kids, home jobs and my husband's night shift work. But last year I took a huge leap and went camping for 1.5 days all on my own ♥️ Completely isolated and no one around. It was the best experience ever and even had a beautiful full moon on that night too. Something I'm hoping to fit in during my next 2 week break from work coming up in April. But I still absolutely love my time with my husband more. We love experiencing and sharing together. Mondays we both have off work, so they are usually our date day 🤗 Thanks for being vulnerable in this video. It's not easy xx
I didn't marry until I was 32. Just like you, in my 20's would have never worked. At this stage in life, you know what you want and don't want in a future spouse and what a blessing that is! I honestly couldn't have imagined marriage any sooner. You, too, will find this. ❤
I relate to your outlook on dating in your 30s very well. I got married at 23, divorced by 26. I’m turning 31 this July and I live alone. My boyfriend and I have been together since the end of 2020, both have adult careers and the thought of getting married again scares the hell out of me. I like my space. No one makes extra dishes or touches my thermostat. My boyfriend will visit for a weekend and it’s lovely being together but then he leaves and it’s my space again. With my dog and my plants and trash tv and snacks lol
Love this! I'm married, but I had a great time going to Lady Bird alone at the theater with big reclining seats. Plus I had a coupon for free birthday popcorn. lol. This video reminded me how long it's been, though.
stuck in bed with a broken ankle and then saw you uploaded... day brightened!!! thank you for keeping it real and honest and genuine. solo dates are so joyous and important. keep doing you and the rest will follow!!!! 💖
I'm in a long term relationship and VALUE my alone time. I'm off Saturdays and he works them so they are my day to either meet with friends, my mom, or my favorite days- just spend it with myself. We have staggered schedules so I spend the first few hours of my day with just me which is great because I have to be alone to accomplish any cleaning or anything else productive 😬
Hi from OKC! Live your life and enjoy it all. I work nights driving trucks. Currently training for my 2nd marathon. When I was in a relationship of 27yrs I did plenty by myself. It was healthy. Now lol I definitely do everything alone. 52 single and just surviving. Love your content and know you're thriving!
I love love love this type of video. Just a few days in your life, chatting about anything and everything. Also I really agree with you in terms of relationships, being able to work on yourself, to spend time alone and to not settle with less than you deserve, yes girl!!
You did not do the princess diaries foot pop into dog shit. That’s amazing! 😂😍 I’m 29 living alone in Seattle and it’s the first time living alone and your videos have been awesome ever since I saw your channel.
LOVED this honest conversation. I am also single, and in my 30's, and resonated so much with what you said. Solo dates are so much fun. I always tell people it is so important to build that personal relationship with yourself so when you are alone, you never feel lonely. And the hyper-independence is where I've been for the past 10 years. It's something that I've been actively trying to work on. It is a struggle to push through and trust someone with being vulnerable. I could talk about this subject forever. So refreshing to hear your take on this!
Hi Chelsea, I've missed you:) you're looking good girl!!! Yes, solo dates are great, I learned this later in life though. So glad you are enjoying your 30's and doing your thing, at your own pace. Forget about what society says, don't listen to that noise. Do you. Do what you like, whenever you like. The relationship we have with ourselves is super important and we have to nourish it. Someone special will arrive eventually but even then your wellbeing and self love should be the nr 1 priority.I'm turning 50 this year, love my life and I'm so glad I learned to put me first and enjoy some me time here and there. I love to see you enjoying this time of your life. You deserve happiness.Always! Happy weekend and greetings from Germany! 🙂
I just finished watching, sometimes I have to pause for a quick little "reaction" comment along the way 😂, but I have to let you know this was a great video, Chelsea! So many conversation points and thoughts brought to mind as I watched. I could write a book, I swear, in these comments if I let myself! Lol. Aw well, for now I simply want to thank you for putting out amazing content. It always hits just right! Love, love, love 👏👏👏
This life you created for yourself is so beautiful Chelsea! I wonder how your life is going to change when you meet your person. I say this because I wonder the same thing about myself. That is obviously for the future to hold but seeing you in this beautiful life you've created is so inspiring and relatable. I really appreciate your open honesty. There's not many people that would speak so freely on this platform and it's so nice to watch someone like yourself. I feel like I'm hanging out with my best friend 🤍
I’ve lived alone and with my partner. Past experiences have taught me how to get better at just loving myself REGARDLESS if I’m in a relationship or not. The gym has helped me gain and regain my confidence. Small alone time like doing my nails and treating myself to a nice trail/hiking experience is what I do to reconnect with myself! Everyone has their preferences, I just refuse to let go of my individuality. That is called codependency and it actually harms your relationship rather than helping it. The ultimate love you should have is the one you have to YOU!
I was warching ur video as always and the thought just hit me😂 i imagined you with short bob that is viral rn. I dont know why just hit my mind😊 i would look so goood on you i think🎉😂 love you have a good day❤❤ ps when i visited nyc i always was watching around maybe i see you somewhere 😂 that was my dream 🎉
@@ChelseaCallahan haha u made me laugh with that saying 😄 im nor from usa and i read a lot of articles on things that happens with online dating in the usa and its scary🤔 stay safe🌹🌹
You go girl 👏 I'll share the advice my mom gave me ... if you're looking for perfection " a ten" then you better be a ten yourself because you can't expect more than what you're willing to give .. it's just not fair 🤷🏻♀️
omg.. you are so amazing.. just love you and thank you for giving me virtual strength .... you are so fresh on this not authentic platform.. sorry my bad english (i´m finnish)
As a 49 year old mother of 2 who has been married for 20 Years and lives in rural Australia I don’t think our lives could be any more different, yet so much of what you say and how you live resonates with me. I love you mature approach to life and I feel I learn a lot from you and your outlook on life. ❤ thank you!
I really loved this video Chelsea! I used to go to the movies alone all the time and I forgot how lovely I can be. I struggle being out in public alone sometimes and this video was a great reminder that life still happens even when your flying solo
Love this. I’m 42 and have been single for 2 years after a 10 year relationship. The big difference for me now compared to my 20’s is I am loving being single and knowing I can look after myself. I do question if I’m maybe now a little hyper independent too, and I’ve had to accept that I probably won’t have kids but I’m okay with that. I think it’s really healthy and emotionally intelligent to know that you can be in a relationship not because you need someone to validate you but because you genuinely love that person for who they are and also won’t settle for being treated any less than you are worth.
I love seeing this energy surge come through in your videos, editing, and witty ways of thinking. Sending you good vibes for continued energy spurts! :)
Hi Chelsea! Perfect timing with the video, just as I was done my workday this Friday wohoo! Loved your video, as a single 36 year old I love a good reminder to live and enjoy my life just as it is!!!
I just found your channel 2 weeks ago. I LOVE your channel, it brings me comfort, knowing I am not alone in my struggles , you shine a light that IT IS OKAY and NORMAL to doubt yourself, to make mistakes, a lot of them and that we CAN move forward. To build a lot of your life for yourself and it is not pretty but can be very very rewarding and worth it. I am grateful for you, for finding you and wish you so much success and love. Keep at it girl. ❤
Coming here to say I can back up that doing things on your own, even if you’re in a relationship, is totally healthy - I regularly go to the cinema on my own to see films my partner isn’t interested in, he does stuff without me on his own. I’d love to go on holiday on my own sometime. I also screamed out loud when you produced the Kerrygold… YES IRELAND!
Well, this one hit the right spot. As we're allover sharing on this channel, here's my take on it. I don't want to have a family, and not because I'm stupid like that, but because in my 30s I realized this is a lot of responsibility, and your responsible behavior towards people is almost always abused. I want to be an honest caring person, and other people immediately think this is a way to manipulate your sense of responsibility into exploiting you and then throw you away. So no, I'm not going through this again. I'm not handsome, I'm certainly not a womanizer or anything of the sorts. I just want to live my quiet life in peace without hurting anyone, yet without letting anyone hurt me. Welp, yup, that was that. You're always a pleasure to watch, Chelsea, thanks.
You are honestly so relatable! I hope your lower back/sciatic pain goes away soon. I went into an adult ball pit last year and have had sciatic pain ever since, it's much better, but 33 year old me probably can't take another ball pit.
YES- it's so important to have your own time and hobbies when you are in a relationship, especially when you live together in a small-ish apartment. Love your vlogs as always- glad you liked Poor Things, I've been dying to see it as well!
There is something so soothing about your videos that I literally can't pinpoint. My youtube consists of murder mystery and skin care and for some reason, I gravitate towards your videos.
I’m also happily single in my 30s and can confirm that it’s so nice having a family that doesn’t try to pressure or nag you about it. Someone asked my mom wasn’t she ready for me to give her a grand baby 🙄 and she said “I’m perfectly happy with my grand dog” 😂 (my dog likes my mom more than she likes me lol). I’m a firm believer in “if it happens, it happens” but tbh the older I get, the more I enjoy being alone and honestly the idea of having someone that lived with me that I would be expected to socialize with everyday just sounds exhausting and miserable (purely talking about myself here, I’m not anti-marriage or anything like that when it comes to other people)
I can definitely relate to back issues. Hope that yours will get better. I'm beyond fiercely independent & cherish alone time which has played a role in every relationship ending.
I love your friends, Chelsea! They're so positive, fun, and the way they glow around you is the best. With friends like yours, you can do anything and everything with a big smile and a full heart.
I’ve been with my partner for almost 8 years and over the last couple of years solo movie dates have become my favorite!! I always treat myself to my favorite snacks and drinks and act like I’m taking myself out on a date. ❤
I met my now husband when we were both 36. We grew up 30 minutes apart and he was living less than a mile from my parents in my hometown. We had a handful of common people in our lives… but we hadn’t ever met! Moral of the story: when it’s mean to be it will happen. You never know who you will meet. Be open to meet someone if that’s what you want. If you’re not ready, don’t push yourself. Maybe I put too much faith in the universe sending me what/ who I need, but she always makes sense in the end. Chin up, beautiful! Great vlog, love a solo day date and TJ’s is so wonderful 🥰🥰🥰 keep up the good work 💗💗💗
I'm 38 and I, too, have injured my lower back from sitting on my couch too much in the "wrong" position LOL. I had to resort to laying on the floor a lot to get it back to normal, ugh. Cute video!
Yeah I feel this 🥲 I spent all day, every day practically at my desk and even though I have a special back support chair, I never use it properly. With my ADHD I'm always sitting awkwardly and now it's got the point I might need a chiropractor.. but I'm dreading what even one session would cost 🙃
Going by myself to the movies is one of my favorite things to do. I’m fairly independent, I often travel alone and make connections on the way, so that’s my way to keep myself open for whatever happens and whoever may come.
really struck a chord with me on the whole "you can only tell someone your favorite color + entire life story so many times" bit. About to turn 23 and each breakup immediately stings the worst when I realize I'm going to have to start over "the process" of falling in love again. appreciate you being so honest and open about your emotions, it makes your content stand out
The part about dating in your 30s really resonated with me. It's hard to go through the process over and over trying to find that connection. Especially in your 30s it seems to be expected that you have found the one, start that family, have a stable career. I feel that pressure more as a single 30 year old. Lots of people around me have started that perfect picture. Before it was more like we will see and now...I would love to have kids, become a mom...it's always on my mind even at the start which adds pressure as well. It's been on my mind quite a bit these days
Your video really resonates with me! I take myself on all these solo dates recently and while I really enjoy my independence, it can get lonely. Just chatted with a friend the other day if I might be a bit too independent, and now I wonder whether it could also be some kind of defense mecanism.
Sometimes i just can't put into words how much i enjoy your VIDEOS!!! makes me so excited to be a person (does this even make sense), i just love seeing the day to day things. I want to respond to so many things you've said but i'll keep it with the part of doing your own thing while being in a relationship. My partner and i are very much our own person, i think that's so important because it gives you things to talk about with eachother and things to lean from eachother. We also don't live together (not by choice, it's just the terrible housing market here in the Netherlands) but that gives us soooo much to talk about when we see eachother about once or twice a week. We also go on seperate holidays (apart from the ones we go on together) and it really allows us to stay our own person while being together. It's the healthiest relationship i've ever been in and i feel truly blessed. I wish only good and loving things coming your way Chelsea! If that's on your own, with a partner or with a pet. It's in the stars for you for sure!!!✨💕
I love your new format. I enjoy watching you. I’m a single, older woman. You remind me of myself. You’re quirky, interesting, independent & adorably quirky. (Yes this is meant to be a compliment). Keep doing what you’re doing!!!❤️
Hi Chelsea…. I feel for you and your thoughts about dating in your 30s it must be so much harder than in my day….. less commitment these days and more weirdo’s about…. I have been married 3 times! Yes 3 and though there were good times…. Now I am living alone this is the happiest I have been. Do what feels right for you. Xx❤
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Hi friends! Apologies for the delay on this week’s video - there were some things on the back end that delayed posting but here we are!! If you haven’t seen my community post yet, the virtual housewarming party is Saturday March 9th from 5-6pm ET over youtube live 💘 Let me know if you’ll be able to make it, can’t wait to hang out in real time! Have a great weekend.
No, Chelsea! Not the foot pop! 😂 You're so cute... I love this channel!
That time is generally perfect 4 me … except maaaybe not THAT day. Will be gettin ready for leaving town the next day ( realllly early) . Will play it by ear . If not Live , I’ll def catch it later . Looking forward to it !
Hiiiii chelseaaa❤❤❤you remind me of my cousins love your videos
Hoping I can make it to your live event here on TH-cam!
I love the picture of star wars figure love it 🥰 prayers and blessings to you and your family love your Aussie family friend John ❤️❤️❤️
You’re a young woman and you’re teaching this 59-year-old woman how to be independent I was married for 30 years very rough marriage finally got divorced on my own for the first time in my life. I’ve never done a movie by myself always with girlfriends the only time I went to a restaurant is a fast food restaurant by myself never a sit down restaurant, I feel like I have time to grow. Thanks for encouraging and sharing your story. I too have learned to enjoy my alone time never thought I would but once I had to put my big real pants on, I learned I could fly, and hopefully I can fly higher.🦋
❤️❤️❤️this made me tear up. Thank you for sharing your story.
Laura, I can relate-- I too am 59 and divorced after 30 years of marriage. I did have some time alone in my early 20s and I learned I do like doing some things alone, like going to movies or events if I couldn't find someone who wanted to go (I like going with people, but going alone is nice too). Divorce after a long marriage is a huge change, but there's a lot of growth in it. Good luck!
@@TheresaAlberti 🦋 the butterfly means were involving into new people and spreading our wings. Good luck to you as well.🦋
@@ChelseaCallahan just realizing how you’ve attracted a tribe of us more, ehem, mature women 😃. Really enjoying your channel and perspective of single life in NYC.
You go Laura! It's never too late ❤
I had my first kiss last year and I'm 25 lol. It's very easy to feel behind on these things but i have come to the fact that what's meant to be will be. I enjoy being alone and don't want kids so i will continue enjoying every stage I'm in. You're doing great!
I didn’t start dating until 25! I’ve had some very nice experiences since then
I’m freshly 29 and I haven’t been in a relationship and sometimes I feel behind and I’m scared that I missed out on that side of life
Chelsea. 32-year-old (almost 33 ugh) single Canadian woman here. I cannot even begin to tell you how much I relate to what you're saying about putting up a defence mechanism after being hurt so many times. I just went through another heartache recently and have been feeling so jaded and heartbroken in recent weeks. Dating in your 20's is one thing, but dating in your 30's is a whole different thing - especially in this day and age. It's especially hard for us women when we have so many people saying "you're so great - how are you single?!!" If I hear that one more time I might go crazy. I just wanted to thank you for being so open. It's been really great seeing another woman my age being so honest. And, you make me realize that being single isn't so bad. We've got this. xo
There is a podcast you might enjoy. I do! It is called “Solo. - the singles guide to a remarkable life”. Check it out!
@@jgator6694 thank you!!
@@SarahhTait 😊
My son was deeply hurt 2 years ago and is only now finding how being single has its bonuses. He is able to travel which really helped him cope and and try new things. Don’t get me wrong, he would love to meet someone again but it takes time, especially in your 30’s. He’s happy again and that’s what’s important.
@@lindao1327 I’m so sorry to hear about your son having been hurt. I can absolutely relate. I’m so glad that he’s finding the silver linings in it now ♥️ I’m sure he’s a catch and that he’ll find an amazing lady soon enough
Ok so I’m 41. I was single and lived alone for 8 years. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just under a year and we just moved in together.
The reason why it’s going so well is that we have seperate rooms. He can watch tv in his, while I’m watching tiktoks and crocheting in mine. People who don’t do this are bonkers. Alone time is a must.
Love this idea!
YES! seperate rooms and 2 tv's are the KEY To keep a live in sitch tolerable and do-able. well done
Do you guys share a bedroom and then the separate rooms are like your studies/dens? Or these are your own bedrooms? Anyway, genius! 😉
Alone time is important. Me and my husband both have "our stuff"-he has his motorbike, I have my running and music. We spend a lot of time together and share some passions, but we also appreciate time for ourselves. It's the balance that matters,because you don't want to end up being "roommates" and living next to each other, as opposed to together. But if there is communication and understanding, it works I think :)
Agreed! Hubby & I have been together 32 years, married 28. We have 2 living rooms. It is SO important to not only have to your own time apart, but to have your own spaces..... ❤
I found you about 6 months ago. I am 65 and love your videos. Never commented before but wanted you to know I follow you religiously. You’re so real ! Love it!!!! You’re very brave. Keep going ! You’re a great example from my young granddaughters! I want them to be fearless!! Thank you.
Hi @susancarr6500, just wanted you to know I am a 66 yr old woman that also enjoys Chelsea’s videos. I admire her following her dreams and her strength living in that brutal city. I caught up with all of her former videos from her first and it’s so lovely to see her grow and progress. She is also very funny and has a rich way of examining life. Nice to meet a fellow boomer!
If nobody is buying you flowers, it's absolutely when you should have them. Also, it's the best way to get the kind of flowers that you like. Being single teaches you how to create your own happiness.
You can buy yourself flowers!!! ❤
Living alone is the best feeling ever❤
Japanese girl in my 30s living solo in Tokyo here. I love your video. It’s so real and relatable!!! Thank you it made my day
As a woman in my 50s I have learned not to settle for something that I know isn't for me. I pay my own bills and pretty much do my own thing. I would rather wait and be selective rather than end up with someone who doesn't make me happy. Just my 56 year old thoughts. Great video as always!! Your honesty on the dating issues was very much appreciated!
Damn Chelsea as a gay man when you were showing off your look, I paused to see you and all of your beauty and my whole computer froze, and I had to do a hard reset because it couldn’t stop looking at you.
You’re looking awesome and happy. ❤ giving me life!!!
Lololololol. She is really beautiful.
I'm hyper-hyper independent but got into a relationship last year. He is a stellar human being and treats me well but sometimes it's difficult for me to be paired up, due to me being so used to my alone time and enjoying it. We both agree that doing our own things is just as important as time together. So, it can be done, as long as both parties are on the same page.
Unrelated: if you havent already, you have to get that TJ's chili oil (it's not hot) and add it to eggs in the AM. Game changer.
Thank you for sharing this!! I love hearing from the hyper-hyper independent perspective. Glad to know it can be done 💕 much love
@@ChelseaCallahan No problem! And def don't let society pressure you or make you feel bad about not being at a certain life point by a certain time. I'm 43 (according to my mom and my license lol) and Ive always done things in my own time, for me. I'm super happy as a result! It'll all work out the way it's supposed to, when it's supposed to -promise. 🙂🫶🏼
Can absolutely attest to how important it is to have solo time in a relationship. My partner and I met at 18 in college and have been together nearly 13 years - he and I love spending time together but time apart allows us to share new experiences & add some fun into our conversations. I’ve actually given myself a mini vacay today & am heading out for a day of solo plans - (Sephora, lunch, & craft stores) ✨
Love this!!!!
Hi, I feel really similarly and I've been with my partner since we were younger as well. It is so fun to grow up together and change together but I love traveling for work solo and seeing my own friends, having my own adventures. It's so so important to maintain your own life that is separate. Now that we are thinking about kids I'm wondering if I'll be able to keep that up lol.
@@sweeeeeet85 I think it is! It’s about respecting that the other one needs time to be a human outside of partner and parent. Sounds like you and your partner already have great communication on that and I have no doubt it will continue when it comes to building a bigger family. 😊
Same here! Been with my partner since I've been 17, now 30. I never want to feel like I HAVE to stay with him because I couldn't do life alone, I'd rather actually choose to be in this relationship because I want to, not out of fear. I even enjoy taking trips alone, my partner doesn't like city trips/going to museums etc so I love that I'm independent enough to just go away for a long weekend and do what I enjoy! I'm in Europe and I've been in Prague, Brussels and Copenhagen alone. It's a bit uncomfortable at first but you really get used to it quickly.
@@SammyK45 Life can definitely be done alone but it’s way more fun as a team. Being supported by someone you love on the daily is what I consider to be a great gift in my life. I couldn’t feel you more on that. My partner and I lived in Scotland while he was getting his masters and I spent a lot of time traveling and doing day trips alone. The more you do it, the better you feel. 🖤
9:30 ........ wow 😳🫤😅
geez, you can reeeaaallly hear that!
I have been with my husband for 16 years and married for 12 years - I have solo dates all the time! Of course we have our date nights doing things we love to do together but on my solo dates I do things I love to do! I will watch a girly movie, go to TJ Maxx and Ulta, or try a cute coffee shop or have lunch alone.
I love this!! Gives me hope haha. Thanks for sharing ❤️
lol the screaming kids during your solo dinner 😂. Agghh romantic
As a 50+ year old Latina born and bred New Yorker, I ended up taking a break from New York City in my late 20s and decided to start fresh in Chicago and that is where I met my husband. We ended up moving to NYC a couple of years later. So, love happens when you least expect it. When it does…you know it and you are not afraid of it. Also, as a New Yorker…the beauty of NYC and NYS is that you can have your own adventures by yourself! My favorites were going to the Met or the Cloisters or like you…to the movies. So keep doing them!
Solo dates are sooo important. I’m in year five of a very loving relationship, but I need my alone time! Sometimes I just want to talk to myself and wander around lol. Alone time helps me refill my cup and gives me more to talk about/share with my partner! Since we live together, it helps to have some fresh material from time to time ❤
The cottage cheese on bread , so good and filling. I do that but mine , I do on sourdough bread toasted, and I put the cottage cheese in a blender smooths it all out and then I put tomato on top of the cottage cheese then I put on balsamic vinegar glaze and salt and pepper. True game changer!
Im 21 and and I have never dated so far. Last year I felt really pressured that I was behind somehow. Then I learnt the difference between being lonely and being alone and realized I actually really like being alone, going on solo dates and so on. I dont want to look for anyone because I know I am good on my own and I can focus on my own life. that realization feels so liberating for me. Thank you Chelsea for sharing your experiences. As always, great video❤
I may have said this before, but it is a privilege to live alone as a woman. History has not reflected a very positive experience for women living by themselves in the past. You’re really making g the most of things Chelsea and I love how you’re blossoming in front of our eyes. Dating in most places from your 30s onwards is a bit tricky, you’re doing so well. Fun fact, I’ve just found out that Trader Joe’s is owned by ALDI. Apparently two brothers inherited ALDI from their dad, and they spilt into Aldi south and north. The difference being that originally one of the brothers didn’t want to sell cigarettes. Hence, the differing company names…who knew. Keep doing what you’re doing Chelsea, your community loves you ❤❤❤❤
I’m 35 and never had a bf. However I live in NM and have dated in my 20s. I’m a religious person so praying for the one has been the most effective ❤ remember Mariah Carey had her twins at 41 and got married at 38. I’m always looking up women who got married after 35 to at least make me feel better.
I have done everything you can do alone! Living by myself, Movies, eating out and staying at hotels by myself. Also doing everything alone I have a routine and it keeps me on schedule
I am 39-year-old woman with two kids. My husband and I are working full-time and taking care of the kids. Honestly, it is exhausting. My son is homeschooling and we have to hire someone to work with him. My husband works from home. I literally could not feel that my life belonged to me. It seems that I have to exhaust myself every minute to either study and work, or serve the family. I really enjoy watching videos that are peaceful and leisure.
Your thoughts on dating are so spot on, "people can only connect with you to the extent that they're able to connect to themselves" AMEN. I would rather stay single and live my life to the fullest (Solo travel! Lots of quality time with friends! Doing whatever you want!) than settle for someone who's not emotionally available. I'm 29 and have watched your channel for a long while now but could not relate to this video more if I tried. Stay awesome!
Thank you for this kind reminder that I just need to go out and enjoy a drink with a friend and be careless for once, instead of always thinking about work (I'm freelancer, that's why) 😆😁
I absolutely ADORE going to the movies alone, it's so great to see someone else doing it too.
Hello Chelsea! It is amazing how similar life we have! I live in Europe in Warsaw and I am at same age as you, recently I moved to my flat, organising everything as you, and I have the same problems with relationships. It is amazing how far we live and how similar we are. ALL THE BEST FOR YOU
YES it is suuuuuuuuper important to keep doing my thing next to us doing our thing and him doing his thing. It makes our thing an even better thing
Your videos are just the best 😊 I always look forward to them and watching them feels like catching up with a friend 🩷 I'm living alone after my husband and I broke up last year and it's honestly a breath of fresh air - at the moment, I'm loving living alone 😊
My hubby and I have been married for 33 years. We currently work in separate states and he spends one week a month at home and the rest interstate. It's the best of both worlds. We've always had our own things we like to do and I think it's healthy to be able to spend time together and apart. I agree with you about not settling, but waiting for the right person to share your life with. I'm also happy to see that your neighbours haven't put you off the idea of kids 😄
The 30s is a challenging time for many women. It gets better in your 40s. Speaking from experience!
Could you give more details ? What exactly gets better ? Coz 30’s are definitely better than 20’s but still quite tiring with all the self questioning, even worst when you’re single.
@@FrenchReactingtotally agree! My 30s have been self development and self improvement to the max and I am Half way through so curious what my 40s will be like.
I love that you are so open about your everyday life. It is healing to watch your vlogs and your journey towards self empowerment. Appreciate you 😊 Happy Women's Month 💜
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I always look forward to your videos. You’re so real and down to earth. 🎉
I LOVED “Poor Things!” I think Emma is getting a second Oscar. She deserves it. And as a screenwriter/filmmaker, I go to the movies ALL THE TIME, and often by myself. Also, the joys of seeing a movie in the middle of the day when no one else is there! I love solo movie dates! 😆 As far as dating, I’m also single but I had a ton of fun dating in NYC. My experience was similar to what you said: Everyone was so focused on their careers or hustles that no one was ready for anything serious. We all just wanted to have a good time - and we did. Now that I’m older, and living in Los Angeles, I’m looking at the dating scene a lot differently. It’s difficult to find women my age who I can relate to. I dunno, it’s just hard. I’ve just come to the conclusion that I am going to be a bachelor forever. 😭😭😭
Your first kiss story was funny. 🤣🤣
And finally, yes - Team Kerrygold Butter!
this resonates!! thank you for sharing!
When you talked about "bolting" when you saw the guy you had a crush on my thoughts "omg I love her". Ive been with my husband forever and I absolutely love him to pieces but I always need my alone time life pulls me in a lot of directions. He knows I need my alone time and he respects it which makes me love him even more. When you find the right one he will understand this about you and let you be you ❤
I highly reccomend adding the jarred bruschetta and balsamic glaze to your toast with cottage cheese. It's delicious!
Finally I'm back Nina and I ran all over town, ate fried chicken, passed out, woke up, played, put away the hall and here I am laughing, I can visit you or vice versa, lol, we eat all the same foods, but I haven't had that red juice, must find! No Trader Joes in Hawaii :( but amazing shopping. Getting ready for a few thousand new neighbors next door, as they fill the 42 story building, 4 more going up. We'll hide at the botanical gardens, time to join Costco...Your kitchen is sooo cozy! Okay so that's what I am dreading and fearing, because the new bldg. is all ages condos...no screaming kids please! Oh girlfriend, nooooo, you poor thing..and I love kids, but had a single family home with 6. Nice 1st kiss story btw lol. Chiros saved my life! You should keep your personal life private. You are succsessful and amazing, maybe a matchmaker, say WHAT? Only you will know if you want to share your life on that level with another person. When you want to you will. It will happen when you least expect it. Much Aloha back to Van life vids. I aspire to runaway from home....😊
Hey Chels, great video. You have wisdom beyond your years. I’m 53, never married, no kids. I never met that one that made it a no contest choice as an alternative to my single life where things are pretty chill. I wouldn’t recommend being alone but I would recommend it over being in the wrong relationship. I see too much of that and I don’t want it… for anybody.
See you in the next one…
Loved this vlog Chelsea. As a 38yr old woman who's been married for 10.5yrs and with my husband for 15.5yrs, can definitely say time to yourself is still sooo important!
I admit I don't get it as much as I need in between work, our 3 kids, home jobs and my husband's night shift work.
But last year I took a huge leap and went camping for 1.5 days all on my own ♥️ Completely isolated and no one around. It was the best experience ever and even had a beautiful full moon on that night too.
Something I'm hoping to fit in during my next 2 week break from work coming up in April.
But I still absolutely love my time with my husband more. We love experiencing and sharing together. Mondays we both have off work, so they are usually our date day 🤗
Thanks for being vulnerable in this video. It's not easy xx
This video was a serotonin boost 💜
I didn't marry until I was 32. Just like you, in my 20's would have never worked. At this stage in life, you know what you want and don't want in a future spouse and what a blessing that is! I honestly couldn't have imagined marriage any sooner. You, too, will find this. ❤
Gotta love yourself and have fun with yourself cause you got you even when someone else also has you.
I relate to your outlook on dating in your 30s very well.
I got married at 23, divorced by 26. I’m turning 31 this July and I live alone. My boyfriend and I have been together since the end of 2020, both have adult careers and the thought of getting married again scares the hell out of me. I like my space. No one makes extra dishes or touches my thermostat. My boyfriend will visit for a weekend and it’s lovely being together but then he leaves and it’s my space again. With my dog and my plants and trash tv and snacks lol
Love this! I'm married, but I had a great time going to Lady Bird alone at the theater with big reclining seats. Plus I had a coupon for free birthday popcorn. lol. This video reminded me how long it's been, though.
I love this!!!!
I used to take myself out when I was single. Everyone deserves that so keep on doing it! Your friends looked soo much fun! X
stuck in bed with a broken ankle and then saw you uploaded... day brightened!!! thank you for keeping it real and honest and genuine. solo dates are so joyous and important. keep doing you and the rest will follow!!!! 💖
Omg I hope you have a swift recovery! ❤️
I'm in a long term relationship and VALUE my alone time. I'm off Saturdays and he works them so they are my day to either meet with friends, my mom, or my favorite days- just spend it with myself. We have staggered schedules so I spend the first few hours of my day with just me which is great because I have to be alone to accomplish any cleaning or anything else productive 😬
Hi from OKC! Live your life and enjoy it all. I work nights driving trucks. Currently training for my 2nd marathon. When I was in a relationship of 27yrs I did plenty by myself. It was healthy. Now lol I definitely do everything alone. 52 single and just surviving. Love your content and know you're thriving!
So nice to see you on a Friday!!! That brunch outfit was fab-u-lous! Always love the chats and adventures. Have an amazing weekend!
I love love love this type of video. Just a few days in your life, chatting about anything and everything. Also I really agree with you in terms of relationships, being able to work on yourself, to spend time alone and to not settle with less than you deserve, yes girl!!
You did not do the princess diaries foot pop into dog shit. That’s amazing! 😂😍
I’m 29 living alone in Seattle and it’s the first time living alone and your videos have been awesome ever since I saw your channel.
LOVED this honest conversation.
I am also single, and in my 30's, and resonated so much with what you said.
Solo dates are so much fun. I always tell people it is so important to build that personal relationship with yourself so when you are alone, you never feel lonely.
And the hyper-independence is where I've been for the past 10 years. It's something that I've been actively trying to work on. It is a struggle to push through and trust someone with being vulnerable.
I could talk about this subject forever. So refreshing to hear your take on this!
aww i love cleaning on my day off when it's raining and I'm watching your vlogs ❤🎉
Hi Chelsea, I've missed you:) you're looking good girl!!!
Yes, solo dates are great, I learned this later in life though. So glad you are enjoying your 30's and doing your thing, at your own pace. Forget about what society says, don't listen to that noise. Do you. Do what you like, whenever you like. The relationship we have with ourselves is super important and we have to nourish it. Someone special will arrive eventually but even then your wellbeing and self love should be the nr 1 priority.I'm turning 50 this year, love my life and I'm so glad I learned to put me first and enjoy some me time here and there.
I love to see you enjoying this time of your life. You deserve happiness.Always!
Happy weekend and greetings from Germany! 🙂
I just finished watching, sometimes I have to pause for a quick little "reaction" comment along the way 😂, but I have to let you know this was a great video, Chelsea! So many conversation points and thoughts brought to mind as I watched. I could write a book, I swear, in these comments if I let myself! Lol. Aw well, for now I simply want to thank you for putting out amazing content. It always hits just right! Love, love, love 👏👏👏
You’re the best, Meg 💕 have a great weekend!
I love seeing the other side of your life! I also think you can still have your own comfort of what you want to share! 😊
This life you created for yourself is so beautiful Chelsea! I wonder how your life is going to change when you meet your person. I say this because I wonder the same thing about myself. That is obviously for the future to hold but seeing you in this beautiful life you've created is so inspiring and relatable. I really appreciate your open honesty. There's not many people that would speak so freely on this platform and it's so nice to watch someone like yourself. I feel like I'm hanging out with my best friend 🤍
Beaming with pride seeing Kerry Gold, it really is the best!
I’ve lived alone and with my partner. Past experiences have taught me how to get better at just loving myself REGARDLESS if I’m in a relationship or not. The gym has helped me gain and regain my confidence. Small alone time like doing my nails and treating myself to a nice trail/hiking experience is what I do to reconnect with myself! Everyone has their preferences, I just refuse to let go of my individuality. That is called codependency and it actually harms your relationship rather than helping it. The ultimate love you should have is the one you have to YOU!
Been waiting for a while and I finally posted a comment. Love the vlogs!
I was warching ur video as always and the thought just hit me😂 i imagined you with short bob that is viral rn. I dont know why just hit my mind😊 i would look so goood on you i think🎉😂 love you have a good day❤❤ ps when i visited nyc i always was watching around maybe i see you somewhere 😂 that was my dream 🎉
haha I used to have one! But I felt like a lollipop personified 😅 I hope you had a great visit to NYC!!
@@ChelseaCallahan haha u made me laugh with that saying 😄 im nor from usa and i read a lot of articles on things that happens with online dating in the usa and its scary🤔 stay safe🌹🌹
Enjoying your solo date-lifestyle vlog so much, Chelsea! ❤
You go girl 👏 I'll share the advice my mom gave me ... if you're looking for perfection " a ten" then you better be a ten yourself because you can't expect more than what you're willing to give .. it's just not fair 🤷🏻♀️
omg.. you are so amazing.. just love you and thank you for giving me virtual strength .... you are so fresh on this not authentic platform.. sorry my bad english (i´m finnish)
I appreciate you!!
As a 49 year old mother of 2 who has been married for 20 Years and lives in rural Australia I don’t think our lives could be any more different, yet so much of what you say and how you live resonates with me. I love you mature approach to life and I feel I learn a lot from you and your outlook on life. ❤ thank you!
I really loved this video Chelsea! I used to go to the movies alone all the time and I forgot how lovely I can be. I struggle being out in public alone sometimes and this video was a great reminder that life still happens even when your flying solo
Love this. I’m 42 and have been single for 2 years after a 10 year relationship. The big difference for me now compared to my 20’s is I am loving being single and knowing I can look after myself. I do question if I’m maybe now a little hyper independent too, and I’ve had to accept that I probably won’t have kids but I’m okay with that. I think it’s really healthy and emotionally intelligent to know that you can be in a relationship not because you need someone to validate you but because you genuinely love that person for who they are and also won’t settle for being treated any less than you are worth.
I love seeing this energy surge come through in your videos, editing, and witty ways of thinking. Sending you good vibes for continued energy spurts! :)
Yaay a chelsea video. My day is complete ! ❤
Hi Chelsea! Perfect timing with the video, just as I was done my
workday this Friday wohoo! Loved your video, as a single 36 year old I love a good reminder to live and enjoy my life just as it is!!!
I just found your channel 2 weeks ago. I LOVE your channel, it brings me comfort, knowing I am not alone in my struggles , you shine a light that IT IS OKAY and NORMAL to doubt yourself, to make mistakes, a lot of them and that we CAN move forward. To build a lot of your life for yourself and it is not pretty but can be very very rewarding and worth it. I am grateful for you, for finding you and wish you so much success and love. Keep at it girl. ❤
Love my days like this
Coming here to say I can back up that doing things on your own, even if you’re in a relationship, is totally healthy - I regularly go to the cinema on my own to see films my partner isn’t interested in, he does stuff without me on his own. I’d love to go on holiday on my own sometime. I also screamed out loud when you produced the Kerrygold… YES IRELAND!
I was actually just thinking about you! 🤣😂
Well, this one hit the right spot.
As we're allover sharing on this channel, here's my take on it. I don't want to have a family, and not because I'm stupid like that, but because in my 30s I realized this is a lot of responsibility, and your responsible behavior towards people is almost always abused. I want to be an honest caring person, and other people immediately think this is a way to manipulate your sense of responsibility into exploiting you and then throw you away.
So no, I'm not going through this again. I'm not handsome, I'm certainly not a womanizer or anything of the sorts. I just want to live my quiet life in peace without hurting anyone, yet without letting anyone hurt me.
Welp, yup, that was that.
You're always a pleasure to watch, Chelsea, thanks.
This was amazing! I am so happy for you! You are taking off lady of 30. Awesome sauce.
You are honestly so relatable! I hope your lower back/sciatic pain goes away soon.
I went into an adult ball pit last year and have had sciatic pain ever since, it's much better, but 33 year old me probably can't take another ball pit.
YES- it's so important to have your own time and hobbies when you are in a relationship, especially when you live together in a small-ish apartment. Love your vlogs as always- glad you liked Poor Things, I've been dying to see it as well!
Happy Friday!
There is something so soothing about your videos that I literally can't pinpoint. My youtube consists of murder mystery and skin care and for some reason, I gravitate towards your videos.
This vlog is everything
I’m also happily single in my 30s and can confirm that it’s so nice having a family that doesn’t try to pressure or nag you about it. Someone asked my mom wasn’t she ready for me to give her a grand baby 🙄 and she said “I’m perfectly happy with my grand dog” 😂 (my dog likes my mom more than she likes me lol). I’m a firm believer in “if it happens, it happens” but tbh the older I get, the more I enjoy being alone and honestly the idea of having someone that lived with me that I would be expected to socialize with everyday just sounds exhausting and miserable (purely talking about myself here, I’m not anti-marriage or anything like that when it comes to other people)
I LOVE this!! You took the words right out of my mouth lol.
I can definitely relate to back issues. Hope that yours will
get better. I'm beyond fiercely
independent & cherish alone
time which has played a role
in every relationship ending.
I love your friends, Chelsea! They're so positive, fun, and the way they glow around you is the best. With friends like yours, you can do anything and everything with a big smile and a full heart.
Loved the honest chat about dating 🌺
I’ve been with my partner for almost 8 years and over the last couple of years solo movie dates have become my favorite!! I always treat myself to my favorite snacks and drinks and act like I’m taking myself out on a date. ❤
I met my now husband when we were both 36. We grew up 30 minutes apart and he was living less than a mile from my parents in my hometown. We had a handful of common people in our lives… but we hadn’t ever met! Moral of the story: when it’s mean to be it will happen. You never know who you will meet. Be open to meet someone if that’s what you want. If you’re not ready, don’t push yourself. Maybe I put too much faith in the universe sending me what/ who I need, but she always makes sense in the end. Chin up, beautiful! Great vlog, love a solo day date and TJ’s is so wonderful 🥰🥰🥰 keep up the good work 💗💗💗
I'm 38 and I, too, have injured my lower back from sitting on my couch too much in the "wrong" position LOL. I had to resort to laying on the floor a lot to get it back to normal, ugh. Cute video!
Yeah I feel this 🥲 I spent all day, every day practically at my desk and even though I have a special back support chair, I never use it properly. With my ADHD I'm always sitting awkwardly and now it's got the point I might need a chiropractor.. but I'm dreading what even one session would cost 🙃
The curse with Emma Stone is fantastic. I have a relationship for over four years but we both keep our own place. Such a luxury.
I am a 30 something living in LA and you make me feel so normal! ❤
Going by myself to the movies is one of my favorite things to do. I’m fairly independent, I often travel alone and make connections on the way, so that’s my way to keep myself open for whatever happens and whoever may come.
Hi Chelsea. Great to see you. Loved this vlog. I really hope your back pain disappears! Peace 🕊️
really struck a chord with me on the whole "you can only tell someone your favorite color + entire life story so many times" bit. About to turn 23 and each breakup immediately stings the worst when I realize I'm going to have to start over "the process" of falling in love again. appreciate you being so honest and open about your emotions, it makes your content stand out
You got this!
The part about dating in your 30s really resonated with me. It's hard to go through the process over and over trying to find that connection. Especially in your 30s it seems to be expected that you have found the one, start that family, have a stable career. I feel that pressure more as a single 30 year old. Lots of people around me have started that perfect picture. Before it was more like we will see and now...I would love to have kids, become a mom...it's always on my mind even at the start which adds pressure as well. It's been on my mind quite a bit these days
Your video really resonates with me! I take myself on all these solo dates recently and while I really enjoy my independence, it can get lonely. Just chatted with a friend the other day if I might be a bit too independent, and now I wonder whether it could also be some kind of defense mecanism.
I had the most stressful day and im feeling kinda isolated so i feel like this video is going to be ✨relevant✨
Edit: ok the SOUNDTRACK!!
Hugs!! ❤️
Sometimes i just can't put into words how much i enjoy your VIDEOS!!! makes me so excited to be a person (does this even make sense), i just love seeing the day to day things.
I want to respond to so many things you've said but i'll keep it with the part of doing your own thing while being in a relationship. My partner and i are very much our own person, i think that's so important because it gives you things to talk about with eachother and things to lean from eachother. We also don't live together (not by choice, it's just the terrible housing market here in the Netherlands) but that gives us soooo much to talk about when we see eachother about once or twice a week. We also go on seperate holidays (apart from the ones we go on together) and it really allows us to stay our own person while being together. It's the healthiest relationship i've ever been in and i feel truly blessed.
I wish only good and loving things coming your way Chelsea! If that's on your own, with a partner or with a pet. It's in the stars for you for sure!!!✨💕
I love your new format. I enjoy watching you. I’m a single, older woman. You remind me of myself. You’re quirky, interesting, independent & adorably quirky. (Yes this is meant to be a compliment). Keep doing what you’re doing!!!❤️
Hi Chelsea…. I feel for you and your thoughts about dating in your 30s it must be so much harder than in my day….. less commitment these days and more weirdo’s about…. I have been married 3 times! Yes 3 and though there were good times…. Now I am living alone this is the happiest I have been. Do what feels right for you. Xx❤
Finally I see a youtuber going to the cinema!! 📽️🖤